5 EVIL Mind Games Guys Play on Girls

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  • @HAbied
    @HAbied 6 років тому +2815

    And they think we're complicated

    • @veronicacarranza7371
      @veronicacarranza7371 6 років тому +27

      I know right

    • @HAbied
      @HAbied 6 років тому +32

      @@veronicacarranza7371 seriously we need to prove them wrong ladies or I'm going to murder 98% of the male population if your wondering about the 2% those are for Sebastian Stan and Chris Evans😂😂😂

    • @veronicacarranza7371
      @veronicacarranza7371 6 років тому +3

      @@HAbied do you have isnatgram cause of you do tell me it

    • @veronicacarranza7371
      @veronicacarranza7371 6 років тому +1

      @@HAbied oh if you don't then send me snapchat if you have that

    • @HAbied
      @HAbied 6 років тому

      @@veronicacarranza7371 I have but how do I send it sorry I'm I little bit of a dork😂😂

  • @Mandiepink1
    @Mandiepink1 6 років тому +1522

    I’ve decided in the last few months I’m just going to be happy being single and stop worrying about it and wasting my time on men who don’t deserve me. I turn 24 on Saturday and I’m just going to enjoy myself and take care of me because I know when I’m ready somebody worthy will come into my life. I’m actually feeling happier with that mentality

  • @carlaa4140
    @carlaa4140 6 років тому +1292

    Ghosting..what an awful thing to do :(

    • @ashleym9345
      @ashleym9345 6 років тому +59

      Yup it happened to me last year. I really liked this guy and then he just stopped talking to me and we haven't talked since!!!

    • @Sasha-lg1ln
      @Sasha-lg1ln 6 років тому +57

      Ugh its the worst I got ghosted too 👻. I wish they would just man up and tell me they're no longer interested

    • @내가리민호조아안녕
      @내가리민호조아안녕 6 років тому +4

      Same

    • @내가리민호조아안녕
      @내가리민호조아안녕 6 років тому +2

      Right when I sang, he left

    • @trucnguyen7361
      @trucnguyen7361 6 років тому +1

      Indeed. ╯︿╰

  • @chynabarnescb
    @chynabarnescb 5 років тому +775

    Ghosting is not a mind game anymore...it's a hobby to these dudes now days

    • @SinfulScents
      @SinfulScents 5 років тому +4

      Chyna Barnes that’s so sad 😢

    • @girlnextdoor2836
      @girlnextdoor2836 5 років тому +16

      Exactly,it’s as if they go out hunting for girls to sweep off their feet and then bingo they ghost 🤣🤣

    • @chynabarnescb
      @chynabarnescb 5 років тому +7

      @@girlnextdoor2836 lol...then they laugh😁😁😁and say (gother)

    • @_fromthedivine_
      @_fromthedivine_ 5 років тому +2

      @Shanu Aaliyah's Fan BR.Shaikh Ji exactly

    • @chynabarnescb
      @chynabarnescb 5 років тому

      @Shanu Aaliyah's Fan BR.Shaikh Ji sooooo true smh

  • @DayaTom
    @DayaTom 5 років тому +485

    Sometimes abusive people ghost you when they realize you're not gonna be an easy prey.
    Either way... I think blocking them from every single portal is fair.

    • @halcioncocaine2096
      @halcioncocaine2096 5 років тому +2

      Please give me your version of ghosting ⛄

    • @miss.jenny.b
      @miss.jenny.b 5 років тому +12

      Omg you are so right. We should be happy when they ghost. I listened to the radio today and a woman got them to call a guy that ghost. He ghosted because she opened up about some past relationship trauma on a second date and he didn't want to deal with someone 'crazy.' Like, you're crazy! Bye. That is a sociopath. We need to start looking at this and being grateful.

    • @DayaTom
      @DayaTom 5 років тому +4

      @@miss.jenny.b Yeah.. I mean it sucks as it's usually shocking. But it's wonderful in the long run knowing who is who. And when they show you, being ready to accept the truth.

    • @deanna6742
      @deanna6742 5 років тому

      😂

    • @miss.jenny.b
      @miss.jenny.b 5 років тому +9

      You know what's better than letting these jerks get away it? REVENGE. I wait about a month or two then hit them up with my burner numbers. "Hi! You told me to send you a text on (Insert whatever garage 'dating site' you're on). Wanna meet up? ;)" Insert random photo pilfered from Instagram. Then I make them travel very far from where they are usually during peak hours for traffic and never show. Change burner number. Do it again. IT'S TRAUMA. And shoutout you all my sisters out there that I make them think twice about ghosting next time. It feels amazing to do this and no Satan TAKING MY POWER BACK FEELS GOOD.

  • @lehuafromkailua8781
    @lehuafromkailua8781 5 років тому +143

    1. Ghosting
    2. Hot and Cold
    3. "Secret Girlfriend"
    4. Never texting first
    5. Being flirty with other girls
    This has been happening with me for the last 8 months! My ignorance was THICK!!
    Thanks Andrew!

    • @fe6523
      @fe6523 5 років тому +4

      Please read the book call THE RULES!!

    • @mhinzarchitthu8739
      @mhinzarchitthu8739 3 роки тому +1

      You are so strong 💪

    • @teanna4569
      @teanna4569 Рік тому +4

      You can beat them at there own game by not letting any of them things bother just be cool an mirror him, I’ve gotta the hard players to fall for me by simply playing the game it’s so easy to get men to fall for you, including players smh, until you realize you don’t want them and they stay around forever when you’re just as distant an unavailable as them because there goal is to win you over, fuck him good ,be seductive, be sensual, creat mystery and distance never contact them first, make them laugh, send they ass back home, they be begging for more 😂

    • @Chosen302
      @Chosen302 Рік тому

      I’m so exhausted from the games.

