Alhamdhulillah most needed one!! Last week I and my neighbor had a misunderstanding. And I asked forgiveness from her and told it would happen again. And she also forgave me. And after 2 days when I went to outside she and other 2 neighbors are sitting and talking something. But when I go they went their homes without talking to me. Then I thought they would talked about me. Then I started to leave them slowly. Now I hv more time to dhikr and my household chores. Believe it or not, today morning I thought to search about how Allah remove toxic people from our lives and in the afternoon the video popped up on my UA-cam recommendations… subhanallah!! See Allah’s mercy. Before I stared to search Allah showed me the EXACT video. And whatever u mentioned in this video are happening to me.
Alhamdulillah, I’m so glad this video resonated with you. It’s truly a blessing to witness how Allah’s guidance can come in ways we least expect. Sometimes misunderstandings and hardships with those around us can lead to deeper reflection and growth. Continue to do dhikr and focus on your own spiritual journey, as Allah always has a plan for us, even in the face of challenges. May Allah grant you peace and keep toxic influences away from your life. JazakAllah khair for sharing your story, and may you continue to find comfort in His mercy. 💖
JakahAllah Khair this was a wonderful reminder! Especially this day and age, many people are going through this very thing and so many are losing hope. New Sub 💞🤲🏾💚
Asalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu sister, may Allah ease you. Don't despair, Allah doesn't burden a soul more than it can bear. My sister went through this. She said the good thing that came out of staying with her inlaws was she got closer to Allah even if it meant she was upset and hurt most of the time. She is pleased that Allah distanced them from her. Trust Allah. We don't wish humiliation upon anyone but when basic rights are taken away then leave people to Allah and stand up for yourself within the guidelines of Qur'an and sunnah.
I’ve been in this relationship for 23 years with someone who is extremely verbally abusive. When he gets upset, he goes on for 2-3 hours without a break. It’s hard to put into words how painful and damaging it is. He’s also an atheist, something he never shared before we married. I’m a housewife, and with my son’s challenges, I wasn’t able to leave. Now he says I’m free to go, but I can’t ask for any support. I know legally it would be 50/50, but I’m not one to fight for his wealth; I just want a peaceful life. I’ve invested $50K in the stock market and have a small online business, but it’s really struggling right now because of the competition. May Allah bring blessings to my business and investments so I can live independently and with respect. I’m overwhelmed with worries about money. I’m 50 years old, and if Allah blessed my business and I gained financial freedom, I would leave him. But I’m also becoming physically weaker.
I’m so sorry to hear about your struggles, sister. It can be very difficult to navigate such challenges, but remember that Allah is always with you. In Islam, we are taught that patience (sabr) and seeking help through prayer (salah) can bring us closer to Allah’s guidance during difficult times. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) also advised us to rely on Allah and trust that He will provide a way out for every hardship. You’re not alone in this, as many sisters face similar situations. Insha’Allah, I will be making a video soon on this topic to discuss it in more detail, as it may help shed light on how to deal with such trials in an Islamic way. May Allah ease your difficulties and grant you strength.
Yes , right.. First we should accept the fact that Allah put them in our lives to learn something and once we do that, he starts taking them away But if we have still not learnt the lesson, he keeps on sending such toxic people again and again
Kuchh din phle meine bhi same topic par baat ki thi meri video mein ,ye baat bilkul sahi hey ki jab ham sahi hotey hein tabiyat Allah aise toxic logo ko khud hi hamari life se nikal dete hein,kisi bhi tarah se unki sachchai Allah tala dikha dete hein.....😊😊😊mera Allah par poora yaqeen hein ki jab tak Allah mere saath hey koi kuchh nahi bigad sakta....
