ms tina, can you make a video on how to step by step create an application. i know the first one is planning but what is next? there are tons on google but i prefer someone explaining it on video. plssssss
"We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons." - Jim Rohn
i have emotional trauma from childhood and bullying in school. it transfers to my employment and ive found that healthy relationships for me, are difficult. i just graduated with my masters and am getting anxiety over feeling forced to return to that 9-5. i see people, like you, doing what they love and being creators (in any sphere) and it makes me want to pursue a niche that i dont see anywhere. reviewing books of a specific nonfiction genre, and cataloguing everything i find to try and dissect the narrative. would take years to build into something, but, i am happiest when reading.
You should do it! Don’t let your fears stop you. The only way we gain confidence is by self-compassion and overcoming our fears (even if it means failing many, many times).
I am writing my final exams in High school and I procrastinate when I feel anxious about a subject. I am scared of having to repeat this year or not having the guts to travel overseas and explore opportunities in Data science or stats and computers. I just struggle to incision what success would look like and it eats me up sometimes. Tina, you are an angel. Please keep inspiring us and keep being you.
Hi Tina! Last June 2022 I jumped from my 15 year IT career into a contract job leading a team of software engineers and doing data analytics. It was the scariest jump of my life. I lost sleep, didn’t eat. My husband is really sick and needs insurance and he can’t work and we have two babies aged 3 & 4. I had to buy my own healthcare out of pocket and learn Python on weekends. My job has been great and was exactly what I needed but I was really stressed for the first few months. Thanks for making this. When you all pick a path commit to it 110% you can do it!!
I guess the thing I am the most scared of is actually putting myself out there as a software engineer. Building projects, finding a simple job, I am aiming to learn more or get advance degrees instead of facing the fact that I already have what I need to build my career, I need to start working now. This video really helped in putting that into perspective and I think the actionable steps I can take is build those portfolio projects, revisit and learn DSA, and actually apply for all of those jobs.
I have an interview tomorrow for a position I really think I am not a good fit experience based, but, it's a good pay, good position, good company and they approached me. I'm terrified. No idea what they expect for me. I will do it anyway. Stay strong fellas.
The last week, I’ve been struggling with anxiety and anger; it was by and large my obsession with UA-cam rabbit holes into AIDS, Ukraine etc. I took a note to curate my content consumption. Watching you, this vid almost instantly lifted that negative energy. Thanks Tina.
The biggest thing I’m scared I’m going to fail is doing well in the bootcamp I’m in. I forgot to fill out a form and I’m worried that I made a bad impression or seem like I’m not committed. I’m so scared that every little mistake I make will be held against me. I’m trying to understand that it’s ok to make mistakes as long as I acknowledge them and make actionable steps towards not making the same mistake again.
You are totally fine. I learnt that it’s our ego yes ego, that makes us feel like every little thing we do is being monitored , remembered or held against. In reality, everyone is too busy with their own lives to even really remember what we did- we suffer our imagination more than the reality. Keep on marching forward! Good luck and kudos on joining the boot camp
I have the same experience in the bootcamp while those guys are so supportive and encourage me so much. We are probably our harshest judge. Those bootcamps are not easy, so give yourself a break.
your every fuck up might be held against you , but your accomplishments also will be noticed. just make sure you keep working so that the latter balances out the former. A lot of the time, we let perfect be the enemy of good and give up after fucking up once, just keep the big picture in mind and work towards it.
thanks for making this Tina! This is really helpful, I just graduated from my master's course (that was intended to be my stepping stone for PhD but I ended up not wanting to go to academia) and now I'm trying to look for a real job without actual work experience. I really should be applying for jobs and learning new skills every day but I'm also avoiding this. I don't know if other people have similar experience but it's really nice to see you posting videos about overcoming turbulent times
I am having the same crisis as you. Having spent so long in academia I was sure I will walk the PhD path after I completed my masters last year - I'm in STEM so everyone around me is oh but you will get paid well after you finish , throwing away opportunities yada yada but the thing is I don't want to 100%. I am into the idea of it around 30-40% but not a 100% in. Post pandemic things changed a lot - I don't want to be investing another 4-5 years on a "maybe" but at the same time seeing your peers get into programs one after the other hurts like what the f am I doing with my life. I am applying for jobs and upskilling myself in the meantime but unless you get your foot through there is no way of knowing how this all will turn out. So terrified yes, god knows how I am holding on. Sorry a rant just your comment resonated with me sm and wanted to let you know I am here for you. Hope you figure everything out. Best wishes.
I really see myself in this video. I'm scared of going out of my comfort zone but I force myself to do it. This causes lot of anxiety and stress but you have to believe in yourself. No one else can achieve your dreams for you.
My biggest fear these days is not being able to keep up with the assignments if I get into a uni that I am preparing for. I am still preparing for the entrance exam but I am scared about being a slow. Your video helped me realize that was why I was secretly telling myself to take more time for me. Thanks for putting it out. ❤
I am finally setting out to get into a data analyst role from a software development role. A very similar expereince but so much harder not having started in big tech like you. After one year of work a 4 month break and struggling to find more work for another 6 months I have decided on my goals. This video, despite the traumas of my last job is telling me I am making the right choice.
I've been an intellectual my whole life, and I've been writing poetry for seven years now. While working a job with two hours commuting daily, I found that I am very good at singing and rapping, and the fear is immeasurable. It's not that I'm afraid of failure, my courage to fail is what enables me to ask stupid questions and immediately learn from them. I'm afraid of success, because I fixate on artists that have succeeded and were too fragile, and suffered and died regardless. So I'm pooling strength. Trying to be patient for now. Your videos are excellent, and your work ethic inspires me. I'll try not to let the illusion of stagnation get to me. Thank you.
