Divorce and Remarriage (a Conversation with Pastor John Carroll)
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- Опубліковано 16 тра 2021
- I sit down again with Pastor John Carroll to discuss the subject of divorce and remarriage from the totality of the Scriptures. We cover Deuteronomy 24, Matthew 5, Matthew 19, and Malachi 2.
John's book on the subject can be found here: www.amazon.com/Introduction-D...
You can get in touch with John through Facebook (John C. Carroll) or Instagram (@calvinismmyway). John also hosts a UA-cam Channel (@ForwardTalk).
It never ceases to amaze me how much I was taught incorrectly while I was in the denominational churches.
I could never get a definite outline about divorce and remarriage because there were so many different opinions added without contextual knowledge of the Law.
Great video!
I am glad wecould add to your understanding.
Wow, I'm 62 and this is the first time I've heard divorce explained this way, thank you. I'm divorced and I did my due diligence studying this topic and never saw it the way y'all just explained. And this is yet another topic, of an every increasing number of topics, wrongly addressed by the main stream churches. I used to love Bible study in church, but no more, because it's just too hard to go against the lies accepted by the majority, we've inherited from our fathers.
This is encouraging to me.
Thanks so much, this has been really helpful & 👉 encouraging as well - thanks ❗️
I am thankful that it was helpful,
the divorce is not a sin....the options are to reconcile or to remain unmarried...
Matthew I appreciate your content. May Yah bless you and your family shalom
Also ,Where can i hear his Sermons??
All this heresy comes out of the reformation. All twist scripture to suit their own desires. Matthew 19:9 is an an exclusive clause because the word ei was added by Erasmus to change what Jesus said. It should read whoever divorces even over pornia and marries another commits adultery. We live in trouble days where God’s scripture is mocked and can make it mean anything you want it to say.
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32, and Matthew 19:9. However, the example of a wife in Matthew 5 and Matthew 19 is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39.
Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel.
The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death.
The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ's death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15.
Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife.
Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one's unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15.
Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16.
The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions.
The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24.
Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
There are a few other scriptures that are often taken out of context to allow another marriage while still in a one-flesh covenant with the first. The first of these scriptures is in Jeremiah 3:8 where God is seen speaking through the prophet Jeremiah, to Israel, as He puts her away with a certificate of divorce. Jeremiah 3:8 says, "8And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also." As you can see God is giving Israel a divorce with the precept given to them for by Moses, for their hard hearts, in Deuteronomy 24:1-4. I am about to prove to you, with the following verse in Jeremiah 3:14, which is six verses later, that God does not recognize divorce as ending a marriage that he brought together in a covenant of one-flesh. Jeremiah 3:14: "14Turn, O backsliding children, saith the LORD; for I am married unto you: and I will take you one of a city, and two of a family, and I will bring you to Zion." As you can see in the above scripture, in verse 14, that God has no regard for divorce since it defies His law of marriage. When you see the following verses you will understand.
This is what is written in Romans 7:2-3: "2For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man." In these verses you can clearly see that a woman is bound until death, to her husband, as one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, as written in Genesis 2:23-24.
We see Jesus reaffirming God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) in Matthew 19:3-8, which says: "3The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 7They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so." This is also seen in Mark 10:4-9, which is the same biblical account of Matthew 19:3-8, of the same teaching by Jesus that day beyond the Jordan river.
There is also another scripture that warns of judgment against adultery in Hebrews 13:4, which says, "4Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge." These scriptures leave no room for remarriage after a divorce, with either another divorced person, or even someone who has never been married, while the first is still alive. Only someone who entered into adulterous union with a divorced individual could repent of that marriage and seek a marriage with someone who has never been married or widowed, according to the scriptures.
Another scripture on this topic is found in Malachi 2:11-16, which says: "11Judah hath dealt treacherously, and an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath profaned the holiness of the LORD which he loved, and hath married the daughter of a strange god. 12The LORD will cut off the man that doeth this, the master and the scholar, out of the tabernacles of Jacob, and him that offereth an offering unto the LORD of hosts. 13And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. 14Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. 15And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. 16For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously."
Please understand that we are living in an age of extreme deception, and what is happening in politics across the world is no different than what has been going on in churches. Jesus warns of a great falling away in the last days, which is not what the church has been teaching. The false doctrine of "once saved always saved" is a big part of that deception. This is falsely granting people to remain in willful sin, in defiance of scriptures like Romans 1:28-32, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, Galatians 5:19-21, Ephesians 5:3-5, Colossians 3:5-6, and Revelation 22:14-15.
The churches have been teaching their congregations that a "great awakening" is going to take place. This is a clear deception. The churches have fallen away from what was taught in the early centuries, and marriage after a divorce was first instututed by Henry VIII, who started the Church of England in the 16th century for the purpose of remarrying without having to have anymore wives executed. This was done during the reformation which had parted with the truth about God's law of marriage; the one-flesh covenant.
