I'm 80 and a widow of many years. I have children and a grown grandchild but they are always too busy and one has a spouse who doesn't like me so I've spent all of the last 8 Christmas's alone in my little house in the woods with my cat. My neighbors are all young and neither speak to me nor return my waves hello. Most of my friends are dead or actively dying and I'm too crippled up to go out and volunteer. I decorate my little house for Christmas and make a little turkey to share with the cat and, believe it or not, I'm content. I have a lifetime of wonderful memories of Christmases past and that's enough. I was blessed to have them. It's all about learning to be satisfied with what you do have!
My life is very like yours and I appreciate the struggle for human contact during this family time. I actually cry daily and somehow this gives me comfort,I also understand that this season will pass and spring will eventually will arrive.Every year gets a little easier as my expectations become more realistic.One thing I have been doing is I get 100 dollars in ten dolllar bills and get them to panhandlers at stop lights.Their happy and wonder filled responses make it seem more Christmas like and I feel involved.
May you ALL feel God’s love during this Christmas season!!! You are never truly alone! May God’s peace fill your heart with endless comfort and joy!!🙏🌲🌠
I'm 89 and have lived alone for many years. During Christmas i put up the tree, and i make a nice dinner and watch a nice movie later. I am alone but NOT lonely. alone means peace and quiet and comfortable hours of tranquility. MERRY CHRISTMAS everyone.
I am 73, my daughter died two years ago, and my sister died six months ago this after the loss of my daughter, so now I spend Christmas with my four dogs and AG parrot. I am alone but not lonely. I desperately miss my daughter, sister, and my parents, but life goes on. I also try to find peace in what I have instead of what is lost. Merry Christmas 🎄🎁
Wow. I'm 72 and almost the same....still have my wife of 48 yrs though, daughter 1500 miles away who we rarely see, but she loves us. Son only 45 miles away who won't speak to us now or see our 3 grandkids since 2021 because we refused covid shot. But still have 2 brothers, 2 sisters and our health. So I can relate to much of what you have endured, but not quite the same. Bless you!
We’re the same age, same level of aloneness. Even my senior cat died last year, and on a fixed income, I’m reluctant to get more pets - with their general expenses plus vet bills. But I’m making it. I ride my bike and hike a lot, which gets me out among people and lots of dogs on the trails. It would take a pretty unique man for me to want to change my ways now.
I love being on my own during the holidays. It's stress free and there's no need to dust off any of my old social skills to accommodate people who don't have any.
I'm with you on that. Perhaps I have another reason: Christmas is a requiem, when I keenly miss dear folks who have died. All that merriment with others makes me feel defective. I prefer being home alone🤣 Actually I do lots of things alone. I'm glad I'm old
@@jlhenderson2 What a dismal fate. How about cultivating some new skills, or people with some. I have lived alone for most of my adult life, since my children grew up. I also have a huge “family” via a legendary, welcoming church, neighbors, and now…in the past few years…online friends three of whom I not met in person. One is a short plane hop away and may do that.., And my son’s home is a short train ride. I will be 88 next summer.
I'm 77 and have been alone for many years. This year is different. My Cat died in mid-November.Then the ceiling in my Apartment collapsed on November30 - water flood from upstairs - and everything ruined. I was admitted to a beautiful Senior Residence as an Emergency, and given a lovely Apartment for life. Better still - very kind People here, very caring. Instant Community.
Hugs. Even at your age when you are ready I hope you will consider adopting a small older dog to keep you company and give them a chance unfortunately not many people want older dogs they want new puppies or young dogs. Anna In Ohio
Sorry to hear about your little dog - same here - it hurts so much to lose your fur angel and best friend - hopefully you can let another doggy into your life in the near future
Yep. Most people are completely incapable of wrapping their head around someone being happy and content to be alone. They actually insist you have to be lonely, whether you agree to it or not, .. and they view it as sad, or odd, it even raises suspicion and weariness, .. you're not to be trusted, or something is "off" about you. This is due to the constant pressure on society to not be "alone", like it's the absolute worst thing ever.. ..and that buried itself deep into people's psyche.. .. it's called social conditioning, and there's reasons behind it. .. people who choose to be alone are often intelligent and capable of individual thoughts, ..not susceptible to brainwashing/propaganda, .. what would be considered, a rogue citizen. Most will laugh at this, but it's true.
I have been Alone at 67 for Lots of years. I put up my Tree, and decorate my Home, as I Do enjoy this. The lights on the Tree, and a Fire in the Fireplace I find most Comforting. I fix a meal on Christmas, and eat it as I am watching a Traditional Christmas Classic movie. I have never been lonely, as I have many Good Friends that I see and share Good times with All year. Prefer my Own Company on Christmas, and am reminded How Very Lucky, and Blessed I Am.
Perfect, I could tell the exact same scenario for Christmas. I am over commercialism but very traditional (small tree, Wreath). Enjoy my quiet reflective Holiday Season.
I'm with you. Many people would consider me "a loner", by nature...and they would be right. I love being alone without all the hassles of condescending relatives. "Attitude" is everything in this life! 🎄Merry Christmas! ☃️
Some people are to negative to even be around. I pray for my mind, body and soul to be intact. I’m grateful for my faith, God is my every thing, he comforts me, do I get down yes, however I find ways to get out of it.
From Canada: Yep, I'm an Elder Orphan. (90 years old, no wife, no kids close to me, no extended family reaching out, all my veteran friends have passed. Nothing but memories and old photos. But you know what? During the Christmas period I volunteer at homeless shelters, helping with the meals and getting into conversations with many of the homeless. Listening to their stories tells me they are far worse off than I am. It is an enjoyable 10 days and helps me get through the Yuletide season.
@@billfarley9167 I’m volunteering to help clean up at a community dinner. I think that’s my new thing on Christmas. I’m not religious, so I absent myself from their rituals and services. But everyone can use a little help. Last year I was alone and I was sooooo…HAPPY! Alone doesn’t mean lonely!
Thank you for your community service. Those folks must really feel some relief being talked to like human beings instead of shunned. We all need to pull together and stop worshiping consumerism, especially at Christmas.
I’m 55 and an elder orphan since 53. I long for my parents and struggle but I see families today and they just aren’t the same. The internet has changed the landscape of life.
My husband and I are alone on the holidays since we are not near family and holidays with extended family was not pleasant. No one spoke to us so we did not feel very wanted or welcome. We are happier staying home and I connect with my online communities also.
This is my 1st Holidays alone without my husband after 42 years together. Read through people's messages helping me gain the strength to keep moving forward. I apologize for my English writing. Thank you.
Awwwww. I wish you the very best. I've never been married and have tremendous sympathy with anyone who has lost a spouse! I lost my 19 year old cat on September 3. That is hard enough. ❤❤❤
I am 64. Just retired. My parents are gone. My sister was killed in 1999. I am an elder orphaned. There are no friends no, no children, no family. My work took a lot of my life. Life is not as I expected at this age. I have 5 dogs and I am loved not just at Christmas but everyday.
@@tjsmith1781 I’m 73 and have eight kids and 16 grandchildren. My son came Christmas Eve day with his two kids and wife he is the eldest son. My daughter has downs lives with me. I am content now in the previous years I was upset because my kids preferred the other in laws or father’s family. I am not well off so I’m alone but have a roof a bed and I’m not sure what happened as this wasn’t what I expected either. God has taken me through some rough times and saved me. Happy birthday Jesus
I’m glad I came across this video. I am divorced, have 4 adult kids, and 2 small grandchildren. This year there is strife within the family so no gatherings. I have tried to fix the problem but to no avail & lately, I feel like nothing but a burden to my adult children who are between 24 and 38 years old. I’m feeling a lot of grief and sadness. The treatment of seniors is way different than the way I treated my parents. It’s very sad.
I have four adult children they never come to see me they are an hr away if I don’t contact them and make an effort I never hear from them it’s 2 weeks till Christmas and this yr I just ignored Christmas haven’t heard from them yet and I don’t care anymore I’m not doing Christmas with all the work and stress and no one else has stepped up I’m done
It's that way for so many. It's a narcissistic society now. Even if you were the best parent, sacrificed your life for your kids, for many they'll kick you to the curb. And, absolutely no emotions about it. None. Cold blooded Ww2 generation cared for their parents as they aged, many lived with them. As the boomers had grandparent living with them. Boomers kids are self centered. Nothing will ever go back to the way it was. Caring, compassion is a thing of the past. So is having a conscience.
@@patricialavallee8286 I am so sorry that you feel this way, Patricia, but I can understand and agree with you that today's society is the true "me, me, me" culture at it's worst.
I'm 70 and all of the above. I am healthy. I have cats. Mom died recently so it's my first year as an orphan. I am doing OK. She suffered too long. Thank you.
Hugs to you, I'm 70 also and lost my Mom in August, she suffered a long time with dementia. I miss her something fierce and I guess we were both lucky to have our Moms' for so long💓
Wow, can't imagine having a parent until age 40. I was 38 when my father died, 40 when my mother died. A combination with old parents at birth in 1958 and they only lived to 74 and 79
I've spent a few Christmases alone. Even though I have a girlfriend, she has often worked at the holidays (nursing). Here are my "survival" tips. 1. You aren't surviving anything. Christmas as it currently exists is a contrived fantasy. I expect most people are silently disappointed no matter what their circumatance 2. Plan everything you are going to eat on Chrismas day. Some places will be closed so have that already figured out. 3. You have cats which means you are already smarter than people who don't. They are your company on Christmas day and it is often a lot better than suffering through people you really don't want to be around. 4. Plan some specific recreational activities you want to do on Christmas day along with some free form time. 5 Watch A Christmas Story on TBS at least once. They run it over and over all day long.
@@beaulieuc8910 Nothing strange about this comment, for Jesus Himself said "Behold, I stand at the door (of your heart implied) and knock. If any man hear my voice and open the door I WILL (not maybe) come into him and sup with him and he with Me." No one is ever alone when Jesus has come into their heart. How truly wonderful it is. For God so loved the world .....
I'm 79 and a widower for 7 1/2 years. No children, two of my dearest friends died last year. I can deal with being alone, but it's the better half that I truly miss on a daily basis. A 40-year marriage that outlived all but one of our married friends. They were together 53 years until the husband passed away. I was lucky to share 40 years with the one person who truly loved me.
I appreciate your comments. I'm in a similar situation. My "domestic partner" passed in October from Alzheimer's. My remaining friends and relatives are over 100 miles away- and I don't care to drive there. I miss my partner the most. She suffered mentally and physically for about 18 months- losing more capabilities every day. I almost forgot what she was like before the illness until I reviewed some old home videos- with her dancing and laughing.
Elder 57 year old orphan here. Never married, no kids, parents are gone, brother is gone who I was never really close to. I was the baby of the family so my brother and sister were teenagers when I came along. Sis is pretty much all that's left and she lives back in our home town in another state. No friends really to speak of. Being a young boy in the early 70's and growing up in a small town, holidays were the postcard opening presents, Christmas dinner, Charlie Brown Christmas and Rudolf on TV affair that I would give anything to relive one more time. Now holidays are just another day for me. I try to stay positive but its tough thinking about how magic this time of year used to be and what it has become. Reading some of the comments here has helped and maybe I'll make an attempt next year to celebrate in some small way. Mostly I'm OK with my solitude but somedays are tougher than others, for those that are doing well then good for you, for those maybe not so much then I truly hope we can find some comfort this season and that things get better. Thanks for reading.
A long time ago - in my twenties - I felt painfully lonely. Over time, after sometimes being with people, I came to understand that solitude is not the same as loneliness; and that the worst loneliness is being with the wrong people. Now, in my seventies, I am at alone and at peace. I value my solitude. I enjoy the occasional conversation with someone, but a little goes a long way. I am content with my situation.
Beautifully said, @baruchben-david4196. I've been alone all my life, now I rejoice that I have 2 Great Pyrenees puppies and no one else. Your flowers are beautiful. Take good care of yourself, the world needs you!
My mom used to tell me that I could be as happy as I wanted to be. She was right too. I had a chemical imbalance and got treatment and have determined to stay grateful for what I do have. Gratitude goes a long way and leads to contentment.
Every day that I awake in my own bed, or drink coffee at my table, looking out at the distant mountain, I am enormously grateful I came here back in ‘03, and that after a crippling accident and a long period of absence, I fought my way back home and have regained enough ability to walk to continue living here. Every day, I am grateful.
I'm 70 and lost my fiance of 30 years 3 years ago. In 2015 she was diagnosed with Dementia and Alzheimers. Within 6 months she did not recognize me. I've learned to move on
I’m sorry I lost my dear husband 10 mos ago after a long struggle. I miss him so much but his last 4 years were such a struggle, but I took care of him every moment ❤️❤️. He was my best friend, and thought I was beautiful and told me everyday
Sharon, your comment has moved me to tears. Today is the 5th anniversary of my wonderful husband's funeral. The second worst day of my life. I feel your loss so acutely and my heart breaks for you. The only thing that gets me through another day is knowing that I'm the luckiest woman in the world for having found my soul mate and having had so many years of happiness and love.
I lost my soulmate and husband 8 months ago after 50 years of marriage. My family live overseas. I love Jesus. I have 2 dogs and a cat. They are a great comfort and happy company. Lovely video to watch and hear everyones personal battles
I have always been somehow put-off by the phony marketing and expectation of The Season. As a senior, I’m relieved to step back and let the beauty of winter take my focus.
I am an "Elder Orphan" and loving it. A new interesting chapter of my life. I love the peaceful life, but I have to be aware of my environment at the same time.
There was a time that I thought "no one should ever be alone on Christmas". I invited people over that didn't have anyone. But eh - now I am alone, I am a burden to my son who didn't want to spend time with me or take my calls. I am used to it now, and I enjoy being alone. Societies have grown cold and shallow, I can't change that - it is what it is. I no longer invite people over so they won't be alone. Because, I want to be alone.
