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Unscripted E35: Reflecting On How We Handle Conflict In Our Marriage
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- Опубліковано 17 сер 2024
- In this heartfelt episode, we discuss our journey of navigating the complexities of our relationship from engagement to marriage. We share personal anecdotes and challenges, highlighting the importance of communication, patience, and understanding. Through reflective storytelling, we reveal how we manage conflicts, the role of mentors, and the significance of creating a safe emotional space within a marriage. Tune in to learn valuable lessons on maintaining a healthy relationship and growing together through life's ups and downs.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Our first big incident before marriage
06:45 How I justified my inability to deal with uncomfortable situations - RK
08:45 I had seen the pattern - a red flag in how my wife handled disagreements - FK
11:56 My conviction for our marriage made me stay when I could have walked away - FK
14:50 I went into marriage more conscious of the cross than the joys of it. - FK
19:43 The way we handle conflict makes us drift apart.
23:40 Why I stayed when I could have reconsidered marriage - FK
26:17 Our conflicts in marriage brought me to the consciousness of men & women - FK
33:07 Our fights led me to prayer for God to help me change - RK
32:25 I learnt not to comment about everything that was going wrong - FK
37:32 Separate your partner from their weakness
40:51 Learn to let go and extend grace
46:41 Pay attention to what the devil or the spirit whispers to you in the moment of offence
49:48 It helps to separate your partner from the incidents that cause conflicts
1:01:17 Understanding women's emotions
1:03:36 The two dimensions of emotions
1:10:02 How differences cause conflict
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CONNECT WITH US:
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Felix Kitaka- / themutambuze
Rukh-Shana Kitaka - / rukhshana
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ABOUT US:
Rukh-Shana Kitaka has excelled in two careers: as a corporate communications specialist and a celebrated media personality. She received numerous awards as a prime-time news anchor, including the "Best Female TV News Anchor Award."
Felix Kitaka is a self-taught software engineer who dropped out of university in 2009 at nineteen, determined to show the world that one could succeed without a university degree. In 2021, he was hired as a Senior Software Engineer for a San Francisco-based tech company, proving that there are alternative paths to success.
Married in 2021, we now share insights on our podcast 'The Kitakas' and in our book 'The Woman’s Bait.' Based on Christian values, our content seeks to inspire hope in healthy, thriving, purpose-driven marriages.
Banange those preparing for marriage you need not miss this segment. Mrs & Mrs Kitaka thanks for putting things into perspective. Much appreciated 🙏🙏
Thanks for watching 🙏. We are always blessed to share from our experience and journey. -RK
Honesty on both ends is extremely commendable. Also praiseworthy is the fact that Mr. Kitaka fears the Lord so much so that he always enquires from Him of every situation he encounters. One thing I have come to learn is that life is spiritual and ought to be dealt with that way. Your podcast is such a blessing and even though I am not married yet, I know the Lord impressed on me such a strong conviction to listen in to all your episodes. Truly, my pride and culturally celebrated norms of a feminist woman are being destroyed. Am I ever so thankful that you decided to share these insights! Thank you the Kitakas😊
The podcast ended while I was still enjoying. You didn't prepare my mind for the ending. Anyways, thanks for sharing your struggles. Ministry is not a church, God has called you to help marriages. Actually, I now believe that you are not married for your own sake, but for the Kingdom of God. From today, I'll call your marriage kingdom marriage
Protecting your wife's image in your mind..WOW!That's deep
Conflict resolution in marriage is very fundamental. Many have failed because of issues that would rather have been resolved if handled well or appropriately... Extending Grace and Kindness come along way to making lasting relationships and marriage. Thank you The Kitakas...
Thank you Kitakas for sharing your life with us;As a married young person this is like downloading wisdom. Thank you and also for being this raw coz how can we learn unless we are given real life situations. Thank you
I love how real this talk is....
My father always say be patient with people when they are on their journey
Your father is a wise man! It takes a lot to be patient and gracious with others. -RK
So deep!
So raw!!!
Damn, I love this conversation!!!❤
Thanks for opening up your life fails and achievements to us all the time, continue staying strong, compassionate ,respectful and loving all the time. God above all. The blessed @The Kitakaz.
Thank you for the podcast
It's always exciting to camp here. So much wisdom and knowledge of the Word of God.
Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. God Bless you 🙏
Thanks for watching!-RK
Thank you for sharing.
The authenticity in this conversation is top notch.
🙏 thank you too for joining us! -RK
Separating the person from the conflict or their weakness is really difficult. I pray for more grace in this area. Regards
His Grace is sufficient for you! It starts with yourself. Are you able to separate/ see yourself separate from your weakness or do you think it’s one with you? -RK
@thekitakas I actually see them as one with me. This is definitely a good start.
