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Who said for no reason ...plenty to go round...apologies for taking it down to such a low vibration...just wasn't Necessary....never ever again...4/13/24😪🤐
People are accountable for their own actions.When someone disrespects me for no reason, it says more about them than about me.I respond by denying them any futher access to my personal space.Empathy and kindness might work in certain situations with certain people but, many will take it as weakness and a free pass to disrespect you even more.
I agree, war and empire building is different to the petty non life threatening crap we deal with in a workplace. You deal with disrespect in that moment and if you need to pull that person apart in front of others you must do it with some interest on top. Otherwise they own you and you know it. Never fear confrontation it's the best way to test the courage of your own convictions. If you are not prepared to do this, enjoy living for someone else's convictions. Fuck that.
Very well said and that is the right way to handle it, especially with someone who does not know you well and you don't have history with. They have shown who they are and if you continue to give them access they will do it again and again, expecting you to eventually allow their nonsense.
@James-gp5cwSo you have bad intention but pretend to be good. This is different from what Jesus said, "Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy." (Matthew 5 verse 7, NIV)
Whoever is reading this, I pray for you: a heart free of sorrow, a mind free of worries, a life filled with joy, an abundant source of financial wealth, a body free of disease disability and a day filled with God's blessings
Where people display their rough edges by being disrespectful - I walk away. I have come a long way in my 70 yrs. And will not associate with such people at all.
Walking away is not vengeance, but peace of mind for any future encounters coz it is not once that I received disrespectful attitude but countless times n the final blow is just walking away n moving away!
I went through this in a one-sided relationship. After six months I decided my self-respect and inner peace were worth more than this empty relationship, I ended it and feel better for it
My sweet sweeeeeet STEPMOM passed away from Cancer, bacterial meningitis, lungs infection, kidney failure, fits,strokes internal bleeding and finally heart failure. She was only 48 year old ,but I know she’s in Heaven!!! She wasn’t just my mom, but my best friend. Please pray for her.
I used to take it personally when someone was disrespectful to me out of nowhere. I didn't understand why I was being attacked totally unprovoked. I was often stunned silent. Not addressing disrespectful behavior isn't ok. Now I understand there are people who simply enjoy pushing people around. It's important to discern their intent in that moment of contemplation before responding. If someone is being a bully it's important to immediately, strongly let them know you wont tolerate disrespect. Calmly, assertively putting them in their place. Developing the ability to respond effectively in difficult situations is a very important skill.
All good in theory, but not always practical. As my extended family lives scattered over a large country, meeting ùp for reunions takes a lot of organising. Now, imagine this: it'd been a few years since I'd seen a certain cousin, and I greeted her joyfully. Her venomous reply was so shocking that I stopped dead in my tracks. All through that event, held in a large restaurant, she was turning on the charm to everyone except me. Very puzzling. When it came to say our farewells, I complimented her on how well she looked, and she bit my head off. Now, given the circumstances, I'm sure you can imagine how impossible it'd be to start a confrontation in such a public place. Next reunion, 2 years later, was at an aunt's place, and this particular cousin was even more horribly rude. Now, when I'm a guest in someone's home, I cannot start an argument or accusation. I cannot and will not. I was shocked at the hate and contempt my cousin displayed, but only to me, but I kept my dignity and behaved as though nothing were amiss. I said no goodbyes to her, but resolved NEVER, ever to speak to her again. That's 12 years ago. She still rings up, expecting me to grovel all over her. I just hang up. Best decision, as far as I'm concerned. No use trying to reason with someone so arrogant and insensitive. Besides, her behaviour was so extreme, so loud and uncalled-for, it'd just give her an excuse to further abuse and humiliate me. Ain't gonna happen
This is who I am, I’m an introvert and also a solitude person, I luv being alone. I’m content, self control, patience, discipline, empathy, compassion, honest, truthful, quiet,respect and kindness
Simply, listening this to this, when feeling defeated, or tested in life, is very healing, even if you've heard all these sorts of things before. Thank you SLL 🥳🥳🥳❤❤❤❤❤❤
You are so right I love this I love this but I had no idea what I was doing when I had a man I was helping a couple people at a company and this guy spit in my face come on black man I'm a supervisor but another supervisor spit in my face and said if you believe in God I'm not going to go through the whole thing but I was telling a couple of the people that are working with and about you believing in God God is God but anyway y'all be kind to each other but he wanted his nephew to work on my shift and I didn't want him I had all the good people I need but he spit in my face now what do you do with a black man and a white little man spit in your face out in the bathroom wash my face and I pray and I came back out everybody knew what I was going to do that's what they thought but I picked up the phone and call the police I said how much time I'm going to get for something battery that I hung up the phone and I went back to here and I told him hey I'm sorry if I disrespected you at any anything I said to you😊 everybody go back to work but I just said no I was so mad so angry I forgot I left my car at the job and I walked home with tears in my eyes and my wife said they've been calling the phone and asking you what are you going to do so I'm going to do nothing the next day we went back to work we had to go to human resources I didn't say nothing he got fired but this is the kicker here to come to my house and ask me for a favor and I was scared know I was scared his daughter had got caught up in a stolen vehicle and I knew people he said can you help me get her out of that juvenile so yes I will I swear to God she said you're going to go out there and meet this man I said where you at or else I'm in your driveway okay we went and got her out got can you brought me home he broke down and cried all he can say is I'm so sorry I'm so sorry it ain't about being all that Christian bull crap they going to say who are you how do you handle these situations I am so sorry that I did what I did I said let it Go probably moved on and I'm doing fine but I wish I had learned that this about Marcus is really I guess it's been in my blood all my life
I have been walking the path of stoicism for a while now. I have held up in many ways the principles I've learned. Today I felt disrespected and I lost my composure and exploded. I apologized for my behavior and reaction and from that realization and personal recognition I returned to this lesson to help myself handle it better in the future. I'm thankful for the opportunity to check my growth and continue moving forward in a positive way. Thank you for the video and I'll keep moving forward in a more controlled way. Refreshing stoic
On Friday I went for a promotion interview. One of the panelist was condescending. Disrespected my name and went further to label me arrogant simply because * she advised I maintain eye contact when talking* she became completely angry when I nodded in affirmation to one her opinions. Her tag sent an electric current down my spine. Then I mildly breathed in. She kept asking if I agreed I am an arrogant person but I kept my cool with no response. After proceedings, she met me again in the lobby and invited me to her office and apologised to me on her harsh attitude towards me. A co-panelist had told her I am completely opposite of her accusations. She took my contact and asked that we be friends 😅. I am smiling listening to these lessons ❤.
