ENFP and INTJ Synergy
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- Опубліковано 4 вер 2019
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/ discord There's all this talk about whether or not they are good together. This is my argument for the positive relations between INTJs and ENFPs. Website: heartofmichi.com - Фільми й анімація
idk but we can talk about nothing for hours and hours with an enfp,
every one else bores me to death
This is definitely true with me (ENFP and my INTJ)
I can't talk about "nothing" with anyone. Either where talking about business or something socially or political substantive or I'm not talking at all. I'd rather watch something stupid on tv rather that have a stupid conversation.
I observe enfp energy altime pick level . I for sure tune in enfp eregy. Which great impact on conversation.
INTJ here. Listens to 2 sentences. Develops instant crush. Brain says wtf... Watches a few videos and discovers you're ENFP. Suddenly everything makes sense.
You are spot on. ENFP's energise us. Your endless optimism and dreaming minds attract us. You have a strength that we admire. We enjoy sifting through your ideas and helping you develop them. In return you bring sunshine into our lives.
Spot on
I love how ENFPs have such spontaneous energy because I’m always so serious and deep in thought, and they can bring me back to the present moment and get me outta my head. I also love how they can be optimistic when all odds are against them. That optimism makes them amazing supporters for even my biggest ideas and plans. I find myself more comfortable around them as an introvert because I don’t even have to say anything and can just listen while they talk nonstop.
We can talk a lot endlessly 😅 we love the seriousness because we can be too not serious lol
THIS IS CHACE That sounds familiar lol I’m an enfp
He's right :)
As INTJ what you said is what exactly im feeling. No matter how shit and depressed I'm ENFP is always optimistic about me and support me with their passion. That's like a savior of mine.
@Random Person hahahahahah i first thought you guys are annoying but was really amazed by how happy ENFPs truely are and they influence me with their passion. Thats like a light in my dim life lol
I don’t have a particularly deep reason why I like ENFPs beyond them being nice to me. Other introverts are awkward and avoidant like me, and other extraverts just ignore me in favor of each other/the group, but ENFPs are often that person who actually wants to know what I think and feel, and is open-minded enough to consider it. Optimists usually annoy me, but ENFPs validate my Fi enough for me to soak in their positive energy instead of feeling like it’s just another person trying to shove sugarcoated BS down my throat
As an INTJ, I am drawn to all ENFP's in general.. INTJ's have problems with being fatigued with overthinking.. It's physically and mentally exhausting to INTJ's to constantly be thinking all the time.. That being said, I know exactly when I'm around an ENFP. The moment that the ENFP talks with me, my brain shuts off and gets flooded with the ENFP's life or ideas. It feels like the brain "light switch" is being turned off. The ENFP has experienced everything 1st hand. They will never mention something that someone else has done.. As an INTJ, I am drawn to all those personal experiences and want to live those out too in some cases. So, in a way, an ENFP has a certain power over me in that way. If an ENFP were to ask me today, lets go on a road trip 3 states away, I would probably say yes. Just as long as it didn't break any responsibilities that I didn't already have beforehand.. I find that an ENFP can turn that mental switch off and it can easily get addictive. Just like any other addiction, it can be dangerous if it's over used. A mature INTJ-ENFP will be able to handle everything well, however an immature pairing can be a recipe for disaster.
Thanks,
Jacob
Very well said!
My 3 best friend are intj...
Hey Jacob :) Let's go on a road trip!
I've always wanted an INTJ friend, I'm an ENFP but if ya wanna talk or anything my insta is @chey.nelson
as an ENFP i can tell when my INTJ coworker is at ease talking to me, but the INFJ coworker helps him talk but in a draining sense. so he tends to open up to me about different things.. and i notice how people treat him almost in a childish way because he doesnt give much emotion and people seem to think talking in a patronizing way will help that. also for me this guy keeps me working on my millions of projects that i want to give up on lol... its beautiful :')
As an INTJ, we do love it when an ENFP comes to us with their ideas to rule the out the best. We like that our judgement is valued by the ENFP. It makes us feel more confident in our knowledge. The fear of not knowing or not being prepared is what drives us to learn so much. The ENFP validates all of our hard work in the search of knowledge. I'm blessed that I get to marry my ENFP and grow together with her!
Thank you bro for sharing your wonderful story!
- A fellow INTJ (5w6 sx/sp)
@@alimuhammedkhorasi8743 Olá, como faço para descobrir que tipo de INTJ, vez ou outra vejo as pessoas usarem seu mbti seguido desses números mas nunca encontro nada sobre...você pode me ajudar?
As a male INTJ, I think the male INTJ-female ENFP combination can be extremely good. I agree that we have to share values. But I think that's true of any relationship. The way I experience the combination is that we both give each other the things we need most. I help her focus her thinking and make good decisions and plans, and she, simply put, makes me feel good. I can get wrapped up inside my head and worn down by stress, and she's the warm sunshine that makes it all better. But we're not opposites. We think and feel the same way, we just have strengths and weaknesses that are complimentary. We're both big picture, philosophical seekers who want our lives to matter. We understand each other.
Some people seem to think that ENFPs are dumb, flighty airheads, but as an INTJ, I don't feel that way. I can see that they're just focused on people and feelings, and they have a lot of philosophical and spiritual depth. Also, I think ENFP women can be some of the best mothers.
I think the Male INTJ and Female AND I works well together. However--as a female INTJ, I can't abide a male ENFP. It may be wrong of me, but when I see a male ENFP I see a permanent child who would be a millstone around my neck.
@@brigantiablackbird Ik I’m a bit late, but the only thing I see wrong with this is the fact that it’s an assertion based on a generalization. Obviously no two ENFPs (and no two people) are gonna be the same. I find your perspective interesting tho
@@jackmaloney5181 There are always exceptions. That being admitted--the only thing I want from an ENFP man is for him to stay the hell away from me.
@@brigantiablackbird lmao to each their own ig
@@brigantiablackbird Okay. Find yourself an ENTJ/ESTj then. Maybe then, you'll like the logic enough so that you'll be pleased. Mature ENFPs are no children. Do not underestimate us.
In the ENFP I see someone who will compliment me, rather than compete with me. The same appears to be true in reverse. The Ne dom is lightning quick at making new mental connections/ideas, and the Ni dom is lightning quick at discerning or clarifying/focusing/refining those connections/ideas. The two types make fantastic playmates for this reason, if nothing else. It's just a very fun and easy interaction because the two types are not competing for the same cognitive space. If the ENFP and INTJ are both mature, it's a really great pairing, in any type of relationship. -INTJ
INTJ here. I love how fun ENFPs are. I can actually have a conversation with ENFPs and push the limits of ideas together with them. Not every type is open to thought experimentation, but ENFPs are. The best times in my life have been with ENFPs. They make great friends.
All of my past relationships were all ENFP types.
I barely make a move on a woman, but these ENFPs always catch me off-guard and they always find their way into my hard shell with their sweetness and warmth.
