I was very shocked at my families reaction that I chose childlessness. They were teasing me with the usual, "Oh, yes you do, you just don't know it yet" and "You will change your mind" and "When you find the right woman, you will want one", type of encouragements. This continued for a few years till my mid-twenties. When I told them I had a vasectomy, it was like a bomb exploded. The room went completely silent. My twin brother got all choked up. My parents shed some tears. I learned how ingrained society was that everybody has children, everybody wants children and everybody should have children. They were devastated. Thirty years later, I've never once regretted it.
Anjelah’s response to the first question is morally and psychologically nuanced. It’s really good advice, workable advice to people that’s more likely to smooth the relationship between family members.
I’ve followed you for years!!! I adore your sense of humor! Excited for your recent baby news and praying for healthy happy pregnancy and baby. It’s the most challenging job you will ever LOVE!❤
I'm so tired of everyone think married couples have to have children. I'm 58 and never wanted children. My life is perfectly fine without them and I have yet to regret it. I love my life with just my husband and myself and we have a fuzzy baby too.
I’m old (67) and always,always wanted grandchildren,like really…. However both of our childrens lives haven’t gone in that direction.(They are both in their mid forties). I grieve the idea I didn’t get to experience being a grandparent. That said it is their live to choose what they want,not mine. You have to live your life your way.
I’m going through this now. I’ve always wanted to be a mom and now a grandma. My son has mentioned having kids and I don’t push but he does watch me melt over my nieces and nephews babies. ❤
I seriously hope you consider having a child but I also respect your choice not too. I always said I didn't want kids and then we got pregnant when I was 40 (thank you COVID) and we had our beautiful son. Being a mother is better then I ever could have imagined. It's harder and also the most beautiful thing I've ever done. I'm currently pregnant with our second son at age 42. I HATE being pregnant but I know this time the reward at the end of the tunnel is better than anything.
I like the way you examine these questions on both sides. I sense that you answer each one with caution and from experiences. Thank you for your honesty .
You two are rock stars keeping a good relationship is hard but doing it being as busy as you both are is amazing to me. We have other challenges such as health and financial crisis up and downs over 15 yrs but we always have love! We are a lesbian couple with 5 puppy children 4 kitty children and an adopted special needs kid. But your advice still applies to us. Thank you. You inspire me to work harder when giving up would be so much easier
I’ve learned red flags like for example when he was yawning every time Angela speaks her part. I’d been like ok clingy haterima keep it professional and keep it moving. Angela is not dumb and we are all learning I want people to be genuine and happy. What ever it takes starting with compassion for yourself and then compassion for others sometimes from a distance so they can go deeper. Life is short just my opinion my 29 cents. Love you Angela you smart take care! 😃 from Venice beach✨
Just putting it put there…you guys will have some gorgeous children. But, definitely do what makes you happy, peaceful and good for you alone. Awesome convo about toxic men. So much truth.
On kids. So, I'm in my 60s and with 6 older siblings realized long ago I don't want kids. To actually be a parent vs breeder (just making a kid is easy), is a big responsibility and takes dedication of your life. I've met a few along the way that wanted kids. Do not misunderstand me, I love kids. I just know that I don't want any of my own. So, I rent.
My son and daughter in law have been married 5 years and I have never asked them about kids. It’s their decision and none of my business. Would I love grandkids, but they may have reasons they don’t want to share. I love them for them and not what they can give me! It’s not about me!
Not sure about that…. I mean some people can be acting one way when you first meet them “the representative” and it’s not until you get to know that person that you realize the toxicity within. Engaging is something required in order to get passed the “representative” and know the real person and get passed the BS. Now once you get to know someone then you can determine weather or not they are toxic. Honestly I would say get to know them first as friends get passed the BS and determine weather or not you want them in your life. Just a though from my personal past experiences from a long time ago. (Married for 15 years now).
I think the concern can also be if a couple can’t have children. If I’m really close to someone I don’t have an issue asking if they are thinking of having children. Otherwise none of my business.
Struggling w mil that asked every time I saw her. I finally said, “A baby is made in a few seconds, and it’s a LIFE LONG commitment …” She hasn’t asked since then
It sucks but so many people think it's there business to know if and when your having kids, and it's really not. So many people are trying and feeling like failures and being asked all the time is hard and they may not be ready to open up about the struggles they are having. I have no problem now telling people straight up I'm infertile haha but wasn't always.
There are far fewer "toxic people" than there are "toxic relationships". If you are attracting "toxic people", be sure that it isn't that you are contributing to making the relationship toxic with a person who might not be toxic with someone else.
I haven't had many relationships but I believe some people see toxicity when someone is being real wich I am. Soo I would hate someone that is constantly turning a blind eye to reality just to smile and seem happy all the time. Theirs a time for everything meaning sad happiness etc.
