Rabbi's Daughter interview-Chasya
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- Опубліковано 20 тра 2022
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Chasya, a rabbi's daughter from Lakewood, New Jersey.
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I would like to thank mark & Elle for giving me such a profound opportunity. Thank you to everyone who left a kind supportive comment. I have never felt such a mountain of support and I’m humbled and immensely grateful for it. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Thanks for doing the interview! You articulated a thought I've had for some time about orthodox religion's fear of individuality. I've often thought this stems from a notion that people left to their own devices will somehow victimize society? I find this ironically amusing since many of these folks (whether they realize it or not) attribute to others their own anti-social thoughts, if that makes sense. Consciously or unconsciously, they presume that others will do what they would if they had the freedom to make their own choices.
You were born into a horrible experience of a CULTure shaped by those who desire control over others. I can hear the pain of the little girl who's telling this story as I type. Experiencing what you have was traumatic, luckily you are a free, beyouthefull, independent humane being capable of creating intentions, following them with actions and manifesting whatever life you intelligently desire to create.
This is one of the best interviews, you are very well spoken, it was a mix of horrifying, informative - I don't know much about these kinds of Jewish cults (I'm in New Zealand), and just respect for you.
You are so articulate and smart- I hope others will learn from what you have shared- I think a lot of good will come from this
“The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog.” - Mark Twain
Hahahahahah
I love my puppy 🐶 and 🐈 cat
@@davidfoster3258 Oh great ,such a great comment contribution
@user-ke8st8jc1v i mean, better than yours…
@@00zarzu00 🤮
As a Muslim girl who’s faced every single religious trauma Chasya mentioned on some level, I feel like the men of society continues to fail women again and again. Sheikhs and Rabbis have convinced the male demographic of their religious masses that all this POWER over women is worth all the trauma it causes.
I always wished that strong masculinity that modern men like Andrew Tate of today boast could be directed in really protecting the girls who fall through the cracks. Then I wouldn’t have to fight for myself all the time.
Maybe someone other than the narcissist Andrew Tate. Maybe you could be in a life trauma bond. Seek therapy. I was in the same situation. 🙏
The problem is Religion, not men. There are men like you describe, but you seem to think they're all the same and therefore will never find them.
her transparency is outstanding...We need more from that community
Because she’s complaining about life? She thinks that she’s the only one hated. Welcome to the real world. She’s got everything in life and she’s complaining about her past? Like is she’s the only kid that had to grow up? Please, if been poor doesn’t make you happy neither will wealth. These people are all complainers of life. She’s free to live how she likes it’s called grown up. Living in the past is not trauma it’s a decision to stay stuck in time. She’s not a black sheep she’s different ~ if her new life is better then why remember the awful past? It’s like people who still call an ex ~ my ex? Move on. Stop self victimizing especially when you’re grown up. She’s just a complainer. Hope she does what she likes, end of sadness. Hope she stops complaining. Live your life.
@@anthonymartinez4307 you clearly did not understand what she said.
@@janferreiro-montes1698I agree. I don’t think the commenter you’re responding to listened to her at all, and might even be one of her siblings, or someone who grew up in a similar environment but doesn’t want to face it. I do have compassion for people who are threatened by people like Chasya, but imo, Chasya and those like her are needed and I’m so grateful to them for speaking up. 🧡
From what community?
Much like the Catholic Chruch before it blew up.She is telling the truth fear and shame to control and their reputation means more,my dearest friend is 100 percent jewish and she ran away from home at 12 her brother and uncle were molesting her she became very loose as a result.There is a lot of suicide among young boys also.But you dont hear about this because they are a world unto themselves.Its a sad situation.😢
“Kids make excuses. Adults make changes” powerful stuff. A great interview. Please write a book!
I would read that book.
That needs to be on a shirt
Your testimony is a powerful one, my dear god bless you… Believe in yourself!!!!!♥️💕💖🙏
🙌 YES
You really should write a book, it's almost certain it would be blessed by the ONE WHO HAS OBVIOUSLY CHOSEN YOU TO DO SO !!!
"if your family is not committed to healing, get away" this moved me!
Literally sent chills down my whole body, and I clapped because I felt that in my soul.
Oh okay😌
@@TruckerNyaG same!
❤ i know how this feels oh too well. it hurts but you feel free when you break away
Me too...my family is healing and I'm so happy.
"If you really want to know better, you will."
"Kids make excuses, adults make changes."
Beautifully said, Chasya, just beautiful❣️
This interview was a MASTERPIECE. I enjoyed every single second of it. I admired Chasya every single second of this interview. To be honest, I'm still speechless, this was a ride! Wow! She did this for her daughter and you were part of it, my dear friend Mark. Thank you.
I couldn’t take my eyes off them titties
now you understand gaza?
If she wrote a book, I would 100% read it. Incredible story-telling.
yes!
I bet you Mark tap that 😂
@@jerrypearce5920 An hour-long interview with a trauma survivor and that’s what you have to say?
@@laurenericks0n seriously and this is the world that destroys people
Lauren, You should read Haing Ngor's book.
Wow. "Kids make excuses, adults make changes." Amazing and I'll never forget it.
Good truism.
I took this away, also. Profound phrase.
Very profound. Very true.
Yes, I also loved hearing that.
It really stuck out, I wanted to write it down when I heard it, so it doesn't leave my mind!
Not if you work in politics, especially the current regime. I would have more confidence in kids, they haven’t gotten to be as proficient in it as the adults.
