My Burnout Story & How I Recovered plus Coping Strategies | What IS Burnout? Mental Health Chat Vlog
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- Опубліковано 9 сер 2023
- My personal experience of having and recovering from burnout. I'm NOT a DR, just a woman who tries to hold her life together and share that with you!
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Hi, I'm Louise! I started this channel in 2010 after readers of my blog (called Sprinkle of Glitter) suggested I give UA-cam a try. I was instantly hooked and have found my internet playground on here. I make videos about plus size fashion, motherhood, lifestyle and occasionally have special guests (friends, kittens or my sweet Daughters Darcy, 12 and Pearl, 5).
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Oh Louise, as a mental health professional this is a fantastic topic to bring attention to. I always tell my patients - you cannot pour from an empty cup ♥️
Louise thankyou for this. You have just described me perfectly. How iv been carrying on for the past few years.❤
This video has made me cry because someone has put it into words. The realisation that you are not being difficult and that you are actually NOT well really helped me turn a corner with this.
You know why do we pretend everything is fine when it’s not and I refuse to make doctors appointments for myself as I feel I’m wasting their time and someone probably needs it more than me! Burnout needs to be more openly talked about. Thank you for this hun. Laura xx
This is one of my all time favourite videos you've made Louise. You explain things in such a calm way, you make is easier to think about something that can be a tough subject.
Thank you SO much, I'm glad you've enjoyed it or found it useful xxx
I had a full on meltdown when I was still at the office 11pm at night. And I’d worked every day for a year. I just started crying and throwing things and ended up in the fetal position on the floor. But I was at work again the next day. Never again. It’s not worth my health - physical or mental. Thank you for this video, it makes me feel less alone.
"Taking time off is your medicine" I needed this 🥺❤ Always feel so guilty taking time for me and definitely always feel the pressure of wanting to be productive 110% of the time. Such a well expressed video and thanks for being real it's so refreshing to hear this xxx
One thing I finally learnt this year is that decision fatigue is a REAL thing. When I'm having really bad days with depression/anxiety etc. I always find that I simply cannot make decisions, even something as simple as 'do I want to watch tv' or 'what do i want to eat'. That's what it reminds me of when you were talking about not being able to choose what to wear. The decision feels monumental and that just adds to the stress of the situation. I'm so glad I know how to recognise it for what it is now, decision fatigue...I was dumbfounded when I heard that expression because it finally explained what I'd felt for years.
OMG now I'm having that mind blown moment that this is a real thing- decision fatigue. Thank you xxx
I think this has always been me and it’s functional until it isn’t.
I am watching and crying because you have been describing what is happening with me for last two months. The part about feeling trapped got me in pieces
I relate to everything you are saying. Currently dealing with all the same things at the moment: the people pleasing, the mental health imposter syndrome, the masking, the overwhelm, the physical symptoms. You are not alone! It's a relief to find the courage to say you are not well. Sending love.
I can’t express how the timing of this video is aligning with my life at the moment. I’m sorry that you had felt the way I’m relating to right now but so pleased that you’re voicing your experience and tips! Always a pleasure to watch you Louise 💜🙏
LOUISE, this was one of my favourite videos yet - and I’ve been watching since 2013 and it was you and baby glitter in your old home♥️ I grew up watching your make up videos but to still find comfort in your videos 10 years later while I’m dealing with corporate stress combined with the loss of a loved family member I can’t thank you enough. Just what I needed with my gin this evening (il work on drinking more water tomorrow)! 😂
Thank you for bringing more awareness to what burnout actually looks like and reminding us that it's valid to have it. It wasn't until recently that I discovered that burnout wasn't that moment you see in all the films where the character throws everything off of their desk at work and runs out of the building screaming, never to been heard from again, it's really more subtle. I'm glad you've made it through it and are trying to help those of us who are in a similar position.
As a teacher I get burnout multiple times a year. Currently recovering from one now during the holidays. So refreshing to hear from someone else who has suffered. Thanks for sharing x
I have been home with a proper burn-out since september 2019. It’s hell I can tell. First 2,5 years really really bad. Now starting to get somewhere but still not being able to work. Getting all the help and more to get better 💪 i still have faith and learned so much about myself and my feelings. A whole new person when I get out of it.
Louise this is such an important message and a great video, I'm glad you're speaking about burn out! I'm a therapist, and another tip I would say is that when you do get those colds, headaches, an achy arm or whatever it is that feels small, stop then too if you can. Early night, cancel a plan, and let your body recover from that first. Pushing through may make it drag out and you'll feel worse for longer. And it reminds you to listen to your body's signals - practice doing it for the smaller signals to get you used to doing it for the bigger, most important, ones
Sat watching this and as you mentioned to drink water I looked down and realised that I was holding a coffee and have hardly had any water today. Thank you for the prompt Louise! I am going to stand up and get myself some water to drink while I watch the rest of your video! 🫡
We haven’t gotten a “first things first I’m the realest” in ages. Love it, and love this video too! So important
What an excellent video. Generous of you to be so open and honest and I'm sure your encouragement and very practical advice will help some of your followers - what a wonderful gift.