Instead of work relationships, some of these situations are family. Often times, I’ve calmly brought up the disrespect of their actions. The response is an “OMG”, or maybe a “oh mom”. I have been building on my inner peace for years. I’m proud of how far I’ve come. Being of a quiet nature has its challenges……I have a keen sense of intuition and discernment….
Exactly!! I have more problems with my adult children . Often my calmness gave them the wrong message that is not such big issue what they did. Im very calm and yes took lots of work, its not easy to just switch and keep focusing on my own life
Being that stoicism started around 300 B.C.E It’s amazing that even through technological advancements, We as humans always suffer from the same problems of our own emotions as did those from the Roman Empire. Even today that such old knowledge is still able to be used to help us understand ourselves.
this Video has been a game-changer! These tips aren't just strategies, they're wisdom for maintaining dignity and composure. Who else feels better equipped to handle disrespect with grace and strength?
1. Stay in calm 2. Self reflection and correction if needed. Value constructive criticisms 3. Pause and collect your thoughts. Don't be panic 4. Empathize and be kind 5. Focus on virtue 6. Acceptance 7. Use humour 8. Set boundaries 9. Forgiveness (It gives u more inner peace) 10. Change perspective 11. Maintain self control 12. Focus on what matters 13. Practice active listening 14. Avoid escalation 15. Educate others 16. Seek mediation 17. Maintain confidence 18. Keep your focus 19. Practice gratitude 20. Learn from disrespect
"The best revenge is not to be like your enemy." - Marcus Aurelius How can applying Stoic wisdom transform our response to disrespect into a pathway for personal growth and inner peace?
My view has always been…”As if your opinion of me matters…I like me just fine” I started doing this when I was a kid with my bullies…I would laugh at them when they flew insults at me for what ever reason that their simple minds were choosing to be disgusting human beings on any given day. I had so much disapproval of their actions and enough confidence in myself to realize that they had the problem, not me, because “I liked me just fine.” I always knew that they were in the wrong. I would even seek them out and ask them if they had any other dumb things to say today and mock them for their ignorant stupidity. Yes..I got the crap kicked out me from time to time, but, most of the time when they saw that they couldn’t bother me and that I thought less of them than they thought of me…it wasn’t fun for them anymore, so these weak minded people would usually give up…and..I would still like me just fine. Be well.
@@SIERRATREES Oh, I don’t know about it being a gift, it was more anger in the sense of “Who the feck do you think you are!!?” kind of attitude if anything. They were losers in my view, so I didn’t think that I should have to put up with losers. It took me a few beatings by my bullies to get angry enough to tell them what I thought of them in front of the other people. I just learned how to make them look stupid, which wasn’t hard, and make the bystanders laugh at them and and agree with me. Bullies aren’t usually that bright and most of them are insecure so, it’s pretty easy to make them look like the fools that they are. Be well.
@@maxxwellbeing9449I'll never forget the look on my bullies face when he had the audacity... Long story short dudes 2 decades older than me and acts like a middle schooler. You know how in cartoons old fucks really be beefing with teenagers? Like wtf dude pick on someone your own size.
What bothers me is when adults decide not to take responsibility for themselves and they don't act like adults and I give them their freedom but they just take advantage and then it just shows me they're not adults. They don't need to be around me. I don't need to be around them
When I am disrespected, I can’t really keep my cool. Before all of that, I’m very giving and loving, but sometimes people just don’t get the fact that you have boundaries.
Am glad to have this opportunity to learn this important matter. Is hatred alongside disrespect? I have seen disrespect that seems to carry grudge and hatred. This video has all the tools and dignity to handle any challenge that comes with disrespect and the kind. Thank you.