This is what I got out of it. Feeling of fear, no solution to stop it. Presence of fear means you care about the outcome. Use your strength of own fear to gage how you feel about it Make it so, that you have no choice, but to take action. 1. Lessen the failure Barrier - Have something else that will take you thru/dont put all your eggs in the same basket. 2. Start small, dont make it big in your head. 3. Weighs the pros and cons. Risk and Reward. 4. Have a vision for youself. What you could become, possibilities that if it works what would it mean for you. Build systems when are motivated, so they will work even when you are not as motivated. Thank you for the video and sharing your insights of your own journey and vulnerability around the fear itself.. I think it was a bit basic and dont think it was greatly helpful to me, but can imagine it may be helpful for others.
Hi Tina! I've watched a bunch of your videos and love your content! I relate a to the challenges of staying motivated as well as experiencing fear of failure leading to procrastination. I also relate heavy to a prior video where you said you'd wake up late, work, come home and do nothing hahaha thats me!! Y'know it's funny though, I ended up being diagnosed with adhd very recently and it for real opened my eyes to sooo many things. For someone with adhd, it's inherently harder to develop motivation. It's harder to "get started," as some tasks end up exaggerated, anxiety-inducing, or flat out boring! But, one tip I found is that when you're actually feeling motivated, even for a second, capture the antecedents! This helps us identify potential triggers so that we might be able to manifest motivation again. For a lot of people, simply watching movies/videos of others achieving your desired goal is enough to motivate. Thanks for the awesome vids. I just wanted to spill my brain a little lol
My TRUE fear is regretting someone I COULD'VE become. That's why I do things that scare me, I can't live to be 80/90 and live with regret of not taking a chance, or working toward something that I've always wanted to do. #staymotivated #strength
Dr. Andrew Huberman has a video/information out that supports that fear of failure is more powerful/gets greater results than the traditional concept of positivity/self belief. Courage does not exist without fear. If anything its the definition: Courage is not a lack of fear. It is that fear is present and you take the proper action in the very face of that fear. Congratulations on taking the ongoing steps that took you on this tremendous journey while supporting and inspiring others to start and continue journeys of their own!
Hey Tina. I have always been a fearful person and have ran away everytime i was afraid. But i regret doing it and today i am planning on doing things differently and have started facing my fears. And currently i am building towards becoming a data analyst and public speaking.
I’m going through a massive career shift. I only graduated college back in May and I’ve already come to learn I don’t want to be in my degree field anymore. Back in September I enrolled in the Google Data Analytics program. I’ve been scared the whole time I’ve been making myself learn these new skills, “Am I making another mistake, will I get a job with this, can I even learn this and get into the field compared to those with degrees.” Between all that stress and having just been broken up with I’m scared as hell for the future. However, I’ve come to learn I’m more scared of the what if’s I don’t try. Thus, as Tina said, I’ve made myself not have a choice on learning this. Im going to learn it and do whatever I have to make a career out of something I do enjoy. No matter how scary it is right now.
When we say something, sometimes the words that come out come from such a depth, such a resonance of experience, success, failures, thoughts, dreams, a paragraph that we read somewhere, a song that pops into mind, a movie, a conversation, an image, an idea, that only who are close to your experience and your perception can really absorb it and understanding it and relate it in their lives. You could choose to talk about 1 topic or a list of ideas, but most people would really connect to what you are saying when you yourself understand your influences and motivations and why you are doing what you are doing, its about the journey and why you took it.
I am going through a cybersecurity bootcamp right now. I have never done anything like this before. Right now to straighten up my life and get independent I really need a good job and these classes are a ticket to freedom for me, so I have so much pressure, I procrastinate. I know it has to do with my fear of failure because so much depends on it.
Most people will not take on new endeavors due to their insecurities and fear of failure. You strike me as the opposite, a very courageous young woman.
Great video! Taking action despite fear. I’m enrolled in a software engineering bootcamp. Even thought I’m enjoying it, I’ve been procrastinating. It just feels unbelievable that I may one day leave my current job (been there for years and just burned out!) and move on to a new field where I can more money 😳 …. But I will continue trudging along despite my fear and lack of confidence! 😤
I really appreciate this video because I was so scared of failing in my dream career. I ended up writing a list of pros and cons of pursuing my dreams and not pursuing them. What I found out is literally that the only cons was my parent's disapproval which wasn't enough to throw my dreams away.
I think my biggest fear currently is that as an begineer I'm not too good with sql but my ultimate goal is to work in the data science field one day & hopefully become a Data Scientist. Also, Tina & Joma Tech are the only tech youtubers that I can actually feel a connection with not sure if it's they're communication pattern or my preference or that I should just explore more I seem to bias towards them which also makes me more motivated, Last but not least great content as usual!
I have been wanting to start my own youtube channel for more than a year but I am always so scared to start because I know its going to take a lot of my time and effort. I always put it off because I am a full time teacher and I don’t want to feel like I am wasting my time on something that could go no where, but now I am more motivated than ever to start. Thank you!
Three years ago, just before the pandemic, I was motivated to switch my career to Data Science. I went a head and registered for an MSc in Web and Data Science, tried to attend the Courses remotely and stopped due to procrastination and work study balance. Contemplating whether to quite or proceed has been one of the scariest things.
