What Imposter Syndrome Feels Like
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- Опубліковано 25 лют 2023
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I felt this way when I passed my pharmacy test for a technician certification. I have been told on my life that I was dumb and I worked so hard to prove everyone wrong.😂🤦♀️
You had me until you said "work harder" like for me the stress hits but like a wave it ain't that bad after there's no way I have the ability to put any more effort with a higher reward
Imposter syndrome sucks a lot. You could be a leading expert in some field, holding a top position on a company and still feel inferior to your peers or that you are just lucky.
Some time u r lucky
@@dr.j3685 you're really helping here, thanks a lot
@@dr.j3685 Imposter syndrome be like: I knew it all along, this is me being the lucky one.
I think lots of people are actually lucky.
@@dr.j3685lmfao wut tf brother 😂
Imposter syndrome leads for me to procrastination because I'm so stressed I manipulate myself to not do stuff. And when I achieve stuff it is never good enough. There must always be done more. I could have done so much more. I never succeed like I think I'm capable off and it really bothers me that I have the feeling I screw myself over again and again but in reality I just don't take breaks and acknowledge how much I leaned into my work and how much effort I have put into it. It is an uphill battle. Everyday.
Thanks for elaborating so well. Very similar to my situation.
But can it be called 'Imposter Syndrome' or is it something else? Just a question in general for anybody who knows.
@@raybalali2057 tbh I think for me it is a mix. But I feel pretty guilty for taking breaks, because I think I don't have the time for that and I'm not where I should be with my knowledge. That's where I feel like I stab myself in the back very often and things start to fall apart. For further explanations I would just recommend the main video of this short.
Sounds more like perfectionism to me
@@suzannax I think these things go hand in hand. But also there is no criteria for it. So yeah. Grey area.
@@G3Dem Feeling guilty for breaks means less relaxation and the urge to work harder which results in less motivation resulting in less quality work and again resulting in more urge to work harder and less relaxation. By the way: Do you have the name of the full video for me? This one seems quite precious for me.
Edit: I've just seen it's in the description. Shame on me.
More and more, the “normal” person seems more like the ideal human we strive to be rather than the normal that struggles through multiple mental issues. It’s seems more common to struggle than to be in the flow state.
To me, someone having no issues is someone not caring about them.
Maybe not "ideal human", but closer to being neurotypical? I don't have any issues with imposter syndrome and am very much like the "normal" person in this example, but I still struggle with other mental illness that have affect my life in a lot of admittedly horrible ways.
Maybe a lot of people also experience _both_ the normal reaction and the imposter syndrome reaction, depending on what exactly it is they achieved and the progress that got them there. That's just a speculation from my part though.
I would also add that this can lead to self-sabotage/giving up in order to not face those feelings of inferiority !
I have crippling impostor syndrome likely because my parents never vocally appreciated me and my efforts. Even if I was at the top of my class in school, it was never "well done", it was always "continue working, you can always do better". There was no room to breathe, only pressure. It broke me.
We are literally the same person
We three @@zumair8138
You don’t know how many people needed to see this comment. A lot of us just don’t understand how important it is to relax and just say those our parents never did. That’s the first steps to self love. You have to literally talk out loud to yourself in love as if you were talking to friend in an identical situation and trying to up lift them. Uplift yourself!
I feel like the impostor syndrome is the reason why some people become experts to begin with. I've always had people telling me how good I'm at arts, how great it's I got into uni, how well I'm doing at a challenging field. However, since I always feel like an imposter, I can never take any praises seriously. I feel like I really haven't done anything impressive or that anyone could've achieved the same if they just put their mind on it, I always see all the things I still need to improve on rather than which I'm already good at, and I always feel like people praise me just to be nice or since it's socially expected. As a kid praises even irritated me since I didn't think I was really that good at anything but still people would praise me like I was making literal miracles.
Imposter syndrome has it's down sides, indeed you never feel like you've done enough and had the right to relax. However, it's also the force that pushes you to get even better at everything, and the motivation never gets down. Well, if you manage to not burn out, that is.