WHAT YOU SAYING IS PROBABLY IS GONNA BE HAPPENED TO ALL THE SIGN THANKS ALLAH FOR REMOVE THE TOXIC PEOPLE ARE AROUND ME ESPECIALLY IN THE CIRCLE SYSTEM
This is amazing sister please can you do a video about unmarried Muslim women how to keep positive especially when your in your 40s and you feel depressed and hopeless that marriage is not happening and if women are unmarried is that okay to live like this as a Muslim
Dear sister Yasmin, thank you for sharing your concerns. It’s important to remember that our worth and value are not defined solely by marriage or any worldly status, but by our relationship with Allah (SWT). Being unmarried does not diminish one’s dignity or standing in Islam. Allah (SWT) has created each of us with a unique purpose, and sometimes His plans for us may not align with our immediate desires, but they are always for our best. The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) reminded us that Allah (SWT) is with the patient, and true contentment comes from putting our trust in His wisdom. In your situation, it is vital to continue to make dua (prayer) and have hope, but also to stay active in your personal development and spiritual growth. This is a time to strengthen your connection with Allah (SWT), pursue your passions, and contribute positively to your community. It’s also worth noting that many righteous women in Islamic history lived fulfilling lives without being married, dedicating themselves to worship, charity, and knowledge. Allah (SWT) knows what is in our hearts, and He is the Best of Planners. Whatever He wills is what is best for us, even if we may not see it immediately. Keep your faith strong, sister, and remember that Allah’s timing is always perfect. You are not alone in this journey, and countless others are walking a similar path with you. I will also be doing a video on this very topic, as it can help other sisters as well. So stay tuned!
@@alimahinsights JazakAllah khair for your response Alhamdulilah you have put my mind at ease. I’m looking forward to your video on this topic inshAllah may Allah bless you and reward you my sister you are so inspiring 🤍
May Allah ease your pain and grant you strength during this difficult time. Remember that sometimes, the removal of certain people from our lives is a sign of Allah’s mercy and a step toward something better. Stay strong, and keep your faith in Allah’s wisdom. You are not alone in this, and healing will come, Insha’Allah. May you find peace and comfort soon.
Alhamdulillahi.robbil alamin hidup adalah proses dan hal itu agar kita lebih matang dalam berfikir dan lebih dewasa dalam langkah kehidupan itu sendiri tentu sebagai seorang muslim berusaha tawakal dan doa adalah kunci keberhasilan sebab tak ada yang tidak mungkin bagi Alloh SWT untuk merubah nasib seseorang atau kaum dan bangsa selama kita mau berusaha dan berdoa maka Alloh SWT akan menjawab atas usaha dan kesungguhan kita Amin yaa Robbal alamin
Assalamu Alaikum, sister. When a spouse is toxic or negative, it is important to protect your mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Seek guidance from Allah through prayer (dua) and consult trusted family members or a counselor for support. Islam encourages kindness and patience, but also emphasizes the importance of not enduring harm. Consider setting boundaries to safeguard your peace, and if necessary, explore further steps with the advice of a scholar or counselor. May Allah grant you ease and guidance.
@arrayvector Yes it is & I’m a deeply deeply sorry for the trauma you had suffered. Your mother had no control & serious mental health issues. This is firstly illegal!!! & haram. I do hope you know what a strong amazing person you are that you can talk about it . I too suffered abuse but as I got older and independent I did learn to forgive my mother. I was brain damaged as I got hit on the head a lot . As I said I forgave her because of my religion & education. BUT Allah knows best come to peace with yourself and you will be ok & stronger. I’m sorry if my comment hurt you 😢sending you much love ❤
When parents are toxic, it’s essential to approach the situation with wisdom and patience. Islam teaches us to maintain respect and kindness toward our parents, even in difficult situations (Quran 31:14-15). However, if their behavior harms your well-being, you are allowed to set healthy boundaries while maintaining respect. Seeking help from trusted individuals or scholars can also provide guidance. Remember, Allah knows your struggles and is always there to help you through them.
I had all of the above, parents siblings who are narcissistic and then I grew up and married a covert narcissistic fake Muslim woman and it was beyond awful. I'm divorced lost everything but I have peace and still healing from a lifetime of abuse.
As Salam Alakium sister, Jazakallah khair for beautiful lecture. Pleaze do share more thoughts on same topic with more elaboration thats its no harm to cut off from toxic inlaws . Just becoz Its said that as a muslim we cannot remain not speaking to anyone more then three days ladies continue to try maintain relations with toxic in-law relatives for sake of it. Just becoz husband is good. Is it fair? To just bear the toxicity and carry on and fall sick 😊 Yes Alhamdullilah , Allah is great he has removed toxic people from my life , and i much at peace and paying full attention to kids and my family lifenow and i choose not to respond to toxic people as i have understood thier mental state
Wa Alaikum Assalam sister, Jazakillah khair for your kind words and sharing your experience. It’s true that in Islam, we are taught to maintain good relations, but we are not required to endure harm. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) emphasized that ‘there should be neither harming nor reciprocating harm.’ It is important to protect our well-being and avoid situations that negatively impact our mental or physical health. Regarding the three-day limit on not speaking, it is indeed encouraged to reconcile disputes, but this does not mean you have to endure toxic relationships or mistreatment. Sometimes, maintaining peace may involve setting boundaries and distancing oneself from harmful individuals, while still upholding Islamic manners. Alhamdulillah, it’s a blessing that you found peace by removing toxic influences. Insha’Allah, I will be making a detailed video on this topic soon to discuss these matters further, as many sisters can benefit from guidance on dealing with such situations in a balanced and Islamic way. May Allah keep you and your family safe and at peace.