How to be an INTJ with a ENFP: be nice with your criticism, be wise enough to know when to express disapproval and when it's not useful, focus on values/Fi, try to accept emotional affirmations and reciprocate
How to be an ENFP with an INTJ: don't take criticism personally, don't get frustrated if the INTJ doesn't reciprocate emotionally at first. If the INTJ is emotionally closed off, focus on brainstorming ideas, speculating about the future, etc. as oppose to giving affirmation or showing love/romantic interest.
I am an INTJ who needs ENFP energy in my life. I really wanna find some ENFP girlfriends. INTJ has a way to make ENFPs feel very safe and secure due to their competence. INTJ can sense what ENFP needs without them saying. Which makes ENFP feel heated and cared for. ENFPs have a way of bringing magic into INTJs world. They can tap into the softer side of INTJ and show them so much. ENFP has an alluring energy for an INTJ even if we don't know how to verbally express it.
[INTJ here] Almost every brainstorming conversation with my ENFP best friend goes like this. Me: "no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no....hmm, maayyybbeee...oooh yeah that one actually works really well!" Totally agree with what you said about INTJ's enjoying ENFP's dominant Ne. Ni brainstorming is usually a slow, intense process so when I can work with an ENFP's NE it's almost like I'm outsourcing my brainpower which allows me to preserve a lot of energy.
Outsourcing brain power, lol, i;ll note that down. ENFP .
I find ENFPs extremely charming. I was incredibly lucky to have known a very mature and responsible ENFP. She had clear goals for herself so I did not feel like a babysitter, I felt like a companion.
I am a INTJ and my wife is ENFP, we have been married for 42 years. I love the match. She says her ideas on a regular basis, and I have found some gems, that I never would have thought of.
It's like being with someone that both energizes you and interests you. The ENFP can see my "blindspots", and they have an uncanny "muse' quality to them. They are silly, and light, carefree and happy.... all the things I am not, which is why I am wholly fascinated with them.
and as an ENFP its so refreshing to talk to someone who stimulates our ideas rather than "going along" with or downplaying them like a lot of other personalities do to us.
Reasons I like ENFPs:
*Disclaimer: These are my external views on ENFPs based on anecdotal experience as an INTJ and may or may not be accurate.
1.It feels like they view the world in a similar yet different way. I find with a lot of other types that I have either already thought, of what they are going to say or already considered all the response they might have to something I suggest. At the risk of sounding somewhat arrogant here, most people are either predictable or disappointing in there responses. ENFPs on the other had frequently seem to say things that I never saw coming, but that also adds value to the situation. This keeps me constantly interested in what they are going to say next.
2. Despite viewing the world in the similar way, they still to manage to have this cheerful optimism about things. I have the tendency for being cynical that I constantly have to fight against. Its not that I don't think things can be fixed, it that I don't believe other people will do what needs to be done. A lot of times, it feels like other people are just oblivious to the reality of what is happening and just don’t see all the problems or choose to ignore them. Where as with ENFPs if feels like they often see the same world and problems that I am see, but still manage to come to a more optimistic conclusion without ignoring the reality of the situation.
3. I find that I often am disappointed by others, and just accept that if I want something to be completed or done right, that I will just have to do it all myself. While on the other hand, watching ENFPs feels like an example of working with others and actually having things work out. They seem to be better at tolerating others failings and raising them up, in situations where I would just get exhausted and go do it all myself. I admire their ability to garner support from others in way that feels genuine, rather than manipulative.
Hahaha, your first point is 100% on point! Yesterday, I was playing with my dad (E/INTJ well-balanced and mature) and the rest of the family with my adopted brother. While my father was swinging the baby around, I came from the kitchen, stopped to look at them, and then kinda sprinted to the baby, at the height of his face, and smiled at how cute he can be. Everyone was taken aback by my unexpected move (what always happens, also with things I say). The surprise in my brother's face turned into something he couldn't decipher, so he started crying. Father was trying to calm him down though talking, then he looked at me while talking to the baby: ''I know, I know. That's how she is, you just need to get used to her unpredictability''. Hahaha, it's fun living with NTs.
OMG, YES!! --> --> --> THIS --> --> --> "I find with a lot of other types that I have either already thought, of what they are going to say or already considered all the response they might have to something I suggest. At the risk of sounding somewhat arrogant here, most people are either predictable or disappointing in there responses. ENFPs on the other had frequently seem to say things that I never saw coming, but that also adds value to the situation. "
Just wondering if any enfps saw the length of this video and added it to their watch later list, with no real intention of watching it later LOL.?
We’ll never know
I know it's an old post but I'm an ENFP female, made it 29 seconds into the video, paused it, read comments, shared it with my INTJ, the future of this is still unknown, if INTJ wants to play a game, I'll stop the video and play
i just possed and went straight to comments.
Yes.
I FEEL ATTACKED LOL I HAVE SO MANY VIDEOS IN MY WATCHED LATER
It’s crazy that the only person at work who somehow understands my mind (or at least tries to) is an ENFP. I feel like I can be way more open around him because he doesn’t judge me for the rigid look on my face and asks a lot of questions which lead to very interesting conversations. The first question is always: “Are you in your world right now or can I ask you sth?” It’s just a very natural and mutual understanding. I think if I hadn’t decided to isolate myself from everyone and everything, we could be really good friends.
"What we [ENFP's] care about is coming up with new, ingenious ideas that will help other people. These ideas are our gifts." Beautifully stated.
FACTS. We look around and see the problems AND the solutions clearly. The main issue is working out the exact details and steps necessary to make those solutions a reality. Love to think of INTJ's as the companions to us and them able to work out the details/steps but not able to figure out the exact final solution that could solve the problems that they ALSO see.
I think the one thing you missed out about the INTJ's cynicism is that they always like to be prepared for the worst. They come up with contingencies and then cook up contingencies to the contingencies they come up with. INTJs are extremely creative that way.
oh yessss the contingencies, always with the contingencies, never surprised by things that happen, and if/when they are.... oh boy....
Lol I remember my ENFP would beat herself up after I'd "take care of" sticky situations. I always tried to reassure her that I trusted her not to take me for granted. I had a plan for things turning for the worse, she loved that about me and never complained. I felt so appreciated. 'Warm and fuzzy' is how I'd describe ENFPs.
