As a type 6, I can attest to the paranoia in times where I’ve experienced a lot of stress and loss/change. In those times I almost convince myself that I’m crazy and that’s why all of these things are happening… It’s hard automatically thinking the worse and it requires so much work to get out of that mindset. To all other 6s, it doesn’t have to be this way. You are strong and capable of piecing yourself back together - don’t let your thoughts have so much power ❤️
I'm a 6 and I can relate entirely to what you're saying, Dr Tom! Thank you for bringing awareness to our strengths and weaknesses. Self-awareness is the key to combat leaning towards the low health side.
nothing more panicky than getting the "there's nothing to worry about, its fine" lol it almost makes it worse. good example using the dark forrest lol :)
That just always makes me feel like "great, no one else is following the situation, im alone in this and everyone else is an untrustworthy idiot" when in reality I'm probably the real idiot and also a bit tense 😃
I am the prototype of an Enneagram 6! I feel like you're speaking to me directly in all of your Enneagram 6 videos. I watch all of them lol I love learning more and more about myself so I can work on my lower areas; however, I own all of my strengths and flaws. It really does bring soo much validation and clarity as to who I am in every aspect of life. My fiancée is a 9 and he is HEAVEN-SENT! Just a calm, patient, loving soul. He brings me so much peace.. This is why we're so compatible. I live by the Enneagram. I tell so many people about it. As long as you're true to your answers and don't overthink the questions/statements on the assessment, it should spell out your personality. Thank you for all that you do!!
Hey there! Your enthusiasm for the Enneagram is contagious! It's awesome to see how much it's helped you and your relationship. Keep spreading the Enneagram wisdom!
The four steps away from being homeless thing and thinking there will be no support there... Definitely related to that about a year and a half ago. Was odd having you describe my version of a mental breakdown
After watching a BUNCH of these videos, I figured out a couple of the types of myself (9w8 I think), my hubby (7w8 I think), and my mom (4?2?6? (who I have tense conversations with ALL the time). AND figured out by watching the videos how these types think and how to communicate with them - I had an almost completely positive, uplifting conversation with her. AND, even better, I felt good *after* the conversation. So thank you so much for explaining it simply enough yet thoroughly enough for me to understand it and apply it. You’re awesome!
Hahahahaha 6w7 here. You understand us so well :D That metaphor with the Dark forest was so hilarious. "Hey.... You're in the dark forest. Get out of there!" "Well, f***ing how? This forest is full of Landmines!"
Wow when you said the 4 steps away from homelessness I started tearing up. That really hit home. This is where I'm at in the video right now but I'm going through fire inspections with my apartment that my roommates have trashed. Work load is very heavy and still getting complaints. I'm getting eaten alive inside and out (landscaper outside all day).
I found this to be very insightful. I am a 5w6 and dating a 6w5, so I can see myself and my boyfriend in these statements, and laughed at some and nodded at others. Thank you for this analysis. :)
'Out to get you'...I'm a 6 raised in a cult where my parents applied all the 'counsel' to us kids, and did whatever the heck they wanted. It was imperative that we made them look good. Long story short, it is a doctrine that God will have you killed at Armageddon if you do not tow the line OR if you question any of the cult leader's opinions [aka doctrines - which many have needlessly died for because they were changed with the advent of 'new light']. You're told that loyalty to God means giving up friends and relatives that do not believe the same way you do - the cult is your new family now. And if you botch that loyalty, you can rightly expect to be 'marked' because you're a danger to their loyalty - or disfellowshiped [they might call it something else now] where you are shunned and considered as already dead. I don't think I made that up in my mind, when it took 10 years to dismantle that nasty little false belief - while wondering how to reconstruct my social contacts and relationships from people who were WAY more lax in their choice of 'activities'. [Just a better gauge of 'out to get you' than 'wolves in the forest' or 'a man with an axe'. Sometimes it's 'wolves in sheep's clothing'...and they are out to get you.] However, the '4 steps away from being homeless' is spot on. I'm working on collecting a more supportive set of evidence.
As a 6 I’ve noticed since I was a child that there are situations in friendships that the way ahead with this person is a no go. It’s as a door inside myself shuts and it’s over. I say gooodbye knowing this is it and I’m sure it befuddles the other person because nothing out of the ordinary occurred. I wish over the years I would have ignored that door shutting, observed it and then made an occasion to see that person again.