This is very difficult for people to accept, and that is why Jesus said, "narrow is the gate that leads to everlasting life, and few there be that find it", in Matthew 7:14. I pray that you will come to accept these words as truth because time is of the essence.
Another important aspect to this topic, where God clearly weighing in, is the need for Him to destroy the world. Since God's law of marriage is perfectly witnessed in Adam and Eve, it is also important to know why God destroyed the world with the flood. The scriptures say that the world had been corrupted by the fallen angels having relations with the daughters of man, in Genesis 6:5-7. We see Jesus also speaking about the days of Noah in Luke 17:25-27, which says: "25But first must he suffer many things, and be rejected of this generation. 26And as it was in the days of Noe, so shall it be also in the days of the Son of man. 27They did eat, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark, and the flood came, and destroyed them all." We see God's reason for the flood in greater detail in Genesis 6:8-12, which says:
"8But Noah found grace in the eyes of the LORD. 9These are the generations of Noah: Noah was a just man and perfect in his generations, and Noah walked with God. 10And Noah begat three sons, Shem, Ham, and Japheth. 11The earth also was corrupt before God, and the earth was filled with violence. 12And God looked upon the earth, and, behold, it was corrupt; for all flesh had corrupted his way upon the earth." As you can see, in the above verses; God's reason was to destroy the world because every generational bloodline from Adam had been corrupted, as Jesus said, "they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark, and the flood came, and destroyed them all." Noah and his three sons were perfect in their generations to Adam. This is what God means by seeking a "godly seed" in Malachi.
So what we see is God beginning with one man, and one woman, as one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, and then starting over with Noah, his wife, their three sons, and each of their wives. There are a total of 5 married couples, in this example, who were made one-flesh before God. This is the best example of God's recognition of marriage, aswell as what He rejects, and will reject as sin.
One other thing to add about the generations between Adam to Noah and that is that God needed to preserve the bloodline from Adam to Jesus. This is seen in Matthew 1 where it shows all of the generations from Adam to Christ. If this was not accomplished then Jesus would not have been able to be born, suffer, and die in fulfillment of the law of Moses by Christ on the cross.
Proverbs 5 mentions the "wife of your youth" in conjuction to what God is speaking through Malachi capter 2. Very clear warning to many who are sadly in another marriage while they have a living one-flesh covenant spouse.
Moses's precept in Deuteronomy 24-1-4, was an allowance to divorce for any cause except fornication (Deuteronomy 22:13-21 23-24, Genesis 38:12-26), or adultery (Deuteronomy 22:22, Leviticus 20:10).
What Jesus teaches, in Matthew 19:1-12 and Mark 10:1-12, is that if you divorce, for any cause, "except fornication" (Deuteronomy 22:13-21; 23-24, Genesis 38:12-26), and marry another, you commit adultery, and whosoever marries those who are divorced commits adultery.
Genesis 38:12-26:
12And days multiplied and the daughter of Shua, the wife of Yehuda, died, and Yehuda was comforted and he came up to the shearers of his flock, he and Khira his friend, the Arlemite, to Tamnath. 13And they told Tamar and they said to her, “Behold, your father in law went up to Tamnath to shear his flock”, 14And she put away the clothes of her widowhood from her, and she was covered with a veil and she was adorned, and she sat in the crossing of the roads, which is on the road of Tamnath, because she saw that Shela had grown and she had not been given to him. 15And Yehuda saw and he considered her as a harlot because her face was covered. 16And he turned aside to her on the road and he said to her, “Come, I shall come into you”, because he did not know that she was his daughter in law, and she said to him, “What will you give when you come into me?” 17And he said, “I shall send a kid of the goats from the flock”, and she said, “If you give to me a pledge until you send it.” 18And he said, “What pledge shall I give to you?”, and she said, “Your ring and your robe and your staff that is in your hand”, and he gave them to her, and he went into her and she conceived from him. 19And she arose and she went and she put away the veil from her and she put on the clothes of her widowhood.
20And Yehuda sent the kid of goats by his friend, the Arlemite, to take the pledge from the hands of the woman, and he did not find her. 21And he asked the men of the place and said, “Where is the harlot who dwelt at the parting of the roads?”, and they said “There is no harlot here.” 22And he returned to Yehuda and said, “I have not found her, also the men of the place were saying, “There is no harlot here.” 23And Yehuda said, “She may take it, lest I be a laughing stock; behold, I have sent this kid and you have not found her.”
24And it was after three months and it was told Yehuda, and they said to him, “Tamar your daughter in law has committed fornication, and behold, she is pregnant by fornication”, and Yehuda said, “Bring her out and she will burn.” 25And when they brought her out, she sent to her father in law: “By the man to whom these things belong I am pregnant.” And she said, “See whose is the ring and the robe and staffthese things.” 26And Yehuda knew and said, “She is innocent more than I, because of this, I did not give her to Shala my son”, and he did not have sexual relations with her again.
