Disclaimer: This is a reminder that this video is written by our autistic specialist writer and is based on his experiences and the experiences of others on the spectrum and is voiced by Amanda.
Hi, I'm the writer of this episode! Hope you all found it insightful. For all autistic viewers, if we do a follow-up episode, what else would you like everyone else to know about autism?
Love on the spectrum, or autism and relationships. Even if we appear very rigid and unapproachable and awkward and appear creepy but... once you get to know us we are a very laid back and chilled bunch. At least, I am anyways.
If we don't want to eat some food, it's more likely to be because of the texture, rather than us not wanting to try something another has made for us. I've came across this situation a few times, they thought I was turning it down out of politeness, but really I just cannot handle that texture. It does for none-food and drink items too, ofc, but I think that's definitely already been covered. (人 •͈ᴗ•͈)
WAIT I HAVE ONE BETTER! Well kinda two- Autism Speaks ≠ good. IDK if this just shows where I live, but this is a major issue, people trust it and it's essentially telling us to shut up and let others do the talking without our input. Plus, "Autism Awareness". We don't like it. People ARE aware, but they do not accept. Autism Acceptance is what it is now, because autism awareness says nothing about accepting, only that "hey, this thing exists and it's different". Also we're not that different. Every person is different, otherwise the world would be boring, so we... We're literally just people. I don't get the whole separate "us" from "them". We're all human jerks anyways.
Or not liking specific things/feeling like throwing up when we see something we, abnormally, see as repulsive. I'm not sure if that's an autistic thing or just a me thing, tho...
As an autistic person watching this, I deadass teared up because these are things that more people really need to understand, incredible video and major props to Brian Cham for the amazing script
As an autistic person it is hard sometimes to not make people uncomfortable by uncanny valley. I wasn’t diagnosed until recently and it was really hard living with the guilt of not being “normal” I always felt like I had to act like everybody else and I was always shamed for not being like everybody else as well. I’ve had lots of nights where I would just cry in my room because of it. I always hated getting told “why don’t you go spend some time with friends?” Meanwhile when I tried making friends whomever I was talking to would just scoot away from me and glare at me. I have rejection trauma from all the times I was told that I was weird and told to go away. It was hard to adjust to the realization that I wasn’t normal, it was very hard to let myself enjoy my special interests as well without feeling guilt. I’m slowly learning how to let myself enjoy life but it gets hard when people just treat you like your a child and call you a retard..
I have ADHD and my brother has Autism. Honestly i made some of these mistakes growing up, but since we both have been practicing communicating better, I was able to stop or avoid these. I actually feel more comfortable with people like us. I'm glad this video was made.
Timestamps 1). We're not all geniuses 1:01 2). We're not all beyond hope 1:47 3). We're just as varied as you 2:40 4). We're not trying to make you uneasy 3:31 5). We're often more not-okay than we let on 6:27 6). Our reality is not your jokes 7:33 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
@@Psych2go You are right. But I feel the need to apologize for leaving the timestamps unfinished for 1 or 2 hours because my grandmother need to go to the doctor's so I want with her.
As an autistic person, thank you!! Autism is so incredibly stereotyped, stigmatized and misunderstood that it hurts to hear people talk about it in a certain way and treat me or other autistic people differently. It needs to be more normalized, there are A LOT of autistic people out there and all of us are different and have different traits and areas we struggle in
yeah, but at least you have a stereotype like "you all are geniuses", ADHD folks, like myself, always have to hear "oh, you have ADHD, that means you are stupid." Sure you guys struggle with that stereotype and i am sorry for that, but people with ASD are way more privileged than we are( i am not saying your situation is good), so please stop ignoring that.
well, one thing that i really dislike is autistic people calling others "dumber" or "weirder." I have seen it at my school which, keep in mind, is a school tailored to kids who need more supports and accommodations. But I can relate to most of these things in the video. The biggest is sensory overload. But I struggle most with anxiety. I am diagnosed with severe anxiety and... it ain't fun.
@@Mykium oh shut up and stop generalizing and saying we are "more privileged", neither of these things are better than the other and they both have their own problems. people definitely call autistic folks stupid and slow as well. (sorry for bad english and i really don't mean to be terribly rude but it's fucking annoying saying things like this)
I have heard of autism like 10 years ago from a friend, and when the friend told me about its symptoms, I thought it was a form of brain cancer or mental illness. As time passed, I just realized it's just normality but tweaked, ups and downs. Thanks for the video, Amanda, Brian, and the team.
Thanks for the video❤. I am a 18-years-old autisctic girl. In my country, Hungary, misbeliefs and labelling are more common, but I hope, videos, like this, slowly make them dissapear.
My sisters fiancé is in the spectrum and he has turned his life into a running joke because in his view “if I’m the one making the jokes they aren’t as hurtful or derogatory” which I can understand and respect. It’s good to see him and her together in my opinion bc it’s proof that anyone can have a happy life with whoever they choose
It still hurts when the jokes make assumptions of one's ability. My brother once made a joke about my blindness (half blind since birth). Now, I make blind jokes, all the time, but I never imply I cannot see at all. He did. It hurt, and I told him it wasn't funny... He also used to make jokes about dead babies, so yeah... And we're both on the spectrum, but I think he might go on to develop NPD because he's become the golden child to our birth giver.
Honestly the reason i dislike any other autistic groups is because they're so fucking soft, i mean seriously they get offended and break down over the dumbest shit and it makes me angry. I would like for the general use of autism as an insult because it spreads lots of misinformation, but also, don't be a bitch, bitches make this life the most difficult it can be.
Autistic person here, I completely agree with the things said in this video! Just today, I laughed and smiled unintentionally when my friend showed me something sad, despite me finding it sad as well. It took me a few seconds to realize, but once I did, I froze from anxiety and worry that they would think I was mocking them. It makes me so happy that you are spreading awareness about that and the other things mentioned ❤ Edit: Realized I should mention this is all entirely genuine! For me, it seemed obvious it was genuine, but I have no idea when someone will or won't read it that way. I feel kinda silly, my brain went: Oh! Why didn't I add that? The comment was entirely about that!
It's hard for me to know when others are joking. I'm not diagnosed on the spectrum but it seems like anxiety is commonly there. I also laugh at the wrong things, even if i feel sorry for someone.
It's hard for me to take things literally sometimes, and I feel like kids get annoyed by that. I have been diagnosed, and the video made me really happy that your spreading the word about autism. The things you said in the video are true, those do happen.
Thank you for making this comment! When I’m really upset or in distress, my mom will sometimes accuse me of faking being sad, and I’m start smiling and laughing a little, despite me not faking it. I had no clue that this was related to my autism, and you comment made me feel really seen!
I think I am really lucky to live in The Netherlands (where I am, at least), because I do not remember feeling or experiencing these things myself (as an autistic teenager). We have ‘special schools’ that are adjusted just for people on the autism spectrum, ADHD and more (although I don’t know if this is good or worse). I do agree with the communication part kind of, I mostly don’t say anything because I am 90% sure nobody is interested in it or will understand what I am trying to say. I am namely interested in puzzles, more specifically research, logic, encryption etc. And, I have a question: Can any variation on the autism spectrum cause you to be more gullible (trust other people more easily)?
@@scorpionhdkid8972 being more easily trusting is a very common symptom of autism. so is not trusting anyone, because if you can't tell when someone isn't being genuine and you get hurt because of that, then its a good idea to assume everyone that's trying to talk to you has bad intentions.
I'm autistic, and here's a few things I wish people knew about me and my condition: 1: just because I have autism does not mean I am incapable of being a customer service worker. Interacting with customers can be difficult and even frustrating at times, and it certainly didn't come natural to me. But as long as I am trained in what to say and when to say it, and I am allowed a short break during longer shifts, I am perfectly capable of performing my duties proficiently. You just need to give me the chance. 2: If I call in sick, it's not because I'm lazy and/or inconsiderate of my coworkers. Quite the opposite, actually. I care about other people so much that I would rather put my financial wellbeing on the line than put people around me in danger of getting sick and/or hurt as a result of me showing up. 3: just because I have autism doesn't mean I am incapable of empathy. I have the opposite problem. I am incapable of turning my empathy off. This is the reason why I don't perform my music for funerals, because I'd be unable to keep my emotions under control long enough to get through the song. 4: trying not to fidget is like trying not to scratch an itch. Attempting such feats makes me less likely to be able to pay attention to you. It has nothing to do with my honesty, my level of interest in the conversation, or my opinion about you. It's just something I do. 5: don't be surprised when my eyes start to wander during conversation with you. Like the fidgeting, it has nothing to do with attentiveness or honesty. If you are wanting to check if I am paying attention, ask me to paraphrase what you just said. And keep in mind that from the moment the words "look at me when I'm talking to you" escapes your lips, every word after that will go in one ear and out the other. 6: if I am violating your personal bubble, please tell me. I am more than happy to adjust my distance for the sake of your comfort if you will politely inform me of the issue. 7: I am a human being. That means that there are things that I am good at and things that I struggle with. And I will make mistakes.
I would have to add that training takes longer for those of us with autism. It has nothing to do with we can't do the job. We can, but more than a few things at a time can be a bit overwhelming. It takes time for us to get adjusted. We will be able to do it all.
As a high functioning person on the spectrum. I can relate to this so hard. One thing that was different for me is that instead of just masking the whole time i went the less stressful route of not talking to people and ignoring those who did to me. Going into second year of my bachelors rn, its biting me in the butt a bit, but im working on it slowly. Hope this makes any reader on the spectrum feel related to :)
I hate being me and love being me at the same time it's hard battling the suicidal thoughts as they keep coming back more and more often and frequent. I'm a half assed piece of shit basically.
@@anoraktheblack nope, ran into housing issues and had to drop out. Ended up deciding college wasnt for me anyways, and am now holding down a temporary job before eventually going into finish carpentry. :)
Thank you as well. I'm pushing 50 and was only diagnosed about 12 years ago. You accurately and succinctly described how complex and complicated my social life is, more than I ever could on my own. I hope to share your video with folks who don't know what it's like so they can understand ASD and people like me better. Gently, though; wouldn't want to force it on anyone!
The first point hits hard. When I was diagnosed as high functioning as a kid, my mom was convinced I was some innate savant, and it led to years of severe pressure to perform well until she eventually just “gave up” on me when I wasn’t able to live up to those expectations. It led to severe depressive episodes during my teenage years from the feelings of inadequacy and feeling like a failure and burden to society, and sowed a lot of animosity between me and my parents I’m doing a lot better now thankfully, but as an adult I can confirm that, no, there’s nothing particularly “gifted” about me. I’m just a dude trying to figure out this minefield called life, just like everyone else
I was put into a lot of gifted programs as a kid. I didn't learn about my diagnosis until recently. It made a lot make sense. Some of my friends asking "you didn't know?" Was a bit of a trip. Did everyone know but me!? Lol
I cannot stress how accurate the 4th point is, it makes it so much harder when you going through a sensory overload, honestly just hearing I'm not the only one means alot
as autist, i agree with every single one of these and would like to add that we also enjoy specific things a lot, other side of the spectrum with ADHD can focus on several things at once but us autists dont i myself hyper-focus on 1 thing and get it done faster (and more precise) then most people, and i can memorise theories and explanations really easily i had an adhd classmate and while i was repeating the theory of what needed to be done he went and did it fully (sometimes mid-explanation) and we just made an awesome team
Thank you for your comment. What is it like working with young adults with autism? In your opinion, was the video accurate in describing autism and its characteristics?
The bit about the "well meaning experts" really hit hard. I have spent my whole life in and out of psychologist offices, speech pathologist offices and padetrician offices. And not one have shown empathy towards me and my experience on spectrum. The only reason why I feel different is because of them constantly drumming into me that I'm abnormal and that I burden everyone around me. These are the people who we go to for support and facts. They have the ability to influence people's perception of autism. They could easily say "It's just autism. No go about your day." But they don't. They actively chose to portray us as freaks. They refuse to evolve even when a lot of what they say about the spectrum is turning out to be not true. It angers me how psychologists and specialists will go on and on about how we fail to understand human emotion (an observation that is completely false btw), and yet they can sit there and make us feel like lesser human beings and not care about the emotional distress they put us through. It's beyond hypocritical!
as an Autistic person i can totally agree, these "experts" always dig to deep and make us believe that we are nothing, a cast out, and what both angers and saddens me is that I've seen some of this info be passed down from experts, to teachers, to students, and with how kids bastardise things to no end you can start to see the snowball effect of negativity surrounding Autistic people, and the worst part is that i was Autistic diagnosed while being in middle to high school, it always felt like no one understood or cared and these kids are going to go on with this negative knowledge and then pass that down. and don't get me started ON THE PEOPLE WHO FAKE IT FOR ATTENTION, VIEWS OR BEING ""QUIRKY""
@@ThePurpleAxolotl2002As a fellow autistic person, I read what you typed, and I felt it in my soul. I’m actually going through high school right now. And, before you ask, no, I’m not put in special education of any kind, because I was deemed “high functioning.” It’s completely impossible to make any friends, because everyone else is either normal, or pretending to be (like me). In fact, when this video came out, I wrote a comment about how we’ve spread all the awareness we can, and how it’s about time we start spreading some acceptance. Because people being aware isn’t doing a lot for many of us. They spend a little time with us, realize we’re “different,” and instead of actually accepting that, they go out of their way to avoid us. Or even worse, they spread untrue information, and just like the news, it spreads because it makes people angry. And each and every tweak from person to person is designed to make people angrier. All of this could be stopped if we just spread some acceptance rather than awareness.
