Hi my loving tifanythinks family. THANK YOU so much for all your love on my last video (tea with tiffanythinks) - I can’t believe how many of you left a comment. I am still struggling but the doctors are saying it will take time to get back to normal - back on morphine now to help manage the pain. Sorry for being so quiet on social media, I just haven’t had enough energy to post anything. Please SUBSCRIBE!!. Instagram, TikTok & FB: @tiffanythinks. Love you lots&lots!! WE GOT THIS💙
My Dear Tiffany, ♥ As a nurse Darling, I would completely advise you to have the surgery NOW and DO NOT wait. WAITING with Rectal/Colon Cancer for 6 more weeks, could make a negative difference. The pelvis is very vascular (rich in blood supply) and lymphatics - and cancer, as you know, is so often aggressive. There is a rather old saying when dealing with cancer, and it says: "Your first chance is your best chance." - Having spent sooo many years in caring for - and caring about - precious people with cancer, I do believe with all of my heart, that though surgery is often soooo very challenging. However, surgery sooo often does give you the finest result for remission, especially in known cancer(s) to have a higher degree of rapid metastasis and mortality. Be of good courage Darling Tiffany, and please rethink your decision of wanting to wait. Keep your beautiful faith in God, for He indeed has gone before you every step of the way - in this journey, and He will continue to go before you - always! Listen intently to your surgeon - for God speaks Words of Wisdom to them to help us here on earth as well. Your surgeon gave you a VERY POWERFUL message when he said to you: 'You can have surgery now, or your can wait six weeks and re-evaluate, however, the prognosis could be such in six weeks wherein the SURGERY TODAY MIGHT BE INOPERABLE IN SIX WEEKS! In my heart and my professional opinion, I think he was telling you, in gentle words, your BEST OPTION is to have surgery and not wait. Waiting allows the cancer to "migrate" - metastasize to other organs, often vital organs - and spread. Therefore my Dear Dear Precious Tiffany, schedule your surgery Darling. Do not take a short 6 week risk that might not bear the prayerful fruit we are seeking for you. 'Tis so much better to opt for what is absolutely the best option (surgery) than to risk an alternative that possibly leaves you with no choices going forward. You are continuing in my prayers of healing, for strength for you, for your Beautiful Momma and your Darling Matt, and I am so thankful that YOU ARE CLAIMING GOD'S PROMISE to TRUST HIM IN ALWAYS! I send you a heartful of LOVE LOVE LOVE, my Sweet Girl!♥ Carol Bolton, RN California
Carol your words are so soothing . I can truly feel the love in your message. I too feel Surgery is the best course to take. As I was watching Tiffany’s video I was taking out loud Saying “do the surgery “. I think my husband thinks I’ve lost it! ! ! Praying Tiffany takes everything into consideration before making her decision!🙏🏼💙🙏🏼
I agree, I think he was advising surgery but unfortunately not being fully truthful with her by leaving it up to her. She’s not a doctor why would she know the best decision!!!
Dear Tiffany. I usually don’t leave comments, but this time I just needed to say something.I am a surgical oncologist in training not in UK though. It amazes me that the waiting option is even offered to you. There are no proof to this day that colon cancer can be cured with chemo and radiation alone (without the surgery). All the guidelines in Europe and US say that neoadjuvant therapy MUST be followed by surgery, otherwise it is considered palliative treatment. Please do not hesitate to do surgery, do your own research, read guidelines on rectal cancer management. “Clear” biopsies does not mean anything in regards to not doing the surgery. It just means that your cancer has reacted to the treatment like it should have in order for you to undergo the surgery. We do complex surgeries on T4 patients all the time, recovery usually is not that hard even for geriatric patients. Take care.
Also i thought the whole point of all the treatments was the goal of the surgery to get rid of it all.I am praying right now that Tiffany has wisdom in this.Amen 🙏🏻
Tiffany has mentioned before that she doesn't like to research the cancer as it frightens her, which is understandable, but I think at this stage it's so important to be as informed as possible. I truly hope this all works out for her.
As a stage 3 rectal cancer survivor. GET SURGERY ASAP. A biopsy is like shining a laser on a single spot and declaring "no cancer"! The problem is...what if the area adjacent to the biopsy is cancerous? Or a few cm over? You need to be as sure as possible and the goal is to NOT DIE OF CANCER. You're young, fight this HARD...NOW.
God bless you. I hope that she reads the comment section. So many stories here. It's a hard choice for her though, but I hope she changes her decision.
Hi Tiffany…I kept thinking “why would she wait” the whole day ystrday. I finally checked the comment section, and a lot of people feel the same. I do not know much about cancer but I do know that “you should not test your luck with cancer” and “6 weeks is a long time for cancer to spread” Please go for surgery sweety. I never comment on any videos, but this one my heart pushed me to.
As an ICU-nurse I would recommend you get the surgery right away. I can understand how much you're probably longing for a break from treatment but six weeks is a long, long time for cancer to grow, especially without treatment. On my ward I see cancer patients all the time that waited too long to get treatment. And when we see them often times it's too late to help them. You are such a lovely woman and you are so young, you have so much more life to live. So please, don't wait, get the surgery as soon as possible. Waiting is just not worth the risk of your cancer getting inoperable.
Hi Tiffany, as an oncology nurse I highly recommend you to go for the surgery ASAP! I know it is a very radical decision and it is a very big surgery but it may be your only chance! DO NOT WAIT FOR 6 MORE WEEKS Cancer is a silent killer. I will pray for you and your surgeons that God may bless their hands during surgery. God gives you the opportunity to do this surgery, please take it.
As somebody who works in radiology, I cannot stress enough how critical it is that you are either receiving chemo/treatment or having surgery asap. If you were waiting six weeks for surgery but still doing active chemo or treatment, it would be a completely different story. But doing nothing for six weeks with adenocarcinoma it's just so risky. I can't tell you how many patients I have scanned that come back for follow up scans after "wait and see" period And they are full of metastasis. 😩Please heavily consider what everyone is shouting from their computers! It's only coming from the very best intentions of our hearts 💜
Dear Tiffany, Remember the story about the man who was in a flood and was standing on top of a building praying to God to be saved? A man came by in a helicopter and offered him a ride - he said that no ‘God would save him’. Then a man came by in a kayak and offered to save him. He said ‘no. God would save him.’ Then a man in a raft came by and offered him a ride. He gave the same response. The man drowned and when he got to heaven he asked God why he didn’t answer his prayers. God said he did - he sent him a helicopter, kayak and raft and the man refused them all. Surgery is your helicopter. Please take it. Please do the surgery as soon as humanly possible. I have cancer that started in my intestines. You want to take the opportunity to remove it when it is presented to you. Surgery will be hard. I’m not going to lie. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever been through. I had part of my intestines, liver, gall bladder, removed and my scars are massive. But it was the best decision I ever made. It gave me my life back. You don’t want to take the chance that he missed the cancer and that it will grow. It’s too big a risk. Please take your helicopter. Take your miracle and do it now.
Hi Tiffany, I have a degree in cancer pathology, been involved in cancer research and I am in the medical field. I know how much Matt's opinion means to you, but in this video what he is saying is very frustrating as he doesn't understand. You will need surgery, the cancer hasn't disappeared. Matt saying 'in 6 weeks it won't become inoperable' is completely incorrect and the cancer can spread and can be inoperable. Please think about what everyone is commenting here, we all care about you so much and want what is best for you. Listen to the professionals and talk to another family member who has a medical background please! I really don't think you should delay the surgery. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this difficult decision. You've got this.
I completely agree with you Ellen, I really hope she sees this and maybe reaches out to a family member in the medical field to give her some proper advice 🥺
@@leaveittolefty hey, I know right? Med student here. I've always been interested in hearing how people live with a disease. Their experiences, how they feel about it. Because all we learn is from text books, and guidelines, not much from the patients perspective. I'm guessing that's why lots of medical professionals are here also you know?
Hey Tiffany! I’m a final year medical student and recently had my oncology placement in 4th year so I have an idea of how cancer patients progress etc. The big risk is that in 6 weeks of waiting, you will not be having any cancer treatment. All this time, your cancer spread was being suppressed by the treatment. Even though one surgeon has made the decision that all biopsies are cancer free, it is the subjective opinion of one surgeon and is down to the human assessment which as we all know, can make errors or miss things. All it takes is one cancer cell to disseminate with the lack of cancer treatment and will spread more aggressively the 2nd time round (God forbid). I don’t want to scare you, but I wouldn’t want all your hard work to go down the drain. If it was me, I wouldn’t take that chance and I would have surgery straight away. All the best with making your final decision. I know you’ve got this.
I’m glad you chimed in. Question, wouldn’t it be prudent for her to get an expert second opinion as a couple of others have commented? Apparently it only takes 48 hours and they can simply do a review of her case. I haven’t heard any results from her recent PET scan. What about what they had found in her lungs upon initial diagnosis?What if surgery isn’t the correct next step anyway, but rather more chemo treatment to suppress the cancer? This is all quite confusing.
Totally agree I have worked as a registered nurse in this field and I have seen no cancer to cancer in a matter of weeks , waiting 6 weeks and no treatment is given these cells time to spread , in 6 weeks going through more biopsy to determine if no cells , I am gobsmacked , I know we can only offer out opinion and it’s Tiffany choice , but I am worried 😟 xxx
Sweet Tiffany, please have the surgery straight away. Cancer cells can spread so quickly and six weeks is a long time when it comes to cancer. You will recover from surgery and have your dear Matt, Amma, and sweet family all around you for support and care. Get this behind you. We got this. 💙
Disagree. Chemo has greatly weakened her system ... and surgery sounds very concerning to me. *Also, very surprised the doctor didn't have her admitted in the hospital the first time!! He should have known she was a high-risk candidate for bleeding! Shakes my confidence in him.
I cannot believe you Will Wait for the surgery. IT,s impossible to take such a HUGE décision the same Day you got the news, because you are still on a boost from the good news. But you need to think harder than this. Don't rely on the opinion of the surgeon only , ask other doctors. It's too important a décision to ne Taken ligthly like this darling. Also don"t rely on the prayers for this news. I believe in God and in prayers, but we can't influence God Will by our prayers. He only decide. I have lost both my parents to cancer and I have MS. So I have a lot of expérience with doctors and disease. You need to Also take your responsabilities and Read about what you have what kind of opération ... Etc. Please it's too important. Lots of love and prayers.
I am very disappointed in Matt. If he knows something that we don’t know then maybe but how cool he is acting. It’s like they are deciding to get a flu shot or not. I am sorry for the health system in UK.
I am very disappointed in Matt. If he knows something that we don’t know then maybe but how cool he is acting. It’s like they are deciding to get a flu shot or not. I am sorry for the health system in UK.
@@malimbep4298 I agree. I think this too. It just made me worried, but I don’t think it’s because he doesn’t care. It must be so overwhelming. Also Tiffany’s doctor suggested that they wait, so it makes sense that his is re-enforcing that - the doctors are the ones we are meant to trust at the end of the day. I just hope Tiffany reads these comments telling her to go ahead with the surgery. X
he seemed flippant, probably just being very logical in his own mind measuring 'risk/reward' but he doesn't know the facts enough to make that kind of decision. what is going on with her doctor/team
As a nurse and an “in remission” cancer patient, I’d have the surgery straight away. Without treatment in between, and the hell you’ve gone through, I’d have it done and over with. This is good news! Cancer can be insidious. It can be gone and 4 weeks later, relapsed and sick without warning. (What happened to me). You’re on the right track and this is great news but I’d get the surgery done as soon as possible. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
Matt and ur mom and family are so loving supportive my dear u have been thru so so much been watching ur journey from day one god positvity and your doctors god be the rock for her please let her be fine and remission she has her whole life ahead of her let this journey end with good news amen
Yet a pelvis removal might include vaguna anus bladder repro organs etc and she will need a bag to go to. Bathroom for #1 and #2… it’s life altering but agreed that waiting has great risks also
As a retired nurse I would advise to have the surgery right away. I know you are relieved and finally feeling halfway better. In 6 weeks time the caned could come back with a vengeance. Take some time rest and counsel with your family. God Bless
@@oneseeker2 Thats exactly what I’m hearing too. The fact that surgery has been prolonged this long is mind blowing. What scares me is that you can only have so much chemo before they say your body can’t take anymore.
Tiffany, I am a nurse and have seen and taken care of many cases similar as yours. Do the surgery and schedule it ASAP. This will be your best action. The Lord will protect you in the process. Please consider all the comments.
Tiffany. I had cancer (endometrial). I had the same choice you have been given. I went for it. I didn’t want to wait, only to find it had spread. My surgery was a success and two years later I am still cancer free - and worry free. It is too important to hope nothing changes in 6-weeks. Surgery is you best chance of this never coming back.
Hi Tiffany, i'm a doctor and i've been following your cancer journey. I have to be honest that these non cancerous biopsies can very easily be a few cm off from the tumor, and without knowing the specificacies of your illness (scans, histology) i would still strongly encourage you to get the surgery. This all seems a bit off, please consider getting the albeit large and life changing surgery, if it becomes inoperable the consequences are huge. I wish you all the best!
Hi Tiff.....God is in control. Surgery is always very risky and I will be reluctant to do any surgery if it can be avoided. However if you are feeling well enough now is the time to do it. Cancer never goes away completely. Good luck to you....tough decision here but pray about it.
@@riase this!! I know everyone wants what’s best for her. But no one knows the particulars but her and her doctor. I’m sure we’re not hearing everything that he said. People are filling in the gaps w their own experience. And mistaken info from not having watched all the vids. And it’s hard for me to read doctors who haven’t examined her being so confident (not this doctors comment but so many others) and not asking questions about her case. I’m just hopeful if there truly is a problem with what the doc is suggesting, she’ll consider changing her mind and she’ll see there are so many people who care about her!!
@@jenc1276 Jen ... your cautionary post is well taken but think about this ... Tiff became Stage III many many months ago which means that daughter cancer cells have been circulating throughout her body for a long time. No matter what type of cancer, no matter the tumor grade, surgery ASAP is ALWAYS the optimum approach under these circumstances. She seems to need a multi-disciplinary surgical team which is not easy to assemble under the NHS. Even if she waits six weeks to see if there has been any tumor regression, from the time she finally agrees to surgery you don't think the operation will be scheduled for a few days later, do you? No ...it will be another several weeks delay. Even if she had the surgery tomorrow ... and all visible tumor was resected ... she still would not be 'cured' but NED ... no evidence of disease. After surgery, one always hopes that those pesky circulating cancer cells are overwhelmed by the patient's immune system and the patient can be truly eventually cured by showing a long-term survival. So ... cancer is unbelievably smart and resistant ... the best option is to get rid of any visible tumor ASAP by surgery.
@@riase I don’t think any great doctor would do anything bc he feels sorry for her. I just think we need the complete story. I mean in order to understand. 🙌🎈It’s so hard w such little info.
I understand that having everything inside of your pelvis surgically removed, is major major surgery and a major operation, and your life will change, absolutely no doubt. Look, I agree with everyone. If it were me, I would be having everything removed, so I don’t have to worry about it coming back in a month or 6 months or a year or 10. I know it will mean major life changes, and it will mean not being able to carry your own child, and it will mean food/getting rid of waste, will be outside of the norm, and I can’t imagine how the prospect of that must feel. But, you had a grapefruit sized tumour, and according to your last scan results a few months back, it hadn’t shrunk. Where are your scan results now? Why is the biopsy the news you are listening for, when there’s a massive chance he scraped the wrong area, and if he did, you will move to inoperable. Don’t risk it Tiffany, at the very least, get a second opinion, because this is strange news. Why would you have so much pelvic/rectum pain etc, if there was no disease there? I don’t want to burst your miracle bubble, but the miracle is that you are operable, when not that long ago, no one thought you were! Be safe Tiffany.
I agree 100% what was running around my mind. I would take the surgery 100% I don’t say that lightly like the surgery and the long effects of the surgery will be for her. My opinion it’s more of a risk leaving it and keep having biopsy done. I wouldn’t normally say my opinion but because she asked we have see most of the results have more of a personal understanding of the situation. If I was her I’m 35 I would do it.
Tiffany as a oncology nurse for many years please do not wait 6 wks. I feel strongly this is a mistake Metastatic cells can spread rapidly and make this surgery impossible. Prayers for you and you decision 🙏🙏💙💙💙
Hi,Tifany! I am a doctor and if I would be you I would have the surgery ASAP. I know how cancer works and I’ve seen it on so many pacients. Cancer spread very quick and easily. Please don’t risk it and have the surgery
Thank you so much for sharing your opinion, I hope that Tiffany reads your message of wisdom & expertise. The risk is too high for her & waiting is giving the devil time.
We all know surgery is not a guarantee. I’ve known plent of people who go through it and it comes back. This surgery is very radical and I think her body and mind need to wait.
Tiffany, SURGERY is ultimately the one thing you have been hoping for to beat this cancer. Don’t wait around. The fact that surgery is an option in your case is a miracle in itself. Count it as a blessing and please think through your decision. Wishing you all the best xx
Tiffany, having lost my gorgeous partner to inoperable cancer, if they are offering surgery now, please please take it, if it is a aggressive large tumour as they have said in the past, it may well have gone negative cells but it is still there, get it out asap and move on with your recovery with the best future outcome. You got this girl, in six weeks if you have it done now your body will be healing instead of waiting for more damaging biopsies.
I agree. I think waiting is a mistake & could make things much worse for her I wish she would have taken more time before making her decision. I would not wait 1 more day!
your last point is so true about where she could be in 6 weeks. I would tell my loved one not to delay too. the faster you get the cancerous area out of the body, the better
I’m going to say this out of love… WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU WAIT??!! GET THE SURGERY! Imagine you wait, they say it’s spread to your lymph nodes, lungs or liver and it’s inoperable or terminal. What a huge risk. Do the surgery. Please ❤
Dearest Tiffany. I've been following your story since the beginning and this is a topic that is very close to my heart. There is absolutely no doubt that the Royal Marsden has the best doctors in the world however there are many things in your treatment journey that rings a few alarm bells. The NHS is stretched beyond capacity and I feel that plays a big role in the constant waiting and the sudden option of deferring surgery. Eg the fact that you had to get interim chemo in order to wait for a biopsy appointment is madness. And the fact you had no direct contact to the surgeon despite suffering so much after the biopsy and the hospital turned you away due to not having free beds. This is not normal in a healthcare system but unfortunately has been accepted as the norm in the UK. In other countries, you would have been treated much, much faster and also given far more access to your care team. So like everyone else here, if the option of getting surgery is on the table please take it asap. Do no delay or defer. If you want a second opinion then please go to a private consultant. Start a GoFundMe or Patreon and your viewers will be able to cover the costs for that within hours.
That's heartbreaking. It's such a mystery to me how this can happen if it's one of the best hospitals in the world. Do you know if it's theoretically possible to switch hospitals this deep into treatment? I imagine not, which is terrifying since they literally have your life in their hands.
Boy if it ends up that she is better to get the surgery in the US, the GoFundMe is a great idea and takes the fear of the cost off the table for her! Love it!
Tiffany, as a 20 year cancer survivor, i just want to say that i honestly don't think i'd still be here today if i hadn't have gotten all the surgeries necessary right away. Waiting 6 weeks is a long time to wait. When my cancer was discovered i had every surgery possible within 6 weeks, and also had the radiation treatments and 6-1/2 years of taking anti-cancer tablets after that. Many people with my same type of cancer (ESS) did not survive, because they opted to wait or not do all of the surgeries the doctors recommended.
I’m the same, I had 3 surgeries in 2 weeks when mine was diagnosed. While my cancer was different to hers, if I hadn’t had those it would have killed me quickly. 10 years clear now as of August.
Dear Tiffany, having been told your cancer was inoperable and then finding a surgeon willing to do it was huge. Don’t take a chance that it becomes inoperable again. All that you have gone through to get to a point when they were able to do the surgery. My feelings are that even though surgery is scary, taking a risk like this where you trust the cancer not to grow or spread is so much worse. Love to you and all your family.
@@christylynn451 I do think there is a misunderstanding here. I think the original cancer is unchanged. The hope was that the chemo and radiation would shrink the tumors thus making surgery simpler. What I understand is that the scans and biopsies have confirmed only that it has not spread, but the original tumors remain unchanged. I do not understand the idea of waiting. Waiting for what? Waiting for it to spread?
