Why am I watching this I literally got rejected yesterday (Edit): how did this get 1.5k likes 😭, for those asking how I am now (19th may) honestly am doing worse the whole thing between us has become a whole story which you all probably don’t want to hear
1. They tend to avoid emotional intimacy 0:25 2. Surface level conversations 0:50 3. They joke about potential relationships 1:10 4. They use metaphorical language 1:58 5. They might avoid direct contact 2:43 6. They put up a facade of confidence 3:18 7. Obvious body cues 3:59 8. They display hot and cold behavior 4:37 9. They seek information about you indirectly 5:20
@rycoreco633 1. They tend to avoid emotional intimacy 0:25 2. Surface level conversations 0:50 3. They joke about potential relationships 1:10 4. They use metaphorical language 1:58 5. They might avoid direct contact 2:43 6. They put up a facade of confidence 3:18 7. Obvious body cues 3:59 8. They display hot and cold behavior 4:37 9.They seek information about you indirectly 5:20
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
1. They seem to light up whenever you enter the room, their eyes lingering on you a beat longer than necessary. 2. You catch them stealing glances at you when they think you're not looking, a shy smile playing on their lips. 3. They go out of their way to help you or be near you, even for the smallest of tasks. 4. Their body language speaks volumes - leaning in when you talk, finding excuses to touch your arm or shoulder. 5. They remember the little things about you, like your favorite coffee order or the book you mentioned wanting to read. 6. There's a subtle nervousness in their demeanor when they're around you, as if they're afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. 7. They mirror your actions or adopt similar interests, trying to create a connection between the two of you. 8. They become more attentive and supportive, cheering you on in your endeavors and offering a listening ear when you need it most. 9. They express genuine concern for your well-being and happiness, going above and beyond to ensure you're okay. 10. Their friends might drop hints or tease them when you're around, indicating that they've confided in others about their feelings for you.
These seem like they are moreso things that someone who is fighting feelings for you exhibit. The things in this video are very avoidant and emotionally immature and i cant think of a reason why ANYONE would tolerate them. 🤷🏽
Here's a bit of advice..... If they confuse you in any way and you have no idea where you stand with each other relationship wise and every time you try to make sense of said topic but they deflect or straight up refuse to talk about it......... DO YOURSELF A FAVOR AND RUN. Not because they are bad people necessarily, but because you will NOT be confused if someone genuinely likes you and you shouldn't have to feel like you're pulling teeth to get someones feelings out of them. Being with someone who's emotionally unavailable is shitty and detrimental to ones psyche 🤷
But some people don't mean to be that way and they would regret later, especially if not being clear to intend only wanting to be friends and not romantic. There can be nuance to this.
@@markvd1008 fixing other peoples confusion on where they stand with you is not your job. if someone cant make up their mind and stop playing games, then thats on them to learn and grow from. Nobody wants to be led on and nobody wants to be with someone who isnt mature and aware enough to see that their actions and behaviors are hurting someone else either. You can make excuses for that person all you want as well, but thats not going to make them change or actually put in effort to show you that they care. And im speaking as someone who is very emotionally unavailable. theres a reason im not dating. Nobody wants to live with a walking talking minefield.
@@jayvee1387 I'm actually the one who tends to have regret of accidentally confusing people due to not communicating when I wanted to, hence why I sometimes dwell about my past and trying to fix it by reaching out. (With something too intricate to explain in full detail here.) Especially if I knew better that my heart wanted to speak up from the very beginning. Since it can be painful to cause a misunderstanding. So then, what if the same person wants to make amends years later due to knowing deep down they can still be friends with that person? So, even if it's not your job to fix other peoples confusion, it can still be their own fault (self-blame) for causing a misunderstanding to the other person if it went against their own values or true self. I personally believe seeking redemption and forgiveness can be possible even years later and possibly even reconcile. People can change.
@@markvd1008but those ppl like ur self never actually step out of the shadows to make amends, it just stays as a fantasy in their heads & the rest of us just continue harboring negative feelings whenever we remember someone like u. I'm on the receiving end for the 2nd time in a row with someone at my new job & I WISH he would just be clear & honest about whatever is going on with him instead of him tryna start something with me & now behaving like an ass
@@EspritArkitekt this! And for the record, hun.... Dont shit where you sleep. Dont ever date or pursue someone you work with. That is so fkn stressful to deal with if it doesn't work out. Leave dude alone and focus on getting that paycheck. You deserve better and you deserve to pursue someone who reciprocates and makes a conscious effort to pursue you back. 💜💙
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Shelly Renee White
Its wrong though. Everyone around me have what seems like a perfect, flawless, sunshine and rainbows type of relationship. Everyone around me can walk up to a woman, or a man for that matter and BOOM. You got a solid couple in an instant.
I'm in one too. It's been a long while as she's been "figuring out how she feels" but after a bit, enough is enough. Avoidant or not, people deserve honesty.
@@nategubbins8871 Just ended things as well with a girl because of this, after the date she said she loved being around me and I make her feel loved and cared for, texts slowed down I asked what’s wrong she said she’s going through a depressive episode then 3 weeks pass and still haven’t seen her
@@nategubbins8871Just ended things with a girl as well because of this, After our date she said she loved being around me and I make her feel happy, loved and cared for but the texts slowed down I asked what’s wrong and she said she’s going through a depressive ep. But 3 weeks go by and I haven’t seen her, as well as 1-2 texts a day.
