So true my friend! However I remember in school we had Dutch, German, French and English on the same day. By the end of the day you couldn't process a damn thing. We basically learned 4 languages not very well. Learn more about languages and culters but for the love of all that is holy be at least selective. Exposure however is good.
Exactly! My niece is half finnish and half latina, and in addition she learned english from UA-cam-videos when she was 4. Now They live in Norway so that another language she learned. So, finnish, english, spanish, norwegian, and she wants to learn sign language as well.
My daughter (5) speaks English (We are English) and is becoming fluent in French (We live in France). I'm learning Dutch and Italian too so shes hearing that too when I practice. Her resume will look brilliant with 4 languages on it.
First: So, the step mother has turned into a real friend and supporter of the son. She has developed a real rapport with the boy, encouraging him to discover and learn about a new culture. Well, BooHoo! The Ex has no right to mess with what goes on in the step mom's home. The son is gaining a more in depth education and complete acceptance by step mom and her family. No judge will shut that down! Finally, both Moms have put the kids FIRST! And that's the best, because it leads to healthy relationships and growth.
@@ItsMeBarnaby Well considering if they’re in the U.S. learning Spanish will be great. The biggest cities and states have so many Spanish speakers and plus if the kid gets a great career it’s he’ll already have two different languages down before higher education. It’s a win-win situation, he won’t be any worse for knowing Spanish.
Story 1: Ex's mad her plan bcakfired so badly that now her son seems to like his dad's wife more than her. if she's a person bitter enough to try and use a child to ruin her Ex's new engagement she's cleary betting her money on the wrong horse.
Frankly the update sounds too good to be true. The ex tried to pull the rug out from under OP before, she could do it again. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.
Seriously most people would be pretty pissed off to find out that sort of thing, I don't know how she doesn't understand why her son is mad. I mean realistically what did you think was going to happen, for someone to be like "gee wiz mom, I've been putting up with s***** stepdad for years and my real dad didn't even know about me, I still love you mom even though you keep treating me badly I'm going to stay with you!!!" in what world?
@@bloodypingas4356 Exactly. I predict that, when the son hits his teens, he'll rebel/run away from his mother and her husband to couch-surf/hang out with friends who are negative influences, compensate himself with other joys: Partying sprees, staying out past curfew, cutting class, late-night gallivanting with a girlfriend, only, to have a kid with her drop out of high school, marry his girlfriend, because she's pregnant, move into public housing, have another kid work minimum wage jobs, get even with his mother for lying to him his father, and taking away his joys of traveling the world and learn foreign languages, by having the courts force her and her husband to pay child support for his kid, plus, drain their finances/bank accounts, when he has a third kid, at 18, makes the bio-mom's other kid a full-time babysitter/housekeeper, and takes his/her room away, so that, his girlfriend can have a nursery.⚠️
Ex wife: i'm going to tell them about the kid to rain on their parade! >:D OP: *welcomes the kid with open arms, loves him and teaches him another lenguage* Ex wife: wait, that wasn't suppose to happend-
I literally grinned wickedly and laughed out loud when the last OP put on the Speedo. Seems to me that the roommate's girlfriend is either a prude, or was attracted to him and was upset with herself for ogling him. Trying to remove temptation perhaps? 😏🤣
I'm Welsh and embarrassed to say I can't even speak my own language but decided to learn. When you see the longest Welsh word you can see what we're up against lol.
I live in bi-lingual country, it's compulsory to learn both (ofc nowadays I have almost forgotten most of 2nd one because I have never need it and its only spoken by 5%, and majority of them has so bad accent that I cannot understand with what I have been taught). Then we start English, usually 3rd grade, some even earlier. Plenty kids another language on 7th grade. Usually French or German. Maybe Russian or Spanish, depending on school. I chose German. Then at university I started Spanish. That eventually failed because I got sick and class advantaged quite fast (and Spanish was taught in English :P)
@@duckeh1952 Finland by any chance? I'm an English teacher in Finland and English used to start on 3rd grade but now it starts on the 1st grade. You can add new language on 5th (or 4th, not sure these days because everything changes), Swedish comes in the picture on 6th grade as mandatory language and then usually you can pick one more in junior high (not every school offers this). So by the end of junior high you can have Finnish + 4 foreign languages if you choose to take every possibility to start a new language. I only did English and Swedish and took up French in high school. I don't know almost any Swedish anymore. After school the only time I used it was when I had to order meatballs at an Ikea in Sweden. I can read it very slowly and understand enough words to get the idea what the text means but I can't form sentences anymore.
@@Elvenpath yeah Finland. It has been decades when I was at school and rural area. English started on 3rd, Swedish on 7th and on 8th grade you could choose French or German.
I love that the stepmom refers to her stepson as her son! Plus, that long heart-to-heart talk made a difference. I’m thinking that it opened the door to the mother seeing stepmom as not being the enemy but rather as someone who loves her son and only wants the best for him. If all continues on this path, they all have a brighter future.
I actually found that problematic, after that was their problem and the actual mom probably doesn't know. It can cause problems if she finds out since their talk involved OP telling her she'll always be the "mommy." smh
Wow, OP is a fantastic step mom! She lovingly accepted this poor child who was thrust into an overall uncomfortable situation for to his mother. Bless this family! She even offered to pay for the mother and step dad to go on their trip?! Wow! I feel like OP's husband's ex is a jealous, manipulative youknowwhat.
Ikr. That poor kid will be in dire need of a therapist, because his mother's manipulative and evil behavior/actions have destroyed his ability to trust, and will negatively affect his future relationships, also. 😒
Right! The fact by that she went through the effort to have a conversation about blending their families together really stands out to me. As a child of divorce, none of my partners long term partners made Me feel like they were interested in blending families.