Yeah. I think this applies to most things I learn
I had imposter syndrome for the first 5 years of my software career. I dropped out of college when a company came to me through my prof with a job offer. I never felt good enough so I continuously increased my output year after year. More work, more responsibilities, more side projects. On days when I needed to decompress, I would sit alone and day drink. It all stopped when I had 3 weddings in a row each separated by 2 or 3 days. For the first time in 5 years, I never took time off (never took a vacation, never needed sick days). It's been a few years since and I've never really felt like I've "restarted". I still love my job and when I need to I can get back into that "grind" mindset but for the most part, I've relaxed. I've made new friends. I've found new hobbies. I now use all of my vacation time every year. I finally feel confident in my abilities. However, it's not all sunshine and roses. A new challenge has approached: ego.
@Kyle Andrews
I've never had Imposter Syndrome.
But I'm glad you've managed to snap out of it.
After watching this vid, it seems to me Imposter Syndrome is like a ghost that haunts you wherever you go, whatever you do.
So, you, now having overcome imposter syndrome and sent the spooky bastard to some abandoned castle somewhere, should be proud of that.
It's, imo, THE biggest achievement you've done so far.
The ghost is scary.
The ego just wants some ego candy, so it delves into silence again.
My advice? Give it it's candy. Be okay with it and don't knock yourself for it. BUT, at the same time put in the work to try and deal with all the challenges your ego presents itself with.
Cheers and good luck! ✌
It was the opposite. I always had an ego about everything, but lack of guidance and poor coping skills lead me to finally snap. Impostor syndrome hit me hard and now I can’t say I’m really good at anything. I know I have my strengths and weaknesses, but generally my self esteem is super low but my work output is incredibly high if I have it down and my ability to pick up things is above average. I still can’t let myself think I’m good because I’m afraid my ego will come back and I have to essentially gaslight myself into thinking I’m a complete moron who just gets lucky to be able to do anything without being an asshole about anything.
This is exactly why I burnout every few years because I sometimes feel like I don’t get the feel good emotion from achieving anything I just feel like that’s another thing done but there’s always so much more and I’m a waste of talent if I give up but I don’t feel like I belong in a successful life but I sometimes think it’s because of self esteem issues and I try not to self diagnosing but thank you so much for this video definitely got me thinking 😅
I didn't go to my graduation for my BS bc I felt I didn't deserve to, and then a couple years later my brother's graduation got cancelled bc of COVID so my mom didn't get to see either of her kids graduate from college 😭
I am now basically the boss of a design agency after being hired just 2 month ago for just a normal position. Everyone is convinced I'm very good and know what I'm doing and I'm terrified of them finding out I don't know certain things. Everytime I get a new task I'm completely freaked out. It's exhausting. Everytime I accomplish something I am grateful how lucky I am and I'm just waiting for the s*it to hit the fan and something falling back onto me. I've been dealing with this feeling my whole life and I'm exhausted to pretend I'm calm and relaxed and in control when internally I'm screaming in fear.
tbh in my case I tend to work very hard, succeed, then get so afraid of the failure I know is coming and how it will affect the pride I feel that I immediately sabotage myself lmao. Accomplishing things is relief for me but italso makes me more fragile
Generally speaking, I don’t have imposter syndrome. But boy do I know this feeling.
This is a mental battle, anything I accomplish I just feel more insignificant.
What if you work really really hard for something and still fail?
I'd not be surprised if there was a high correlation with ADHD, it's like you're so used to struggle with easy things (when others don't) that achieving something difficult feels like "huh? Must be luck".
Every anime antihero who gets beaten by the hero, who only attended 3 days crash course in a nutshell:
I feel like this mindset goes hand in hand with adhd. I've accomplished a lot and I'm about to graduate college after 6 years (5 of which I went undiagnosed) and yet I still feel so inadequate and like I haven't earned it. I constantly overpromise by a huge margin to both myself and others and fail to live up to those promises which leaves me feeling like a failure despite knowing I still got 80% of the way to a goal that was twice what was asked.
I'm feeling that right now, I can't believe I've achieved so much in a short time and I feel that I'm going to lose all, and I don't think it is an "imposter syndrome", I do really feel weird like I don't fit here
For me it's more like, when I get praised for doing something well, I feel like a disappointment if I don't keep doing it and getting better at it. Even if it's something that doesn't interest me that much.