It's so relatable, I'm about to complete my internship and (hopefully) get a job offer and I'm scared and worried I won't be able to make it in the company, but I'm doing in anyways lol
I’m no English speaker, I’m trying to learn English, I really really want it, I love self care videos and these videos are so helpful to learn two things at the same time Thank uuuu!
I have to admit that i REALLY NEEDED TO HEAR THAT right now. I'm on a place when I decided to change my job for sure. I dindn't made any big step in this still working in current job, but I'm so afraid that i will failure in changing the whole lifge. Like i studied for 4 years to become as site eingineer but after working in this industry for about 2 years I'm so burned out. I want to change it like drastically for another industry, want to try the IT enviroment but I'm so freaked out that i can lose this part. Hearing your advices here really helped me bcs i forgot about that fear is normal but doing tgings instead of fear is giving you a process Well i knew about it before but i just fprgota about it so thank You Tina. Now i feel more powerfull to actually make that change happen.
You are unusually emotionally mature/have a high self-awareness for someone in their 20's. It took me till my late 30's. You definitely have a bright future!
My biggest fear right is failing my last year of architecture school. I'm trying to create habits that will make me more confident in my abilities. Thanks for the advice😁 Helped alot
Oh, I had this mentality. "Yolo, I don't want to reach the end of my life regreting not doing x". What happened? I regreted doing X. I think we should learn to deal with regret instead of avoiding it. I think regreting is a core component in our lives and just accept "I can't do everything" or "what I love is not what I need", let go of dreams, visions and passions and just live.
I'm always most scared of creative endeavors. With work, like just for making money, I always feel like "oh I can do whatever or get whatever crappy job" but it's bigger things, like creative passions, where it scares me to start or to try and turn them into money making endeavors. While I enjoy arts and other creative things, I don't think I've ever felt like I could actually make money with them because I don't feel I'll be good enough, so it scares me to even start something like that. RN the things I've been thinking of starting (and haven't started) are youtube, voice over, and writing
I love your advice and the personal experiences you use as a message to help motivate your audience on YT. Memento Mori has been a mantra for me for a while and to see it in your videos is amazing. Keep posting 🎉 I been trying to pass a licensing exam to get my career off the ground after multiple fails. This was inspiring. Thank you, Tina ❤
I m in the reverse path: I can do a lot in the day to the point I "burn" myself for the days after. I was obsessed by this "memento mori" though. I'm actually trying do do less and be consistant. I try not to be negative with myself to work each day by being positive instead of working quickly by fear of missing. I try to take time to organize it and see the path. Without it I cannot succeed in a task longer than 3 4 days. Without it I do not perceive time passing.
This is how I approach my projects: do my very best so that I won't regret that I didn't work hard enough. Of course, I like my projects to succeed, and in case they don't, I know that I have given them my best shot. Also, I regard failure as the mother of success, and it is through failure that I learn how to avoid making mistakes. Importantly, don't dwell on failures, just get up and move on with your life to the next project. Good luck!
I'm procrastinating on preparing for interviews to get a different job that pays more. Tomorrow will be my 1 year anniversary at my job, and I haven't even updated my resume. I'm just dreading the whole interview process, and I am hoping to stay for at least 2 years at this company before switching. I know that I received a lot of rejections before landing this job, and I don't want my efforts to be wasted. Nothing is fixed about this process.
I am currently at a really great electric car company as an IT Service Desk employee. I want to be a Software Engineer. I have only recently found the courage to reach out to a manager in SE and they are trying to get me an interview. I feel really under qualified and I am really stressed about not getting this position. I am afraid of rejection. I’ve been here for about a year and half, all the while wanting to make this career change. I am hoping for the best. If not the job, at least the chance to learn what exactly I can do to get that job in the future.
Play safe it's the easiest thing, I prefer jumping out my comfort zone every time I have the chance. I like controlled risk though it's not like jumping blindfolded, because a high level of uncertainty gives me anxiety instead of growth.
I'm SO frustrated right now because I'm skilled at many different things, but I can't complete even one thing that I know could help me gain some success or that would at least build my confidence in my ability to complete projects. I don't even have a goal to be super famous or rich; if I could attain the lifestyle where I don't have to worry about money and have a job I can take anywhere, I'd be happy. I don't want to flex expensive possessions. I just want to reach/move people through my writing and art and fashion (that makes them feel beautiful/happy). I could say that I want to do too many things, but if I could complete at least ONE thing right now, I'd be much happier. Having chronic depression hasn't helped, but my goodness, I fight it! So, it's frustrating.
I'm amazed I love every one of your videos. I first found you from the diy pulley video like how GarageGymReviews made. I subbed cause of your amazing approach to design. You also have awesome life advice. I'm very glad you felt the fears and did the things anyway. As someone who has to make some serious pivots in my life right now as well, I'm inspired.
I love your channel and you have truly changed my life ❤. there are a lot of things I'm afraid of starting right now lol. The thing that is bothering me the most right now is looking for internships to apply for related to my major which is Geographic Information Systems. I'm afraid I'm not qualified and will be denied the experience. To me that step is big but as tip number 2 states "Lessen the failure barrier", if I fail then I fail. there's only one way to find out. Just try it.
If it makes you feel better, I applied for a job I felt I was not qualified for 100% as my degree had nothing to do with it. It’s a consulting company and the interviews were extremely scary and HARD. I was so anxious and pushed myself so hard. I also cried a lot because I kept thinking I had bombed the interviews. Anyway I signed their offer letter on Monday. Its beaten every job I’ve ever been offered. Do it! You’ll be scared but you won’t lose. Worst case scenario you will learn something that’ll make you a better candidate for the next thing.
