As a slightly older gentleman and suit salesman who has always tried to dress well. I've experienced all of the above. And it never fails I hear the same stigmas from customers ever day. But once they slip on that suit or sport coat and their significant smiles in approval you can just sense the pride and swagger. Excellent topic as always.
Well you are the best walking advertisement for a suit they could see! That must be a very rewarding moment to enjoy, especially if the customer is not convinced beforehand
I'm 62 years old, growing up, my family didn't have much money, but we always dressed nice going places even if it was just to the grocery store, today people look so shabby, holes in their pants, their hair, uncombed and dirty, people talk vulgar, I think people look so nice when they wear an nice suit, talk with a pleasant voice, the new generation could learn something from their Grandparents, if they are willing to!
@Gent.Z Yes he is, and does. Ash is part of the reason I am dressing better after a decade of dressing down. His self-development videos are equally full of wisdom.
One thing I noticed is that as I became more senior in the company I went from someone who overdressed to being well dressed and handsome. As for being called rich as an insult…? That’s hilarious.
Whenever I'm asked "why are you so dressed up", My response is something like "because I'm not a peasant". It always puts those people in a great mood. 😂
I would say, "Why are you so dressed down and raggedy looking??" 😂😂 Especially if they were trying to come at me in a disrespectful way. I don't play around with my clothes lol
I love clothes and dressing. I’ve heard the gay comment, which I’m not. I even had a woman ask me if I ever been attracted to a man. I love Italian clothes, which of men think it feminine. I think a lot of men are insecure about their masculinity and think they have to provide how mocha they are by the way the dress. It also explains why they drive those big pickup
I don’t really get insults, just compliments. The intimidation thing is also true, although I think it is mostly due to how I feel in nice clothing: good and powerful.
I was at a bar in a mining town talking to a guy dressed like a biker with a long goatee, he was telling me a hilarious story about his last crazy girlfriend chasing him with a knife, and said something profound, 'Look at me, this is why I attract those type of women'. I have been watching your posts as an 65 yr old guy, finding myself single again. I decided lift my clothing standard to attract a classier younger lady, who is better company than old crones with an attitude, while still enjoying my Harleys and outdoors. A video on situation appropriate clothing for different events would be interesting, James Bond wore casual at certain times, a guy probably would not notice, but women certainly would, he dressed for the event. Thanks for the videos and advice.
Hi Peter, that's a funny story! I am very glad you are enjoying my channel and getting value out of it! You may have seen my Casual James Bond video, and you probably agree that he serves as an excellent style example for a man of any age. Hell, he could tear up the streets of Haiti on a motorbike and still make it look elegant!
I am 16 years old and I've noticed that even though many people have attempted to insult me or make fun of my style, most of them have ended up asking for my opinion when shopping for new clothes, trying to replicate my looks. So my mindset is that people tend to feel uncomfortable when you step out of society's comfort zone (which in fashion is all these modern trends), thus making fun of you, but deep down they just feel insecure or maybe even jealous. When I first started dressing like a gent I'd get comments daily that I'm overdressed. I have now developed a positive aura around my name, and many people know me because of my style.
I've often got the 'Why are you dressed up?!' question which invariably defines the state of peoples general descent into slovenliness, I mean even celebrities are seen in public looking like bag ladies! What I'd really like to see is someone asking Mike Tyson if he's gay when he's wearing a suit ! LOL.
Yeah I have heard that one a lot too! Sometimes waiters ask my girlfriend and if we're celebrating an occasion when we're at dinner together, we tell the, 'Just life.'
A great elem teacher I knew would come only come to school w a suit and tie. Soft-spoken, kind, and a teacher of the year for his excellent results. We started to wear ties because of him. He was an example of a great man who loved children and was a master at his work. Married to a woman. He was excellent.
Great job on this video. So sad these stereotypes still prevail. However, I have not met a well dressed gentleman making less than 6 figures. Just curious, if a well dressed, well mannered and well manicured guy doesn't turn women on, she must have low standards and a high value guy wouldn't want her anyway.
