I had such a fantastic time having you on the podcast. I agree with you that we vibed very well and we have a lot in common! I am currently editing the podcast so hopefully it will be up in the next days.
I love all your videos! I am concerned by your doctor Rx’ing lexapro for ADHD. There is absolutely no evidence for that prescription. It sounds like she didn’t believe you about ADHD, and was patronizingly treating the depression she imagined you were suffering from. I hope she explained to you that was ignoring the adhd. They cannot misinform the patient about the rationale for a prescription. Sexism is still rife in medicine. That’s the kind of chauvinism in medicine of the 19th century.
@@i.am.mindblind Oh I'm so glad to hear that. I went through so many doctors and expensive evaluations because they either just weren't well educated on ADHD or were actively pushing pills. It's hard to self advocate, so I'm glad you are able to. I know that it's even harder when trying to advocate for your kids at the same time.
If that club rejected you for not doing the zoom, it'd be private policy, but rejecting you after you asked for accommodations was definitely ableism. Meds are hard, i had allergies too.
(thoughts from your title alone) So many times I tried to ask for accommodations, before I knew what accommodations were... I was called Manipulative, princess, trying to be spoiled, "you aint the only person here, they will want this too" and many other ways to villinafy the accommodations I needed. I have also filled out "Reasonable Accommodation" forms, several of them, for things I need in my own home to help stop pain and panic I experience in my own apartment... and all forms have been denied, they claim it's not standard, their policies wont allow, or that the request would cost too much or be too much work. I'm suffering everyday, from not having these accommodations I need. Pain and panic, that some doctor got into their minds I need to be drugged with meds, instead of being accommodated. Now I go play the video and listen.
4:06 I am a slow processor too. Also I dont appear to be a slow processor because I ramble and speak quickly but all of this speech and typing is out of habit without forethought. I dont put thought into my statements because I had to cut corners when it came to giving my responses because of the abuse I suffered under my parents and teachers (and peers) who demanded I answer immediately. I type peers in parenthesis as I have had other people, usually gamers, punish me for not being faster. Punishments like being denied things I wanted, being kicked out of gaming groups, and I had a Neopet "stolen" from me because I didnt respond to them immediately (long story about Neopets, back in the dial up days, really messed me up and I got into the habit of typing immediately as a result. I dont think before I type, and I got into a habit of hitting "submit" or "post" without editing, because of the peer pressure and insults I receive for not posting earlier. But here I feel safe to not edit my text down to three lines. My speech became impulsive, and 99% of the time, I do not think before I speak, which gets me into a lot of trouble sometimes because I am expecting to be in trouble and be punished, even into my adulthood, if I dont answer immediately, people interrupt and tell me a thing or two, when I cant think when they are speaking. So the impulsive speech comes out, and usually upsets people as a result of not thinking about their perspective whatsoever. I been a slower-than-average processor my entire life. Highly intelligent according to tests, but slow to process any new question or scenario I have not thought about before. So if anyone asks me to help them out with something I never thought about helping them out before, I may appear PDA myself, and say no. I always have something else I want to be doing, at all times. Anything having to do with anyone else will always cut into my personal time, so I default to being on the "no" side of doing anything for anyone else. But if I am given time to think about the task, then I might be willing to do the task. To immediately do the task, usually "no" is my answer. I continue to relate to your experience so much. I enjoy hugging Squishmallows.
9:24 Zoom is also not accessible to me. Had one yesterday (which I have to have a friend with me to get the call going) and I was miserable, too many people involved, as there were four more people in the call than I was expecting (I was expecting one other person to join... not four!). Text is significantly better for me, so I am not rushed to immediately answer, nor do I have to physically strain to keep my tones appropriate (and I failed to keep my tones appropriate, I ended up screaming in frustration). For a book club, which is text, I dont comprehend why a Zoom call would be a requirement. How posh of them.
11:34 I totally get it. I could talk easily if I wasnt going to be interrupted by someone else. The Zoom call I was in yesterday, they had mentioned I was interrupting them... Zoom call is definitely different than monologues.
I just accepted I have Autism not too long ago and now I don’t know what to do about it. I actually kind of joke around it for years but never actually thought that ‘oh, I AM one’ and it makes so much sense. But now I don’t know what to do because I kind of want to get a diagnosis? (To maybe prove that I actually have it so maybe I’ll have something to hold onto and not just me imagining it and being sensitive-) BUT then I have to tell my parents, and maybe exposing my mental health, and my country isn’t that well known in mental illness stuff so I kind of doubt they have anything like ASD diagnosis. I’m happy to finally know what’s wrong but I’m genuinely stumbled :( I also told my parents once about my mental health state and they blame themselves so hard and never do anything about it(I don’t think they know therapy exists) so…yeah, not the best experience Sorry for ranting! I hope this won’t sour your mood too much or anything, I love your video and thank you for making it!!!🫶🫶
Yes! It took a lot of investigation and going around in circles with both Google and UA-cam. Both not known for easy to reach customer service. But thank goodness. I don't make a lot on the channel, but it does help!