Yeah. Honestly, stuff like this is bunk. Especially when a teacher or social worker tells you, "you have autism, you can't help it." That was the case for me. My school hired a social worker named Mrs. Reddick. She was not a good social worker, in the sense that she let me get away with anything. Whatever I did, she would just let me watch Madagascar or something. She constantly told me, "you have autism, you can't help doing what you did." She wasn't even fired. She just left one day.
This is honestly something I'm afraid of dealing with which is why I've been avoiding seeking out an official diagnosis. Especially since I was diagnosed with ADHD at a young age and it only somewhat recently became possible to get a diagnosis for both disorders at once. So I'm just worried that whatever psychologist I go to will dismiss me based off of these stereotypes or based off of the old standard about not being able to have both ADHD and autism at the same time.
I have autism myself and I can confirm that this is pretty accurate. Got diagnosed with adhd and autism at a very young age. Once admitted to a special needs school, I excelled and was called a gifted child. A genius. And even when I started to fail more and more during high school, that label stuck to me. Not in a "wow, you're doing such a good job!" type of way, but in a "you're supposed to be on this level. Get off your ass and work". And for the past decade or so, I've just been slowly burning myself out more and more just to please others and seek approval. Nobody took me serious whenever I complained about how tired I am or how I'm not doing well at all. They still don't. Like, they'll still expect me to go to work with migraines or after puking. Only a heavy 2 hour bloody nose is one of the consistent things they let me stay home for. But simple exhaustion? Suck it up and sleep when you get back home. Please guys. If there's one thing I want you all to do, it's listen to the autistic people. Listen to what they tell you their boundaries are, to what their difficulties are. Help them when they ask for it. We're 24/7 masking to make you normies feel comfortable. The least you can do is make us feel comfortable and help when we ask for it. Also, NEVER USE THE R WORD TO DESCRIBE US.
I'm autistic! I felt so seen when you talked about masking our struggles and analyzing social circumstances to try to gauge appropriate responses! I'd add that it hurts to be told we're "not autistic" by people who think we're too "normal." That "normal" is something I've crafted over decades based on observations, and it's difficult to maintain.
✨ Timestamps and Major Points ✨ 1. 1:01 We're not all geniuses 2. 1:48 We're not all beyond hope 3. 2:40 We're just as varied as you 4. 3:32 We're not trying to make you uneasy 5. 6:27 We're often more not okay than we let on 6. 7:36 Our reality is not your joke Some Tips I Have: Please remember to be kind and respectful to people with autism! They struggle immensely with communication and it's not easy for them to act "normal" by society's standards. Don't make sudden movements or touch them without their permission. Make sure to respect boundaries and try your best not to judge them. Make sure to be direct and clear with your thoughts and try to avoid sarcasm or jokes they might not understand. Of course, every person with autism is unique in their own way, so it's difficult to meet everyone's preferences, but try to maintain these things when talking to someone with autism. It can really help them! Please be kind and remember there is still a human with real emotions and thoughts there.
So true!!! It's dreadful when some people assume that people with autism "lack empathy" or buy into the myth that people with autism are clueless about what's going on because they don't react in neurotypical ways.
Also, most people with autism _DO_ understand jokes, humor and understand sarcasm, even if they don't laugh or otherwise respond. That's another myth we need to do away with of people with autism not understanding humor. We are sensitive to sarcasm and often are sensitive to backhanded jokes or backhanded complements.
as someone who is trying to get a diagnosis to see if I'm on the spectrum or not, (I can't really be sure) it is nice to see videos talking about that the spectrum exists! Some people just think of extreme or romanticized versions of this condition.
Yeah like we all aren’t the same and in most media we are either only showed like we can’t function at all or we are super smart. Like can we have one that just have some person in the middle of it? Tbh that could be a fun main character to follow for some because it would have struggles not everyone deals with
@@audreydoyle5268however though in some cases people are trying to convince themselves they have it, so they can use it as an excuse. It's sort of being romanticised, which is where I have a problem
As someone with autism/adhd, thank you for making this video. I’m glad more awareness is being raised to what the experiences of asd are actually like. Experiencing the world is really hard when I always feel I need to meet expectations set by everyone else to support their beliefs; sometimes I’ve believed some of the stereotypes said in the video myself. So thanks for making this video not just for others to figure out what autism really means, but for those like me wanting to know their place in the world 🙂
Thank you so much for this! I'm autistic myself, and I definitely appreciate this. I happen to be 36 and did struggle with sui*idal (trying to avoid UA-cam censors, unsure if necessary) thoughts for a long time. I didn't realise it was so common among those of us on the spectrum. I am definitely sharing this with friends and family.
I hope you’re much better and congratulations! Fellow autistic here and I wanted to let you know that at least one person in the world loves you with all their weird heart
@@clckc Thank you. I am definitely in a much better place these days. It's been a few years since I "got out of the Dark Woods", as I refer to it. I hope you know I appreciate that you exist as the amazing and unique person that you are.
@@clckc Virtual hug. (I have an image from the webcomic "El Goonish Shive" that I share with online friends for virtual hugs. It involves the character Susan giving a hug, which is a big thing for her because she's not typically comfortable with being touched. The webcomic is really good and has a great fandom around it.)
As someone with autism (Aspergers) i get judged often and i cant socialize very well, i often feel alone with no one because im afraid of driving them away, their weird is my normal, their creepy is normal to me, and it makes me furious that all they do is throw my autism around and call it just being a creep and a weirdo, not understanding that every day my mental state gets worse as my "fuse" gets shorter and i continue to shut the world out due to the stress and the constant reminder that i am not normal and when i hear not normal, i hear "you are a problem" and it hurts, more than a bullet ever will, school is hell, home is hell, even the time i spend in my room is mostly filled with me trying to calm down my mind due to me also haveing adhd, the combination of the two illnesses is hell on earth, a dance that looks normal to someone with your same illness but looks incredibly stupid to "normal" people.
Hey, you seem like a very thoughtful and smart person, I hope you find the help and rest you need. I think my younger brother is on the same situation as yours, i honestly just would like to know how to make it better as his bigger sister, it's hard for me to not know how to act around him and I think I might be hurting him with my ignorance like everyone around us does, any advice?
@@montanoriveracamilapaula8439 im not very good at giving advice but here, my best advice is hear them out. a lot of people don't do this and that leads to more problems. Saying from experience. Hope you find this a little bit helpful
@@montanoriveracamilapaula8439 "with my ignorance" You know, how about just listening to him? That's how you deal with ignorance. Just let him explain what bothers him the most, no matter how stupid it may seem, and how silly his explanation might sound. Just listen and try to "be in his shoes" while doing so, projecting his fears and worries on yourself, ignoring all the idiotic stigmas and preconceptions you might have. That's all it takes, really. Not hard at all.
These are not "illnesses" and never have been. Life demands biodiversity, non-fatal mutations happen for a very good reason. As for normality, it is entirely subjective. Everyone has their own, and that's what you build your life around for minimal issues. Good mental healthcare specialists fully understand this and it's how they diagnose ASD and ADHD, as well as provide aid to people with serious mental conditions. DBT is based entirely around this and is proven to be more effective than "normal" CBT, especially for this type of patients. And if you surround yourself with blind, egocentric cretins and insist on becoming "friends" with them, that's a "you" problem, honestly. If there is literally no one who even makes attempts to understand you, then do not seek any contact with them past strictly business one, know when to say "no" and build boundaries. Finally, if your parents don't give a damn about your struggles and refuse to listen (did you actually make any constructive attempts at dialogue and not just tantrums?), well, every school is legally required to have a counselor. Go to them, explain your issues. Do _not_ worry about anything, just do it. Nobody will advocate for you, if you do not start doing it yourself. There are good people everywhere, they're just a dying breed. If you do find someone like that, likely another ASD/ADHD person, do not let go. They want good people in their lives, too, but are too shy about it.
The 2nd one was true. My brother is autistic and when he was born, the doctors said he would never be able to read or even walk, and yet he still lives like an average person.
As a teacher, I am often in contact with ADHD children and adults... but I must confess, Autism is generally harder to spot, and is often misjudged as being rude, lacking of interest, coldness and weirdness. Some people are easier to "read", some are harder, and some of their behaviours can be mistaken. I myself isn't free of blame, and make mistakes, taking one behaviour for another and labelling someone as "being rude and impolite" without thinking it could be a condition.
Oh man that's a big one. If we can find so much as one person who we feel like we can take a break around and take off the disguise and just be ourselves around, what a relief that would be.
Thanks for the video! I'm 15, and was diagnosed with ASD type aspergers high functioning at six I think and let me tell you, most if not all of this is true. It is good to know people are being educated about autism.
I am on the spectrum and was diagnosed at around ten years old. I have to say this video got a lot of things right, but there are a few things that I want to comment on from my personal experience to kind of broaden the ideas here. Firstly, I have never had an issue interacting with the police. Often times I will outright say to people of authority (not exclusively law enforcement) that I get anxious during social interactions, so they can have a better understanding of my mannerisms. Either way, I am always eager to help them out when they ask for information or details. However, I have not dealt with the United States police, which I know are particularly rough when it comes to these things, so take that with a grain of salt. Secondly, I do not mind 'offensive' jokes about autism, because I make them myself. I find that dark and satirical humour is quite healthy to express, as it helps me cope and process bad or heavy situations in our world, and (ironically to some) helped me overcome some of my personal insecurities. This is not just limited to the spectrum of course, but finding a little bit of humour in an otherwise bleak situation is probably the most human thing we can do to continue on. That said, serious blatant insults made in a specifically non-joking fashion are definitely inexcusable, no doubt there. However, that should not detract from genuinely good people, friends, and even other people on the spectrum attempting to have some light-hearted fun about this topic. Of course, boundaries should be respected, and forcing these jokes onto people who are uncomfortable with them is not okay. All this is to say that not all people on the spectrum are going to be offended by these jokes, and may even play along if they enjoy this type of humour. Most of my peers who are on the spectrum certainly enjoy it but are also not afraid to speak up if a step was made too far.
I'm on the spectrum too, 6 months ago I would have disagreed with your world view but today I agree. I was terrible at socializing. And guess what I got better at it, and in a reasonable amount of time in fact. I have a feeling most of our weirdness comes from some snowball effect. At least I'm not nearly as weird as I thought I'd have to be forever
I definitely agree with the "finding humor in bleak situations" thing! I have 3 anxiety disorders, with 2 potentially being caused by an underlying disease. I am always joking and poking fun at my anxiety 😂 It's physically based, not mentally (except social anxiety) so I tend to joke about how I'll literally be chilling and then BAM, panic attack, and I'm just sitting there like "the heck??" (and rolling with it ofc lol). Or even "the heck was that for man??" after a round 😂 It helps me cope a lot!
Thanks very much for your input, it was very enlightening. I am just starting to learn about autism and I think that talking to autistic people is the best way to learn about it. I appreciate learning from you and will keep your advice in my mind.
I’d love a good autism joke, frankly I make pretty some myself. But throwing around the terms autist and disabled like people have thrown around gay and f@g is not okay. Of course, not all people are ableist, most are actually just uneducated. But that fact sadly doesn’t make it hurt less to listen to.
Amanda's voice is healing, the videos are nice to watch with great information but I would be lying if I said I wasn't mainly here to hear her voice because it's honestly therapeutic.
Hey, I'm from Germany and I'm autistic, too. Great to see, that this topic gets its own video 😊 I like to point out that because autism is a spectrum and contains a lot of varieties of different difficulties and strengths, the simple bar from left to right - even if coulorful - is not really fitting to show the diversity of autism. It can give the impression of a high and low end of functioning levels nevertheless. I think to better show how diverse every autistic Person is, you could use a diagram/chart that contains different areas that are higher or lower. With that you can see how everyone of us has different shapes of their autism 😄 (Even that does not really do it because even those different areas and how difficult they are for us can vary from day to day but it's much better than the simple bar from low to high funcioning)
This was awesome. As an autistic person I approve, and hope you do more videos on us in the future. Including debunking other myths and discussing autism and relationships + autism and sex. People think we’re perpetually toddlers, but autistic kids grow up to be autistic adults, complete with sex drives.
As an autistic individual I’m really glad that I don’t have to voice this… it’s not easy to mask, but I’ve noticed that I do it a lot with my family but I don’t around my bf, we’re both on the spectrum so we try to figure out more about each other’s special interests and special “quirks” or tells.
This is the most I have ever related to a comment, like ever! I do the exact same thing with my parents (not internally) but not my gf since we are both on spectrum and I feel more like I can be more open with my emotions when with her.