0:25 they tend to avoid emotional intimacy 0:49 surface-level conversations 1:09 they joke about potential relationships 1:42 they use metaphorical language 2:43 they might avoid direct contact 3:19 they put a facade of confidence 3:58 obvious body cues 4:37 they display hot and cold behaviour 5:17 they seek information about you indirectly
Actually, no, it's a beautiful thing. The more you learn about others, the more you learn about yourself. The more you learn about yourself, the more you learn about others❤ Self-awareness is what you seem to be in the process of discovering. You got this😉
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This art was one of the cutest I've seen in your channel! Congrats to the artist! Also, I have noticed these signs with my closest friend, but it should remain like this in order to keep our friendship healthy. He has a SO, but can't avoid me, nor do I, because of our job. It's sad.
agreed on the games thing. this doesn't sound like they're fighting feelings. this just sounds like someone whos emotionally unavailable and not ready for a relationship
The fact that this guy has been showing all of these signs for yearssssss is insane 😭😭. At some point we have to be honest with ourselves and with the people we have interest in. The idea of forcing away emotions and feelings towards a person… sounds like torture 😬
Yeah true... It us torture but foe my case... I'd rather fight those feelings and push them away cause she will never take an interest in me and my friends hates her and her friends and I have to pretend that I hate her too, bad mouthing her when I think she is such an amazing person🥲
Timestamps 1). They tend to avoid emotional intimacy 0:24 2). They joke about potential relationships 1:08 3). They use metaphorical language 1:40 4). They might avoid direct contact 2:42 5). They put a facade of confidence 3:17 6). Obvious body cues 3:57 7). They display hot and cold behaviour 4:35 8). They seek information about you indirectly 5:17 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
HIm and I have a very complicated friendship. He watches me and my details. He jokes with me and we push each other and laugh together, but the next day he ignores me completely. We always quarrel and do not correspond at all except on special occasions. Sometimes I say that the matter is over and that he no longer likes me, but the strange thing is that until now he still looks at me. He still follows all my details. He is very conflicted and tries to fight his feelings
I gave the same reply to somebody else but here it goes: I think that if someone is being hot and cold with you and this person's actions (leaving you on seen, avoiding you, etc) are making you feel bad, get away from this person. You deserve someone who knows your worth, is sure about you, and enhances your life. Really ask yourself what you want from this relationship, and if this person isn't it, then bye, I say this from experience, playing games is exhausting and it usually never ends well. Much love and support to you
@@Anita-vc8nb Thank you for your words, and yes, what you said is true, because these relationships greatly destroy a person’s mood. I felt exhausted by him, because one day he was always teasing me, scolding me, and the next day smiling at me. I see him treating everyone kindly and treating me harshly, so I got tired of taking the initiative and left the matter. By ignoring ..
watching after knowing he likes someone else, and hasnt moved on i think he confessed recently a week before the exam date, his been hinting about how he was kind to her and she broke his heart on fb and well i guess i understand why he likes her, shes been his friend for 2 years na. i know i dont have a chance, im not his type, im rowdy, playful, loud, touchy and unexperienced when it comes to love, im a kid in other peoples eyes but i keep having feelings, the way he looks when his concentrating, when his smilling and laughing, and how kind, thoughtful, and respectful he is but i also kind of like how cute he is when his mad as long as its not directed on me, and his random actions like petting my head or reasuring me just keeps my feelings for him alive, its been 8 months since i realized i had feelings for him but i know my feelings were slowy developing a year ago, i even said that he was my type to ny best friend before really realizing i liked him. alot of my friends keep telling me to move on even myself, but its hard, whenever i see him i know my feelings are still there
I think you should tell him when the time is right it sounds like you genuinely like this person and it’s not just a subtle crush, if u can’t tell him irl write him a short letter or note n prepare urself mentally for rejection n if ur afraid of losing ur friendship express to them that you will respect their feelings n just appreciate the friendship u have ( n who knows maybe one day this person will come to like u too) 😊
this vid made me realize that I've done this to the guy I liked 4 years ago. Now, I feel bad for myself because I could've been in a relationship with a person that I resonate with.
Yeah....I'm in similar situation. I have shared my feelings. She says she doesn't feel the same but she exhibits all of these signs. Some more than others, but they are all there. To complicate things even more she's my bestie. So decoding becomes murky.
Remember everyone, you deserve someone who is sure about you, knows your worth, and enhances your life. There can be a point in which this hot and cold behavior can be exhausting and make you feel bad, so take care of yourself, really analyze if you want to continue pursuing this person (if they make you feel this bad), and love yourself first.
This sounds a bit like fearful avoidance but its about half of these that are usual behaviors. tbh there can be a good chance that some of these can be false alarms because even my partner who dragged out a situationship still tried being somewhat emotionally vulnerable. This is the only video on this channel Im a bit dicey on but overall keep up the good work.
Pretty sure this is the way my interactions go with people I'm interested in. Unfortunately they still say no when I ask them out. Probably because I can't comprehend why you'd say no if you're interested. I have no fear of emotional pain.
THIS!!!!!!! Thank you for standing up for yourself cuz gotDAMN do i have shitty news for the people waiting for their emotionally unavailable "SOs" to wake up and notice them..... 🙄😒
Yep, that’s how you do it! 💯 I had to do the same thing with someone who wanted to play games. Then he had the audacity to be upset with me for not playing his game. You snooze, you lose.
me asf..... Im single and celibate and NOT looking. Not only because the dating scene is a literal warzone rn but also because people just give me the ick in general now. And because all people want nowadays in relationships of ANY kind is the entertainment and games or the instant gratification or the ego boost, everything is transactional.... Very stale boring stuff imo 🤷
I have a friend that I just recently noticed that they've been crushing on me for awhile now . I thought they liked me recently but it turns out that it's been more than a year. They know that I cannot reciprocate their feelings because they know that I'm AroAce. I feel so bad and it ended up making our relationship drift apart...
