I was followed home
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- Опубліковано 7 вер 2024
- Hey guy,
A handful of people ask me if living alone in Tokyo is dangerous at all, and honestly I tell them no more than when I was living in Melbourne. Bad stuff like this happens everywhere unfortunately. It just sucks.
I know this is different from what I usually post but I wanted to vent and talk about what happened.
Thank you again to everyone who msged me on IG. Your care and support mean the world to me.
Apologises for how goddamn tired I look in this video. I was up late talking to a friend and even after that I couldn't get in any decent sleep. I ended up waking up early today and going for a walk (lol believe it or not) to help clear my mind.
Stay safe everyone!
Also sorry for being MIA with the regular videos. Hoping to get back on the bandwagon slowly.
That's honestly so scary even for me as a dude. I can't even begin to imagine how it is as a woman. Honestly, thanks for sharing because it offers more perspective into the issue and serves as a good reminder of the reality of the world. I have a little sister and I feel like I need to be extra alert next time I know she is out alone traveling or not. Thank you for sharing and follow your gut! Better to be extra cautious and paranoid even though it may unfortunately detract from your experience traveling.
Don't ever feel bad for making a video like this. Stay safe, it's so good that you were cautious instead of brushing it off ''as if u were crazy/overreacting"
Im glad you're safe and nothing serious happened
Thank you! I'm glad it didn't escalate
I am super super cautious, and I would probably think about all those same things too (e.g., did he see my work bag? Etc). Glad you followed your instincts because they definitely kept you safe! Whether or not that guy had bad intentions, in the end, you got home safely. Thanks for sharing your story... some people ignore their instincts or just have never developed that sensitivity so this is a great reminder to just be aware of one's surroundings and to not be ashamed of taking precautionary measures no matter how silly they might seem. Truly, better safe than sorry. ❤
That is terrible. Glad you are safe now. Please take the necessary precautions and trust your intuition. Sorry you had to feel that way.
stef, you have every right to feel that way. he definitely was trying to pull some sketchy shit and I'm so glad you're safe. i was traveling abroad alone and some guy lingered/followed me for almost 2 hours. i asked some random person for help but they didn't take me seriously and ignored me. i ended up confronting him and saw that he took pictures of me and made him delete it. i was so scared and felt so paranoid my entire trip. please be safe and keep defensive equipment with you at all time!
Those nervous feelings is what keeps you alive and telling you that you are in danger. Good instincts by hiding. Don't be afraid to run scream or hide.
This is so infuriating, always trust your gut and it’s good that you uploaded about the situation because it brings awareness to your friends/followers if a disappearance were to happen, take care and be safe.
Thank you! Take care too
I'm glad you're safe, try not to let this situation get you down too much though. It's sad that there are people like that in this world but unfortunately there are. I hope you dont have to go through it again. However I think it would be smart to try to carry something to protect yourself even if it's just pepper spray, I don't know how you feel about stuff like that, but the way I was raised was "it's better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it." Be safe! And if you ever need to vent again I'm happy to listen if you feel like sharing.
I hope so too. Yeah I might have to look into getting some just in case. Thank you for listening to me vent!
@@STEFATTY no problem, it's better to vent and get it all out rather than bottling it all up, that can be bad for you in many ways.
...stay alert at all times & Be safe !!
Glad to hear you’ r okay.
Thank you!
Couldn’t help but when I saw your Instagram no one should feel unsafe!! It’s ridiculous what happened and I’m glad throughout everything you got home safely! There’s a lot of crazy people out there I mean do they have grab car or Uber ? Maybe it maybe safer that way then street are SUPER QUIET 🙄 glad your safe
Thank you! Unfortunately Uber is super expensive at that time of night and not common in my area
STEFATTY fair enough... well look I’m glad your safe just take care of your self stefatty👌🏽
Glad you're safe! Always better to be cautious! Good thing you stuck to your gut! Praying this won't happen again! Wishing you all the best!
Glad you were able to pick up that. In the future as you know always be aware of your surroundings. Please be safe and maybe change routes unfortunately. To keep creepy men like this from following you. Sad that you had to go through this. 🙏🏽
There's nothing wrong to get it off your chest, keep an eye on it and stay strong!
Since you're into training at the gym, maybe pick up something like boxing/ karate for self-defense purpose while you're at it?
