The Orange Peel Theory started because of an image slideshow on TikTok that showed screenshots of two exes’ text exchange after a breakup. She struggled to peel oranges so he used to peel them for her, which she mentions she misses. Later on she learned to do it herself. It went a little viral because of the progression of the conversation that kinda showed how both sides were moving on and growing post-breakup
Orange peel theory is simply a trend for these ladies to flex how much they are loved, without sharing the bad bits. It's just like an iceberg , where you only see what is shown. Weird trend imo Acts of service is definitely a love language, but there are multiple types of love language and how one expresses it. Good that ppl are breaking up over that, imagine having a partner who detest you just because your love language is oriented to acts of service and not meta
Well said. These ladies are flexing their relationships like it's a status - that's really really toxic IMO. Love is so delicate, it needs to be treasured and not treated like a possession.
I'm not an expert on this topic, as I have no intention on getting a partner. I once thought that getting a girlfriend/wife for me meant that I would have to spend the rest of my life pampering her, what more our kids; so that single thought instantly drove me away from the likelihood of even getting into a relationship. Obviously that ain't true, which is why I find it surprising to see couples out there seemingly abusing this "Orange peel" theory. While I would agree that doing simple favors for your partners is a good way to show love for your partner, often pampering them may severely harm your relationship instead. Over time, partners who have been pampered will likely become entitled and hold high expectations of your treatment towards them, demanding more and more acts of kindness. A sincere partner who considers the other's wellbeing would never have to always turn to them to satisfy their desires and a person who sees his/her partner as nothing more than a servant or slave to do just that is extremely toxic. The same can be said for parenting; treating your kids to what they want is a common method used to build trust and bondage between each other, but that doesn't mean just spoiling them throughout their childhoods. A kid who understands this would also relate this to many other things in life. Seeing as to how the example shown in the video shows how calculative the person is towards her partner's acts of service and even complains about it, I'm not so convinced that she is being sincere towards her partner either. Me expecting my girlfriend to always do something for me in return is no better than deliberately dumping her right before my National Service out of fear that she would do the same while I'm in camp. But who am I to say all this when this comment was created by a 17 year old single person who clearly does NOT want a partner for life. My chances of having an anime waifu are much higher than getting a real-life girlfriend, (Gosh, that makes me sound like a lonely, yet antisocial lunatic doesn't it?) so y'all stay healthy and have a good life!
No, I don't think that's fair. yes, it's nice when people do random considerate things too. A big pet peeve of men though, it a lot of times women expect men to just know. "If you loved me, I wouldn't have to ask". That's not fair. it's ok to ask for little or big things and then the person willingly does them. Used to do things my spouse could do. Maybe his hands were dirty from other work, or his boots were on, so I'd fetch whatever he needed in the house to finish the yard work or snow removal. Or getting him something because the cat was lying on him. I used to ask him to cut my grilled cheese crossways, so it's in 4 triangle pieces. It's how mom did it and it's just a comfort food type thing. After awhile, he'd point out that he did it that way, or I'd thank him extra that he remembered and did it for me. You have to be willing to ask though.
About the girl that tried the theory. sometimes no matter how much you think that somebody isn't good for you just because you love them you give into the good side of them and you try to forget about all the things that they arnt doing, so sometimes you need a third-party point of view to then come to the conclusion that you knew all along that you shouldn't really be with that person. So this seems like that situation where she knew but she just needed a last confirmation that she should leave him, and this isn't about TikTok, this isn't about finding out something on the Internet that might or might not work. It's just one tiny thing that led her to realisation of what she was trying not to see all along.