You shouldnt feel bad at all, hun. If you literally CANNOT give them what they want, and you know that them being around you but not WITH you is just as detrimental and your friendship cant go back to how it was, then you're better off just letting them go. You can't be put in the friendzone if you dont want to be friends, and the same is true for other people in regards to yourself. If someone wants a relationship with you and you want to remain friends because you genuinely cannot do relationships...... Then what options does that person realistically have? At least youre not doing it for malicious reasons. Dont beat yourself up.
@@jayvee1387sometimes , having a crush on someone can bring the relationship closer (not all the time but it worked for me) , for exemple i confessed to my crush who's aro-ace , but now her and i are friends when we weren't before So , to the main commenter , do what you feel is right for you , always follow your heart
thank you so much Psych2go, on my journey and losses to finally establish this win in my books, i'm so grateful you helped me do this. much love, best channel for advice. ❤❤❤
I do all this honestly😭😭😭, i find it easier. When I see them with someone else(even just smiling), I tell myself that I cant have them cause they belong to soneone else and i cant have them
I have a girl that keeps telling me she likes me a lot and she kissed me last time we saw each other, yet I still can't stop telling myself that its not real.
If he wants to avoid you... Just ignore him... It might be hard to move on... But try to move on.. You'll find someone better or someone else eventually.. But if you can't move on and like him too much.. Try to mend the relationship..
But sometimes I think he is giving me mixed signals, he would sometime stare at me and smile. His friends, who alr know I had a crush on him, kept teasing him. It made him a bit more distant
@@Khmiji there is a chance he might like you back, he is probably ignoring you because he is too embarrassed by his friends. Though try talking to him more often, if you get the chance.
No ones fighting any feelings for me. I keep telling myself they do and theyre just afraid to say it and they get angry and block me as a friend after 10 years or just keep refusing they have any romantic feelings whatsoever. 😐
this all sounds just like me but with my BFF who is a boy I confessed to before but got rejected and I still feel the same way and idw to feel them no more and T.T
I found out I’m mostly this person. We’ve both been hurt by bad relationships, but I’ve developed some feelings. I want to think that they also have feelings, but we both do a good job of avoiding confessing. But who knows, maybe all this time I’m the only who has these feelings! 😂
Well at least I’m not crazy, but it still hurts, and will it ever resolve. …at least my own repeated and increasing insistence to be friends seems to finally be heard…because admitting Yeah I DO Like You (Too) can…only do harm right now. What IS apparently “safe” but often gets that described hot/cold is…us trying to get through to the other how much we respect them but. And this has been going on for YEARS now. Despite a literal year of not interacting at all in an attempt to protect eachother, then me pushing the issue for a friendship, then the people we were literally trying to shield the other from through avoidance lit the fuse…which left a LOT of repair work to do ontop of the already Not Great start And…now the air’s as clear as it can be but. The method I thought was fine, wasn’t, so…literally haven’t seen them for. Literal months. And it’s “are they avoiding me, or do I continue to choose to trust that they’re not and want to be my friend like they insist.” And to maybe see them again…is apparently dependent on whether or not I can get preexisting plans to work as well as face down my own traumas getting stirred up by environments-which they at least acknowledge isn’t fair to the point of distress. …I wish we could just say we liked eachother already. And I still don’t understand what’s so difficult to just agree to “hey are you free at __” once a month or whatever. Or. Have my feelings just DIE already instead of keeping me miserable.
I was rejected a few weeks ago, several of these feel like a narcissist tactic… to keep you hanging on to their breadcrumbs. Anyone know if there is a difference???
Oh, d-! This has been my playbook for pretty much most of my life, but this is the 1st time I've actually seen it actually laid-out in an explicit listing. (Others just thought I wasn't being honest with my emotions. No, I was fighting it. Duties come 1st!) Still, good job, P2G!
I know someone with this signs. At first I thought they like me, there was mixed signals but I decided to came out of my comfort zone and start to talk to them more and do deep conversations, but at some point I felt like he sees me as nothing, he doesn't act aroundme as a friend nor lover. And I was like then what was those behaviors?! Now that I see this video I found what's going on. He use metaphor, he seek info indirectly, he doesn't contact me out of school but in school he has body language toward me like seeking to say hi when he doesn't have to, wait for me or let me pass first always,... makes jokes about having relationships with others. I know now what he is doing but like I overcome my crush toward him but why when he is still struggling, he didn't put step towards me?
Same, I've had a strong urge to ask them for direct meaning to all of their behaviors but nothing really came out of me. It is frustrating, they are very avoidant yet intimate from time to time. They ticks all the boxes and I really don't know what to make of them currently, I just want a put a stop to it
@donotreadmyprofile9373 I get u. U are doing well. I can now speak of an experience (after one month from my first comment) bc I also did the same. I fell for the mixed signals, and I found out mixed signal is always a no and I shouldn't get it seriouly :) so I just took a step back and stopped it...