Excellent video! As an autistic person, I have struggled with all of these things, so I really appreciate your description of what life is like for autistic people. It's quite accurate.
I was diagnosed with autism when I was just a toddler, and as someone who has been through quite a bit of trauma, this video resonated with me on a deeper level than I thought it would. Sometimes I feel like I don't even understand the condition I have, even though I've been living most of my life knowing I am diagnosed with it. Autism has caused me to feel burnt out on more occasions than I can count in my mind. Sometimes I try to articulate my thoughts to people around me, but I just can't. This video really helped me realize a few things about autism that I actually never even gave that much thought about. Next time someone asks me about something related to my condition, I will for sure send this video their way. Thanks for spreading awareness!
I have Autism, and I’m also short because of my genes, and since Learning gets pretty hard for me because I can’t focus and then I get bullied, even if people know I’m short and autistic, they don’t care, and it makes me feel like some people just don’t fit no matter where they are. I’m prob gonna update this but before I finish this little reply, I’ve had a big goal as an Autistic person. Becoming a Racer.
It’s really common to feel like you don’t fit in anywhere when you have autism. When my therapist and I first discussed it as a possibility for me, that was something she asked- if I’d ever felt like I don’t fit anywhere. I’ve always felt this way. I like to think I’m getting closer to finding my place in the world, and I hope you are too 🫶🏽
I’m asd with normal height and looks just a half year ago had large amount of stress caused me to not do anything about learning, even if I tried to and then a group starts to bully me And then went to teacher and I didn’t need to go to that class, never I am recently now moving out of this hellhole filled with bad people to a very much more accepting place, but the process will take few months I don’t have very big dreams just own few cool cars in life And fix others cars as a mechanic
Thank you for this, I'm going to send this to my best friend and see if they have anything they want to add to do with their autism specifically. The life expectancy bit was shocking to learn, I really hope that changes as time goes on and society changes to be easier for people on the spectrum and that allistic (non-autistic or neurotypical) people as a whole develop more understanding so we can reduce the risks autistic people face.
2:19 - as a man with autism myself, I hate it when I'm told that I would never be able to do what I dream to do or that I wouldn't be able to live a normal life. Thing is that I graduated highschool, I'm currently working for a big tech company in the production line, and I have an awesome car and the patience and experience with what I learned to do just about anything I can do. Though, I intend to learn more not only for my computer skills but also my license as I am a licensed Truck Driver. I'd like to have more endorsements added to my license including a motorcycle endorsement on my license. People with autism in my honest opinion are as capable if not more than capable* (with some exceptions that can be justifiable) than those without it. The more that people look at me and think I'm not that good is inspiration alone to not only disprove them but to also excel in life. But that's just me. For those who have or don't have autism, I wish that I can give y'all a pat on the back and a cup of coffee this morning to help start your day so that y'all can do it with ease of mind.
as a neurotypical person with a few autistic friends, thank you SO MUCH for making this. i see myself making these mistakes sometimes when I'm around themand this video has made it so much easier for me to start educating myself on autism. tysm!
I never realised before just how much effort I put in to make myself "normal"... I have just been following the social norm rules blindly but now that I really think about it... a lot of thought goes into what I say and how I react to situations that others probably don't have to think about at all... Watching this video and realising all that made me cry.
Thank you so much for spreading awareness! It's really hard to try and explain what it's like to grow up with these traits, and even then even harder to get people to understand your point of view of the world. It's not normally relatable by people who are neurotypical. Thank you so much!
Was diagnosed at 3 years old with "borderline" autism. Honestly hit every mark of things i wish was more understood or even just accepted. Sadly seen a few friends that i did have growing up who were also on the spectrum commit suicide. For me, it was a race to figure out how to be normal enough to be able to act like everyone else and its mostly destroyed me physically and mentally. From health issues to psychological walls that im having to deal with now because of it. Im now coming to the reality that i will never be able to be normal and just have to accept it. Just be pacient and if someone is willing to tell you that they are autistic, know that they trust you enough to either ask for help or even wanting to connect with you.
Thank you for spreading awareness about the first one! I’m autistic, and while it is true that autism can have correlations with high intelligence, that DOES NOT MEAN that all autistics are inherently intelligent. Autism can go along with developmental delays, or disorders that can result in lowered IQ, and some autistics might just have autism, and nothing else, and have completely average intelligence. Don’t make assumptions people, it’s called a SPECTRUM for a reason.
That is so true, I’m on the spectrum and I can relate to having asthma at a young age, but I’m clear now, and I do have a very slow development time for me. And since they call it a spectrum not everyone’s gonna agree on the loop and the colour gold, show me the infinity Loop and gold represent Savon syndrome, because it goes to show the infinite and fast amount of knowledge that they have.
As a person with ASD (Autistic Spectrum Disorder) I can relate the numbers 1,2,4,5,6.. 1: They mistook me as if I'm smart and I could stand out from the rest.. and yet they never knew that I needed some time and help to make it up and get things right. 2: This hurts me.. My parents told me to be social and yet I never did since I'm born introverted so they put me in therapy to help me get better.. but in reality it made me turn into the worse case (well not really since I can now just be calm and talk to friends) I always think that I should get away from my family.. 4: This is so true to me.. I'm not trying to say that I'm bad but rather I'm trying to be normal for you.. I just couldn't even get myself to think immediately and just come up with a totally normal conversation and keep it that way.. 5: I mask away my pain and struggles by staying silent and looking down. And never once in my life have the opportunity to speak up to my parents the pain I'm in.. especially my father.. he's just normal and warm but when the curtains close he gets cold and dark. And will tell me his past and forced me to learn from him but he never tell me to be better and settle down to take a break he wants me to be like him when in fact I want to be something that I can find peace while being active. I actually wanted to be a gamer 6: I can relate the actual fact that they used my disadvantages for their own entertainment and have clout while they're at it they tell me I'm a loner a dickhead and a schizo all at the same time especially my Classmates they keep calling me a bitch and telling me that I should fight when in reality I just wanted to be happy and peaceful I just wanted to be myself and stay happy with it And if you ask me.. I'm using my mother's account and I'm a teen (my age is 14) And this video can relate me.
I’ve always had problems in school because my brain thought differently. I definitely relate to the part about calculating social interactions, as I find myself constantly analyzing my teachers’ teaching styles just so I could fully understand what they want. When I was younger, I didn’t do this and all of my assignments were hit or miss. Especially math.
Im happy to learn some more information about autistic people or people on the spectrum, it truly does sound exhausting having to think through every detail of an interaction. I really hope people start to realise that there words do effect people🥰❤
My sibling has autism and are really awesome, they sometimes go through rough patches but are a great person. I’m glad that nowadays autism isn’t being considered this “weird” or “bad” thing but instead just a part of someone. I have a friend at school who also has autism but is completely different from my sibling.
Countless thank you for your video ❤❤❤ I used to have an autistic student. She was talented at language, including English. She was not completely hyperactive. However, she was able to get along with everyone. Honestly, she was a nice and friendly girl. I'm always interested in autism. For, in my country, there are still many who associate autism with "gifted" and genius. Greeting from Indonesia.
Interesting how I had a very different experience. I have a few Asperger's symptoms, though my doctors don't believe it's severe enough to be considered ASD as they describe me as an atypical atypical. As soon as people hear I struggle with some minor ASD and ADHD symptoms, they instantly come to the conclusion that I'm dangerous and that I'm the type of person who'll grow up to be a serial killer or terrorist. I love airplanes, but because of my ASD, some people thought that I'm gonna grow up to be a hijacker such as those who carried out the 9/11 attacks! *_Just because the perpetrator of the Sandy Hook shootings was diagnosed with Asperger's doesn't mean that I'm going to end up like him!_*
This actually is really helpful for me. I've found out recently that I'm on the spectrum, but before that, I was called "gifted." I sometimes wasn't as smart as my friends in certain areas, and I questioned my intelligence and if I'm really stupid. But I'm not. So I feel really happy that I don't have to be upset when I don't do something like a super human, thank you really much! :)
As someone who is an Autistic adult, I can confirm that all of these points are true and sometimes hearing things like "never" seriously demoralizes us, for example my autism in elementary school was way worse than it is now, and one of my teachers said to my parents that "I would never graduate on time." and "The only job that I would ever have is being a cart collector at a grocery store." As a result of that my father came to my school for **A WEEK** to try to figure out how to get me to pay attention in class and learn more about my autism and what helps me be more able to be social. 13 years later, I graduated high school on time with all my friends at 18, and I'm currently going to community college, it's really hard for me because I can't be focused for long periods of time in an online school setting. I also have ADHD which makes my focusing problems even worse and am currently unable to drive a car at the age of 20. But I'm trying my best to mature some more, get healthy as I'm a pre-diabetic, and try to learn some essential life skills like how to cook, how to keep a room clean, etc. so that one day I can leave the nest and live on my own. Life for autistic people is hard, and we don't need people who don't know or don't care enough to know much about autism to bring us down with jokes about this disorder... it wasn't our choice to have it, we're just born this way. Now this makes it sound like I hate having autism, but it's quite the contrary... I love being autistic. I have a lot of passions that only a few others, some probably other autistic people, might have. In my opinion, my autism is what makes me... "me." If a cure for autism is found in the future... I would refuse it, because if I were to accept it, my personality and interests would change and I wouldn't be "me" anymore. So Embrace autism! Don't make jokes about it, don't bring us down with negative comments, and most importantly of all... learn more about autism and spread the word with anyone who does any of the above, and do not support autism foundations about curing autism like "Autism Speaks!" They do the opposite of what the Autism community needs most.
Woah! Im autistic and even i didnt know this!!! No wonder i have breakdowns when people talk to me,that sounds exhausting! Man,im so glad you guys are talking about this topic,it actually really cleared some things up for me. Also,the use of the infinity sign instead of the puzzle piece made me so happy. Thank you!
Great video I'm a 32 year old male autistic I was diagnosed at the age of 3 I'm what people would call a "higher functioning" autistic my people skills aren't perfect I tend to rub people the wrong way but people don't know I'm on the Spectrum unless I tell them and when I do they tell me "you seem pretty normal" I have trouble holding onto jobs and I've never had a girlfriend before for me the inability to date is the hardest part of being disabled no matter what I try I can't get anyone to like me I really hope that changes soon thank you psych2go for making this video it means a lot to me and I bet it means a lot to the rest of your audience on the Spectrum and I'm also a intuitive empath like you talked about in a previous video some people think autistics lack empathy but I certainly don't
I was diagnosed was autistic I was told I am 5/10 on the scale I did not understand but I was born with it like all people and thanks for spreading awareness ❤
As someone with autism, I'd like to say, that this is all completely and utterly true. And I just love that this video was made to begin with. I can probably relate the most to the last one bc I've sorta developed a fear of letting people know I have it due to the fact that I don't want them to see me differently. And it's hard to sit and listen to all the flack we get for something we can't change. But I thank you for making this. I hope you have a wonderful day, and keep being amazing
As a "normal" human, I kinda get it, back when in middle school dodgeball i hit a kid with autism, and got yelled at from every kid cause I had no idea, which in retrospect, it was kinda bad for him and me, as he was treated differently for being autistic and I was being treated differently for not knowing. Sorry if I sounded rude in the comment.
I was diagnosed 2 weeks ago, I'm 23 years old. I really want to show others this video as it is all true. In my country, it is not that common to have special attention just for having autism, but we are still bound to behave as society wants us to behave.
@@ixagonczi well they are weird. They block out all the noise, artificial light doesn't bother them and have pre written automatic scripts in their heads in response to speech. Like I get it, I'm not alone, yada yada yada, that doesn't help, normie.
As a person on the spectrum not understanding much about a lot of these side effects and endlessly wondering what's normal or if I'm just crazy, thank you. This video is useful for so much more than just informing non-autistic people of our situation.
As an autistic person myself, I can relate to some of these situations and issues, especially when it comes to how others see me, as well as my difficulties when it comes to communicating points across to other people in a socially acceptable way.
