My heart goes out to you! You are a survivor of modern-day corporate bullying/victimization and I admire how you never let that person's toxicity dim your shine.
Its almost 3am and I have lost sleep due to my boss’s behavior towards me. I was feeling very under confident but after watching your video its like a therapy to me. Thanks😊
Ohhh my God, same story with mine as of yours , probably someday I will find this courage to do that. Thank you so much for pointing this issue sharing with us. Mental peace is so important and if you started doubting about your capabilities it's time to move on. Bas only thing is we might not have that opportunities to do that as yours. Thanks for sharing.
I had two horrible experiences both in Indian banking companies. I had a manager who was very toxic. She used to make us wait in the office for 12-13 hours (even when we didn't have work) and she was very verbally abusive. Broke me completely. Then the other experience is similar to your experience (my current job). I have never worked in consulting but I have heard some horror stories from the so called "Big 4", which really makes me wonder whether it's worth the jump. Losing confidence and losing interest is the worst experience.
This same thing.. same thing has happened with me that too very start of my career while working in MNC. I felt very depressed. I talked with him and others. he kept telling me its corporate and things do work like this. He used to shout at people for no such reason. He keep saying you cant do anything. I dont think so you can do it. Do I have to tell you everything? etc etc. He didnt assign any of the work and at the end of the day he used to read list of the things I didnt do infront of everyone. finally after talking with almost everyone in the office I escalated this thing with HR and plant head. I knew nothing is going to happen as I was fresher. Finally I left the job but I still feel I am the loser.
Don't think even for a second that you have anything to do with that person's bad behavior. If he cannot be a professional it's on him. You did great by reporting and eventually leaving that place :)
For mnc job it became possible to quit the project, but if a boss in govt institution is same kind of rude and inhuman, we have nothing left to do. Even higher levels sometimes come out to be as toxic.
I faced the same, manager was not giving equal value so I dropped him email by keeping cc his manager that I expect same equal value as you give to others and it will be helpful if he can inform team when he goes on leave. He saw the email and told HR that he don't want to work with me. They told me to resign on same day. This is what we got when we work honestly. When I asked manager he told me that I went against him hence he did all this things.
Great,,,If there is any sin in the world that is weakness,,,,,the boss you met must be a beast in the shape of so called human,,,never be a slave to others at the cost of ur honour.
How to stand against for the manager who is toxic but its important to company and I have seen the leaders will not go against him because he is managing and will be managing in future and if I got against it will be trouble for me to do job , am going through some heaet issues and when i manager just shouted at me because i couldnt trace a bug I was literally going through heart pain and had to take leave what I should do now I cant think
Hi it was nice watching your video , our Industry is the worst industry to work . I am from Automobile industry. I had a very bad boss due to which I left my job , sad part is that 9 people left because of him
Hi I'm going through a very similar situation with my boss. She's an absolute ass hole. pardon my language. To the point that I've had to quit from a company I've been working for almost 8 years. Even now in stupid notice period she's making my life hell and demanding stuff. She has called me a fool on a group call, a bad manager, someone lacking morals and ethics, laughs at you condescendingly and makes you feel small. For the first time I pushed back and said she can continue laughing and exited the call. I've planned not to pick up her call or get into any meeting where she's present. Might also ask HR to reduce my notice. Let's see how it goes.
Maam, i saw your linkedin.profile .. Being an alumni of two biggest institutions in india you faced such situation, then normal graduates like us can only imagine what we happen...
So many toxic work culture boss in company in Gulf country like UAE,QATAR,SAUDI,OMAN think like they own employee ..think like slave ...specially malyali keralite guys in gulf..
What if the main boss is toxic and there is no one else on higher position with whom I can talk in the office . About the boss and have to continue with job because I don't have another job in my hand
My Boss counts my hours of work and told that you are working only 5 hrs work...what you do in 4 hrs.. Yeh kam toh 1 ghante ka hai 2-3 ghante kyu lag rhe h
Are u working in service based? If yes then do one to one conversation with him and take release from project.if he is not giving, then take leave or dont do any work for 1 week and dont pickup his call.he will give u release.
Even I had a toxic boss who bullied me for more than one and half years ... I could do nothing as she was Head HR and next to VP HR/IR/IT/LEGAL. She literally tortured me, shouted at me in front of all... i had no option as i couldn't leave jobs before an year as I had faced this question during my interview 'why are you leaving before you complete one year?' Her name is SAVIANA PHULSUNGHE. I felt I am good for nothing, i had self doubts. It is a terrible experience. Every day I cried. Finally she threw me out. She didn't confirm me for 1 and half years. No leave. One leave costed me one day's salary. As I was not earning too well cause it was during the initial days of my career. It definitely left me wounded. Wound has filled but the scars are still there. I wish to narrate my story to all in front of her. Honestly, these witches will never feel bad for what they did.
Sad thing is most companies are in favour of top management. Companies are all about numbers. No one cares about employee dynamics, employee satisfaction. HR will also support toxic leaders only. As soon as you see toxicity 1. Document everything. 2. Upgrade your skills and start searching new job. - You will never reach your full potential under such leadership.
I have/still going through a similar situation like the one u described. My senior is absolutely toxic. And he has created mental health issues for me. He has several nasty facets. And believe me his capacity to insult and belittle people is phenomenal. However he is unbelievably sugary with a few he shares clandestine relationship with
I work in a big Mnc and there are always few ppl like him, many of us 90 percent, have escalated it. However no body bothers to take any action. Eventually good ppl leave and such ppl r there, continuing this kind of behaviour.
@@InsiderGyaanSlso very important to secretly record and release on social media after confirming with a lawyer you may also want to bring a lawsuit against the boss, HR/company.