So true! And as an ENFP, that always makes me feel so safe in any situation with my INTJ work partner. He forces me to explain my intuitive leaps so that we can find the holes, not to sink the idea if it's a good one, but to find the ways to bolster it against future scrutiny. His hard-won relationships in our professional worlds with power brokers (all earned by his incredible hard work) pave the way for our projects' success, something he never takes for granted regardless of experience. It makes me feel safe and welcome to know that after our discussions, we will have a refined, bulletproof idea or product that no one else could have made. Additionally, he is extremely stoic about the product performance, which agrees with my sense of realism. We make it the best we can, we put it out into the world the most competitive way we can...and then know that its ultimate success or failure doesn't affect our sense of self worth. We put in the work. The rest is out of our hands. I'd actually say that he is more gutted emotionally when something he worked hard on isn't embraced, and part of what he appreciates in me is my unflagging belief in him, regardless of results. We truly are synergy realized, despite inevitable moments where we shake our heads at each other.
as an INTJ, only with an ENFP is that I can be talkative because I'm usually in my own mind
there's a real synergy between us and I think the most of it is because INTJ can understand ENFP's fantasy world and Ideas and love them
and ENFP is full of energy and can earn INTJ's trust so he/she can be defenceless beside them
Great video! As an INTJ who's been in a committed near 10 year relationship with an ENFP you definitely brought some many 100% spot on examples in our relationship. Though I do not like surprises, I really love how she surprises me with herself. The ideas and thoughts she comes up with help to keep my mind open and I've learned that there are so many great ideas out there that I could never come up with on my own but, know how to make the necessary tweaks and adjustments to make those great ideas work. And when she has an absolutely ridiculous idea I can appreciate the entertainment value of it which we both agree has helped strengthen our relationship. She says that ridiculous thing, I give her a ridiculous look in return and enjoy a memorable funny moment together.
We do have our "struggle sides" in the relationship. She's terrible with time punctuality and I'm terrible about sharing, showing, expressing feelings. These really are the only two areas where we get into arguments over and now as we've grown to understand each other much more and how we both function we can work through those struggles much more efficiently.
You may not see this comments as I know how UA-cam gets with lots of incoming comments on channels and videos but if you do come across it and have any questions for INTJs to further your research, feel free to contact me and ask me any questions anytime. If you're on Instagram you can find me and DM me at @kalicenter Thx for this awesome video!
That sounds like a great, symbiotic relationship! Of course there are arguments, but those are worth it for the benefits of the relationship. I'm in a string of replying to comments, but you can also add me if you like, @heartofmichi. I may also start a discord in the near future, if I do, I would love for you to join :D
INTJ/ENFP synergy only works if the INTJ is mature enough to respect the ENFP.
And vice versa
You sound bitter. Leave us alone.
I'm not. I've just seen it happen.
...or tolerate.
Any relationship whatsoever only works if the 2 parties involved respect each other.
There, fixed it ;)
INTJs also enjoy coming up with creative solutions to problems that benefit others. In fact few things bring us more joy than those coming to fruition. We also quietly enjoy planting the seeds of ideas in ENFPs as well as others, then seeing them bloom and expand.
You have really accurate observations of ENFP and INTJ relationships. I'm INTJ and have been in this type of relationship for 20+ yrs and you pretty much nailed all of it.
As soon as she said "hello" i knew she was an ENFP.
Same here and that eye too,
INTJ here with ENFP best friend for the last 38 years. I think you pretty much nailed it regarding our dynamic. Good job! :-). My favorite things about my ENFP friend are her open-mindedness, we can talk about anything and everything and do for HOURS and HOURS. She eventually tires out before me. She tends to initiate the interactions while I have to be pulled from my projects. But once she's got me going, I'll keep going and going and she starts to think about other ideas and I think her Si kicks in too (time to go to bed or go make dinner, etc.) whereas the INTJ doesn't stop for those things. LOL
Also I love her kindness and the fact that she just gets anything I say and vice versa. We GET each other. I also agree that it's really nice to ask for her help with ideas. I'm well aware that I can get stuck sometimes and need that outside-the-box perspective. It's always a refreshing input to my plan. And she likes to get my help with making decisions. There's a good complimentary dynamic there. Also, frankly, for me, watching Ne is just amusing as hell (in a good way). I have an INFP girlfriend and that shit cracks me up. Watching Ne hop all over the place and seeing y'alls eyes jump around with excitement is just adorable and so funny. When I watch an ENFP or an INFP revving into their Ne, it reminds me of how kittens will leap straight up into the air and then twist their bodies around and land back on their feet. LOL. Your kitten was ADORABLE by the way! It's just so funny and cute and a great energy to see that Ne in full gear. Oh and also I love how the NFPs bring out my emotion. At this point in my life (52), I am really in-tune with and respect and tap into my emotions on a daily basis but the NFPs are so nice to draw it out of me when I least expect it. I love and appreciate that. And there is absolutely no judgement there. In fact, NFPs are the most supportive people in my life. Thank you NFPs.
Happily married as a male INTJ to a female ENFP for over 15 years. Really does work great. Need a lot of other things to be in alignment too of course, like values etc. But the foundation is strong
Latino INTJ here - yeah, it sounds like an oxymoron (Personality Type vs Culture Stereotype).
Personally speaking, ENFP and ISTJ are the two types I get along the best. I like how witty and pragmatic ISTJs are. If you want to execute a project which envolves lots of planning and tactics, make sure you have them on your team.
Regarding ENFP, I agree with most of what you said, as intuition plays a huge role in both personalities it's easy for both to discuss their points of views and give each other constructive feedback. Both types tend to spend a great deal of time reflecting on values and ideals about the future.
The only complain I have about ENFPs is that sometimes they can be emotional roller coasters which can be quite overwhelming for an INTJ. On the other hand, they may complain about the frustration INTJs can cause when we are stubborn and give a series of pragmatic/complelling reasons to stick to our side.
By the way, most of the ENFP women I've met are sapiophile so refreshing after-dinner and post-coital conversations are granted from both sides, just treasure those moments because frustration and upsetting episodes are also granted from both sides. LOL! (of course we weren't mature enough). I've also been with an INTJ girl from a different cultural background, it was like a pegasus meeting a unicorn. The relationship didn't workout due to difference in long-term plans from both sides.
INTJs can be quite complicated sometimes.
I love your cat!
Sincerely, as INTJ many times I am affraid to let an ENFP go too deep. My last ENFP-INTJ interaction finished with a disaster. I fell in love badly and she did not want anything, besides we had different desires in life. I had to erase her from my life not even desiring it, knowing even that she did not do nothing to deserve it. It is one of the most painful experiences and the trauma of repeating it again is hard to even think. ENFP-INTJ chemistry is something real, and specially for the INTJ, if it works, then will be one the most special relationship you had in your life. If it fails, internally you will cry for the rest of your life. In resume, this sinergy is not a light thing to deal with. Be careful. God bless you.
Its crazy how well ENFPs understand and are albe to explain INTJs, as an INTJ this is very special to me because no other personality type seems to get us. I love listening to you.
Oh you also asked what I like about ENFP. I just adore the childlike curiosity and sincereness. ENFP's don't usually sugarcoat there 'flaws' or try to appear better than they are like a lot of other personality types might. You ideas are CRAZY in most peoples eyes because they are so outside the box, but I adore how original the ideas are, eventho 90% might be useless(just to give an example) Also feelings are strongly developed in you and we like that, you are good at expressing feelings and supporting our underdeveloped feelings. And just like the INTJ you fight for what you want, you are not weak, not at all and INTJs really respect that character trait.