Vocation. (: Jesus was single and childless, but He had many spiritual children (disciples). Apostle Paul was the spiritual father to Timothy. Elijah to Elisha. Etc. Also Mother Dimble from C.S. Lewis' _That Hideous Strength_ comes to mind. Infertile, but a surrogate mother to many. Many Christians are called to physically reproduce ("be fruitful and multiply"), but all Christians are called to reproduce kingdomwise ("go and make disciples of all nations"). Adoption is also a beautiful way to show the world the reality of what God the Father did for us Christians, His lost sheep.
I'm just saying, y'all would make gorgeous babies and look at it this way your legacy will be living on little mini y'all's would be so awesome, you would both make excellent spectacularly great parents getting a trial run with the child puppy there that love you have for bonzo it'll be a thousand more that's what I'm saying so I'm saying I'm just saying just keep stinky about it , and if you think about it it's all about the legacy of y'all your lineage keeps going you leave a little piece of you here on this Earth to live on cuz both of y'all are too beautiful humans that need to leave your seed here think about it that way you're not old you're so young my goodness I know people who have had children at 60 and they just fine it's what you think in your mind we're stronger than we know human body is amazing
I was very shocked at my families reaction that I chose childlessness. They were teasing me with the usual, "Oh, yes you do, you just don't know it yet" and "You will change your mind" and "When you find the right woman, you will want one", type of encouragements. This continued for a few years till my mid-twenties. When I told them I had a vasectomy, it was like a bomb exploded. The room went completely silent. My twin brother got all choked up. My parents shed some tears. I learned how ingrained society was that everybody has children, everybody wants children and everybody should have children. They were devastated. Thirty years later, I've never once regretted it.
What a great guy, "I'm just along for the ride". Leaves her decision's over her body up to her, no questioning her, or powering over her. 😁
Anjelah’s response to the first question is morally and psychologically nuanced. It’s really good advice, workable advice to people that’s more likely to smooth the relationship between family members.
I’ve followed you for years!!! I adore your sense of humor! Excited for your recent baby news and praying for healthy happy pregnancy and baby. It’s the most challenging job you will ever LOVE!❤
I'm so tired of everyone think married couples have to have children. I'm 58 and never wanted children. My life is perfectly fine without them and I have yet to regret it. I love my life with just my husband and myself and we have a fuzzy baby too.
I’m old (67) and always,always wanted grandchildren,like really…. However both of our childrens lives haven’t gone in that direction.(They are both in their mid forties). I grieve the idea I didn’t get to experience being a grandparent. That said it is their live to choose what they want,not mine. You have to live your life your way.
I’m going through this now. I’ve always wanted to be a mom and now a grandma. My son has mentioned having kids and I don’t push but he does watch me melt over my nieces and nephews babies. ❤
I seriously hope you consider having a child but I also respect your choice not too. I always said I didn't want kids and then we got pregnant when I was 40 (thank you COVID) and we had our beautiful son. Being a mother is better then I ever could have imagined. It's harder and also the most beautiful thing I've ever done. I'm currently pregnant with our second son at age 42. I HATE being pregnant but I know this time the reward at the end of the tunnel is better than anything.
I like the way you examine these questions on both sides. I sense that you answer each one with caution and from experiences. Thank you for your honesty .
You both are seriously for real wise and kind. Rock on!
Thank you both! I’m 83 and still learning. ❤❤
You are so kind and loving Angela . Keeping it real 💯
You two are rock stars keeping a good relationship is hard but doing it being as busy as you both are is amazing to me. We have other challenges such as health and financial crisis up and downs over 15 yrs but we always have love! We are a lesbian couple with 5 puppy children 4 kitty children and an adopted special needs kid. But your advice still applies to us. Thank you. You inspire me to work harder when giving up would be so much easier
Angela , you are so hilarious! And your man is fine! I just love you two.You do what you want!
I’ve learned red flags like for example when he was yawning every time Angela speaks her part. I’d been like ok clingy haterima keep it professional and keep it moving. Angela is not dumb and we are all learning I want people to be genuine and happy. What ever it takes starting with compassion for yourself and then compassion for others sometimes from a distance so they can go deeper. Life is short just my opinion my 29 cents. Love you Angela you smart take care! 😃 from Venice beach✨
I can totally relate to the “last call” bullhorn! This happened to me when I had an 8 and 10 y.o. 😄. We had to take inventory if we wanted more…
Pray about it. I wish we had kids and now we can’t.
Compassion.💕
Excited to hear you are considering family❣️ You two would be ahhhmazzing parents and the jokes that would come from the change 🤯😜
I'm just thinking how awesome of a human the pair of you would would create.. Could you imagine?