I'm was a fresher when I joined the company and my manager always used to call me.This has gone to such an extent that I had to share my screen the entire day for 4 months. He always wants to work in his way and used to extremely micromanage me. Felt utterly worthless. Couldn't take that hell any more so resigned it without any offer. Now I'm searching for new job. So glad I have taken this decision. But I always have this fear that what if my next manager is this way?? (T T)
Update: I resigned the job and wrote a complaint against my manager to HR. Complaint well received but not sure if the person is under disciplinary action. But I feel so much better for speaking up for myself. I hope the person would not torture anyone like she did to me. My heart is light now after crying for so many days for past three months. Sending light to all 🌸🌸🌸
Man. It's like you've described my boss. He was a dementor. I once dreamt that I was on the train to work and some gunshots started in the train. In response to that, the crowd started exiting the train but I wasn't even getting up. When I woke up, I wasn't even relieved that reality isn't as bad. I had instant fear of the hellhole I had to go to in 2 hours.
Every one can find Toxic boss in his lifetime in the company. It is same in public sector also. One main reason is racism, not confident in his profession and show bosism so that junior did not say anything against him. Sometimes juniors are more organised and intelligent that also irritate him/her. How far one have to compromise with such boss is entirely depend on the person. Ultimately every one is having own life other than professional life. If we constantly compromise with such toxic boss which ultimately hampered your personal life, that is more important. Hence, it is better to expose such toxic boss to higher management.
Thank you Soumi. I am facing something similar at work.I work in data consulting. My business partner is super sweet to me on face but gives nasty often incorrect feedback to my manager. Your actions have given me some points.
Raising with HR backfires 99.99%. No one wants to be involved in a negative incidence, and managers are hard to replace than the employees they manage.
In the West it is the opposite, young people especially young females do stand up against these bosses and companies fire thr boss so they dont have bad publicity or lawsuit. But it should be legitimate case with proof.
Are u working in service based? If yes then do one to one conversation with him and take release from project.if he is not giving, then take leave or dont do any work for 1 week and dont pickup his call.he will give u release.
@@InsiderGyaanalso leave as soon as you can as such bosses sooner or later will ruin your career for life. It happens if you stay more than 1 or 2 years.
Thanks for sharing this, I had a smiliar experience, I was in a postion where I was not able to quit, so held on for some time.. luckily he left the company and we lived happily there after 😆
My manager is also the same , alwys insulting me infront of others and he knows that i am pregnant . I am a good employee ,i did my job very well , in 3yrs only one mistake he got and shouted on me like anything. He alyws looking for chance to insult me . Pls help me somebody
I have started searching on how to survive toxicity at work (from colleagues and boss) I feel unfit and around very bad mannered people. I try to keep my standard which come across like I am superior (in their mind) and then, you can imagine all the repercussions. Backbiting, boss having demeaning remarks for me, overloading me with work, to name a few. I feel drained 😢 however I cannot change job (Govt one) and I am already at a senior position and yet having to face so much mental torture.
Same condition here...I am facing....joined a PSU in IT department.... as a Management Trainee.. ...my DGM insults me on daily basis.... can't change the job now......feels very demotivating... I am getting suicidal thoughts 😢
@user-ir1ih5kv3u Oh, that's sad. I wish you courage. Whatever the situation dont ever think of suicide, you'd only worsen your life condition if you do this (according to hinduism your counter goes back to zero and you have to endure everything again and again until you learn the lesson)
Currently I am going through this situation and I have decided to take a stand for myself .so I raised the concern in front of my senior manager. If it all we have any problem with the manager or senior manager we go and speak to our councillor but in my case the problem is with the counsellor itself. I hope I might get shifted to a new team who can impart positivity in my work life. Who are with me guys
I hope your Toxic Boss is watching this Video.....LOL.....Im proud of you Somi.......We need Couregeuos people like you to make Corporate world Accountable,productive & safer for womens.......Respect from Bangalore.....
I've encountered bad bosses and faced discrimination in the form of racism, not sucking up to anybody in power, lack of acknowledgement... I've always been the one who had to leave despite every other aspect of my job being great...for speaking out and standing up for myself... As a teacher this is really making me question my career choice
I am facing 100% of what you faced. I have started to hate consulting because of one person, however i always loved it for last 8 years. Good thing is that my counselor understands and will try to pull me out of the project soon. I have survived for 4 months here😌
Hey had experience with a bully boss who blamed me things out of rumors and have caused so much turmoil and made me feel under confident. He is super sugary with people but have multiple facets. I had to resign within very short time of joining because of him. These kind of bosses needs to be punished severely because they are playing with people's lives.
Nothing is ever ever worth compromising mental health. There are n no. Of companies to deal with. Har company ase ho not possible.So we always need to give our best and if still doesn't work.Choose.❣️
Nothing will happen dear, fortunately it happened in USA. Condition in India is worst, imagine doing PhD with the say guy from last 6.5 years that to from the best institute of the country. Here in India approaching seniors is not an option because supervisors can not be wrong therefore suicide is very common in IITs but believe me nobody cares. And sadly this is the true reality. 😢
Sorry you had to experience working with such a toxic boss! I know that big companies have HR policies in place but what about smaller startups or small orgs, what should one do if they face harassment or similar behaviour there? Most of these companies have 1-2 people working in the HR department who are totally interested in protecting the senior management and the company's well being
I m working in a small company and my boss is such a manipulative and toxic person can't tell you . I just have joined the company 1 month before...I really can't afford to leave the job and don't know what to do
Hi! I've just started my career as a trainee employee but my boss is a manifestation of toxicity and negativity. She yells at me, cusses at me and shouts at me even when my work is done. For some reason, the HR of the company doesn't seem to be bothered about the situation considering that there have been a handful of resignations under the concerned person. Your video really helps, and I hope to inculcate your words in my work life. As I'm a fresher, I'm just not able to be vocal regarding my feelings to my boss.