In Genesis 38:12-26, we see that Judah took Tamar to be his wife after discovering that he was tricked into impregnating her. This clears up any confusion of why John the Baptist rebuked Herod for taking his brother's recently divorced wife, since Philip was still living. It also leaves us to wonder if Deuteronomy 24:1-4 was being practiced at all at the time of Christ. It appears that this might not have been permitted, beyond the exodus, before entering the promised land. The only New Testament example of divorce and remarriage was being conducted by Herod and Herodias, who were both Romans. Judah could not take Tamar as wife if his son was still alive. Herodias's husband Philip was still alive when they divorced. Leviticus 18:16 applied, but if Philip were dead, Deuteronomy 25:5-10 would apply, as it did with Judah and Tamar. These scriptures, along with what is written about the betrothed wife, in Deuteronomy 22:13-21; 23-24, give added context to the meaning of fornication in Matthew 5:31-32, Matthew 19:9.
@@ajlouviere202 Boa tarde! O que o senhor entende que é porneia, se não é nem fornicação e nem adultério, no contexto de Mateus 5 e 19?
@@ajlouviere202 E o que entende que Paulo disse a Timóteo quando falou das duas doutrinas de demônios, especialmente sobre a proibição do casamento? Há o costume de entender somente em relação à proibição do casamento de padres. Porém, a outra doutrina de demônios (proibição de alimentos) não é direcionada somente aos líderes (Adventistas, por exemplo). Por qual motivo achar que a essa doutrina de demônios (proibição de casamentos) seria destinada somente a líderes? Eu não conheço nenhum lugar que ensina que os cristãos em geral não devem casar, mas somente em relação a divorciados.
Does Mark 6:17 recognize Herodias as Philip's wife, or Herod's wife, and doesn't this also explain why Jesus said "whosoever shall marry her that is divorced commits adultery"? I implore you to stop teaching the law, for your sake and others, and preach the kingdom. In Hebrews 8:13, Paul clearly states, "In that He says, “ A new covenant,” He has made the first obsolete. Now what is becoming obsolete and growing old is ready to vanish away."
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You are errant in so many ways. Christianity is not a new and it’s own separate religion. There is one God one messiah one law. Jesus came for the list sheep of Israel. And if you look. The new covenant is not even with the gentiles and that is if we are even in the new covenant. It is the gentiles due to Gods grace that are allowed to be grafted in. Jesus did not change the law or abolish the law. And gentiles don’t have thier own special law. G630 is the work many mistranslated versions substitute divorce for when in actuality it means sent away. I suggest you watch this video again. If you watched it at all
@@Jericho-xs3ju I have received many replies like this from new profiles, some of which were later found to be closely associated with "Standing Strong For Marriages" channel, where the replies were later edited after being responded to. This statement about Israel has been a common theme among them, but what is the purpose?
Jesus did not permit remarriage after divorce! You guys have it twisted.
Even if you step over, "whoever divorces except fornication, commits adultery. you STILL HAVE "whoever marries the divorced commits adultery"
For one, why is it adultery? They never ask that question? Can't you only commit adultery between 2 married persons. You actually find the answer in "while her husband lives, if she be married to another man, she shall be an adulteress"
So God still considers them MARRIED
THIS PERFECTLY LINES UP WITH EVERYTHING JESUS TAUGHT 🙌
You obviously didn't watch the entire video or you do not have ears to hear ...THEY EXPLAIN THIS!!!! @womanatwellworshipJesus
John Carrol treacherously teaches a false Gospel of 7th Commandment.
:Remarriage is ongoing adultery while the first covenant spouse lives:
He is correct 💯💯💯💯💯
Keep your pants up!!
What?
This is so clearly a false doctrine you are propagating! You have to go back to the old covenant and twist it into the doctrine of Christ so that you can get divorced without fornication having been committed, or death. Those are the only two things that can end a marriage. If you divorced your wife without fornication having been committed, and she is still alive, then you are committing adultery with your new wife, because you are still married to your original wife. Simply, right?
The laws of religious conduct are only bound to the Jewish community! Gentiles are free from the law, as Paul tells us! Too many Gentile believers believe we are all bound by, and under, the law. Pastor Carroll explains this explicitly! If a Gentile, husband or wife, commits adultery or violence against his/her spouse, because of alcohol or drugs, or even if financial difficulties enter into the marriage, if the offended person gets a legal divorce through the courts, they are both free from the marriage and may remarry! For instance; my wife divorced me because she was dissatisfied with the marriage. Not hat I had ever committed adultery or was a drunkard or drug addict. She was simply dissatisfied with my trying to be the head of the household, because she was very spoiled as a child and she never was taught that the husband is the head and leader of the family. She was also cheating on me by having relationships with other men. We were legally divorced and we both eventually got remarried. End of story!
Your marriage was over when your wife committed fornication against you, and that's the only reason for the end of the marriage. You didn't need the courts to sort that out.
It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: but I say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.