The Surprising Truth About Sigma Males Nobody Tells You
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- The Surprising Truth About Sigma Males Nobody Tells You… Sigma males are a mystery to most people and can be easily misunderstood or often mistaken for being aloof or uncaring. In this dating advice video, you'll learn the truth about Sigma males, understand their unique qualities, and learn how to effectively navigate relationships as a sigma man. Embrace this dating advice to learn more about sigma males, and ensure you watch the entire video to gain more clarity.
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Love is the answer, people! Don’t give up. DO. NOT. GIVE. UP. HOPE. God loves you and so do I! You got this.
How many Greek letters of men are there? What percentages are in each? Can a man change which one he is, or is it lifelong?
You are absolutely wrong. All Sigma's are avoidant dismissive. That's what makes them Sigma's not, Optioners. You're "Optioner" description is someone who is not a Sigma. Rather, you are mixing up these Optioners with women's feelings and emotions. It's Not an "Option" to be a Sigma. You're statements are ridiculous. You are female. You wouldn't understand. That would be like me making a video on how it feels to have a menstrual cycle. Best to steer clear from describing a man's choices of status and hierarchy.
I’m 53 and no one has ever loved me. As I said in the main comments, I’ve seen your channel help men at work and yet not one woman has ever even held my hand. God definitely hates me, I’ll be the only human to die never being loved.
I agree with Dee. You are wrong. You don't become a Sigma by choice. Lady, you should stay out of this one
Allmost free. WTF. free is free. If ya can't work that out. How can you be trusted to give advice. Oh that's right YOU CAN'T. Just leave us stigmas alone. It's kinda what we want. Women can't handle us so ya just setting people up to fail.
I think a real easy test to weed out the imposters from the true Sigmas, is that True Sigmas are the reluctant leaders. People tend to seek them out based on respect. They recognize the quiet strength and character, if even on a subconscious level.
Sigmas don't seek leadership roles, they just end up in them, naturally. Where the Alphas tend to seek it, and with their charm and confidence, tend to get it.
The other difference between alpha leadership and Sigma leadership, is it takes time for people to see the value in the Sigma, as the Sigma doesn't advertise, they just do their thing, and people start to notice them and then want to follow them. Sigmas tend to be leaders without the title.
This is why I think when people try to explain the Sigma, they get the analogy bassackwards. It's not that Sigmas are a mix of Beta and Alpha traits, but rather Sigmas are the TRUE alphas, in that they bow to NO ONE, not even society. That's about as alpha as it gets (assuming it's not from a position of fear or weakness, as you mentioned). Alphas and Betas are both slaves to the system. Alphas are just more outgoing betas. Both seek approval from society, Alphas are just better at getting it and do it with more confidence than Betas.
As Lily Tomlin famously said, "The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you're still a rat!"
@@cryptojihadi265 That is so deep, I really appreciate what you wrote. I also feel like this describes me as I am a deep thinker and quietly successful but don't want to be in charge, but after some time people want my opinions in things and consider me for more responsibilities without me even asking for it.
Gee, that is so me! I get hired to turn organizations around and structure them. I did a number of guest lectures in my time and always quoted the Tao Te Ching as a summary of how I approach these issues:
_"The Master allows things to happen. He shapes events as they come. He steps out of the way. When his work is done the people say "Amazing: we did it, all by ourselves!" Let your workings remain a mystery. Just show the results."_
Another thing is, when people talk about "leadership", I always answer: _"Just do your thing. When you're done, look behind you. If there are people following you, you are a leader. If there is nobody, you're not."_
Hmm, I think you're right about the true alpha's. I'm somewhat of a phony sigma myself, because I think myself to be 80%, but I wouldn't change a thing, because that 20% beta really gives me an outlook it seems the more common sigma pool just doesn't get. Yes, you're very correct about the leadership thing. In my case I got it at the first job after a while, and didn't want it of course, but wanted the increase in pay, but more importantly, though I'd allegedly never led before (allegedly because I'd frequently been leading myself) I had to admit it met my main criteria to lead, in that I had to see myself at least an equal to the other people up for the promotion. Once I got into leading, it was alright, and it was better than NOT leading, Why? Because at least in that case, I had some BAD leaders which were over me before the promotion, and I didn't have to answer to them anymore once promoted, and later I actually became their boss.
Later, I got promoted again, with basically the same responsibilities, but I was given the really impossible task of training other people to lead. Talk about absurd, because I was barely into leading at that time, and I guess you would classify me as getting by anyway. Once into training others to lead (you can imagine how effortless this was, even though I'd never done it😂) I aced it and it went off the rails. I think I was supposed to train 1 or 2 people at most, but in-between I got a new manager, and he never turned me off, and why would he exactly (interesting to watch a possible train wreck in action)? I can't recall why he didn't, but by the time I was transferred from that store over a year later, we had an unofficial leader training center, and the fruits of this kept growing. I think by the time I was out of there, like 90% of the crew were fully capable leaders. I absolutely LOVED training people to lead (which in most cases were probably people that had never led as well, for they were all teenagers), and yet, just like before, I thought it rather impossible and beyond my capabilities, but I HAD TO do it, so I just did what paltry things I could to nurture it. Never been happier at a job in my life, though, of course, that wouldn't necessarily translate somewhere else.