In my experience interacting with ENFPs (I'm and INTJ): they help keep me grounded. While I'm usually distracted with my long-term goals, the ENFP helps me with tasks that have to do with the present, which I usually neglect. I'm good at enacting these short-term goals when they make sense and align with my goals, but unless an ENFP (or anyone) brings it up, I'm probably going to ignore it. I really need to work on that.
That’s so interesting because as an ENFP, I say INTJs keep me grounded
As an INTJ growing up with a really close relationship with my ENFP mom, I've always loved being around ENFPs. Naturally when I was younger I functioned very utilitarian, and there's this sort of tunnel vision we tend to get, especially in social situations. We very quickly develop and work out the most efficient path from us to our goals and growing up this made it a trial interacting with people since there were a lot of things I just don't take into consideration. My mom was always there to kinda side-step into a situation and tell me about anything I've missed, usually in reguards to people. As an INTJ we're good at judging people's abilities and intentions very well but we're practically blind to the emotional aspect. ENFPs have always acted as a sort of social filter for me so it's always useful to just exist alongside one. They talk a lot so we can sort of surf the current of their conversation without having to constantly participate, and they are able to initiate conversation with other people very well so we can tag along and join in with minimal awkward effort on our part. Since they're good at coming up with a massive volume of ideas they also seem to have an easy time of figuring out the best way to logically translate social ideas to me that I just failed to intake in a way I can understand.
INTJs are naturally strong believers in self-improvement and ultimately we find being around ENFPs useful since we easily recognize many things we can learn from them which we are particularly weak in, and in situations we're uncomfortable (usually around other people or socializing), we can step back and let an ENFP take over. They're not domineering and bossy so we can trust them to do that without fearing for our own closely-guarded freedom.
I kinda rambled here since I'm rather tired and there's more I appreciate about ENFPs I'm sure, but these are all the points that stick out in my memory. XD
I appreciated the rambling and the insight from the other side!!
I love how they get to the point and their efficiency,focusing on the point in a fast way. It would help just having someone narrow down ideas because i do struggle with that.
I'd love to have a trustworthy enfp in my life, especially a gf. I do pretty much ignore all feelings. Heck it's been a decade since I've cried. I've thought something's wrong with me but at the same time not cared. But I'd love to have someone that can help open up some feelings again.
This seems to be the type of person I'm looking for. Both have a similar vision but coming at it from different ways. Someone who sees the good in me that others can't or don't want to. I can be rough and cold at times but its always for a good reason. There's emotion and meaning behind everything I do and I've been waiting to find someone who sees past my harsh and blunt communication and understand or wants to understand why. Someone bubbly and energetic who wants to dig deeper and really understand me.
As an INTJ, I admire ENFPs quite a lot. Thank you so much for the upload and for your dedication and channel, Michi! :)
INTJ -A
I've isolated and identified many things that make me complete and fulfilled in life and I've set goals accordingly. Almost all people's emotions including my own come second to my goals (I make time for people I respect and love). To stay healthy I acknowledge emotions that I experience and file them within seconds, at the end of every day I meditate and fully address them, unpack the emotions, study , accept them, then let go of any stress that was built up. Feelings are fleeting but the path is set (there is always room for adjustments in pursuit of improvements). I detest needy, lazy, closeminded and overly sensitive/emotional people but I'm accepting and loving of many outcasts of society and those that march to the beat of their own drum. The optimization of my human existence is key to my happiness. To solve the issue of closemindedness I place myself in uncomfortable situations so I can analyze my reactions/thoughts to learn and grow.
If I see someone taking action to improve in any way I will go above and beyond to help optimize their experience but if they are not serious about it and they return to inaction they disappear from my mental landscape.
Thank you for the time and effort you put into making this video, I genuinely appreciate it.
ENFP
This has to be the hottest thing I’ve read in a long, long time.
Got an email from an ENFP colleague. Most people give 2-3 ideas. The ENFP gave 20 ideas!!!
Fi Child: is like awesome! This ENFP's enthusiasm is infectious.
Ni Hero: is like wow! This is going to be a long night.
Te Parent: starts going through the ideas: bad, bad, bad, bad, good-actually very good, bad, bad, bad, hmm this idea is outside the box- need to clarify- could actually be good, bad, bad, bad...
Secretly though, Te Parent can get on really well with Ne users. INTJs are thought vampires and can take the hit of a Ne storm of ideas and actually enjoy it.
Ni/Te: replies with feedback, and yes most of the feedback is negative, but there are some positives there too.
Fi child: demands the feedback be a bit nicer because the ENFP has worked so hard.
OK, we will put in a Will Smith quote which we find inspiring and now the world knows this INTJ is a Men in Black fan.
Heck, ENFPs know how to get the INTJs out of their shell. Cannot lie, there is an ENFP/INTJ Synergy.
“There's no reason to have a plan B because it distracts from plan A.”
Will Smith.
To the ENFPs out there- respect to you.
Ohhh thought vampires... interesting. I need more thought vampires in my life. Im oozing thoughts lol
As an INTJ M in NC, any ENFP girl I can find would make me so happy. I have an ENFP guy friend and I can only imagine how awesome a relationship with an ENFP girl would be
I'm an INTJ male, 44, single, never married, no kids so I've had a few intimate relationships in my life. It's a small sample size, 3 long term ones and a few short terms but the type that is overwhelmingly represented is the ENFP, (two long term and 1 shorter one). Something about them that I find irresistibly charming. They're also one of the few types that will put up with an INTJ. And as with ENTPs or INTPs, the ENFP doesn't think there is something wrong or uncool about the INTJ, his ideas sound totally normal. This honest acceptance of who you are by the ENFP is a reassuring personality trait to the INTJ.
Not sure how much synergy there necessarily is in intimate relationships, the empirical evidence seems to show that the types match, but intimate relationships are notoriously irrational. But at the workplace, where relationships are rational by design, I think you can easily make a cogent case for INTJs and ENFPs working together. That's why HR departments like MBTI, it allows them to build teams and pair people based on how likely they are to complement each other. The ENFP/INTJ partnership is a case in point.
ENFPs, like most Ne users, are very open minded and are able to gather large amount of opportunities. They're able to find a basket of things they think are cool. They will then transmit that basket of ideas to the INTJ (a typical behind the scene guy) and he's going to shortlist or dismiss what you bring him until the company is down to the essential. The INTJ will them obsess about it until something comes out of it. So both of them are able to do things that they wouldn't be able to do on their own. The team is greater than the sum of its parts and that's precisely what corporations are trying to achieve.
We too are drawn to the INTJ like a magnet. We love the weirdness, but we love new so much that most people cant deliver enough of that. The INTJ always has something new to offer and that is refreshing
ENFP with an INTJ best friend. When you talked about feeding I couldn't agree more. TBH I don't really like working with other ENFPs on a long term project, having one idea guy is enough and we tend to spend more time arguing about which idea is the best then working on making it a reality. INTJs, get shit done. I've had to learn to not take their feedback so agressively since an idea becomes like a baby to me, but after taking the time to step back, I've honestly never had better conversations, feedback, and just constructive life criticism. INTJs you are loved by this ENFP.