I would absolutely have the surgery now. If it’s a fast growing cancer it could become inoperable within that 6 wks. And you’re going to be worrying about this for another 6 wks. You do what you need to do but I would absolutely have the surgery now. Colon cancer isn’t something to be trifled with. ❤️❤️
Totally agree with the above comment. If there is even the slightest chance of it becoming inoperable then I wouldn’t take that chance, I would do surgery now. You got this Tiff 💪💖🌸💖
Hey Tiff… please reconsider and opt for having the surgery ASAP! My good friend took 6 weeks off of chemo because she desperately wanted to travel and when she went back for her treatments the cancer had spread and enlarged even greater then when she was just diagnosed. Unfortunately, she passed away 8 weeks later. Please don’t wait. See this as the perfect window of opportunity to try and be cancer free and live a long life!!!!! Just my thoughts! Much love 💙
When I was first diagnosed with breast cancer, I had a diagnosis and after surgery, that diagnosis changed because once they’re in there, they can truly see more of what the cancer looks like and where it’s at. I hope you choose surgery. Also, many doctors are religious but they can’t just rely on those beliefs to hope for a good outcome. Remember that there are people that die from this and it’s not because they didn’t pray hard enough. Please use logic first and keep your faith in the process. I will be thinking if you. Sorry if my comment seems insensitive, I am just worried that you will wait 6 weeks.
Dear Tiffany, I rarely ever post aything on youtube. As a former researcher in oncology and someone who went through a cancer scare myself many years ago, I totally agree with the others that surgery is the main option. It is the most definitive cancer treatment. It is your choice in the end but this may very well be a life or death decision. I know none of this is easy and it's clearly overwhelming. We only have one life to live and it's not easy to make the right decision when we are in the situation you are in. I firmly believe that removing a tumor or the problematic area is the safest way to go. Surgery is invasive but still worth it especially with the type of cancer you are dealing with. Even if no cancer cell were found, the chances that they are still there making their way through another area insidiously are extremely high. Your cancer had already spread but was still localised within the pelvis area. You do not want it to reach other major organs. I am also against biopsy as I also believe they do contribute to the cancer spreading which is why I refused the biopsy many years ago and opted for a surgery with wide margins instead. I didn't want them to poke the suspicious area at all or seed any cancer cell somewhere else. You have sustained several biopsies and scraping and if there were cancer cells still around, those may have spread already,. Cancer cells are not regular cells. They are fierce and often very aggressive, they may already be somewhere else spreading uncontrollably. I wish you all the courage you need to make an informed decision that you will feel comfortable with. Sends you lots of prayers as well to you, Matt and Amma. Take care.
I totally agree with you, cancer is a sneaky little character, I've sadly witnessed it with both my beloved sisters, she has been given a false sense of security I believe. I really hope she changes her mind bless her.
@@Seaflower1008 I agree, I’ve been worried sick. I keep thinking she is going to post an update saying she is having surgery. I’m so angry with her doctor for even giving her the wait and see option. Why in the hell risk her life. Her entire care has been so many delays it makes me crazy. Our health care has flaws in the United States that’s for sure but I feel things move much quicker here with more aggressive approach
Please have your operation ASAP. Your a young girl and have your whole life in front of you which has been on hold for you, your Mum and Matt. Don't wait any longer as you deserve the best outcome! Good luck xxxx
I have worked in health care for 30 years and this is what I was told by a very wise surgeon- "Better an empty house, than a ban tenant". Best of luck with your decision- prayers!
My sweet Tiffany. I was an oncology nurse and hospice nurse for so many years...please honey...I agree with everyone. Cancer hides. It can spread in 6 weeks. It absolutely can! If anything get a second opinion just dont wait and do nothing for those weeks. You got this! And you got this because you have powered through and pushed and pushed making sure you have gotten the treatments with the back logs at the hospitals and pushing for your chemo. There has been alot of "waiting" with the doctors but YOU have gotten things done. Dont stop now! Dont take the advice from ONE man when when its your life on the line. At least a second opinion?? We probably sound selfish and its because we don't want to loose you!
I completely agree you should have second opinion If you r finding hard to decide Like I said so many times Unfortunately I had 3 members of my family with cancer My mum ., my dad passed away 3 months ago is cancer change in weeks was to late for treatment . And my brother has metastatic cancer they gave him 5 years 9 years has passed and is doing good he has a good team doctors always doing is ct scans every 3 month Brain lungs prostrate .,and he follows always is treatments and eat healthy ., it’s so important . .
Noooo, please don´t wait!!! The risk is so high to take that cancer can spread out. In 6 weeks can many things happen. I am definitely supporting to get the surgery right away. Please receive a lot of hugs!.
I know I've already commented I was reluctant to share this but my heart quickened and I knew I had to. I was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer. I had radiation and chemo 3 different rounds. Finally was told that I needed surgery. I wanted to wait, but I'm so grateful that there were living people who helped me to realize that if I waited, things might not be so good. I decided to have the surgery on a Sunday evening. I called the surgeon Monday morning and had surgery Wednesday morning first thing. I'm so thankful I did. They removed nearly everything from my colon, rectum, ask but 2 feet of small intestine, my uterus, ovaries, fallopian tubes, some of my bladder and my spleen. That was a year ago. I've been cancer free since. If I had waited I would not be here today. It was spreading rapidly. Even though my test results said that things were better and yet it was worse than ever. I know how confusing this can be but I also know that if I had waited well... We serve an awesome God. He gives us discernment for a reason. If I had listen to just the doctor's then. .. but I didn't, I trusted what I love already, what the people in my life were saying but most of all I listened to the Lord. I wanted to wait I said you know they say things are better yet somehow I knew somewhere in my soul they were not. Sweet Tiffany, yes I do believe in the power of prayer but I also know that doctors cannot see inside us, even with all their technology, I hope you read this and I pray that maybe instead of just a quick decision you pray about it for a few days, don't wait to long. Then I think you'll make that decision. Please my sweet sweet girl please. I'm continually praying for you and your family. You are so loved. Sending my love and prayers and best wishes‼️♥️🙏♥️🙏♥️🙏
Bev Smith I'm so happy for you that you made the hard decision to stare fear in the face and trust in the Lord to see you through the surgery. I can only imagine how difficult that decision was. It took so much courage and such strong faith and reliance on God seeing you through. I am so happy for your positive outcome! I am praying for Tiffany to be led by the Holy Spirit to the right choice. I am following her journey and praying with her. I strongly believe that God is in the miracle business
I also believe that oftentimes he works miracles through the hands of surgeons by blessing and guiding their hands and bringing healing through that medical intervention. I have read so many comments here from very informed sources that lead me to believe that her complete healing from cancer is likely to come through God's instrument of a competent surgeon. It looks to me that God may be using her you tube family to guide her in the direction of surgery. I would suggest that she takes it to God and ask to be given the courage and discernment to make the right choice.
Tiffany I have followed you for a very long time but have never commented. You have taught me so much and I am 74. I have read your comments and being on social media you are so fortunate to hear so many people’s opinions, many of them being doctors, oncologists, nurses but also people who have had a similar journey to you. Tiffany listen to them. Take their advice. There is no second chance. I know you love your family so much and their opinions matter but they’re not medical opinions they are opinions made with love but lacking medical knowledge. I pray you make the right decision very quickly 🥰
Yes to surgery. No to waiting. I remember you prayed for the opportunity to have surgery. This is your narrow window to act. I recall you sharing that your surgeon has to assemble a large team, which will take some days in itself. Please start start the ball rolling, the sooner the better. We all want the very best for you.❤️❤️❤️
Tiffany, I’m going to agree with everyone who said “GET THE SURGERY”. I know it will be a very difficult surgery, but I think the big picture dictates that you go forward with surgery as soon as you possibly can. We’re all here praying and supporting!!
If she's still bleeding and having difficulty after the biopsy what could happen after the surgeon remove the tumor. Her body is responding to trauma. If the surgeon says it's better to wait I think that may be a better option.
I really hope she changes her mind. And she said she was going to think about it but then made he decision in a matter of 2 hours? That to me is not taking your time. I'm not sure she has really thought it through because I dread to think what would happen if in 6 weeks it has spread & becomes in-operable? Those reasons right there would have me doing the surgery ASAP!
@@susansuarez343 if the doctor said to wait then it may mean she still have time to eat healthy plant base to get the toxins out of her body. Also the doctor probably know that sense she's bleeding it's best to hold off to avoid being anemic and getting a transfusion especially if it's during surgery.
@@susansuarez343 the sad thing is doctors only specialize in drugs and the best thing for her to do is eat plant base food NOW! in case they can't help her in 6 weeks. God has gave her a miracle that the tumor may not be cancerous no the next step is eating healthy.
Okay so let me get this straight: your options are waiting six weeks to see if whoops, he missed something and you're now terminal or going ahead with a super invasive surgery in case he missed something? Those are bad options. Personally I would ask for additional scans and examinations to clear up the status of the cancer. At the very least cut the waiting time in half: 6 weeks is just too long in my opinion. If scans are off the table and he insists on the 6 weeks, I would go for surgery. You've got 1 life and if the cancer is there and possibly spreading, your window to do something about it may be closed in 6 weeks.
I have been following your channel for many years and rarely comment. I was hesitant to comment as I can see a lot of others have said exactly what I want to say, but felt called to do so, especially as I know I might be able to offer some insights into the inner workings of the theatre department in NHS hospitals. I really hope you don't take all these comments as anything other than us showing our love and concern for you, Tiff ❤🙏. As a Theatre nurse and a firm believer in God, PLEASE TAKE THIS OPPORTUNITY TO GET THE SURGERY. You, and all of us, have been praying for you to have the opportunity to have this surgery, and God has answered. Going from being inoperable to operable is a miracle in itself! From an operation standpoint, the sooner you get the operation, the better for your body. Some surgeons do prefer that you have not had chemo for a couple of weeks so that your body and immune system is not at its weakest, so now is a perfect time, not too long, not too short. Coming from my experience working at King's College Hospital in the theatre department, I can tell you there are massive financial and staffing issues in the NHS. The system was on its knees back in 2020 when I left England, and from what I've heard from friends, it's somehow even worse now. There were many times that we had to delay oncology surgeries, despite the urgency, due to having no beds in ICU due to trauma cases or not enough staff to run the theatre because everyone had already done max overtime during the trauma cases etc. I saw some cancer patients wait 3+ months for their surgeries when they should've been done within 30 days! In particular, your case will need a significant amount of staff involved, from the different surgical specialities, a couple of scrub and anaesthetic teams to swap throughout the op, a few theatre techs and runners etc. It's a significant staffing/money commitment from the theatre team, who are already struggle to stick to their budgets and meet their time targets for their theatre lists as it is. In no malicious way whatsoever, I am sure this is a factor in the team wanting to delay your surgery. I don't say this to make you feel guilty about the resources involved, but so that you can understand that there are times that medical personnel might not be making a decision that is in the patients' best interest (unintentionally) due to pressures from the higher ups. This happens in all industries, and healthcare is no exception to this! If your team are not able to get you in for the surgery, please seek a second opinion privately. Please start a GoFundMe or something similar if you need, I know there are many of us that would be extremely happy to help if it means you get the best care possible! ❤❤❤
There’s no reward in waiting 6 weeks IF the cancer spreads. I’m a oncology nurse and your best chance IS surgery. Literally you’re getting so many comments to move forward. Hope and prayers coming your way🙏🕊
I wonder if Tiffany has someone she knows that has medical knowledge that can go with her to see the surgeon...or maybe her sister or uncle or cousin... that could help ask these questions..who is outspoken & inquisitive...& can get the answers to many unresolved questions. It can be overwhelming in a doctor's office. What are the results of the PET SCAN, MRI, CT scan?
Yes - it’s not adding up! doesn’t she have an aunt who’s a doctor? I’m surprised she’s doesn’t go to her got advice. Maybe she’s going tp talk to her. But very confusing.
@@hidden-r2s I wonder why Matt isnt researching this. One of them needs to. Ignorance can be deadly in this situation. They are 2 positive people trying to make the best of each day, trying to live a normal life. Unfortunately in this situation they need to face reality and go into battle mode.
Lovely Tiffany, PLEASE TAKE A SURGERY OPTION INMEDIATLY!!!! Waiting six weeks, can be so risky and fatal decision. My husband is a colom cancer survival for ten years, our decision to do his surgery inmediatly SAVE HIS LIFE!!! My prays are with you and your family.
Omg … remember how thrilled and relieved you were that you found a surgeon that was willing to take your case? It was your glimmer of hope… Please don’t wait and have that taken away from you! I agree with everyone else on the scans. Why is the entire decision left up to the biopsies which could definitely miss the cancer. Here in the US, it’s easy to get a second opinion by just sending scans etc to a renowned Cancer Hospital… Like Moffitt or MD Anderson. They can consult with you remotely. Please get a second opinion!
Yes! Second and third opinions can be done virtually/remotely. We don’t even know if this particular surgery is the exact right surgery, what needs targeting. I’m not sure Tiffany and family have all the info needed to make the best decisions and this is surely a case where another expert or two weighing in would help to clarify matters and make good decisions.
I completely agree about a second opinion. I work very closely with some of the best Oncologist/ Surgeons at Stanford Hospital that I’m sure would be happy to give you a second opinion remotely. 🧡
This video makes me realize what an extremely valuable tool YT is. Here you are with a life/death decision and unsure what to do. In the mean time, you have over 6k comments, many from highly qualified people (doctors, nurses and patients), telling you exactly what you should do without hesitation. Ultimately Tiffany, the decision is yours to make, but based on all the advice given, it seems one option is the best. I would heed the advice of thousands of people who seem to know what they are talking about. Your oncologist doesn't strike me as someone who cares about you as much as those of us who watch your channel regularly do.
I agree and it’s amazing how powerfully affected we all seem to be which really could have such affect on people’s proactiveness in their own lives too. ❤️
Tiffany knows how lucky she is to have such a compassionate, caring surgeon who has sincerely promised her that he will look after her like she is his sister. He is a highly specialised surgeon at a world leading cancer hospital and apparently only one of about fifteen surgeons in the world who can do this surgery. When he initially explained to her about what the surgery entailed, he said it was brutal and she was so lovely and so young that he felt bad telling her all about it. He strikes me as someone who really does care about Tiffany.
They honestly don't care. I think I've met 1 GP who cared about my health and was very adamant regarding me having my breast checked because of a pain I was feeling. I had a huge issue with a nurse at the Royal Marsden. The nurse checked my breast just by barely touching it. No scan, no nothing... With all the respect to all the nurses, but I was supposed to see a doctor, not a nurse. This is the first thing, to start with... Especially when I had a visible lump under my armpit. I've been misdiagnosed 5 years ago with Leukaemia , by 5 doctors which belonged to the NHS. I have also done a breast scan where they said they found nothing. Flew to Portugal they found a cyst and a nodule, which needs to be controlled for the next 2 years as prevention, every 6 moths. At the NHS, they don't even do this control thing. Lastly, 2 months ago I had some issues did an MRI here, and also within a week another MRI in Portugal. MRI here in London, came back clear all good. MRI in Portugal cervical hernia between C5 and C6. Now, imagine this week with this flaring up, me having to talk to the GP telling him I am not a liar and I have images on my laptop (which by the way NHS never offers/shows you) from the MRI done in Portugal and you can clearly see a cervical hernia which explains the pain and numbness in my arm. While he is telling my MRI report in the UK says I'm fine and I have nothing. Right, how awkward... Honestly, they miss literally everything in this country with rare exceptions.
🌟TIFFANY PLEASE READ ALL THE COMMENTS . PEOPLE HAVE REAL LIFE EXPERIENCES WITH CANCER EITHER HAVING HAD IT THEMSELVES OR FAMILY MEMBERS OR FRIENDS WHO HAVE HAD IT . MOST PEOPLE THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE THE SURGERY ASAP BECAUSE EVERYONE ON THIS CHANNEL LOVES AND CARES FOR YOU , 😘❤️
Very good point cherry,please Tiffany read this lady’s comment,it may not be what you or anyone would want to hear but it this lady is talking sense xx
I agree I had stage 3 breast cancer and I truly believe the only reason I'm here today is they had me in within 2 weeks for a mastectomy and I then went through chemo and radiation, there no time to wait with cancer it needs to be taken straight away , I really hope she listens to everyones advice,
Hi Tiffany. I’m a doctor in the UK. If the surgeon has said there is a risk that it could become inoperable in the next six weeks, it’s because there is that risk. It is ultimately your decision and most of us can’t imagine how difficult this decision is to make, but I would recommend that you consider if the risk of the cancer becoming inoperable is a risk you are willing to take.
Hello Sweet Tiffany, adding my voice to those who are encouraging you to move forward with the surgery right away. After all the pain, stress and worry you and your family have been through, it’s just not worth the risk of waiting to see if the cancer spreads or grows. Get it out now while you still have that option. Sending all my love and prayers to you 💜💜🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hi Tiffany! I wish you the absolute best with whatever you decide to do. I have been following your story from the beginning. I am an operating room RN, and I felt it was my duty to at least give you something to think about. In America, at least in the state I am in, all the oncology surgeons I work with, would absolutely tell you to do the surgery. This is because they would rather take out whatever is cancerous and not risk anything from spreading to lymph nodes, other organs, etc. For example, when they biopsy a lobe of a lung, they actually still remove that lobe to prevent anything from spreading any further. Often times they can see with cameras/scopes what they need to take out when they are in there. I have been in cases where it is far too late and they cannot operate anymore. Six weeks is a long time for cells that regenerate at a fast pace. I am surprised that your surgeon did not do a diagnostic laparoscopy to look inside your belly, take frozen section biopsies, and show you what they are actually dealing with. It’s a very tough decision. I understand you have faith and a lot of support in this. Your positive attitude will take you very far. I wish you all the blessings.
I was shocked the moment she said she had a biopsy "up her bum" instead of laparoscopically. Also that her surgeon made this big deal out of telling her he'd be treating her as if she were (can't remember) his own sister, gives her a biopsy which comes with extensive bleeding (which doesn't surprise him when she tells him about it, but he neglected to warn her about before the procedure, we assume) and then releases her from the hospital bleeding without and doesn't check up on her or have his office call to check on her regularly. I had a minor eye procedure done last year, and even they called to be sure I had no concerns. And he's obviously letting her leave the office without making sure she understands the situation she's in so she can make a good decision. The surgeon worries me.
@@Sydney.Knight I completely agree. A lot of red flags. Our surgeons do so much testing, different ways of diagnosing, and they even ask other surgeons to give their input. Tiffany is so young. I’m just worried she might be making a decision that might cause her more harm than good. I know we are all coming from a good place and respect her decisions.
The drs at this point can absolutely tell if her cancer is terminal even after surgery done in which they cant remove her whole frail half of her torso or pervis....they have given this poor soul false hope and maybe 6 weeks to enjoy a little more with out any treatment..drs dont like to tell ppl are actually in the process of deterioration towards death..only when they are close to an active death..which is why they let her take a break..but they know she wont make it...shame on them!.. poor soul 😥💕
My sweet girl❤️you need to have the surgery right away! Cancer can grow so fast within days. My mother went from a negative cancer test and 2 months later stage 4 cancer. If it was me I would schedule it as soon as possible I would want it out of my body.
I personally would have the surgery as the risk would be too great for me I.e. the cancer spreading and it becoming inoperable. I know how horrible the biopsies were for you too and having to go through them multiple times with days in hospital would be horrible. Six weeks is closer to Christmas and New year too, get it done now and out the way and be cancer free for 2023 🙌👏🏼🙌 xx
The way I phrased it to her is using the power of prayers with the underlying positivity which I think she will be much more receptive to. In my comment I strongly suggested she not wait. Please like my comment (I swear on my life this is not meant for my own vanity but to get support for a comment that a truly thing would help)
@@ashleighmartinez4348 also after the biopsy she bled heavily with blood clots usually if their cancerous cysts that rupture maybe I'm not a doctor but cancer you can't wait doctors aren't god and by all means pray but use your intelligence to help yourself so god can help you
I keep coming back to this video and the more I read the comments and the more I watch it, the more it makes me feel uncomfortable with what Matt said. I don’t think this is the time when he should speak up on such a life altering decision for YOU. You’re the fighter, not Matt. How is this a risk and reward situation?! There is absolute no chance in 6 weeks magically Tiffany is cancer-free…unless we’re not getting all the details here. What magically happened? I have no idea. This is the time to fight, not the time to rely on prayers. Prayers help, but as we’ve seen, even people with the deepest faith get their lives taken away way too soon. Life isn’t always fair. Really looking forward to an update from Tiffany. :(
I’m feeling very uncomfortable too. How can he talk about risk reward when the risk is a potentially terminal and inoperable disease? I understand the surgery is extremely invasive and will change her life forever but surely that’s better than the cancer spreading? Nothing good can come from waiting, I believe.
I keep coming back too. It’s just so worrisome. I think Matt and all of them think no surgery and everything is fine is the best scenario and it is but it’s not where they’re at. I wish her doctors would more help them locate more accurately. I hope the comments do too. I also wonder if there’s more they’re not sharing. The clear biopsies are nice but there’s still a gigantic tumor in there to my understanding.
A-Freaking-Men! I didn’t want to say anything about Matt, but honestly I couldn’t agree with you more…. He’s not in her position and yes, he’s trying to stay positive, but that’s not how you should react when you’re talking about CANCER.