Once out of there, it was back to my old system, not wanting to lead until I felt I was at least the equivalent of everybody else, and I got involved in one stint of basically being my own boss, plus another of having the lead on a shift, but not the title (you saw that coming didn't you?🤣).
@@HansBezemer I don't know truly if your saying works for sigma's at all frankly, though it sounds more like it would work for alpha's. In my case I only got leadership because I was given leadership positions, otherwise, typical for sigma's I wouldn't have been leading at all (except myself). I did a very good job too BTW (see my little story below). I think my main training method amounted to saying one thing to those I trained "Do as I do" and that was it. The only time I ever found anybody standing behind me, was at least a couple of girls that didn't work for me, and they just decided to park themselves back there, for five minutes in one case, and not say a word; kind of spooky really. Sigma's are very much like the pattern my story displayed, where we're in and out of leadership all the time. I spent like a third of my working career leading, so obviously I had a good taste of it, but also a larger taste of just sitting back in the scenery. I think most sigma's are perfectly content with never being a lead, but the problem is you get good enough at your jobs, and it's almost embarrassing for the boss to not try to force you into it.
@charles2241 I think competing who is the true sigma is a thing a sigma would never do. He just doesn't care enough.
Determined I was a Sigma 7 years ago, don't think the term was around then. Was married 27 years before losing my wife to brain cancer 2 months ago. My 16 yo daughter asked me if I would remarry, "No" was the word out of my mouth. "I will never pay that price again." Loved her too much for pain like that again.
@@SammyStevens so sorry man🙏🏼
May you find peace and strength in the years to come, you are a strong man 🙏 So sorry for your loss, cancer sucks
Correct to stay single. Become sigma. Meet whoever with freedom to do so or not. It is the best way..
Divorce is too expensive,Too risky.
I also had a loss a few months ago - feel for you, wishing you the best
Not a family man here, but this is so sad.
A sigma male is generally the one that has given up on dating and yet is a peace with himself. It is actually difficult to find that kind of person.
I tried going sigma (by your definition) and really wish I could have pulled it off.
Your peace is gold.
Sometimes it’s the hoodie guy at the gym 😅😅🥷
Sigma's don't "give up on dating." They just don't, until they decide they want to, and then they do and the girl doesn't stand a chance. At least that's how it was for me.
I felt bad for all the girls that used to throw themselves at me . . . but I didn't have time and wasn't interested. Lots of tears on the other side. One day I met my wife and knew it instantly. I went all in. We've been married for 40 years.
Not sure how it would be these days though. I suspect there are still worthwhile ladies out there, but there sure seems to be a lot more trash than in the past.
@ I’m married 20yrs but before that I was super picky
The sigma vs avoidant attachment is similar like solitude vs lonely. We won't feel lonely when we are in solitude because we choose to be alone, but feeling lonely makes us sad and insecure. Being sigma is not bad at all because we are having independence to be alone or in the relationship and we are not pressured by anyone or anything. Life is hard and Love is tough and it is the biggest risk of all like you mentioned. I remember you mentioned that before as well. You look so beautiful today Anna and you are always having a very good sense of humor. Thanks for the video Anna.
What percentage of men are sigmas?
I can’t find any official stats on percentage of sigma men
@@antoerickson4152 simp 😀
@@YourWingmam I've seen it claimed to be .05%. Since it's rise on the net, I'm willing to think it's larger. You have to realize that when I took up those reigns, all you had was lone wolf, and that was basically societally condemned, but I largely fell into it anyway. IOW, the .05% is mostly guys like me, but it has to rise when you see the approval it's getting these days. It's a lot harder to be the more isolated guy, when it's a lot more condemned and lied about.
Great video as always. Another consideration is that sigma males are often successful with a lot to lose. There is great risk dating anyone in the current milieu, when at any time males can be accused of being sexually inappropriate and lose everything. This tempers any desire to date or have meaningful relationships. Why risk personal success and peace for someone you know nothing about, in a society that hates men?This is not an issue of attachment, but rather a logical and mindful survival choice.
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Sigma won't chase, is VERY observant, memorises people, and pays real attention to their chosen partner. Said chosen partner, to keep Sigma lover, MUST be honest, loyal, truthful, just don't bother lying or hiding anything, we will find out.
My wife says I'm sometimes scary by stare, statement, thought, however, she realises how true, loyal, real, caring, supportive, and loving I am to never risk destroying us.
Life can be tough, easier if you have a Sigma as close friend or lover.