Im so sorry to hear that about your son. I dont wish him any ill will, but there will be a day when your gone he will never forgive himself. My Mother is 74. She's relatively healthy, but I can see the decline. She made many mistakes as a Mother, but I know in my soul she did the best she could. And NOBODY at any point gas ever loved me unconditionally as my Mother. I know that, I tell her that I love her every day. So to you, who've ive never met, im sure you weren't perfect, and im sorry if your son thinks you're a "burden". Youre not. God bless you❤
I am 67 years old. I am truly an elder orphan. The holidays use to do me in. I was married once, for a short time. No children. Only my brother’s offspring. They have grown up and have children of their own. I was never invited for either holiday, and for me Thanksgiving was the hardest. I use to cry watching a family Thanksgiving dinner on tv. Christmas was a little easier. I was always their favorite uncle until they grew up. Then I wasn’t. Every year I beat myself up as to what must have happened. I still don’t know. Then, one year I had inspiration, 😇. Instead of the commercial side, see the truthful side of both holidays. Thanksgiving is giving thanks to the Creator. Christmas is wishing Jesus happy birthday. It worked and set me free! 🎉
Both are man made "deflective celebrations" and neither one has anything to do with the reality of "the Creator." As Jesus stated in Scripture: "Beware of the traditions of man." The highest inspiration is understanding that when you know, honor and worship your Savior He is right next to you every hour of the day---that is "thanksgiving!"
I'm sorry to know there are so many elder-orphans enduring loneliness but reading through the comments it seems there are many who do actually enjoy their solitude - I am one of them. I deplore the commercial aspects of the season - stores bursting at the seams with goodies we're supposed to buy - and pride myself on being able to ignore all the hullabaloo! Cosy in my little home with music - cd's of my choice - and a good book - to me is pure bliss! I do think of those less fortunate with no roof over their heads and, these days, living in tents and lining up at food banks. I look forward with hope that we will see a change in government and conditions for such people in the next year,
@@LuckyLucy451 The changes you’re going to see in government will make it worse, not better for the underprivileged. Unless of course you happen to be a billionaire, then everything will be just fine.
@@darnellehurd8986 I can't see things getting worse for the underpriveledged but I do realize there might be some belt tightening while a new government cleans up the appalling mess the Trudeau liberals have made for so many - not being a billionaire I am not delusional!
Can't help but think so many here would make each other very happy. I like being alone too, but kind of tragic that it's so difficult to meet people and know if they might actually enjoy a relationship.
@@Boots27J Yes, I do look back on times when could get together with friends and maybe play cards and have a good giggle - doesn't seem to happen these days but they say you can't go back so happy memories!
Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays were terrible when i was growing up so as soon as i was out on my own, I began to volunteer on Thanksgiving and enjoy Christmas peacefully in my own home. I'm in my 60s now, living solo for more than 10 years and the solitude is refreshing! No drama, arguments, etc. Have a blessed season everyone ❤️
I used to have the Turkey Dinner and buy many gifts for my whole family but I've gotten older and I like spending time with just my son and cats. I got put off by my family complaining about anything they could. I make the dinner for me and my son but its more relaxing not having to wait on ungrateful people anymore. Someone asked me if I was cooking this holiday and I really don't want to deal with anyone anymore. I just want peace and quiet. I like eating dinner, having desert, playing with my cats and having some hot cocoa. I do buy gifts for my son and cats. Its so much nicer.
I get limited time with my kids and grandkids during the holidays. I wake up on Thanksgiving and Christmas alone. My dog is good company so I cook us a good meal. I always try to find a young person, normally a server at a local restaurant, that is struggling with holiday expenses. I leave them a $100 tip. Not a lot of money but it at least provides a few toys and a decent meal. This year I found three. That's how I keep the holiday spirit and feeling the true meaning of Christmas. Be a joyful giver. Expect nothing in return. Got this habit from my grandpa and my dad. I'm not a millionaire but I don't want for anything. I remember a Christmas about 20 years ago my wife and I asked our middle school kids what they wanted for Christmas. They said nothing. We don't need anything. That's the best Christmas gift I ever got.
I am 65 and alone save for my dog and birds. I have been alone most of my life. To me Christmas is a made up commercial holiday insisting that people go into debt buying meaningless presents and feeling obligated to visit people they would rather not and exhaust themselves making sure everything is as prescribed. It is a recipe for depression as far as I am concerned. I have memories of childhood and Christmas morning and if I feel like decorating the house in a given year I do but to me the holiday season is more of a hassle than anything. A time to feel bad just because you are alone. I see it for what it is. Happy to see the season come and even happier to see it over, like most people I suspect.
Many people, especially retailers, have made Christmas seem that way. It doesn't have to be that way for you. I ignore all the empty madness of it by focusing on the birth of the Lord, by going to mass and gathering with my grown children for dinner and exchanging a few gifts. We keep it simple. It helps, too, that Christmas lasts more than one day, from the 25th until Epiphany on about Jan 6th. Those days I celebrate with our church community at the daily masses. The church is still decorated and we still sing carols. This is just one way of making Christmas meaningful. Hopefully, you can find a way to make it so for yourself. The Lord be with you and Merry Christmas!
As with so many in the comments here I prefer to focus on the winter season, solstice. I love candles, poinsettas and holly so I bring those in. I live in an apartment now so can't have a real tree and won't invest in a plastic one but I love the lights so string up lots of those. I detest the commercials, the push to buy everywhere and the constant questions.....Have you finished your shopping yet? Did you have a nice Christmas? Don't have much extra money so the big lavish displays of piles of presents under the tree just reaffirms what you don't have. The expectations in December can be crushing. A beautiful long walk, possibly in the snow, a good book or special movie, a special dinner and dessert and gratefulness that I am well and not in the hospital, that is my focus this year. Blessings to you all!🕯🙏🌟
You said that you can't have a real tree because you live in an apartment now. Growing up in the projects of Queens, NY, we almost always bought a real tree on Christmas Eve, set it up, and decorated it. Real trees became too much for me to handle as a middle-aged adult living in a house. Then, even my artificial trees have shrunken over the years. The same thing happened with my aunt, who lived in a house, going over the decades from a large real tree to a small tabletop artificial tree.
It is enough indeed . Better small gifts of affection or time every day than the mountain of material things beneath the tree that don't bring us the sense of joy that a simple hug or kind word can . Merry Christmas to you... ❤
@@MelanieNLeehello from another Long Islander... My family also lived in the projects then moved to Nassau where I grew up. I loved to listen to the stories they told from back in the day. Sending you best wishes❤️
I was a part of a couple all my life until she died 7 years ago. She always used to put up the tree. Every year I get it down from where it is stored in the loft and decorate it as she used to. Although she's not here, I can just pretend she's out shopping! Thanks for uploading.
My most memorable and meaningful Christmas Day was 25 years ago when I was 41 and alone in my apartment from the time I woke up into bedtime. I felt God’s presence.
Neat, isn't it? I had my "first encounter" 66 years ago as a little kid in Sunday school. We were singing "All Things Bright and Beautiful" and I looked out the window into a perfect, blue, spring sky, punctuated with big cumulus clouds - and at that moment, I knew everything in the song was TRUE. There have been many such times since then and a growing realization that the last prophecies of these days are very soon to be fulfilled.
Iam 61. No children, never been married. No neighbors. I enjoy being alone! Just gave my friend the boot, too. Peace is what is important for Christmas 🤶
Play I would love to talk with you. I’m 59. I am married, but lonely because he’s got mental problems. I know he has them. He doesn’t think he does. Ha ha and when you said about given up from the boot oh, what a story I have to tell.
Count your blessings when alone. Better to be alone than to be in a dysfunctional family. There are many who would gladly trade places with you. Be greatful for the peace and quiet. If you feel lonely, find someone to help.
I live with my dis functional sister. So I agree. We love each Other but don’t “like” each other. I would give anything to lot to live alone again!!!!!
Thank you for saying all the things I've been thinking. Yes, I'm alone, just me and my cat. I miss having traditions and family around. It's nice to know I'm not the only one out in left field. I wish all who are here, peace and hope. I'm working hard on it myself.
Thanks for the video and all the comments!! I am 78 and not yet an elder orphan but seem headed that way. I have family but as time goes by they seem less and less interested in my company and I foresee a time ahead mostly alone. So I gives me comfort to know that many of you out there are coping rather nicely. This is a great help to know that its possible to be alone and still comfortable with how things have turned out. Thanks to all.
I am an ‘only child’ and I knew that if I could not make a family for myself, this would be my future. In 2000 my best friend in town, an older woman I had known for nearly 30 years, went home to visit her family for what she believed would be the last time. I experienced my first ‘Christmas Alone’ in 2000. I planned a nice dinner out at a gorgeous hotel buffet. I dressed up and put on jewelry, and my faux fur snow leopard cape. I was the only one sitting alone in the whole room. I almost cried, so I bowed my head as if saying grace..a long one! I thanked the waiter, who was serving the 2 glasses of champagne that came with the buffet, for giving up his Christmas to serve us. During my long, enjoyable lunch, he served me several more glasses! I had dessert, and went to a movie downtown where I saw a great rom-com. 3 years later, accepting that I was going to be alone, I decided to make my long-held dream and goal come true when I found a parcel of land with power and a well. I sold my house in town, and moved to a place where I knew no one. Since then I have had friends for Christmas, or eaten it alone with my cat and dog (s). I don’t find the silence difficult. I have not really had family for decades, and friends are almost non-existent. I don’t mind really. I belong to myself, more than ever. At 77 I am pretty content, live a fairly active life and I have many intellectual interests. I also have Nature, without any human intrusion beyond myself. I am blessed with very inclusive neighbors who invite me on holidays but either way, I am done with grieving for things either lost or never found. I live a good life and I think I can make it better.
A few years ago as I headed up to the store to buy more junk for everyone for Christmas, I noticed that there was an old homeless lady standing in front of a store holiday window display. She stood there with all of her worldly possessions in her shopping cart. She had a look of delight on her face and she was laughing. She was remembering Christmas’s past when she was a child. It was heartbreaking for me to see that but I never forgot her. I still think of her every time I go past that particular intersection and think of the Christmas she must have had outside and the lesson she taught me is to be grateful what you have. One day, it will all be gone.
I'm alone. Have been for 16 years so far. I used to share Christmas with my dad. We made a pact not to buy gifts. We gave each other a small sweet pie each, and sat and watched the TV all day, eating and drinking whenever we wanted to. Hardly said a word to each other, but those three days every year are precious to me. It was perfect. He died in 2012 and since then, I've just spent my Christmas alone, preferring not to accept invitations. I did once, to a full on family and I hated every minute of it. At the end of that day, I cried my eyes out and decided never to do it again. Prefer to be alone, and am at peace with the loneliness. (By the way, I'm 61 now).
For some reason your comment really touched me. Wishing you a lovely quiet Christmas and the recollection of many nice holidays spent with your dad. I also miss my Dad very much.
@@CamperVan-K that’s how we are in my family quiet and non consumptive we do food sharing as well it makes for a peaceful Christmas. And we don’t incur credit card debt. Really miss my dad too.
@@lcolletti9901 Sounds lovely. Ideal actually. Sorry to hear about your dad passing on too. At least we have some happy memories which is a gift that not many have. God bless, and have a peaceful Christmas.
I'm alone at Christmas too. I know what you mean about being invited to share it with families. I did it once but never again. Much prefer to be on my own with the TV and some nice food. After all, it's just one day Nobody to thank either. Merry Christmas to you. 🎄
Buy and wrap gifts for children whose Christmas won't be very magical at the local church, orphanage, safe-house. Wrap whatever you would like if you were homeless, then drop it off at the shelter. Donate food to the food bank. Adopt a senior dog at the pet shelter on Christmas Eve. Ask the nursing home if anyone will not be getting a visitor or gift. Leave an excessive tip at the cafe. Look outward more, and inward less, that's how you can continue to make more Christmas memories as an orphan-elder. Great visuals btw.
I'm 76 and have been an adult orphan for over 20 years. This Christmas I will be getting the same thing that I got for my birthday a few weeks ago. Nothing. I do feel like my life history has slipped away due to many deaths of friends and family. Can't replace the hugs I received all those years. That's what I miss most. P.S. Even my beloved dog died. Miss her most of all.
It is so hard when we lose our loved ones and especially our pets. I have found that, in the end, it is easier to give love that to find it. If we give expecting nothing in return, it makes life feel worthwhile and is a blessing to others. Choose (on purpose) to be a blessing to others and you will be amazed at the result, Remember, hurting people, hurt people and our world is filled to the brim and overflowing with hurting people. May God bless you today and always.
It does seem bleak,where i am the weather also continues to be bleak.Though i know i’ll be alone on Christmas day,my neighbours changed their plans,there is always chores to do.i feel too empty to do them though.Usually i can push past this,but i have had a difficult lonely year and feel unable to.
@@Ann-sj4pt It can be terribly hard being alone as it means different things to different people and it depends also on how we view our cup, be it half full or half empty. Nearing the end of my life now but having had a young life of deep sorrow and and much heartache, I understood even then to count my blessings, list them even,... and the blessings always came out on top. My situation didn't change, but how I viewed it did. Decided to be a friend to someone even more lonely than I was and it ended up being a wonderful decision that continues bringing me great joy even now , 50 yrs. later. I am sending you a big hug for Christmas.
@@kathrynkathryn4836 i buy myself a little birthday and Christmas present,doesn’t have to be much,just a little treat.Self kindness.you are lucky to have had hugs over the years,and wonderful memories of your dog.Bless you ♥️
I am 71 and have been a loner all my life. My jobs brought me all over the country or overseas. Over time many friends have either passed on or moved far away. But, I still have many friends who I keep in touch with via phone or internet. I do volunteer work in my community to meet new friends. I enjoy being alone to my peace and quiet where I listen to music, go for walks in nature, meditate, garden, etc. I purposely stopped communicating with 2 sisters and their families because of their toxicity and entitled behaviors. I hated visiting them and being in their company, too much drama.