The first story, the kids are gonna grow up super smart. Kids knowing other languages thrive academically. I'm really glad their families formed a family comunity. The kids will be very happy
The one thing about this whole situation is that the mother is using the son as a weapon against this couple because her ex got engaged and she got jealous.
I love it when parents blame others for their bad relationship with their kids. Like they really don't realize they are the only one who can change it.
I'm going to be honest. I am in no way surprised that the kid isn't exactly fond of the mother. She literally kept him a secret from his father, then straight up used him as a tool with the intent to ruin his father's marriage. Seriously, what did she think? Nobody likes to be used, and that's what she was doing to him. It was pretty crappy of her to do that. That woman was just incredibly bitter. Glad that at least things have started to improve a bit and that the ex got her act together
Oh boy! Just in time to have something entertaining to listen to while cleaning. Also, first op nta. You sound like a wonderful step parent to have in a kids life. The fact that you want to help him learn new things and he's enjoying it is amazing. Hopefully mom calms down a lot and realizes you aren't trying to harm your step son, in fact your giving him something that could help him in the future
First video, this is the first one I have watched where all the adults seem to have put the child first, which means they deserve a huge recognition. They both are the exception. Really enjoyed reading this one knowing the real winner is the child and the adults are the one’s whose cooperation allowed it. All the adults get credit for thIs success! Thank you!!!
Story 1: NTA! That attitude is going to shove her son away LONG before any money does at that point. Step-mother and her family are doing nothing but being a dream, giving the kid in question worldly experience and teaching him a second language that helps out on the job field greatly!
The story about the stepmother vs ex was such a heart-warming story! I think that OP should get a lot of the credit for how things went - she sounds like a truly amazing person!
Kids can never have too much love ,as long it’s not the smothering kind.. It’s great they’re going to raise the kids as a “tribe”, hopefully that continues without any problems..
I love the update to the first story. It's so wholesome, and sweet. I wish the best for OP and everyone involved and for their newly found happiness to last at least a lifetime.
When the ex wanted to play dirty over your engagement, the response should have been threatening to go for full custody of the kid. Want support? Then risk losing the child entirely!
First: what a piece of work the ex is, she was so blinded by her bitter jealously trying to ruin her ex-husband's life by first, trying to cause a rift with a child that she only revealed after the engagement announcement, then hated the fact her kids was getting along so much. I am so interested in how the ex took a complete 180. She probably got a hard reality check seeing this wasn't going to change and maybe her kid started to resent her as well as the husband since she put in so much energy to ruin their lives. But overall, what a wholesome story.
As a stepmother and attorney, I found this story very sad. My adult stepsons just got married I walked in both their weddings along with their mother with absolutely no conflict because while the boys were growing up all the adults in their lives put their interests first. It seems simple, but as this post proves, so many people have trouble with it. I recently represented my husband's ex and her sisters on a matter and because of the the appearance of a conflict of interest I had everyone sign a Waiver. The response I got from everyone was, "Conflict?? There's no conflict. We're family!"
S1: NTA. Ex is bitter as hell that husband has moved on and the stepson is seeing her true self. She is trying to control everyone’s lives just because she is losing the zero control she had, but her constant bad mouthing is sabotaging her plans to emotionally control stepson. Also, ex’s husband needs to stfu and mind his own business.
Learning a second language opens so many doors for a person, especially when the kid is an adult and looking for full time work. It also teaches tolerance. I think OP and her husband are amazing for giving that kid an opportunity to learn and grow.
My mother babysat a little black boy for several years and we taught him Spanish. Later on he was able to use that skill of knowing Spanish at school cause no one could talk about him. He still knows this and his daughters also picked up learning Spanish.🥰
The german word for Kindergarten is Kindergarten literally childrens garden, but that´s from 3 upwards and KITA is daycare for the younger kids . It is also in Austria just that usually we say the whole word Kindertagesstätte not the short form.
pre-update, but the one thing that i didn't hear mentioned is that if the kid is old enough to be having issues w/his mother, he's GONNA know whose idea it was to cut him off from the opportunities that were being offered. the ex is the one who weaponized her son in the first place, i REALLY don't see what she and her husband think is gonna happen here. he's old enough to immediately see any restriction of regular activities as "mommy pitched a hissy fit again", and be even MORE ready to get away from her...
Not only that, he'll be more than ready to go complete NC with her; he'll even take off with a girlfriend who's a hard-partyer/high school dropout, and marry her, at 18, to get away from his mother.⚠️
Dang those kids are going to go far in life. 3 languages that's amazing! It's so rare for divorced families come back together to be one unit, it gives the warms and fuzzies! And a side note, I wish I spoke more then one language.
You should give it a try, too! I taught myself Spanish, and other languages,when I was a teenager, and I also learned how to sing SILENT NIGHT in German.😀
Interesting, but the truth is the mother is still hanging onto feelings about her baby daddy. Her desire to still control in the father’s life by using her child as a pawn in this dynamic. All other issues are ancillary excuses. Been there done that with females like this. They hate to see the men move on. The fiancé sounds lovely and her step son is blessed to have her in his life. Congratulations on the impending new addition.
I never understand why a parent tries to get their kids to hate one parent/step parent it never ends well. As children get older they start to ask questions about what they were told
Story2: Love OP's MC! But the new girl was sh*t-testing the friend, and unfortunately he failed. She was being absurd, but instead of politely refusing, the friend caved.
Once you got to "delaying kids" due to her shenanigans I would have sued for full custody, bio mom only views her son as a tool to mess with her ex, she seems okay after update but that was vile.
1st the mother is just jealous. And the husband is being passive. It is a good thing he is getting along with stepmother. She isn't forcing him. The son is asking for it.
