The youngest child stereotypes ACTUALLY affect them

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  • Each sibling has their own set of stereotypes, and the youngest child is no exception. How do stereotypes actually affect us as the youngest? I think it goes deeper than most people think. In this video, we take a look at how some of them affected me as I grew up, and now as an adult.
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    Stereotypes are often formed unconsciously. It's not as though someone sat down and decided how we should think about our birth order. Even psychology is behind the game on this one, with outdated research and unstable assumptions. In reality, stereotypes are formed by the story we tell ourselves. The narrative we give the experience of our life and our sibling's life. In many ways stereotypes preload the way we interpret the world, priming us for our experience. They shape our worldview and how we experience certain situations.
    The three takeaways, first of all, what is your identity? What story are you telling yourself? Change your story, change your life, as Tony Robbins says.
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  • @But_I_am_a_Gilmore
    @But_I_am_a_Gilmore 2 місяці тому +35

    Older siblings think we’re the favorite because we’re being treated like a child- which we are children. But then when we grow up they don’t realize we’re still being treated like a child.

  • @M1KU_BLUEHAIR
    @M1KU_BLUEHAIR 3 місяці тому +45

    Same I keep people saying “Youngest is so spoiled!” “There the favorite!” And stuff and it’s annoying. We get left out, we’re not the favorite.

    • @veebot75
      @veebot75 Місяць тому +2

      In any good family, there is no favourite. The love should be shared equally amongst all children.

  • @redfatseal2407
    @redfatseal2407 10 місяців тому +183

    As someone who’s sick as being portrayed as the devil in every damn TikTok video I feel honored watching this.

    • @anonymousnation5235
      @anonymousnation5235 7 місяців тому +6

      I've been wronged a lot by my family so I enjoy being called devil. Once you know your true self and what you want, these titles don't really affect you.

    • @redfatseal2407
      @redfatseal2407 7 місяців тому +2

      @@anonymousnation5235 Yeah, it's just that no matter how good you are people are gonna hate on us no matter what. Sometimes I feel like if they are gonna hate me I might as well do something to deserve it

    • @anonymousnation5235
      @anonymousnation5235 7 місяців тому +2

      @@redfatseal2407 yep exactly

    • @xx_sugarcube_xx8170
      @xx_sugarcube_xx8170 6 місяців тому +2

      Same lol

    • @altalune-9
      @altalune-9 2 місяці тому +1

      OMG YES those made me so mad

  • @DICEBOY22
    @DICEBOY22 3 місяці тому +22

    Growing up in school people walking up to me and " oh hey your ____'s little brother right? " Really annoyed me and discouraged my worth as a person.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  3 місяці тому +3

      yeah that can get super annoying

    • @DICEBOY22
      @DICEBOY22 3 місяці тому +3

      It's like... I HAVE A NAME!

  • @nothingsreallynew
    @nothingsreallynew Рік тому +69

    Im the youngest sibling and i always get stereotyped on how oh i get everything but no im alone. My siblings leave me out it feels like they hate me tbh cause they dont understand it hurts us and makes a change to our livex.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  Рік тому +1

      Thanks for sharing

    • @bronwilson2390
      @bronwilson2390 9 місяців тому +7

      Exactly!! Even when going shopping with the whole family, my parents walk together at the back, my sisters walk together at the front, and I'm just stuck by myself in the middle. And I never feel comfortable talking in front of everyone, because I always got shouted at when I was younger for being "annoying" for talking

    • @mioko2974
      @mioko2974 6 місяців тому +4

      @@bronwilson2390even as an adult, I get called annoying by my older siblings and cousins. It’s even more exemplified by the fact I have autism.

    • @yourlocalraven489
      @yourlocalraven489 6 місяців тому +1

      They have a reason why they leave you out.

    • @yourlocalraven489
      @yourlocalraven489 6 місяців тому

      And you are the youngest.

  • @Stellybellyhaha
    @Stellybellyhaha Рік тому +81

    My older sisters always get spoiled, and guess what! I’m the YOUNGEST. YEAH. I don’t get spoiled or get knew things, it’s hand me downs, I do all the chores I can, and get yelled at the most. My siblings blame me for things I don’t do, and that’s just part of being a youngest.