Hi Tiffany! I‘ve been watching your videos for a while now and never had the courage to write a comment. Now however, I really fear that you‘re making a mistake. As a medical resident, I‘ve seen many cases of colorectal cancer but only a handful of patients your age. You have had the luck to be diagnosed in time and to still have the option for surgery. At your age, I wouldn‘t think twice about it and just have the tumor removed as fast as possible. It‘s just not worth the risk. Waiting might be a possibility for elderly patients with a high risk of postoperative complications and a prolonged recovery period. You however have all the chances in the world to recover from this and finally be cancer-free after surgery. I really hope you will change your mind, dear Tiffany! We got this!
I am very confused as to what will happen to the mass in her pelvis and bowel. I do understand that there are huge repercussions to a massive surgery. Assume she would need a hysterectomy (with or without ovaries and tubes), not sure about a colostomy bag, etc. Potentially menopause, pelvic floor issues, inability to carry children, etc. Think she has downplayed how big a surgery it would be but as a young person with such a large mass the chances of reoccurrence will likely be very high as well. Wish she had talked about the risk of reoccurrence and how long until reoccurrence if she didn’t have surgery. Not my body so not sure what I would do.
I also feel that she is making a huge mistake in waiting. She always talked about having the surgery & now that it's an option for her she is waiting? I hope that she changes her mind also because I fear the worst for her & I have a bad feeling about her waiting 6 weeks & then to only go through another biopsy again? I don't understand how she thinks that this is a good idea especially after everything that she just went through and is still bleeding after 2 weeks?! My fear is that it spreads & then she becomes terminal & I don't want that for her & I feel that she made her decision too quickly!
My mother had adenocarcinoma. It’s aggressive and sneaky and knows how to hide. If I were you, I’d get the surgery YESTERDAY. Six weeks can make all the difference.
I Agree,My Dad Had The Same Kind Of Colon Cancer & Refused Surgery 😔😢He Past Away 2 Years Ago,Colon Cancer Is So Sneaky & It Hides Very Well,Tiff Is Showing Signs That It Hasn’t Went Anywhere With C Diff & Stomach Pains,Recent Trips To The Hospitals,My Dad Went Though The Same Thing Sadly,He Refused Surgery & It Took Him Quickly Out Of My Life Just That Fast,I Am So Lost Without Him,So I’m Begging U Tiff PLEASE HAVE THE SURGERY 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I've given this video several watchings & given it much thought before commenting. I won't bash Matt for his thoughts on this, but rewatch poor Amma's face in the back seat! In the end, you are in charge of your own body & we all support your right to make the decision. NOW...my thoughts. I DID have the surgery ASAP (for the same cancer) once I was done the full rounds of chemo & radiation. I had an AMAZING surgeon and oncology team, that all collaborated on my treatment plan. Mine told me, prior to deciding on surgery that a lot of doctors take a "wait & see" approach, after viewing positive results such as my last CT & MRI's, but that my surgeon liked to go the extra mile (if I was agreeable) and surgically go in for a look visually, to make sure it's all (including radiation scarring) removed and biopsy tested. I told him while I didn't like the idea of invasive surgery, but having the thought in the back of my mind that the ticking time bomb might still be in me, would keep me mentally in the state of waking up each morning saying "I have cancer." Tiffany..you need to write down all your questions, including the pros & cons & Book ANOTHER appointment with this surgeon to get all scenarios explained fully. My real concern is...what if at 6 weeks you decide on surgery...but then get covid or are weak & unwell..or doctor gets covid...or surgeries get cancelled due to covid? That's a very real possibility, as we near winter. What if, at 6 weeks, you find the surgery wait time is 1-2 months or more? What would happen inside your body in the meantime? I'm sorry this comment was so long, but we ALL are very concerned about you & just want you totally healthy. I've been cancer free for 10 months. Sending hugs from Canada
Congratulations on being cancer free, such wonderful news..I hope Tiffany reads this,this is exactly what she needs to see and I agree with everything you said..best of health and happiness to you going forward 🙏
hi Marilyn, how long does recovery take for this kind of surgery? You are very brave and your team does sound wonderful. Congrats on being cancer free 🌹
Ku gh: I won't lie...it's a VERY HARD surgery. I had a bowel resection as well as bladder scar tissue removal. I was in hospital 10 days & on drugs stronger than morphine. It left me with an iliostomy (you can research this), which I luckily got home nursing care to help with...twice a week for 5 months. The iliostomy reversal surgery later (by the same surgeon) went much easier...I was pretty much my usual self in 3 weeks. I'll be doing all my one year follow ups in November...so hopefully I'll be one of the "success" stories and will only need follow up check ups every 3 years after that. I should mention I am 67... Someone Tiffany's age could likely bounce back quicker. I live in Canada & have nothing but praise for my treatment team & expeditious treatment. Diagnosed mid January 2021 (right in the thick of covid) and radiation treatment started 2 weeks later
This is is exactly what she needs to read, someone who has been through the procedure I understand if she gets scared by googling it, it's so invasive But fear must not rule everything I just hope for the best 💚
Fantastic news ❤️ I to had enhanced lower rectal cancer and secondary liver had full rectal removal with now permanent stoma bag and half liver removed plus gallbladder after having radiation/chemo tablets first. I’m in recovery from June. Operations were successful although I am still classed as stage 4 and sit at 50/50 recurrence but was told by oncologist that my stage 4 and another person stage 3 could be worse for them than my stage. My surgeons and oncologist were the best at the Belfast City Hospital in N.Ireland everything was done with speed. It was horrendous but im glad they did it. Get my first scan at the end of the month im abit nervous but my faith in Our Lord has got me through this and I pray 🙏 it will continue. ❤️
Please don't leave the surgery Tiffany, have it done as soon as you can, you have had two long rounds of chemo and radiotherapy, that has obviously helped you, my friend was told the same as you, she then waited and it then became inoperable, and spread to liver, the longer the cancer is in your system the more chance you have of it spreading through the lymphatic system and metasatis. You need to find out the benefits v compications of having it done now v waiting! Personally I would not be happy to wait! Good Luck lovely lady x
I would have the surgery right away. Why wait? Why make your situation more difficult potentially. I wish you all the best and I am praying for you and your family.
OMG that's just awful! Is your friend still with us? I fear that will happen to her & she should have it done ASAP! I don't understand how hearing the words spreading & in-operable didn't have a stronger effect on her? 2 out of 3 options are life threatening? I don't see how she thinks that waiting is good for her because clearly it is not. All she ever talked about was getting the surgery done & now that she has that option, she is waiting? I'm so scared for her, I have a bad feeling about this.
@@susansuarez343 Hello. sadly no my friend died 8 months later, 41 years old, so sad. Drs don't always get it right, I can't help thinking she has been given these options not for her benefit but for the benefit of the NHS, staffing, theatre space, bed space etc... What possible benefit is there for waiting 6 weeks?
My husband and two other friends have had rectal cancer. They were all advised to get the operation so not sure why he would suggest you don’t. Especially since these tumours tend to be fast growing, aggressive, and can quickly become inoperable. You don’t want it to spread to your liver.
Tiff, my dad was told there was no bowel cancer left after radiotherapy. But it wasn’t gone.it metastasised to his liver, chest and neck and he passed eight months later. I know you want to celebrate your good biopsy results and you should, but I don’t think you should wait. Best wishes xxx
Sorry for your loss. She is really in a TERRIBLE position to have to make this choice. I would probably get the surgery and hope that it was right. Worry would take over my LIFE!
I agree! How can she dismiss the Dr saying that it could spread & the fact that it could be in-operable? I would be terrified hearing that! I don't think waiting is the right thing to do.
My Dad was also told that he appeared to be free from cancer and they stopped his chemo earlier than planned. Two months later it had metastasised to his bones and there was no treatment available. Had we been given the option, we would have absolutely carried on with the treatment that was initially planned. Different cancer to Tiffany’s though so I really don’t want this comment to scare her!
@@christylynn451 definitely should consider a diagnostic and exploratory laparoscopic surgery for definitive diagnosis. Then again, you wonder what CA-19 and 125 are at? What did the PET show?
Tiffany-since you asked….I’ve been a hospice social worker for 21 years and I would have the surgery. This has been such an aggressive cancer that they couldn’t even operate until it shrunk. This cancer is a beast. Why would you wait? This has been what you were hoping and praying for. It just takes one cell. I know you are weary…but something just doesn’t add up. What would the doctor recommend if it was his daughter in your exact situation?? Continued prayers. Whatever you decide we are still here for you. 💙🙏
I normally wouldn’t be so bold as to tell you to do anything but Tiffany, consider the surgery. My husband was left with no options. You have an option to put this nightmare behind you. Please take it.♥️
Tiffany: I have been following you through your cancer journey. My Dr. told me to wait 6 months and then have a biopsy. Two weeks later I called his office and made an appointment as I knew something wasn’t right. That was 11 years ago; 6 rounds of chemo and 30 rounds of radiation. I have seen my daughter and son graduate from college, my daughter’s marriage, and now have 3 granddaughters. Don’t wait-get the surgery. Roberta-FL/ USA
Hi Tiffany, you don’t need to wait to become a miracle. It is already a miracle that you’ve had an T4 adenocarcinoma for over a year and it’s still operable. Make your decisions based on science and talk again with your cousin who is a doctor. If I was in your position I would take the surgery asap. Your life is too high price to pay from wait and see.
Yes - I think it’s her Aunt that’s the doctor- I’ve been wondering why she hasn’t asked her for advice and yes why hasn’t gone with her to a doctors visit or to the hospital.
Hi Tiffany, I can imagine all of our comments are overwhelming right now. I am a 5th year medical student and I had an opportunity to see things change in a matter of days. This is from my purest intentions for you, I know that not having surgery seems like a miracle and it would be, but honestly the risk is too high. Right now you have a chance for a cancer free outcome with surgery, in 6 weeks you can have a terminal diagnosis. I would have the surgery as soon as possible, the risk is just too high. If you are steady on your decision please at least request that you next series of exams is in 2-3 weeks and not 6 is just too long to wait. However I really hope you have the surgery. Sending lots of love and prayers ❤️
100 percent agree. With the surgery you simply have less to lose. She will recover from it for sure but if there is no surgery its not clear if she even has a chance for surgery.
Also I wanted to say, I have watched you for a long time and have been cheering for you, this is the first time I am commenting. I feel these decisions should be made by you, but now I have a feeling, I cannot explain that the surgery is the right way.
I'm a now retired nurse of 39 years. I don't know this girl and her family but I love her. I'm praying she will have the surgery as soon as possible. I agree with your thoughts.
Couldn't agree more. The risk is such that a wait is untenable. The surgery would not be offered if the surgeon did not envisage a considerable risk by leaving it.
I agree. If I had to hear from her that she now has terminal cancer because it spread I would be beside myself. The risk is too high but for some reason she doesn't see it that way & she really needs to think more about it spreading & how that will effect her life span & it being in-operable. What quality of life would she have then? I really hope she changes her mind on this & she made her decision too quickly. I'm not sure she is thinking straight & the fact that the Dr said that her having the surgery would help her mentally makes 0 sense to me! I'm scared for her & I have a bad feeling about he waiting 6 weeks only to go through another biopsy & then getting terminal results after everything she has been through? I would be devastated beyond words.
Hi Tiffany, I’m so happy to hear what I consider to be the best possible news for you at this point. Normally, I would never give my opinion on a life or death matter because it’s an incredibly personal decision, but because you asked for my opinion, I’ll give it to you. As a cancer survivor of 21 years, please get a second opinion about your options. And please lean toward the goal of living a long, worry-free life. If your chance of long-term survival is to have the surgery, then please do it as soon as possible. Get the second opinion and lean towards the best long-life option while you still have the choice. Love you and your family to pieces. You got this! 💙
I’ve worked in meds 20 years. Please have the surgery as soon as can be scheduled, not only for your and your families peace of mind, but you ultimately want to have the lowest risk of reoccurrence possible. We love you Tiffany. Continued prayers for strength and peace
I am a nurse as well! I also have a son with colorectal cancer! I agree with all of the other folks who have written to you! I believe you are playing with fire not to have this surgery! Cancer is the great trickster ! To take a chance like this is not in your best interests!
Hi Tiffany! Retired registered nurse here. You have a great chance of being cancer free if you have the surgery right now, but if you choose the other option the element of risk seems to be far, far greater and could possibly lead to a devastating outcome. I'm deeply concerned for your well being and do appreciate that the surgery will be very invasive but I feel it would give you the best longterm outcome. It is a huge step of faith to allow God to administer his healing power through the hands of the surgeons. I think of you every day and send my love.x
Beautiful Tiffany, my only sister died of bowel cancer 3 years ago aged only 54. The doctor postponed the operation and the cancer spread and by then it was too late and she passed away! Please Tiffany, don’t wait, choose the surgery right away! We got this💙
Aww i understand how you must feel about your sister, i lost my brother to bowel & oesophagus cancer & if there could have been a way to save him I’d have walked to the end of the earth.Tiffany shouldn’t have to make a decision she has been through enough God bless her 🙏🏻
Sorry for the loss of your 54 year old sister, but Tiffany is a lot younger and a lot more resilient. Also, we don't know the competency of your sister's surgeon and we don't know the reputation of her hospital. Also, medicine continues to improve. If your sister was being treated today, she might have pulled through with the more modern medicine. Tragic loss. My heart goes out to you.
Having been an operating RN for 30+ years and seen some devastating outcomes following this from the start of your journey, I’m afraid I would go ahead w/surgery. I truly believe it will be the safest option. I hope you understand I’m not being pessimistic, just want the best possible outcome for you and your wonderful family. I’d love for you to truly beat this w/ your strength and faith in the Lord to sustain you. You’ll be healing and get your strength back sooner than waiting another six weeks and going through another anxiety ridden wait . The stress of waiting will surely sap your energy and strength . I’m praying for you sweetie.We got this!!😊🙏❤️
I dont know you but thank you for all that you have done. Being a nurse is not easy but you have helped lots of people and thats very commendable. I too think should get the surgery and that's what she has been wanting all along so we hope she makes the right decision. Have a good night!
They managed to organize all of the surgeons, everything and everyone is ready to perform this life saving surgery. In six weeks, some of them might be out of country, someone might get corona, everything can happen to keep delaying it further. I think it's such a good thing you've asked for people's opinions, so many experts, nurses, survivors and loved ones of people who had lost the battle to cancer have spoken up. Please take their voices to heart, everyone is very positive and even loud in the comments because they are trying to get you to the other side of this. You've been through so much, it would break all of our hearts if this six week wait ends up winning over. You want to be there for your family, for your adorable little cousins, for a lifetime with Matt and your kind hearted mom. Whatever you chose, it's your decision in the end. I'm rooting for you as I have for all this time!
I 100% agree with your comment. I needed a surgery to save my unborn baby’s life and my original surgeon that was suppose to perform the surgery had a family emergency. We had to wait an additional day to have the surgery and it was by a different doctor. This was a very random incident but my surgeon was more easily replaced. Whereas Tiffany’s Surgeon (like she mentioned in a previous video) is one of the few in the world that can perform it. I’m just baffled why this even is an option and also why anyone would take such a life threatening risk.😔
@@jannottage1632 exactly so many red flags. I still can't believe he said those weeks of heavy bleeding, excruciating pain, and vomiting were perfectly normal after a biopsy. Just looking at her it's obvious the physical toll it took on her. I'd be very afraid of him operating on me
Oh God, Tiffany. In my heart of hearts I want to believe you’ll be fine in six weeks. BUT if you have the surgery now you’ll increase your odds of beating cancer with a long and happy life. Someone else can carry your children. It’s done every day now. I was actually quite shocked reading through the comments of the number of the Tiffany Thinks family urging you to have surgery now, and these seem to be doctors, nurses, medical techs and fellow cancer survivors/ family members of cancer patients. To wait six weeks might be the difference between life and death. We all LOVE YOU SO, and want you to have the best possible outcome. 💙💙💙
Please please have the operation my dad was told the same but unfortunately the cancer had spread and he sadly passed, once it gos into the lympnodes it spreads rapidly in different areas that doctors dont see🙏🙏
My aunties team once told her “Get rid of the cancer before the cancer gets rid of you” please get rid ASAP don’t put yourself through more nasty biopsies that was hell for you 😢 time is of the essence get the surgery done don’t wait for it to become inoperable darling girl be faster than the cancer is xx
Also, should you chose to wait, please be proactive- I would find the most specialized Laparoscopic Surgeon in the UK and together with your surgeon start there- urgently. A surgery for biopsies via the rectum is very different than looking via Laparoscope. As an Oncology Nurse who has seen this time and again at the best US Medical centers, I am very worried with this “wait and see” approach… this is not wait and see type Cancer Tiffany. This is go to war type Cancer.
American nurse here. Reading through the comments I am astounded by the depth of knowledge that people in the tiffanythinks family have. Please have the surgery. I have yet to read a comment that advises you to wait. XX
Hello Tiffany, as an ex-ICU nurse (now retired) I would without a doubt go for the surgery ASAP I have to agree with everyone who has replied, sending much love from Cork in Ireland x
Dear Tiffany, I lost my father in law last year to colorectal cancer just because it was too late for surgery and fast spreading… and if you want my opinion, I’d say have the surgery ASAP! cancer is no fun and undetectable cells can still be there and not been shown on the biopsy. 6 weeks can be quite long when it comes to cancer cells spreading so having a surgery will give you a peace of mind that it’s all over and done with! big hug xx
Same. My dad was diagnosed last August but it had already spread to his liver, stomach and abdominal walls. He passed 2 months later. It is a relentless, stealthy disease and if you have the option of surgery, please take it!
@@Barqhead I’m so sorry for your loss Pam, and yes! when there is an option for surgery I would personally go for it but at the end of the day it’s her decision and from the bottom of my heart I pray it works out for her whatever the decision will be xx
So happy for you! I hope you read senoritaleno's comment and ttake it to heart. I was diagnosed with colon cancer Stage 3 and ready to be in stage 4. I had Chemo for 7 months and that was followed immediately by surgery and had the whole right side of my colon removed. I would not want to wait that long to find out anything . Surgery for me is the answer. I have now been clear of cancer for 20 years. I hope yyou are making the right choice. It's a very scarey situation to be in. I lovewatching you on here, you are such a sweet and loving person!
Tiffany, I wasn’t sure whether to comment but I used to work in colorectal cancer. You need to look at the original stage of cancer you were told (T something N something) and the grade of the cells (1-3 is usual) and then the latest MRI and PET scans and how they then downstaged it based on that. The MRI looks for size and exact location/invasion and the PET looks for active cancer cells, in the site of origin and in the rest of the body. I am not clear on why they re-biopsied to such an extent (maybe because the PET showed no sign of activity?). If there was more clear info, it might be easier to understand the situation. Any T4 from memory has already broken through the wall and invaded nearby structures, so the biopsy taken via theme rectum would not be able to reach any sites outside. I am so worried for you, but completely understand that you may not have wanted to share the whole picture and also understand that you may have decided against the drastic surgery. I also am local to the Marsden and know how good the teams are there, but as others have said, the NHS is so under-resourced. If I were you, I would have exploratory surgery and agree with the surgeon what to do based on his findings. Have you had an anti-angiogenic as part of your regime? Again, MRI and PET scan results are key here xxxx
@@KickinTheBucket-List he would know how far the spread was from MRI and PET scans. The biopsy was to grade the cells and/or support those results. We don’t have all the info
@@hannahwebster5606 But then why offer her the surgery option? The NHS isn't going to pay for an extensive operation to remove all those organs if it's inoperable, would they? I don't know. Just seems unlikely. It's not adding up.
Wow 😯 I have read your comment twice , because you’re so knowledgeable ! My uncle died of stomach Cancer , but it metastasized all over & rectum . And it was so scary 😱 how fast he deteriorated , from the first to second visit ! I was horrified to see him , I ran out of hospital room crying 😭 . I couldn’t believe how much weight he lost 😞, and how frail he was . You could literally see his knee bones through the sheets , he was in so much pain . He couldn’t stand the weight of a blanket ! Cancer it’s horrible, I hope the day comes when people all over the world 🌎 won’t have to suffer . Once they find a cure , specially Pediatric Cancer ! It’s heartbreaking 💔 to see children suffering, and their parents too . Thank you 🙏🏿 for your comment I learned more about Cancer , & I like to read & learned . Because I have lost many loved 🥰 ones to it , including my mom from lung 🫁 Cancer . And she never smoke , ate healthy , took good care of herself & us . But unfortunately it happened to her , let’s hope for the best . And keep praying 🙏🏿 for Tiffany , for her to change her mind & have the surgery !
