Are You Navigating A Toxic Workplace? Here is what you can do.

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  • @PinkYellowGreen2023
    @PinkYellowGreen2023 Рік тому +387

    Workplace performance declines in toxic work environments. If an employee is performing fine and then it changes.....look at the management team. They have likely acted from a point of suspicion, hardness, or been overly critical of an employee. Playing mind games, collecting dirt, and flatout fear mongering is something poor leadership does!!!

    • @thirdgen377
      @thirdgen377 11 місяців тому

      Two days ago a coworker slandered another and when I called her out on it she turned into a really mean spirited megalomaniac. Screamed in my face and attacked my ego and my employer didn't even do anything about it. The manager just stood there and watched. It's the most toxic job I've ever had. There's a group of women who have banded together, brainwashed the boss and has him alienating myself and a couple other key workers. They're trying to take advantage of the boss by telling him that myself and the other guys are the ones taking advantage by blaming their bad behavior on us. They walk off the job, talk on the phones, slack off and dick around but it's us the ones who are actually working being treated like shit. My boss was spreading lies about one worker and tried to manipulate my opinion by giving me half truths about the person and I went against my boss and told the person what the boss told me. He quit and I'm not too far behind. Worked so hard to make this company work just to watch it get taken over by sycophants who kiss ass and don't really care about the company's future. It's so fucked up.

    • @theazrael4423
      @theazrael4423 11 місяців тому +3

      Sadly that's probably leadership everywhere except Disney

    • @westernsellers9148
      @westernsellers9148 11 місяців тому +17

      Especially when woemen are in charge 😂😂

    • @mimis.8943
      @mimis.8943 11 місяців тому +6

      @@westernsellers9148 It is a sad fact.

    • @christinamorales6887
      @christinamorales6887 9 місяців тому +14

      Gaslighting management with narcissistic tendencies

  • @tommygamba170
    @tommygamba170 6 місяців тому +178

    HR protects these managers

    • @kimkaragiannis848
      @kimkaragiannis848 3 місяці тому +10

      Yes, they do!!! The "At Will" law allows a lot of this. And, management positions attract power-hungry people who are toxic. :(

    • @angelaemma5221
      @angelaemma5221 2 місяці тому

      @@kimkaragiannis848 Mine just got fired because she stood up to everyone and called them out. She packed up and went today. It's not always HR.

    • @joshuacohen234
      @joshuacohen234 2 місяці тому +4

      People who still think hr is fair and equal lol

    • @capslapsmac
      @capslapsmac 2 місяці тому +3

      HR protects the company first, employees second.

    • @GretchenLodaSoprano
      @GretchenLodaSoprano 2 місяці тому

      Not always I was an HR Director and I was a victim of this at many employers. Maybe some HR people like this, but please don’t judge every HR person for being like this. Not only was I mistreated by the CEO of the company, but many of the Union stewards and other employees and no one would do anything about it. I was a person who is able to support management and employees with empathy. One of the problems is if HR wants to do the right thing if they’re boss, doesn’t they could just fire the HR person for not following with the boss wants. The key crux of the issue is to keep narcissist out of the workplace. That’s what this is all stemming from…

  • @FrankieCarter579
    @FrankieCarter579 11 місяців тому +175

    Most leaders put in a leadership position are not leaders. They are given a responsibility that they don't deserve. And they take that position by the reigns and run a bulldog fight with it. A leader motivates it's team. And pushes integrity in the business. The quality of the business thrives as well as the crew. It makes the employees want to come and do the job and the money becomes secondary.

    • @smoothiecutie2277
      @smoothiecutie2277 9 місяців тому +2

      Thank you!!

    • @LadyJpraise2024unbound
      @LadyJpraise2024unbound 8 місяців тому +4

      Agree. An article said this about leaders. Leaders do not have to make you follow, people what to follow a leader

    • @cherrytraveller5915
      @cherrytraveller5915 8 місяців тому

      That is certainly true. My boss is one of those. And this is company that keeps pushing the people leaders narrative and then you look at my boss and all you think is that company line is just that. She isn’t a good people person at all. She gaslights and bullies. She bullied a girl off a building

  • @Khadijah_respectfully
    @Khadijah_respectfully 11 місяців тому +211

    I just started a job two weeks ago and yesterday i decided it would be my last day. Managment doesnt know it yet😂. Ive gotta put me first.

    • @cherrytraveller5915
      @cherrytraveller5915 8 місяців тому +11

      I wish I was this brave but I have my father who keeps saying things don’t let her win and don’t leave your job because they pay you so well. I’m also in a bind with my ankle as well. This needs to be fixed before I can move onto a new job

    • @Khadijah_respectfully
      @Khadijah_respectfully 8 місяців тому

      @@cherrytraveller5915 l understand ! My job paid well too, but sometimes that pay cut will give you more peace of mind and save your health. Just down size your life and you'll be able to afford your Bill's and have extra money.

    • @KiKi-mp8kd
      @KiKi-mp8kd 8 місяців тому +18

      I just did this today! Not worth the stress and headache ✌🏾

    • @Khadijah_respectfully
      @Khadijah_respectfully 8 місяців тому +16

      @@KiKi-mp8kd right! I've learned that pay does not trump it peace of mind! I'll find better and even if it's for less, it really isnt because my peace is priority.

