My Glow Up Journey As an Ugly Friend...
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- Опубліковано 2 чер 2024
- "For just once,
I would like to be the poem
and not the poet."
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About me:
Hi, my name is Yixin and I'm a researcher at Keio University in HCI on supporting introspective training.
My life used to be full of rejections: from school, friends, my crush and workplaces. But everything changed as I gradually made progress on my personal growth journey. Now I can proudly say that no rejection can take me down anymore, I began to accept myself and grateful to be surrounded by wonderful things and people.
One thing I realized is that, the world didn't change - I did. so here I am, wanting to share my journey with you because I know there are still a lot of people struggling like me.
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Glow & Grow with me.
💖 Instagram: / yixin.is.traveling
For business inquiries: [ywang01209@gmail.com]
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Timestamps:
[0:00]my insecurities
[0:21]growing up as the "ugly" friend
[2:05]How cosplay helped me
[2:34]When did I become the "pretty" one
[3:28]I was a JOKE to everyone
[5:15]Learn to Accept
[5:31]The most important thing in my makeup
[6:01]What I wanna share
To Our New Start!
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i do not own any of the music used in this video
tags:
glow up, personal growth, girlstalk, girlspower, insecurities, asian aesthetic, asian beauty, prettyprivilege, positivitiy, transformation, latebloomer
It's the high-school curse
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@@yixin.is.traveling * Headpats *
Ikr
Fr
been there wasn't my best time😢
If you have real good friends, you probably don’t notice or even care wether you are «ugly» or not. You are just a friend among friends.
I was the «ugly» friend in my friend group in school, but I didn’t reflect on this or even notice it until I begun college and videos on glow ups showed up all over SO.
Real friends doesn’t care about how you look, they just want to be with you because you are you.
yeah
I have always been super shy, introverted which is not helped being 'ugly' and an Asian among mostly white kids. So I never really had friends throughout school as I never approached anyone and no one approached me. It took me a while to figure out why I was diferent to the other kids in my class, why I didn't look like them, why I didn't relate to them etc. and even now in uni I still have not gained much confidence and have not made any friends .
This! I was the ugly duckling,my best friend (gorgeous girl) was always the pretty one and I knew that but she NEVER made me feel less or talked about my appearance in a negative way...now that I "glowed up" as the youngsters say,I can joke around about how "unfortunate" I looked and even now she doesn't agree that I wasn't pretty,bless her soul.
Some people look good when they are teenagers and on some people the "developed" look looks weird,like,I didn't know how to take care of my skin,nor my hair (a curly matted mess always),I didn't know how to dress and my nose and teeth grew before my others features grew on my face so I just looked odd for a couple of years until I was an adult lol
Frrr
Backing this up real hard. When I saw my picture in school, I asked my friends like, Why would you befriend me back then I look like a dirt? Then she replies, dude we all look like dirt wdym
I honestly think that most teenagers are insecure but the difference is that some chose to put others down to make themselves feel better whilst the others don't make it other people's problems.
Para quien lea esto:
Si muere hoy, ¿Irá usted al cielo o al infierno?
Usted ha violado la Ley de Dios que Él escribió en su corazón; su propia conciencia le condena. Por lo tanto, merece “la multa” -el castigo - del infierno. Pero Dios no quiere darle esa sentencia. Dios es bueno, benigno y bondadoso. ¡Quiere darle misericordia!
Por eso, Jesucristo (Dios hecho Hombre) murió en la cruz. Usted violó la Ley, pero Cristo pagó su multa. Él sufrió en su lugar, como su Sustituto, y resucitó después de tres días, ahora está sentado a la diestra del Padre.
Si quiere ser salvo de la ira de Dios en el día del juicio, tiene que hacer dos cosas…
Arrepentirse. Tiene que confesar que ha pecado contra Dios, juez justo y recto. Para “convertirse a” Cristo, tiene que “convertirse de” sus pecados.