@@Michelle-wk4ek doctors/surgeons tend to be brutally honest with patients these days, if he thought it was inoperable he would have told her and not given her the option of expensive surgery that he knows would be pointless
Tiffany - I’ve been following your journey and am hoping for the absolute best outcome for you. Being a cancer survivor myself along with the experience of losing my brother to stage iv colorectal cancer because he did not act quickly, please please consider getting the surgery asap. Time is of the essence with cancer and things can go drastically downhill very very quick. The biggest thing I learned when dealing with healthcare providers in oncology is that YOU have to be your number one advocate and push things along. This is not something to sit on. Take care xx
Dear Tiffany - as a cancer survivor I had biopsies that said no cancer when there was in fact cancer there. They just didnt biopsy the right bits. But wishing you all the best for whatever you decide x
My doctor performed a repeat biopsy three months after the first negative just to make sure (in my breast), and it came back negative as well but he couldn't tell me what it was. Do you think two is enough to be certain or should I get another one?
Hi Tiffany, having lost close family to adenocarcinoma and knowing its aggressive nature of growth, I would strongly recommend you go for the surgery without waiting, whilst you still have a great chance of life in remission and being cancer free. All the prayers and strong faith will get you through this difficult time and your surgery, this really will be better option for the best possible outcome. Praying for your speedy recovery 🙏🏼
Tiffany, I have watched your journey from the beginning. Coming from someone whose mom had a similar cancer. Please please please get the surgery. Do not wait! I know it will be life alerting!!! God will see you through every moment. Just as he has seen you this far. The fact you went from inoperable to operable is a miracle in itself. I am praying for you daily to see many more miracles, but the Lord expects us to also make wise decisions and having the surgery IS the wise decision. It’s what you have been praying for. Many many prayers for you. Love you 💙
Tiffany if there’s one thing I would say is please think again, you wanted the surgery so much and then now there is an option your obviously feeling this is a sign but things can turn and could be completely different within 6 weeks and the option took away. I lost my mum to bowel cancer, it did travel to the liver and lungs so please Tiffany don’t wait ….we got this x
If I were in your shoes, I would make my decision based on this one thought… you can get “ahead” of this cancer by having it removed or be “chasing” it the rest of your life. Cancer always comes back rearing it’s ugly head. Put your prayers into God getting you through the surgery. Everyone hear has your best interest at heart by being honest about their thoughts. A lot of people here are professionals in the medical field that has seen a lot. ♥️😘
Dear sweet Tiffany, don’t wait. Do the surgery and be done with it, move on and have the rest of your long life. What if it doesn’t come back in 6 weeks, but comes back in 4 months and it’s so aggressive, that you can’t have the operation. It’s crazy that doctors leave up to untrained patients to make life changing decisions like this.
Doctors generally give multiple options, when it is already clear that the outcome-whatever option is chosen by patient- will not make a big difference for the prognosis in the end. If doctors were 100% sure that immediate surgery was 100% life saving, they would have made the decision for her and would not have given options, believe me! With this said: Tiffany went through a lot and had twice the biggest scare of her life ( Cdiff infection plus the pain and bleeding post-biopsy). She struggled to get adequate care last week and is extremely traumatized. This should be taken into consideration. Quality of Life is an option that doctors consider at this stage. I support any decision Tiffany and family are taking. She is a true warrior! God bless her and enjoy every single day in your life, as all of us should. Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring. Sending Tiffany, Amma and Mat love and peace💙💙💙We Got This!
Unfortunately it is up to the patient to ask all the right questions, however difficult that is, they rarely offer the full picture and probable outcome unless they are pressed to do so.
Thank you for your response and very comprehensive point of view. However, I can’t help but remember Farrah Fawcett when she had colon cancer, then refused the surgery, went into remission, then it came back very aggressively and she was gone. That’s what I remember, I might be wrong. I just don’t want Tiffany to miss the chance and then it’s too late. But, I see your point and you are right. Every case is different. I do trust that they will make the best decision for themselves. May God guide them. ❤️
I’ve rewatched the video to listen again to your summary of the biopsy results. At 11:27, you say that the cancer cells have turned into mucin / mucus. Is the surgeon saying that the cancer mass he was expecting was not there and instead he found mucus? Or that the cancer cells were transformed into mucus? My strong suspicion is that your surgeon is indeed a colorectal specialist, but in solid-mass tumours. What you are describing has the hallmark of Mucinous Adenocarcinoma, which more commonly appears in younger patients, is difficult to diagnose / observe with biopsy, the mass is more than 50% mucus, is less responsive to chemotherapy with the more mucus that is secreted and is best detected via MRI. The mucus is believed to aid in the spread of the cancer. I’m very concerned that they went in expecting to find a solid mass, but were surprised to find mucus…aka Mucinous Adenocarcinoma. Please seek a second opinion, privately. Biopsies are known to be especially unreliable for this type of cancer. The fact this is again his suggestion in six weeks concerns me all the more. MRI is best for this type of cancer… We are more than willing to support you should you seek a private consultation. Please take immediate action and seek a specialist private opinion.
@@YouAreMySunshine2 I'm struggling to wrap my head around that statement, I don't understand how that can be. I suspect she means that a large volume of the tumour is made of mucus...
I was thinking exactly the same. But I cannot believe her surgeon is not considering that possibility. It should be impossible. According to her, he is a top oncological surgeon in one of the best oncological hospitals in Europe. I just don't understand....
Omg I hope she sees this comment, thank you for sharing this information it is so important. I have been so worried and find myself coming back to read the comments as I just can’t believe he recommended a wait and see approach
@A Zapater We have that confusion in common. I really really hope that he’s not just a specialist for solid mass tumours…perhaps he gave her advice and explanations which she hasn’t communicated clearly to us! In the excitement of it all, that’s certainly possible. I’m really hoping for her!
Tiffany I had a very similar cancer to you and had radiation and 3 months of chemo then big surgery then 12 more months of chemo. That was 21 years ago! Please have the surgery and in 6 weeks you will be 6 weeks post op with your life in front of you❤️ xoxoE
Dear sweet Tiffany. I have been following your journey and praying for you since the beginning. I don't often comment, but I feel compelled to now. I would have very serious concerns about a wait-and-see approach with such an advanced and aggressive cancer, especially considering you just had scans. Did you ask the surgeon what the scans showed? I know from personal experience that biopsies are far from perfect: they can and do miss what they are looking for. Like others here, I find many aspects of your health care concerning. I live in the United States, and it seems crazy to me how long they have made you wait, put you off, and failed to prioritize you in some of your most dire hours of need. Please seriously consider what your Tiffany Thinks family is saying. Yes, miracles do happen, but God also speaks through others, and personally, I believe He is speaking through these comments. At minimum, it would be prudent to get a second opinion ASAP, even if you have to pay privately. Others here are right that if you start a GoFundMe, the cost will be covered in no time. You are such a beautiful person, and we are all rooting for you. We support you, Tiffany! God bless. 💙
If it were me or my darling husband, I would want the surgery yesterday. Take everything out. Don’t take the risk. It’s like you’re living with a ticking time bomb. You are so young and beautiful, and you are so loved. Do everything you can to get rid of it once and for all. God bless you and your sweet family.
So far, there is nearly 7.5k comments on this video, more comments than on any of Tiffany's other videos. That shows the strength love and concern people have for Tiffany. I looked up this surgery and I can fully understand why Tiffany is scared. I also found people who had had the surgery and are so glad they did. They had to adjust to a new way of living, but they were living and they were happy. I pray Tiffany will take the same path they did.
Dear sweet Tiffany, I am so happy with your report today. I am so greatful that you have a Strong and Unshakable Faith. I don’t know you personally, but I care deeply about you, your health, your pain and your future with your family. I hope that this message somehow reaches you and you get the opportunity to read it. I have been reading the comments for the past hour. Tiffany, NOT ONE single loving soul who has commented here, believes, thinks, feels….in ANY way, that you should wait to have the surgery…NOT ONE! For me and I’m sure everyone else here that is Faith based in their life; this is a clear sign that something is not right here. I would never think that I nor anyone else should make this decision for you sweet Tiffany. However, May I suggest a few things: Please get a second opinion Yesterday, please get a new set of whole body scans including a Pet scan Yesterday. Life is so fleeting and brief. Cancer is merciless and aggressive especially when it is fed with inaction. Prayers, hugs, and Love from Texas.💕💐❤️
she has had loads of in action, i say no surgery, her docter says no surgery, if you have faith ,that you immune system i,s taking care of the cacer, there seems to be none, why have surgery
I also told her that exactly! NOT1 person thinks she should wait! I hope she reconsiders her decision. I have a bad feeling that I can't shake. Call it intuition, but it scares me so much!
In the kindest way possible to say this .... can Matt and Amma live with the regret that would come, should you find in 6 weeks you have an inoperable cancer? Or, it has spread? That is the risk of "taking the gamble" ..... if you "win" you win so very much. But if you "lose" you may lose your life. Have the surgery. Please don't wait. It's up to you in the end but ..... my 2 cents worth - surgery now. God Bless you all xxx
Bless you Tiffany. My personal opinion as a retired nurse is to go through with the surgery as soon as possible. I know its easy for us to say but you have been through the mill already. Please dont risk the cancer spreading if there is any left in there. Praying your decision is the right one. We will all support you xxx
Dearest Tiffany, the last few days must have been sooo stressful, not to mention the last 24 hrs with the Tiff family sharing their suggestions and concerns. Tiff you have opened a window and invited us into your life and we love you and are grateful for the access. Given that, our suggestions and concerns are coming a place of love. There are so many many unanswered questions and honestly I feel lost. But here goes, ur first Dr messed up from January 2021 u had symptoms and was given a clear diagnosis in September 2021- which meant growth n an enormous time had passed in which more could have been done. Fast forward to now, your current Dr did chemo n radiation first to shrink and tht didn’t happened and their he requested chemo again to keep the disease ( forgive, I struggle to say the name be it as caused my family so much heart aches n pain) from spreading, u completed the chemo cycle. Not withstanding this, all the above that u were doing or better yet have been doing is in preparation for SURGERY. You have been powering through and staying positive because you want the surgery to get it out of you n to be free of the disease that as always been your goal. The Dr them requested a biopsy and colonoscopy to check what’s going on with the disease. Yesterday, you gave us the finding and your decision. Tiffany, I don’t know what is going on but BUT SOMETHING IS VERY WRONG, MAYBE WE ARE NOT BEING PREVI TO ALL THE INFORMATION AND THATS FINE. I don’t see any form of urgency in getting this tumor out of your body, think about it you have waited an entire year( it’s September now) and nothing concrete as been done. Why would your Dr give you 6 wks, need I say without treatment to wait and see!!! WAIT AND SEE !!! THIS DISEAS IS INSIDIOUS and is ever changing and looking fr new ways and avenues to destroy and create havoc. From my experience with manyyy family members there is even massive change in a day at times let alone six wks. 6 wks and see if it’s completely gone??? Is tht possible?? 6 wks it might spread or BE INOPERABLE- how can this be measure the cost n benefit- it’s very clear WHAT YOUR LIFE SAVING OPTION is. My question sis what is he not telling you, what are is new concerns, because if he has it’ best he be honest with you.. TIME IS NOT YOUR FRIEND- IF THE WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY FOR SURGERY IS AVAILABLE, HE SHOULD SAID TIFF WE HAVE A WINDOW LETS DO IT. There are red flags, Tiff!! T you said that research scares you but I think it’s time that you get more involve in your care in terms of knowing what the disease is pros and cons so you are better advocate for your self. The older I get the more I see the importance of ADVOCATING FOR YOUR SELF. There is a shortage of beds and hospital staff so surgeries and procedures are being pushed around so be careful. Your cousin is a Dr and you love and trust her dearly, if I may suggest that she goes back with you to your Dr and let him explain everything (MRI/PETSCAN/BIOPSY ETC) again to both you and her; she being a Dr would better able to explain your prognosis and what your options are. Tiff Pelvic Exenteraion surgery is an extensive surgery, YOUR FEAR AND CONCERNS regarding your future is real, we can’t beginning to imagine difficulty you are facing right now. So take some time get a second opinion if you must and often time it’s good. You are experiencing a host of emotions right now and THATS ok , but take control of your health n exhaust every resources in the process to and the right decision for you. Drs are human and they make mistake at times, do your own research so you can make an informed decision. Like the rest of the Tiff family, I’m with getting the surgery; life changes moment to moment, SURGERY IS THE GOLD STANDARD FOR THE TYPE OF DISEASE THAT YOU HAVE DONT LET THIS WINDOW CLOSE.Tiff. I see many many people share their own experiences as well as experiences of their loved ones. Drs, nurses, scientists, and a host of medical personnels shared their thoughts, expertise, n experience all in an effort to help. I do hope you actually get the chance to read some of these comments. I do hope you go back to the drawing board with your cousin(Dr) and other persons who are knowledgeable about the disease process who will help you make an informed decision. Tiff, we love n care you; all the best to you, Matt and Amma- GOD BLESS
Excellent really. Education is needed they are so scared to learn about this kind of cancer. Read learn read more everyday. It’s a must also my suggestion is for Matt too. You guys are young you can learn fast please educate yourselves first and ask your doctor all the right questions. Record it. Make a note what ever it takes.
Dear Tiffany, I’ve been closely following your journey throughout, and like many of your followers, I’m so inspired by you! I’ve never commented, but feel so led to share my thoughts. Pelvic exenteration is a radical and life-altering surgery, so I understand why you want to delay, and hold onto as much function as possible…if indeed it is a possibility. As a fellow believer, I understand your desire to trust in God. However, you have waited so much in the process, many of these extended waits without treatment. You have yourself urged the team to give you chemo at points. Even in this potential six week “wait and see” there is no talk of treatment. I heard you asking “there’s no point in doing more chemo in the meantime?” The surgeon said “no, not in the meantime.” How can that be? I think it’s important to read between the lines here. Why isn’t the surgeon advocating treatment or further scans or a less invasive surgical option? I’ve never known for such extensive periods of no-treatment when a patient isn’t in remission. What is to be gained by waiting? Why can’t he repeat the biopsy sooner? Or rely on a PET-CT. That’s the more typical diagnostic tool. A logical answer lies squarely in the state of the NHS. There aren’t enough beds, staff or funds, so they’ll defer if they can. If I recall, many specialists would be needed in your surgery, is that perhaps why he proposes delay? There’s something that’s not being said. This might not be in your best interests in the long run. Alternatively, it’s that he’s resigned to the fact that for an aggressive Stage 3b Adenocarcinoma (and at your age) all roads eventually lead to this exenteration surgery; but all other hope must be exhausted first before a patient can come to terms with it. Please seek out a private consultation, whether in the UK or abroad. The hospital can give you copies of your MRI, PET scan and bloods. In some cases, you might even get a video recording from the camera. Within days you can have a second opinion from a colorectal oncologist. Six weeks is far too long and my spirit is not at ease with the decision and what has been said. The cancer has not disappeared, it’s pretty safe to assume the scans showed this. The best case is a less invasive surgery, not no surgery at all. Please find a private specialist, their opinion will be unbiased and free of any cost / staffing considerations. Much love from a fellow Londoner xx
Just a quick bit of research on Mucinous Adenocarcinoma (MAC): “MAC is often easy to miss during a biopsy and may be more easily spotted using magnetic resonance imaging (MRI).” Please seek a second opinion from a colorectal specialist experienced in Mucinous Adenocarcinoma xx
Tiffany , if it were me or anyone in my family I’d get the surgery asap . There is No Way it’s gone & I’m sure the PET scan confirmed that . Getting a negative surface biopsy means nothing . The fact that you bled so much & the mucus like consistency makes me believe after being in medical field for 30 years that you are risking your life by waiting 6 weeks . If you get the surgery it will ge rough but you’re young & you’ll recover . If you wait & it spreads & becomes inoperable you don’t have a chance . Get a second opinion. This may be your only window to gray this monster . We are all praying for you but don’t get false reassurance because if the “ power of prayer” . You are way to young to succumb to this cancer . Praying for you & your family to come to the best decision for you 💙🙏
Gemma this is one of the most sensiblest and straight to the point replies I’ve seen,we all love tiff and want the best possible outcome for her,I agree,too much of a gamble to wait,as you say it will be tough,very tough you are young tiff but it will be worth it in the end.💙🙏xxxx
So much can happen in six weeks. Covid waves, infection, surgeon changed his mind, metastasis, delays in tests. She has cancer and without surgery, it is not going away. I am not sure how anyone can think that she can be cured without surgery. God gave us science and medicine to heal us. Not prayers alone are needed.
Tiff, I’d have the surgery and know that I had done all proactive things to conquer this. Please think carefully and do what is right for you though and we are here for you no matter what x
Yeah, in cancer, you have to act fast. Both my family members that deccided to put off surgery had it spready with in 3-6 weeks. Pancreatic cancer on one and breast cancer on the other. Both became metastatic within such a short time, going to the liver and lungs. Not trying to scare anyone. Just stating experience.
Hi my loving tifanythinks family. THANK YOU so much for all your love on my last video (tea with tiffanythinks) - I can’t believe how many of you left a comment. I am still struggling but the doctors are saying it will take time to get back to normal - back on morphine now to help manage the pain. Sorry for being so quiet on social media, I just haven’t had enough energy to post anything. Please SUBSCRIBE!!. Instagram, TikTok & FB: @tiffanythinks. Love you lots&lots!! WE GOT THIS💙
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It’s ok Tiff! I’m just super happy to see your face.
Sending you love, hugs and kisses hunny and happy belated birthday to your darling and hi to your beautiful mother 🎂😘🤗
We’ve got this 💙💙💙 and you are such a beautiful person. So positive yet so honest. We all love you and pray this journey ends successfully soon.
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As a nurse Darling, I would completely advise you to have the surgery NOW and DO NOT wait. WAITING with Rectal/Colon Cancer for 6 more weeks, could make a negative difference. The pelvis is very vascular (rich in blood supply) and lymphatics - and cancer, as you know, is so often aggressive. There is a rather old saying when dealing with cancer, and it says: "Your first chance is your best chance." - Having spent sooo many years in caring for - and caring about - precious people with cancer, I do believe with all of my heart, that though surgery is often soooo very challenging. However, surgery sooo often does give you the finest result for remission, especially in known cancer(s) to have a higher degree of rapid metastasis and mortality.
Be of good courage Darling Tiffany, and please rethink your decision of wanting to wait. Keep your beautiful faith in God, for He indeed has gone before you every step of the way - in this journey, and He will continue to go before you - always!
Listen intently to your surgeon - for God speaks Words of Wisdom to them to help us here on earth as well. Your surgeon gave you a VERY POWERFUL message when he said to you: 'You can have surgery now, or your can wait six weeks and re-evaluate, however, the prognosis could be such in six weeks wherein the SURGERY TODAY MIGHT BE INOPERABLE IN SIX WEEKS! In my heart and my professional opinion, I think he was telling you, in gentle words, your BEST OPTION is to have surgery and not wait. Waiting allows the cancer to "migrate" - metastasize to other organs, often vital organs - and spread.
Therefore my Dear Dear Precious Tiffany, schedule your surgery Darling. Do not take a short 6 week risk that might not bear the prayerful fruit we are seeking for you. 'Tis so much better to opt for what is absolutely the best option (surgery) than to risk an alternative that possibly leaves you with no choices going forward.
You are continuing in my prayers of healing, for strength for you, for your Beautiful Momma and your Darling Matt, and I am so thankful that YOU ARE CLAIMING GOD'S PROMISE to TRUST HIM IN ALWAYS!
I send you a heartful of LOVE LOVE LOVE, my Sweet Girl!♥
Carol Bolton, RN
California
you are so kind and intuitive Carol. Excellent advice.
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I agree, the way you put it makes sence!
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Carol your words are so soothing . I can truly feel the love in your message. I too feel
Surgery is the best course to take. As I was watching Tiffany’s video I was taking out loud
Saying “do the surgery “. I think my husband thinks I’ve lost it! ! !
Praying Tiffany takes everything into consideration before making her decision!🙏🏼💙🙏🏼
I agree, I think he was advising surgery but unfortunately not being fully truthful with her by leaving it up to her. She’s not a doctor why would she know the best decision!!!
Dear Tiffany. I usually don’t leave comments, but this time I just needed to say something.I am a surgical oncologist in training not in UK though. It amazes me that the waiting option is even offered to you. There are no proof to this day that colon cancer can be cured with chemo and radiation alone (without the surgery). All the guidelines in Europe and US say that neoadjuvant therapy MUST be followed by surgery, otherwise it is considered palliative treatment. Please do not hesitate to do surgery, do your own research, read guidelines on rectal cancer management. “Clear” biopsies does not mean anything in regards to not doing the surgery. It just means that your cancer has reacted to the treatment like it should have in order for you to undergo the surgery. We do complex surgeries on T4 patients all the time, recovery usually is not that hard even for geriatric patients.
Take care.
Very helpful post.