Thank you for these videos! Learning these things has been painful but at the same time so freeing!! I am a 6w7 who actually lived through my worst-case scenario There is HOPE!! I lived, and God met me there and I found Him trustworthy and my fortress when nothing else was. If you are there as a six - I just wanted you to know there is light and a fortress in that dark wolf-filled forest. Doesn't mean that at times it isn't hard to find, but if you look for it, you WILL find it!
I'm living through my worst fear as a child now at 49. Thank you for the hope. I'm caught in indecision, between my fears vs intuition regarding marriage. Thank you for your words and hope.
Could you please reference the book you are using as reference? Also, as a six who was formerly suicidal, your examples of the lowest level of health is not even close to the lowest. Low, yes. In the one word descriptions. However at the lowest level, suicide seemed a reasonable cognitive solution so the those I love would be free to start over and I would have been free to stop feeling afraid. Weird. So glad for an intervention and treatment that helped save my life. Good teaching. Just easy to know you are not a six, lol. Perhaps in the future an interview series with a person of each type?
Because of my anxiety I have thought I had obsessive-compulsive disorder, but I am realizing that a lot of my behaviour is because I am a six - overthinking, fearful etc.
Hello, Dr.LaHue, I really enjoy and benefit from your channel - would you possibly be able to tell me which book you showed us when you described the lowest level of health? I would like to read it! Many thanks!
As an asian, I confirm with your experience. It is considered impolite or inappropriate to ask questions to authority figures like parents and teachers
You illustrate this very well. It was hard to listen to. I tend to think the unhealthy 6 stuff but repress it because I'm clearly just being silly. If I said it out loud, I'd be embarrassed. Once, I felt worried because a friend was a few minutes late. "Are they okay?" "Are they abandoning me?" Which level of health does that align with? I feel silly commenting this.
My mom is literally split right in between a 6 and a 4/2! I can’t tell which one she could be! How do you differentiate these? I would love to be able to have more positive, uplifting conversations with her, more consistently. And in order to do that, I would love to be able to know how to communicate effectively with her!
i don't know your mom and i'm not an expert but it's most likely she's a 6 because 6s often look like other types depending on their insecurities each moment
The key to determining the difference is knowing where they go in stress. A 6 in stress looks like an out of control 3. A 4 will look like an out of control 2.
Hi there, can so resonate with this video. Yeah, that coward. That was me in my 20's I hate to say. And it's funny how, even if you are counter phobic, you can still be a coward. You just push it away. The other thing I was thinking is how much... I know this may seem strange... but to me there are a few similarities between low-functioning 6's and low functioning 4's... similar behaviour but coming from a different place. That's just my observation of what I was like in lower health and what my 4 friend was like when she was in lower health. I'd say I'm probably about average now. Although I think it is important to talk about the highest levels of health as well... it gives you something to aim for and to aspire to.
Hi there, can I have a question? I'd like to ask, what are you mean similar qualities between low 6 and 4? What kind of traits? I am interested about how can 4 looks similar to 6. Other: I have a guess, that more lower you are and more higher you are in health you can be more and more similar both end between types. I think a totally healthy man will looks quite similar to an another healthy one, because loose him or her egofixations. In low health you also stop using your usual ways of coping wich is normally the difference between types.