    • @miguels.b.2749
      @miguels.b.2749 7 місяців тому +12

      I've been 6 weeks into mine... I'm planning to present my two weeks notice this week...

  • @Kimosabe-
    @Kimosabe- Рік тому +75

    1 in 9 is drastically understated

    • @kimkaragiannis848
      @kimkaragiannis848 3 місяці тому +2

      Exactly! 2 reasons for this. 1, management positions attract power-hungry people who are toxic. 2, the "At Will" laws allow this, and companies want bosses without integrity to be able to fire as needed.

    • @njokikiama2790
      @njokikiama2790 22 дні тому

      Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition in which people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They need and seek too much attention and want people to admire them. People with this disorder may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others.

  • @annmarie444
    @annmarie444 9 місяців тому +46

    this is my current work situation right now- it is horrible. I have been a target, but I won’t simply give up even if they tried 🤞🏽

  • @HolisticManifesting
    @HolisticManifesting 9 місяців тому +62

    We need to stop using the word Boss, it is not a job title and I feel it fuels toxic leaders. Nobody is a boss of anyone, we are all showing up because we choose.

    • @imonym
      @imonym 3 місяці тому +8

      I agree. I am my own boss. My manager is my coworker.

  • @MythicalFamilyYT
    @MythicalFamilyYT Рік тому +131

    Sometimes the toxicity is driven by HR. And yes senior leadership is almost always a huge factor in the problem. In nursing much of the horizontal violence stems from role confusion and high stress,

    • @Clevelandsteamer324
      @Clevelandsteamer324 Рік тому +3

      Look at why narcissists pick nursing as a profession

    • @jacquieabram
      @jacquieabram Рік тому +8

      Absolutely right. In toxic and racist workplaces, HR is your worst nightmare but there is a way to fight back. The strategy used to fight a racist boss is the same strategy that is effective in fighting a toxic boss. I've taken down more than a half a dozen racist/toxic organizations and teach other employees to do the same. Here's a little more about me and the work I do in case you want to know more: ua-cam.com/video/SIgD-Jxy1n8/v-deo.html

    • @Niki-mp8qe
      @Niki-mp8qe 8 місяців тому

      Yes I agree, we are having targets set but it's going to become a competition now, not good in a job where looking after others is the focus

    • @NovaPrincess
      @NovaPrincess 2 місяці тому

      @@jacquieabramOkay, sis!!! Thank you for this comment because I ama BW dealing with this right now. I will have to make a move today because it has all come to an unavoidable head with the narcs mobbing me on my team (they hated me from day one) and my former manager's manager. My former manager quit suddenly, and they never hired someone to replace her. So now her manager is my manager, and he's even worse than she was. 😢

    • @Pipe_RS91
      @Pipe_RS91 Місяць тому

      Last year, at the company I am currently working, they hired a new Head of HR. She was great and helped solve a lot of problems we had. This year, in March, she was let go and just three months later we were in the same or a worse position than last year. I blame a lot if not everything on HR. Things came back to the dark places we were before and now I am looking for a new job for next year.

  • @borabora324
    @borabora324 11 місяців тому +88

    You have just described my work environment and my boss and I now understand why I have been crying so much for the past 2 years!

    • @deshaabernathy482
      @deshaabernathy482 9 місяців тому +7

      You’re not alone ❤

    • @hmkpeace629
      @hmkpeace629 9 місяців тому +8

      Same here

    • @moodigirl
      @moodigirl 9 місяців тому +6

      Same with me. I have made the decision to leave

    • @Maris0L0L
      @Maris0L0L 8 місяців тому +6

      Girl same I cried today

    • @njokikiama2790
      @njokikiama2790 22 дні тому +1

      Sad to know am not alone... Mine's been almost 10 years, went for therapy and learnt to speak my truth, now am on compulsory leave as I write this 😅

  • @christinamorales6887
    @christinamorales6887 9 місяців тому +63

    Just resigned from toxic management and left the abusive gaslighting behind

  • @LadyJpraise2024unbound
    @LadyJpraise2024unbound 8 місяців тому +19

    Finally, someone really knowing what she is tslking aboutt regarding toxic workplaces. Alot of the time it starts with the leadership, period. Plus most people dont stand up for themselves bc of retaliation in the workplace, forget what she said that u dont think u will b heard. It is called retaliation from management

  • @n.m.3760
    @n.m.3760 9 місяців тому +72

    Giant red flag: nepotism arrangements. When the boss' wife/husband works in the office. Especially if they're not qualified for the role. Run far, far away and don't ever accept the job. Nothing good ever comes out of that. Or any form of nepotism really (friends, family members, etc). You, as the employee, will always be "wrong". Not to mention, if you have a legitimate complaint about a spouse, you can't exactly bring that up to the boss. Nepotism harms morale in the office.

    • @Vandyvandyvandyvandy
      @Vandyvandyvandyvandy 8 місяців тому +5

      This is exactly why I just quit my job. The husband of the wife was a toxic, gaslighting, micromanager who was completely incompetent. He had the nerve to say that because I declined additional workload (his total workload on top of two other of the biggest company projects I was working on) that my position at the company needed to be reviewed, which meant he was threatening to fire me - so I just resigned straight up. GFY

    • @alona724
      @alona724 Місяць тому +2

      You have to add friends to that list.