Love your content and am looking forward to more of your tips. You seem very down to Earth and just so happen to also be a 95-er. What am I most afraid of failing? Well, let's go on a rant to see if I can pinpoint it. I constantly feel underqualified. I am afraid that everything I have spent time and effort in so far will be worth nothing compared to others who figured out their path sooner. I am also afraid that I will pursue this and end up at the same place I found myself in before starting where it felt like I reached a dead end with no idea what I wanted to do or where to go. I am trying to learn and promote my fear of looking back and regretting not having taken the risks instead of focusing on the fear of taking the risks but facing the imaginary dead end. And so I continue to procrastinate the learning that could further fuel the enjoyment I have tasted in system troubleshooting at my previous job.
I want to start a UA-cam channel but I keep procrastinating giving myself may reasons why I think I can’t do it. I am terrified I’m not smart enough to be a content creator and also criticism… I’m scared and that’s why I searched this video, thank you
0. Use your fear to jauge how important sth is to you- if it's very scary, it probably is very important to you 1. Make it so that you don't have a choice (eg: got a job for which she needed to learn a new skill) 2. Lessen the 'failure barrier' (have a backup/side option to allow you to fail) 3. Weigh the pros and cons 4. Have a vision for yourself (memento mori) 5. Turn motivation into action right away (set big goals + smaller goals+ habits integrated in your schedule)
I want to learn Python for Data Engineering b/c it will help me get and maintain the next level of salary as a Data Engineer. I have subscribed to Pluralsight and 365 DataScience, but I need to actually carve out time everyday to do it. I thought I needed a lot of time, but it was hard to get 2hrs right after work b/c I would feel like a mushy brain. But maybe if I just do 1hr during a time when I don't feel mushy...like 7-8pm MWF. Then at least that is something! rather than nothing! I want to study, but I also need to workout to lose weight. I currently swim 1000meters (laps) for 30min everything Tues and Thurs from 7:30-8pm. Maybe I can still study from 6:45pm-7:15pm?
My biggest fear that I procrastinate a lot is to make a project and show it off. I completed retraining in a new specialty, but every time I sit down to work, it seems to me that it is not good enough to show it to someone. And if I do not improve the skill, I blame myself very much. I continue to work in the office, and this also gives a negative moment. After a full day, there is not always the strength for one more job. Vicious circle.
Idk why I always associate Fear of Failure with Fear of Rejection .. They seem to have 2 different sources but similar consequences. Will work on both 🌻
I feellike saying regret is scarier is not so good. It's a double edged sword. All it does is make you fearful of more things. Imagine going through life where you are forced to do things, otherwise something bad happens. It's like a gun is being diected at your head for the rest of your life
I want to improve my programming skills because I have 2 years left in university as a CS student and I want to be able to get a good job after graduation so I can be more useful in and help my sisters financially because they were always there for me. but sometimes I have those feelings that I might not be good enough or I'll fail which terrifies me the most and I can't do anything about it
The first time I failed academically in my life it led to my whole life falling apart including a divorce. I'm worried that even though I have the ability to learn and actually get off of disability benefits and succeed that I'm going to make a terrible error somewhere and everything will fall down like a house of cards again.
I am 40 years old and have two kids. I have been a qa engineer for so long, but I would like to learn data science. The thing most scared me is I am afraid I lost my job because my family need my income, but on the other hand, I really want to take more time to learn data science.
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Thank u for this great work, machine learning and quantum computing is the most important learning that I have in mind
ms tina, can you make a video on how to step by step create an application. i know the first one is planning but what is next? there are tons on google but i prefer someone explaining it on video. plssssss
I'm sorry but that dude describing you the way he did was a bit of an a-hole move.
"We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons." - Jim Rohn
This is gold, ty!!
Indeed gold
i have emotional trauma from childhood and bullying in school. it transfers to my employment and ive found that healthy relationships for me, are difficult. i just graduated with my masters and am getting anxiety over feeling forced to return to that 9-5. i see people, like you, doing what they love and being creators (in any sphere) and it makes me want to pursue a niche that i dont see anywhere. reviewing books of a specific nonfiction genre, and cataloguing everything i find to try and dissect the narrative. would take years to build into something, but, i am happiest when reading.
That sounds like an interesting niche!
You should do it! Don’t let your fears stop you. The only way we gain confidence is by self-compassion and overcoming our fears (even if it means failing many, many times).
I am writing my final exams in High school and I procrastinate when I feel anxious about a subject. I am scared of having to repeat this year or not having the guts to travel overseas and explore opportunities in Data science or stats and computers. I just struggle to incision what success would look like and it eats me up sometimes. Tina, you are an angel. Please keep inspiring us and keep being you.
Courage the dog is actually really brave
riiiight? I didn't realize how smart of a word thing it actually is until I grew up "courage the cowardly dog"
It is!
That was the whole point of the show, he overcome every fear because he couldn't afford lose his family.
"I'm scared of everything but I still do it." -Tina
And it sounds like Courage the Dog
@@TinaHuang1 same!
Hi Tina! Last June 2022 I jumped from my 15 year IT career into a contract job leading a team of software engineers and doing data analytics. It was the scariest jump of my life. I lost sleep, didn’t eat. My husband is really sick and needs insurance and he can’t work and we have two babies aged 3 & 4. I had to buy my own healthcare out of pocket and learn Python on weekends. My job has been great and was exactly what I needed but I was really stressed for the first few months. Thanks for making this. When you all pick a path commit to it 110% you can do it!!