I appreciate the focus on setting boundaries assertively yet respectfully. By clearly communicating our expectations for respectful treatment, we uphold our own dignity while fostering a positive environment for constructive interactions. This practice reinforces the Stoic notion of recognizing what is within our control and acting accordingly.
I work in a blue-collar environment with plenty of "shop talk." Guys joke, but sometimes there's a negative, mean-spirited undertone. This video was very helpful.
Over the years, I have had to learn manythings, as I been wathing some of these different videos, it seems that I have been learning the stoic principals witout knowing it , as well as growth in mauy forms from within my soul and the subconsciuos. Real reflections of ones self, taking full responsiblities really do makes a difference in ones life.
Had to hear this video 3 times so it can sink in, I'm tired of putting up with disrespectful people, I'm very kind and nice but I'm done, time for a better change to have a peace of mind.
I find myself at a crossroads of my life. Honestly evaluating myself and my associations. I’m finding immense satisfaction in learning how to approach various situations from a different perspective. It’s enlightening and empowering to learn new approaches to difficult people and situations.
This is my personal weakness. I appreciate this video. My years of military service is a disadvantage in this weakness. I must work on overcoming this. SHALAM
Alot of these principals I already have put into practice and have been for awhile.Most of these are convictions that are used by me already Thank you for helping me define myself.
This has been very helpful for me in understanding better how to navigate disrespect. Thank you for creating this content! Im extremely grateful for it! ❤️
This is sooo much wisdom, I needed to hear this, it always starts with the man in the mirror, working on ones own self is an everyday job, never leave it to the other person, make yourself better by how you react to life challenges 💪🏾
Thank you for equipping me to be armed with self worth and value in boldness speak to change the atmosphere for anyone to know I will not tolerate any form of there need to be self righteous
Stumbled on this, and i am so happy! I tend to be emotional and am working my way up the corporate ladder and the disrespect I have encountered has left me floored and frankly unsure how to handle it. Except responding in a negative manner. I usually get them back. You have a new follower, as I appreciate your content in this video. The explanations made sense. I will start putting it into practice today. Ty
I believe it is better to put some disrespecting dudes where they belong to especially when it is consistent with them whilst protecting your peace of mind, forgive but set the healthy boundaries. Nice guys do not get what they deserve in life ... be wise friends and stand for your values and you will command respect.
I watched the last video on a stoic life .. the content affirming and real… aligning w my values …good for maintaining peace under the pressure of these days…
It is very educative I I recently used it and looked into the eyes and made them know I do respect our relationship but I won't torelate disrespect she became very lound I waited till she finished and then walked away wver since she is very ashamed but the pride won't let her apologise but I lost nothing but she is lost a good friend and I will not give any second chance once bitten twice shy
A soulful messeage, will take heed forever...🙏 Yrs ago, ccupied an extremely respectful, lucrative position, but for the safety of our Police Officers i resigned...(Attempted all methods for rational)---co-worker, henrete, refused to respond to my requests for info for many yrs...This was ignored by officials as "it" was a political hire 4 eoe & not score standards...Truth known, i maintained sanity & dignity by exiting...(apologuze for rambling)...
Put on your spiritual armor, 1st thing every morning, to deal w/evil forces, like narcissists. Detach from them, bcs the stoic attitude dsnt work on them, they see it as weakness.
All my life i don't have family issues like disrespecting me or friends. Only from work. I've been a doormat for many years afraid of getting fire and just except the disrespect and rudeness behaviors from colleagues and just close my eyes and ears. Not anymore i defend myself and tell them as it is. Or i just ghosted them.Works for me. But this philosophy provided me how to REALLY handle the situations in the correct manner ( professionally) i will utilize some of the content on here whomever disrespect me at work. I hope it works lol. Great video! Thank you
I was just utterly disrespected in a meeting by the MD and i am so at myself for having given the my energy. In hindsight, i should not have justified that disrespect with a response. I promise myself to do better next time😢
My sister, told me today that God told her all my crops will dry out. She said I need to learn to talk to God before I make decisions. She told me this is what God told her to tell me. & I just quit my job to start a business, & it was discouraging to hear her say that to me. Mind you I just lend my sister money the other day, I take her son to school and her to work every morning because she doesn’t drive. She even told me to lower my standards. She doesn’t drive, she’s living paycheck to paycheck, and her boyfriend is living with her rent-free. She spent her Mother’s Day at work, and I came over this morning to drive my nephew to school and to drop off a Mother’s Day gift, and fell into a discouraging conversation with her. Ima pray about this but it’s difficult knowing she said that.
She’s projecting, probably jealous that you’re in a situation where you’re well off enough to quit a job and pursue what you want. Keep going and goodluck you got this🙏🏼 keep doing what you do for your nephew, I wouldn’t give her any more money and if she says anything else tell her she can find her own ride🤷🏻♀️
Keep calm? That’s one thing to say but when your heart beats hard, and your mouth goes dry and your head fills with overwhelming reactionary thoughts, being “calm” isn’t easy.