@@jazon85k Hi there, I think what I was getting at most is that, when 6 and 4 are unhealthy, we both tend to look for a "rescuer". It's the same behaviour, but it's coming from different places. For the 4, it's coming from a place of envy, not feeling like they're good enough, constantly comparing yourself to others and believing you fall short, spiraling into depression and looking for a "saviour" to miraculously "rescue" you from that. For the 6, when we are unhealthy we are more accurately looking for a "protector" rather than a "rescuer", as we spiral down into more and more anxiety, we are looking for somebody to "protect" us from what we fear and from the big wide world. In other words, like the 4, the 6 at low levels of health is also looking for a "saviour", but to "save" us from the scary world and our fears... real or imagined... rather than to pull us out of depression. On the surface, it looks the same, but it's coming from a very different place. How do I know? Because I'm a 6 and my besty is a 4, and we've both been in those low levels of health years ago. With hindsight being 20/20, I can look back and see just how alike we were in that low level of health. As for "coping"? I do not believe our personality is necessarily all about "coping". Modern genetics tells us that our personality is roughly 60% heritable... it's genetic, and gifted to us at conception. Or rather, that 60% heritable portion of our personality is the blueprint that interacts with the environment we find ourselves in at any given time... the 40% nurture aspect of our personality. That nurture process begins in the womb, and is a constant influence on how our personality develops, and that nurture process does not stop until we die. So it's not just all about coping unless you follow McDonald's level psychology. Childhood messages and experiences may influence the direction your heritable personality blueprint develops in, but they do not determine your personality or type. That is determined at conception. And of course other environmental factors influence personality development including diet, toxins, managed or unmanaged chronic health conditions, geography of where you live at any given time, cosmic and metaphysical forces we are all subjected to whether we believe in them or not, or whether we like it or not... so much influences how your personality blueprint develops, and it is constantly changing throughout life as environments, both physical, emotional, interpersonal and spiritual conditions change. When you decide to embark on a journey of personal growth, whether it be through the Enneagram or through old fashioned self reflection and learning from past life experiences, you are simply making a conscious decision to step into that nurture process and take control of it as much as you possibly can. I get tired of this nonsense that your personality is how you "cope", and that your entire type is the result of a negative childhood message. It is so disempowering and so victim oriented it pisses me off. I'd rather believe that I can decide to make a conscious decision to step into that life long nurture process and take control of it as much as humanly possible, and even include things like diet and physical and spiritual health in that process. It's better than being a victim of some early childhood message I either did or didn't get.
@@milanka882 Wow. Thank you for your aswer! I started to think and tought one another option. Unhealthy 4s tend to be self-referencing, for example if somebody get preaise, they tend to think that why they not get the praise (envy), and think that they must be bad (shame themselves). 6s paranoia maybe a bit similar, interpreting something that is not really there. You rather look like a 5, seems you are deeply in this subject. :) I am a 9 by the way. I have to disagree, if your blueprint is only genetic -I know, you told 60%-, than you dont have a chance to any development, you never able to build up your weaker wing for example. I agree with the importance of genetic, and other factors, like what kind of food you are eat (GAPS), but the wouds are there. I rather think about that if your given genetics are x, than if your wound are shame, you will be 3, if your wound are fear, than 6, if anger than 9 for example (or 2, 4, 8 or 1, 5, 7), and your genetics/enviroment decide your subtype. (It is a very simplistic explanation I know.) So a healthy 3 and 6 and 9 looks similar, because they reduct the wounds and an unhealthy 3 and 6 and 9 also looks similar, because they have all kinds of wounds. I dont think that a wound is a victimization, everybody has wounds. If your wound is smaller, you are healthier, this is the only difference. How susceptible to wounds a person is, it is genetics also, some people are more sensitive by nature. Psychology is complex ...as the world. The main law for the universe is changing. :) I am beginer in this jurney, and I dont know if there is any path. If you are relative healthy probably never start this kind of jurney, you need to get to the rock bottom first, to realize, I need a change and to start searching (or you can stay with a victim mentality). So bad things are sometimes good, you need failure to learn and mature. As you said your decision to stay at your "outhouse" (be a victim) or not. ps: Did you and your friend find your protector/saviour at that time? or this is counterproductive? ...and sorry for my english.
@@milanka882 Other thing that came to my mind is epigenetics, wich is about changing the impact of your genetics. You can rewire your mind your brain with effort. Like positive thinking, meditation etc.
Idd the coronna shit. Even if you see the thruth is a horror story for 6. I speak for myself🙈. all my fears came out of the basement all at ones (Awakening) my old, anxiety about getting sick. I never was afraid of coronna💪. But now iam dealing with massive panic attacks, and the most horrible feelings in my body. Sometimes litterly as if iam on fire, and snakes crowling under my skin. My muscles really tremble. So it can be scared as hell. But I found this video today, laught, and moving forwards. My mission is. LOVE TRUST AND LIFE LIVE, OUT OF 3 GOING 9♥️🌈🦋
Hopefully you are feeling better now. I have had a burn out when my 2 kids were younger, because of less sleep and stress.. Being (very) tired doesn’t help for a six.
I’m sorry to hear you are struggling @SOSPuff - find small ways to add joy to your day, treat yourself to coffee every morning, journal or read before bed when you have quiet time. Starting these things are hard at first because you’re so preoccupied with stress but committing to these self-care things will save your soul.