    • @njokikiama2790
      @njokikiama2790 22 дні тому

      ​@@Vandyvandyvandyvandy💯 Spot on!!

  • @UDubbb
    @UDubbb 10 місяців тому +57

    I worked in the federal workforce and a hostile work environment was my entire career. When you are a single parent, and that good government job is the only thing allowing you to raise your child, in a good home and safe environment; you learn to deal with it. But man oh man, when you retire from that environment, the mental anguish, the hurt and harm you must learn to undo becomes your job to undo. This is what I’m dealing with two years in retirement. I didn’t realize how hurt mentally; dealing with the toxic environment has caused me. And waiting six years for my EEO case to go before a judge doesn’t help either.

    • @deshaabernathy482
      @deshaabernathy482 9 місяців тому +2

      Smh I know it’s hard but I pray God will bless you for your love and sacrifice for your child.

    • @Recruiterrowe
      @Recruiterrowe 8 місяців тому +3

      I’m here now. It’s hard.

    • @Homegrown_Values
      @Homegrown_Values 6 місяців тому +1

      I feel this! I work in a clique fuelled work environment. I need my job to pay bills, but the job makes me sick

  • @terrencemilton5088
    @terrencemilton5088 11 місяців тому +24

    Wow!? I see what she's saying. Sometimes you're dealing with low level people. Meaning some of your coworkers or supervisor might not have the intel or know how like you. They see your behavior but dont know exactly what you are doing.

  • @anthonypope2106
    @anthonypope2106 Рік тому +59

    Just left a toxic hell environment. Tribal fear.

  • @twosix13
    @twosix13 10 місяців тому +32

    All the HR I’ve ever worked with have made me feel disposable.
    I have learned not to trust HR. But I appreciate everything you are saying! Wish you could be the fly on the wall at work.

    • @hxhdfjifzirstc894
      @hxhdfjifzirstc894 8 місяців тому

      A good work place does not have an HR person. HR is an unnecessary drag, that prevents a good business from being the best business.

    • @cherrytraveller5915
      @cherrytraveller5915 8 місяців тому

      I’m using the Union

    • @user-ur2ps6tg1w
      @user-ur2ps6tg1w 8 місяців тому

      Hr is always low key on their side!

    • @Classicbeauty857
      @Classicbeauty857 6 місяців тому +1

      I work in HR and trust me we're not to be trusted, our hands are tied, looking out for the best interest of the company.

  • @GetGwapThisYear
    @GetGwapThisYear Рік тому +92

    I started what I thought would be my dream job in my dream company in April 23. 6 months in and I just feel ostracised and ignored by the rest of the team. They’re not inclusive or welcoming, they stick in their little cliques and don’t deviate. The onboarding and training process has also been virtually non-existent. I’m stressed 😂

    • @thenewyorkcitizen
      @thenewyorkcitizen Рік тому +15

      That seems demoralizing.😢

    • @rerebrook5057
      @rerebrook5057 Рік тому +6

      🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @soapsinbloom
      @soapsinbloom Рік тому +11

      WOW, that sounds exactly like the place I just left..I did stand my ground for as long as I could. Manager was fired, new manager and same thing..

    • @mariamarshall2661
      @mariamarshall2661 11 місяців тому +3

      Wow! Same here.

    • @ich6636
      @ich6636 11 місяців тому +15

      Same here. I have been ignored, mocked, and laughed about behind my back. They make covert passive-agressive remarks, and although I have to share in doing my duties with another colleague, oftentimes the most difficult task I had to do it. I told my Manger but she sided with the other 2 colleagues , gaslighted me that actually the work we had to do in team and the fact that there was no team notion, it was because of me. For her, it was not important that important information weren't shared with me. I feel stressed, I can't sleep properly and have headaches. I made an agreement that I will leave the job if I wish so in March, but until then, I have to stay there and probably from today on be subject to retaliation.
      You are not alone ❤. But please consider to quit a toxic environment.

  • @Conteuse9
    @Conteuse9 5 місяців тому +13

    I have been stuck in a toxic environment for two years now; they gave me a high level of anxiety and other health problems, I have been applying for a year, and nothing is happening; praying I get out as soon as possible...

  • @monicasweer7253
    @monicasweer7253 Рік тому +35

    Everything you got right. Though sometimes HR does nothing.

    • @thenewyorkcitizen
      @thenewyorkcitizen Рік тому +11

      HR usually does nothing because they are there to protect the company not the employee.

  • @sherinevanbergen7783
    @sherinevanbergen7783 Рік тому +45

    I'm mentally and physically exhausted because of work. I really can't deal with my boss anymore. I've been under pressure an working late hours for 3 years, mostly because I've been walking on eggshells for this place. They make me feel good about my achievements, but I had to destroy myself just to get to that point. I can't do this anymore. I need to look for another job.

    • @Job.Well.Done_01
      @Job.Well.Done_01 Рік тому +6

      Create a plan, take your time, think positively, use your resources, and stay consistent.
      I understand exactly how you feel.
      I’m on the same boat.

    • @AnthonyManzio
      @AnthonyManzio Рік тому +2

      I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start gaslighting, smearing and bullying me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Just don't react and not try to defend yourself which will only go back and forth making me look even more guilty. Action always speaks louder than words. Just best ignore them and find another easier target. Never let these low life lazy bums ever win.