I also am not a fan of working on projects with other Ne doms- it gets too competitive or pulled in too many directions. I agree about the never having better conversations feedback and constructive life criticism!
Trust me, Ive already thought of everything anyone else has thought of. My wife, of 21 years, is an ENFP & every idea she has, I say, I already thought of that, it won't work, or it won't work fast enough in this particular instance. My wife doesn't seem to think 5 min past the moment she's in unless its something she particularly wants sometime down the road, but she still won't plan out how she's going to get it. She'll just say, it'll happen. I say, it'll happen if you plan it out & she says, it'll happen. Most of the times it happens because I'm behind the scenes planning while she thinks things are just falling into place. I like her spontaneity & her spur of the moment decisions, sometimes but not most times, because I don't believe in spur of the moment things. Spur of the moment for me is tomorrow so I can plan it out the night before. Most of her spur of the moment ideas tend to workout, mostly because I'm there, but they do tend to work out. When I say, that was a great idea, she's over the moon happy & that's always a good thing. My 12 year old daughter is an INTJ & I think she's gonna have a rough go of it relationship wise. She loves learning & figuring things out on her own & already hates crowds, most people she thinks are idiots & doesn't trust animals, unless she's far away from those things watching & studying. I was hoping she'd be a little bit like her mother, friendly, but she's exactly like me. It'll be great when she's an adult, but she might not be liked by other kids, but I don't think she really cares, just like me.
I’ve read this comment like 5 times and can’t stop thinking about it. I’ve always found myself attracted to INTJs, but this sort of perfectly encapsulates the potential downsides- I would rather die than be thought of as an inferior and a fool by the person who’s supposed to love me the most. I obviously don’t think you’re a bad guy and I’m not saying that these isolated anecdotes are reflective of your entire marriage, but man, those would just be hard pills to have to swallow. As usual, people are more complicated than romanticized ideas.
@@jackmaloney5181 If you think that I think my wife is inferior to me from that post, you couldn't be more wrong. I'm talking about thought processes being totally different, not her being smarter or not smarter than I am. Also, I think my wife is great & she thinks I'm great. I think that's all that matters. There is no downside, unless you both are disrespectful to each other.
@@ejkboxing Fair enough, that makes sense
I (an INTJ) female had a ENFP boyfriend. I was drawn to him and it seemed to work pretty well in the beginning, but I had to end things because the thinking/feeling difference was too big and I felt trapped inside the relationship. My best friend now is also an ENFP and we clicked instantly and compliment each other so well. So I guess for me this pairing works fatastic in friendships but not as well in relationships.
Somehow, I see there's almost a pattern in the INTJ-ENFP relationship, with the INTJ being male and the ENFP being female, the other around doesn't seem to be very popular. Maybe INTJ females want stability/rationality, rather than fun and 'all over the place' individuals? This could also be linked to biology. How men had to hunt, while the women would stay at home taking care of the children. Perhaps, the INTJ female wants an alpha? Just trying to make sense.
I completely agree! I was inexplicably attracted to an ENFP male the moment I met him so I took the first step and asked him on a date. The first date was amazing! Beyond words, we hit it off so well and were attracted to each other so much. But from the second date, I was a bit repelled by our differences of thinking and feeling! And from then on, I got a clear view of what I want from my romantic partner and how he doesn't have the traits I am looking for. On the otherhand, he became infatuated with me almost instantaneously and... things got a little harder to call it quits... So I've been researching a lot about this supposed match made in heaven INTJ-ENFP synergy and I am finally coming down to a conclusion that it will work better if the INTJ is a male and the ENFP is a female. Or once I, INTJ female (23), and him, ENFP male (25), both get mature enough to compensate for each other's differences. For me who have quite the masculine traits (not physically muscular but about being dominant, independent, competent), he simply did not make me feel safe and secure enough. I constantly had to help him think more logically, stay grounded and focused, manage his emotions and guide him in getting things done which felt like I had to take the 'male' role in this relationship. And that is exactly what I want to avoid. Also, he happened to be really invasive to my boundaries a.k.a pushy. Like I know you just want to help, love and care for me but I don't need to be spoon-fed like an invalid or a child or leech off of you every damn time cause that's what I felt like. And he was really selfish about being selfless. He just forces his kindness on me despite explaining myself to him many times.
Hi there I am an enfp women I just don't know cuz I feel like enfp male warm and i expect that they will save the women they love are enfps men not emotional saved? Or they can't make good decisions? , usually i found a lot of enfp with mental health problems that make them look not stable some traits like taking satisfaction from people i just want to tell that it's back more to how much you healthy maybe if you meet a healthy enfp with high awareness of what man should do you may change your opinion is this problem comes from being not serious and fun like entps also and do you feel the same problem with enfp friends from women or enfj men ? I really talked a lot but i want to know more about this
@@whatever.username @sabrinarock2349 you both are sooo on point. Thank you very much for sharing your super-insightful thoughts. I was kinda disheartened when I read the root comment since I'm an INTJ looking for an ENFP. But now I'm okay, delighted infact xD. Thank God I'm a male❤🤲🏼🙏🏻
This was a greatly informative video on the dynamic of an ENFP and INTJ relationship. I've been great friends with an ENFP female for more than 6 years and I love how she has a sense of awe and wonder about the possibilities of the world. I'm very curt about my beliefs and views about the world so I've learned a lot from her about being open and accepting alternative ideas that don't align with my own. The kind disposition and passion for doing what's right and best for the world from her is inspiring. I completely agree that the ENFP starts with a lot of passion for a project they want to start but usually get sidetracked building up the idea so it gets frustrating getting them to act through the entire process of completing their plan. Where it takes me longer to start I usually just follow the steps I laid out at the beginning without too much difficulty because I know what's next.
Thanks for your video, Michelle! I'm so sending this to my ENFP friend who has an INTJ husband : )
17:30I just imagined an enfp holding many balloons 🎈 and then an intj popping them🗯📌
I am a INTJ and loved this video. I learned a lot and it was very interesting. Great content. Never realized it but yeah ENFP complement each other really well. New to this personality stuff and can't wait to learn more. So very interesting! Thank you for the video!
The functions complement one another. The stack balance of Te and Fi keep each other in check, but because their judgement functions are in the middle, the difference in priority doesn't cause conflict. The dominant functions feed one another. ENFP gets structure and refinement that it wouldn't otherwise have, and INTJ gets the raw material it can't produce on its own.
I like your perspectives Michelle Wilson. I also like the ENFP's. They/you were the first types on Reddit to greet me on the MBTI subreddit when I was first typed and I went aGoogling to learn more. They often would pop into the INTJ subreddit just to say they "liked' us.
I began to visualize you all as wonderful elephants with perfect harmony and social bonds who are often funny when you leave
footprints in the jello. (old joke but always funny).