I agree
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I saw a meme recently which said, "When you think that you're sigma, but you find out that you are just autistic with ADHD." This made me laugh out loud and reevaluate my life.😂😂
Ha! Could be both though 🤔
Sigma male married and happliy never speak about my problems no need to burden loved ones on my world problems no friends (have associates ) right now this suits me down to the ground.
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What most people don't understand is you can actually have more freedom with the right relationship and not less however that only happens after a lot of work on yourself first
Truth!
And, your partner has to have put in a lot work on herself as well, or all the work you’ve done on yourself will make no difference in the relationship. Very few relationships like this these days.
@@RS-ms1bz If you've done the work on yourself, you will want the same in your partner...otherwise there is no relationship. Ideally, this is how it should be. Judging by divorce rates however, I have to agree its the exception.
As a sigma male, the "independence vs. fear of dependence" comparison describes me to a T. I have no problem asking for help, but most times I hear people say that they are willing to help out, but for some reason, they never show up to assist in anything or call me to let me know why they weren't available and I end up taking care of the situation. It is tough, but in these types of situations, I know that a situation has gotten taken care of whether or not I have any assistance.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Me too. I handle nearly everything myself because most people who said they would be there usually bail. Women are the worst offenders. But I’ve always been very comfortable on my own. I have varied interests and usually have plenty of things to do. Typically not enough time to do the things I like.
I seem to have many of the characteristics of the so-called sigma male, but....I want love and intimacy with a kind, secure, intelligent and and level-headed woman, but I want to win the lottery too.
Both seem equally likely 😅
Yep feels that way nowadays lol
That's the way a sigma thinks, ever thinking about reality, and always wanting that kind of woman. I'm actually surprised you said you wanted an "intelligent" woman, because despite being largely sigma myself, for the longest I never would've told you intelligence mattered to me in a woman, and even today it almost doesn't. I think in my own case I wouldn't look for intelligence, but "personality". This is largely because what I've known of intelligent women were as boring as what I know of women that are 10's in looks (entirely dependent on their strength, to the detriment of personality). I can see personality and get along with it great, and she may have great intelligence, I don't know, but personality is much easier to see. I think intelligence usually takes much longer to figure out, plus if she's advertising her intelligence like speaking with complicated words, then she just killed any advantage intelligence would give her. And yes, a girl having diplomas proves intelligence none whatsoever AFAIC, even though it may anyway. If her intelligence is confined down to books, she's definitely going to bore me ("Intelligent" girl: "Wasn't it Cicero that said......😴".
90% true for me. We’re attached to those loyal. Alpha treat in what we need, even in pursuing a woman. Independence=peace. Plan ahead when betrayal is perceived. Successful.
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Am perfectly fine with being single but I do need deep connections with the right one. I have found too many play the cold and hot bs so I walk away. I have found a few that I did connect with BUT at that point I was not ready. I never saw a point to be in a relationship if I wasn’t ready to settle down.
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I'm definitely sigma. Was a true shock to find a partner I wanted to be with. Never had an attachment problem, was always good and close to kids and family. When I finally found my keeper, that I wasn't even looking for, I didn't know how to proceed. I was very happy on my own but actually felt happier just walking and talking to her. She now belongs in my arms.
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You nailed this video! Im a true sigma. I am slightly dismissive avoidant. I only like long term relationships but tend to avoid emotionally vulnerable discussions within the long term relationship.
Thank you for watching, glad it resonated with you!
Definitely number 1. It's nice to not rely on anyone for anything. I'll have a think about this, a very interesting and informative video.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Great video. I can identify with all of the points. My avoidant traits have ended a lot of relationships but I know the right one is still out there. I just have to work on myself a little more to allow someone in. Thank you for a great video.
I pray that you receive the one who is truly best for you, the one God has for you 🙏
11:22 your sense/feelings on love (especially in the case of the tragically ended, IMHO) and that you chose to let it show, if just for a second, was both heartache and beautiful at the same time... just amazing! Gl🎉ad that I found your videos, they're helping me work through a tough spot, right now. I appreciate it and only regret you aren't actually my "wingmam." Thanks for your time and hard work 💯
I’m so glad you’ve found value in my videos and I’m honoured to be considered a positive influence through the challenges you’re facing. Big hug, thank you! 🤍
So Anna are you referring to the 3 styles (besides secure of course) in general when you say, "Insecurely Attached" ? Or one in particular?
Lots of food for thought in this video, Anna. I’ll have to watch it multiple times. I’ll have to think about it at great length. I identify as a sigma, but the avoidant attachment model puts me in that grey area between a “true sigma” and avoidant. So, it’s not a simple labeling exercise.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
This is a fine line. I can see it being crossed. In other words, I really don't care about a relationship, but I met someone who could possibly change my mind, but probably won't.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Hey Anna.