1st Story. OP not the A hole. Like it or not. He is your step child, you and your husband have just as much say as your step child's mother and step father. Their estranged relationship is her fault for lying to her child for years. A sure way for her to drive and even bigger wedge between her and her son is to deny him things he has grown interested in and loves. If she wants to mend her relationship with her son, it is up to her to do so, and she has to do that be regaining his trust, that does not include trying to force you to distance yourself from him to make it easier on her. IT is not fair to you or him. She wants to give him a reason to resent you for pulling back, do not give her that. Added after update. I am glad she has realized her previous attitude was going to give nothing positive to this situation, and would likely do nothing but cause more distance between herself and her son. It's great you all came to what has become a very healthy family dynamic.
the change occurred after a conversation between the two mothers i think everything ultimately revolves around money mom will still be a "good" mom, and stepmother will support both of her children if it is German, then the Germans are opportunists and know that money does not grow on trees
Nta teaching a child another language. I would welcome my child learning another language. This is her insecurity issue. Children are extremely in tune with all environment good and bad. Mothers aura is dark and the poor child is being walled and not a good environment to be able to express himself.
First: The mother should be happy for her son getting all the love from his stepmother and his dad, that is a really big thing considering stepmother could have been so much the opposite. Why would anyone wish to hold their child back from all they are doing for him. My first thought was they should try inviting the mom along on the trip, they did, along with her husband, he sounds ok. She is blinded by jealousy and anger, it will not bind her son to her, just drive him away. What a abrilliant ending 🎇
I don't understand these parents who aren't happy when their kid has a step parent who is awesome. That seems so selfish to me! I had to deal with awful step parents my entire life and would resent my parent if I had a great stepmother or stepfather and said parent had a PROBLEM with that.
The first story had me wondering do therapists and other professionals that counsel people use social media while like how police and probation officers do and like a lot of companies do before they hire a person
I don't trust bio mom's sudden change of heart. She probably thinks OP will lose interest in her son once the baby is born, so she's setting herself up to be the "good guy" once OP has her "real baby" and loses interest in the boy. (Where else would he get the idea he'll lose his bedroom to OP's "real baby"?) When that doesn't happen, the ex will resume her old ways, maybe even worse.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks so. The ex's 180 sounds too good to be true. She tried to pull the rug out from under her before, good chance she'll do it again.
@@MaryTheresa1986 Yes, that, too. Plus, the ex will end up lonely and homeless, when her husband divorces her, kicks her out, and gets full custody of their kid.⚠️😒
Story 1: This is pretty hilarious. Bio Mom screwed up so badly in her attempt to torpedo her ex' relationship that it's entirely possible that her son will drop her and side with step-mom.
First story. I married an immigrant and learning Portuguese was great. Wasn't great at it but understood what people talked about. Sad to say but i learned the words of someone disrespecting me. The boys mother is actually and i hate to say it but racist. Today's world is no longer English by its self
Story 1: NTA. The Mom has done things that hurt her own child in an effort to spite her Ex. She's reaping the rewards of that. As long as the step-mom and father aren't manipulating the child against his bio mom, or just doing stuff to spite her, I see no problem with indulging his interests and expanding his world view.
In the second story I was really confused why she was uncomfortable, I never felt uncomfortable seeing male friends in their underwear unless I was attracted to lol , she was being a perv , yuck .
Yup. Maybe it was his briefs, it's a rare sight nowadays on younger men. But still.. who the f cares? Quite sure she shows more with her bikini. OP did well! When I was dating my now husband, he lived with other 3 guys. They had "The boxer boys club". When friends around, just boxers were fine and no one, not girlfriends or girl friends or guy friends (it was sort of party house) paid attention or were bothered by it. One of them even casually opened the door wearing only boxers. Others usually put some pants and t-shirt on They cooked together and yup.. wearing only boxers.
If my partner and i found out that he had a son kept from him, i would lovingly accept that child as one of my own (obviously making sure i dont overstep boundries set by the mother, duh lol).
Exactly. Pretty soon, when the bio-mom sees pics of her son with his girlfriend at their baby shower, him with his girlfriend and their newborn child in the delivery room, and him showing off his GED certificate, plus, pics of him and his girlfriend, with their child, and his replacement family on his wedding/18th birthday, she'll have a hard time figuring out why he exlcuded her, her husband, and their kid from those important moments, especially, after she put him through hell, and kept him away from his father; not only that, she'll also wonder why he won't come visit, call, text, or FaceTime her. That's when karma knocks on her door⚠️😒
She might be able to stop an overseas trip because of the global situation right now but the other stuff…. The judge will laugh her out of the courtroom
Wow, for once (well , maybe not only once) a happy ending. Kids soak up languages like a sponge, best to teach them early. This is one I was glad to hear although it sounded like the usual /revenge story at the beginning.
When I was young, my father's mother refused to allow my dad to speak German to us and to allow my mother to speak Czech to us. I could have been tri-lingual. She said all those languages would make us kids tongue-tied. I actually also took Latin 5 years and another foreign language in college. If you speak another language, please teach it to your kids. If you speak another language, please teach it to your kids. They will become more valuable employees and make more money.
Nta in first story, the son is not his mothers property. While yes at times parents have right and a say with what there children do. Learning another language is no way harming the son. He can make those decisions, it's what hes interested in. Especially if hes an older child. Children get to make decisions too without their parents say so. His mother has no right in stopping him. He is his own person should be able to have some say in what he does. Also the kids father is okay with it.