“Pero Dios, habiendo pasado por alto los tiempos de esta ignorancia, ahora manda a todos los hombres en todo lugar, que se arrepientan; por cuanto ha establecido un día en el cual juzgará al mundo con justicia, por Aquel Varón a Quien designó, dando fe a todos con haberle levantado de los muertos”. (Hechos 17:30-31)
Poner su fe en el Señor. Tiene que poner su completa confianza para la salvación para la Persona y la obra del Señor Jesucristo. Esto quiere decir que tiene confiar en Él como confiaría en un paracaídas si tuviera que lanzarse de un avión. Él es su única esperanza.
“La justicia de Dios por medio de la fe en Jesucristo, para todos los que creen en él. Porque no hay diferencia, por cuanto todos pecaron, y están destituidos de la gloria de Dios” (Romanos 3:21-23)
“Porque por gracia sois salvos por medio de la fe; y esto no de vosotros, pues es don de Dios; no por obras, para que nadie se gloríe.” (Efesios 2:8-9)
¡¡Que Dios les bendiga!! :)
Hmmm
@@mochimonster3880 hmm
if she was the ugly friend then i don't even know what i am
You're the most beautiful and sweet girl that only lucky people will appreciate having you in their lives 🌻
I am also a female so i hope i didn't make you uncomfortable 😅
@@-Joyfullife-There’s no need to lie to lift others self esteem. Gentle honesty would make them feel a lot safer, unless you actually believe your lies.
@@IHateEverybody4
You either cope by being delusional or you accept the truth and become depressed 🤷
@@frog6054 Or accept the truth and learn to live with it healthily.
@@IHateEverybody4 it's not that easy for everyone
You got me at "cutting my hair short" so "people won't compare me". I went through similiar experience in high school because of low self-esteem. Sometimes, I think people are so insecure that they project their insecurity on the others just because you actually got the genuine beauty and you can elevate yourself to the next level. I appreciate to hear how you overcome in your personal journey. Thank you for sharing similar experience.
Hmmm
I hate that every flaw and insecurity of mine.. I make it my personality so that people dont see me lacking anywhere.. I like to pretend to be happy at where i am and whatever i'm doing. To them i'm such a go lucky girl...
Yeah, the one compliment I got in elementary and middle school was always about my long hair. I got sick of it. My parents acted crazy about my long hair and everyone else would act like it was EVERYTHING. So, I cut it off. I hated having long hair because of others. I kept cutting it short despite hating how it made my baby face look until senior year. I bleached it twice but never had the courage to truly experiment with color. After senior year started I was worried about other things so instead of chopping my hair off to above my shoulders in August like I had been doing every year, I let it grow. Now I'm almost 19 and still havent cut it so its quite long again.
I actually like how I look with long hair. Especially now that other people arent a concern. They lost interest after I "destroyed" my hair.
Seeing my cousin experimenting and finding her style has inspired me though. I think I'll experiment too :)
Read your bible! (KJV, preferably) ♥
i truly believe no one is actually ugly. A lot of people just dont have the confidence to try something new with their look and overtime they just get more and more insecure comparing themself to others
[edit: my point in this is not just makeup and completely change yourself; i mean simple things like a new haircut, or wearing something that makes you feel confident]
True
EXACTLY, if people find the right hairstyle, makeup and clothing style, they're all going to look stunning. Sure there are extremely beautiful people out there like those supermodels but no one's ugly, everyone is pretty when they have confidence and their right style. Beauty is both subjective and objective, it is also very very diverse and that's so amazing.
But when we consider the money aspects of it, there are certain limitations that's why more people cannot experiment on their styles, skincare and makeup. And when we see actors, models and influencers who use expensive skincare and other things which we do not know about, we unknowingly compare ourselves to them. Not to mention the unrealistic beauty standards which is set due to celebrities lying about plastic surgery and other cosmetic procedures.
its the "i cant workout untill im skinny" type of mindset
Para quien lea esto:
Si muere hoy, ¿Irá usted al cielo o al infierno?
Usted ha violado la Ley de Dios que Él escribió en su corazón; su propia conciencia le condena. Por lo tanto, merece “la multa” -el castigo - del infierno. Pero Dios no quiere darle esa sentencia. Dios es bueno, benigno y bondadoso. ¡Quiere darle misericordia!