I’m am learning it is very much so I have used these and had been called weak for me not giving equal disrespect. But my soul is the righteous one that told me maybe they were underestimated by the fact most people endured their behavior and much less not gave the same energy to then not knowing what to do with themselves. I thank you for your education ❤️🙏
You can recover and it can happen quickly. As of right now I don’t have a friend in the world, just narcissists and their co-conspirators, this includes local, small town, law enforcement. My own mother, whom I’ve always been close to has cut me off as well. Right now I have a vindictive wife fighting tooth and nail in the court system, social media and otherwise to destroy me. I was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease this summer and have been suffering for 20 years with severe Crohn’s disease. I also am being treated for skin cancer, melanoma. I have had an Ostomy bag for 20 years. I’m living in a group home where I’m neglected and abused. I’m no longer on psychiatric medications. I’m dropping my blood pressure medication next week and my Parkinson’s medication next. Other than that I take a bunch of vitamins. On my 50th birthday last Friday, I ran my first 1/2 marathon, another 3 days later. After a bit more than 3 weeks of training I am logging 50 miles a week. I’m registered for my first marathon in early April and I will run a 3.5 hour time, which puts me in the intermediate category. Running a marathon is something no one can EVER take away from me. I don’t date, but I’m extremely good looking for my age, no gray hair, funny and handsome. I’m a semi-professional professional comedy writer and musician. I have a bachelors degree in chemistry and graduated Magna Cum Laude. I’m reading Marcus Aurelius and Senica. Science Fiction and Shakespeare. I’m joyful and thankful. I have no shame, anxiety and sleep like a baby. The devils unchained forced this lifestyle upon me and I’m grateful to them for it. The haters will never help, the narcissists would have you murdered, if they thought they could get away with it, but the innocent, but timid, co-conspirator bystanders will help from time to time, only in secret. Always remember, God and karma are on yours side, Fortune favors the bold and God hates a coward. “Always remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and loved more than you know.” Winnie the Poo
Disrespect shown by a child towards a mother, takes a lot of my energy before I give up till my my cup runneth over, then finally I say, I’m done n let go away from her n move on like an affair that wasn’t meant to be.
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Who said for no reason ...plenty to go round...apologies for taking it down to such a low vibration...just wasn't Necessary....never ever again...4/13/24😪🤐
People are accountable for their own actions.When someone disrespects me for no reason, it says more about them than about me.I respond by denying them any futher access to my personal space.Empathy and kindness might work in certain situations with certain people but, many will take it as weakness and a free pass to disrespect you even more.
Agreed. We must care to choose our battles wisely.
Disagree. You’re torturing yourself and not having any boundaries bro
I do love this! Deny them any further access to my personal space. Very well said! 😊
I agree, war and empire building is different to the petty non life threatening crap we deal with in a workplace. You deal with disrespect in that moment and if you need to pull that person apart in front of others you must do it with some interest on top. Otherwise they own you and you know it. Never fear confrontation it's the best way to test the courage of your own convictions. If you are not prepared to do this, enjoy living for someone else's convictions. Fuck that.
Very well said and that is the right way to handle it, especially with someone who does not know you well and you don't have history with. They have shown who they are and if you continue to give them access they will do it again and again, expecting you to eventually allow their nonsense.
"It’s silly to try to escape other people’s faults. They are inescapable. Just try to escape your own." - Marcus Aurelius
Love this saying!
This is very good video may help some people
"We cannot control everything, but we can control how we react." - Epictetus
@James-gp5cwSo you have bad intention but pretend to be good. This is different from what Jesus said, "Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy." (Matthew 5 verse 7, NIV)
Whoever is reading this, I pray for you: a heart free of sorrow, a mind free of worries, a life filled with joy, an abundant source of financial wealth, a body free of disease disability and a day filled with God's blessings
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Thank you.. and to you too 😊
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Where people display their rough edges by being disrespectful - I walk away. I have come a long way in my 70 yrs. And will not associate with such people at all.
Is walking away vengeance?
@@ohenebaboahene3789 It's self protection, empathic people don't deserve to be yelled at or sworn at.
Walking away is not vengeance, but peace of mind for any future encounters coz it is not once that I received disrespectful attitude but countless times n the final blow is just walking away n moving away!
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@@ohenebaboahene3789 Self, heart and mind care. That's what that is love.
I went through this in a one-sided relationship. After six months I decided my self-respect and inner peace were worth more than this empty relationship, I ended it and feel better for it
YES!
Good for you 😊
Yes I had to walk away from both of my adult children in order to preserve my peace, dignity and self-respect. The hardest thing I ever had to do.
Just had do it m8
My sweet sweeeeeet STEPMOM passed away from Cancer, bacterial meningitis, lungs infection, kidney failure, fits,strokes internal bleeding and finally heart failure. She was only 48 year old ,but I know she’s in Heaven!!! She wasn’t just my mom, but my best friend. Please pray for her.
May her soul rest in peace, you were raise well . God bless you
@@LabelleLape thank you so much
I believe that when we slip away to go dance on the wind because love never dies.
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I used to take it personally when someone was disrespectful to me out of nowhere. I didn't understand why I was being attacked totally unprovoked.