Heart goes out to you, as a guy I can never actually feel the fear and disturbance that bloody brings..
I've actually been interested in getting into boxing for a while so after lockdown I'll probably look into it
Jeez this was scary! Glad you’re safe and you definitely outsmarted that creeper.
No need to apologize for your post. This helped comfort you like you said getting this off your chest. Anyways, stay safe!
glad to hear you're safe after such an experience, don't feel bad because you did nothing wrong, any girl in that situation would think the same thing. Good job staying calm in such a tense situation
I tried my best, thank you!
I’m glad you’re ok. You’re not crazy. You trusted your gut and always trust your gut. The way you described it, yeah it was pretty shady and suspect to say the least. Your survival instincts were with you that night so I’m glad you listened to it. Main thing is your safe. If you don’t know any self defense techniques then maybe you should consider some self defense courses for your future safety. Always be safe and take care!🤙🙏
That's your six scenes kicking in... definitely you did the right thing to walk a different way home to confirm he was following you. I was born and raised in the south Bronx of old New York City in the early 80's and I was so stupid when I was young and that six scenes would kick in when I knew I was being followed and going to get jumped. Glad your safe but careful he does not recognize you from your UA-cam channel and just be cautious for a bit until you can gain that trust again.
Thank you for sharing this video Stephanie. I'm sorry if this comment brings up bad memories, I wanted to take a moment to thank you for your courage in sharing your story to us -- especially to the females because we never know what can happen to us at any given time -- which is absolutely terrible and I really just want to punch anyone who pulls this nonsense. Try to be kind to yourself, these situations are so panic-stricken there's only seconds to make decisions, and then the reprecussions take time to heal. I hope you are doing better ❤️
You deserve so, so much better. I am so sorry. It helps to process by sharing like this. You hang in there!
Glad that you're okay! Trust your instinct. From the way you're describing it. His swagger def seemed like he is up to no good.
Close your eyes and deep breaths.
Not sure if it's going to help or not but,
Hope your day gets better 🙃
Very similar thing happened to me when I was solo traveling in Taiwan and also in NY going home :( it’s such a scary and sickening experience.. I’m glad you were vigilant and nothing happened.. 🥺 you should send your friends your live location when going home / have someone be on the phone with you / hold pepper spray or taser!
A situation like that would scare anyone. Its good that you took those precautions and that your safe.
Thank you!
I’m so sorry this happened to you that’s so scary! Glad to hear you’re ok! Do you by chance have pepper spray and/or a taser? It’s sad that it’s even necessary but it might help you feel safer walking around by yourself regardless of time of day. Also just wanted to say always trust your gut and never doubt yourself or think that you’re overreacting
I don't have either unfortunately. You're right, definitely better safe than sorry!
Firstly, you are a-okay to feel how you feel. I know it's so easy to want to shove the gross feeling away cus you don't want someone creepy + pretty unworthy of your energy to affect you. Feel what you feel, self-soothe, baby yourself or have friends support you, and express it through vlogging or writing it out.
Secondly, Oprah covers it in a few of her SuperSoul Conversation podcasts essentially with stories of how listening to yourself first will save your life in so many situations.
"The feeling itself is the warning sign. It's ENOUGH as an explanation to not keep staying in the situation. An animal who senses fear will run in the other direction. Humans are the only animals who sense the fear and walk right into the situation." -- Don't analyze your warning signs, it's absolutely okay not to explain yourself out of wanting to run or scream or dodge. Don't be polite when your feeling is warning you! I empower you to trust your feelings and honour them! It's totally okay to shout at him or scream at him just to scare him off too! It'll feel weird to do so but go for it.
Here's the episode!
ua-cam.com/video/dzxaZ3KGND0/v-deo.html
Also, never apologize for your discomfort, your feelings and experiences deserve all the space in the world and do not need to be shrunk down
Honestly, it IS never normal to be followed home.
But goshdarnit, getting followed is definitely something I sympathize for women
I only experienced this type of scenario briefly but I was already aggravated
The guy was definitely up to something. You should carry pepper spray, and also if he does it again, confront him and do it very loudly. Glad you are safe.
Thank you!
Glad to see you safe at home , make sure if this happens again please call the police. Try to stay positive and don’t let this affect you. 🙂
Thank you! I'm trying my best
You had your personal space and safety violated. It is normal to feel uneasy, and venting is a way of healing. Even crying helps. But we are all glad you were safe and you had the smarts to out smart him.
