Head over heels love only works is the other person feels the same way and personalities match. This feeling also last long forever. Mostly happen in movies. To have a long term relationship what you described above is the true meaning of love.
Amelia, happily married for 14years here. There will be no such thing as questioning anything when you meet the person that is right for you. It’s because you are going against who you are as a person and any man that loves you will never make you feel bad or make you question your judgement or behaviour in any way. In fact, people are so addicted to bad behaviour that you normalise that type of behaviour. In a happy relationship Everything just becomes what most would call ‘boring’. As there is just love there, you are comfortable and make each other happy. There is acceptance there and you truly just feel at home. Any topic is up for discussion, things become fun, and the way you question things when single is not even a thing. You question things as a single person because the people you are meeting/dating aren’t right for you.
You will know if you are in the right relationship when everything feels and seems easy. There are no games. To be in the relationship is no effort because you can be yourself and things just fall into place so easily!
I knew I was in the right relationship the first time he told me no. All boyfriends in the past gave me whatever I wanted and basically had no backbone. I never realized this until my mom said it and she was absolutely right. He loved and respected me, but demanded respect as well. Almost 20 years later we're still madly in love and best friends.
You’re right! There’s something really special about finding a man who won’t capitulate to every whim. It really communicates stability and consistency for me. I think too many men find themselves in essentially a situation where they must be martyrs to keep her happy…nothing sexy about that sort of groveling. I like that my husband is considerate of our long term goals and financial well being instead of indulging me every time I say I like/want something. Like anything else, it’s about balance…we treat ourselves and each other often, but sometimes that means little immediate treats, sometimes it means saving that money for an unforeseen situation.
Same! My now husband was the only one that wouldn’t put up with my bullshit 😂 he wasn’t afraid to tell me when I was being unreasonable. All the others just let me walk all over them
Yesss! I don't get people who thinks a healthy relationship is being with someone who does everything you want and even put themselves sencond for you at all times. There is quote i live by "love yourself first, then everything else falls into place".
@@mckenseyaranguren1110 I think you’ve kicked off the healthiest relationship thread on the internet. A man who has good boundaries and keeps them? A man who practices personal, financial discipline and delayed gratification? A man who encourages you to be the best version of yourself? Yes!!!!
I knew I was in the right relationship when I had peace about our future, knowing that no matter how many changes we may go through, at the core, what matters most is that we know we will always put each other first. He is a man who leads, finds joy in the mundane, prays for and with me, has the greatest guy friends who keep him accountable, and is hilarious. Also I knew I was the type of person who wanted to marry my best friend because I was too shy to come out of my shell with someone I didn't have a friendship foundation with. All our friends supported us especially my girlfriends (THIS IS MAJOR because I have seen other girls keep their girls single IYKYK) and I couldn't be more grateful x
Here’s the think. You need to decide BEFORE you’re in a relationship what you want it to look like and want from it. Then, as you meet people, they either are or aren’t that vision and it helps you move on quicker rather than stay and trying to fit a square into a circle.
I knew because Ive never once had that nervous/anxious feeling when around him… it’s so comfortable. When you’re truly best friends with that person. Also, as a serious conflict avoidant person, I have no issue talking with him about things and the conversations are always from a place of wanting to understand. Not sure if any of this made sense 🫶🏾
I’ve been married 20 years. For me I knew my husband was the one bc he supported me and he was interested in my thoughts and feelings. If I were single now, I would make a list of traits that are non negotiable and look for someone based on those. And I’d have a list of deal breakers as well. And don’t settle. ❤ “when you know you know” is only in movies and it’s not real (to me).
Loveeeee the car chats and dating stories! The right relationship will bring peace to your life, you’re so right about getting ill, it’s like your nervous system and subconscious just know before we see it for ourselves. Have the best time in south of france angel 😘
I knew because I have fun with him no matter what wet do. We just genuinely enjoy being together. we rarely fight and we still get butterflies and act like school kids when it comes to physical stuff. This sounds cliché, but he really is my best friend and I feel totally safe with him. He’s my favorite person in the world and he really does feel like Home. ❤❤❤
Been married for 13 yrs, together for 16. I knew he was for me because he felt like home. I felt safe, comfortable to be completely me, we hardly argued and we still don’t. We have complete respect for each other and it’s always been that was as well. We’ve just always had a healthy, fun, comfortable, respectful relationship! We laugh alllll the time, he’s so funny! And even through our tough times, we’ve become stronger because of it, because we’ve always had a solid foundation.
I knew my husband was the one, because I actually noticed him trying to understand my quirks and not mocking them. It’s so easy for people to brush or laugh things off, but he tried to understand why I acted a certain way or what triggered me, so it wouldn’t happen again. He still does! Married two years, together 7 1/2.
Married for 12 years and you know when things are just easy. It’s not that you don’t put in any effort but it’s not drama BS effort. Being with the person is effortless and there is a comfort and a sense of “ok” i can be with this person forever. You can also just be you and it i all ok. Even 14 years and kids later it still feels like a life time is not enough with my husband. Keep looking until you find him! it will all be worth it. ❤
You are SOOOO incredibly SWEET with Audrey! ))))) Can't stop smiling when you are together ! Thank you for this unbelievable emotions! And London views are so inspiring!
I truly believe that instinctively we know that we’re with the wrong person from the beginning, however, our desire to be partnered up can take over and weaken our critical thinking. Our body knows when something doesn’t suit us and it looks for ways to reject what we’re forcing on it, whether it be food or wrong relationship. When you have well defined boundaries & are honest with yourself what you really need from the relationship vs ‘it just feels right’ or chasing someone else’s idea of what relationship should be like, greatly improves selection process. If your heart isn't aligned with your mind then it's a 🚩, don't ignore it x
Amelia, I rarely comment, but I feel compelled to do so today because I need to know your vlogs hit the spot! I’ve recently been through a breakup and I binge watch your vlogs when I feel lost. I love that there’s no productivity talk, just wholesome life moments and all girly things - which is exactly what any girl needs to get back to herself. ❤ Thank you 🙏❤
I think it’s important to focus on not so much on whether the person likes us and more on whether we genuinely like the person. If that makes sense. Sometimes we spend a lot of time looking for signs etc. desperate to be chosen. Now I’m trying to focus on what I really want.