As a dismissive avoidant (mom is a narc-working on self-differentiation currently), when I first learned of the term sigma I was similarly concerned as you are with other avoidant males mislabeling themselves as sigmas.
I want to thank you for dealing with this issue of the self-mislabeling avoidant very respectfully. There are many men that need this kind of talk.
One may mimic the other when viewed from a distance but an avoidant and a sigma are polar opposites. An avoidant is controlled by their own negative emotions. A sigma has control over all of their own emotions.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
I was a healthy sigma before meeting my last gf. 18 chaotic months of trying to help her get her life together. Made the mistake getting involved with a dismissive avoidant who had a shit ton of trauma. Initially, we both shared openly. But, ultimately this was because she had BPD... This created a process that was unwinnable, and I am currently recovering and trying to put my life back together. The point? Sigma males can get sucked into bad relationships, even when they practice strength, openness, etc. BPD sufferers find a way to discount all the good, and ultimately discard you. This happened at a low point generally, and it really really knocked me down hard... I'm slowly recovering... but it has been brutal... this is a warning.... there are more and more of these women out there. Just, watch out if they have small kids and are head over heels with you in the beginning...
Super insightful, and as always, helpful. Much thanks for helping me figure myself out.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
I've dated hundreds of women, and I'm the prototypical Sigma male. Wingmam looks lovely in this video, but I'd like you to bring back wearing the pearls! Steve from Brooklyn USA speaks.
For being the prototypical Sigma, it sounds like you've had plenty of experience figuring out what works for you. Keep being yourself, and thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts!
Getting in a relationship or getting married isn't going to fix a loneliness problem, you have to examine the reason for being lonely, i.e you can be married or in a relationship and still be lonely. You need to work on your purpose and be comfortable in your own skin before you bring someone in your life. A lot of people seem to think that marriage is a quick fix for whatever is wrong, only to find out later that it wasn't which can lead to disappointment and sour feelings.
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Okay 👌. I agree 👍. No wait. Not sure, maybe 😮
Much need examples and explanation! Thank you
You'll find my video on the 10 differences between Sigma and Alpha interesting. Check it out here 👉 ua-cam.com/video/E4RKDaDF-_M/v-deo.html
I believe sigma now as being divorced 11 years. Great Anna as always.
Thank you for watching, and I hope you're doing well 🙏
@YourWingmam 🙏
Hello Anna. I would love to see your blooper reel and outtakes. I can sort of tell where some of them are because you chuckle and then there's a cut. Would love to hear what's going on. Thanks
I listened carefully and I think I am a true Sigma with perhaps a little crossover. Nobody wants to get their feelings hurt after all.
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Enjoyable vid! Sigma here...one of the things I relish re your vid's is that you make responses 'non-threatening', by that I mean you don't denigrate men for 5, 10 minutes...then ask us to comment!!!. The OTHER thing I notice is that you point out the under lying motivations of a person, and comment on 'how' it hurts them, and possibly the woman in their life. Bravo! Thank you!
Thank you for watching, I appreciate your kind words! 🙏
Alpha, Beta, Sigma... It's all Greek to me... 😊 ❤
❤️ 🙏 ensure you watch the entire video to get clarity!
@YourWingmam oh, I did. Very insightful and well presented as always. ❤️
So I’m a hybrid of both, but more-so Sigma. I’m not afraid of intimacy or getting hurt. I avoid getting me-too’d etc. Women are unstable in my stable world. I’ve also been through divorce and have general trust issues with both sexes. People suck. I like my peace.
Anna Jorgensen always dresses up and shows up no matter what
I love that idea wanting to outlive our partner to keep them from feeling my loss
A good therapist can change your life for the better
Thanks, K! 🙏
I would like you to teach us more on this this is a very fascinating topic for me and involved me in a lot of ways unfortunately I'm at work so I don't have a lot of time to type out my full thoughts but could you also help us understand how not to sabotage a relationship insecure way that you are talking about throughout the video?
I have always enjoyed your videos, but in the beginning of this one your tone bordered on condescending toward guys who might be avoidant rather than true Sigma. One rule every woman would do well to remember is to never laugh or delight in our imperfections. You are 100% correct in everything you said, but men don't like to feel like a woman is ripping back the curtain on our insecurities with an all-knowing grin on her face. We are men, we have pride, even when we are vulnerable we like that to be respected.
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Wow, im a sigma male and this womans knowledge on this subject is impressively accurate and the way she has relayed it in this video is as professional as you would find anywhere else in the world.
Thank you so much for your comment and for watching!
Disorganized fearful avoidant sigma, I do not engage in unattached sexual encounters. I prioritize intimacy and connection over sex. My chronic singledom is the natural state within current societal trends.
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OK, Anna, it seems I'm definitely a real Sigma male, with no insecurity whatsoever.
Having said this, I would not advise any female to look for a relationship with me. It's not going to happen. Ladies, please know what you get yourself into.
It’s good to know thyself!