    • @jamburga321
      @jamburga321 3 місяці тому

      Interesting

    • @npc.21269
      @npc.21269 2 місяці тому

      Same

    • @SkullVideoss
      @SkullVideoss 2 місяці тому +1

      And I always get the least attention and gifts too. It should be even. And then I’m “lucky”

    • @mariamraies279
      @mariamraies279 Місяць тому +2

      I know right and then they all end up saying the youngest have the easiest life

  • @ClementineShmementine
    @ClementineShmementine Рік тому +93

    I had a closet. I hate the term princess- I was neglected not given more freedom

  • @lxns_metanoia
    @lxns_metanoia 5 місяців тому +26

    I once heard "kids act up because they need their parents' attention"
    Which makes sense because parents have given most of their efforts and attention to the older siblings. They were more careful, scrutinizing of their parental skills, they want to do everything right, etc. All while balancing their personal lives/problems as an individual- I understand how it can get exhausting.
    By the time we come around, they're kind of over it, they have separate expectations from their kids, but *in their minds* they're treating all their children the same lol.
    So then, the youngest grow up not realizing the dynamic is different, because they only know what they see and how they're treated. Deep down, we may notice we don't see the same attentiveness as our siblings got.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  5 місяців тому +1

      Wow that's really insightful. I love what you said about they think they are still treating us all the same. So true

  • @AndrewWYT
    @AndrewWYT 2 роки тому +73

    your line about stereotypes we tell ourselves was so fire.. im an oldest child and helped me step back and think about what my siblings might be going through.. great video man

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  2 роки тому +2

      Glad you enjoyed, I appreciate the feedback!

  • @yuichiro6113
    @yuichiro6113 Рік тому +69

    I think the hardest part for me is seeing your older siblings slowly moving out. I grew up with 3 siblings and them moving out really hits deep if that makes sense. Walking past their empty rooms and sitting in your room alone does get lonely .

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  Рік тому +7

      Yeah very true

    • @damusaetrum6742
      @damusaetrum6742 5 місяців тому +2

      I had the same experience

    • @user-ng1ov4zj5r
      @user-ng1ov4zj5r 2 місяці тому +2

      Opposite to me, my big brother and sister are in their 30s and don't get married. They're acting like Peter pan. And I am sick of them treating me like a baby. I want them to get married🤭

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl Місяць тому +1

      My sister is going to be mad she can't annoy me anymore 😂

  • @bigskibidiohiorizz
    @bigskibidiohiorizz Рік тому +39

    All these comments for the youngest are so true. This is so hard when I just say one thing about my sisters they say i’m spoiled, and i’m a brat, and i get all the attention. I hate the feeling of this and my sisters never understand how hard it really does hurt. I feel you all

  • @user-vj5ss7gj8m
    @user-vj5ss7gj8m 4 місяці тому +10

    I am the youngest in my family. I only have one sibling and I constantly feel unseen by my parents. When i was in year 7 (starting high school in Australia) my brother was in year nine (2 years into high school), this meant my family focused on their studies and the fact that their grades matter more at that point. But when i was in year nine my brother was in year 11 and was doing all the harder tests. At family gatherings normally the cousins talk to my brother about school but don't really ask me. My brother thinks that i'm my parents favourite because I am the youngest but it's because I had a better attitude with my parents and I was just generally easier to handle. I feel like all my achievements are always overshadowed by his, so I quit anything that we are both good at or that he's better than me at and I force myself to choose paths that he's never done before even if I would rather do the other. This video has helped me realise I can be my own person and my life shouldn't be defines by his.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  4 місяці тому +1

      Wow thanks for this comment. I'm so glad to hear this could help!