My dear Chasya, I just listened to you today. My heart and prayers are with you. I am 71 and growing up in a strict catholic home without my parents around brought much on me and my sisters. I also was beat and sexually abused for so many years in the name of God, which now I know that it was the evil and ignorance of my perpetrators and not God who harmed me. I was told I was a whore because others in the family sexually violated me and that I must of teased these people in some way regardless that I was a little girl that didn't know where a baby came out of till I was 14 years old. Shame was constantly thrown at us and it took years of therapy for me to not have self hatred. I am grateful you came out of that alive and able to share your truth and the truth that you were innocent at the hands of dysfunctional people who acted out what they felt was truth. You are so beautiful and precious and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that there is an amazing God of love and such compassion that helped heal my torn heart. Thank you for sharing and make no mistake, your testimony is helping others heal and giving others courage to speak so their voices will be heard!!!
your comment touched me so deeply because you suffered what so many women in many religions (mine included-I am Muslim) have suffered. When you wrote about being shamed and blamed for being sexually abused by others, you really hit home. This happens often in our religion; it is NOT a true part of our religion, but customs have turned it into a "normal" thing to blame a girl for her own victimhood. I hope you have found peace in your life, and I wish you only love.
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How can you question God's plan?
@@justsaynotoboomers God obviously allow his selfacclaimed "representatives" to molest children and youngsters. In some cases, the followers of these "representatives" KNOWS about these crimes and do nothing. Could you possibly explain the good God´s plan behind this?? Rgr
@@adriennekliger3005 Muslims are bad managers ask their woman.pls😊
Only about 15 minutes in, and I’m literally crying for this woman’s younger self. Imagine having parents who are “so religious” that they think being sexually assaulted is a sin, but beating their own children isn’t…
“If your family isn’t committed to healing, get away.” That is it for me. Thank you. ❤️
My saying is: wish them well from far far away.
I walked away from my entire extended family 25 years ago, I couldn’t take it anymore.
It’s better to be alone 😢
I've been trying to get through to my family for over 10 years. They know theirs something wrong with the family but they won't try to understand and heal..instead they continue to destroy everything around them including themselves. I think that's why I feel what I feel today..I'm just sad about the fact that we will never be a connected and loving family.
If my parents had done anything like that to me that would be the end, no communication whatsoever. What a strong woman
Love how well she articulates.Shes clearly done alot of the hard work of healing her trauma .
A remarkable woman! How she survived such trauma, pain and suffering is almost inconceivable. And thru this interview, we've all learned a lot from her story.
Educated
..yes. My thoughts too. REALLY has it together and appears to have it figured out.
The last few minutes on this were golden. The toilet analogy fits perfectly. And in being somewhat odd, it'll be easier to keep in in mind when we need it most. Thanks Mark and Chasya for this.
Yes indeed the analogy will stick.😊
You are simply wonderful and wise. My story has much in common with yours. I became a therapist because of it-your insights and wisdom, your obvious sensitivity and compassion for children and women and those suffering the abuses of whatever culture they are experiencing, is profound and beautiful. I wish I knew you. I am sending you so much love, respect, and support. Your daughter is so fortunate to have such a mom. ❤
Her message to her daughter lit my soul up. She’s speaking to ALL DAUGHTERS. It’s everything I want for mine.
Yeah, and she has really nice tiddays.
Good message by the way your beautiful
"Blood is NOT thicker than water. The bonds of heart and soul are way, way stronger than the bonds of family." Amen, sister. You don't owe your family shit if all they've ever done was treat you like it.
The true saying is "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb". Very different meaning when you consider it. ❤
Truth!!!
Speaking from experience your 100% correct !
Lakewood NJ👎!! Thank you so much for sharing and God bless you for your courage!!🙏🙏🕊️
This one story right here has shot right through my heart! Thank you Chasya and Mark! This really did something to my soul
When you think you are going through tough times, stories like this are a reminder that, maybe, your troubles are not as bad as you believe but more importantly that you can fight your way out of it through sheer determination. I am floored by this ladies incredible eloquence and intellect, especially when recounting such an emotionally tormenting journey. Hopefully this was a cathartic experience and that, a year on, she has seen more and more light coming through the cracks in her tunnel. I would love a follow up interview, with the hope that she is doing well and willing. Mark, wow, the amount of space you provide is true journalism. You are there to catch them if they are falling but otherwise, you prove that this entire experience is about them, to release and in turn offer them hope that their message gets out to others who might be grasping for the strength needed to hold on and fight back in their respective personal battles. Respect to you both.
my favorite episode in a long time. her empathy and courage is palpable. “We’re punishing people for being in trauma” is profound. I’m still unlearning things I learned before I could speak.
I am so interested about this young woman. I'm a 73 year old African American woman and I wish I could help this baby girl. Thank you Mark for allowing me to feel for and get to know this woman. I've enjoyed all your lessons of someone's reality that most of us have never experienced. Sweetheart I love you, I pray for you. If I could I would wrap my arms around you. Mark PLEASE gift us with another interview with this beautiful soul.
She's already emerged from her terrible circumstances.
God bless🙏❤️
Hi Casandra! I loved your comment. Hugs from Indiana.
@@bernaok1223 do u think one just emerges from terrible circumstances?
I find it funny when white ashkenazi jews believe they are Gods choosen. When original jews were by todays standards were black as was Jesus was black.
Chasya has such a lovely presence. One of my favourite interviews on this channel so far. 🕊❤
This was the first interview I watched on SWU. I’ve been hooked ever since. Thank you Mark for what you do!
“We glorify lies and uglify beauty.”
Very powerful words.
Paedophiles get better treatment murderers
That’s frankists jews for you
Satanic worshipers teach that. I know of one sect that are Satanic and do far worse things.
@@kallasusort2986 ya talmudic jews?