@@alimahinsights Jazakallah khair for your reply, much relieved with my decision though i do not stop my husband from being in contact with inlaws and relatives but I have told him please do not expect from me. I refrain from thier contacting me as I am sure its only going to harm me again and do no good. And i found this courage only after reading about it in Quran but i dont remember which surah and verse and i feel blessed as I found keeping them away has only helped to helped improve my relation with my husband which otherwise was controlled by them and that only was due to their complains about me . Since i am not in touch with anyone no more opportunities to complain against me. I am sure your elaboration on this topic will help many ladies to deal with such situations. Its our parents who want us to maintain relationship with inlaws even though bearing so muxh mental trauma. I hope the parents stand with thier daughters. May Allah make it easy for all girls and daughters and women. Jazakallah khair for your guidance. May Alah bless you always . As Salam Alaikum Rehmatullahi barkatu.
Jazakallah khair sister for your guidance , I am relieved i havent done wrong. Infact i dis not stop my husband from being in touch with them , as I dont want to be a person who makes cutt off relationship of others and commit sin but from me is big Infact reading Quran with meaning has made strong as it has helped me understand to deal with relationships in daily life. Jazakallah khair for your guidance may Allah bless you always. I am sure your video on this topic will help millions of women out there who are in such toxic situations. As Salam Alaikum Rehmatullahi barkatu
ALHAMDULILLAH YAH RABBIAL ALLAH AMEEN true everything s You saying is belongs to me as I. Probably affirm me I am not sadly and I don't feel painful to the people is gone to me even My best friend once they're going through Infront of the the toxic doing. ! I can stand alone for trust ALLAH without THEM so that is me as NOEMA MALIYAH MOMENAH BANTAS SACANDAL
what if it is the husband and it just unveiled for me after 22 years that he is the toxic, manipulative, controlling person not letting us grow in this marriage
Assalamu Alaykum sister, what if is your own child? 😔💔 i know it’s a test from Allah, and May Allah swt make it easy for those who are going through difficult times 😢 صبر ☝️
Wa Alaikum Assalam. It can indeed be very difficult when challenges involve our own children, no matter their age. Islam teaches us that trials are part of life’s journey, and they can come from any direction, even from our closest relationships. The Quran reminds us, ‘And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient.’ (2:155). These tests are an opportunity to exercise patience (sabr) and draw closer to Allah (SWT). For children of any age, whether young or older, there are different ways to help guide their behavior. If the child is younger, maintaining consistency in teaching good character (akhlaq), setting clear boundaries, and using positive reinforcement can help. Islam encourages kindness, as the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, ‘The best of you are those who are best to their families.’ (Tirmidhi). For older children or teens, open communication, showing empathy for their struggles, and involving them in family decisions can help build trust and encourage positive changes. Engaging them in Islamic activities, encouraging regular salah, and discussing the teachings of the Quran can foster a deeper connection to faith. Most importantly, never underestimate the power of dua, asking Allah to guide their hearts and ours. May Allah make it easy for all parents facing these trials and guide our children on the path of righteousness. Ameen. 🤲
Setting boundaries, especially with family, can be extremely difficult, but it’s an important step toward protecting your peace and well-being. Remember that Allah knows the intentions behind our actions, and sometimes distance is necessary to maintain respect and harmony. May Allah grant you strength, patience, and inner peace as you navigate this situation. Remember, sometimes khair (goodness) lies in things we cannot fully understand at the moment.
It can be very challenging when toxic behavior comes from close family members like parents or siblings. Islam encourages us to uphold family ties, but it also recognizes the importance of protecting our well-being. Sometimes, that means setting respectful boundaries while still honoring our responsibilities. Remember, Allah understands what we go through and guides us towards peace. Seeking support through prayer and speaking with a trusted person or scholar can help navigate these situations. May Allah ease your path and give you strength.