As a child diagnosed with “Mild Asperger’s”/Higher Functioning ASD back in 02, the topics discussed in this video truly open my eyes even more…one thing that impact me (aside from difficulties in some social environment….) my abilities explain/recall things verbally become scrambled… My folks always seen me as genius in such ways. Granted, playing and comprehending what to do in Super Mario Bros. (NES) or Donkey Kong Country 2 (SNES) at 18 months may seem advanced for the time… However I didn’t see anything big about it, and I still don’t like to see it as genius…I just want to see it as “typical” instead of getting myself over-elated from any attention. I would constantly watch what my sibling/cousins would do wrong, as just do something else (that was right) in order to progress further… When it comes to stuff like games today, I am a perfectionist (it’s probably my most flawed quality…) I become so enveloped in what I do in order to “Master” it… but if I’m unable to reach a certain marker in achieving progress, I move on… which is why my variety in such hobbies is limited… As a child, I was academically advanced in certain area like math, however as I got older it became mundane…eventually becoming frustrating because I couldn’t grasp in “how” to explain what I don’t understand…and why I would struggle with plotting Slope Intercept form… Other times, I would verbally repeat myself quotes or lines from TV (and even sound effects) from echolalia, which greatly helped me in theater arts/choir in my later school years…(probably one of the only positives to such a Tic. ) XD But all joking aside, my biggest improvement in recent years has to be the various online social groups to the various rhythm games I am highly active with. Having such welcoming communities amongst a somewhat niche group of games, truly motivates me to share my hard efforts and (both from a physical standpoint and growth as a player) while playing games like Beat Saber and Dance Dance Revolution… Being able to reflect and reach out about my life moments/“makes me who I am today” resonates deeply to me…but I’m not always the most certain about how to present it in a way to captivate others… Thank you guys at Psych2go for continuing to provide such excellent content!❤
As an autistic person myself I appreciate this video a lot as the misconceptions and stereotypes are a lot and hurt a lot. Thank you so much for this and I agree with and have experienced every single thing you said
I used to work with autistic children, specifically those with a lot of trauma, and this was incredibly refreshing!! Awareness is so important as so much of the trauma I saw in these kids came not purely from being autistic but from how others treated them for being autistic, family even. Most people are put off purely because they don't know anything about real autism instead of what we see on TV. Im definitely sharing this video because so many people just have no healthy frame of reference on these things. Great video!
I have an autistic brother. He lives in a group home with other autistic kids. I have always wished I was a better sister, I have a short temper so that doesn’t help. Even though he drives me up the walls (because he’s my brother), I love him and I want to be a better sister now. Thank you for helping me realize more what it’s like for him.
The first two mean so much to me. I feel like I'm always treated as some smart 2-year-old who will tell you how the entire universe works but also isn't capable of opening a water bottle, and I mean this isn't *literally* how they treat me but it feels like it sometimes, I don't like it and I don't understand it.
Tbh, I've always cared about who people were, no matter their Age, Race, Religion or anything unique about them... thank you for making this and probably helping thousands of people
THANK YOU. I have honestly never felt more understood and cared about. I’ve recently been diagnosed and this just makes things feel so clear to me. This video is so easy to understand and informative, so thank you.
I am autistic and i see my autism as a gift , i am 15 and a snake genius , i know scientific names for snakes , i can identify even milk snakes from coral snakes just from sight , i know all the types of snake venom and how they work , i got an internship at a snake park to handel the venomous snakes and im only 15 years old . And i have achieved all this becuase of autism giving me a special intrest in snakes
I 100% agree with everything in this video i am on the spectrum and masking is so exhausting it helps me make friends but at the end of the day it's just stressful but when I'm myself i tend to creep people out or scare them away and not only am i on the spectrum but I have depression and have hurt myself as a form of coping with stress i keep offending people on accident i have most types of anxiety I'm bi and genderfluid i might be bipolar according to some person on the internet but that was becase I was talking to myself and trying to figure out what personality would be the best option for my situation at the moment i most likely have adhd and have memory problems and post covid crap that makes working out painful and makes me feel dizzy all the time I can't talk to anyone about any of this because I have trust issues from being abandoned by so many so called friends most teens my age have kissed or dated but here i am all alone i have a therapist but I can't talk to him because he is my mom's friend and I don't trust him to not tell her everything I have a therapy dog who i care a lot about and everything is so freaking stressful my mom says I'm smart but idk it's like my brain is blocked i know how to do math and English and sience and every but I can't get to the information and it's so frustrating and when I try to do my school stuff my mind goes blank and I just can't think It bugs people when I figet to help myself think and calm down music helps a ton and makes it so I can get stuff done but I'm not allowed to have my music because school doesn't allow it even if it helps me iv had teachers get mad at me because I point out something that makes me uncomfortable like when my English teacher played a cartoon romeo and juliet which showed the sex scene without showing too much but she got mad and singled me out and made me read kids books out in the hall and when I didn't want to go to the sex class where they teach u about reproductive things I didn't want to do it so my teacher sent me to read a book in the library about making the right choices and in my yoga class kids were throwing rocks and one hit me and they didn't even say sorry they just laughed
I’m sorry to hear about what happened to you… but I wanted to say hello because I’m also bi, genderfluid, autistic, adhd, have some different types of anxiety, and might have depression, and I can relate to some of your experiences here. We have a lot in common, it seems. My mom also tells me I’m smart, and I kind of get treated like a savant by a lot of people. “Wow, you can’t seem to do basic things like socializing and you seem to forget everything all the time, but you often don’t need to study for tests and you’re a talented musician and composer and to me you seem to know the secrets to life itself, so obviously you don’t need help-I mean, you’re, like, a different species than the rest of us!” Like, I’m not some all-knowing robot, I just notice more things than you do! And I’m not a “different species” that you will never understand, I’m just human! I have lots of struggles, just like you! … Also, the comments about how I’m “too weird to have friends” and the “nobody likes you” are even worse. Not to mention how I keep getting misinterpreted and accidentally offending people, so people will see me as a bully myself, and they’ll spread rumors to everyone about me-while I’m listening-and I can’t even explain myself because I don’t get a chance to do so, and oftentimes my situation is too bizarre for them to understand and they wouldn’t believe me anyway. The savant thing also makes it so I feel like a complete failure whenever I score “average” instead of “outstanding,” so as I go into gifted kid burnout, my scores are already deteriorating because of the shame I feel from doing things averagely instead of excellently
@@regularly_priced people target people and things that are different that's just how it is people have been trying to fix problems like bullying and kids getting singled out for a long time and that doesn't seem to make much of a difference my mom is always saying I'm so smart but I have the worst time at school public school is so loud it makes it really hard to focus and gives me a headache and even when it's quiet i have a hard time focusing and lately just the thought of school stresses me out and when I'm stressed it makes it really hard to think for the last few years iv been late to school almost every day and iv been failing almost all my classes i have the information i need i just can't get to it like it's blocked which is very frustrating i work better when I have music in headphones but my teachers always say to put it away that it's going to distract me and never even give me the chance to show that it works and just say I have to put it away which is so frustrating there r a lot of things that frustrate me sometimes it's the ceiling becase it's messed up or something and when I'm stressed i notice those differences more often and it can get to the point where I can't think about anything else and it just keeps bothering me till I get away from it i love sherlock holmes and used to think that me being able to notice things like that certain smells and details would be useful and that it would be fun to do something involving law informent or forensics but rn it's not really all that useful and most of the time just stresses me out and causes problems
Thank you so much for making this video. I have autism. I was diagnosed when I was 4-5 years old. And, it hasn't been easy. I was bullied for being autistic. They usually called me weird, which made me feel like I wasn't even a human😔💔. Nowadays, if anyone calls me weird, I take it as a HUGE complaint😁🥰. I am weird, and I make normal look boring😪. #NormalIsBoring #WeirdoForLife😜
@@Psych2go well, as I grew up, it became more and more clear that I wasn't going to "fit in with the normal", so I chose to switch the insulting comment, into a compliment. Growing up, I was bullied by people who quote on quote "if you're weird, you will never fit in with us who are normal". I felt like trash was better than me. I even hit rock bottom one time. I had had it! Enough was enough! I decided to go over the facts. "Why is weird wrong? Autism isn't something I chose to get. I have it. I gotta own it." I said to myself. Suddenly, I had changed my mindset, into one that was gonna own my truth. I am weird😜! I am strong in my own ways😤! I AM AN AMAZING HUMAN BEING💯💯💯
@@Jules416That was a wonderful speech!👏👏😁 I have autism too ☺️ I really liked the thought of "be yourself, being normal is boring."🤭 I didn't speak until I was four. Growing up, I was an anti-social kid. And just because I was quiet doesn't mean that I didn't have friends. Overtime, I've got better at talking to people. And I did stuff like any other person would.... just a little differently in my perspective 🤭😁☺️
I myself was diagnosed with autism a few years ago and when starting to watch this video I did not expect it to be as relatable as it is. It is really comforting to see, that I am not the only one to have those difficulties. The video also helped me to understand, that the constant worry of how to respond to certan words/ movements is probably due to my autism and not something that everybody (by that I mean also neurotypical) has/experiences -(Idk which word of the two to use).
I'm autistic and sometimes my friends end up making jokes about autism and they know I am autistic It hurts me I know they're not trying to hurt me but just sometimes does
As someone on the spectrum, this is very relatable, The animation and characters are really cute too, so i hope that alot of people become more situationally aware
I'm autistic myself, and I have mostly experienced every entry on this list and some of the teachers at the school I went too didn't end up liking my actual self. I'm overjoyed to say I'm much happier without their constant neglect of who I was in what should have been a place of acceptance.
Thank you so much for mentioning the life expectancy thing! I'm a young autistic teen, and to know that means I'm technically a third of the way to my life expectancy... It's something more people need to know and understand
For years, I had no idea I was autistic, I was diagnosed at 2, but I didn't figure it out until I was 12 before I realized all the signs as I started researching it out of curiosity
3:33 This entire point is just me. Like, if I am truly natural and just do what feels right for me, I would increase physical contact with the ones I care a lot about and would avoid the whole eye contact thing, while having what is deemed as “stiff” body positions and a low intonation voice. The constant social cue guessing game is so tiresome if you get too into it. I literally had to force my brain to just don’t really think about social cues just to ensure that I would have fun on my first date. Not to mention whenever I am being told that I am unnatural during presentations, I am actually my most natural. This point hits home very well for me. -A man with ASD
Disclaimer: This is a reminder that this video is written by our autistic specialist writer and is based on his experiences and the experiences of others on the spectrum and is voiced by Amanda.
lmao
Why you don't get views😢
A year ago?? It haven’t been a min??
@@BigFlusteredMessexactly
I think Psych2Go has unlocked time trsvel
Hi, I'm the writer of this episode! Hope you all found it insightful. For all autistic viewers, if we do a follow-up episode, what else would you like everyone else to know about autism?
Love on the spectrum, or autism and relationships. Even if we appear very rigid and unapproachable and awkward and appear creepy but... once you get to know us we are a very laid back and chilled bunch. At least, I am anyways.
If we don't want to eat some food, it's more likely to be because of the texture, rather than us not wanting to try something another has made for us. I've came across this situation a few times, they thought I was turning it down out of politeness, but really I just cannot handle that texture.
It does for none-food and drink items too, ofc, but I think that's definitely already been covered. (人 •͈ᴗ•͈)
WAIT I HAVE ONE BETTER! Well kinda two- Autism Speaks ≠ good. IDK if this just shows where I live, but this is a major issue, people trust it and it's essentially telling us to shut up and let others do the talking without our input. Plus, "Autism Awareness". We don't like it. People ARE aware, but they do not accept. Autism Acceptance is what it is now, because autism awareness says nothing about accepting, only that "hey, this thing exists and it's different".
Also we're not that different. Every person is different, otherwise the world would be boring, so we... We're literally just people. I don't get the whole separate "us" from "them". We're all human jerks anyways.
Or not liking specific things/feeling like throwing up when we see something we, abnormally, see as repulsive. I'm not sure if that's an autistic thing or just a me thing, tho...
@@hippolyta1868 that is most definitely not a you thing. I have the same exact problem, it's known as ARFID.
As an autistic person watching this, I deadass teared up because these are things that more people really need to understand, incredible video and major props to Brian Cham for the amazing script
Thanks for your kind thoughts! I'm glad it resonates with you. Feel free to share with others to help them understand you better.
I'm also autistic and I agree with every thing
I agree with the comment above
Same here. Almost cried because I felt so seen
I agree with everything about this comment
As an autistic person it is hard sometimes to not make people uncomfortable by uncanny valley. I wasn’t diagnosed until recently and it was really hard living with the guilt of not being “normal” I always felt like I had to act like everybody else and I was always shamed for not being like everybody else as well. I’ve had lots of nights where I would just cry in my room because of it. I always hated getting told “why don’t you go spend some time with friends?” Meanwhile when I tried making friends whomever I was talking to would just scoot away from me and glare at me. I have rejection trauma from all the times I was told that I was weird and told to go away. It was hard to adjust to the realization that I wasn’t normal, it was very hard to let myself enjoy my special interests as well without feeling guilt. I’m slowly learning how to let myself enjoy life but it gets hard when people just treat you like your a child and call you a retard..
I hope everything can get better for you! Have a great day!
@@cateater999 thank you for your kind words, it means a lot to me. You have a good day too!
@@nv3363 Of course, anytime!
The uncanny valley is a lonely place.
I have ADHD and my brother has Autism. Honestly i made some of these mistakes growing up, but since we both have been practicing communicating better, I was able to stop or avoid these. I actually feel more comfortable with people like us. I'm glad this video was made.
Same here
I have ADHD
And my cousin have autism
I have both ADHD and am on the spectrum and honestly sometimes I have trouble communicating with *myself* 😅
@@Feral_Animations I thought having ADHD and Autism meant you were both on the spectrum. O.o
Timestamps
1). We're not all geniuses 1:01
2). We're not all beyond hope 1:47
3). We're just as varied as you 2:40
4). We're not trying to make you uneasy 3:31
5). We're often more not-okay than we let on 6:27
6). Our reality is not your jokes 7:33
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Never too late! ❤️❤️❤️
@@Psych2go You are right. But I feel the need to apologize for leaving the timestamps unfinished for 1 or 2 hours because my grandmother need to go to the doctor's so I want with her.