I was often stunned silent. Not addressing disrespectful behavior isn't ok.
Now I understand there are people who simply enjoy pushing people around.
It's important to discern their intent in that moment of contemplation before responding.
If someone is being a bully it's important to immediately, strongly let them know you wont tolerate disrespect. Calmly, assertively putting them in their place.
Developing the ability to respond effectively in difficult situations is a very important skill.
Same here and people from work 💯 % for me.
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What Hypocritical god are you talking about there's so many
Agreed completrly
@@danlee7376There is only one Yah (God is a title, not a name) as all the rest are false.
All good in theory, but not always practical.
As my extended family lives scattered over a large country, meeting ùp for reunions takes a lot of organising.
Now, imagine this: it'd been a few years since I'd seen a certain cousin, and I greeted her joyfully. Her venomous reply was so shocking that I stopped dead in my tracks.
All through that event, held in a large restaurant, she was turning on the charm to everyone except me. Very puzzling. When it came to say our farewells, I complimented her on how well she looked, and she bit my head off.
Now, given the circumstances, I'm sure you can imagine how impossible it'd be to start a confrontation in such a public place.
Next reunion, 2 years later, was at an aunt's place, and this particular cousin was even more horribly rude. Now, when I'm a guest in someone's home, I cannot start an argument or accusation. I cannot and will not. I was shocked at the hate and contempt my cousin displayed, but only to me, but I kept my dignity and behaved as though nothing were amiss.
I said no goodbyes to her, but resolved NEVER, ever to speak to her again. That's 12 years ago. She still rings up, expecting me to grovel all over her. I just hang up.
Best decision, as far as I'm concerned. No use trying to reason with someone so arrogant and insensitive. Besides, her behaviour was so extreme, so loud and uncalled-for, it'd just give her an excuse to further abuse and humiliate me. Ain't gonna happen
This is who I am, I’m an introvert and also a solitude person, I luv being alone.
I’m content, self control, patience, discipline, empathy, compassion, honest, truthful, quiet,respect and kindness
Simply, listening this to this, when feeling defeated, or tested in life, is very healing, even if you've heard all these sorts of things before. Thank you SLL 🥳🥳🥳❤❤❤❤❤❤
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As long as it's constructive and not personal about ones nationality for instance😂😊
I always utilize this philosophy 1st; but w/life experience, I've found it's ineffective on a total narcissist.
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You are so right I love this I love this but I had no idea what I was doing when I had a man I was helping a couple people at a company and this guy spit in my face come on black man I'm a supervisor but another supervisor spit in my face and said if you believe in God I'm not going to go through the whole thing but I was telling a couple of the people that are working with and about you believing in God God is God but anyway y'all be kind to each other but he wanted his nephew to work on my shift and I didn't want him I had all the good people I need but he spit in my face now what do you do with a black man and a white little man spit in your face out in the bathroom wash my face and I pray and I came back out everybody knew what I was going to do that's what they thought but I picked up the phone and call the police I said how much time I'm going to get for something battery that I hung up the phone and I went back to here and I told him hey I'm sorry if I disrespected you at any anything I said to you😊 everybody go back to work but I just said no I was so mad so angry I forgot I left my car at the job and I walked home with tears in my eyes and my wife said they've been calling the phone and asking you what are you going to do so I'm going to do nothing the next day we went back to work we had to go to human resources I didn't say nothing he got fired but this is the kicker here to come to my house and ask me for a favor and I was scared know I was scared his daughter had got caught up in a stolen vehicle and I knew people he said can you help me get her out of that juvenile so yes I will I swear to God she said you're going to go out there and meet this man I said where you at or else I'm in your driveway okay we went and got her out got can you brought me home he broke down and cried all he can say is I'm so sorry I'm so sorry it ain't about being all that Christian bull crap they going to say who are you how do you handle these situations I am so sorry that I did what I did I said let it Go probably moved on and I'm doing fine but I wish I had learned that this about Marcus is really I guess it's been in my blood all my life
I have been walking the path of stoicism for a while now. I have held up in many ways the principles I've learned. Today I felt disrespected and I lost my composure and exploded. I apologized for my behavior and reaction and from that realization and personal recognition I returned to this lesson to help myself handle it better in the future. I'm thankful for the opportunity to check my growth and continue moving forward in a positive way. Thank you for the video and I'll keep moving forward in a more controlled way. Refreshing stoic
On Friday I went for a promotion interview. One of the panelist was condescending. Disrespected my name and went further to label me arrogant simply because * she advised I maintain eye contact when talking* she became completely angry when I nodded in affirmation to one her opinions.
Her tag sent an electric current down my spine. Then I mildly breathed in. She kept asking if I agreed I am an arrogant person but I kept my cool with no response.
After proceedings, she met me again in the lobby and invited me to her office and apologised to me on her harsh attitude towards me. A co-panelist had told her I am completely opposite of her accusations.
She took my contact and asked that we be friends 😅.
I am smiling listening to these lessons ❤.