I have a good one!!! So, if you're scared to tell them how you really feel about something (like if something bothered you, you disagree with something they did/say/etc.) and you feel like you can't truly tell them what you're feeling and thinking because you're scared of the way they'll react then it's not the right relationship
I knew it was right when I saw him again after the first time we met and I felt a sense of inner peace. No anxiety masked as excitement, no worries about what to wear or what to say, it was a level of comfort and security I’d never felt before. Just being at total ease around him. Kind of like meeting a platonic best friend but you want to kiss them etc 😂 then as time has gone on that comfortability means we can challenge each other on things, call each other out on our BS and encourage each other to be the best version of ourselves! It’s pretty bloody nice to be honest. But the calmness at the start is key!!
Such a fun vlog!! So jealous you got to go to Eras tour!! 😆❤️ How did I know I was in the right relationship? When I initially broke up with my boyfriend (due to long distance after a long period/ couple of years) I realised after a couple of months I would not find someone as good a man as he was. I realised good people don’t always come in your life everyday and I was lucky to have had him in my life to begin with. Fast forward I made the leap and moved to be with him and now are married nearly 10 years with 2 kids and I couldn’t imagine life without him. He has my back and will stand up for me in all situations, and is always supportive and honest to me when I really need the right feedback or advice in life. That to me is how you know you are in a good relationship. You aren’t second guessing, you aren’t chasing, you are just with someone who loves you for who you are and vice versa and importantly you have shared goals together too be it money, family, house etc. I do feel blessed.
Married for 16 years here, It feels like coming home, the happy safe home you never knew you had and it's calm, secure, it feels familiar. Just imagine after a long walk in the rain and you come home to a warm cozy house, you showered, put a clean clothes and warm socks on, that's my analogy 😊 the right person makes your heart beat slower, your body surrender and you'll be at peace with yourself 😊 sending you lots of love thank you for the vlog
I've rewatched some of your old vlogs from like 7-9 years ago and I love how your personality has not changed! (Like it has of course) but you're still so funny and charismatic - esp the bit in the car about Brandy Melville reminded me of old school vlogs haha
Weirdly thinking recently about the fact that my ex would make me ill all the time 😂 it’s like my immune system just caved in while I dating him, I caught every bug/covid (most of the time from him even though he was never affected by it) I do remember thinking is my body trying to tell me something 😂 I’ve not been ill since
I'm in that relationship right now. Noticing the little things, and asking myself "is this going to be my life?" In a positive way. I feel calm and excited about my future with him. My nervous system knows I'm in the right place because I can sleep well and relax when I'm with him. It's a long distance relationship but fingers crossed 🤞🏻 not for too long ❤
Something nobody ever talks about is that in a life partner- love itself is not enough. 😔😔 Do they have similar/agreeable fundamental morals & values (kids, caring for aging parents)? Will they be able to take care of me in the ways I need (in the love language I speak)? Also- knowing that they wont hit below the belt or try to hurt me deeply, when they feel defensive. Hope this helps you some lovebug xoxo
I knew I was in the right relationship (after decades 😂) when I found someone who chose to do things that make my everyday life easier. When we can easily do our own things, but have a blast together, without worrying about judgment and him saying I’m being weird or anything of that sort. Being able to communicate with each other and taking the time to hear each other out and working towards understanding where the other is coming from. Also, he legit takes care of me and my best friend when we get a bit too sloshed! Oh!! And she and I live in different states, but he makes sure every couple of months if we haven’t made plans ourselves to see each other, he gets ahold of her to make sure we have an adventure! 😊
Right relationship 👏🏻 doesn’t feel like hard work, don’t need to fight for attention, there’s mutual respect for each other’s time and friendship happens naturally. You’re gonna be with this person for the rest of your life and looks fade, so better be sure you’re best friends 💁🏻♀️ Oh and when you know, you know.
You had great seats. My god daughter was in the vip bit but wanted to stand. What a great atmosphere it was in London that day! Someone gave me a Red bracelet and so Zi bought the Red cd…..
20 yrs together here...the right relationship is your a good team , always there on your happy times but most of all your worst times. knows you inside out .
I was literally speechless, when I met my husband. I talk a lot normally, but I was speechless. I knew he is the right guy from the beginning, because I felt home and save. And the longer we've been together, the more I knew, I am save with him, I can trust him and I felt even more home from day to day. Over the years we grew our relationship, we went through hard times together, even hard challenges like miscarrying many times over many years. This pain was a real challenge for us, almost broke us and our relationship. But even then, I felt save and loved. That's why we fought for us and at the end of this crisis, we were stronger than ever as a couple. We bought a house and I got pregnant again, this time the baby stuck, even though it was a struggle and we are now a small family. I know, he is genuine, caring and loving. He obviously has his flaws, like everyone has and we aren't always on the same page, but that's normal too. A relationship is a constant piece of work, but you have to be sure you want the same things in life (the big ones I mean) and it is the person you want to fight the challenges of life with. Then you can enjoy the good times even more. PS: I knew he would be a good father for our children, when I saw him with our nieces and nephews.
I’ve been with my husband for 20yrs. I knew he was the one because it was easy, just effortless. We talked for hours on our first date & can still talk for hours today. We have our own likes & dislikes, which we honor & respect. Also make sure u share the same political & religious/spiritual views, it’s how u see the world & it’s something that shouldn’t be compromised on.