I guess the thing I am the most scared of is actually putting myself out there as a software engineer. Building projects, finding a simple job, I am aiming to learn more or get advance degrees instead of facing the fact that I already have what I need to build my career, I need to start working now. This video really helped in putting that into perspective and I think the actionable steps I can take is build those portfolio projects, revisit and learn DSA, and actually apply for all of those jobs.
I have an interview tomorrow for a position I really think I am not a good fit experience based, but, it's a good pay, good position, good company and they approached me.
I'm terrified. No idea what they expect for me.
I will do it anyway.
Stay strong fellas.
They apporached you so it means that you're worth their time and tomorrow you'll prove that to them
@Dave Z how did it go ?
The last week, I’ve been struggling with anxiety and anger; it was by and large my obsession with UA-cam rabbit holes into AIDS, Ukraine etc. I took a note to curate my content consumption. Watching you, this vid almost instantly lifted that negative energy. Thanks Tina.
The biggest thing I’m scared I’m going to fail is doing well in the bootcamp I’m in. I forgot to fill out a form and I’m worried that I made a bad impression or seem like I’m not committed. I’m so scared that every little mistake I make will be held against me. I’m trying to understand that it’s ok to make mistakes as long as I acknowledge them and make actionable steps towards not making the same mistake again.
You are totally fine. I learnt that it’s our ego yes ego, that makes us feel like every little thing we do is being monitored , remembered or held against. In reality, everyone is too busy with their own lives to even really remember what we did- we suffer our imagination more than the reality. Keep on marching forward! Good luck and kudos on joining the boot camp
@@hitishasharma6014 thank you so much for the words of encouragement and advice! I’ll take it to heart 🙏
I have the same experience in the bootcamp while those guys are so supportive and encourage me so much. We are probably our harshest judge. Those bootcamps are not easy, so give yourself a break.
@@tatianajenkins8295 Thanks Tatiana!
your every fuck up might be held against you , but your accomplishments also will be noticed. just make sure you keep working so that the latter balances out the former. A lot of the time, we let perfect be the enemy of good and give up after fucking up once, just keep the big picture in mind and work towards it.
I am 35 years old and I come to this Channel for getting the advice for tech and success in life. Kudos to you Tina !
thanks for making this Tina! This is really helpful, I just graduated from my master's course (that was intended to be my stepping stone for PhD but I ended up not wanting to go to academia) and now I'm trying to look for a real job without actual work experience. I really should be applying for jobs and learning new skills every day but I'm also avoiding this. I don't know if other people have similar experience but it's really nice to see you posting videos about overcoming turbulent times
I am having the same crisis as you. Having spent so long in academia I was sure I will walk the PhD path after I completed my masters last year - I'm in STEM so everyone around me is oh but you will get paid well after you finish , throwing away opportunities yada yada but the thing is I don't want to 100%. I am into the idea of it around 30-40% but not a 100% in. Post pandemic things changed a lot - I don't want to be investing another 4-5 years on a "maybe" but at the same time seeing your peers get into programs one after the other hurts like what the f am I doing with my life. I am applying for jobs and upskilling myself in the meantime but unless you get your foot through there is no way of knowing how this all will turn out. So terrified yes, god knows how I am holding on. Sorry a rant just your comment resonated with me sm and wanted to let you know I am here for you. Hope you figure everything out. Best wishes.
@@sinbycosi2813 best wishes to you,
Your comment is relatable for me too
I really see myself in this video. I'm scared of going out of my comfort zone but I force myself to do it. This causes lot of anxiety and stress but you have to believe in yourself. No one else can achieve your dreams for you.
My biggest fear these days is not being able to keep up with the assignments if I get into a uni that I am preparing for. I am still preparing for the entrance exam but I am scared about being a slow. Your video helped me realize that was why I was secretly telling myself to take more time for me.
Thanks for putting it out. ❤
I am finally setting out to get into a data analyst role from a software development role. A very similar expereince but so much harder not having started in big tech like you. After one year of work a 4 month break and struggling to find more work for another 6 months I have decided on my goals. This video, despite the traumas of my last job is telling me I am making the right choice.
I've been an intellectual my whole life, and I've been writing poetry for seven years now. While working a job with two hours commuting daily, I found that I am very good at singing and rapping, and the fear is immeasurable. It's not that I'm afraid of failure, my courage to fail is what enables me to ask stupid questions and immediately learn from them. I'm afraid of success, because I fixate on artists that have succeeded and were too fragile, and suffered and died regardless. So I'm pooling strength. Trying to be patient for now.
Your videos are excellent, and your work ethic inspires me. I'll try not to let the illusion of stagnation get to me. Thank you.
There is so much wisdom, humility, logic, and subtle humor in this script, it's incredible. Keep these coming.
This is what I got out of it.
Feeling of fear, no solution to stop it. Presence of fear means you care about the outcome.
Use your strength of own fear to gage how you feel about it
Make it so, that you have no choice, but to take action.
1. Lessen the failure Barrier - Have something else that will take you thru/dont put all your eggs in the same basket.
2. Start small, dont make it big in your head.
3. Weighs the pros and cons. Risk and Reward.
4. Have a vision for youself. What you could become, possibilities that if it works what would it mean for you.
Build systems when are motivated, so they will work even when you are not as motivated.
