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I was told I would never be any good at anything. Got married my then husband called me stupid at every opportunity he got. He walked away when I found out about his affair. Parents thought they were protecting me by wrapping me in cotton wool. Now at 60 I have a good job with staff who appreciate me. Making up for lost time. Words do hurt but seeing another's skills then encouraging them to develop them makes life amazing
There’s a lot of stories like that unfortunately. I’m still upset about the one guy who married this woman he then took care of the family in the house he paid for from his job that he also did while taking care of the kids so that his wife could go off and have a political career. She then very likely cheated on him, when he accused her she lied about him and said he’d abused her despite their being zero evidence of that and actually only evidence to the contrary but she used that to get him kicked out of his own house and labeled a sexual predator. She lost her position I think as the scandal hurt her clean family politician image. And then the dude has worked to provide take care of the kids give her a career an there’s no evidence he ever did anything wrong and he got kicked out of his own house, cheated on, labeled a predator as laws are in favor of women there and they can accuse a guy with no evidence and have him destroyed where he can’t work again or escape it, and then after all of that his own daughter stabbed him to death. And I feel like there’s a good chance the mother helped poison her against him as I’ve heard of many bitter divorced women who do that. They’re more likely to win cost due off the bat so they’ve got a lot more chance to tear the guy down when he isn’t there to defend himself. So even if he’s like that guy who provided and did everything for everyone she’ll flip it like he was scheming and bad. And it then just hurts the kids as they’re become bitter or confused. Just awarding one side the kids is crazy as there’s many instances where the guy is better, one guy had to fight to get custody of his kids and away from his ex wife who was a drug addict. He had to secretly film her having dealers over and doing drugs in the house and it took like a year or two to finally get them out. Like clearly you should give either exactly equal custody to the parents if they equal in fitness as caretakers or you give it to whoever is the better guardian at that stage. And guys are often bashed as not being there for their kids when many many dudes fight so hard to get custody or greater rights to their kids and no is ever worried about that. I saw people assuming that Mr. Ballin’s, the internet story guy, dad wasn’t there growing up when he not only was there he is a Pulitzer Prize winning journalist who likely helped endow Ballin with his storytelling ability. But they just off the bat gave all the credit to his mother and just demonized Scott Allen as if he wasn’t there.
My husband calls me stupid too, but it’s his dumbass condescending looks and attitude that speak louder..He’s very full of himself because he went to uni and became a teacher. He looks down on me because I didn’t go to uni. I’m a blue collar girl. He naturally thinks he’s above me . I’m sure if I married blue collar I wouldn’t have had this crap to put up with.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
You have an addiction. Do you honestly love yourself as much as you love her? If you don’t, then you don’t deserve her, and if you do, someone even better who is more ideal for you will come into your life. Your ex has free will, and you have no right to attempt to gainsay that. Take a close look at yourself (not her) and you’ll know the answer. Heal Thyself, my friend.
wow, she carried all that on her shoulders her whole life? i'm just glad mild narcissism kicked in when i started my first real job in my last year of college. It wasnt the fact that i wanted it, it just came naturally after being tormented, abused, and disrespected by so many people at work and at home. i was always someone that worried all the time what people thought of me, all the negativity they put on me, and it messed up my health. at some point in my first job, something just clicked and now i seriously have a problem caring about what people say. it's wonderful! it's as important to me as flushing the toilet. many times, i just forget, LOL! because i know for a fact it's not important and never will be important to me. this has been a life saver. it's empowering, and gives me a sense of fearlessness and strength, knowing i am in control of my life and not someone else.
You have to be careful about who surrounds you and even question family beliefs. I had to counteract the influence, in Spanish "Suggestion" one of my sisters implied about my future health. Your conviction and capacity to stand up for yourself makes a difference as Ruth says in any area of life.
Gosh, this resonates. My teacher shamed me and my artistic attempts at primary school, in front of the whole class. His scorn stayed with me for most of my life. People now tell me how creative I am, and my craftroom is packed to the rafters with art supplies, where I happily spend many hours. I didn't enjoy school at all and left with very poor grades, and yet many people tell me how clever I am. It used to really surprise me. But I eventually began to accept the compliment and can now say, I am intelligent. As for put downs in relationships; I endured a long and emotionally abusive marriage. As a result I had very low self esteem. I believed all his criticisms and cruel jibes. But for the past 25 years I've lived alone, and I slowly began to realise the person he painted wasn't me. I believe he was reflecting his own perceived inadequacies onto me. I finally believe in myself and can honestly say I like being who I am. 😊
So sorry to hear about all you’ve been through! We are so delighted to know that you believe in yourself now! Keep going. - we’re rooting for you! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Wonderful, life learnt wisdom!👍 I wish I was given this advice when I was 19 years old!! Beautiful accent too... I could listen to Ruth speak for hours💜 Thank you & God bless you for posting🙏💜🙏
Laughter can be such a powerful way to cope with tough times. It's like a little beam of light cutting through the clouds. ❤ How are you doing? Hope you're doing great?