    • @canduscanty8583
      @canduscanty8583 Рік тому

      @@teanna4569 🤣🤣🤣well DAMN

  • @BeliiSpii
    @BeliiSpii 5 років тому +140

    A guy once gave me advice that I never forgot. If a guy is really into you he’ll make an effort to talk and/or see you....anything else means he’s just not and move on. And now I’ve been single for about 5 years but I’m happy so 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @davidbikumbi5981
      @davidbikumbi5981 2 роки тому +1

      B spin

    • @thereforeayam
      @thereforeayam 2 роки тому +1

      ...no two uglies in a relationship & he's way under quota, so I'm waitin'

    • @Grimsded
      @Grimsded 10 місяців тому

      Tbh there's a guy at work who always stops by and says something to get my attention but genuinely I think he's just bored :)❤️

  • @shelby5534
    @shelby5534 6 років тому +449

    Thanks for helping us lonely people feel better about ourselves

  • @phuturem2883
    @phuturem2883 5 років тому +252

    These types of sociopathic, emotionally-devoid and SICK behavior is why many women need to remain single and get better at vetting men. These are DARK TIMES we’re living in. Protect your heart.

    • @miss.jenny.b
      @miss.jenny.b 5 років тому +9

      Dark times indeed, Sis.

    • @Jennyshengm
      @Jennyshengm 5 років тому

      Yes its right. In dharma also regards nowadays age as dark time

    • @anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788
      @anaguerrerosholisticwellbe2788 5 років тому +7

      @yerowww666 high standards = self-respect. It means not settling with a lower vibe than the vibe you carry or want for yourself.

    • @Shay4YourMind81
      @Shay4YourMind81 5 років тому +1

      I agree! 💯

    • @dianevanderlinden3480
      @dianevanderlinden3480 4 роки тому +2

      If guys this in a different context they’d be locked up. But for dating they think it’s okay.

  • @oreoseni3829
    @oreoseni3829 6 років тому +719

    I was avoiding this video only to realize I actually needed to hear this

  • @singing.winnie
    @singing.winnie 5 років тому +134

    "The worst reason why he ghosted you or became cold to you is probably cuz he changed his mind about you.
    But the best way to deal with this is not to take it personally and forget&ignore him. Because the problem lies with him, not you."
    Thank you Andrew Cuo 👍🥰

    • @slardebard
      @slardebard 5 років тому

      What if the lady actually is a bitch is it still him?

    • @monicanath4859
      @monicanath4859 5 років тому

      Nega Gozarani well said!

    • @jasmine1jj
      @jasmine1jj 4 роки тому +1

      I needed to hear that too.

    • @thereforeayam
      @thereforeayam Рік тому

      imo he likes the person but found a flaw & chose someone else...he's already moved on unless he thinks you're a serious criminal such as dealing drugs for bikers ...there's ghosting, then there's restraining order ghosting

    • @teanna4569
      @teanna4569 Рік тому

      Some men will ghost you if there caught feelings and fall for you they don’t wanna sacrifice their heart for you

  • @Shari-Attarian
    @Shari-Attarian 6 років тому +431

    Guys=drama
    Drama = wasting energy
    Wasting energy = wasting time
    To sum it up:
    Guys= wasting time
    At least in my perspective.
    guys have done all of the mind games you mentioned. I give up on guys.

    • @alexaccipitridae
      @alexaccipitridae 5 років тому +9

      Generalization? Not all of them are, and that's pretty offensive. I am sorry that a guy who isn't even worth you screwed you up but still this is wrong.

    • @Jennyshengm
      @Jennyshengm 5 років тому +8

      Not all guy the same. Just like not all girls. Out there also are quality guys and girls just like you think you are good one❤️

    • @Daria-rx6kn
      @Daria-rx6kn 5 років тому +3

      Yo! Your conclusion is a little bit wrong. Toxic relationship = waste of time in general and it doesn't matter with whom it is. But if you love drama or have unlimited time or energy it's a great activity which won't let you be bored (at least with a drama part).

    • @emmacherry2093
      @emmacherry2093 4 роки тому

      👏👏 Thank you

    • @1000mizz
      @1000mizz 4 роки тому

      these men will soon turn gay

  • @tooniemama6959
    @tooniemama6959 6 років тому +227

    Ghosting someone is about the most childish thing you can do. It's stupid. Social media has made it acceptable to be rude to other's and treat other's like they are disposable. A lot of Guy's do this because they don't have the courage to tell the truth and they are immature. What happened to common courtesy and respect? Regarding texting; a lot of Guy's don't like to text, so it just depends on the person. Texting is okay for quick messages, but texting someone every day without good reason would get annoying for anyone.

    • @ravenhurricane
      @ravenhurricane 6 років тому +9

      Uhh the thing us people aren't required to text you every second of the day. Some people just need a break from texting. The respectful thing to do is give then personal space. Unless they actually are just a jerk who doesn't care about you, then move on.

    • @ravenhurricane
      @ravenhurricane 6 років тому

      But yah I agree

    • @seaweed1370
      @seaweed1370 5 років тому

      Praise🙌🏽

    • @mariehoward6970
      @mariehoward6970 5 років тому +1

      Why should anyone need a good or bad reason to text •_________• how about just talk and go with the flow of the conversation......

    • @elcuhhh8761
      @elcuhhh8761 5 років тому +1

      But it’s ok for females to ghost…huh

  • @maxlin5830
    @maxlin5830 5 років тому +153

    You don't even need to guess a damn thing if a guy is really into you. A guy would’ve wanted to be with you if he really wanted you.

    • @miss.jenny.b
      @miss.jenny.b 5 років тому +4

      So true.

    • @brockcharz2104
      @brockcharz2104 5 років тому +4

      YEAH BUT GIRLS FRIENDZONE THOSE GUYS LOL

    • @beverlyescobar1044
      @beverlyescobar1044 5 років тому

      brock charz it’s literally by accident sometimes girls overthink everything

    • @jasmine1jj
      @jasmine1jj 4 роки тому +1

      wow. this is so simple and so true.