@@donotreadmyprofile9373 If they know how desperate you are in wanting to keep that friendship, this is how they take advantage of your kindness. You need to be the type who is willing to walk out on them. If they refused to change, walk out. Don't give them a chance. You only give them a chance if they are willing to change. You need to be brave enough to leave them. Think about this. Who is the one trying to earn the trust here. They are. Not you. So you got to make them earn it. You got nothing to lose and they have everything to lose.
This lady showed me signs and for a shy girl asked for my Instagram. I being shy didn't do nothing. Took my time to chat her up. However, this went on for 2 months. Now, she thinks I don't like her and told me she's not interested. Should I approach her or let it go? Help, guys.
@rycoreco633 1. They tend to avoid emotional intimacy 0:25 2. Surface level conversations 0:50 3. They joke about potential relationships 1:10 4. They use metaphorical language 1:58 5. They might avoid direct contact 2:43 6. They put up a facade of confidence 3:18 7. Obvious body cues 3:59 8. They display hot and cold behavior 4:53 (Edit) 9.They seek information about you indirectly 5:20
my greatest fear is her having seen this video and then i approach her at school because my friend sits very close to her and then she realizes how obvious i’m being 😭
OK what if she says: "I need to figure out how to play you " and then from then on shows the body language of liking me but also hides it and all class period long she glances at me nonstop out of the corner of her eye
I'm always questioning if the guy I have been crushing on realizes my feelings or if he is just dumb (he is perceptive as hell, but maybe a little fcking blind with feelings).
This describes two of my coworkers. One is getting married to a guy I think is decent the other is just a great guy who is having trouble finding someone. He doesn’t want to ruin her relationship and she is just confused about her feelings plus she doesn’t date coworkers. I get popcorn. 🍿
Ok so he showed the signs of these during our meetings but also never answered my text or scheduled a meet up? I always did. So was he playing, was he lazy or did he try to suppress his feeling?
Why am I watching this I literally got rejected yesterday
(Edit): how did this get 1.5k likes 😭, for those asking how I am now (19th may) honestly am doing worse the whole thing between us has become a whole story which you all probably don’t want to hear
aw i’m so sorry 😭
@@snowviixthank you it’s okay tho slowly getting over it ❤
Stay strong soldier! 💪
Same but 11 days ago but like who knows other people might like me probably not but like 🥰
Literally got ask divorce yesterday
1. They tend to avoid emotional intimacy 0:25
2. Surface level conversations 0:50
3. They joke about potential relationships 1:10
4. They use metaphorical language 1:58
5. They might avoid direct contact 2:43
6. They put up a facade of confidence 3:18
7. Obvious body cues 3:59
8. They display hot and cold behavior 4:37
9. They seek information about you indirectly 5:20
@rycoreco633
1. They tend to avoid emotional intimacy 0:25
2. Surface level conversations 0:50
3. They joke about potential relationships 1:10
4. They use metaphorical language 1:58
5. They might avoid direct contact 2:43
6. They put up a facade of confidence 3:18
7. Obvious body cues 3:59
8. They display hot and cold behavior 4:37
9.They seek information about you indirectly 5:20
@@ozbornn3 forgot that's how you normally do it , thanks
@@rycoreco633 no problem 😄 glad to help 😁
I’m number 9. Lol
Lol wish me luck.
There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Watch this to find out if someone has a hidden crush on you: ❌
Watch this to find out whether or not you're hiding your feelings correctly: ✅
Relatable
Relate
Yep 😖
Real
How do you know
I'm watching this to know how to fight my feelings.
edit: nvm guys, we're dating now : ))
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same ngl
Relatable, like bro, I have been in this shit since years 😭
Same here.
Woah I just realized how big pysh2go has become lol I think I’ve been here since under a million lol
1. They seem to light up whenever you enter the room, their eyes lingering on you a beat longer than necessary.
2. You catch them stealing glances at you when they think you're not looking, a shy smile playing on their lips.
3. They go out of their way to help you or be near you, even for the smallest of tasks.
4. Their body language speaks volumes - leaning in when you talk, finding excuses to touch your arm or shoulder.
5. They remember the little things about you, like your favorite coffee order or the book you mentioned wanting to read.
6. There's a subtle nervousness in their demeanor when they're around you, as if they're afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing.
7. They mirror your actions or adopt similar interests, trying to create a connection between the two of you.
8. They become more attentive and supportive, cheering you on in your endeavors and offering a listening ear when you need it most.
9. They express genuine concern for your well-being and happiness, going above and beyond to ensure you're okay.
10. Their friends might drop hints or tease them when you're around, indicating that they've confided in others about their feelings for you.
4’s something I casually do all the time with my friends-
These seem like they are moreso things that someone who is fighting feelings for you exhibit. The things in this video are very avoidant and emotionally immature and i cant think of a reason why ANYONE would tolerate them. 🤷🏽
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woah u helped me thanks
My god this list made me feel really exposed 😭💀 I literally do all of these things around my crush help-
Here's a bit of advice..... If they confuse you in any way and you have no idea where you stand with each other relationship wise and every time you try to make sense of said topic but they deflect or straight up refuse to talk about it......... DO YOURSELF A FAVOR AND RUN. Not because they are bad people necessarily, but because you will NOT be confused if someone genuinely likes you and you shouldn't have to feel like you're pulling teeth to get someones feelings out of them. Being with someone who's emotionally unavailable is shitty and detrimental to ones psyche 🤷
But some people don't mean to be that way and they would regret later, especially if not being clear to intend only wanting to be friends and not romantic. There can be nuance to this.