Hahaha I have gotten all of these so often. I was the guy in school that was in chinos and a shirt. In my country we don’t have school uniforms. Don’t let it bother you, realistically you’re just a step ahead
"You will be received in the manner in which you are perceived." - Author Unknown It's great news, because most of the time, YOU are the one who can set that perception.
I have never once been insulted for dressing well IRL. And, were it to happen tomorrow, that one occasion would still be far outweighed by the great many compliments, appreciative greetings, passing smiles, and extra measures of respect that one routinely encounters when dressing even quite modestly well in public. Indeed, the fact that so few men bother to do this--especially, it seems, in the US, on the West coast, and in "high tech" professional settings--if anything only intensifies the effect. It takes surprisingly little effort to be exceptionally well-dressed in such contexts. And precisely because the general level of effort is so abysmally low, one needn't go overboard to make an impression. And that in turn makes the likelihood of "going too far" for the context really quite low, and mostly not worth worrying about. Wear some leather loafers, a matching belt, and a crisp, well-fitting pair of chinos. Throw a halfway decent looking sport coat over a shirt that doesn't clash, has a collar, and is not an ill-fitting billboard. You will be the best dressed man in the room 95% of the time--but not in a way that anyone can or will complain about.
Thanks for another great video. During a recent cold snap in my area, I wore a tweed sports coat, wool pants, dress shirt and a scarf into a breakfast restaurant and a person unknown to me stated, "what are you doing with the rag around your neck." However, I received four separate compliments on the outfit later in the morning.
I get a lot of gay baiting, and physical threats from insecure boys whose mums never taught them to dress properly and whose dads clearly didn't have a clue either. The taunts range from being openly accused of being gay through to louche whistles and sudden bouts of high-pitched singing. My responses: "don't give up your day job" "aren't you supposed to whistle at girls?" "why are you whistling at me? You've already got a bf/gf" "stop letting your mum dress you at [insert chain store here]" etc. etc. Be ready to defend yourself if you choose to answer back. I had an amateur Peaky Blinder trying to start a fight with me in the lobby of a 5-star hotel in January after I asked if he wanted my photo when he took me to task for wearing an Italian designer jacket (which begs the question - if you can't dress up to go to a bar in a 5-star hotel where CAN you dress up?) and early this month was punched by a stalking sports bully out looking for a queer to bash on a Saturday night. He wasn't happy when I replied to his whistling by suggesting that as gay as he thought I was, I had known more women than he ever would. It's a sad comment on masculinity in the 21st century that wearing a suit and a hat can make you a target.
When a hatless JFK was inaugurated, the slippery slope was trod upon. By the mid to late 60's, for all intents and purposes, it was game over. These days it's shorts and flip flops at a funeral home. Or turning up for Easter brunch looking like you're about to walk the dog or take out the garbage. I love dressing up, and the reactions I get! Such as, "Why are you so dressed up?" There are plenty of comebacks in my quiver, but I hold my tongue. And to be told that I dress like my grandfather is something of a backhanded compliment, to be honest.
You have a great channel and it's good that younger men who want to dress well can find advice and a role model in you for doing so that is their age...instead of my age. LOL As an older gentleman I rarely get insults on my dress, but I do get a few compliments. I'm not to the point of wearing suits or blazers unless the occasion calls for it, but I do maintain the same sort of look as in my 30s and 40s,which is sort of preppie/ivy league smart casual: collared shirt, either a polo, Hawaiian or dress shirt with rolled-up sleeves, chinos, loafers and a watch from my collection fitting the occasion. I also make it a point to compliment well-dressed men that I encounter, especially younger men. Even men my age dress sloppily, and I am just not that guy unless I'm working in my yard. Keep up the good work!