For me: my relationship survived 3 years of long distance. That’s how I knew. It was a feeling of total assurance, no questioning about our future and just being on the same page that we are each others best friend so us building a future together felt inevitable for us and everybody around us (very important). So we worked towards making our paths merge (jobs, visas…) and now we live together and are stronger for it all ❤ In conclusion: I think the feelings come first but the work has to follow up to make it a reality. Cheers l!
Someone you feel at peace with and feels like home. Someone you can be fully yourself with and have no unnecessary stress or uncertainty. Someone that loves you fully and pursues you and wait till you find that. Otherwise it’s not worth it.
Anybody else gets super sleepy around their boo? Not sure what the science is but apparently the right person’s body chemistry will help your body produce serotonin and make you feel safe and sleepy.
He feels safe, I can be myself unconditionally and inexcusably! I dont need a filter nor lying or thinking he would judge me! My panic attacks and IBS attacks go away when he’s with me😁this is my answer
Amelia, if you can find a man with these 3 qualities, keep him! 1. generous in and out of the bedroom. 2. makes you laugh often. 3. does NOT say stupid shit that irritates....he's a keeper...😍
I knew my relationship was good when it was easy. We can talk about anything good or bad at any time. We can ask each other for just about anything no questions asked. I knew he was the one when he didn't bat an eye when I told him I never wanted kids. I knew we were the long haul when we talked about marriage and having a prenup. As both of us were previously married and divorced. He didn't mind that I wanted separate finances. We are the best of friends. We have been married for almost 16 years in November. This man is a keeper.
I'm on vacation from work this week. Thank you for helping me start my Sunday morning! 💖 I also happen to agree with you on the Merit! That brand really agrees with your skin. You were absolutely radiant!
For me, it's about the little things. Wanting to spend time together, especially non-physical time. 😉 Being there for one another during the fun times as well as the difficult times. That's how I knew my husband was the one for me. Earlier this month, we celebrated 6 years married and 9 years as a couple. ❤ Also, it should feel easy. I'm not saying you wont have fights or ups/downs, but it shouldn't feel like work. Hopefully that makes sense.
The right relationship is the one in which you can be yourself 100% and he/they/she can be themself 100%. And there is room for evolution in who you are. The relationship in which you can fight if needed and the relationship can survive/strengthen. The relationship that feels easy.
I love the honesty and it's is a great question. How do u know? Talking about food, I put on weight after meeting my boyfriend, he is a good cook 😂. I think it's finding it easy with someone and when red flags do pop up, addressing it with your partner, talking and solving the issue xx
This is my experience in my relationship is that a person who is right for you will actually appear from nowhere which means he or she is somebody who is very unknown to you and doesn’t have any mutual friends with you. The right person also is somebody who is not active in IG or doesn’t have one.
I totally get that! Sometimes it's not about the big things, but those small moments that make ya realize you're with the right person. 😌💕 Plus, that car-chat gossip is pure gold! 🚗💬
I knew my guy was the one because he made me feel safe. Every insecurity I had, he loves. He values having fun and feeling good. He’s very emotionally aware. He’s also sexy AF and funny … so… ❤️🌹 I just feel so good when I’m around him. I think it’s so interesting that your body was trying to communicate to you in those relationships. That stuff really matters.
You know you're in the right relationship when it's Easy, you don't have to work hard to get along, you respect eachothers needs and wants, you don't judge eachothers opinions, and Your family thinks he's right for you!
For me: It was a combination of things. First (unpopular opinion) - it was just a feeling. A feeling of peace and happiness and calm and comfortable. Second - it was me taking the time to figure out what I was actually looking for in a partner. What was most important. For instance: I wanted someone who worked in healthcare (because I desired a common interest in our careers and work schedules etc. This was huge). I also wanted a shared hobby. For me, this was skiing. I, thankfully, found my other half that fit the bill to a tee. He’s by no means perfect and neither am I but we are happily married and have two (expecting a third) children. I hope you find your other half ♥️ I’m sure you will when the time is right.
That lip oil enhances your lipstick! 😍 and there’s no such thing as too much blush! 😍 I still apply blush over my cheeks and nose to give that sunkissed sunburnt look 🤣🤣🤣 also could you elaborate more on acne skincare regime like you explained on this video? Cos im weirdly experiencing lumps and bumps on the right side of my face too 😭 wanna revamp my products :-/ my skin type is oily and sensitive 🙏🏻 What if i don’t have Merit in my sephora here in singapore? I appreciate in advance!! ❤ Also, i knew my husband was the one when i first saw him on our first date cos he really reminds me of my late father. I’m always at my happiest, and constantly find myself laughing and saying “you’re just like my dad”. It’s a fact and i love those similar attributes and qualities about my late father 🤍 Amelia I wish you’d feel it too with that lucky someone someday 🥹💕 btw i love you in leopard print!! And when audrey said “omg i love being a swiftie, being a swiftie is the best” she sounded like paris hilton!! 🤣✨
For me I knew when I suddenly felt that nothing was missing. I constantly found myself in relationships and I had an extreme feeling of “something was missing” so when I wasn’t mentally feeling that way I knew I found my soulmate
Certainty is not guaranteed. "When you know you know" is a myth and if you do have that feeling it does not guarantee anything! If you are in a long term relationship with someone who you have chemistry with, admire, share the same lifestyle goals, genuinely enjoy their company more than anyone else (laughter is important) and can listen to each others feedback when you are unhappy then you are luckier then most and are likely to have a long and happy relationship.
My husband and fell instantly in love the moment we saw, not even met each other. However, we only got together after 5 years and that was the best thing because we literally felt that we are meant to be together. When we got together there was an absolute sense of passion, love and peace. For the first time ever, I felt fully seen and wanted and loved for exactly who I am. I said to him, I have never been in a commited relationship and feeling perfectly free. I felt freedom. No settling down. The only way is up ❤ Together for 16 years now.