I mean ops more of a mother then his bio mom is the ex is just manipulative and keeps using the son as a pawn to hurt others so yeah I won't blame the SN to see op as his real mom from now on
Because she sees her stepson as her kid as much as a biological child is.some people just see all kids in their family as their kids, regardless of the legal or biological relationships involved in the situation. I think it's nice, actually. My dad (step-dad) doesn't call me his step-daughter, he just calls me his daughter and has from the beginning.
Story1: Gigantic NTA. The ex sounds like a real piece of work! OP doesn't owe her husband's ex dick, jack, or squat, especially after that wedding stunt. I'm not crazy about OP's husband telling her to be more sensitive to the ex. She's his responsibility, not OP's. As for that update, frankly it sounds too good to be true. The ex tried to pull the rug out from under OP before, she may do it again. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.
Switch so she hid the mans son from the ex but told him he had a son when he announced his engagement? Isn't she married? Make it make sense. Basically she's been stalking the ex wonder what her husband thinks.
Really felt good hearing some of the comments + the update to the first story. 2nd story was fun, but a bit odd. OP wears non-seethrough briefs, female who didn't even went into the pool, still became uncomfortable? A) Why is she looking at OP's covered neither regions if it makes her uncomfortable? B) I know that they're still sold, but what are the chances for that a guy asked to change into swimwear, actually owns boxer shaped swimwear instead of something more revealing, like Speedos?
Story2: There's a method to the g/f's madness. She was sh*t-testing her b/f. He should have politely refused, and if she made a big stink, told her to EFF OFF. Unfortunately he caved.
STORY #1 NTA. OP is allowed to speak whatever language she wants in her house. Apart from that, being multilingual will give stepson a big advantage in the workplace. The kid doesn't have a good relationship with husband's ex? Gee, I wonder why? Maybe it's because she only had him to hurt her ex and thus only sees the boy as a weapon? Maybe because she kept him away from his father for years? OP is more of a mother to this kid than the bio-mother ever was. UPDATE What? Did a kindly doppelgänger replace husband's ex? This sounds like a happy ending, but I'd still be wary.
It's not just learning the language. It's learning another culture, perspective, way of doing things. As someone raised in America by Serbian parents, it was somewhat confusing when I was young, as I didn't learn to differentiate my cultural heritage from American culture until much later. Once I realized the difference, it has given me a big advantage in communication skills. I can easily relate to other people's viewpoints and converse with them, even if I don't necessarily agree. It makes for easier working relationships and getting along in general easier. OP's SO's ex [is the real AH here and] is being very selfish and short-sighted trying to restrict their son's learning here. NTA. Edit after update: OP is a gem of a woman to pull this off! That heart to heart opened doors that everyone will benefit from. Way to go!
The more languages and cultures the kid understands the further he’ll get in life so keep doing what’s best for him
So true my friend! However I remember in school we had Dutch, German, French and English on the same day. By the end of the day you couldn't process a damn thing. We basically learned 4 languages not very well. Learn more about languages and culters but for the love of all that is holy be at least selective. Exposure however is good.
Exactly! My niece is half finnish and half latina, and in addition she learned english from UA-cam-videos when she was 4. Now They live in Norway so that another language she learned.
So, finnish, english, spanish, norwegian, and she wants to learn sign language as well.
"I speak three languages" sounds great on resumes.
This, I wish there were more of a push to teach different languages in the US, especially pre-k/kindergarten.
My daughter (5) speaks English (We are English) and is becoming fluent in French (We live in France).
I'm learning Dutch and Italian too so shes hearing that too when I practice.
Her resume will look brilliant with 4 languages on it.
First: So, the step mother has turned into a real friend and supporter of the son. She has developed a real rapport with the boy, encouraging him to discover and learn about a new culture. Well, BooHoo! The Ex has no right to mess with what goes on in the step mom's home. The son is gaining a more in depth education and complete acceptance by step mom and her family. No judge will shut that down!
Finally, both Moms have put the kids FIRST! And that's the best, because it leads to healthy relationships and growth.
@@ItsMeBarnaby Well considering if they’re in the U.S. learning Spanish will be great. The biggest cities and states have so many Spanish speakers and plus if the kid gets a great career it’s he’ll already have two different languages down before higher education. It’s a win-win situation, he won’t be any worse for knowing Spanish.
@@joesmoe8841 Agreed. The passion for languages, culture, and travel will lead to him getting a report card full of A's.
@@ItsMeBarnaby yeah, American culture can be the pits.
@@ItsMeBarnaby Well his embittered bitch-bag of a mother isn't doing him any favors either by trying to use him as a means to an end.
Story 1: Ex's mad her plan bcakfired so badly that now her son seems to like his dad's wife more than her.
if she's a person bitter enough to try and use a child to ruin her Ex's new engagement she's cleary betting her money on the wrong horse.
Frankly the update sounds too good to be true. The ex tried to pull the rug out from under OP before, she could do it again. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.
Seriously most people would be pretty pissed off to find out that sort of thing, I don't know how she doesn't understand why her son is mad. I mean realistically what did you think was going to happen, for someone to be like "gee wiz mom, I've been putting up with s***** stepdad for years and my real dad didn't even know about me, I still love you mom even though you keep treating me badly I'm going to stay with you!!!" in what world?
@@bloodypingas4356 abusive people are always shocked the people they are abusing don't like being abused.