Isn’t it awful when people put you down!?!!! I know how it feels?……. I write poetry, which comes from my heart, and I like to share it, and I’ve been told by, friends that it is quite good, but it’s not popular, like music or art. When I write, my other half says that I get moody, so he gets worried and grumpy. So I feel guilty when I write. I once said to him that I’d like to try and publish some. He really hurt my feelings when he said, “No, because I’d hate to see you disappointed!” That cut me deeply. But I can understand that very few would buy the book! I think that’s what he meant. But, it still hurt!
I couldn’t agree more-the Serenity Prayer is a beautiful guide to living a balanced and peaceful life. I'm glad you find it helpful. Wishing you all the best from Australia and sending lots of joy and wisdom your way. 🎉😊 Stay serene and take care! 🌟
Although I am a happy and grateful person, uninvited thoughts of negative comments and episodes that I experienced when I was much younger have been popping up in my mind completely uninvited. I wonder why they have decided to make a reappearance now at this stage of my life (I’m 74). They are anxiety provoking and spoil my usual sunny way of looking at things.
I think those reappearing thoughts pop up to make you think again, now that you have age and experience on your side. I have those too, I get to think them through once more and let them go. ❤
Thanks everyone for the kind comments! We’re delighted to hear that Ruth’s words of wisdom resonate with so many! We recorded a much fuller audio episode with her here for anyone interested - open.spotify.com/episode/40zySqgtgxtGbusEIp50HX?si=DjQzp0JuQpGr6JHL4kcWyA
@@storiesthatshapeuspod Thank you so much for posting!🙏💜🙏
One of the best life lessons is that you are never too old for a life lesson. Blessings to all that read this.
1)Don't let the opinions of others define you
2)Be yourself
3)Don't take life for granted
I don’t know how to be myself……
@@Lucky-wt6fgI think the moment you start thinking about how to be yourself is the moment you stop being yourself
@@prekky123 maybe…..you might have a point there.x
Genuinely explore interests rather than just living from a pretense only about what you think you’re supposed to be. Could be a balance I guess.
I was told I would never be any good at anything. Got married my then husband called me stupid at every opportunity he got. He walked away when I found out about his affair. Parents thought they were protecting me by wrapping me in cotton wool. Now at 60 I have a good job with staff who appreciate me. Making up for lost time. Words do hurt but seeing another's skills then encouraging them to develop them makes life amazing
There’s a lot of stories like that unfortunately. I’m still upset about the one guy who married this woman he then took care of the family in the house he paid for from his job that he also did while taking care of the kids so that his wife could go off and have a political career. She then very likely cheated on him, when he accused her she lied about him and said he’d abused her despite their being zero evidence of that and actually only evidence to the contrary but she used that to get him kicked out of his own house and labeled a sexual predator. She lost her position I think as the scandal hurt her clean family politician image. And then the dude has worked to provide take care of the kids give her a career an there’s no evidence he ever did anything wrong and he got kicked out of his own house, cheated on, labeled a predator as laws are in favor of women there and they can accuse a guy with no evidence and have him destroyed where he can’t work again or escape it, and then after all of that his own daughter stabbed him to death. And I feel like there’s a good chance the mother helped poison her against him as I’ve heard of many bitter divorced women who do that. They’re more likely to win cost due off the bat so they’ve got a lot more chance to tear the guy down when he isn’t there to defend himself. So even if he’s like that guy who provided and did everything for everyone she’ll flip it like he was scheming and bad. And it then just hurts the kids as they’re become bitter or confused.
Just awarding one side the kids is crazy as there’s many instances where the guy is better, one guy had to fight to get custody of his kids and away from his ex wife who was a drug addict. He had to secretly film her having dealers over and doing drugs in the house and it took like a year or two to finally get them out. Like clearly you should give either exactly equal custody to the parents if they equal in fitness as caretakers or you give it to whoever is the better guardian at that stage. And guys are often bashed as not being there for their kids when many many dudes fight so hard to get custody or greater rights to their kids and no is ever worried about that. I saw people assuming that Mr. Ballin’s, the internet story guy, dad wasn’t there growing up when he not only was there he is a Pulitzer Prize winning journalist who likely helped endow Ballin with his storytelling ability. But they just off the bat gave all the credit to his mother and just demonized Scott Allen as if he wasn’t there.
My husband calls me stupid too, but it’s his dumbass condescending looks and attitude that speak louder..He’s very full of himself because he went to uni and became a teacher. He looks down on me because I didn’t go to uni. I’m a blue collar girl. He naturally thinks he’s above me . I’m sure if I married blue collar I wouldn’t have had this crap to put up with.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
You have an addiction. Do you honestly love yourself as much as you love her? If you don’t, then you don’t deserve her, and if you do, someone even better who is more ideal for you will come into your life. Your ex has free will, and you have no right to attempt to gainsay that. Take a close look at yourself (not her) and you’ll know the answer. Heal Thyself, my friend.
Good very good! Be yourself is the best. Accept yourself and love yourself first
This was really good! Thanks for posting.