Is that really what the Esther chayil song says? I thought that was a chanting of Proverbs 31.
I could listen to her forever. She is so engaging and sensitively honest. Thanks for bringing this beautiful soul up to share her life.
I have watched many of these interviews, and the one I felt I would have liked the least is the one that will have the longest lasting impression. So eloquently spoken and felt. So glad therapy has helped this beautiful soul. And she found her dog, which speaks to my heart.
YOU ARE ALREADY HELPING OTHERS BY SHARING YOUR STORY!!!!!!Kudos! THIS WAS AN INCREDIBLE INTERVIEW, CHASYA!!!
"If you can use religion as an excuse to harbor criminals, you know you have to question what your religion is." Period! This goes for a lot of religions out there. For those who use the veil of religion & yet behind closed doors they oppress & sexually violate their wives & children is sickening. Thank you for this interview. I pray she continues to speak on this topic so that others like her can feel like they also have a voice.
PERIOD??!!! To the pube-pool for you until you're kosher
Emotionally damaged people will do whatever it takes to release their misery and frustration and then justify it.
Religion can definitely make good people do bad things. Seems to be that many only focus on the percieved positive religion brings. Mormon church and her upbringing sound oddly similar.
" ...those who use the veil of religion " is an excellent way to frame it.
I believe in the same basic Christian theology as my father claimed to.
It inspires me to be kinder to others, honest and ethical.
My father used it as an excuse to abuse and denigrate others believing he was somehow morally superior because god was on his side.
I would say your phrase " those who use the veil of religion " is perfect.
What about governments who harbor patriotism to create criminals? America funds and supports wars all over the Middle East for its own financial and political benefits, by sending trained patriotic fools that they think they’re fighting for the ‘freedom’ of America by killing people in the Middle East! It has nothing to do with religion, you can use any form of power you’ve got to build an army of criminals and blind followers!
This woman is speaking some very hard and real truths about a culture that we aren’t allowed to see. Much love and respect for you and your honesty 🙏🙏
worked with a mormon girl for a while.... man the things she told me about their traditions for young women growing up are weird as hell....like after puberty you have to tell your bishop every sexual thought u have had or everything taboo youve done basically...i imagine they dont...know i wouldnt...but still creepy af////she was fine as hell too i bet when she told the bishop he was sweating lmao
This was beautiful ❤️
@@TheOpenSociety777 how can you live with a mind as monstrous as yours?
@@TheOpenSociety777 💯
@@lifehacmedia 🙏🙏
When you talk about your dog and the unconditional love all dogs give I had the happiest cry I've ever had , thank you and may doG bless you
Wow thank you for this brilliant interview!!! Eye opening. I pray that this message will travel all over the world and touch many hearts and change broken hearts
The unpredictable lashing out of her mother is so relatable. This element is so traumatizing in relationships of all types. Also, what she said: “if your family is not committed to healing…get away!”
I think she may be lying
@@isawallamaat711 regardless, it is relatable. And who are you to say this lady is lying?
Relatable for me too!
@@isawallamaat711 Why or how so? I'm only about 15 minutes in. (Just passed the quote the o.p. repeated from hers.) Other than looking like a stripper/ porn person etc, which a lot of people on here as well as you tubers do; although, comparatively she's still quite conservative, she seems really credible to me. Thankfully and mercifully, it seems like she's also either had a lot of therapy or went to school/ studied how to get through what she went through. She seems very self attuned too.
@@isawallamaat711 based on what???
Great story. Sans religious affiliation (i was raised Lutheran - still with the feeling of God inside at a young age)....her story is v. similar to mine.
The wisdom! This woman has dropped sooo many life gems. Wow
Yes she did
Revelation 2:9 , John 8:44 , Acts 7:43. The synagogue of satan.
Your interview was so moving, Chasya. Powerful and I feel will touch many people
Wow! This women is so brave❤How powerful is her message, thank you!
I am a muslim and I was immensly touched by your story. You are so courageous and so smart. What make us special is only our humanity and kindness Thank you for the time I spent listening to you
Hi I'm from California
with all due respect, aren't a lot of the same impure women ideologies ever-present in all Abrahamic religions, including all the sects of Islam and Christianity?
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@@AJ-iu6nw More or less. In Islam women are not allowed to pray or fast but they live a normal life and whta they touch is not considered impure. All in all when you are a female you will face restrictions in all religions its just the extend that varies. We discuss about it in order to change it !
@@hanabenhassine9299 yeah .. i deffinitely know woman that prey and fast ..the discussion is how dogmatic you want to be ... there is hope .. but also not giving woman or gays same human rights as any man is simply toxic unfair and should be punishable .. there is enough room in any holy book for all !!! There is ..
"We're punishing people for being in pain, We''re punishing people because they've had to adapt to being in situations that they didn't choose ". Her every word is wisdom 💖
Absolutely, for more on that wisdom, checkout a guy named "Gabor Maté" 👌🏿🙏🏽
@@niemrobiniemrobi8397 yes he speaks incredibly about trauma
Wow. That was the most powerful ending of any SWU I've ever seen! She is so intelligent and articulate...and she has done a lot of work to get to where she is.
This is beyond belief!! The interview is so good, heartfelt & she is an amazing person. She is on such a brilliant path & doing such good work on herself for her journey. Her therapist sounds wonderful & I’d say she has heard of or definitely read Gabor Mate… ‘It’s not why the addiction, but why the pain’
Another absolutely wonderful interview Mark ThankYou ever so much. 🙏🏻✨
I understand this woman completely. I grew up in an ultra religious, ultra abusive, cult like household with ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder-Aspergers) that wasn’t diagnosed until I was in my mid forties. What a mess! Trying to navigate all that madness while being on the spectrum, not knowing it, not getting any treatment, or learning coping mechanisms because your parents didn’t believe in things like going to doctors was a complete nightmare.