Asa, a question:- what if the person is your blood relative & If you abstain from visiting due to some extremely unfortunate events that are absolutely non repairable they say it’s cutting blood ties and that the abused victim is sinning…..do you have an email id where I can elaborate the “abuse” May Allah reward you immensely
I understand that family relationships can sometimes be challenging. May Allah bring ease to your situation and guide you to what is best. Remember, Allah tests us in different ways, and patience with prayer can be a powerful way to find peace and resolution. Stay strong, and may Allah protect you from any harm. Ameen.
Family relationships can be incredibly challenging, especially when dealing with toxicity. It’s okay to want distance or change to protect your well-being. As @sabamasiuddin9474 pointed out, sometimes praying for a shift in their hearts can make a difference, but ultimately, do what feels right for your peace. May Allah guide you toward the best solution and bring ease to your heart.
What do you if that toxic people your family, specially your mother Your mother for over 50 years very controlling very toxic negative at verbally abusive, although always that loved her ignored what she did despite that whatever she did years by years stop seeing her only phone contact. trails test because of so many health issues Stop going out very less Now this year first time phone contact has gone very less my side Not been picking up due to more severe health issue She must be getting mad in her head swearing cursing at me not picking i know her very well She feeling shes loosing control over me i have sent message im very ill i dont feel like talking Twice i called her after 6 weeks She nit return the call back As a muslim you cant break ties
Assalamu Alaikum Sister, It sounds like you’re facing a very challenging situation, and it’s evident that you’ve made sincere efforts to maintain the relationship despite the difficulties. In Islam, maintaining family ties is highly valued, but it’s also important to safeguard your own well-being. If your health is being affected, you can still fulfill your duty by finding a balance that allows you to protect yourself while upholding your responsibilities. Keeping the lines of communication open doesn’t necessarily mean frequent contact; even sending a simple message occasionally can be enough to maintain the bond. Additionally, making dua (prayer) for your mother is a powerful form of communication and an act of love. By praying for her well-being and asking Allah to guide her and soften her heart, you continue to fulfill your Islamic duty. Remember, taking care of your own health doesn’t mean you’re abandoning your mother; it means you’re setting boundaries that help you stay strong. May Allah make things easier for you and guide you to what is best.
Alhumdulilah your content is great reminders BUT I feel your intros are spoiling the video. I already know your main point before the vid even started, not good. But beside that its good content and beneficial.
Alhamdhulillah most needed one!! Last week I and my neighbor had a misunderstanding. And I asked forgiveness from her and told it would happen again. And she also forgave me. And after 2 days when I went to outside she and other 2 neighbors are sitting and talking something. But when I go they went their homes without talking to me. Then I thought they would talked about me. Then I started to leave them slowly. Now I hv more time to dhikr and my household chores. Believe it or not, today morning I thought to search about how Allah remove toxic people from our lives and in the afternoon the video popped up on my UA-cam recommendations… subhanallah!! See Allah’s mercy. Before I stared to search Allah showed me the EXACT video. And whatever u mentioned in this video are happening to me.
Alhamdulillah, I’m so glad this video resonated with you. It’s truly a blessing to witness how Allah’s guidance can come in ways we least expect. Sometimes misunderstandings and hardships with those around us can lead to deeper reflection and growth. Continue to do dhikr and focus on your own spiritual journey, as Allah always has a plan for us, even in the face of challenges. May Allah grant you peace and keep toxic influences away from your life. JazakAllah khair for sharing your story, and may you continue to find comfort in His mercy. 💖
Where do you live? Where I live no one talks to anyone. Our neighbours here in the U.K. are not friendly at all!
JakahAllah Khair this was a wonderful reminder! Especially this day and age, many people are going through this very thing and so many are losing hope. New Sub 💞🤲🏾💚
Masha'ALLAH this sister has got a very strong Powerful message,which has a lot of weight in the topic 😊🙂🙂👍🤲
Jazakallah!
I am facing this problem with my husband and his mother made my life very difficult!! Can't explain to anybody nor I can live with it
Share it wid Allah...Indeed He has power over all things..!!
U can share wid us if ur comfortable..anyone might give u a good advice
Asalamualaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu sister, may Allah ease you. Don't despair, Allah doesn't burden a soul more than it can bear. My sister went through this. She said the good thing that came out of staying with her inlaws was she got closer to Allah even if it meant she was upset and hurt most of the time. She is pleased that Allah distanced them from her. Trust Allah. We don't wish humiliation upon anyone but when basic rights are taken away then leave people to Allah and stand up for yourself within the guidelines of Qur'an and sunnah.