Thanks Jeff, that was exactly the ambition I had when I started this channel. Glad to hear you are dressing sharp and encouraging others who are well-dressed when you see them! I also always compliment another gentleman who can see if he has made an effort with his outfit. Even if he has made 'a mistake' with his outfit - he's still doing more than 99% of guys out there
Good discussion, as usual. I have had people ask if I was gay, but never meanly, or as a putdown, people are mostly quite liberal here I'm happy to say. It's odd to have someone suppose something about my sexuality based on how I dress or because we're chatting about shoes, but that's just how society is right now, straight men are supposed to dress like little boys. I've never been too terribly bothered by people asking this, people mean no harm. For myself, I feel nice clothing can be for everyone regardless of sexuality because good clothes are art and art is for everyone. If a man can look good in a dress (and some, like Harry Styles, can) certainly a man can wear classical clothing! I've never been told I dress like a grandpa, though I kind of do, honestly. But like a sharp grandpa!😉 In actuality, many grandpas graduate to socks and sandals, something that, as Ashley Weston points out, *they* can barely get away with, so I certainly can't. So again, I dress like the more stylish grandpa in loafers and chinos. I'm thinking of starting a UA-cam channel sometime in the future, in which case, people will see how I dress and potentially I will join you in getting some mean comments, so cheers to that. 😆
Haha, the online comments can get pretty strange! On my full UA-cam videos, I have great discussions with intelligent gentlemen like yourself, but TikTok and UA-cam Shorts is where the trolls come out to play
Holy cow, I just got recommended a video from 3 months ago and you can see you're still improving on your appearances exponentially. Love the content keep it up goodsir👌
Thank you! Yes honestly I find looking back at my old videos a little cringe now but I guess that's the price we pay for progress 😅 Thank you for following the channel!
You always make such good, thoughtful points. Kudos to you for figuring this sort of thing out at a young age! Interesting that you've stumbled upon the "gay" comment that is sadly common in America. It's an unfortunate commentary on much of American society as I'm sure you're discovering. Anyway great content as usual!
Bro u lookin trim and in shape. Thats a great topic, I get those 3 a lot but mostly compliments. Hey u might want to ask ur girl to water the plants in the background
Of course I am better than majority of people, here in Australia people are BOGANS, if you know what that means? And yes I am gay and I dress old money style wherever I go , I do not wear tongs to go out anywhere, I always smell very nice , hygiene is very important to me. Yes, I am very up myself but I do not care what people say or think about me. I am not cheap to be thier friends anyway!
I got all of them. Being gay (because of meticulousness), arrogant (as a professional scholar most colleagues dress like teenagers going to a demonstration) and rich, which I definitely am not. But buying quality clothing and taking of them so well makes my wardrobe last decades... Go figure
I’ve been dressing in a suit and tie. I’m new at it. I’m making some obvious mistakes to those who know how to dress like a man. What is fascinating isn’t the comments I get from people who know me (they’re the jokers). It’s the people who’ve never met me. Those people actually extend respect and additionally they expect more of me.
Imagine accepting an insult from someone that does not possess the decency, self respect, knowledge, and same dedication as you? People that present themselves as peasants? I have never got an insult, I don't think people have the courage to talk shit in my face. I do get looks however, these dirty looks are promptly terminated the moment I notice someone is staring at me. I've been told that the way I walk intimidates people. I like that, I truly despise most people anyway, incompetence and ignorance make my blood boil.
No insults yet, i did get the rich comment the other day and although I haven't been called gay, I might have been thought of as, not that I really care. The women love it, but guys stare more TBH.
I often wear soft pink or pink-striped shirts (because they pair well with my ultra-conservative blue or grey suits), even in homophobic countries like Ukraine or Russia. Women are impressed by my style and confidence and I stand out in a crowd - when arranging to meet a date I can say "I will be the guy in the pink shirt" and I will be the only guy so dressed!
Show up on the first day of everything dressed well. If you’re young and you want instant respect dress up at least one level higher than the other guys. Grow some facial hair and roll in with confidence. No one will treat you like the kid.
I have only encountered the second (that I am aware of) of the insults presented. It happened when I was a much younger and admittedly a more confrontational man. I was asked by a rather stereotypical, let us say, red neck individual if I was gay. I responded with why do ask? His reply was preceded by the duh-huh chuckle one would expect before he said “well you look like it”. His innate satisfaction with himself dissolved with my response: Let’s not make judgements on appearance; I refrained from asking you if you were inbred. Granted, as a younger man I had a bit of proclivity for violence due my family history and would not respond in the same manner now, but that was my first experience with another man addressing me in a negative manner in regards to how I choose to present myself. The truth is, it was one of the few times I have ever had a negative comment spoken to me that I could hear. I usually receive compliments, especially from ladies (with an occasional side eye from their hoodie adorned male companion) and other established gentlemen. My advice for those young gentlemen who wish to dress at level above the norm would be to do so if you are dressing for the correct reason. In my opinion, that would be for yourself and because you want to do so and enjoy it. Also, perhaps handling the rare insult a bit more subtly than I in my youth would be a better approach. Your clothing cannot disguise weakness in your character.