Thank you for the video and sharing your insights of your own journey and vulnerability around the fear itself.. I think it was a bit basic and dont think it was greatly helpful to me, but can imagine it may be helpful for others.
Hi Tina! I've watched a bunch of your videos and love your content! I relate a to the challenges of staying motivated as well as experiencing fear of failure leading to procrastination. I also relate heavy to a prior video where you said you'd wake up late, work, come home and do nothing hahaha thats me!! Y'know it's funny though, I ended up being diagnosed with adhd very recently and it for real opened my eyes to sooo many things. For someone with adhd, it's inherently harder to develop motivation. It's harder to "get started," as some tasks end up exaggerated, anxiety-inducing, or flat out boring! But, one tip I found is that when you're actually feeling motivated, even for a second, capture the antecedents! This helps us identify potential triggers so that we might be able to manifest motivation again.
For a lot of people, simply watching movies/videos of others achieving your desired goal is enough to motivate.
Thanks for the awesome vids. I just wanted to spill my brain a little lol
My TRUE fear is regretting someone I COULD'VE become. That's why I do things that scare me, I can't live to be 80/90 and live with regret of not taking a chance, or working toward something that I've always wanted to do. #staymotivated #strength
Dr. Andrew Huberman has a video/information out that supports that fear of failure is more powerful/gets greater results than the traditional concept of positivity/self belief. Courage does not exist without fear. If anything its the definition: Courage is not a lack of fear. It is that fear is present and you take the proper action in the very face of that fear. Congratulations on taking the ongoing steps that took you on this tremendous journey while supporting and inspiring others to start and continue journeys of their own!
Hey Tina. I have always been a fearful person and have ran away everytime i was afraid. But i regret doing it and today i am planning on doing things differently and have started facing my fears. And currently i am building towards becoming a data analyst and public speaking.
I’m going through a massive career shift. I only graduated college back in May and I’ve already come to learn I don’t want to be in my degree field anymore. Back in September I enrolled in the Google Data Analytics program. I’ve been scared the whole time I’ve been making myself learn these new skills, “Am I making another mistake, will I get a job with this, can I even learn this and get into the field compared to those with degrees.” Between all that stress and having just been broken up with I’m scared as hell for the future. However, I’ve come to learn I’m more scared of the what if’s I don’t try. Thus, as Tina said, I’ve made myself not have a choice on learning this. Im going to learn it and do whatever I have to make a career out of something I do enjoy. No matter how scary it is right now.
I hope it works out for you !
When we say something, sometimes the words that come out come from such a depth, such a resonance of experience, success, failures, thoughts, dreams, a paragraph that we read somewhere, a song that pops into mind, a movie, a conversation, an image, an idea, that only who are close to your experience and your perception can really absorb it and understanding it and relate it in their lives.
You could choose to talk about 1 topic or a list of ideas, but most people would really connect to what you are saying when you yourself understand your influences and motivations and why you are doing what you are doing, its about the journey and why you took it.
I am going through a cybersecurity bootcamp right now. I have never done anything like this before. Right now to straighten up my life and get independent I really need a good job and these classes are a ticket to freedom for me, so I have so much pressure, I procrastinate. I know it has to do with my fear of failure because so much depends on it.
how is it going now? i could really use some good news
Update?
Most people will not take on new endeavors due to their insecurities and fear of failure. You strike me as the opposite, a very courageous young woman.
Always love your video intros 😂
Great video! Taking action despite fear.
I’m enrolled in a software engineering bootcamp. Even thought I’m enjoying it, I’ve been procrastinating. It just feels unbelievable that I may one day leave my current job (been there for years and just burned out!) and move on to a new field where I can more money 😳 …. But I will continue trudging along despite my fear and lack of confidence! 😤
I really appreciate this video because I was so scared of failing in my dream career. I ended up writing a list of pros and cons of pursuing my dreams and not pursuing them. What I found out is literally that the only cons was my parent's disapproval which wasn't enough to throw my dreams away.
I love the decorations in the background
I think my biggest fear currently is that as an begineer I'm not too good with sql but my ultimate goal is to work in the data science field one day & hopefully become a Data Scientist. Also, Tina & Joma Tech are the only tech youtubers that I can actually feel a connection with not sure if it's they're communication pattern or my preference or that I should just explore more I seem to bias towards them which also makes me more motivated, Last but not least great content as usual!
I have been wanting to start my own youtube channel for more than a year but I am always so scared to start because I know its going to take a lot of my time and effort. I always put it off because I am a full time teacher and I don’t want to feel like I am wasting my time on something that could go no where, but now I am more motivated than ever to start. Thank you!
Three years ago, just before the pandemic, I was motivated to switch my career to Data Science. I went a head and registered for an MSc in Web and Data Science, tried to attend the Courses remotely and stopped due to procrastination and work study balance. Contemplating whether to quite or proceed has been one of the scariest things.
It's so relatable, I'm about to complete my internship and (hopefully) get a job offer and I'm scared and worried I won't be able to make it in the company, but I'm doing in anyways lol
I’m no English speaker, I’m trying to learn English, I really really want it, I love self care videos and these videos are so helpful to learn two things at the same time Thank uuuu!
I have to admit that i REALLY NEEDED TO HEAR THAT right now. I'm on a place when I decided to change my job for sure. I dindn't made any big step in this still working in current job, but I'm so afraid that i will failure in changing the whole lifge. Like i studied for 4 years to become as site eingineer but after working in this industry for about 2 years I'm so burned out. I want to change it like drastically for another industry, want to try the IT enviroment but I'm so freaked out that i can lose this part. Hearing your advices here really helped me bcs i forgot about that fear is normal but doing tgings instead of fear is giving you a process Well i knew about it before but i just fprgota about it so thank You Tina. Now i feel more powerfull to actually make that change happen.
