Please don't be depressed. Depression is one's own concept of your own thoughts.Demand it to just stop! DEMAND and DECLARE. No one should ever suffer depression.
@@MicrowaveCheese33Are you being serious? Like, actually? Do you know how dumb you sound? I hope this is sarcasm. Depression isn’t just feeling sad. It’s a chemical imbalance/deficiency in the brain and body. You can’t just _”command”_ it to stop.
@@MicrowaveCheese33 ah yes.. manifest the literal chemical that my brains doesn’t produce properly, just like I can demand the terminal genetic disorder I have to go away, even tho it’s my literal DNA that is the problem
My fav thing about zoomers and dating is that they think trauma dumping is being open and honest. Which is fine if you’ve been dating for a little while. But just meeting someone, my god. You don’t need to vent the deepest and darkest points of you life to someone on a first date 🤭
Yeah, it makes no sense, people out here too careful to say what could be disrespectful or could get them canceled. If you tell me your problems right out of no where, I'm immediately thinking you're 1. insecure, 2. hiding something, 3. socially awkward, and worst of all 4. all you talk about is problems. Mad common these days, silliness
My dad's favorite dad joke for a while is when I'd say hair toss and act like my hair flipped (I got a coily clustered afro nothing moves not even in the wind) and my dad would got "check my nails" because of lizzos song good as hell
@@amberg4131 Australians have some damn good dad jokes, ngl. My FIL on SUPER rare occasion will crack one and I bust my sides laughing. Sometimes I can sneak on in here and there and it's a good time. 😂😂😂
you're stranded on a desert island and you only have two choices of food and you can only pick one: a fat weevil or a skinny weevil. which do you choose? the skinny one, because you always must choose the lesser of two weevils :)
I feel like we need a highlight reel of dad jokes, and the weird tangents/rants from pewds (especially the things he's said about children and dogfood)
did you have friends ever?... wtf are you even talking about? Grounds? they are already friends, they will always have more grounds than any 2 people who never met before.
I get them wanting a fun cringe video for content to react to, but it’s pretty crazy to compare trash reality competitions to irl dating lol. Every time I see someone reacting to The Button or anything on similar UA-cam channels, everyone is up in arms like ‘omg kids these days are ruined, they can’t date, in my day blah blah blah’ lol. Like seriously y’all, it’s a fake dating competition. We’ve had those on TV for decades and they’re always trash, and has nothing to do with one generation being so much worse than another.
its just honest warnings about issues the relation may hold. much better than hiding it to get the person just to smack them with it later. why put everyone through the hurt?
@@mongoose9851They could've easily answered with "I have sone emotional baggage, and though I've been getting better it's still something you should know." Instead they went into huge details about specific trauma. One trauma dumps, and the other receives it without complaint. That's not healthy in a brand-spanking-new relationship.
This is burned into my memory because my coach was an AH, but in middle school, our PE coach always tried to make us as quiet as possible at all times. She made us warm up in complete silence. We were doing sit-ups when I accidentally farted. Since it was dead quite in the gym, it was especially loud. You could hear it echo. Everyone laughed for a good minute, and the whole time, our coach was super pissed blowing her whistle and screaming at everyone to shut up. After everyone quieted down she started asking "Who did that?! Did you do that on purpose?!" Blah blah blah I mean absolutely furious. Like, sorry, I accidentally let a tiny fart rip, trust me it was dead quiet and we're on the ground with people a foot away from me on each side, I wasn't trying to fart either, but thanks for turning it into a bigger deal than it needed to be.
Start eating beans every morning. A bit of commitment and persistence, and some slight diet changes and you could Haunt that gym teacher with your flatulence.
@@alyssaapoc EVERYBODY farts... Facts of life. I dare to say it's nature's most divine humor in that it transcends all barriers of lifeforms. If you breathe, eat and crap, you also fart. That gym teacher has issues.
People need to realise that getting into relationships isn't a replacement for therapy, like bruh your significant other isn't your personal psychologist, and treating them as such usually leads to worsening emotions and actual toxic behaviour. Also imagine relying on smoking weed to help with your cognitive dysfunctions, seek actual professional help fam.