Yes, my husband is a narcissistic 6. Funny enough, I never heard the unhealthy ones being called cowards until today, however two days ago, that's what I decided my husband is... I'm the reason of all my husband's issues, not his decisions, also, I'm his emotional punching bag. He's very nice outside the home, people compliment him to me all the time, and I don't even know what to say... At home he is a terror to me, and terrorizes our children, by being so evil and mean to me. He sometimes gets physical, and say that I'm pretending being hurt. I can't leave now, because I don't want him alone with the children. Can you imagine, leaving a demon with your children?!!! Also 60% off people today are 6s, and the majority of all leaders are 6s, good or bad, exorcism the bad guys!!! So, 6s if unhealthy can be the WORST!!!
Would you work on a series that would explain the differences between a seven wing six and a six wing seven, et al. Are these actually distinctive or mirrors
I love these videos so much! I’m a six and I’ve learned so much about myself through your videos.
That is awesome!
As a type 6, I can attest to the paranoia in times where I’ve experienced a lot of stress and loss/change. In those times I almost convince myself that I’m crazy and that’s why all of these things are happening… It’s hard automatically thinking the worse and it requires so much work to get out of that mindset. To all other 6s, it doesn’t have to be this way. You are strong and capable of piecing yourself back together - don’t let your thoughts have so much power ❤️
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After I ignored my insight of a mutiny, I became paranoid with my projections. Care to all the 6's in a pandemic!
Thanks for sharing. Yes, pandemic must be hard for 6's!
I'm a 6 and I can relate entirely to what you're saying, Dr Tom! Thank you for bringing awareness to our strengths and weaknesses. Self-awareness is the key to combat leaning towards the low health side.
That "dark Forest" analogy is beautiful. 🙏 ~ 4w5
Thanks
nothing more panicky than getting the "there's nothing to worry about, its fine" lol it almost makes it worse. good example using the dark forrest lol :)
That just always makes me feel like "great, no one else is following the situation, im alone in this and everyone else is an untrustworthy idiot" when in reality I'm probably the real idiot and also a bit tense 😃
Coward, Loyalist, Courageous
...so Ron Weasley
I am the prototype of an Enneagram 6! I feel like you're speaking to me directly in all of your Enneagram 6 videos. I watch all of them lol I love learning more and more about myself so I can work on my lower areas; however, I own all of my strengths and flaws. It really does bring soo much validation and clarity as to who I am in every aspect of life. My fiancée is a 9 and he is HEAVEN-SENT! Just a calm, patient, loving soul. He brings me so much peace.. This is why we're so compatible. I live by the Enneagram. I tell so many people about it. As long as you're true to your answers and don't overthink the questions/statements on the assessment, it should spell out your personality. Thank you for all that you do!!
Hey there! Your enthusiasm for the Enneagram is contagious! It's awesome to see how much it's helped you and your relationship. Keep spreading the Enneagram wisdom!
As a type 6, I feel like I always need a problem to solve.
The four steps away from being homeless thing and thinking there will be no support there... Definitely related to that about a year and a half ago. Was odd having you describe my version of a mental breakdown
This is so amazing. Thank you so much! You have really helped me understand my teenage daughter.
You are so welcome!
After watching a BUNCH of these videos, I figured out a couple of the types of myself (9w8 I think), my hubby (7w8 I think), and my mom (4?2?6? (who I have tense conversations with ALL the time). AND figured out by watching the videos how these types think and how to communicate with them - I had an almost completely positive, uplifting conversation with her. AND, even better, I felt good *after* the conversation.
So thank you so much for explaining it simply enough yet thoroughly enough for me to understand it and apply it. You’re awesome!
Hahahahaha 6w7 here. You understand us so well :D That metaphor with the Dark forest was so hilarious.
"Hey.... You're in the dark forest. Get out of there!"
"Well, f***ing how? This forest is full of Landmines!"
Right...Thanks.
I know this video is older but good job Maddie! That's great ☺️
Wow when you said the 4 steps away from homelessness I started tearing up. That really hit home. This is where I'm at in the video right now but I'm going through fire inspections with my apartment that my roommates have trashed. Work load is very heavy and still getting complaints. I'm getting eaten alive inside and out (landscaper outside all day).
Great information! I didnt realize how mentally difficult it was for them. Thank you for sharing!
