I don't think I've ever had a friend That didn't do bad things like drugs or simp for their woman. Never had a friend It was anywhere remotely like myself whose idea of fun wasn't getting drunk and gambling away their money at some point in their life if not for many years.
The 36 years old guy in the video is perfect but evil humans hate such guys. To be alone is the better choice. People want to hang around people with addictions to benefit from it -me 😉
100% agree. I'm 40 years old and I lost three quarter of my friends when I got sober 5 years ago and stopped going out to bars/clubs and stopped being a slave to the system and the bottle.
I always think back to the movie "Stand By Me" And that youll never have as good as friends as you did when you were a kid. Theres an innocence, honesty and magic as a child that makes these relationships so real and so strong.
43 several million dollars. Tall good looking charming lady killer. Gym and tall does it. Never had a friend. The guys I knew were always jealous and trying to pull or take me down. However it bothered me for a while thinking it was me. It was never me. Other people are just terrible people mostly.
@@sammencia7945dude you’re borderline creeper. Dating an 18 year old is cringe and makes you a weirdo. On the other hand you think 43 year old men can’t date younger women?! Wow you really have no idea, do you?
If everyone around you is an asshole, *you're* the asshole. And perhaps you're expecting too much from people. Not every friend needs to be deep or go out of his way when you're in the dumps. They have lives too. Some friends are just friends and that's OK.
Damn, I’m 36 years old good looking man. I don’t have no friends, just focused on my career and purchasing my first home. I can relate to this young man.
Sorry but this is bad advice. You’ll only attract people like that based off your own views and where you’re going to make friends. How do you even make friends with a drug dealer these days unless you’re using? Once I feel better I’m thinking of joining a church and looking into these online group activities to meet people. I won’t go into any of it with the expectation of making friends though, only to meet people. I’ll give it time and observe people’s actions and behaviour like they will mine. If I meet someone/people and we click, cool. If not I’ll keep looking into events or other interests.
One thing that made me pull myself up from darkness.. I looked at athletes, pro wrestlers, fighters and sportsmen... I realized something, they didn't care what people thought. They wanted something they ignored the hate and went and achieved. That was life changing moment for me and I haven't looked back!
Friends are only worth having if they're trustworthy and genuine, same goes for women. Don't stress it, keep yourself busy and entertained, so that those things don't have power over you and your happiness, and once you're comfortable, people will gravitate to you whether you like them or not.
I saw the decline in the early 2010s when Instagram came out all of my male friends lost their girlfriends. Women are never satisfied with endless the option of men.
In 10-15 years from now they'll be a new endemic of wmn with no chldrn and not marrd in their 30-40's, causing the lack of new population and the great replacement with Eastern wmn who fare better. Pick your Syrian or Iranian wife.
Yup, I experienced the same thing. As soon as social media became a means to getting extra attention my marriage collapsed. Snap chat was the catalyst in my case. My then wife got addicted to it and was never off it. Always searching fir the next complimentary dopamine fix from male “friends”. Just too many opportunities and options available through social media now. Guys, if your wife or gf is a social media junkie you can bet money on them getting hit on daily from other dudes, and those temptations are abundant, they will eventually cave and buy into the idea that the grass is greener elsewhere and take that chance behind your back. If your woman is addicted to social media , it’s already a sign she’s keeping her options open, not good. Learn to recognize the signs, and handle accordingly.
The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalised
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things.
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white
I had more friends and a great sex life when I was a broke college student 21 years ago. I smoked cigarettes dressed like an idiot, drank all the time, and still got attention from the ladies. Now that I have a good job, don't smoke and hit the gym I've only dated 2 women in 13 years. Women's standards are completely different than what they were in the 1990s and early 2000s. By the way what's up with everyone getting tattoos on the face and neck? Do I need to lower my standards? I dunno?
52 here and my experience is very similar to yours. Got lots of play when broke and in college, two failed marriages later I'm alone and relatively content. The face -and-neck tattoo epidemic is absolutely ratchet. Normalizing prison culture in mainstream society, it's a sign of the degenerate times we live in.
Everyone around me looks like a graffiti wall yet I'm here with a good job, hitting the gym, no tats, traveling and no attention except from older ladies like 5+ years older than me. I'm not desperate so I won't even entertain them lol
If he thinks it is hard to make friends now just wait another decade or two. The older you get the more friends you lose and the less patience you have with people. Also people today are far less genuine in my opinion and are far less likely to give a damn about anyone but themselves.
I’ve learned you have two choices in life. 1: You can try to be liked and change your behavior to fit in like this guy is preaching and have lots of surface level connections surrounded by people who only keep you in their life for what they get out of you. 2: Be authentic to yourself and who you are as a person which scares the fuck out of people so you won’t have many friends or surface level connections but the connections you do make will be for life and at a depth that 1,000 fake friends couldn’t match. Both take effort and both require balance. Option 1 will likely lead to you feeling used and misunderstood and option 2 will require being comfortable being alone and battling the tricks your mind will try to play on you regarding feeling unworthy. I have been both in my life and I can say that a balance of the two is what I prefer leaning more towards option 2. The road is long and lonely at times but when you come across another traveler with the same mindset, whether it be a friend or a relationship, that connection cannot be matched. Nothing is wrong with you and everyone has a choice to make. Don’t get all depressed and hyper focused on your issues, everyone has them! Make your choice and stick to it! Life awaits! Much luck on whatever path you choose!
There is a difference between "meek" and "weak". "Meek" used to mean strength under patient control, able to endure hardship and offences, with trust and obedience to the Lord. Now people view meek as "quiet, gentle, and easily imposed on; submissive". I like the old definition better. "Blessed are the meek" does not mean you should strive to be easily imposed on or submissive to everyone. First, be strong and have conviction, then put it under good and wise control.
yup, this is the day and age where good is evil and evil is good. Narcissism is rampant today, a lot of clowns in this community here think they're the saviors of society, when they in fact epidemies its decline and are absolute liabilities and a drain on the world. If you want to know what a masculine society looks like, go to russia, afghanistan, iraq, societies rampant with drug abuse, violence, corruption, self deletion and are technologically desolate.
Thats still what meek means thats why it has a different definition weak is not capable of violence meek is a killing machine whose violence is momentarily held back by a few hair triggers the main issue is that people will infinitely test you to try to get the reaction to vindicate their beliefs ive been called meek and found a way around this to a degree that allows a demonstration of strength while remaining peaceable once a "tough guy" i knew i challenged him to hit me as hard as he could in chest he did i laughed in his face showing him to be impotent and having zero effect while not retaliating and turning the cheek
We all know Chad and Tyrone are trash ; so he is an introspective men of value... But since women like getting pregnant for donkeys ; this guy seem like an UFO because he cares more than Chad and Tyrone ... 😎
You'll find your true friends when you go thru a tough time in life. I was diagnosed with cancer over Chritmas '23 and my circle of "friends" got smaller and smaller. What really hurt was the "If you need anything let me know" well, I needed a friend for support and encouragement and I got shunned and ghosted. To them, I wasn't worth 10 mins of their time. Don't be scared to cut toxic people from your life. The POS people always weed themselves out
I have a daughter with severe medical needs, and that is what I get a lot, “Please let me know if there is anything you need, and I’ll be there”. As soon as they say that, I say “thank you, I’ll drop the other kids off for a few days to give us some relief, much appreciate the offer!” That is typically the last time they talk to me.
@@tradingsystemsgroup5312I think people offer to lessen the burden so you’re not overwhelmed. It doesn’t mean they want to take on your entire responsibilities. We all have our own things going on, don’t be selfish.
I was diagnosed early this year. I've already beaten it. Chemo was pretty awful. I never told a single soul that I was sick. I figured it was no one's business. And also it kept me from being disappointed in everyone's reaction, because I knew I'd be disappointed. My goal is to live my life and never let anyone know I'm sick until they find out at my funeral. It's none of anyone's business.
Boys if got cancer look into ivermactan and fenbendazole it can help/ Cur* certain cancers. Studies are out on it now and newer studies are coming soon. Look into it online. If you really think about it cancer is just a parasite that can't survive without a host and is caused by mixing different isotopes with each other by combining different medicines. Something to think about
Bo is way off on this one. Too many relationships, including friendships, are fake and transactional. That's a fact. A lot of people will only want you around as long as it benefits them. I've had so-called friends that ended up stabbing me in the back after years of friendship. I'm 51 and have no desire to care about what people think of me. When you get older, your priorities change. My focus is my job and, most importantly, helping my sister in taking care of our elderly parents...people that actually matter to me. Everything else is superficial.
Ive found men are only open to friendship when there is a common struggle requiring team effort. It doesnt really occur otherwise. Struggle can be anything from league sports to war. Some types of work are disposed towards it as well. There also has to be an element of mutual admiration, even an attraction, and something you bring to the team. The caveat is, just like with relationships, most people who are worth being friends with already have tons of friends or at least enough of them. Its like a game of musical chairs
@@carpenoctem775 Absolute truth, you never know what, or who, is waiting around the next corner to fuck you over! A perfect life can change in a nanosecond!
No one has friends, that poor woman who was 60 and found dead at her desk after 4 days of being there, if people had any friends at work, this wouldn't have happened
It's because of this modern world that's convinced us that people are disposable. We get used to things like walking by people and never speaking or greeting them. Swiping left or right. Ghosting. We're all plugged in all the time. It seems harmless to indulge in these things but its had some nasty side effects. In reality, every moment is to be appreciated. I personally have come close to death about 10 times in this lifetime. It helped me realize we take so much for granted. Social media and technology got our heads messed up. People aren't to be tossed away like trash. Every day is a blessing
Acquaintances, neighbours and bar buddies, maybe activity fellows. That's the best you can do for new friends as a grown-up. When you're young and you have endless hours to bond with people you like over shared experiences, it's different.