As someone who is autistic, and was diagnosed late in life I totally get this…. The reason why we tell everyone is because we are deathly afraid of being creepy/ coming across as awkward. It is a way of trying to not offend others and protecting yourself. I have trouble hugging my mom. I totally get this guy.
It's weird to bring up if that's just a conversation starter when the person is meeting you for the first time It's like going to check out and the person of you checking out is asked by the cashier how are you and they're like "it's a beautiful day but my cat ran away while I was out at work yesterday and I haven't been able to find them since and then my daughter called me last because she got into an accident"
i do the opposite, i hide that shit for as long as possible, i generally just don't bother telling people. it's easier to be the quirky guy with chaotic energy than The Autistic Freak lol. in the past when i'd tell people i'm autistic they'd start treating me like some lost puppy or a child
It was so comforting to hear that lol. I feel like I should have a pamphlet (or guide book) and potential partners or friends should have a general understanding of psychology. It's kind of like when I started wearing my thick glasses in public after only wearing contacts for so long. People treat me differently with my glasses because they can SEE that I have a disability.
My husband has severe OCD and told me before we even had our first date so that I would know what I'd be getting into and to explain why certain things he did on the date (excessive handwashing) would be weird to me so I get that with Autistic people because it's a more **noticeable** thing and probably want people to know there's a reason they are acting a certain way.
Yeah I'm with you on that, if it's something very noticeable then a heads up helps both parties. When I know what is baseline, if probably be able to respond better That said I also don't understand all the self diagnosing going on with some people :p
as someone w ocd its crucial to tell ppl ill be close w abt it because its very extreme. thankfully everyones been understanding but i hope they don't secretly think like those two did in this video
Agreed. I've got a similar story in that my hubby has always been pretty upfront about the fact that he's got an extremely hard time bonding with and feeling for people. When I first expressed interest, he asked me if I'm sure and reiterated his issues and what that means for our relationship. I feel like in those kinds of situations, it is important to be upfront about it and I'm glad that he was (though I already knew and decided that I was okay with that). Funnily enough, we first started bonding when it came out that we both went through a suicidal patch in the past. We barely knew each other back then, but it was the start of a beautiful, open and honest friendship (which eventually grew into something more).
@@verstein1193 Or you could, you know, work on it or something. But what would life be without the sweet victim points, right? lol And yes, most people think like that and wouldn't date a mess like you. Why would they, when you clearly count on people accepting something about you that is absolutely curable and you're just too lazy to do it? That's not even suitable for a fling. And no, I'm not sorry. I got over extreme anxiety and I'm sick of zoomers and their whiny bs.
The ending "match" felt so forced. No way they seemed like they wanna even try being together. A good indicator of an actual potential relationship, would be the type of energy Ken and Felix emit during this video. The two are calm, smiling, joking around, genuinely sharing experiences they both shared, taking interest in what one-another went through, and just vibing together in general.
hey don’t let videos like that represent the normal dating scene. You have to remember that It’s all set-up. Even if it’s not necessarily scripted, they put strangers together in front of a camera, have them reject each other so brutally, and give them terrible questions. It’s just a recipe for disaster.
Every time Felix appears on the internet I breathe a little sigh of relief that he’s still willing to make videos. And when it’s with Ken, it’s just that much more of a bonus!
18:48 (editing to add timestamp) Being "too honest" can be a negative thing. It's more about the inability to read a situation / person / context and saying things that may come off harshly or seem judgmental/offensive to others. She's not saying she's a good person. She's not saying she's better than anyone. She's not saying she's always right. If anything, she's admitting that she is still learning how to communicate in healthy ways.
I love both Ken and Pewds. Been watching both for years. In the interest of education though, ADHD, like genuine diagnosed ADHD is far more serious than most people realise. The whole trend of self-diagnosis is making it be downplayed when in reality it seriously affects people's ability to deal with day to day life. That comment of "it's just ADHD" comes from a position of unknowing, I know there's no malice behind the comment I just wanted to highlight it though as many studies are putting ADHD as just as severe or more so than Autism (obviously not in all cases.) For anyone else who maybe didn't understand I hope this made sense and offered some extra insight to what is a very very long rabbit hole to delve into. :) Other than that, loved the video! Ken and Felix chemistry is just perfect as always haha
As someone who was diagnosed ADHD and then a year later with the 'tism. There is a distinction between the two and they both can be debilitating alone or together. But it is called a spectrum for a reason. Some experience it far greater than others and ones ability to mask or even unmask can make all the difference in how they are perceived compared to how they are.