We do think of most of the possibilities and we see the Cause and the Effect. We or I then weigh the risk versus reward.
This is where Trust comes into play. Are you asking me or us to do or risk something we value or do we trust you to take us down a new and interesting path without throwing the baby out with the bath water...which is rather SP and I risk censure but I find this to be true for my experiences with our Think Fast, Talk Smart SP's.
Pattern Recognition and sometimes Actions do speak louder than words but when the ENFP speaks we or I can often trust
you to seek the best path for harmony and reward.
Excellent observations.
My question to you is if two female friends, an ENFP and an INTJ are in a friendship, who is the Alpha.
In my home, it is Juliet Ferret who is our Alpha and she is all ENTJ. Wynstan Ferret was our ENFP.
Honestly it would depend. Ive worked on a project with an INTJ and in a lot of ways i was the alpha, but ive been in a friendship with a different INTJ and she is definitely the alpha. I think that has more to do with who is more assertive. Personally, im pretty assertive in a friendship, but i will quickly submit to someone more assertive than i am.
Your kitty's such a cutie its hard to focus sometimes but i love this video and these kinds of topics
keep up the good work!
When the comment section is filled with comments from INTJ, i feel so good to hear all the things they say about enfp, but the bad thing enfp has is they don't do things as planned, even though they know it's time. Even now i have exams in 2days and i am spending my hours on social media.
Thank you so much Michelle 💗, I'm thinking of creating a community to collect the INTJs and ENFPs so we can together make a lot of great, lovely things in this world.
I am an INTJ and my little sister is an ENFP. Now I am worried.
(Btw this video helped me understand why I always have energetic and positive "crushes"....
My older brother is an INTJ and I am an ENFP! Haha
I'm an young INTJ female and always prefer to do my own ideas in solo. I think one of the reasons may be I haven't meet my ENFP on my way.
Solo is best
As an ENFP, we hate it when someone wants to be alone because we want to connect.
I used to be weary of enfps but give them a chance. They really will bring out the best in you.
They will find you and let you know you are their friend now 😅😁
Hi Michelle! Love your videos! I'm an INTJ A-type female and I lol'd quite often at your insight. I think the point you made about mature, healthy relationships is apt. I know my dark function is ESFP and when I am super stressed or a bit depressed, I tap into that function a bit which drives me nuts (I can't stand ESFP types). My ENFP friends always manage to pull me out of that-quickly. (I have so many ENFP friends, my partner is even an INFP!) I just love ENFP energy and how all these ideas come bouncing out of nowhere. I also like how they are a more introverted kind of extrovert so they understand how overstimulation works. You're right, I do find emotions to be distracting, but I love how ENFPs can make quick sense of them. I also love that ENFPs are not "hurt" by a straightforward or blunt approach. I find NFP types to be very charming and not put off by a realistic world view. When the apocalypse comes, I want to be in a bunker with NFPs!
As an INTJ, I find it difficult to synergize with most type's communication styles and I'm a fairly diplomatic INTJ. Regarding that, I try to only use my mind as a blunt instrument against rude people. Being that my inner world and mind space is precious to me, distracting me with things I deem to be trivial is one of the surest ways to annoy me. I tell almost anyone I deal with professionally to "be direct" with me-because that's the most efficient way I receive feedback. It also means I can take personal criticism without taking it "personally." The one major exception is if my intentions are being misread or misrepresented by someone else. That I take personally-and I may go out of my way to make the offender eat their words. ENFP's are one of the few types whose energy I can let my guard down around. I feel a natural simpatico with them. Even if the conversation is moving at a faster pace than I'm accustomed, I find myself wanting to keep up with them. Being able to feel vulnerable without feeling judged is a great gift the ENFP has to offer and I believe the feeling is mostly mutual in the INTJ/ENFP dynamic. Although I enjoy the company of other intuitive, I find INTP's endless cause-and-effect explanations and need for validation exhausting to the nth degree! It occurs to me that 90% of conversation with an INTP is stating the obvious (to me). INFP's have a subtle nature that I enjoy, right behind ENFP's, where we can speak in the abstract, and even be carrying on a separate conversation than other people in the room think we're having. Despite my fondness for INFPs, I do very much prize competence and I find their life coping skills to be wanting more often than I'd like to admit to them. Definitely an ENFP fan. If they could see their flights of fancy through, they would be perfect. That's what INTJ's are here for I suppose.
Male ENFP // Female INTJ is like magic, but --- the ENFP male will struggle dealing with having "feminine" emotional qualities in the relationship as the INTJ female approaches emotions in traditional masculinity. However, the major positive is the INTJ female values his emotionality as this is the closet she will come to seeing a human in their humanity.
I'm an INTJ. This sums up the relationship I have with my two best friends and business partners (male identical twins). They help get me out of my shell and make the brilliant ideas happen. I've made them into better dumb idea killers, and they've gotten me to be more open to the possibilities of marginal ones. I also serve as referee and voice of reason when they butt heads.
I'm enfp and I noticed that all the crushes that I had are intj
sounds about right
How did you find out tgat they are intj?
@@juliakowal399 some of them told me because I always ask ahahaah
its so true about ideas, they are like an ocean of never ending flowing currents that come and go and change and build. its so fluid and everlasting. we never stop idea building
You know when you are truly an ENFP when you're so destructed by that cute little cat over thereee!!!! So cute 😍
Great intro!
Also, I think NP’s in general always tend to find the 1-3 missing pieces of any idea I have! I always want to run my ideas by NP’s, especially INTP’s too because just having Ne makes you guys SEE so many things I do not. Or are much harder for me to.
Thanks for this, i agree on the synergy :)
Thats a good point- we can help round out an idea. I think we really just love the validation from the intjs because we know its honest and good.
14:55 As an INTJ, I love evaluating ideas. It just feels like a firework in my brain and I love that. Coming from possibility to possibility then come up with the best solution. If I say it's a bad idea and you say you wanna do that anyway, I won't try to stop you, I'll just give the best solution I have to fix the problems and tell you the remaining problems.
If your idea doesn't fit my goals, I'll give a general solution. if it does, i'll give more details and maybe even make some researches to get even better solutions. In a few days, I can come up with a fully detailed plan for the next weeks/months/years.
Thanks to this video I was able to resolve some conflict with my intj friend :) sincere thanks and please continue this great channel enfp
Im also enfp💪💪
The INTJ will most offten become annoyed with the ENFP because they are presented with ideas and plans that the INTJ has already thoroughly vetted. Thus the INTJ wants the ENFP to either catch up or stay out of the way. A valuable trait of the ENFP is their ability to foster the emotional aspects of any given scenario. This allows the INTJ to not have to be concerned with that particular work load when functioning together in groups. That can be a wonderful thing
As an INTJ, you are absolutely right, in my perspective, at least. In pretty much everything you said. Awesome work. And Luna is soooo cute!