I'm in my 30s. No close friends. Just some work acquaintances I speak to at work. Dropped all my "friends" when I got in a car accident and they stole from my house when I was in the hospital
@@PowerofRock24 yeah hard time in my life. Lost my car, house, savings. Broke my neck and my back. 9 months out of work. My brother wouldn't help me. So I got a apt with fake pay stubs and got back to work hurt. Rebuilt my life. Built a house and enjoyed many sports cars. Have a c8 now. Had a supra, Ford RS, Camaro. But took years of hard work and overtime to come back
@@Truther945 absolutely. When someone says they can't do something I remind them if there's a will there's a way. And I work construction as a plumber.
What gave you the idea he's got a wife? I doubt he's even got a GF because you need to be able to make friends to be able to get a GF, it's a natural progression. It would be pretty damn rare for someone to have a GF and/or a wife and not even be able to make a single friend, even by proxy from his GF/wife.
@@mickeypopa Dude just check his vids, he not only has a wife but she is beautiful what makes the situation even more ridiculous. He even said she is his best friend. He is only bitching because he has no male friends like if that actually mattered.
@@essenceofnothingness Wtf? He's not wearing a wedding ring so I assumed he's single. Oh God... his wife must be so desperate for a Chad that she'll marry even this bozo with the mind of a weakling. 😬
I used to value friendships, I've had friends for 10+ years who i considered to be a brother from another mother, shared a lot of values and beliefs, looked out for each other. but through series of events, it turns out that in the end it was only me who thought that way. As I got older, I realize "friends" are fake, and they're only there to help you waste time if you need it. Otherwise, trust only as far as you can throw them. I don't call people my friend anymore, they're just acquaintances.
Most men learn over time and painful experience not to expect too much from people, especially from women but also from male friends, yet they get let down anyway even when they demand so little from others. This, despite thatthey still find themselves trying to give so much. So of course naturally the recourse is to withdraw more and more and just not play the game anymore. Many guys just go to the gym or do activities where they are in proximity to other men who are similarly by themselves and they might casually interact (like pickup basketball, or just offer positive affirmation while working out, etc.) and are acquainted but do not try to elevate these easy, light interactions to more serious, deep friendships. All that close friendship stuff we see on shows where middle aged men are surrounded by similarly aged men at backyard parties and as drinking buddies is more the exception than norm. Most people just suck, it is what it is.
Hit the nail on the head especially the gym .theres a bunch of guys who I see consistently there And swole af .just minding their business not paying anyone any mind .
Eh, A lot of men expect the world from "friends". I remember one, when it was Valentine's Day and I was about to go out with my girl, who showed up on my doorstep saying he had had an argument with his wife and needed a place to stay. I was like, dude, I'm sorry but it's Valentine's Day, I have this whole evening planned and there's a hotel not far from here. If you don't have the cash I can advance some to you. Evidently that was *it* as far as he was concerned because I didn't drop everything on Valentine's Day and a real friend would have done that for him.
@@kwilliams3161 Evidently a real friend would have cancelled all his plans and let him stay at my place. I'm like, dude, we're chums OK but Jesus, on Valentine's Day? Any other day, you know? And it's not like you can sleep on the couch because I'm going to do this thing with candles when we come back from our night out, and then I'm going to fuck her.
It becomes harder to make friends as you age. Throughout college I made atleast 5 decent friends a year, because there is alot of forced interaction. However as you age you have to force yourself to meet others. And if you have mental issues, or insecurities it becomes even harder to put oneself out there.
Definitely. In your 30s the social dynamic completely changes. Plus many of us stop going out to bars around that age so that hurts things .. but yes, if you aren’t meeting friends at work at that age then it’s going to be hard .. if you have depression or social anxiety it will be so much harder. They say it takes 50-60 hours in someone’s presence to begin to form a friendship. Btw I know a few guys in their 30s and 40s that I can tell are lonely but I also notice they have personality issues - they are either very low energy or pessimistic and constantly complaining. I had to let a friend go because he’d call too often and complain about the same damn things
@DanielDorn-tr7tw you'll never get anywhere working it's a waste of time no point you'll lose everything for no reason and taxes dude you'll never be able 2 save up everything goes 2 bills n utilities n food it's not logical being with a woman neither they are just a burden
@@DanielDorn-tr7tw You're very fortunate as most people hate what they do. This is why they call it, "Work" and not, "play" or "life" LOL! There is a miniscule chance that someone works on something that they love to do so congratulations. It really depends on what is predisposed to excel at, I guess. I've never had a job that I loved but I have had high paying jobs. Money is Life's lubricant. It's hard either way but easier with some cash. Great at art = Starving artist. Great at coding = I.T. Entrepreneur. Everyone has their niche and I'm really happy that you found yours. Enjoy your day, Friend.
@@AverageBeausOutdoor The problem is the more you work the move government takes away from you. In my day 1 person working is all you needed to raise a family and buy a house. Today people rent because they cant afford some tiny garbage of a house. We are taxed far too much. Its extremely demotivating for young people.
If a real man wakes up in the morning, has no woman nagging him, no debt to worry about, can pay his bills, can buy toys, he is doing better than 99% of the men worldwide. This man needs to grow a pair.
100% correct. It took me almost twenty years to pay off child support. That held me back two decades of my life. Now that i'm free from that bondage, i'm almost sixty years old. Never, ever get married or have children in the west. Never get married overseas and bring your wife to the west. Our economy is crashing.Things will never be the same as they were before. I actually pity the younger generations in america. You will never know how great things used to be.
@@gwynnapnudd702 we must imagine Sisyphus as happy...... Life is pain, life is suffering, life is perpetual struggle and strain. Life is also beautiful.
@ZommBleed Aye, don't plan too. 37, make 128k a year, have virtually no bills (like out of my worm truck, only pay for my phone) everything else is payed for and extra cash. 6.1, 240lbs at 19% body fat. I have tons of fun with the ladies but I'll never date anymore lmao.. too many people I know got utterly destroyed through divorce, child support etc.
@@fustercluck2460 Just clarifying... you live out of your truck? I'm thinking you just misspelled it. I'm 6' 5", 220 lbs. (Was 185 after my intermittent fasting/keto/OMAD diet.) Trying to get back to 190 lbs. Life is sucking hard right now; trying to get ahead so I can get into something like what you're doing. I'm keeping hope on the horizon.
There's nothing wrong with having a friend or three, but it's not essential for men. Friends are really only important when you're going through school, K-12. After that, work and/or education tends to separate you from friendships. If this guy found a hobby or interest that involves investment of time, he wouldn't _need_ a friend. Men's superpower is they can survive and be happy on their own. It may take time for him to realize that, but it has been and can be done.
Exactly that's pretty much how I have lived after college. Every now and then I will run into somebody new but since I'm an introvert I don't need much company.
Being high energy thinking it will attract people is cope, just made a clown of myself being high energy and didn’t make many meaningful friends doing it. Just be how you are.
I agree. People still tried to put me down and tried hard to remind that I'll always be 470 pound virgin I was no matter how much I lost weight wouldn't mean I'd lose my virginity and have a girlfriend (so called friends actually not just people) and guess what I did both those things. My relationship turned to hell but I was with a woman for a over a year and I went down to 240 pounds but since then I've fallen even further because no matter how much I accomplished my family, my friends and everyone was out to get me one way or another so now I'm alone.
Taking an interest in others will make you seem interesting. Especially if you can retain what’s said and branch it off into a different conversation. Making yourself seem interesting makes others feel drained.. Get them to open up and talk and they will replay those interactions in their head later and register the interaction as something they made a deposit into, rather withdrew their attention all into just you
Same, to be fair. I just have associates. All friends from the past have either moved on, are like me, or have been captured by their spouses where they do f all. I'm only 29.
Being an introvert, I never feel the need to have a lot of people around me. I have two good friends from school who are always there for me whenever I need them.
I’m very introverted too and I’m 37 and I honestly find people to be exhausting to be around. I have friends that call and it’s getting harder to force myself out with them. I stopped drinking alcohol and going to bars do that factors into it as well
American society really comes down to everyone hating eachother. Whether it be politics, ethnicity, religion, there is always a reason to hate the person next to you. Sad really.
weird im half potato jogger and half german the irish killed each other forever over some doctrinal stuff which is to say even in a homogenous population we have enough problems we dont need the whole world to come here to the usa and add 30 billion more reasons to hate each other and before the midwits come out in force and say "we are all humans or were all one race the human race" im weary of humanism the antichrist may make the same argument by arguing we should strip away all other things be they race gender etc and what is left humanity God at babel decided he didnt want us to be one people because "there would be nothing we couldn't do" so we shouldn't tempt him
It’s like that here in Canada too. I’ve heard people visiting from other countries say people in Vancouver are quite rude. However, people who come here from other countries are not only rude but they engage in criminal activity and flee back to their country. And the homelessness is getting out of control. I can have compassion for their struggles however when every corner in all cities smell like bodily fluids, trash all over the ground, and customer service gets worse because the lack of respect and theft.. etc.. When I go for walks the only friendly faces that smile at me are usually children, and sometimes middle aged or older men.
Yeah even people in this comment section are shitting on his voice and mannerisms. Saying he sounds gay or some dumb shit. Maybe it’s because of people like that that makes people not wanna give a shit about socializing anymore. Besides you only need people who are willing to put in as much effort as you are in pursuing a relationship with them
Guaranteed he had an overbearing narcissist mother who made him hate his father. I agree with you on accountability, but he would have to figure that out and unpack that.
He quit his job, very unstable and super insecure worse than a women, very emotional his will end up divorcing him,. Always at gym, dying all different color of his hair and beard all are a huge red flag.
His voice is way too feminine. He doesn’t get to the point. He has gay vibes. I prefer having acquaintances or superficial friendships. It’s not fun to pour out your soul for new friends.