I’ve been in this relationship for 23 years with someone who is extremely verbally abusive. When he gets upset, he goes on for 2-3 hours without a break. It’s hard to put into words how painful and damaging it is. He’s also an atheist, something he never shared before we married. I’m a housewife, and with my son’s challenges, I wasn’t able to leave. Now he says I’m free to go, but I can’t ask for any support. I know legally it would be 50/50, but I’m not one to fight for his wealth; I just want a peaceful life. I’ve invested $50K in the stock market and have a small online business, but it’s really struggling right now because of the competition. May Allah bring blessings to my business and investments so I can live independently and with respect.
I’m overwhelmed with worries about money. I’m 50 years old, and if Allah blessed my business and I gained financial freedom, I would leave him. But I’m also becoming physically weaker.
I’m so sorry to hear about your struggles, sister. It can be very difficult to navigate such challenges, but remember that Allah is always with you. In Islam, we are taught that patience (sabr) and seeking help through prayer (salah) can bring us closer to Allah’s guidance during difficult times. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) also advised us to rely on Allah and trust that He will provide a way out for every hardship.
You’re not alone in this, as many sisters face similar situations. Insha’Allah, I will be making a video soon on this topic to discuss it in more detail, as it may help shed light on how to deal with such trials in an Islamic way. May Allah ease your difficulties and grant you strength.
Masha Allah thank you sister
Yes , right.. First we should accept the fact that Allah put them in our lives to learn something and once we do that, he starts taking them away But if we have still not learnt the lesson, he keeps on sending such toxic people again and again
Hi sister
Your video come up I am in Australia 🇦🇺 and I do religion study and I am going through the Quran now
Thank you for your comment! I pray your study of the Quran brings you clarity and peace. If you ever have questions or thoughts, feel free to share. 🌿
MashaAllah, very informative and helpful, may Allah S.W. Reward you ❤️
Jazakallah!
Say " Alhamdulillah "
JazakaaAllah sooo true❤
Salam, nowadays I was feeling so stressed because of workplace…this popped in front of me…Jazak Allah!!! Answered so many of my questions
So much needed! ❤
MashaAllah, very informative. God bless you sister.
Jazakallah!
Alhamdhulillah sister well said
Thank you sister. This was most helpful. Walaikum Salam.
Mashallah ❤️🙏🕋 so true and thanks for sharing sister 🙏
Thank you for your nice one explain for as a listeners to you My good friend watching from Jeddah SAUDI ARABIA
JazakAllah khair for sharing your story and for your kind words. Sending love and du’as all the way to Jeddah! 💖
Many thanks and barak Allah fikum for this informative and really supportive video sister ❤
Thank you 😊
Kuchh din phle meine bhi same topic par baat ki thi meri video mein ,ye baat bilkul sahi hey ki jab ham sahi hotey hein tabiyat Allah aise toxic logo ko khud hi hamari life se nikal dete hein,kisi bhi tarah se unki sachchai Allah tala dikha dete hein.....😊😊😊mera Allah par poora yaqeen hein ki jab tak Allah mere saath hey koi kuchh nahi bigad sakta....
It is really true what you saying sister bless ❤
Thanks sister,these people made my life unbearable. I have got rid of them and the problem
Masha Allah !
100% true
Very true..Alhamdhulillahi
Jazakallah khair my dear sister my alllah bless uh❤
I felt like I was removing myself. As Allah also talks about maintaining relationships so I was confused.
WHAT YOU SAYING IS PROBABLY IS GONNA BE HAPPENED TO ALL THE SIGN THANKS ALLAH FOR REMOVE THE TOXIC PEOPLE ARE AROUND ME ESPECIALLY IN THE CIRCLE SYSTEM
This is amazing sister please can you do a video about unmarried Muslim
women how to keep positive especially when your in your 40s and you feel depressed and hopeless that marriage is not happening and if women are unmarried is that okay to live like this as a Muslim
Sister, it's definitely OK to live without marriage. You can be happy by yourself. Inner peace and happiness is found within.
Dear sister Yasmin, thank you for sharing your concerns. It’s important to remember that our worth and value are not defined solely by marriage or any worldly status, but by our relationship with Allah (SWT). Being unmarried does not diminish one’s dignity or standing in Islam. Allah (SWT) has created each of us with a unique purpose, and sometimes His plans for us may not align with our immediate desires, but they are always for our best.