Mam I am a PhD student I have spent 7 years to finish my thesis My PhD advisor is hell bent on deadlines I mean PhD is more like a exploration and resolving problems, most of the times I get stuck with coding and I get least help from him All he is bothered of is the completion of tasks I kept hearing for the last 7 years that I am insensitive to time, I don’t stick to deadlines Even after submitting my thesis I get to hear this, please help me tackle this
The moment you sense toxic behavior from your boss, job hunt immediately. Once you get a good job offer, give your two weeks so you can cash out your unused time off. "Surviving" a toxic boss is as bad for your health than chain smoking and alcoholism. These companies want to be cutthroat with employees, so I'm cutthroat with them. I do not tolerate being treated like crap.
Oh damn were you in a Big4? Sounds so much like Big4 bully boss. I am struggling with something similar. My boss has labelled me as agressive and confrontational with severe attitude problems because I had said 'no' to his unnecessary demands and that hurt his ego. So he decided to gossip about me with other managers and block my promotion.
So, its been 15days since I left the job with much similar toxic environment. They (both husband & wife) were so negative that the closure also gives me chill. I am just trying to cope up but my confidence is extremely low & I still have hell of self doubt. I am so traumatized that I am scared to begin the new experience of job. Worst part is this happened with me when my personal family life was already taken for toll. My parents are keeping unwell & I do have loads of responsibilities on my head. Now I am learning back to heal & also taking some therapy sessions with my counselor.
So sorry u had to go through this. I hope therapy gets ur confidence back. I know its difficult but let me tell u there are good souls working in corporates as well ❤️❤️❤️
Even i have experienced a toxic lady boss who called and abused everyone on a meeting as everyone gave her poor rating on a survey form for her bad behavior as a result she was given pip and termination from position she held for. so she decided to take a brutal revenue as everyone tried to kick her out from the power. Even after escalating the matter to senior management also where our voice was heard she got terminated. But what's more shocking was that instead of changing her behavior she became more furious to take revenge from those people who complained against her. So she started harassing those people personally who escalated against her. And one of the things that shocked me more is that she got another job in Ireland as a project manager despite being her toxic behavior her knowledge and skill was 0 she secured this job in Ireland by using power, favoritism, influence and jugaad whereas there are many talented people who deserved that post at last it's very disheartening to see that evil people use jugaaad to get job anywhere in the world.
😊Hi.. Soumiji..Ma'am You are doing a great job..this video may help very much others in overcoming n tackling these type of mentally ill persons..i have few questions about scaling up my career,if u don't mind can u kindly share me ur mail id..i have seen some of ur videos though i m not much social person but truly u are amazing n nice..your simplicity n honesty in ur videos..i love that..thank u..god bless u both..u n ur husband..take care..
My supervisor is bothering me the same way.. probing my personal life, extending the hour of work for no reason, giving her personal work and simultaneously pressurising me to meet deadlines. Creating negative environment by her actions and behaviour and portrays others that I'm very sweet and emphatic.
On a human level and spiritual level we have to consciously ensure that we do not harass our juniors because karma will not leave you trust me , you are spoiling your saturn which is related to labour and mass works who work below you , so be careful before mis treating someone who is working for you , it will come to bite you very bad in life.
I need your help ma'am. I'm broke at office due to favouritism even though I got job through high reference. But despite of that i usually get almost only 20-30% work at office although along with that i got to do too many certificates courses. But after doing certificate courses now I'm feeling lost each day. These days I'm getting so much anxious at office which makes me feel I'm worthless because I feel that I'm doing almost nothing. I'm lowering my confidence due to this.I don't feel like going office anyhow now. Pls help. My boss is a piece of shit with zero integrity of his own. He looks strong but he has an orthodox thinking.
Having a personal issue with your boss is one thing, but reporting to a person who is behaving unethically is another. This may come in an obvious form, like manipulating numbers in a report or spending company money on inappropriate activities; however, it can also occur more subtly, in the form of bullying, accepting inappropriate gifts from suppliers, or asking you to skip a standard procedure just once. With studies indicating that managers are responsible for 60% of workplace misconduct, the abuse of leadership authority is an unfortunate reality. Unrealistic and Conflicting Goals Your organization sets a goal-it could be a monthly sales figure or product production number-that seems unrealistic, even unattainable. While not unethical in and of itself (after all, having driven leadership with aggressive company goals is crucial to innovation and growth), it’s how employees, and even some leaders, go about reaching the goal that could raise an ethical red flag. Unrealistic objectives can spur leaders to put undue pressure on their employees, and employees may consider cutting corners or breaching ethical or legal guidelines to obtain them. Cutting corners ethically is a shortcut that rarely pays off, and if your entire team or department is failing to meet goals, company leadership needs that feedback to revisit those goals and re-evaluate performance expectations. - Michigan State University Blog
I work in one of third class startup company in india i have toxic manger similar to you makes us to work more than 10hrs i had signed 3years bond &i had submitted all original gradesheet to them as assurity i had completed 1.5 years want to resign but not able because of bond we need to pay 2lacks even though they invested zero rupees on training
Omg.. U suffered so much of tension.. I had similar experience but i raised my voice and was heard to quite some extent.. Loved the lines u said at end.. We shouldn't compromise with our mental health
Toxic manager and ( peer) are living hell for you, mine is poison for me killing me slowly, they have done so much damage to me in-term of work and personal health, career and my manager created lot of trouble in my movement in another project , I requested and begged her for movement but she did not agree and despite of this involve to HR for further trouble and finally I had to left this company because of her torture. They all were evil and I wish someday karma will hit them back .