@@immapotato1 all to true
@@bloodypingas4356 Exactly. I predict that, when the son hits his teens, he'll rebel/run away from his mother and her husband to couch-surf/hang out with friends who are negative influences, compensate himself with other joys: Partying sprees, staying out past curfew, cutting class, late-night gallivanting with a girlfriend, only, to have a kid with her drop out of high school, marry his girlfriend, because she's pregnant, move into public housing, have another kid work minimum wage jobs, get even with his mother for lying to him his father, and taking away his joys of traveling the world and learn foreign languages, by having the courts force her and her husband to pay child support for his kid, plus, drain their finances/bank accounts, when he has a third kid, at 18, makes the bio-mom's other kid a full-time babysitter/housekeeper, and takes his/her room away, so that, his girlfriend can have a nursery.⚠️
Ex wife: i'm going to tell them about the kid to rain on their parade! >:D
OP: *welcomes the kid with open arms, loves him and teaches him another lenguage*
Ex wife: wait, that wasn't suppose to happend-
Yeah lol
**insert surprised Pikachu face**
I literally grinned wickedly and laughed out loud when the last OP put on the Speedo. Seems to me that the roommate's girlfriend is either a prude, or was attracted to him and was upset with herself for ogling him. Trying to remove temptation perhaps? 😏🤣
People in other countries not wanting their kid to be bi-lingual and here i am teaching mine to be tri-lingual.
I dont get it.
Probably a pride thing.
I'm Welsh and embarrassed to say I can't even speak my own language but decided to learn. When you see the longest Welsh word you can see what we're up against lol.
I live in bi-lingual country, it's compulsory to learn both (ofc nowadays I have almost forgotten most of 2nd one because I have never need it and its only spoken by 5%, and majority of them has so bad accent that I cannot understand with what I have been taught). Then we start English, usually 3rd grade, some even earlier. Plenty kids another language on 7th grade. Usually French or German. Maybe Russian or Spanish, depending on school. I chose German. Then at university I started Spanish. That eventually failed because I got sick and class advantaged quite fast (and Spanish was taught in English :P)
@@duckeh1952 Finland by any chance? I'm an English teacher in Finland and English used to start on 3rd grade but now it starts on the 1st grade. You can add new language on 5th (or 4th, not sure these days because everything changes), Swedish comes in the picture on 6th grade as mandatory language and then usually you can pick one more in junior high (not every school offers this). So by the end of junior high you can have Finnish + 4 foreign languages if you choose to take every possibility to start a new language. I only did English and Swedish and took up French in high school. I don't know almost any Swedish anymore. After school the only time I used it was when I had to order meatballs at an Ikea in Sweden. I can read it very slowly and understand enough words to get the idea what the text means but I can't form sentences anymore.
@@Elvenpath yeah Finland. It has been decades when I was at school and rural area. English started on 3rd, Swedish on 7th and on 8th grade you could choose French or German.
I love that the stepmom refers to her stepson as her son! Plus, that long heart-to-heart talk made a difference. I’m thinking that it opened the door to the mother seeing stepmom as not being the enemy but rather as someone who loves her son and only wants the best for him. If all continues on this path, they all have a brighter future.
I actually found that problematic, after that was their problem and the actual mom probably doesn't know. It can cause problems if she finds out since their talk involved OP telling her she'll always be the "mommy." smh
Wow, OP is a fantastic step mom! She lovingly accepted this poor child who was thrust into an overall uncomfortable situation for to his mother. Bless this family! She even offered to pay for the mother and step dad to go on their trip?! Wow! I feel like OP's husband's ex is a jealous, manipulative youknowwhat.
Ikr. That poor kid will be in dire need of a therapist, because his mother's manipulative and evil behavior/actions have destroyed his ability to trust, and will negatively affect his future relationships, also. 😒
Right! The fact by that she went through the effort to have a conversation about blending their families together really stands out to me. As a child of divorce, none of my partners long term partners made Me feel like they were interested in blending families.
The first story, the kids are gonna grow up super smart. Kids knowing other languages thrive academically. I'm really glad their families formed a family comunity. The kids will be very happy
They should teach him sign language Shirley Temple from Delaware USA
The one thing about this whole situation is that the mother is using the son as a weapon against this couple because her ex got engaged and she got jealous.
I love it when parents blame others for their bad relationship with their kids. Like they really don't realize they are the only one who can change it.
I'm going to be honest. I am in no way surprised that the kid isn't exactly fond of the mother. She literally kept him a secret from his father, then straight up used him as a tool with the intent to ruin his father's marriage. Seriously, what did she think? Nobody likes to be used, and that's what she was doing to him. It was pretty crappy of her to do that. That woman was just incredibly bitter. Glad that at least things have started to improve a bit and that the ex got her act together
I'm glad, too.
Story 1 Now THIS is a good step mom!
An EXCELLENT stepmom!👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Oh boy! Just in time to have something entertaining to listen to while cleaning.
Also, first op nta. You sound like a wonderful step parent to have in a kids life. The fact that you want to help him learn new things and he's enjoying it is amazing. Hopefully mom calms down a lot and realizes you aren't trying to harm your step son, in fact your giving him something that could help him in the future
Haha same 👍
That poor kid having a mom use him like a prop. I'm glad he has stepmother who loves him.
I hate when grown adults try to use kids as pawns in their relationship. I’m glad OP is a good step mom and she really loves and accepts the kid.
Same here. People who use their kids as pawns are really more than enough to ₱*&§ us off.💢
That story's update was AWESOME thanks cheered me up and I wasn't even sad 👏
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I thought to myself, "How is this story on Reddit? Everyone is acting like a sane adult!"
Loved the ending of the first story.And the second one, too, lol.
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Mother of Pearl! A NICE Stepmom!
But seriously, OP 1 is NTA.
OP not falling for the trap finally woke that heffa up and made her realize her nastiness was in vain.
First video, this is the first one I have watched where all the adults seem to have put the child first, which means they deserve a huge recognition. They both are the exception. Really enjoyed reading this one knowing the real winner is the child and the adults are the one’s whose cooperation allowed it. All the adults get credit for thIs success! Thank you!!!
I truly appreciate how much effort you put into your channel.
Hands down my favorite Reddit content producer.