The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) reminded us that Allah (SWT) is with the patient, and true contentment comes from putting our trust in His wisdom. In your situation, it is vital to continue to make dua (prayer) and have hope, but also to stay active in your personal development and spiritual growth. This is a time to strengthen your connection with Allah (SWT), pursue your passions, and contribute positively to your community.
It’s also worth noting that many righteous women in Islamic history lived fulfilling lives without being married, dedicating themselves to worship, charity, and knowledge. Allah (SWT) knows what is in our hearts, and He is the Best of Planners. Whatever He wills is what is best for us, even if we may not see it immediately. Keep your faith strong, sister, and remember that Allah’s timing is always perfect. You are not alone in this journey, and countless others are walking a similar path with you.
I will also be doing a video on this very topic, as it can help other sisters as well. So stay tuned!
@@alimahinsights JazakAllah khair for your response Alhamdulilah you have put my mind at ease. I’m looking forward to your video on this topic inshAllah may Allah bless you and reward you my sister you are so inspiring 🤍
May Allah bless you, I am suffering so deeply right now.
May Allah ease your pain and grant you strength during this difficult time. Remember that sometimes, the removal of certain people from our lives is a sign of Allah’s mercy and a step toward something better. Stay strong, and keep your faith in Allah’s wisdom. You are not alone in this, and healing will come, Insha’Allah. May you find peace and comfort soon.
Alhamdulillahi.robbil alamin hidup adalah proses dan hal itu agar kita lebih matang dalam berfikir dan lebih dewasa dalam langkah kehidupan itu sendiri tentu sebagai seorang muslim berusaha tawakal dan doa adalah kunci keberhasilan sebab tak ada yang tidak mungkin bagi Alloh SWT untuk merubah nasib seseorang atau kaum dan bangsa selama kita mau berusaha dan berdoa maka Alloh SWT akan menjawab atas usaha dan kesungguhan kita Amin yaa Robbal alamin
Allah removed everyone except my toxic family that I been stuck with
Same for me. May Allah give you sabr
@ thanks
@ always have Sabr … u too all the best inshallah xxx
Sister,what to do when our spouse is that toxic,negative person?
Salaam
Sometimes it’s immaturity and make duaas for them and may Allah guide us all. Aamean
You can’t change a toxic person, it’s who they are. They get worse soo always better to remove yourself from them.
@@zaitoonkhan30Immaturity a grown ass toxic adult? 😂
@@MB-lp9kd being toxic doesn’t have age limits.
Assalamu Alaikum, sister. When a spouse is toxic or negative, it is important to protect your mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Seek guidance from Allah through prayer (dua) and consult trusted family members or a counselor for support. Islam encourages kindness and patience, but also emphasizes the importance of not enduring harm. Consider setting boundaries to safeguard your peace, and if necessary, explore further steps with the advice of a scholar or counselor. May Allah grant you ease and guidance.
100%true sister .
Parents are not toxic. They just sometimes don’t understand. This is why Allah has given you wisdom.
My mother burned us with boiling water when we were children. I would say this is very toxic
@arrayvector
Yes it is & I’m a deeply deeply sorry for the trauma you had suffered.
Your mother had no control & serious mental health issues.
This is firstly illegal!!! & haram. I do hope you know what a strong amazing person you are that you can talk about it .
I too suffered abuse but as I got older and independent I did learn to forgive my mother.
I was brain damaged as I got hit on the head a lot .
As I said I forgave her because of my religion & education.
BUT Allah knows best come to peace with yourself and you will be ok & stronger.
I’m sorry if my comment hurt you 😢sending you much love ❤
Subhanallah
Mashallah ❤
What about when parents are toxic?
Pray for them. Allah listens to all heartfelt duaas. May Allah guide them and us. Aamean
Toxic parents cause severe mental health issues, distance yourself.
When parents are toxic, it’s essential to approach the situation with wisdom and patience. Islam teaches us to maintain respect and kindness toward our parents, even in difficult situations (Quran 31:14-15). However, if their behavior harms your well-being, you are allowed to set healthy boundaries while maintaining respect. Seeking help from trusted individuals or scholars can also provide guidance. Remember, Allah knows your struggles and is always there to help you through them.
I had all of the above, parents siblings who are narcissistic and then I grew up and married a covert narcissistic fake Muslim woman and it was beyond awful. I'm divorced lost everything but I have peace and still healing from a lifetime of abuse.