Its 5 am and i am feeling lots of stressed and crying on my bed ,i am just broken , feeling very low, totally feeling underconfident , my legs are paining feeling mentally low , my boss just hates me , always shoutes on me. i have compained to director as well. But he also shouted on me,without any reason, I am just broken ,but going to leave the job as its only 5 days left for my salary to come.on the 6th day i m resign from this toxic place
I left my job previous job just due to less pay. I worked their over 6 yrs. And to be honest i had the best lead and people to work with. I will never forget them. And now it has just been 1 month in my new co. i am in my training period . Their is one senior trainer who is always pulling me down in front of evryone, for not knowing things that she expects me to know on her level. I feel harrased, demotivated. In my interview they did not told me their real expections. And now i am coming to know. I feel stuckedd here. I dont know what to do 😭😭😭
after patiently listening to your story I don't think my boss is as toxic as yours but personally I don't like their behaviour as a senior they should behave little humbly and poilitely as I was a fresher in that particular company so i knew that fact that i need to suffer and i need to hear so many taunts from my seniors but now I became little good at my skill still they shout on me in front of others and I came home crying everyday. I can't bear this much Domination
I am in the same situation. All the employees have fa ed the same thing . This is affe ting my mental and physical health. He dosent have manners how to speak. I asked my seniors they say no use of speaking with the hr. They are all the same. So I have decided to not to care and not to exceed my Time above 8 hours and say no when he gives illogical dead lines. And have started searching for another job
Hi ,as a senior tech consultant I just changed my job 6months back and the new job senior manager and leads(a lady) are really toxic and very demotivating to me personally. Unfortunately previous firm was heaven compared to current one and I regret my decision now. I should have gone through all pros and cons but reality is m stuck in such scenario and now fighting to get out of the firm and switch for better one. But this time itself is never be easy.... loosing patience and demotivating sometimes😞😞
I had my toxic boss who gave me too much work even in office and also asked at to work home even Sunday. When I her told her that I was out with my parents, she asked me to complete files and send in half an hour. When I was not able to complete my work, she told that she will complain to partner, she also told that I was not fit to work and waste. By this time I totally lost my confidence and also thought may be she was right, but confidence came back once I saw this video. Thankyou so much.😊😊😊😊
I am currently in toxic job, My Lead and Manager both are very toxic, they play bad politics , especially my Lead shes too bad, i dont know how these toxic people get sleep at night by troubling and torturing people all day, Hoping to get out of toxic woekplace one day
Before doing any escalation to higher up always do homework because they might be best buddies.Doesnt mean you just take the torture not saying that, try to move out of the mess thats best ca n be done.No gender discrimation meant but being a lady, reporting any issue might be taken a bit more seriously.
My heart goes out to you! You are a survivor of modern-day corporate bullying/victimization and I admire how you never let that person's toxicity dim your shine.
Thanks for your kindness :) these situations do end up teaching you a lot!
@@InsiderGyaan They can also leave you bitter and hurt. But you are clearly too strong to be affected by bullying. More power to you!
Its almost 3am and I have lost sleep due to my boss’s behavior towards me. I was feeling very under confident but after watching your video its like a therapy to me. Thanks😊
Lots of love and power to you to sail through this :)
Same here.. this is my new job and my manager is really rude and not responding my messages without any reason 😢
Sameeee...my mental health is on last stage rn
Same Here
Same here
I wish bullying , insulting, humiliating someone is illegal. It’s stupid how it isn’t. This is one of the reasons why shootings happen
Ohhh my God, same story with mine as of yours , probably someday I will find this courage to do that. Thank you so much for pointing this issue sharing with us. Mental peace is so important and if you started doubting about your capabilities it's time to move on. Bas only thing is we might not have that opportunities to do that as yours.
Thanks for sharing.
True that. When it compels you to doubt yourself move on :)
I had two horrible experiences both in Indian banking companies. I had a manager who was very toxic. She used to make us wait in the office for 12-13 hours (even when we didn't have work) and she was very verbally abusive. Broke me completely. Then the other experience is similar to your experience (my current job).
I have never worked in consulting but I have heard some horror stories from the so called "Big 4", which really makes me wonder whether it's worth the jump.
Losing confidence and losing interest is the worst experience.
So sorry to hear that :( hope you have coped now
Had a similar experience. Shattered me for a long time. Had to take anti-depressants and therapy to get my mental health on track.
This same thing.. same thing has happened with me that too very start of my career while working in MNC. I felt very depressed. I talked with him and others. he kept telling me its corporate and things do work like this. He used to shout at people for no such reason. He keep saying you cant do anything. I dont think so you can do it. Do I have to tell you everything? etc etc. He didnt assign any of the work and at the end of the day he used to read list of the things I didnt do infront of everyone. finally after talking with almost everyone in the office I escalated this thing with HR and plant head. I knew nothing is going to happen as I was fresher. Finally I left the job but I still feel I am the loser.
Don't think even for a second that you have anything to do with that person's bad behavior. If he cannot be a professional it's on him. You did great by reporting and eventually leaving that place :)
@@InsiderGyaan thanks for your kind words :') Hope one day I will be working as a consultant just like you.
MNC are dead wishes😭I am going through the same
Happened with me as well. I am already serving my notice period.
:(((
I can totally relate to the things you mentioned about your boss and i am gonna quit my job in some time.
For mnc job it became possible to quit the project, but if a boss in govt institution is same kind of rude and inhuman, we have nothing left to do. Even higher levels sometimes come out to be as toxic.
Mam we have a employment bond thats why we are forced to work
I faced the same, manager was not giving equal value so I dropped him email by keeping cc his manager that I expect same equal value as you give to others and it will be helpful if he can inform team when he goes on leave. He saw the email and told HR that he don't want to work with me. They told me to resign on same day. This is what we got when we work honestly. When I asked manager he told me that I went against him hence he did all this things.
