1) Reframe the situation: Instead of you wanting the thing/opportunity/person, consider thinking how that thing is suitable for you, ask questions which'll make you calm and confident. 2) Be positive: Big smile, open gestures, give compliments and laugh a lot 3) Admit Emotions: Being positive and happy is all important but life includes many other emotions like nervousness, anxiety, sadness. And you must be open to share emotions which is attractive because other people can relate to you and consider you as their own. 4) Own your flaws: Related to the 3rd point. Owning your flaws shows others that you are also not perfect and have the courage to own your flaws/mistakes, which is a really attractive quality. 5) Tell sticky stories: Consider the hook and grab strategy. Start your story with something that draws the attention of others and then continue the story. 6) Make others feel special: Give genuine and honest compliments. Hold strong eyes contact. Smile. Open gestures. Have a great day!
No one is born confident. We all learn how to get more confident. If you have social anxiety, don't let that stop you. Focus one step at a time and eventually you'll become confident. ❤️
And btw thank you for inspiring me to create similar self development videos! You're one of the most genuine person on UA-cam and what I love about your videos is that you apply what you teach us 🙌🏼
To summarize every charismatic person ever, they use their social proficiency to elevate everyone around them instead of themselves. The key to charming others is to let them charm you.
@@mrose4132 I dont necessarily agree because most people follow your cues rather than set ones for you to follow. You cant just say that you cant be charimastic if the right people arent around to give you the vibes you need.
As a teacher, I've been doing many of these automatically just by speaking from the heart, being open and honest, actually taking an interest in other people, and not being too afraid to look silly. These things help you connect with others. If you try too hard to be formal and look perfect, you come across as cold and robotic - then people will think you are weird or evasive. During my last job interview I was sharing a very emotional story about how I connected with a disabled student and helped her to create a wonderful project. While I was telling the story, my voice cracked a couple times and I had to fight back tears. They hired me on the spot. In fact, they almost begged me to please take the job.
@@v6953 I've been teaching business and technology/multimedia courses for 9 years (video production, 3D animation, technical drafting, web design, game design, etc.). This year I'm teaching a new course called Social Entrepreneurship where students identify problems and come up with creative solutions. Once they finish my course, they move into a level 2 class where they build prototypes, create TEDx presentations, etc.
Many stage actors have noted that it’s easier to nail an audition if they’re already in the middle of a current job. Having one job already makes seeking the next job feel lower stakes and therefore gives them a confidence which is critical to nailing an acting audition. This definetly applies to other types of situations. Feeling like you can get through it even if you don’t get this job because you have other potential offers or money saved can be huge.
So true. I’ve even found for regular jobs that if you go on one interview you don’t get the job. You go on three interviews, you get offered all three and now you get to pick the one you want.
my friend is introducing me to her friend group tomorrow, watching this to not be awkward :| Update: It went pretty well, we had fun and talked a lot! This video really helped, thanks!!!
@@Valkyrie12124 I fully agree. I find people take on the attitude of just seeing how it will go, but we have so much power to direct how things will go. And if that seems to hard, we can just aim to have fun and be relaxed, and know that we'll be OK no matter how some date or event goes.
Lessons I learnt from this video - *1. Reframe those situations that make you nervous* _If you feel pressured to perform and impress in a situation, make sure to ask some questions to know if you like them too. Like, you'd have notice how confident the interviewer is while interviewing. But when with your friends, you feel confident. Because you know your friends like you and you like them. This will reframe your mindset in that situation._ *2. Don't make plans solely to impress others. Make plan that'll be also interesting to you, giving you the opportunity to give your best(85%) in that situation.* *3. Be contagiously positive* _Just think about that, how you feel with a person who is highly positive and composed in __-roughest-__ toughest of situations_ *4. Give yourself permission to admit to emotion beyond happiness. People would find it easier to connect with you at deeper level.* *5. Own your flaw. Don't hesitate to talk about that.* _Just laugh when you mess up or make a mistake_ *6. Be a good Storyteller.* *7. Make the people around you special.* _Do not give compliment to act as a nice person. Just give what you genuinely mean._ _The best compliment can be what the other person really love, or what he/she's not so much complimented to but is good at_ *∞. Maintain Eye Contact while listening. But don't break it while talking.* _Having the full focus of the people you like feels more than amazing_
This is true. A healthy diet helps with such thoughts and ideas. Plus good sleep. Disciplining you’re body and mind gives tools to resolve and pave better opportunities for yourself
@@wolfm8097 You say "discipline"; I say "honor" your body. Give it what will truly support you to feel your best! (In the LONG run--not junk food right now!!)
It is fun watching these videos and be swept away by the wonderful personallities of the people they choose to depict. But basically what all of those videos are saying is: BE LIKE THAT GUY. Kinda hard being like that guy when you're not. Human nature,fast thinking,and charisma are natural born,cannot be taught. You can't be funny if you're not. Some people got it and some people don't. Just like your hair and eye color,and your hight or intelligence. I can confidently say that after watching about 50-60 of the most recent videos in this channel,my people skills have not improved one bit. Lovely channel nonetheless. And hey,if this helps you,than that's just great. If anything,pointing out how people act and breaking down their behaviour is a very interesting subject on its own that helps you recognize certain features of people in your own life that have said charisma,humor and commanding presence,and helps you observe with more insight some that may be dishonest or downright fraudulent. So,I'm not saying this channel is without value. There's that,outside of the obvious entertaining nature of the videos in this channel.