Anna are your drawers teak? 😅
Met some staunch feminists who say there’s only alpha’s and beta’s.
If I’m emotionally vulnerable I might be shamed. If my actions reflect
being genuine it’s likely I won’t feel guilty. Mom was easy going.
Dad was not. He was old school. I knew this at an early age.
Alpha’s don’t ask for help. Therapy is weak.
Or so the older generations were conditioned.
Most of my relationships are/were longterm.
It’s easier to be honest sooner than pay the price later.
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No such thing as healthy vulnerability. Showing someone else the gaps in your armor is beyond foolish.
what's beyond foolishness? 😅
Depends on the woman. Look for my other videos on male vulnerability.
The best thing you can do in dating is to practice honesty with yourself. If your not getting accepted move on or being friend zoned move on. Be nice and smile and walk away. Don’t put up with nonsense by walking away.
Been sigma all my life, even as a kid. This just reconfirms it.
Interesting....Food For Reflection.
I have never chased women I am most definitely happy to be single no stress no drama I do what I want every single day
I get what you said about the whole dying first thing. I have a terminal illness. I am much younger than most peeps with my illness which means I have a better chance of surviving longer than most, but I've been on death's doorstep several times with it. It makes the decision to date a tough one, because ideally, I want to be married. I don't do the casual thing, as it goes against my religious beliefs. Either way, I keep my eyes open and trust God.
Big hug, prayers you’re given a life of joy for however long you’re here. Trust can give you strength when you think you have none left. Also, time is not guaranteed for anyone. 🤍
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Word.
Thanks for the kind words. God bless you.
Excellent post, help quite a bit
I'm glad you found it helpful! 🙏
I will not have any labels attached to me, by anyone. I spent much time in a kids home. I now don't need anyone. A partner is nice to have but not essential.
My girlfriend died like 8 years ago and I haven't wanted a new girlfriend after that, I still have sex with women but I just don't care for a relationship anymore and now I enjoy my peace!
Wonderful explanation! After all that, I am happy to actually be mostly Sigma
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Constant self-evaluation is the hallmark of a Sigma male. Sigma especially avoids people and situations that drain time or resources. This is what separates Sigma's from Alpha's and Beta's. Throwing money, time and attention at women who add no long term value to your life is the greatest waste of resources there is.
Good video -- looked at your presentation and I'm still a solid sigma .I've always been independent since I can remember .When I think of sigma I think of Dennis the Menace .Poor Margret is always trying to set Dennis up for one of her agendas and although he likes her she doesn't rule his life . Dennis would rather be out doing something more interesting than one of Margret's fake tea parties. I can't say I didn't feel something when I broke up from the relationships in my life but I didn't let it screw me up.I always had a bunch of hobbies I was really into that were a mental distraction .I had my scuba diving and surfing and ocean fishing or my fly fishing ,not to mention all kinds of other stuff I was curious about . I had my private travel vacations that I always took alone because I didn't want a woman changing the itinerary or messing up my fishing trips . I've always worked hard and looked at my vacations as personal times of rest and re-creation. While going through Canada, I stopped at a rest area manned by a kiosk and stopped for some food from the cooler in my truck and a woman came up to me with a bottle of water .Something happened in that moment and we started a conversation and the girl she was working with finally called her to help close down the kiosk four hours later . I didn't want to go on with my journey and she seemed to just ignore what she was there for .Figuring we just had a good conversation, I went on my way and she on hers .My goal was to explore and catch the biggest Alaskan Salmon of my life on a fly (Which I did --57lbs ). Going down the road, I was glad for the experience of meeting such a great person. Being sigma, not knowing what it was, often bothered me, but once I got a handle on it -- it allowed me to be more of myself and less anxious in relationships . Living with a sigma can be hard on a woman because she is most likely often wondering why she can't always have the female influences she expects to have that can work on a lot of men. I'm still friends with most of my exes and I say most because one tried to steal from me and fortunately for me it didn't work . For me this is why I chose a MGTOW life ,because it puts me out there for independence - I think-- in a pretty honest way . Besides it gives me lots of time for my hobbies .
Some of us sigmas are simply autistic (yes, I'm talking about myself with both labels). We need our solitude and our special interests (those who know about autism will know that these are absolute must-haves for autists).
Many of us also have Alexithymia (inability to feel/understand/describe our own emotions properly). Contrary to popular belief, we do have emotions, and they can also be very deeply moving, but they're somewhat of an enigma and confusing to us, and we can shut ourselves off to them to some extent to help us to get through life. This can give rise to the appearance of being emotionally detached or aloof (there are also other things that give this appearance, but we're usually simply processing everything that comes in via our senses, along with our thoughts).
While most autists "mask" our autistic traits to some degree, we are very much our own people, marching to the beat of our own drum (a very sigma trait). If a woman is part of our lives, then that's OK, as long as she doesn't take over and screw up what we need to maintain a healthy state of mind.
