They wouldn't have used her probably because she is a single mom (I'm pretty sure she's one). This video is about what was considered the traditional family back then. The list was made with the husband in mind.
I'm glad the blonde (don't know her name, soz) came to the realization that the way things were split between her and her husband was uneven and unfair, and I'm proud of her for trying to make a commitment to balance it out. If there are two parents in the picture, there should be an equal amount of parenting going on.
I agree with almost all of your statement, but I disagree with the last sentence. I think "parenting" encompasses a LOT more than cooking and cleaning, and I don't think we have enough information about her and her husband's dynamic to say that they weren't parenting equally.
You're right, of course -- I phrased that poorly. I meant more in terms of making sure her kids have food and clean clothes and a clean house to live in; I suppose "caretaking" is more the correct word? I just feel very much that if there are two parents, the burden should never be on a single parent to do all of the figurative "heavy lifting" in the situation, like the household chores and the "dirty work".
Her name (as shown at the start of the video) is Morgan. She also clearly stated that her husband is the primary caregiver (as in, he is a stay at home father who works but Morgan is the primary breadwinner who works full time).
Yes, I looked her name up after I made this post. Morgan, then. And I did watch the video, I do know what she said, but what I am saying is I do not like the idea of a "primary caregiver". In my opinion, that is a very unfair way of rearing children -- caring for children should be a paired job.
I used to be really against the possibility of me being a "homemaker." Now that I've moved in with my boyfriend, I actually really like keeping my house clean and making dinner a few nights a week. I'm learning to cook and I'm so excited when something turns out right. The BF does all of the yard work and whatever else I need help with. Can't imagine trying to keep on top of it with kids. Major props to my mom.
@@thetillerwiller4696, I'm a stay-at-home mom/homemaker and am learning everything as I go while doing extensive research. I actually enjoy it but it can be overwhelming. Please don't overdo things. Becoming a homemaker is gradual and takes time if you didn't learn the homemaker ways from one of your parents or you didn't pursue those skills growing up.
Oh lordy as I write this my child has every toy ever made pulled out of boxes 😂😂.....I don't mind as it takes 10 mins to clean but if a certain someone comes over it'll be snide comments I'll be getting 😥😥
This is AWESOME, BuzzFeed!! I'm an imperfect stay at home mom & I DO feel guilty for not being perfect. And I do get put down many times for choosing to stay at home. Thanks for the encouragement!!
I feel you I have 2 kids a 3 year old and a 14month old who is still not walki by the way and I'm always being told and looked down at becaouse I'm a stay at home mom and I'm not this perfect homemaker.
Kudos to you! Personally I would never put anyone down for that choice. It is far harder than going off to work .... I would probably choose work! You have a 24/7 job and no sick days. and perfect is way overrated. ;)
My mom is a stay at home mom and she gets put down a lot for that choice. Not just socially but legally, she doesn't have the same rights as my father because she doesn't make the money but he does (even though they share everything). Please don't let anyone make you feel guilty. It's an honor to be a stay at home mom just like it's an honor to be a working mom. Stay encouraged!
My mum was a Lawyer and a politician, she woke us up, cooked for us, looked after us, dropped and picked us from school and loads of tuitions, did our laundry, and kept everything fine... Then we moved to England where my mum was working in two bakeries, double shifts everyday. She still provided us a home, came home in her break in the afternoon to cook for us, did our laundry and still kept us clean and neat for school... When I look at these ladies all I see is laziness and excuses to be lazy. Being a home maker doesn't mean you are giving no up your life, it means you are looking after your family you have created and giving good memories and keep your family healthy than buying junk food. My mother was a modern mum and a good home maker.
thank you very much !!! I agree with everything that you said !! I only want to add that the hisband also helps , the wife is not supposed to do everything by herself !!!
I agree but my dad was in Sri Lanka and he wasn't living in UK. But when I was in Sri Lanka my dad was giving his 100% as well... Just talking about what my mum did, as I said she is a professional and independent woman in same time a home maker and she never hated it xx
Enclave Soldier No, I'd continue with my career and pay for him to be able to stay home. I don't know many men who can actually build shelves and fix cars anyway...
Pie A La Mode actually, the amount of stay at home men in this day and age is almost equal, because you also get single dad's with kids that have no choice as well as the few that switch the roles so that their wives can continue doing their passion. Don't doubt the numbers of women being deadbeats nowadays. There's too damn many to count, and that all on it's own make men obligated to work harder.
im from Argentina and also I live in a small town, there's no mc donals, no kfc basically no take outs, Im a working mom, so I get up at 6:00 am I dress up for work ( make up and hair) , do breakfast ( we dont take cereal) I prepare my 8 years old girl to school and then go to work at 8:30. I clean my house do my laundry...I don't understand what's the big deal, its basics chores. I do this every day,sorry but I dont get it.
It doesn't seem lazy for a modern day American woman to not be able to do these things, most things that people of that time knew was passed down And drilled into them, now appearantly because of fast food cooking sadly isn't something that comes naturally anymore. And really since when were you EXPECTED to be dressed and pretty to make food for people that wouldn't see you for the rest of the day. times have changed and the only thing I think you're calling lazy is the inability to cook just because you can't cook doesn't make you lazy
especially cooking. I think it's embarrassing if you don't know how to cook. the amount of friends I ha in collage/uni that could only cook pasta was embarrassing.
Does anybody else wish that you could go back in time and show those people videos of what life was like now, or bring somebody from back in time and show them around present time?
for the people focusing souly on her tounge.. it could just be a fungal thing, not bad or dangerous or gross.. probably from a high-sugar diet which fungus in your gut lives off.. most common is an over growth of 'candida'.. most people have this and are fine.. if its really a bother then just have some coconut oil in your diet :-) (coconut oil contains lauric acid which is a fungus-killer, especially oral/intestinal abd is easy to have a teaspoon a day or incorporate into meals) #themoreyouknow
This was a joke, those women complained about doing things that they had their husbands and children doing... yet its beneath them because women shouldn't have to do that. When you're a homemaker, regardless of gender you are supposed to care for the home, children, and working party of the household. Not be their slave, but to CARE for them!