Good to tell that guy which street your house is on, from here 👍🏻 Be safe!
Glad you are OK Hope talking about it helps you cope. You did nothing wrong your instincts and responses were correct. If possible with the help of a Japanese speaking friend report it to the police and/or you school. He may have try this with others. Consider carring a noise alarm or whistle to attracts others. I would be reluctant to confront such an individual if by yourself. As you are to work from home hopefully you won't need to use the tram for a while. Take care and thanks for the videos hopefully you video helps others who have similar experiences
Yeah I'm lucky that I can work from home now so I won't have to be out as late anymore!
hey! im new to your channel, and this is the first video i came across. really sorry that this really shitty thing happened to you. im from nyc and luckily this has never happened to me before. my personality is a confrontational type but with rona and the lack of people around, sometimes i do wonder what i would do if an idiot on the street did try to approach me. since you were wearing heels, IF this happens again, i would straight up take off my shoes. 1. to stay quiet 2. in case someone wanted to test you. Anyways! glad youre safe
Sadly it happens a lot. Make sure to call them out loudly (when not too far to other people), it usually scare them and stop doing it again (to you).
99% of the time they are not dangerous.
Yeah sometimes I feel so awkward though cos I don't want to accuse someone of doing something if I'm not sure... It's a weird feeling
@@STEFATTY next time try barking at him, it scares guys away 😂
@@STEFATTY if you are not sure, pretend to call your boyfriend and that you gonna meet around the corner.
Requires you to have a descent Japanese level tho (not my case)
Stef!! Don't let it put you down. There are creeos out there, specially in Tokyo.
Next time take a picture of him to scare him of. And pass by the near by koban.
Yeah I'm glad I got the video of him in the train. It's not clear but at least it's something
I have no idea how this video came up as suggested, but I watched it and your instincts are correct. Fortunately there are more people walking around now, but sorry you had to go through this and have to think about this scenario in the future.
You definitely reacted appropriately stay safe
That’s scary! But since you’re on socmed, it’s even scarier. Im so sorry that you had to go through that ordeal.
Wtf! How scary! Hope you're recovering okay and able to get good rest. Hope this doesn't happen again!
Thanks Tommy! I hope so too 😔
Thats so scary, you weren't ovsrreacting in any way. Glad you got out of that situation safely. Is it legal to carry pepper spray in Japan? If so you should definitely get yourself some protection.
Sorry you had to go through this! No one should ever have to feel unsafe while walking home. I’m glad you made the video, it helps get all the emotions out. Glad you’re safe & nothing bad happen to you. Stay safe 🙏
Stay safe too!
I think it would be a good idea to make a friend who can come save you in these instances, someone who lives close to you and that you can trust. Stay safe!
Duude stalkers are so creepy and scary!!! If you live alone and travel at night often, pack pepper spray (if allowed in Japan) or some self defense items.
Another thing you can do without immediately escalating the situation is to glare every time you make eye contact and send "back off or I'll kick your nuts" vibes. You can also pretend to get on a call and speak English very loudly, i.e. "I will sceam so loud the whole neighborhood will hear, I've already told a friend, and you're messing with the wrong foreigner!"
I just came across this video but it occurred to me that him dropping his wallet may have been his way of trying to interact with you or making people around you think that you two know each other. Also walking past you and waiting is just a way for him to look inconspicuous but is actually just wanted to see which way you go
I was followed home today the most guy wrenching moment of life
That’s scary glad you got home safe 🤗
Thank you Edgar
Always trust your instincts. You did the right thing. Stay safe.
just found this channel, as soon as i heard your accent i felt some famililarity haha, glad your safe, melbourne aint no different either its getting more dangerous as the covid19 iso is being implemented :(
This makes me feel horrible. As a man I can’t possibly understand the feeling of fear or vulnerability that so many women deal with on a daily basis. I’m sorry you have to deal with this.
Bless, thank you for your kind words!
Just finished watching the video, when you & women in general feel something's not right in situations like this, you're gut instinct is probably right that someone is following you. You see most guys dont want women to feel any kind of threat from them so they will actually walk way ahead or just let the lady walking alone get to where she's going first. I advise you to walk in groups if you can...
Oh my gosh, thats so scary. Your gut feeling is always correct! Always listen to it!