You are unusually emotionally mature/have a high self-awareness for someone in their 20's. It took me till my late 30's. You definitely have a bright future!
How old is she??
Agree entirely, I couldn't have said it better myself
great video. i'll watch it later when i feel it
My biggest fear right is failing my last year of architecture school. I'm trying to create habits that will make me more confident in my abilities. Thanks for the advice😁 Helped alot
Great stuff Tina. Thanks for always being so honest and open in public.
Oh, I had this mentality. "Yolo, I don't want to reach the end of my life regreting not doing x". What happened? I regreted doing X. I think we should learn to deal with regret instead of avoiding it. I think regreting is a core component in our lives and just accept "I can't do everything" or "what I love is not what I need", let go of dreams, visions and passions and just live.
I'm always most scared of creative endeavors. With work, like just for making money, I always feel like "oh I can do whatever or get whatever crappy job" but it's bigger things, like creative passions, where it scares me to start or to try and turn them into money making endeavors. While I enjoy arts and other creative things, I don't think I've ever felt like I could actually make money with them because I don't feel I'll be good enough, so it scares me to even start something like that. RN the things I've been thinking of starting (and haven't started) are youtube, voice over, and writing
I love your advice and the personal experiences you use as a message to help motivate your audience on YT. Memento Mori has been a mantra for me for a while and to see it in your videos is amazing. Keep posting 🎉
I been trying to pass a licensing exam to get my career off the ground after multiple fails. This was inspiring. Thank you, Tina ❤
I m in the reverse path: I can do a lot in the day to the point I "burn" myself for the days after. I was obsessed by this "memento mori" though. I'm actually trying do do less and be consistant. I try not to be negative with myself to work each day by being positive instead of working quickly by fear of missing. I try to take time to organize it and see the path. Without it I cannot succeed in a task longer than 3 4 days. Without it I do not perceive time passing.
What a great video!! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I have so much respect for you!
I neeeeeded this video 😭 I’ve just started learning C and my fear of failure is holding back my progress 😭
Our generation really suffers from over-thinking. People will think themselves into anxiety and depression.
Amazing advice! When I feel I need to hear something positive I always find myself on this channel! 🥰
always love your content
You're the best, Tina.
Thank you. This video was exactly what I needed at this point in life.
Thank you very much, Tina! You always say the words that I needed to hear right now.❤
Shou out from Brazil, Tina! You're such an inspiring person!
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This is what I needed to listen in this moment, Thank you!
I love the little nuggets you always give in your videos. There's always something for everyone who needs that little push to keep moving :)
Hi Tina! I find your videos to be so motivating and inspiring. Looking forward to using Learning Octopus when it's ready!😃
Tina, you're so motivating thank you for making this chanel
This is how I approach my projects: do my very best so that I won't regret that I didn't work hard enough. Of course, I like my projects to succeed, and in case they don't, I know that I have given them my best shot. Also, I regard failure as the mother of success, and it is through failure that I learn how to avoid making mistakes. Importantly, don't dwell on failures, just get up and move on with your life to the next project. Good luck!
This setup is amazing love it
wow. This is exactly the message I needed🙌 Also, your white Blue Yeti looks awesome🤓
Shes BACK!!!!!
Thanks for sharing! The advices are great to follow
I'm procrastinating on preparing for interviews to get a different job that pays more. Tomorrow will be my 1 year anniversary at my job, and I haven't even updated my resume.
I'm just dreading the whole interview process, and I am hoping to stay for at least 2 years at this company before switching. I know that I received a lot of rejections before landing this job, and I don't want my efforts to be wasted. Nothing is fixed about this process.
Great video Tina. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I like the aesthetics of the vdeo too. Very comforting to watch. 😊
I love love love you and your content Tina you are amazing
I am currently at a really great electric car company as an IT Service Desk employee. I want to be a Software Engineer. I have only recently found the courage to reach out to a manager in SE and they are trying to get me an interview. I feel really under qualified and I am really stressed about not getting this position. I am afraid of rejection. I’ve been here for about a year and half, all the while wanting to make this career change. I am hoping for the best. If not the job, at least the chance to learn what exactly I can do to get that job in the future.
Thanks for sharing your experience and your thoughts.
Thanks for sharing your valuable thoughts with us>> I am really grateful that I found your channel
You are such an inspiration!!!!!
I am also scared of living a life full of regrets. Thanks Tina ❤❤❤
Play safe it's the easiest thing, I prefer jumping out my comfort zone every time I have the chance. I like controlled risk though it's not like jumping blindfolded, because a high level of uncertainty gives me anxiety instead of growth.
I'm SO frustrated right now because I'm skilled at many different things, but I can't complete even one thing that I know could help me gain some success or that would at least build my confidence in my ability to complete projects.
I don't even have a goal to be super famous or rich; if I could attain the lifestyle where I don't have to worry about money and have a job I can take anywhere, I'd be happy. I don't want to flex expensive possessions. I just want to reach/move people through my writing and art and fashion (that makes them feel beautiful/happy). I could say that I want to do too many things, but if I could complete at least ONE thing right now, I'd be much happier. Having chronic depression hasn't helped, but my goodness, I fight it! So, it's frustrating.