Definitely displayed these low level of paranoia in the past,,, So happy to know myself better
I found this to be very insightful. I am a 5w6 and dating a 6w5, so I can see myself and my boyfriend in these statements, and laughed at some and nodded at others. Thank you for this analysis. :)
'Out to get you'...I'm a 6 raised in a cult where my parents applied all the 'counsel' to us kids, and did whatever the heck they wanted. It was imperative that we made them look good. Long story short, it is a doctrine that God will have you killed at Armageddon if you do not tow the line OR if you question any of the cult leader's opinions [aka doctrines - which many have needlessly died for because they were changed with the advent of 'new light']. You're told that loyalty to God means giving up friends and relatives that do not believe the same way you do - the cult is your new family now. And if you botch that loyalty, you can rightly expect to be 'marked' because you're a danger to their loyalty - or disfellowshiped [they might call it something else now] where you are shunned and considered as already dead. I don't think I made that up in my mind, when it took 10 years to dismantle that nasty little false belief - while wondering how to reconstruct my social contacts and relationships from people who were WAY more lax in their choice of 'activities'. [Just a better gauge of 'out to get you' than 'wolves in the forest' or 'a man with an axe'. Sometimes it's 'wolves in sheep's clothing'...and they are out to get you.] However, the '4 steps away from being homeless' is spot on. I'm working on collecting a more supportive set of evidence.
I absolutely LOVE Maddie's calendar company! 💛
As a 6 I’ve noticed since I was a child that there are situations in friendships that the way ahead with this person is a no go. It’s as a door inside myself shuts and it’s over. I say gooodbye knowing this is it and I’m sure it befuddles the other person because nothing out of the ordinary occurred. I wish over the years I would have ignored that door shutting, observed it and then made an occasion to see that person again.
Thank you for these videos! Learning these things has been painful but at the same time so freeing!! I am a 6w7 who actually lived through my worst-case scenario There is HOPE!! I lived, and God met me there and I found Him trustworthy and my fortress when nothing else was. If you are there as a six - I just wanted you to know there is light and a fortress in that dark wolf-filled forest. Doesn't mean that at times it isn't hard to find, but if you look for it, you WILL find it!
I'm living through my worst fear as a child now at 49. Thank you for the hope. I'm caught in indecision, between my fears vs intuition regarding marriage. Thank you for your words and hope.
Didn't even notice the teeth. Congratulations to Madison!
Could you please reference the book you are using as reference? Also, as a six who was formerly suicidal, your examples of the lowest level of health is not even close to the lowest. Low, yes. In the one word descriptions. However at the lowest level, suicide seemed a reasonable cognitive solution so the those I love would be free to start over and I would have been free to stop feeling afraid. Weird. So glad for an intervention and treatment that helped save my life. Good teaching. Just easy to know you are not a six, lol. Perhaps in the future an interview series with a person of each type?
I am so excited about your 6-week certification program! I also wouldn’t have noticed your teeth. ;)
Thanks...All I want for Christmas is my 2 front teeth...
I'm excited about the enneagram program!
Because of my anxiety I have thought I had obsessive-compulsive disorder, but I am realizing that a lot of my behaviour is because I am a six - overthinking, fearful etc.
But you could be both. I'd look into it anyways. If 6 growth doesn't help, I'd ask a professional about that.
@@liamm.268 Yes, I am sure I am both.
Great video!! So helpful information. Thanks.
Glad it was helpful!
Hello, Dr.LaHue,
I really enjoy and benefit from your channel - would you possibly be able to tell me which book you showed us when you described the lowest level of health? I would like to read it!
Many thanks!
Thank you very much. Has resonated with this message of coward so much.
Glad to help.
Hi Tom, love the proud daddy act when chatting about the CEO Madison ,,, hoping it's going well for her,,, love Barbs from south Africa
As an asian, I confirm with your experience. It is considered impolite or inappropriate to ask questions to authority figures like parents and teachers
You illustrate this very well. It was hard to listen to. I tend to think the unhealthy 6 stuff but repress it because I'm clearly just being silly. If I said it out loud, I'd be embarrassed. Once, I felt worried because a friend was a few minutes late. "Are they okay?" "Are they abandoning me?" Which level of health does that align with? I feel silly commenting this.