Instead of work relationships, some of these situations are family. Often times, I’ve calmly brought up the disrespect of their actions. The response is an “OMG”, or maybe a “oh mom”. I have been building on my inner peace for years. I’m proud of how far I’ve come. Being of a quiet nature has its challenges……I have a keen sense of intuition and discernment….
Exactly!! I have more problems with my adult children . Often my calmness gave them the wrong message that is not such big issue what they did. Im very calm and yes took lots of work, its not easy to just switch and keep focusing on my own life
I love how stoicism provides a framework for dealing with uncertainty. It’s been crucial for me during these unpredictable times.
Being that stoicism started around 300 B.C.E It’s amazing that even through technological advancements, We as humans always suffer from the same problems of our own emotions as did those from the Roman Empire. Even today that such old knowledge is still able to be used to help us understand ourselves.
I read that Stoic philosophy began w/Heraclitus, 500 B.C.
GREAT comment! Thanks Monk! ✝🕎🛡⚔🩸🪔⚖👑👑👑🕊
Technology has changed. Human nature has not.
I'm on a personal journey of self improvement. I find certain of these very thought provoking and enlightening.
Our grandparents did all this…right!
this Video has been a game-changer! These tips aren't just strategies, they're wisdom for maintaining dignity and composure. Who else feels better equipped to handle disrespect with grace and strength?
Nice comment I am learning
1. Stay in calm
2. Self reflection and correction if needed. Value constructive criticisms
3. Pause and collect your thoughts. Don't be panic
4. Empathize and be kind
5. Focus on virtue
6. Acceptance
7. Use humour
8. Set boundaries
9. Forgiveness (It gives u more inner peace)
10. Change perspective
11. Maintain self control
12. Focus on what matters
13. Practice active listening
14. Avoid escalation
15. Educate others
16. Seek mediation
17. Maintain confidence
18. Keep your focus
19. Practice gratitude
20. Learn from disrespect
Thank you didn’t have to listen to the whole video
"The best revenge is not to be like your enemy." - Marcus Aurelius
How can applying Stoic wisdom transform our response to disrespect into a pathway for personal growth and inner peace?
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If you are a giver It is important that you know your limits Because the takers have none
My view has always been…”As if your opinion of me matters…I like me just fine” I started doing this when I was a kid with my bullies…I would laugh at them when they flew insults at me for what ever reason that their simple minds were choosing to be disgusting human beings on any given day. I had so much disapproval of their actions and enough confidence in myself to realize that they had the problem, not me, because “I liked me just fine.” I always knew that they were in the wrong. I would even seek them out and ask them if they had any other dumb things to say today and mock them for their ignorant stupidity.
Yes..I got the crap kicked out me from time to time, but, most of the time when they saw that they couldn’t bother me and that I thought less of them than they thought of me…it wasn’t fun for them anymore, so these weak minded people would usually give up…and..I would still like me just fine. Be well.
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@@StoicLifeLessons. Well look at that, I got two replies. I might be on to something. Be well.
To be able to think like that when young was a gift - and you used it. Well done.
@@SIERRATREES Oh, I don’t know about it being a gift, it was more anger in the sense of “Who the feck do you think you are!!?” kind of attitude if anything.
They were losers in my view, so I didn’t think that I should have to put up with losers. It took me a few beatings by my bullies to get angry enough to tell them what I thought of them in front of the other people. I just learned how to make them look stupid, which wasn’t hard, and make the bystanders laugh at them and and agree with me.
Bullies aren’t usually that bright and most of them are insecure so, it’s pretty easy to make them look like the fools that they are.
Be well.
@@maxxwellbeing9449I'll never forget the look on my bullies face when he had the audacity... Long story short dudes 2 decades older than me and acts like a middle schooler. You know how in cartoons old fucks really be beefing with teenagers? Like wtf dude pick on someone your own size.
If the world hates you, understand that it hated Me first.
John 15:18
That's because you lunatics merdered all the stoics
Disrespectful peoples shall be punished, love ❤️ one another's as my Heaven Father's love ❤️ you......
Finally! I found an audiobook/video about respect. And how to handle disrespectful people. Thank you! Very helpful video.
" Know that nothing is bad if we don't think it's bad ". - Marcus Aurelius
What bothers me is when adults decide not to take responsibility for themselves and they don't act like adults and I give them their freedom but they just take advantage and then it just shows me they're not adults. They don't need to be around me. I don't need to be around them
My morning company during my commute ..it’s the tone for my day 😊
Love that!
When I am disrespected, I can’t really keep my cool. Before all of that, I’m very giving and loving, but sometimes people just don’t get the fact that you have boundaries.
Am glad to have this opportunity to learn this important matter.
Is hatred alongside disrespect? I have seen disrespect that seems to carry grudge and hatred.
This video has all the tools and dignity to handle any challenge that comes with disrespect and the kind.
Thank you.
Honestly that been one of the best self improvement videos I've ever listened to. Thanks for that
Excellent message. Thanks for sharing. You are appreciated.
This is the best advice hands down about respect. I learned so much!
This is again, a beautiful teaching, love our creator and nature and yourself set boundaries that maintains your love, life and light
I appreciate the focus on setting boundaries assertively yet respectfully. By clearly communicating our expectations for respectful treatment, we uphold our own dignity while fostering a positive environment for constructive interactions. This practice reinforces the Stoic notion of recognizing what is within our control and acting accordingly.