Every man wears clothes.... but very few men get dressed!!
Well said!
As a slightly older gentleman and suit salesman who has always tried to dress well. I've experienced all of the above. And it never fails I hear the same stigmas from customers ever day. But once they slip on that suit or sport coat and their significant smiles in approval you can just sense the pride and swagger. Excellent topic as always.
Well you are the best walking advertisement for a suit they could see! That must be a very rewarding moment to enjoy, especially if the customer is not convinced beforehand
I'm a software engineer and always suit up in an office that everyone is wearing jeans and t-shirts 😂
Good for you!
"Suit up!"
When someone asks if I am gay, I reply by saying "no, but I am happy".
🎯😄
Unless they are trying to date you, does it matter? They might as well ask if you prefer Chinese food or Italian.
I'm 62 years old, growing up, my family didn't have much money, but we always dressed nice going places even if it was just to the grocery store, today people look so shabby, holes in their pants, their hair, uncombed and dirty, people talk vulgar, I think people look so nice when they wear an nice suit, talk with a pleasant voice, the new generation could learn something from their Grandparents, if they are willing to!
Every man needs a killer suit that’s comfortable and fashionable. It’s the closest opportunity we have to looking like a superhero.
It is indeed!
"The clothes you wear are the ambassador of the man wearing them". - - Ash from The Chap's Guide
Ash is a top gentleman and he speaks with wisdom!
@Gent.Z Yes he is, and does. Ash is part of the reason I am dressing better after a decade of dressing down. His self-development videos are equally full of wisdom.
I would love to do a video with him one day!@@JeffWilkinson
One thing I noticed is that as I became more senior in the company I went from someone who overdressed to being well dressed and handsome.
As for being called rich as an insult…? That’s hilarious.
Whenever I'm asked "why are you so dressed up", My response is something like "because I'm not a peasant". It always puts those people in a great mood. 😂
I would say, "Why are you so dressed down and raggedy looking??" 😂😂 Especially if they were trying to come at me in a disrespectful way. I don't play around with my clothes lol
My grandfather and his generation were much poorer than me and still dressed better
A suit is the modern equivalent of a knight’s armor (or armour)
Absolutely
After visiting Japan, I realized that none of us is gonna out-swag the Japanese grandpas. They are on a different level.
I would love to see it one day!
You should come to England my friend.
@@DaddySantaClausnobody in England comes close to the swagger of japanese grandpas!
@@KlausKokholmPetersen you're going to the wrong places mate. Places you're not allowed in.
When we dress nice, we expose the slovenliness in those who don't. We make them look bad, so they get mad.
That can be true, I agree
Usually, people treat you the way you dress. It's a sign of respect, civility and maturity. It shows that you care.
Most people who have to pass negative judgement on you are usually projecting how they feel about themselves.
I don’t disagree, Vincent. Thanks for your comment
Dressing well is a form of self respect.
i get the third insult often, its quite annoying because I'm working class
ironic i guess :)
Historically, suits are working class clothing.
I love clothes and dressing. I’ve heard the gay comment, which I’m not. I even had a woman ask me if I ever been attracted to a man. I love Italian clothes, which of men think it feminine. I think a lot of men are insecure about their masculinity and think they have to provide how mocha they are by the way the dress. It also explains why they drive those big pickup
Haha, I totally agree Walter!
It's unfortunate how fragile a lot of straight men are in North America.
🎯😁
I don’t really get insults, just compliments. The intimidation thing is also true, although I think it is mostly due to how I feel in nice clothing: good and powerful.