@@MosesPlays What did you expect? You say all you did was WATCH the videos...this stuff takes LOTS of PRACTICE and contant mistake fixing and adjusting. "Human nature, fast thinking, and charisma are natural born, cannot be taught" Is just a victim's way of saying "I do not have the drive to actually learn these things." With that mindset you will be stuck where you are forever. These videos helped me a ton, not because I simply watched them but because I took them to heart and still to this day make conscious efforts to keep them in mind. What I'm currently working on is making longer eye contact with people in my vulnerable moments.
Dude, you are killing it this channel has got to be one of the best on youtube for self-improvement. I've now got a girl I've never dreamed of being able to have a relationship with. I want to say thank you for helping me become the person I've always wanted to be. I know you probably won't see this but I just needed to put it out there.
I’ve worked directly for Hugh Jackman and his family, and I can personally attest he is a great guy. He always has an encouraging word to say and makes everyone feel included.
Regarding being contagiously positive. That one really resonates with me. I have had so many people in my life who are incredibly negative and won’t be content until they share it with everyone. I don’t know if projecting an attitude of being positive will help you all the time, but it beats the hell out of being negative.
Before YOU can be charming and impressing to people, first YOU must be charming and impressive to YOURSELF Become the person that YOUR yesterday-self is proud of - Coach T
I have thoughts about conversations but when I actually have a conversation I’m very quiet and distant. No matter how many of these videos I watch, when someone makes a conversation with me, these tips just fly right over my head.
It's because we're Aussie, we're honest, we like to have fun and we don't take ourselves too seriously, we don't care if we're acting like a bit of a dag. Sending power and blessings from Melbourne Australia ✌
Whoever does all the research for this channel, you are incredible. I don’t know how you find all these clips and decide who you will use as an example, but you make these videos the way teachers want presentations to be. They are well put together with a clear outline and everything in the video has a purpose with an unambiguous explanation. Honestly thank you for high quality videos 👍🏼
I was fortunate enough to meet Hugh Jackman when I was doing background work on The Greatest Showman. Absolutely one of the kindest, most laid back folks you'll ever meet.
You should do such character analysis of people who are not attractive. Being good looking gives you a good boost since you're young making you a confident person.
I don’t remember which video but man, the advice of not letting people cut you off during a sentence and finishing it most of the time has helped me tremendously! People legitimately respect what I have to say so much more in a group conversation. Crazy how we teach people how to treat us in ways we don’t even comprehend, sometimes.
Big caveat: When you make plans to do something you enjoy so you feel more comfortable, like for a date, please use discernment. Think about what they want too. For example I went on a date and the guy wanted to show me all of these videos from this comedian he liked. It was him showing me a part of himself, but it went on and on and on. A big turn off and it felt more like him indulging himself than him thinking about me.
Can we all appreciate the fact that he put a lot of work in these videos I've never before seen anyone use checkpoints in a video, keep up the good work my guy!
Charisma on Command, guys, you're doing a great job. Before I discovered this channel 3 years ago, I was too meek even to say my name out loud when asked. But now I have a much more confidence and can articulate my thoughts to whomever I want---mostly because of your people-skill advices. Thank you ❤
Hugh is honestly one of the special guys it’s very rare to see a person in the entertainment industry conduct himself with such grace and kindness The way he is with colleagues and especially fans , making them feel included and valued warms my heart A lot of people in the “biz” should look to him and take inspiration on how they conduct themselves , A true one off xxx
Hugh is my favorite. I love how you intercut clips of the actor smiling with scenes of his characters full of powerful emotions across the spectrum. He's really good at tapping into and expressing feelings both positive and negative. Great video!
God, I just love Hugh Jackman, and before he was even The Wolverine, my dad & mine's favorite character of all time. There was a time in my life, when I would watch Kate & Leopold three times a year just to feel good and find the strength to keep going. To this day, that is still my number one guilty pleasure film - every time I feel down or sense that I'm going to be depressed, I just don't think about it anymore, I immediately watch that film. And ever since, he (both Hugh & Leopold) has been my template of how to be a man, and especially, one rightful of a lady's. I haven't convinced my Kate to follow me back to my time & live happily ever after, granted, but I will get there eventually. Hugh Jackman makes me believe that it is possible. Wow, that was so hopeless romantic of me, but whatever. Thanks for being such a great inspiration, man!