Great,,,If there is any sin in the world that is weakness,,,,,the boss you met must be a beast in the shape of so called human,,,never be a slave to others at the cost of ur honour.
I am on my notice period without any other job in my try bz of same kind of toxic boss
Thanks a lot for your suggestions.. I have been going through a similar situation..
Came back to this video to prepare for my placements BQs, thank you Soumi
Hey Nidhi. U won"t believe same thing happened to me.. These foreigners are like.. I have gone thru this..
How to stand against for the manager who is toxic but its important to company and I have seen the leaders will not go against him because he is managing and will be managing in future and if I got against it will be trouble for me to do job , am going through some heaet issues and when i manager just shouted at me because i couldnt trace a bug I was literally going through heart pain and had to take leave what I should do now I cant think
If a firm thinks a toxic manager is an asset to the firm, i think it is time to leave such a firm. Hope you find something better
Personal Experience -
1.Avoid female bosses.
2.dont leave a company with good bosses
Your boss is really mean to you.
Such an insightful session.
Hi it was nice watching your video , our Industry is the worst industry to work . I am from Automobile industry. I had a very bad boss due to which I left my job , sad part is that 9 people left because of him
I can relate this story to me..
Shitttt I can so corelate this thing
Through out video I felt she was telling my story
Hi I'm going through a very similar situation with my boss. She's an absolute ass hole. pardon my language. To the point that I've had to quit from a company I've been working for almost 8 years. Even now in stupid notice period she's making my life hell and demanding stuff. She has called me a fool on a group call, a bad manager, someone lacking morals and ethics, laughs at you condescendingly and makes you feel small. For the first time I pushed back and said she can continue laughing and exited the call. I've planned not to pick up her call or get into any meeting where she's present. Might also ask HR to reduce my notice. Let's see how it goes.
Me and my collegues have experienced the same
Maam, i saw your linkedin.profile .. Being an alumni of two biggest institutions in india you faced such situation, then normal graduates like us can only imagine what we happen...
Topic people exist everywhere :) but i guess its our job to run out of such places :)
I quit because of a toxic manager
It also happened to me and I left my job .....😢😢😢
So many toxic work culture boss in company in Gulf country like UAE,QATAR,SAUDI,OMAN think like they own employee ..think like slave ...specially malyali keralite guys in gulf..
i left the organization in 6 months bcoz of toxic culture by my reporting manager
Great going :) hope ur in a better place now!
What if the main boss is toxic and there is no one else on higher position with whom I can talk in the office . About the boss and have to continue with job because I don't have another job in my hand
Then u move out as soon as u find another job. And till then make the most of it by not worrying about what ur boss says much
Thank you 😊
What to do if HR Head itself a toxic boss
My Boss counts my hours of work and told that you are working only 5 hrs work...what you do in 4 hrs..
Yeh kam toh 1 ghante ka hai 2-3 ghante kyu lag rhe h
Are u working in service based? If yes then do one to one conversation with him and take release from project.if he is not giving, then take leave or dont do any work for 1 week and dont pickup his call.he will give u release.
Why do you keep switching from English to Hindi, (or whatever language you're speaking?)
Cuz i am comfortable in both
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Hi You are very much correct, I am facing these kinds of issues in my team, is it possible to get ur number to share my concern and get advise
I don't think I have much to offer in addition to what I have in this video already :) but feel free to email. Sorry can't get on a call
Your email address
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Even I had a toxic boss who bullied me for more than one and half years ... I could do nothing as she was Head HR and next to VP HR/IR/IT/LEGAL. She literally tortured me, shouted at me in front of all... i had no option as i couldn't leave jobs before an year as I had faced this question during my interview 'why are you leaving before you complete one year?' Her name is SAVIANA PHULSUNGHE. I felt I am good for nothing, i had self doubts. It is a terrible experience. Every day I cried. Finally she threw me out. She didn't confirm me for 1 and half years. No leave. One leave costed me one day's salary. As I was not earning too well cause it was during the initial days of my career. It definitely left me wounded. Wound has filled but the scars are still there. I wish to narrate my story to all in front of her. Honestly, these witches will never feel bad for what they did.
So glad wounds have now healed…sorry for what u went through, but hopefully we all come out stronger
Trust me even my office has such witches... All are my senior.. Such superiority complex, and abuse of power. I wish karma hit them hard one day.
It’s usually women who are that toxic. Don’t work for women
Same type of boss i have
God is watching and he will punish them all..
Sad thing is most companies are in favour of top management. Companies are all about numbers. No one cares about employee dynamics, employee satisfaction. HR will also support toxic leaders only. As soon as you see toxicity 1. Document everything. 2. Upgrade your skills and start searching new job. - You will never reach your full potential under such leadership.
I have/still going through a similar situation like the one u described. My senior is absolutely toxic. And he has created mental health issues for me. He has several nasty facets. And believe me his capacity to insult and belittle people is phenomenal. However he is unbelievably sugary with a few he shares clandestine relationship with
As expected 🙈 hope you get to talk to someone more senior and highlight these things
Slave 😁
I work in a big Mnc and there are always few ppl like him, many of us 90 percent, have escalated it. However no body bothers to take any action. Eventually good ppl leave and such ppl r there, continuing this kind of behaviour.
May be try escalating even higher? Make a buzz to HR...and if nothing happens best to not work at such places anyway :(
@@InsiderGyaanSlso very important to secretly record and release on social media after confirming with a lawyer you may also want to bring a lawsuit against the boss, HR/company.
I'm was a fresher when I joined the company and my manager always used to call me.This has gone to such an extent that I had to share my screen the entire day for 4 months. He always wants to work in his way and used to extremely micromanage me.