I lost my husband of 48 years last year, right before Thanksgiving, on the day of his mother’s family’s Thanksgiving. I struggled through Thanksgiving, his Birthday, Christmas, and New Years; almost numb. This year it is a season of loneliness. My sons live away and are the independent men I raised them to be. I went to my mother-in-law’s house for Christmas Eve, but it was just loneliness in a crowd. I came home where I could handle my emotions better and left his family to enjoy themselves. Elder orphan is a new term for me, but it fits the situation well. I don’t feel sorry for myself, and wouldn’t change anything in my life. I was abandoned when I was 5, adopted and given a second chance at happiness, married and found true happiness, and now I am back to the beginning building a new life once more.
I've never been married or had kids. Being a kid was no fun, being very poor and my mother dying when I was 10. Then it was foster homes, no traditions or family. Sad as that may sound, I cannot miss what I never had, only reflect how life might have been different. But what good is that, really? Better to just accept it as the way it was and look forward. I'm not lonely, but the hype of Christmas does overwhelm me at times.
It's never too late for a happy childhood. I had a bad one, then our mother died and my elderly sister took the house and everything in it, including the insurance money and all my mother's savings. Then in my 50s I bought all the little things that made me so happy as a kid. The real vintage nativity scene I used to play with I found online, the miniature 1950s Christmas tree etc. She even kept the wooden toboggan even though she didn't have children, so I saved up and bought one for myself, which I decorate as a Christmas feature. God forbid if anyone comes near me at Christmas to spoil my happiness. I love spending it all alone without all the drama. I hope you can too ❤️
@@raywood8187 Try to connect with other people at restaurants, churches, Parks etc. I believe that some restaurants are open on Christmas to help people have a nice meal on Christmas.
I’m 69 and have no family near me and no friends in the area. Have spent the last 10 years or so alone and have adjusted to that. The first holiday after my Mom passed was tough but each year things got easier. Some years I cook something and sometimes I treat myself to a pizza or whatever I want. I miss the old family gatherings and always will but I am also ok with things they way they are now. I don’t sit around all day have the “ old woe is me “ I enjoy my day just like I do everyday.
I have been an elder orphan for several years. This year I am having an open house with friends on Dec 8 so that they can see my xmas decorations which I really enjoy. I am also making cookies and brownies for my guests. I have an advent wreath, and I actually practice some of the traditional spiritual disciplines of Advent. I experience more joy in giving than receiving now since I have all that I need. I donate more than usual. I also practice gratitude. I make myself an xmas dinner with turkey, dressing, mashed potatoes, corn and of course, gravy. I hope in the years ahead I will find other orphan elders who will want to join me on xmas eve or xmas morn.
Wow! This dropped into my feed serendipitously. I'm 62, and though I've never heard the phrase "elder orphan" this describes me. I guess I've sort of been abandoned by what's left of my family, just my son who barely speaks to me. He hasn't wished me a Merry Christmas yet and it's 2 pm on Christmas Day. I don't feel sad though, as I have my beloved dog here, my rescued Newfoundland. My spirituality is increasing, and I have a lot of things I like to do which do not involve other people, like reading, writing, playing PC games, creating art which keeps me engaged. I am alone, but not lonely. Merry Christmas and blessings to all!
I've been a widower since November 2010. Since my loved ones (and I) have I placed our faith in Jesus Christ, I know where my loved ones are, and I KNOW I will be reunited with all of them. My family has grown very small. I just remember the love and laughter we shared. I've seen the face of depression among older folks. In the past, I worked in retirement homes. I took away life lessons from the folks who lived in such places. Volunteering before Christmas (or Thanksgiving) is a truly wonderful thing. I've been "Santa" for more Christmases that I count! 🎅That has brought a true sense of joy into my life -- and more than a few free meals, to boot! My neighbor's orange tabby visits me on a daily basis. He's a great pal. I pray and hope that cat remains safe crossing my street. Merry Christmas 2024 to one and all -- everywhere. Happy Birthday, My Savior Jesus! ✝Walt and Charlie Ginger Tigger 😸🎅🎄
@@jjohnston1813 Amen and Amen! Had it not been for God's Grace through His Son, Jesus Christ, I would not be here typing this reply. I pray that The Lord Jesus keeps watch over all of us. I place NO limits on His Power! I, like countless others, await the return of Jesus the Christ. Merry Christmas 2024 to you, your loved ones and to everyone -- everywhere. With Christian Brotherly Love, Prayer and Care. -- W ✝🙏
76 elder orphan here, alone with my precious dog Olive. Gonna have pizza for Christmas topped off with Honey Bunches of Oats with Almonds for desert! My mom created wonderful Christmas memories that will keep me warm.❤
@lizabethrobison4566 pizza sounds good, but I'm confused about cereal for dessert. Do you make something special with it? Olive was so shy and timid when I got her. She has turned into a great watch dog and never lets me out of her sight. She really is comical and makes me laugh everyday. When she wants something, she'll sit and stare at me as if telling me to hurry up. You and I are blessed to have a loving companion and memories. Hope to chat with you again 🙏
@@pamkunz6619 it’s just this particular cereal is sweet without being overly so and I frequently have it for desert. My Olive (a black and tan mini dachshund) lived for her first 3 years with my son in a Seattle high rise when he realizes she was happier with me. I’ve had her for 6 very happy years. She is glued to me. I live near Shasta Lake in northern California. Lots of room to run around. The blessing is truly ours!
@lizabethrobison4566 merry Christmas and happy new year to you and your olive from me and my olive ❤️ I bought a rotisserie chicken and some cookies And it snowed today!
65 and so thrilled to be alone for the holidays! Divorced, so there will be no verbal abuse from my miserable ex husband, and I won’t have to drive from house to house to house to have to visit all of his gossipy relatives. I will exercise, have a fabulous massage and afterwards dinner, a glass of wine and a good book. Oh, the luxury! Just remember people it can be much, much worse. Be grateful for everything that you have. Happy holidays.❤
I am an elder orphan with no children or spouse and Christmas is a difficult time for me. I do decorate my apartment and am involved with my church community. Unfortunately my cat crossed the Rainbow Bridge last month so I have lost that comfort. I am planning on getting a new kitty from a local shelter within the next couple weeks. Thanks so much for your video. It truly spoke to my condition.
I am glad you plan to adopt a new kitty from the shelter there are so many unloved pets out there that need someone to love them and that they can give love back to. I have 5 dogs that I have adopted over the years and they are the best company such a blessing. I lost my husband last year and we talked about me being alone, he told me "you won't be alone, you'll have our girls" and he was right. Anna In Ohio
For about 24 years I have lived without parents, spouse, and was never able to have children. I will be 74 in about 2 weeks. I do have a brother with a large family, but they live in California. I used to send gifts, but never received Christmas cards or Thank You notes, so I gradually stopped sending presents. I have a piano and play everyday. During the Holidays I get out all my Christmas music and play and sing (badly) Christmas carols. Although I live near the top of a mountain in North Carolina, my neighbors sometimes tell me they hear the music drifting through the cold air and how much they enjoy it. Makes me feel better.
See, you bring joy to people without realizing it. I am 75 and mostly alone, but I'm fairly content with just my dog. Have you thought of adopting an aged pet? Caring for another living being makes life better somehow.
32 years, 8 miserable months. I have been without my Cathee since Saturday, March 21, 1992. It is a fact that some wounds never heal. If time "heals your wound," then you never truly knew what it meant to love someone. At this stage, I find myself in a world I no longer recognize, and the daily routine feels more like a burden than a benefit. I live only to relish memories, but they are good enough. Pleasure now comes from a cup of coffee and sentimental old songs.
Why not reach out with kindness, a smile and just put a little sunshine into the world...also there are so many places you can volunteer...you matter and you are needed in this world
@@louisetaylor6952 Respectfully, who says that I don't? That's exactly what I try to do. I was just being brutally honest with my post. I realize that reality may be upsetting to some, but I have learned to relish the beauty of memories. The past is something that will alway exist as part of us and it will never be taken away.
@@louisetaylor6952 Yeah, Merry Christmas. You took it upon yourself to assume I was nasty to others, even though I have been tormented by private pain for decades. I have never tried to show this. It is rather sickening that the moment I choose to write about it anonymously, someone gives me instructions on how to be a better person. People like you are the very reason I prefer to keep my feelings to myself.
I have been invited to Christmas Dinner at relatives, but if my company is only required once a year for 4 hours, I prefer my own home and the company of my dog.
Families and friends and neighbors used to love each other so much but now the world has become cold lonely and distant we need to pray,for a Christmas miracle
I am blessed with good neighbors who are also good friends. I lost my husband of 35 years last year, this will be my 2nd Christmas without him that's the hardest part he was always in to Christmas and all the cooking of big meals ( he cooked on holidays) my birthday is also in December. My neighbors took me and another neighbor out to lunch and shopping at our favorite vintage store last week and Saturday I will go to one of the neighbors for Christmas dinner with her whole family and enchange gifts. Her daughter lives across the street from me now I've known her since before she was born and now her 4 little boys. Christmas Day I will be at my sisters home with her kids and husband. I baked cookies and candies and delivered them to neighbors this week. And I have 5 dogs at home but still there will be some loneliness and sadness with my husband gone now, it isn't the same but I am thankful for the time the Lord gave me with him. Anna In Ohio
I am 74, and my partner of 47 years just passed in August. I am a Christmas fanatic. Not necessarily a decorating fanatic, but I put up a tree and have some holiday decorations around the house. I have always loved Christmas. I am not sure why, but it has always been a magical and special time for me. This year, I am somewhat sad for obvious reasons. But I am going through all of the steps I would have gone through if Richard were still alive. Richard came from a large family of 8 siblings. So in the past, we usually spent time with at least one or more of his siblings. My immediate family have all passed. I have some cousins who I am close to, but I am on the West Coast, and some of my cousins are in Texas and the others in Virginia. And for a few reasons, I am not going to be at one of his sister’s places this Christmas. Anyway, I am keeping up many of the holiday traditions that I have in the past, and resurrecting some that I have not done in a while. I think the keys are to keep whatever traditions work for you, have a structure to the days and be positive about the blessings that you do have and not focus on what your do not. Enjoy the holidays!
Hello. this is the first holiday season as an elder orphan. I have a sense of 'no fun', but I daily make the effort to say thanks to the very fact of my life. A bit of decorating, cookie baking to come, and 2 beloved dogs to share the days. I often say that I'm doing my best, and I honestly am. And I say that next year will be better and I want to believe it. Joy is what I'm after. Finding this video has made me feel less a single orphan. To you I say, thank you.
I'm not yet 60, and I've been alone almost a decade. I have NO family, no friends. I'm still not use to it. I love Christmas, but it's been OVER a decade since I've had one to celebrate. Yes, the silence is unnatural. I don't know if I'll ever get use to it.
Get a cat. Patiently teach it to walk on a leash. It takes time. Eventually it will work pretty well and people will stop you on the street to talk to you about it. Many of my friends came from doing this exact thing although that was not why I started doing it. Take exceptionally good care of your kitty. He/she can be a social lifeline.
I'm 58, my husband died 5 years ago. I have no friends. Our children abandoned me because I'm disable and have health issues. Christmas was my favorite hoilday. Used to go all out. Now I just skip the day. Most days I'm ok being completely alone but it does get very lonely at times. I live in a state where it snows so i like to hibernate. But in the summer is when it would be nice to have a good friend to go on adventures with.
I have spent many Xmas alone and never was I unhappy. It is a day to fill with Xmas songs, nice food you prepared from scratch and enjoy some finer wines. Great readings and thanks to God to be so good to me all these years. I am 77 years was never married and was happy with my poems readings and imagination. Accepting your life for what it is, nothing less nothing more is a great source of strength.
I'm only 39, all my family has went to heaven. Every evening I finish dinner and mix a stiff drink.i sit and stare at the lit tree in silence . I reflect on life. Memorys of my childhood... Happy times.....
I am so sorry that your loss please know I’m 64. I will be 65 next July. I’ve spent many many years alone don’t dwell on being alone. Stay busy try to remember God loves you and no matter what happens you’re never ever alone you’re not he is with you. He is comforting you he is caring for you. Please don’t become an angry, bitter person. Pray for God‘s love to surround you to protect you, and to heal your heart being an angry, bitter person only makes us lose the gifts that God gives us every day. I wake up and I look at the sunrise and I thank God I saw it. I have two dogs That I am so grateful for they bring me joy every day and companionship they love me unconditionally they make me laugh. I decorate my home for Christmas. I don’t do it for others. I do it for me and remembrance of the joy that Christ brings to my heart. I celebrate the snow. I feed the birds. I listen to the Rain. I watch the sun rise and I sleep well don’t dwell on what you don’t have and if you get lonely, go look there are other people out there that are looking for friends don’t look on the computer. Don’t look on your laptop. Go out find people face-to-face volunteer at a shelter,go for a walk. Always remember God’s got the plan. You just don’t know what it is yet.
Hello, I am 73 and totally alone now and also have not made friends in a new area (where I moved after the death of my husband, 6 years ago). My heart does not feel alone though - it is filled with memories and with love of who I once was and all of the Lights who once shone in my life. I think of them and celebrate them and celebrate the season for its Namesake now. XXXX
The last time my family had a get together like that was in 1973. But over the years I got invited to a friend's family gathering and there were several girlfriends thru the years that also invited me.
So many people spend money from feeling obligated and to think they will be appreciated for the money wasted. Since I am now one of these people you refer to, I like knowing my credit card has a zero balance at the start of the New Year.
I was feeling down because it seemed my adult kids had forgotten me. But then I realized this is suppose to happen…..when I started my family, I slowly became “busy with kids.” I cherish the moments they give me and pray my mom understood this too. Life isn’t over…..it goes on! Be proud of them and give them their space to grow!