I have 2 examples to share. Years ago, I had a boyfriend, total Chad, that I did everything for. Cooked, helped financially, drove an hour to be with him. Whatever it took. Then I tested him. I had a good job and so did he. But I noticed that I was the one doing more. So one day, I told him that my electricity bill didn't go through and my lights were off. I needed $125 to pay the bill and I'd pay him back on Monday. He had more than enough, and he knew I was good for it. And he told me NO. Scolded me for now being responsible and said I still could stay in the apartment, because it wasn't "that cold outside". I asked if I could crash with him. He said no. He didn't have plans. He wanted us to hang out and then for me to return to my dark apartment. We finished our pizza and I gave him time to change his mind. I paid for the food. And then he said "I thought you didn't have money." I told him that I did. I lied and now I know that he really didn't care about me and it was over. He got mad because I "was playing games" and I said "yes, a game you lost". No Orange Peel. Now, months ago. I'm working a lot and paying all my bills and saving to take tech courses online. Work, stress, sleep, work. Daily. New bf, says ...out of the clear blue sky. I want to help you. I will pay your rent while you're in school. You don't have to work. Just go after your goal 100% focused. I will support you. Work, don't work do whatever you want. Just let me help. He peeled my orange.
You might want to watch: The orange peel test that got everyone talking. It gives examples of ones that went real well, and real bad. Plus insightful commentary from a psychologist and other people. Then there was people who didn't agree w/ it and why. Was well balanced and explains it real well.
idek why girls like to test their boyfriends… if he loves you he will show it in his own way. plus you’re a grown adult, go and tie your hair yourself. never expected my man to tie my hair for me the past 7 years._.
Wait what? The daughter is around 1 year old and they are in relationship for 7 months? So meaning the guy end the last relationship like 4-6months after the ex wife gave birth? That’s wild.
Sorry but I’m kinda confused with this 7-month r/s girl, but didn’t the theory have to do with partners performing small acts of service without having to ask for it. Like, her experiment involved asking her partner in every instance. That doesn’t really add up here
The orange peel theory IMO isn’t a theory, it’s a phenomenon.what we see here is actions done by 2 ppl who are really close with one another to the point they’d pay attention to everything you say and take it into consideration.If you see it as a theory, and use it with the expectation of your partner doing exactly what you want them to do it’s not healthy or fair to your significant other. However the girl who commented that she was In. A bad relationship with her bf was kind of valid, bc he didn’t even try to understand her when she voiced out her confusion and his attention goes to his daughter ( who mind you wasn’t even the woman;s biological daughter she has no responsibility to take care of her.) and gets his mom involved in gaslighting her so yea the sharer defjinely did dodged a bullet
Partner 1: Planning finances for a future together, searching up date ideas, making time to spend on the weekends and weekdays. Partner 2: I'm breaking up with you. Partner 1: Why? Partner 2: You didn't peel that orange for me. See the absurdity? There is so much that goes into a relationship. Ending a treasured r/s based off the words of Internet attention whores with the emotional maturity of a 16yo is a joke on so many levels. Please people, life is a lot harder and complicated than peeling damn oranges, and we shouldn't expect any less from it.
tbh there's so much that makes up of a relationship between two person and she probably did not write every single thing that made her unhappy lols and idgi if you are in any type of relationship be it friends or couples, you should be aware of how people show care and love and if you don't feel loved then just end the relationship and move on
now that I think about it, the orange peel theory only really works for boyfriends that don't do much for their girlfriends. but also if ur man isn't doing much for u wouldn't u realise it??
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In Asia, we have the Prawn Peel Theory
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In Louisiana we have the crawfish peel 😏
The Orange Peel Theory started because of an image slideshow on TikTok that showed screenshots of two exes’ text exchange after a breakup. She struggled to peel oranges so he used to peel them for her, which she mentions she misses. Later on she learned to do it herself. It went a little viral because of the progression of the conversation that kinda showed how both sides were moving on and growing post-breakup
Yeah that’s exactly what I saw dk where all these other stuff came about
That is why no one should follow the stupid social media trends. TIK TOK trends are curse
Orange peel theory is simply a trend for these ladies to flex how much they are loved, without sharing the bad bits. It's just like an iceberg , where you only see what is shown. Weird trend imo
Acts of service is definitely a love language, but there are multiple types of love language and how one expresses it.
Good that ppl are breaking up over that, imagine having a partner who detest you just because your love language is oriented to acts of service and not meta
Well said. These ladies are flexing their relationships like it's a status - that's really really toxic IMO. Love is so delicate, it needs to be treasured and not treated like a possession.