As a 40 year old fairly attractive in shape guy, friends are hard to come by. Not because people are hard to find, but because quality people are hard to find. It is vary hard to find people who are not addicted to smart phones, games, social media and not working 24/7 with your same interests. Any quality people are usually so busy you would never see them anyways and the people who do have time you would not want to waste time on.
Exactly, it happens the same to me. Do you know whether there's some kind of online forums where we may filter conversations based on common interests and topics? Maybe that's the modern way to connect with alike people worth putting efforts towards a long term friendship
There are people I tolerate, people who are acquaintances, some people I would consider friendly with and would help out more than others, and then only a few people I would consider close friends. It's been like this for a very long time but I've noticed that as I get older those circles have become much smaller. I've noticed I don't want to expend what finite energy I have each day on the emotional vampires of this world. This 36 year old guy in the video could benefit from mindful meditation and stop dwelling on the past and worrying about the future so much. At the very least he won't bring that anxious energy to the table when meeting people.
Absolutely brilliant. A fishing group. No requirement of friendship. Its a group. You meet up, conexist, share ideas, and catch... something. If not nothing more than a buzz. Your mind is a garden brother. Thanks for the ideas.
The problem is you thinking it's a problem. I'm pretty sure the man isn't interested in yelling at the camera and besides he seems to be struggling mentally so this isn't easy clearly.
Ironically, he actually sems like a people person. Has no friends but talks in a calm, collected, considerate & cooled manner. The lack of bass isn't an issue. His issue is thinking there is an issue.
I really had another impression of him just seeing the thumb nail. Listening to him talk makes for a strong contrast to the visual impression. That might confuse people in his life and might not work in his favor in social situations.
As a high achiever, every friend I've had in my life stabbed me in the back, f*cked my gf, became a hater, made my life worse behind my back, held me back or was jealous at everything I did. Seriously lost the motivation to talk to new people or make friends ever again. What's the point?
I don't have friends because I'm an introvert and prefer to do the th8ngs I want to do when I want to do them. Socially, I'm extraverted, life of the party. It's performative. But need to regroup for 3 days after, alone at home
Looking back at it my dad didn't have any friends aside from mom..he had guys from work that he'd play cards with or go drinking with once in a while...but that was about it. He didn't have a 'best buddy' or someone to talk to on the phone or someone he was always hanging out with. I figure that's just part of getting older in life. If you do it right you should be able to rely on your family but even that is dwindling away now
Same with my Dad. After he got to like age 40 he only had one good male friend but he moved further away. He would come visit us with his 2 daughters. And he is a really good guy! Always uplifts everyone around him. I always wished him & my Dad could hang out more!
I’d seen his earlier videos and was also surprised, because he’s outwardly very appealing in appearance, and I don’t recall his earlier videos being whiny or overly self-deprecating; more giving everyone else the benefit of the doubt too much, and if I recall correctly he was in a relationship with a girlfriend or wife in those. I do agree with some other comments here that I’ve noticed the people I see who appear to walk through life not caring what others think of them (to an extent) and remaining cool and collected are the ones who attract the attention and fascination of others. It’s good to leave people guessing a bit, create a little mystery- especially in a world where people keep nothing to themselves and never stop talking.
Man im 45. Im in ridiculous shape. I still lift, run, and go to an mma club. Usually wrestle once a week. Im an industrial mechanic and make good money. Also own 2 rental properties. Ive been told all my life im very physically attractive. Im not bragging. Just want to say. Ive also been single for 14 years. Ive only got a couple friends left. Ive gotten rid of some of them. Because of the narcissist personality. It just gets old. I work 330pm-1130pm shift at a copper factory. That means i can only socialize on the weekends. And sometimes i work on the weekend. So if i do hang out with people. They are all married or in relationships. Or i go to a couple bars by myself. I have met women. But doesn't seem like a good deal to me. What im saying is there doesn't seem to be a lot of opportunity out there.
Dude has a great physique and is plenty handsome, but his voice tells us part of the problem. He sounds feminized even looking like a unit. Was instantly jarring to hear him speak vs his appearance. Also, friends are overrated, at 52 I can count mine on one hand. Quality over quantity.
@@BrianManning-wh6rlhe is ok looking with a nice body. He aint facially very handsome. But many dudes think being muscular and tall makes you automatically handsome ...as a gay dude, your face is the most important feature.
I have an easier time finding women to date than making new guy friends (im in new area). Guys are kinda weird. You try to exchange numbers and do something and it's actually more awkward than getting a chicks digits. Men are on a social decline. We dont know how to interact with each other
Agreed. Could never bond with other guys. Only men im related to like cousins. There are a lot of men who just view other men as threats and to dominate. It is v tiring, not everything is a competition. Id still prefer be friends with other men than women, but other guys dont make it easy at all. Middle aged men seem to HATE young men too, only people who tried to get violent with me were middle aged or old men ...go away ...i just said hi to your wife ...i dont wanna bang a 60 year old woman.😂😂😂
If you moved to Portland I can understand. Largely because they have more LGBT people per capita than anywhere else. I honestly found it easier to get activities going with men rather than Women more often than not. You just need to find common interests with other men.
1989. Dragon Ball and Power Rangers era. I don't have friends because I choose not to. There were people who called me their "friend" when I was a little kid and it simply isn't worth it. I also choose to be single. I've never felt lonely. Most people can't fathom the idea of not having friends or being in a relationship because they perceive it as the normal thing to do. They see everyone else do it. If you someone doesn't have friends or isn't involve in a relationship, everyone else thinks something is wrong with them. Look at many of the problems you have and you will see it was caused by another human. Avoiding friends and relationships is less stress, and I can focus on myself and my goals. Why do humans assume someone is lonely? Why are men called lonely in the news and women are called empowered? It's all part of the Matrix.
friends are trash ill give you one episode of my "friends" when i was young id walk to work like 15 miles to work and heir was a friend id give money to and id go hungry even though i was walking that far and then busting at work [only to go home and have my family poo poo on me too even though im doing this for their sake] one day this guy acted like id killed somebody and i was person non grata he said "well we were friends but your a piece of trash were not friends anymore" he never explained the offense anyway years later he walks up to me at a gym and acts like nothing happened in the past and yet im the BAD MAN lol i hate humans so much i have many such stories i may be the only human on earth who acts as if he will give an account to God one day lol
He quit his job always dyes his hair and beard different color a huge red flag very unstable and super insecure his will end up divorcing him. He to much of what he looks a big red flag.
Finding QUALITY friends these days can be very difficult because most folks walking around are deceitful, untrustworthy and unaccountable NPCs and bots. This part of the equation cannot be ignored!
This book popped up before on Amazon, so I have it en route. I used to LOVE being around people, DJ'ed soul music dance nights, and it was a blast. I know it's my mindset and I know I change with time so I must use "new equipment" for new challenges, so thanks, I will read the book for sure. AND implement it.
This shit was happening to me too. I first started at internship University program when I was 19. I was total broke and needed to travel faaar away from my family and friends. When ended the College and started my carreer at the “corporate world”, I was 24-25 and realized that its hard to find new friends when you get older. Today I’m 35 and have some friends cause I’m not broke anymore and almost retired from my working activities. The working/studying busy life don’t let you even think about having fun. I worked fckng hard and had a lot of luck. But a regular young guy tends to be a wageslave and a loner for the rest of his life here in Brazil theese days. The financial system is a grinding machine!
As a 41-year-old who was born and raised in America your experience is very similar to mine. Capitalism makes it very hard to have friends and a community.
He looks like a decent dude, he goes to the gym, he doesn't look or act weird, and I also went through that phase where I lost all my friends and I thought something was wrong with me.
I live in a small town of abusive beachballs So many druggies So many alcoholics So much nepotism So much favoritism Only government jobs I'm not the problem I'm building my wealth When the time comes I will leave this crap hole town I dispize this town
As I've become older I've realised that i don't really like or want the company of most people. I don't like living up (or down) to their expectations or working to their plans and schedule, or doing the planning and scheduling. I put up with them and do it if i have to. If i honestly ask myself "Would i rather be here doing this with this person/people or on my own doing something else I'd say that at least 95% of the time id choose the latter. To me it's not lonliness It's freedom. P.s. I do have a partner (gf) but we both do our own thing most of the time.
It's not about knowing what to do and not doing it, but knowing that even if you do it, the outcome isn't worth the effort. As men, we weigh the pro's and con's to everything (at least I do), so forcing a fix, that's not really a fix, is no different than when women are delusional and expect a good man, when they themselves are unqualified.
I bought the book Bo, im working on myself. On a diet and working out. Been trying books to help my mental health, so I'm excited to try this book, and see how much it helps!
I completely sympathize with this man because Making friends is easy but finding a friend that will not, lie, deceive, use you or stab you in the back somewhere in the future is next to impossible. Example: My best friend that I thought I could trust ended up liking the same sex and wanted to get fresh with me and I just don’t swing that way. So we are no longer friends now. I have had guy friends that just wanted to use me. I have come across men that slept with their best friends wife. So I no longer trust women or men now. Being alone is hard but being friends with someone that will betray you is by far, way worse.
Sorry you experienced that. From my experience people are WAY TOO comfortable with their ways as well. I had a classmate I met during an online course I took come over to study and within the first couple of hours she came out to me as bi saying something about her boyfriend and steering the conversation into seeing if I was into women and I told her no. Then she passed out in my couch for like 2 hours and she didn’t study barely anything. She left shortly after waking up. To be honest I think she was drinking or on drugs prior to coming over 😬 I hope she’s doing better though! Some people make impulsive choices when their mind isn’t clear
@@unholydangerLol as a teenager 😆 as an adult it’s best to not give so much time to strangers they’ll wonder why you’re not busy with your own life and interests
Just the way men and women talk these days is so different. He says, "I have failed to establish meaningful friendships." he takes responsibility for the thing before even saying what it is. Modern women, on the other hand, conclude it's the failure of everyone else around them.
