Healing a heavy heart
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- Опубліковано 4 жов 2024
- This is my first vlog. As I am uploading this, I am bit terrified, because sharing personal feelings online is such a daunting task.
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Hi Sahini, I am from Pakistan, settled in Canada. My dad was a very abusive man. I worked hard to build a happy and safe life for myself. One thing is because of the way he was I was petrified of cooking because he used to get so mad and angry if he didn't like the food my mom made. I can't say I am able to cook without revisiting past trauma but your videos make me so happy. They have a calmness and softness about them. Thank you for sharing. ❤
I hope you heal and make lots of tasty and healthy foods for yourself
Lots of love and well wishes your way lovely stranger. More power to us women of the subcontinent. Love all the way from Rajasthan, india
Lots of love and healing your wayyy😘❤️
Sometimes just being human and making human connections is so hard, but when it happens, its such a joy!. Hope you find the calm, gentle space you seek.
Hey sorry to hear u got so badly abused it has left u with such a trauma, its very sad parents do this not realising what a detrimental impact it has on the child. I hope u recover soon, please seek support and help from the medical staff, u certainly are in the right country and it will benefit u immensely. I, too had to have psychological therapy for other reasons and after resisting for many years, firstly b/c of the shame and embarrassment and 2ndly b/c I didn’t believe it would help but when I finally got treated it helped amazingly and I’m now in a better place psychologically, physically and emotionally.
One of the main reasons I'm afraid to get married. I love cooking and taking care of my boyfriend, food rathers acts of service is my love language. But I don't want to be forced to do that, and the more I see most modern marriages where the girl is working her ass of at office and then rushing home to hungry husband and children, picking up after them what not it is more daunting. Also getting the approval of mother in laws is a whole different topic.
Exactly my thought. I'm 19 and I've never been into a relationship. I crave love and acceptance from a man so much and yet have the tendency to push them away when they try to get closer, and I've said no to people I've had crushes on just because I'm SCARED. Scared of men and their families, and how marriage culture goes on in india.
I don't ever want to be forced into being servile. I want to love and do things for someone because I love them, not because it's my obligation to do so. Not because I'm a woman and "it's my place" to be in the kitchen or whatever. Do I make sense at all? Probably not.
@@smollilbean yes you make sense 😁...as a man I support it
@@smollilbeantrue but I will settle with or tell them in advance what I think about the marriage, know how things will go beforehand. And it’s about your man and you moving forward together if it’s just you it will always be just you, a man won’t change for you until he actually wants to. Just do your best from your side and be positive n happy. But if you get disrespected in return I’d say try to console them(him/his fam) it’s hard to leave after your actually married so I’d say before jumping to marriage be in long term relationship. Also MOST relationships fail after they get married because they forget to focus on themselves as they’re a family also keep your mental and physical health fit! Also the love or fire shouldn’t be decreased.
Please continue making such videos… it’s comforting , relatable and peaceful! Lots of love ❤
Thank you🌸❤️
Try some work out also.
@@chungamunga9898she looks physically fit. I hate seeing people suggesting things like they know a lot about the person...
@@chungamunga9898 try being kind
@@FeashtsAre you happy with bring a housewife honestly?
I have been using youtube for over 10 years but this is my first comment ever.
Just want to say your content is very soothing and calming.
I also find myself inclined to please others, especially after my school days. Lately, it has become more draining, and I realize it stems from my insecurity, a way to avoid feeling left out. I'm still working on overcoming this tendency. I hope you'll overcome it too. Your videos are inspiring and comforting; I could listen to you all day. Take care of your beautiful soul.
Thank you for your kind words. I’m working on it. ❤️🫂
I think it's very easy to get caught up in what is expected of us, especially as women, something about social signaling and just that we're expected to be empathetic to everything. I'm glad youre taking this time to do things for yourself, its important to put yourself first at times too! 💕
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My experience with my in-laws tells me that they are mean to me on account of me being from another family, other people’s’ child and not only tied to my gender! I came to this inference on seeing heir attitude towards me and comparing it with other women in their family. My mil herself possesses high credentials ( didn’t want to use the word educated because it has special meanings to me and not just degree), had been a professional all her life, propagates the idea that she is progressive and has modern dressing sense, yet she dislikes me wearing tights, or a dress accentuating my curves, or showing a little bit of cleavage, and this is just one example. However, she is totally fine with other women in her family dressing as they wish, making career choices as they wish!