Notes:
Low - Cowardice
Mid - Loyalty
High - Courage
No support or meaning
Unable to survive
Projection - Fear inside projected outside to others
Vs objective, intuitive insight
Anti authoritarian
My mom is literally split right in between a 6 and a 4/2! I can’t tell which one she could be! How do you differentiate these? I would love to be able to have more positive, uplifting conversations with her, more consistently. And in order to do that, I would love to be able to know how to communicate effectively with her!
i don't know your mom and i'm not an expert but it's most likely she's a 6 because 6s often look like other types depending on their insecurities each moment
@@tina.1573 thx! Now I’m between a 6 and 9 😂. So yeah probably a 6.
The key to determining the difference is knowing where they go in stress. A 6 in stress looks like an out of control 3. A 4 will look like an out of control 2.
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It's very relateable...😭
😂😂😂I went on an anti Christmas Tree and Halloween kick. My husband wasn't having it. He's a 9...
The links to your daughters' UA-cam channels aren't working, at least not on my. Maybe check them out to see if something's wrong
Got it, thanks for letting me know.
Hi there, can so resonate with this video. Yeah, that coward. That was me in my 20's I hate to say. And it's funny how, even if you are counter phobic, you can still be a coward. You just push it away. The other thing I was thinking is how much... I know this may seem strange... but to me there are a few similarities between low-functioning 6's and low functioning 4's... similar behaviour but coming from a different place. That's just my observation of what I was like in lower health and what my 4 friend was like when she was in lower health. I'd say I'm probably about average now. Although I think it is important to talk about the highest levels of health as well... it gives you something to aim for and to aspire to.
Interesting point. Thanks.
Hi there, can I have a question? I'd like to ask, what are you mean similar qualities between low 6 and 4? What kind of traits? I am interested about how can 4 looks similar to 6. Other: I have a guess, that more lower you are and more higher you are in health you can be more and more similar both end between types. I think a totally healthy man will looks quite similar to an another healthy one, because loose him or her egofixations. In low health you also stop using your usual ways of coping wich is normally the difference between types.
@@jazon85k Hi there, I think what I was getting at most is that, when 6 and 4 are unhealthy, we both tend to look for a "rescuer". It's the same behaviour, but it's coming from different places.
For the 4, it's coming from a place of envy, not feeling like they're good enough, constantly comparing yourself to others and believing you fall short, spiraling into depression and looking for a "saviour" to miraculously "rescue" you from that.
For the 6, when we are unhealthy we are more accurately looking for a "protector" rather than a "rescuer", as we spiral down into more and more anxiety, we are looking for somebody to "protect" us from what we fear and from the big wide world.
In other words, like the 4, the 6 at low levels of health is also looking for a "saviour", but to "save" us from the scary world and our fears... real or imagined... rather than to pull us out of depression. On the surface, it looks the same, but it's coming from a very different place. How do I know? Because I'm a 6 and my besty is a 4, and we've both been in those low levels of health years ago. With hindsight being 20/20, I can look back and see just how alike we were in that low level of health.
As for "coping"? I do not believe our personality is necessarily all about "coping". Modern genetics tells us that our personality is roughly 60% heritable... it's genetic, and gifted to us at conception. Or rather, that 60% heritable portion of our personality is the blueprint that interacts with the environment we find ourselves in at any given time... the 40% nurture aspect of our personality. That nurture process begins in the womb, and is a constant influence on how our personality develops, and that nurture process does not stop until we die. So it's not just all about coping unless you follow McDonald's level psychology. Childhood messages and experiences may influence the direction your heritable personality blueprint develops in, but they do not determine your personality or type. That is determined at conception. And of course other environmental factors influence personality development including diet, toxins, managed or unmanaged chronic health conditions, geography of where you live at any given time, cosmic and metaphysical forces we are all subjected to whether we believe in them or not, or whether we like it or not... so much influences how your personality blueprint develops, and it is constantly changing throughout life as environments, both physical, emotional, interpersonal and spiritual conditions change. When you decide to embark on a journey of personal growth, whether it be through the Enneagram or through old fashioned self reflection and learning from past life experiences, you are simply making a conscious decision to step into that nurture process and take control of it as much as you possibly can.
I get tired of this nonsense that your personality is how you "cope", and that your entire type is the result of a negative childhood message. It is so disempowering and so victim oriented it pisses me off. I'd rather believe that I can decide to make a conscious decision to step into that life long nurture process and take control of it as much as humanly possible, and even include things like diet and physical and spiritual health in that process. It's better than being a victim of some early childhood message I either did or didn't get.