How sad is that we need social media to now tell us something that our grandparents already knew.
I'm not an expert on this topic, as I have no intention on getting a partner. I once thought that getting a girlfriend/wife for me meant that I would have to spend the rest of my life pampering her, what more our kids; so that single thought instantly drove me away from the likelihood of even getting into a relationship. Obviously that ain't true, which is why I find it surprising to see couples out there seemingly abusing this "Orange peel" theory. While I would agree that doing simple favors for your partners is a good way to show love for your partner, often pampering them may severely harm your relationship instead. Over time, partners who have been pampered will likely become entitled and hold high expectations of your treatment towards them, demanding more and more acts of kindness. A sincere partner who considers the other's wellbeing would never have to always turn to them to satisfy their desires and a person who sees his/her partner as nothing more than a servant or slave to do just that is extremely toxic.
The same can be said for parenting; treating your kids to what they want is a common method used to build trust and bondage between each other, but that doesn't mean just spoiling them throughout their childhoods. A kid who understands this would also relate this to many other things in life. Seeing as to how the example shown in the video shows how calculative the person is towards her partner's acts of service and even complains about it, I'm not so convinced that she is being sincere towards her partner either. Me expecting my girlfriend to always do something for me in return is no better than deliberately dumping her right before my National Service out of fear that she would do the same while I'm in camp. But who am I to say all this when this comment was created by a 17 year old single person who clearly does NOT want a partner for life. My chances of having an anime waifu are much higher than getting a real-life girlfriend, (Gosh, that makes me sound like a lonely, yet antisocial lunatic doesn't it?) so y'all stay healthy and have a good life!
well said
Every day yeolo posts is a good day
There’s a whole video essay on the fallibility of love languages. Also, it should be a thumb rule instead of a measurable concept.
Good point
Hey, if you happen to see this comment, would you mind telling what the name of the video essay was?
@@Nabekukka Alice Cappelle has a video on it
7:06 She answered her own question. Also, I was not expecting that plot twist.
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Orange Peel Theory: small actions done by your partner for you WITHOUT BEING ASKED. Did they all miss that part out?
No, I don't think that's fair. yes, it's nice when people do random considerate things too. A big pet peeve of men though, it a lot of times women expect men to just know. "If you loved me, I wouldn't have to ask". That's not fair. it's ok to ask for little or big things and then the person willingly does them. Used to do things my spouse could do. Maybe his hands were dirty from other work, or his boots were on, so I'd fetch whatever he needed in the house to finish the yard work or snow removal. Or getting him something because the cat was lying on him. I used to ask him to cut my grilled cheese crossways, so it's in 4 triangle pieces. It's how mom did it and it's just a comfort food type thing. After awhile, he'd point out that he did it that way, or I'd thank him extra that he remembered and did it for me. You have to be willing to ask though.
This theory is making me not peeling well
About the girl that tried the theory. sometimes no matter how much you think that somebody isn't good for you just because you love them you give into the good side of them and you try to forget about all the things that they arnt doing, so sometimes you need a third-party point of view to then come to the conclusion that you knew all along that you shouldn't really be with that person. So this seems like that situation where she knew but she just needed a last confirmation that she should leave him, and this isn't about TikTok, this isn't about finding out something on the Internet that might or might not work. It's just one tiny thing that led her to realisation of what she was trying not to see all along.
Yes, you are exactly right.
You were right when you said it’s applicable on a case by case basis.
Feel like everyone's brains have been melted. In a healthy relationship you are both doing sweet things for one another, oranges be damned.
I thought Orange Peel Theory was how thirsty on main chefs open orange peels and proceed to mistreat the oranges.
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I have 2 examples to share.