    • @Job.Well.Done_01
      @Job.Well.Done_01 Рік тому +2

      @@AnthonyManzio keep doing what you’re doing even though I know it hurts. We all want to be included, accepted, valued and wanted.
      I’m in the same position as you. Good worker, nice to people, no drama, but manipulated and ignored - lots of passive aggressive comments.
      Stay true to you, love yourself, don’t give up. ♥️

    • @AnthonyManzio
      @AnthonyManzio Рік тому

      @@Job.Well.Done_01 Thank you.

    • @Job.Well.Done_01
      @Job.Well.Done_01 Рік тому

      @@AnthonyManzio you’re gonna be alight. Sending you good vibes. 🤚☀️

  • @Beautiful_Days9249
    @Beautiful_Days9249 11 днів тому +1

    Thanks for this. Going through this now. Team lead is good but management like you said denies facts and covers up bad behavior. I cannot trust a member of my team or management now.

  • @PLOttawa
    @PLOttawa 11 місяців тому +16

    Great analysis. At the same time no one should have to be on their own to figure out what to do in situations like this. Unions are key.

  • @gjinkalla23
    @gjinkalla23 Рік тому +39

    Why cant we define toxicity as being lead by narcissistic or psychopathic management, leadership?! HR is the Ceo's codependent puppy, the tail of the head of the octopus

    • @loislois3526
      @loislois3526 4 місяці тому

      You can use narcissistic- it’s not a diagnosis but personality trait. Saying someone has narcissistic personality disorder is but I think that’s why people get spooked. Saying something is narcissistic is the same as any other adjective.
      One video even suggested using narcissistic when it is - is a good thing for not minimizing it

  • @hxhdfjifzirstc894
    @hxhdfjifzirstc894 8 місяців тому +7

    In my experience, it's the entire modern culture that's toxic, not one specific workplace -- and by logical necessity, most workplaces will have at least a bit of toxicity in them, because this toxicity is so pervasive. The only way around that is to have a CEO who is not toxic, and who specifically screens employees in a way that keeps the workplace healthy (which is a nearly impossible task, and the difficulty grows exponentially as the number of employees increases).
    In other words, the best a person can hope for is a boss that is trying their best... you should be able to get a feel for the team they've put together, within a few weeks of working there.

  • @Astral_Dusk
    @Astral_Dusk 10 місяців тому +20

    Tolerating a toxic situation for years assumes life is not finite.

    • @NovaPrincess
      @NovaPrincess 2 місяці тому +2

      True. 😢 Time is our most precious resource, and 40 hrs per week in a toxic work environment is a third of one's time awake being around toxic people (So not worth it!!!), not to mention time lost preparing for, and unwinding from, a toxic environment. One thing about a toxic environment is that it will make you ruminate so much, thus causing the toxic work situation to take up far more than 35% of your hours awake. When I realize I'm ruminating about work consistently for at least a month, the writing is on the wall, and I apply for new jobs.

  • @spiritualqueen3423
    @spiritualqueen3423 Рік тому +49

    I’m in one right now and I’m considering quitting working shouldn’t be this stressful just snakes 🐍 in the grass

    • @rapdesmidt1690
      @rapdesmidt1690 Рік тому +9

      I hear you, me too! A lot of my co-workers are great at talking out both sides of their mouths, my boss is really great at it too! I'm so sorry you are going thru this and are being for Ed to contemplate, leave or stay!!! I pray it's an easy transition, or their is some accountability and something changes! Crazy how 1 in 9 work places have a toxic work environment 😡 good luck and God bless you!!!

    • @SiGa-i1r
      @SiGa-i1r 10 місяців тому

      ​@@rapdesmidt1690I exposed two of my managers yesterday. I don't accept bullying. A homosexual co-worker entered the room I was at alone, and quickly turned his proud, disgusting face away. Monsters and snakes. 90% of people.

    • @Amdecreations.
      @Amdecreations. 3 місяці тому +2

      You said it perfectly. Snakes in the grass definitely sums it up.

  • @joeyjojo84
    @joeyjojo84 3 місяці тому +3

    I recently gone from successfully leading a small team, to being a member of a larger toxic team. Very passive leadership that prefer to bury their heads in the sand. I’m very junior in this role and I miss being able to influence a team and build moral and a culture of high performance. This resonates.

  • @birthinfluenceembrace
    @birthinfluenceembrace 11 місяців тому +15

    Feeling seen with this. I work in a small company and I was recently let go based on an emotional decision by my manager. It was based on gossip and triangulation by my teammates and it was terrible because I was a producer in the team.

  • @DerrickHikes
    @DerrickHikes 8 місяців тому +3

    When I envision the word “ people person” you are exactly what comes to mind. You are such a well spoken person. I’m really glad I can across your channel. I have some inner turmoil at work that has gone unsettled after many attempts and it’s causing me a lot of stress. I’m glad I found your channel to help me better navigate these issues. Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻

  • @AngellaFerguson-b5p
    @AngellaFerguson-b5p Рік тому +23

    You are amazing. I would love to have a mentor like you. All I can say is WOW

  • @sarahkrupa9017
    @sarahkrupa9017 Рік тому +19

    I am dealing with a situation right now and this is excellent advice. And exactly what's happening in my organization.