I was at a bar in a mining town talking to a guy dressed like a biker with a long goatee, he was telling me a hilarious story about his last crazy girlfriend chasing him with a knife, and said something profound, 'Look at me, this is why I attract those type of women'. I have been watching your posts as an 65 yr old guy, finding myself single again. I decided lift my clothing standard to attract a classier younger lady, who is better company than old crones with an attitude, while still enjoying my Harleys and outdoors. A video on situation appropriate clothing for different events would be interesting, James Bond wore casual at certain times, a guy probably would not notice, but women certainly would, he dressed for the event. Thanks for the videos and advice.
Hi Peter, that's a funny story! I am very glad you are enjoying my channel and getting value out of it! You may have seen my Casual James Bond video, and you probably agree that he serves as an excellent style example for a man of any age. Hell, he could tear up the streets of Haiti on a motorbike and still make it look elegant!
I am 16 years old and I've noticed that even though many people have attempted to insult me or make fun of my style, most of them have ended up asking for my opinion when shopping for new clothes, trying to replicate my looks. So my mindset is that people tend to feel uncomfortable when you step out of society's comfort zone (which in fashion is all these modern trends), thus making fun of you, but deep down they just feel insecure or maybe even jealous. When I first started dressing like a gent I'd get comments daily that I'm overdressed. I have now developed a positive aura around my name, and many people know me because of my style.
The worst insult I received was unintentionally from my grandma who said that I look like a priest.
Sounds more like a compliment.
Alot of priests look majestically stylish
In Germany I got many compliments for my classic style, but got also sometimes called Nazi, because of it.
Nazis were infamous for being very well dressed. Especially the iconic SS uniforms. As one person put it, "Rule by Terror through style."
Hugo Boss did some harm to the menswear indeed
I've often got the 'Why are you dressed up?!' question which invariably defines the state of peoples general descent into slovenliness, I mean even celebrities are seen in public looking like bag ladies! What I'd really like to see is someone asking Mike Tyson if he's gay when he's wearing a suit ! LOL.
Yeah I have heard that one a lot too! Sometimes waiters ask my girlfriend and if we're celebrating an occasion when we're at dinner together, we tell the, 'Just life.'
A great elem teacher I knew would come only come to school w a suit and tie. Soft-spoken, kind, and a teacher of the year for his excellent results. We started to wear ties because of him. He was an example of a great man who loved children and was a master at his work. Married to a woman. He was excellent.
Great job on this video. So sad these stereotypes still prevail. However, I have not met a well dressed gentleman making less than 6 figures. Just curious, if a well dressed, well mannered and well manicured guy doesn't turn women on, she must have low standards and a high value guy wouldn't want her anyway.
Hahaha I have gotten all of these so often. I was the guy in school that was in chinos and a shirt. In my country we don’t have school uniforms. Don’t let it bother you, realistically you’re just a step ahead
"You will be received in the manner in which you are perceived." - Author Unknown It's great news, because most of the time, YOU are the one who can set that perception.
I have never once been insulted for dressing well IRL. And, were it to happen tomorrow, that one occasion would still be far outweighed by the great many compliments, appreciative greetings, passing smiles, and extra measures of respect that one routinely encounters when dressing even quite modestly well in public.
Indeed, the fact that so few men bother to do this--especially, it seems, in the US, on the West coast, and in "high tech" professional settings--if anything only intensifies the effect. It takes surprisingly little effort to be exceptionally well-dressed in such contexts.
And precisely because the general level of effort is so abysmally low, one needn't go overboard to make an impression. And that in turn makes the likelihood of "going too far" for the context really quite low, and mostly not worth worrying about.
Wear some leather loafers, a matching belt, and a crisp, well-fitting pair of chinos. Throw a halfway decent looking sport coat over a shirt that doesn't clash, has a collar, and is not an ill-fitting billboard. You will be the best dressed man in the room 95% of the time--but not in a way that anyone can or will complain about.
Thanks for another great video. During a recent cold snap in my area, I wore a tweed sports coat, wool pants, dress shirt and a scarf into a breakfast restaurant and a person unknown to me stated, "what are you doing with the rag around your neck." However, I received four separate compliments on the outfit later in the morning.