Years ago, I had a boyfriend, total Chad, that I did everything for. Cooked, helped financially, drove an hour to be with him. Whatever it took. Then I tested him. I had a good job and so did he. But I noticed that I was the one doing more. So one day, I told him that my electricity bill didn't go through and my lights were off. I needed $125 to pay the bill and I'd pay him back on Monday. He had more than enough, and he knew I was good for it. And he told me NO. Scolded me for now being responsible and said I still could stay in the apartment, because it wasn't "that cold outside". I asked if I could crash with him. He said no. He didn't have plans. He wanted us to hang out and then for me to return to my dark apartment. We finished our pizza and I gave him time to change his mind. I paid for the food. And then he said "I thought you didn't have money." I told him that I did. I lied and now I know that he really didn't care about me and it was over. He got mad because I "was playing games" and I said "yes, a game you lost". No Orange Peel.
Now, months ago. I'm working a lot and paying all my bills and saving to take tech courses online. Work, stress, sleep, work. Daily. New bf, says ...out of the clear blue sky. I want to help you. I will pay your rent while you're in school. You don't have to work. Just go after your goal 100% focused. I will support you. Work, don't work do whatever you want. Just let me help. He peeled my orange.
Me too. don't compare romantic relationships to orange peels. Just straight up weird.
You might want to watch: The orange peel test that got everyone talking. It gives examples of ones that went real well, and real bad. Plus insightful commentary from a psychologist and other people. Then there was people who didn't agree w/ it and why. Was well balanced and explains it real well.
idek why girls like to test their boyfriends… if he loves you he will show it in his own way. plus you’re a grown adult, go and tie your hair yourself. never expected my man to tie my hair for me the past 7 years._.
OMG so many theories!! hahaha
Yeolo can u wear a diff colour shirt when u hit 100k 😂🎉
Wait what? The daughter is around 1 year old and they are in relationship for 7 months? So meaning the guy end the last relationship like 4-6months after the ex wife gave birth? That’s wild.
Sorry but I’m kinda confused with this 7-month r/s girl, but didn’t the theory have to do with partners performing small acts of service without having to ask for it. Like, her experiment involved asking her partner in every instance. That doesn’t really add up here
The orange peel theory IMO isn’t a theory, it’s a phenomenon.what we see here is actions done by 2 ppl who are really close with one another to the point they’d pay attention to everything you say and take it into consideration.If you see it as a theory, and use it with the expectation of your partner doing exactly what you want them to do it’s not healthy or fair to your significant other. However the girl who commented that she was In. A bad relationship with her bf was kind of valid, bc he didn’t even try to understand her when she voiced out her confusion and his attention goes to his daughter ( who mind you wasn’t even the woman;s biological daughter she has no responsibility to take care of her.) and gets his mom involved in gaslighting her so yea the sharer defjinely did dodged a bullet
Partner 1: Planning finances for a future together, searching up date ideas, making time to spend on the weekends and weekdays.
Partner 2: I'm breaking up with you.
Partner 1: Why?
Partner 2: You didn't peel that orange for me.
See the absurdity? There is so much that goes into a relationship. Ending a treasured r/s based off the words of Internet attention whores with the emotional maturity of a 16yo is a joke on so many levels.
Please people, life is a lot harder and complicated than peeling damn oranges, and we shouldn't expect any less from it.
1:29 No offence to her because she looks but she reminds me of the landlady in ‘Kung Fu Hustle’.
More like i need an eunuch theory.
I'll just hire maid in the first place...
EARKYYYY
tbh there's so much that makes up of a relationship between two person and she probably did not write every single thing that made her unhappy lols and idgi if you are in any type of relationship be it friends or couples, you should be aware of how people show care and love and if you don't feel loved then just end the relationship and move on
I peeled an orange for a girl, now i need money for bail.
now that I think about it, the orange peel theory only really works for boyfriends that don't do much for their girlfriends. but also if ur man isn't doing much for u wouldn't u realise it??
Is the Asian version peeling prawns?
bored girls finding more reasons to break up
im so confused what is the "theory" here its just couples being sweet
These types of things in life are what I like to call “poppycock”, which is slang for nonsense
Orange Theory is like China Theory 😂 🇨🇳
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I think it is weird to use orange peel to tell whether it is true love