To add to all that has already been said in this thread. I would also like to say and agree that my mil is unnecessarily mean to me, just because I am from "another" family. Constat fault finding and me trying to please her were the highlights of the first year of my marriage, it even lead to me questioning the very relationship that I valued so much . But now I am learning to set my boundaries. Even if everything else goes wayward because of this approach, atleast I will be content ❤ More power to all the women trying to strike a balance without quarelling, fighting and mud slinging ( not that I am type casting those that do, because their circumstances might as well call for those very actions)❤
@@aceexam5607 🫂 I hope you're head strong. It's not easy to deal with people who we consider family. The constant thought of getting validation. Keep going. I hope things get better.
As an introvert who spent half of her life consuming social media content..... It's actually the very first time I felt seen.. It's so comforting...❤❤
I am so glad you are speaking freely about the troubles and extreme pressure put on women in South Asian countries.
pakistani*
@@kaceobrwa7039she is bengali
as a married indian woman one thing i learnt is that after marriage a woman's life does a complete 180 turn. even though they all promise your life will be the same in order to get you to agree to the marriage. but for men they dont make such promises cause their lives donot change atleast not drastically. its nice to see a creator share this side too. ❤
So true. It sucks. Speaking for myself, shouldn't have done it and fallen for the mirage of a somewhat equal partnership
It's true that marriage brings lots of changes in a woman's life but it is also same for a man. For men it brings added responsibility of making his partner's life compatible with his home. Most of them succeed and we don't talk about it. Bcuz if such couples won't have succeeded we wouldn't have had women empowerment in our country in the first place.
@@prem27mndlThis is exactly what women in the comment section are talking about. Instead of empathizing with their situation, men like you bring up how much you suffer. You cannot listen and that's the problem. And what equal change are you talking about as a man? Stop kidding!😂 Either you are young, or immature because of the pampering you received from your mom. Men cannot even meet women half way in relationships. Relationships and marriage benefits men, not women! When women realise this, they won't fall for it.
Feel like looking at my past self... I slowly lost myself without knowing thinking about expectations to fulfil the various roles. I am so glad you are speaking up, not losing your identity, not forgetting about your preference, doing things differently than our parents. So proud of you❤️
I never watch vlogs. I sort of despise them. They're just a waste of time, looking at other people's life, that's what I thought. Have been watching your shorts for about a month now and I don't know why, my heart wanted more of you. You feel so fulfilling and so rich in some ways I cannot even express rightly. Just feels like spring. I love you, Sahini.
P.S. this is my first you tube comment ever. You deserve it.❤
Hey sis. Love your real talks more than anything. Your content is just so relatable and clearcut rather than some fancy elevated versions of lifestyle videos. And you as a person across videos,stories,posts have become someone I really admire and get inspired from. So lots of love and lots of respect for you and your work sis. ❤ Take care . And do keep posting such videos.
I swear to Lord I am actually not kidding but you do more than average person in a day !🌟 videos of making tiffins and making bread from scratch I swear you are doing a lot! you’re doing a lot !! don’t let the people who haven’t healed from their trauma tell you what you are doing less🤍💯 lots of love🥰 and we love a problematic King like Sunny
sunny is the most unproblematic person, I swear!
Your a genius for sure. The way you rustle up a meal looks so effortless. Plss never let anyone deter you. Your happiness is most important. Pls donot let anyone dictate you. Love yr channel..
I am suffering from trauma due to toxic environment i am going through since my childhood,,,with it humiliation because of my body type and skin colour is included,, nowadays it is common for people to come and insult me for my failures of getting a job ,,,,,after two nights of sleeplessness i am smiling and enjoying your videos now ,,, it's really soothing my wounds 😁😁😁
Don’t let people to do this to you, never. Speak up for yourself. You can also something like Sahini or anything you want. Loooooove you dear ❤️
Girl, Your way of presenting/editing a video is so unique, real and comforting all at the same time! So peaceful to watch!❤
I can come back to this vlog again and again simply to seek solace!! You have conveyed ordeal of all girls and shown us the most smooth and simple way to find peace through it!! More power to you Sahini!! Enjoy your videos to the core!! Lots of love ❤❤
I often feel low due to study/work stress....and I'm glad to know that when I feel that way it's completely justified and normal and I'm not being "dramatic"....someone very close to me called me dramatic for whining/being low on my superrr stressful days....that hurt heh.
This video is soothing....thanks for sharing! Everyone eventually makes out of this temporary sadness....and our goal should be the focus on long term happiness :D
I’m having a tough day too … thanks for this vlog. I have an amazing hubby too and love reading. Life has gotten so busy off late. I wish to have a breather. Love your work … keep doing what you are doing… you are amazing ❤
Your voice feels like a warm hug. I love these vlogs!