That’s a pretty bizarre comment to make! I’m sure the outfit looked fabulous, Robert
Thank you.@@Gent.Z
I get a lot of gay baiting, and physical threats from insecure boys whose mums never taught them to dress properly and whose dads clearly didn't have a clue either. The taunts range from being openly accused of being gay through to louche whistles and sudden bouts of high-pitched singing. My responses: "don't give up your day job" "aren't you supposed to whistle at girls?" "why are you whistling at me? You've already got a bf/gf" "stop letting your mum dress you at [insert chain store here]" etc. etc. Be ready to defend yourself if you choose to answer back. I had an amateur Peaky Blinder trying to start a fight with me in the lobby of a 5-star hotel in January after I asked if he wanted my photo when he took me to task for wearing an Italian designer jacket (which begs the question - if you can't dress up to go to a bar in a 5-star hotel where CAN you dress up?) and early this month was punched by a stalking sports bully out looking for a queer to bash on a Saturday night. He wasn't happy when I replied to his whistling by suggesting that as gay as he thought I was, I had known more women than he ever would. It's a sad comment on masculinity in the 21st century that wearing a suit and a hat can make you a target.
I have become synonymous with the greaser aesthetic among my peers, and it is something I’m very proud of.
That's cool!
When a hatless JFK was inaugurated, the slippery slope was trod upon. By the mid to late 60's, for all intents and purposes, it was game over. These days it's shorts and flip flops at a funeral home. Or turning up for Easter brunch looking like you're about to walk the dog or take out the garbage. I love dressing up, and the reactions I get! Such as, "Why are you so dressed up?" There are plenty of comebacks in my quiver, but I hold my tongue. And to be told that I dress like my grandfather is something of a backhanded compliment, to be honest.
6:12
Material excellence should reflect moral force, not substitute it.
You have a great channel and it's good that younger men who want to dress well can find advice and a role model in you for doing so that is their age...instead of my age. LOL
As an older gentleman I rarely get insults on my dress, but I do get a few compliments. I'm not to the point of wearing suits or blazers unless the occasion calls for it, but I do maintain the same sort of look as in my 30s and 40s,which is sort of preppie/ivy league smart casual: collared shirt, either a polo, Hawaiian or dress shirt with rolled-up sleeves, chinos, loafers and a watch from my collection fitting the occasion. I also make it a point to compliment well-dressed men that I encounter, especially younger men. Even men my age dress sloppily, and I am just not that guy unless I'm working in my yard.
Keep up the good work!
Thanks Jeff, that was exactly the ambition I had when I started this channel. Glad to hear you are dressing sharp and encouraging others who are well-dressed when you see them! I also always compliment another gentleman who can see if he has made an effort with his outfit. Even if he has made 'a mistake' with his outfit - he's still doing more than 99% of guys out there
Good discussion, as usual. I have had people ask if I was gay, but never meanly, or as a putdown, people are mostly quite liberal here I'm happy to say. It's odd to have someone suppose something about my sexuality based on how I dress or because we're chatting about shoes, but that's just how society is right now, straight men are supposed to dress like little boys. I've never been too terribly bothered by people asking this, people mean no harm. For myself, I feel nice clothing can be for everyone regardless of sexuality because good clothes are art and art is for everyone. If a man can look good in a dress (and some, like Harry Styles, can) certainly a man can wear classical clothing! I've never been told I dress like a grandpa, though I kind of do, honestly. But like a sharp grandpa!😉 In actuality, many grandpas graduate to socks and sandals, something that, as Ashley Weston points out, *they* can barely get away with, so I certainly can't. So again, I dress like the more stylish grandpa in loafers and chinos. I'm thinking of starting a UA-cam channel sometime in the future, in which case, people will see how I dress and potentially I will join you in getting some mean comments, so cheers to that. 😆
Haha, the online comments can get pretty strange! On my full UA-cam videos, I have great discussions with intelligent gentlemen like yourself, but TikTok and UA-cam Shorts is where the trolls come out to play
Holy cow, I just got recommended a video from 3 months ago and you can see you're still improving on your appearances exponentially. Love the content keep it up goodsir👌
Thank you! Yes honestly I find looking back at my old videos a little cringe now but I guess that's the price we pay for progress 😅 Thank you for following the channel!