    • @lunalu552
      @lunalu552 2 роки тому

      @@brockcharz2104 You need to understand that women have preferences based on attraction too, and visual attraction matters not as much as for men but it matters.
      Women cannot serve pussy as a charity service, imagine f*cking all men who come into our lives so they don't feel "friendzoned". That's basically what men think but women are not wired to screw every guy.
      You can play games and behave sociopathic too but you can't because you're not emotionally and sexually involved with the woman. I know plenty of "nice guys" who came out of the "friendzone" and started to act even nastier because they felt vengeful or they got an ego boost.
      I know guys that were in my 'friendzone' but were playing nasty games with other women, that knowledge was enough for them never go out of my friendzone because they were displaying character flaws.

  • @blackneworleanscat
    @blackneworleanscat 6 років тому +343

    If a guys flirts with other people in front of you it means he doesn't care at all because someone who loves you would never want to hurt you like that or make you worry about if they will cheat on you or not. If they show you they don't care believe it because actions speak louder than words.

    • @dorojessy6932
      @dorojessy6932 5 років тому +7

      They could try to make you jealous, though.

    • @0121-x2j
      @0121-x2j 5 років тому +7

      facts..only an idiot with low self esteem would think its to make you jealous.no one who cares for you will play any type of mind game.

    • @halcioncocaine2096
      @halcioncocaine2096 5 років тому

      Flirting is natural ,and part of existence since the start of time ,how would you signal your availability ♿🚹🚽👓🙈🎌

    • @halcioncocaine2096
      @halcioncocaine2096 5 років тому +1

      @@lettya2005 I needed you to respond to my comment by agreeing with what I said!

    • @halcioncocaine2096
      @halcioncocaine2096 5 років тому +1

      @@lettya2005 Did you write complete instead of compete,to get some attention for your boring comment♿

  • @relaxationstation1119
    @relaxationstation1119 5 років тому +84

    Ignoring them is the best revenge

  • @linnah3152
    @linnah3152 5 років тому +26

    One thing to spot a good guy is to find out ..
    1. He must protect you
    2. He is generous with his money boos if he is generous his love for you is generous as well.
    3. He respect you & does not try to control you.
    4. He is interested to know about you & your future under-taking such as what you want to achieve in life.
    5. His words & actions are synchronize.
    6. He is not a mama boy who’s still tie to her mom’s apron string.
    7. He introduces you to his family .
    8. He is selfless. He put your interest before him.
    9. He got a job & work really hard .
    10. He has his own place

    • @chevypaige2445
      @chevypaige2445 5 років тому +2

      Lin Nah this needs to be pinned!! 💯

    • @chevypaige2445
      @chevypaige2445 5 років тому

      Tramadol the official sponsor of feminism the more you date the better you understand how to weed out the red flags. You’ll meet someone with values you can respect

    • @linnah3152
      @linnah3152 5 років тому +3

      To sum it up, the best thing to spot a guy:
      1.Why guys ghosting ? because you are not the one & he may be a serial cheater & he is seeing other woman beside you.
      2. Woman must remember this , a woman is the price NOT that guy that ghost you. You must not show you are desperate for his love, move on & find a guy that treat you with respect & NOT ghost you!!
      2. Don’t give your body too soon bcos if you give him easy access to your body, he doesn’t have to work hard to Pursue you ... it’s a saying “ why buy cow when he can get milk for free” so, he will start to play hot & cold & disappear.
      3. Guys are the one are having high testosterone & they are the one who are craving for sex 1000 time a day. so, let Them wait , if he can’t wait that mean he is not the one for you.
      don’t give your body easily.. giving away your body does not mean he will marry you . Sex does not = love . It just a free sex that’s all.
      4. If you go out with a guy & he is flirting with another girl in front of you... then leave him because he is a boy not a man, a mature man will not put you in an uncomfortable situation.. he is trying to put you to compete with this other girl. Never allow yourself to put in this kind of situation. When u go home, delete & block his number for good . You should not tolerate that kind of behavior. Never allows anyone treat you with disrespect. Remember YOU ARE THE PRICE not him & let him beg you & say sorry!
      5. If you tolerate his bad behavior you are just teaching him to treat you disrespectful. Never, never, never allows any guy name calling you I.e, bitch, whore , c**t or any derogatory comments. Leave him & block them for good. If he love you he will respect & protect you!
      Overall ladies.. don’t involve with a narcissistic guy because he can be lethal & dangerous!! Take care of your heart always.

    • @linkytunes2133
      @linkytunes2133 4 роки тому

      What an egotistical thing to think. Y'all have big egos and naracisstic ways of thinking

  • @ThestorytellerofKatunga
    @ThestorytellerofKatunga 5 років тому +56

    I love celibacy and chronic indifference. Works like a charm. I care... but not that much.

    • @Abby-vi3el
      @Abby-vi3el 5 років тому +1

      Jolaade Adebayo 😂😂

  • @mysteriouse832
    @mysteriouse832 6 років тому +550

    1. Ghosting - i did this to my crush (i am a girl btw)
    2. Hot and cold - he did this to me
    3. The secret girlfriend (we are not dating so yeah)
    4. Don't text first - yeah i always text him first and he just replays.
    5. Being flirty with other girls - yep he does this
    My conclusion- he doesn't like me back and i am head over heels for him, NiCe...
    Edit:So after i wrote this comment a few weeks later i told him i liked him and he rejected me but after that he played with my feelings and he did something with one of my friends. I moved on but i realised what a d*ck he was

    • @datstrue375
      @datstrue375 5 років тому +9

      Mysterious E I felt this so hard 😪

    • @laylacooper861
      @laylacooper861 5 років тому +2

      Funny 😆 but sad and true 😞

    • @venus1878
      @venus1878 5 років тому +32

      Never chase a man
      Hes suppose to love you more than you love him
      I never fell for a guy, never chased a guy and never will

    • @dellchica2373
      @dellchica2373 5 років тому +5

      Same

    • @deanna6742
      @deanna6742 5 років тому +2

      Thank goodness. I was gonna watch the whole vid but this is easier

  • @maddart4445
    @maddart4445 5 років тому +80

    The next time you’re ghosted when they reach out again text back “who is this”? Haha

    • @miss.jenny.b
      @miss.jenny.b 5 років тому +10

      I do that shit all the time. The best is when they literally full name themselves. Like, are you dumb or something? It's Facebook messenger I see your name. Fool.