@@alimahinsights I had to do this and found peace.
As Salam Alakium sister, Jazakallah khair for beautiful lecture. Pleaze do share more thoughts on same topic with more elaboration thats its no harm to cut off from toxic inlaws .
Just becoz Its said that as a muslim we cannot remain not speaking to anyone more then three days ladies continue to try maintain relations with toxic in-law relatives for sake of it. Just becoz husband is good. Is it fair?
To just bear the toxicity and carry on and fall sick 😊
Yes Alhamdullilah , Allah is great he has removed toxic people from my life , and i much at peace and paying full attention to kids and my family lifenow and i choose not to respond to toxic people as i have understood thier mental state
Wa Alaikum Assalam sister, Jazakillah khair for your kind words and sharing your experience. It’s true that in Islam, we are taught to maintain good relations, but we are not required to endure harm. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) emphasized that ‘there should be neither harming nor reciprocating harm.’ It is important to protect our well-being and avoid situations that negatively impact our mental or physical health.
Regarding the three-day limit on not speaking, it is indeed encouraged to reconcile disputes, but this does not mean you have to endure toxic relationships or mistreatment. Sometimes, maintaining peace may involve setting boundaries and distancing oneself from harmful individuals, while still upholding Islamic manners.
Alhamdulillah, it’s a blessing that you found peace by removing toxic influences. Insha’Allah, I will be making a detailed video on this topic soon to discuss these matters further, as many sisters can benefit from guidance on dealing with such situations in a balanced and Islamic way. May Allah keep you and your family safe and at peace.
@@alimahinsights Jazakallah khair for your reply, much relieved with my decision though i do not stop my husband from being in contact with inlaws and relatives but I have told him please do not expect from me. I refrain from thier contacting me as I am sure its only going to harm me again and do no good. And i found this courage only after reading about it in Quran but i dont remember which surah and verse and i feel blessed as I found keeping them away has only helped to helped improve my relation with my husband which otherwise was controlled by them and that only was due to their complains about me . Since i am not in touch with anyone no more opportunities to complain against me.
I am sure your elaboration on this topic will help many ladies to deal with such situations.
Its our parents who want us to maintain relationship with inlaws even though bearing so muxh mental trauma. I hope the parents stand with thier daughters.
May Allah make it easy for all girls and daughters and women.
Jazakallah khair for your guidance. May Alah bless you always . As Salam Alaikum Rehmatullahi barkatu.
Jazakallah khair sister for your guidance , I am relieved i havent done wrong.
Infact i dis not stop my husband from being in touch with them , as I dont want to be a person who makes cutt off relationship of others and commit sin but from me is big Infact reading Quran with meaning has made strong as it has helped me understand to deal with relationships in daily life.
Jazakallah khair for your guidance may Allah bless you always.
I am sure your video on this topic will help millions of women out there who are in such toxic situations.
As Salam Alaikum Rehmatullahi barkatu
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You saying is belongs to me as I. Probably affirm me I am not sadly and I don't feel painful to the people is gone to me even My best friend once they're going through Infront of the the toxic doing. ! I can stand alone for trust ALLAH without THEM so that is me as NOEMA MALIYAH MOMENAH BANTAS SACANDAL
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My whole family thinks I'm playing the victim when I don't think I'm to be honest with you it's the other way round
Facts
what if it is the husband and it just unveiled for me after 22 years that he is the toxic, manipulative, controlling person not letting us grow in this marriage
Assalamu Alaykum sister, what if is your own child? 😔💔 i know it’s a test from Allah, and May Allah swt make it easy for those who are going through difficult times 😢 صبر ☝️
Wa Alaikum Assalam. It can indeed be very difficult when challenges involve our own children, no matter their age. Islam teaches us that trials are part of life’s journey, and they can come from any direction, even from our closest relationships. The Quran reminds us, ‘And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient.’ (2:155). These tests are an opportunity to exercise patience (sabr) and draw closer to Allah (SWT).
For children of any age, whether young or older, there are different ways to help guide their behavior. If the child is younger, maintaining consistency in teaching good character (akhlaq), setting clear boundaries, and using positive reinforcement can help. Islam encourages kindness, as the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, ‘The best of you are those who are best to their families.’ (Tirmidhi).