Por eso, Jesucristo (Dios hecho Hombre) murió en la cruz. Usted violó la Ley, pero Cristo pagó su multa. Él sufrió en su lugar, como su Sustituto, y resucitó después de tres días, ahora está sentado a la diestra del Padre.
Si quiere ser salvo de la ira de Dios en el día del juicio, tiene que hacer dos cosas…
Arrepentirse. Tiene que confesar que ha pecado contra Dios, juez justo y recto. Para “convertirse a” Cristo, tiene que “convertirse de” sus pecados.
“Pero Dios, habiendo pasado por alto los tiempos de esta ignorancia, ahora manda a todos los hombres en todo lugar, que se arrepientan; por cuanto ha establecido un día en el cual juzgará al mundo con justicia, por Aquel Varón a Quien designó, dando fe a todos con haberle levantado de los muertos”. (Hechos 17:30-31)
Poner su fe en el Señor. Tiene que poner su completa confianza para la salvación para la Persona y la obra del Señor Jesucristo. Esto quiere decir que tiene confiar en Él como confiaría en un paracaídas si tuviera que lanzarse de un avión. Él es su única esperanza.
“La justicia de Dios por medio de la fe en Jesucristo, para todos los que creen en él. Porque no hay diferencia, por cuanto todos pecaron, y están destituidos de la gloria de Dios” (Romanos 3:21-23)
“Porque por gracia sois salvos por medio de la fe; y esto no de vosotros, pues es don de Dios; no por obras, para que nadie se gloríe.” (Efesios 2:8-9)
¡¡Que Dios les bendiga!! :)
Lmao this is BS.
I think you were beautiful before too, and your teeth and smile makes you prettier and charming.
Thank you so much for your warm words❤
A pretty bunny!!!❤
Your cheeks are prefect for your future partner to pinch! 😊
Hope you find the one that will accept you totally, including when without makeup!
This.
Hahahah thank you for leaving such a cute comment😆😆!
@@yixin.is.traveling yep, i can tell you my partner absolutely adore my cheeks. He loves pinching it. Soooo yeahhh i approves this message ^^
Fr she looks so nice 😭😭
this made me feel better about my cheeks, ty 😭🤍
Women are so much more than just their looks Omg. We’re PEOPLE. HUMANS. We have talents to explore, growth to experience etc. Not just sit and look pretty.
same for me but growing up fat it's soo traumatizing in east asian culture
🫂🫂We will find our own sparks
Dude the teacher came to me at lunch and told me to eat less because apparently I was the heaviest in the class 😭
@@makatsue4598oh, I hope u are doing better sweetie, don’t listen to the teacher.
@@makatsue4598if u are heaviest I think u should listen to the teacher ☠
@@momoasianluvso u are saying don't listen to the teacher and became obese 🤡
I'm glad that guy sent you that screenshot, it probably hurt, but that was so rude of the other girl to be fake to you like that
I am so sorry for you girls having to struggle with your own skin tone and appearance. As a Brazilian woman, 32 yo, it makes me really sad. I know how aesthetic pressure is and how it makes our own insecurities grow.
I make a daily exercise trying to see beauty in every part of my body, maybe it can help you girls a little, and maybe the real glow up comes from the way we begin to see ourselves, with more confidence. I used to hate my nose, my long hands, my rabbit teeth, my feet, my thighs. And I believe it's someone's point of view fault: "we need to look thinner, we need to be feminine, we can't never be ourselves and have always to be trying to hide our feelings and the way we think". I just can hope the world change and people become more real 😢💜
wow this was so nice to watch! i’m half chinese and half european so i was always surrounded by the asian (extreme) beauty standard because of family and friends. i grew up in europe and when i was younger i was one of the only asian people in my school so i ended up being picked on quite a lot, they would call me racist nicknames and pull their eyes back to look smaller, so in that way i was never really called pretty either. in europe i was too chinese and in china i was too european, so i never really had a place to belong. it was really hard for me growing up because i wanted to fit both of the beauty standards. but now that i’m older i’ve kind of just learnt to accept who i am and that as long as i think i’m pretty i’m happy😊 this video really resonated with me, i’m really happy i watched it, thank you so much for sharing your story!