I'm 42 years old guy from Indonesia, and I'm still single. Finding & watching this video somehow just brings me an inner peace, that I thought I'll never gonna have it anymore, to be honest. It's calm & peaceful. A lot of words narrated in the video also are deeply relatable for me as well. This video is very much needed, especially during this christmas season, festive, holiday (& also New Year's). I also love how realistic this video is, in portraying the harsh reality of loneliness, especially during the times & moments of festive celebrations, happiness, love, warmth, connections, togetherness, & bright, shiny displays especially nowadays in the social media era. The video also ended with a good & reasonable sense of hope, that is much needed especially for people who have felt similar experiences in life. Thank you so much for this video. It really means a lot for me personally (& deeply). Merry Christmas for everyone here around the corners of the world & planet~
I am in the age group and find taking care of my husband with Dementia hard at times. I am encouraged by what this video states and also comments. Thank you all so very much. Loneliness is something that one chooses to be. Jesus is my strength of which I am so thankful for. Thank you all for the comments and this video
I'm a 64 year old Jewish woman who's alone since March 19th, 2024 when my husband, 68, suddenly ended up in the hospital after having had a stroke, seizures, brain bleed & a deadly high blood pressure without any warning. He was incubated 3 different times in a 5 weeks time frame. Unfortunately, he passed away from a massive head injury on the early morning on Monday, April 22nd, 2024. My husband was Christian. We had no children. This will be my 1st holiday & New Year's alone 😢 & I'm so lonely & feel isolated without him 😢.
@wbl5649 thank you so much for your best wishes. Yeah, being a widow at 64 is really hard to swallow. He was only 68 then & I honestly thought we had so many more years to spend time with eachother. I wish you the best of everything.
I am so sorry about your loss and all you're going through. This has to be a time of shock and grief that I hope will soften in time. So much to go through, I am so sorry. With all the endured, he is at peace now, no pain. I pray comfort for you
There is a widespread assumption, also implied here, that holiday family gatherings are like a Hallmark card; full of joyous laughter and great conversations. There is no mention of children having meltdowns or family arguments. For some, the peace and quiet is preferable to all that.
I just turned 65 and fully retired. This is the first Xmas I haven't volunteered to work for someone else so they could be with their family. I can't believe I miss being able to work today. Life feels kinda empty.
I'm 73, my wife died a year ago October. Last year Christmas eve was beyond hard to get through. This year I'm in a much better place mentally. I'm alone again tonight, Christmas eve but I'm OK. I'm gonna go out to the river in the morning and enjoy Gods great outdoors. I'm good with that.
I've reached the golden age of 80 years, and I have been alone for so many Christmases but I'm happy. I love God, I love myself, I love my children, yes and yes, I wish they were here too sharing this time with me but understand this is their time with their family. We have had many years of joy, fun, laughter, holidays! I'm okay with that. I must say, this is my most favorite time of the year, however, I continue to enjoy it as if ... I am that special guest. I've learned to be as kind to myself as I would be to my expected special guest.
I really know what you mean. Also an older orphan, husband died many years ago too. No children. We were both an only child. No one anymore. But after years of sadness in Christmas time I started to decorate my house again. And I learned to appreciate the little things, like a burning candle, my cat and crochet. I wish everyone a beautiful Christmas ❤
God love you. Do you crochet for charity? I do, and it does warm the heart to know someone less fortunate will be warm because of something that was handmade. 🤗
Yes there is beauty in that,little lights a cuddle with a pet if you have one,books,interesting films,meditation,the stuff we do all year round i guess ❤
I am an only child also, divorced and no children. Alone 25 years.I am 72.I guess there are more of us than I thought? I have gotten used to the Holidays alone. People have their own activities. I am lucky to have inherited a nice sum from an Aunt so find peace in being pretty healthy and financially secure. I go to the Dog Park every day to walk and enjoy the joy of watching the dogs interact. I am feeding a friend's cat while they go away for Christmas. Something to always be thankful for.
My x wife moved out with our kids on Christmas Eve many years ago. It was tough but after a while I got back up and moved on. As time has passed I realize it was the best thing to ever happen to me. Not my kids moving out but the x getting out of my life. She gave me the gift of freedom and happiness without even knowing it.
Thanks for sharing that, nothing feels as great as freedom. Restrictive relationships and manmade constructs of "holidays" (they didn't spring forth fully formed w/the Big Bang) are way overrated.
@@rustyrussell3211I have my doubts about that, because frankly if you want to leave your spouse it’s a bad sign about a person who decides to do it on Christmas Eve.
I'm 59 and have been an elder orphan since i lost my parents in my mid 30's. I send cards but never hear from my older siblings or their families. Covid scattered my social network and so i no longer have any friends. It's just me and my lab. As the youngest i was always so excited about Christmas even as an adult and now it's ironic that i haven't had a present under my tree in decades.
I just remember past Christmases, traveling experiences and cooking I was able to do when I was young, and do what I can with the decorating. I focus on Jesus, the reason for the season, after all, and not the party. With God's grace, I will experience the Spirit, which is the true gift and what makes Christmas great. I felt love at Thanksgiving, even though had no real Thanksgiving dinner. I've had plenty in the past.
Kim, I understand. My mother was my favorite person in the world. Her birthday was on Christmas. She died on Dec. 14, 2002. I miss her so much, and Decembers and Christmases aren't quite the same. But, it gets better. This, your first Christmas without her will be hard; eventually the pain will ease. God bless you.
I'm alone and almost 82 and never been happier in my life the ability to live alone is a wonderful state of mind and I'm going to cook a roast some baked potatoes and some cold cola NO alcohol such a relief not to have to make some body else happy !
I am 75. I live in a Senior Apt, but DO NOT have any friends. Very Hatefull persons live here. I have not been able to move out!! I just pray for GOD TO BLESS ME WITH A VAN SO I CAN MOVE OUT!!
I've heard of people who have been invited to family gatherings during the holidays only to be ignored while at the family gatherings. Nothing is worse than being alone in a crowded place...
I have never been happier being old and alone at Christmas. I have grown into a self aware lovely person, and I don't have a need to have anyone around at any given time. I truly appreciate me, and I will enjoy holidays because of it. When you entertain the, "that's the way it should be," idea, you will feel horrible for no reason.
Well, here's another take. I find the season's warmth and comfort through friends, although they reside in scattered locations. With all the ways to connect now, it seems to me (even as I approach 80) that the spirit of the season comes from within, not the other way around. Being in someone's physical presence can enhance the experience, but it is no longer a necessity for the experience to be both satisfying and rewarding.
Beautiful video and caring thoughts shared - thank you ! This is the first time I have heard 'elder orphan' used and perhaps I am one. I am a senior 66 divorced and two kids married. My son and I were so close all his life and he married in 2016 and our relationship is poor as his wife doesn't like me. The only time I hear from him is one day a week when he is driving home from work (he lives 2 hours from me and is a very busy radiologist). He has visited me one time in 2024 with his wife for beautiful holiday celebration where I cooked and presented them with many thoughtful gifts. January 2024 last time here. I live solo in larger house in woods and grateful for nature and my daughter who is very thoughtful and spends every holiday with me one night and day. I have been alone on holidays and take myself for nature walks. In the house I am decorating and ordering new holiday items that bring me joy (I am following a youtuber decorator now) My best bud pug passed a year ago and still dealing with her loss today. My occasional fear is tripping down the basement stairs or steps in the house and cracking my head and no one knowing and laying here for weeks. Messed up, right? I live off the road don't see my neighbors so they would have no clue if anything happened. Life is short and will likely rent the house and leave and just do my thing travel around inexpensively. Happy Holidays to all of us elder orphans and sending hugs
You could get an Apple Watch like I (widow) have. Then, if you have a fall, or any type of emergency, all you need to do is press the button on the watch and help will come…anyway, have a contented season, and continue counting your blessings 😊👍🏻🙏🏻
I’ll be 72 next week love being on my own …I like my own company … fiancé died 25 years ago …Christmas is nice and stress free … do what I want when I want .. it’s bliss
I be 72 in January, feel the exact same way. This journey has brought much peace after all the heartbreak from those closest to you. I’ll stay at peace until the Lord returns.
I'm 72 and love my alone time. I have a tiny social circle, but do have a dog and I don't really care about being alone at Xmas. My xmas growing up were filled with drunken arguments and drama. I don't have a relationship with my sister and I don't miss that one bit. I put up a tree and decorations, cook a nice dinner, walk with my dog or a a photographer, get out with my camera in the quiet winter.
I'm 80 and a widow of many years. I have children and a grown grandchild but they are always too busy and one has a spouse who doesn't like me so I've spent all of the last 8 Christmas's alone in my little house in the woods with my cat. My neighbors are all young and neither speak to me nor return my waves hello. Most of my friends are dead or actively dying and I'm too crippled up to go out and volunteer. I decorate my little house for Christmas and make a little turkey to share with the cat and, believe it or not, I'm content. I have a lifetime of wonderful memories of Christmases past and that's enough. I was blessed to have them. It's all about learning to be satisfied with what you do have!
Bless you dear sweet Bev
May the Lord be with you
My life is very like yours and I appreciate the struggle for human contact during this family time. I actually cry daily and somehow this gives me comfort,I also understand that this season will pass and spring will eventually will arrive.Every year gets a little easier as my expectations become more realistic.One thing I have been doing is I get 100 dollars in ten dolllar bills and get them to panhandlers at stop lights.Their happy and wonder filled responses make it seem more Christmas like and I feel involved.
May you ALL feel God’s love during this Christmas season!!! You are never truly alone! May God’s peace fill your heart with endless comfort and joy!!🙏🌲🌠
@@steveralph7348 I've been thinking of doing this!
I'm 89 and have lived alone for many years. During Christmas i put up the tree, and i make a nice dinner and watch a nice movie later. I am alone but NOT lonely. alone means peace and quiet and comfortable hours of tranquility. MERRY CHRISTMAS everyone.
Beautifully said. Thank you.
Merry Christmas to you.
❤Merry Christmas
Merry Christmas 🎄 ❤
Merry Christmas ❤
I am 73, my daughter died two years ago, and my sister died six months ago this after the loss of my daughter, so now I spend Christmas with my four dogs and AG parrot. I am alone but not lonely. I desperately miss my daughter, sister, and my parents, but life goes on. I also try to find peace in what I have instead of what is lost.
Merry Christmas 🎄🎁
You're brilliant 😊
Wow. I'm 72 and almost the same....still have my wife of 48 yrs though, daughter 1500 miles away who we rarely see, but she loves us. Son only 45 miles away who won't speak to us now or see our 3 grandkids since 2021 because we refused covid shot. But still have 2 brothers, 2 sisters and our health. So I can relate to much of what you have endured, but not quite the same. Bless you!
We’re the same age, same level of aloneness. Even my senior cat died last year, and on a fixed income, I’m reluctant to get more pets - with their general expenses plus vet bills. But I’m making it. I ride my bike and hike a lot, which gets me out among people and lots of dogs on the trails. It would take a pretty unique man for me to want to change my ways now.
@@victoriasansome4049 I’m 66 and I live with my Husky and my AG parrot. It’s nice
@@rickdavid1795 How lovely! Our pets are the best companions, Pure unconditional love, what more could we ask for. ❤🐕🦺🐶🐱🦜🤗🙏
I love being on my own during the holidays. It's stress free and there's no need to dust off any of my old social skills to accommodate people who don't have any.
I'm with you on that. Perhaps I have another reason: Christmas is a requiem, when I keenly miss dear folks who have died. All that merriment with others makes me feel defective. I prefer being home alone🤣
Actually I do lots of things alone. I'm glad I'm old
My guess is neither of you are old.
@@susierennert2249Bless your heart!🤣
@@jlhenderson2 What a dismal fate. How about cultivating some new skills, or people with some. I have lived alone for most of my adult life, since my children grew up. I also have a huge “family” via a legendary, welcoming church, neighbors, and now…in the past few years…online friends three of whom I not met in person. One is a short plane hop away and may do that..,
And my son’s home is a short train ride. I will be 88 next summer.
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I'm 77 and have been alone for many years. This year is different. My Cat died in mid-November.Then the ceiling in my Apartment collapsed on November30 - water flood from upstairs - and everything ruined. I was admitted to a beautiful Senior Residence as an Emergency, and given a lovely Apartment for life. Better still - very kind People here, very caring. Instant Community.
Wow! You are really blessed.
That's awesome! Enjoy your new family!
Happy for you. ❤
God bless you and wish you a Merry Christmas
I am sorry about your cat.
Social media has not drawn folks together,it has shoved them apart.
Amen to that😢
I agree.
Agree 👍💯
I don't agree, I have met some wonderful people on the internet and even though I don't see them in person , we keep each other company.
Well, it's blatant, naked AGEISM! Where is Aged Lives Matter!? Lol IMOP
I am 85 and lost my little dog in november , now i prefer my own company , and garden and am grateful for what i do have.
I lost my little dog also in November..... Sending you a warm embrace ❤️
Hugs. Even at your age when you are ready I hope you will consider adopting a small older dog to keep you company and give them a chance unfortunately not many people want older dogs they want new puppies or young dogs. Anna In Ohio
Sorry to hear about your little dog - same here - it hurts so much to lose your fur angel and best friend - hopefully you can let another doggy into your life in the near future
You may want to consider adopting an old dog with health issues that nobody wants - make their last days full of love and comfort.
Mine died 15th December.i shall be alone now .have always loved Xmas til now.
~In all honesty, the only thing that bothers me about it is the pity i get from people who think im lonely~
I know what you mean,I"m ok,live your own life!
Yep.
Most people are completely incapable of wrapping their head around someone being happy and content to be alone.
They actually insist you have to be lonely, whether you agree to it or not,
.. and they view it as sad, or odd, it even raises suspicion and weariness, .. you're not to be trusted, or something is "off" about you.