Felt utterly worthless. Couldn't take that hell any more so resigned it without any offer.
Now I'm searching for new job. So glad I have taken this decision. But I always have this fear that what if my next manager is this way?? (T T)
Ugh. Glad u moved out and you will find a good one soon. Not everyone is like that :)
We can do it, I'm a fresher too facing same issue 💪💪💪
Update: I resigned the job and wrote a complaint against my manager to HR. Complaint well received but not sure if the person is under disciplinary action. But I feel so much better for speaking up for myself. I hope the person would not torture anyone like she did to me. My heart is light now after crying for so many days for past three months. Sending light to all 🌸🌸🌸
Same
@@shaahlex562 nothing is gona happen belive me. He will br left free. Mnc won't care about employees they replace you with 100's of new employees
When someone reviews whether an MNC is good to work or not they're actually reviewing their immediate managers😅
Hahaha so true
Man. It's like you've described my boss. He was a dementor. I once dreamt that I was on the train to work and some gunshots started in the train. In response to that, the crowd started exiting the train but I wasn't even getting up. When I woke up, I wasn't even relieved that reality isn't as bad. I had instant fear of the hellhole I had to go to in 2 hours.
😔😔 I wish some bosses would acquire more soft skills 🙈 Hope your situation gets better
Every one can find Toxic boss in his lifetime in the company. It is same in public sector also. One main reason is racism, not confident in his profession and show bosism so that junior did not say anything against him. Sometimes juniors are more organised and intelligent that also irritate him/her. How far one have to compromise with such boss is entirely depend on the person. Ultimately every one is having own life other than professional life. If we constantly compromise with such toxic boss which ultimately hampered your personal life, that is more important. Hence, it is better to expose such toxic boss to higher management.
Yes, unavoidable situations. People should always learn to speak up for themselves to handle it!
Thank you Soumi. I am facing something similar at work.I work in data consulting. My business partner is super sweet to me on face but gives nasty often incorrect feedback to my manager. Your actions have given me some points.
Thanks for sharing Binitha. Also, totally confront and ask him about it. Ask him to give examples of the incorrect feedback. Hope it gets better!
I left an Bengali Toxic Boss in Qatar, best decision of my life 😁
Best! Our mental health is our responsibility :)
They are evil spirit
@@dipsarkar6598 I don't know if you have said it as a joke but you have said PURE FACT!
I've suffered so much because of bengali managers
Raising with HR backfires 99.99%. No one wants to be involved in a negative incidence, and managers are hard to replace than the employees they manage.
In the West it is the opposite, young people especially young females do stand up against these bosses and companies fire thr boss so they dont have bad publicity or lawsuit. But it should be legitimate case with proof.
@@rejectionistmanifesto8836india is worst
Even when I finished up the tasks, all I hear is you were late by a day
I am tired of this tight deadlines
What do I do?
Are u working in service based? If yes then do one to one conversation with him and take release from project.if he is not giving, then take leave or dont do any work for 1 week and dont pickup his call.he will give u release.
You still survived a rather good one.
My boss shouts at me that I'm good for nothing, and that I'm not interested in working- every damn day.
Please escalate if you can :(
@@InsiderGyaanalso leave as soon as you can as such bosses sooner or later will ruin your career for life. It happens if you stay more than 1 or 2 years.
Thanks for sharing this, I had a smiliar experience, I was in a postion where I was not able to quit, so held on for some time.. luckily he left the company and we lived happily there after 😆
Haha…the guy that i talk about was there 10 years before me and is still in the firm. Irony!
My manager is also the same , alwys insulting me infront of others and he knows that i am pregnant . I am a good employee ,i did my job very well , in 3yrs only one mistake he got and shouted on me like anything. He alyws looking for chance to insult me . Pls help me somebody
I have started searching on how to survive toxicity at work (from colleagues and boss) I feel unfit and around very bad mannered people. I try to keep my standard which come across like I am superior (in their mind) and then, you can imagine all the repercussions. Backbiting, boss having demeaning remarks for me, overloading me with work, to name a few. I feel drained 😢 however I cannot change job (Govt one) and I am already at a senior position and yet having to face so much mental torture.
Same condition here...I am facing....joined a PSU in IT department.... as a Management Trainee.. ...my DGM insults me on daily basis.... can't change the job now......feels very demotivating... I am getting suicidal thoughts 😢
@user-ir1ih5kv3u Oh, that's sad. I wish you courage. Whatever the situation dont ever think of suicide, you'd only worsen your life condition if you do this (according to hinduism your counter goes back to zero and you have to endure everything again and again until you learn the lesson)
@@lionesss06 hmmmm.
The situation is really depressing me...😕
Currently I am going through this situation and I have decided to take a stand for myself .so I raised the concern in front of my senior manager. If it all we have any problem with the manager or senior manager we go and speak to our councillor but in my case the problem is with the counsellor itself. I hope I might get shifted to a new team who can impart positivity in my work life. Who are with me guys
so glad you r taking a stand for yourself!
Big 4 may thy kya lol 😆
@@sahibwr10 didn't get u sry
After listening to you, I feel glad that I am not alone in feeling this way about my boss and am the 5th person in the team to resign in 1 year
Oh no :((
Did you get a new job
I hope your Toxic Boss is watching this Video.....LOL.....Im proud of you Somi.......We need Couregeuos people like you to make Corporate world Accountable,productive & safer for womens.......Respect from Bangalore.....
Haha i doubt he will! But thanks for your encouragin words :)
I've encountered bad bosses and faced discrimination in the form of racism, not sucking up to anybody in power, lack of acknowledgement... I've always been the one who had to leave despite every other aspect of my job being great...for speaking out and standing up for myself... As a teacher this is really making me question my career choice
Does this happen in teaching too?