It’s not European jst say the country
@@_.cantikgadis i didnt want to thats why i said european! :)
Yup I really can relate to this story as well because I'm both Asian and white but when I grew up as an adult I don't give a fuck of what people can think of me and now I'm happy in my life with peoples who really cares about me and not see me just for my race !!!
im chinese and grew up in italy ina. very very small city. got the same treatment and high school was hell because these two boys were constantly calling me china and yelling it out loud everytime they saw me (so even at cinemas or public spaces) and I would get so mad and embarassed because they wouldn’t stop even if I stood up for myself. And now I have horrible anxiety and still problems accepting myself since I’m too asian for SOME italians and TOO italian for some chinese.
@@_.cantikgadis You know you can be from many different countries in Europe, right? I'm also half Asian half European but I just say European because saying "part Maltese part Italian part Irish part 5 more countries" just is unnecessary
This is such a heartwarming story. Tbh I only started to follow you because I thought you were beautiful and totally had the look that I like. Then I started regularly watching your IG reels because they were so informative on Japanese culture and you seemed well travelled. It’s actually shocking to me that you were considered ugly and teased so much back in your younger days. It’s really inspiring to see you overcome all the bullying and now have so many followers admiring you. I bet a lot of the boys that wrote you off as ugly back in high school are now probably like me and are creepers following beautiful girls like you on social media 😂.
Thank you so much for letting me know your story with me🧡 It‘s so inspiring for me when knowing why ppl follow and why stick around. 😊
Toxic beauty standards in our society makes people believe that they're ugly and whatsoever, or something as ugly-people exist. The concept of "Glow-up" is loving yourself, not fitting other's beauty standards. If they don't accept you the way your are, it's their issue, not yours! You're not the problem, they just can't see the beauty in differences, and the beautiful differences we humans have. Pls stop trying to fit into other's beauty standards. Sending lots of love to all my girlies. 💌♡
So you actually think ugly people don’t exist? 💀
you're a literal mf, I'm trying to spread positivity but u just FELT THE NEED TO SAY THAT 😭
u r a literal mf i swear, I was trying to spread positivity and u just felt the need to say that. 🤡
@@IHateEverybody4 They literally dont...
@@IHateEverybody4 bro what is your problem
super real on the asian beauty standard, im embracing my south east asian tan skin so much more now though :) thank you so much for sharing, im so glad that you're happy with how you present yourself now
Tan giving such an elegant vibe😙😙 I‘m so happy you like this video!
That girl was so mean, it honestly breaks my heart how people can be so cruel. You are a beautiful soul both internally and externally. I feel when someone is a beautiful person internally, it enhances their outward beauty ❤
oh my goodness, i would kill to have cheeks like yours theyre so adorable. I cant believe people were so mean to you you were and are so pretty naturally.
You are so pretty 😭
You werent even ugly lol
I’m so happy & proud you rose up from your bad experiences and didn’t let them change you’re kind character! 💕✨
Thank you so much!! 🥰
You were not ugly.
Let me repeat it: YOU WERE NOT UGLY. YOU LOOKED DECENT.
GOD the freaking unrealistic expectations and pressure today have warped our young girls' minds!! UGH.
Either way, I am sorry you were made to feel that way. You looked decent and you look good now, no doubt with the effort you put in.
Don't care for the haters - A universal message. Easier said than done, but I hope all of you out there can march through this intact. No one needs to be made to feel bad about themselves because some shitty people out there want to feel better about themselves at the expense of others.
I had a slightly different experience because i was the only asian kid in a white school but the humiliation and the pain is the same. I grieve my teenage years when i was told my ethnic features were ugly, that I had "mean eyes" and wasn't pretty enough to even warrant basic respect. Thank you for posting this very personal story, and i am so happy you have found strength and beauty through your experience. The most beautiful people are the kind ones ❤
I will always say, no one is ugly. It’s all about if you know how to style yourself. Anyone can be pretty. It’s all about if you know how to be. But regardless, the prettiest girls are the ones with the best personality
watching this as a young adult boy is honestly heart breaking. I grew up with mostly women, mainly my two big sisters so I always had an idea on how boys in school treat girls and how it affects them, but it wasn't until my final years in highschool that I really saw how bad it was.