This is amazing, to see people help each other like this ...I'm a natural introvert with anxiety disorder. It took me years to learn how to connect with others. I wish I would have had videos like this. Half, but only half, of what is covered I already know to be true, and what's amazing, this opens the window into so many things am so happy to learn
Hugh Jacknan definitely knows how to connect. Whenever someone is genuinely interested in connecting the rest beautifully unfolds. Usually when I am interested the rest is interesting. Most of us if we’re being filmed or interviewed we will bring up a more charming self. I wonder Is that who we really are? I agree that eye contact is super important and supports connection with another human. We all can be a lot more charming if we hang out with people we enjoy being with. Blessings to all on this fun journey, Truth and Love to you 💝🙋🏻♀️
Yeaaassh, no. If you're a jerk, or pathetic little weenie, don't be genuine. Fake being at least polite and interested. If you work real hard at faking it, you might even make it genuine.
Great pointers to assess in yourself and in the people you like and admire. I'm thinking about a friend who is not smart, average-looking, and pretty shallow. But he's positive and appreciative of what he has -- and when he laughs, "the whole world laughs with him."
Your videos shows the things that I've been unconsciously doing since I can remember... Which I didn't knew other people are having problems with. You helping them to resolve such challenges is quite amazing and I hope that your channel grew in success even more.
I love how he says “kid from Wahroonga” as if it’s somewhere quaint and poor, as opposed to the reality of it being one of the wealthiest and most upper-class suburbs of Sydney 😂
1. Be worth listening to - be your best you, it will lead to greater experiences. Do your best, etc, otherwise you're a joke.. 2. Forget yourself and listen to the other. If they need help moving the conversation, you've hopefully done #1 well enough to relate in some capacity through experience. 3. Who cares - be prepared to step at least slightly out of bounds of the conversation - why should you care what people think of you if you've done 1 and 2? Just remember, being a complete weirdo is different than not caring. People who don't care but are winning are very different than people who don't care who no one respects or understands.
I think a few of Jack's attributes can be traced back to australian culture and society (or at least elements of it). In Australia we tend to be very open about our flaws and make fun of ourselves constantly for them (especially with mates). Its common place such that if you don't do it YOU'RE the odd one out.
Thank you Ben! I've been waiting for a breakdown on Hugh Jackman for forever! What an incredible guy (easy everyone's crush)! That lovely habit of making the people around him feel special has another effect imho: making himself "not so special at all", which makes easier for us to consider hmi as "a buddy of mine".
So you've identified a limiting belief there buddy -- time to go find some exceptions, break it down, and realise charm isn't about traditional attractiveness. In fact, not looking physically attractive and being charming can be quite a potent mix.
Another charming person is Justin Timberlake. If you ever watch him in his interviews, you can't help but like the guy. His smile and positivity is freaking infectious!
Thank you for all the effort you put into this channel! It would be very cool if there will be more examples from women to all the ladies watching your channel like me ☺️
I loved the extra tips on how to make our compliments more effective. Another reason those work so well is because of Hugh's body language. Ben mentioned how good his eye contact is, which is true and their video on Bill Clinton goes more in-depth still, but I wanted to add two things: focus and intent. Hugh's full attention is focused on whoever he is speaking to. It's not just his eyes, but his whole body turns to face the person. You can see him leaning forward sometimes when listening, letting the other person know they are being heard. Then leaning back once he has made a point. However, always, when speaking to one person, Hugh is facing them with all his body, all his focus, and attention. Unlike we might see from "The Cool Type" as Robert Downey Jr. does.
We all have this in us... we just belived the lies the devil told us over the years.... we are all awesome!!! I love you all!! Stay awesome people 👏👏👏👏
Doing it to make someone like you is usually the wrong approach, because you‘ll fully depend on the other person’s reaction and get demotivated very quickly. If you do it to improve how YOU feel in social interactions, you‘ll enjoy the process and be able to focus on one thing at a time with more ease. Building YOUR confidence and authenticity is key!
Hes such a gem. Good dude. People will benefit from you putting his ideology together. Spread it like paying it foward. I relized i act like him and i get anxious from PTSD randomly. They work, and this shows I'm not the only one to be this way with thinking. Wont work all the time. But you can break thr walls in your head that hold you back. And then break the real walls if you so feel. He contrasts the 45th president to a T. I love it
@@woodsprite5 Pretty much. I can start conversations from nothing and keep them going. I can make people laugh until they cry. People tell me that they love my sense of humor and act excited when I'm around. Coworkers will say they'll miss me when one of us moves on and to "stay in touch." So why do I always feel so alone? My texts are ignored, people I thought were my friends won't speak to me anymore. Relationship after relationship seem to fall apart out of nowhere for me. I'd understand just drifting apart sometimes, but it's always so spontaneous.
Number three I used to do all the time without realising. Whenever I could tell someone was ashamed of their sadness or something they were going through. I'd share a moment of sadness and doubt of mine to make them feel more comfortable and open and it works every time! The only thing you don't do is make it about you. You let them know that it's nothing to be ashamed of and that they're safe with you. But share a short story of yours and then put the focus back on to them :) Love you everyone! Wishing you happiness and confidence!
Love the second tip about doing what you love. But this can be a double edged sword. It can be hard to be enthusiastic in an interview about a job you don’t want, but sometimes you do need the money. Also, the most appealing jobs to you are often very competitive because many people might also want them. It’s tricky.