That is how I felt. Personally the idea of my children and husband making their own breakfast and me coming down an hour later and not giving care in the world doesn't appeal to me (especially if I'm a stay at home mum). Things like keeping the kitchen clean is just normal hygiene. Not making meals on time and things is just not nice for children or even husbands if they work all day and I'm at home. Personally I wish to be a working mother and a good wife/mum at home, it's a goal of mine and I don't feel "oppressed". Taking care of my home and my family is not direct oppression. Ugh this video.
getting dressed at the start of the day is also setting a solid productive mentality for your routine. if you stay in your pj's and lounge about, studies show you're more likely to be lackadaisical and less focused, as well as less able to stick to a routine than your prepared counterparts. i like to be up and dressed, bed made and room tidied, before i go downstairs to prepare breakfast and start my day. it sets a good tone. i'm surprised the lady with depression was all over the place and nobody gets on her butt about doing basic tasks. her husband is an enabler in the worst way.
+Felicia108 it is, most definitely. However, they did nothing but bash the chores that they were "required" to do, but were just fine with their husbands taking care of things. They were upset because they thought women shouldn't have to do all that.....but why? Because it is now a stigma that women who choose to be at home are degrading themselves. That's not balanced.
My mum raised me and my sister amazingly AND also went to work full time AND finished University by the time I was in Primary School AND keep our two floor house spotless clean AND clean, do laundry, iron cook, saw, mend for 4 people, look after us when we were sick, help us both with homework, help dad massively with the house repair/mantainance AND she collects and chops wood up before every winter for our fireplace. MUM I LOVE YOU SO MUCH YOU'RE AMAZING!!
+Doughnut Touch My Doughnut not really. She meant like did she pass away/ did anything hurtful happen. One doesn't just cry because someone is "awesome" or whatever
+infinite hugz actually, some people do cry when they realize how amazing their mother or grandmother or father is because they are so appreciative of that person. Her reaction is just an overwhelming feeling of appreciation
my mum and dad couldn't afford it so they both worked 7 days a week and brought up 5 kids, If you can't support your child without going on benefits i don't feel you should be a stay at home mum
I don't normally comment on videos but this was the most genuine portrayal of the weight of expectations placed on wives and mothers while at the same time the best way to illustrate how vital an equal partnership is within the family unit. Loved it. Thank you to all three women (especially the blonde woman) for your honesty and openness!!
the thing is there are some people that like to do all that, and do it with devotion, not because they get told, just because it is what they like. i love cooking and baking and taking care of things and playing an instrument. that you have to clean the house and do laundry, well that is what u do when you dont live with your parents either way.... so there are people for which it is easier to fulfill these tasks and others that aren't as "good". my mom doesnt play and instrument and doesn't go to church but all of the other things she does with love for her family and because she loves doing it. and she also worked when she was young, so she is not a stay at home mom for all her life.
this was a nice video. my mom was a stay at home and the ~primary caregiver~ and she always felt guilty about that because all of her sisters were working moms. when i got to high school my mom decided she wanted to get back into the workforce and she said in interviews she experienced a bit of stigma from having a huge gap in her resume, just because she wanted to stay at home... i never understood why someone could or would look down on being a s tay at home parent. growing up i don't think i knew of any other kids who had a stay at home mom/dad and none of my friends have a stay at home parent either so i don't really know how anyone elses experience is, but looking back i'm so glad that my mom decided to quit her job after her maternity leave. to all the moms (and dads) out there slaying in kitchen, dishing out the chores, walking the kids to school and creating so many small wonderful memories in our every day lives, thank you so much!! my mom has been hospitalized for a while now so i really, really miss seeing her every single day and eating her food and having her pick me up from work and do all the things stay at home parents do. being able to see your kids and your parents and having that sort of closeness truly is a privilege so don't EVER feel ashamed!!!!
You guys are awesome! thank you for keeping it raw and real for those of us out there that feel like we are failing and alone in the struggle that is motgerhood.
I wish women valued being homemakers more. I would give up a career in a heartbeat to take care of my family and do only household tasks and take care of my kids.
I wish women didn't try to shove their lifestyle down our throats. Why is it so important to you that others "value it more"? Why can't you just do what you want?
They way I see it should be is both the woman and the man go out to work and you both take care of the house and kids together you know one night the woman cooks then the next night the man cooks, if you can both cook of course, you're both equals you should do it together it shouldn't always be left to the woman unless she wants to then that's her choice
I personally enjoy this homemaking stuff. I mean I can't do it all the time because I work, but I love the look on my partners face when he comes home to a clean house and a home cooked meal.
Morgan's ponytail got her looking like she got a pixie cut and that makes her look like Ms.Marvel (marvelwoman/miraclewoman). Rock that superhero haircurt, girl
I think the partner who stays home should do most of the work at home. If both partners work it should be split about equaly, respecting thing one is better at doing. So I don't get why the stay at home mom is so bad at all this stuff....
My dad works and my mom stays at home and i'm so thankful they do. My dad makes me feel financially safe in my life and my mom takes care of everything in the house. I just can't imagine being able to take care of your kids and having both parents w/ a full time job... I mean being a parent IS a full time job and then some... But that's just me.