This is due to the constant pressure on society to not be "alone", like it's the absolute worst thing ever..
..and that buried itself deep into people's psyche..
.. it's called social conditioning, and there's reasons behind it.
.. people who choose to be alone are often intelligent and capable of individual thoughts, ..not susceptible to brainwashing/propaganda,
.. what would be considered, a rogue citizen.
Most will laugh at this, but it's true.
@@warthogA10 In my opinion,your spot on.
@@warthogA10 I'm not laughing because I believe that to some extent you are spot on right.
I am 56 single only 27 year old twins at home no friends or family I can see I am heading to an older orphan ❤
I have been Alone at 67 for Lots of years. I put up my Tree, and decorate my Home, as I Do enjoy this. The lights on the Tree, and a Fire in the Fireplace I find most Comforting. I fix a meal on Christmas, and eat it as I am watching a Traditional Christmas Classic movie. I have never been lonely, as I have many Good Friends that I see and share Good times with All year. Prefer my Own Company on Christmas, and am reminded How Very Lucky, and Blessed I Am.
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Same with me. I'm 73 and have PTSD. I don't miss all the drama of other people.
@@deanfalvey1731 Your awesome! I love decorating for the holidays too. I cooked a turkey dinner for me n my dog. Lots of leftovers! Merry Christmas 🎄
Perfect, I could tell the exact same scenario for Christmas. I am over commercialism but very traditional (small tree, Wreath). Enjoy my quiet reflective Holiday Season.
What a wonderful outlook
I am content in life and I find myself company enough.
I'm with you. Many people would consider me "a loner", by nature...and they would be right. I love being alone without all the hassles of condescending relatives. "Attitude" is everything in this life! 🎄Merry Christmas! ☃️
Some people are to negative to even be around. I pray for my mind, body and soul to be intact. I’m grateful for my faith, God is my every thing, he comforts me, do I get down yes, however I find ways to get out of it.
From Canada: Yep, I'm an Elder Orphan. (90 years old, no wife, no kids close to me, no extended family reaching out, all my veteran friends have passed. Nothing but memories and old photos. But you know what? During the Christmas period I volunteer at homeless shelters, helping with the meals and getting into conversations with many of the homeless. Listening to their stories tells me they are far worse off than I am. It is an enjoyable 10 days and helps me get through the Yuletide season.
Good man! Inspiring message! Keep up the good work.
God bless you sir.
That's sounds a good thing to do @@EdW-e4w
@@billfarley9167 I’m volunteering to help clean up at a community dinner. I think that’s my new thing on Christmas. I’m not religious, so I absent myself from their rituals and services. But everyone can use a little help.
Last year I was alone and I was sooooo…HAPPY!
Alone doesn’t mean lonely!
Thank you for your community service. Those folks must really feel some relief being talked to like human beings instead of shunned. We all need to pull together and stop worshiping consumerism, especially at Christmas.
I’m 55 and an elder orphan since 53. I long for my parents and struggle but I see families today and they just aren’t the same. The internet has changed the landscape of life.
I'm 58 and my 93 year old father is taking his last breath as I'm forbidden to be there .
55 isn't 75
Rebuild yr life and do whatever you want
@janetscully3337 When no one is willing to hire you you can't .
My husband and I are alone on the holidays since we are not near family and holidays with extended family was not pleasant. No one spoke to us so we did not feel very wanted or welcome. We are happier staying home and I connect with my online communities also.
@@lorireed8046 my heart breaks for you
I am an "elder orphan". My husband passed 6 months ago. I am in tears. Merry Xmas to you all.
Merry Christmas to you, too. Amen
Feel so bad for you
This is my 1st Holidays alone without my husband after 42 years together. Read through people's messages helping me gain the strength to keep moving forward.
I apologize for my English writing.
Thank you.
Awwwww. I wish you the very best. I've never been married and have tremendous sympathy with anyone who has lost a spouse! I lost my 19 year old cat on September 3. That is hard enough. ❤❤❤
I am sorry about your cat. We had one cat sometime ago, her name is Mandy.
Thank you Catmother.
May your Holiday be filled with warmth and love.
I am 64. Just retired. My parents are gone. My sister was killed in 1999. I am an elder orphaned. There are no friends no, no children, no family. My work took a lot of my life. Life is not as I expected at this age. I have 5 dogs and I am loved not just at Christmas but everyday.
❤🌲hugs, same here
@@tjsmith1781 I’m 73 and have eight kids and 16 grandchildren. My son came Christmas Eve day with his two kids and wife he is the eldest son. My daughter has downs lives with me. I am content now in the previous years I was upset because my kids preferred the other in laws or father’s family. I am not well off so I’m alone but have a roof a bed and I’m not sure what happened as this wasn’t what I expected either. God has taken me through some rough times and saved me. Happy birthday Jesus
@@tjsmith1781 that’s nice but your house must stink with all those dogs especially if they’re big dogs
OMG we have the same story life has delt some struggles but I have my faith in God
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I’m glad I came across this video. I am divorced, have 4 adult kids, and 2 small grandchildren. This year there is strife within the family so no gatherings. I have tried to fix the problem but to no avail & lately, I feel like nothing but a burden to my adult children who are between 24 and 38 years old. I’m feeling a lot of grief and sadness. The treatment of seniors is way different than the way I treated my parents. It’s very sad.
My 35 yr old son is the same. I'm older now, and viewed as a burden..... I most likely will never see him again... They get old too , they'll see..
I have four adult children they never come to see me they are an hr away if I don’t contact them and make an effort I never hear from them it’s 2 weeks till Christmas and this yr I just ignored Christmas haven’t heard from them yet and I don’t care anymore I’m not doing Christmas with all the work and stress and no one else has stepped up I’m done
It's that way for so many. It's a narcissistic society now. Even if you were the best parent, sacrificed your life for your kids, for many they'll kick you to the curb. And, absolutely no emotions about it. None. Cold blooded
Ww2 generation cared for their parents as they aged, many lived with them. As the boomers had grandparent living with them. Boomers kids are self centered. Nothing will ever go back to the way it was. Caring, compassion is a thing of the past. So is having a conscience.
I hate the holidays..and the older I get,the more I hate them..
@@patricialavallee8286 I am so sorry that you feel this way, Patricia, but I can understand and agree with you that today's society is the true "me, me, me" culture at it's worst.
I'm 70 and all of the above. I am healthy. I have cats. Mom died recently so it's my first year as an orphan. I am doing OK. She suffered too long. Thank you.
I’m so sorry for your loss, she’s at peace now
Hugs to you, I'm 70 also and lost my Mom in August, she suffered a long time with dementia. I miss her something fierce and I guess we were both lucky to have our Moms' for so long💓
@@debbietodd8547 Sending you comfort and peace... 🌹
Wow, can't imagine having a parent until age 40. I was 38 when my father died, 40 when my mother died. A combination with old parents at birth in 1958 and they only lived to 74 and 79
I've spent a few Christmases alone. Even though I have a girlfriend, she has often worked at the holidays (nursing). Here are my "survival" tips.
1. You aren't surviving anything. Christmas as it currently exists is a contrived fantasy. I expect most people are silently disappointed no matter what their circumatance
2. Plan everything you are going to eat on Chrismas day. Some places will be closed so have that already figured out.
3. You have cats which means you are already smarter than people who don't. They are your company on Christmas day and it is often a lot better than suffering through people you really don't want to be around.
4. Plan some specific recreational activities you want to do on Christmas day along with some free form time.
5 Watch A Christmas Story on TBS at least once. They run it over and over all day long.
I'm 72 and not alone because Jesus is in my heart and with me
always!
@@StephenGrover-zc4hp …and He would be the first to suggest that His way always involves community.
Sursum corda ❤
Strange comment
@@beaulieuc8910 Nothing strange about this comment, for Jesus Himself said "Behold, I stand at the door (of your heart implied) and knock. If any man hear my voice and open the door I WILL (not maybe) come into him and sup with him and he with Me." No one is ever alone when Jesus has come into their heart. How truly wonderful it is. For God so loved the world .....
Wonderful. Jesus is always with us who believe. ❤
I'm 79 and a widower for 7 1/2 years. No children, two of my dearest friends died last year. I can deal with being alone, but it's the better half that I truly miss on a daily basis. A 40-year marriage that outlived all but one of our married friends. They were together 53 years until the husband passed away. I was lucky to share 40 years with the one person who truly loved me.
@@bbdc1977-sg8dc I'm so sorry for your loss. I miss my deceased husband, he died unexpectedly at 53.
@@bbdc1977-sg8dc God truly loves you too. Merry Christmas ❣️
I appreciate your comments. I'm in a similar situation. My "domestic partner" passed in October from Alzheimer's. My remaining friends and relatives are over 100 miles away- and I don't care to drive there. I miss my partner the most. She suffered mentally and physically for about 18 months- losing more capabilities every day. I almost forgot what she was like before the illness until I reviewed some old home videos- with her dancing and laughing.
I have been married 53 years!!
We now live lives in gratitude!
Elder 57 year old orphan here. Never married, no kids, parents are gone, brother is gone who I was never really close to. I was the baby of the family so my brother and sister were teenagers when I came along. Sis is pretty much all that's left and she lives back in our home town in another state. No friends really to speak of. Being a young boy in the early 70's and growing up in a small town, holidays were the postcard opening presents, Christmas dinner, Charlie Brown Christmas and Rudolf on TV affair that I would give anything to relive one more time. Now holidays are just another day for me. I try to stay positive but its tough thinking about how magic this time of year used to be and what it has become. Reading some of the comments here has helped and maybe I'll make an attempt next year to celebrate in some small way. Mostly I'm OK with my solitude but somedays are tougher than others, for those that are doing well then good for you, for those maybe not so much then I truly hope we can find some comfort this season and that things get better. Thanks for reading.
@@Scorpionwitch my story is very similar!! Maybe we're soul siblings!
A long time ago - in my twenties - I felt painfully lonely. Over time, after sometimes being with people, I came to understand that solitude is not the same as loneliness; and that the worst loneliness is being with the wrong people.
Now, in my seventies, I am at alone and at peace. I value my solitude. I enjoy the occasional conversation with someone, but a little goes a long way. I am content with my situation.
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Bravo!, Well said.
Beautifully said, @baruchben-david4196. I've been alone all my life, now I rejoice that I have 2 Great Pyrenees puppies and no one else. Your flowers are beautiful. Take good care of yourself, the world needs you!
Same here❤
My mom used to tell me that I could be as happy as I wanted to be. She was right too. I had a chemical imbalance and got treatment and have determined to stay grateful for what I do have. Gratitude goes a long way and leads to contentment.
Having one’s sanity is invaluable.
@lynnehorizon5532 clinical depression
Every day that I awake in my own bed, or drink coffee at my table, looking out at the distant mountain, I am enormously grateful I came here back in ‘03, and that after a crippling accident and a long period of absence, I fought my way back home and have regained enough ability to walk to continue living here. Every day, I am grateful.
@@ReginaTerwilliger so does humility and I don’t see much of that anymore Trump has NEVER demonstrated humility ever
@@robertlee3756 he's a lot more humble after 2 attempts on his life. ( Just my opinion ) At least he won't run the country into the ground.
Your video brought me a great deal of comfort. I lost my soulmate 6 months ago and am trying to be a strong 78 year old widow.
I'm 70 and lost my fiance of 30 years 3 years ago. In 2015 she was diagnosed with Dementia and Alzheimers. Within 6 months she did not recognize me. I've learned to move on
@@tracyd2598excellent comment
I’m sorry I lost my dear husband 10 mos ago after a long struggle. I miss him so much but his last 4 years were such a struggle, but I took care of him every moment ❤️❤️. He was my best friend, and thought I was beautiful and told me everyday
Sharon, your comment has moved me to tears. Today is the 5th anniversary of my wonderful husband's funeral. The second worst day of my life.
I feel your loss so acutely and my heart breaks for you. The only thing that gets me through another day is knowing that I'm the luckiest woman in the world for having found my soul mate and having had so many years of happiness and love.
I lost my soulmate and husband 8 months ago after 50 years of marriage. My family live overseas. I love Jesus. I have 2 dogs and a cat. They are a great comfort and happy company.
Lovely video to watch and hear everyones personal battles
I know the true meaning of Christmas...thanks be to God for His Unspeakable Gift...
Yes. Christmas is Christ, our Light, our Way.. Stay close to the Light and find Him close to you.
My Savior is born Amen
There is no god
Yes. Amen. ❤
And THIS is the true meaning of Christmas! Thanks for sharing.
I have always been somehow put-off by the phony marketing and expectation of The Season. As a senior, I’m relieved to step back and let the beauty of winter take my focus.
I am an "Elder Orphan" and loving it. A new interesting chapter of my life. I love the peaceful life, but I have to be aware of my environment at the same time.
68 and the same here. Have a nice old house, pets, lots of music and movies to watch if I so choose and a positive outlook for the new year.
@muffs55mercury61 MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR!
@@I.can.do.8 Thank you and same to you!!
@@muffs55mercury61 Thank you
There was a time that I thought "no one should ever be alone on Christmas". I invited people over that didn't have anyone. But eh - now I am alone, I am a burden to my son who didn't want to spend time with me or take my calls. I am used to it now, and I enjoy being alone. Societies have grown cold and shallow, I can't change that - it is what it is. I no longer invite people over so they won't be alone. Because, I want to be alone.
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Don't waste time on people who don't respect you.. I,too, never had a problem with my own company.
Im so sorry to hear that about your son. I dont wish him any ill will, but there will be a day when your gone he will never forgive himself. My Mother is 74. She's relatively healthy, but I can see the decline. She made many mistakes as a Mother, but I know in my soul she did the best she could. And NOBODY at any point gas ever loved me unconditionally as my Mother. I know that, I tell her that I love her every day. So to you, who've ive never met, im sure you weren't perfect, and im sorry if your son thinks you're a "burden". Youre not. God bless you❤
@@scottchavez1688 Thank You
I am 67 years old. I am truly an elder orphan. The holidays use to do me in.