5 Easy Ways To Charm people: 1. Be good looking and have great hair. 2. Be positive in a phony way 3. Be taller than 5'9". 4. Know how to form sentences. 5. Be good looking and have great hair.
Observe those you admire. I learned from someone to lightly discuss & be able to joke about things you might otherwise hide. It takes away your insecurities & lets you control the timing.
Whenever I watch their videos, I feel like I'm studying how to act like a human being lmao
We robots try so hard honestly. 🤭
Ibrahim Bahakim I’m reading your comment in a robotic voice😂
A great human being💯
I know right 😂😂😂
yes same *makes unrealistically long eye contact *
“Talk to someone about themselves and they'll listen for hours.”
― Dale Carnegie
Would you shut the hell up?
- Random stranger
I don't like when someone talk about me, cuz I hate myself, it irritates me...
@@m4rvelousboy The problem is that you hate yourself, not that someone is talking about you...
how to win friends?
True
As a reptilian working for the US government, this video really helped me out! Thank you!
😂😂😂
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LOLOLOLOL 😆😂
Hahaa
we know.
1) Reframe the situation: Instead of you wanting the thing/opportunity/person, consider thinking how that thing is suitable for you, ask questions which'll make you calm and confident.
2) Be positive: Big smile, open gestures, give compliments and laugh a lot
3) Admit Emotions: Being positive and happy is all important but life includes many other emotions like nervousness, anxiety, sadness. And you must be open to share emotions which is attractive because other people can relate to you and consider you as their own.
4) Own your flaws: Related to the 3rd point. Owning your flaws shows others that you are also not perfect and have the courage to own your flaws/mistakes, which is a really attractive quality.
5) Tell sticky stories: Consider the hook and grab strategy. Start your story with something that draws the attention of others and then continue the story.
6) Make others feel special: Give genuine and honest compliments. Hold strong eyes contact. Smile. Open gestures.
Have a great day!
thank u so much bruh...
Thanks you deserve medal!
Thank you so much.
Great stuff! You wrote 5 twice btw
7) Summarize the points so that lazy folks don't have to watch the whole damn video. Like you! :)))
No one is born confident. We all learn how to get more confident. If you have social anxiety, don't let that stop you. Focus one step at a time and eventually you'll become confident. ❤️
And btw thank you for inspiring me to create similar self development videos! You're one of the most genuine person on UA-cam and what I love about your videos is that you apply what you teach us 🙌🏼
It's actually the opposite, all the humans are born confident but they learn whether to stay confident or not depending upon their environment
Co chi c c hg.
I love you Paul 😘😘
We are born with high self esteem but on the way most of us lose that. Confidence is something you develop over yime
To summarize every charismatic person ever, they use their social proficiency to elevate everyone around them instead of themselves. The key to charming others is to let them charm you.
I think this comment is actually extremely helpful
Yeah, having charisma and charm are about others, not you.
@@mrose4132 I dont necessarily agree because most people follow your cues rather than set ones for you to follow. You cant just say that you cant be charimastic if the right people arent around to give you the vibes you need.
underrated comment
VERY TRUE
Being contagiously positive...I think we all know these people and it’s dope. Encourage others!
Seeing your comment has 99 likes it was too tempting to like it and be the 100th without even reading it
Lighto 😂😂😂 lets go
Enthusiasm is indeed contagious!
Dope, yes.....most are doing cocaine or amphetamines. Especially sales people......that talking powder will make you ooze confidence.
Unless you're me and you work around depressed engineers lol
As a teacher, I've been doing many of these automatically just by speaking from the heart, being open and honest, actually taking an interest in other people, and not being too afraid to look silly. These things help you connect with others. If you try too hard to be formal and look perfect, you come across as cold and robotic - then people will think you are weird or evasive.
During my last job interview I was sharing a very emotional story about how I connected with a disabled student and helped her to create a wonderful project. While I was telling the story, my voice cracked a couple times and I had to fight back tears. They hired me on the spot. In fact, they almost begged me to please take the job.
Nice! In what department ?
@@v6953 I've been teaching business and technology/multimedia courses for 9 years (video production, 3D animation, technical drafting, web design, game design, etc.). This year I'm teaching a new course called Social Entrepreneurship where students identify problems and come up with creative solutions. Once they finish my course, they move into a level 2 class where they build prototypes, create TEDx presentations, etc.
Zachary Zarko how do you know if someone is a teacher??!! They tell you, so so quickly 😂
thats called emotional manipulation... but obviously it wasnt on purpose, congrats on getting the job
@@DarkDragonSlayerAQW No it is not emotional manipulation, as it was sincere. Manipulation implies you conciously intent do it.
“You never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice.”
― Bob Marley
Would you shut the hell up?
- Random stranger
@@dynestis2875 Bob Marley
@@dynestis2875 Bob Marley
-me
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*Be interested in others, **_then_** you will be the most interesting person.*
Summarizes the whole vid
Up. To. A . Point.