    • @mariehoward6970
      @mariehoward6970 5 років тому +4

      that's been passed around many times, people say the same stuff now days 2019 so dramatic also

    • @brooklyn1694
      @brooklyn1694 5 років тому +1

      I’ve done that 💀

    • @benda-annevanniekerk6833
      @benda-annevanniekerk6833 4 роки тому

      Been so tempted but I’m always scared I come across as childish for deleting his number lol

    • @maddart4445
      @maddart4445 4 роки тому

      Benda-Anne van Niekerk how does he know you deleted it? Maybe you never programmed it in the first place.💁🏻

  • @callmeagentm7340
    @callmeagentm7340 5 років тому +69

    And they say "girls are complicated"

    • @callmeagentm7340
      @callmeagentm7340 4 роки тому

      @Krishna Likhit it says how much of a dump shit you actually are , Krishna. It does. I don't get played, because I don't play. LOL your text looks like you just pressed every single suggestion that came up😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @joywebster2678
    @joywebster2678 5 років тому +225

    Middle aged men still play these games

    • @catlady7135
      @catlady7135 5 років тому +11

      my desire I was dating a 58-year-old man who is currently playing the ghosting ignoring game with me...can you believe it 58 tsk tsk... I thought a man of that age would be mature enough not to play these stupid games but boy was I wrong 🙄

    • @joywebster2678
      @joywebster2678 5 років тому +4

      @@catlady7135 I am in your age ballpark, and yes they ghost. Or disappear after u finally agree to let them spend the night. When I've inquired they say because there are so many ladies available, they can play the field

    • @catlady7135
      @catlady7135 5 років тому +2

      my desire Unbelievable well no wonder the guy I was seeing told me he didn’t want a girlfriend but at times would be quite mysterious about what he did on his days off... now I feel more hurt than I already did 😔

    • @karinnamerino7232
      @karinnamerino7232 5 років тому

      Look into his vedic birth chart, it will help a lot.

    • @joywebster2678
      @joywebster2678 5 років тому +1

      @@karinnamerino7232 his what?

  • @bronyponyfan1235
    @bronyponyfan1235 6 років тому +34

    That one dislike is the guy that plays all of these mind games

  • @oraigano5572
    @oraigano5572 6 років тому +103

    Really good advice because these mind games are reallllll

  • @marinasantos4628
    @marinasantos4628 5 років тому +13

    I just got mesmerized on how sincere and honest you were, with your own emotions and past behavior. This is amazing, because it shows that men are realizing their flaws, as men (or about the way they wrongly treat women). It will certainly help, not just women on spoting toxic behavior, but other men to realize how this is horrible, and that they have to get more mature and treat other people's feelings more respectfully.
    Congratz, man! :)

  • @Charlie-wm3io
    @Charlie-wm3io 6 років тому +31

    I love how natural you are infront of the camera. Calm.

  • @Azizajewelry
    @Azizajewelry 5 років тому +22

    OMG! Thanks for making this video. I just realized my dad did and still does a lot of these things to my mom...and this was my role model of a "happy marriage" ...no wonder I've always had unhealthy relationships!

    • @mariehoward6970
      @mariehoward6970 5 років тому +2

      Yup!!!!!!

    • @carollynnhall1705
      @carollynnhall1705 5 років тому

      Research Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but only if you can handle your world being rocked, because it will be the red pill and you can never go back to not seeing it.

  • @princessdiannahclem9628
    @princessdiannahclem9628 6 років тому +157

    Date multiple guys at the same time. That's the answer. DON'T SLEEP AROUND! DATING IS NOT MATING! just keep your options open. Keep looking for other guys in a respectable manner, no sleeping around.

    • @starcluster8943
      @starcluster8943 6 років тому +13

      Dating multiple guys isn't good either. :/

    • @bencrane4856
      @bencrane4856 5 років тому +13

      Keep your options open until a guy likes you enough to stop playing games.

    • @chevypaige2445
      @chevypaige2445 5 років тому +7

      Star Cluster honey that’s what guys are doing. Trust me it’s a legit game you gotta have strategies. After a few heartbreaks you’ll realize.

    • @vm6796
      @vm6796 5 років тому +1

      Princess Diannah Clem 100% I just gave the same advice to my friend 5 minutes ago 🤣

    • @slardebard
      @slardebard 5 років тому

      We are doomed.

  • @estrella4708
    @estrella4708 6 років тому +58

    Low key made me a lot more confident

    • @miss.jenny.b
      @miss.jenny.b 5 років тому +3

      Not low key it really did.

  • @Eh-tn6qq
    @Eh-tn6qq 6 років тому +205

    I've been ghosted before.....
    It really hurts 😢

    • @TheJesusAlejandra
      @TheJesusAlejandra 6 років тому +8

      Same, its terrible

    • @trucnguyen7361
      @trucnguyen7361 6 років тому +6

      It literally is. ;(

    • @tegandower7452
      @tegandower7452 6 років тому +6

      Wild Wolf it really does:(

    • @1kmilez
      @1kmilez 6 років тому +6

      Same, happened to me too. :/

    • @Auraureole
      @Auraureole 5 років тому +7

      Me too, but he is chasing me for 2 years now... and I'm really confused

  • @ashw244
    @ashw244 6 років тому +9

    Andrew, i just wanna say thank you for giving me this. I found out the hard way that a guy i was seeing for almost 5 months failed to tell me about having an ex fiancé & he went back to her. I feel like all of these somehow applied to him in a way. Again, thank you so so much

  • @saflym3730
    @saflym3730 6 років тому +41

    Most guys when they lose interest their is another 🤤 woman 98% of the time..... the other 2% he's not into you....