Then I feel like a fraud and like my life is run by others, until I get fed up and stop doing things altogether and inevitably everyone is disappointed in me, until I start doing a little again and the dreaded praise comes and the cycle repeats. I'm not sure if it's imposter syndrome, but it seems related somehow.
@@Dimitris_BalfYeah
That's me at work... but I've reached a point where I'm surprised no one noticed in so long that I'm pretty much clueless what I'm doing and what's even more surprising is that so far there was no major disaster in a few years. And now, instead of being terrified, I'm curious how much can I keep faking it... because let's be real, I'm not going to make it, I'm just going to keep faking it.
Average software engineer
@azuren i've read this from somewhere else, but they say it's because software engineers only get noticed / talked to when there's bug/error. No wonder they think they're never good enough--nobody praises them about parts of the program that does run well
@@letsreadtextbook1687 that's a good point. I'm a computer scientist and I pretty much only see the negatives. Almost no positives.
Mmm, I never suffered from imposter syndrome. I see my own skills only realistically and know that they are pretty low, no matter how much I try to learn. I see also that I achieved nothing much despite my little work experience of nearly two years.
In other words as a little junior it´s not possible for me to suffer from imposter. For senior and mid-level it´s a different story.
@@chaotic-voices-in-my-head "I don't suffer from impostor syndrome." *I suffer from impostor syndrome.*
@@5uperM Yes I believe it. You are computer scientist with real academic degree. I have no academic degree, and "finished" only a worthless apprenticeship with some luck.
I just feel like a fraud cause I’ve gotten so much help along the way
I literally couldn’t have done what I’ve done without dozens of people helping me along the way
And I’m actually working in new frontiers of agriculture but I feel like a f’cking fraud even for saying that
I often feel like most of my imposter syndrome that I face manifests itself through the social hierarchy that I’m placed in when in work environments. Usually the anxiety of being new in a workplace leads to me feeling isolated and out of place, which then leads me to self sabotage and isolate myself and work independently. Then that feeds into the fear of being fired because I’m not jelling with the team and so on and so on.
I deal with this every day at my new job. First one in my field post grad. Hoping it goes away.
Ngl, that’s me.
imposter syndrome is such a blessing however, as you achieve so much more than without it. You multiply your perceived efforts and get things done, but you musn't let it from causing true harm or lack of growth in areas of your life.
Nice short understandable explanation. Thanks
Yes, so as a student in IB (international baccalaureate) I am aware that I struggle with imposter syndrome and I can guarantee that relaxing is nearly impossible, everything is always spinning constantly and it feels like all of my work will just be nothing eventually and I don't feel like I should be there at all. It's difficult to even get work done at this point, I'm just trying to get my work done and I'm just putting it off for longer and longer until you have a very last minute and after everything comes together it feels the exact same, or worse even.
I have an insane amount of stress that I put on myself and it just gets worse and worse.
This is great content!
Now I wonder if komm susser tod is somewhat about that "It all returns to nothing
It all comes tumbling down
Tumbling down, tumbling down
It all returns to nothing
I just keep letting me down
Letting me down, letting me down"~
What is it called when you work really hard and accomplish something and get positive feedback or an award or something but it causes a feeling of impending doom?
As an actor who is constantly applying, auditioning, taping, yet rately securing work, it's easy to feel like an imposter when I finally get a job because I have such low confidence in my ability after so many rejections. I justify getting a job with "maybe nobody else applied" or "perhaps their first choice pulled out". I never believe that maybe, just maybe, I did a good job. I hate it.
Thank you for describing my entire existence. Lol. It very much sucks and honestly idk what to do about it. I get plenty of positive affirmation and feedback from people who i know deep down arent lying, but it still feels like i just tricked them for another day and the next day could be the day they realize im not worth anything. I feel like i dont deserve any of the successes in my life despite everyone telling me the opposite. My entire life is just waiting for that house of cards to come tumbling down.