Thanks LG!
Thank you for watching His Mom! happy to know you enjoy my channel :)
Yes yes yes 😊😊
Binging your videos while being sick in bed! Greetings from Switzerland!
Hope you feel better soon Auri!!
I hear that Swiss chocolate is good for what ails you. 😉
Get well soon! The videos will make time pass faster.
Hope you get better soon
Same 😁. Except I'm in San Francisco, CA 😉
Story 1: NTA! That attitude is going to shove her son away LONG before any money does at that point. Step-mother and her family are doing nothing but being a dream, giving the kid in question worldly experience and teaching him a second language that helps out on the job field greatly!
Omg when the kid was worried he'd be giving up his bedroom for OPs "true baby". Ouch. It breaks my heart that he even knows that concept
Sounds like that kid scored with his stepmom
The story about the stepmother vs ex was such a heart-warming story! I think that OP should get a lot of the credit for how things went - she sounds like a truly amazing person!
Kids can never have too much love ,as long it’s not the smothering kind.. It’s great they’re going to raise the kids as a “tribe”, hopefully that continues without any problems..
I love the update to the first story. It's so wholesome, and sweet. I wish the best for OP and everyone involved and for their newly found happiness to last at least a lifetime.
When the ex wanted to play dirty over your engagement, the response should have been threatening to go for full custody of the kid.
Want support? Then risk losing the child entirely!
Haha, hearing you say "Smiley face" always gives me a smiley face. 🤣
First: what a piece of work the ex is, she was so blinded by her bitter jealously trying to ruin her ex-husband's life by first, trying to cause a rift with a child that she only revealed after the engagement announcement, then hated the fact her kids was getting along so much. I am so interested in how the ex took a complete 180. She probably got a hard reality check seeing this wasn't going to change and maybe her kid started to resent her as well as the husband since she put in so much energy to ruin their lives. But overall, what a wholesome story.
As a stepmother and attorney, I found this story very sad. My adult stepsons just got married I walked in both their weddings along with their mother with absolutely no conflict because while the boys were growing up all the adults in their lives put their interests first. It seems simple, but as this post proves, so many people have trouble with it. I recently represented my husband's ex and her sisters on a matter and because of the the appearance of a conflict of interest I had everyone sign a Waiver. The response I got from everyone was, "Conflict?? There's no conflict. We're family!"
“He sounds great...(smiley face)” LOL
Seriously I love it how the son is not his mother's biggest fan, I wonder why when she keeps lying to him and doing this crap
Exactly. Not only is the mother destroying her relationship with her son, she's also destroying his trust.
Wow, a happy ending for everyone! Those are so rare on Reddit. Glad you shared this one, LG!
I don't mean to be creepy with this but I absolutely love the sound of your voice and it makes hearing these stories so much more fun!
No worries, I don't find it creepy :) It's always great to get a nice compliment. Happy to know you're enjoying my videos!
@@LostGenre I've always liked your voice but your accent has changed over the year or so I have been listening.
I'm so delighted that OP 1 is making sure the ex's other child is being included.
S1: NTA. Ex is bitter as hell that husband has moved on and the stepson is seeing her true self. She is trying to control everyone’s lives just because she is losing the zero control she had, but her constant bad mouthing is sabotaging her plans to emotionally control stepson. Also, ex’s husband needs to stfu and mind his own business.
Learning a second language opens so many doors for a person, especially when the kid is an adult and looking for full time work. It also teaches tolerance. I think OP and her husband are amazing for giving that kid an opportunity to learn and grow.
I love the fact that she said our son , not my stepson but our son 💙
On that first story, garden tools be mad. NTA. 😎
That mother is so jealous of you and happy marriage to her ex. She is running her relationship with her son. NTA!
Not only that, the mother is destroying her relationship with her son, also.
OP lucked out into the best blended family possible!
My mother babysat a little black boy for several years and we taught him Spanish. Later on he was able to use that skill of knowing Spanish at school cause no one could talk about him. He still knows this and his daughters also picked up learning Spanish.🥰
I so love when the best for the kid(s) prevails.
The german word for Kindergarten is Kindergarten literally childrens garden, but that´s from 3 upwards and KITA is daycare for the younger kids . It is also in Austria just that usually we say the whole word Kindertagesstätte not the short form.
pre-update, but the one thing that i didn't hear mentioned is that if the kid is old enough to be having issues w/his mother, he's GONNA know whose idea it was to cut him off from the opportunities that were being offered. the ex is the one who weaponized her son in the first place, i REALLY don't see what she and her husband think is gonna happen here. he's old enough to immediately see any restriction of regular activities as "mommy pitched a hissy fit again", and be even MORE ready to get away from her...
Not only that, he'll be more than ready to go complete NC with her; he'll even take off with a girlfriend who's a hard-partyer/high school dropout, and marry her, at 18, to get away from his mother.⚠️
The mom should be suffering legal consequences for intentionally keeping a child from their father.
The update is so heartwarming, I'm crying!!
Dang those kids are going to go far in life. 3 languages that's amazing! It's so rare for divorced families come back together to be one unit, it gives the warms and fuzzies! And a side note, I wish I spoke more then one language.
You should give it a try, too! I taught myself Spanish, and other languages,when I was a teenager, and I also learned how to sing SILENT NIGHT in German.😀
@@danacarter9147 Okay that is cool 😎 Silent Night in German! And I think I'll give self learning a try.
@@synren2851 You should! That sounds like a winner!😀
Interesting, but the truth is the mother is still hanging onto feelings about her baby daddy. Her desire to still control in the father’s life by using her child as a pawn in this dynamic. All other issues are ancillary excuses. Been there done that with females like this. They hate to see the men move on. The fiancé sounds lovely and her step son is blessed to have her in his life. Congratulations on the impending new addition.