I was married once, for a short time. No children. Only my brother’s offspring. They have grown up and have children of their own. I was never invited for either holiday, and for me Thanksgiving was the hardest. I use to cry watching a family Thanksgiving dinner on tv. Christmas was a little easier. I was always their favorite uncle until they grew up. Then I wasn’t. Every year I beat myself up as to what must have happened. I still don’t know.
Then, one year I had inspiration, 😇. Instead of the commercial side, see the truthful side of both holidays. Thanksgiving is giving thanks to the Creator. Christmas is wishing Jesus happy birthday. It worked and set me free! 🎉
Awesome❤
AND, best part is he'll be back very soon!
Both are man made "deflective celebrations" and neither one has anything to do with the reality of "the Creator."
As Jesus stated in Scripture: "Beware of the traditions of man."
The highest inspiration is understanding that when you know, honor and worship your Savior He is right next to you every hour of the day---that is "thanksgiving!"
Absolutely!
I'm sorry to know there are so many elder-orphans enduring loneliness but reading through the comments it seems there are many who do actually enjoy their solitude - I am one of them. I deplore the commercial aspects of the season - stores bursting at the seams with goodies we're supposed to buy - and pride myself on being able to ignore all the hullabaloo! Cosy in my little home with music - cd's of my choice - and a good book - to me is pure bliss! I do think of those less fortunate with no roof over their heads and, these days, living in tents and lining up at food banks. I look forward with hope that we will see a change in government and conditions for such people in the next year,
@@LuckyLucy451 The changes you’re going to see in government will make it worse, not better for the underprivileged. Unless of course you happen to be a billionaire, then everything will be just fine.
@@darnellehurd8986 I can't see things getting worse for the underpriveledged but I do realize there might be some belt tightening while a new government cleans up the appalling mess the Trudeau liberals have made for so many - not being a billionaire I am not delusional!
Can't help but think so many here would make each other very happy. I like being alone too, but kind of tragic that it's so difficult to meet people and know if they might actually enjoy a relationship.
@@Boots27J Yes, I do look back on times when could get together with friends and maybe play cards and have a good giggle - doesn't seem to happen these days but they say you can't go back so happy memories!
@LuckyLucy451 Same here. Sad that politics has also spoiled things with remaining friends I've had for nearly 40 years.
Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays were terrible when i was growing up so as soon as i was out on my own, I began to volunteer on Thanksgiving and enjoy Christmas peacefully in my own home. I'm in my 60s now, living solo for more than 10 years and the solitude is refreshing! No drama, arguments, etc. Have a blessed season everyone ❤️
❤ I love being alone I’m sorry for all suffering this lonely feeling
I totally agree! Solitude is my sacred space and alone is my preferred state of being. Maybe it's an introvert thing?
I used to have the Turkey Dinner and buy many gifts for my whole family but I've gotten older and I like spending time with just my son and cats. I got put off by my family complaining about anything they could. I make the dinner for me and my son but its more relaxing not having to wait on ungrateful people anymore. Someone asked me if I was cooking this holiday and I really don't want to deal with anyone anymore. I just want peace and quiet. I like eating dinner, having desert, playing with my cats and having some hot cocoa. I do buy gifts for my son and cats. Its so much nicer.
When we get older we realize it’s ok not to be around people who make you uncomfortable and unhappy. Merry Christmas.
I get limited time with my kids and grandkids during the holidays. I wake up on Thanksgiving and Christmas alone. My dog is good company so I cook us a good meal. I always try to find a young person, normally a server at a local restaurant, that is struggling with holiday expenses. I leave them a $100 tip. Not a lot of money but it at least provides a few toys and a decent meal. This year I found three. That's how I keep the holiday spirit and feeling the true meaning of Christmas. Be a joyful giver. Expect nothing in return. Got this habit from my grandpa and my dad. I'm not a millionaire but I don't want for anything. I remember a Christmas about 20 years ago my wife and I asked our middle school kids what they wanted for Christmas. They said nothing. We don't need anything. That's the best Christmas gift I ever got.
God bless you!!
God Bless You. Merry Christmas, Happy New Year ❤
I am 65 and alone save for my dog and birds. I have been alone most of my life. To me Christmas is a made up commercial holiday insisting that people go into debt buying meaningless presents and feeling obligated to visit people they would rather not and exhaust themselves making sure everything is as prescribed. It is a recipe for depression as far as I am concerned. I have memories of childhood and Christmas morning and if I feel like decorating the house in a given year I do but to me the holiday season is more of a hassle than anything. A time to feel bad just because you are alone. I see it for what it is. Happy to see the season come and even happier to see it over, like most people I suspect.
Absolutely!👍
Many people, especially retailers, have made Christmas seem that way. It doesn't have to be that way for you. I ignore all the empty madness of it by focusing on the birth of the Lord, by going to mass and gathering with my grown children for dinner and exchanging a few gifts. We keep it simple. It helps, too, that Christmas lasts more than one day, from the 25th until Epiphany on about Jan 6th. Those days I celebrate with our church community at the daily masses. The church is still decorated and we still sing carols. This is just one way of making Christmas meaningful. Hopefully, you can find a way to make it so for yourself. The Lord be with you and Merry Christmas!
As with so many in the comments here I prefer to focus on the winter season, solstice. I love candles, poinsettas and holly so I bring those in. I live in an apartment now so can't have a real tree and won't invest in a plastic one but I love the lights so string up lots of those. I detest the commercials, the push to buy everywhere and the constant questions.....Have you finished your shopping yet? Did you have a nice Christmas? Don't have much extra money so the big lavish displays of piles of presents under the tree just reaffirms what you don't have. The expectations in December can be crushing. A beautiful long walk, possibly in the snow, a good book or special movie, a special dinner and dessert and gratefulness that I am well and not in the hospital, that is my focus this year. Blessings to you all!🕯🙏🌟
You said that you can't have a real tree because you live in an apartment now. Growing up in the projects of Queens, NY, we almost always bought a real tree on Christmas Eve, set it up, and decorated it. Real trees became too much for me to handle as a middle-aged adult living in a house. Then, even my artificial trees have shrunken over the years. The same thing happened with my aunt, who lived in a house, going over the decades from a large real tree to a small tabletop artificial tree.
It is enough indeed . Better small gifts of affection or time every day than the mountain of material things beneath the tree that don't bring us the sense of joy that a simple hug or kind word can . Merry Christmas to you... ❤
@@gaoneal02 a tree, with gorgeous red berries and shiny green leaves
Before you know it, it’s over.
@@MelanieNLeehello from another Long Islander... My family also lived in the projects then moved to Nassau where I grew up. I loved to listen to the stories they told from back in the day. Sending you best wishes❤️
I was a part of a couple all my life until she died 7 years ago. She always used to put up the tree. Every year I get it down from where it is stored in the loft and decorate it as she used to. Although she's not here, I can just pretend she's out shopping! Thanks for uploading.
That is adorable🌟
My most memorable and meaningful Christmas Day was 25 years ago when I was 41 and alone in my apartment from the time I woke up into bedtime. I felt God’s presence.
Neat, isn't it?
I had my "first encounter" 66 years ago as a little kid in Sunday school. We were singing "All Things Bright and Beautiful" and I looked out the window into a perfect, blue, spring sky, punctuated with big cumulus clouds - and at that moment, I knew everything in the song was TRUE.
There have been many such times since then and a growing realization that the last prophecies of these days are very soon to be fulfilled.
Iam 61. No children, never been married. No neighbors. I enjoy being alone! Just gave my friend the boot, too. Peace is what is important for Christmas 🤶
Play I would love to talk with you. I’m 59. I am married, but lonely because he’s got mental problems. I know he has them. He doesn’t think he does. Ha ha and when you said about given up from the boot oh, what a story I have to tell.
Count your blessings when alone. Better to be alone than to be in a dysfunctional family. There are many who would gladly trade places with you. Be greatful for the peace and quiet. If you feel lonely, find someone to help.
Excellent comment ❤
I live with my dis functional sister. So I agree. We love each
Other but don’t “like” each other. I would give anything to lot to live alone again!!!!!
Thank you for saying all the things I've been thinking. Yes, I'm alone, just me and my cat. I miss having traditions and family around. It's nice to know I'm not the only one out in left field. I wish all who are here, peace and hope. I'm working hard on it myself.
Thanks for the video and all the comments!! I am 78 and not yet an elder orphan but seem headed that way. I have family but as time goes by they seem less and less interested in my company and I foresee a time ahead mostly alone. So I gives me comfort to know that many of you out there are coping rather nicely. This is a great help to know that its possible to be alone and still comfortable with how things have turned out. Thanks to all.
I am an ‘only child’ and I knew that if I could not make a family for myself, this would be my future. In 2000 my best friend in town, an older woman I had known for nearly 30 years, went home to visit her family for what she believed would be the last time. I experienced my first ‘Christmas Alone’ in 2000. I planned a nice dinner out at a gorgeous hotel buffet. I dressed up and put on jewelry, and my faux fur snow leopard cape. I was the only one sitting alone in the whole room. I almost cried, so I bowed my head as if saying grace..a long one! I thanked the waiter, who was serving the 2 glasses of champagne that came with the buffet, for giving up his Christmas to serve us. During my long, enjoyable lunch, he served me several more glasses! I had dessert, and went to a movie downtown where I saw a great rom-com. 3 years later, accepting that I was going to be alone, I decided to make my long-held dream and goal come true when I found a parcel of land with power and a well. I sold my house in town, and moved to a place where I knew no one. Since then I have had friends for Christmas, or eaten it alone with my cat and dog (s). I don’t find the silence difficult. I have not really had family for decades, and friends are almost non-existent. I don’t mind really. I belong to myself, more than ever. At 77 I am pretty content, live a fairly active life and I have many intellectual interests. I also have Nature, without any human intrusion beyond myself. I am blessed with very inclusive neighbors who invite me on holidays but either way, I am done with grieving for things either lost or never found. I live a good life and I think I can make it better.
What a great attitude you have.
A few years ago as I headed up to the store to buy more junk for everyone for Christmas, I noticed that there was an old homeless lady standing in front of a store holiday window display. She stood there with all of her worldly possessions in her shopping cart. She had a look of delight on her face and she was laughing. She was remembering Christmas’s past when she was a child. It was heartbreaking for me to see that but I never forgot her. I still think of her every time I go past that particular intersection and think of the Christmas she must have had outside and the lesson she taught me is to be grateful what you have. One day, it will all be gone.
I guess I would’ve tried to help her, if possible.
Once you get to a place where all you have is God you realize that that's all you've ever needed
@ I need some cash.
@@beeamerica5024 exactly, and my holidays are no longer sad because of it.
That one day is but a sniff away.
71 and just diagnosed with cancer thank you. going to the movies Christmas Day.... a tradition I developed
Jesus is the way.
Prayers for your recovery
God bless I was diagnosed with cancer also this yr. Hope your doing ok...
Wish you all the best
I wish you healing.
I'm alone. Have been for 16 years so far. I used to share Christmas with my dad. We made a pact not to buy gifts. We gave each other a small sweet pie each, and sat and watched the TV all day, eating and drinking whenever we wanted to. Hardly said a word to each other, but those three days every year are precious to me. It was perfect. He died in 2012 and since then, I've just spent my Christmas alone, preferring not to accept invitations. I did once, to a full on family and I hated every minute of it. At the end of that day, I cried my eyes out and decided never to do it again. Prefer to be alone, and am at peace with the loneliness.
(By the way, I'm 61 now).
For some reason your comment really touched me. Wishing you a lovely quiet Christmas and the recollection of many nice holidays spent with your dad. I also miss my Dad very much.
@@CamperVan-K that’s how we are in my family quiet and non consumptive we do food sharing as well it makes for a peaceful Christmas. And we don’t incur credit card debt. Really miss my dad too.
@@lcolletti9901 Sounds lovely. Ideal actually. Sorry to hear about your dad passing on too. At least we have some happy memories which is a gift that not many have. God bless, and have a peaceful Christmas.
@@CamperVan-K true we are very fortunate
I'm alone at Christmas too. I know what you mean about being invited to share it with families. I did it once but never again. Much prefer to be on my own with the TV and some nice food. After all, it's just one day Nobody to thank either. Merry Christmas to you. 🎄
Buy and wrap gifts for children whose Christmas won't be very magical at the local church, orphanage, safe-house. Wrap whatever you would like if you were homeless, then drop it off at the shelter. Donate food to the food bank. Adopt a senior dog at the pet shelter on Christmas Eve. Ask the nursing home if anyone will not be getting a visitor or gift. Leave an excessive tip at the cafe. Look outward more, and inward less, that's how you can continue to make more Christmas memories as an orphan-elder. Great visuals btw.
Also, I think the Senior Citizen center puts on a Christmas party for everyone because so many people are alone on Christmas.
You are a magnificent man, Mike. God Bless You!
I'm 76 and have been an adult orphan for over 20 years. This Christmas I will be getting the same thing that I got for my birthday a few weeks ago. Nothing. I do feel like my life history has slipped away due to many deaths of friends and family. Can't replace the hugs I received all those years. That's what I miss most. P.S. Even my beloved dog died. Miss her most of all.
It is so hard when we lose our loved ones and especially our pets. I have found that, in the end, it is easier to give love that to find it. If we give expecting nothing in return, it makes life feel worthwhile and is a blessing to others. Choose (on purpose) to be a blessing to others and you will be amazed at the result, Remember, hurting people, hurt people and our world is filled to the brim and overflowing with hurting people. May God bless you today and always.