How do you reconcile seeing your weakness as one with you in light of who God says you are 🤔? -RK
@thekitakas I would call it a journey to deliverance. Like all other things we struggle with when the Holy spirit reveals them, eventually the time of deliverance comes. Awareness is the first step to victory.
Deep and authentic conversation. May God continue to use you to minister to many.
every husband needs the patience and calmness of Mr kitaka to be able to handle and manage the changing and unpredictable needs of a woman, wow Mrs Rukhshana u are blessed, don't take it for granted.
True story! -RK
I would like to say also that Mr.Kitaka is equally blessed to have woman like Mrs.Rukhshana
Mwami Kitaka and I both agree 😃.
This is Deep, Thank you 🙏.
Thanks for plugging in. -RK
It's Shan's deep breath for me😁.
But thank you Mr&Mrs Kitaka for always opening up. I'm learning.
I've been like Shan before in my relationship but God has worked on me
Thanks for sharing...am learning alot...Your marriage is a big blessing
Glad to hear that and glory to God! -RK
Indeed you were destined to be together.God ,bless your chn in their marriage journey. Lots of lessons.
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Amen 🙏! -RK
Cant wait to dive into the word❤
Seeing Ruk Shana the celebrity speaking from the point of her weakness
Damn,it's so authentic and real.
Am sure it touches many souls.
Hope u had stayed anchoring the news on weekend.
The ka English 😅😅
Thank you so much for sharing with us
You are welcome🙏. -RK
God am glad to be here again.
Bless you. You are consistent! -RK
There's safety in the way of God. "Because u dnt want them to feel unloved" woow, now this is true love. Thanks Rk thanks Fk for all ministering to our souls mukama akibabaliremu okuba omukisa gyemuli🙏
Amiina! -RK
Thank you. I needed to be reminded of so many things
You are so welcome 🙏. -RK
These episodes are transforming lives . . . keep on walking #TheKitakas #Mutambuze
True, they are preparing me for marriage 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Wow very inspiring very encouraging
Thanks to God that He created us differently.
I imagine if we were all the same.
I love the reality in what you say.
May God continue to use you.
🙏 Amen! -RK
Naye mwe these people are deep.
Okitegela????I am not even married but the things they have taught me🫡We are lucky ya'll got married❤❤
Naye mwaami Kitaka is soo wise....
My first podcast to watch but I feel like "calmness" also rubs on others. Not sure whether Ruhk has always sounded this calm.
Nope, I did not always sound like this. -RK
I always look forward to listening to your episodes, as a single lady I am learning a lot. Thank you for this.
So glad to be a part of your journey of learning. -RK
For sure lack of self control can break up marriage, holy spirit help us
48:10 What a podcast worth watching!!
So impactfull
We bless the lord for your marriage , your helping many couples out there ,
My self I went through some incidences ,am grateful to God that our marriage is good now
Thanks for sharing🙌
It’s always a pleasure and thank you for the giving of your time to watch. We hope you are as blessed as we are! -RK
Woooo....
Thank you sharing this blessed me may God perfect that which concerns you Psalms 138:8
Amen and thank you! -RK
maizing podcast
Thank you 🙏! -RK
This story it's same to mine ehhhh God have mercy on me
Ohhhhh wowest.
1. Self-control self-control self-control. Let's train our children to be self-controlled from an early age. Otherwise emotional stagnation/ immaturity follows us into our adult lives & it can be very costly.
2. Reaction vs response, so help me God.
The wounded.pride in.me.too
Gal God help
Someone who.just walks away is just profound..a pattern that i need to work on as well..felex...u need.to help.me.here..
This is amazing. need more of these. Mrs Kitaka. How do i reach you for a mentorship session
Hi Margaret, please DM me through X @rukhshana and we can take it on from there.
I completely understand were Rukh-shana is coming from as alpha female it takes a great guy with character to let your guard down and walk in your feminity. The kind who is consistent with their love inspite of , is my prayer. Shana we need more practical things you have done to change into your now but love changes us ladies truely
Thank you for sharing your experiences with us i feel this was timely for me. I will forever be grateful to God for Kitakas.
We bless the Lord for He is always just on/in time. -RK
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Bambi sounds like Mr Kitaka endured quite a bit
People let us subscribe to these people ❤
Marriage is lovely and it will humble you😅
There is safety in the way of God
Indeed we can surely do all things through Christ Who gives us strength. -RK
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💜❤️💚🤎💛💙
Thank you sharing this blessed me may God perfect that which concerns you Psalms 138:8
🙏 Amen & You are so welcome! -RK