Being a stay at home parent is no different than working outside the home, it involves discipline and planning. These woman fail in both areas and I doubt they are raging successes in out of home work either.
well that one woman admitted that she wasn't doing enough and it was her husband doing a lot of those things.. she even said she was going to work on making it more equal
It shocks me every time I hear how many Americans don't make dinners. Maybe it's just the household I grew up in, we always ate dinner together, and only had take out/delivery twice a month. That's something I've brought forward to my household now and my husband is the same way.
I think both men and women should at least know how to cook meals with all the nutrients well balanced out, keep a house clean (no college level cleanliness), and iron their clothes properly. Not necessarily because of marriage but BECAUSE OF HEALTH AND WELLBEING.
Did anyone notice how adorable their kids are?? Soooo cuuuuute!! :) I think you guys did the best you could, moms back then had a lot on their plate and quite frankly too much in my opinion. I did a little studying on the subject and I found out that all the moms woke up before their entire family (like 4am), did their makeup and dressed so they would be presentable while taking care of the home. I think that is way too much to expect of a mother. I'm glad it's more of a shared partnership these days. But good job to these three mothers for trying!!
Most of these tasks are tasks that had to be done in the household. In the 50'es, women were in charge of the household, and men were in charge of earning the money. This is why the list was geared towards women, there was one for men as well. There is an average score, with the possibility to score both above or below. It is really more of a way to tell how well-managed your household is. Women in the past did it just fine, and today it can be used to see who do the chores more in the household, since both people take part in it. (and then find out if it is a good/even distribution or not, depending on work situation) Putting a little effort into your appearance is not necessarily a bad thing. As a bonus, it helps you look more attractive to your partner, and the men were also dressing better. Being presentable didn't mean shower, full face of make-up, hair perfect and fully dressed up like today. More like a quick shower, moisturise, everyday well-dressed and quickly fix their hair. Their style was a lot more low-maitinence than what we do today, everything could probably be done in 20 minutes. You would get up a little earlier than the rest of the household, get 'presentable', make breakfast. Then after breakfast, you would see your husband off, maybe do a light make-up (as a 5 minute routine), make the beds, walk the kids to school, and then start your day. And then freshen up yourself and the children before your husband came home. They weren't really superhuman back then, they just prioritised and planned ahead more. I am by no means perfection myself, but technically it is not that difficult; we just haven't been trained in the skills the same way. I personally take a lot of inspiration from the 50'es when it comes to planning and maintaining things effortlessly; because they were very good at that.
My mom is a doctor and works a lot and I can perfectly remember how she managed to did all those things when my siblings and I were little.. with a big smile on her face. We had nannies but she always wanted to make us breakfast and stuff. I'm so, so thankful. Oh, and my Dad did all of this as well 👏
This makes me think of my grandma, still alive and moving, when she was young and had to work as a maid in a segregated town. She would get so much crap for her race but learned how to cook like a chef along the way! Despite being tired, she will come home every time to a poor household with four children, a husband still at work and a farm to take care of in order to live. All this independence gave her a strong backbone and exceptional quality in food and she made sure her children were fed before her.
My wife is like a typical 50s house wife and she loves it.. She doesn't work, she cooks, cleans, and takes care of our daughter and has been doing it sense we got married. Sure oppression was definitely a thing in the past, but just cause people think of it that way now a days doesn't mean that women shouldn't still be house wife's
Ochi is so pretty ! I honestly don't know why some people frown on things like cooking and cleaning. As long as my partner shares the responsibility, I wouldn't mind it. After all, it's your family you're looking after and I would HOPE you want to take care of them.
If she is comfortable with it i would love for Morgan to go into her story and experience with postpartum depression co-occuring with OCD. I think she is an incredibly strong woman and would truly appreciate hearing more about it!
I agree with JH. I am 83 years old and studied Home Economics in high school. The “test” these 3 women took was a routine test given only to those of us who were in a Home Economics class (preparation for my chosen career). I learned a lot of valuable skills in that class; how to cook from scratch, make my own patterns and sew clothing, keep an account of finances, etc. I felt quite competent to go out and run a happy and efficient household. I made my choice to marry (60 years married) and raise 4 beautiful children. I have continued educating myself my entire life, and don’t feel that I missed out on anything! Quite the opposite. Some of my female classmates chose a professional life (doctor, nurse, pharmacist, scientist). So, there were choices. I made my choice not because there was nothing else available! The importance of raising strong, well adjusted and competent children cannot be overemphasized. We are helping create the next generation, who will run this country. It is a sad commentary on this generation of “feminists” who think that being a homemaker, wife and mother is something to reject. You young woman are not victims; you are ignoring your unique and irreplaceable position.
Omg brush your tongue! I just clicked to say that, I can't believe I have to look at that thumbnail in my subscriptions for the next few days ugh #shudder
Morgan, Rose, and Ochi all have such different styles and concerns about this and I think that's what makes it so great. None of them were 'perfect' to start and none of them were truly 'perfect' in the end. I think they all learned from the experience and found things they could do better. That was the whole point of the experiment. As someone who struggles with depression I admire Morgan for talking about it and trying to better herself for her family. I think all three are awesome. I also think the comments about trivial things like the way her tongue looks are pitiful.
Do most americans not cook at all? What do they eat.. Do the get meals from restaurants, seems expensive. Think people shouldnt have kids if they dont want to put in the effort
Very ignorant to assume that cooking = effort. Most parents are busy working to provide for their families instead of cooking for their children, and although yes, home-cooked meals are great, they are not the prime point of parenting.
Statistically most Americans work more hours than any other country on average, cooking a ton of time and work that a lot of parents don't have, I usually have sandwiches and quick pasta and some pre made things and every once and a while I'll get like a full cooked homemade meal but my mom hates cooking and my dad doesn't know how to cook and they both work a ton so it just works well this way
This is going to sound sexist af but I've kind of got a thing for homemakers. Not because of dominance or anything like that, just am really attractive to nurturing women.