Which was stolen from How to Win Friend's and Influence People.
Is that you Dale?
True. :)
2 rules to charm anyone:
1. Be Hugh Jackman
2. Follow rule 1
Marshwiggle do the best you can with what you have.
I cant😂
Well, he wasn't always the famous Hugh Jackman. His coolness is what made him get where he is, not the opposite.
In a way, aReN't We AlL hUgH jAckMaN??
Be interested in others, then you will be the most interesting person.
Many stage actors have noted that it’s easier to nail an audition if they’re already in the middle of a current job. Having one job already makes seeking the next job feel lower stakes and therefore gives them a confidence which is critical to nailing an acting audition. This definetly applies to other types of situations. Feeling like you can get through it even if you don’t get this job because you have other potential offers or money saved can be huge.
So true. I’ve even found for regular jobs that if you go on one interview you don’t get the job. You go on three interviews, you get offered all three and now you get to pick the one you want.
Like Dating.. Hey what are you doing later?
my friend is introducing me to her friend group tomorrow, watching this to not be awkward :|
Update: It went pretty well, we had fun and talked a lot! This video really helped, thanks!!!
It'll be fun!
Good luck
Good luck
@@Valkyrie12124 I fully agree. I find people take on the attitude of just seeing how it will go, but we have so much power to direct how things will go. And if that seems to hard, we can just aim to have fun and be relaxed, and know that we'll be OK no matter how some date or event goes.
You got this mate
Lessons I learnt from this video -
*1. Reframe those situations that make you nervous*
_If you feel pressured to perform and impress in a situation, make sure to ask some questions to know if you like them too. Like, you'd have notice how confident the interviewer is while interviewing. But when with your friends, you feel confident. Because you know your friends like you and you like them. This will reframe your mindset in that situation._
*2. Don't make plans solely to impress others. Make plan that'll be also interesting to you, giving you the opportunity to give your best(85%) in that situation.*
*3. Be contagiously positive*
_Just think about that, how you feel with a person who is highly positive and composed in __-roughest-__ toughest of situations_
*4. Give yourself permission to admit to emotion beyond happiness. People would find it easier to connect with you at deeper level.*
*5. Own your flaw. Don't hesitate to talk about that.*
_Just laugh when you mess up or make a mistake_
*6. Be a good Storyteller.*
*7. Make the people around you special.*
_Do not give compliment to act as a nice person. Just give what you genuinely mean._
_The best compliment can be what the other person really love, or what he/she's not so much complimented to but is good at_
*∞. Maintain Eye Contact while listening. But don't break it while talking.*
_Having the full focus of the people you like feels more than amazing_
This is an amazing statement
Thanks so much for that summary. You've saved me about an hour of note-taking.
Hugh was a teacher before he became an actor. His old students can tell their kids that they were trained by Wolverine.
@LagiNaLangAko23 Yeah! I've watched it. He's great.
@LagiNaLangAko23 Apparently that video is where I copied this comment from XD
there is a video of Hugh recognising one of his students during an interview
And he could remember some of their names too
@@sweney7103 really? Do you have the link, I’d really like to see that! :D
Imagine the same insanely genuine person, extremely humble, played Logan. This shows how good of an actor he is.
Confidence starts by talking positively to yourself. To love yourself and to appreciate yourself. Then your body affects your new thoughts! ❤️💪🏼🌟
This is true. A healthy diet helps with such thoughts and ideas. Plus good sleep. Disciplining you’re body and mind gives tools to resolve and pave better opportunities for yourself
WolfM80 yes true man!
@@wolfm8097 You say "discipline"; I say "honor" your body. Give it what will truly support you to feel your best! (In the LONG run--not junk food right now!!)
Confidence in a nutshell: Be open with your emotions and improve your people skill.
It is fun watching these videos and be swept away by the wonderful personallities of the people they choose to depict.
But basically what all of those videos are saying is: BE LIKE THAT GUY.
Kinda hard being like that guy when you're not. Human nature,fast thinking,and charisma are natural born,cannot be taught.
You can't be funny if you're not. Some people got it and some people don't. Just like your hair and eye color,and your hight or intelligence.
I can confidently say that after watching about 50-60 of the most recent videos in this channel,my people skills have not improved one bit.
Lovely channel nonetheless. And hey,if this helps you,than that's just great.
If anything,pointing out how people act and breaking down their behaviour is a very interesting subject on its own that helps you recognize certain features of people in your own life that have said charisma,humor and commanding presence,and helps you observe with more insight some that may be dishonest or downright fraudulent. So,I'm not saying this channel is without value.
There's that,outside of the obvious entertaining nature of the videos in this channel.