Recently started viewing your videos, love it. And love the way you enjoy the simple pleasures of life and the softness and genuinity of your souls
I remember subscribing to your channel just seeing on short video. Loved the authenticity of the video. I am able to understand what you mean by expectations set by others (especially over women). I was glad to watch this one and was touched by it that I want to comment here even if it's an old one. Best luck on your journey. You go girl.!!!
You're doing so well. I appreciate you so very much, please never change.
I looove this vlog. The editing, the choice of music, how you share your feelings, even just the way you speak. I used to be a people please and I think people pleasing in the end is really fear of suffering. Suffering in case someone dislikes me, or if they will start a fight with me or if they will yell at me or push me out of the social circle. But only if you can free yourself of that fear of suffering you can really be free. People will always have their agenda, their ideas about how life and other beings should be but that shouldnt influence how you live your life. Sometimes a fight is needed. As long as you can remain beautiful within yourself or after a fight come back to happiness there is no problem in fighting a fight sometimes. For me it really helped when I started yoga and meditation. Maybe thats something that you could try? - Summer
So yoga and meditation helps with people pleasing?
I'm 19 and I've just realised that most of if not all of my friendships from highschool have been based off of people pleasing. If I spoke my mind, and was myself more i would probably not have half these friends. They're not bad people, but I've let them intrude too far inside my boundaries and now I feel resentment, towards myself and towards everyone. I just want to be left alone. It's so draining.
heyyy! i just stumbled upon your channel like half n hour ago and I must admit it is the best thing that has happened to me today! your editing, choice of music, the entire video concept is just so comforting 🤌 keep upp the good workkk!
Everything about this vlog is so relaxing and peaceful and it just hits home. We need more of this pleaseee🥺🥺🥺🥺. Sending love 💕
Good to Sunny doing some other things than playing 😂 loved your talks and may God help you to achieve everything you want😍🙏
You’re so real and your videos are so real !! The contents are real and so relatable where ever we are in the world !! Such simplicity !! Keep going .. you are amazing ❤
That sneeze after seasoning the veggies at 3:34 is really cute 😍 ❤
Your videos are weirdly comforting. It's like the way I'd picture my life to be in next few years.
Keep them coming. Take love.
Girl,you are gonna be soon all over the social media.
Loved the courageoue content.
This video feels like a cozy dear diary moment! Thank you for being so genuine and warm. Please continue the refreshingly authentic content. You are doing amazing
This is such a beautiful comforting video, loved every bit of it!
And I could totally relate to you when you said I sometimes cross my boundaries to make people happy or out of empathy.
You two😩❤️....this is definitely my comfort channel
We really wanna know you upbringing story....where you lived before and the inspiration or motivation for life in general....would love to know more about you...like a qna.....you radiate such positivity and warmth❤
2:46 I have a video of yours saved in my mobile ( I downloaded it from Facebook 😅) where you were making rasgulla and telling your point of view regarding "Perfection in love" .
I really loved that video of yours. I do watch it often whenever I feel low in my relationship.
That video made me realise that every relationship is unique in it's way and we shouldn't be comparing it with others.
Your husband making the bed reminded me every words you spoke in that video.
Good wishes.😊❤
I am not kidding i watched the video twice. So soothing and therapeutic it was. Please post more such long videos. ❤
Thank you so much Prerona❤️🌸
Hey Sahini, I am an ardent fan of your various skills that you showcase: different cuisine cooking, organising your home, your life, fun stuff! Just came across this video of yours; just wanted to convey - you’ve been doing rally good, woman! Keep doing what makes you happy and joyful. Lots of love♥️
You’ve been doing really good**
Hey Di I'm 20 year old elder daughter of the house, after maa being ill constantly working, today Before 4 hours i started with my kitchen cleaning, washing, food making after all this I'm watching your comforting video, Tumi jano ni Didi ki bhison shanti mile tumar video teh, akhon ar ghorar kaaj shamanno mone hoy na, mone hoy amio kichu interesting korchi 🥺💗🌟
😭 ghorer kaaj toh sobai kei korte hoi. Sammano keno! It's very necessary to keep a clean house, it affects our mood and keeps us productive! That said, everyone should do it. You are doing well lovely human!
@@Feashts Thank you for being you, you inspire me! Even if I hardly get time from house chores I try to be more productive about things now, khub bhalobasha nao, bhalo theko 💌🌹
i really appreciate your vlogs. Simplicity and just real and comforting. Please post more with longer duration lol .