@@markvd1008 fixing other peoples confusion on where they stand with you is not your job. if someone cant make up their mind and stop playing games, then thats on them to learn and grow from. Nobody wants to be led on and nobody wants to be with someone who isnt mature and aware enough to see that their actions and behaviors are hurting someone else either. You can make excuses for that person all you want as well, but thats not going to make them change or actually put in effort to show you that they care. And im speaking as someone who is very emotionally unavailable. theres a reason im not dating. Nobody wants to live with a walking talking minefield.
@@jayvee1387
I'm actually the one who tends to have regret of accidentally confusing people due to not communicating when I wanted to, hence why I sometimes dwell about my past and trying to fix it by reaching out. (With something too intricate to explain in full detail here.) Especially if I knew better that my heart wanted to speak up from the very beginning. Since it can be painful to cause a misunderstanding. So then, what if the same person wants to make amends years later due to knowing deep down they can still be friends with that person?
So, even if it's not your job to fix other peoples confusion, it can still be their own fault (self-blame) for causing a misunderstanding to the other person if it went against their own values or true self. I personally believe seeking redemption and forgiveness can be possible even years later and possibly even reconcile. People can change.
@@markvd1008but those ppl like ur self never actually step out of the shadows to make amends, it just stays as a fantasy in their heads & the rest of us just continue harboring negative feelings whenever we remember someone like u.
I'm on the receiving end for the 2nd time in a row with someone at my new job & I WISH he would just be clear & honest about whatever is going on with him instead of him tryna start something with me & now behaving like an ass
@@EspritArkitekt this! And for the record, hun.... Dont shit where you sleep. Dont ever date or pursue someone you work with. That is so fkn stressful to deal with if it doesn't work out. Leave dude alone and focus on getting that paycheck. You deserve better and you deserve to pursue someone who reciprocates and makes a conscious effort to pursue you back. 💜💙
POV: You are the one fighting your feelings about someone
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Shelly Renee White
thank you, but how do i reach her?
look her name up online, you will find all you need to know about her. she is definitely going to help.
Its wrong though. Everyone around me have what seems like a perfect, flawless, sunshine and rainbows type of relationship. Everyone around me can walk up to a woman, or a man for that matter and BOOM. You got a solid couple in an instant.
Gotta love a situationship, I know he likes me but some days he’s all over me and other days we barely talk except for a hi or 2. It’s confusing
why waste your time then? Being alone is better than being played...🤷
@@jayvee1387good point
I'm in one too. It's been a long while as she's been "figuring out how she feels" but after a bit, enough is enough. Avoidant or not, people deserve honesty.
@@nategubbins8871 Just ended things as well with a girl because of this, after the date she said she loved being around me and I make her feel loved and cared for, texts slowed down I asked what’s wrong she said she’s going through a depressive episode then 3 weeks pass and still haven’t seen her
@@nategubbins8871Just ended things with a girl as well because of this, After our date she said she loved being around me and I make her feel happy, loved and cared for but the texts slowed down I asked what’s wrong and she said she’s going through a depressive ep. But 3 weeks go by and I haven’t seen her, as well as 1-2 texts a day.
0:25 they tend to avoid emotional intimacy
0:49 surface-level conversations
1:09 they joke about potential relationships
1:42 they use metaphorical language
2:43 they might avoid direct contact
3:19 they put a facade of confidence
3:58 obvious body cues
4:37 they display hot and cold behaviour
5:17 they seek information about you indirectly
when i’m thinking that im learning about others, i just learn more about myself. This is me 😭 need to do more inner work
Actually, no, it's a beautiful thing. The more you learn about others, the more you learn about yourself. The more you learn about yourself, the more you learn about others❤ Self-awareness is what you seem to be in the process of discovering. You got this😉
@@danyelleorr-mcneil4711 awww thank you for the encouragement! You got this too! ❤️
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-4:37 They display hot and cold behaviour
-5:19 They seek information about you indirectly
This art was one of the cutest I've seen in your channel! Congrats to the artist!
Also, I have noticed these signs with my closest friend, but it should remain like this in order to keep our friendship healthy.
He has a SO, but can't avoid me, nor do I, because of our job. It's sad.
I'm staying single for the rest of my LIFE!! I hate games! And this is definitely game playing! 😢
agreed on the games thing. this doesn't sound like they're fighting feelings. this just sounds like someone whos emotionally unavailable and not ready for a relationship
This comment made me laugj
Not me watching this to see if I truly like him or just his company.
The fact that this guy has been showing all of these signs for yearssssss is insane 😭😭. At some point we have to be honest with ourselves and with the people we have interest in. The idea of forcing away emotions and feelings towards a person… sounds like torture 😬
It is but you get used to it
Yeah true... It us torture but foe my case... I'd rather fight those feelings and push them away cause she will never take an interest in me and my friends hates her and her friends and I have to pretend that I hate her too, bad mouthing her when I think she is such an amazing person🥲
same. ipIt happened to me for years with a person
@@akanehakashima5114 I think you should just be honest. Don't bad mouth her.
Not even as a romantic interest, just stop it! You are hurting her!
I mean. If you have a valid reason for hiding them is worth it.
i started the video hoping to see signs he likes me back
i ended the video realizing it just described me when im around him
HAHAHHA same here
When you realise you’re the one showing theses signs and not ur crush 😅😂
Timestamps
1). They tend to avoid emotional intimacy 0:24
2). They joke about potential relationships 1:08
3). They use metaphorical language 1:40
4). They might avoid direct contact 2:42
5). They put a facade of confidence 3:17
6). Obvious body cues 3:57
7). They display hot and cold behaviour 4:35
8). They seek information about you indirectly 5:17
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
🫡thx
I have this person that's a friend, and I don't want to act like I have a crush on them because I only want them to be a friend and nothing else.