It's natural. It's not sexist. Also it is in a women's nature to be drawn toward a homemaker life. Even these feminists could not resist their nature completely.
I'm attracted to that type of people as well, as I'm nothing like that! All my partners have been a lot more into cooking and baking and loved doing it for me so I barely had to cook myself as I'm not very good hahha
i'm guessing they failed because back than they didn't have jobs. They were full time housewives. The three candidates had jobs so of course they didn't have time to complete those tasks.
Oh, some women worked, unfortunately. They had to homemake AND do a job. By the time they were ready to have kids, they were set to provide for everyone where the mom could be a full-time homemaker and parent.
I think they'll learn to be perfect homemakers in their own way. I think my mother is the perfect homemaker because she gives all her love and I think that's what makes a great mother and wife
Being a Mama/parent is fantastic and the most insanely hard thing I think any person can do. I truly that believe if you love your child/children and do your best to raise them to be a kind and respectful human being that you are a winner and an awesome human being. #winning
it was so sweet when her husband said "you have to be presentable?" with that tone of disgust. shes got a decent man there
"What'd you want for breakfast, babe?"
"Huevos con tortillas"
I DIED THAT THE WAY SHE SAID IT WAS ADORABLE
SAME I CAN'T WAIT TO WAKE UP TO A SIGHT LIKE THAT ONE DAY
SAMEEE
Cutest thing
What is huevos con tortillas?
+xQuietly Loudx eggs with tortillas, it's a dish, a really simple one actually
I'm not sure what her name is, but they should have brought the mother that does the Wine Mom videos in for this.
Yessss I love her
I don't like her that much personally, nothing really wrong with her, just not a huge fan, just my opinion, though.
Hannah
+Jenny Gilchrist thank you!
They wouldn't have used her probably because she is a single mom (I'm pretty sure she's one). This video is about what was considered the traditional family back then. The list was made with the husband in mind.
I'm glad the blonde (don't know her name, soz) came to the realization that the way things were split between her and her husband was uneven and unfair, and I'm proud of her for trying to make a commitment to balance it out. If there are two parents in the picture, there should be an equal amount of parenting going on.
I agree with almost all of your statement, but I disagree with the last sentence. I think "parenting" encompasses a LOT more than cooking and cleaning, and I don't think we have enough information about her and her husband's dynamic to say that they weren't parenting equally.
You're right, of course -- I phrased that poorly. I meant more in terms of making sure her kids have food and clean clothes and a clean house to live in; I suppose "caretaking" is more the correct word? I just feel very much that if there are two parents, the burden should never be on a single parent to do all of the figurative "heavy lifting" in the situation, like the household chores and the "dirty work".
She said he was the primary caregiver.
Her name (as shown at the start of the video) is Morgan. She also clearly stated that her husband is the primary caregiver (as in, he is a stay at home father who works but Morgan is the primary breadwinner who works full time).
Yes, I looked her name up after I made this post. Morgan, then. And I did watch the video, I do know what she said, but what I am saying is I do not like the idea of a "primary caregiver". In my opinion, that is a very unfair way of rearing children -- caring for children should be a paired job.
I used to be really against the possibility of me being a "homemaker." Now that I've moved in with my boyfriend, I actually really like keeping my house clean and making dinner a few nights a week. I'm learning to cook and I'm so excited when something turns out right. The BF does all of the yard work and whatever else I need help with. Can't imagine trying to keep on top of it with kids. Major props to my mom.
Unrelated but I just wanted you to know that you're gorgeous!
That's all, have a nice day :)
The Honest to Mom Truth well I’m glad you’ve found something you enjoy lol I’m think of becoming a homemaker as well
@@thetillerwiller4696, I'm a stay-at-home mom/homemaker and am learning everything as I go while doing extensive research. I actually enjoy it but it can be overwhelming. Please don't overdo things. Becoming a homemaker is gradual and takes time if you didn't learn the homemaker ways from one of your parents or you didn't pursue those skills growing up.
Oh lordy as I write this my child has every toy ever made pulled out of boxes 😂😂.....I don't mind as it takes 10 mins to clean but if a certain someone comes over it'll be snide comments I'll be getting 😥😥
This is AWESOME, BuzzFeed!! I'm an imperfect stay at home mom & I DO feel guilty for not being perfect. And I do get put down many times for choosing to stay at home. Thanks for the encouragement!!
I feel you I have 2 kids a 3 year old and a 14month old who is still not walki by the way and I'm always being told and looked down at becaouse I'm a stay at home mom and I'm not this perfect homemaker.
never feel guilty, sweetie! there is perfection in imperfection! always remember that :-) take care
We are never gonna be perfect! 😜 But we are perfectly imperfect! Love that.
Kudos to you! Personally I would never put anyone down for that choice. It is far harder than going off to work .... I would probably choose work! You have a 24/7 job and no sick days. and perfect is way overrated. ;)
My mom is a stay at home mom and she gets put down a lot for that choice. Not just socially but legally, she doesn't have the same rights as my father because she doesn't make the money but he does (even though they share everything). Please don't let anyone make you feel guilty. It's an honor to be a stay at home mom just like it's an honor to be a working mom. Stay encouraged!
My mum was a Lawyer and a politician, she woke us up, cooked for us, looked after us, dropped and picked us from school and loads of tuitions, did our laundry, and kept everything fine... Then we moved to England where my mum was working in two bakeries, double shifts everyday. She still provided us a home, came home in her break in the afternoon to cook for us, did our laundry and still kept us clean and neat for school... When I look at these ladies all I see is laziness and excuses to be lazy. Being a home maker doesn't mean you are giving no up your life, it means you are looking after your family you have created and giving good memories and keep your family healthy than buying junk food. My mother was a modern mum and a good home maker.