@@KickinTheBucket-List i agree it needs to be wrote again so tiff see’s it 💯
Also i thought the whole point of all the treatments was the goal of the surgery to get rid of it all.I am praying right now that Tiffany has wisdom in this.Amen 🙏🏻
Tiffany has mentioned before that she doesn't like to research the cancer as it frightens her, which is understandable, but I think at this stage it's so important to be as informed as possible. I truly hope this all works out for her.
Tiffany I pray you see this comment
As a stage 3 rectal cancer survivor. GET SURGERY ASAP. A biopsy is like shining a laser on a single spot and declaring "no cancer"! The problem is...what if the area adjacent to the biopsy is cancerous? Or a few cm over? You need to be as sure as possible and the goal is to NOT DIE OF CANCER. You're young, fight this HARD...NOW.
Totally agree as a stage three survivor too. I was diagnosed and within 3 weeks had my op. That was 9yrs ago don’t wait. ❤️🇦🇺👍
Wow Mike! God blessed you! Don't forget to thank him!!
God bless you. I hope that she reads the comment section. So many stories here. It's a hard choice for her though, but I hope she changes her decision.
Well said
Agree totally!!
Hi Tiffany…I kept thinking “why would she wait” the whole day ystrday. I finally checked the comment section, and a lot of people feel the same. I do not know much about cancer but I do know that “you should not test your luck with cancer” and “6 weeks is a long time for cancer to spread”
Please go for surgery sweety. I never comment on any videos, but this one my heart pushed me to.
As an ICU-nurse I would recommend you get the surgery right away. I can understand how much you're probably longing for a break from treatment but six weeks is a long, long time for cancer to grow, especially without treatment.
On my ward I see cancer patients all the time that waited too long to get treatment. And when we see them often times it's too late to help them.
You are such a lovely woman and you are so young, you have so much more life to live. So please, don't wait, get the surgery as soon as possible. Waiting is just not worth the risk of your cancer getting inoperable.
Hi Tiffany, as an oncology nurse I highly recommend you to go for the surgery ASAP!
I know it is a very radical decision and it is a very big surgery but it may be your only chance! DO NOT WAIT FOR 6 MORE WEEKS
Cancer is a silent killer.
I will pray for you and your surgeons that God may bless their hands during surgery.
God gives you the opportunity to do this surgery, please take it.
As an oncology nurse myself, I agree completely with Ellen. Do not wait. Please be proactive. ♥️♥️🙏🏻
I agree
As somebody who works in radiology, I cannot stress enough how critical it is that you are either receiving chemo/treatment or having surgery asap. If you were waiting six weeks for surgery but still doing active chemo or treatment, it would be a completely different story. But doing nothing for six weeks with adenocarcinoma it's just so risky. I can't tell you how many patients I have scanned that come back for follow up scans after "wait and see" period And they are full of metastasis. 😩Please heavily consider what everyone is shouting from their computers! It's only coming from the very best intentions of our hearts 💜
Completely agree
Completely agree
Agree
I agree, from my experience... all too often in the uk they take this route and it ends badly.
Agree 💯
Dear Tiffany, Remember the story about the man who was in a flood and was standing on top of a building praying to God to be saved? A man came by in a helicopter and offered him a ride - he said that no ‘God would save him’. Then a man came by in a kayak and offered to save him. He said ‘no. God would save him.’ Then a man in a raft came by and offered him a ride. He gave the same response. The man drowned and when he got to heaven he asked God why he didn’t answer his prayers. God said he did - he sent him a helicopter, kayak and raft and the man refused them all.
Surgery is your helicopter. Please take it.
Please do the surgery as soon as humanly possible. I have cancer that started in my intestines. You want to take the opportunity to remove it when it is presented to you. Surgery will be hard. I’m not going to lie. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever been through. I had part of my intestines, liver, gall bladder, removed and my scars are massive. But it was the best decision I ever made. It gave me my life back. You don’t want to take the chance that he missed the cancer and that it will grow. It’s too big a risk. Please take your helicopter. Take your miracle and do it now.
👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👏👏👏👏👏
Amen🙏🏻💙
Hi Tiffany, I have a degree in cancer pathology, been involved in cancer research and I am in the medical field. I know how much Matt's opinion means to you, but in this video what he is saying is very frustrating as he doesn't understand. You will need surgery, the cancer hasn't disappeared. Matt saying 'in 6 weeks it won't become inoperable' is completely incorrect and the cancer can spread and can be inoperable. Please think about what everyone is commenting here, we all care about you so much and want what is best for you. Listen to the professionals and talk to another family member who has a medical background please! I really don't think you should delay the surgery. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this difficult decision. You've got this.
I completely agree with you Ellen, I really hope she sees this and maybe reaches out to a family member in the medical field to give her some proper advice 🥺
I agree totally with you!
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I completely agree.
@@leaveittolefty hey, I know right? Med student here. I've always been interested in hearing how people live with a disease. Their experiences, how they feel about it. Because all we learn is from text books, and guidelines, not much from the patients perspective. I'm guessing that's why lots of medical professionals are here also you know?
Hey Tiffany! I’m a final year medical student and recently had my oncology placement in 4th year so I have an idea of how cancer patients progress etc. The big risk is that in 6 weeks of waiting, you will not be having any cancer treatment. All this time, your cancer spread was being suppressed by the treatment. Even though one surgeon has made the decision that all biopsies are cancer free, it is the subjective opinion of one surgeon and is down to the human assessment which as we all know, can make errors or miss things. All it takes is one cancer cell to disseminate with the lack of cancer treatment and will spread more aggressively the 2nd time round (God forbid). I don’t want to scare you, but I wouldn’t want all your hard work to go down the drain. If it was me, I wouldn’t take that chance and I would have surgery straight away. All the best with making your final decision. I know you’ve got this.
I’m glad you chimed in. Question, wouldn’t it be prudent for her to get an expert second opinion as a couple of others have commented? Apparently it only takes 48 hours and they can simply do a review of her case. I haven’t heard any results from her recent PET scan. What about what they had found in her lungs upon initial diagnosis?What if surgery isn’t the correct next step anyway, but rather more chemo treatment to suppress the cancer? This is all quite confusing.
1000000% THIS
Totally agree I have worked as a registered nurse in this field and I have seen no cancer to cancer in a matter of weeks , waiting 6 weeks and no treatment is given these cells time to spread , in 6 weeks going through more biopsy to determine if no cells , I am gobsmacked , I know we can only offer out opinion and it’s Tiffany choice , but I am worried 😟 xxx
Absolutely
Exactly my mom passed away after surgery just cos they missed its spread to other place and she didn’t get chemotherapy on time
Sweet Tiffany, please have the surgery straight away. Cancer cells can spread so quickly and six weeks is a long time when it comes to cancer. You will recover from surgery and have your dear Matt, Amma, and sweet family all around you for support and care. Get this behind you. We got this. 💙
I absolutely second that
Yup same!!
Please don"t take the risk!!!!!
Disagree. Chemo has greatly weakened her system ... and surgery sounds very concerning to me. *Also, very surprised the doctor didn't have her admitted in the hospital the first time!! He should have known she was a high-risk candidate for bleeding! Shakes my confidence in him.
I cannot believe you Will Wait for the surgery. IT,s impossible to take such a HUGE décision the same Day you got the news, because you are still on a boost from the good news. But you need to think harder than this. Don't rely on the opinion of the surgeon only , ask other doctors. It's too important a décision to ne Taken ligthly like this darling. Also don"t rely on the prayers for this news. I believe in God and in prayers, but we can't influence God Will by our prayers. He only decide. I have lost both my parents to cancer and I have MS. So I have a lot of expérience with doctors and disease. You need to Also take your responsabilities and Read about what you have what kind of opération ... Etc. Please it's too important. Lots of love and prayers.
It made me worry when Matt said to ‘take the risk’. It’s a risk with your life - it could become inoperable. Please do the surgery. ♥️
Don't listen to him. He like alot of men don't want to be inconvenienced.
I am very disappointed in Matt. If he knows something that we don’t know then maybe but how cool he is acting. It’s like they are deciding to get a flu shot or not. I am sorry for the health system in UK.
I am very disappointed in Matt. If he knows something that we don’t know then maybe but how cool he is acting. It’s like they are deciding to get a flu shot or not. I am sorry for the health system in UK.
@@malimbep4298 I agree. I think this too. It just made me worried, but I don’t think it’s because he doesn’t care. It must be so overwhelming. Also Tiffany’s doctor suggested that they wait, so it makes sense that his is re-enforcing that - the doctors are the ones we are meant to trust at the end of the day. I just hope Tiffany reads these comments telling her to go ahead with the surgery. X
he seemed flippant, probably just being very logical in his own mind measuring 'risk/reward' but he doesn't know the facts enough to make that kind of decision. what is going on with her doctor/team
As a nurse and an “in remission” cancer patient, I’d have the surgery straight away. Without treatment in between, and the hell you’ve gone through, I’d have it done and over with. This is good news! Cancer can be insidious. It can be gone and 4 weeks later, relapsed and sick without warning. (What happened to me). You’re on the right track and this is great news but I’d get the surgery done as soon as possible. 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
Matt and ur mom and family are so loving supportive my dear u have been thru so so much been watching ur journey from day one god positvity and your doctors god be the rock for her please let her be fine and remission she has her whole life ahead of her let this journey end with good news amen
Yet a pelvis removal might include vaguna anus bladder repro organs etc and she will need a bag to go to. Bathroom for #1 and #2… it’s life altering but agreed that waiting has great risks also
I fear this loving trusting woman is in "Magical Thinking" ANF it will be the cause of her death.
As a retired nurse I would advise to have the surgery right away. I know you are relieved and finally feeling halfway better. In 6 weeks time the caned could come back with a vengeance. Take some time rest and counsel with your family. God Bless
@@oneseeker2 Thats exactly what I’m hearing too. The fact that surgery has been prolonged this long is mind blowing. What scares me is that you can only have so much chemo before they say your body can’t take anymore.
Tiffany, I am a nurse and have seen and taken care of many cases similar as yours. Do the surgery and schedule it ASAP. This will be your best action. The Lord will protect you in the process. Please consider all the comments.
Tiffany. I had cancer (endometrial). I had the same choice you have been given. I went for it. I didn’t want to wait, only to find it had spread. My surgery was a success and two years later I am still cancer free - and worry free. It is too important to hope nothing changes in 6-weeks. Surgery is you best chance of this never coming back.
Hi Tiffany, i'm a doctor and i've been following your cancer journey. I have to be honest that these non cancerous biopsies can very easily be a few cm off from the tumor, and without knowing the specificacies of your illness (scans, histology) i would still strongly encourage you to get the surgery. This all seems a bit off, please consider getting the albeit large and life changing surgery, if it becomes inoperable the consequences are huge. I wish you all the best!
Hi Tiff.....God is in control. Surgery is always very risky and I will be reluctant to do any surgery if it can be avoided. However if you are feeling well enough now is the time to do it. Cancer never goes away completely. Good luck to you....tough decision here but pray about it.
You couldn't have worded that better well said
@@riase this!! I know everyone wants what’s best for her. But no one knows the particulars but her and her doctor. I’m sure we’re not hearing everything that he said. People are filling in the gaps w their own experience. And mistaken info from not having watched all the vids. And it’s hard for me to read doctors who haven’t examined her being so confident (not this doctors comment but so many others) and not asking questions about her case. I’m just hopeful if there truly is a problem with what the doc is suggesting, she’ll consider changing her mind and she’ll see there are so many people who care about her!!
@@jenc1276 Jen ... your cautionary post is well taken but think about this ... Tiff became Stage III many many months ago which means that daughter cancer cells have been circulating throughout her body for a long time. No matter what type of cancer, no matter the tumor grade, surgery ASAP is ALWAYS the optimum approach under these circumstances. She seems to need a multi-disciplinary surgical team which is not easy to assemble under the NHS. Even if she waits six weeks to see if there has been any tumor regression, from the time she finally agrees to surgery you don't think the operation will be scheduled for a few days later, do you? No ...it will be another several weeks delay. Even if she had the surgery tomorrow ... and all visible tumor was resected ... she still would not be 'cured' but NED ... no evidence of disease. After surgery, one always hopes that those pesky circulating cancer cells are overwhelmed by the patient's immune system and the patient can be truly eventually cured by showing a long-term survival. So ... cancer is unbelievably smart and resistant ... the best option is to get rid of any visible tumor ASAP by surgery.
@@riase I don’t think any great doctor would do anything bc he feels sorry for her. I just think we need the complete story. I mean in order to understand. 🙌🎈It’s so hard w such little info.
I understand that having everything inside of your pelvis surgically removed, is major major surgery and a major operation, and your life will change, absolutely no doubt. Look, I agree with everyone. If it were me, I would be having everything removed, so I don’t have to worry about it coming back in a month or 6 months or a year or 10. I know it will mean major life changes, and it will mean not being able to carry your own child, and it will mean food/getting rid of waste, will be outside of the norm, and I can’t imagine how the prospect of that must feel. But, you had a grapefruit sized tumour, and according to your last scan results a few months back, it hadn’t shrunk. Where are your scan results now? Why is the biopsy the news you are listening for, when there’s a massive chance he scraped the wrong area, and if he did, you will move to inoperable. Don’t risk it Tiffany, at the very least, get a second opinion, because this is strange news. Why would you have so much pelvic/rectum pain etc, if there was no disease there? I don’t want to burst your miracle bubble, but the miracle is that you are operable, when not that long ago, no one thought you were! Be safe Tiffany.
I agree 100% what was running around my mind. I would take the surgery 100% I don’t say that lightly like the surgery and the long effects of the surgery will be for her. My opinion it’s more of a risk leaving it and keep having biopsy done. I wouldn’t normally say my opinion but because she asked we have see most of the results have more of a personal understanding of the situation. If I was her I’m 35 I would do it.
Listen to this advice
I would agree with this comment! Get everything removed even though its a major surgery because you never know. And do not take a risk
THIS!
I totally agree x
Tiffany as a oncology nurse for many years please do not wait 6 wks. I feel strongly this is a mistake Metastatic cells can spread rapidly and make this surgery impossible. Prayers for you and you decision 🙏🙏💙💙💙
I agree with you. It's like watching a train accident in slow motion, and I don't think I can stick around and watch it. It's tragic.
Hi,Tifany! I am a doctor and if I would be you I would have the surgery ASAP. I know how cancer works and I’ve seen it on so many pacients. Cancer spread very quick and easily. Please don’t risk it and have the surgery
Thank You , Doctor . 💖💖
Thank you so much for sharing your opinion, I hope that Tiffany reads your message of wisdom & expertise. The risk is too high for her & waiting is giving the devil time.
We all know surgery is not a guarantee. I’ve known plent of people who go through it and it comes back. This surgery is very radical and I think her body and mind need to wait.
I agree doctor. The nhs is known for this suggestion and it doesn't end well so many times.
Agreed!
Tiffany, SURGERY is ultimately the one thing you have been hoping for to beat this cancer. Don’t wait around. The fact that surgery is an option in your case is a miracle in itself. Count it as a blessing and please think through your decision. Wishing you all the best xx
Tiffany, having lost my gorgeous partner to inoperable cancer, if they are offering surgery now, please please take it, if it is a aggressive large tumour as they have said in the past, it may well have gone negative cells but it is still there, get it out asap and move on with your recovery with the best future outcome. You got this girl, in six weeks if you have it done now your body will be healing instead of waiting for more damaging biopsies.
I agree. I think waiting is a mistake & could make things much worse for her I wish she would have taken more time before making her decision. I would not wait 1 more day!
I 100% agree
your last point is so true about where she could be in 6 weeks. I would tell my loved one not to delay too. the faster you get the cancerous area out of the body, the better
Please don’t give any advice to people in this situation 🤯. They should listen to their doctor and their intuition, no one else 🙄
@@elliez4871 hey I think the cancer has been obliterated by radio and chemo.
I’m going to say this out of love… WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU WAIT??!! GET THE SURGERY! Imagine you wait, they say it’s spread to your lymph nodes, lungs or liver and it’s inoperable or terminal. What a huge risk. Do the surgery. Please ❤
Gosh !! Why has the doctor said wait! Oh my gosh 😢 get the surgery pls.
Thank you 🙏. Well said 👌
Agree 👍
@@Seaflower1008 Maybe he feels the surgery in itself is a huge risk as well, no other doctor wanted to take it on.
GET THE SURGERY
Dearest Tiffany. I've been following your story since the beginning and this is a topic that is very close to my heart. There is absolutely no doubt that the Royal Marsden has the best doctors in the world however there are many things in your treatment journey that rings a few alarm bells. The NHS is stretched beyond capacity and I feel that plays a big role in the constant waiting and the sudden option of deferring surgery. Eg the fact that you had to get interim chemo in order to wait for a biopsy appointment is madness. And the fact you had no direct contact to the surgeon despite suffering so much after the biopsy and the hospital turned you away due to not having free beds. This is not normal in a healthcare system but unfortunately has been accepted as the norm in the UK. In other countries, you would have been treated much, much faster and also given far more access to your care team. So like everyone else here, if the option of getting surgery is on the table please take it asap. Do no delay or defer. If you want a second opinion then please go to a private consultant. Start a GoFundMe or Patreon and your viewers will be able to cover the costs for that within hours.
That's heartbreaking. It's such a mystery to me how this can happen if it's one of the best hospitals in the world. Do you know if it's theoretically possible to switch hospitals this deep into treatment? I imagine not, which is terrifying since they literally have your life in their hands.
This!
Boy if it ends up that she is better to get the surgery in the US, the GoFundMe is a great idea and takes the fear of the cost off the table for her! Love it!
@@jillr759 absolutely agree 💯
100% agree 👍
Tiffany, as a 20 year cancer survivor, i just want to say that i honestly don't think i'd still be here today if i hadn't have gotten all the surgeries necessary right away. Waiting 6 weeks is a long time to wait. When my cancer was discovered i had every surgery possible within 6 weeks, and also had the radiation treatments and 6-1/2 years of taking anti-cancer tablets after that. Many people with my same type of cancer (ESS) did not survive, because they opted to wait or not do all of the surgeries the doctors recommended.
I’m the same, I had 3 surgeries in 2 weeks when mine was diagnosed. While my cancer was different to hers, if I hadn’t had those it would have killed me quickly. 10 years clear now as of August.
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Dear Tiffany, having been told your cancer was inoperable and then finding a surgeon willing to do it was huge. Don’t take a chance that it becomes inoperable again. All that you have gone through to get to a point when they were able to do the surgery. My feelings are that even though surgery is scary, taking a risk like this where you trust the cancer not to grow or spread is so much worse. Love to you and all your family.
Is that even a possibility scenario? I’ve never heard of inoperable to all clear in so short time. Has anyone else?
@@christylynn451 I do think there is a misunderstanding here. I think the original cancer is unchanged. The hope was that the chemo and radiation would shrink the tumors thus making surgery simpler. What I understand is that the scans and biopsies have confirmed only that it has not spread, but the original tumors remain unchanged. I do not understand the idea of waiting. Waiting for what? Waiting for it to spread?
Yeah six weeks might just start it all up again. Read 4BarbaraJ important.
I agree completely, a mistake to wait, very urgent to have the surgery asap.
@@christylynn451 I hope she gets more clarification from her oncologist.
I would absolutely have the surgery now. If it’s a fast growing cancer it could become inoperable within that 6 wks. And you’re going to be worrying about this for another 6 wks. You do what you need to do but I would absolutely have the surgery now. Colon cancer isn’t something to be trifled with. ❤️❤️
I said the same thing. If they leave it will come back and spread.
Totally agree with the above comment. If there is even the slightest chance of it becoming inoperable then I wouldn’t take that chance, I would do surgery now. You got this Tiff 💪💖🌸💖
I agree with this
Totally agree.
Absolutely agree
Hey Tiff… please reconsider and opt for having the surgery ASAP! My good friend took 6 weeks off of chemo because she desperately wanted to travel and when she went back for her treatments the cancer had spread and enlarged even greater then when she was just diagnosed. Unfortunately, she passed away 8 weeks later. Please don’t wait. See this as the perfect window of opportunity to try and be cancer free and live a long life!!!!! Just my thoughts! Much love 💙
Agree with you 💯
I’m so sorry for your loss. 100% agree with you, get rid of it ASAP
Nuris so very sorry for your loss,
Thank uuuu xo
When I was first diagnosed with breast cancer, I had a diagnosis and after surgery, that diagnosis changed because once they’re in there, they can truly see more of what the cancer looks like and where it’s at. I hope you choose surgery.
Also, many doctors are religious but they can’t just rely on those beliefs to hope for a good outcome. Remember that there are people that die from this and it’s not because they didn’t pray hard enough. Please use logic first and keep your faith in the process. I will be thinking if you. Sorry if my comment seems insensitive, I am just worried that you will wait 6 weeks.
In the west most doctors are atheists and are very bleak and unhopeful.
Patients - not the doctors - are religious, do you mean?