@@PoPcheesemo Yeah I completely agree! I think the years of people thinking ADHD is just "bouncing off the walls hyper" and the 'tism is just "Socially Awkward" have done a fair bit of damage in people's understanding of both issues. I have ADHD and honestly believe I have the 'tism too, though haven't been tested yet. You find that when there's one of them, often there is another. That can be Depression, Anxiety, Social Anxiety, Low-Self Esteem, OCD, Perfectionism but commonly as it's now being termed AuDHD which is, like you, have both Autism and ADHD. I think the point that a lot of people miss is the point you mentioned about the spectrum. Everyone thinks the spectrum of Autism is just "What type are you?" i.e. Asperger's, when in reality that gives only half the story as it doesn't explain the different levels of severity, the relationship between that condition and other conditions that are suffered and in general the person's ability to deal with them which is obviously made up from a plethora of factors. As I mentioned it's such a deep subject and there's so much to learn, I believe I've only scratched the surface in the few years I've been learning about it all but I've got a far greater understanding of myself and my brother who is AuDHD as well as others who suffer. Though I wouldn't wish it on anyone, it definitely feels far less lonely to realise there's many people that struggle with similar things. Overall though, I think it's important for people like yourself and I to talk about our experiences to educate those who don't understand if they want to learn. I'm personally always happy to sit and talk with someone about anything that might help them understand themselves or the people around them. Thanks for sharing :) I hope this continues to help people understand more :)
yeah adhd is pretty severe for me. i am so hyperactive, mindlessly running and stimming, always fixating on things, always losing track of time. i starve myself because eating a meal is hard, every month i have a problem with my kidney because i dont drink water, i cant sleep, grocery shopping is hard, sunlight and car noises and carpet textures are ruining my life. i am disabled, simple as that. and everytime i tell about a good strategy that works for me people will downplay my situation, they'll say it's in my head, just get rid of distractions. they dont know i got rid of my tv and i dont use twitter or instagram. i live a minimalist life to have some control of my life. they're ignorant, and self-righteous too. it's a nightmare really.
Agreed!! I think Ken and Felix are struggling most with the brutal honesty of the new generation. Mental health is now so important in some peer groups that it's a first date convo topic, like your job, your family, where you grew up, what you do in your spare time etc. It can be very confronting for people who grew up in times where these topics were much more suppressed. If the youth are comfortable having these kinds of convos and they believe it gives them a stronger foundation and understanding of a possible partner, then all power to them. There's something to be said for getting it all out there early on!
Yes yes and important to add that self-diagnosis is super important because it most countries the waiting list to get a diagnosis is counted in years so if you want to help yourself that’s the only way you have.
I will say when I got with my boyfriend I was completely upfront about all my things... that way he could know before we started our relationship. It's the healthiest choice I've ever made and this is by far my healthiest relationship.
@@zaraandrews600 Me as well, I don't want to stress anybody out with my problems, so I make sure to lay out the prominent problems so they can decide if I'm ok!
I'm scared for the child. Felix has said a lot of scary things about kids in the past. Giving them dogfood and wanting to hurt them. I'm scared for the kid.
@@blackdynamite_5470 Did you know wet dog food is basically the same as processed human food? The sauce on their beef stuff is the same sauce as in salisbury steak. (I got experimental once as a kid because the sauce smelled TOO similar and I had to test it, LOL). People can have dark humour and still not abuse children. They're called JOKES for a reason--the funny part about it is that it's not something you're supposed to do, lol.
@@blackdynamite_5470 dog food is good enough for dogs why not kids lmao kidding but I’m sure he was joking about all that, hopefully anyways lol but I’m not gonna make assumptions on his parenting ability based on some jokes he made.
@@blackdynamite_5470 What is this, slam poetry night? You just gonna open and close with "I'm ~*-=scared=-*~ for the /||child||\" like u writing a dark Dr. Seuss AU 💀 Frankly I'm not gonna side with the mf who has a "Pubic Face" playlist on their channel
I hope nobody thinks these speed-dating shows are accurate to the overall dating scene, though 😅 Don't people go on those shows precisely because they feel shut out of the dating pool?