I never comment on UA-cam videos but I feel like I need to on this one! 😂 For me, I knew my husband was the one when there wasn’t one single thing I would have changed about him and the way he treated me. It was the first relationship I was in where I didn’t say, “oh I could see myself marrying you, except for this or except for that”, which was what I said a lot in other relationships. I knew that I would be so ridiculously happy with him if he was exactly the same for the rest of his life! 🥰
Ok, maybe some advice from a long time married elderly. About choosing the right guy. Make two lists, a. what you need and, b. What you want in a relationship. Be honest. Things particular to you, such as, 1. someone that you enjoy spending time with alone, just the two of you. 2. he fits in with your friends group and with your family. 3. Someone with your same values, I.e., what does he spend his money on, is he generous?, is he thrifty? 4. Does he accept your career? 5. Does he accept your going out with your friends without him? 6. Do your values, life rhythms and preferred activites mesh? 7. How much attention does he need from you and will you be able to give it? Will he accept you being the star, and center of attention, in your life? 8. How does he treat his mother and sisters and other women. 9. What does he want in a partner? 10. Do you respect him? Does he respect you? 11. How does he handle conflict? you Etc, etc. Take time with your list and be blunt in your expectations. Consult with Hannah. Early love is blind and changes as it matures. Most likely you won’t find anyone if you expect a perfect fit so use your list as a way to see the man more clearly but don’t try to force him into the perfect husband mold, that doesn’t work either. I love my husband and have.grown to love him more as the years have gone by but we are not a perfect couple by any measure, and have had some seriously fiery arguments but always came back together better. Remember it is always work. And, talk openly from the beginning about what you need from him and seek what he needs from you. I learned early on that my guy always needed to know he was the most important person in my life and as long as he knew that, we were fine.
There’s no such thing as love. We just define it as love because we don’t know what else to label it. That relationship/person served a certain need at that point in your life.
I knew ....because it was like I met my best friend and we talked and were bonding the first night we met. Also we both wanted to see eachother and both made effort to see eachother as much as we could. We were eachothers first priority.
I thought I didn’t believe in “when you know you know” I also hated when people would tell me that. However, when I went on my first date (with my now husband) I really just knew. I felt like we were instantly best friends, I felt peace in mind and body, and prayed for confirmations from Jesus. I just felt like I couldn’t get enough time with him. When the date ended, even though it lasted 5 hours, it just wasn’t enough time. That’s how I knew. Hopefully that’s more help to you ❤ love you so much!!!!
The right relationship is being with someone that is naturally good in charactor. It doesn't count when you all are in good terms but his behaviour towards you when you guys are arguing, when you have a breakdown. His attitude towards your family and friends etc. And when everyone teaches you to be adult but he pampers you like a kid. It's just my point of view.
Nothing is forced. You don't have to "make things work". My dad would always say "when you know you know and there will be no doubts" and I would say "yea right, there's no way I wouldn't have a doubt if I was for sure making the right decision." But he was right. So cliche, but yes, when you know you know. There was no doubts or hesitations or feeling of "am I just settling??" We started hanging out and never wanted to stop spending time together. He quickly became my best friend. Now we've been married for 8 years and have 2 precious babies. :) (and 2 Golden Retrievers) ;) haha You'll know! And sometimes it's when you least expect it! Hugs
🌹Just love you Amelia. You are so correct about the relationship but. In the wrong relationships my body rejected them too. I am looking for a partner not a passenger. I learned the hard way that I will not settle again. Therapy has helped with that. You are beautiful inside and out Amelia. The best is yet to come. Continued Blessings and Support. ~Love&Light♥️Carli xx
When you know you know is an oversimplification of a truth, knowing in that sense means your mind heart and body are all in agreement you know on a deeper level your not scared of jumping forward you feel safe and secure… it took me till 30 but it happened 🥰
For me it’s exhaustion. As in: I’m so tired, I don’t get angry, I don’t cry, I don’t lament on the phone with friends. I don’t expect anything remarkable anymore. Once I’m there, I know I can take steps to exit.
I think if he is someone you can call a best friend and will be there for you during the bad and the good, it is right. He has to be part of your team.
For me it's not the head over heels love, but the calm and steady love. Someone I can talk to about everything, without feeling ashamed.
Head over heels love only works is the other person feels the same way and personalities match. This feeling also last long forever. Mostly happen in movies. To have a long term relationship what you described above is the true meaning of love.
I meant this feeling doesn’t long for forever
Great answer!
Amelia, happily married for 14years here. There will be no such thing as questioning anything when you meet the person that is right for you. It’s because you are going against who you are as a person and any man that loves you will never make you feel bad or make you question your judgement or behaviour in any way. In fact, people are so addicted to bad behaviour that you normalise that type of behaviour. In a happy relationship Everything just becomes what most would call ‘boring’. As there is just love there, you are comfortable and make each other happy. There is acceptance there and you truly just feel at home. Any topic is up for discussion, things become fun, and the way you question things when single is not even a thing. You question things as a single person because the people you are meeting/dating aren’t right for you.
You will know if you are in the right relationship when everything feels and seems easy. There are no games. To be in the relationship is no effort because you can be yourself and things just fall into place so easily!
I knew I was in the right relationship the first time he told me no. All boyfriends in the past gave me whatever I wanted and basically had no backbone. I never realized this until my mom said it and she was absolutely right. He loved and respected me, but demanded respect as well. Almost 20 years later we're still madly in love and best friends.
You’re right! There’s something really special about finding a man who won’t capitulate to every whim. It really communicates stability and consistency for me. I think too many men find themselves in essentially a situation where they must be martyrs to keep her happy…nothing sexy about that sort of groveling. I like that my husband is considerate of our long term goals and financial well being instead of indulging me every time I say I like/want something. Like anything else, it’s about balance…we treat ourselves and each other often, but sometimes that means little immediate treats, sometimes it means saving that money for an unforeseen situation.