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They reclassified aspergers in 2013!! Fyi
@Goldie Locks it wasn't meant to be reclassified. An editor of the dsm took it upon themselves to change one word. He changed the and to an or. It used to be, people had to have this AND that AND THAT... now it's or. So one symptom gets people a diagnosis. When the mistake was discovered, it was decided it would be too costly to pull the dsm & have it rewritten. It's been a huge problem. People are being wrongly diagnosed. I'm not saying this person was, I'm just saying what happened.
Autism has been a huge evil scam. People who need help have been deemed untreatable because society refuses to change. There is no practical difference between autism and ptsd, just a matter of severity and age of injury... and the opinion of a single doctor. When we put industry above health we don't deserve either, as a species. If we survive the next decade, genomic medicine will bear this out and these people will finally be able to get the help they need, I hope.
Glad you made it out!!
"Dogs show more love than humans" - There's a lot being said there. Powerful! Much Love and Blessings!
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Could it be bc humans are taught to love dogs more than humans
@@lilrabbitcuz Dogs are a product of their environment, like us in many ways. However, dogs are innocent, we are not. Just like a dog, a man will always return to his own vomit. Humans never seem to learn from their mistakes, thus history just keeps repeating itself over and over again - like a wheel within a wheel. But a dog can learn all kinds of cool stuff. A dog is loyal to his master, even if the master is abusive to that dog. I wish that mankind as a whole had a ounce of that type of character. So yeah, dogs show more love than humans.
@@user-vg1cn4if4x kind of a messed up perspective on life. Jesus will heal you just seek it out.
@@lilrabbitcuz Amen!
Excellent! one of my favourite interviews, So raw and real,
you've hit the nail on the head numerous times. Thank you.
Absolutely, sometimes you don’t pick the dog, the dog picks you. You get the dog you are meant to have. Thank you for your courage
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I loved the part where she straightens her back and says "the mother in me was born when she was born and that is when the lioness came out and that is when the courage came out ". Her whole aura changed before my eyes and I just knew she was willing to love and protect this child with her life. I roared with her at that very moment. 💗🦁
But yet she left her daughter in that very same cult as if she isn't subjecting her to the same torment. I call bullshit
@@rhaastaa so quick to judge when there’s laws in our country - i can’t kidnap her. I didn’t leave her either she’s next to me at this very moment just can’t have her full time like Katie Holmes got Suri educate yourself before belittling victims.
It's not always so clear cut. I think she is doing the best she can for her daughter while maintaining her influence. It's s difficult thing to fight the kind of power they have. She is walking a difficult line to protect her daughter and give her choices.
@@Daughterchasya I'm Anita: It's a shame that laws aren't made to help you get your daughter out of that" Cult" and you have her all the time. My heart goes out to you and I know you must feel like your having to fight this battle alone.
@@rhaastaait is not a cult. It is part of an ancient religion, Judaism. Not all of it is evil.
It is incredibly sad that someone would make a woman feel ashamed of her menstrual cycle. Medically your period cleanses your body. Having a period is what brings life into this world. It’s a beautiful thing.
It's unfortunate it's portrayed that way.. I grew up this way and left for my own reasons but never felt the rules were to shame me.. there is much shame around sex in this community simply because it's never talked about.. I didn't understand the things I was feeling
These people follow a primitive, outdated religion. They have blinkers on. And btw, periods are not beautiful. It's just an ugly part of life.
Many patriarchal religions do this..even the ones where the deities being venerated are Goddesses. I was also period shamed growing up and my family was into extreme "charismatic " hinduism and West African spirituality. When on my period, my mother would not allow me to touch food in the kitchen, eat with the rest of the family, go anywhere new the alter etc...when i first got my period, i was locked up in a room and isolated for a week. I was in extreme pain from cramps. Some of my cousins hid the fact that they got their period from my aunts cos they didnt want to endure this. My aunt even bragged that my cousin was pure because she was not "cursed by womanhood" ..thats how well my cousin hid it.
Theres a section of hinduism in Nepal where a little girl is selected as the embodiment of a Goddess. They call her a Kumari . The girl is locked away for rituals etc till she reaches puberty. Then she is considered cursed, dirty and unclean and made into a social outcast in her community.
@@TriniThinkerBelle that sounds terrible. But just to explain.. it is a bit different in the Jewish community.. as a young girl there is nothing like that happening at all..
In marraige it's explained that in order for there to b constant desire between husband and wife.. the woman stays away during her period by not touching or sleeping in the same bed.. and when it is over they can b together with excitement from being apart.
now I have left this community as my arranged marraige hurt me deeply.. ( that's a different story.. and I'm writing a book about it)
But somehow I feel this constant claim that woman are shamed bec of these laws never rings true to me. I felt valued in the community as a woman..
There were many viewpoints on God i personally found deeply unsettling Ultimately and I didn't feel to stay there anymore..
But all religions have this basic framework
.. anyways just sharing my experience.. another viewpoint ..
@@TriniThinkerBelle I’m so sorry you had to go through that.
Wow she is so empowering , I could listen to her story all day. She’s so beautiful inside and out
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You’re the healthiest person I’ve heard tell her story in a long time. Brava, shining light and healer. Blessings to you and your daughter. Keep shining your light on the world. The world needs your light. Shine loud and proud! 💕💖💞🌸💖🌸💞🌸💖💕
Growing up as a Jehovah's witness and not being allowed to do anything I totally relate to this. One of my favorite interviews. What a wise woman.