I'm amazed I love every one of your videos. I first found you from the diy pulley video like how GarageGymReviews made. I subbed cause of your amazing approach to design. You also have awesome life advice. I'm very glad you felt the fears and did the things anyway. As someone who has to make some serious pivots in my life right now as well, I'm inspired.
I love your channel and you have truly changed my life ❤.
there are a lot of things I'm afraid of starting right now lol. The thing that is bothering me the most right now is looking for internships to apply for related to my major which is Geographic Information Systems. I'm afraid I'm not qualified and will be denied the experience. To me that step is big but as tip number 2 states "Lessen the failure barrier", if I fail then I fail. there's only one way to find out. Just try it.
If it makes you feel better, I applied for a job I felt I was not qualified for 100% as my degree had nothing to do with it. It’s a consulting company and the interviews were extremely scary and HARD. I was so anxious and pushed myself so hard. I also cried a lot because I kept thinking I had bombed the interviews. Anyway I signed their offer letter on Monday. Its beaten every job I’ve ever been offered. Do it! You’ll be scared but you won’t lose. Worst case scenario you will learn something that’ll make you a better candidate for the next thing.
@@chingsinjani3963 wow thanks! You are right I just need to push myself hard like you did.
Good luck! Rooting for you ❤
Also, thank you so much Tina for the video!!
Thanks a lot Tina, i am really scared of failing into Java. Now motivated to defeat this monster :P
Love your content and am looking forward to more of your tips. You seem very down to Earth and just so happen to also be a 95-er.
What am I most afraid of failing? Well, let's go on a rant to see if I can pinpoint it.
I constantly feel underqualified. I am afraid that everything I have spent time and effort in so far will be worth nothing compared to others who figured out their path sooner. I am also afraid that I will pursue this and end up at the same place I found myself in before starting where it felt like I reached a dead end with no idea what I wanted to do or where to go. I am trying to learn and promote my fear of looking back and regretting not having taken the risks instead of focusing on the fear of taking the risks but facing the imaginary dead end. And so I continue to procrastinate the learning that could further fuel the enjoyment I have tasted in system troubleshooting at my previous job.
I want to start a UA-cam channel but I keep procrastinating giving myself may reasons why I think I can’t do it. I am terrified I’m not smart enough to be a content creator and also criticism… I’m scared and that’s why I searched this video, thank you
0. Use your fear to jauge how important sth is to you- if it's very scary, it probably is very important to you
1. Make it so that you don't have a choice (eg: got a job for which she needed to learn a new skill)
2. Lessen the 'failure barrier' (have a backup/side option to allow you to fail)
3. Weigh the pros and cons
4. Have a vision for yourself (memento mori)
5. Turn motivation into action right away (set big goals + smaller goals+ habits integrated in your schedule)
Good video. Keep going. Move forward.
I want to learn Python for Data Engineering b/c it will help me get and maintain the next level of salary as a Data Engineer.
I have subscribed to Pluralsight and 365 DataScience, but I need to actually carve out time everyday to do it. I thought I needed a lot of time, but it was hard to get 2hrs right after work b/c I would feel like a mushy brain. But maybe if I just do 1hr during a time when I don't feel mushy...like 7-8pm MWF. Then at least that is something! rather than nothing!
I want to study, but I also need to workout to lose weight.
I currently swim 1000meters (laps) for 30min everything Tues and Thurs from 7:30-8pm.
Maybe I can still study from 6:45pm-7:15pm?
hey, glad to see you posting! i hope you’re doing okay
Thanks so much for being honest 😊
My biggest fear that I procrastinate a lot is to make a project and show it off. I completed retraining in a new specialty, but every time I sit down to work, it seems to me that it is not good enough to show it to someone. And if I do not improve the skill, I blame myself very much. I continue to work in the office, and this also gives a negative moment. After a full day, there is not always the strength for one more job. Vicious circle.
thank you this helpt me alot.
needed this! Thank you
this video came at a perfect time. i just . . . thank you. that's all i can say.
I like ur hair. I will follow ur content. cheers from Australia
Idk why I always associate Fear of Failure with Fear of Rejection .. They seem to have 2 different sources but similar consequences. Will work on both 🌻
I feellike saying regret is scarier is not so good. It's a double edged sword. All it does is make you fearful of more things. Imagine going through life where you are forced to do things, otherwise something bad happens. It's like a gun is being diected at your head for the rest of your life
I am scared of not being able to be successful in college. I am a bad student and that is why I am like this.
I want to improve my programming skills because I have 2 years left in university as a CS student and I want to be able to get a good job after graduation so I can be more useful in and help my sisters financially because they were always there for me. but sometimes I have those feelings that I might not be good enough or I'll fail which terrifies me the most and I can't do anything about it
thanks for the video
The first time I failed academically in my life it led to my whole life falling apart including a divorce.
I'm worried that even though I have the ability to learn and actually get off of disability benefits and succeed that I'm going to make a terrible error somewhere and everything will fall down like a house of cards again.
You look very refreshed and beautiful. Motivated video thank you ❤
Take your time but some day or at some point you'll have to move on from everything, afterall we all have limited time on this beautiful earth !
I am 40 years old and have two kids. I have been a qa engineer for so long, but I would like to learn data science. The thing most scared me is I am afraid I lost my job because my family need my income, but on the other hand, I really want to take more time to learn data science.
Tina is good people
Tina. Love.
im in my last year of high school and im scared shitless of the fact that i might fail because it is a very real possibility given my track record.