Same! My now husband was the only one that wouldn’t put up with my bullshit 😂 he wasn’t afraid to tell me when I was being unreasonable. All the others just let me walk all over them
Yesss! I don't get people who thinks a healthy relationship is being with someone who does everything you want and even put themselves sencond for you at all times. There is quote i live by "love yourself first, then everything else falls into place".
@@mckenseyaranguren1110 I think you’ve kicked off the healthiest relationship thread on the internet. A man who has good boundaries and keeps them? A man who practices personal, financial discipline and delayed gratification? A man who encourages you to be the best version of yourself? Yes!!!!
I knew I was in the right relationship when I had peace about our future, knowing that no matter how many changes we may go through, at the core, what matters most is that we know we will always put each other first. He is a man who leads, finds joy in the mundane, prays for and with me, has the greatest guy friends who keep him accountable, and is hilarious. Also I knew I was the type of person who wanted to marry my best friend because I was too shy to come out of my shell with someone I didn't have a friendship foundation with. All our friends supported us especially my girlfriends (THIS IS MAJOR because I have seen other girls keep their girls single IYKYK) and I couldn't be more grateful x
Here’s the think. You need to decide BEFORE you’re in a relationship what you want it to look like and want from it. Then, as you meet people, they either are or aren’t that vision and it helps you move on quicker rather than stay and trying to fit a square into a circle.
I knew because Ive never once had that nervous/anxious feeling when around him… it’s so comfortable. When you’re truly best friends with that person. Also, as a serious conflict avoidant person, I have no issue talking with him about things and the conversations are always from a place of wanting to understand. Not sure if any of this made sense 🫶🏾
I’ve been married 20 years. For me I knew my husband was the one bc he supported me and he was interested in my thoughts and feelings. If I were single now, I would make a list of traits that are non negotiable and look for someone based on those. And I’d have a list of deal breakers as well. And don’t settle. ❤ “when you know you know” is only in movies and it’s not real (to me).
Loveeeee the car chats and dating stories! The right relationship will bring peace to your life, you’re so right about getting ill, it’s like your nervous system and subconscious just know before we see it for ourselves. Have the best time in south of france angel 😘
I knew because I have fun with him no matter what wet do. We just genuinely enjoy being together. we rarely fight and we still get butterflies and act like school kids when it comes to physical stuff. This sounds cliché, but he really is my best friend and I feel totally safe with him. He’s my favorite person in the world and he really does feel like Home. ❤❤❤
Been married for 13 yrs, together for 16. I knew he was for me because he felt like home. I felt safe, comfortable to be completely me, we hardly argued and we still don’t. We have complete respect for each other and it’s always been that was as well. We’ve just always had a healthy, fun, comfortable, respectful relationship! We laugh alllll the time, he’s so funny! And even through our tough times, we’ve become stronger because of it, because we’ve always had a solid foundation.
I knew I was in the right relationship bc he made me a better person.... made me more confident...made me happy....
I knew my husband was the one, because I actually noticed him trying to understand my quirks and not mocking them. It’s so easy for people to brush or laugh things off, but he tried to understand why I acted a certain way or what triggered me, so it wouldn’t happen again. He still does! Married two years, together 7 1/2.
Yes to this!! Been married for 3 years been together for 7.5 as well ❤❤❤
Married for 12 years and you know when things are just easy. It’s not that you don’t put in any effort but it’s not drama BS effort. Being with the person is effortless and there is a comfort and a sense of “ok” i can be with this person forever. You can also just be you and it i all ok. Even 14 years and kids later it still feels like a life time is not enough with my husband. Keep looking until you find him! it will all be worth it. ❤
You are SOOOO incredibly SWEET with Audrey! ))))) Can't stop smiling when you are together ! Thank you for this unbelievable emotions! And London views are so inspiring!
You’re spoiling us, you, Cooper and Audrey in the same vlog - more please🤩🥰 🎉🎉🎉
I truly believe that instinctively we know that we’re with the wrong person from the beginning, however, our desire to be partnered up can take over and weaken our critical thinking. Our body knows when something doesn’t suit us and it looks for ways to reject what we’re forcing on it, whether it be food or wrong relationship. When you have well defined boundaries & are honest with yourself what you really need from the relationship vs ‘it just feels right’ or chasing someone else’s idea of what relationship should be like, greatly improves selection process. If your heart isn't aligned with your mind then it's a 🚩, don't ignore it x
100% agree with this. You've put it perfectly 👌🏾
Amelia, I rarely comment, but I feel compelled to do so today because I need to know your vlogs hit the spot! I’ve recently been through a breakup and I binge watch your vlogs when I feel lost. I love that there’s no productivity talk, just wholesome life moments and all girly things - which is exactly what any girl needs to get back to herself. ❤ Thank you 🙏❤
I think it’s important to focus on not so much on whether the person likes us and more on whether we genuinely like the person. If that makes sense. Sometimes we spend a lot of time looking for signs etc. desperate to be chosen. Now I’m trying to focus on what I really want.
I have a good one!!! So, if you're scared to tell them how you really feel about something (like if something bothered you, you disagree with something they did/say/etc.) and you feel like you can't truly tell them what you're feeling and thinking because you're scared of the way they'll react then it's not the right relationship
I knew it was right when I saw him again after the first time we met and I felt a sense of inner peace. No anxiety masked as excitement, no worries about what to wear or what to say, it was a level of comfort and security I’d never felt before. Just being at total ease around him. Kind of like meeting a platonic best friend but you want to kiss them etc 😂 then as time has gone on that comfortability means we can challenge each other on things, call each other out on our BS and encourage each other to be the best version of ourselves! It’s pretty bloody nice to be honest. But the calmness at the start is key!!