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl Місяць тому

      I hope my little sister will be lonely🎉

  • @Unforgivably_yours
    @Unforgivably_yours 7 місяців тому +19

    Thank you… my older brothers are 2 years apart but I am 8-6 years apart from them I recently found out from a private convo I heard that one of my brothers ignores me on propose. And all these years I was waiting for him to talk to me have a friendship like him and my other brother had when I left my childhood and grew up faster because BOTH of my brothers I felt like I had to “grow up” for them to love me this started when I was 8. Then they moved out and it made me lonelier because even though we didn’t have a relationship I had a peace of mind that they were there.. and it lead me to push them away because i found myself holding grudges against them from childhood experiences of them pushing them away so I resented them and leaned towards being more independent because I wouldn’t wanna hurt myself letting someone in and not knowing if they will hang out with me for 5 minutes or they wanna be my sibling. Leading to trust issues. And apart of me pushing them away was proving to them that I I didn’t need them and trying to show that I am not the annoying little sibling anymore. Plus being the youngest sibling finding yourself getting awards were SHAMEDDD because somehow everything I did it was so much easier for me to get. I would force myself to be alone even though I wanted to talk to someone about my struggles but I had too because if I wasent silent, they wouldn’t hear me. If that makes sense. I had to prove to them that I don’t need you, if you don’t wanna be bothered by me then don’t. After I started distracting myself and moving away I realized I could go 3-5 weeks without a “Hello” from them which would make me mentally battle myself because I wanted my silence to be heard because words don’t work which led me to rebelling a Lot so silence if my way of yelling at people. I’ve always felt ignored by my siblings they didn’t wanna talk, play with me or just be around me but they were there for each other which I hated and held against them and ignoring them is probably weirdly the thing I’m most pasionage about because if I prove them wrong I feel like I would get satisfaction proving I can grow up just like you. I threw away my toys I started mirroring teen personalities on the internet so they would like me and I found myself in my teen years looking back seeing how I threw my childhood for them because that’s how much I wanted to have a relationship, to prove them wrong. Nobody talks about this enough and I would sit in my bed in cry because you can’t trust friends. But even though I held grudges, resented them, pushed them away they were still my brothers and I needed them. And hearing them say they ignored me on PORPOSE woke me. Because even before they said that I would always want their attention that I never got which led me to needing words of validation from friends, relationships, any form of relationship. Then when my silence was not loud enough I rebelled so all the attention was on me like a cry for help that I WANTED them to notice. Because I was never like that till I noticed a pattern in how my siblings treat me. And being the youngest left me with a weird obsession and fear of death because my mom had me at 38 while my siblings were born way earlier. I would constantly think mainly in my teen teen years that when I have kids will they be around. And just thinking about it that’s why I always needed noise like the tv in the background because death was all I could think about.Being the youngest isn’t as easy as people make it seem

  • @StrawberryShortcake_15
    @StrawberryShortcake_15 3 місяці тому +7

    As the youngest child,my parents are so strict w/ me bc im "spoiled". If anything i am neglected and depressed bc of it.

  • @janemeier929
    @janemeier929 2 місяці тому +4

    I think the worst part of being the youngest sibling is, that we are being held back. At least in my experience (youngest of 5) i was always kept back by my parents. In their eyes (or at least my mother thought that) I was the child, who should have stayed the longest. I was their "baby".. I struggled really long with growing up, because I was told, that I shouldn't. I was told, and in fact internalized, that I am supposed to stay young and dependent. And all the people on the internet told me, that I had it easy, because my parents didn't expect me to grow up and be responsible at a young age (something oldest siblings struggle with apparently). Or that I was always allowed everything, because my parents treat me best.. Its hard.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  2 місяці тому +1

      That's really hard when someone is in that position. Thanks for sharing

  • @zarasmith2329
    @zarasmith2329 Рік тому +32

    People always say that the youngest get everything they want, the actual case is:
    Hand me downs. I literally only had like 4 items of clothes that had been bought FOR ME everything else was from my sister (now I'm older I get to buy clothes more often)
    All my friends saying : "omg you can tell your the youngest child your parents are so nice to you" (they treat us all the same)
    This is kinda just personal but my friends saying "your soo lucky to be the youngest you must get literally anything you want" LIKE NO THAT AINT HOW IT WORKS
    being called spoilt just because I don't like certain foods, my parents don't buy me that food. In my defence I literally like THROW UP when I eat cheese (-not dairy I just hate the taste) but my sister just doesn't like chicken and she has low iron and stuff so she needs to eat more meats to help her so my parents make her eat it.
    My point: STOP stereotyping youngest children!

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  Рік тому

      This sounds remarkably like my childhood haha. I’ve only met a handful of people that don’t like cheese, I couldn’t stand it until a few years ago

    • @zarasmith2329
      @zarasmith2329 Рік тому

      @@AustinSchrock I can't stand the smell or the taste lol. To the point where I order domino's with no cheese and only sauce 🤫

    • @lessismore8533
      @lessismore8533 Рік тому +1

      I’m not the youngest but sometimes the stereotypes ARE true! It varies from family to family. The youngest in mine is EXTREMELY spoiled by my mom and he uses that to his advantage to annoy me and get away with it

  • @ChloeEditzChloe
    @ChloeEditzChloe 10 місяців тому +24

    There is pros and cons in each sibiling order us youngest aren't always the favorite in my family im ignored and seen as a disappointment since my sister is " the smart one of the family " and my brother " the handsome and talent one of the family" and while I have all of the above they see me as the disappointment and " spoiled brat " as my sibilings say, I love them a'lot and want only the best for them but my sister said to my brother " I dont know she could be have the most fucking annoying personality" when I was only 11, and when ever I try to fake my personality since everyone hates it I'm called " cop cat " and comments like " she's so cringey trying to act like ____ " so yeah and also to add more to the batch im always told to shut up I'm also seen as a little kid when Im in my mid teen years im 14-16 so yeah no our life isn't just butterflies and happiness. My family constantly blame me for everything bad that happens in the family, even if I wasnt even there so basicly im like the scapegoat, but you know lately I've gotten used to it and just tried to ignore it.