    • @jacquieabram
      @jacquieabram Рік тому

      It's heartbreaking to know that you are experiencing the devastation to your life and career that so many of us endured. There is a way to fight back. The strategy used to fight a racist boss is the same strategy that is effective in fighting a toxic boss. I've taken down more than a half a dozen racist/toxic organizations and teach other employees to do the same. Here's a little more about me and the work I do in case you want to know more: ua-cam.com/video/SIgD-Jxy1n8/v-deo.html

  • @Stacie0407
    @Stacie0407 3 місяці тому +3

    Thank you for this. Really helped me.
    I am working in an extremely toxic workplace right now. L’Oreal to be exact. I have been emotionally bullied and gaslighted by my boss for over 5 months now. Before L’Oréal I have worked for 7 years in another famous FMCG company in various teams and never have I been abused like that. Just the other day I overheard by accident how my boss and her boss were planning how they should treat me and humiliate me publicly to make me leave. I asked HR for help. But they seem to not give a shit…
    So I guess the only option for me is to actually leave. And hope that some day someone will be able to stop that.
    I am already on antidepressants and have been diagnosed with anxiety depressive disorder.

  • @licksnkicks1166
    @licksnkicks1166 11 місяців тому +35

    My boss was insane the other day. I wasn’t allowed a break for a 7 hour shift this week. I started throwing at up work because of the stress level. I am losing weight, my hair is falling out. My boss talks about staff behind their backs. She should never have been a manager! I am suffering from seizures now and this could be from the horrible stress I feel. I passed out at work the other. My boss is a stupid unqualified BULLY!

    • @djlemonbalm
      @djlemonbalm 3 місяці тому +1

      Report the harassment.

    • @licksnkicks1166
      @licksnkicks1166 3 місяці тому +2

      @@djlemonbalmUPDATE: it’s going to court. I am done with this company. My health is my priority NOT the corporation. My health suffered immensely! I am slowly starting to rebound now that I am no longer there.

    • @NovaPrincess
      @NovaPrincess 2 місяці тому

      @@licksnkicks1166What happened?

    • @licksnkicks1166
      @licksnkicks1166 2 місяці тому

      @@NovaPrincess in a nutshell they fired me after 14 years. I was in senior management and they made up some BS to get rid of me and get a new crop of youngsters in place. I am talking with the Labour board of Ontario too. I worked for free 100 plus hours during Covid. HO hasn’t a clue has how my boss royally screwed up. Making me work for free is such a serious offence that she will probably end up losing her job as well. Everything is documented signed and sealed. I have witnesses too. She is screwed royally. I don’t care about her because she never cared about me.

  • @cece-bt7eo
    @cece-bt7eo 2 місяці тому +2

    Im a nurse and am currently experiencing this, and it's toxic where i work and you're absolutely right, no accountability and poor leadership. I am stressed when i have to go in i dont feel safe or supported by the leaders there. Im contemplating quitting.

    • @janicemaguire8551
      @janicemaguire8551 2 місяці тому

      Lots of Bull in nursing, dont let them push you out, by a managers abusive of power. Stand up for yourself, keep your own counsel.
      No trust walk with your feet

  • @mari-zp9ed
    @mari-zp9ed 6 місяців тому +5

    You touched a great point. How does a company allow these kind a of manager foster this toxic environment which does not increase productivity? It’s more common than it should be.

  • @ashleychemise
    @ashleychemise Рік тому +16

    So true! Thanks for sharing. I too have had my fair share of workplace toxicity. I use UA-cam to help others avoid the pitfalls I've encountered.

    • @jacquieabram
      @jacquieabram Рік тому +1

      It's nice to meet you Ashley. The strategy used to fight a racist boss is the same strategy that is effective in fighting a toxic boss. I've taken down more than a half a dozen racist/toxic organizations and teach other employees to do the same. Here's a little more about me and the work I do in case you want to know more: ua-cam.com/video/SIgD-Jxy1n8/v-deo.html

  • @Manager-8472
    @Manager-8472 8 днів тому +1

    Leaving a toxic working environment can be very refreshing. You are not just leaving the environment, you are also leaving a failing organisation.

  • @MrTwinkieeater
    @MrTwinkieeater Рік тому +11

    My foreman was coming to work drunk. It was overt and known by all. I alerted HR twice. The second time I was offered a "contract complete" by HR which meant I could leave early and still get my bonus while he stayed. BTW- We were a heavy equipment repair shop... at The South Pole. 🙄

  • @anonymous135
    @anonymous135 Рік тому +13

    I've seen this. At my company they actually PROMOTED the bad actor to HEAD OF HR, so now it's a continual sinking ship. Sad, because it's a great company that serves the public.

    • @hxhdfjifzirstc894
      @hxhdfjifzirstc894 8 місяців тому +2

      HR is always the center of toxicity -- a good business has no need of HR, for anything. I suggest finding a job that doesn't have HR of any kind.

  • @FreetobeMoi
    @FreetobeMoi 8 місяців тому +4

    This video
    popped up in my at the right time!
    It’s just what I needed.
    Thank you!❤️

  • @vimalneha
    @vimalneha 2 місяці тому +1

    Ginny, I faced this toxic twice. But your points were like a video flashing exactly what happened to me. I left the company! Thanks for saying it so well.

  • @mimis.8943
    @mimis.8943 11 місяців тому +4

    Thank you for your eloquent wordto describe the most insidious behavior at the workplace that is so difficult to talk about and “easily bleached” from day to day. Your words gave me strength.