That's so sweet
thank you very much !!! I agree with everything that you said !! I only want to add that the hisband also helps , the wife is not supposed to do everything by herself !!!
I agree but my dad was in Sri Lanka and he wasn't living in UK. But when I was in Sri Lanka my dad was giving his 100% as well... Just talking about what my mum did, as I said she is a professional and independent woman in same time a home maker and she never hated it xx
i loved how Ochi summed it up. it's not about "having it all". it's about really figuring out what you want out of life and making that happen
Being a homemaker is a job. And a difficult one at that. Not everyone can do it.
omg, her grandmother is so beautiful.
"You have to be presentable?!"
Husband goals right there
Ochi's daughter saying huevos con tortillas was the most adorable thing
I would love man being perfect housewives for a week
I just straight up want a househusband
There are plenty of men who are homemakers.. You just dont hear much about it.
Enclave Soldier No, I'd continue with my career and pay for him to be able to stay home. I don't know many men who can actually build shelves and fix cars anyway...
try guys try being perfect housewives!!!
Pie A La Mode actually, the amount of stay at home men in this day and age is almost equal, because you also get single dad's with kids that have no choice as well as the few that switch the roles so that their wives can continue doing their passion. Don't doubt the numbers of women being deadbeats nowadays. There's too damn many to count, and that all on it's own make men obligated to work harder.
Her grandmother was sooooo beautiful
"Guess what.
I'm cleaning, mommy"
AWWWEEE hes so cute and adorable!!
Thank you for talking about your post pardon depression you go girl you did great!
postpartum* depression
(not correcting to be rude, just incase someone wants to google it)
post pardon doesn't exist so only postpartum would've have popped up
Ali Effing Noble 4 more likes cmon we can do i
Chi's daughter saying "Huevos con tortillas" CUTEST THING EVER
Meanwhile I'm sitting here thinking how cute the kids are.
Lol someone commenting above is calling us pedophiles 😂
the lil spanish children are the sweetest
Yaaaaaasssss! When the little one said "huevos con tortillas" I cooed so much!
adorable....
Everyone keeps commenting about her tongue in the thumbnail😂😂
Ikr.....Someone Needs To Brush Their Teeth!
ShanKates SAME LMAO
She has geotongue.... not gross???
my mom does all of this stuff except the church because we're not Christian. She makes it seem so easy.
she plays violin for you?
damn.
She does actually, she's pretty good at it. 😂
does your father do all the things on the men's side of the list too? farm7.static.flickr.com/6239/6309602116_f9f09aac25_o.jpg (the full list)
yeah all except for the dates and tobacco. They don't have time for dates they are both very busy.
"Im cleaning mommy, look im cleaning mommy." I wanted to hug that child.
Ochi's daughter is the cutest thing in the world
im from Argentina and also I live in a small town, there's no mc donals, no kfc basically no take outs, Im a working mom, so I get up at 6:00 am I dress up for work ( make up and hair) , do breakfast ( we dont take cereal) I prepare my 8 years old girl to school and then go to work at 8:30. I clean my house do my laundry...I don't understand what's the big deal, its basics chores.
I do this every day,sorry but I dont get it.
Women don't know how to be women anymore.
Excuse me sir? No need to be sexist on a perfectly reasonable comment. And well done to u! It must be hard being a mum
It doesn't seem lazy for a modern day American woman to not be able to do these things, most things that people of that time knew was passed down And drilled into them, now appearantly because of fast food cooking sadly isn't something that comes naturally anymore. And really since when were you EXPECTED to be dressed and pretty to make food for people that wouldn't see you for the rest of the day. times have changed and the only thing I think you're calling lazy is the inability to cook just because you can't cook doesn't make you lazy
Because the standard from the 1950s was to clean your entire house, top to bottom, basically every day.
especially cooking. I think it's embarrassing if you don't know how to cook. the amount of friends I ha in collage/uni that could only cook pasta was embarrassing.
Does anybody else wish that you could go back in time and show those people videos of what life was like now, or bring somebody from back in time and show them around present time?
"You have to be presentable?" What a perfect husband.
This is kind of irrelevant, but the way her daughter said "huevos con tortillas" was so cute. Her little morning voice was beyond adorable.
for the people focusing souly on her tounge.. it could just be a fungal thing, not bad or dangerous or gross.. probably from a high-sugar diet which fungus in your gut lives off.. most common is an over growth of 'candida'.. most people have this and are fine..
if its really a bother then just have some coconut oil in your diet :-) (coconut oil contains lauric acid which is a fungus-killer, especially oral/intestinal abd is easy to have a teaspoon a day or incorporate into meals)
#themoreyouknow
Omg I'm eating rn pls stopppp
J
Nh
It is plaque on her tongue from poor oral hygiene
If I had a yeast infection on my tongue the last thing I would do is show it off.
4:00 (husband looks blearily at wife, uncomprehending) You have to be *presentable*? #Goals
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Join us.
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"i'm cleaning mommy. Guess what? i'm cleaning mommy."😂😂😂😂
This was a joke, those women complained about doing things that they had their husbands and children doing... yet its beneath them because women shouldn't have to do that. When you're a homemaker, regardless of gender you are supposed to care for the home, children, and working party of the household. Not be their slave, but to CARE for them!
Right! And it's not supposed to be treated like a chore, but something that is just part of the dynamic, that is just to be done!
That is how I felt. Personally the idea of my children and husband making their own breakfast and me coming down an hour later and not giving care in the world doesn't appeal to me (especially if I'm a stay at home mum).
Things like keeping the kitchen clean is just normal hygiene.
Not making meals on time and things is just not nice for children or even husbands if they work all day and I'm at home.