Girl ur so smart n creative, don’t let ur traditional in-laws get to u. Ik this is easier said than done but u r lucky to have a loving hubby, keep going n y’all will break barriers! Keep prioritizing n loving urself along with ur hubby but remember to always put u first and stay honest with him & ur relationship will flourish. ❤no need to always overachieve at ur expense but I can totally relate to the tendency to avoid conflict n ppl please. Those self dates r so important, don’t let them become overdue❣️
This is how vlogging should be..like a beautiful tale❤❤ so bored watching "hey guys welcome to my vlog" type vlogs..this was comforting❤️ aesthetic❤️
Your videos are beautifully woven tale with a fine tenderness that delivers weirdly comforting energy(in a good way). It feels like a fine work of art and trust me I am not exaggerating. It feels home. Keep making such videos di. ❤
Don’t try to please everyone,make yourself happy first,you are too talented to take crap from anyone
Just in three months you've grown through the shorts I'm really happy for you ❤
Thank you for being so authentic ❤
Your video reminded me of the days when vlogging was not about sponsorships and products, it was simple back then which was better than social media these days. You video gave hope ki abhi bhi baki hai wo sab🤗 Jab mann kare banana aur aisi videos, no pressure🤞🏼❤
I had a pretty tiring day today but I'm watching your video for the third time, and it's enough to heal my tired soul, just before sleep. One video by feashts a day, keeps tiredness away❤
I relate you in a very sensitive way.
I wish we can heal our souls and bodies from every scars we had ✨🌺
You are too real Sahini di, which is rare to find in this superficial world. People(most content creators) rarely shows their vulnerability, or have little courage to be their true self. Kudos to you🩵.
I LOVE your videos. They are really calming. I hope you stay like this🍀
You’re so comforting, realistic and somehow also relatable ❤
Such a heartwarming content 🙌
In this era of shoe-off & glitters, your content is so authentic 😊
May Lord bless you both.
Lovely couple 🥰👏
I won't be the 1st to say your videos are a piece of 'art' than just cooking videos or life-in-a-day style vlogs. Yes u r the centre piece of all of it but other subtle things like the lighting in ur house, ur cutlery collections, ur background music choices, ur camera angles, ur script editing, ur camera choice and quality, ur time management. And above all ur simplicity and purity of heart. Just makes watching ur videos a therapeutic experience for stressed out and sad souls around the world.! Excellent work Mrs. Sahini Banerjee. Loooooong way to go. Heal this world..thru your simple (yet complex) art😊
Love the content and how comforting it is!
A tiny suggestion for future videos, if you don't mind - maybe you could turn down the BGM a bit and/or maybe bring the mic a bit closer (if you're wearing one, idk) when you're talking
Your voice is really sweet and the music seems to be drowning it out sometimes. Once again, just a suggestion! Love your content as always❤
I love your videos Sahini! Hope you find joy and peace wherever you go!
i know it might feel overwhelming, specially with the increasing popularity of your videos. It does become difficult to manage home…. but i hope you take breaks and spend time for yourself, with yourself🥰 sending loads of love and positive light your way, may you always feel like your precious young self and seek joy in the little things🌷
you guys are so wholesome and perfect, touchwood.
I dont wanna fight I don’t wanna argue I don’t wanna hurt people i just want to live the way I want to live
Just love this as I also believe and does the same… live and let live❤
wholesome video, its lovely when ppl spent days doing what they love, your doggo is so cute.
My health has been down for couple of days & this video made me feel so good.
How beautifully u r useing all tht u hv…Dude, i love ur creativity!!!
Sahini, there is a beautiful stillness to you, never lose that. I love the camera placements and editing of your vlogs, thank you for sharing yourself so openly. Wishing you a year of great mental health ❤
You bring so much dignity to being a homemaker which is very hard. Others wield power. Calls for enormous strength to maintain identity. You are adorable. I see you are a big reader?
Ppl hv said enough abt other things that i felt too. What hooked me besides is the clarity of your thoughts, expressions and your superb language.
I just absolutely adore this girl❤. Lots of love to you, Sahini.
Sit with your feelings. The more you contain them , the more they become poison.
Having negative feelings are okay ,sometimes they feel like a hard push that we needed to see the greatness in ourself.
It's like being pushed to a cliff but you realise you had wings all along , they just never let you see that.
Slow days are Okay.
Sad days are okay.
Lazy days are okay.
I'm sure if we were happy nonstop we would still probably feel drain out.
You can try journaling in those times when you feel too down.
I also need you to know that people who can't take no for an answer, won't ever change.