Well done Ruth! You are beautiful!❤🍾
Greetings Christina😚 You're beautiful too🥰 How are you doing? Hope you're doing great?
wow, she carried all that on her shoulders her whole life? i'm just glad mild narcissism kicked in when i started my first real job in my last year of college. It wasnt the fact that i wanted it, it just came naturally after being tormented, abused, and disrespected by so many people at work and at home. i was always someone that worried all the time what people thought of me, all the negativity they put on me, and it messed up my health. at some point in my first job, something just clicked and now i seriously have a problem caring about what people say. it's wonderful! it's as important to me as flushing the toilet. many times, i just forget, LOL! because i know for a fact it's not important and never will be important to me. this has been a life saver. it's empowering, and gives me a sense of fearlessness and strength, knowing i am in control of my life and not someone else.
You have to be careful about who surrounds you and even question family beliefs. I had to counteract the influence, in Spanish "Suggestion" one of my sisters implied about my future health. Your conviction and capacity to stand up for yourself makes a difference as Ruth says in any area of life.
Gosh, this resonates. My teacher shamed me and my artistic attempts at primary school, in front of the whole class. His scorn stayed with me for most of my life. People now tell me how creative I am, and my craftroom is packed to the rafters with art supplies, where I happily spend many hours.
I didn't enjoy school at all and left with very poor grades, and yet many people tell me how clever I am. It used to really surprise me. But I eventually began to accept the compliment and can now say, I am intelligent.
As for put downs in relationships; I endured a long and emotionally abusive marriage. As a result I had very low self esteem. I believed all his criticisms and cruel jibes. But for the past 25 years I've lived alone, and I slowly began to realise the person he painted wasn't me. I believe he was reflecting his own perceived inadequacies onto me.
I finally believe in myself and can honestly say I like being who I am. 😊
So sorry to hear about all you’ve been through! We are so delighted to know that you believe in yourself now! Keep going. - we’re rooting for you! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I am so sorry for this. Yet I am glad you realized who you are. Embrace that to the fullest
Ditto , been there , your not alone . Your amazing
What an absolute a- hole of an art teacher btw…anyway, well done realising you’re worth….you sound smart and really nice to me….❤
Delighted to find your channel!
Glad to have you join us! :)
Insightful video, really does feel like 72 years of wisdom in 5 minutes
It’s so interesting to hear this because Ruth actually designs the most amazing cards. I’m so glad she didn’t let what her teacher said define her.
She is brilliant 👏 👌
Her accent is so lovely.
Loved this. A lot of wisdom.
Great lessons!
Beautiful video. ❤
Wonderful, life learnt wisdom!👍 I wish I was given this advice when I was 19 years old!! Beautiful accent too... I could listen to Ruth speak for hours💜 Thank you & God bless you for posting🙏💜🙏
Ruth’s absolutely incredible! We’re so honoured to have listened to her words of wisdom and to share them with others 🙏
So basic and so wise
I am laughing to keep tears away ❤
Laughter can be such a powerful way to cope with tough times. It's like a little beam of light cutting through the clouds. ❤ How are you doing? Hope you're doing great?
Isn’t it awful when people put you down!?!!! I know how it feels?……. I write poetry, which comes from my heart, and I like to share it, and I’ve been told by, friends that it is quite good, but it’s not popular, like music or art. When I write, my other half says that I get moody, so he gets worried and grumpy. So I feel guilty when I write. I once said to him that I’d like to try and publish some. He really hurt my feelings when he said, “No, because I’d hate to see you disappointed!” That cut me deeply. But I can understand that very few would buy the book! I think that’s what he meant. But, it still hurt!
Thank you ❤❤❤australia 🎉the prayer for serenity is a guide to live by….you are so wise😊
I couldn’t agree more-the Serenity Prayer is a beautiful guide to living a balanced and peaceful life. I'm glad you find it helpful. Wishing you all the best from Australia and sending lots of joy and wisdom your way. 🎉😊
Stay serene and take care! 🌟
Although I am a happy and grateful person, uninvited thoughts of negative comments and episodes that I experienced when I was much younger have been popping up in my mind completely uninvited. I wonder why they have decided to make a reappearance now at this stage of my life (I’m 74). They are anxiety provoking and spoil my usual sunny way of looking at things.
When this happens, immediately flip the script & think of happy memories, or think of things that bring you joy.
I think those reappearing thoughts pop up to make you think again, now that you have age and experience on your side. I have those too, I get to think them through once more and let them go. ❤
They're here for healing. 🎉
What a wise, interesting Lady. She'd be lovely to have a pot of tea with.
Totally agree 💯. Thanks for watching Sylvia
I was told i was dark and ugly and would never do any thing not good in any job❤
I grew up being told What will the neighbors think.
"Never judge a fish by how well it can climb a tree."
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WOW NOW how many minutes ago ⁉️🤣👍🤙
Where does this nice Scottish woman come from exactly in Scotland?
Ruth’s based in Glasgow, Scotland :). Thanks for watching!
What tip resonates strongly with you?
I wouldn't stay with him for sure
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