I’m a firm believer that if you are going through a lot of personal problems/hate you should focus on healing and loving yourself before entering a relationship with anyone because then you focus on pleasing them/showing them affection rather than showing acceptance and affection towards yourself.
@@kawaii_nyan what If relationship ends and the only source of self-worth was found through it? As a result you’d feel even worse than before the relationship
Ironically one of the most toxic button episode I've seen so far lmfao. Absolutely unloading tons of heavy personal shit on someone you just met is actually super fucked, and is super manipulative even if you dont intend it to be
Yes! He could've just said he has emotional baggage. A simple answer to a simple question, and the heavy stuff might have come out gradually if they got to know each other.
I know, right? I got so lucky with how romance kinda dropped into my lap with sudden attraction to a long-time friend that happened to be mutual. We got to skip the awkward dates and tentative getting-to-know each other questions ahahaha
What, you don't like Buffpro? You fatphobic or something? Y'know, fat people can be as funny or even funnier than skinny people...go to therapy. For shame.
Thank you Ken for mentioning self diagnosing and how repeated it is. I was diagnosed at age 5 and the last 3 years due to tiktok has been extremely negative and impactful in receiving any understanding from friends or the general public/medical staff when I mention I am autistic and I need some extra support/patience and time to process and comprehend certain topics. You usually get the eyeroll, like "you don't seem like you have autism" which in itself is an incredibly awful insult. Autism is not a common thing and it is not something you can self diagnose. 1% of the world's population is diagnosed. That is not a lot at all. Symptoms of various mental health conditions do cross over quite a lot. What one symptom for a certain condition is, can be the exact same as another condition. It's so deflating.
I agree. This is often why I'm frightened to even tell anyone I'm autistic even though it would be so much more kinder for them to know I'm just socially braindead and it's not actually because I don't like them. But I'm too scared they'll think I'm just a self-diagnosing poser even though I have the shitty papers and the shitty clusters of symptoms to prove it. I was only diagnosed at 19 due to being female and in the UK and I could actually get help. I think self-diagnosers feel like it's great because they get to say they have this illness and get all the excuses and attention from it, but they never actually have to deal with any of the negative symptoms because they don't even have it. I'm okay with my life but I'd trade the negative symptoms of autism to a poser anyday
I get that the numbers of self diagnoses have spiked but that doesn't mean no one should self diagnose. Doctors widely accept self diagnosis, and if someone has truly looked into and researched it and feels like they are autistic, and see a doctor about it, there's a good chance they ARE autistic. There are also instances where they might have ADHD or something else, but if they talk to a doctor it would get straightened out. I'm self diagnosed because I have tons of aligning behaviors and social struggles, the same ones that got my brother diagnosed. One more thing, an official diagnosis could hinder some people. It could close previously open doors or limit some things for them. It is over self diagnosed but that doesn't mean no one should do it.
I’ve been told by three separate psychologists that they suspect I’m on the spectrum, but my regular therapist said at my age it’s not even worth it to get a diagnosis because there are so few supports for adults. I don’t go around telling anyone I have autism for that matter, but that doesn’t stop me from using the same coping skills recommended to diagnosed people, and the idea that it’s my brain wired differently is a comfort over feeling like I’m behind or like there’s something wrong with me. but I know how frustrating it is how a lot of people seem to wear it like a badge of honour when that diagnosis has been a source of pain for so many people.
Part of the reason why so few are diagnosed "officially" with autism is also because 1. it is a spectrum, so it is very individual how it shows, and diagnosing it takes a lot of time and effort and sometimes resources that arent there. 2. the first official autism diagnosis didnt happen until 1943. It is a very new diagnosis, and it is only starting to come to light how many people (especially women) have been misdiagnosed with various mental illnesses, when they were in fact autistic. 3. waiting lists for getting a diagnosis can be excruciatingly long, and sometimes the consultations are extremely expensive. Self diagnosing is of course not something to be taken lightly, but it can also be a helpful tool for actually autistic people to find a community and resources.