It does seem bleak,where i am the weather also continues to be bleak.Though i know i’ll be alone on Christmas day,my neighbours changed their plans,there is always chores to do.i feel too empty to do them though.Usually i can push past this,but i have had a difficult lonely year and feel unable to.
@@Ann-sj4pt It can be terribly hard being alone as it means different things to different people and it depends also on how we view our cup, be it half full or half empty. Nearing the end of my life now but having had a young life of deep sorrow and and much heartache, I understood even then to count my blessings, list them even,... and the blessings always came out on top. My situation didn't change, but how I viewed it did. Decided to be a friend to someone even more lonely than I was and it ended up being a wonderful decision that continues bringing me great joy even now , 50 yrs. later. I am sending you a big hug for Christmas.
@ so happy you have a friend amidst all your heartache,or that yo u had a friend ♥️
@@kathrynkathryn4836 i buy myself a little birthday and Christmas present,doesn’t have to be much,just a little treat.Self kindness.you are lucky to have had hugs over the years,and wonderful memories of your dog.Bless you ♥️
I am 71 and have been a loner all my life. My jobs brought me all over the country or overseas. Over time many friends have either passed on or moved far away. But, I still have many friends who I keep in touch with via phone or internet. I do volunteer work in my community to meet new friends. I enjoy being alone to my peace and quiet where I listen to music, go for walks in nature, meditate, garden, etc.
I purposely stopped communicating with 2 sisters and their families because of their toxicity and entitled behaviors. I hated visiting them and being in their company, too much drama.
I lost my husband of 48 years last year, right before Thanksgiving, on the day of his mother’s family’s Thanksgiving. I struggled through Thanksgiving, his Birthday, Christmas, and New Years; almost numb. This year it is a season of loneliness. My sons live away and are the independent men I raised them to be. I went to my mother-in-law’s house for Christmas Eve, but it was just loneliness in a crowd. I came home where I could handle my emotions better and left his family to enjoy themselves. Elder orphan is a new term for me, but it fits the situation well. I don’t feel sorry for myself, and wouldn’t change anything in my life. I was abandoned when I was 5, adopted and given a second chance at happiness, married and found true happiness, and now I am back to the beginning building a new life once more.
I've never been married or had kids. Being a kid was no fun, being very poor and my mother dying when I was 10. Then it was foster homes, no traditions or family. Sad as that may sound, I cannot miss what I never had, only reflect how life might have been different. But what good is that, really? Better to just accept it as the way it was and look forward. I'm not lonely, but the hype of Christmas does overwhelm me at times.
It's never too late for a happy childhood. I had a bad one, then our mother died and my elderly sister took the house and everything in it, including the insurance money and all my mother's savings. Then in my 50s I bought all the little things that made me so happy as a kid. The real vintage nativity scene I used to play with I found online, the miniature 1950s Christmas tree etc. She even kept the wooden toboggan even though she didn't have children, so I saved up and bought one for myself, which I decorate as a Christmas feature. God forbid if anyone comes near me at Christmas to spoil my happiness. I love spending it all alone without all the drama. I hope you can too ❤️
@@VMM34 I see that all the time. Living well is the best revenge. Peace.
@@raywood8187 Try to connect with other people at restaurants, churches,
Parks etc. I believe that some restaurants are open on Christmas to help people have a nice meal on Christmas.
Wow that is a very powerful perspective
I’m 69 and have no family near me and no friends in the area. Have spent the last 10 years or so alone and have adjusted to that. The first holiday after my Mom passed was tough but each year things got easier. Some years I cook something and sometimes I treat myself to a pizza or whatever I want. I miss the old family gatherings and always will but I am also ok with things they way they are now. I don’t sit around all day have the “ old woe is me “ I enjoy my day just like I do everyday.
One time I spend thanksgiving alone in the woods with some homeless cats and I felt surround by true friends
I have been an elder orphan for several years. This year I am having an open house with friends on Dec 8 so that they can see my xmas decorations which I really enjoy. I am also making cookies and brownies for my guests. I have an advent wreath, and I actually practice some of the traditional spiritual disciplines of Advent. I experience more joy in giving than receiving now since I have all that I need. I donate more than usual. I also practice gratitude. I make myself an xmas dinner with turkey, dressing, mashed potatoes, corn and of course, gravy. I hope in the years ahead I will find other orphan elders who will want to join me on xmas eve or xmas morn.
Oh what a beautiful way to celebrate and enjoy the holiday!
Yummy! Enjoy your day.
Merry Christmas!
Wow! This dropped into my feed serendipitously. I'm 62, and though I've never heard the phrase "elder orphan" this describes me. I guess I've sort of been abandoned by what's left of my family, just my son who barely speaks to me. He hasn't wished me a Merry Christmas yet and it's 2 pm on Christmas Day. I don't feel sad though, as I have my beloved dog here, my rescued Newfoundland. My spirituality is increasing, and I have a lot of things I like to do which do not involve other people, like reading, writing, playing PC games, creating art which keeps me engaged. I am alone, but not lonely. Merry Christmas and blessings to all!
I've been a widower since November 2010. Since my loved ones (and I) have I placed our faith in Jesus Christ, I know where my loved ones are, and I KNOW I will be reunited with all of them. My family has grown very small. I just remember the love and laughter we shared. I've seen the face of depression among older folks. In the past, I worked in retirement homes. I took away life lessons from the folks who lived in such places. Volunteering before Christmas (or Thanksgiving) is a truly wonderful thing. I've been "Santa" for more Christmases that I count! 🎅That has brought a true sense of joy into my life -- and more than a few free meals, to boot! My neighbor's orange tabby visits me on a daily basis. He's a great pal. I pray and hope that cat remains safe crossing my street. Merry Christmas 2024 to one and all -- everywhere. Happy Birthday, My Savior Jesus! ✝Walt and Charlie Ginger Tigger 😸🎅🎄
Wonderful! Amen!
Merry Christmas, sir. Everybody will have to go what you are going through eventually.
@@jjohnston1813 AMEN! Many thanks! Merry Christmas 2024! May The Jesus of Christmas be with you and your loved ones - now, and forevermore! ✝🙏🎅🎄⭐
@@walterfechter8080 Unto Him who is Able to keep you....
@@jjohnston1813 Amen and Amen! Had it not been for God's Grace through His Son, Jesus Christ, I would not be here typing this reply. I pray that The Lord Jesus keeps watch over all of us. I place NO limits on His Power! I, like countless others, await the return of Jesus the Christ. Merry Christmas 2024 to you, your loved ones and to everyone -- everywhere. With Christian Brotherly Love, Prayer and Care. -- W ✝🙏
76 elder orphan here, alone with my precious dog Olive. Gonna have pizza for Christmas topped off with Honey Bunches of Oats with Almonds for desert! My mom created wonderful Christmas memories that will keep me warm.❤
71 elder orphan also, and my dog is named Olive, too! I rescued her when a family ditched her after having her for 7 yrs. She's my best friend 🧡
@ oh…good for you Pam! Rescues are the best. They know and their loyalty is set in stone.
@lizabethrobison4566 pizza sounds good, but I'm confused about cereal for dessert. Do you make something special with it? Olive was so shy and timid when I got her. She has turned into a great watch dog and never lets me out of her sight. She really is comical and makes me laugh everyday. When she wants something, she'll sit and stare at me as if telling me to hurry up. You and I are blessed to have a loving companion and memories.
Hope to chat with you again 🙏
@@pamkunz6619 it’s just this particular cereal is sweet without being overly so and I frequently have it for desert.
My Olive (a black and tan mini dachshund) lived for her first 3 years with my son in a Seattle high rise when he realizes she was happier with me. I’ve had her for 6 very happy years. She is glued to me. I live near Shasta Lake in northern California. Lots of room to run around. The blessing is truly ours!
@lizabethrobison4566 merry Christmas and happy new year to you and your olive from me and my olive ❤️ I bought a rotisserie chicken and some cookies And it snowed today!
65 and so thrilled to be alone for the holidays! Divorced, so there will be no verbal abuse from my miserable ex husband, and I won’t have to drive from house to house to house to have to visit all of his gossipy relatives.
I will exercise, have a fabulous massage and afterwards dinner, a glass of wine and a good book. Oh, the luxury! Just remember people it can be much, much worse. Be grateful for everything that you have. Happy holidays.❤
Happy Holidays Everyone ❣️❣️❣️
You enjoy girl....enjoy ❤
I am an elder orphan with no children or spouse and Christmas is a difficult time for me. I do decorate my apartment and am involved with my church community. Unfortunately my cat crossed the Rainbow Bridge last month so I have lost that comfort. I am planning on getting a new kitty from a local shelter within the next couple weeks.
Thanks so much for your video. It truly spoke to my condition.
I am glad you plan to adopt a new kitty from the shelter there are so many unloved pets out there that need someone to love them and that they can give love back to. I have 5 dogs that I have adopted over the years and they are the best company such a blessing. I lost my husband last year and we talked about me being alone, he told me "you won't be alone, you'll have our girls" and he was right. Anna In Ohio
For about 24 years I have lived without parents, spouse, and was never able to have children. I will be 74 in about 2 weeks. I do have a brother with a large family, but they live in California. I used to send gifts, but never received Christmas cards or Thank You notes, so I gradually stopped sending presents. I have a piano and play everyday. During the Holidays I get out all my Christmas music and play and sing (badly) Christmas carols. Although I live near the top of a mountain in North Carolina, my neighbors sometimes tell me they hear the music drifting through the cold air and how much they enjoy it. Makes me feel better.
See, you bring joy to people without realizing it. I am 75 and mostly alone, but I'm fairly content with just my dog. Have you thought of adopting an aged pet? Caring for another living being makes life better somehow.
32 years, 8 miserable months. I have been without my Cathee since Saturday, March 21, 1992. It is a fact that some wounds never heal. If time "heals your wound," then you never truly knew what it meant to love someone. At this stage, I find myself in a world I no longer recognize, and the daily routine feels more like a burden than a benefit. I live only to relish memories, but they are good enough. Pleasure now comes from a cup of coffee and sentimental old songs.
Why not reach out with kindness, a smile and just put a little sunshine into the world...also there are so many places you can volunteer...you matter and you are needed in this world
@@louisetaylor6952 Respectfully, who says that I don't? That's exactly what I try to do. I was just being brutally honest with my post. I realize that reality may be upsetting to some, but I have learned to relish the beauty of memories. The past is something that will alway exist as part of us and it will never be taken away.
@Remembering-rq6si So happy that you are still sharing your Love with others and able to receive Love in return...Merry Christmas
@@TrueLeft-n6jThank you...
@@louisetaylor6952 Yeah, Merry Christmas. You took it upon yourself to assume I was nasty to others, even though I have been tormented by private pain for decades. I have never tried to show this. It is rather sickening that the moment I choose to write about it anonymously, someone gives me instructions on how to be a better person. People like you are the very reason I prefer to keep my feelings to myself.
I have been invited to Christmas Dinner at relatives, but if my company is only required once a year for 4 hours, I prefer my own home and the company of my dog.
I totally agree!
Families and friends and neighbors used to love each other so much but now the world has become cold lonely and distant we need to pray,for a Christmas miracle
Matthew 24:12
" Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold..."
Hang in there. Jesus is coming back and, based on all the signs of these times, it could be any day now! And it won;t be as a helpless infant, either.
I am blessed with good neighbors who are also good friends. I lost my husband of 35 years last year, this will be my 2nd Christmas without him that's the hardest part he was always in to Christmas and all the cooking of big meals ( he cooked on holidays) my birthday is also in December. My neighbors took me and another neighbor out to lunch and shopping at our favorite vintage store last week and Saturday I will go to one of the neighbors for Christmas dinner with her whole family and enchange gifts. Her daughter lives across the street from me now I've known her since before she was born and now her 4 little boys. Christmas Day I will be at my sisters home with her kids and husband. I baked cookies and candies and delivered them to neighbors this week. And I have 5 dogs at home but still there will be some loneliness and sadness with my husband gone now, it isn't the same but I am thankful for the time the Lord gave me with him. Anna In Ohio
@@buckeyedav1 Bless you, Anna.
I’m so glad I saw this video. I am an orphan as well. My family are all deceased. Just me and my dog. Thanks for posting this.
It's rather amazing that so many of the "mature of age" live alone with their dog(s) or cat(s) and feel content (I am one).
I am 74, and my partner of 47 years just passed in August. I am a Christmas fanatic. Not necessarily a decorating fanatic, but I put up a tree and have some holiday decorations around the house. I have always loved Christmas. I am not sure why, but it has always been a magical and special time for me. This year, I am somewhat sad for obvious reasons. But I am going through all of the steps I would have gone through if Richard were still alive. Richard came from a large family of 8 siblings. So in the past, we usually spent time with at least one or more of his siblings. My immediate family have all passed. I have some cousins who I am close to, but I am on the West Coast, and some of my cousins are in Texas and the others in Virginia. And for a few reasons, I am not going to be at one of his sister’s places this Christmas. Anyway, I am keeping up many of the holiday traditions that I have in the past, and resurrecting some that I have not done in a while. I think the keys are to keep whatever traditions work for you, have a structure to the days and be positive about the blessings that you do have and not focus on what your do not. Enjoy the holidays!
Hello. this is the first holiday season as an elder orphan. I have a sense of 'no fun', but I daily make the effort to say thanks to the very fact of my life. A bit of decorating, cookie baking to come, and 2 beloved dogs to share the days. I often say that I'm doing my best, and I honestly am. And I say that next year will be better and I want to believe it. Joy is what I'm after.
Finding this video has made me feel less a single orphan. To you I say, thank you.
The joy of the Lord is my strength. He will never leave or forsake us. May His blessings, grace and mercy be upon you.
I hope the very best for you
Jesus loves you more than you can imagine ❤️
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Next year WILL be better. You may even look forward to your solitary Christmas next year.
I'm not yet 60, and I've been alone almost a decade. I have NO family, no friends. I'm still not use to it. I love Christmas, but it's been OVER a decade since I've had one to celebrate. Yes, the silence is unnatural. I don't know if I'll ever get use to it.