Girls who are deemed "not pretty enough" or even "ugly" get no chance to get some sort of romantic affection, sometimes the only attention they get are from guys who just want to use them.
Also I always felt uncomfortable talking about this stuff with my make friends because they saw it as ridiculous. "Why do you care so much?" or stuff like that they always told me, even my dad always told me to basically use women for sex and to not get emotionally attached.
I hope that everyone here finds someone who loves and respect them for who they are, everyone deserves affection and attention in this stupid world
Thanks for sharing your experience. Some of those things are not easy to talk about but I think this could help a lot of people who might be going through something similar. At the very least let them know they’re not alone and to love themselves more. 👍
Hi Yixin, I was this girl growing up too. I found out in my 20s I was very sick my whole life and finally got treatment and then my glow up happened. While men did treat me a little better overall after treatment changed my appearance, i think the biggest thing was definitely finding a style of clothing i feel comfortable in so i felt confident in and men got that vibe from me. When you feel insecure about your looks men pick up those vibes from you. I hope things are better for you now love. Glad you made a video about this topic and I'm so sorry you had to go through this too. Kids can be very cruel.
Yes that's so true! Finding our own style!
Your such a real person thank you for sharing this
i genuinely thought you had makeup at the beginning because i thought you’re so pretty and you look like a quokka, so cute! you went through a lot, i wish the best for you ❤
Thank you for being realistic! You’re pretty, don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise ❤❤ you’re so inspiring!
Loved the video,thank you for sharing this with us,it really was a relief knowing you grow out of it since I happen to be going through similar as a high schooler currently ❤ I really want to work towards it,workout,eat better,change mindset etc but I'm always surrounded by the thought that I'll never grow out of it nor the mentality but seeing you talk about,sharing your experiences and seeing your glow up really helped❤ I wish you the best
Girl you are so pretty actually you don't have to listen to people's opinions..focus on yourself and keep going❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for being open and sharing your experience with us ! Hope to gain more confidence in my looks as well ❤ Would love to see a tutorial of your make up routine ! Looking forward to watching more videos from your channel 😊
the way you've come to terms with events that sound super traumatic is so wise and graceful. it must have been so hard but just watching you i feel so much admiration because to sit there and talk about it like that is.. wow. i hope i can heal from my trauma like that someday. along with your physical beauty, your mindset too is so beautiful. thank you for sharing this
Thank you so much for this video, I’m a teen in highschool who’s insecure about her looks but you rly make me feel better; sometimes I see hate comments on your Instagram but I just wanted to let u know you rlly make me feel better with your back story and I’m striving to be like you one day!
Great video, and an even greater story
This hits so close to home, being made fun of or never being complimented for your looks and feeling ugly most of your school life, thanks for this video it genuinely helped me feel less alone. And you looked beautiful when you were in school and youre still so beautiful
this video is really comforting, thank you and wish you everything the best🩷
Thank you for this warm comment
I’m so sorry you had your go through this, you are so beautiful before and now! I can’t believe how rude people can be I hope you feel better now
thank you so much for this, i really needed it, i always feel so gross and ugly compared to other girls and hearing aboutg= how you found confidence even when so many people tried to bring you down really made me feel better
thank you
You’re literally SOOO beautiful! And you always was! These girls and boys who bullied you were insecure themselves so they put you down in order look better in comparison. Thank you for such an inspiring video, I’m a teenager now and I sometimes struggle with my self image, but your video made me feel better!
Thank you for making such an honest video. I hope to hear more about it in your future videos since im going through it rn
Girl I totally feel you. I'm sorry you had to go through that.