@@milanka882 Wow. Thank you for your aswer!
I started to think and tought one another option. Unhealthy 4s tend to be self-referencing, for example if somebody get preaise, they tend to think that why they not get the praise (envy), and think that they must be bad (shame themselves). 6s paranoia maybe a bit similar, interpreting something that is not really there.
You rather look like a 5, seems you are deeply in this subject. :) I am a 9 by the way.
I have to disagree, if your blueprint is only genetic -I know, you told 60%-, than you dont have a chance to any development, you never able to build up your weaker wing for example. I agree with the importance of genetic, and other factors, like what kind of food you are eat (GAPS), but the wouds are there. I rather think about that if your given genetics are x, than if your wound are shame, you will be 3, if your wound are fear, than 6, if anger than 9 for example (or 2, 4, 8 or 1, 5, 7), and your genetics/enviroment decide your subtype. (It is a very simplistic explanation I know.) So a healthy 3 and 6 and 9 looks similar, because they reduct the wounds and an unhealthy 3 and 6 and 9 also looks similar, because they have all kinds of wounds. I dont think that a wound is a victimization, everybody has wounds. If your wound is smaller, you are healthier, this is the only difference. How susceptible to wounds a person is, it is genetics also, some people are more sensitive by nature. Psychology is complex ...as the world.
The main law for the universe is changing. :)
I am beginer in this jurney, and I dont know if there is any path. If you are relative healthy probably never start this kind of jurney, you need to get to the rock bottom first, to realize, I need a change and to start searching (or you can stay with a victim mentality). So bad things are sometimes good, you need failure to learn and mature. As you said your decision to stay at your "outhouse" (be a victim) or not.
ps: Did you and your friend find your protector/saviour at that time? or this is counterproductive?
...and sorry for my english.
@@milanka882 Other thing that came to my mind is epigenetics, wich is about changing the impact of your genetics. You can rewire your mind your brain with effort. Like positive thinking, meditation etc.
Idd the coronna shit. Even if you see the thruth is a horror story for 6. I speak for myself🙈. all my fears came out of the basement all at ones (Awakening) my old, anxiety about getting sick. I never was afraid of coronna💪. But now iam dealing with massive panic attacks, and the most horrible feelings in my body. Sometimes litterly as if iam on fire, and snakes crowling under my skin. My muscles really tremble. So it can be scared as hell. But I found this video today, laught, and moving forwards. My mission is. LOVE TRUST AND LIFE LIVE, OUT OF 3 GOING 9♥️🌈🦋
So true and helpful insiights
Sadly, I think I'm currently at the low health level. It's hard, especially as I'm currently in depression and with 3 young boys...
Hopefully you are feeling better now. I have had a burn out when my 2 kids were younger, because of less sleep and stress.. Being (very) tired doesn’t help for a six.
I’m sorry to hear you are struggling @SOSPuff - find small ways to add joy to your day, treat yourself to coffee every morning, journal or read before bed when you have quiet time. Starting these things are hard at first because you’re so preoccupied with stress but committing to these self-care things will save your soul.
I'm a 6w5 but it might take time for me to let my gaurd down.
Yes, my husband is a narcissistic 6. Funny enough, I never heard the unhealthy ones being called cowards until today, however two days ago, that's what I decided my husband is...
I'm the reason of all my husband's issues, not his decisions, also, I'm his emotional punching bag. He's very nice outside the home, people compliment him to me all the time, and I don't even know what to say... At home he is a terror to me, and terrorizes our children, by being so evil and mean to me. He sometimes gets physical, and say that I'm pretending being hurt. I can't leave now, because I don't want him alone with the children. Can you imagine, leaving a demon with your children?!!! Also 60% off people today are 6s, and the majority of all leaders are 6s, good or bad, exorcism the bad guys!!! So, 6s if unhealthy can be the WORST!!!
Hi Dr. Tom LaHue. I have some interesting insight that you can give to 6's love to connect some point to with
Would you work on a series that would explain the differences between a seven wing six and a six wing seven, et al. Are these actually distinctive or mirrors
Every 6 I've known are obese. One friend I had had a panic attack over her gas tank being close to E, and the gas station was right across the street.