Sadly women “realize” it’s others faults in times of need AFTER they’ve pushed people away, discarded them, treated them like they don’t matter, making people feel like they are worthless unless they can give or be useful
Protein shake with SoyMilk? I was gonna say Whey but I think he might be vegetarian knowing he's married and has _'those'_ for car seat covers. So pea protein, or hemp, or rice. He's still pretty fit.
I don’t have friends, but strangely I’m glad I don’t. I have lots of acquaintances, but no close friends. With kids (one with severe medical issues), a wife, a job, a side hustle, a house and yard to maintain, I’d be a bad friend, since they would rank way down my list.
That’s kinda the way I think it should be. Only the best of people can turn into that non relative uncle or aunt if they have stayed close enough and are consistent in their connection to you even if you only see them once a year
I make friends all over the place with all walks of life. I don't ask much from them and try to give more than I receive. I accept them as they come and expect them to do the same. 😊
The dudes confidence is in the toilet...who cares what other people think. 99% of people dont care about you, so who cares what their opinion of you is. Do you, fck the rest
dude just because one chad is having issues you cant go "see bro, its all about attitude"; do you know how silly you sound, this is why the black pill is growing and will continue to grow
It is. Even the guy mentioned it. All boils down to you. People gravitate more to people that have a positive mindset that don't let external factors brother them. I get it at work when people hear or see me going into work like everyday is a weekend. Even though I do this for me to have a good mindset to handle 100 plus callers a day where 5-10% of callers come in negative. When there is a team activity people immediately want to team up with me. If they see me during lunch they want to seat with me during lunch. Even a guy who looks like fat Albert and not a Chad always have people talking to him and hanging around him because of his energy. I remember going to a fireworks show with him and he got this cute woman's number who looked like a 7 and was making out with her.
Black pill is a bitter way to live .the after pill is much better.when you realize everything is what it is .now are you going to sulk and say woe is me or are you going to get after it .
How many of these friends will stick around when you actually need them? Was this not a discussion about friends or are we all 16 year olds that call everyone a bro
A lot of people just waste your time. People who don't have the capacity to be loyal and reciprocate. They turn little things into big things like maybe they don't like the style clothes you wear or something dumb. I value loyalty, etiquette (class), similar principles, and a person who understands value in a relationship. Sadly, now, most people are superficial, and narcissistic, and weak minded.
I dont think a man needs friendships. A man needs a stable job, a reputation, people to discuss hobbies with and a spouse/family. I think the whole idea of building friendships is fake.
@@LorenzoMasterConnector Exactly. If I find someone that would join me in starting a war, then it is another thing. But having male friends for meaningless chitchat, watching sports and drinking beer... pfft! That is so lame. The only way for men to bond, is over some project, business or cause.
@@erobwen yessir that’s really gay honestly. Men need to do men stuff like figure out where the next investment opportunity is or how to secure the future for each others families
Sorry, guys, but cry me a river. The guy in the video is above-average looking. There’s no way there aren’t hordes of women throwing themselves at him. I understand that’s different than friendships, but it’s a pretty nice problem to have. And Legion Man, I think it’s pretty easy for you to tell average or below average men that all they need to do is change their attitude, read a book, etc., and their social lives will flourish. You are also an above-average looking guy. You can’t tell me life and relationships aren’t MUCH easier for good-looking people. I would argue NOTHING is very easy socially for average to below average guys. It’s just not that simple. Especially if the guy is just naturally not gregarious, life-of-the-party type person. Guys who are naturally quiet and have no charm, charisma, etc., have likely been rejected at every turn their whole lives. At what point do they stop inviting that type of humiliation into their lives? Eventually, the burned learn to avoid the fire.
Making friends is easy. Making quality friends is difficult
yes.. not worth the effort for the most part
I don't think I've ever had a friend That didn't do bad things like drugs or simp for their woman. Never had a friend It was anywhere remotely like myself whose idea of fun wasn't getting drunk and gambling away their money at some point in their life if not for many years.
but if you dont take the effort to make some friends you wont find quality friends
Vetting + building that connection via experiences.
hint: Its not about 'making friends' its about being A FRIEND.
"The more I get to know people, the more I love my dog"
-Mark Twain
The 36 years old guy in the video is perfect but evil humans hate such guys. To be alone is the better choice. People want to hang around people with addictions to benefit from it
-me 😉
Wise man.
Cope
Amen
People like dogs because they can't talk so that they don't understand them.
You realize how fake people are the older you get.
100% agree. I'm 40 years old and I lost three quarter of my friends when I got sober 5 years ago and stopped going out to bars/clubs and stopped being a slave to the system and the bottle.
Absolutely.
This is 100% true
In adition you became way more cynical or skeptical in other people's intentions
This is true somewhat for me.
Sometimes your interests are just too different from the npc's, so you have to accept it.
I always think back to the movie "Stand By Me" And that youll never have as good as friends as you did when you were a kid. Theres an innocence, honesty and magic as a child that makes these relationships so real and so strong.
Even the short chubby women who don't look after themselves have very high expectations now 😆
No , they just say that to not feel rejected 😂
But who cares about their high expectations anyway
Expectations are free. Getting them is a whole other ball game I expect to make a million every year at my job. But I also know to face reality.
Facts, I had a bridge troll get mad at me the other day because I didn't want to date her.
Deep down they know the truth like this guy he can’t change
@@rocket_scientist5353 Harry Potter troll or Lord of the Rings troll? 😂😂😂
I am this guy too. 36, great shape. Decent job. Only 3 friends left. Shits getting old man.
36 isn't old. You can pull 18 yo at 38.
This fades quickly after that.
By 43 you won't be able to get young women.
Do you have hippy seat covers as well? 😂
43 several million dollars. Tall good looking charming lady killer. Gym and tall does it. Never had a friend. The guys I knew were always jealous and trying to pull or take me down. However it bothered me for a while thinking it was me. It was never me. Other people are just terrible people mostly.
@@sammencia7945dude you’re borderline creeper. Dating an 18 year old is cringe and makes you a weirdo.
On the other hand you think 43 year old men can’t date younger women?! Wow you really have no idea, do you?
@@sammencia7945 if you are rich you can have anything in this world
Most people today are high maintenance not going out of my way to find anymore backstabbers.
Tit for tat and all that.
Amen 🙏🏻
My thawts as well. Men will fuk yo chick given the chance n women will have that hypergamy kik n. Never can b sure. 😔
If everyone around you is an asshole, *you're* the asshole.
And perhaps you're expecting too much from people. Not every friend needs to be deep or go out of his way when you're in the dumps. They have lives too. Some friends are just friends and that's OK.
@@Heike-- not true. Most people just have other stuff they’d rather do than foster a relationship with friends. It’s endemic.
Damn, I’m 36 years old good looking man. I don’t have no friends, just focused on my career and purchasing my first home. I can relate to this young man.
36, the only friends I have are drug dealers. You have to pay in order to have friends the older you get. It is what it is.
Sorry but this is bad advice. You’ll only attract people like that based off your own views and where you’re going to make friends. How do you even make friends with a drug dealer these days unless you’re using?
Once I feel better I’m thinking of joining a church and looking into these online group activities to meet people. I won’t go into any of it with the expectation of making friends though, only to meet people. I’ll give it time and observe people’s actions and behaviour like they will mine. If I meet someone/people and we click, cool. If not I’ll keep looking into events or other interests.
@ChipDouglas-lw9xh Who are you replying to?
One thing that made me pull myself up from darkness.. I looked at athletes, pro wrestlers, fighters and sportsmen... I realized something, they didn't care what people thought. They wanted something they ignored the hate and went and achieved. That was life changing moment for me and I haven't looked back!
In my case it was realizing who were the actual baddies in ww2.
@@NotEvenDeathCanSaveU Ay, We got a True Noticer here.
@NotEvenDeathCanSaveU that's a good motivational thought as well.
This
agree with you 100%, the second i stopped caring about what others thought, things took off like a rocket
Friends are only worth having if they're trustworthy and genuine, same goes for women. Don't stress it, keep yourself busy and entertained, so that those things don't have power over you and your happiness, and once you're comfortable, people will gravitate to you whether you like them or not.
Hmmm
This is terrible advice, they won't just gravitate towards you, you have to make an effort.
Join a church
Having genuine trustworthy friends takes effort bro, gotta put it in to get out
@@goratron1exactly
I saw the decline in the early 2010s when Instagram came out all of my male friends lost their girlfriends. Women are never satisfied with endless the option of men.
In 10-15 years from now they'll be a new endemic of wmn with no chldrn and not marrd in their 30-40's, causing the lack of new population and the great replacement with Eastern wmn who fare better. Pick your Syrian or Iranian wife.
exact same experience here, another thing I noticed around that time is how homogenized their way of dressing, speaking and personalities became
Yup, I experienced the same thing. As soon as social media became a means to getting extra attention my marriage collapsed. Snap chat was the catalyst in my case. My then wife got addicted to it and was never off it. Always searching fir the next complimentary dopamine fix from male “friends”.
Just too many opportunities and options available through social media now.
Guys, if your wife or gf is a social media junkie you can bet money on them getting hit on daily from other dudes, and those temptations are abundant, they will eventually cave and buy into the idea that the grass is greener elsewhere and take that chance behind your back.
If your woman is addicted to social media , it’s already a sign she’s keeping her options open,
not good.
Learn to recognize the signs, and handle accordingly.
@@MMK86 yoga pants, Ugg boots, and denim jackets, if I remember correctly.......
It was worsening before that
The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalised
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things.
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks
You won't regret it
What did u guys go to save it bro?
I’m 26 and already have no patience for people 😂 every close friend I’ve ever had have either disappointed me or our connection faded over time.