  • @carrieanderson132
    @carrieanderson132 11 місяців тому +7

    Great advice because this current job I have makes me question a whole lot. It's a small company that only constant of an owner & a manager. So that means no HR department. The owner at times can be temperamental and the manager can be very lay back, which has confused me often times, of what's important. And there are times they lack transparency. Admittedly I made mistakes because I have a LD (learning disability) however that doesn't mean I should be targeted or short changed either. 🤔

  • @ashmarie15
    @ashmarie15 26 днів тому +1

    Experiencing this right now. I tried really hard when I was first hired but after 6 months it’s clear I can’t do anything right no matter what so I’ve just stopped trying. Ready to put in my two weeks 😅

  • @Anarchyfae1
    @Anarchyfae1 11 місяців тому +9

    It's sad because I used to love my job, but after 3 years of a CEO that calls our department a "necessary evil" and "shareholders are more important than employee happiness" points where the entire department was my responsibility alone even as an entry level employee while being told that there was no intention to resolve the issue, and multiple problems, being harassed and retaliated against by HR (who falsified information on documents about me), I even ended up in a hospital. There's no upward mobility if you're already with the company and in fact they demote their employees that are ever able to, by chance, get promoted. I'm depressed and frustrated, even becoming bitter, but this isn't me. I'm somebody I don't even know right now and the company still continues to harass and retaliate against me.

  • @RonFilco.9358
    @RonFilco.9358 6 днів тому

    She described working in an Amazon warehouse to the tee with her opening statement. I realize this video is more for the "white collar" but we literally run into the same problems, just at a different price point and position.
    Well done with this video because it definitely translates to my circumstances and I am contemplating not returning to this job from the vacation I'm on right now.

  • @racyo8755
    @racyo8755 Рік тому +5

    Thank you for acknowledging this issue .

  • @patriciairving8046
    @patriciairving8046 6 місяців тому +4

    Been working for a large well known healthcare company for 25 years in the same department under 3 different managers. The stereotype that I’ve seen is horrible I got passed up for the lead position three times, worked 14 years as a backup rep for a different job and when that job became available I applied only to not receive it, they chose a rep with zero experience versus my 14yrs. I know exactly what it is and it’s sad, I chose to stay for personal reasons now I just pray I could last until I’m able to retire or something comes along better. Toxic people that hates you because of who you are

  • @Imogene_Joyce
    @Imogene_Joyce 3 місяці тому +6

    I’ve got two weeks left in a very toxic work environment. The Lord is my shepherd. Imagine being bullied by a 50 year old while you’re just 25- hectic 😅

    • @patriciagerbeau4689
      @patriciagerbeau4689 2 місяці тому +1

      Good luck to you! I've got a tyrant as a boss, she shouldn't be in a power position at all she says a lot of inappropriate things and she is 75 and I cannot imagine how awful she was when she had more energy, she calls everyone evil or narcissistic.. It seems like she's describing herself :/ So I'm finishing my season and I am leaving as well!! 😅

  • @hajoura1990
    @hajoura1990 3 місяці тому +3

    I work in an absolute toxic company, the boss and his family run the business, and many people are not feeling well in this atmosphere. Can't wait to leave this hell 😢

  • @Still-Learning
    @Still-Learning 8 місяців тому +9

    MOST people are not trained, toddler through PHD, to question or express disagreement with, the presumed "authority."
    Yet are trained to please the authority to stave off corporal, capital, or administrative punishment/reprisal.
    That is fear based behavior, not respect.

  • @malemaline
    @malemaline Рік тому +13

    What about role confusion, poor communication, and gossip. I also had a colleague raise her voice at me,

  • @Moxiemo8
    @Moxiemo8 10 місяців тому +14

    HR is a joke. Instead, I just resigned from the company with no backup plan.

  • @max392
    @max392 20 днів тому +1

    7:16 I don't trust employee engagement surveys because:
    1. they aren't anonymous (I'll have to use my work equipment)
    2. eventually someone will label you as `problematic `

  • @CelticShadows88
    @CelticShadows88 5 місяців тому +2

    First off, you're a beautiful woman. Second, thank you for this helpful information and I'm ready to make a change within myself because I realize I'm making a mistake first in responding wrong. I am afraid to speak up for myself.

  • @RobbieOusley
    @RobbieOusley 6 місяців тому +2

    It's good you have good information on this subject. By the time I left the toxic environment my bosses boss had underhandedly reduced my pay and removed two of my promotions without me knowing about any of it. She used her subordinates to destroy several good people's career paths and long-term goals that had been built on for a decade and more. The shock of it all caused several to walk out and are still dealing with PTSD almost five years later. There are no employee protections regarding anything that was done in Indiana, like many other "right to work" states. After several tries, it is just impossible to have a career path and age has caught up. It's sad how horribly so many employees are suffering the consequences of those who retire with honors and huges bonuses for their time after destroying many lives of those under them. All of the "protected" statuses don't see to matter when they do things that aren't based on the protected statuses but on their wish to protect and promote some and not others regardless of status.

  • @mariroxx007
    @mariroxx007 9 місяців тому +5

    Literally what I'm working in right now... hence how I came across your video 😂 searching for answers to the questions I ask myself day in and day out "is it me?" "What am I missing?"