  • @NadaAlawadhi
    @NadaAlawadhi Рік тому +33

    Thank you for taking on this subject and taking on the struggles we’ve been through on a deep level instead of the typical stereotypes everyone else talks about. It makes me feel validated and understood.
    Secondly you should praise yourself for having this self awareness at a young age.
    I didn’t start to figure myself out and start to sort through the issues I’ve been through and point out the issues that were caused just from my birth order until I was 27. And I was able to notice how first I put walls and barriers around me and then resented the world for not understanding me. When those walls were of my own doing. And the second major issue is that I had no self esteem because I relied on praise and accomplishments to feel seen and to gain my confidence.
    Unfortunately when point these things out to my family, they don’t take it seriously they think I’m blaming them and they get defensive and shrug it off and go back to the you were spoiled stereotype. And that’s not why I say it, I say it so they pay attention to our nieces and nephews now because I don’t want them to feel the way I did.
    And just like you say it, I would never want to change any of it, because those things shaped who I am today. And I’m good with this version.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  Рік тому

      I'm so glad you felt validated and understood by this, that was may main goal for making this video! It's such a complicated subject and i've gotten such good feedback from many people, it means a lot.
      Thanks for sharing some of your experience, I resonated with much of it. One of the final things I've learned is that we all have good points and bad points, and since we are all unique, the only comparison that’s worth having is comparing yourself to who you were in the past, and seeing if you have changed or grown. Keep at it

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl Місяць тому

      Life is very unfair and it's the parents and teachers fault 😢

  • @mioko2974
    @mioko2974 6 місяців тому +11

    The “you deserve to be punished” hit me so hard as a youngest sibling. My brother constantly resented me and talked down to me for being the youngest, calling me things like a spoiled brat, and a she-demon. He even blamed mom’s cancer, his diabetes, and 9/11 on me being born because it all coincidentally happened in 2001. It led me to believe that I was a horrible person, that I should hate myself, and punish myself if my parents wouldn’t punish me for existing. I spent my entire childhood suicidal starting at age 7, attempting multiple times and failing. I had insomnia from ages 9-14 and would roam the house in the dark, wondering if I could undo my life with the kitchen knife. I never asked for anything extra, and at one point developed an ED because I believed that having 3 meals a day was too much for me if I didn’t work a 9-5. I stayed in my room all hours of the day bc I didn’t have any energy for anything. I’m just now trying to recover from this as an adult, but my brother still tries to throw me under the bus and tell our mom that I don’t do anything when I’m cleaning up his messes in the kitchen and our bathroom constantly. I don’t even want a “thanks” I’m just tired of him constantly trying to ruin my life.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  6 місяців тому

      Thanks for sharing

    • @Rachelnsophie
      @Rachelnsophie 4 місяці тому +1

      Omg that’s horrible

    • @PrettyBoots
      @PrettyBoots 4 місяці тому

      I agree with @kristina2272. You don't need to clean up after siblings. Let your mom see the messes he leaves around. Talking to your mom about him would be great; if she doesn't listen, there are other people to talk to, too. By the way, my story was very similar to yours, and I'm finding therapy very, very healing. I'm seeing a trauma therapist.

    • @mioko2974
      @mioko2974 4 місяці тому +1

      @kristinaj2272 yeah I mainly cleaned up after him even though he was horrible to me about it because if nobody cleans… his messes can be absolutely SEPTIC. I’m talking random sediments all over the bathroom floor, dirty handprints on the fridge, mud caked inside of his backpack, beard shavings just left in the sink- not even rinsed out, overflowing trash, and black dirt in the bottom of the bathtub. I just wanted a clean space to do my business. I’m moving out now, though, and not cleaning his messes anymore. He’s 5 years older than me, he can do it himself.