CALLED. OUT. been in a bad mood all day and so many moments in this video made me go... oh! Gonna see what I can take time off from. 'A week off doesn't touch the sides' was probably the biggest moment of realising something's up! Thanks Louise x
Just wanted to say thank you, this video has come at the right time! Had my first break down & felt overwhelmed at work last week, and have only just told people now 🩷
Thanks again, sending love from NZ xx
The way you described that moment you realised you weren’t ok is exactly what happened to me in June. My body just shut down I can’t explain it. Thank you for being so real with your experience ❤
Thank you for making this video Louise! It's great to hear tips on what has worked for you.
You explain it soooo well. Thank you for this video ❤
This was an EXTREMELY helpful and well timed video for me at the moment. Thanks Louise 💕✨
Thank you for sharing your story, it was really helpful and has made me reflect on times I was potentially burnt out but just couldn’t recognise it x
Thanks Louise. Needed this. Currently burnt out and it’s nice that I can see that I’m not alone.
Thank you for this video Louise. It’s just what I needed to hear ❤
Thank you for making this video and bringing more awareness to this. Thank you for all you do. I feel like im with a friend when I watch your videos xxx ❤
I think most of us hide our feelings for all the reasons you have mentioned. Im self employed and must admit I rarely take time off , I work a lot and don’t have hobbies . But this video has made me think . Thank you for sharing Louise . 😊
I think I really needed this video, thank you! I think I'm mainly past it now but a few months ago I was burntout, everything was exhausting and I was constantly on the edge of really intense distress/upset. I like how you described resting as productive as a phone on charge, that made a lot of sense! So glad you've found ways to deal with it and thank you for sharing them x
thank you for this! i've been feeling quite burnt out this year due to a stressful job & recurring issues in my immediate family & when i first saw this upload, i intially avoided clicking on it because i didn't want to be confronted with it - definitely not a healthy coping mechanism :') really appreciate your perspective & tips x
Fantastic video Louise. I think I have pushed through burn outs a few times. Some tragic circumstances completely stopped me in my tracks a few years ago and it took 5 months to get myself going again (grief was involved though). However, one thing that really stuck with me from this video was the ‘I’m fine’ mentality because like you I am a people pleaser and want to be liked so I always say I’m fine even when I’m not. There’s very few people I can be honest with and say when I’m not. With me though I think it’s because I think a lot of people see me as a big pessimistic or as a moaner so when I do say I’m not ok it sounds like I’m just going off on one of my moods. That then makes me feel worse as I feel I am not being taken seriously, which in turn exacerbates my feelings of isolation in my feelings. I wish I had a way round that. I always feel like people don’t take me very seriously or have much time for me for whatever reason and just feel unliked by so many. Silly way to feel at 43 years old. I think I’ve always lived with anxiety and ill feeling about myself and I just don’t always feel very comfortable with a lot of social situations and the just getting ready to face the world is a massive flash point every day. I have ridiculous melt downs getting ready! I love the advice you have though. Getting out for nature walks helped me in my darkest times.
What a lovely evening, “friend to friend” - as usual you always make so much sense - sending big hugs
Louise!!! I used to watch you in the classic UA-cam days. I never unsubscribe but for some reason your videos didn't really come up in my algorithm. Lately I have been watching every new video you post and you are just as lovely as ever. I love you!
What a great video. Thank you for sharing so honestly 💖 I've also experienced burnout and found when resting that podcasts were good to take my mind off anything that was a stress. Reducing screen time but still entertaining
Thank you for sharing this is 100% how I felt last year . I am now well but it has taken time . Even now it is such a relief and validation to hear you describe something so similar to my experience.
I am sat having a cup of tea watching this…I have just been sent home from work after finally admitting to my boss and colleagues that I am burnt out and overwhelmed. I am in the process of renovating a house and I am finding it so stressful that the stress doesn’t end when I clock off at 5pm, if continues when I get home with the work and decision making etc. I have put on a good face for all my friends/family/colleagues to try be the person they needed to be and mask that I’m struggling. I also felt like Im so fortunate having everything I ever wished for and felt like everyone else had so much more to worry about than me and that I shouldn’t put my stress and worries onto other people. This video is exactly what I need today xx
Thank you thank you thank you for this video, Louise. I’m recovering from burn out but watching this video I cried. You absolutely validated everything I feel when burnt out and I’ve not heard it explained like this before. So close to how I felt. Thank you so much. Lots of love, Ella (not Thomas).
So well articulated! I resonate with all of this but never had the words. Thank you xx
Louise, thank you for addressing this and having such an open discussion.