I'm not sure exactly what you're asking. If you are asking if Autistic people can get overstimulated when they are upset, yes. Or if you are asking do they stim (fidget, move around) more when they are upset, often yes. Depends on the person.
I don't know how anti-depressants help with ADHD. It sounds like your doctor doesn't have a schedule II license. Basically stimulants help the best and should be tried first unless medically contraindicated. There are non-stimulant ADHD meds that are not scheduled, like Strattera. Maybe it's just assumed that untreated ADHD causes depression (you know, because your brain isn't working). I've been depressed for as long as I can remember. Some of my earliest memories are of sensation seeking, like rubbing my knuckles against rough brick just so I could feel something. I know now that I was suffering from cPTSD because I had AuDHD and that wasn't recognized in girls at the time.
Strattera didn't work for me at all. Wellbutrin is often prescribed for adhd. I'll need to do an update because I miss-remembered about the Lexapro. It was given to me for anxiety not adhd. But it has horrible effects. I can't take stimulants at this time.
You're so right, but I just didn't have what it took to fight/advocate. Plus I figured if I had to fight that much to be included would it be worth it?
I had such a fantastic time having you on the podcast. I agree with you that we vibed very well and we have a lot in common! I am currently editing the podcast so hopefully it will be up in the next days.
No rush! I'll make sure to post a community post when you tell me it's ready. Definitely had such a great time chatting with you. ✨🌸
Your eyeshadow is a lovely shade.
Thank you! I've been finding so much joy in bright colors lately. 😊
Yay!! I can’t wait to see the episode where you talk with Claire, I already follow you both! 😁
It's now uploaded! Enjoy! 😊😊😊
ua-cam.com/video/P23UKlPZXQA/v-deo.htmlsi=FSWNP8mVgBUMYq3x
Excited about the video. ❤ sry you have trouble with accommodations. Hope the pt helps out with your pain.
I'm so hopeful for the PT!
I love your shirt and that blue color. "NOPE!" 👏💪
Thanks! It says Nope. Not today! I thought I showed the whole shirt at one point, but when I was editing I realized I forgot to do that!
I love all your videos!
I am concerned by your doctor Rx’ing lexapro for ADHD. There is absolutely no evidence for that prescription. It sounds like she didn’t believe you about ADHD, and was patronizingly treating the depression she imagined you were suffering from. I hope she explained to you that was ignoring the adhd. They cannot misinform the patient about the rationale for a prescription. Sexism is still rife in medicine. That’s the kind of chauvinism in medicine of the 19th century.
I'm no longer seeing that doctor.
@@i.am.mindblind Oh I'm so glad to hear that. I went through so many doctors and expensive evaluations because they either just weren't well educated on ADHD or were actively pushing pills. It's hard to self advocate, so I'm glad you are able to. I know that it's even harder when trying to advocate for your kids at the same time.
Congrats on your interview, I will look for your announcement its up.
Thanks!
I’m so excited for the video! Claire is awesome and I just knew you’d be a perfect guest on her podcast!
I'm so glad we met! Seriously we chatted for two hours and probably could have kept going!
@@i.am.mindblindI wanna say most of her pod episodes are an hour plus, but two might be a new record lol
I'm guessing she'll edit it down, but I'm not sure, we didn't discuss that. Maybe she'll make it a part one part two.
@@i.am.mindblind it’ll be great regardless, I’m sure.
Really looking forward to the podcast with Claire! Love both of your channels so much 💚
😊❤️ I'm so glad we got together, it was a lot of fun and I think everyone will enjoy the episode!
If that club rejected you for not doing the zoom, it'd be private policy, but rejecting you after you asked for accommodations was definitely ableism.
Meds are hard, i had allergies too.
(thoughts from your title alone) So many times I tried to ask for accommodations, before I knew what accommodations were... I was called Manipulative, princess, trying to be spoiled, "you aint the only person here, they will want this too" and many other ways to villinafy the accommodations I needed.
I have also filled out "Reasonable Accommodation" forms, several of them, for things I need in my own home to help stop pain and panic I experience in my own apartment... and all forms have been denied, they claim it's not standard, their policies wont allow, or that the request would cost too much or be too much work.
I'm suffering everyday, from not having these accommodations I need. Pain and panic, that some doctor got into their minds I need to be drugged with meds, instead of being accommodated.
Now I go play the video and listen.
For me it's still hard to figure out what accomodations would be useful. Then when I do ask, and get denied it's so disheartening.