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@@demarcuswilliams548 ?????
@@A55a551n autistic people are weird
As an autistic person, thank you!! Autism is so incredibly stereotyped, stigmatized and misunderstood that it hurts to hear people talk about it in a certain way and treat me or other autistic people differently. It needs to be more normalized, there are A LOT of autistic people out there and all of us are different and have different traits and areas we struggle in
yeah, but at least you have a stereotype like "you all are geniuses", ADHD folks, like myself, always have to hear "oh, you have ADHD, that means you are stupid." Sure you guys struggle with that stereotype and i am sorry for that, but people with ASD are way more privileged than we are( i am not saying your situation is good), so please stop ignoring that.
well, one thing that i really dislike is autistic people calling others "dumber" or "weirder." I have seen it at my school which, keep in mind, is a school tailored to kids who need more supports and accommodations.
But I can relate to most of these things in the video. The biggest is sensory overload. But I struggle most with anxiety. I am diagnosed with severe anxiety and... it ain't fun.
@@Mykium oh shut up and stop generalizing and saying we are "more privileged", neither of these things are better than the other and they both have their own problems.
people definitely call autistic folks stupid and slow as well.
(sorry for bad english and i really don't mean to be terribly rude but it's fucking annoying saying things like this)
@@Mykium we all have our differences. The negatives of both are equally annoying.
I hated being the “smart kid” growing up. Even now my dad says “people with your disability”- and so on
I have two younger siblings with autism and I love learning more about how they live.
Thank you for spreading awareness
Do you think the video was an accurate representation of autism and its characteristics?
@@Psych2go yes I think it showcased things they deal with pretty well
@@J-Bird_edits this is off topic, but i love the harumi pfp, i love ninjago
@@Kaiyax_ thank you so much! I love Ninjago too 💚
@@J-Bird_edits Ninjago is cool!
harumi's my favorite villain :D
I have heard of autism like 10 years ago from a friend, and when the friend told me about its symptoms, I thought it was a form of brain cancer or mental illness. As time passed, I just realized it's just normality but tweaked, ups and downs. Thanks for the video, Amanda, Brian, and the team.
Thanks for the video❤. I am a 18-years-old autisctic girl. In my country, Hungary, misbeliefs and labelling are more common, but I hope, videos, like this, slowly make them dissapear.
As an autistic person, I can confirm the statements.
I'm agreeing with you
Seriously, especially the last part of
misconception and humiliation
This is what I was about to comment
Which of the 6 do you think was the most accurate?
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I agree with you as I too am autistic
My sisters fiancé is in the spectrum and he has turned his life into a running joke because in his view “if I’m the one making the jokes they aren’t as hurtful or derogatory” which I can understand and respect. It’s good to see him and her together in my opinion bc it’s proof that anyone can have a happy life with whoever they choose
It still hurts when the jokes make assumptions of one's ability. My brother once made a joke about my blindness (half blind since birth). Now, I make blind jokes, all the time, but I never imply I cannot see at all. He did. It hurt, and I told him it wasn't funny... He also used to make jokes about dead babies, so yeah... And we're both on the spectrum, but I think he might go on to develop NPD because he's become the golden child to our birth giver.
Honestly the reason i dislike any other autistic groups is because they're so fucking soft, i mean seriously they get offended and break down over the dumbest shit and it makes me angry.
I would like for the general use of autism as an insult because it spreads lots of misinformation, but also, don't be a bitch, bitches make this life the most difficult it can be.
Autistic person here, I completely agree with the things said in this video! Just today, I laughed and smiled unintentionally when my friend showed me something sad, despite me finding it sad as well. It took me a few seconds to realize, but once I did, I froze from anxiety and worry that they would think I was mocking them. It makes me so happy that you are spreading awareness about that and the other things mentioned ❤
Edit: Realized I should mention this is all entirely genuine! For me, it seemed obvious it was genuine, but I have no idea when someone will or won't read it that way. I feel kinda silly, my brain went: Oh! Why didn't I add that? The comment was entirely about that!
It's hard for me to know when others are joking. I'm not diagnosed on the spectrum but it seems like anxiety is commonly there. I also laugh at the wrong things, even if i feel sorry for someone.
It's hard for me to take things literally sometimes, and I feel like kids get annoyed by that. I have been diagnosed, and the video made me really happy that your spreading the word about autism. The things you said in the video are true, those do happen.
Thank you for making this comment! When I’m really upset or in distress, my mom will sometimes accuse me of faking being sad, and I’m start smiling and laughing a little, despite me not faking it. I had no clue that this was related to my autism, and you comment made me feel really seen!
I think I am really lucky to live in The Netherlands (where I am, at least), because I do not remember feeling or experiencing these things myself (as an autistic teenager). We have ‘special schools’ that are adjusted just for people on the autism spectrum, ADHD and more (although I don’t know if this is good or worse). I do agree with the communication part kind of, I mostly don’t say anything because I am 90% sure nobody is interested in it or will understand what I am trying to say. I am namely interested in puzzles, more specifically research, logic, encryption etc.
And, I have a question: Can any variation on the autism spectrum cause you to be more gullible (trust other people more easily)?
@@scorpionhdkid8972 being more easily trusting is a very common symptom of autism. so is not trusting anyone, because if you can't tell when someone isn't being genuine and you get hurt because of that, then its a good idea to assume everyone that's trying to talk to you has bad intentions.
I'm autistic, and here's a few things I wish people knew about me and my condition:
1: just because I have autism does not mean I am incapable of being a customer service worker. Interacting with customers can be difficult and even frustrating at times, and it certainly didn't come natural to me. But as long as I am trained in what to say and when to say it, and I am allowed a short break during longer shifts, I am perfectly capable of performing my duties proficiently. You just need to give me the chance.
2: If I call in sick, it's not because I'm lazy and/or inconsiderate of my coworkers. Quite the opposite, actually. I care about other people so much that I would rather put my financial wellbeing on the line than put people around me in danger of getting sick and/or hurt as a result of me showing up.
3: just because I have autism doesn't mean I am incapable of empathy. I have the opposite problem. I am incapable of turning my empathy off. This is the reason why I don't perform my music for funerals, because I'd be unable to keep my emotions under control long enough to get through the song.
4: trying not to fidget is like trying not to scratch an itch. Attempting such feats makes me less likely to be able to pay attention to you. It has nothing to do with my honesty, my level of interest in the conversation, or my opinion about you. It's just something I do.
5: don't be surprised when my eyes start to wander during conversation with you. Like the fidgeting, it has nothing to do with attentiveness or honesty. If you are wanting to check if I am paying attention, ask me to paraphrase what you just said. And keep in mind that from the moment the words "look at me when I'm talking to you" escapes your lips, every word after that will go in one ear and out the other.
6: if I am violating your personal bubble, please tell me. I am more than happy to adjust my distance for the sake of your comfort if you will politely inform me of the issue.
7: I am a human being. That means that there are things that I am good at and things that I struggle with. And I will make mistakes.
I would have to add that training takes longer for those of us with autism. It has nothing to do with we can't do the job. We can, but more than a few things at a time can be a bit overwhelming. It takes time for us to get adjusted. We will be able to do it all.
As a high functioning person on the spectrum. I can relate to this so hard. One thing that was different for me is that instead of just masking the whole time i went the less stressful route of not talking to people and ignoring those who did to me. Going into second year of my bachelors rn, its biting me in the butt a bit, but im working on it slowly. Hope this makes any reader on the spectrum feel related to :)
I hate being me and love being me at the same time it's hard battling the suicidal thoughts as they keep coming back more and more often and frequent. I'm a half assed piece of shit basically.
Hope everything went well since you wrote this post. 😊
@@anoraktheblack nope, ran into housing issues and had to drop out. Ended up deciding college wasnt for me anyways, and am now holding down a temporary job before eventually going into finish carpentry. :)
Thank you for spreading this awareness. I have autism and I was diagnosed at 25. It has made life difficult for me
Same. My mom said I was diagnosed at 2-3 years old
Im at a young age , i have an elder brother at 17 with Autism.. all he can say is “ yes” “no” and a few other common words.. he cant really speak
Thank you as well. I'm pushing 50 and was only diagnosed about 12 years ago. You accurately and succinctly described how complex and complicated my social life is, more than I ever could on my own. I hope to share your video with folks who don't know what it's like so they can understand ASD and people like me better. Gently, though; wouldn't want to force it on anyone!
Same
I've been diagnosed when i was a kid
The first point hits hard. When I was diagnosed as high functioning as a kid, my mom was convinced I was some innate savant, and it led to years of severe pressure to perform well until she eventually just “gave up” on me when I wasn’t able to live up to those expectations. It led to severe depressive episodes during my teenage years from the feelings of inadequacy and feeling like a failure and burden to society, and sowed a lot of animosity between me and my parents
I’m doing a lot better now thankfully, but as an adult I can confirm that, no, there’s nothing particularly “gifted” about me. I’m just a dude trying to figure out this minefield called life, just like everyone else
I was put into a lot of gifted programs as a kid. I didn't learn about my diagnosis until recently. It made a lot make sense. Some of my friends asking "you didn't know?" Was a bit of a trip. Did everyone know but me!? Lol
I cannot stress how accurate the 4th point is, it makes it so much harder when you going through a sensory overload, honestly just hearing I'm not the only one means alot
Mine is sound and light. Every single day is a living Hell.
@@AC-ni4gtI'm not diagnosed but I did the same thing at a theater cause it was too loud
Lol is that a Rajang in your pfp?
@@bok4822 hehehe yeah
@@pobl6650 Guess I'm coming to hunt you next then. Need some of those dang horns.
as autist, i agree with every single one of these and would like to add that we also enjoy specific things a lot, other side of the spectrum with ADHD can focus on several things at once but us autists dont
i myself hyper-focus on 1 thing and get it done faster (and more precise) then most people, and i can memorise theories and explanations really easily
i had an adhd classmate and while i was repeating the theory of what needed to be done he went and did it fully (sometimes mid-explanation) and we just made an awesome team
I can’t stop rewatching this, as an autistic person I fell so so heard.
As an autistic woman, I really appreciate this! 🥰
Thank you so much. In your opinion, do you think the video did a good job of explaining the characteristics of autism?
@@Psych2go Yes, you did brilliantly! Some of them hit home for me because I have experienced it before.
@@Psych2go I've got the same opinion
_yeah I'm on the spectrum_ and the statements of the video are actually quiet true
I am a girl too with Autism (kanner-syndrome)
@@Psych2gothank you 😊
I work with Young adults with Autism. Thank you for your spreading awareness. Thanks for all the videos
Thank you for your comment. What is it like working with young adults with autism? In your opinion, was the video accurate in describing autism and its characteristics?
The bit about the "well meaning experts" really hit hard. I have spent my whole life in and out of psychologist offices, speech pathologist offices and padetrician offices. And not one have shown empathy towards me and my experience on spectrum. The only reason why I feel different is because of them constantly drumming into me that I'm abnormal and that I burden everyone around me. These are the people who we go to for support and facts. They have the ability to influence people's perception of autism. They could easily say "It's just autism. No go about your day." But they don't. They actively chose to portray us as freaks. They refuse to evolve even when a lot of what they say about the spectrum is turning out to be not true. It angers me how psychologists and specialists will go on and on about how we fail to understand human emotion (an observation that is completely false btw), and yet they can sit there and make us feel like lesser human beings and not care about the emotional distress they put us through. It's beyond hypocritical!
as an Autistic person i can totally agree, these "experts" always dig to deep and make us believe that we are nothing, a cast out, and what both angers and saddens me is that I've seen some of this info be passed down from experts, to teachers, to students, and with how kids bastardise things to no end you can start to see the snowball effect of negativity surrounding Autistic people, and the worst part is that i was Autistic diagnosed while being in middle to high school, it always felt like no one understood or cared and these kids are going to go on with this negative knowledge and then pass that down. and don't get me started ON THE PEOPLE WHO FAKE IT FOR ATTENTION, VIEWS OR BEING ""QUIRKY""
@@ThePurpleAxolotl2002As a fellow autistic person, I read what you typed, and I felt it in my soul. I’m actually going through high school right now. And, before you ask, no, I’m not put in special education of any kind, because I was deemed “high functioning.” It’s completely impossible to make any friends, because everyone else is either normal, or pretending to be (like me). In fact, when this video came out, I wrote a comment about how we’ve spread all the awareness we can, and how it’s about time we start spreading some acceptance. Because people being aware isn’t doing a lot for many of us. They spend a little time with us, realize we’re “different,” and instead of actually accepting that, they go out of their way to avoid us. Or even worse, they spread untrue information, and just like the news, it spreads because it makes people angry. And each and every tweak from person to person is designed to make people angrier. All of this could be stopped if we just spread some acceptance rather than awareness.