I'm the type of person who does my job pretty well. So my boss likes me, my colleagues like me. But their liking makes me feel so pressured like I couldn't make a mistake. I always feel that once I make a mistake or once I couldn't deliever my job perfectly as I always did, they will instantly look down on me and thought it was a mistake to let me work in their organization. I always feel the need to work hard because I think I'm not enough and I need to make it up by working hard.
I knew I do this but I didn’t expect you to say say that the person thinks they barely scrapped by or got lucky. That what really did it. I do this all the time. Idk there’s a line between know, understanding and connecting something to yourself
I tell people half jokingly that I have no chill. I'm always on the move. I rely heavily on routine and daily structure and feel like I'm always behind on something. When I have moments where I realize that I'm doing pretty well for myself, it doesn't put me at ease, it makes the anxiety increase. It's a paradox. Success makes me more anxious than failure.
“ThAtS nOt DiSmOrPhIa JuSt InSeCuRiTy”
Okay, so it turns out I may have imposter syndrome.
Now knowing that there's actually other people experiencing what I feel is helping a lot. I would get anxious and stressed and that's not great for creating creative ideas.
This guy is describing my life exactly. Omg!!
best description ever !
In my case, I always feel like that if I give people the impression that I am good at something then make a mistake, I will get hurt. I know it's illogical but I am just scared that I will get yelled at or hit or insulted or treated as worthless (ignored).
It's really silly honestly. I want to do well but I'm afraid that if I do I will be treated worse because then I'll have to always to do well even when I can't.
God, I wish I was normal
finishing project, decided to take a nap, 10 mins later : "i could do better, why am i stupid"
Somehow this gave me imposter syndrome about my imposter syndrome because I don't think I work hard enough to qualify🥴
SAME
Just saying I have imposter syndrome would imply that I actually work hard
What about when you avoid working cause you believe you are going to fail anyways? Like I avoid something cause I just have this weird feeling of dread that I'm gonna fail something so I'm just afraid to like study for a test...I avoid it the most why?
Quit all my good paying jobs feeling like an impostor. Now at my 43 trying to figure out how to save myself.
They don't just let it crumble bcz of the pressure sometimes?
So what is someone thinks that way about themselves but doesn't get particularly stressed about it, does that mean they don't have imposter syndrome?
Me: I don’t think I have imposter syndrome
You: exsplains
Me: Nevermind
Ok… now HEAR me out man-
The cure: con-artist syndrome. The attitude of “I don’t deserve to be here, but I’ve been slick enough to convince everyone I should be and I’m going to rinse them of as much as possible. Everything from here is a bonus”
im watching this as I crunch work at 5:30 am after gotten top of my class last bimester
I specifically came here looking for this subject because I had suspicions about myself dealing with this. I’m getting married in a few months and I think having to share my life with someone was a trigger.?
This is definitely me to a T. I am a 35-year-old female and I make $240,000 a year. I have my own house and a beautiful car that I rewarded myself with for all the hard work, but I feel like my life is a lie. My fiancé makes half of what I make, no big deal.
For the longest time I was afraid to tell him what I make because I have this irrational fear that it is not a reality, like don’t be too excited it could change. I almost wish i made half his income.
He only find out when we had submit paperwork to the bank for our new marital home.
I keep thinking omg how are we doing this? It's as if someone is playing a prank and I'm waiting for it to disappear.
I didn't grow up poor so it’s not like I’m afraid I’ll be poor. It's like I can't just relax and enjoy myself. I am worried that I need to make more because what if it goes away and then I don't know what to do?
It's like I am living someone else's life... and I'm just borrowing it for now.
ok and what do you do when you have this so severely that it makes you too afraid to apply for jobs? like so severely that someone telling you to just ''fake it'' is the equivalent of telling you to stick your hand in a blender and turn it on? What meds do I request to fix this?
When I achieve something, I don't really celebrate. I move on to what's next. Whats my next goal. What's the next thing on the list that needs to get done....
Im feeling like imposter……
I might just be a monsterr😱
Infinite productivity glitch
You just described the entire software development industry
How can I treat/heal from this?