4:06 I am a slow processor too. Also I dont appear to be a slow processor because I ramble and speak quickly but all of this speech and typing is out of habit without forethought. I dont put thought into my statements because I had to cut corners when it came to giving my responses because of the abuse I suffered under my parents and teachers (and peers) who demanded I answer immediately. I type peers in parenthesis as I have had other people, usually gamers, punish me for not being faster. Punishments like being denied things I wanted, being kicked out of gaming groups, and I had a Neopet "stolen" from me because I didnt respond to them immediately (long story about Neopets, back in the dial up days, really messed me up and I got into the habit of typing immediately as a result. I dont think before I type, and I got into a habit of hitting "submit" or "post" without editing, because of the peer pressure and insults I receive for not posting earlier.
But here I feel safe to not edit my text down to three lines.
My speech became impulsive, and 99% of the time, I do not think before I speak, which gets me into a lot of trouble sometimes because I am expecting to be in trouble and be punished, even into my adulthood, if I dont answer immediately, people interrupt and tell me a thing or two, when I cant think when they are speaking. So the impulsive speech comes out, and usually upsets people as a result of not thinking about their perspective whatsoever.
I been a slower-than-average processor my entire life. Highly intelligent according to tests, but slow to process any new question or scenario I have not thought about before. So if anyone asks me to help them out with something I never thought about helping them out before, I may appear PDA myself, and say no. I always have something else I want to be doing, at all times. Anything having to do with anyone else will always cut into my personal time, so I default to being on the "no" side of doing anything for anyone else. But if I am given time to think about the task, then I might be willing to do the task. To immediately do the task, usually "no" is my answer.
I continue to relate to your experience so much.
I enjoy hugging Squishmallows.
9:24 Zoom is also not accessible to me. Had one yesterday (which I have to have a friend with me to get the call going) and I was miserable, too many people involved, as there were four more people in the call than I was expecting (I was expecting one other person to join... not four!).
Text is significantly better for me, so I am not rushed to immediately answer, nor do I have to physically strain to keep my tones appropriate (and I failed to keep my tones appropriate, I ended up screaming in frustration).
For a book club, which is text, I dont comprehend why a Zoom call would be a requirement. How posh of them.
11:34 I totally get it. I could talk easily if I wasnt going to be interrupted by someone else. The Zoom call I was in yesterday, they had mentioned I was interrupting them... Zoom call is definitely different than monologues.
Yes, there's a lot more going on in a zoom call!
I just accepted I have Autism not too long ago and now I don’t know what to do about it. I actually kind of joke around it for years but never actually thought that ‘oh, I AM one’ and it makes so much sense. But now I don’t know what to do because I kind of want to get a diagnosis? (To maybe prove that I actually have it so maybe I’ll have something to hold onto and not just me imagining it and being sensitive-) BUT then I have to tell my parents, and maybe exposing my mental health, and my country isn’t that well known in mental illness stuff so I kind of doubt they have anything like ASD diagnosis. I’m happy to finally know what’s wrong but I’m genuinely stumbled :(
I also told my parents once about my mental health state and they blame themselves so hard and never do anything about it(I don’t think they know therapy exists) so…yeah, not the best experience
Sorry for ranting! I hope this won’t sour your mood too much or anything, I love your video and thank you for making it!!!🫶🫶
Random question. Did you ever get your adsense issue worked out? I hope so, especially given how much your channel has grown this year.
Yes! It took a lot of investigation and going around in circles with both Google and UA-cam. Both not known for easy to reach customer service. But thank goodness. I don't make a lot on the channel, but it does help!
@@i.am.mindblindawesome! I’m so glad!
I’ve been looking up a lot of research of autism and they said that people can stimulate when they get upset. Is that true?
I'm not sure exactly what you're asking. If you are asking if Autistic people can get overstimulated when they are upset, yes. Or if you are asking do they stim (fidget, move around) more when they are upset, often yes. Depends on the person.
I don't know how anti-depressants help with ADHD. It sounds like your doctor doesn't have a schedule II license. Basically stimulants help the best and should be tried first unless medically contraindicated. There are non-stimulant ADHD meds that are not scheduled, like Strattera.
Maybe it's just assumed that untreated ADHD causes depression (you know, because your brain isn't working). I've been depressed for as long as I can remember. Some of my earliest memories are of sensation seeking, like rubbing my knuckles against rough brick just so I could feel something. I know now that I was suffering from cPTSD because I had AuDHD and that wasn't recognized in girls at the time.
Strattera didn't work for me at all. Wellbutrin is often prescribed for adhd. I'll need to do an update because I miss-remembered about the Lexapro. It was given to me for anxiety not adhd. But it has horrible effects. I can't take stimulants at this time.
That book club is so ableist it made me angry just listening to you 😡
You're so right, but I just didn't have what it took to fight/advocate. Plus I figured if I had to fight that much to be included would it be worth it?
@@i.am.mindblind of course I totally understand, not blaming you in the slightest 😊 they’re the ones to blame!
When my staff member has a autism and ADHD and she has a girlfriend