    • @StrawberryShortcake_15
      @StrawberryShortcake_15 3 місяці тому +1

      I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. May God bless you throughout life ❤

  • @FelixFelicis3267
    @FelixFelicis3267 8 місяців тому +11

    Its so funny how we're with ourselves the most out of anybody in the whole world and yet we're so easily warped after being seen as nothing but the presumptions and labels of others.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  8 місяців тому +1

      Very true. It's a challenge for me to not do this for others

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl Місяць тому

      It's because they had annoying siblings😢 I have one and it's annoying 😢

  • @user-li2gx3ef8y
    @user-li2gx3ef8y 7 місяців тому +9

    for me : "your too young"
    for my sister : "okay sure, be back before 8! "

  • @SelkieGirl
    @SelkieGirl Місяць тому +3

    One of my older siblings thought he was the typical forgotten middle child. HE WAS THE SECOND YOUNGEST OUT OF _FIVE._ WE WERE _ALL_ FORGOTTEN ABOUT! Plus, the actual middle child was the only afab who never spoke to any of us.

  • @xx_sugarcube_xx8170
    @xx_sugarcube_xx8170 6 місяців тому +8

    Also it’s more difficult to find baby pictures and videos of the youngest because the parents would want to document their first child’s growth, but when it comes to the youngest the parents have already made photographs and memories with the first child and can’t really be bothered to do it all over again for the 2nd child

    • @xx_sugarcube_xx8170
      @xx_sugarcube_xx8170 6 місяців тому +2

      Especially when your family come over to watch home videos I would be in like one shot ( at least that’s what I’ve noticed I’ve the years )

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl Місяць тому +1

      I accidentally deleted my baby pictures💩

  • @Nh4pifi3r
    @Nh4pifi3r Місяць тому +4

    As the youngest child, i was told that i was spoiled by my family. everyone always joked around about me being a "demon," until it wasnt a joke anymore. they would give my brother more attention than they gave to me because they always thought i was up to mischief. they always called my brother humble and kind, while they called me a spoiled kid. it happened so much that i just decided to "play the part" one day. I made fun of my brother like he did with me. i talked back to people. id get all defensive. id steal my brothers stuff. thats what everyone else saw. what they didnt see at the time is when id return his stuff and apologize, when id cry over not being the same age as my brother, when my brother criticized my interests, when i felt the need to put up a wall and push everyone away because i felt like i was just a spoiled kid who had weird interests. because of that, i never figured out who i truly was. i never asked myself what i want to be, or anything like that. i feel attacked over any little thing now. when people joke around about me, i feel betrayed and i quiet down the entire time. i close myself off. all because i neved figured out who i was.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  Місяць тому +1

      Thanks for sharing your experience

  • @Indigoisaspookyghost
    @Indigoisaspookyghost Рік тому +8

    My older brother is moving out tomorrow. I’ve always shared a room with him or my eldest brother, and it’s.. really weird to think about sleeping in a room alone. I don’t like it. I.. don’t want to be in a silent house. I don’t want to do holidays alone. I don’t want to be alone. I hate how we always get called spoiled- I’m the most ignored.

  • @jdx3738
    @jdx3738 Місяць тому +3

    Im youngest of four and at 21 I still remain the "child" of our family. Especially the eldest forgets i grow up just like he does. He doesnt know how to interact/have serious conversations with me, because he expects me not to comprehend. To him i will always be defined by my childlike charactertraits like "enthousiast". I brought this up with my dad and even he admits that it will most likely take for me to become a parent for this to change. This and the fact they're all strongminded people and are relatively succesful leaves me still feeling like a child and incapable to this day.

  • @user-pf8xg9fp5h
    @user-pf8xg9fp5h 2 місяці тому +3

    As a oldest child in a big family, all these personal experiences in the comments this video made me think more of how I treat the youngest child of my family. I’ve always been more focused on parenting and things going on in my life instead of thinking how it could affect my siblings. Thanks for this video!

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  2 місяці тому

      Thanks for commenting!

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl Місяць тому

      If your siblings annoy you for so long it's very annoying😢

  • @Citrus_cyrus
    @Citrus_cyrus 4 місяці тому +4

    Being the youngest means my parents get tired of parenting me, the oldest gets tired of me being clingy, the older siblings (oldest & middle) Move out, and having to live with the reality that our childhood family wont be at our funeral because they'd be dead, we would be at their funerals though.