Glad I saw this
This sounds like how you feel before you actually become an adult, i don't mean age wise I mean who you are. I never feel like a deserve any good that comes my way. But I don't think I have some sort of syndrome, I think I just don't like myself but I know I can change that.
"man, I did so bad on this test bro"
"Me too, I got a 73, what'd you get?"
"A 92. That's not even a A+"
Sounds like anxiety. All these new labels... eesh
Ok so what's the opposite of that? I achieve something and let everything go to shit again.
That’s exhausting
So what happens when everything hit the fan a few too many times? How are they supposed to not feel apathy towards everything?
I thought I don't relate with imposter syndrome at all but that sentence of "I only got an A because the professor likes me" rang a bell.
It totally suck. When i work really hard to get something and feel like a standard has been set that took a lot of work to begin with. 😔 Its like two buckets of water. Yes i can lift to bucks but how long can i hold them?
What if I get worked up and succeed, but don’t double down on my efforts, but also don’t celebrate anything, not even my bday? Lol
It feels like I'm a walking paradox,
Everything is just a facade,
Im afraid to commit mistake
That will blowout that I'm just a hoax
Perseverance can only lead you to a certain point,
And realize you can't keep up with the expectations
That most of the time it lead to procrastination,.
Cause I don't want commit mistake,.
what if I literally am an imposter tho? Have a fake identity, lied about my resume, have a fake diploma..ect what should I do? Just live with it at this point
does this happen when people keep discrediting you for your gains?
Ok so how do I get over it doc
Idk if this is imposter syndrome but, when i sometimes study and i remember some stuff thats on the test it feels as if im cheating since i know the answer
Can confirm
I do relax a bit since im only 30% of the imposter syndrome
I have not gotten anything below a distinction in the 2 1/2 years of my degree so far. And yet, after every. single. assignment. I'm convinced I've failed. Or I've somehow bamboozled my lecturers. You'd think the evidence of my success would cheer me up but no. My brain is convinced I've just fooled everyone.
i hate feeling this way so much
but honestly i feel like its true
it feels like im the most talentless person ever
I dont know maybe its true, i have accomplished anything in my life anyway
That’s me and they give up and accomplish nothing.
I am a true imposter.
im doing all the chemistry and calculus etc, i feel like a lot of my lab partners saved my ass and i couldnt have done as well with such a partner.
But, on the contrary if I do not double down and study extra hard then everything does come crashing down.
The question is, is that wrong? I feel like people who don't have imposter syndrome and therefore don't keep working harder and harder over time, are not as succesful. I understand it can take a toll on your mental health, but never being satifisied always wanting to be better is actually a good trait to have
I really think that i got something bcoz of luck. I could finish my bachelor degree coz i got a kind professor that would still give me good grade eventhough i didn't do much on my final project. Why i believe it is luck? Because now im doing my master degree and really struggle with my thesis.. Its my 4th year now😂 and still couldnt finish my thesis. So i do believe im not imposter syndrome, but somehow i just got really really lucky on my young age and now im out of luck😢
Got into med school
Now I'm Well Into my third year and I still feel like up tricking everyone into thinking I'm actually good at this stuff😂😂😂
Imposer syndrome is me. 😮💨
What do you mean by "normal person?"
That's sooooo not me
Hey but what if The scenario is actually true and not just in my head
How to internalize your skills then is the solution... Tell yourself you are skillfully fantastic when you achieve...and Celebrate 🎉 it. Is that impossible to learn and relearn... 🤔 🍾🍻💐🎂
Some people can't confirm your achievements because they suck. End. The challenge if your dad for instance have imposter syndrome himself he can't that's logic.
That’s how I feel when I work in the hospital. It’s like a caste system . Everybody on top looking down on others . People are in their cliques and act as if they are so happy .
Oof... apparently I need to get myself checked out
Why is everything wrong with me
You just elaborated majority of toppers in india😂
Wait so i have this?
Damn this explained me hahahaha
I have imposter syndrome
This is imposter syndrome? I think I may have had this back in college.
I thought I understood what someone else meant when they had imposter syndrome, but I guess I didn't. Best leave the diagnosis to the professionals.
So you feel like a fraud or imposter… and perhaps ur in denial
That's me ..... Omg ...