I jam very JW influenced as a child. I was lukky I wasn't as immersed as my older brother. It's a long story. But I understand exaktly what you are referring to. I took the positive and held on to it. I appreciate the literal translation of Jehovah.
"He kauses to bekome"
The old God is manifesting dynamik energy. I see it from a more scientifik point of view, stripped of guilt trips. Like on some Einstein type level. I also associate that with true love. Far away from guilt and kontrol tho. It always gets me at the memorial. I know dam well I'm surrounded by at least 1 if not more child molesters and terrible people who put hands on children and females etc. But I am the openly death metal person. The same religion that makes some members feel justified in looking down in me also grants me the solace of knowing I'll be judged for my heart kondition. Worst kasę scenario, Sheol. As long as I don't have kids I'm not worried. Ima die raising the horns, blasting metal and loving my dogs the way I would love my kids bekuzz they are my kids. The only kids I'll ever have in this world of death. Lol. It's funny when Slayer lyrikal are basikly the same as reading a WatchTower pamphlet with a better sound trakk than kingdom hymns.
Anyways. Stay up, stay good. Salute from NorKal USA.
PS,
You know a JW's favorite isle at the hardware store?
The door isle....... ✊🚪
(Knokk knokk......)
Have you seen Jordan freeman’s podcast about leaving JW? He’s a gay man that danced with west coast swing. Awesome young man. Love yourself. Be YOU.
@@subixbarbarasson6052 jW has the worst music of all time. And you're right about the door isle. Sometimes at home depot, I still can't help myself! 😂
@@tinawindham6958 I haven't but I'll check that out. I haven't watched too many interviews of people leaving who could express how traumatic it was. Yeah being gay is not allowed in JW still. Like you guys should take everyone you can. 😂
@@jrodx008
I think the JW organization being so tight nit,
I guess it really brings out to see who's real and be who isn't.
There is a lot of fear involved. I appreciate the line "You kan't love what you fear". I've met some JW people who admitted to me that they weren't even JW. But you know how the fold works. But they are legit some of the koolest kats I've met among. Mostly science minded. But it is a trip. Kuzz the society of it all. They gotta play their part. I realize that is few and far between tho.
My older brother was a meth head and a metal head when I was a kid. I'm glad he isn't a tweaker anymore. But the trade off is apparent.
I never signed up. I just took the best I kould from the influence and left the fear/guilt doktrine alone.
She’s a lightworker! A healer! A truth speaker! a cycle breaker! You’re doing the work for this planet and it’s people you are already a healer. You could easily be a public speaker and change lives 💜💜💜💜💜 Bless your beautiful soul!!
100000%! Well said! 👏👏💯💕🙏
She is.
Great choice of words: a cycle breaker. She has articulated so well that we need to break the cycle of fear so we can advance ourselves to become better people despite our shortcomings.
yoou better avoid NEPAL
Wow. Strength. Courage. Grace. You are healing people now. Your daughter is SO blessed to have you as her mother. If you ever need anything, please reach out. Your story has opened up a light-to all of us. The cracks are so beautiful. Satnam.
I watched a lot of those SWU videos and this one is one of my favorites, she speaks very eloquently and her honesty/transparency really forces respect. I wish I could be with someone like her. Love and support from France.
As a west indian woman who grew up witnessing rituals and having rituals done to me...being immersed in religious rites...i understand her completely. I too grew up depressed realising my friends and classmates did not have to endure these things or fear the rituals but i did...thank you my Sister for your honesty
I just want to add. I was also treated like im dirty and impure when i had my period. So relatable. Its amazing how we cone from different cultures but endure the same degradation as women. Sending much love to you Sister. Thank you so much for sharing
What religion was it?
@@TriniThinkerBelle that “period” makes no difference to me.
@@keithbrunson7190 a mixture of West African spirituality (Yoruba) and Hinduism
@@TriniThinkerBelle that’s heavy. I just learned today that having pre-marital sex is against the law in Saudi. I cannot imagine. I really can’t
She should be a motivational speaker. She spoke eloquently, she spoke through experience, her words had weight. I hope someone who took time to see/listen to this video finds hope, help & healing🙏🏼 THANK YOU CHASYA FOR SHARING YOUR LIFE❤
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What a woman. If the world was populated with more people like her we'd be in a lot better shape.
need to say thank you at some point here, your vids have given me a much needed perspective on my own family issues and given me the strength to finally speak up for myself
She needs to be a professor in this area , she is so articulate, captivating, wish everyone had her sprit and understanding, strength to get out of this hideous abuse, beautiful soul.
I agree. Sociology/Anthropology of Cults
Anyone who refers to the "DAY OF ATOINMENT" as ROSH HASHANA instead of what it truly is "YOM KIPPUR is far from being a professor of anything involving this topic! The truth is, this a personal hatred, and perhaps you have the same. I too could not stand being pinned down to rituals and yes it was Damned tough breaking away due to the harsh guilt> BUT I MADE THE CHOICE TO LEAVE! While I am happier and much more comfortable with life, it is because of me, not because of animosity toward being raised and frankly being Jewish! This poor soul has deeper issues than the rituals of faith. Her family, if she is truly representing her personal life she conveys, was raised by horrid retards, as many people of many other faiths and nationalities have gone through! Abuse is abuse THe Jewish faith is not a form of abuse!
@@ED-ie3et THE KHAZARIAN MAFIA. GOES BACK TO 7TH CENTURY AD.
or give a ted talk, I cant believe how articulate she is.
Yeah you can tell she really has her head on straight by the way she dresses too!