It's better to either reschedule or simply say you're too tired for the work. Or that you can't do it alone. The more you hide your identity, your priorities, the more you become a shadow.
this was so wholesome and relaxing 🫶🏼
My goodness..i love your channel..so soothing and peaceful..everything so cute,cozy and warm..even the house interior and lighting and the dog aswell😍🥰 ❤❤keep going🙋🏻♀️
I love watching these videos while eating. It's so comforting and feels like home. Please never stop making long videos
No matter what you do they will always find fault in it! So grow a thick skin and do what your heart and soul wants. Please don’t let yourself suffer, stand up for yourself. Remember happiness is a decision!! Power to you! 😊
Simplicity can be so aesthetic sometimes. Loved watching your day in the life. And these are the exact things that I do when I get overwhelmed 😢
Please keep creating, keep doing things that makes you happy. Being empathetic is good but not at the cost of your mental health. I learned it the hard way. 😢
তোমার দিন গুলো ভালো কাটুক। ❤
I guess this is the only UA-cam channel without any haters ❣️
Love ur contents
Watching this video was so heartwarming , I've recently moved to Kolkata from North India & im loving the culture & glad i found your channel.✨💐
Ur so cute and the goodness reflects in ur face. Lots of love from Perth, Australia
U are actually an artist. U know the essence of content creation. U know what ur audience like❤
Voting for a vlog on sunny and sahini
Marriage and bond
And how u share ur work in all spheres of life
I love every single vid u make. But this one was extra special. It was like me meeting myself unexpectedly. Thank u for sharing the not so perfect bits of your life just as gracefully as the rest.
This was soo soo therapeutic!!! 🥺 Virtual hugs 🫂🫂🫂
Hey Girl, you are really doing great and its so awesome to see you care your family.
I absolutely loved this video❤️🥰I have an exam tomorrow and watching this really helped me calm down a lot Ty!!!!
I hope your exam went well little nemo! ❤️
Your filmmaking skills are genuinely amazing
I match and understand that bounaries point. Just realised I need a simple day as well❤ thank you. Heavy hearts need a slow cry day and I claim mine.
I found your channel today. I subscribed right away. Your sound is amazing, your vocabulary is outstanding. I am here to learn English from you.. lol. I am thinking of watching all your videos!
So please continue making videos.. Thank you!
Loved this video. Hoping it was a little longer for someone going through the same looking for comfort and knowing I am not alone in feeling heavy
I randomly found your youtube shorts, and you have such a peaceful aura 🫂 bear hugs 🤗
Your videos heal me. It literally heals me. Your voice over notes, captions, you write so well. I love the way you see the world sahini ❤
I have re-watched Your insta reels a zillion times. It is like warm comfort corner for me just like jhumpa lahiri's books, maa er hath er khava, love love the way it is filmed angle, voice over etc ❤
Onek bhalobasha 😊
It's like ASMR to me. Felt really relaxed after hearing your Voice.
you are a breath of fresh air in this copy paste content creation world. Glad to find you.
Every Sahini deserves a Sunny, and every Sunny deserves a Sahini. You two just make each other happy.
Ahhhh 😩✋ Thankyou So much for this kind of healing video, seriously I am feeling so goooood after watching it ❤❤
Thank you for small havenn..i cant write...how i am feeling. Goodluck and hugs sissy❤
PLEASE DONT STOP MAKING THESE VLOGSSS SO BEAUTIFUL I WISH THE BEST FOR ALWAYS AKKAA
Ms. Banerjee, I stumbled across your shorts, and simply adore you asking, "Sunny, ki khabi!!?" Be well, do well, and stay well.
sahini didi, your videos are so incredibly comforting, please keep making these beauties! 😗😗❤❤
I absolutely love your videos. So simple and beautiful.❤
Don't stop please 🙏 I know it's easier said than done cause i too get thrown into sticky situations ,that leave my heart heavy .
Hi Sahini...
I can relate to you completely
I currently am not working due to certain reasons
And the pressure that "people" put on me ,the words they say is unimaginable
Thank you for your encouragement through the video
Much appreciated ❤❤
Sahini,this is rather a late response...
However,as a working senior I would like to say that we aren't superhumans. We all need a me- time.We all need women friend,be it a cousin or neighbour or aunt or colleague or even mom....to reach out and hold our hand.....they support us and LISTEN to us.
Remember,to spread happiness you need to be happy first!
God bless and best wishes.
Sucha a comfort to watch your videos :)
Beautifully shot, beautifuly edited, and your thoughts ❤
Hey Sohini..loved your video...n love your passion for cooking..really inspires me as cooking is my stress buster too....hope to see more of u