  • @chiamakailomuanya1692
    @chiamakailomuanya1692 5 років тому +29

    Okay, should i be honest. This is the description of a "BOY". A real man knows how to clean up their mess and take responsibility. Wen they're wrong, they'll give u an explanation wen they're better.

  • @carollynnhall1705
    @carollynnhall1705 5 років тому +5

    Your videos are great. The insights are spot on. After this one I suggest you look up Narcissistic Personality Disorder if you haven't already. All of these are just some of the red flags of a person who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. No girl should EVER think he might change or her love will change him. It will not. He will destroy her.

  • @stephgalaburri714
    @stephgalaburri714 6 років тому +224

    Bro that's cruel
    But smart. And hey I do it to guys too sometimes....maybe

  • @fifilafleur5555
    @fifilafleur5555 5 років тому +20

    The old guys even pull these dirty tricks. Typically narcs and worse. You’d think in their 50s and beyond they’d grow into men... but they often don’t. Dating is pointless anymore for most women.

    • @makeitcount2985
      @makeitcount2985 5 років тому +2

      Dating is pointless all the time, what a waste of time and effort and energy. Be platonic friends with guys, get a vibrator it won't let you down

    • @doglover5519
      @doglover5519 4 місяці тому

      Yep. Just had a 60 year old guy ghost me!! I hope he's miserable, it's been three weeks and I'm not reaching out!

  • @maikasem6479
    @maikasem6479 6 років тому +51

    This video is one of your most helpful videos ever ..thanks it was really good

  • @alexpond648
    @alexpond648 2 роки тому +1

    Games are an absolute dealbreaker. Not the jealous type and to direct to play along. I would call him out, clear things up and tell him that I don't like him trying to get a reaction out of me. If he would keep this up or pull other things you said, I would extract myself. His los for sure and not as easy as it sounds, but I like myself intact and sometimes one has to think about myself first.

  • @milav4709
    @milav4709 6 років тому +77

    why I am watching this when im alone and he don't care lol

  • @ParisAntoinette
    @ParisAntoinette 5 років тому +15

    “I didn’t put in too much effort & this girl is super in to me, that was too easy. There must be something wrong with her.”
    Nice for what? Dudes take it for granted anyway. Smh. Thanks for your honesty.

  • @rakshitasingh968
    @rakshitasingh968 5 років тому +8

    I was being ghosted once and yeah best solution is to move on... Because you definitely won't feel happy with such guy or girl in future

  • @suzismith9681
    @suzismith9681 5 років тому +2

    If he's playing games. Move on , he's not worth it. If you hang around, you'll end up spending all your life massaging his ego. Like I have. What a waste of time ! Letting him call the shots and when he graciously let's you have something, he over rides it. Your vote doesn't count , or anything else. Move on girls!

  • @keribell74
    @keribell74 5 років тому +11

    I was a secret girlfriend for 4 years, I put my foot down and left him. After the breakup I found out he was messing around with his married coworker.

    • @doglover5519
      @doglover5519 4 місяці тому

      I'm so sorry. You deserve so much better!!!

  • @msadler5527
    @msadler5527 6 років тому +100

    You’re a great youtuber keep up the good work

  • @ieshabonner7678
    @ieshabonner7678 5 років тому +3

    I remember being like “I’m just gonna let things flow. I’ll deal with finding someone later.” BAM. He comes around. And ends up playing all these lovely mind games. I can’t stand when someone can’t be honest. Like just tell me how you feel. Be up front. If you just wanna be friends, let’s be friends. If you wanna try this, let’s try this. Don’t play me. Thankfully, I’m outta that situation. And hoping I can get through my senior year without stupid things like that happening.

  • @genene3725
    @genene3725 6 років тому +18

    All of those have happened to me glad to know I’m not alone! Dating is so messed up I’m not sure if it’s the whole internet dating that has created so much anomie in the dating scene or it’s just that people have changed all together. Either way it’s definitely difficult these days and the games make it hard to navigate. So thank you for your videos!

  • @ellahowie5917
    @ellahowie5917 6 років тому +76

    Is it just me or is Andrew's hair lighter?

  • @ellynsoup4724
    @ellynsoup4724 6 років тому +62

    True Story :/
    Me : invites crush to party
    Crush : starts laughing
    Me : confused

    • @cjlong7191
      @cjlong7191 5 років тому +2

      This is better then what happened to me. I asked Crush out he disappeared the next day... that was four months ago. Still haven't seen him again.

    • @mariehoward6970
      @mariehoward6970 5 років тому

      More like he believes in god.....🙄

  • @RspbyLmn
    @RspbyLmn 5 років тому +24

    Here's the mind game girls play: walking away, block him, don't look back.

    • @OnePulsar
      @OnePulsar 5 років тому +2

      If you ghost us ladies, yeah thats what we are gonna do!

  • @kathasch8043
    @kathasch8043 6 років тому +23

    I broke up with my ex a year ago, and while doing this I addressed my issues one last time, so he could understand why I'm leaving after two years.
    On midnight he called me, and asked for a second chance and promised he would do everything to make things right. So he got his second chance, bc I wanted to make it work too. He told me that I was the love of his life and that my words had opened his eyes and he wanted to change and I thought he told the truth. The first few days everything was fine but then, he turned everything around and accused me of everything, I said when I broke up innicaly.... and broke up with me.
    In the end I think, he just didn't like that I broke up, so he begged for a second chance so he could break up with me to feel better about himself. But when it happened I firtst didn't understand why he did all of this xD

    • @mariehoward6970
      @mariehoward6970 5 років тому

      I pressed read more just to see how long it was, like besh no one wants to read XD at the end.... mills of peeps use that in a day and it gets annoying.....🙄

    • @SharonOBrienMusic
      @SharonOBrienMusic 5 років тому +2

      Deffinateley a Narcissist....!

    • @carollynnhall1705
      @carollynnhall1705 5 років тому

      @@SharonOBrienMusic I was just going to say it - total narcissist!

  • @johndahlen4284
    @johndahlen4284 5 років тому +2

    This was the best video yet. It explained a lot about men's insecurities and women's too.