Hey, I just wanna say that I love your vids! Keep it up ❤️
💜😊 thanks
I enjoy ENFP's because I can feel safe with them. It balances my cynical thoughts and stops my stoicism and open up more than me hanging out with guys mostly because I hate most of the male population. Females too but I have a slightly higher disgust with the males and there overblown self-importance of why men are great and how I should act around women and men when in reality I don't have to be any of that shit around her. I can be me so I keep her around me. Other things too but I struggled a lot when it came to relationships because I refused to act like how society told me to.
Agreed on this video. The best people I've met and loved are all INTJs. My mom is INTJ, my lecturer and my coaches are INTJs, I dated someone who is an INTJ, and that was the best experience I've ever had(it's just that we don't have aligned goals).
Agreed on INFJ vs INTJ part. As for me, I care little on validations of my ideas, especially if they are not genuine. I prefer people telling if it's good or bad, and appreciate it because they truly believe it is a good idea. So that we can waste less time on a bad idea, and brainstorm better ideas.
As an INTJ, I have experienced both the healthy, mature ENFP and the immature ones and there is a huge difference. Everything in this video is true for a mature ENFP, but with immature ones I find it irritating (after an elongated period of time) the random spurts of energy and low attention span. (Keep in mind this is ONLY with unhealthy or immature ENFP’s who have not reigned in their certain qualities). The reason why I know this is because my mother is a matured and healthy ENFP, while my sister is the ENFP that still needs to learn how to chill a bit.
there is an edit button lol
Heart of Michi thaks so much, I know it is stereotypical of an INTJ to say this, but I am skeptical about everything, so those were the first comments I’ve ever made online on any website.
Lovely video. My enfp teachers (AP Literature & AP Computer Science ) are very amusing they brighten my day and I like to see their alternative perspectives. They really have a powerful sense of optimism and absolutely amazing chaos management skills it's very impressive to me how productive they can be (short term).
emphasis on short-term hehehehe
It's the cutest couple. I'm neither type, and I always root for an INTJ to be adopted by an ENFP.
It can be great, yet no one ever talks of the downside, which is that the ENFPs justice/social based value system may irk the INTJ and cause them to lose respect for the ENFP if the social values aren't grounded in some logic, and for example, going along with 'fighting for justice' even if there is no real justice to be served, or if there is a problem to solve, generating some change in a seemingly illogical way. For example, maybe protesting about climate change, when INTJ thinks you could be trying to solve the problem better through becoming a solar engineer.
INTJs could see that as complaining, inefficiency and aggression. ENFP then gets reactionary and think that the INTJ doesn't support them and instead supports injustice, which really can set this relationship on fire and cause ENFP to see red, and INTJ to in turn go cold, and cut them off. There can be some emotional incompatibility in this relationship in the emotional realm.
The key to solving that is communication and realising ENFPs are about spreading awareness, not necessarily solving problems themselves (though healthy ENFPs will be open to INTJs more logical ideas). A healthy INTJ ENFP pairing can help each other to take on some of the others traits in that sense. Sexually it's absolutely crazy good so there's that.
That is suuuuuch a good point! We absolutely can be like that. I've been with my bf a while and he always calls me out when I'm like that and makes me consider the full picture, which I really appreciate. I don't like getting blinded like that with my need to do what is right. And I have also noticed a LOT of ENFPs are like that. I can definitely see it being a pain point for INTJs when interacting with ENFPs
As an INTJ I've always had my close friends being ENFPs unintentionally. I also find myself crushing on people who turn out to be ENFPs. Don't know about romantic relationships as I haven't been in one with them but they make the best friends for me. I don't need to explain myself to them and they seem to not care or get resented for me sometimes looking cold or distant as it's just my default face and mode of existing.
I love this video, its great! but I am so distracted by the green reflection in your glasses! ahhh
Beautiful. Learning to work with my ENFP boss over the past 9 years (she’s the #1 and I’m her #2) has taught me sooooo many new skills, and I’ve really grown as a person. As much as I hate to admit it, I don’t think it would work the same way if I were her boss.
As an enfp, I'm friends with an intj, and one of the best things about hanging out with them is that we share so many of the same opinions and experiences, but for different reasons- which makes conversations really fun
I stopped working/getting along with an Enfp and was trying to fix that relationship. Your vid helped me come up with the perfect masterplan to approach her, I hope. What you said about the relationships are very very true as well so
Thank you, great video!
Update: This did not go out well lol.
Second update: This stressful relationship went to crap. Manipulation, unjust behaviour, deceit. This really went wrong
Lol darn, try again, we are naturally attracted to you guys from miles away
@@awesomefeldmanfamily This went wrong in too many ways. Had to end it there to avoid more problems.
Lol aw man
She was immature. Good you got out on time! Don't be deceived by this seemingly 'perfect pair'. Both types need to be mature = healthy, so that the relationship can work and they're able to bring out the best in each other.
Immature ENFPs can be very toxic and bring everything down with them, it's like a destructive nature. Hope you'll find someone one day, regardless of their MBTI type, that they'll complement you in a flourishing way
I am an ENFP and this is the first video of another ENFP whilst which I didn't lose the truck of what was going on😅 sure I didn't watch a lot of them and surely there are a lot of amazing enfp youtubers but for me you are the first one that I liked so so so so so much! Great video, you really showed it in a clear and interesting way!
Im glad!! Ive been really working on being more to the point. I actually spend a lot of time editing out tangents lol
What do I like about ENFP's? You are what I like about ENFP's! ;) Honestly, my interpretation of the gung-ho spontaneity of the ENFP's is what scared me, and questions of loyalty the most. But you made me look twice, so thank you
Your content is great.
I like how ENFPs are emotionally expressive enough to allow me to actually know how they're feeling, rather than like with so many types with high Fe which seem to even respond to point-blank questions regarding their emotions with social harmony minded answers which are effectively dishonest basically. I try to take people at their word until they've shown that to be pointless, and it seems like social harmony valuing types tend to say words they don't mean in order to avoid hurting feelings, and it's like, alrighty then I guess I might as well flip a coin. -_-
It's interesting how you said about ENFPs not being too attached to their ideas, like Ne I know for possibilities but more to the point Te-child solutions probably. That's sort of like how Fi-child works for me. I'm not super attached to things I like and Fi things in general, and can change them as needed basically.
Like whenever I have a crush on someone, I research everything I can about what they like and find reasons to like the same things, making their likes into my own essentially. If there is to be a lasting relationship, having shared interests is necessary, so I adjust my own interests to match theirs as closely as I actually can -- not pretending to like the same things, but making myself like the same things. Learning about and appreciating their interests is a way to learn about and appreciate them, too, essentially.
I know I must sound crazy like Joe Goldberg in Netflix's show "You", or a better one was Jerry Fletcher in Conspiracy Theory, but it's how it works I think.
Honestly your first point about Fe is how i feel about it too. Sadly, it seems like getting true understanding of the feelings of an Fe user is very unlikely.