Personally I wish to be a working mother and a good wife/mum at home, it's a goal of mine and I don't feel "oppressed". Taking care of my home and my family is not direct oppression. Ugh this video.
getting dressed at the start of the day is also setting a solid productive mentality for your routine. if you stay in your pj's and lounge about, studies show you're more likely to be lackadaisical and less focused, as well as less able to stick to a routine than your prepared counterparts. i like to be up and dressed, bed made and room tidied, before i go downstairs to prepare breakfast and start my day. it sets a good tone. i'm surprised the lady with depression was all over the place and nobody gets on her butt about doing basic tasks. her husband is an enabler in the worst way.
I think its all about balance surely?
+Felicia108 it is, most definitely. However, they did nothing but bash the chores that they were "required" to do, but were just fine with their husbands taking care of things. They were upset because they thought women shouldn't have to do all that.....but why? Because it is now a stigma that women who choose to be at home are degrading themselves. That's not balanced.
My mum raised me and my sister amazingly AND also went to work full time AND finished University by the time I was in Primary School AND keep our two floor house spotless clean AND clean, do laundry, iron cook, saw, mend for 4 people, look after us when we were sick, help us both with homework, help dad massively with the house repair/mantainance AND she collects and chops wood up before every winter for our fireplace. MUM I LOVE YOU SO MUCH YOU'RE AMAZING!!
I loved this :) I love that it made these ladies realize something in themselves and appreciate themselves as wives and mothers better :)
Wow, that old headshot photo of Rose and Ochi's grandmother when she was young. Dang, woman was a bombshell! Also, more of these mums please!!!
Grandma's eyebrows on fleek
Omg I was about to forget my birth control and this reminded me, thank you
The way she said Huevos con tortillas was so cute😩😩
Her tongue is so white at the beginning 😷
I was thinking exactly the same thing ._.
yaaa.. she either needs to take some probiotics or to brush it.
true lol
+Christine Frederick although, her teeth are pretty dang white!
True
Ochi's voice in Spanish is really calming
is no one going to talk about the women's tongue?
my sentiments exactly....people online judge EVERYTHING so much, yet there were very few comments on here about her LMAO wow...
She really needs to get it scraped.
DominicanMerida YESSS THANKYOUYYYYUUY
Mary Aguilera is it judgement of we are concerned about the health of her tongue? Cause that's an unhealthy tongue color
DominicanMerida acid reflux, a common issue with people who have stress disorders, can cause a white tongue
Buzz feed videos are hilarious! Who agrees?
HA, no
Ye
hhahaha NO
I agree
why is she crying because her grandmother is really caring.
You just answered your question.
+Doughnut Touch My Doughnut not really. She meant like did she pass away/ did anything hurtful happen. One doesn't just cry because someone is "awesome" or whatever
+infinite hugz actually, some people do cry when they realize how amazing their mother or grandmother or father is because they are so appreciative of that person. Her reaction is just an overwhelming feeling of appreciation
One can cry over whatever they want to. Maybe she misses her grandma
I thought she was crying because she realised that her grandma was probably judged by these things and that upset her
This makes me appreciate my mom even more because she works a full-time job and still does all the housework
Imagine being rich enough to be a stay at home mum
benefits. England's full of them lol
You don't have to be rich. It's just a choice to live on one income.
but what if one person is not enough for a big familys budget?
my mum and dad couldn't afford it so they both worked 7 days a week and brought up 5 kids, If you can't support your child without going on benefits i don't feel you should be a stay at home mum
I wish everyone thought like you. Referring to Gays R Us
I don't normally comment on videos but this was the most genuine portrayal of the weight of expectations placed on wives and mothers while at the same time the best way to illustrate how vital an equal partnership is within the family unit. Loved it. Thank you to all three women (especially the blonde woman) for your honesty and openness!!
the thing is there are some people that like to do all that, and do it with devotion, not because they get told, just because it is what they like. i love cooking and baking and taking care of things and playing an instrument. that you have to clean the house and do laundry, well that is what u do when you dont live with your parents either way.... so there are people for which it is easier to fulfill these tasks and others that aren't as "good". my mom doesnt play and instrument and doesn't go to church but all of the other things she does with love for her family and because she loves doing it. and she also worked when she was young, so she is not a stay at home mom for all her life.
this was a nice video. my mom was a stay at home and the ~primary caregiver~ and she always felt guilty about that because all of her sisters were working moms. when i got to high school my mom decided she wanted to get back into the workforce and she said in interviews she experienced a bit of stigma from having a huge gap in her resume, just because she wanted to stay at home... i never understood why someone could or would look down on being a s tay at home parent. growing up i don't think i knew of any other kids who had a stay at home mom/dad and none of my friends have a stay at home parent either so i don't really know how anyone elses experience is, but looking back i'm so glad that my mom decided to quit her job after her maternity leave.
to all the moms (and dads) out there slaying in kitchen, dishing out the chores, walking the kids to school and creating so many small wonderful memories in our every day lives, thank you so much!! my mom has been hospitalized for a while now so i really, really miss seeing her every single day and eating her food and having her pick me up from work and do all the things stay at home parents do. being able to see your kids and your parents and having that sort of closeness truly is a privilege so don't EVER feel ashamed!!!!
Ochi's daughter is so beautiful 😍
You guys are awesome! thank you for keeping it raw and real for those of us out there that feel like we are failing and alone in the struggle that is motgerhood.
Aww all of their kids were so cute
For those who are reading this have a good day 😊
I wish women valued being homemakers more. I would give up a career in a heartbeat to take care of my family and do only household tasks and take care of my kids.
That's fine, and it's wonderful that you feel that way. But not every woman wants to be a homemaker, and that doesn't mean they don't respect it.
you do you, that idea makes me puke anyway
I like the idea that I can build my own career. I like looking after people but it's not the profession I want to take up.
I wish women didn't try to shove their lifestyle down our throats. Why is it so important to you that others "value it more"? Why can't you just do what you want?