As much as I want to hate him, it's not that easy.
Im still watching this even tho I know they just dont like me and probably hate me because of ruining our friendship
Click accidentally... 💀
Same here😮
SURRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRE
Its not accidental. Its intentional
Accidentally my ass
Same💀
Out of every video this channel uploaded, I related to this the most!
HIm and I have a very complicated friendship. He watches me and my details. He jokes with me and we push each other and laugh together, but the next day he ignores me completely. We always quarrel and do not correspond at all except on special occasions. Sometimes I say that the matter is over and that he no longer likes me, but the strange thing is that until now he still looks at me. He still follows all my details. He is very conflicted and tries to fight his feelings
I gave the same reply to somebody else but here it goes: I think that if someone is being hot and cold with you and this person's actions (leaving you on seen, avoiding you, etc) are making you feel bad, get away from this person. You deserve someone who knows your worth, is sure about you, and enhances your life. Really ask yourself what you want from this relationship, and if this person isn't it, then bye, I say this from experience, playing games is exhausting and it usually never ends well. Much love and support to you
@@Anita-vc8nb Thank you for your words, and yes, what you said is true, because these relationships greatly destroy a person’s mood. I felt exhausted by him, because one day he was always teasing me, scolding me, and the next day smiling at me. I see him treating everyone kindly and treating me harshly, so I got tired of taking the initiative and left the matter. By ignoring ..
@@Anita-vc8nb I second this wholeheartedly! Very well said
Wow this is timed well😳
I'm seeing about 5/8 of these from the person I'm interested in. This is driving me crazy.
watching after knowing he likes someone else, and hasnt moved on
i think he confessed recently a week before the exam date, his been hinting about how he was kind to her and she broke his heart on fb and well i guess i understand why he likes her, shes been his friend for 2 years na.
i know i dont have a chance, im not his type, im rowdy, playful, loud, touchy and unexperienced when it comes to love, im a kid in other peoples eyes but i keep having feelings, the way he looks when his concentrating, when his smilling and laughing, and how kind, thoughtful, and respectful he is but i also kind of like how cute he is when his mad as long as its not directed on me, and his random actions like petting my head or reasuring me just keeps my feelings for him alive, its been 8 months since i realized i had feelings for him but i know my feelings were slowy developing a year ago, i even said that he was my type to ny best friend before really realizing i liked him.
alot of my friends keep telling me to move on even myself, but its hard, whenever i see him i know my feelings are still there
I think you should tell him when the time is right it sounds like you genuinely like this person and it’s not just a subtle crush, if u can’t tell him irl write him a short letter or note n prepare urself mentally for rejection n if ur afraid of losing ur friendship express to them that you will respect their feelings n just appreciate the friendship u have ( n who knows maybe one day this person will come to like u too) 😊
this vid made me realize that I've done this to the guy I liked 4 years ago. Now, I feel bad for myself because I could've been in a relationship with a person that I resonate with.
aww thats just too fucking bad. But hey, congratulations. You have succesfully, and just like all other women, hurt a guy. Are you happy???
Its always this way and I wish it was different. I struggle to form connections with people.
I needed it so much❤❤ Thank you❤❤❤
Yeah....I'm in similar situation. I have shared my feelings. She says she doesn't feel the same but she exhibits all of these signs. Some more than others, but they are all there. To complicate things even more she's my bestie. So decoding becomes murky.
Remember everyone, you deserve someone who is sure about you, knows your worth, and enhances your life. There can be a point in which this hot and cold behavior can be exhausting and make you feel bad, so take care of yourself, really analyze if you want to continue pursuing this person (if they make you feel this bad), and love yourself first.
This sounds a bit like fearful avoidance but its about half of these that are usual behaviors. tbh there can be a good chance that some of these can be false alarms because even my partner who dragged out a situationship still tried being somewhat emotionally vulnerable. This is the only video on this channel Im a bit dicey on but overall keep up the good work.
This shows up hours after asking my friend’s cousin on why they believe her & I still have some sort of romantic connection years later
Pretty sure this is the way my interactions go with people I'm interested in.
Unfortunately they still say no when I ask them out. Probably because I can't comprehend why you'd say no if you're interested. I have no fear of emotional pain.
She shows like 5 1/2 of these, these videos really are fuel for overthinking
I chose for him by chosing someone else who was direct and honest.
YES! 🙌
THIS!!!!!!! Thank you for standing up for yourself cuz gotDAMN do i have shitty news for the people waiting for their emotionally unavailable "SOs" to wake up and notice them..... 🙄😒
Yep, that’s how you do it! 💯 I had to do the same thing with someone who wanted to play games. Then he had the audacity to be upset with me for not playing his game. You snooze, you lose.
@@Shay4YourMind81 "gotta be quicker than that!" 🤣😂👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
watching this knowing all too well that it's me. I'm the one who's fighting hopelessly
So any single homies here that can't relate 💀
me asf..... Im single and celibate and NOT looking. Not only because the dating scene is a literal warzone rn but also because people just give me the ick in general now. And because all people want nowadays in relationships of ANY kind is the entertainment and games or the instant gratification or the ego boost, everything is transactional.... Very stale boring stuff imo 🤷
I have a friend that I just recently noticed that they've been crushing on me for awhile now . I thought they liked me recently but it turns out that it's been more than a year. They know that I cannot reciprocate their feelings because they know that I'm AroAce. I feel so bad and it ended up making our relationship drift apart...