@@MosesPlays What did you expect? You say all you did was WATCH the videos...this stuff takes LOTS of PRACTICE and contant mistake fixing and adjusting. "Human nature, fast thinking, and charisma are natural born, cannot be taught" Is just a victim's way of saying "I do not have the drive to actually learn these things." With that mindset you will be stuck where you are forever. These videos helped me a ton, not because I simply watched them but because I took them to heart and still to this day make conscious efforts to keep them in mind. What I'm currently working on is making longer eye contact with people in my vulnerable moments.
ahdaf naik Although being open with your emotions doesn’t actually make you confident. It’s mostly just a byproduct of confidence
@@greyaliien agreed
Case in point Patrice O'Neal
Dude, you are killing it this channel has got to be one of the best on youtube for self-improvement. I've now got a girl I've never dreamed of being able to have a relationship with. I want to say thank you for helping me become the person I've always wanted to be. I know you probably won't see this but I just needed to put it out there.
I’ve worked directly for Hugh Jackman and his family, and I can personally attest he is a great guy. He always has an encouraging word to say and makes everyone feel included.
This guy has literally changed my life. I love this channel and ones of self improvement
x3
XD!LOL
@Hassan yep totally agree
Regarding being contagiously positive. That one really resonates with me. I have had so many people in my life who are incredibly negative and won’t be content until they share it with everyone. I don’t know if projecting an attitude of being positive will help you all the time, but it beats the hell out of being negative.
The thing is, all these become natural if you achieve a certain level of authenticity and positivity in yourself.
No kidding, this made my day
I love Huge Ackman.
Who? Oh you mean High Flackman.
You mean Huge Jacked Man?
Jack Hughman (Human?)
Levi Ackerman?
You mean Blue Pac Man
Before YOU can be charming and impressing to people, first YOU must be charming and impressive to YOURSELF
Become the person that YOUR yesterday-self is proud of - Coach T
I couldn't help but to smile during most of this video 😄
I have thoughts about conversations but when I actually have a conversation I’m very quiet and distant. No matter how many of these videos I watch, when someone makes a conversation with me, these tips just fly right over my head.
same...the thought destroy whats left of my little confidence
Force yourself,its take time
I love that these videos are basically telling you in a million different ways to always be yourself, because YOU are amazing.
It's because we're Aussie, we're honest, we like to have fun and we don't take ourselves too seriously, we don't care if we're acting like a bit of a dag.
Sending power and blessings from Melbourne Australia ✌
Whoever does all the research for this channel, you are incredible. I don’t know how you find all these clips and decide who you will use as an example, but you make these videos the way teachers want presentations to be. They are well put together with a clear outline and everything in the video has a purpose with an unambiguous explanation. Honestly thank you for high quality videos 👍🏼
Hugh in x-men : wouldn't hesitate to kill people
Hugh in real life : wouldn't hesitate to compliment people
I was fortunate enough to meet Hugh Jackman when I was doing background work on The Greatest Showman. Absolutely one of the kindest, most laid back folks you'll ever meet.
You should do such character analysis of people who are not attractive. Being good looking gives you a good boost since you're young making you a confident person.
I don’t remember which video but man, the advice of not letting people cut you off during a sentence and finishing it most of the time has helped me tremendously! People legitimately respect what I have to say so much more in a group conversation. Crazy how we teach people how to treat us in ways we don’t even comprehend, sometimes.
Excellent advice/good point
I learnt today and will forget tomorrow 😅
Big caveat: When you make plans to do something you enjoy so you feel more comfortable, like for a date, please use discernment. Think about what they want too. For example I went on a date and the guy wanted to show me all of these videos from this comedian he liked. It was him showing me a part of himself, but it went on and on and on. A big turn off and it felt more like him indulging himself than him thinking about me.
i would never do that to you......
MrMus TangMan did she ask
@@mrmustangman simp
Great point btw, OP.
Christian Bennett he *
@@Body.By.Bennett I think (and hope) that he is joking hahahaha
Can we all appreciate the fact that he put a lot of work in these videos I've never before seen anyone use checkpoints in a video, keep up the good work my guy!
Charisma on Command, guys, you're doing a great job. Before I discovered this channel 3 years ago, I was too meek even to say my name out loud when asked. But now I have a much more confidence and can articulate my thoughts to whomever I want---mostly because of your people-skill advices. Thank you ❤
Charisma on command, you just keep doing what you do because you changing lives over here 👏
Hugh is honestly one of the special guys
it’s very rare to see a person in the entertainment industry conduct himself with such grace and kindness
The way he is with colleagues and especially fans , making them feel included and valued warms my heart
A lot of people in the “biz” should look to him and take inspiration on how they conduct themselves ,
A true one off xxx
The most contagiously positive actor is widely recognized for his angriest role: Wolverine
OMG yes
Great video but my favorite part is the one about emotions. Showing emotions doesn't make you weaker, it makes you more real.
Hugh is my favorite. I love how you intercut clips of the actor smiling with scenes of his characters full of powerful emotions across the spectrum. He's really good at tapping into and expressing feelings both positive and negative. Great video!
God, I just love Hugh Jackman, and before he was even The Wolverine, my dad & mine's favorite character of all time. There was a time in my life, when I would watch Kate & Leopold three times a year just to feel good and find the strength to keep going. To this day, that is still my number one guilty pleasure film - every time I feel down or sense that I'm going to be depressed, I just don't think about it anymore, I immediately watch that film. And ever since, he (both Hugh & Leopold) has been my template of how to be a man, and especially, one rightful of a lady's. I haven't convinced my Kate to follow me back to my time & live happily ever after, granted, but I will get there eventually. Hugh Jackman makes me believe that it is possible.