@@MaxGamer07wastaken yeah i agree, we should try to spread both awareness and acceptance surrounding people in the spectrum
Yeah. Honestly, stuff like this is bunk. Especially when a teacher or social worker tells you, "you have autism, you can't help it." That was the case for me. My school hired a social worker named Mrs. Reddick. She was not a good social worker, in the sense that she let me get away with anything. Whatever I did, she would just let me watch Madagascar or something. She constantly told me, "you have autism, you can't help doing what you did." She wasn't even fired. She just left one day.
This is honestly something I'm afraid of dealing with which is why I've been avoiding seeking out an official diagnosis. Especially since I was diagnosed with ADHD at a young age and it only somewhat recently became possible to get a diagnosis for both disorders at once. So I'm just worried that whatever psychologist I go to will dismiss me based off of these stereotypes or based off of the old standard about not being able to have both ADHD and autism at the same time.
I have autism myself and I can confirm that this is pretty accurate. Got diagnosed with adhd and autism at a very young age. Once admitted to a special needs school, I excelled and was called a gifted child. A genius. And even when I started to fail more and more during high school, that label stuck to me. Not in a "wow, you're doing such a good job!" type of way, but in a "you're supposed to be on this level. Get off your ass and work". And for the past decade or so, I've just been slowly burning myself out more and more just to please others and seek approval. Nobody took me serious whenever I complained about how tired I am or how I'm not doing well at all. They still don't. Like, they'll still expect me to go to work with migraines or after puking. Only a heavy 2 hour bloody nose is one of the consistent things they let me stay home for. But simple exhaustion? Suck it up and sleep when you get back home.
Please guys. If there's one thing I want you all to do, it's listen to the autistic people. Listen to what they tell you their boundaries are, to what their difficulties are. Help them when they ask for it. We're 24/7 masking to make you normies feel comfortable. The least you can do is make us feel comfortable and help when we ask for it.
Also, NEVER USE THE R WORD TO DESCRIBE US.
I'm autistic! I felt so seen when you talked about masking our struggles and analyzing social circumstances to try to gauge appropriate responses! I'd add that it hurts to be told we're "not autistic" by people who think we're too "normal." That "normal" is something I've crafted over decades based on observations, and it's difficult to maintain.
✨ Timestamps and Major Points ✨
1. 1:01 We're not all geniuses
2. 1:48 We're not all beyond hope
3. 2:40 We're just as varied as you
4. 3:32 We're not trying to make you uneasy
5. 6:27 We're often more not okay than we let on
6. 7:36 Our reality is not your joke
Some Tips I Have:
Please remember to be kind and respectful to people with autism! They struggle immensely with communication and it's not easy for them to act "normal" by society's standards. Don't make sudden movements or touch them without their permission. Make sure to respect boundaries and try your best not to judge them. Make sure to be direct and clear with your thoughts and try to avoid sarcasm or jokes they might not understand. Of course, every person with autism is unique in their own way, so it's difficult to meet everyone's preferences, but try to maintain these things when talking to someone with autism. It can really help them! Please be kind and remember there is still a human with real emotions and thoughts there.
So true!!! It's dreadful when some people assume that people with autism "lack empathy" or buy into the myth that people with autism are clueless about what's going on because they don't react in neurotypical ways.
@@Coryraisayeah
Also, most people with autism _DO_ understand jokes, humor and understand sarcasm, even if they don't laugh or otherwise respond.
That's another myth we need to do away with of people with autism not understanding humor.
We are sensitive to sarcasm and often are sensitive to backhanded jokes or backhanded complements.
We will always support this channel. They're one of the best. The information they provide is spot on.
as someone who is trying to get a diagnosis to see if I'm on the spectrum or not, (I can't really be sure) it is nice to see videos talking about that the spectrum exists! Some people just think of extreme or romanticized versions of this condition.
Yeah like we all aren’t the same and in most media we are either only showed like we can’t function at all or we are super smart. Like can we have one that just have some person in the middle of it? Tbh that could be a fun main character to follow for some because it would have struggles not everyone deals with
It's very rare a person is proven wrong about being autistic. A person tends to know themself better than other would like to believe
@@audreydoyle5268however though in some cases people are trying to convince themselves they have it, so they can use it as an excuse. It's sort of being romanticised, which is where I have a problem
This video was comforting for me. I am in a state where I really hate communicating as I feel exhausted from just talking.
As someone with autism/adhd, thank you for making this video. I’m glad more awareness is being raised to what the experiences of asd are actually like. Experiencing the world is really hard when I always feel I need to meet expectations set by everyone else to support their beliefs; sometimes I’ve believed some of the stereotypes said in the video myself. So thanks for making this video not just for others to figure out what autism really means, but for those like me wanting to know their place in the world 🙂
Thank you so much for this! I'm autistic myself, and I definitely appreciate this. I happen to be 36 and did struggle with sui*idal (trying to avoid UA-cam censors, unsure if necessary) thoughts for a long time. I didn't realise it was so common among those of us on the spectrum. I am definitely sharing this with friends and family.
I hope you’re much better and congratulations! Fellow autistic here and I wanted to let you know that at least one person in the world loves you with all their weird heart
@@clckc
Thank you. I am definitely in a much better place these days. It's been a few years since I "got out of the Dark Woods", as I refer to it. I hope you know I appreciate that you exist as the amazing and unique person that you are.
@@seanmcfadden3712 That’s amazing to hear and same to you. Aw now I have this happy feeling and it feels… happy.
Virtual hug?
@@clckc
Virtual hug. (I have an image from the webcomic "El Goonish Shive" that I share with online friends for virtual hugs. It involves the character Susan giving a hug, which is a big thing for her because she's not typically comfortable with being touched. The webcomic is really good and has a great fandom around it.)
@@seanmcfadden3712 Aw ty😄
Really? That’s so cool! I’ll try to find it!
As someone with autism (Aspergers) i get judged often and i cant socialize very well, i often feel alone with no one because im afraid of driving them away, their weird is my normal, their creepy is normal to me, and it makes me furious that all they do is throw my autism around and call it just being a creep and a weirdo, not understanding that every day my mental state gets worse as my "fuse" gets shorter and i continue to shut the world out due to the stress and the constant reminder that i am not normal and when i hear not normal, i hear "you are a problem" and it hurts, more than a bullet ever will, school is hell, home is hell, even the time i spend in my room is mostly filled with me trying to calm down my mind due to me also haveing adhd, the combination of the two illnesses is hell on earth, a dance that looks normal to someone with your same illness but looks incredibly stupid to "normal" people.
Hey, you seem like a very thoughtful and smart person, I hope you find the help and rest you need. I think my younger brother is on the same situation as yours, i honestly just would like to know how to make it better as his bigger sister, it's hard for me to not know how to act around him and I think I might be hurting him with my ignorance like everyone around us does, any advice?
@@montanoriveracamilapaula8439 im not very good at giving advice but here, my best advice is hear them out. a lot of people don't do this and that leads to more problems. Saying from experience. Hope you find this a little bit helpful
Level 1 autism
@@montanoriveracamilapaula8439 "with my ignorance" You know, how about just listening to him? That's how you deal with ignorance. Just let him explain what bothers him the most, no matter how stupid it may seem, and how silly his explanation might sound. Just listen and try to "be in his shoes" while doing so, projecting his fears and worries on yourself, ignoring all the idiotic stigmas and preconceptions you might have. That's all it takes, really. Not hard at all.
These are not "illnesses" and never have been. Life demands biodiversity, non-fatal mutations happen for a very good reason. As for normality, it is entirely subjective. Everyone has their own, and that's what you build your life around for minimal issues. Good mental healthcare specialists fully understand this and it's how they diagnose ASD and ADHD, as well as provide aid to people with serious mental conditions. DBT is based entirely around this and is proven to be more effective than "normal" CBT, especially for this type of patients. And if you surround yourself with blind, egocentric cretins and insist on becoming "friends" with them, that's a "you" problem, honestly. If there is literally no one who even makes attempts to understand you, then do not seek any contact with them past strictly business one, know when to say "no" and build boundaries. Finally, if your parents don't give a damn about your struggles and refuse to listen (did you actually make any constructive attempts at dialogue and not just tantrums?), well, every school is legally required to have a counselor. Go to them, explain your issues. Do _not_ worry about anything, just do it. Nobody will advocate for you, if you do not start doing it yourself. There are good people everywhere, they're just a dying breed. If you do find someone like that, likely another ASD/ADHD person, do not let go. They want good people in their lives, too, but are too shy about it.
I love this art style. It's so expressive!
I can tell exactly what each of them are thinking or feeling from even just the eyes!
Yeah
The 2nd one was true. My brother is autistic and when he was born, the doctors said he would never be able to read or even walk, and yet he still lives like an average person.
Yeah, the amount of medical discrimination / bigotry from health professionals that autistic and other neurodivergent people face is WILD.
As a teacher, I am often in contact with ADHD children and adults... but I must confess, Autism is generally harder to spot, and is often misjudged as being rude, lacking of interest, coldness and weirdness. Some people are easier to "read", some are harder, and some of their behaviours can be mistaken. I myself isn't free of blame, and make mistakes, taking one behaviour for another and labelling someone as "being rude and impolite" without thinking it could be a condition.
Another one: let us unmask around you. Let us be our weird selves. It will help us grow closer and make our relationship feel less like a chore.
Oh man that's a big one. If we can find so much as one person who we feel like we can take a break around and take off the disguise and just be ourselves around, what a relief that would be.
I'd love to tbh but idk much autistic peeps I think
Thanks for the video! I'm 15, and was diagnosed with ASD type aspergers high functioning at six I think and let me tell you, most if not all of this is true. It is good to know people are being educated about autism.
I am on the spectrum and was diagnosed at around ten years old. I have to say this video got a lot of things right, but there are a few things that I want to comment on from my personal experience to kind of broaden the ideas here.
Firstly, I have never had an issue interacting with the police. Often times I will outright say to people of authority (not exclusively law enforcement) that I get anxious during social interactions, so they can have a better understanding of my mannerisms. Either way, I am always eager to help them out when they ask for information or details. However, I have not dealt with the United States police, which I know are particularly rough when it comes to these things, so take that with a grain of salt.
Secondly, I do not mind 'offensive' jokes about autism, because I make them myself. I find that dark and satirical humour is quite healthy to express, as it helps me cope and process bad or heavy situations in our world, and (ironically to some) helped me overcome some of my personal insecurities. This is not just limited to the spectrum of course, but finding a little bit of humour in an otherwise bleak situation is probably the most human thing we can do to continue on. That said, serious blatant insults made in a specifically non-joking fashion are definitely inexcusable, no doubt there. However, that should not detract from genuinely good people, friends, and even other people on the spectrum attempting to have some light-hearted fun about this topic. Of course, boundaries should be respected, and forcing these jokes onto people who are uncomfortable with them is not okay. All this is to say that not all people on the spectrum are going to be offended by these jokes, and may even play along if they enjoy this type of humour. Most of my peers who are on the spectrum certainly enjoy it but are also not afraid to speak up if a step was made too far.
I'm on the spectrum too, 6 months ago I would have disagreed with your world view but today I agree.
I was terrible at socializing. And guess what I got better at it, and in a reasonable amount of time in fact.
I have a feeling most of our weirdness comes from some snowball effect. At least I'm not nearly as weird as I thought I'd have to be forever
I definitely agree with the "finding humor in bleak situations" thing! I have 3 anxiety disorders, with 2 potentially being caused by an underlying disease. I am always joking and poking fun at my anxiety 😂 It's physically based, not mentally (except social anxiety) so I tend to joke about how I'll literally be chilling and then BAM, panic attack, and I'm just sitting there like "the heck??" (and rolling with it ofc lol). Or even "the heck was that for man??" after a round 😂 It helps me cope a lot!
As an autistic person, I can bet my sense of humour is way darker than yours :)
Thanks very much for your input, it was very enlightening. I am just starting to learn about autism and I think that talking to autistic people is the best way to learn about it. I appreciate learning from you and will keep your advice in my mind.
I’d love a good autism joke, frankly I make pretty some myself. But throwing around the terms autist and disabled like people have thrown around gay and f@g is not okay. Of course, not all people are ableist, most are actually just uneducated. But that fact sadly doesn’t make it hurt less to listen to.
Amanda's voice is healing, the videos are nice to watch with great information but I would be lying if I said I wasn't mainly here to hear her voice because it's honestly therapeutic.
Hey, I'm from Germany and I'm autistic, too. Great to see, that this topic gets its own video 😊
I like to point out that because autism is a spectrum and contains a lot of varieties of different difficulties and strengths, the simple bar from left to right - even if coulorful - is not really fitting to show the diversity of autism. It can give the impression of a high and low end of functioning levels nevertheless.
I think to better show how diverse every autistic Person is, you could use a diagram/chart that contains different areas that are higher or lower. With that you can see how everyone of us has different shapes of their autism 😄
(Even that does not really do it because even those different areas and how difficult they are for us can vary from day to day but it's much better than the simple bar from low to high funcioning)
Hey fellow autistic neighbour! I’m from Sweden, how are you guys doing there?