Chasya - As a licensed clinical social worker , I will say that your story and how you speak of it , shouts of someone who has gained true self awareness , humility and insight . You are farther along that journey than u may realize ! I applaud your honesty and humility ! You speak with wisdom which can only come from someone willing to be brave enough to look at their trauma and work through it ! You are eloquent and no doubt will impact others with your story ! You are a waking example of finding purpose in your pain ! Wishing you the best on your journey for continued growth ! Stand proud
What does you being a social worker have anything to do with her?
A licensed clinical social worker is a therapist
I agree! I could relate so much with her story. I'm on my own path of healing and growing. It's a painful but well worth it, journey.
@@therealone4113 experience
Im an unlicensed human and can see that.
You ARE a healer and teacher. Right now. Thank you 🙏. I would love to talk with you. What an incredibly moving story. How articulate and and insightful and wonderful you are. I experience you as radiant and healing in your vulnerability here. You are mesmerizing. Each of these videos amazes me in how Mark creates the safe & energizing space, the lens, the support for individuals to to do this with so much integrity and dignity. Thank you again. Ann
Mark, I’d just like to sincerely thank you for your time and efforts to capture such content from first class examples from this cruel at times and complex world we live in which is offered up to us in a way that I believe hasn’t got an ulterior motive, no hidden agenda, or for choice of a better words Bullshit inc. This is so refreshing from the rest of the media outlets. My hat goes off to you but also the honesty from interviewees. I’ve just been blown away from Chasya… such a profound and harrowing tale of her life and up bringing that she describes so emotionally that although none of us in your audience was obliviously present at the time her mother was beating her and her first husband turned into the very same person(s)and attitudes she was trying to flee I for one felt so scared for her and yet so proud of the lady and how she was looking out for her and her Daughter… I just hope and pray that this lady is blessed and gets her daughter back and lives the life she wants and so deserves…. Power to you Chasya and telling your story Pet👍👍🙏🙏
Also again keep up the good work Mark… PS I’ve not seen a bad SWU but the Mike Dowd Interviews are some of the best watches I’ve also seen ever👍👍
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Paraphrased, but SOOOOOO true: “Be careful what you turn to to numb the pain because it will become your new cruel master”. Drugs, alcohol, pornography, another abusive relationship, eating, shopping, self-harm, gambling…the list goes on. Very wise words. I wish her the best.
Master of puppets come to mind….
That's not a slave, but a cruel master
Yes and I turned to a few of them. Thank God for celebrate recovery or I wouldn't be here and therapy
What about people who use therapy to numb the pain
Can people become dependant on therapy and their therapist?
@@brianhanrahan7561 when I did therapy, it did not numb my pain, it brought it back to the surface so I could deal with it.
Great Job! I grew up similarly, my dad is a rabbi and I have 9 siblings. You did a great job bringing out the different types of toxic behaviors in these communities. Good luck on your Journey!
Wow. This intelligent lady has spoke so much life into me. I can’t even put it into words. I resonate so much with her story. Thank you for putting words to my feelings.
Top 3 Best interview. The resilience, courage, and bravery she has is so mesmerizing and beautiful. Good luck on your journey I hope she gets everything she deserves ❤️
I am not Jewish, didn’t grow up in a cult , was
Loved and encouraged as a child , grew up in a totally different culture - and I cried hot tears listening to this insightful, eloquent woman. I understood and learnt a lot in in this one hour
I am Jewish and this is not at all what I experienced growing up. Nor was it that of anyone I have ever met.
@@e8ghtmileshigh1ok? You say it like she (an thousands of other who live like this) is lying just because you, a single person, have never met anyone living like this.
Your comment as is, is pointless.
If you meant that not all jewish people are as militant you should phrase it in a manner that doesn't undermine others experiences.
Chasya is by far one of my favorite interviews. Coming from a reform conversion to Judaism I find her highly interesting based on her religious upbringing but also just her as a pure beautiful soul that was not cared for, not protected, not respected by her family and community really heart breaking. Through all that she has endured and suffered the fact that she has retained some semblance of genuine faith is absolutely beautiful and profound.
i agree 100%
God is not responsible for the acts of man. God however provides a comfort and solace for those who have suffered at the hands of man. Especially children.
I am reform my aunt and cousins decided to become orthodox and we were looked down upon as not Jewish by my own family and I can't stand it!
We were never allowed to be around our modern cousins either
@@Daughterchasya When my son was born a call was made to my mother by her sister telling her that her son and his friends were going to pay for my son's bris and party , so it would be done properly! My mother, knew as a single parent who just had 4 days of labor ending in a cesarean delivery and a baby with neurologic issues and 3 holes in his heart I wasn't going to take my baby around large groups. I had a nurse at the house 3x a week, physical therapy 3x a week, and social worker 1x a week for my son. Mind you we were using Rabbi Pearl, the same Rabbi that would've been used if I allowed her son , My cousin to pay for the Bris. My cousin had 5 girls no boys, I didn't realize at the time that the man who presents the baby to the Rabbi for bris is the G-d Parent! Needless to say I kept a small bris in my Jewish home on the 8th day of his life safely. My Aunt, My Cousin and his wife did not attend. I hold it in my heart that Family should not treat family like this. My Aunt did worse at my Brothers funeral. I saw them last Sunday which was the first time in over 3 years. I know I must forgive for myself but forget I will not. I find you and your story inspiring to those of us who are out cast from family bc we are less religious then our families. I truly believe, G-d weighs our souls my moral character, how you treat others thy neighbors and our families. I believe spirituality and G-ds love doesn't depend on how well we dovin but how we treat his children those Jewish or not, all people and creatures created by Hashem ! Thank you so much for listening it means a lot.
It's so beautiful to hear these things put into words. Thank you for getting this out there.