These comments are always a joy to read, some great anecdotes and opinions.
Brilliant video as always :)
I get screamed at when I walk down the street for dressing nice.
Great video!
Great video
very informative , well done .... !
You always make such good, thoughtful points. Kudos to you for figuring this sort of thing out at a young age! Interesting that you've stumbled upon the "gay" comment that is sadly common in America. It's an unfortunate commentary on much of American society as I'm sure you're discovering. Anyway great content as usual!
Great video. Keep the good work
Thank you, sir!
I don’t dress like your grandpa-
I dress like your great great great grandpa!
Bro u lookin trim and in shape. Thats a great topic, I get those 3 a lot but mostly compliments. Hey u might want to ask ur girl to water the plants in the background
Of course I am better than majority of people, here in Australia people are BOGANS, if you know what that means? And yes I am gay and I dress old money style wherever I go , I do not wear tongs to go out anywhere, I always smell very nice , hygiene is very important to me. Yes, I am very up myself but I do not care what people say or think about me. I am not cheap to be thier friends anyway!
I got all of them. Being gay (because of meticulousness), arrogant (as a professional scholar most colleagues dress like teenagers going to a demonstration) and rich, which I definitely am not. But buying quality clothing and taking of them so well makes my wardrobe last decades... Go figure
I’ve been dressing in a suit and tie. I’m new at it. I’m making some obvious mistakes to those who know how to dress like a man.
What is fascinating isn’t the comments I get from people who know me (they’re the jokers). It’s the people who’ve never met me. Those people actually extend respect and additionally they expect more of me.
That blazer would look a lot better if you changed the buttons.
Imagine accepting an insult from someone that does not possess the decency, self respect, knowledge, and same dedication as you?
People that present themselves as peasants?
I have never got an insult, I don't think people have the courage to talk shit in my face.
I do get looks however, these dirty looks are promptly terminated the moment I notice someone is staring at me.
I've been told that the way I walk intimidates people. I like that, I truly despise most people anyway, incompetence and ignorance make my blood boil.
"Ironic, isn't it?"
No insults yet, i did get the rich comment the other day and although I haven't been called gay, I might have been thought of as, not that I really care. The women love it, but guys stare more TBH.
Yeah the 'gay' comment definitely comes more from men than women, which is ironic
People these days have no manners.
I often wear soft pink or pink-striped shirts (because they pair well with my ultra-conservative blue or grey suits), even in homophobic countries like Ukraine or Russia. Women are impressed by my style and confidence and I stand out in a crowd - when arranging to meet a date I can say "I will be the guy in the pink shirt" and I will be the only guy so dressed!
Show up on the first day of everything dressed well. If you’re young and you want instant respect dress up at least one level higher than the other guys. Grow some facial hair and roll in with confidence. No one will treat you like the kid.
I always take it as a compliment if people think I'm gay as it means I'm slim and well dressed
True
Drop the gold button blazer. It is an old man look. Buttons are too cheap online for blazers to ever wear gold buttons!
I have only encountered the second (that I am aware of) of the insults presented. It happened when I was a much younger and admittedly a more confrontational man.
I was asked by a rather stereotypical, let us say, red neck individual if I was gay. I responded with why do ask? His reply was preceded by the duh-huh chuckle one would expect before he said “well you look like it”.
His innate satisfaction with himself dissolved with my response: Let’s not make judgements on appearance; I refrained from asking you if you were inbred.
Granted, as a younger man I had a bit of proclivity for violence due my family history and would not respond in the same manner now, but that was my first experience with another man addressing me in a negative manner in regards to how I choose to present myself. The truth is, it was one of the few times I have ever had a negative comment spoken to me that I could hear. I usually receive compliments, especially from ladies (with an occasional side eye from their hoodie adorned male companion) and other established gentlemen.
My advice for those young gentlemen who wish to dress at level above the norm would be to do so if you are dressing for the correct reason. In my opinion, that would be for yourself and because you want to do so and enjoy it. Also, perhaps handling the rare insult a bit more subtly than I in my youth would be a better approach. Your clothing cannot disguise weakness in your character.