I like the infinity symbol better than the bar
I call my particular flavor the tuetonic tism as it is the stereo typical german engineer.‐I'm an engineer...
i said the same thing too, it was odd they made it linear!
@@melaniem9433 that's a symbol, but the color wheel just explains the Autistic traits, they're not exclusionary
This was awesome. As an autistic person I approve, and hope you do more videos on us in the future. Including debunking other myths and discussing autism and relationships + autism and sex.
People think we’re perpetually toddlers, but autistic kids grow up to be autistic adults, complete with sex drives.
As an autistic individual I’m really glad that I don’t have to voice this… it’s not easy to mask, but I’ve noticed that I do it a lot with my family but I don’t around my bf, we’re both on the spectrum so we try to figure out more about each other’s special interests and special “quirks” or tells.
Cool!
This is the most I have ever related to a comment, like ever! I do the exact same thing with my parents (not internally) but not my gf since we are both on spectrum and I feel more like I can be more open with my emotions when with her.
@@humdum_yt And that’s perfectly, valid. You can choose who you talk to! Those are safety people💙💙
Excellent video! As an autistic person, I have struggled with all of these things, so I really appreciate your description of what life is like for autistic people. It's quite accurate.
I was diagnosed with autism when I was just a toddler, and as someone who has been through quite a bit of trauma, this video resonated with me on a deeper level than I thought it would. Sometimes I feel like I don't even understand the condition I have, even though I've been living most of my life knowing I am diagnosed with it. Autism has caused me to feel burnt out on more occasions than I can count in my mind. Sometimes I try to articulate my thoughts to people around me, but I just can't. This video really helped me realize a few things about autism that I actually never even gave that much thought about. Next time someone asks me about something related to my condition, I will for sure send this video their way.
Thanks for spreading awareness!
Sometimes we put up walls not to keep others out but to see who cares enough to break them down
I have Autism, and I’m also short because of my genes, and since Learning gets pretty hard for me because I can’t focus and then I get bullied, even if people know I’m short and autistic, they don’t care, and it makes me feel like some people just don’t fit no matter where they are. I’m prob gonna update this but before I finish this little reply, I’ve had a big goal as an Autistic person. Becoming a Racer.
It’s really common to feel like you don’t fit in anywhere when you have autism. When my therapist and I first discussed it as a possibility for me, that was something she asked- if I’d ever felt like I don’t fit anywhere. I’ve always felt this way. I like to think I’m getting closer to finding my place in the world, and I hope you are too 🫶🏽
A racer! That sounds cool.
Good luck becoming a race-ist. LOL
@@matleo7988 man i thought black people always run faster cus they want to steal shit no wonder why they racers/jk
Learn to be a ninja
I’m asd with normal height and looks just a half year ago had large amount of stress caused me to not do anything about learning, even if I tried to and then a group starts to bully me
And then went to teacher and I didn’t need to go to that class, never
I am recently now moving out of this hellhole filled with bad people to a very much more accepting place, but the process will take few months
I don’t have very big dreams just own few cool cars in life
And fix others cars as a mechanic
Thank you for this, I'm going to send this to my best friend and see if they have anything they want to add to do with their autism specifically. The life expectancy bit was shocking to learn, I really hope that changes as time goes on and society changes to be easier for people on the spectrum and that allistic (non-autistic or neurotypical) people as a whole develop more understanding so we can reduce the risks autistic people face.
2:19 - as a man with autism myself, I hate it when I'm told that I would never be able to do what I dream to do or that I wouldn't be able to live a normal life.
Thing is that I graduated highschool, I'm currently working for a big tech company in the production line, and I have an awesome car and the patience and experience with what I learned to do just about anything I can do.
Though, I intend to learn more not only for my computer skills but also my license as I am a licensed Truck Driver. I'd like to have more endorsements added to my license including a motorcycle endorsement on my license.
People with autism in my honest opinion are as capable if not more than capable* (with some exceptions that can be justifiable) than those without it. The more that people look at me and think I'm not that good is inspiration alone to not only disprove them but to also excel in life. But that's just me.
For those who have or don't have autism, I wish that I can give y'all a pat on the back and a cup of coffee this morning to help start your day so that y'all can do it with ease of mind.
as a neurotypical person with a few autistic friends, thank you SO MUCH for making this. i see myself making these mistakes sometimes when I'm around themand this video has made it so much easier for me to start educating myself on autism. tysm!
I never realised before just how much effort I put in to make myself "normal"... I have just been following the social norm rules blindly but now that I really think about it... a lot of thought goes into what I say and how I react to situations that others probably don't have to think about at all... Watching this video and realising all that made me cry.
as a " normal " human I have not been following the social norms, I do have to think about what I say cause sometimes I don't know the best words.
THANK YOU. Im so appreciative of this video, im on the spectrum and this video makes me feel seen. Thank you so much. ❤
Thank you so much for spreading awareness! It's really hard to try and explain what it's like to grow up with these traits, and even then even harder to get people to understand your point of view of the world. It's not normally relatable by people who are neurotypical. Thank you so much!
Was diagnosed at 3 years old with "borderline" autism. Honestly hit every mark of things i wish was more understood or even just accepted. Sadly seen a few friends that i did have growing up who were also on the spectrum commit suicide. For me, it was a race to figure out how to be normal enough to be able to act like everyone else and its mostly destroyed me physically and mentally. From health issues to psychological walls that im having to deal with now because of it. Im now coming to the reality that i will never be able to be normal and just have to accept it. Just be pacient and if someone is willing to tell you that they are autistic, know that they trust you enough to either ask for help or even wanting to connect with you.
Thank you for spreading awareness about the first one! I’m autistic, and while it is true that autism can have correlations with high intelligence, that DOES NOT MEAN that all autistics are inherently intelligent. Autism can go along with developmental delays, or disorders that can result in lowered IQ, and some autistics might just have autism, and nothing else, and have completely average intelligence. Don’t make assumptions people, it’s called a SPECTRUM for a reason.
That is so true, I’m on the spectrum and I can relate to having asthma at a young age, but I’m clear now, and I do have a very slow development time for me. And since they call it a spectrum not everyone’s gonna agree on the loop and the colour gold, show me the infinity Loop and gold represent Savon syndrome, because it goes to show the infinite and fast amount of knowledge that they have.
As a person with ASD (Autistic Spectrum Disorder) I can relate the numbers 1,2,4,5,6..
1: They mistook me as if I'm smart and I could stand out from the rest.. and yet they never knew that I needed some time and help to make it up and get things right.
2: This hurts me.. My parents told me to be social and yet I never did since I'm born introverted so they put me in therapy to help me get better.. but in reality it made me turn into the worse case (well not really since I can now just be calm and talk to friends) I always think that I should get away from my family..
4: This is so true to me.. I'm not trying to say that I'm bad but rather I'm trying to be normal for you.. I just couldn't even get myself to think immediately and just come up with a totally normal conversation and keep it that way..
5: I mask away my pain and struggles by staying silent and looking down. And never once in my life have the opportunity to speak up to my parents the pain I'm in.. especially my father.. he's just normal and warm but when the curtains close he gets cold and dark. And will tell me his past and forced me to learn from him but he never tell me to be better and settle down to take a break he wants me to be like him when in fact I want to be something that I can find peace while being active. I actually wanted to be a gamer
6: I can relate the actual fact that they used my disadvantages for their own entertainment and have clout while they're at it they tell me I'm a loner a dickhead and a schizo all at the same time especially my Classmates they keep calling me a bitch and telling me that I should fight when in reality I just wanted to be happy and peaceful I just wanted to be myself and stay happy with it
And if you ask me.. I'm using my mother's account and I'm a teen (my age is 14) And this video can relate me.
8:41 Spot on about being "villainized". That is likely why I, being autistic, tend to resonate more with cartoon villains more than the hero.
I agree, often people who are different sympathies with villains as villains are meant to be different
@thatonearanara this word would be so boring if everyone were normal
I’ve always had problems in school because my brain thought differently. I definitely relate to the part about calculating social interactions, as I find myself constantly analyzing my teachers’ teaching styles just so I could fully understand what they want. When I was younger, I didn’t do this and all of my assignments were hit or miss. Especially math.
My brother has autism, thank you for covering this! I want to understand my brother more than I already do, so thank you so much!
As a fellow Autistic person, I appreciate and approve of this message 🙏🙏
Im happy to learn some more information about autistic people or people on the spectrum, it truly does sound exhausting having to think through every detail of an interaction. I really hope people start to realise that there words do effect people🥰❤
But thats not all autistic people are like this. Everyone is different
@@Rudolph4444 I understand that, i know it's a variety but I'm happy to learn about more information on topics such as this one 😌
I never relised how hard parts of life that some people take for granted can be for others
My sibling has autism and are really awesome, they sometimes go through rough patches but are a great person. I’m glad that nowadays autism isn’t being considered this “weird” or “bad” thing but instead just a part of someone. I have a friend at school who also has autism but is completely different from my sibling.
Wow I never knew a lot of these things about autism! Great work Psych2go you are really increasing awareness!
8:16 "This is all for you. The normie." I felt that so hard. -Also an autistic person.
Countless thank you for your video ❤❤❤ I used to have an autistic student. She was talented at language, including English. She was not completely hyperactive. However, she was able to get along with everyone. Honestly, she was a nice and friendly girl. I'm always interested in autism. For, in my country, there are still many who associate autism with "gifted" and genius. Greeting from Indonesia.
Interesting how I had a very different experience. I have a few Asperger's symptoms, though my doctors don't believe it's severe enough to be considered ASD as they describe me as an atypical atypical. As soon as people hear I struggle with some minor ASD and ADHD symptoms, they instantly come to the conclusion that I'm dangerous and that I'm the type of person who'll grow up to be a serial killer or terrorist. I love airplanes, but because of my ASD, some people thought that I'm gonna grow up to be a hijacker such as those who carried out the 9/11 attacks!
*_Just because the perpetrator of the Sandy Hook shootings was diagnosed with Asperger's doesn't mean that I'm going to end up like him!_*
This actually is really helpful for me. I've found out recently that I'm on the spectrum, but before that, I was called "gifted." I sometimes wasn't as smart as my friends in certain areas, and I questioned my intelligence and if I'm really stupid. But I'm not. So I feel really happy that I don't have to be upset when I don't do something like a super human, thank you really much! :)
As someone who is an Autistic adult, I can confirm that all of these points are true and sometimes hearing things like "never" seriously demoralizes us, for example my autism in elementary school was way worse than it is now, and one of my teachers said to my parents that "I would never graduate on time." and "The only job that I would ever have is being a cart collector at a grocery store." As a result of that my father came to my school for **A WEEK** to try to figure out how to get me to pay attention in class and learn more about my autism and what helps me be more able to be social. 13 years later, I graduated high school on time with all my friends at 18, and I'm currently going to community college, it's really hard for me because I can't be focused for long periods of time in an online school setting. I also have ADHD which makes my focusing problems even worse and am currently unable to drive a car at the age of 20. But I'm trying my best to mature some more, get healthy as I'm a pre-diabetic, and try to learn some essential life skills like how to cook, how to keep a room clean, etc. so that one day I can leave the nest and live on my own. Life for autistic people is hard, and we don't need people who don't know or don't care enough to know much about autism to bring us down with jokes about this disorder... it wasn't our choice to have it, we're just born this way. Now this makes it sound like I hate having autism, but it's quite the contrary... I love being autistic. I have a lot of passions that only a few others, some probably other autistic people, might have. In my opinion, my autism is what makes me... "me." If a cure for autism is found in the future... I would refuse it, because if I were to accept it, my personality and interests would change and I wouldn't be "me" anymore. So Embrace autism! Don't make jokes about it, don't bring us down with negative comments, and most importantly of all... learn more about autism and spread the word with anyone who does any of the above, and do not support autism foundations about curing autism like "Autism Speaks!" They do the opposite of what the Autism community needs most.
Woah! Im autistic and even i didnt know this!!! No wonder i have breakdowns when people talk to me,that sounds exhausting! Man,im so glad you guys are talking about this topic,it actually really cleared some things up for me. Also,the use of the infinity sign instead of the puzzle piece made me so happy. Thank you!
Great video I'm a 32 year old male autistic I was diagnosed at the age of 3 I'm what people would call a "higher functioning" autistic my people skills aren't perfect I tend to rub people the wrong way but people don't know I'm on the Spectrum unless I tell them and when I do they tell me "you seem pretty normal" I have trouble holding onto jobs and I've never had a girlfriend before for me the inability to date is the hardest part of being disabled no matter what I try I can't get anyone to like me I really hope that changes soon thank you psych2go for making this video it means a lot to me and I bet it means a lot to the rest of your audience on the Spectrum and I'm also a intuitive empath like you talked about in a previous video some people think autistics lack empathy but I certainly don't
I was diagnosed was autistic I was told I am 5/10 on the scale I did not understand but I was born with it like all people and thanks for spreading awareness ❤
Thank you for this video. As someone diagnosed with ASD, I appreciate the spread of awareness.