Awesome, thank you and I am speechless for how strong you are to share your experience
The more I listen to this girl the more I love her. the way she has such a holistic outlook on all the trauma she experienced in her formative years. I would love to see her publicly advocate in a forum the way Leah Remini did, about her journey with Scientology. This girl has so much strength and truth, and would help others liberate themselves.
I was thinking about the same comparison too! Those two can change the world
Yeah, one of the greatest evils in the world is just quietly looked away from as millions of children are psychologically and/or physically abused in hyper-religious families. I know not all religions do this, but there are too many extreme sects out there who do, and it's insane that we _know_ it's happening and we somehow just keep on keepin' on without confronting it. I think "Freedom of Religion" is abused by parents who don't give their children any freedom at all.
Still odd for me that you twice refer to a clearly fully matured, not to mention inspirational and highly intelligent woman as a "girl" rather than a woman.
@@asdfgh123lkjhgf Dude, that sounds a bit nit-picky to me. People refer casually to men as guys and women as girls. It used to be guys and gals but I think girl took over for gal for some reason.
@@Felice_Enellen Perhaps so, I just feel we could all benefit sometimes from a little more grace in the way we think, act, speak... simple things such as refering to someone who is speaking so eloquently and thoughtfully as a "woman" rather than "a girl" might be a small step in that process. It just sounded very strange to me, i was a little suprised by it. Just my opinion, as a grown man i can't recall the last time someone refered to me as a "boy". Then again, listening to the pimps etc on here refer to woman as "bitches".. and even women refering to themselves as "bitches"...maybe i'm too far removed from this "culture", if so i'm OK with that being the case.
This woman. Wow she might have one of my favorite stories I've heard in the last 2 years.
"You cannot love what you fear"
Dead ass. The definition of abusive manipulation. Stockholm syndrome-ish.
They say respekt in prison is just another word for fear.
That part was hella legit tho. And true.
Hails,
from NorKal USA.
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She started talking and just had so much to say it was non stop
She reminded me a bit of my childhood , we all walked on eggshells around my father only cause he'd just start yelling loudly out of nowhere it seemed. When he got home from Vietnam we were all just on edge and i was never calm or felt relaxed , any item dropped or hitting a wall making any sudden simple noise just brought on sudden yelling and then all of us kids would get traumatized over and over.
This hit right home to me. Thank you for sharing.
I appreciate every part of this story. Thank you for sharing 💖
I was raised in a less religious Jewish sect. It was exactly as she said. It is a crazy way to grow up. I broke away. I was the black sheep in our family for speaking up and breaking away. I had to deprogram myself. It takes a lot of mindfulness and gentle compassion.
Same here and so true 👍
Same here and even more true because I have accepted Christ as the true Messiah and have experienced a real change of heart. It’s wonderful.
I'm from Germany and have just listened to your story and I'm deeply impressed and touched by your story. Thank you very much for sharing your life with us. You are talented with words and I realize that you have invested a lot of time thinking and working hard through things. It makes me sad to hear about your childhood and the broken bond to your family. God bless you and help you to love and care for your own daughter as you desire.
Thanks to Mark and Chasya for sharing her story with us. I was blown away by your strength and your wisdom, Chasya -- you're wise beyond your years. You've given me insights into my own struggles, issues I've been grappling with for years. So thank you!! God's speed to both of you... :)
PS -- I lived through much of the same insane religious manipulation that you faced. I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian cult in the Midwest -- Illinois -- and spent decades trying to overcome it. It was only when I was older that I began to see it for what it was. No one should have to live through that kind of mind control.
You're amazing and so articulate. This bought up so many emotions!
Wow. She would make a great therapist. I can’t relate to someone who hasn’t been through things their self. I love her outlook on life. I wish her all the best.
Yes she would
I agree. I can’t go to a therapist who just reads the DSM and has had no HARD life experiences.
As a therapist I agree with the previous comments. Going to therapy for years before becoming one- the best therapist were the one’s with great empathy.
The best therapists are the ones who were in these kind of situations and needed therapy to get out of it and they needed to be therapists to stay out of the bad situations. They are the good therapists.
Yeah, but I think by putting it like that, you overlook how many people go through rough things theirselves. They might not tell their patients, which could let to you thinking they didn’t experience shit, but I think that makes a good therapist. Someone who isn’t too open about their own struggles. At least, that’s how I feel abt it after 4 years of therapy and a lot of different therapists.
This lady needs to start a podcast. She seems to be very smart, but most of all she is a great story teller. We all feel what she went through. She described the details of her life so well. Also she has a great voice for a podcast. Just saying...
If she went that far out, calling out her people, like the white supremist guy, her people might take her out
@@suzanarozanadana That won't happen. It's an Ultra-Orthodox community, not a mafia
@@suzanarozanadana it's not HER people anymore
I couldn’t agree more!!!! 🎙 📺
I would listen!
Inter generational trauma was what she experienced. Brave young lady. Enjoyed listening to her.
One of the best, Chasya you express your self superbly. May God bless you and your family
1hr felt like 10 min
I work in Lakewood, New Jersey. I won’t say what I do, but just know I work close enough with the community to know this woman has told 0 lies and I’m only 4 mins into the interview. Very intrigued to see just how much she is willing to offer as the video continues!
I LIVE HERE.....all my life. Worked 'for' that community and surrounded by it now. It IS a cult, and I am sooo glad to hear somebody finally admit it. I appreciate her honesty. The Most High definitely will uncover ALL fraudulent bs......👏👏 Won't He😌
You are 100% correct. I myself went to an Modern Orthodox Yeshiva. Chaya describes the brain washing, prejudice, guilt atmosphere that permeates this culture is spot on. I can’t imagine what she went thru in her super “frum” environment, vs mine in school . Must have been my experience x 1000% on steroids?! So relatable, so profound. I am grateful to Chasya for her beautiful way she expressed herself, be well.