I had more friends and a great sex life when I was a broke college student 21 years ago. I smoked cigarettes dressed like an idiot, drank all the time, and still got attention from the ladies. Now that I have a good job, don't smoke and hit the gym I've only dated 2 women in 13 years. Women's standards are completely different than what they were in the 1990s and early 2000s. By the way what's up with everyone getting tattoos on the face and neck? Do I need to lower my standards? I dunno?
52 here and my experience is very similar to yours. Got lots of play when broke and in college, two failed marriages later I'm alone and relatively content. The face -and-neck tattoo epidemic is absolutely ratchet. Normalizing prison culture in mainstream society, it's a sign of the degenerate times we live in.
Women's standard still the same, just more prominent
Get a swastika tattoo on you for head ,that will boost attention from women! Lol
Everyone around me looks like a graffiti wall yet I'm here with a good job, hitting the gym, no tats, traveling and no attention except from older ladies like 5+ years older than me.
I'm not desperate so I won't even entertain them lol
They'll regret all that unnecessary ink when the fad dies and they start to age
If he thinks it is hard to make friends now just wait another decade or two. The older you get the more friends you lose and the less patience you have with people. Also people today are far less genuine in my opinion and are far less likely to give a damn about anyone but themselves.
65 here. You are spot on!
i'm 36 now and experiencing the same thing. Ill take note of that.
Yup. With friends like these, I prefer my enemies...
Friends are unnecessary. They are just something you have as a kid.
I'm 59 and all my friends have passed away.
Sucks being the last one of the crew.
@@PowerofRock24agree but having a good friend would be great but highly unlikely
loneliness is not a fatality. but a whole life alone shouldn't be the new normal.
Unfortunately we headed there
That sounds so depressing. Single or having women ladies? It's easy to have that when your on your purpose.
The system wants us all vulnerable.
It has to be so billionaires no longer have people to exploit.
The second coming is gonna happen soon so who cares.
I’ve learned you have two choices in life. 1: You can try to be liked and change your behavior to fit in like this guy is preaching and have lots of surface level connections surrounded by people who only keep you in their life for what they get out of you. 2: Be authentic to yourself and who you are as a person which scares the fuck out of people so you won’t have many friends or surface level connections but the connections you do make will be for life and at a depth that 1,000 fake friends couldn’t match.
Both take effort and both require balance. Option 1 will likely lead to you feeling used and misunderstood and option 2 will require being comfortable being alone and battling the tricks your mind will try to play on you regarding feeling unworthy.
I have been both in my life and I can say that a balance of the two is what I prefer leaning more towards option 2. The road is long and lonely at times but when you come across another traveler with the same mindset, whether it be a friend or a relationship, that connection cannot be matched.
Nothing is wrong with you and everyone has a choice to make. Don’t get all depressed and hyper focused on your issues, everyone has them! Make your choice and stick to it! Life awaits! Much luck on whatever path you choose!
There is a difference between "meek" and "weak". "Meek" used to mean strength under patient control, able to endure hardship and offences, with trust and obedience to the Lord. Now people view meek as "quiet, gentle, and easily imposed on; submissive". I like the old definition better. "Blessed are the meek" does not mean you should strive to be easily imposed on or submissive to everyone. First, be strong and have conviction, then put it under good and wise control.
The guy in the vid sounds weak.
yup, this is the day and age where good is evil and evil is good. Narcissism is rampant today, a lot of clowns in this community here think they're the saviors of society, when they in fact epidemies its decline and are absolute liabilities and a drain on the world.
If you want to know what a masculine society looks like, go to russia, afghanistan, iraq, societies rampant with drug abuse, violence, corruption, self deletion and are technologically desolate.
@@LiamE69it just means gentle and humble. As opposed to brash and arrogant.
Thats still what meek means thats why it has a different definition weak is not capable of violence meek is a killing machine whose violence is momentarily held back by a few hair triggers the main issue is that people will infinitely test you to try to get the reaction to vindicate their beliefs ive been called meek and found a way around this to a degree that allows a demonstration of strength while remaining peaceable once a "tough guy" i knew i challenged him to hit me as hard as he could in chest he did i laughed in his face showing him to be impotent and having zero effect while not retaliating and turning the cheek
@@Correction-zl2oe "Meek - spineless or spiritless; compliant. an obsolete word for gentle" Collins.
He's a Chad until he opens his mouth.
We all know Chad and Tyrone are trash ; so he is an introspective men of value...
But since women like getting pregnant for donkeys ; this guy seem like an UFO because he cares more than Chad and Tyrone ...
😎
Right!?😂
I thought he would announce he was coming out of the closet...
lol yeah was the exact opposite of what I expected him to sound
lol yeah he exudes femininity
You'll find your true friends when you go thru a tough time in life. I was diagnosed with cancer over Chritmas '23 and my circle of "friends" got smaller and smaller. What really hurt was the "If you need anything let me know" well, I needed a friend for support and encouragement and I got shunned and ghosted. To them, I wasn't worth 10 mins of their time. Don't be scared to cut toxic people from your life.
The POS people always weed themselves out
I have a daughter with severe medical needs, and that is what I get a lot, “Please let me know if there is anything you need, and I’ll be there”. As soon as they say that, I say “thank you, I’ll drop the other kids off for a few days to give us some relief, much appreciate the offer!” That is typically the last time they talk to me.
Yes...even if the pos people are related.
@@tradingsystemsgroup5312I think people offer to lessen the burden so you’re not overwhelmed. It doesn’t mean they want to take on your entire responsibilities. We all have our own things going on, don’t be selfish.
I was diagnosed early this year. I've already beaten it. Chemo was pretty awful.
I never told a single soul that I was sick. I figured it was no one's business. And also it kept me from being disappointed in everyone's reaction, because I knew I'd be disappointed.
My goal is to live my life and never let anyone know I'm sick until they find out at my funeral.
It's none of anyone's business.
Boys if got cancer look into ivermactan and fenbendazole it can help/ Cur* certain cancers. Studies are out on it now and newer studies are coming soon. Look into it online. If you really think about it cancer is just a parasite that can't survive without a host and is caused by mixing different isotopes with each other by combining different medicines. Something to think about
Bo is way off on this one. Too many relationships, including friendships, are fake and transactional. That's a fact. A lot of people will only want you around as long as it benefits them. I've had so-called friends that ended up stabbing me in the back after years of friendship.
I'm 51 and have no desire to care about what people think of me. When you get older, your priorities change. My focus is my job and, most importantly, helping my sister in taking care of our elderly parents...people that actually matter to me. Everything else is superficial.
All relationships are transactional, it just depends how comfortable you are with it.
@@masonrawls6436I know. I would just rather put my spare time into taking care of my parents...people that have been there for me since day 1.
@@masonrawls6436I know. I would rather use my spare time in taking care of my parents...people that have been there for me since day 1.
100% spot on Pete.
sure that is true but this guy also couldn’t get out a coherent sentence. He’s definitely not mentally well. (I’m not saying I’m the greatest either).
Ive found men are only open to friendship when there is a common struggle requiring team effort. It doesnt really occur otherwise. Struggle can be anything from league sports to war. Some types of work are disposed towards it as well. There also has to be an element of mutual admiration, even an attraction, and something you bring to the team. The caveat is, just like with relationships, most people who are worth being friends with already have tons of friends or at least enough of them. Its like a game of musical chairs
Life fucks us all up in some way. No discrimination whatsoever.
@@carpenoctem775
Absolute truth, you never know what, or who, is waiting around the next corner to fuck you over!
A perfect life can change in a nanosecond!
No one has friends, that poor woman who was 60 and found dead at her desk after 4 days of being there, if people had any friends at work, this wouldn't have happened
Exactly. NO ONE has friends. And those that do just don't know they don't have friends.
Making friends at work can cause lots of issues..saying the wrong thing around them could get you in trouble if they talk at work
Friends are temporary, that’s what I’ve learned.
It's because of this modern world that's convinced us that people are disposable. We get used to things like walking by people and never speaking or greeting them. Swiping left or right. Ghosting. We're all plugged in all the time. It seems harmless to indulge in these things but its had some nasty side effects.
In reality, every moment is to be appreciated. I personally have come close to death about 10 times in this lifetime. It helped me realize we take so much for granted. Social media and technology got our heads messed up. People aren't to be tossed away like trash. Every day is a blessing
Well said@@ThePsycoNinja
Acquaintances, neighbours and bar buddies, maybe activity fellows. That's the best you can do for new friends as a grown-up.
When you're young and you have endless hours to bond with people you like over shared experiences, it's different.
I'm in my 30s. No close friends. Just some work acquaintances I speak to at work. Dropped all my "friends" when I got in a car accident and they stole from my house when I was in the hospital
Holy shit, sorry to hear that man. But it's a lesson we all must go through. And that wisdom is invaluable.
@@PowerofRock24 yeah hard time in my life. Lost my car, house, savings. Broke my neck and my back. 9 months out of work. My brother wouldn't help me. So I got a apt with fake pay stubs and got back to work hurt. Rebuilt my life. Built a house and enjoyed many sports cars. Have a c8 now. Had a supra, Ford RS, Camaro. But took years of hard work and overtime to come back
@@lee1130fromtwitter congrats on rebuilding. Glad to hear of triumph despite everything.
@@Truther945 absolutely. When someone says they can't do something I remind them if there's a will there's a way. And I work construction as a plumber.
@lee1130fromtwitter proud of you buddy
He should stop bitching, he has a loving wife, that is more than a lot of men have.
Yea the dudes an ungrateful loser
Yeah wtf... if I had a wife, I wouldn't REALLY care about not having any friends. I'd have already won.
What gave you the idea he's got a wife? I doubt he's even got a GF because you need to be able to make friends to be able to get a GF, it's a natural progression.