As for being impervious to the advances of women... most autists simply won't see the obvious signs without first having been taught what to look for. For example, once a very attractive young lady showed a lot of interest in me, but I had absolutely no idea about it until over twenty years later, after having learned what to look for and used it for years, it finally hit me out of the blue, and I thought "She was giving me the most obvious signals! D'oh! She was gorgeous!" 🤦🏻♂️ The crazy thing is that it happened since then with other ladies, even after I started learning what to look for. While I don't doubt that there are neurotypical (ie: "normal") sigmas who have become impervious to women, for autistic men, more often than not, we simply fail to see the interest that women have for us. That's probably why I always did far better with internet dating sites than going to pick-up bars - there's at least some mild interest before meeting in person for the app, while a stranger in a bar is a complete unknown. At least on an app, if she thinks you look like the back end of a rhinoceros, you're not going to get to meet her in person.
In saying all of that, most autists are likely to be betas, as I was for many years. It can take time and lessons from the school of hard knocks to develop into being a sigma, and not caring what others think of you. At least, that's how it happened for me.
You just reinforced my suspicions. This 62yo childless widower is definitely a Sigma male.... Well, not exactly childless, I have 4 wonderfully adult not quite adopted people who see and treat me as their dad.
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Actually, I used to think of myself as “serial monogamist” as I’d rather spend some time with that someone I’m comfortable with. Yes, that has allowed disrespect and breaking it off time consuming.
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Some interesting information. I did relate to some points, for example l went to Latin Ballroom dancing for five or six years and I still never went out with anyone. I would say that some reasons for my avoidance was for different reasons not mentioned, plus I'd also say that some of my reasons have changed over the decades that has influenced me to remain single in spite of many possibilities.
The hole sigma thing seems like another box, there's a lot more to people than labels.
The instant someone uses the words "attachment style", "trauma", or " validation", I immediately know their ideas are not worth consideration.
Oh, yeah, that's me.
Fairly securely attached too. (And learned the greatest of powers: goodbye.)
("Relationship material" is just rare to non-existent.) (People who've had their 20 years of me-time in current society.)
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@@YourWingmam You're right; That's just me dealing with being single. ^^
(Like all cool people.)
Sigma all the way here! Life is good!
I'm a Sigma and definitely prefer my own company while also secure enough to want emotional intimacy. However, I will not participate in "dating" as I see it as a game which I despise games. I would prefer Courting as my strategy for finding my wife so I don't waste weeks, months or years trying to find the right woman who will complement my life.
After being neglected emotionally my whole life and never having anyone around me willing to help me get into a relationship, I learned to regulate my emotions in public and around my family while appreciating my uniqueness standing firm in my beliefs and values.
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“I’m a Sigma!”, yeah bro like 99% of those sigmas still employed & having a damn boss
@ No, I’m not employed and I’m working on building my off-grid homestead to live off the land.
Ha!
Gifted, creative, dyslexic, neurodivergent, "anti-social"... Now I'm a Sigma male? Secure attachment style, but it has to be with the right person. Twelve years after the love of my life died I'm just starting to get curious again. No hurry.
My deepest condolences. Sigmas do love deeply, almost tragically deep. (A sigma will know what I mean.) No rush.
My friend asked me what a sigma male was, so I said ...
Well to sum it up they’re not just your average guys, and to add to that, they’re kind of like a calculator, you can pretty much always count on them ...
* Moscow, Russia
Below the age of 18 I was DEFINITELY avoidance dismissive. But once I joined the Marines and got the juvenile crap kicked out of me and then met my wife I matured more into the Sigma male traits. Now I don't really having an issue having a 23 year relationship with my wife. Before I met her and the Corps, oh yeah I freely admit I avoided relationships and interest in me like the plague. Though I did try a few times, I never had my heart in it due to fear of being hurt.
My dear Anna... I do think you need to re-think all this...
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Im tired of life. Although I like me and find joy seeing people thrive and enjoying nature. I don’t like having more than my intermediate family around for longer than half an hour. I like to work. I don’t date because I’m trying to stabilise my home and work life while funding my interests. I would like to have someone be part of that and share their dreams with them. I can incorporate you into my life but I’m already doing something so you’ll have to ask for my time and I’ll ready some free time.
Interesting. I enjoy engaging in emotional vulnerability with females but not sure about them getting close due to giving them “power” over me through sex, relationships, etc. I’d be interested if this falls under a particular attachment style that you have presented.
There are a few other Sigma traits that are obvious if you look. EG pretty much constant learning. Sigmas actively seek out solitude and rarely ask for help. They have a strong sense of self and as such can focus on their goals
Abbadamenet is freedom, trauma is life attachments. Never show your royal flush , read read read .