Dear Tiffany, I rarely ever post aything on youtube. As a former researcher in oncology and someone who went through a cancer scare myself many years ago, I totally agree with the others that surgery is the main option. It is the most definitive cancer treatment. It is your choice in the end but this may very well be a life or death decision. I know none of this is easy and it's clearly overwhelming. We only have one life to live and it's not easy to make the right decision when we are in the situation you are in. I firmly believe that removing a tumor or the problematic area is the safest way to go. Surgery is invasive but still worth it especially with the type of cancer you are dealing with. Even if no cancer cell were found, the chances that they are still there making their way through another area insidiously are extremely high. Your cancer had already spread but was still localised within the pelvis area. You do not want it to reach other major organs. I am also against biopsy as I also believe they do contribute to the cancer spreading which is why I refused the biopsy many years ago and opted for a surgery with wide margins instead. I didn't want them to poke the suspicious area at all or seed any cancer cell somewhere else. You have sustained several biopsies and scraping and if there were cancer cells still around, those may have spread already,. Cancer cells are not regular cells. They are fierce and often very aggressive, they may already be somewhere else spreading uncontrollably. I wish you all the courage you need to make an informed decision that you will feel comfortable with. Sends you lots of prayers as well to you, Matt and Amma. Take care.
Oh I hope she sees this comment, this is so important
I hope so! This is the day we have been waiting for .. it’s nearly a year - get the surgery.. I didn’t even sleep thinking about it x
I totally agree with you, cancer is a sneaky little character, I've sadly witnessed it with both my beloved sisters, she has been given a false sense of security I believe. I really hope she changes her mind bless her.
100% agree . She needs surgery asap not another biopsy.
@@Seaflower1008 I agree, I’ve been worried sick. I keep thinking she is going to post an update saying she is having surgery. I’m so angry with her doctor for even giving her the wait and see option. Why in the hell risk her life. Her entire care has been so many delays it makes me crazy. Our health care has flaws in the United States that’s for sure but I feel things move much quicker here with more aggressive approach
Please have your operation ASAP. Your a young girl and have your whole life in front of you which has been on hold for you, your Mum and Matt. Don't wait any longer as you deserve the best outcome! Good luck xxxx
I have worked in health care for 30 years and this is what I was told by a very wise surgeon- "Better an empty house, than a ban tenant". Best of luck with your decision- prayers!
My sweet Tiffany. I was an oncology nurse and hospice nurse for so many years...please honey...I agree with everyone. Cancer hides. It can spread in 6 weeks. It absolutely can! If anything get a second opinion just dont wait and do nothing for those weeks. You got this! And you got this because you have powered through and pushed and pushed making sure you have gotten the treatments with the back logs at the hospitals and pushing for your chemo. There has been alot of "waiting" with the doctors but YOU have gotten things done. Dont stop now! Dont take the advice from ONE man when when its your life on the line. At least a second opinion?? We probably sound selfish and its because we don't want to loose you!
Well said Victoria
Totally agree..
I completely agree you should have second opinion
If you r finding hard to decide
Like I said so many times
Unfortunately I had 3 members of my family with cancer
My mum .,
my dad passed away 3 months ago is cancer change in weeks was to late for treatment .
And my brother has metastatic cancer they gave him 5 years 9 years has passed and is doing good he has a good team doctors always doing is ct scans every 3 month
Brain
lungs prostrate .,and he follows always is treatments and eat healthy ., it’s so important .
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You should never ever wait and risk with cancer. Just do the surgery
Noooo, please don´t wait!!! The risk is so high to take that cancer can spread out. In 6 weeks can many things happen. I am definitely supporting to get the surgery right away. Please receive a lot of hugs!.
I know I've already commented I was reluctant to share this but my heart quickened and I knew I had to.
I was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer. I had radiation and chemo 3 different rounds. Finally was told that I needed surgery. I wanted to wait, but I'm so grateful that there were living people who helped me to realize that if I waited, things might not be so good. I decided to have the surgery on a Sunday evening. I called the surgeon Monday morning and had surgery Wednesday morning first thing. I'm so thankful I did. They removed nearly everything from my colon, rectum, ask but 2 feet of small intestine, my uterus, ovaries, fallopian tubes, some of my bladder and my spleen. That was a year ago. I've been cancer free since. If I had waited I would not be here today. It was spreading rapidly. Even though my test results said that things were better and yet it was worse than ever. I know how confusing this can be but I also know that if I had waited well...
We serve an awesome God. He gives us discernment for a reason. If I had listen to just the doctor's then. .. but I didn't, I trusted what I love already, what the people in my life were saying but most of all I listened to the Lord. I wanted to wait I said you know they say things are better yet somehow I knew somewhere in my soul they were not.
Sweet Tiffany, yes I do believe in the power of prayer but I also know that doctors cannot see inside us, even with all their technology, I hope you read this and I pray that maybe instead of just a quick decision you pray about it for a few days, don't wait to long. Then I think you'll make that decision. Please my sweet sweet girl please.
I'm continually praying for you and your family. You are so loved. Sending my love and prayers and best wishes‼️♥️🙏♥️🙏♥️🙏
Bev Smith I'm so happy for you that you made the hard decision to stare fear in the face and trust in the Lord to see you through the surgery. I can only imagine how difficult that decision was. It took so much courage and such strong faith and reliance on God seeing you through. I am so happy for your positive outcome! I am praying for Tiffany to be led by the Holy Spirit to the right choice. I am following her journey and praying with her. I strongly believe that God is in the miracle business
I also believe that oftentimes he works miracles through the hands of surgeons by blessing and guiding their hands and bringing healing through that medical intervention. I have read so many comments here from very informed sources that lead me to believe that her complete healing from cancer is likely to come through God's instrument of a competent surgeon. It looks to me that God may be using her you tube family to guide her in the direction of surgery. I would suggest that she takes it to God and ask to be given the courage and discernment to make the right choice.
THANK YOU, Bev Smith, for sharing that. You lived to give Tiffany some very good advise. I hope you just saved her life. ❤️
Surgery, definitely. The other choice is rolling the dice on living.
@@im2cuteferu totally ! And if IT Spread then jt Will be metastatic cancer and thus not curable. IT would be terminal cancer.
Tiffany I have followed you for a very long time but have never commented. You have taught me so much and I am 74. I have read your comments and being on social media you are so fortunate to hear so many people’s opinions, many of them being doctors, oncologists, nurses but also people who have had a similar journey to you. Tiffany listen to them. Take their advice. There is no second chance. I know you love your family so much and their opinions matter but they’re not medical opinions they are opinions made with love but lacking medical knowledge. I pray you make the right decision very quickly 🥰
Wow! Beautiful .
Yes to surgery. No to waiting. I remember you prayed for the opportunity to have surgery. This is your narrow window to act. I recall you sharing that your surgeon has to assemble a large team, which will take some days in itself. Please start start the ball rolling, the sooner the better. We all want the very best for you.❤️❤️❤️
Tiffany, I’m going to agree with everyone who said “GET THE SURGERY”. I know it will be a very difficult surgery, but I think the big picture dictates that you go forward with surgery as soon as you possibly can. We’re all here praying and supporting!!
If she's still bleeding and having difficulty after the biopsy what could happen after the surgeon remove the tumor. Her body is responding to trauma. If the surgeon says it's better to wait I think that may be a better option.
I really hope she changes her mind. And she said she was going to think about it but then made he decision in a matter of 2 hours? That to me is not taking your time. I'm not sure she has really thought it through because I dread to think what would happen if in 6 weeks it has spread & becomes in-operable? Those reasons right there would have me doing the surgery ASAP!
Why has the doctor given that option and said it could be Inoperable with the 6 weeks wait ?? Oh my! :-(
@@susansuarez343 if the doctor said to wait then it may mean she still have time to eat healthy plant base to get the toxins out of her body. Also the doctor probably know that sense she's bleeding it's best to hold off to avoid being anemic and getting a transfusion especially if it's during surgery.
@@susansuarez343 the sad thing is doctors only specialize in drugs and the best thing for her to do is eat plant base food NOW! in case they can't help her in 6 weeks. God has gave her a miracle that the tumor may not be cancerous no the next step is eating healthy.
Okay so let me get this straight: your options are waiting six weeks to see if whoops, he missed something and you're now terminal or going ahead with a super invasive surgery in case he missed something? Those are bad options. Personally I would ask for additional scans and examinations to clear up the status of the cancer. At the very least cut the waiting time in half: 6 weeks is just too long in my opinion. If scans are off the table and he insists on the 6 weeks, I would go for surgery. You've got 1 life and if the cancer is there and possibly spreading, your window to do something about it may be closed in 6 weeks.
Exactly my question too.
Absolutely! I 💯 agree. I would not want to be confused in the least little bit.
Yes !00%, cancer isn't something to wait and see....
Thats it! Absolutely.
Did she mention the scan results ? Or just biopsies he recommended waiting the 6 weeks which confused me
I have been following your channel for many years and rarely comment. I was hesitant to comment as I can see a lot of others have said exactly what I want to say, but felt called to do so, especially as I know I might be able to offer some insights into the inner workings of the theatre department in NHS hospitals. I really hope you don't take all these comments as anything other than us showing our love and concern for you, Tiff ❤🙏.
As a Theatre nurse and a firm believer in God, PLEASE TAKE THIS OPPORTUNITY TO GET THE SURGERY. You, and all of us, have been praying for you to have the opportunity to have this surgery, and God has answered. Going from being inoperable to operable is a miracle in itself! From an operation standpoint, the sooner you get the operation, the better for your body. Some surgeons do prefer that you have not had chemo for a couple of weeks so that your body and immune system is not at its weakest, so now is a perfect time, not too long, not too short.
Coming from my experience working at King's College Hospital in the theatre department, I can tell you there are massive financial and staffing issues in the NHS. The system was on its knees back in 2020 when I left England, and from what I've heard from friends, it's somehow even worse now. There were many times that we had to delay oncology surgeries, despite the urgency, due to having no beds in ICU due to trauma cases or not enough staff to run the theatre because everyone had already done max overtime during the trauma cases etc. I saw some cancer patients wait 3+ months for their surgeries when they should've been done within 30 days!
In particular, your case will need a significant amount of staff involved, from the different surgical specialities, a couple of scrub and anaesthetic teams to swap throughout the op, a few theatre techs and runners etc. It's a significant staffing/money commitment from the theatre team, who are already struggle to stick to their budgets and meet their time targets for their theatre lists as it is. In no malicious way whatsoever, I am sure this is a factor in the team wanting to delay your surgery. I don't say this to make you feel guilty about the resources involved, but so that you can understand that there are times that medical personnel might not be making a decision that is in the patients' best interest (unintentionally) due to pressures from the higher ups. This happens in all industries, and healthcare is no exception to this!
If your team are not able to get you in for the surgery, please seek a second opinion privately. Please start a GoFundMe or something similar if you need, I know there are many of us that would be extremely happy to help if it means you get the best care possible! ❤❤❤
There’s no reward in waiting 6 weeks IF the cancer spreads. I’m a oncology nurse and your best chance IS surgery. Literally you’re getting so many comments to move forward. Hope and prayers coming your way🙏🕊
there's just risk of losing her life no reward in waiting
Well said
I wonder if Tiffany has someone she knows that has medical knowledge that can go with her to see the surgeon...or maybe her sister or uncle or cousin... that could help ask these questions..who is outspoken & inquisitive...& can get the answers to many unresolved questions.
It can be overwhelming in a doctor's office.
What are the results of the PET SCAN, MRI, CT scan?
Yes - it’s not adding up! doesn’t she have an aunt who’s a doctor? I’m surprised she’s doesn’t go to her got advice. Maybe she’s going tp talk to her. But very confusing.
@@hidden-r2s I wonder why Matt isnt researching this. One of them needs to. Ignorance can be deadly in this situation. They are 2 positive people trying to make the best of each day, trying to live a normal life. Unfortunately in this situation they need to face reality and go into battle mode.
Lovely Tiffany, PLEASE TAKE A SURGERY OPTION INMEDIATLY!!!! Waiting six weeks, can be so risky and fatal decision. My husband is a colom cancer survival for ten years, our decision to do his surgery inmediatly SAVE HIS LIFE!!! My prays are with you and your family.
Omg … remember how thrilled and relieved you were that you found a surgeon that was willing to take your case? It was your glimmer of hope… Please don’t wait and have that taken away from you! I agree with everyone else on the scans. Why is the entire decision left up to the biopsies which could definitely miss the cancer. Here in the US, it’s easy to get a second opinion by just sending scans etc to a renowned Cancer Hospital… Like Moffitt or MD Anderson. They can consult with you remotely. Please get a second opinion!
MD Anderson!! top notch
Yes! Second and third opinions can be done virtually/remotely. We don’t even know if this particular surgery is the exact right surgery, what needs targeting. I’m not sure Tiffany and family have all the info needed to make the best decisions and this is surely a case where another expert or two weighing in would help to clarify matters and make good decisions.
I completely agree about a second opinion. I work very closely with some of the best Oncologist/ Surgeons at Stanford Hospital that I’m sure would be happy to give you a second opinion remotely. 🧡
"willing to take her case" so other doctors deemed her cancer not operable aka terminal?
I agree with the second opinion
This video makes me realize what an extremely valuable tool YT is. Here you are with a life/death decision and unsure what to do. In the mean time, you have over 6k comments, many from highly qualified people (doctors, nurses and patients), telling you exactly what you should do without hesitation. Ultimately Tiffany, the decision is yours to make, but based on all the advice given, it seems one option is the best. I would heed the advice of thousands of people who seem to know what they are talking about. Your oncologist doesn't strike me as someone who cares about you as much as those of us who watch your channel regularly do.
I agree and it’s amazing how powerfully affected we all seem to be which really could have such affect on people’s proactiveness in their own lives too. ❤️
Well said , we worry for tiff because she is apart of us all.
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Tiffany knows how lucky she is to have such a compassionate, caring surgeon who has sincerely promised her that he will look after her like she is his sister. He is a highly specialised surgeon at a world leading cancer hospital and apparently only one of about fifteen surgeons in the world who can do this surgery. When he initially explained to her about what the surgery entailed, he said it was brutal and she was so lovely and so young that he felt bad telling her all about it. He strikes me as someone who really does care about Tiffany.
@@minke08 he said the cancer is a “beast.”
They honestly don't care. I think I've met 1 GP who cared about my health and was very adamant regarding me having my breast checked because of a pain I was feeling. I had a huge issue with a nurse at the Royal Marsden. The nurse checked my breast just by barely touching it. No scan, no nothing... With all the respect to all the nurses, but I was supposed to see a doctor, not a nurse. This is the first thing, to start with... Especially when I had a visible lump under my armpit.
I've been misdiagnosed 5 years ago with Leukaemia , by 5 doctors which belonged to the NHS. I have also done a breast scan where they said they found nothing. Flew to Portugal they found a cyst and a nodule, which needs to be controlled for the next 2 years as prevention, every 6 moths. At the NHS, they don't even do this control thing. Lastly, 2 months ago I had some issues did an MRI here, and also within a week another MRI in Portugal. MRI here in London, came back clear all good. MRI in Portugal cervical hernia between C5 and C6. Now, imagine this week with this flaring up, me having to talk to the GP telling him I am not a liar and I have images on my laptop (which by the way NHS never offers/shows you) from the MRI done in Portugal and you can clearly see a cervical hernia which explains the pain and numbness in my arm. While he is telling my MRI report in the UK says I'm fine and I have nothing. Right, how awkward... Honestly, they miss literally everything in this country with rare exceptions.
🌟TIFFANY PLEASE READ ALL THE COMMENTS . PEOPLE HAVE REAL LIFE EXPERIENCES WITH CANCER EITHER HAVING HAD IT THEMSELVES OR FAMILY MEMBERS OR FRIENDS WHO HAVE HAD IT . MOST PEOPLE THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE THE SURGERY ASAP BECAUSE EVERYONE ON THIS CHANNEL LOVES AND CARES FOR YOU , 😘❤️
Yes 100% agree 👍
Very good point cherry,please Tiffany read this lady’s comment,it may not be what you or anyone would want to hear but it this lady is talking sense xx
I agree I had stage 3 breast cancer and I truly believe the only reason I'm here today is they had me in within 2 weeks for a mastectomy and I then went through chemo and radiation, there no time to wait with cancer it needs to be taken straight away , I really hope she listens to everyones advice,
Hi Tiffany. I’m a doctor in the UK. If the surgeon has said there is a risk that it could become inoperable in the next six weeks, it’s because there is that risk. It is ultimately your decision and most of us can’t imagine how difficult this decision is to make, but I would recommend that you consider if the risk of the cancer becoming inoperable is a risk you are willing to take.
I agree 100%
I think her doctor just wanted to take the responsibility off of him and put it back on her ..its unusual to me for a Dr to do this.
I’m surprised that “doctors” and “nurses” here are giving her advise as to what to do when they don’t have her full medical history.
Hello Sweet Tiffany, adding my voice to those who are encouraging you to move forward with the surgery right away. After all the pain, stress and worry you and your family have been through, it’s just not worth the risk of waiting to see if the cancer spreads or grows. Get it out now while you still have that option. Sending all my love and prayers to you 💜💜🙏🏻🙏🏻
Hi Tiffany! I wish you the absolute best with whatever you decide to do. I have been following your story from the beginning. I am an operating room RN, and I felt it was my duty to at least give you something to think about. In America, at least in the state I am in, all the oncology surgeons I work with, would absolutely tell you to do the surgery. This is because they would rather take out whatever is cancerous and not risk anything from spreading to lymph nodes, other organs, etc. For example, when they biopsy a lobe of a lung, they actually still remove that lobe to prevent anything from spreading any further. Often times they can see with cameras/scopes what they need to take out when they are in there. I have been in cases where it is far too late and they cannot operate anymore. Six weeks is a long time for cells that regenerate at a fast pace. I am surprised that your surgeon did not do a diagnostic laparoscopy to look inside your belly, take frozen section biopsies, and show you what they are actually dealing with. It’s a very tough decision. I understand you have faith and a lot of support in this. Your positive attitude will take you very far. I wish you all the blessings.
Nicely put 👍
I am a retired senior nurse too and I advise you to have the op. Sending love and strengths xx
I was shocked the moment she said she had a biopsy "up her bum" instead of laparoscopically. Also that her surgeon made this big deal out of telling her he'd be treating her as if she were (can't remember) his own sister, gives her a biopsy which comes with extensive bleeding (which doesn't surprise him when she tells him about it, but he neglected to warn her about before the procedure, we assume) and then releases her from the hospital bleeding without and doesn't check up on her or have his office call to check on her regularly. I had a minor eye procedure done last year, and even they called to be sure I had no concerns. And he's obviously letting her leave the office without making sure she understands the situation she's in so she can make a good decision. The surgeon worries me.
@@Sydney.Knight I completely agree. A lot of red flags. Our surgeons do so much testing, different ways of diagnosing, and they even ask other surgeons to give their input. Tiffany is so young. I’m just worried she might be making a decision that might cause her more harm than good. I know we are all coming from a good place and respect her decisions.
The drs at this point can absolutely tell if her cancer is terminal even after surgery done in which they cant remove her whole frail half of her torso or pervis....they have given this poor soul false hope and maybe 6 weeks to enjoy a little more with out any treatment..drs dont like to tell ppl are actually in the process of deterioration towards death..only when they are close to an active death..which is why they let her take a break..but they know she wont make it...shame on them!.. poor soul 😥💕
My sweet girl❤️you need to have the surgery right away! Cancer can grow so fast within days. My mother went from a negative cancer test and 2 months later stage 4 cancer. If it was me I would schedule it as soon as possible I would want it out of my body.
If it was me I would go for surgery but that's me. You have to do what you feel is best for you. Take care
I personally would have the surgery as the risk would be too great for me I.e. the cancer spreading and it becoming inoperable. I know how horrible the biopsies were for you too and having to go through them multiple times with days in hospital would be horrible. Six weeks is closer to Christmas and New year too, get it done now and out the way and be cancer free for 2023 🙌👏🏼🙌 xx
with the current situation, Christmas coming god forbid she has to wait shes putting her life at risk
I have to agree with you x
The way I phrased it to her is using the power of prayers with the underlying positivity which I think she will be much more receptive to. In my comment I strongly suggested she not wait.
Please like my comment (I swear on my life this is not meant for my own vanity but to get support for a comment that a truly thing would help)
I meant my comment on the general comments or the reply to her commend
@@ashleighmartinez4348 also after the biopsy she bled heavily with blood clots usually if their cancerous cysts that rupture maybe I'm not a doctor but cancer you can't wait doctors aren't god and by all means pray but use your intelligence to help yourself so god can help you
I keep coming back to this video and the more I read the comments and the more I watch it, the more it makes me feel uncomfortable with what Matt said. I don’t think this is the time when he should speak up on such a life altering decision for YOU. You’re the fighter, not Matt. How is this a risk and reward situation?! There is absolute no chance in 6 weeks magically Tiffany is cancer-free…unless we’re not getting all the details here. What magically happened? I have no idea. This is the time to fight, not the time to rely on prayers. Prayers help, but as we’ve seen, even people with the deepest faith get their lives taken away way too soon. Life isn’t always fair. Really looking forward to an update from Tiffany. :(
I’ve watched it couple of time too.. and reading all the comments x The reward ? What risk - reward ? :-/
I’m feeling very uncomfortable too. How can he talk about risk reward when the risk is a potentially terminal and inoperable disease? I understand the surgery is extremely invasive and will change her life forever but surely that’s better than the cancer spreading? Nothing good can come from waiting, I believe.