It would be pretty damn rare for someone to have a GF and/or a wife and not even be able to make a single friend, even by proxy from his GF/wife.
@@mickeypopa Dude just check his vids, he not only has a wife but she is beautiful what makes the situation even more ridiculous. He even said she is his best friend. He is only bitching because he has no male friends like if that actually mattered.
@@essenceofnothingness
Wtf? He's not wearing a wedding ring so I assumed he's single. Oh God... his wife must be so desperate for a Chad that she'll marry even this bozo with the mind of a weakling. 😬
I used to value friendships, I've had friends for 10+ years who i considered to be a brother from another mother, shared a lot of values and beliefs, looked out for each other. but through series of events, it turns out that in the end it was only me who thought that way. As I got older, I realize "friends" are fake, and they're only there to help you waste time if you need it. Otherwise, trust only as far as you can throw them. I don't call people my friend anymore, they're just acquaintances.
Most men learn over time and painful experience not to expect too much from people, especially from women but also from male friends, yet they get let down anyway even when they demand so little from others. This, despite thatthey still find themselves trying to give so much. So of course naturally the recourse is to withdraw more and more and just not play the game anymore.
Many guys just go to the gym or do activities where they are in proximity to other men who are similarly by themselves and they might casually interact (like pickup basketball, or just offer positive affirmation while working out, etc.) and are acquainted but do not try to elevate these easy, light interactions to more serious, deep friendships.
All that close friendship stuff we see on shows where middle aged men are surrounded by similarly aged men at backyard parties and as drinking buddies is more the exception than norm.
Most people just suck, it is what it is.
Thats television. Not real never was.
Hit the nail on the head especially the gym .theres a bunch of guys who I see consistently there And swole af .just minding their business not paying anyone any mind .
Eh, A lot of men expect the world from "friends". I remember one, when it was Valentine's Day and I was about to go out with my girl, who showed up on my doorstep saying he had had an argument with his wife and needed a place to stay. I was like, dude, I'm sorry but it's Valentine's Day, I have this whole evening planned and there's a hotel not far from here. If you don't have the cash I can advance some to you. Evidently that was *it* as far as he was concerned because I didn't drop everything on Valentine's Day and a real friend would have done that for him.
@@Heike-- you offered to cash advance him for the hotel how selfish can he be ? Wow .
@@kwilliams3161 Evidently a real friend would have cancelled all his plans and let him stay at my place. I'm like, dude, we're chums OK but Jesus, on Valentine's Day? Any other day, you know? And it's not like you can sleep on the couch because I'm going to do this thing with candles when we come back from our night out, and then I'm going to fuck her.
It becomes harder to make friends as you age. Throughout college I made atleast 5 decent friends a year, because there is alot of forced interaction.
However as you age you have to force yourself to meet others. And if you have mental issues, or insecurities it becomes even harder to put oneself out there.
Definitely. In your 30s the social dynamic completely changes. Plus many of us stop going out to bars around that age so that hurts things .. but yes, if you aren’t meeting friends at work at that age then it’s going to be hard .. if you have depression or social anxiety it will be so much harder. They say it takes 50-60 hours in someone’s presence to begin to form a friendship.
Btw I know a few guys in their 30s and 40s that I can tell are lonely but I also notice they have personality issues - they are either very low energy or pessimistic and constantly complaining. I had to let a friend go because he’d call too often and complain about the same damn things
It's so true. It makes you have to face yourself and deal with your insecurities so you can put yourself out there again.
@@brianmeen2158 lol I love how age has people caught up so much . I caant go to bars cos im 30 like bro what .
Their is no pointin working when the retirement age is 200 years
I have a job a like doing so I am just gonna work until I die.
@DanielDorn-tr7tw you'll never get anywhere working it's a waste of time no point you'll lose everything for no reason and taxes dude you'll never be able 2 save up everything goes 2 bills n utilities n food it's not logical being with a woman neither they are just a burden
@@DanielDorn-tr7tw You're very fortunate as most people hate what they do. This is why they call it, "Work" and not, "play" or "life" LOL!
There is a miniscule chance that someone works on something that they love to do so congratulations.
It really depends on what is predisposed to excel at, I guess. I've never had a job that I loved but I have had high paying jobs. Money is Life's lubricant. It's hard either way but easier with some cash.
Great at art = Starving artist.
Great at coding = I.T. Entrepreneur.
Everyone has their niche and I'm really happy that you found yours.
Enjoy your day, Friend.
@@AverageBeausOutdoor
The problem is the more you work the move government takes away from you.
In my day 1 person working is all you needed to raise a family and buy a house. Today people rent because they cant afford some tiny garbage of a house. We are taxed far too much. Its extremely demotivating for young people.
Just work 4 full time jobs bruh and then you can retire at 50 bruh.
If a real man wakes up in the morning, has no woman nagging him, no debt to worry about, can pay his bills, can buy toys, he is doing better than 99% of the men worldwide. This man needs to grow a pair.
100% correct. It took me almost twenty years to pay off child support. That held me back two decades of my life. Now that i'm free from that bondage, i'm almost sixty years old. Never, ever get married or have children in the west. Never get married overseas and bring your wife to the west.
Our economy is crashing.Things will never be the same as they were before. I actually pity the younger generations in america. You will never know how great things used to be.
You're not wrong. And yes, that means life is a terrible thing.
@@gwynnapnudd702 we must imagine Sisyphus as happy...... Life is pain, life is suffering, life is perpetual struggle and strain. Life is also beautiful.
@ZommBleed Aye, don't plan too.
37, make 128k a year, have virtually no bills (like out of my worm truck, only pay for my phone) everything else is payed for and extra cash.
6.1, 240lbs at 19% body fat.
I have tons of fun with the ladies but I'll never date anymore lmao.. too many people I know got utterly destroyed through divorce, child support etc.
@@fustercluck2460 Just clarifying... you live out of your truck? I'm thinking you just misspelled it.
I'm 6' 5", 220 lbs. (Was 185 after my intermittent fasting/keto/OMAD diet.) Trying to get back to 190 lbs. Life is sucking hard right now; trying to get ahead so I can get into something like what you're doing. I'm keeping hope on the horizon.
There's nothing wrong with having a friend or three, but it's not essential for men. Friends are really only important when you're going through school, K-12. After that, work and/or education tends to separate you from friendships. If this guy found a hobby or interest that involves investment of time, he wouldn't _need_ a friend. Men's superpower is they can survive and be happy on their own. It may take time for him to realize that, but it has been and can be done.
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Exactly that's pretty much how I have lived after college. Every now and then I will run into somebody new but since I'm an introvert I don't need much company.
@@doctorx1924 Same here. I have lots of interests -- bikes, cars, woodworking, etc -- so I'm never bored.
Being high energy thinking it will attract people is cope, just made a clown of myself being high energy and didn’t make many meaningful friends doing it. Just be how you are.
I agree. People still tried to put me down and tried hard to remind that I'll always be 470 pound virgin I was no matter how much I lost weight wouldn't mean I'd lose my virginity and have a girlfriend (so called friends actually not just people) and guess what I did both those things. My relationship turned to hell but I was with a woman for a over a year and I went down to 240 pounds but since then I've fallen even further because no matter how much I accomplished my family, my friends and everyone was out to get me one way or another so now I'm alone.
@@TheFool12-12Congrats on losing weight and bettering yourself.
@@DuncanL7979 thank you!
I think a better word would be engaged. Being present in the moment when you're with or around other people is important.
Taking an interest in others will make you seem interesting. Especially if you can retain what’s said and branch it off into a different conversation. Making yourself seem interesting makes others feel drained.. Get them to open up and talk and they will replay those interactions in their head later and register the interaction as something they made a deposit into, rather withdrew their attention all into just you
Same, to be fair. I just have associates. All friends from the past have either moved on, are like me, or have been captured by their spouses where they do f all. I'm only 29.
Captured good word.
Get a hobby.. go out sporting/fishing with ur friends like `1 time per week.. good for ur own balance aswell..
Being an introvert, I never feel the need to have a lot of people around me. I have two good friends from school who are always there for me whenever I need them.
exact same here why have 50 "friends" that don't give shit when you can have 2 actual friends that do give a shit bout you
I’m very introverted too and I’m 37 and I honestly find people to be exhausting to be around. I have friends that call and it’s getting harder to force myself out with them. I stopped drinking alcohol and going to bars do that factors into it as well
Quality of friends > quantity
@@1HeatWalk bingpot
I thought he was gay.
There's a huge issue with people being fake these days, which makes it harder to be sure it's a good idea to befriend people in general.
Especially when it comes to Californians.
*"This video isn't a pity party."* Notice how ONLY men have to say that. Ladies can go on 20 min. rants and cry and scream and NEVER with no apology.
American society really comes down to everyone hating eachother. Whether it be politics, ethnicity, religion, there is always a reason to hate the person next to you. Sad really.
You actually get it. Most won’t. This is our culture.
How do you think the people at the top keep power? It isn't by getting everyone to work together.
weird im half potato jogger and half german the irish killed each other forever over some doctrinal stuff which is to say even in a homogenous population we have enough problems we dont need the whole world to come here to the usa and add 30 billion more reasons to hate each other and before the midwits come out in force and say "we are all humans or were all one race the human race" im weary of humanism the antichrist may make the same argument by arguing we should strip away all other things be they race gender etc and what is left humanity God at babel decided he didnt want us to be one people because "there would be nothing we couldn't do" so we shouldn't tempt him
It’s like that here in Canada too. I’ve heard people visiting from other countries say people in Vancouver are quite rude. However, people who come here from other countries are not only rude but they engage in criminal activity and flee back to their country.
And the homelessness is getting out of control. I can have compassion for their struggles however when every corner in all cities smell like bodily fluids, trash all over the ground, and customer service gets worse because the lack of respect and theft.. etc..