Such a fun vlog!! So jealous you got to go to Eras tour!! 😆❤️
How did I know I was in the right relationship? When I initially broke up with my boyfriend (due to long distance after a long period/ couple of years) I realised after a couple of months I would not find someone as good a man as he was. I realised good people don’t always come in your life everyday and I was lucky to have had him in my life to begin with. Fast forward I made the leap and moved to be with him and now are married nearly 10 years with 2 kids and I couldn’t imagine life without him. He has my back and will stand up for me in all situations, and is always supportive and honest to me when I really need the right feedback or advice in life. That to me is how you know you are in a good relationship. You aren’t second guessing, you aren’t chasing, you are just with someone who loves you for who you are and vice versa and importantly you have shared goals together too be it money, family, house etc. I do feel blessed.
Married for 16 years here, It feels like coming home, the happy safe home you never knew you had and it's calm, secure, it feels familiar. Just imagine after a long walk in the rain and you come home to a warm cozy house, you showered, put a clean clothes and warm socks on, that's my analogy 😊 the right person makes your heart beat slower, your body surrender and you'll be at peace with yourself 😊 sending you lots of love thank you for the vlog
I've rewatched some of your old vlogs from like 7-9 years ago and I love how your personality has not changed! (Like it has of course) but you're still so funny and charismatic - esp the bit in the car about Brandy Melville reminded me of old school vlogs haha
Weirdly thinking recently about the fact that my ex would make me ill all the time 😂 it’s like my immune system just caved in while I dating him, I caught every bug/covid (most of the time from him even though he was never affected by it) I do remember thinking is my body trying to tell me something 😂 I’ve not been ill since
I'm in that relationship right now. Noticing the little things, and asking myself "is this going to be my life?" In a positive way. I feel calm and excited about my future with him. My nervous system knows I'm in the right place because I can sleep well and relax when I'm with him. It's a long distance relationship but fingers crossed 🤞🏻 not for too long ❤
Your makeup during the get ready is amazing! You look soooooo beautiful ❤
Something nobody ever talks about is that in a life partner- love itself is not enough. 😔😔
Do they have similar/agreeable fundamental morals & values (kids, caring for aging parents)?
Will they be able to take care of me in the ways I need (in the love language I speak)?
Also- knowing that they wont hit below the belt or try to hurt me deeply, when they feel defensive.
Hope this helps you some lovebug xoxo
I knew I was in the right relationship (after decades 😂) when I found someone who chose to do things that make my everyday life easier. When we can easily do our own things, but have a blast together, without worrying about judgment and him saying I’m being weird or anything of that sort. Being able to communicate with each other and taking the time to hear each other out and working towards understanding where the other is coming from. Also, he legit takes care of me and my best friend when we get a bit too sloshed! Oh!! And she and I live in different states, but he makes sure every couple of months if we haven’t made plans ourselves to see each other, he gets ahold of her to make sure we have an adventure! 😊
Right relationship 👏🏻 doesn’t feel like hard work, don’t need to fight for attention, there’s mutual respect for each other’s time and friendship happens naturally. You’re gonna be with this person for the rest of your life and looks fade, so better be sure you’re best friends 💁🏻♀️ Oh and when you know, you know.
You had great seats. My god daughter was in the vip bit but wanted to stand. What a great atmosphere it was in London that day! Someone gave me a Red bracelet and so Zi bought the Red cd…..
20 yrs together here...the right relationship is your a good team , always there on your happy times but most of all your worst times. knows you inside out .
I was literally speechless, when I met my husband. I talk a lot normally, but I was speechless.
I knew he is the right guy from the beginning, because I felt home and save.
And the longer we've been together, the more I knew, I am save with him, I can trust him and I felt even more home from day to day.
Over the years we grew our relationship, we went through hard times together, even hard challenges like miscarrying many times over many years. This pain was a real challenge for us, almost broke us and our relationship. But even then, I felt save and loved. That's why we fought for us and at the end of this crisis, we were stronger than ever as a couple.
We bought a house and I got pregnant again, this time the baby stuck, even though it was a struggle and we are now a small family.
I know, he is genuine, caring and loving. He obviously has his flaws, like everyone has and we aren't always on the same page, but that's normal too.
A relationship is a constant piece of work, but you have to be sure you want the same things in life (the big ones I mean) and it is the person you want to fight the challenges of life with. Then you can enjoy the good times even more.
PS: I knew he would be a good father for our children, when I saw him with our nieces and nephews.
I knew it was right when I felt like I was wearing my fav sweats and slippers when ever we were together. So comfortable and safe ❤
Your videos got me through my 5years course and I’m a doctor now but I watch your videos religiously ❤
"That wasn't LoOoVe...I WAS BLIND!!!"😂😂 I honestly relate so much!!
The “car-chat gossip-spilling” is the best
I’ve been with my husband for 20yrs. I knew he was the one because it was easy, just effortless. We talked for hours on our first date & can still talk for hours today. We have our own likes & dislikes, which we honor & respect. Also make sure u share the same political & religious/spiritual views, it’s how u see the world & it’s something that shouldn’t be compromised on.
For me: my relationship survived 3 years of long distance. That’s how I knew. It was a feeling of total assurance, no questioning about our future and just being on the same page that we are each others best friend so us building a future together felt inevitable for us and everybody around us (very important). So we worked towards making our paths merge (jobs, visas…) and now we live together and are stronger for it all ❤
In conclusion: I think the feelings come first but the work has to follow up to make it a reality. Cheers l!
Can’t wait for more Audrey and Amelia next week 😊❤
Someone you feel at peace with and feels like home. Someone you can be fully yourself with and have no unnecessary stress or uncertainty. Someone that loves you fully and pursues you and wait till you find that. Otherwise it’s not worth it.