    • @NovaPrincess
      @NovaPrincess 2 місяці тому

      Please read 'It's Not You' by Dr. Ramani Durvasula. See if anything resonates. She is also on YT.

  • @gavinelliot3564
    @gavinelliot3564 Рік тому +13

    Ya gotta move on/your allowed to save yourself.

  • @JustMe-ob3nw
    @JustMe-ob3nw 10 місяців тому +10

    In my workplace I am on my own - my manager and her gang are on their own, getting away with murder.

  • @njokikiama2790
    @njokikiama2790 22 дні тому +1

    Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition in which people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They need and seek too much attention and want people to admire them. People with this disorder may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others.

  • @FamkeMichel
    @FamkeMichel 11 місяців тому +6

    Hello Ginny, I relate deeply to this matter and I would love to check out the article you mentioned but was not able to find the link in the description box. Thanks!

  • @WhoCares-c8e
    @WhoCares-c8e 23 дні тому +2

    Remember guys, there's no such thing like "anonymous survey'" and HR is not your friend out there for you.

  • @generationalcursebreaker5397
    @generationalcursebreaker5397 Рік тому +6

    You remind me of Whitley from a different world. Your energy reminds me of hers on that show. Classy and professional.

  • @hannajoy5036
    @hannajoy5036 Місяць тому +1

    I needed to find this channel today❤ it is helping me so much

  • @alona724
    @alona724 Місяць тому

    I absolutely appreciate you for speaking to these dynamics. It’s not talked about enough. The courageous speak out.

  • @jeromeprimo2731
    @jeromeprimo2731 4 місяці тому +2

    Sometimes you gotta be in it to understand it. Some case we don't try to understand both sides

  • @BleakeACE15
    @BleakeACE15 4 місяці тому +2

    It’s exhausting to even think about these steps. I’ve seen how bullies are even created by weak management and bossses.

  • @paularodrigues5136
    @paularodrigues5136 9 днів тому +1

    My workplace at this time is beyond any hope. The only thing to do is leave!

  • @ms.teaversation8072
    @ms.teaversation8072 Рік тому +5

    Thank you Thank you... THANK YOU!!❤

  • @joannevans9629
    @joannevans9629 Рік тому +12

    FYI-, absolutely, do NOT do an employee survey if it's called a 360 degreee review if anyone is a current target.

    • @laurawelliver4023
      @laurawelliver4023 10 місяців тому +3

      can't do this anonymously

    • @NovaPrincess
      @NovaPrincess 2 місяці тому

      Yup. My company implemented a survey where we have to rate our direct team members on a team of about 8 people total! When I heard about it the first time, I immediately knew it was absolutely not anonymous, even though the company lies and claims it was, and that it would be used for mobbing and bullying. The manager literally assigns people to review each other . So if manager assigns person 1 to be reviewed by colleagues A, B, and C, just off diction alone (if one leaves comments, as it's both numeric ratings and 'additional comments') they can easily identify who wrote what. Also, what if someone wrote something blatantly abusive in their 'peer review', I bet management would miraculously find a way to exactly identify who wrote what and on what device, OS, and time of day they did it. 😒

    • @joannevans9629
      @joannevans9629 2 місяці тому

      @@NovaPrincess - I was a manager of a department who didn't have a manager previously. A new CEO (knowing there we're issues) did a 360. Everyone on my team did just about 100 percent negative review of me. It was obvious they used the system to destroy me and my reputation. At that company I wasn't just bullied - I was mobbed. It was so bad that I wrote an entire book about it. 360's are NOT good.

  • @allsort_ofcraft
    @allsort_ofcraft Місяць тому +2

    This family run the entire company .. so honest worker got not chance

  • @khmerindies
    @khmerindies Рік тому +8

    Your video,especially this one came at time when I'm having such hard time at work. It like you just knew to speak to me at this time. I really enjoyed this video and you just make sense.
    Hope to see more videos or see you at speaking tour sometime in near future?
    But really keep up the Great work that you do!!

  • @JimmyJaxJellyStax
    @JimmyJaxJellyStax 11 місяців тому +5

    I'll be honest, life is very short and I'd frankly be beyond already dead tolerating much too many year depersonalized and traumatized at a toxic soul crushing workplace than engaged the real life work of finding the better fit with psychological flow and purpose and energy... and of course, undisrupted sleep.

  • @athomas9661
    @athomas9661 Рік тому +2

    Amen, Ginny! Amen! You are refreshing to this venue and arena but especially the HR/Career landscape.

  • @Icecoldbob
    @Icecoldbob 3 місяці тому

    Thanks for making this video and sharing your own personal experience. I appreciate your lessons and tips along with encouragement of what to do and careful professional processes to take in overcoming toxic work environments or negative basised bosses.

  • @Chahlie
    @Chahlie 10 місяців тому +5

    Oh God, I recently started a job which came with quite a detailed formal offer... but the schedule has since changed twice and I'm only 4 days in. Changed without asking. If it was take it as it goes then fine but it was them who set the details. There are other red flags and I can't see it being long term but I feel like such a nitwit to quit so soon :(

    • @Vandyvandyvandyvandy
      @Vandyvandyvandyvandy 8 місяців тому

      Mate get out it’s not worth it seriously just don’t put them on your resume.

  • @pm8725
    @pm8725 4 місяці тому +1

    Good example of a person you really don't want to hire.