Wow, that was so hopeless romantic of me, but whatever. Thanks for being such a great inspiration, man!
This is amazing, to see people help each other like this ...I'm a natural introvert with anxiety disorder. It took me years to learn how to connect with others. I wish I would have had videos like this. Half, but only half, of what is covered I already know to be true, and what's amazing, this opens the window into so many things am so happy to learn
Hugh Jacknan definitely knows how to connect. Whenever someone is genuinely interested in connecting the rest beautifully unfolds. Usually when I am interested the rest is interesting. Most of us if we’re being filmed or interviewed we will bring up a more charming self. I wonder Is that who we really are? I agree that eye contact is super important and
supports connection with another human. We all can be a lot more charming if we hang out with people we enjoy being with. Blessings to all on this fun journey, Truth and Love to you 💝🙋🏻♀️
The biggest point I heard throughout this whole video: "Don't be fake. Be genuine."
Yeaaassh, no. If you're a jerk, or pathetic little weenie, don't be genuine. Fake being at least polite and interested. If you work real hard at faking it, you might even make it genuine.
Dude Van Helsing is one of my few favorite movies ever. We own it and have watched it repeatedly.
Finally a video on Hugh's charisma! I was always curious how you'd break it down on this channel!
I’m currently studying acting at University and I think the first minute of this video just changed my life.
OMG!! I LOVE this man SO MUCH!! He is acts the way that the entire world should act towards one another. ❤ ❤ ❤
Great pointers to assess in yourself and in the people you like and admire. I'm thinking about a friend who is not smart, average-looking, and pretty shallow. But he's positive and appreciative of what he has -- and when he laughs, "the whole world laughs with him."
Your videos shows the things that I've been unconsciously doing since I can remember... Which I didn't knew other people are having problems with. You helping them to resolve such challenges is quite amazing and I hope that your channel grew in success even more.
The more of these I watch, the more I'm convinced charisma is really about connection.
I love how he says “kid from Wahroonga” as if it’s somewhere quaint and poor, as opposed to the reality of it being one of the wealthiest and most upper-class suburbs of Sydney 😂
nobody actually knows that except wallabys though
His mother abandoned him as a child. I'm sure that hurt like hell. No money or prestige can replace the feeling of a mothers love.
Congratulations 4M subscribers! I've been following your channel for 2 months. Your contents hugely changed my life. Thank you!
Hugh really does have infectious, effortless and sincere charm. Great analysis. Thank you.
I love this channel, it helps me be better and doesn't teach me to be a toxic male or something, but to be a "human" human
1. Be worth listening to - be your best you, it will lead to greater experiences. Do your best, etc, otherwise you're a joke.. 2. Forget yourself and listen to the other. If they need help moving the conversation, you've hopefully done #1 well enough to relate in some capacity through experience. 3. Who cares - be prepared to step at least slightly out of bounds of the conversation - why should you care what people think of you if you've done 1 and 2? Just remember, being a complete weirdo is different than not caring. People who don't care but are winning are very different than people who don't care who no one respects or understands.
With Hugh Jackman... I just think he is just being genuine... I just love him 🥰
I think a few of Jack's attributes can be traced back to australian culture and society (or at least elements of it). In Australia we tend to be very open about our flaws and make fun of ourselves constantly for them (especially with mates). Its common place such that if you don't do it YOU'RE the odd one out.
Australians are definitely not like Hugh Jackman lol trust me I’ve lived here for 20 years
Hugh Jackman "I have anxiety before every show, even today"
from Tim Ferris Show
Thank you Ben!
I've been waiting for a breakdown on Hugh Jackman for forever!
What an incredible guy (easy everyone's crush)!
That lovely habit of making the people around him feel special has another effect imho: making himself "not so special at all", which makes easier for us to consider hmi as "a buddy of mine".
Making a habit of looking for opportunities to compliment others is great training for creating a habit and mindset of Looking for the Good in Others.
Me: *Sees video title*
Is it possible to learn this power?
(In chippy voice): "Not from a Sith....."
@@riderfromthewest *Jedi
Smile big, laugh loudly, and encourage others--seems like a way of life!
He forgot step 7: Hit the jackpot in the genetics department.
Tell that to Danny Devito and Larry winters
So you've identified a limiting belief there buddy -- time to go find some exceptions, break it down, and realise charm isn't about traditional attractiveness. In fact, not looking physically attractive and being charming can be quite a potent mix.
Another charming person is Justin Timberlake. If you ever watch him in his interviews, you can't help but like the guy. His smile and positivity is freaking infectious!
Thank you for all the effort you put into this channel!
It would be very cool if there will be more examples from women to all the ladies watching your channel like me ☺️
This might be my favorite video of this channel. I never realized just how charismatic Hugh was. Thank you so much for the great insight!
Man I love this channel, keep it up bro!