  • @RoseMoon2
    @RoseMoon2 26 днів тому +1

    Sending a big hug to all my fellow youngest siblings 🫂 It's a little sad but also in a way really nice to see how similar our experiences are as the youngest and that we were never all alone in our experience despite feeling/having felt so alone in it

  • @TaiV977
    @TaiV977 Рік тому +8

    It feels terrible when my parents pay more attention to my older sister; I know they love me but don't show it to me. She would get more attention from them (I never got that unless it was about grades). Yes, she dealt with a lot, and I respect her for it, but I did, too. I try to get my mother to talk to me and get an "uh-huh" or a "Hold on honey, I'm talking to your sister." My Father and I have been bonding more on things he likes, but I never got affection from either of them... I never got to experience my teenage years with friends because when I tried to go out or my friends invited me to the mall, or somewhere, I would ask my parents. They would say "I'll tell you in a few days." They would forget, so I would ask them again two days later just for a "no." This happens 90% of the time... to this day, when I go out, I feel anxious and think about what my parents would say if I stayed out long, I get anxious and have the urge to go home soon. The one choice I don't regret at all and that I would do again if I could, is to go to Ohio with my friend to see my female best friend. I didn't have to burden myself in my pity.

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  Рік тому +1

      Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m sorry it is that way

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl Місяць тому

      It's also terrible when parents pay more attention to my sister 😢

  • @catzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
    @catzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz 13 днів тому +3

    as the youngest child, these stereotypes made my suicidal thoughts worse cause my older brother started believing these stereotypes and started calling me spoiled and names… yeah😐

  • @GeckoTech_Engineer
    @GeckoTech_Engineer 2 місяці тому +6

    And if we are spoiled by are parents (which WILL fuck up a child’s personality) it gets blamed and pitted against us as if we did it

  • @melissamccole6528
    @melissamccole6528 2 роки тому +14

    Thanks so much for the is video, never thought I'd relate to something so deeply, I've been closing myself off from others in fear of what they'd think of me, they just don't understand, and yet this has given me a reason to continue with life, thank you! 😄

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for taking the time to comment, you are so welcome!

  • @JTINJAPAN
    @JTINJAPAN Рік тому +9

    THIS DESCRIBES MY LIFE SO ACCURATELY IT’S SCARY

  • @IHEARTCOQUETTECLOTHES.777
    @IHEARTCOQUETTECLOTHES.777 17 днів тому +2

    I recently got into a little argument with my younger sister. I know its kind of douchey but i looked up "why are younger siblings so badly behaved" and i saw this video and it honestly gave me perspective of what younger siblings go through. Thank you. I think i am going to keep this in mind next time i feel like this.

  • @HappyThoughts-HAPPY-THOU-xx3gm
    @HappyThoughts-HAPPY-THOU-xx3gm 23 дні тому +2

    It does matter how hard you hit them. YOU. STILL. HIT THEM. If you used that excuse for a spouse or your child you’d be arrested. Don’t use it as an excuse for abusing your sibling.

  • @RoseMoon2
    @RoseMoon2 26 днів тому +1

    Honestly thanks for this video it felt so validating to finally hear someone say these things that I've been always thinking about

  • @JoyfulJoJo_7113
    @JoyfulJoJo_7113 2 місяці тому +4

    My brothers always tease me and I'm really sensitive and my parents never yell at my brothers cause theyre older. It's so annoying my brothers are 2 years apart and they have a built in best friend I have no one I'm the odd one out

  • @Space_Cowboy_Revolver
    @Space_Cowboy_Revolver 2 місяці тому +2

    I'm the youngest of four and the most responsible of the bunch. I have nothing in common with my other siblings outside of having the same parents.

  • @haze_was_here
    @haze_was_here 29 днів тому +3

    My siblings don't leave me out of stuff. But truth is, i hate getting stereotyped all the goddamn time. I get blamed for every single fcking thing that goes wrong. I sick of getting babied by everyone.

  • @a_asp829
    @a_asp829 2 місяці тому +4

    When my little brother do anything to me hes not wrong AT ALL and when i do back I AM THE PROBLEM

  • @premahallikeri4831
    @premahallikeri4831 Місяць тому +1

    My maternal grandparents were both the eldest in their families. The case of my parents is that my mom was the eldest & my dad the youngest.