  • @Niki-mp8qe
    @Niki-mp8qe 8 місяців тому +4

    There is alot of manipulation by management in my job that is pitting co workers against eachother, last job was the same and some not earnt their promotions, i think all workplaces are like this, too many leaders without the qualities required just good smooth talkers

  • @pri22965
    @pri22965 Рік тому +9

    I have been working for 5 yrs in same company. I was fired by my manager for feeling hungry as he ordered me to say back and complete the work. As it was 9.30 pm I told him I will go home and clear the work after my dinner.
    He took it as an insult I did to him and fired me.

  • @SoultyBoiBeats
    @SoultyBoiBeats 11 місяців тому +4

    Ive been in this environment as an engineer,

  • @Wisdomseeker5
    @Wisdomseeker5 3 місяці тому +1

    I was working at school as assistent. I got bully for a year and isolated, and then I stand up for myself..and it got worst..
    My children became a target at school, and in the village.
    We most moved out faraway

  • @IntuitiveJessicaLee
    @IntuitiveJessicaLee 3 місяці тому

    So elegant and well spoken. My first impressions!
    Loved this video!

  • @aldum14
    @aldum14 3 місяці тому +1

    I am currently working in a hospital, focusing on patient care. However, recent changes in leadership have resulted in a culture of reporting minor activities. This has devalued my contributions and led to unwarranted reports, jeopardizing my well-being and occupational continuity. The director's conduct, including psychological manipulation and gathering personal information, has been distressing. This has affected my well-being and productivity, prompting me to consider a considerable remuneration reduction in exchange for leaving the current professional environment.

  • @Thornhill220
    @Thornhill220 Рік тому +11

    INCREDIBLE wisdom here. Does Ginny offer time for mentorship? Is their a price scale?

    • @NS-yc7qx
      @NS-yc7qx Рік тому +4

      I have wondered the same.

    • @D6.1313
      @D6.1313 Рік тому +1

      I've also wondered the same and would really like to participate if so.

  • @janesummer4433
    @janesummer4433 3 місяці тому +1

    I am dealing with a toxic manager and supervisor (gossiping, jokes, bullying and preferences) very stressful place to be but I have been working in that place for 2 months so far😢

  • @C.Danielle
    @C.Danielle Місяць тому

    OMG. I love you and what you’re doing. Your website is amazing! ❤

  • @jessicagerou4132
    @jessicagerou4132 2 місяці тому +1

    Ty!❤

  • @kristin2491
    @kristin2491 2 місяці тому +1

    I had my boss joke yesterday and say “I can fire you “ - never in my life have I had a joke like that.

    • @deborahday1786
      @deborahday1786 2 місяці тому +3

      Inappropriate comment by your boss.

  • @lynnwynn4931
    @lynnwynn4931 3 місяці тому +1

    I sent a email to my supervisor about the bad behavior and passive aggression coming from my coordinator and one of her lackeys and they brought up my tardiness

  • @GillianRice
    @GillianRice 9 днів тому

    Thank you! I needed this

  • @jgoobix
    @jgoobix 9 місяців тому +5

    You can not train leadership or character. You have to identify leadership and character and promote it. Additionally, employers are afraid to admit that they hired a poor leader or, worse, that poor leader is just like the person that hired them, so they prefer that.

  • @Phillip_Martin
    @Phillip_Martin 17 днів тому +2

    I'm going through the same exact thing my question is how do I report it in writing?

  • @kls6612
    @kls6612 6 місяців тому +1

    Thank you! Great video❤

  • @marymotherofgod4861
    @marymotherofgod4861 Рік тому +14

    Just say hi and by DO NOT ENGAGE WITH COWORKERS THEY R CLICKS JUST HORRIBLE NASTY PPL I LEARNED OVER THE YRS WERE WITH OUR COWORKERS MORE THAN OUR FAMILY 🙏💜

  • @EatTheFrogii
    @EatTheFrogii 7 місяців тому

    As a Team leader I found this really helpful. I myself realize about being passive for everything and that I did not set boundaries turns out I created bunch of 💩 in the work place I feel sorry for myself

  • @santa-marinafriederich5135
    @santa-marinafriederich5135 9 місяців тому +4

    What do I do when working at place the bosses don't do anything nor HR?

  • @beasaroseco5840
    @beasaroseco5840 7 місяців тому +3

    Good luck with HR. Most of the time toxic mgrs are buddies with HR.

  • @lifeexamined1776
    @lifeexamined1776 6 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for making this video ❤

  • @barebonesbrisco3954
    @barebonesbrisco3954 2 дні тому

    Agreed, HR representatives are not vigilant about toxic work place bullies or the culture they create. In my experience they seemed to foster this behavior. Well until litigation proceedings occurred. Then the moved towards radical change! This seems costly and sad to be honest. I just left and organization with toxic leadership . One person in particular. But the rest are guilty by suffering and fostering this terrified tyrant antics! She has been known to run off new talent and give impossible inequitable assignments! Most folks there hate interacting with her. She creates an environment where folks have quietly quit!

    • @barebonesbrisco3954
      @barebonesbrisco3954 2 дні тому

      Then the whistle blower or person that stands up becomes the difficult employee. Or singled out! That is not a great place to be. The isolation is real!

  • @SativaVerte
    @SativaVerte Місяць тому

    Random but love the green nail polish color on the intro keyboard!