When I go for walks the only friendly faces that smile at me are usually children, and sometimes middle aged or older men.
Yeah even people in this comment section are shitting on his voice and mannerisms. Saying he sounds gay or some dumb shit. Maybe it’s because of people like that that makes people not wanna give a shit about socializing anymore. Besides you only need people who are willing to put in as much effort as you are in pursuing a relationship with them
Guaranteed he had an overbearing narcissist mother who made him hate his father.
I agree with you on accountability, but he would have to figure that out and unpack that.
He quit his job, very unstable and super insecure worse than a women, very emotional his will end up divorcing him,. Always at gym, dying all different color of his hair and beard all are a huge red flag.
Seems like damaged goods for sure. I guess the women aren't the only ones.
His voice is way too feminine. He doesn’t get to the point. He has gay vibes. I prefer having acquaintances or superficial friendships. It’s not fun to pour out your soul for new friends.
He's a product of his environment.
Damn, that was harsh, hope that poor dude doesn't read any of these comments
So i guess unless you act hard or talk loud its gay lol bro sounds like you got an underlying issue😂😂
He´s married
@@Hugo821mWife cheating
As a 40 year old fairly attractive in shape guy, friends are hard to come by.
Not because people are hard to find, but because quality people are hard to find.
It is vary hard to find people who are not addicted to smart phones, games, social media and not working 24/7 with your same interests.
Any quality people are usually so busy you would never see them anyways and the people who do have time you would not want to waste time on.
Exactly, it happens the same to me. Do you know whether there's some kind of online forums where we may filter conversations based on common interests and topics? Maybe that's the modern way to connect with alike people worth putting efforts towards a long term friendship
There are people I tolerate, people who are acquaintances, some people I would consider friendly with and would help out more than others, and then only a few people I would consider close friends. It's been like this for a very long time but I've noticed that as I get older those circles have become much smaller. I've noticed I don't want to expend what finite energy I have each day on the emotional vampires of this world.
This 36 year old guy in the video could benefit from mindful meditation and stop dwelling on the past and worrying about the future so much. At the very least he won't bring that anxious energy to the table when meeting people.
I had this problem than got involved with fishing groups, bourbon clubs, and car gatherings.
Absolutely brilliant. A fishing group.
No requirement of friendship. Its a group. You meet up, conexist, share ideas, and catch... something. If not nothing more than a buzz.
Your mind is a garden brother. Thanks for the ideas.
One of the worst things feminism did to men(it's a long list) is removing men's social clubs from our lives.
fishing, lol
Guys need activities they can do to make friends.
Brilliant. A gym club could work to.
The fact that this guy starts every sentence with "i feel" with no bass in his voice is the problem with men nowadays
The problem is you thinking it's a problem. I'm pretty sure the man isn't interested in yelling at the camera and besides he seems to be struggling mentally so this isn't easy clearly.
Ironically, he actually sems like a people person. Has no friends but talks in a calm, collected, considerate & cooled manner. The lack of bass isn't an issue. His issue is thinking there is an issue.
I really had another impression of him just seeing the thumb nail. Listening to him talk makes for a strong contrast to the visual impression. That might confuse people in his life and might not work in his favor in social situations.
@@fhdb478 His voice and mannerisms give off a negative vibe.
My very first thought was that he sounds and behaves effeminate. I suspect that he gets mistaken as gay.
No more wishy washy friends
41 and glad we didn’t have social media in high school. I still have high school friends that are still good friends.
As a high achiever, every friend I've had in my life stabbed me in the back, f*cked my gf, became a hater, made my life worse behind my back, held me back or was jealous at everything I did. Seriously lost the motivation to talk to new people or make friends ever again. What's the point?
I don't have friends because I'm an introvert and prefer to do the th8ngs I want to do when I want to do them. Socially, I'm extraverted, life of the party. It's performative. But need to regroup for 3 days after, alone at home
Looking back at it my dad didn't have any friends aside from mom..he had guys from work that he'd play cards with or go drinking with once in a while...but that was about it. He didn't have a 'best buddy' or someone to talk to on the phone or someone he was always hanging out with.
I figure that's just part of getting older in life. If you do it right you should be able to rely on your family but even that is dwindling away now
The future is bleak given that most dudes won't even have a family of their own
Same with my Dad. After he got to like age 40 he only had one good male friend but he moved further away. He would come visit us with his 2 daughters. And he is a really good guy! Always uplifts everyone around him. I always wished him & my Dad could hang out more!
I’d seen his earlier videos and was also surprised, because he’s outwardly very appealing in appearance, and I don’t recall his earlier videos being whiny or overly self-deprecating; more giving everyone else the benefit of the doubt too much, and if I recall correctly he was in a relationship with a girlfriend or wife in those.
I do agree with some other comments here that I’ve noticed the people I see who appear to walk through life not caring what others think of them (to an extent) and remaining cool and collected are the ones who attract the attention and fascination of others. It’s good to leave people guessing a bit, create a little mystery- especially in a world where people keep nothing to themselves and never stop talking.
Don't gaslight this man it's not his fault. The world is doomed the best we can do is try and sooth our mental anguish till lights go out
Man im 45. Im in ridiculous shape. I still lift, run, and go to an mma club. Usually wrestle once a week. Im an industrial mechanic and make good money. Also own 2 rental properties. Ive been told all my life im very physically attractive. Im not bragging. Just want to say. Ive also been single for 14 years. Ive only got a couple friends left. Ive gotten rid of some of them. Because of the narcissist personality. It just gets old. I work 330pm-1130pm shift at a copper factory. That means i can only socialize on the weekends. And sometimes i work on the weekend. So if i do hang out with people. They are all married or in relationships. Or i go to a couple bars by myself. I have met women. But doesn't seem like a good deal to me. What im saying is there doesn't seem to be a lot of opportunity out there.
Dude has a great physique and is plenty handsome, but his voice tells us part of the problem. He sounds feminized even looking like a unit. Was instantly jarring to hear him speak vs his appearance. Also, friends are overrated, at 52 I can count mine on one hand. Quality over quantity.
All u guys think he is hot ? 👌 wow.
He's gay
@@BrianManning-wh6rlhe is ok looking with a nice body. He aint facially very handsome. But many dudes think being muscular and tall makes you automatically handsome ...as a gay dude, your face is the most important feature.
I have an easier time finding women to date than making new guy friends (im in new area). Guys are kinda weird. You try to exchange numbers and do something and it's actually more awkward than getting a chicks digits. Men are on a social decline. We dont know how to interact with each other
they're not sure of your motives, you might be gay. That's how people think nowadays.
@@clayton56tube I gotta stop asking these prospective guy friends if they want to Netflix and chill lol
Agreed. Could never bond with other guys. Only men im related to like cousins. There are a lot of men who just view other men as threats and to dominate. It is v tiring, not everything is a competition. Id still prefer be friends with other men than women, but other guys dont make it easy at all. Middle aged men seem to HATE young men too, only people who tried to get violent with me were middle aged or old men ...go away ...i just said hi to your wife ...i dont wanna bang a 60 year old woman.😂😂😂
If you moved to Portland I can understand. Largely because they have more LGBT people per capita than anywhere else. I honestly found it easier to get activities going with men rather than Women more often than not. You just need to find common interests with other men.
When life gets hard, your true friends are the ones who would still be there. Same goes for women.
1989. Dragon Ball and Power Rangers era. I don't have friends because I choose not to. There were people who called me their "friend" when I was a little kid and it simply isn't worth it. I also choose to be single. I've never felt lonely. Most people can't fathom the idea of not having friends or being in a relationship because they perceive it as the normal thing to do. They see everyone else do it. If you someone doesn't have friends or isn't involve in a relationship, everyone else thinks something is wrong with them. Look at many of the problems you have and you will see it was caused by another human. Avoiding friends and relationships is less stress, and I can focus on myself and my goals. Why do humans assume someone is lonely? Why are men called lonely in the news and women are called empowered? It's all part of the Matrix.
friends are trash ill give you one episode of my "friends" when i was young id walk to work like 15 miles to work and heir was a friend id give money to and id go hungry even though i was walking that far and then busting at work [only to go home and have my family poo poo on me too even though im doing this for their sake] one day this guy acted like id killed somebody and i was person non grata he said "well we were friends but your a piece of trash were not friends anymore" he never explained the offense anyway years later he walks up to me at a gym and acts like nothing happened in the past and yet im the BAD MAN lol i hate humans so much i have many such stories i may be the only human on earth who acts as if he will give an account to God one day lol
Sht I'm 37, I haven't had a single friend in 9 years, haven't had a girlfriend in 10 years
Josh is married and has a succesful career. His videos are about social anxiety and him struggling to find friends.
He sounds beta
Agree ....plus the creater rhinks he is hot ?@BlackBoyKingTV
He quit his job always dyes his hair and beard different color a huge red flag very unstable and super insecure his will end up divorcing him. He to much of what he looks a big red flag.
He seems like he would be better off finding a boyfriend.
Can get a girl but not a male friend. Backwards af and part of the problem.
Friends are overrated. You will agree when you're later on life
most people that get murdered, it's by their friends or spouse.
Finding QUALITY friends these days can be very difficult because most folks walking around are deceitful, untrustworthy and unaccountable NPCs and bots. This part of the equation cannot be ignored!
I have that psycho-cybernetics book. I need to stop playing around and ready it. Thanks for the reminder.🤞🏾
This book popped up before on Amazon, so I have it en route. I used to LOVE being around people, DJ'ed soul music dance nights, and it was a blast. I know it's my mindset and I know I change with time so I must use "new equipment" for new challenges, so thanks, I will read the book for sure. AND implement it.
First rule. GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA AS A WAY TO MAKE FRIENDS. IF IT AIN'T "REAL LIFE" IT AIN'T "REAL!"
He is absolutely above average! And I'm a straight dude!