  • @gussygatlin3093
    @gussygatlin3093 5 років тому +4

    Im so glad there is you tube now.... Because i REALLY needed this stuff when i was younger.
    Its nice to hear what men need.. Want.. And how they feel... Because sometimes its hard to tell.

  • @yvonnegoodman1427
    @yvonnegoodman1427 5 років тому +1

    It's not kill, it's the thrill of the chase... He needs to man up to any disrespect he has done to u. Also, he needs to realize that he is making fools out both of u. Until he figures that out, he has to know that it's game over. Silence is deadly...

    • @doglover5519
      @doglover5519 4 місяці тому

      Good. He ghosted me three weeks ago. I've been in NC ever since. I hope he misses me and is having a hard time with my silence!!!!!

  • @cindyna5036
    @cindyna5036 5 років тому +7

    If he's acting this way ladies it's best to keep your options open you want to go with a guy who is honestly if he sent you he's into you if he's half in half out he's a narcissist

  • @katevans6469
    @katevans6469 6 років тому +13

    I've been ghosted by a Guy I really really like and it's f***** up he did to me.

  • @alyssacontrades9423
    @alyssacontrades9423 6 років тому +38

    I like someone. I hate myself now🤣

    • @alyssacontrades9423
      @alyssacontrades9423 6 років тому +12

      @@illhamsaid3358 Mind:"I give up on love"
      Heart:"No. Have hope, close your eyes and imagine being with him in his arms feeling safe, and loved. Imagine his arms around your waist, looking up at him, staring at his sky blue eyes. Imagine those eyes and just let yourself sink."
      Emotions:"RED FUCKING ALERT BITCHES! *sirens sounding off*"
      Joy:*disappears in thin air*
      Anger:"WTF!"
      Fear:"We are going to get our HEARTS BROKEN!!! Do we keep thinking about him, or do we move on?!??!! What if we lose a chance by shutting him out? What if we start caring again and we find that he doesn't care? FAWWWWKKK!"
      Disgust:"Ewww my heart is feeling things."
      Sadness:I'm done.

    • @alyssacontrades9423
      @alyssacontrades9423 6 років тому +1

      @@illhamsaid3358 it really b like that tho

    • @miss.jenny.b
      @miss.jenny.b 5 років тому

      Full moon in Scorpio. I'll light a candle for ya.

  • @michelledirelle
    @michelledirelle 5 років тому +1

    It's the only Video I know from you but I must say: You are a whole man in my eyes through the way you just see things right.
    Thank you.

  • @myrnadavis2409
    @myrnadavis2409 5 років тому +8

    I don't mind getting to know a man if we have enough in common to begin with to start a friendship in the first place I don't set out to waste anyone's time and I sure don't want my time to be wasted either So just getting to know someone as a friend and a possible lifelong mate after realizing you have enough in common and have the same lifelong goals is the best route to take If the friendship dissolves then you can wish them well and move on Love isn't desperate it isn't pushy or insecure It is however patient and longsufferring and if you truly love someone be willing to let them go Love also does not demand or hold hostage

  • @Lovedreamtrust
    @Lovedreamtrust 6 років тому +4

    I needed this? lol thanks andrew! love these videos. never stop :)

  • @jmdoromal1288
    @jmdoromal1288 6 років тому +20

    Someone did ghosting on me before well bye... dude Im doing it to other guys now because guys are players nowadays.

  • @jujutsukaisensupremacy2492
    @jujutsukaisensupremacy2492 6 років тому +41

    I think some guys unintentionally do these mind games without knowing it

    • @October3074
      @October3074 5 років тому +5

      They know exactly wtf they're doing and they do it intentionally.

    • @miss.jenny.b
      @miss.jenny.b 5 років тому

      @@October3074 Lol.

    • @connieyoung4239
      @connieyoung4239 5 років тому +3

      I disagree they know exactly what bs they are playing. Don't try to make salt look like sugar

  • @maikasem6479
    @maikasem6479 6 років тому +42

    About texting first, I had a friend who I had a crush on but we weren't dating and I knew he too had feelings for me whatever, I was always texting first and he never did even if it's been days or even a week and it was really annoying but one time I stoped texting for like a month and a half and it was hard for me not to talk to him and I felt sad that he didn't text me all this long but one day he texted me saying that he really missed me and he felt really bad the past few weeks cause I wasn't in his day ... and from that day our whole relationship changed and he text me first alot

    • @AylinUl
      @AylinUl 6 років тому +2

      I Need your advice
      I have a Crush on a classmate and I am the only Girl he talks to and in class we are looking to each other but he don’t text me or something but we always go to School together and we are joking a lot idk also he is a quiet person (sorry for my english I‘m from Germany)

    • @maikasem6479
      @maikasem6479 6 років тому +2

      @@AylinUl look there is two answers of this, maybe you are just a friend to him and he is just like to hang out with you that's all
      But he may have feelings for you too but he is shy or has a lack of self-confidence and he doesn't know what to do, in this case you can start to test him you may send him a text and tell him you're board and wanna go out maybe watch a movie but don't show it as a date and see how he act then leave him to send you back ..if he didn't maybe you are just friends

    • @maikasem6479
      @maikasem6479 6 років тому

      @@AylinUl and if he didn't send you back or ask you to go out again you can ask some friends to go out and make him one of them and try to have fun with everyone and see if he is annoyed or didn't even notice

    • @maikasem6479
      @maikasem6479 6 років тому

      @@AylinUl sorry for my English too it's not my first language .... I hope this will help you

    • @fe6523
      @fe6523 5 років тому +1

      Please read the book call THE RULES!!!

  • @colettemr
    @colettemr 5 років тому

    Thank you for your complete honesty. Tired of vague responses just to get my email to add me to a mailing list. You deserved my SUB.