They way I see it should be is both the woman and the man go out to work and you both take care of the house and kids together you know one night the woman cooks then the next night the man cooks, if you can both cook of course, you're both equals you should do it together it shouldn't always be left to the woman unless she wants to then that's her choice
the way Ochi's daughter says huevos con tortilla is so cute I can hear it in a loop and not get tired of it
the big issue here is that list was meant for housewives who don't work at all, i guess in a sense, that list was their job.
I personally enjoy this homemaking stuff. I mean I can't do it all the time because I work, but I love the look on my partners face when he comes home to a clean house and a home cooked meal.
Morgan's ponytail got her looking like she got a pixie cut and that makes her look like Ms.Marvel (marvelwoman/miraclewoman).
Rock that superhero haircurt, girl
Please keep this mom squad series but add in our favourite neighbourhood wine mom Hannah
yess
pretty sure she's not an actual mom lol
Awestning Hannah is an actual mom.
I think the partner who stays home should do most of the work at home. If both partners work it should be split about equaly, respecting thing one is better at doing. So I don't get why the stay at home mom is so bad at all this stuff....
She got superior?
My dad works and my mom stays at home and i'm so thankful they do. My dad makes me feel financially safe in my life and my mom takes care of everything in the house. I just can't imagine being able to take care of your kids and having both parents w/ a full time job... I mean being a parent IS a full time job and then some... But that's just me.
i agree. tbh i would love to quit working and take care my family full time.
Being a stay at home parent is no different than working outside the home, it involves discipline and planning. These woman fail in both areas and I doubt they are raging successes in out of home work either.
well that one woman admitted that she wasn't doing enough and it was her husband doing a lot of those things.. she even said she was going to work on making it more equal
"you have to be PRESENTABLE?" LMAOOOO
It shocks me every time I hear how many Americans don't make dinners. Maybe it's just the household I grew up in, we always ate dinner together, and only had take out/delivery twice a month. That's something I've brought forward to my household now and my husband is the same way.
I'm the same! My husband and I sit down for meals together--at least once a day. Our families did it and so do we!
"I know u make perfect cereal" I'm dying 😂😂😂
I think both men and women should at least know how to cook meals with all the nutrients well balanced out, keep a house clean (no college level cleanliness), and iron their clothes properly. Not necessarily because of marriage but BECAUSE OF HEALTH AND WELLBEING.
Did anyone notice how adorable their kids are?? Soooo cuuuuute!! :) I think you guys did the best you could, moms back then had a lot on their plate and quite frankly too much in my opinion. I did a little studying on the subject and I found out that all the moms woke up before their entire family (like 4am), did their makeup and dressed so they would be presentable while taking care of the home. I think that is way too much to expect of a mother. I'm glad it's more of a shared partnership these days. But good job to these three mothers for trying!!
Most of these tasks are tasks that had to be done in the household. In the 50'es, women were in charge of the household, and men were in charge of earning the money. This is why the list was geared towards women, there was one for men as well. There is an average score, with the possibility to score both above or below. It is really more of a way to tell how well-managed your household is. Women in the past did it just fine, and today it can be used to see who do the chores more in the household, since both people take part in it. (and then find out if it is a good/even distribution or not, depending on work situation)
Putting a little effort into your appearance is not necessarily a bad thing. As a bonus, it helps you look more attractive to your partner, and the men were also dressing better. Being presentable didn't mean shower, full face of make-up, hair perfect and fully dressed up like today. More like a quick shower, moisturise, everyday well-dressed and quickly fix their hair. Their style was a lot more low-maitinence than what we do today, everything could probably be done in 20 minutes. You would get up a little earlier than the rest of the household, get 'presentable', make breakfast. Then after breakfast, you would see your husband off, maybe do a light make-up (as a 5 minute routine), make the beds, walk the kids to school, and then start your day. And then freshen up yourself and the children before your husband came home.
They weren't really superhuman back then, they just prioritised and planned ahead more. I am by no means perfection myself, but technically it is not that difficult; we just haven't been trained in the skills the same way. I personally take a lot of inspiration from the 50'es when it comes to planning and maintaining things effortlessly; because they were very good at that.
Ochi's daughter was so adorable when she said wat she wanted for breakfast 😍
seriously died when Ochi's daughter was like "huevos con tortillas" OMG
My mom is a doctor and works a lot and I can perfectly remember how she managed to did all those things when my siblings and I were little.. with a big smile on her face. We had nannies but she always wanted to make us breakfast and stuff. I'm so, so thankful.
Oh, and my Dad did all of this as well 👏
Ochi's daughter is the cutest!
I love the way she says huevos con tortilla
This makes me think of my grandma, still alive and moving, when she was young and had to work as a maid in a segregated town. She would get so much crap for her race but learned how to cook like a chef along the way! Despite being tired, she will come home every time to a poor household with four children, a husband still at work and a farm to take care of in order to live. All this independence gave her a strong backbone and exceptional quality in food and she made sure her children were fed before her.
Your grandmother is a treasure. I hope you can enjoy her for many years to come.
"huevos con tortillas" she was so cute
UM EXCUSE ME?? Where's the wine mom?!?!
Well, there are other moms out there, who maybe haven't gotten much of a spotlight.
The wine mom is actually a good cook. She would win this easily.
My wife is like a typical 50s house wife and she loves it.. She doesn't work, she cooks, cleans, and takes care of our daughter and has been doing it sense we got married. Sure oppression was definitely a thing in the past, but just cause people think of it that way now a days doesn't mean that women shouldn't still be house wife's
If your wife enjoys being a housewife, then she can be but women shouldn't HAVE to be housewives.
men can too but nobody says it
what he is saying that his family dinamic emulates the life style of the 50's and they're okay with it.