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I knew something was weird about this video. You'll note the wall is bare behind the tv, yet the tv has a screen saver (I guess), which looks like photos you'd put on a wall. Interesting🤔 It's easy to see the tv as being a mosaic of pictures on the wall, and not just a screen saver. Don't think I've ever seen a screen saver like that, at least not on a large screen. The black trim of the tv edge helps complete that illusion, along with that rather bland green color of the background. Hmm.
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I am not fond of any of these labels. The problem is that strict adherence with any of them brings problems. Jesus was the only perfect man. He adapted to his situations as required. Anyone who thinks they are the epitome of any of the labels is both prideful and severely mistaken. That includes "Sigma."
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Ok I'm throwing away that " she needs to feel safe" nonsense. I end up getting robbed every time. Females take kindness for weakness.
Kindly don’t say that, there are a lot of good women out there!
Since when women apreciate vulnerability in men,in my expirience (and i have some) when you open your heart to a woman she is on "stack up ammo mode" so she will use it later on when you are on low.I found out that she bites you because she loves you and she wants to motivate you with a whip.Thinking she will apreciate your vulnerability is being naive.
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As a sigma, I have been single for over a decade by choice. I get women throwing themselves at me because I’m a lead singer in a band, women half my age on up. I’ve not found anyone of interest. I like being alone, prefer it than having my peace ruined by a woman who constantly needs attention and messes up my house and runs up my bills. Women in the end are nothing more than a money pit.
Im a 43 Sigma male, just started dating a mature 21 yr old female......time will tell, but I'm loving the energy.
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Walk away from her. Trust me, the gap is too large, walk away!!
@northernmichigan4108 HaHaH you said "walk"
So true love your Sigma videos ! ❤ I’m married for 20 yrs have 1-2 close friends and value my independence aside from my marriage. Heck I even sleep in my own room 😅
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Dear Anna:
Wow!! Excellent video. Well researched material, impeccable presentation. It almost came across as a class, and I mean that in a very positive manner.
I do have some sigma qualities, but unfortunately for me, I have avoided certain things, and issues in my life. I have avoided opening up, and dealing with feelings, and well, I am without a woman at the moment. (Hint, hint ) I did not grow up in a family where open communication was valued or encouraged, so I blamed that for most of my life. I am definitely working on that now, because it is what I need to do if I ever want to find my other half.
That is all for now. You looked very sexy in that leopard print dress. I have you have a great week. Sending you lots of love, a big hug, and a peck on each cheek from Texas. You rock, Anna.
Keep encouraging yourself to grow, you’re making progress! Remember, progress not perfection. Thank you for the compliment, enjoy your week!
Yes, my parents didn't give me the candy I wanted, hence I felt neglected, with tendency to manipulate them to achieve the desired outcome. Unlike my brother, who had all the candies he wanted, I stuck in this attachment theory sigma gizmo and I just can not attach, because there ain't gonna be a candy anyway. Show me the candy and we can have a talk then... No free hugs, we sigmas want to see the candy first.
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Attachment style? How about another theory - the " give her the boot when she starts her shit" style - usually around 6-12 months into the relationship. Then move on to the next one. This is a very good strategy for the modern male.
With love comes responsibility.
Can you afford it and is it worth it?
You’re absolutely right-love does come with responsibility, and it’s something worth considering carefully. Real love asks for commitment, empathy, and sometimes sacrifices, so it’s essential to ask yourself if you’re ready for what it takes. However, when it’s the right person, those responsibilities often feel more rewarding than burdensome.
@@YourWingmam thank you 🙏🏼
A sigma male is always a ladies man full of love without compromising on self worth and self esteem.
Ana i am worried for the cat. You Live in Canada right?😸😬
Sigma is not overly complex. If they want to get into a relationship with a decent woman they will. What they don't do is do BS basically. They bounce and we certainly don't bow down for a piece. Too many men are bowing down for a piece and changing who they are as a person and their identity. That is one of the major differences.
Sigmas are so logical that it normally does not make sense for them to be in a relationship. Also, the relationship sphere is a very small part of what makes A person Sigma.
The video is about how you might not be a Sigma but someone who sabotages relationships due to avoiding commitment. I think what the video misses is women do not like nice men, women are usually attracted to men who are in the top 10 % and these men can give them all the drama they crave. American women today boast how independent they are and are into man-bashing. On commitment, it is all to common but few women bring anything to a relationship. There is a quote in the 1927 movie "It" starring Clara Bow. She is asking about a couple sitting at another table. Oh' they are madly in love for years, one day they will get married and end it all". Sigma.
If you conciously identify as a "sigma", you got issues :D Being one, okay. I do partly identify with the examples in the video because I feel free and dont feel like there are any society boundaries having an influence on me in my day to day life. But I find it highly cringe to think to yourself "I am such a sigma, look how I disobey the rules, I am the main character."
Would the "alpha" of an ancient tribe be like "I am going my own way, I dont care about y'all"? No, he would care for everyone. Thats what a leader does. Sigmas are not leaders and no one that you and me admire.