Thank you for sharing your experiences, I’m sorry you had to go through all that at such a young age. Loving one self is a journey and I hope eventually everyone realizes that the only validation we need is from ourselves. We are what we believe. I hope that you’ll see yourself the same with or without makeup and life would be so dull if we all looked the same you know! Anyone can be beautiful and ugly, it all depends on their heart.
i dont think she was ugly tho. She just didnt find what suited her. (Im not saying this like to "Not make her insecure". im being honest, because it happens to a lot of people, they dont find what suits their body and face so it makes them look "ugly")
Yeah I’ve felt this way too I was always teased for acne in the past or my looks in general.. and it really hurt my confidence, but now I think something changed maybe it was being more confident? I was so insecure and a huge people pleaser, you would be able to see it too. But now my friends keep complimenting me and my friend called me pretty! And even popular girls I wish I looked like complimented me as well. I got rid of a decent amount of acne, started dressing better. Focusing on hairstyles, and learned how to do makeup better. And gained more confidence. I think with a little bit of effort, and surrounding yourself by the right people you won’t feel this way. Thank you for this video it was really nice to see. And btw I think your face shape and teeth are beautiful 🩷
Wow that was so inspiring to watch.. this helped me see myself in a better light and this is proof that accepting yourself is one of the most important things you can do to yourself❤
I am glad you are doing better now
Girl, you're so cute, you always were 💗, you should totally upload makeup tutorials of your cosplays and daily makeup.
ur such an inspiration, ty for sharing your journey u don't know how much I needed this
omg,, i really loved the video!
i wish this would have more views... i think that lots of people need to listen to this!
new follower!
Thank youuu❤
YOU ARE SO STUNNING
Just discovered your channel today~ you were so cute in HS and still are even now. I’m sorry people were so cruel. Glad you living life happy AF ❤
I feel heartbroken after your story, I never faced with such terrible treatment from other people, but have never being considered as "beautiful" at all. I'm very sorry you had to face such shitheads as your "friends" and closest ones...
You are amazing
❤ thank you for sharing your story.. You have been through a lot .. You are strong now .. And I hope you are proud of how long you have become
You're incredibly skilled at make-up. I love how you match each character you cosplay - They all look unique and especially with Rem it really really suits the chara!
I hope you realize how pretty you are + I just love how the baseball cap looks on you, it suits you so well and makes you look super cute :'3
Omggg you are so pretty 🥺💖💖 i normally don’t say that to people so I really mean it. Seriously you look like one of those Chinese ulzzangs I put on my Pinterest board 😆 I had a similar story growing up where the boys that would bully and call me names and say that I was gross to my face ending up crushing on me later or wanting to date me cuz I had gotten a lot prettier. I’m on a glow up journey to be even more who I want to be/look like and you’re such an inspiration 🥹💖 so thank you for sharing this video!!! 🥹🥹🥰🥰 I feel more motivated to be the best version of myself!!
Thank you for sharing. I would love to see a make up tutorial or more about cosplay make up. You look so cool!
I really enjoyed this video thanks for sharing
Girl you’ve rlly learned how to embrace ur insecurities, and I hope I can do that to mine too
I really liked this video and I am happy to see that you're feeling content and happy in your body. I really hope that someday you'll feel that way not only while wearing makeup, but without it as well. I think your genuine and kind nature inside really shines bright and affects your outside as well.
I wish that I could fix my face and appearance with makeup as well, but as a guy that is frowned upon and honestly I wouldn't want to do that anyway.
Currently I am losing weight, about to start going to the gym regularly again and going to buy myself more stylish clothes.
Yet I still "know" and feel like I am the worst inside and out, no matter what I do.
I am 25 and people continue telling me I'm the nerd girl, and no one tell me I'm beautiful, only my boyfriend and my mom. I am really insecure, I cry almost every day because of that. I have really beautiful friends... I don't know what to do :,c
Nerds are intelligent. It's not an insult. You said you have a boyfriend and beautiful friends.
I'm not sure if you mean they are physically or emotionally beautiful? But if your group is beautiful...well as the saying goes... birds of a feather stick together! A group of Beautiful girls won't adopt someone ugly. Look at the other groups next time! Do you see any groups with a conspicuous ugly sticking out? Or are the groups more homogeneous!