You’re lives would change soooo much! You have no idea how much it would change.
So glad I found you guys
You would still have options - lot of adoptables out there. You seem like such a loving couple
This helps me out saying a couple of different things when ....people/friends ask When Are you and your husband having kids.
It’s ok to not want kids, and it’s also ok to change your mind.
Just putting it put there…you guys will have some gorgeous children. But, definitely do what makes you happy, peaceful and good for you alone.
Awesome convo about toxic men. So much truth.
It would be cool to see one of your stand-up comedy shows Angela! Hopefully soon
highly recommend. it's so much fun!
As I’m watching this..they’re PREGNANT!
I'll sum it up like this people have the right to have kids nor not have kids it's their decision and nobody else's.
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I tell my nephew and his wife that if they don't want children not to have them. Never let pressure be the reason to have kids
On kids. So, I'm in my 60s and with 6 older siblings realized long ago I don't want kids. To actually be a parent vs breeder (just making a kid is easy), is a big responsibility and takes dedication of your life. I've met a few along the way that wanted kids.
Do not misunderstand me, I love kids. I just know that I don't want any of my own. So, I rent.
My son and daughter in law have been married 5 years and I have never asked them about kids. It’s their decision and none of my business. Would I love grandkids, but they may have reasons they don’t want to share. I love them for them and not what they can give me! It’s not about me!
My 33 year old daughter has decided to have only one child. We are blessed 😇 to have our 5 year old grandson..
Not sure about that…. I mean some people can be acting one way when you first meet them “the representative” and it’s not until you get to know that person that you realize the toxicity within. Engaging is something required in order to get passed the “representative” and know the real person and get passed the BS. Now once you get to know someone then you can determine weather or not they are toxic. Honestly I would say get to know them first as friends get passed the BS and determine weather or not you want them in your life. Just a though from my personal past experiences from a long time ago. (Married for 15 years now).
I think the concern can also be if a couple can’t have children. If I’m really close to someone I don’t have an issue asking if they are thinking of having children. Otherwise none of my business.
And now you’re pregnant 🎉🙏🏽
❤️❤️❤️
If you want grandchildren have lots of children. That way you increase your odds.
Blunt but true
Great response
Struggling w mil that asked every time I saw her. I finally said, “A baby is made in a few seconds, and it’s a LIFE LONG commitment …” She hasn’t asked since then
@@marjtab1530 Too right! LOL
It sucks but so many people think it's there business to know if and when your having kids, and it's really not. So many people are trying and feeling like failures and being asked all the time is hard and they may not be ready to open up about the struggles they are having. I have no problem now telling people straight up I'm infertile haha but wasn't always.
I love you guys!!!!
Only have children if you want. It is your life
There are far fewer "toxic people" than there are "toxic relationships". If you are attracting "toxic people", be sure that it isn't that you are contributing to making the relationship toxic with a person who might not be toxic with someone else.
So funny y'all talkin about maybe being pregnant and now you're pregnant!!! I'm super curious how you decided to catch the ship before it left.
If you see the toxicity coming, run the other way!
it`s kinda hard to have children when you take a morning after pill like eating breakfast
I haven't had many relationships but I believe some people see toxicity when someone is being real wich I am. Soo I would hate someone that is constantly turning a blind eye to reality just to smile and seem happy all the time. Theirs a time for everything meaning sad happiness etc.
Vocation. (:
Jesus was single and childless, but He had many spiritual children (disciples).
Apostle Paul was the spiritual father to Timothy. Elijah to Elisha. Etc.
Also Mother Dimble from C.S. Lewis' _That Hideous Strength_ comes to mind. Infertile, but a surrogate mother to many.
Many Christians are called to physically reproduce ("be fruitful and multiply"), but all Christians are called to reproduce kingdomwise ("go and make disciples of all nations").
Adoption is also a beautiful way to show the world the reality of what God the Father did for us Christians, His lost sheep.
Are You Chure?? 😂😂
Your life your body your marriage is from for and to God.
I'm just saying, y'all would make gorgeous babies and look at it this way your legacy will be living on little mini y'all's would be so awesome, you would both make excellent spectacularly great parents getting a trial run with the child puppy there that love you have for bonzo it'll be a thousand more that's what I'm saying so I'm saying I'm just saying just keep stinky about it , and if you think about it it's all about the legacy of y'all your lineage keeps going you leave a little piece of you here on this Earth to live on cuz both of y'all are too beautiful humans that need to leave your seed here think about it that way you're not old you're so young my goodness I know people who have had children at 60 and they just fine it's what you think in your mind we're stronger than we know human body is amazing
Have a kid.
Do you care what the Bible says?
What’s wrong with you people?
You’re being selfish in an evil way.
How can you call yourselves Christians and not want kids?