  • @lessismore8533
    @lessismore8533 Рік тому +7

    I’m the middle child. Im NOT gonna say the stereotypes are always wrong. It varies from family to family. Stereo are like cliches. They are created by a popular idea. There’s a reason it became popular. Sadly I grew up with a MANIPULATIVE baby sibling who was INDEED spoiled because my mom never corrected him like she did all the older kids. He lives his life correction FREE and used his privileges to manipulate me to get what he wanted. He has 2 other siblings but picked on me the MOST. So I feel I have every right to dislike him. Good video tho. Nice thoughts

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  Рік тому +1

      Thanks for the feedback

    • @lessismore8533
      @lessismore8533 Рік тому

      @@AustinSchrock cool you’re welcome

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl Місяць тому

      That's very true what if your baby sibling comes to this video and says they are lonely 😂

  • @csbining
    @csbining 2 роки тому +8

    wow i relate to this so much. thank you

  • @randymarsh8974
    @randymarsh8974 8 місяців тому +2

    Always the peace maker in my family. As I’ve gotten older, my sister is trying to use me as a scape goat on why it’s okay she relies on my mom so much at 30. To keep her 4th man around. “He’s saving money for us a home, that’s why he doesn’t pay for anything”. When I was little I was played against whoever someone was mad at. I learned to use this anxiety as a drive. Now as an adult. If I refuse to side with whoever is causing drama at the time. Don’t agree and fake who I am to make them happy. They turn that energy against me. It sucks, I’m an ex addict now. I’m very lucky my suicide attempt failed as a kid. If my parents wouldn’t have allowed me to shoot heroin in my bedroom as a teen, I would not be alive rn. So praise heroin even tho I can’t have it anymore :(. Fucked up when heroin acts saves your life…

  • @erinames7783
    @erinames7783 4 місяці тому +3

    This makes perfect sense to me. I am the youngest and at 47 I feel like I am still trying to figure out who I am. I was shaken to my sole when my oldest brother suddenly died when he was 43. I almost had to start again learning who I was again. Being the youngest may have perks but it sure isnt as easy as our older siblings think.

  • @KoolT
    @KoolT 7 місяців тому +2

    Family members put you down the worse

  • @jklmnopqrs388
    @jklmnopqrs388 6 місяців тому +2

    so true as the youngest i can relate 10/10

  • @st.commodus1437
    @st.commodus1437 22 дні тому +2

    I need help asap. Im the oldest and my parents are emotionally immature so i find myself repairing the damage done to my youngest sibling. What can i do so my brother doesnt grow up feeling alone and misunderstood. I know what thats like and id hate for him to feel the way i have. Please help

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  22 дні тому

      Oh that’s really hard to answer without knowing the situations. For myself I know it meant a lot when my older siblings asked for my opinion and specifically when they asked for my help. Being the youngest meant I was always going to them for help and it was really helped our relationship when they started coming to me. Especially when I knew they didn’t have to have my opinion, but were asking because that’s what family does

  • @oliviajohnson8457
    @oliviajohnson8457 13 днів тому +1

    I freaking hate these stereotypes! Kids around the age 12 to abt 16 have committed and we wonder why! It’s getting out of hand and I hate not being able to talk to anyone about my feelings without them invalidating them just because I’m the youngest. And I do have a little experience with the whole neglect thing. My parents don’t neglect me but I don’t think that we are more payed attention to than everyone else. Of course my older siblings need my parents attention a lot for school stuff jobs and cars which is a big convo and takes up time. But overall I think in this generation children are more mature than their siblings from my experience in certain ways when it comes to arguments between you and your siblings. But another topic is the whole alpha generation which literally if you even JUST made it into alpha gen you are IMMEDIATELY sorted into these boxes that sometimes are not true at all! And about I think gen z being politically active and that they know and care abt that stuff. I know someone who can name immediately 10 problems we all should know abt and care about!

  • @anonymousnation5235
    @anonymousnation5235 7 місяців тому +1

    Changing my story?? Yup that would be very helpful. I can be whatever i want to be and completely reject the idea of me being spoiled and irresponsible or burden on adults. Thank you for this ❤

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  7 місяців тому

      You’re welcome!

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl Місяць тому +1

      When siblings get spoiled and annoy you are the worst😢

  • @verymev
    @verymev Рік тому +3

    I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL (I’m Christian so this was pretty cool)😊

  • @ghostlove4153
    @ghostlove4153 Рік тому +1

    Also I haven't finished the video yet but I dont feel like my own person I feel like my personality is just bits and pieces if my siblings personalities

  • @N33KSUUUUU
    @N33KSUUUUU 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you

  • @shane1948
    @shane1948 2 роки тому +2

    What's your Myers briggs personality type?