Thank you for validating my pain.
@@Daughterchasya just Wow.
I am speechless about what you experienced as a child.
I've never known anyone from that life. Born, raised and have always lived in Ca. We of very modest class, always assumed all the wealthy kids just "had it made" fairytale lifestyles.
All the best to you.
@@adamthirdbourne324 when did she say her family was wealthy? The antisemitism here isn't surprising.
The way she sat up so straight when we was talking about how her courage came out when her baby was born, you can just see the pride in her. What a beautiful and courageous woman!
I should have waited until the end to comment. The best interview I have ever watched. Being there must have been incredible.
You are awesome Chasya
You are SO spiritual in being true to yourself and I Loved how to reframed the word battle to the word journey and said spontaneously “because…. because we’re going to call it a journey”. That is Your Spoken Word which brings the spiritual into being so Amen to you. I’m so impressed how you didn’t have to search further for confirmation of your truth.
My daughter sent me this video because you reminded her of me! I got my first dog at age 63 and she has allowed me to heal from terrible past abuse! You are a beautiful woman inside and out and I wish you and your daughter a beautiful life!
One of my favorite sayings is;
Dear Lord please help me become the person my dog thinks I am.
In other words, our dogs reflect/give therefore teach us unconditional love ❤️.
Really wow I would love too hear your story
Chasya, I just want to applaud you on your self-awareness and healing journey. It’s very apparent that you have been dedicated to understanding your experience and your family. You are so inspiring!
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Such a strong, smart woman. Thank you for sharing your story with the world. You are helping so many with this interview
One of the most powerful and inspiring interviews I have ever heard.
Easy pleased. She you mom
I hope a million people watch this video. She is the epitome of bravery & the ability to understand & express herself clearly. Sending massive good vibes to her for her & her daughter.
Look now 🥰🥰🥰
Hands down the best episode you’ve ever done. She is such an excellent story teller. Well done!
People have gone through horrific lives documented in this program and you see their lives as a competition of the best video??
I'm a retired Christian pastor and I believe that religious addiction is the most damaging of all addictions. What a marvelous human being Chasya is to have overcome the ties that literally bind.
What do you mean “ religious addiction”?
You've been through so much. Your strength, knowledge, wisdom, courage, and love are forged from gargantuan challenges. Your depth, power, soul, and generosity resonate through the screen. Tremendously grateful for what you stand for and who you are that you've courageously discovered. Every blessing on your daughter. You're a luminous presence. It seems that what you've articulated about your purpose is what life is at its most profound. You are divinely a gift. Thank you
I was in a domestic violence situation in 2014. I prayed for a way out too. God told me to start packing. I used to sneakily pack and put my stuff in dirty laundry baskets to be ready when I left. About 2 days before I left, I felt God saying that I was almost ready to go. Two days later it happened. I escaped with my few things I was able to take that day. I literally had to start over. But God made a way out. And I'm so thankful. God is definitely alive and cares about us.
He loves us so much
You made your own way out
It's not god it's only your choices in your life. Maybe the idea of a deity that watches upon you helped you to find the courage to get out, but that still comes from you.
I'm so impressed by this woman. Shared her experience with insight and perspective and empathy.
Shes subtly speaking about why jews have been kicked out of 109 nation over 1030 times
You can’t love what you fear. Wow that was amazing ❤
hate isn't the opposite of love. fear is
when I was in Israel -I was told the Orthodox have rules for everything - even for sex - they have a piece of cloth ( with a hole cut out for penetration )between a man and woman having sex
That’s rubbish
My great grandparents were Orthodox, thank you for your story. Bless you. I’m sorry for the things that you endured. 💜
WOW WOW WOW! One of the BEST interviews I have seen on your channel. After watching Peter Santanello's UA-cam channel, where he goes into these strict jewish communities, to then hear this story is like WOW. She is an amazing woman and I am so proud of her for being open and honest and sharing her story. I pray she is able to give her daughter the life she wishes she had, and that she is able to land in a career doing her life work of helping others like herself. She surely is on that path already with this interview...she will reach many. Bless you Chasya. I wish you all the best.
B’ruch HaShem!
I only had two children, and they were really great kids, and I found that sometimes stressful.
I can’t imagine having to take care of eight children, the cooking the cleaning the organizing. These moms are ultimate moms. These kids are so intelligent, but they do grow up with less social skills and without a secular education which is so important. It’s very important to learn Torah, What is children they need a well-rounded secular education as well. G-d bless her. She sounds like she is a grandchild of Holocaust survivors. Perhaps she should find a reformed congregation to join.
@@mattikarosenthal3298 no she should run as far as she can away from religion. Im Jewish and my abusive father who use to beat the hell out of me tried shoving the Jewish religion down my throat. So I ran as far as I could away from the Jewish religion and couldn’t be happier
Do you think every religious family has problems is that what you guys think you know how many families are blessed in their good families and they don’t have these problems and they have 10 kids , there such a loving peaceful family and they’re not rich..
@@mattikarosenthal3298 OF COURSE you defend these families rosenthal...
I absolutely loved this episode. She was so hurt but has emerged from it with empathy and kindness and it just radiates from her.
Like she's emerging from her sweater?
This is the best interview I have listened to. Thank you for posting it.
Chasya you are an incredible being. Thank you for sharing. I was captivated by your experiences you shared and your presence of clarity. You are a gifted speaker and a light bearer.