Sweet girl, I think you are under an illusion caused by your own personal insecurity, and there are 2 strong reasons- Men NEVER EVER date someone they find ugly (unless they're getting some other compensation like money or access to perks they otherwise couldn't achieve) And a group of beautiful girls don't accept an ugly friend.
You have what it takes, don't let insecurity erode your personality and other blessings from God 💜
If that's you in your pfp then you're not ugly at all c:
If you have a boyfriend you’re not ugly girl 😭
you have a boyfriend chill
I get you and I think you're pretty with or without makeup and you just to be healthy even if you're fat, skinny or whatever and the message you gave was really good!!!
0:20 your smile is literally so adorable !! ❤
Thank you for uploading this 🫶 i can relate to you except the glow up. I haven’t yet glow up 😢
Please do a tutorial for your make up next, if you’re ok 🥺
Of course!! That's why I created this channel😊Is to share everything on how to glow up!
So confused how anyone could call you ugly 😭😭😭 you are genuinely so beautiful with and without makeup! I love your unique features.
I can't control my emotion I feel so heart i don't know why it's not even that I ever knew your existence before but I felt like somone is telling my story to me it's so painful to me I still regret every second of my existence in school time not just in school but everywhere I go everyone that saw me now it feels even worse to me whenever I look back i feel so wronged by society and it's standards i sometimes cry but today I'm happy for you that you are now living the best life ❤
I was not pretty growing up, but in my circumstance, I believe it was a good thing because at the school I was going to, the pretty girls were being taken advantage of by disgusting and perverted teachers and youth pastors. Since I was ugly, they weren't interested in me. Also, boys didn't want to date me, and I felt sad about that, but looking at it now, I'm glad that I didn't get involved in dating as a teen because it was a lot more fun to discover what I liked and hang out with my friends. I was too immature to date and get into "risky" and uncomfortable situations. Yixin, you are gorgeous. Thank you for the lovely video.
I am deeply sorry this was your experience, I have a lot of empathy for you because I was the exact same way growing up, always seen as the outcast and the ugly one. I look at those photos of you from high school and you are seriously so cute, I don't know what kind of a monster could ever call you ugly. But I have heard horror stories about bullying in Asia, I'm so sorry you experienced that.
You have a gentle softness to your personality and words, I hope you can find the confidence to be yourself, because it seems to me like the person you have always been is gorgeous and unique 💕
Oh hunny😭😭your smile is so cute😭😭
I saw your reel on IG where you talked about your smile how you used to be insecure about it and smiled weirdly but now you don't... That truly hit me sooo deep I could never relate as hard as that and I did start to notice my insecurities and how badly they affected my look so I began to slowly accept and embrace each one of them :)
Your voice is so cute and prettyyyy!
I can't believe people called you ugly. you are so pretty and I love your hair
you're really pretty!!
❤❤❤❤❤i wish you success in whatever you do Amen. I am here from IG.🎉
So sad you had to go through that😫😪💔i think you were beautiful then, and also now❤️they destroyed you’re self-confidence😓😪🥺friends should support each other!!! But that one friend that said you were pretty🙌🏻🫶🏻🥰And just have to say, you were very good at Cosplay🙌🏻🫶🏻🥹😍🤩
This video was something I really needed right now and Im so happy that i found your channel. Btw your so pretty! ❤
Just found your channel.. obviously UA-cam recommendations ... Girl let me tell you one thing .. I am extremely proud of you 💓.. kudos to you brave girl and obviously beautiful 🤩❤️
i followed you, you a truly inspiring ESPECIALLY as a an asian girly that’s chinese i feel u the beauty standards are so toxic and unrealistic
I feel all of this.
I’m 37yrs and still feel these painful feelings. I never had a “glow up” and as an tomboy still teaching myself makeup.
I'm almost in my 30's and I never got into makeup.
I still don't know how to do it and I wish I knew how so I can look prettier.
But I've never been a girly girl. At least makeup wise.