  • @nuhajotinuha9831
    @nuhajotinuha9831 Рік тому +1

    Can't be more Trueeeeee brooooo💅

  • @KoolT
    @KoolT 7 місяців тому +1

    5:41 i got resentful too

  • @joyceadegboyega8524
    @joyceadegboyega8524 Рік тому +1

    Same here .

  • @kennethgithinji5631
    @kennethgithinji5631 9 місяців тому

    I'm basically alone as a lastborn. Thank God I like it

  • @couldntholdacandle6681
    @couldntholdacandle6681 2 місяці тому

    I am apparently the spoilt child and the favourite. 😂 In my family if Dad said you where his favourite it didn't mean that you were the most loved. It meant you'd won lotto 😂 which meant he wasn't happy with you. Here is the thing my older siblings moved out and it left my parents with more money so they could afford a colour tv for the lounge room. Whoopy doopy 😂 I wasn't allowed to watch it. They didn't buy it for me.

  • @DennyBlessedDCT
    @DennyBlessedDCT Рік тому +3

    So much to comment on! 1) Another Great Video! Whether or not you realize it yet, God has gifted you with a uniquely intuitive mind. 2) Don't be indoctrinated by others narrative like so many people who are lazy. 3) Without God, nothing matters. 4) Be who God created you to be, that's where you will find true fulfillment and success! 5) I'm very impressed by who you are becoming as a young man as you continue your quest for understanding! Your desire to achieve is having the very positive side effect of building others up!! That's very rare in the day and age that you are growing up in! 6) I'm old enough to be your grandfather and yet finding great reminders of truths that I've learned over my lifetime through your content. 7) SO PLEASE CONTINUE to seek out knowledge and add to that wisdom. Continue to use the discerning mind that God has given you. It's changing lives for the better and that in and of itself is a great achievement!!😇

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  Рік тому +3

      Thank you so much for commenting! I couldn’t agree more with what you said, especially 3 and 4. So true

  • @Devin_Dean
    @Devin_Dean 7 місяців тому

    What if you don’t have a baseline identify and that’s part of the problem?

  • @Ebonhydra
    @Ebonhydra Рік тому +2

    Those stereotypes are complete wrong to my family I get all the hand me downs I’m here with a iPhone seven while the rest of my family have iPhone 14s lol

    • @AustinSchrock
      @AustinSchrock  Рік тому +1

      Interesting! I guess everyone is a little different :)

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl Місяць тому

      They are different for everyone

  • @twoofAKiiind
    @twoofAKiiind Рік тому +2

    the intro is too long for me bro

  • @ClementineShmementine
    @ClementineShmementine Рік тому +3

    I have always called myself invisible

  • @Mirian_Garcia
    @Mirian_Garcia Рік тому +2

    You don’t have to change anything, being the youngest is great!❤❤❤

  • @SpiceyMojo
    @SpiceyMojo 8 місяців тому +1

    this video is very low vibrational

  • @spamemail485
    @spamemail485 Рік тому +4

    the oldest sibling wouldn't have made this video, just sayin...

    • @Trashe_can
      @Trashe_can Рік тому

      Ok

    • @PrincessKaren
      @PrincessKaren Рік тому +1

      Okay and...

    • @EloiseTan-rm3gl
      @EloiseTan-rm3gl Місяць тому

      It's because they had a bad youngest sibling so they would think everyone had a terrific one

  • @terrybyrd3738
    @terrybyrd3738 Рік тому +3

    I came from a family with 8 kids (I'm the youngest).
    The hardest thing I deal with is not being recognized while in a lead position, and I refuse to be a follower. My happy spot is to be a Doer .. if others don't like it - they can step back!
    There's so much more to say on this subject that I can only jot down thots:
    * The only way to amend your pre-disposed concept of yourself is to find what fits with you, and pursue it.
    * If I become a tool for 'their' expectations, I will never develope to my fullest.
    * Establish your own personality and goals.
    * Advice is good, but always (always) filter out the crap.
    * Thanks for the advice y'all .. but that don't fit with the way I do things.
    * You can say anything you want using both tact and respect.
    * Rejection creates hurt .. arrogance creates animosity. That's in any relationship .. but magnified with siblings.
    * They mean well .. but they ain' walkin in your shoes.
    * Convenient schizophrenia is soooo tempting .. but a level head keeps the play field wide open.
    * Separation is great .. but silence is submission.
    * Shocker - sometimes it ain' about you .. Do for others what You expect!
    * You're allowed to get over both yourself and others.