Anybody else gets super sleepy around their boo? Not sure what the science is but apparently the right person’s body chemistry will help your body produce serotonin and make you feel safe and sleepy.
Cooper seems like the sweetest dog ❤
When you feel more yourself being with them, than being without them. Like they bring out your deepest self, without even trying
He feels safe, I can be myself unconditionally and inexcusably! I dont need a filter nor lying or thinking he would judge me! My panic attacks and IBS attacks go away when he’s with me😁this is my answer
Amelia, if you can find a man with these 3 qualities, keep him!
1. generous in and out of the bedroom. 2. makes you laugh often. 3. does NOT say stupid shit that irritates....he's a keeper...😍
I knew my relationship was good when it was easy. We can talk about anything good or bad at any time. We can ask each other for just about anything no questions asked. I knew he was the one when he didn't bat an eye when I told him I never wanted kids. I knew we were the long haul when we talked about marriage and having a prenup. As both of us were previously married and divorced. He didn't mind that I wanted separate finances. We are the best of friends. We have been married for almost 16 years in November. This man is a keeper.
I'm on vacation from work this week. Thank you for helping me start my Sunday morning! 💖 I also happen to agree with you on the Merit! That brand really agrees with your skin. You were absolutely radiant!
Someone who makes me feel safe, makes life better in every way. Who i look forward to seeing and miss after a few hours x
For me, it's about the little things. Wanting to spend time together, especially non-physical time. 😉 Being there for one another during the fun times as well as the difficult times. That's how I knew my husband was the one for me. Earlier this month, we celebrated 6 years married and 9 years as a couple. ❤
Also, it should feel easy. I'm not saying you wont have fights or ups/downs, but it shouldn't feel like work. Hopefully that makes sense.
The right relationship is the one in which you can be yourself 100% and he/they/she can be themself 100%. And there is room for evolution in who you are. The relationship in which you can fight if needed and the relationship can survive/strengthen. The relationship that feels easy.
I walked up to him and felt like I had known him all my life! He's the best! I had no worries about the future. ❤
LOVE the Four Seasons! My fave so far is the one on Lana'i in Hawaii.
I love the honesty and it's is a great question. How do u know? Talking about food, I put on weight after meeting my boyfriend, he is a good cook 😂. I think it's finding it easy with someone and when red flags do pop up, addressing it with your partner, talking and solving the issue xx
This is my experience in my relationship is that a person who is right for you will actually appear from nowhere which means he or she is somebody who is very unknown to you and doesn’t have any mutual friends with you. The right person also is somebody who is not active in IG or doesn’t have one.
Natural, minimal makeup looks amazing on you 👌🏻
I totally get that! Sometimes it's not about the big things, but those small moments that make ya realize you're with the right person. 😌💕 Plus, that car-chat gossip is pure gold! 🚗💬
I knew my guy was the one because he made me feel safe. Every insecurity I had, he loves. He values having fun and feeling good. He’s very emotionally aware. He’s also sexy AF and funny … so… ❤️🌹 I just feel so good when I’m around him.
I think it’s so interesting that your body was trying to communicate to you in those relationships. That stuff really matters.
Amelia the brush looks great on you,youre not over doing at all❤❤
You know you're in the right relationship when it's Easy, you don't have to work hard to get along, you respect eachothers needs and wants, you don't judge eachothers opinions, and Your family thinks he's right for you!
For me: It was a combination of things. First (unpopular opinion) - it was just a feeling. A feeling of peace and happiness and calm and comfortable. Second - it was me taking the time to figure out what I was actually looking for in a partner. What was most important. For instance: I wanted someone who worked in healthcare (because I desired a common interest in our careers and work schedules etc. This was huge). I also wanted a shared hobby. For me, this was skiing.
I, thankfully, found my other half that fit the bill to a tee. He’s by no means perfect and neither am I but we are happily married and have two (expecting a third) children. I hope you find your other half ♥️ I’m sure you will when the time is right.
That lip oil enhances your lipstick! 😍 and there’s no such thing as too much blush! 😍 I still apply blush over my cheeks and nose to give that sunkissed sunburnt look 🤣🤣🤣 also could you elaborate more on acne skincare regime like you explained on this video? Cos im weirdly experiencing lumps and bumps on the right side of my face too 😭 wanna revamp my products :-/ my skin type is oily and sensitive 🙏🏻 What if i don’t have Merit in my sephora here in singapore? I appreciate in advance!! ❤ Also, i knew my husband was the one when i first saw him on our first date cos he really reminds me of my late father. I’m always at my happiest, and constantly find myself laughing and saying “you’re just like my dad”. It’s a fact and i love those similar attributes and qualities about my late father 🤍 Amelia I wish you’d feel it too with that lucky someone someday 🥹💕 btw i love you in leopard print!! And when audrey said “omg i love being a swiftie, being a swiftie is the best” she sounded like paris hilton!! 🤣✨
For me I knew when I suddenly felt that nothing was missing. I constantly found myself in relationships and I had an extreme feeling of “something was missing” so when I wasn’t mentally feeling that way I knew I found my soulmate
I just have to say I’m a longtime follower and I’ve love every era of you 💖
Certainty is not guaranteed. "When you know you know" is a myth and if you do have that feeling it does not guarantee anything! If you are in a long term relationship with someone who you have chemistry with, admire, share the same lifestyle goals, genuinely enjoy their company more than anyone else (laughter is important) and can listen to each others feedback when you are unhappy then you are luckier then most and are likely to have a long and happy relationship.
My husband and fell instantly in love the moment we saw, not even met each other. However, we only got together after 5 years and that was the best thing because we literally felt that we are meant to be together. When we got together there was an absolute sense of passion, love and peace. For the first time ever, I felt fully seen and wanted and loved for exactly who I am. I said to him, I have never been in a commited relationship and feeling perfectly free. I felt freedom. No settling down. The only way is up ❤ Together for 16 years now.