I am facing 100% of what you faced. I have started to hate consulting because of one person, however i always loved it for last 8 years. Good thing is that my counselor understands and will try to pull me out of the project soon. I have survived for 4 months here😌
Hey had experience with a bully boss who blamed me things out of rumors and have caused so much turmoil and made me feel under confident. He is super sugary with people but have multiple facets. I had to resign within very short time of joining because of him.
These kind of bosses needs to be punished severely because they are playing with people's lives.
Agreed
Nothing is ever ever worth compromising mental health.
There are n no. Of companies to deal with. Har company ase ho not possible.So we always need to give our best and if still doesn't work.Choose.❣️
Nothing will happen dear, fortunately it happened in USA.
Condition in India is worst, imagine doing PhD with the say guy from last 6.5 years that to from the best institute of the country. Here in India approaching seniors is not an option because supervisors can not be wrong therefore suicide is very common in IITs but believe me nobody cares. And sadly this is the true reality. 😢
Sorry you had to experience working with such a toxic boss! I know that big companies have HR policies in place but what about smaller startups or small orgs, what should one do if they face harassment or similar behaviour there? Most of these companies have 1-2 people working in the HR department who are totally interested in protecting the senior management and the company's well being
Big or small. In India everywhere it is same. Culture over here in India is worst
I m working in a small company and my boss is such a manipulative and toxic person can't tell you . I just have joined the company 1 month before...I really can't afford to leave the job and don't know what to do
Bro HR does nothing for the environment or toxicity ...except their so called lectures.
Hi! I've just started my career as a trainee employee but my boss is a manifestation of toxicity and negativity. She yells at me, cusses at me and shouts at me even when my work is done. For some reason, the HR of the company doesn't seem to be bothered about the situation considering that there have been a handful of resignations under the concerned person. Your video really helps, and I hope to inculcate your words in my work life. As I'm a fresher, I'm just not able to be vocal regarding my feelings to my boss.
Mam
I am a PhD student
I have spent 7 years to finish my thesis
My PhD advisor is hell bent on deadlines
I mean PhD is more like a exploration and resolving problems, most of the times I get stuck with coding and I get least help from him
All he is bothered of is the completion of tasks
I kept hearing for the last 7 years that I am insensitive to time, I don’t stick to deadlines
Even after submitting my thesis I get to hear this, please help me tackle this
I am also stuck in toxic workplace and feels helpless, all i can do is pray to god and give enough strength for facing this time.. 🙂
The moment you sense toxic behavior from your boss, job hunt immediately. Once you get a good job offer, give your two weeks so you can cash out your unused time off.
"Surviving" a toxic boss is as bad for your health than chain smoking and alcoholism. These companies want to be cutthroat with employees, so I'm cutthroat with them. I do not tolerate being treated like crap.
Absolutely.
Oh damn were you in a Big4? Sounds so much like Big4 bully boss.
I am struggling with something similar. My boss has labelled me as agressive and confrontational with severe attitude problems because I had said 'no' to his unnecessary demands and that hurt his ego. So he decided to gossip about me with other managers and block my promotion.
So, its been 15days since I left the job with much similar toxic environment. They (both husband & wife) were so negative that the closure also gives me chill. I am just trying to cope up but my confidence is extremely low & I still have hell of self doubt. I am so traumatized that I am scared to begin the new experience of job.
Worst part is this happened with me when my personal family life was already taken for toll. My parents are keeping unwell & I do have loads of responsibilities on my head. Now I am learning back to heal & also taking some therapy sessions with my counselor.
So sorry u had to go through this. I hope therapy gets ur confidence back. I know its difficult but let me tell u there are good souls working in corporates as well ❤️❤️❤️
@@InsiderGyaan thank you :)
I still believe there's light at the end of tunnel. We will manifest better days back . but thanks to you as well 😊🥲
You are a very strong persona , which reflects in your attitude, thank you for raising our morale by this video and more power to you 💪
Thank you for the sweet comment :)
This is exactly my dominating manager .She is not at all organised
Even i have experienced a toxic lady boss who called and abused everyone on a meeting as everyone gave her poor rating on a survey form for her bad behavior as a result she was given pip and termination from position she held for. so she decided to take a brutal revenue as everyone tried to kick her out from the power. Even after escalating the matter to senior management also where our voice was heard she got terminated. But what's more shocking was that instead of changing her behavior she became more furious to take revenge from those people who complained against her. So she started harassing those people personally who escalated against her. And one of the things that shocked me more is that she got another job in Ireland as a project manager despite being her toxic behavior her knowledge and skill was 0 she secured this job in Ireland by using power, favoritism, influence and jugaad whereas there are many talented people who deserved that post at last it's very disheartening to see that evil people use jugaaad to get job anywhere in the world.
Thank you for uploading this! I am going through the same thing, felt like you were describing my life. This really inspired me to speak up.
😊Hi.. Soumiji..Ma'am You are doing a great job..this video may help very much others in overcoming n tackling these type of mentally ill persons..i have few questions about scaling up my career,if u don't mind can u kindly share me ur mail id..i have seen some of ur videos though i m not much social person but truly u are amazing n nice..your simplicity n honesty in ur videos..i love that..thank u..god bless u both..u n ur husband..take care..
Thank you 🙏🙂
My supervisor is bothering me the same way.. probing my personal life, extending the hour of work for no reason, giving her personal work and simultaneously pressurising me to meet deadlines. Creating negative environment by her actions and behaviour and portrays others that I'm very sweet and emphatic.