You shouldnt feel bad at all, hun. If you literally CANNOT give them what they want, and you know that them being around you but not WITH you is just as detrimental and your friendship cant go back to how it was, then you're better off just letting them go. You can't be put in the friendzone if you dont want to be friends, and the same is true for other people in regards to yourself. If someone wants a relationship with you and you want to remain friends because you genuinely cannot do relationships...... Then what options does that person realistically have? At least youre not doing it for malicious reasons. Dont beat yourself up.
@@jayvee1387 Thank you
@@jayvee1387sometimes , having a crush on someone can bring the relationship closer (not all the time but it worked for me) , for exemple i confessed to my crush who's aro-ace , but now her and i are friends when we weren't before
So , to the main commenter , do what you feel is right for you , always follow your heart
Hi Psy, I just noticed that subscribers have reached 12 million. Yay, congrats 👏 💖 💕 💓 😊
thank you so much Psych2go, on my journey and losses to finally establish this win in my books, i'm so grateful you helped me do this. much love, best channel for advice. ❤❤❤
I do all this honestly😭😭😭, i find it easier. When I see them with someone else(even just smiling), I tell myself that I cant have them cause they belong to soneone else and i cant have them
8 out of 8,i wish i would have worked on my academy's like this.
LMAO
bro is describe my situation right now.. i'm the one with avoid emotional intimacy 😭😭
I knew he had crush on me, but as he didnt tell me i respected his decisions and i didn't know him neither so it was complicated
Why am i here, i dont even talk to them and i only see them in the hallways
having a crush require human feelings. Something i quitted having. It only got weaponized against me at all time.
Did you also quit English class?
1:10 Did someone mention... POTENTIAL?
Sorry but if someone is playing Tsundere with you DON’T PURSUE THEM. They will either manipulate you or do not want your advances
As a people doing the things on the video, i can confirm that they don't have anything with manipulation. It's just a try to not fall in love.
Instead of clicking this video to see if my crush MIGHT like me back, I ended up being everything the video suggested.
No fr which is me as well 💀
I WANNA CONFESS SO BADLYyyyy but im so scared of his response or the others s reactions 🥹😭😭😭
This is so me 😮 but also the animations in this video are soooo cute and pretty 😍😍
I watched this channel about 2 years ago. I'm not the same guy. I don't wonder. I don't doubt myself.
Realizing I did that as a kid
towards the cute curly haired girl with glasses and didn't even realize it 😳🤦🏽♀️
Now I know why can't never tell my feelings i was doing this indirectly
I've been watching you for a while now but hadn't had my own account to sub. This advice, per say, has helped me.
it's me! I am that someone, fighting my own feelings🥲
I have a girl that keeps telling me she likes me a lot and she kissed me last time we saw each other, yet I still can't stop telling myself that its not real.
I've been all of that in the past to my highschool crush
he's ignoring my texts, avoiding me in school and i just feel like i should give up :(
Yes, detach from this person. Sometimes they then get attracted
@@jasonfanclub4267that’s terrible advice
Just ask him why
If he wants to avoid you... Just ignore him... It might be hard to move on...
But try to move on..
You'll find someone better or someone else eventually..
But if you can't move on and like him too much..
Try to mend the relationship..
But sometimes I think he is giving me mixed signals, he would sometime stare at me and smile. His friends, who alr know I had a crush on him, kept teasing him. It made him a bit more distant
@@Khmiji there is a chance he might like you back, he is probably ignoring you because he is too embarrassed by his friends.
Though try talking to him more often, if you get the chance.
This is how I'm acting right now about someone i like
No ones fighting any feelings for me. I keep telling myself they do and theyre just afraid to say it and they get angry and block me as a friend after 10 years or just keep refusing they have any romantic feelings whatsoever. 😐
put yourself down, just assume everyone hates you. easy motivation
Yeah I can’t talk to my gym crush but I have been giving him signals
this all sounds just like me but with my BFF who is a boy I confessed to before but got rejected and I still feel the same way and idw to feel them no more and T.T
But if someone talked about hypothetical relationships with others I’ll just think they don’t like me lmao
I found out I’m mostly this person. We’ve both been hurt by bad relationships, but I’ve developed some feelings. I want to think that they also have feelings, but we both do a good job of avoiding confessing. But who knows, maybe all this time I’m the only who has these feelings! 😂
Psych2go you just broked me in million parts😭😭
orrr they dont like you :)
Well at least I’m not crazy, but it still hurts, and will it ever resolve.
…at least my own repeated and increasing insistence to be friends seems to finally be heard…because admitting Yeah I DO Like You (Too) can…only do harm right now. What IS apparently “safe” but often gets that described hot/cold is…us trying to get through to the other how much we respect them but.
And this has been going on for YEARS now. Despite a literal year of not interacting at all in an attempt to protect eachother, then me pushing the issue for a friendship, then the people we were literally trying to shield the other from through avoidance lit the fuse…which left a LOT of repair work to do ontop of the already Not Great start
And…now the air’s as clear as it can be but. The method I thought was fine, wasn’t, so…literally haven’t seen them for. Literal months. And it’s “are they avoiding me, or do I continue to choose to trust that they’re not and want to be my friend like they insist.” And to maybe see them again…is apparently dependent on whether or not I can get preexisting plans to work as well as face down my own traumas getting stirred up by environments-which they at least acknowledge isn’t fair to the point of distress.