I work in a blue-collar environment with plenty of "shop talk." Guys joke, but sometimes there's a negative, mean-spirited undertone. This video was very helpful.
Over the years, I have had to learn manythings, as I been wathing some of these different videos, it seems that I have been learning the stoic principals witout knowing it , as well as growth in mauy forms from within my soul and the subconsciuos. Real reflections of ones self, taking full responsiblities really do makes a difference in ones life.
Very Well Stated: Be Blessed / Stay Focus > AMEN >
After the burn-out, stoicim is for a mentor. Wisom
Acceptance is a part of the personal development process and makes one stronger.💪💪💪
Had to hear this video 3 times so it can sink in, I'm tired of putting up with disrespectful people, I'm very kind and nice but I'm done, time for a better change to have a peace of mind.
I find myself at a crossroads of my life. Honestly evaluating myself and my associations. I’m finding immense satisfaction in learning how to approach various situations from a different perspective. It’s enlightening and empowering to learn new approaches to difficult people and situations.
I love your work .....so empowering and such a big influence for a better self education! Thanks and God Bless You!
Thank you, awesome music to go with the great content. All teachers should have your accent, makes the world feel more wisdom refined 🙏
This is a heartening, enlightening series. I feel grateful to have found it. Thank you.
This is my personal weakness. I appreciate this video. My years of military service is a disadvantage in this weakness. I must work on overcoming this. SHALAM
Alot of these principals I already have put into practice and have been for awhile.Most of these are convictions that are used by me already Thank you for helping me define myself.
This has been very helpful for me in understanding better how to navigate disrespect. Thank you for creating this content! Im extremely grateful for it! ❤️
LIFE CHANGING! VERY ENLIGHTENING, GREAT PERSPECTIVE
Thanks for the hard work and Emotional Support
Don't always keep your calm Be very Firm and direct with some Spirits . God gives his children authority 💪🏽Read about David in the Bible
Appreciate the good work
In Indonesia we say "Tetap Semangat" - keep the spirit up
Thanks 😊
I definitely needed to see this as a reminder today. I thank my friend for sharing this with me. It's like they know me.
Stoicism teaches us that disrespect only affects us if we let it. Control your reactions, not others' behavior. 💪
If you get disrespected just chill for afew months and teach that person how disrespect is done. Thats how i did deal with disrespect
This is sooo much wisdom, I needed to hear this, it always starts with the man in the mirror, working on ones own self is an everyday job, never leave it to the other person, make yourself better by how you react to life challenges 💪🏾
I'm on a personal journey of self improvement. thanks a lot
The many choices offered are a wealth of options I will immediately adopt.❤ Thank you😊
Thank you my creator blessing up.
Thanks for listening
Brilliant ! Helpful and enlightening !!! These are the very things we all should learn .. very brilliant
What a beautiful guide to handle difficulties and critic’s blissfully.🙏
Excellent lessons. Deeply appreciated
Gratitude💚
Thank you for equipping me to be armed with self worth and value in boldness speak to change the atmosphere for anyone to know I will not tolerate any form of there need to be self righteous
I appreciate these videos so much. Thank you thank you for making this content. It’s saving my soul.
Stumbled on this, and i am so happy! I tend to be emotional and am working my way up the corporate ladder and the disrespect I have encountered has left me floored and frankly unsure how to handle it. Except responding in a negative manner. I usually get them back. You have a new follower, as I appreciate your content in this video. The explanations made sense. I will start putting it into practice today. Ty
Utterly game changing
I believe it is better to put some disrespecting dudes where they belong to especially when it is consistent with them whilst protecting your peace of mind, forgive but set the healthy boundaries. Nice guys do not get what they deserve in life ... be wise friends and stand for your values and you will command respect.
Very valuable information for learning.
Why have I already watch 7 minutes of this 🤣🤣 my sleep playlist is crazy
Thank you, I am very interested in expanding my knowledge about stoicism. Looking forward to learn more.
I watched the last video on a stoic life .. the content affirming and real… aligning w my values …good for maintaining peace under the pressure of these days…
Thank you so much about all these lessons of wisdoms
"Choose not to be harmed-and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed-and you haven’t been." - Marcus Aurelius
It is very educative I I recently used it and looked into the eyes and made them know I do respect our relationship but I won't torelate disrespect she became very lound I waited till she finished and then walked away wver since she is very ashamed but the pride won't let her apologise but I lost nothing but she is lost a good friend and I will not give any second chance once bitten twice shy
A soulful messeage, will take heed forever...🙏
Yrs ago, ccupied an extremely respectful, lucrative position, but for the safety of our Police Officers i resigned...(Attempted all methods for rational)---co-worker, henrete, refused to respond to my requests for info for many yrs...This was ignored by officials as "it" was a political hire 4 eoe & not score standards...Truth known, i maintained sanity & dignity by exiting...(apologuze for rambling)...