@@specialtwice4975 Exactly! 👌🏽
You’ve always been beautiful, I’m so sorry they’re haters
i relate to this wayy too much. i always felt like the “ugly” friend, was teased for being a little weird and unpopular and was really shy throughout school. only towards the end of high school did i finally figure out how to properly do my hair and makeup, and now i’m in uni i look like a different person. i’m treated way differently now too, guys hit on me (which has never happened before and makes me feel totally weird), and people generally just accept me without me having to do much. pretty privilege is definitely real. what sucks now is that i feel like an imposter, like i’m just pretending to be someone else, cuz i hide all my nerdy hobbies that i developed in my “ugly phase” and now i feel like i can’t be honest about them anymore around the people that i’m with because they don’t really understand me. i know this is such a first world problem lmao but its been bugging me a lot lately and i’ve never told this to anyone. forgive the ranting lol
Istg fr rr those checks looks so adorable!
Be confident and accept the way you are
Your smile is perfect 😃
You are absolutely beautiful in those pictures AND now. Im sorry that people made you feel this way
I’m so sorry about the amount of mistreatment you have had it was so uncalled for and you didn’t deserve any of it I’m glad you seem to be doing better.
I am also going through something similar, I’m always known as ugly whether it’s family or friends they always make indirect comments about my appearance.
If you can do you think you’re able to make a tutorial on how to look better I love your aesthetic and overall looks so if you’re comfortable with doing that I’d appreciate it so much!!
girl, it felt like you were re-telling my childhood with the short lashes, chubby face, awkward teeth, having to dress less girly, and getting tricked into thinking your crush liked you back thing. The only thing is that I'm honestly still struggling to become "pretty", or at least grow my self confidence
It's crazy how people treat others who they believe are pretty, people are so hypocritical and even though they consider you a friend they'll still end up treating you different because you're "ugly. That's what people have normalized, you can't look at anything without seeing society's standards seeping in. It's so common that even children are being exposed to it and at a young age start worrying about their appearance thinking something is wrong with them. Sometimes we don't even recognize that we treat people that we find conventionally attractive and unattractive differently
Aweeee. I’m so sorry that happened to you during your most vulnerable times of youth. Everyone goes through an “ugly” phase in life. Luckily I grew out of mine in HS, so I got to enjoy a part of my youth, but I’ve peeked since then, so now I’m trying to re-find myself again😅 I realized my error was that I still let those around me control my thoughts and behavior. Not everyone who’s “nice” to you, is actually keeping your best interest in mind. I’m no longer “friends” with a lot of people who I would have called “My closest friends” at that time. I’m now almost 30, YIKES, lol. Not this yr though, wooh😅 in 1 more🙃 hehe. I’m not sure how old you are but my best words of wisdom to you is; “When your young, it seems as if all views, opinions, and glances of the world is the MOST sacred thing that must be approved in your life, but as you get older (a.k.a me now) you soon learn that the only thing that should be taken for high approval is what YOU want most for your own self. Not for the world, but for YOU❤”. Something I’m teaching myself still everyday. It’s hard to not want to fit into society. To be the “pretty, popular, attractive” one, but LITERALLY looks is only temporary. Heart and status is life. So sh*t on them with your kindness n success😎 Also, no one is ever really “ugly”. It’s the people around them who is.
You are not ugly ! And you are no misformed to which ppl look away from. You are attractive 😍 People were jealous. My husband went through this. So much cruelty in Japanese culture. I know boys can be, girls too... I just ignore and must know your own self worth !!! ❤ I decided to sub because your attitude is perfect. 💯
YOURE SO CUTE LIKE A SOFT BUNNY OMG
I relate myself to u so much. I am a brown south Asian girl I was also terribly bullied entire school life for my skin tone. And I also got into makeup just like you through cosplay. ❤
I love your voice ❤
Girl you’re gorgeous
you look so much like J from stayc, girl you were pretty even before and just have confidence now!!
the crush thing is so relatable. people were so mean.
Girl, what, you are so pretty and you've been pretty.
I’d Love to see you make a video of you going out without makeup or confidently making those short skits without makeup. There’s something empowering about that idea!
You should do makeup tutorials! And btw you look so beautiful 💗