I loved the extra tips on how to make our compliments more effective. Another reason those work so well is because of Hugh's body language. Ben mentioned how good his eye contact is, which is true and their video on Bill Clinton goes more in-depth still, but I wanted to add two things: focus and intent. Hugh's full attention is focused on whoever he is speaking to. It's not just his eyes, but his whole body turns to face the person. You can see him leaning forward sometimes when listening, letting the other person know they are being heard. Then leaning back once he has made a point. However, always, when speaking to one person, Hugh is facing them with all his body, all his focus, and attention. Unlike we might see from "The Cool Type" as Robert Downey Jr. does.
Compliments work best if there is initially mutual respect.
Do not have say say she pretty, just look at her or notice her, talk something about her instead
After watching this, my charisma is at its peak
Making consistent eye contact while talking is so hard, I forget what I'm saying!
We all have this in us... we just belived the lies the devil told us over the years.... we are all awesome!!! I love you all!! Stay awesome people 👏👏👏👏
It's hard keeping up with all these social ques and charismatic expressions just to make someone like you.
Doing it to make someone like you is usually the wrong approach, because you‘ll fully depend on the other person’s reaction and get demotivated very quickly. If you do it to improve how YOU feel in social interactions, you‘ll enjoy the process and be able to focus on one thing at a time with more ease. Building YOUR confidence and authenticity is key!
Hes such a gem. Good dude. People will benefit from you putting his ideology together. Spread it like paying it foward. I relized i act like him and i get anxious from PTSD randomly. They work, and this shows I'm not the only one to be this way with thinking. Wont work all the time. But you can break thr walls in your head that hold you back. And then break the real walls if you so feel.
He contrasts the 45th president to a T. I love it
Love this channel, brings me confidence
I learned this lenguage just because of this channel. Thank you Charlie! You changed my life!
I'm a panda. I'm naturally charming.
(awesome video btw, I love Hugh)
Thank you, i am taking many things from this❤️
My biggest problem watching these videos is realizing I already do all of this naturally anyways. Yet it never seems to be enough.
not sure what you mean. what is your goal that you are missing? connecting with people?
@@woodsprite5 Pretty much.
I can start conversations from nothing and keep them going. I can make people laugh until they cry. People tell me that they love my sense of humor and act excited when I'm around. Coworkers will say they'll miss me when one of us moves on and to "stay in touch."
So why do I always feel so alone? My texts are ignored, people I thought were my friends won't speak to me anymore. Relationship after relationship seem to fall apart out of nowhere for me. I'd understand just drifting apart sometimes, but it's always so spontaneous.
Number three I used to do all the time without realising. Whenever I could tell someone was ashamed of their sadness or something they were going through. I'd share a moment of sadness and doubt of mine to make them feel more comfortable and open and it works every time! The only thing you don't do is make it about you. You let them know that it's nothing to be ashamed of and that they're safe with you. But share a short story of yours and then put the focus back on to them :) Love you everyone! Wishing you happiness and confidence!
it's actually rather easy when you're Huge Jacked Man
Exactly. The video is a walking contradiction Rule 1. Be yourself Rule 2. Be Hugh Jackman
I'm from Belarus and our skills are lower than 0. thank you very much, super helpful video! need to rewatch again and again
Hugh Jackman used to be a teacher and a good teacher would need to be positive and motivational.
Watched one episeode, cant stop watching..
There still has yet to be an Oscars opening number that has come even remotely close to Hugh Jackman's.
Magicman205 I prefer Ricky Gervais
I love these videos. I struggle with being awkward because I'm autistic so I'm trying to learn how to interact
Confidence is a mindset. There’ll always be something you’re not gonna be good at but you’ll need to try to tackle regardless.
Great video! one of your best!
A truly classy guy. Someone who hasn't let fame and money ruin him. Bravo, Hugh!
As an autistic man, I find these videos legitimately helpful.
I also sort of feel like an alien watching a homo sapien instruction manual.
Its always easy to be relaxed and enjoy a situation when you have enough money to not need the job.
Love the second tip about doing what you love. But this can be a double edged sword. It can be hard to be enthusiastic in an interview about a job you don’t want, but sometimes you do need the money. Also, the most appealing jobs to you are often very competitive because many people might also want them. It’s tricky.
5 Easy Ways To Charm people:
1. Be good looking and have great hair.
2. Be positive in a phony way
3. Be taller than 5'9".
4. Know how to form sentences.
5. Be good looking and have great hair.
i think you forgot one.
6. be good looking and have great hair
What about women lmao
@@orielle6014 be good looking and have great hair.
No. 0 - Be Rich!
I’m 5’8”. Act all the more confident, just make sure you know what you’re talking about and you know what you’re doing.
Observe those you admire. I learned from someone to lightly discuss & be able to joke about things you might otherwise hide. It takes away your insecurities & lets you control the timing.
Imagine being Hughes Jackman and stumbling upon this video of someone analyzing you 0_0
i have watch so many videos of this chennel and i finally realise that we just need to be ourself with some confidance. yanhh nothing else!!