Get a cat. Patiently teach it to walk on a leash. It takes time. Eventually it will work pretty well and people will stop you on the street to talk to you about it. Many of my friends came from doing this exact thing although that was not why I started doing it. Take exceptionally good care of your kitty. He/she can be a social lifeline.
@robertd9850
I had a cat. He died 20 October.
@@BlitzenSpeaks Sorry. I've outlived my cats too and I always have to wait a while to get another one but plenty of cats need a good home.
I'm 58, my husband died 5 years ago. I have no friends. Our children abandoned me because I'm disable and have health issues. Christmas was my favorite hoilday. Used to go all out. Now I just skip the day. Most days I'm ok being completely alone but it does get very lonely at times. I live in a state where it snows so i like to hibernate. But in the summer is when it would be nice to have a good friend to go on adventures with.
I have spent many Xmas alone and never was I unhappy. It is a day to fill with Xmas songs, nice food you prepared from scratch and enjoy some finer wines. Great readings and thanks to God to be so good to me all these years. I am 77 years was never married and was happy with my poems readings and imagination. Accepting your life for what it is, nothing less nothing more is a great source of strength.
Right on !!
I'm only 39, all my family has went to heaven. Every evening I finish dinner and mix a stiff drink.i sit and stare at the lit tree in silence . I reflect on life. Memorys of my childhood... Happy times.....
So glad you have your memories to comfort you. You are still plenty young enough to have a family of your own though 😉
Prayers for your peace in hard times!🙏🏽🙏🏽
I am so sorry that your loss please know I’m 64. I will be 65 next July. I’ve spent many many years alone don’t dwell on being alone. Stay busy try to remember God loves you and no matter what happens you’re never ever alone you’re not he is with you. He is comforting you he is caring for you. Please don’t become an angry, bitter person. Pray for God‘s love to surround you to protect you, and to heal your heart being an angry, bitter person only makes us lose the gifts that God gives us every day. I wake up and I look at the sunrise and I thank God I saw it. I have two dogs That I am so grateful for they bring me joy every day and companionship they love me unconditionally they make me laugh. I decorate my home for Christmas. I don’t do it for others. I do it for me and remembrance of the joy that Christ brings to my heart. I celebrate the snow. I feed the birds. I listen to the Rain. I watch the sun rise and I sleep well don’t dwell on what you don’t have and if you get lonely, go look there are other people out there that are looking for friends don’t look on the computer. Don’t look on your laptop. Go out find people face-to-face volunteer at a shelter,go for a walk. Always remember God’s got the plan. You just don’t know what it is yet.
There is no heaven
@@beaulieuc8910so how, exactly, do you know this?
Hello, I am 73 and totally alone now and also have not made friends in a new area (where I moved after the death of my husband, 6 years ago). My heart does not feel alone though - it is filled with memories and with love of who I once was and all of the Lights who once shone in my life. I think of them and celebrate them and celebrate the season for its Namesake now. XXXX
Family gathering has ended in my family, been alone for very long time. That's life for today's people
The last time my family had a get together like that was in 1973. But over the years I got invited to a friend's family gathering and there were several girlfriends thru the years that also invited me.
So many people spend money from feeling obligated and to think they will be appreciated for the money wasted. Since I am now one of these people you refer to, I like knowing my credit card has a zero balance at the start of the New Year.
I live in a Veterans Retirement Home. For many of us, Christmas is just another day.
Peace, quiet, freedom, and independence can be blessings when you learn to embrace them.
I relate to many of you❤.
Merry Christmas to all of us that are alone.
I was feeling down because it seemed my adult kids had forgotten me. But then I realized this is suppose to happen…..when I started my family, I slowly became “busy with kids.” I cherish the moments they give me and pray my mom understood this too. Life isn’t over…..it goes on! Be proud of them and give them their space to grow!
I'm 42 years old guy from Indonesia, and I'm still single. Finding & watching this video somehow just brings me an inner peace, that I thought I'll never gonna have it anymore, to be honest. It's calm & peaceful. A lot of words narrated in the video also are deeply relatable for me as well. This video is very much needed, especially during this christmas season, festive, holiday (& also New Year's). I also love how realistic this video is, in portraying the harsh reality of loneliness, especially during the times & moments of festive celebrations, happiness, love, warmth, connections, togetherness, & bright, shiny displays especially nowadays in the social media era. The video also ended with a good & reasonable sense of hope, that is much needed especially for people who have felt similar experiences in life. Thank you so much for this video. It really means a lot for me personally (& deeply). Merry Christmas for everyone here around the corners of the world & planet~
I am in the age group and find taking care of my husband with Dementia hard at times. I am encouraged by what this video states and also comments. Thank you all so very much. Loneliness is something that one chooses to be. Jesus is my strength of which I am so thankful for. Thank you all for the comments and this video
I'm a 64 year old Jewish woman who's alone since March 19th, 2024 when my husband, 68, suddenly ended up in the hospital after having had a stroke, seizures, brain bleed & a deadly high blood pressure without any warning. He was incubated 3 different times in a 5 weeks time frame. Unfortunately, he passed away from a massive head injury on the early morning on Monday, April 22nd, 2024. My husband was Christian. We had no children. This will be my 1st holiday & New Year's alone 😢 & I'm so lonely & feel isolated without him 😢.
sending you a hug, I'm a widow too...
@wbl5649 thank you so much for your best wishes. Yeah, being a widow at 64 is really hard to swallow. He was only 68 then & I honestly thought we had so many more years to spend time with eachother. I wish you the best of everything.
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@lindaalvarez8855Sending you a warm hug and wishing you comfort.....
I am so sorry about your loss and all you're going through. This has to be a time of shock and grief that I hope will soften in time. So much to go through, I am so sorry. With all the endured, he is at peace now, no pain. I pray comfort for you
There is a widespread assumption, also implied here, that holiday family gatherings are like a Hallmark card; full of joyous laughter and great conversations. There is no mention of children having meltdowns or family arguments. For some, the peace and quiet is preferable to all that.
I just turned 65 and fully retired. This is the first Xmas I haven't volunteered to work for someone else so they could be with their family. I can't believe I miss being able to work today. Life feels kinda empty.
I'm 73, my wife died a year ago October. Last year Christmas eve was beyond hard to get through. This year I'm in a much better place mentally. I'm alone again tonight, Christmas eve but I'm OK. I'm gonna go out to the river in the morning and enjoy Gods great outdoors. I'm good with that.
There is a lot of Gods beauty out there
I've reached the golden age of 80 years, and I have been alone for so many Christmases but I'm happy. I love God, I love myself, I love my children, yes and yes, I wish they were here too sharing this time with me but understand this is their time with their family. We have had many years of joy, fun, laughter, holidays! I'm okay with that. I must say, this is my most favorite time of the year, however, I continue to enjoy it as if ... I am that special guest. I've learned to be as kind to myself as I would be to my expected special guest.
Beautiful
I really know what you mean. Also an older orphan, husband died many years ago too. No children. We were both an only child. No one anymore. But after years of sadness in Christmas time I started to decorate my house again. And I learned to appreciate the little things, like a burning candle, my cat and crochet. I wish everyone a beautiful Christmas ❤
God love you. Do you crochet for charity? I do, and it does warm the heart to know someone less fortunate will be warm because of something that was handmade. 🤗
Yes there is beauty in that,little lights a cuddle with a pet if you have one,books,interesting films,meditation,the stuff we do all year round i guess ❤
I am an only child also, divorced and no children. Alone 25 years.I am 72.I guess there are more of us than I thought? I have gotten used to the Holidays alone. People have their own activities.
I am lucky to have inherited a nice sum from an Aunt so find peace in being pretty healthy and financially secure. I go to the Dog Park every day to walk and enjoy the joy of watching the dogs interact. I am feeding a friend's cat while they go away for Christmas. Something to always be thankful for.
My first holiday alone , broken hearted , just a horrible time, no kids just lost better half , this sucks so bad😢😢
I am sorry...that is so hard...sending you a hug and good thoughts
I wish you the best Christmas ever. Try & do something for yourself.
My x wife moved out with our kids on Christmas Eve many years ago. It was tough but after a while I got back up and moved on. As time has passed I realize it was the best thing to ever happen to me. Not my kids moving out but the x getting out of my life. She gave me the gift of freedom and happiness without even knowing it.
Thanks for sharing that, nothing feels as great as freedom. Restrictive relationships and manmade constructs of "holidays" (they didn't spring forth fully formed w/the Big Bang) are way overrated.
@@richrocketlll the x no doubt feels the freedom as well, it's a 2 way street, glad you feel better.
@@rustyrussell3211I have my doubts about that, because frankly if you want to leave your spouse it’s a bad sign about a person who decides to do it on Christmas Eve.
What a friend we have in Jesus …..
Yes, we're never alone.
That's right. Too many people rely on another person, kids or family to be happy but in reality that doesn't work that often.
Very well said sir..
"What a friend we have in" ___________ (fill in the blank). Whatever delusion works for you.
Isn’t that the truth
I'm 59 and have been an elder orphan since i lost my parents in my mid 30's. I send cards but never hear from my older siblings or their families. Covid scattered my social network and so i no longer have any friends. It's just me and my lab. As the youngest i was always so excited about Christmas even as an adult and now it's ironic that i haven't had a present under my tree in decades.
I just remember past Christmases, traveling experiences and cooking I was able to do when I was young, and do what I can with the decorating. I focus on Jesus, the reason for the season, after all, and not the party. With God's grace, I will experience the Spirit, which is the true gift and what makes Christmas great. I felt love at Thanksgiving, even though had no real Thanksgiving dinner. I've had plenty in the past.
I have celebrated Christmas in over ten years and I'm 66. I don't miss it.
First Christmas without Ma. I feel nothing but sorrow.
Kim, I understand. My mother was my favorite person in the world. Her birthday was on Christmas. She died on Dec. 14, 2002. I miss her so much, and Decembers and Christmases aren't quite the same. But, it gets better. This, your first Christmas without her will be hard; eventually the pain will ease. God bless you.
I'm alone and almost 82 and never been happier in my life the ability to live alone is a wonderful state of mind and I'm going to cook a roast some baked potatoes and some cold cola NO alcohol such a relief not to have to make some body else happy !
"... not to have to make somebody else happy." In going to think about that.
I am 75. I live in a Senior Apt, but DO NOT have any friends. Very Hatefull persons live here. I have not been able to move out!! I just pray for GOD TO BLESS ME WITH A VAN SO I CAN MOVE OUT!!
I've heard of people who have been invited to family gatherings during the holidays only to be ignored while at the family gatherings. Nothing is worse than being alone in a crowded place...
I have never been happier being old and alone at Christmas. I have grown into a self aware lovely person, and I don't have a need to have anyone around at any given time. I truly appreciate me, and I will enjoy holidays because of it. When you entertain the, "that's the way it should be," idea, you will feel horrible for no reason.
Yes, we make up stories in our head and then get sad!
Adult children grandchildren are busy don't have time. Reminds me of a song" the cats in the cradle" sums it up
Wow good point I remember that song❤
Thank you thank you thank you❤❤ I needed this.🌲❤️🌲❤ Merry Christmas everyone
No human family only dogs and horses, I..we always have a lovely Christmas full of love and appreciation for each other ☮💚🌏🎄
Well, here's another take. I find the season's warmth and comfort through friends, although they reside in scattered locations. With all the ways to connect now, it seems to me (even as I approach 80) that the spirit of the season comes from within, not the other way around. Being in someone's physical presence can enhance the experience, but it is no longer a necessity for the experience to be both satisfying and rewarding.
Amen
I agree!❤
Beautiful video and caring thoughts shared - thank you ! This is the first time I have heard 'elder orphan' used and perhaps I am one. I am a senior 66 divorced and two kids married. My son and I were so close all his life and he married in 2016 and our relationship is poor as his wife doesn't like me. The only time I hear from him is one day a week when he is driving home from work (he lives 2 hours from me and is a very busy radiologist). He has visited me one time in 2024 with his wife for beautiful holiday celebration where I cooked and presented them with many thoughtful gifts. January 2024 last time here. I live solo in larger house in woods and grateful for nature and my daughter who is very thoughtful and spends every holiday with me one night and day. I have been alone on holidays and take myself for nature walks. In the house I am decorating and ordering new holiday items that bring me joy (I am following a youtuber decorator now) My best bud pug passed a year ago and still dealing with her loss today. My occasional fear is tripping down the basement stairs or steps in the house and cracking my head and no one knowing and laying here for weeks. Messed up, right? I live off the road don't see my neighbors so they would have no clue if anything happened. Life is short and will likely rent the house and leave and just do my thing travel around inexpensively. Happy Holidays to all of us elder orphans and sending hugs
You could get an Apple Watch like I (widow) have. Then, if you have a fall, or any type of emergency, all you need to do is press the button on the watch and help will come…anyway, have a contented season, and continue counting your blessings 😊👍🏻🙏🏻
Me too. Go to church alot
Good idea.
Get another pet. An elderly rescue, maybe.
I’ll be 72 next week love being on my own …I like my own company … fiancé died 25 years ago …Christmas is nice and stress free … do what I want when I want .. it’s bliss
Just turned 72 myself and I can totally relate to your sentiments. Merry Christmas!
I be 72 in January, feel the exact same way. This journey has brought much peace after all the heartbreak from those closest to you. I’ll stay at peace until the Lord returns.
Merry Christmas and may 2025 bring more peace and blessings!
I'm 72 and love my alone time. I have a tiny social circle, but do have a dog and I don't really care about being alone at Xmas. My xmas growing up were filled with drunken arguments and drama. I don't have a relationship with my sister and I don't miss that one bit. I put up a tree and decorations, cook a nice dinner, walk with my dog or a a photographer, get out with my camera in the quiet winter.