As someone with autism, I'd like to say, that this is all completely and utterly true. And I just love that this video was made to begin with. I can probably relate the most to the last one bc I've sorta developed a fear of letting people know I have it due to the fact that I don't want them to see me differently. And it's hard to sit and listen to all the flack we get for something we can't change.
But I thank you for making this. I hope you have a wonderful day, and keep being amazing
As a "normal" human, I kinda get it, back when in middle school dodgeball i hit a kid with autism, and got yelled at from every kid cause I had no idea, which in retrospect, it was kinda bad for him and me, as he was treated differently for being autistic and I was being treated differently for not knowing. Sorry if I sounded rude in the comment.
I was diagnosed 2 weeks ago, I'm 23 years old. I really want to show others this video as it is all true.
In my country, it is not that common to have special attention just for having autism, but we are still bound to behave as society wants us to behave.
When I was first evaluated the doctor completely refused to diagnose me because I spoke one word during my appointment. That word was yes. That's it.
Strongly agree, this is an important lessons to both Autistics and Allistics.
Omg I just googled Allistics because I didn’t know what it was and the second opinion was “Allistics are weird”. This world is not a nice place rn
@@ixagonczi well they are weird. They block out all the noise, artificial light doesn't bother them and have pre written automatic scripts in their heads in response to speech. Like I get it, I'm not alone, yada yada yada, that doesn't help, normie.
@@audreydoyle5268 You aren’t weird because the way you are born
They can’t control that tho, that’s just how they were born
It’s not their fault that they can’t truly understand autism because they don’t have it
As a person on the spectrum not understanding much about a lot of these side effects and endlessly wondering what's normal or if I'm just crazy, thank you. This video is useful for so much more than just informing non-autistic people of our situation.
As an autistic person myself, I can relate to some of these situations and issues, especially when it comes to how others see me, as well as my difficulties when it comes to communicating points across to other people in a socially acceptable way.
As a child diagnosed with “Mild Asperger’s”/Higher Functioning ASD back in 02, the topics discussed in this video truly open my eyes even more…one thing that impact me (aside from difficulties in some social environment….) my abilities explain/recall things verbally become scrambled…
My folks always seen me as genius in such ways. Granted, playing and comprehending what to do in Super Mario Bros. (NES) or Donkey Kong Country 2 (SNES) at 18 months may seem advanced for the time…
However I didn’t see anything big about it, and I still don’t like to see it as genius…I just want to see it as “typical” instead of getting myself over-elated from any attention.
I would constantly watch what my sibling/cousins would do wrong, as just do something else (that was right) in order to progress further…
When it comes to stuff like games today,
I am a perfectionist (it’s probably my most flawed quality…) I become so enveloped in what I do in order to “Master” it… but if I’m unable to reach a certain marker in achieving progress, I move on… which is why my variety in such hobbies is limited…
As a child, I was academically advanced in certain area like math, however as I got older it became mundane…eventually becoming frustrating because I couldn’t grasp in “how” to explain what I don’t understand…and why I would struggle with plotting Slope Intercept form…
Other times, I would verbally repeat myself quotes or lines from TV (and even sound effects) from echolalia, which greatly helped me in theater arts/choir in my later school years…(probably one of the only positives to such a Tic. )
XD
But all joking aside, my biggest improvement in recent years has to be the various online social groups to the various rhythm games I am highly active with.
Having such welcoming communities amongst a somewhat niche group of games, truly motivates me to share my hard efforts and (both from a physical standpoint and growth as a player) while playing games like Beat Saber and Dance Dance Revolution…
Being able to reflect and reach out about my life moments/“makes me who I am today” resonates deeply to me…but I’m not always the most certain about how to present it in a way to captivate others…
Thank you guys at Psych2go for continuing to provide such excellent content!❤
As an autistic person myself I appreciate this video a lot as the misconceptions and stereotypes are a lot and hurt a lot. Thank you so much for this and I agree with and have experienced every single thing you said
I used to work with autistic children, specifically those with a lot of trauma, and this was incredibly refreshing!! Awareness is so important as so much of the trauma I saw in these kids came not purely from being autistic but from how others treated them for being autistic, family even. Most people are put off purely because they don't know anything about real autism instead of what we see on TV. Im definitely sharing this video because so many people just have no healthy frame of reference on these things. Great video!
The closest thing to explaining my own experiences with autism. It's great to see a better understanding now than there was when growing up.
I have an autistic brother. He lives in a group home with other autistic kids. I have always wished I was a better sister, I have a short temper so that doesn’t help. Even though he drives me up the walls (because he’s my brother), I love him and I want to be a better sister now. Thank you for helping me realize more what it’s like for him.
The first two mean so much to me. I feel like I'm always treated as some smart 2-year-old who will tell you how the entire universe works but also isn't capable of opening a water bottle, and I mean this isn't *literally* how they treat me but it feels like it sometimes, I don't like it and I don't understand it.
Tbh, I've always cared about who people were, no matter their Age, Race, Religion or anything unique about them... thank you for making this and probably helping thousands of people
hey thanks so much for this. i’m a self diagnosed adult and this video made me cry because i’ve never felt so seen. ❤❤❤
Relatable, truthful and well made too.This can help people a lot to understand a little bit more😃.
THANK YOU. I have honestly never felt more understood and cared about. I’ve recently been diagnosed and this just makes things feel so clear to me. This video is so easy to understand and informative, so thank you.
I am autistic and i see my autism as a gift , i am 15 and a snake genius , i know scientific names for snakes , i can identify even milk snakes from coral snakes just from sight , i know all the types of snake venom and how they work , i got an internship at a snake park to handel the venomous snakes and im only 15 years old . And i have achieved all this becuase of autism giving me a special intrest in snakes
Bobo
What does that mean ?
good job
I 100% agree with everything in this video i am on the spectrum and masking is so exhausting it helps me make friends but at the end of the day it's just stressful but when I'm myself i tend to creep people out or scare them away and not only am i on the spectrum but I have depression and have hurt myself as a form of coping with stress i keep offending people on accident i have most types of anxiety I'm bi and genderfluid i might be bipolar according to some person on the internet but that was becase I was talking to myself and trying to figure out what personality would be the best option for my situation at the moment i most likely have adhd and have memory problems and post covid crap that makes working out painful and makes me feel dizzy all the time I can't talk to anyone about any of this because I have trust issues from being abandoned by so many so called friends most teens my age have kissed or dated but here i am all alone i have a therapist but I can't talk to him because he is my mom's friend and I don't trust him to not tell her everything I have a therapy dog who i care a lot about and everything is so freaking stressful my mom says I'm smart but idk it's like my brain is blocked i know how to do math and English and sience and every but I can't get to the information and it's so frustrating and when I try to do my school stuff my mind goes blank and I just can't think It bugs people when I figet to help myself think and calm down music helps a ton and makes it so I can get stuff done but I'm not allowed to have my music because school doesn't allow it even if it helps me iv had teachers get mad at me because I point out something that makes me uncomfortable like when my English teacher played a cartoon romeo and juliet which showed the sex scene without showing too much but she got mad and singled me out and made me read kids books out in the hall and when I didn't want to go to the sex class where they teach u about reproductive things I didn't want to do it so my teacher sent me to read a book in the library about making the right choices and in my yoga class kids were throwing rocks and one hit me and they didn't even say sorry they just laughed
I’m sorry to hear about what happened to you… but I wanted to say hello because I’m also bi, genderfluid, autistic, adhd, have some different types of anxiety, and might have depression, and I can relate to some of your experiences here. We have a lot in common, it seems.
My mom also tells me I’m smart, and I kind of get treated like a savant by a lot of people. “Wow, you can’t seem to do basic things like socializing and you seem to forget everything all the time, but you often don’t need to study for tests and you’re a talented musician and composer and to me you seem to know the secrets to life itself, so obviously you don’t need help-I mean, you’re, like, a different species than the rest of us!” Like, I’m not some all-knowing robot, I just notice more things than you do! And I’m not a “different species” that you will never understand, I’m just human! I have lots of struggles, just like you! … Also, the comments about how I’m “too weird to have friends” and the “nobody likes you” are even worse. Not to mention how I keep getting misinterpreted and accidentally offending people, so people will see me as a bully myself, and they’ll spread rumors to everyone about me-while I’m listening-and I can’t even explain myself because I don’t get a chance to do so, and oftentimes my situation is too bizarre for them to understand and they wouldn’t believe me anyway. The savant thing also makes it so I feel like a complete failure whenever I score “average” instead of “outstanding,” so as I go into gifted kid burnout, my scores are already deteriorating because of the shame I feel from doing things averagely instead of excellently
@@regularly_priced people target people and things that are different that's just how it is people have been trying to fix problems like bullying and kids getting singled out for a long time and that doesn't seem to make much of a difference my mom is always saying I'm so smart but I have the worst time at school public school is so loud it makes it really hard to focus and gives me a headache and even when it's quiet i have a hard time focusing and lately just the thought of school stresses me out and when I'm stressed it makes it really hard to think for the last few years iv been late to school almost every day and iv been failing almost all my classes i have the information i need i just can't get to it like it's blocked which is very frustrating i work better when I have music in headphones but my teachers always say to put it away that it's going to distract me and never even give me the chance to show that it works and just say I have to put it away which is so frustrating there r a lot of things that frustrate me sometimes it's the ceiling becase it's messed up or something and when I'm stressed i notice those differences more often and it can get to the point where I can't think about anything else and it just keeps bothering me till I get away from it i love sherlock holmes and used to think that me being able to notice things like that certain smells and details would be useful and that it would be fun to do something involving law informent or forensics but rn it's not really all that useful and most of the time just stresses me out and causes problems
Thank you so much for making this video. I have autism. I was diagnosed when I was 4-5 years old. And, it hasn't been easy. I was bullied for being autistic. They usually called me weird, which made me feel like I wasn't even a human😔💔.
Nowadays, if anyone calls me weird, I take it as a HUGE complaint😁🥰. I am weird, and I make normal look boring😪. #NormalIsBoring #WeirdoForLife😜
It's amazing that you changed your mindset about being called "weird"! How did the shift in mindset occur?
@@Psych2go well, as I grew up, it became more and more clear that I wasn't going to "fit in with the normal", so I chose to switch the insulting comment, into a compliment. Growing up, I was bullied by people who quote on quote "if you're weird, you will never fit in with us who are normal". I felt like trash was better than me. I even hit rock bottom one time. I had had it! Enough was enough! I decided to go over the facts. "Why is weird wrong? Autism isn't something I chose to get. I have it. I gotta own it." I said to myself. Suddenly, I had changed my mindset, into one that was gonna own my truth. I am weird😜! I am strong in my own ways😤! I AM AN AMAZING HUMAN BEING💯💯💯
@@Jules416That was a wonderful speech!👏👏😁
I have autism too ☺️ I really liked the thought of "be yourself, being normal is boring."🤭
I didn't speak until I was four. Growing up, I was an anti-social kid. And just because I was quiet doesn't mean that I didn't have friends. Overtime, I've got better at talking to people. And I did stuff like any other person would.... just a little differently in my perspective 🤭😁☺️
@@PMIII 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂. Glad you found your way of doing things😊. You do you❤️!
As someone with autism, I can relate to this so much.
Also, massive respect for bringing an actual autistic person to write this video.
I myself was diagnosed with autism a few years ago and when starting to watch this video I did not expect it to be as relatable as it is. It is really comforting to see, that I am not the only one to have those difficulties. The video also helped me to understand, that the constant worry of how to respond to certan words/ movements is probably due to my autism and not something that everybody (by that I mean also neurotypical) has/experiences -(Idk which word of the two to use).
I'm autistic and sometimes my friends end up making jokes about autism and they know I am autistic It hurts me I know they're not trying to hurt me but just sometimes does
This is so refreshing to watch! I’m autistic and this is amazing! I love this😊
As someone on the spectrum, this is very relatable, The animation and characters are really cute too, so i hope that alot of people become more situationally aware
I'm autistic myself, and I have mostly experienced every entry on this list and some of the teachers at the school I went too didn't end up liking my actual self. I'm overjoyed to say I'm much happier without their constant neglect of who I was in what should have been a place of acceptance.
Thank you so much for mentioning the life expectancy thing! I'm a young autistic teen, and to know that means I'm technically a third of the way to my life expectancy... It's something more people need to know and understand
For years, I had no idea I was autistic, I was diagnosed at 2, but I didn't figure it out until I was 12 before I realized all the signs as I started researching it out of curiosity
3:33
This entire point is just me. Like, if I am truly natural and just do what feels right for me, I would increase physical contact with the ones I care a lot about and would avoid the whole eye contact thing, while having what is deemed as “stiff” body positions and a low intonation voice. The constant social cue guessing game is so tiresome if you get too into it. I literally had to force my brain to just don’t really think about social cues just to ensure that I would have fun on my first date. Not to mention whenever I am being told that I am unnatural during presentations, I am actually my most natural. This point hits home very well for me.
-A man with ASD