  • @shubhangisingh7595
    @shubhangisingh7595 6 років тому +3

    Please post more often. I love your videos. I love your perspective on things

  • @majdoulineal-dweik1489
    @majdoulineal-dweik1489 5 років тому +1

    i like that you're honest and you say it the way it is

  • @elliemccarthy5672
    @elliemccarthy5672 5 років тому +5

    Got ghosted yesterday after two weeks of talking, a great first date, and plans that he initiated for a second date :( so confusing and dumb

  • @carlaa4140
    @carlaa4140 6 років тому +37

    Currently, I am crushing on a 'friendly' guy....

    • @arigasbarro
      @arigasbarro 6 років тому

      Carla A samee, I even made a video kind of too him that I uploaded recently :/

  • @tatigewrgiou2676
    @tatigewrgiou2676 5 років тому +15

    You forgot another one...
    GASLIGHTING!!!...

    • @mariehoward6970
      @mariehoward6970 5 років тому +1

      um, do u mind explaining what that is....

    • @karinnamerino7232
      @karinnamerino7232 5 років тому +2

      It is all apart of narcissistic abuse.

    • @carollynnhall1705
      @carollynnhall1705 5 років тому +3

      @@mariehoward6970 gaslighting is lying to get their way, rewriting history to make themselves look "right" or have bigger accomplishments than they actually did, and telling you that you're crazy or forgetful to make you start questioning yourself and reality.
      Doing these things, gaslighting, is a way to undermine your self confidence and self worth to the point that they become "the only person who is there for me." At that point they have control if your mind and you don't even realize it.
      My ex husband did this to me. I was a strong, confident, independent woman of 38 yrs old who was successful at "adulting." Within 3 yrs of getting married, even though I saw it all at first and called him out on his crap, he still eventually wore down my mind. After 5 yrs I was on the verge if suicide because of the abuse. I realized that instead of continuing to live with the abuse or killing myself, there was a 3rd option, to leave, so I did.

  • @happymooncactus
    @happymooncactus 5 років тому +2

    that 'ghosting' happened to me... the reason he left was different but the fact was he left. now i'm working on making him miss me and making him jealous (it's reeeeealy hard though). so that he realizes he really needs me and can't live without me. i know he likes me too much, he just needs to acknowledge this fact. love your videos, please continue being honest.

  • @gitanjalisoni2625
    @gitanjalisoni2625 6 років тому +14

    THIS SHIT IS REAL.

  • @TjjazzMadrid
    @TjjazzMadrid 5 років тому +3

    Great advice here!
    I think above all it always comes down to knowing your own worth - which unfortunately many people don't and we LET people treat us a certain way because we somehow have more value over their ideas/feelings/values than our own.
    OF COURSE, (speaking as a woman), once we DO gain that confidence in our own value, the new challenge is finding men secure enough in themselves to not be intimidated by us.... sigh....there's always somethin', but thats why every person's just gotta be their best self, pursue their passions and enjoy people they meet with no expectations beyond basic respect and friendship. My thoughts.

  • @hereyougofirst
    @hereyougofirst 5 років тому +4

    Thank you for your honest opinions. Btw, there is a movie called ‘he’s just not that into you’ I recommend this movie to you all who are watching this video

  • @ashleym9345
    @ashleym9345 6 років тому +1

    This guy and I started talking January of last year, it went on for about 4 months and then he ghosted me and when we were talking, I was always the one to initiate the conversation!!!! I really started to like him and he made me think it was going to go somewhere and it didn't, but I'm glad I dodged that bullet. Now I look back and I'm glad it never went farther than it did!!!!

  • @relaxationstation1119
    @relaxationstation1119 5 років тому +7

    I spent 3 years single. Best 3 years of my life now that I look back. No anxiety from the guessing games. Being single was really good for my health and well-being. Don’t understand why ppl look down on it so much. Shit I feel sorry for ppl in relationships

  • @shannonmaire
    @shannonmaire 4 роки тому +1

    Always be kind and honest. If he's still doing weird vague mind games when you try to understand then just say goodbye I wish you the best.

  • @nishasrivastava4758
    @nishasrivastava4758 6 років тому +9

    honestly tho bless you and bless your videos for explaining the minds of guys

  • @MsStarbucks07
    @MsStarbucks07 5 років тому +1

    It’s not that I’m intentionally playing games but I do these things.
    if I find a guy attractive and instantly he starts making moves on me consistently, I find it a turn off. Maybe because it shows some sort of desperation. I would look at it differently if things progressed a little slowly.
    When things are too easy, my interest starts to fade I DONT KNOW WHY.
    Once I get a guys attention i convince myself I need to focus on my priorities and I close myself off. Once I see that he’s stopped trying, I start to find him really attractive again... why am I like this?!
    I’m not sure if I’m afraid of commitment or if I’m not ready, but I feel like I’m ready?

  • @charissahenderson8747
    @charissahenderson8747 5 років тому +7

    And men say women are confusing. Hah. Men can be just as complex.
    Thanks for this information, good video 👍

    • @lunalu552
      @lunalu552 2 роки тому +2

      They are not complex. This is really simple.
      They want sex, attention and services from women. Sometimes they can't find a woman able to provide all these 3 so he gets multiple ones.
      They don't have feelings for you but still have physical urges and getting laid boosts their ego, like playing video games.
      They don't experience love and attachment like women unless he feels like she's high valuable property.
      Men need to get their pipes clean and feed on validation so they are not going to sit around waiting for the perfect woman to just jump on his lap he will just get those services from whoever is available and if it involves deception they don't really care because at the end of the day they are getting what they want.
      All these behaviors display a lack of emotional empathy but it's very natural in men since they see women as a lower class, not human beings, objects per say.
      Men are not confusing they want to confuse you. If you think a man is confusing then you get your answer.

  • @23tracy91
    @23tracy91 5 років тому +2

    This video was fun. I'm a guy so obviously I've mostly watched videos to try to figure out crazy women. It's good to hear the other side about the bad stuff guys do. Dating is complicated and it's nice seeing both sides.