I never understand why a parent tries to get their kids to hate one parent/step parent it never ends well. As children get older they start to ask questions about what they were told
Just wanted to say I really love your channel I watch it daily lol. I like the way you tell the stories and your voice is very calming to listen to.
Thank You kaylakelly :) is great to know you’re enjoying my channel!
Story2: Love OP's MC! But the new girl was sh*t-testing the friend, and unfortunately he failed. She was being absurd, but instead of politely refusing, the friend caved.
Once you got to "delaying kids" due to her shenanigans I would have sued for full custody, bio mom only views her son as a tool to mess with her ex, she seems okay after update but that was vile.
Ex on the story one is going to hold the kid's back, poor kid.
Another great story from the best host on UA-cam….LG!
First story was awesome.
Thank you Larry! glad to know you enjoyed it. I did too, very uplifting :)
Last story had strong Mikey Bustos "I wear Speedos" vibes.
1st the mother is just jealous. And the husband is being passive. It is a good thing he is getting along with stepmother. She isn't forcing him. The son is asking for it.
1st Story. OP not the A hole. Like it or not. He is your step child, you and your husband have just as much say as your step child's mother and step father. Their estranged relationship is her fault for lying to her child for years. A sure way for her to drive and even bigger wedge between her and her son is to deny him things he has grown interested in and loves. If she wants to mend her relationship with her son, it is up to her to do so, and she has to do that be regaining his trust, that does not include trying to force you to distance yourself from him to make it easier on her. IT is not fair to you or him. She wants to give him a reason to resent you for pulling back, do not give her that.
Added after update. I am glad she has realized her previous attitude was going to give nothing positive to this situation, and would likely do nothing but cause more distance between herself and her son. It's great you all came to what has become a very healthy family dynamic.
the change occurred after a conversation between the two mothers
i think everything ultimately revolves around money
mom will still be a "good" mom, and stepmother will support both of her children
if it is German, then the Germans are opportunists and know that money does not grow on trees
Nta teaching a child another language. I would welcome my child learning another language. This is her insecurity issue. Children are extremely in tune with all environment good and bad. Mothers aura is dark and the poor child is being walled and not a good environment to be able to express himself.
Hi! Just started watching and its great!
First: The mother should be happy for her son getting all the love from his stepmother and his dad, that is a really big thing considering stepmother could have been so much the opposite. Why would anyone wish to hold their child back from all they are doing for him. My first thought was they should try inviting the mom along on the trip, they did, along with her husband, he sounds ok. She is blinded by jealousy and anger, it will not bind her son to her, just drive him away. What a abrilliant ending 🎇
Exactly.
Tyvm LG
Really great stories today. Thank you.
Glad you liked them Karin!
I don't understand these parents who aren't happy when their kid has a step parent who is awesome. That seems so selfish to me! I had to deal with awful step parents my entire life and would resent my parent if I had a great stepmother or stepfather and said parent had a PROBLEM with that.
The first story had me wondering do therapists and other professionals that counsel people use social media while like how police and probation officers do and like a lot of companies do before they hire a person
Finished 1st story. Wow, what a 180. This ended up being a truely great story. Kindergarten is German for school not just a preschool thing
I don't trust bio mom's sudden change of heart. She probably thinks OP will lose interest in her son once the baby is born, so she's setting herself up to be the "good guy" once OP has her "real baby" and loses interest in the boy. (Where else would he get the idea he'll lose his bedroom to OP's "real baby"?) When that doesn't happen, the ex will resume her old ways, maybe even worse.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks so. The ex's 180 sounds too good to be true. She tried to pull the rug out from under her before, good chance she'll do it again.
@@DrownedInExile God help OP if she has a baby girl. The ex will lose her 💩.
@@MaryTheresa1986Exactly. And then, ex will end up estranged from her son, once he goes NO CONTACT with her.
@@danacarter9147 And she'll play the victim and act like she was the perfect mother and it's all OP's fault. 🙄🙄😒😒
@@MaryTheresa1986 Yes, that, too. Plus, the ex will end up lonely and homeless, when her husband divorces her, kicks her out, and gets full custody of their kid.⚠️😒
good stories, LG. thanks
Story 1: This is pretty hilarious. Bio Mom screwed up so badly in her attempt to torpedo her ex' relationship that it's entirely possible that her son will drop her and side with step-mom.
Well said.
He will learn quick by being in the presence of a new culture
First story. I married an immigrant and learning Portuguese was great. Wasn't great at it but understood what people talked about. Sad to say but i learned the words of someone disrespecting me. The boys mother is actually and i hate to say it but racist. Today's world is no longer English by its self
What mother wants to stop her child from exploring the world
LOVED the swim suit story
Story 1: NTA. The Mom has done things that hurt her own child in an effort to spite her Ex. She's reaping the rewards of that. As long as the step-mom and father aren't manipulating the child against his bio mom, or just doing stuff to spite her, I see no problem with indulging his interests and expanding his world view.
Me, neither.
Sometimes when I'm home alone I go to the backyard garden get naked paint myself red climb into the tree and pretend I'm an apple 🍎😏
The Speedo story...😂😂😂 Go on with your bad self!!
In the second story I was really confused why she was uncomfortable, I never felt uncomfortable seeing male friends in their underwear unless I was attracted to lol , she was being a perv , yuck .
Yup. Maybe it was his briefs, it's a rare sight nowadays on younger men. But still.. who the f cares?
Quite sure she shows more with her bikini. OP did well!