Please go and get a whistle and pepper spray, just in case!
And Try to have someone on the phone when youre walking home.
That's terrifying, but glad you're safe! Totally normal to be traumatized by this incident. It's so disheartening there's no safe country :(
Glad you’re safe matey. :)
Thank you!
Most Japanese are scared of foreigners. You should have said to him directly: hey! Do you know where the nearest police station is? I’m sure he would be shocked lol
Glad nothing happened! Be safe!
Yeah unfortunately it's on the other side of my station though. Thanks for the tip and your kind words!
STEFATTY sorry to hear about what occurred. My ex girlfriend is from Japan and she said this happens unfortunately more frequently than one would like to believe.
Since she’s a local even more important is to simply address the matter with the lone stalker and try to do in a more public area if at all possible.
Have your phone ready and begin recording and say why are you following me. Most will just run away.
The situation is different if it’s more than one person and the person is a foreigner also. Not sure what to recommend. Hopefully the pandemic will be over soon and there will just be many more people roaming around where you can feel more safe.
When I last went to Japan I felt very safe late at night but then again I’m a guy. Be careful.
For sure he was following you. Something really bad could have happened. Lucky he didn't have a chance to attack he's prey. Always scan and look around for shifty people.
Take care
Glad you’re safe Stef.
Thanks Michael!
You did the right thing. Maybe the need for pepper spray. If you dont already have it? Stay safe mate
Gonna look into it, thank you!
glad you’re okay!!
❤️ Thank you!
Glad you're ok, but tell yourself to never freeze up again. Never let anyone make you a victim!!! If it's crowded enough, confront him on the spot. Plus, I think you can whoop his ass.
I'm glad that your safe
stay safe 🙏🏼
Holy crap! Glad you’re safe! Dw you totally not being silly/over reacting! Tht doode sounds sus as hell nd you were really smart in this scenario! I do what you did sometimes even when driving home (becos I think a car has been following me for a strangely long time, I usually drive aimlessly/randomly until they turn off). Good thing you won’t have to go to your work building for the next month. I reacon even if he saw your work bag, being away that long will throw him off! Chin up! You did good out there! I reacon you would have made mad eye moody proud! Constant vigilance!!
Yeah I used to do the same thing in Melbourne when I drove! Thank you for your kind words and support!
omg please stay safe!!
you gotta keep yourself strapped at all times
Is self defence spray legal in Japan, you could buy that for safety? Have something ready for the next time if he should get too close.
Hopefully it doesn't come to that
That’s just terrible. Too bad it was so late at night or you might have been able to duck in to a store or somewhere for safety. Does Japan allow you to carry any sort of self-defense such as taser or pepper spray?
I actually don't know! But I might have to invest...
Hopefully you won’t have this happen again, but if it does always remember eyes, throat, balls and ears. Always hit with intent. Be safe.
And nose. Very important
Glad that you're safe Stef. you're already in shape, have you take any precaution to defend yourself from weirdos?
No but I always did want to take up boxing
jason needs to protect you!
Welcome to japan
My advice is lock all doors and windows and learn how to fight to defend yourself next time so I’m glad nothing happened to you👍🏻😊🎉🎊
Please let's me & You both stay Friends & Families Forever & Ever😊😊💑👪💑💑💙💙😘😘😎😎✌.
😍😍😊😊
Wish you the best stef! Btw keep your diet
Haha I'll try my best
i guess no one is ever truly safe from danger! if possible, carry pepper spray or a taser to bring around with you especially late at night! i also know there re good defense videos for women on youtube if you want to check that out. it's sad we have to resort to using these measures of protection, but better safe than sorry!
Stayed Safety My Friend & Family & Especially inside from Criminals like the one who followed you Home or tries to followed you Home😇😇😇😇😇😇. Next time please Call 911 that's the 🚔😊😊😇😇💑💑💑
are you able to carry pepper spray in japan?
I'm actually not sure
Dude that’s hella scary. He was clearly following you =\
😣
Way to listen to your gut!
hope u ok
Next time just call the Police
I wear earplugs or earphones when i walk around too cuz im super sensitive to sounds. Sorry u had to go thru that. Not cool. Not cool at all. Glad you’re ok tho.
Best thing to do if u can is call them out and show them your phone and that you’re gonna call the cops and or are recording them so they better gtfoh before the cops show up