Please escalate if you can :((
my boss is bloody the same
On a human level and spiritual level we have to consciously ensure that we do not harass our juniors because karma will not leave you trust me , you are spoiling your saturn which is related to labour and mass works who work below you , so be careful before mis treating someone who is working for you , it will come to bite you very bad in life.
I need your help ma'am. I'm broke at office due to favouritism even though I got job through high reference. But despite of that i usually get almost only 20-30% work at office although along with that i got to do too many certificates courses. But after doing certificate courses now I'm feeling lost each day. These days I'm getting so much anxious at office which makes me feel I'm worthless because I feel that I'm doing almost nothing. I'm lowering my confidence due to this.I don't feel like going office anyhow now. Pls help. My boss is a piece of shit with zero integrity of his own. He looks strong but he has an orthodox thinking.
If it's not making you happy, I suggest you look for something else? Nothing is worth a toll on your mental health to this extent :(
@@InsiderGyaan ok.
Having a personal issue with your boss is one thing, but reporting to a person who is behaving unethically is another. This may come in an obvious form, like manipulating numbers in a report or spending company money on inappropriate activities; however, it can also occur more subtly, in the form of bullying, accepting inappropriate gifts from suppliers, or asking you to skip a standard procedure just once. With studies indicating that managers are responsible for 60% of workplace misconduct, the abuse of leadership authority is an unfortunate reality.
Unrealistic and Conflicting Goals
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I work in one of third class startup company in india i have toxic manger similar to you makes us to work more than 10hrs i had signed 3years bond &i had submitted all original gradesheet to them as assurity i had completed 1.5 years want to resign but not able because of bond we need to pay 2lacks even though they invested zero rupees on training
I can relate to each and every word that you spoke. Like each and every. Went through the exact same situation.
:(((
Omg.. U suffered so much of tension..
I had similar experience but i raised my voice and was heard to quite some extent..
Loved the lines u said at end.. We shouldn't compromise with our mental health
Toxic manager and ( peer) are living hell for you, mine is poison for me killing me slowly, they have done so much damage to me in-term of work and personal health, career and my manager created lot of trouble in my movement in another project , I requested and begged her for movement but she did not agree and despite of this involve to HR for further trouble and finally I had to left this company because of her torture. They all were evil and I wish someday karma will hit them back .
Thats why i have chose a govt job 😂
Its 5 am and i am feeling lots of stressed and crying on my bed ,i am just broken , feeling very low, totally feeling underconfident , my legs are paining feeling mentally low , my boss just hates me , always shoutes on me. i have compained to director as well. But he also shouted on me,without any reason, I am just broken ,but going to leave the job as its only 5 days left for my salary to come.on the 6th day i m resign from this toxic place
I left my job previous job just due to less pay. I worked their over 6 yrs. And to be honest i had the best lead and people to work with. I will never forget them. And now it has just been 1 month in my new co. i am in my training period . Their is one senior trainer who is always pulling me down in front of evryone, for not knowing things that she expects me to know on her level. I feel harrased, demotivated. In my interview they did not told me their real expections. And now i am coming to know. I feel stuckedd here. I dont know what to do 😭😭😭
after patiently listening to your story I don't think my boss is as toxic as yours but personally I don't like their behaviour as a senior they should behave little humbly and poilitely as I was a fresher in that particular company so i knew that fact that i need to suffer and i need to hear so many taunts from my seniors but now I became little good at my skill still they shout on me in front of others and I came home crying everyday. I can't bear this much Domination
I am in the same situation. All the employees have fa ed the same thing . This is affe ting my mental and physical health. He dosent have manners how to speak. I asked my seniors they say no use of speaking with the hr. They are all the same. So I have decided to not to care and not to exceed my Time above 8 hours and say no when he gives illogical dead lines. And have started searching for another job
Hi ,as a senior tech consultant I just changed my job 6months back and the new job senior manager and leads(a lady) are really toxic and very demotivating to me personally. Unfortunately previous firm was heaven compared to current one and I regret my decision now. I should have gone through all pros and cons but reality is m stuck in such scenario and now fighting to get out of the firm and switch for better one. But this time itself is never be easy.... loosing patience and demotivating sometimes😞😞
Are you a slave
Workplace toxicity should be taken as seriously as unethical behavior or sexual harassment.
I just resigned in 1.5 months as there were red flags i have seen and becoz of dealing with constant anxiety and also I have raised issue to hr
Same situation for me now, today blocked a calendar for 1 on 1 discussion. Thank you for making me positive in this situation
Have experienced against a toxic boss. I made sure that he's reputation is hurted in the organisation
You're toxic too, then aren't you?
Work so hard to get into consulting and then find micromanagers and toxic bosses just wanna start my own business now
if you cant change the boss just change the boss finally some new content keep going Soumi
Thanks Abhishek, for being a constant cheerleader 😁
I had my toxic boss who gave me too much work even in office and also asked at to work home even Sunday. When I her told her that I was out with my parents, she asked me to complete files and send in half an hour. When I was not able to complete my work, she told that she will complain to partner, she also told that I was not fit to work and waste. By this time I totally lost my confidence and also thought may be she was right, but confidence came back once I saw this video. Thankyou so much.😊😊😊😊
Fight between confidence and low self esteem. Might be one of the root cause.
Everyone comes across such people multiple times in their career.
I am currently in toxic job, My Lead and Manager both are very toxic, they play bad politics , especially my Lead shes too bad, i dont know how these toxic people get sleep at night by troubling and torturing people all day, Hoping to get out of toxic woekplace one day
You can't do that because you are a slave
Before doing any escalation to higher up always do homework because they might be best buddies.Doesnt mean you just take the torture not saying that, try to move out of the mess thats best ca n be done.No gender discrimation meant but being a lady, reporting any issue might be taken a bit more seriously.
I have had similar experience , strangely same nationality combination