Put on your spiritual armor, 1st thing every morning, to deal w/evil forces, like narcissists. Detach from them, bcs the stoic attitude dsnt work on them, they see it as weakness.
It's your spouse! Now what?
Thsnk you very much, sir. You possess gifted speech qualities necessary in transmitting wise instructions.
Brothers thank you for your help, I Love the way you talking about your wisdom is amazing.
All my life i don't have family issues like disrespecting me or friends. Only from work. I've been a doormat for many years afraid of getting fire and just except the disrespect and rudeness behaviors from colleagues and just close my eyes and ears. Not anymore i defend myself and tell them as it is. Or i just ghosted them.Works for me. But this philosophy provided me how to REALLY handle the situations in the correct manner ( professionally) i will utilize some of the content on here whomever disrespect me at work. I hope it works lol. Great video! Thank you
Go to Humane Resources. And get counseling
… Seeking & Understanding the High Road! 👏🏽
I was just utterly disrespected in a meeting by the MD and i am so at myself for having given the my energy. In hindsight, i should not have justified that disrespect with a response. I promise myself to do better next time😢
Love the message I learned something daily
I’m definitely not famous for keeping my cool. So I’m gonna have to work on. But it does work lot of times to just vent and say your feelings.
My sister, told me today that God told her all my crops will dry out. She said I need to learn to talk to God before I make decisions. She told me this is what God told her to tell me. & I just quit my job to start a business, & it was discouraging to hear her say that to me. Mind you I just lend my sister money the other day, I take her son to school and her to work every morning because she doesn’t drive. She even told me to lower my standards. She doesn’t drive, she’s living paycheck to paycheck, and her boyfriend is living with her rent-free. She spent her Mother’s Day at work, and I came over this morning to drive my nephew to school and to drop off a Mother’s Day gift, and fell into a discouraging conversation with her. Ima pray about this but it’s difficult knowing she said that.
She’s projecting, probably jealous that you’re in a situation where you’re well off enough to quit a job and pursue what you want. Keep going and goodluck you got this🙏🏼 keep doing what you do for your nephew, I wouldn’t give her any more money and if she says anything else tell her she can find her own ride🤷🏻♀️
WOW! A different path. Already are embracing it.
Life changing
Keep calm? That’s one thing to say but when your heart beats hard, and your mouth goes dry and your head fills with overwhelming reactionary thoughts, being “calm” isn’t easy.
@James-gp5cw i’m not Christian but thank u for reaching out. I found a way. Its working.
"I've found Stoic philosophy to be an invaluable guide in times of uncertainty."
I’m am learning it is very much so I have used these and had been called weak for me not giving equal disrespect. But my soul is the righteous one that told me maybe they were underestimated by the fact most people endured their behavior and much less not gave the same energy to then not knowing what to do with themselves. I thank you for your education ❤️🙏
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Yes sir I have look ing for you I thank you sir sis Linda
Very enlightening ! Thank you so much!!!!
@James-gp5cw very True! God bless you !
Wonderful content and thank you for your wise words. ❤
You can recover and it can happen quickly.
As of right now I don’t have a friend in the world, just narcissists and their co-conspirators, this includes local, small town, law enforcement. My own mother, whom I’ve always been close to has cut me off as well.
Right now I have a vindictive wife fighting tooth and nail in the court system, social media and otherwise to destroy me. I was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease this summer and have been suffering for 20 years with severe Crohn’s disease. I also am being treated for skin cancer, melanoma. I have had an Ostomy bag for 20 years. I’m living in a group home where I’m neglected and abused.
I’m no longer on psychiatric medications. I’m dropping my blood pressure medication next week and my Parkinson’s medication next. Other than that I take a bunch of vitamins.
On my 50th birthday last Friday, I ran my first 1/2 marathon, another 3 days later. After a bit more than 3 weeks of training I am logging 50 miles a week. I’m registered for my first marathon in early April and I will run a 3.5 hour time, which puts me in the intermediate category. Running a marathon is something no one can EVER take away from me. I don’t date, but I’m extremely good looking for my age, no gray hair, funny and handsome. I’m a semi-professional professional comedy writer and musician. I have a bachelors degree in chemistry and graduated Magna Cum Laude. I’m reading Marcus Aurelius and Senica. Science Fiction and Shakespeare.
I’m joyful and thankful. I have no shame, anxiety and sleep like a baby. The devils unchained forced this lifestyle upon me and I’m grateful to them for it.
The haters will never help, the narcissists would have you murdered, if they thought they could get away with it, but the innocent, but timid, co-conspirator bystanders will help from time to time, only in secret. Always remember, God and karma are on yours side, Fortune favors the bold and God hates a coward.
“Always remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and loved more than you know.”
Winnie the Poo
I accepted alot of criticism. Best thing Ive done was to ignore it. Not worth it
Disrespect shown by a child towards a mother, takes a lot of my energy before I give up till my my cup runneth over, then finally I say, I’m done n let go away from her n move on like an affair that wasn’t meant to be.
To maintain calmness of mind in a stressful situation empowers us to face the challenges of life.
There are a few people in my life that I have not spoken to for 30 years after they are always disappointed me.
Valuable insights😊