I knew when I laughed every day and just felt at peace. I didn't have to fight to like him
The Dior photo shoot was amazing! Love the outfit, but especially, the boots/shoes!
This is so insightful! I also feel the same, that a bad relationship gives me digestion issues.
I never comment on UA-cam videos but I feel like I need to on this one! 😂 For me, I knew my husband was the one when there wasn’t one single thing I would have changed about him and the way he treated me. It was the first relationship I was in where I didn’t say, “oh I could see myself marrying you, except for this or except for that”, which was what I said a lot in other relationships. I knew that I would be so ridiculously happy with him if he was exactly the same for the rest of his life! 🥰
You know you are in the right relationship when you are not “blind”
Ok, maybe some advice from a long time married elderly. About choosing the right guy. Make two lists, a. what you need and, b. What you want in a relationship. Be honest. Things particular to you, such as, 1. someone that you enjoy spending time with alone, just the two of you. 2. he fits in with your friends group and with your family. 3. Someone with your same values, I.e., what does he spend his money on, is he generous?, is he thrifty? 4. Does he accept your career? 5. Does he accept your going out with your friends without him? 6. Do your values, life rhythms and preferred activites mesh? 7. How much attention does he need from you and will you be able to give it? Will he accept you being the star, and center of attention, in your life? 8. How does he treat his mother and sisters and other women. 9. What does he want in a partner? 10. Do you respect him? Does he respect you? 11. How does he handle conflict? you Etc, etc. Take time with your list and be blunt in your expectations. Consult with Hannah. Early love is blind and changes as it matures. Most likely you won’t find anyone if you expect a perfect fit so use your list as a way to see the man more clearly but don’t try to force him into the perfect husband mold, that doesn’t work either. I love my husband and have.grown to love him more as the years have gone by but we are not a perfect couple by any measure, and have had some seriously fiery arguments but always came back together better. Remember it is always work. And, talk openly from the beginning about what you need from him and seek what he needs from you. I learned early on that my guy always needed to know he was the most important person in my life and as long as he knew that, we were fine.
There’s no such thing as love. We just define it as love because we don’t know what else to label it. That relationship/person served a certain need at that point in your life.
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That shade of blush is beautiful on you
I knew ....because it was like I met my best friend and we talked and were bonding the first night we met. Also we both wanted to see eachother and both made effort to see eachother as much as we could. We were eachothers first priority.
I thought I didn’t believe in “when you know you know”
I also hated when people would tell me that. However, when I went on my first date (with my now husband) I really just knew. I felt like we were instantly best friends, I felt peace in mind and body, and prayed for confirmations from Jesus.
I just felt like I couldn’t get enough time with him. When the date ended, even though it lasted 5 hours, it just wasn’t enough time.
That’s how I knew. Hopefully that’s more help to you ❤ love you so much!!!!
On the train with a perma-grin while watching. Thank you for this.❤
The right relationship is being with someone that is naturally good in charactor. It doesn't count when you all are in good terms but his behaviour towards you when you guys are arguing, when you have a breakdown. His attitude towards your family and friends etc.
And when everyone teaches you to be adult but he pampers you like a kid.
It's just my point of view.
You are yourself and they are themselves too! Xx
You don't know. You take a gamble. I made one at 23. Still married 10 years later and very happy.
Totally agree on the you feel it in your body if a relationship is right. Other than that im clueless 😅
The brows and makeup 👏👏👏
I always joke it’s somebody you can fart in front of. But honestly, just being comfortable to be yourself if so big in a healthy relationship.
Nothing is forced. You don't have to "make things work". My dad would always say "when you know you know and there will be no doubts" and I would say "yea right, there's no way I wouldn't have a doubt if I was for sure making the right decision." But he was right. So cliche, but yes, when you know you know. There was no doubts or hesitations or feeling of "am I just settling??" We started hanging out and never wanted to stop spending time together. He quickly became my best friend. Now we've been married for 8 years and have 2 precious babies. :) (and 2 Golden Retrievers) ;) haha You'll know! And sometimes it's when you least expect it! Hugs
🌹Just love you Amelia. You are so correct about the relationship but. In the wrong relationships my body rejected them too. I am looking for a partner not a passenger. I learned the hard way that I will not settle again. Therapy has helped with that. You are beautiful inside and out Amelia. The best is yet to come. Continued Blessings and Support. ~Love&Light♥️Carli xx
from where are the 2 necklaces you wear in the vlog?
When you know enough about each other to know that your values and lifestyles align,
When you know you know is an oversimplification of a truth, knowing in that sense means your mind heart and body are all in agreement you know on a deeper level your not scared of jumping forward you feel safe and secure… it took me till 30 but it happened 🥰
For me it’s exhaustion. As in: I’m so tired, I don’t get angry, I don’t cry, I don’t lament on the phone with friends. I don’t expect anything remarkable anymore. Once I’m there, I know I can take steps to exit.
Beanie is adorable ❤😊!
Seriouy, does Audrey have a UA-cam channel? If nit she needs one! Her vibes are amazing! One of my favorites of Amelia’s friends!
Great vlog as usual. Cx
Amelia babe cooper is so cute bless him❤❤
Yay new vlogs ❤😊
Blush looks so good.
Thrush and mono skiing is HILARIOUS😂😂 I was also confused (as an American)
I think if he is someone you can call a best friend and will be there for you during the bad and the good, it is right. He has to be part of your team.
omg i need to go to the eras tour and the four seasons
You look great in yellow! The first yellow dress that didn’t fit, the color looked amazing on you! Also like red on you
Hah! I am wearing those H&M linen pants whilst I'm watching this video! So good for lounging 🤣