For older children or teens, open communication, showing empathy for their struggles, and involving them in family decisions can help build trust and encourage positive changes. Engaging them in Islamic activities, encouraging regular salah, and discussing the teachings of the Quran can foster a deeper connection to faith. Most importantly, never underestimate the power of dua, asking Allah to guide their hearts and ours. May Allah make it easy for all parents facing these trials and guide our children on the path of righteousness. Ameen. 🤲
Which part of globe life is healthy happy.Good topic , needs to konw more Ref from , Quran Kareem & Aadees Nabvi PBUH
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The music is waaay too loud i have bo idea what you are saying
Bad natures vs Good Natures .
I did set boundaries to my sadist-narc mother. And she made drama and cut contact. Khair
Setting boundaries, especially with family, can be extremely difficult, but it’s an important step toward protecting your peace and well-being. Remember that Allah knows the intentions behind our actions, and sometimes distance is necessary to maintain respect and harmony.
May Allah grant you strength, patience, and inner peace as you navigate this situation. Remember, sometimes khair (goodness) lies in things we cannot fully understand at the moment.
What about if it’s your own mother father brother sister subhanallah
It can be very challenging when toxic behavior comes from close family members like parents or siblings. Islam encourages us to uphold family ties, but it also recognizes the importance of protecting our well-being. Sometimes, that means setting respectful boundaries while still honoring our responsibilities. Remember, Allah understands what we go through and guides us towards peace. Seeking support through prayer and speaking with a trusted person or scholar can help navigate these situations. May Allah ease your path and give you strength.
@ jzk may Allah swt protect us from shaitan’s fitnah.
Asa, a question:- what if the person is your blood relative & If you abstain from visiting due to some extremely unfortunate events that are absolutely non repairable they say it’s cutting blood ties and that the abused victim is sinning…..do you have an email id where I can elaborate the “abuse” May Allah reward you immensely
Waalikum Assalam,
You can dm me on my instagram.
It feels I hate people
Left hands walay vs Right hands walay.
Plz remove background sound
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I swear my family
Allah please remove mother in law and 4 sister in law from my life
I understand that family relationships can sometimes be challenging. May Allah bring ease to your situation and guide you to what is best. Remember, Allah tests us in different ways, and patience with prayer can be a powerful way to find peace and resolution. Stay strong, and may Allah protect you from any harm. Ameen.
Remove ny toxic family from my life
Don’t say remove say change them to positive inshallah
Allah can make
The impossible possible
Family relationships can be incredibly challenging, especially when dealing with toxicity. It’s okay to want distance or change to protect your well-being. As @sabamasiuddin9474 pointed out, sometimes praying for a shift in their hearts can make a difference, but ultimately, do what feels right for your peace. May Allah guide you toward the best solution and bring ease to your heart.
What do you if that toxic people
your family, specially your mother
Your mother for over 50 years very controlling very toxic negative at verbally abusive, although always that loved her ignored what she did despite that whatever she did years by years stop seeing her only phone contact. trails test because of so many health issues
Stop going out very less
Now this year first time phone contact has gone very less my side
Not been picking up due to more severe health issue
She must be getting mad in her head swearing cursing at me not picking i know her very well
She feeling shes loosing control over me i have sent message im very ill i dont feel like talking
Twice i called her after 6 weeks
She nit return the call back
As a muslim you cant break ties
Assalamu Alaikum Sister,
It sounds like you’re facing a very challenging situation, and it’s evident that you’ve made sincere efforts to maintain the relationship despite the difficulties. In Islam, maintaining family ties is highly valued, but it’s also important to safeguard your own well-being. If your health is being affected, you can still fulfill your duty by finding a balance that allows you to protect yourself while upholding your responsibilities.
Keeping the lines of communication open doesn’t necessarily mean frequent contact; even sending a simple message occasionally can be enough to maintain the bond. Additionally, making dua (prayer) for your mother is a powerful form of communication and an act of love. By praying for her well-being and asking Allah to guide her and soften her heart, you continue to fulfill your Islamic duty.
Remember, taking care of your own health doesn’t mean you’re abandoning your mother; it means you’re setting boundaries that help you stay strong. May Allah make things easier for you and guide you to what is best.
Alhumdulilah your content is great reminders BUT I feel your intros are spoiling the video. I already know your main point before the vid even started, not good. But beside that its good content and beneficial.
شخصيا لا أفهم بالمطلق ما تقول ... ?! ?
Personnellement, je ne comprends pas du tout ce que vous dites...?! ?
Shouldn't you cover your wrists?
Sister that is not the symbol of Islam and Allah knows best