I keep coming back too. It’s just so worrisome. I think Matt and all of them think no surgery and everything is fine is the best scenario and it is but it’s not where they’re at. I wish her doctors would more help them locate more accurately. I hope the comments do too. I also wonder if there’s more they’re not sharing. The clear biopsies are nice but there’s still a gigantic tumor in there to my understanding.
Yes well said i totally agree!
A-Freaking-Men! I didn’t want to say anything about Matt, but honestly I couldn’t agree with you more…. He’s not in her position and yes, he’s trying to stay positive, but that’s not how you should react when you’re talking about CANCER.
I think if I was you I’d go for surgery straight away, just get it gone , but you will do what’s right for you . Sending lots of love xx
Hi Tiffany! I‘ve been watching your videos for a while now and never had the courage to write a comment. Now however, I really fear that you‘re making a mistake. As a medical resident, I‘ve seen many cases of colorectal cancer but only a handful of patients your age. You have had the luck to be diagnosed in time and to still have the option for surgery. At your age, I wouldn‘t think twice about it and just have the tumor removed as fast as possible. It‘s just not worth the risk. Waiting might be a possibility for elderly patients with a high risk of postoperative complications and a prolonged recovery period. You however have all the chances in the world to recover from this and finally be cancer-free after surgery.
I really hope you will change your mind, dear Tiffany!
We got this!
AGREE! well said. i didnt say anything until today but i couldnt keep quiet any longer
I am very confused as to what will happen to the mass in her pelvis and bowel. I do understand that there are huge repercussions to a massive surgery. Assume she would need a hysterectomy (with or without ovaries and tubes), not sure about a colostomy bag, etc. Potentially menopause, pelvic floor issues, inability to carry children, etc. Think she has downplayed how big a surgery it would be but as a young person with such a large mass the chances of reoccurrence will likely be very high as well. Wish she had talked about the risk of reoccurrence and how long until reoccurrence if she didn’t have surgery. Not my body so not sure what I would do.
I also feel that she is making a huge mistake in waiting. She always talked about having the surgery & now that it's an option for her she is waiting? I hope that she changes her mind also because I fear the worst for her & I have a bad feeling about her waiting 6 weeks & then to only go through another biopsy again? I don't understand how she thinks that this is a good idea especially after everything that she just went through and is still bleeding after 2 weeks?! My fear is that it spreads & then she becomes terminal & I don't want that for her & I feel that she made her decision too quickly!
My mother had adenocarcinoma. It’s aggressive and sneaky and knows how to hide. If I were you, I’d get the surgery YESTERDAY. Six weeks can make all the difference.
I agree 100%. I lost my paternal grandfather, my father and at the end of May lost my husband to adenocarcinoma. Please Tiffany, get it gone 🙏
Now! ( it kind of sounds like socialized medicine)
I feel like her treatments are just dragging out forever!!!
I Agree,My Dad Had The Same Kind Of Colon Cancer & Refused Surgery 😔😢He Past Away 2 Years Ago,Colon Cancer Is So Sneaky & It Hides Very Well,Tiff Is Showing Signs That It Hasn’t Went Anywhere With C Diff & Stomach Pains,Recent Trips To The Hospitals,My Dad Went Though The Same Thing Sadly,He Refused Surgery & It Took Him Quickly Out Of My Life Just That Fast,I Am So Lost Without Him,So I’m Begging U Tiff PLEASE HAVE THE SURGERY 🙏🏾🙏🏾
My Sister too horrible aggressive 😪
I've given this video several watchings & given it much thought before commenting. I won't bash Matt for his thoughts on this, but rewatch poor Amma's face in the back seat! In the end, you are in charge of your own body & we all support your right to make the decision. NOW...my thoughts. I DID have the surgery ASAP (for the same cancer) once I was done the full rounds of chemo & radiation. I had an AMAZING surgeon and oncology team, that all collaborated on my treatment plan. Mine told me, prior to deciding on surgery that a lot of doctors take a "wait & see" approach, after viewing positive results such as my last CT & MRI's, but that my surgeon liked to go the extra mile (if I was agreeable) and surgically go in for a look visually, to make sure it's all (including radiation scarring) removed and biopsy tested. I told him while I didn't like the idea of invasive surgery, but having the thought in the back of my mind that the ticking time bomb might still be in me, would keep me mentally in the state of waking up each morning saying "I have cancer." Tiffany..you need to write down all your questions, including the pros & cons & Book ANOTHER appointment with this surgeon to get all scenarios explained fully. My real concern is...what if at 6 weeks you decide on surgery...but then get covid or are weak & unwell..or doctor gets covid...or surgeries get cancelled due to covid? That's a very real possibility, as we near winter. What if, at 6 weeks, you find the surgery wait time is 1-2 months or more? What would happen inside your body in the meantime? I'm sorry this comment was so long, but we ALL are very concerned about you & just want you totally healthy. I've been cancer free for 10 months. Sending hugs from Canada
Congratulations on being cancer free, such wonderful news..I hope Tiffany reads this,this is exactly what she needs to see and I agree with everything you said..best of health and happiness to you going forward 🙏
hi Marilyn, how long does recovery take for this kind of surgery? You are very brave and your team does sound wonderful. Congrats on being cancer free 🌹
Ku gh: I won't lie...it's a VERY HARD surgery. I had a bowel resection as well as bladder scar tissue removal. I was in hospital 10 days & on drugs stronger than morphine. It left me with an iliostomy (you can research this), which I luckily got home nursing care to help with...twice a week for 5 months. The iliostomy reversal surgery later (by the same surgeon) went much easier...I was pretty much my usual self in 3 weeks. I'll be doing all my one year follow ups in November...so hopefully I'll be one of the "success" stories and will only need follow up check ups every 3 years after that. I should mention I am 67... Someone Tiffany's age could likely bounce back quicker. I live in Canada & have nothing but praise for my treatment team & expeditious treatment. Diagnosed mid January 2021 (right in the thick of covid) and radiation treatment started 2 weeks later
This is is exactly what she needs to read, someone who has been through the procedure
I understand if she gets scared by googling it, it's so invasive
But fear must not rule everything
I just hope for the best 💚
Fantastic news ❤️ I to had enhanced lower rectal cancer and secondary liver had full rectal removal with now permanent stoma bag and half liver removed plus gallbladder after having radiation/chemo tablets first. I’m in recovery from June. Operations were successful although I am still classed as stage 4 and sit at 50/50 recurrence but was told by oncologist that my stage 4 and another person stage 3 could be worse for them than my stage. My surgeons and oncologist were the best at the Belfast City Hospital in N.Ireland everything was done with speed. It was horrendous but im glad they did it. Get my first scan at the end of the month im abit nervous but my faith in Our Lord has got me through this and I pray 🙏 it will continue. ❤️
Please don't leave the surgery Tiffany, have it done as soon as you can, you have had two long rounds of chemo and radiotherapy, that has obviously helped you, my friend was told the same as you, she then waited and it then became inoperable, and spread to liver, the longer the cancer is in your system the more chance you have of it spreading through the lymphatic system and metasatis. You need to find out the benefits v compications of having it done now v waiting! Personally I would not be happy to wait! Good Luck lovely lady x
Well said
I would have the surgery right away. Why wait? Why make your situation more difficult potentially. I wish you all the best and I am praying for you and your family.
OMG that's just awful! Is your friend still with us? I fear that will happen to her & she should have it done ASAP! I don't understand how hearing the words spreading & in-operable didn't have a stronger effect on her? 2 out of 3 options are life threatening? I don't see how she thinks that waiting is good for her because clearly it is not. All she ever talked about was getting the surgery done & now that she has that option, she is waiting? I'm so scared for her, I have a bad feeling about this.
@@susansuarez343 Hello. sadly no my friend died 8 months later, 41 years old, so sad. Drs don't always get it right, I can't help thinking she has been given these options not for her benefit but for the benefit of the NHS, staffing, theatre space, bed space etc... What possible benefit is there for waiting 6 weeks?
My husband and two other friends have had rectal cancer. They were all advised to get the operation so not sure why he would suggest you don’t. Especially since these tumours tend to be fast growing, aggressive, and can quickly become inoperable. You don’t want it to spread to your liver.
I totally agree
Tiff, my dad was told there was no bowel cancer left after radiotherapy. But it wasn’t gone.it metastasised to his liver, chest and neck and he passed eight months later. I know you want to celebrate your good biopsy results and you should, but I don’t think you should wait. Best wishes xxx
Sorry for your loss. She is really in a TERRIBLE position to have to make this choice. I would probably get the surgery and hope that it was right. Worry would take over my LIFE!
I agree! How can she dismiss the Dr saying that it could spread & the fact that it could be in-operable? I would be terrified hearing that! I don't think waiting is the right thing to do.
My Dad was also told that he appeared to be free from cancer and they stopped his chemo earlier than planned. Two months later it had metastasised to his bones and there was no treatment available. Had we been given the option, we would have absolutely carried on with the treatment that was initially planned. Different cancer to Tiffany’s though so I really don’t want this comment to scare her!
It makes me wonder if they’re being truthful with her? There’s no way it’s just vanished knowing how insidious it is.
@@christylynn451 definitely should consider a diagnostic and exploratory laparoscopic surgery for definitive diagnosis. Then again, you wonder what CA-19 and 125 are at? What did the PET show?
Tiffany-since you asked….I’ve been a hospice social worker for 21 years and I would have the surgery. This has been such an aggressive cancer that they couldn’t even operate until it shrunk. This cancer is a beast. Why would you wait? This has been what you were hoping and praying for. It just takes one cell. I know you are weary…but something just doesn’t add up. What would the doctor recommend if it was his daughter in your exact situation?? Continued prayers. Whatever you decide we are still here for you. 💙🙏
I normally wouldn’t be so bold as to tell you to do anything but Tiffany, consider the surgery. My husband was left with no options. You have an option to put this nightmare behind you. Please take it.♥️
Tiffany: I have been following you through your cancer journey. My Dr. told me to wait 6 months and then have a biopsy. Two weeks later I called his office and made an appointment as I knew something wasn’t right. That was 11 years ago; 6 rounds of chemo and 30 rounds of radiation. I have seen my daughter and son graduate from college, my daughter’s marriage, and now have 3 granddaughters. Don’t wait-get the surgery. Roberta-FL/ USA
Hi Tiffany, you don’t need to wait to become a miracle. It is already a miracle that you’ve had an T4 adenocarcinoma for over a year and it’s still operable. Make your decisions based on science and talk again with your cousin who is a doctor. If I was in your position I would take the surgery asap. Your life is too high price to pay from wait and see.
Yes - I think it’s her Aunt that’s the doctor- I’ve been wondering why she hasn’t asked her for advice and yes why hasn’t gone with her to a doctors visit or to the hospital.
Yes
@@jannottage1632 Maybe she has consulted them behind the scenes as they may not want to be filmed..we are only seeing tiny pieces of everything
As I tell my kids all the time, Sorry doesn't get it. You have to make informed decisions and sometimes it's too late.
Hi Tiffany,
I can imagine all of our comments are overwhelming right now. I am a 5th year medical student and I had an opportunity to see things change in a matter of days. This is from my purest intentions for you, I know that not having surgery seems like a miracle and it would be, but honestly the risk is too high. Right now you have a chance for a cancer free outcome with surgery, in 6 weeks you can have a terminal diagnosis. I would have the surgery as soon as possible, the risk is just too high. If you are steady on your decision please at least request that you next series of exams is in 2-3 weeks and not 6 is just too long to wait. However I really hope you have the surgery. Sending lots of love and prayers ❤️
100 percent agree. With the surgery you simply have less to lose. She will recover from it for sure but if there is no surgery its not clear if she even has a chance for surgery.
Also I wanted to say, I have watched you for a long time and have been cheering for you, this is the first time I am commenting. I feel these decisions should be made by you, but now I have a feeling, I cannot explain that the surgery is the right way.
I'm a now retired nurse of 39 years. I don't know this girl and her family but I love her. I'm praying she will have the surgery as soon as possible. I agree with your thoughts.
Couldn't agree more. The risk is such that a wait is untenable. The surgery would not be offered if the surgeon did not envisage a considerable risk by leaving it.
I agree. If I had to hear from her that she now has terminal cancer because it spread I would be beside myself. The risk is too high but for some reason she doesn't see it that way & she really needs to think more about it spreading & how that will effect her life span & it being in-operable. What quality of life would she have then? I really hope she changes her mind on this & she made her decision too quickly. I'm not sure she is thinking straight & the fact that the Dr said that her having the surgery would help her mentally makes 0 sense to me! I'm scared for her & I have a bad feeling about he waiting 6 weeks only to go through another biopsy & then getting terminal results after everything she has been through? I would be devastated beyond words.
Hi Tiffany, I’m so happy to hear what I consider to be the best possible news for you at this point. Normally, I would never give my opinion on a life or death matter because it’s an incredibly personal decision, but because you asked for my opinion, I’ll give it to you. As a cancer survivor of 21 years, please get a second opinion about your options. And please lean toward the goal of living a long, worry-free life. If your chance of long-term survival is to have the surgery, then please do it as soon as possible. Get the second opinion and lean towards the best long-life option while you still have the choice. Love you and your family to pieces. You got this! 💙
Well said & I agree. I really hope she changes her mind because at this point she is taking such a huge gamble with her health and her life.
Agree 👍
Trying to get a second opinion on that system will take even longer i think.
@Isis of Kemet She trust her surgeon and he has her best interest at heart.
@@mazinwonderland3077 That is absolutely no guarantee.
I’ve worked in meds 20 years. Please have the surgery as soon as can be scheduled, not only for your and your families peace of mind, but you ultimately want to have the lowest risk of reoccurrence possible. We love you Tiffany. Continued prayers for strength and peace
I am a nurse as well! I also have a son with colorectal cancer! I agree with all of the other folks who have written to you! I believe you are playing with fire not to have this surgery! Cancer is the great trickster ! To take a chance like this is not in your best interests!
Hi Tiffany! Retired registered nurse here. You have a great chance of being cancer free if you have the surgery right now, but if you choose the other option the element of risk seems to be far, far greater and could possibly lead to a devastating outcome. I'm deeply concerned for your well being and do appreciate that the surgery will be very invasive but I feel it would give you the best longterm outcome. It is a huge step of faith to allow God to administer his healing power through the hands of the surgeons. I think of you every day and send my love.x
Beautiful Tiffany,
my only sister died of bowel cancer 3 years ago aged only 54.
The doctor postponed the operation and the cancer spread and by then it was too late and she passed away!
Please Tiffany, don’t wait, choose the surgery right away!
We got this💙
Aww i understand how you must feel about your sister, i lost my brother to bowel & oesophagus cancer & if there could have been a way to save him I’d have walked to the end of the earth.Tiffany shouldn’t have to make a decision she has been through enough God bless her 🙏🏻
I’m so sorry 😢🙏
Agreed
Sorry for the loss of your 54 year old sister, but Tiffany is a lot younger and a lot more resilient. Also, we don't know the competency of your sister's surgeon and we don't know the reputation of her hospital. Also, medicine continues to improve. If your sister was being treated today, she might have pulled through with the more modern medicine. Tragic loss. My heart goes out to you.
so very sorry for your loss.
Having been an operating RN for 30+ years and seen some devastating outcomes following this from the start of your journey, I’m afraid I would go ahead w/surgery. I truly believe it will be the safest option. I hope you understand I’m not being pessimistic, just want the best possible outcome for you and your wonderful family. I’d love for you to truly beat this w/ your strength and faith in the Lord to sustain you. You’ll be healing and get your strength back sooner than waiting another six weeks and going through another anxiety ridden wait . The stress of waiting will surely sap your energy and strength . I’m praying for you sweetie.We got this!!😊🙏❤️
I dont know you but thank you for all that you have done. Being a nurse is not easy but you have helped lots of people and thats very commendable. I too think should get the surgery and that's what she has been wanting all along so we hope she makes the right decision. Have a good night!
They managed to organize all of the surgeons, everything and everyone is ready to perform this life saving surgery. In six weeks, some of them might be out of country, someone might get corona, everything can happen to keep delaying it further. I think it's such a good thing you've asked for people's opinions, so many experts, nurses, survivors and loved ones of people who had lost the battle to cancer have spoken up. Please take their voices to heart, everyone is very positive and even loud in the comments because they are trying to get you to the other side of this. You've been through so much, it would break all of our hearts if this six week wait ends up winning over. You want to be there for your family, for your adorable little cousins, for a lifetime with Matt and your kind hearted mom. Whatever you chose, it's your decision in the end. I'm rooting for you as I have for all this time!
Such great point about the supposed surgical team he assembled
so true🙏🏻💙💙💙
I 100% agree with your comment. I needed a surgery to save my unborn baby’s life and my original surgeon that was suppose to perform the surgery had a family emergency. We had to wait an additional day to have the surgery and it was by a different doctor. This was a very random incident but my surgeon was more easily replaced. Whereas Tiffany’s Surgeon (like she mentioned in a previous video) is one of the few in the world that can perform it. I’m just baffled why this even is an option and also why anyone would take such a life threatening risk.😔
😢 yes .. we want to see you grow :-) beat this xx you got this xx
@@jannottage1632 exactly so many red flags. I still can't believe he said those weeks of heavy bleeding, excruciating pain, and vomiting were perfectly normal after a biopsy. Just looking at her it's obvious the physical toll it took on her. I'd be very afraid of him operating on me
Oh God, Tiffany. In my heart of hearts I want to believe you’ll be fine in six weeks. BUT if you have the surgery now you’ll increase your odds of beating cancer with a long and happy life. Someone else can carry your children. It’s done every day now. I was actually quite shocked reading through the comments of the number of the Tiffany Thinks family urging you to have surgery now, and these seem to be doctors, nurses, medical techs and fellow cancer survivors/ family members of cancer patients. To wait six weeks might be the difference between life and death. We all LOVE YOU SO, and want you to have the best possible outcome. 💙💙💙
Please please have the operation my dad was told the same but unfortunately the cancer had spread and he sadly passed, once it gos into the lympnodes it spreads rapidly in different areas that doctors dont see🙏🙏
My aunties team once told her “Get rid of the cancer before the cancer gets rid of you” please get rid ASAP don’t put yourself through more nasty biopsies that was hell for you 😢 time is of the essence get the surgery done don’t wait for it to become inoperable darling girl be faster than the cancer is xx
Agree 👍
That's what I think too.
Please get it done now
Also, should you chose to wait, please be proactive- I would find the most specialized Laparoscopic Surgeon in the UK and together with your surgeon start there- urgently. A surgery for biopsies via the rectum is very different than looking via Laparoscope. As an Oncology Nurse who has seen this time and again at the best US Medical centers, I am very worried with this “wait and see” approach… this is not wait and see type Cancer Tiffany. This is go to war type Cancer.
Yes, please Tiffany , as the previous member of your family said , “ Tiffany go to war against this type cancer. “ 🙏🏻♥️
American nurse here. Reading through the comments I am astounded by the depth of knowledge that people in the tiffanythinks family have. Please have the surgery. I have yet to read a comment that advises you to wait. XX
Hello Tiffany, as an ex-ICU nurse (now retired) I would without a doubt go for the surgery ASAP I have to agree with everyone who has replied, sending much love from Cork in Ireland x
Dear Tiffany, I lost my father in law last year to colorectal cancer just because it was too late for surgery and fast spreading… and if you want my opinion, I’d say have the surgery ASAP! cancer is no fun and undetectable cells can still be there and not been shown on the biopsy. 6 weeks can be quite long when it comes to cancer cells spreading so having a surgery will give you a peace of mind that it’s all over and done with! big hug xx
Same. My dad was diagnosed last August but it had already spread to his liver, stomach and abdominal walls. He passed 2 months later. It is a relentless, stealthy disease and if you have the option of surgery, please take it!
@@Barqhead I’m so sorry for your loss Pam, and yes! when there is an option for surgery I would personally go for it but at the end of the day it’s her decision and from the bottom of my heart I pray it works out for her whatever the decision will be xx
So happy for you! I hope you read senoritaleno's comment and ttake it to heart. I was diagnosed with colon cancer Stage 3 and ready to be in stage 4. I had Chemo for 7 months and that was followed immediately by surgery and had the whole right side of my colon removed. I would not want to wait that long to find out anything . Surgery for me is the answer. I have now been clear of cancer for 20 years. I hope yyou are making the right choice. It's a very scarey situation to be in. I lovewatching you on here, you are such a sweet and loving person!