A very considerate and well thought out video, very helpful tips and important theme 💕 We're all expected to be busy, busy, busy all the time - balance is key!! Xx
Love this. Such an important topic!
Thank you so much for talking about this so openly. It's incredibly valuable to model open discussions about mental health, and how to seek help.
I'm still watching as I type but omg, Louise! You have no idea how on time this video is 😭😭😭 I feel like your telling me about my feelings right now
This was such good timing! Don’t think I’m on the verge of burn out although have experienced it but definitely had a burn out kind of day! This helped sooo much just watching your vids help me to calm down!
I luckily get healthcare from work AXA think it is around £20 monthly, which allows access to ten sessions although there is an excess. An expense and a privilege but maybe cheaper than private and quicker than NHS.
Excellent excellent subject to talk about,well done Louise xx
Thank you so much for so openly sharing your experiences! Having similar issues & currently living in the US, even with 'good' insurance it's shocking how poor the quality of mental health care is. My doctor told be to 'just be less stressed' without any further discussion, and have been to 3 different therapists who each made things worse in some way - hoping number 4 I'm seeing next week will be better. I hear that a lot of folks really get on with online therapy doing sessions via Skype, Facetime, etc, though it's not financially accessible to everyone and also requires privacy at home which so many of us don't have. Keeping at trying to get the help I need but it's far from easy.
I'm exactly the same. This video made me feel so valid, thank you.
Thank you so much for posting this. It was the first video on my suggested videos and I related so hard to so much of it. It has prompted me to self refer for counselling ❤
Thank you for this!! I truly needed this right now in my life ❤
Thank you so much for making this, I am currently in the pit of burnout/ anxiety and have finally taken some time off which does make me feel guilty, but this video has helped so much :)
Gosh, I feel like you've just described me! I didnt realise burn out was an actial thing. I just put everything down to being a mum two a 5 and 2 year old. Thank you so much for this video Louise x
Louise I appreciate this video so much. I have felt what you described and would use the same words to describe it. Glad to be better now. ❤
thank you for talking about this!! i care for 2 family members while also working 25hrs a week. the last few weeks i have been suffering with burnout. small decisions like choosing what to wear and deciding what to have for dinner would leave me in tears and angry. i am also someone who pushes through, but i just couldn't carry on. i was light headed constantly and had stomach pains, i was constantly irritated and on the verge of tears. my anxiety and depression were BAD. i managed to get a week off work and was able to spend a few days in bed and spoke to someone at health in mind who validated my feelings and even just that helped SO much. the first day back to work this week was hard but its getting better daily so i hope i am coming out on the other side🙏🤞
btw idk if you've done anything different with your hair but it looks great!! xx
When I asked for help with my anxiety and depression 17 years ago, anxiety wasn't a term anyone said or I'd ever heard. So just naming my illness helped me a great deal. I was told to do somethig everyday that would make you put a smiley face in your diary. Basically do something you enjoy. My best friend helped me so much with this, cinema, walk, have a cuppa, read a book etc. I also did CBT etc and saw a mental health nurse. But this plan every day to do something positive helped me so much. This is now how i help my loved ones when they are stressed, burnt out or dealing eith similiar struggles. Don't ever underestimate how important a daily smiley face in your diary really helps. Well said Louise love this video ❤
Thank you Louise I really needed to watch this video, it’s really helped me ❤
Great advice, so glad your feeling better xxx God bless
Thank you Louise, this video really resonated with me and helped me a lot😊 I do think though it’s important that we are a little more honest when people ask how we are. I don’t mean spilling all our personal stuff out but some indication that in fact everything is not perfect. That way other women/people might feel less alone and more willing to be open too. It’s like when friends visit your house. Most women go mad with the tidying so we present a beautiful lifestyle. We should be a bit more real in my opinion. Love your videos 😊
This was wildly helpful ❤ thank you for sharing this!
I often find getting outside helps me! Just to breathe and feel more relaxed! Some good tips! Also like you I’m a push through type of person Xx
I had the same thing, it all hit me after the restrictions ended. Small things became massive, the first time I was all by myself I had an anxiety attack. I remember sitting on the bus and had this overwhelming feeling I had to get off or I’d panic, I had to get my heavily pregnant sister in law to come get me and she sat with me til my family came home. These are just a couple of examples, in through it now. Time was a great healer for me, and pushing myself to do things. I tried CBT but sadly it didn’t work for me, but I saw a life coach and we did hypnotherapy and that really helped me. Now I’m out the other side, I’m still aware of it and I still have to go back to my techniques when I’m in certain situations. But I know I’m going to be ok, Thankyou for sharing your story. I feel the more we share, the more it can help ourselves and each other xxxx
Thank you for this ❤
This is so reassuring x
i have the same struggles, believe that, and my heart goes out to you
Exactly the video I needed 😌 thank you x
Thank you for sharing. You just described all the things I'm feeling to a T. 😔 Wonderful tips!