Interesting theory about the child function.... i would like to explore that more. Perhaps few do have much attachment but more excitement and malleability. But if you consider OP typing, they talk about feminine functions being more flexible and changeable and i have both feminine Te and feminine Ne, you sound like you have feminine Fi... 🤔
@@PsychologyandChillwMichi I've noticed people talking about masculine and feminine attitudes of the functions, but haven't studied that yet. Finally found work here in San Antonio, about 11 hrs per day in an industrial laundromat which looks like the one from Breaking Bad (hopefully there's no underground lab though 0_0).
Though IDK exactly what feminine Fi would be, you're probably right. I'm more like the INTJ character on Conspiracy Theory than Walter White, (who's usually typed as an INTJ,) which I suppose would actually have masculine Fi. He'd be an INTJ-a, probably, while Jerry Fletcher of Conspiracy Theory is obviously a turbulent/Limbic type.
You just described me so much it’s scary 😂 fellow intj I do the same with people I like
Best ideas should win. Lots of inputs[ENFP] and a strong filter [INTJ]. INTJ can see things from multiple perspectives.
ENFP here. I’ve been married to an INTJ for 30 years. Most of the time it’s a great partnership!
Love your kitten, almost identical to a cat I once had. Nice video as well.
I do like your extroverted intuition.
Never a dull moment with extroverted intuition! 😉
Good video , and your cat is so damn cute! ^^ I was looking her and only listening you until she was there :D
ENFP Catdad here :)
FAIR, she's adorable. While editing, I couldn't help but notice her being adorable the whole time 😂
As a middle aged INTJ, I think when INTJ's mature they start to see silver linings at increased rates. Often, those silver linings are grounded in dark humor but it is still a silver linings. 😁 I started having serious heart problems a few years back and one of my first thoughts was "well, if I die at least I don't have to deal with my taxes". I think that's progress.
The ENFP is one of those "kids" that wants to be a cowboy with costum, ect... As an INTJ, I think he's adorable but I'm like, "Where's the cow?" in a very monotone voice.
how ironic is it then that when I was in kindergarden my halloween costume was a cowgirl ahahahha
Awesomeeeee! A new vid! :D
Im an ENFP(honestly have quite a bit of INTJ, but it could be my mental disorders) met someone on tinder(I know I was bored and wanted friends), but saw someone I thought was cute and he had INTJ in his profile (I didn’t know what it was but he seemed like a cool guy I wanted to talk to (even if not romantic) and we just started talking about horror movies and random shit and honestly the chemistry even through messaging I’ve never experienced(I’ve never dated) and when he does text back (which does take a while, but we have been talking everyday so far and he apologizes) we’ll talk forever and it’s great. And I find it really cute how much he overthought how to respond to a simple joke so I would interpret his reaction properly.
On top of that, he doesn’t do bullshit compliments on my appearance or the fact that I have a skill(ex: you’re so talented, I wish I could do that) as if It’s amazing a girl can have talents or intelligence. Or try to force the conversation into a direction I don’t want, or ignore what I’m saying.(basically he’s not misogynistic and disrespectful and doesn’t have to bs it) , which is why I’ve never dated anyone, on top of my trust issues, internalized misogyny, and the knowledge of how men can be.
I decided to look up what the (INTJ) in his profile meant and found out we’re pretty compatible, nice. Idk, I’ve never crushed this hard, lol
I thoroughly enjoyed your input on the subject. Tons of synergy with this combination. ENFP x INTJ is actually a lot better than INTJ x INFP because our flaws clash too much. Where as with the ENFP they check a lot of the flaws with Te in the 3rd slot rather than the 4th. Also ENFPs are sensitive but if i make 1000 statements to an INFP they will get hurt 100 of them where as with the ENFP it's only like 10-20. Much less frequent making constructive criticism easier and further enhancing the genuine connection I have with the ENFP. I know ahead of time with INFPs that I am signing up for an overly sensitive being. But it's just nice to not have to look over my shoulder as much with ENFPs because Fi being in the 2nd slot.
I admire ENFPs creativity and positivity. Their Ne is something I cannot dream of replicating. It is so enjoyable to watch them come up with wacky out of the box ideas and watch them manifest in real time (then they get all excited because the idea worked which makes it even more fun). Their optimism gives me life that I have otherwise lost in my personal life.
Great editing Michelle, keep up your grind.
It's true, we do still sometimes get hurt, but we can take the majority of the criticism. Thanks for watching, Mec, your compliments mean so much 😭
When I was younger I was definitely more of an INTJ, but now I’m more of an ENFP. I think as I’ve grown up I’ve developed more of a who the fuck cares kind of personality, and it’s allowed me to easily switch between having deep and almost depressing thought about the meaning of life, to who fucking cares, we’re all gonna die anyway.
Yeah I don’t understand this pairing. I know a ENFP and I love her very much, and I love spending a few hours with her, but it leaves me exhausted.
I can understand why. As an ENFP I tire myself out by spreading myself thin. I have a lot going on. If I didn't have a lot going on, and if i wasn't experiencing new things, and if couldn't support my friends and family, I'd be depressed, otherwise.
As an ENFP- my two best friends are INTJs and I love them SO much.
i’m aware that this video was published some time ago, but i have some personal insights to express as an intj.
i don’t know for sure whether i’ve met an enfp or have friends or family of this personality type. i’m not fully skilled with the cognitive functions yet so i don’t trust myself with labelling people, because of possible wrong conclusions.
but from what i’ve perceived from rightly identified enfps i can say a few things...
first of all, i think an enfp would pay attention to me in every possible way. many people don’t take me seriously or simply do not listen to me. however with an enfp, i do feel they’d genuinely care.
secondly, i think an enfp would push me to do things i wouldn’t do in different situation because of being insecure. of course, in a sensitive way. sometimes i back from certain situations and cannot get myself to do it. enfp could help me grow by cheering up on me and showing me different (not the right) ways how to deal with it. and maybe most importantly - trust me.
and lastly, as an intj i can feel lonely sometimes even tho i prefer being alone most of the time. i don’t have anyone close that much that i could tell them truly anything, especially concerning emotions. enfp’s curiosity to get to know what’s under the surface and simply understand it would make me comfortable because i wouldn’t have to take the “burden” alone. i think they’d understand my thoughts and emotions without having to explain myself. in my opinion, an enfp could read me easily once they know me, pick up on my expressions and act accordingly which would make me very comfortable too.
Yes. Your Ne is amaaazing.
It's so easy to fine tune my own vision and it cools down my brain quickly.
Plus... it comes with unicorns and rainbows and only the ENFP can deliver that without it becoming cringey :p
/INTJ
You would think that there would be more ENFPs in the chat but all I see are INTJs in the chat lol
I am an ENFP and I loved reading all those comments, it made me realize that INTJs are always so heartwarming (sincerely warm my heart) to the highest capacity. The way that you can see our gifts and light is amazing and that’s why we go together so well. ENFPs joy is to be by those who shine and have the best hearts & all the INTJs I know have the best hearts.