I disagree it’s good to know your personality and who you are rather than pretending to be like everyone else . Now if your pretending to be a sigma and are Not than that’s super cringey 😬 😂
@@Sigma77-n2u Yeah I am referring to the trend of calling yourself a sigma alpha wolf where they glorify being sigma. Thats the only sigma I know of. And I find it pathetic. If you truly have these sigma traits in your personality, I would rather call it socially awkward or narcissistic
I'm the LONE wolf 🐺
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Meh. I hear descriptions of "sigma males" based mostly upon behavioral traits. Sometimes I think, "Hey, I'm kinda like that," and sometimes I don't. But I've never heard it described based upon WHY a guy has those behavioral traits. Does it really matter whether he's aloof towards getting emotionally serious with a women because he just isn't that interested or because he's afraid of it? I mean, can't we say that being afraid of it is simply one possible reason--a subset if you will--why he just isn't that interested? And isn't the behavioral trait that results (him being aloof towards it) the same either way?
And on another note...I don't really get the value of the labels beyond mere classification by others. Calling oneself alpha, or sigma, or beta, or whatever is kind of pointless. We just are the way we are, for whatever combination of reasons we are that way. Just like a truthful person doesn't need to go around telling people he's honest, because they're going to form their own opinion about whether you are honest or not regardless of what you claim, telling somebody that you're a sigma male or whatever is just silly.
I am not afraid, I am annoyed by people and relationships. What is that called?
11:02 and fwd strikes home. I was (am?) becoming smitten by a woman I met who appeared a little older than me, but she had that certain something. I worked on her lightly for about 6 weeks and then it was birthday Friday. She's 16 years older than me😳. I still really like her but now feel hesitant for the reasons you gave (death*). It isn't like I don't have options, I literally have more now than ever. But this woman really shines to me. She has a couple of hovering suitors more her age but she flirts with me in front of them.
I'm still adrift on the Sigma question. I like solitude and always did well solo (in my youth I would frequently go out to clubs solo because I didn't want anything slowing me down). But I will pursue a woman I am keen on once I make up my mind. Having many options complicates things. Whether I'm Alpha or Sigma is not the critical question for me. Whether she meets my standards, I find her attractive (eye popping beauty not required), and do I have big "attraction" for her are the priorities. It is kinda important to evaluate their interest level in me too, that matters. Women need attraction too.
*As a senior, this death thing comes to the fore often. As a 70YO man, there's no guarantees for 1 more day. My 1st wife died in her sleep at 64(long after I was out of there). There's nothing other than a calendar (not substantive) to say she would pass before me. That possibility isn't going to go away. The mature and rational part of me says to just remain her friend, but there are notions in my mind that say, 'why are you wasting time?'
Reasonable concerns, logic would support hesitation. On the other hand, you could have X more good years with her than with someone else. Life can be so random. If you feel good with her, it could be worth it. Keep me posted!
What about the man that would be open to a relationship, but observes that the likelihood of finding a woman, that would fit into his well-established lifestyle, is so remote that it's not worth wasting time searching for one? If one comes along, great. If not, he's not wasted valuable time on a futile pursuit, with limited reward.
Can't handle people
I don't like misery, that people ( junkies) bring and run to my bedroom to avoid,
Every junkie is sour about life
...also, Anna, you're gorgeous, pleasant, sweet, and intelligent. Great example of what us guys need to be aiming for.
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thanks, Anna ;)
Glad you’re here! :)
Interesting, however there are scenarios where a Sigma may be caught and abused by a Narcissist which can cause them to become somewhat avoidant. After all, becoming vulnerable and then having a Smear Campaign used against you is NOT fun. What may appear as avoidant may just be an excess of caution. Other than that, thank you for the input.
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Sigma, alpha, beta is just zodiac signs for men
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I hate the term Sigma. First off, this "Alpha Beta" stuff was rejected by the guy who started it. He was basing his research on wolves in captivity, and his research was not applicable to wolves in the wild and certainly not people.
Now as for the concepts of the "Sigma male" actually describes the ENTP personality trait from Myers Briggs. The reason why is because ENTPs are a conflicted personality type and rare so it's not as well understood. ENTPs are extroverts, but they appreciate solitude. They're highly logical but listen to their gut. They're intuitive and thinking, so they're a highly conflicted personality type and blaze their own trail. They have to be out of the box thinkers and workers because they don't fit any specific box. Sigmas are the same way. They blaze their own trail, and while good in a social setting, they're perfectly comfortable with being alone. They're well adjusted regardless of the circumstances.
Now I don't dispute your premise that sometimes men are avoidant but mislabel their being avoidance as being a Sigma male because it sounds cooler than saying you're too scared or insecure to take the steps to be in a relationship.
So the secure Sigma is likely just an ENTP and other "Sigmas" are probably just avoiding attachments instead of being the cool "Lonewolf" or Sigma.