You are such an inspiration. thank you for this video and sharing.
Thank you so much! This is so helpful.
Thank you for this video ❤it’s helped me so much x
I'm going through a similar situation.. thank you for the advice 🙏🏾❤😊
I began laughing out loud because that list at the beginning was like you were describing every day of my life... I suddenly realized you were describing how I feel all the time. I did make the Dean's list. soo that was worth it
Found this very very useful ❤ xx
Currently going through this at the moment after working 44 hrs 6 days a week for months. It’s so real and I’m glad to see it talked about makes me feel less alone x
Oh wow what a video thank you for sharing. This year I have experienced burn out where I have needed to seek help. I am now with therapy and medication coming through the other side of it. One tool I was given for my negative thoughts were take take them to court. Is there any facts to the negative thought and if there is what was the factual consequences of it. If none then move past as it get kicked out of court. My thoughts spiral and I struggle to move on from them and this has helped no end! I hope this helps someone else xx
I've had burnout a few times and although I do circle around it still I've become (like you said) much better at noticing the signs and taking a break.
I think the main thing for me has been designing my life so I regularly see friends, have fun and have some quiet time by myself in nature or listening to music etc to recharge.
I started regularly going to the gym about six months ago and annoyingly it does help a lot 😂
Such a well timed video! Makes me feel less alone 😂
'Once you make it real, you can tackle it' ❤❤❤❤❤
I never call the doctor/dentist . I’m so scared of wasting their time, but this video has really made me think about it. I probably still won’t but this is the first push to maybe one day go lol. Thank you Louise :)
As a teacher, this is very relatable
On a superficial note- your hair looks really lovely!!!
This is the best video thank you for sharing
Great video idea ❤❤❤
Thank you so much xxx
Hello Louise I am so thankful for this video, and what an excellent presentation you delivered. my may "PROBLEM", is saying "NO". For example I find it hard to say I am sorry but I am unable to do it today or sorry I cannot do it, or sorry I have a lot to do today.. I always put other people first before me, so I get stress, overwhelm, etc, etc and so on. I also find it hard to talk about it. I have started writing a journal and writing start stories. Anyway sorry for wasting your time.. Take Care. AP
Lovely video Xx
I needed this today! I opened a Diet Coke at 10am today…after coffee 🤦♀️
Thank you
Would LOVE a video on people pleasing if you’d be interested in making a video about it and ways you try to combat it. Feel like it gets in the way of so much in my life and in trying to please everyone, I end up hurting people or myself in the process. Would love your perspective xxx
Very informative
Omg you saying about not wanting to bother the doctors in covid made me think of when I got knocked off my bike on the way to get my horse in. I just got up and carried on because I had to and thought it would get better. I only went to the doctors because it was on the way home and because I still couldn't straighten my arm. I went and pressed the buzzer and the first thing I said was I'm sorry I don't know if I should be here but I came off my bike and I can't straighten my arm... Turns out I had cracked my elbow. I wasn't going to go because they had people that actually NEEDED their help.
Needed to hear this today. Dropped my clingy 9 month old off at nursery for a settling session and was going to rush home and clean and do all the jobs. Instead I saw this and thought no I’m going to have lunch and sit alone in silence 😂
for some people who have experienced significant trauma, a coping strategy was to propel themselves from project to project, always keeping busy. covid halted everyone's plans and that coping mechanism was taken away. working in MH i noticed covid removed a lot of people's ability to use this coping mechanism. those people then experienced burnout and sudden depression and anxiety
Great video thank you. I struggle with this regularly. I do wonder how you know if it’s burn out rather than a mental illness like depression.
Slightly unrelated but i would love a video from you about masking/people pleasing etc, no pressure for making it but i think you could have some good points about it to share if you do!
I'm still in the midst of that so probably don't have loads to say on it other than - I KEEP DOING IT, haha! xxx
Aloha sprinklerinos
Alooooha xxxx
I laughed so hard when you said pregnancy level tired .. that is epic tired
Louise may I ask what you use for your pink hair? It looks like it always washes out without staining your hair, from a fellow blondie wanting a bit of a change up x
I realte to what you say I went through a time of burnout
This is so relatable. I also had burnouts in 2015 whilst in the last year of my degree. I had to defer it. I also had a burnout in 2020 when my job got too much and I went to the doctors and never went back. That was just before the pandemic as if I sensed what was to come as well. I was diagnosed with ADHD this year. My son is autistic and ADHD. I really have to be mindful and pace myself, I live much more slower than I used to. I've not been able to work for several years now. It's a real journey. Thanks for sharing xxx
I'm in a constant state of burnout.
I would love to know more about if you've looked more into being Neurodivergent, because, hard relate!