When I was dating my now husband, he lived with other 3 guys. They had "The boxer boys club". When friends around, just boxers were fine and no one, not girlfriends or girl friends or guy friends (it was sort of party house) paid attention or were bothered by it. One of them even casually opened the door wearing only boxers. Others usually put some pants and t-shirt on
They cooked together and yup.. wearing only boxers.
She was sh*t-testing her b/f. He should have politely refused, and if she started flipping out, told her to EFF OFF. Instead he caved, pity.
If my partner and i found out that he had a son kept from him, i would lovingly accept that child as one of my own (obviously making sure i dont overstep boundries set by the mother, duh lol).
Happy outcome well done op
Birth mom has basically made it so stepping on her feet is the only path so stomp away OP
Exactly. Pretty soon, when the bio-mom sees pics of her son with his girlfriend at their baby shower, him with his girlfriend and their newborn child in the delivery room, and him showing off his GED certificate, plus, pics of him and his girlfriend, with their child, and his replacement family on his wedding/18th birthday, she'll have a hard time figuring out why he exlcuded her, her husband, and their kid from those important moments, especially, after she put him through hell, and kept him away from his father; not only that, she'll also wonder why he won't come visit, call, text, or FaceTime her. That's when karma knocks on her door⚠️😒
I'm glad the first story worked out for the better. They have potential to be a very beautiful blended family.
Edit: story 2: 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Love your videos!
Thank you Spydaer Elizabeth!!
She might be able to stop an overseas trip because of the global situation right now but the other stuff…. The judge will laugh her out of the courtroom
Wow, for once (well , maybe not only once) a happy ending. Kids soak up languages like a sponge, best to teach them early. This is one I was glad to hear although it sounded like the usual /revenge story at the beginning.
When I was young, my father's mother refused to allow my dad to speak German to us and to allow my mother to speak Czech to us. I could have been tri-lingual. She said all those languages would make us kids tongue-tied. I actually also took Latin 5 years and another foreign language in college. If you speak another language, please teach it to your kids. If you speak another language, please teach it to your kids. They will become more valuable employees and make more money.
That's right.
Nta in first story, the son is not his mothers property. While yes at times parents have right and a say with what there children do. Learning another language is no way harming the son. He can make those decisions, it's what hes interested in. Especially if hes an older child. Children get to make decisions too without their parents say so. His mother has no right in stopping him. He is his own person should be able to have some say in what he does. Also the kids father is okay with it.
Exactly. And if his mother can't respect that, she's going to lose him forever.
Why does Op from story one all of a sudden keep calling her stepson "my son." woah woah woah.
I mean ops more of a mother then his bio mom is the ex is just manipulative and keeps using the son as a pawn to hurt others so yeah I won't blame the SN to see op as his real mom from now on
Because she sees her stepson as her kid as much as a biological child is.some people just see all kids in their family as their kids, regardless of the legal or biological relationships involved in the situation. I think it's nice, actually. My dad (step-dad) doesn't call me his step-daughter, he just calls me his daughter and has from the beginning.
This makes me happy
Sweet. Thanks for the upload!
My pleasure Caroline!
The more languages the better for the kid.
That's right, it will send his grades shooting through the roof, too.
Story1: Gigantic NTA. The ex sounds like a real piece of work! OP doesn't owe her husband's ex dick, jack, or squat, especially after that wedding stunt. I'm not crazy about OP's husband telling her to be more sensitive to the ex. She's his responsibility, not OP's. As for that update, frankly it sounds too good to be true. The ex tried to pull the rug out from under OP before, she may do it again. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.
I have so many things to say about that last story. But, I'm not going to make a public comment, nope... lol
Great video! What outro music did you use for this?
Switch so she hid the mans son from the ex but told him he had a son when he announced his engagement? Isn't she married? Make it make sense. Basically she's been stalking the ex wonder what her husband thinks.
He will learn Spanish in school so with him already knowing it he will be able to take another one .
Really felt good hearing some of the comments + the update to the first story. 2nd story was fun, but a bit odd. OP wears non-seethrough briefs, female who didn't even went into the pool, still became uncomfortable? A) Why is she looking at OP's covered neither regions if it makes her uncomfortable? B) I know that they're still sold, but what are the chances for that a guy asked to change into swimwear, actually owns boxer shaped swimwear instead of something more revealing, like Speedos?
Story2: There's a method to the g/f's madness. She was sh*t-testing her b/f. He should have politely refused, and if she made a big stink, told her to EFF OFF. Unfortunately he caved.
@@DrownedInExileThanks for the explanation. **Sigh**, I'm way too lazy to waste energy (and time) on doing such "tests".
STORY #1
NTA. OP is allowed to speak whatever language she wants in her house. Apart from that, being multilingual will give stepson a big advantage in the workplace.
The kid doesn't have a good relationship with husband's ex? Gee, I wonder why? Maybe it's because she only had him to hurt her ex and thus only sees the boy as a weapon? Maybe because she kept him away from his father for years? OP is more of a mother to this kid than the bio-mother ever was.
UPDATE
What? Did a kindly doppelgänger replace husband's ex? This sounds like a happy ending, but I'd still be wary.
It's not just learning the language. It's learning another culture, perspective, way of doing things. As someone raised in America by Serbian parents, it was somewhat confusing when I was young, as I didn't learn to differentiate my cultural heritage from American culture until much later. Once I realized the difference, it has given me a big advantage in communication skills. I can easily relate to other people's viewpoints and converse with them, even if I don't necessarily agree. It makes for easier working relationships and getting along in general easier.
OP's SO's ex [is the real AH here and] is being very selfish and short-sighted trying to restrict their son's learning here. NTA.
Edit after update: OP is a gem of a woman to pull this off! That heart to heart opened doors that everyone will benefit from. Way to go!
I like how kindergarten is a borrowed German word, that Germans apparently don't use, lol!