I'm glad your wife enjoys it. Mostly woman/man do not stay at home with the kids because the income is not bog enough to stay at home.
I'm dying because my mom has done this for 20 something years 😂😂😂😂
Ochi is so pretty ! I honestly don't know why some people frown on things like cooking and cleaning. As long as my partner shares the responsibility, I wouldn't mind it. After all, it's your family you're looking after and I would HOPE you want to take care of them.
Ochi's daughter is very cute💕💕💕
If she is comfortable with it i would love for Morgan to go into her story and experience with postpartum depression co-occuring with OCD. I think she is an incredibly strong woman and would truly appreciate hearing more about it!
brush your tongue girl I bet your breath is vicious lol
nasty
***** damn lmao
It looks like she has geographic tongue which is a tongue condition. Look it up. Has nothing to do with brushing tongue well or with bad breath.
yo, wine mom where you at
I agree with JH. I am 83 years old and studied Home Economics in high school. The “test” these 3 women took was a routine test given only to those of us who were in a Home Economics class (preparation for my chosen career). I learned a lot of valuable skills in that class; how to cook from scratch, make my own patterns and sew clothing, keep an account of finances, etc. I felt quite competent to go out and run a happy and efficient household. I made my choice to marry (60 years married) and raise 4 beautiful children. I have continued educating myself my entire life, and don’t feel that I missed out on anything! Quite the opposite. Some of my female classmates chose a professional life (doctor, nurse, pharmacist, scientist). So, there were choices. I made my choice not because there was nothing else available! The importance of raising strong, well adjusted and competent children cannot be overemphasized. We are helping create the next generation, who will run this country. It is a sad commentary on this generation of “feminists” who think that being a homemaker, wife and mother is something to reject. You young woman are not victims; you are ignoring your unique and irreplaceable position.
Omg brush your tongue! I just clicked to say that, I can't believe I have to look at that thumbnail in my subscriptions for the next few days ugh #shudder
I KNOW RIGHT!!!
You can hide videos if you don't want to see them in your feed
HeyYoShanna has a song named "Brush that tongue"
It's a tounge get over it
+BelCedilia yessss
Who watching this in 2020
This comment will be famous one day
I don't think so bud
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Not as famous as Kanye is as president.
The youtube comment section isn't gonna exist in 2020 m8...
I'm watching this in 2022
Ochi's kids are so adorable!! :)
Morgan, Rose, and Ochi all have such different styles and concerns about this and I think that's what makes it so great. None of them were 'perfect' to start and none of them were truly 'perfect' in the end. I think they all learned from the experience and found things they could do better. That was the whole point of the experiment. As someone who struggles with depression I admire Morgan for talking about it and trying to better herself for her family. I think all three are awesome. I also think the comments about trivial things like the way her tongue looks are pitiful.
Do most americans not cook at all? What do they eat.. Do the get meals from restaurants, seems expensive. Think people shouldnt have kids if they dont want to put in the effort
They literally found wives that couldn't cook for this.
maybe their husbands cook the meals usually.
cooking everyday doesn't mean you don't want to put in effort, wow judgemental much
Very ignorant to assume that cooking = effort. Most parents are busy working to provide for their families instead of cooking for their children, and although yes, home-cooked meals are great, they are not the prime point of parenting.
Statistically most Americans work more hours than any other country on average, cooking a ton of time and work that a lot of parents don't have, I usually have sandwiches and quick pasta and some pre made things and every once and a while I'll get like a full cooked homemade meal but my mom hates cooking and my dad doesn't know how to cook and they both work a ton so it just works well this way
I think it's kinda sad that family's don't go to church anymore
This is going to sound sexist af but I've kind of got a thing for homemakers. Not because of dominance or anything like that, just am really attractive to nurturing women.
It's natural. It's not sexist. Also it is in a women's nature to be drawn toward a homemaker life. Even these feminists could not resist their nature completely.
I'm attracted to that type of people as well, as I'm nothing like that! All my partners have been a lot more into cooking and baking and loved doing it for me so I barely had to cook myself as I'm not very good hahha
+Ryuzaki Ryuga (Rachel) source
+Ryuzaki Ryuga (Rachel) wow and it's natural for you to be an idiot I guess? poor thing keep at it girl.
+Petra Cool same
This was more touching than I thought it would be.
Also Ochi is so pretty!
I would love to see more mom squad videos from buzzfeed.
i'm guessing they failed because back than they didn't have jobs. They were full time housewives. The three candidates had jobs so of course they didn't have time to complete those tasks.
Oh, some women worked, unfortunately. They had to homemake AND do a job. By the time they were ready to have kids, they were set to provide for everyone where the mom could be a full-time homemaker and parent.
I think they'll learn to be perfect homemakers in their own way. I think my mother is the perfect homemaker because she gives all her love and I think that's what makes a great mother and wife
came here just for the comments on the tongue 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Thumbs up for the mother teaching Spanish to her child in a country that Americanizes you since birth.
YAAAAASSS!!! 👏👏👏👐👐👐
I like how honest the blonde lady was. They're all awesome tho
The lady on the thumbnail has got to wash her tongue when brushing her teeth 😷
right!!
dude I thought it was just me who thought that 😂
some people have gag reflexes and literally can't
I can't because my gag reflex is so bad, I literally throw up
She has a geographical tongue. She can't help it
THEIR GRANDMOTHER HAS PERFECT EYEBROWS!!!!! OMG GOALS
Being a Mama/parent is fantastic and the most insanely hard thing I think any person can do. I truly that believe if you love your child/children and do your best to raise them to be a kind and respectful human being that you are a winner and an awesome human being. #winning
Im sick of buzzfeed attacking housewives! Being a stay at home mom is a very challenging, yet rewarding life path!
Did you even watch the video?
This makes me appreciate my mom so much more.❤️