…I wish we could just say we liked eachother already. And I still don’t understand what’s so difficult to just agree to “hey are you free at __” once a month or whatever.
Or. Have my feelings just DIE already instead of keeping me miserable.
mAHHH he does all of these...i know he has a big crush i feel bad for him,im just not ready for a relationship or something serious
I was rejected a few weeks ago, several of these feel like a narcissist tactic… to keep you hanging on to their breadcrumbs. Anyone know if there is a difference???
That’s exactly me hiding my feelings from my crush.
Thank you very much for all of your informative videos,sir.
Oh, d-! This has been my playbook for pretty much most of my life, but this is the 1st time I've actually seen it actually laid-out in an explicit listing. (Others just thought I wasn't being honest with my emotions. No, I was fighting it. Duties come 1st!) Still, good job, P2G!
I miss the old character with the leaf on his head😭
I dont even understand why I watch these videos...(The crush and relationship ones)
I know someone with this signs. At first I thought they like me, there was mixed signals but I decided to came out of my comfort zone and start to talk to them more and do deep conversations, but at some point I felt like he sees me as nothing, he doesn't act aroundme as a friend nor lover. And I was like then what was those behaviors?! Now that I see this video I found what's going on. He use metaphor, he seek info indirectly, he doesn't contact me out of school but in school he has body language toward me like seeking to say hi when he doesn't have to, wait for me or let me pass first always,... makes jokes about having relationships with others. I know now what he is doing but like I overcome my crush toward him but why when he is still struggling, he didn't put step towards me?
Same, I've had a strong urge to ask them for direct meaning to all of their behaviors but nothing really came out of me. It is frustrating, they are very avoidant yet intimate from time to time. They ticks all the boxes and I really don't know what to make of them currently, I just want a put a stop to it
@donotreadmyprofile9373 I get u. U are doing well. I can now speak of an experience (after one month from my first comment) bc I also did the same. I fell for the mixed signals, and I found out mixed signal is always a no and I shouldn't get it seriouly :) so I just took a step back and stopped it...
@@setareh5888 yeah true, but the thing is I'm not having a crush on them I just wanted to be their friend, but they keep acting like this so...
@@donotreadmyprofile9373 If they know how desperate you are in wanting to keep that friendship, this is how they take advantage of your kindness. You need to be the type who is willing to walk out on them. If they refused to change, walk out. Don't give them a chance. You only give them a chance if they are willing to change. You need to be brave enough to leave them. Think about this. Who is the one trying to earn the trust here. They are. Not you. So you got to make them earn it. You got nothing to lose and they have everything to lose.
My best friend is somewhat matching with these infos...(I only see him as a brother)
These tips should be useful for me (so that i can fight it)
as someone fighting their feelings, i can guarantee this is fr yall TT
When a guy introduces you as “his friend “ BELIEVE HIM! That’s all you will ever be.
Idk why I'm watching this😂 I don't even have an interest with anyone or seen anyone having an interest in me😂
This lady showed me signs and for a shy girl asked for my Instagram. I being shy didn't do nothing. Took my time to chat her up. However, this went on for 2 months. Now, she thinks I don't like her and told me she's not interested. Should I approach her or let it go? Help, guys.
Thank you for this video now that I can become alone by myself
Feeding my delutions fr
and here i was thinking i was hiding it super well 😭
I accidentally fell down the water slide stairs onto my crush 😭
Hes the one who made me fall on him tho
“They might avoid direct contacts” yeah we’re literally like stick together so yeah... no, he does not like me AT ALL😭
here too early for the timestamps
@rycoreco633
1. They tend to avoid emotional intimacy 0:25
2. Surface level conversations 0:50
3. They joke about potential relationships 1:10
4. They use metaphorical language 1:58
5. They might avoid direct contact 2:43
6. They put up a facade of confidence 3:18
7. Obvious body cues 3:59
8. They display hot and cold behavior 4:53
(Edit)
9.They seek information about you indirectly 5:20
@@ozbornn3great
my greatest fear is her having seen this video and then i approach her at school because my friend sits very close to her and then she realizes how obvious i’m being 😭
OK what if she says:
"I need to figure out how to play you "
and then from then on shows the body language of liking me but also hides it and all class period long she glances at me nonstop out of the corner of her eye
Oh nooo..how did I end up here? Well, guess I have to stay and watch the video now
I’ve done everything in this video and i think she is starting to notice I’m so cooked 😭
GODDAMN LMAO
I'm always questioning if the guy I have been crushing on realizes my feelings or if he is just dumb (he is perceptive as hell, but maybe a little fcking blind with feelings).
@@nunahovy most guys are hella dumb about these kind of things, I don’t know why but u just gonna have to confront the man tbh
@@nunahovy IM COOKED
Why am i watching this? I literally just confessed to someone while they liked me back
This describes two of my coworkers. One is getting married to a guy I think is decent the other is just a great guy who is having trouble finding someone. He doesn’t want to ruin her relationship and she is just confused about her feelings plus she doesn’t date coworkers. I get popcorn. 🍿
Ok so he showed the signs of these during our meetings but also never answered my text or scheduled a meet up? I always did. So was he playing, was he lazy or did he try to suppress his feeling?
All of the above (jk can't help you with that i have never been in that situation)
This sounds like how an Avoidant acts when they have a crush lol