  • @crazymeromervathatem2292
    @crazymeromervathatem2292 5 років тому +4

    The dislike are the players suffering cramps for being exposed😂😂😂😂

  • @JewlsLittleMonster
    @JewlsLittleMonster 6 років тому +10

    Sometimes people are told to ghost people who are toxic, what do you think about that? As a girl, if I ghost a guy is that immature or smart?

    • @redroses8025
      @redroses8025 5 років тому +7

      If he is toxic, you have all right to just walk away without an explanation.

    • @carollynnhall1705
      @carollynnhall1705 5 років тому

      No one should assume someone is toxic, but if you've been addressing issues with him and he has not been willing to change, just break up with him. Tell him you've lost interest in pursuing the relationship any further, say thanks for the fun you had, and then say goodbye. Be polite and firm. Then go No Contact because you've made your disinterest clear, there's no reason to keep taking his calls or returning his texts. Ghosting and No Contact are very different things.

  • @akuma62793
    @akuma62793 6 років тому +7

    you should do a podcast 👍 you got some sensible advice man

  • @newbeginnings1543
    @newbeginnings1543 5 років тому +8

    I think when you are with someone if they are doing something that makes you uncomfortable he should stop!!!!!

  • @noralee6787
    @noralee6787 5 років тому +5

    He will get pissed if he thinks I am with someone else, but he will be cheating on me.. And he has been with multiple women over the years.. I have caught him in a lie after lie..

  • @pinkimietz3243
    @pinkimietz3243 5 років тому +1

    I'm so bitter after my last relationship. I treat men now like they treat women. They're at first confused then angry and then fall hell over heals for me. This slowly is turning me into a loner. Also I simply do not care about their feelings anymore. They can be either friends or they're just meat. Sad. So freaking sad.

  • @maggiew4904
    @maggiew4904 5 років тому +7

    Ghosting: attention seeker ..#3 is a red flag

  • @kategonchar242
    @kategonchar242 5 років тому

    This video is a gem that made me feel so much better, thank you, Andrew, have a fantastic day you high quality human!!

  • @calikay2577
    @calikay2577 5 років тому +20

    A 70-year-old with shaky hands ghosteted me

  • @angelbaby3394
    @angelbaby3394 6 років тому +2

    Here's something a guy did: we flirted for months and I thought it was going to be something soon. He even asked me to a dance and we had plans to go out to eat and I quote "I refuse to let you pay." Fast forward a week. My friend tells me that he started dating a co worker he never mentioned to me. Okay. That hit pretty hard but I was letting it go. Fast forward 3 months at a halloween party. He's constant flirting, tried holding my hand and trying to kiss me. I didnt let him, obviously. He had a girlfriend. I said it wasnt cool and he didn't stop. Like wth? I cut most communication after that. Except for friend get togethers cause he's in our group. I should mention his gf wasnt at the party.

  • @SusieRocks
    @SusieRocks 5 років тому +3

    Back into the dating world after being in a long term relationship...such things to look forward to😬

  • @lizphelps5832
    @lizphelps5832 6 років тому +23

    Like your new hair👍

  • @mechelleosborn5168
    @mechelleosborn5168 5 років тому +13

    I'm ready for something good. I've met since evil freaking dudes. Like demonic evil

    • @miss.jenny.b
      @miss.jenny.b 5 років тому +1

      They are out there. Stay away.

    • @SharonOBrienMusic
      @SharonOBrienMusic 5 років тому +1

      Yes look up on youtube are narcissists demon possessed, its been worked out they actually are...

    • @miss.jenny.b
      @miss.jenny.b 5 років тому

      @@SharonOBrienMusic how do you exercise them? Holy water?

    • @miss.jenny.b
      @miss.jenny.b 5 років тому +1

      @@SharonOBrienMusic Stakes to the heart?

  • @jenniferbibi1972
    @jenniferbibi1972 5 років тому +2

    I think I was meant to see this video. It's funny that a UA-camr cares more about my wellbeing than the person I thought cares about me. All 5 of these things resonated with me.
    Thank you so much for this video. I feel like I got a lot of clarity from this

  • @SappyRat1
    @SappyRat1 5 років тому +3

    Yea ghosting hurts ... we were talking he told me he liked me and wanted to be with me ... the next day he pretended he didn’t even know me 😢

  • @xdxdxdxd4575
    @xdxdxdxd4575 6 років тому +1

    When he wanishes, than it is ok... Hard to move on, but... but to say nothing.... like... just pretend that you are ok with it... nope! I wanna call him out! Not in the needy or suffering and the "I want you so bad" way, nor in an angry or harsh because it means also that you still have feelings in kinda way...but... he needs to learn that it is not ok.

  • @zaknomabro6898
    @zaknomabro6898 5 років тому +4

    I got ghosted once by this guy who seemed so into me ..I just blocked him like forever he came back but it was just too little too late thanks for the advice cutest dating coach

  • @Chydova
    @Chydova 5 років тому +1

    This is amazing! I really need this scripted, printed out, read it everyday as a reminder that I deserve better!

  • @nishasrivastava4758
    @nishasrivastava4758 6 років тому +7

    my mind game story was that I just went on a bumble date on monday and it was good we went thrift shopping and we kissed and talked and he kept saying that I was cute and that he liked me and then he said he wanted me to come over to his place on the next date and I asked if he was looking for sex and how I wasn’t comfortable with that and he said how every date we could go “one step further” and when I said I wasn’t comfortable with that cuz we had just met he said “let’s just be friends” 🙃🙂

  • @mae88b.16
    @mae88b.16 5 років тому +2

    I got one guy who texted me saying that he missed me and had an amazing time with me (we went on 2nd date) when I responded to him he did not respond back for 2 days 😲, like i was seen zoned. Before it goes to ghosting I blocked him rightaway. Even I’m so into him i would never ever lower my standards and go chase after him. I learned the hard way in my past. Thank God he saves me time for knowing his true self. These type of guys are trash!

  • @beverlymatsiwe4646
    @beverlymatsiwe4646 5 років тому +4

    Dude that is so cold but true though .. You helped a lot 👏