Tiffany, I wasn’t sure whether to comment but I used to work in colorectal cancer. You need to look at the original stage of cancer you were told (T something N something) and the grade of the cells (1-3 is usual) and then the latest MRI and PET scans and how they then downstaged it based on that. The MRI looks for size and exact location/invasion and the PET looks for active cancer cells, in the site of origin and in the rest of the body. I am not clear on why they re-biopsied to such an extent (maybe because the PET showed no sign of activity?). If there was more clear info, it might be easier to understand the situation. Any T4 from memory has already broken through the wall and invaded nearby structures, so the biopsy taken via theme rectum would not be able to reach any sites outside. I am so worried for you, but completely understand that you may not have wanted to share the whole picture and also understand that you may have decided against the drastic surgery. I also am local to the Marsden and know how good the teams are there, but as others have said, the NHS is so under-resourced. If I were you, I would have exploratory surgery and agree with the surgeon what to do based on his findings. Have you had an anti-angiogenic as part of your regime? Again, MRI and PET scan results are key here xxxx
@@Michelle-wk4ek Hate to say it but I agree with you
@@KickinTheBucket-List he would know how far the spread was from MRI and PET scans. The biopsy was to grade the cells and/or support those results. We don’t have all the info
@@hannahwebster5606 But then why offer her the surgery option? The NHS isn't going to pay for an extensive operation to remove all those organs if it's inoperable, would they? I don't know. Just seems unlikely. It's not adding up.
Wow 😯 I have read your comment twice , because you’re so knowledgeable !
My uncle died of stomach Cancer , but it metastasized all over & rectum . And it was so scary 😱 how fast he deteriorated , from the first to second visit !
I was horrified to see him , I ran out of hospital room crying 😭 . I couldn’t believe how much weight he lost 😞, and how frail he was . You could literally see his knee bones through the sheets , he was in so much pain . He couldn’t stand the weight of a blanket !
Cancer it’s horrible, I hope the day comes when people all over the world 🌎 won’t have to suffer . Once they find a cure , specially Pediatric Cancer !
It’s heartbreaking 💔 to see children suffering, and their parents too . Thank you 🙏🏿 for your comment I learned more about Cancer , & I like to read & learned . Because I have lost many loved 🥰 ones to it , including my mom from lung 🫁 Cancer . And she never smoke , ate healthy , took good care of herself & us . But unfortunately it happened to her , let’s hope for the best . And keep praying 🙏🏿 for Tiffany , for her to change her mind & have the surgery !
@@Michelle-wk4ek doctors/surgeons tend to be brutally honest with patients these days, if he thought it was inoperable he would have told her and not given her the option of expensive surgery that he knows would be pointless
Tiffany - I’ve been following your journey and am hoping for the absolute best outcome for you. Being a cancer survivor myself along with the experience of losing my brother to stage iv colorectal cancer because he did not act quickly, please please consider getting the surgery asap. Time is of the essence with cancer and things can go drastically downhill very very quick. The biggest thing I learned when dealing with healthcare providers in oncology is that YOU have to be your number one advocate and push things along. This is not something to sit on. Take care xx
Dear Tiffany - as a cancer survivor I had biopsies that said no cancer when there was in fact cancer there. They just didnt biopsy the right bits. But wishing you all the best for whatever you decide x
same.. Bless you 💖
I had biopsies after cancer treatment and there was NO CANCER.
Same for a family friend. Had biopsy of lump in breast. Came back normal. She didn’t trust it. They did another one and she did have breast cancer
tiff its your body go to god.he would hear an answe you.
My doctor performed a repeat biopsy three months after the first negative just to make sure (in my breast), and it came back negative as well but he couldn't tell me what it was. Do you think two is enough to be certain or should I get another one?
Hi Tiffany, having lost close family to adenocarcinoma and knowing its aggressive nature of growth, I would strongly recommend you go for the surgery without waiting, whilst you still have a great chance of life in remission and being cancer free. All the prayers and strong faith will get you through this difficult time and your surgery, this really will be better option for the best possible outcome. Praying for your speedy recovery 🙏🏼
Tiffany, I have watched your journey from the beginning. Coming from someone whose mom had a similar cancer. Please please please get the surgery. Do not wait! I know it will be life alerting!!! God will see you through every moment. Just as he has seen you this far. The fact you went from inoperable to operable is a miracle in itself. I am praying for you daily to see many more miracles, but the Lord expects us to also make wise decisions and having the surgery IS the wise decision. It’s what you have been praying for. Many many prayers for you. Love you 💙
Tiffany if there’s one thing I would say is please think again, you wanted the surgery so much and then now there is an option your obviously feeling this is a sign but things can turn and could be completely different within 6 weeks and the option took away. I lost my mum to bowel cancer, it did travel to the liver and lungs so please Tiffany don’t wait ….we got this x
If I were in your shoes, I would make my decision based on this one thought… you can get “ahead” of this cancer by having it removed or be “chasing” it the rest of your life. Cancer always comes back rearing it’s ugly head. Put your prayers into God getting you through the surgery. Everyone hear has your best interest at heart by being honest about their thoughts. A lot of people here are professionals in the medical field that has seen a lot. ♥️😘
Dear sweet Tiffany, don’t wait. Do the surgery and be done with it, move on and have the rest of your long life. What if it doesn’t come back in 6 weeks, but comes back in 4
months and it’s so aggressive, that you can’t have the operation. It’s crazy that doctors leave up to untrained patients to make life changing decisions like this.
Doctors generally give multiple options, when it is already clear that the outcome-whatever option is chosen by patient- will not make a big difference for the prognosis in the end. If doctors were 100% sure that immediate surgery was 100% life saving, they would have made the decision for her and would not have given options, believe me!
With this said: Tiffany went through a lot and had twice the biggest scare of her life ( Cdiff infection plus the pain and bleeding post-biopsy). She struggled to get adequate care last week and is extremely traumatized. This should be taken into consideration. Quality of Life is an option that doctors consider at this stage. I support any decision Tiffany and family are taking. She is a true warrior! God bless her and enjoy every single day in your life, as all of us should. Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring. Sending Tiffany, Amma and Mat love and peace💙💙💙We Got This!
Unfortunately it is up to the patient to ask all the right questions, however difficult that is, they rarely offer the full picture and probable outcome unless they are pressed to do so.
Totally!
Thank you for your response and very comprehensive point of view. However, I can’t help but remember Farrah Fawcett when she had colon cancer, then refused the surgery, went into remission, then it came back very aggressively and she was gone. That’s what I remember, I might be wrong. I just don’t want Tiffany to miss the chance and then it’s too late. But, I see your point and you are right. Every case is different. I do trust that they will make the best decision for themselves. May God guide them. ❤️
I’ve rewatched the video to listen again to your summary of the biopsy results. At 11:27, you say that the cancer cells have turned into mucin / mucus. Is the surgeon saying that the cancer mass he was expecting was not there and instead he found mucus? Or that the cancer cells were transformed into mucus?
My strong suspicion is that your surgeon is indeed a colorectal specialist, but in solid-mass tumours. What you are describing has the hallmark of Mucinous Adenocarcinoma, which more commonly appears in younger patients, is difficult to diagnose / observe with biopsy, the mass is more than 50% mucus, is less responsive to chemotherapy with the more mucus that is secreted and is best detected via MRI. The mucus is believed to aid in the spread of the cancer.
I’m very concerned that they went in expecting to find a solid mass, but were surprised to find mucus…aka Mucinous Adenocarcinoma. Please seek a second opinion, privately. Biopsies are known to be especially unreliable for this type of cancer. The fact this is again his suggestion in six weeks concerns me all the more. MRI is best for this type of cancer…
We are more than willing to support you should you seek a private consultation. Please take immediate action and seek a specialist private opinion.
Yes I noticed that she said the surgeon said the cancer cells turned into mucin/mucus
@@YouAreMySunshine2 I'm struggling to wrap my head around that statement, I don't understand how that can be. I suspect she means that a large volume of the tumour is made of mucus...
I was thinking exactly the same. But I cannot believe her surgeon is not considering that possibility. It should be impossible. According to her, he is a top oncological surgeon in one of the best oncological hospitals in Europe. I just don't understand....
Omg I hope she sees this comment, thank you for sharing this information it is so important. I have been so worried and find myself coming back to read the comments as I just can’t believe he recommended a wait and see approach
@A Zapater We have that confusion in common. I really really hope that he’s not just a specialist for solid mass tumours…perhaps he gave her advice and explanations which she hasn’t communicated clearly to us! In the excitement of it all, that’s certainly possible. I’m really hoping for her!
Tiffany I had a very similar cancer to you and had radiation and 3 months of chemo then big surgery then 12 more months of chemo. That was 21 years ago! Please have the surgery and in 6 weeks you will be 6 weeks post op with your life in front of you❤️ xoxoE
Well said Eileen
Well said!
Dear sweet Tiffany. I have been following your journey and praying for you since the beginning. I don't often comment, but I feel compelled to now. I would have very serious concerns about a wait-and-see approach with such an advanced and aggressive cancer, especially considering you just had scans. Did you ask the surgeon what the scans showed? I know from personal experience that biopsies are far from perfect: they can and do miss what they are looking for. Like others here, I find many aspects of your health care concerning. I live in the United States, and it seems crazy to me how long they have made you wait, put you off, and failed to prioritize you in some of your most dire hours of need. Please seriously consider what your Tiffany Thinks family is saying. Yes, miracles do happen, but God also speaks through others, and personally, I believe He is speaking through these comments. At minimum, it would be prudent to get a second opinion ASAP, even if you have to pay privately. Others here are right that if you start a GoFundMe, the cost will be covered in no time. You are such a beautiful person, and we are all rooting for you. We support you, Tiffany! God bless. 💙
If it were me or my darling husband, I would want the surgery yesterday. Take everything out. Don’t take the risk. It’s like you’re living with a ticking time bomb. You are so young and beautiful, and you are so loved. Do everything you can to get rid of it once and for all. God bless you and your sweet family.
So far, there is nearly 7.5k comments on this video, more comments than on any of Tiffany's other videos. That shows the strength love and concern people have for Tiffany. I looked up this surgery and I can fully understand why Tiffany is scared. I also found people who had had the surgery and are so glad they did. They had to adjust to a new way of living, but they were living and they were happy. I pray Tiffany will take the same path they did.
Dear sweet Tiffany, I am so happy with your report today. I am so greatful that you have a Strong and Unshakable Faith. I don’t know you personally, but I care deeply about you, your health, your pain and your future with your family. I hope that this message somehow reaches you and you get the opportunity to read it. I have been reading the comments for the past hour. Tiffany, NOT ONE single loving soul who has commented here, believes, thinks, feels….in ANY way, that you should wait to have the surgery…NOT ONE! For me and I’m sure everyone else here that is Faith based in their life; this is a clear sign that something is not right here. I would never think that I nor anyone else should make this decision for you sweet Tiffany. However, May I suggest a few things: Please get a second opinion Yesterday, please get a new set of whole body scans including a Pet scan Yesterday. Life is so fleeting and brief. Cancer is merciless and aggressive especially when it is fed with inaction. Prayers, hugs, and Love from Texas.💕💐❤️
she has had loads of in action, i say no surgery, her docter says no surgery, if you have faith ,that you immune system i,s taking care of the cacer, there seems to be none, why have surgery
Concur wholeheartedly 👏 🙌 👌 👍 ❤
Amen
I also told her that exactly! NOT1 person thinks she should wait! I hope she reconsiders her decision. I have a bad feeling that I can't shake. Call it intuition, but it scares me so much!
@@susansuarez343 Here's one cancer patient who waited and dodged the knife. ME. Wait
In the kindest way possible to say this .... can Matt and Amma live with the regret that would come, should you find in 6 weeks you have an inoperable cancer? Or, it has spread? That is the risk of "taking the gamble" ..... if you "win" you win so very much. But if you "lose" you may lose your life.
Have the surgery. Please don't wait. It's up to you in the end but ..... my 2 cents worth - surgery now. God Bless you all xxx
Bless you Tiffany. My personal opinion as a retired nurse is to go through with the surgery as soon as possible. I know its easy for us to say but you have been through the mill already. Please dont risk the cancer spreading if there is any left in there. Praying your decision is the right one. We will all support you xxx
Dearest Tiffany, the last few days must have been sooo stressful, not to mention the last 24 hrs with the Tiff family sharing their suggestions and concerns. Tiff you have opened a window and invited us into your life and we love you and are grateful for the access. Given that, our suggestions and concerns are coming a place of love.
There are so many many unanswered questions and honestly I feel lost. But here goes, ur first Dr messed up from January 2021 u had symptoms and was given a clear diagnosis in September 2021- which meant growth n an enormous time had passed in which more could have been done. Fast forward to now, your current Dr did chemo n radiation first to shrink and tht didn’t happened and their he requested chemo again to keep the disease ( forgive, I struggle to say the name be it as caused my family so much heart aches n pain) from spreading, u completed the chemo cycle. Not withstanding this, all the above that u were doing or better yet have been doing is in preparation for SURGERY. You have been powering through and staying positive because you want the surgery to get it out of you n to be free of the disease that as always been your goal. The Dr them requested a biopsy and colonoscopy to check what’s going on with the disease.
Yesterday, you gave us the finding and your decision. Tiffany, I don’t know what is going on but BUT SOMETHING IS VERY WRONG, MAYBE WE ARE NOT BEING PREVI TO ALL THE INFORMATION AND THATS FINE. I don’t see any form of urgency in getting this tumor out of your body, think about it you have waited an entire year( it’s September now) and nothing concrete as been done. Why would your Dr give you 6 wks, need I say without treatment to wait and see!!! WAIT AND SEE !!! THIS DISEAS IS INSIDIOUS and is ever changing and looking fr new ways and avenues to destroy and create havoc. From my experience with manyyy family members there is even massive change in a day at times let alone six wks. 6 wks and see if it’s completely gone??? Is tht possible?? 6 wks it might spread or BE INOPERABLE- how can this be measure the cost n benefit- it’s very clear WHAT YOUR LIFE SAVING OPTION is.
My question sis what is he not telling you, what are is new concerns, because if he has it’ best he be honest with you.. TIME IS NOT YOUR FRIEND- IF THE WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY FOR SURGERY IS AVAILABLE, HE SHOULD SAID TIFF WE HAVE A WINDOW LETS DO IT. There are red flags, Tiff!!
T you said that research scares you but I think it’s time that you get more involve in your care in terms of knowing what the disease is pros and cons so you are better advocate for your self. The older I get the more I see the importance of ADVOCATING FOR YOUR SELF.
There is a shortage of beds and hospital staff so surgeries and procedures are being pushed around so be careful.
Your cousin is a Dr and you love and trust her dearly, if I may suggest that she goes back with you to your Dr and let him explain everything (MRI/PETSCAN/BIOPSY ETC) again to both you and her; she being a Dr would better able to explain your prognosis and what your options are.
Tiff Pelvic Exenteraion surgery is an extensive surgery, YOUR FEAR AND CONCERNS regarding your future is real, we can’t beginning to imagine difficulty you are facing right now. So take some time get a second opinion if you must and often time it’s good. You are experiencing a host of emotions right now and THATS ok , but take control of your health n exhaust every resources in the process to and the right decision for you. Drs are human and they make mistake at times, do your own research so you can make an informed decision.
Like the rest of the Tiff family, I’m with getting the surgery; life changes moment to moment, SURGERY IS THE GOLD STANDARD FOR THE TYPE OF DISEASE THAT YOU HAVE DONT LET THIS WINDOW CLOSE.Tiff.
I see many many people share their own experiences as well as experiences of their loved ones. Drs, nurses, scientists, and a host of medical personnels shared their thoughts, expertise, n experience all in an effort to help. I do hope you actually get the chance to read some of these comments.
I do hope you go back to the drawing board with your cousin(Dr) and other persons who are knowledgeable about the disease process who will help you make an informed decision.
Tiff, we love n care you; all the best to you, Matt and Amma- GOD BLESS
Excellent really. Education is needed they are so scared to learn about this kind of cancer. Read learn read more everyday. It’s a must also my suggestion is for Matt too. You guys are young you can learn fast please educate yourselves first and ask your doctor all the right questions. Record it. Make a note what ever it takes.
@@lizgephart2040 thoroughly agree with this post!
Exactly !!
Dear Tiffany,
I’ve been closely following your journey throughout, and like many of your followers, I’m so inspired by you! I’ve never commented, but feel so led to share my thoughts.
Pelvic exenteration is a radical and life-altering surgery, so I understand why you want to delay, and hold onto as much function as possible…if indeed it is a possibility. As a fellow believer, I understand your desire to trust in God.
However, you have waited so much in the process, many of these extended waits without treatment. You have yourself urged the team to give you chemo at points. Even in this potential six week “wait and see” there is no talk of treatment. I heard you asking “there’s no point in doing more chemo in the meantime?” The surgeon said “no, not in the meantime.” How can that be?
I think it’s important to read between the lines here. Why isn’t the surgeon advocating treatment or further scans or a less invasive surgical option? I’ve never known for such extensive periods of no-treatment when a patient isn’t in remission. What is to be gained by waiting? Why can’t he repeat the biopsy sooner? Or rely on a PET-CT. That’s the more typical diagnostic tool.
A logical answer lies squarely in the state of the NHS. There aren’t enough beds, staff or funds, so they’ll defer if they can. If I recall, many specialists would be needed in your surgery, is that perhaps why he proposes delay? There’s something that’s not being said. This might not be in your best interests in the long run. Alternatively, it’s that he’s resigned to the fact that for an aggressive Stage 3b Adenocarcinoma (and at your age) all roads eventually lead to this exenteration surgery; but all other hope must be exhausted first before a patient can come to terms with it.
Please seek out a private consultation, whether in the UK or abroad. The hospital can give you copies of your MRI, PET scan and bloods. In some cases, you might even get a video recording from the camera. Within days you can have a second opinion from a colorectal oncologist.
Six weeks is far too long and my spirit is not at ease with the decision and what has been said. The cancer has not disappeared, it’s pretty safe to assume the scans showed this. The best case is a less invasive surgery, not no surgery at all. Please find a private specialist, their opinion will be unbiased and free of any cost / staffing considerations.
Much love from a fellow Londoner xx
Just a quick bit of research on Mucinous Adenocarcinoma (MAC): “MAC is often easy to miss during a biopsy and may be more easily spotted using magnetic resonance imaging (MRI).”
Please seek a second opinion from a colorectal specialist experienced in Mucinous Adenocarcinoma xx
My spirit is very much not at ease with this either. I am concerned.
@@SB-yc5qj so agree with with her seeking second opinion
I completely agree. The wait a d see approach does not sit well with me. Tiffany, please seek out further specialist opinion, even if outside the UK.
Great comment 👍🏾
Tiffany , if it were me or anyone in my family I’d get the surgery asap . There is No Way it’s gone & I’m sure the PET scan confirmed that . Getting a negative surface biopsy means nothing . The fact that you bled so much & the mucus like consistency makes me believe after being in medical field for 30 years that you are risking your life by waiting 6 weeks . If you get the surgery it will ge rough but you’re young & you’ll recover . If you wait & it spreads & becomes inoperable you don’t have a chance . Get a second opinion. This may be your only window to gray this monster . We are all praying for you but don’t get false reassurance because if the “ power of prayer” . You are way to young to succumb to this cancer .
Praying for you & your family to come to the best decision for you 💙🙏
I had the same thought. Not taking the surgery seems like offering a punctured inflatable to a man lost at sea. Short term gain, long-term pain.
Gemma this is one of the most sensiblest and straight to the point replies I’ve seen,we all love tiff and want the best possible outcome for her,I agree,too much of a gamble to wait,as you say it will be tough,very tough you are young tiff but it will be worth it in the end.💙🙏xxxx
So much can happen in six weeks. Covid waves, infection, surgeon changed his mind, metastasis, delays in tests. She has cancer and without surgery, it is not going away. I am not sure how anyone can think that she can be cured without surgery. God gave us science and medicine to heal us. Not prayers alone are needed.
She needs someone to tell her the truth being nice won't make her change her mind
Gemma I hope she reads your comment you couldn't have worded that better well said
Tiff, I’d have the surgery and know that I had done all proactive things to conquer this. Please think carefully and do what is right for you though and we are here for you no matter what x
Yeah, in cancer, you have to act fast. Both my family members that deccided to put off surgery had it spready with in 3-6 weeks. Pancreatic cancer on one and breast cancer on the other. Both became metastatic within such a short time, going to the liver and lungs. Not trying to scare anyone. Just stating experience.
Im wondering if because they can't find any cancer, that, in her case, she is responding well to treatment so it is not likely to spread?