This shit was happening to me too. I first started at internship University program when I was 19. I was total broke and needed to travel faaar away from my family and friends. When ended the College and started my carreer at the “corporate world”, I was 24-25 and realized that its hard to find new friends when you get older. Today I’m 35 and have some friends cause I’m not broke anymore and almost retired from my working activities. The working/studying busy life don’t let you even think about having fun. I worked fckng hard and had a lot of luck. But a regular young guy tends to be a wageslave and a loner for the rest of his life here in Brazil theese days. The financial system is a grinding machine!
As a 41-year-old who was born and raised in America your experience is very similar to mine. Capitalism makes it very hard to have friends and a community.
I’m 25, I got 1 actual friend left. He’s got a family but We meet up a few times every month. It’s a real blessing to even have just 1
He looks like a decent dude, he goes to the gym, he doesn't look or act weird, and I also went through that phase where I lost all my friends and I thought something was wrong with me.
lack of friends can have a lot of reasons including history of trauma that cant be fixed by becoming the jokester.
I live in a small town of abusive beachballs
So many druggies
So many alcoholics
So much nepotism
So much favoritism
Only government jobs
I'm not the problem
I'm building my wealth
When the time comes
I will leave this crap hole town
I dispize this town
Sounds like you need to move to Nigeria.
Left my home town at 21 and never looked back
As I've become older I've realised that i don't really like or want the company of most people. I don't like living up (or down) to their expectations or working to their plans and schedule, or doing the planning and scheduling. I put up with them and do it if i have to. If i honestly ask myself "Would i rather be here doing this with this person/people or on my own doing something else I'd say that at least 95% of the time id choose the latter. To me it's not lonliness It's freedom. P.s. I do have a partner (gf) but we both do our own thing most of the time.
It's not about knowing what to do and not doing it, but knowing that even if you do it, the outcome isn't worth the effort. As men, we weigh the pro's and con's to everything (at least I do), so forcing a fix, that's not really a fix, is no different than when women are delusional and expect a good man, when they themselves are unqualified.
I am almost 30. Same. No friends at all. I am stuggling to pull myself up financially in a country which I don´t even like.
you in canada to ?
@@eibbor171 Spain :)
@@eibbor171 Canada's circling the drain with America. Dancing the tango to Delulu Duolingo DestructoDisk.
Australia is hell. Don't come.
Stay strong brother
The older you get the harder it is to make friends for sure, and the women get more indifferent with you and bitter as they age.
You don’t have a woman? You are blessed, you will not lose everything.
He is married.
@@m.t6299 I doubt it
@@hiteck007 He is, he has shown his wife in some videos, she understand and supports him because lost a brother unliving himself.
@@jrrizz0563 Going on what I saw he won't be for long if that is the case
@@hiteck007 I did it too, but he´s married.
I bought the book Bo, im working on myself. On a diet and working out. Been trying books to help my mental health, so I'm excited to try this book, and see how much it helps!
“The best cure for the body is a quiet mind”. ~ Napoleon Bonaparte
I completely sympathize with this man because Making friends is easy but finding a friend that will not, lie, deceive, use you or stab you in the back somewhere in the future is next to impossible. Example: My best friend that I thought I could trust ended up liking the same sex and wanted to get fresh with me and I just don’t swing that way. So we are no longer friends now. I have had guy friends that just wanted to use me. I have come across men that slept with their best friends wife. So I no longer trust women or men now. Being alone is hard but being friends with someone that will betray you is by far, way worse.
Sorry you experienced that. From my experience people are WAY TOO comfortable with their ways as well. I had a classmate I met during an online course I took come over to study and within the first couple of hours she came out to me as bi saying something about her boyfriend and steering the conversation into seeing if I was into women and I told her no. Then she passed out in my couch for like 2 hours and she didn’t study barely anything. She left shortly after waking up. To be honest I think she was drinking or on drugs prior to coming over 😬 I hope she’s doing better though! Some people make impulsive choices when their mind isn’t clear
NPC got self-awareness for the first time in his 30-ties and doesn't know how to cope...
How do people make it this far lmao stumbling blind
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@@GameJournal0101shitty parenting creates people like this guy. That’s how
@@Koi_to_DragonYou're right
Google says a friendship needs an investment of ~100 hours. Thats a lot of time..
That's only 4 days hello
Google is satanic
@@unholydangerLol as a teenager 😆 as an adult it’s best to not give so much time to strangers they’ll wonder why you’re not busy with your own life and interests
Good timing on this video for me. Just started looking for ways to break my own cycle and the negative self-image. Bought the book. Will read.
Just the way men and women talk these days is so different.
He says, "I have failed to establish meaningful friendships." he takes responsibility for the thing before even saying what it is.
Modern women, on the other hand, conclude it's the failure of everyone else around them.
Sadly women “realize” it’s others faults in times of need AFTER they’ve pushed people away, discarded them, treated them like they don’t matter, making people feel like they are worthless unless they can give or be useful
He’s not a Chad he’s a soy light…
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Protein shake with SoyMilk?
I was gonna say Whey but I think he might be vegetarian knowing he's married and has _'those'_ for car seat covers. So pea protein, or hemp, or rice.
He's still pretty fit.
He's a Beta Bob in a Chad's body.
Post yourself on the internet talking so we can evaluate you.
Grow up
I have a few close friends in far away places and I'm too lazy to make new local ones
Gonna listen to the book you shoved down my ears. Thanks
Once you been betrayed and put in troubling situations the whole friend things is least of worrys be your own friend
Having purpose and a relationship with god will fix nearly every all of these issues.
I don’t have friends, but strangely I’m glad I don’t. I have lots of acquaintances, but no close friends. With kids (one with severe medical issues), a wife, a job, a side hustle, a house and yard to maintain, I’d be a bad friend, since they would rank way down my list.
That’s kinda the way I think it should be. Only the best of people can turn into that non relative uncle or aunt if they have stayed close enough and are consistent in their connection to you even if you only see them once a year
I make friends all over the place with all walks of life. I don't ask much from them and try to give more than I receive. I accept them as they come and expect them to do the same. 😊
Who gunna tell him? I'll tell him...
They aren't your friend, bud.
We have a word for that.... _Acquaintances._
Or if less, just _Amicable strangers._ They're not "friends."
Maybe you're just too dependant on other people and don't know what a "friend" is.
@@dont.ripfuller6587 You'll learn as you get older.
@@PowerofRock24 Perhaps, I might. Don't have too much room left for getting older though. Take care and good luck out there.
Love your no nonsense approach. Just download the book and don’t come back until you have read it lol.
Great episode! Bought the book. Keep up the good work!
dudes body says T but his voice says E
The dudes confidence is in the toilet...who cares what other people think. 99% of people dont care about you, so who cares what their opinion of you is. Do you, fck the rest
dude just because one chad is having issues you cant go "see bro, its all about attitude"; do you know how silly you sound, this is why the black pill is growing and will continue to grow
It is. Even the guy mentioned it. All boils down to you. People gravitate more to people that have a positive mindset that don't let external factors brother them. I get it at work when people hear or see me going into work like everyday is a weekend. Even though I do this for me to have a good mindset to handle 100 plus callers a day where 5-10% of callers come in negative. When there is a team activity people immediately want to team up with me. If they see me during lunch they want to seat with me during lunch. Even a guy who looks like fat Albert and not a Chad always have people talking to him and hanging around him because of his energy. I remember going to a fireworks show with him and he got this cute woman's number who looked like a 7 and was making out with her.
Black pill is a bitter way to live .the after pill is much better.when you realize everything is what it is .now are you going to sulk and say woe is me or are you going to get after it .
How many of these friends will stick around when you actually need them? Was this not a discussion about friends or are we all 16 year olds that call everyone a bro
@@michaelwatson9089 Emptional Parasites is all you hear from that. Why feed that?
@@michaelwatson9089I'll bet 100$ this never happened, things don't work like that. People gravitate to the ones with money and looks
A lot of people just waste your time. People who don't have the capacity to be loyal and reciprocate. They turn little things into big things like maybe they don't like the style clothes you wear or something dumb.
I value loyalty, etiquette (class), similar principles, and a person who understands value in a relationship. Sadly, now, most people are superficial, and narcissistic, and weak minded.
I want to stuff boxes again but dont want to deal with the BS. Not worth it.
I dont think a man needs friendships. A man needs a stable job, a reputation, people to discuss hobbies with and a spouse/family. I think the whole idea of building friendships is fake.
Huge facts. Only friends you should have as a ma are friends you can do business with or form militias with
Ouch. Sucks to be you. The rest of us have friends.
@@LorenzoMasterConnector Exactly. If I find someone that would join me in starting a war, then it is another thing. But having male friends for meaningless chitchat, watching sports and drinking beer... pfft! That is so lame. The only way for men to bond, is over some project, business or cause.
@@erobwen yessir that’s really gay honestly. Men need to do men stuff like figure out where the next investment opportunity is or how to secure the future for each others families
Sorry, guys, but cry me a river. The guy in the video is above-average looking. There’s no way there aren’t hordes of women throwing themselves at him. I understand that’s different than friendships, but it’s a pretty nice problem to have. And Legion Man, I think it’s pretty easy for you to tell average or below average men that all they need to do is change their attitude, read a book, etc., and their social lives will flourish. You are also an above-average looking guy. You can’t tell me life and relationships aren’t MUCH easier for good-looking people. I would argue NOTHING is very easy socially for average to below average guys. It’s just not that simple. Especially if the guy is just naturally not gregarious, life-of-the-party type person. Guys who are naturally quiet and have no charm, charisma, etc., have likely been rejected at every turn their whole lives. At what point do they stop inviting that type of humiliation into their lives? Eventually, the burned learn to avoid the fire.
Bo has good advice but God…he doesn’t have anything constructive to say and 0 sympathy. He’s supposed to build men up not break them down