As someone who has both adhd and autism, we have to throw it out there because we are judged so fast and it’s so hard to make friends. It’s mentally exhausting to never fit in
trying to fit in by telling people about your medical diagnosis is not trying to fit in, it's the exact opposite of trying to fit in though. Like, people can tell you are autistic most of the time, just like how a disabled person in a wheelchair also is obvious. They don't make it a topic when ever they meet new people though.
@@InvadersDie literally, like even just throwing it out there is fine but making it an entire conversation and a big deal is what makes it weird. Like pretty much everybody knows and understands what autism is these days. There’s really no need to educate people that didn’t ask for it or even say anything wrong.
16:50 as an autisitc that got her diagnosis at 23... I say "I am autistic that why this ist hard for me/ I feel this way... etc" whenever I really want a person to understand me. If that person understands me, really ME, then I do not have to mask -> making my life easier.
Why? Buff pro usually has nothing to add. He just makes simple remarks according to whatever Ken initiates. No offense to him, still better than no one being there.
@1:48 - When I am super nervous, like anxiety is getting up, my stomach tends to twist, it's one of those feelings, and usually it's not farts that end up coming out, I tend to have to calm down or get to the toilet.
"I knew Mary was the one when she hit me with this: 'What's brown and sticky?' 'A stick.'" Goals. I remember when she made content too, I miss her and hope she and the kiddos are doing well. It feels like it was just yesterday that Raph and Layla were running around in her vlogs, they're such happy little ones and you guys are such loving parents🖤 Been watching about 10 years lmao
@@blackdynamite_5470 It's difficult to believe that when nobody so far has even tried. The world is filled with selfish and degenerate people. It's like looking for diamonds in the mud. If there is even one, who deserves it? I've personally stopped wasting time searching. I just don't even think about it anymore. I've got plenty to keep me busy and satisfied with being single.
I feel like stuff like this is really hard to navigate for the "older generations" or people who don't like being forthcoming with personal information. Growing up, we never spoke about mental illnesses, sexual preferences, or even job titles. Now if feels like everyone is a "as a *enter whatever here* person/job title I *enter whatever else here*" person. I can see how it's uncomfortable or invasive for some folks.
i think some younger folks can relate too, cuz we grew up around parents and grandparents whose lifestyles haven’t been affected by modern society. like im gen z but im ashamed to be one because im lumped in with all these weirdos.
I totally get that. I'm 22 and kind of like the generation we got going on tbh. I find others interesting and like to hear about people's personal stuff. The more personal, the better. I don't promise to open up about anything tho, lol.
Oh believe me it's a super red flag. It's emotional manipulation, that last person manipulated their way into a date. But many people don't realize because of their social programming or they're too afraid to call it out.
@@mere7583 an even more widespread trap that have gotten way more is the idea of thinking you should judge or have opinions on anything. Even things you have no idea of how works or things you haven't even studied right. On both sides. It's almost as if people just don't want their safe little snowflake fairytale world to crumble to reveal the truth.. There are others who aren't like you out there.
I love just watching how the boys watch the videos. Ken pinches his lips while Felix pushes his mouth and nose with his finger, and also their occasional smirks and expressions of disgust...
I like how Ken just went "Okay alright, the peeing on people is not for me" and Pewds is just screaming on the other side, trying to comprehend reality.😂😂😂
if something is a huge part of your life & effects the way you socialize, it makes sense to let the person know i guess. 🤷🏼♀ but sometimes people will just announce things, out of context can be frustratingly annoying.
Exactly! The cognitive disabilities and diagnoses can be mentioned after the stranger is already comfortable vibing with you. Announcing it right away just throws them off and makes them feel like they have to walk on eggshells to avoid being insensitive.
I just wanted to say (as a person who was diagnosed with adhd) I will always tell someone new that I’m meeting for the first time. It’s more of a comfort thing since kids with adhd usually get told they are annoying or too much. So I’ll always tell someone this is my situation, if I get too much or talk too fast please let me know as I’m not aware. So a lot of the time (for someone who is diagnosed) it’s a way of feeling was anxiety about coming across as too much.
16:25 "just adhd" it affects people differently, and there are different stages to it.......... I was diagnosed by medical professionals here in Sweden, was diagnosed with ADHD + on the "tism" spectrum, and untreated adhd almost ruined my life, it's horrible.... it has made me develop severe depression, anxiety and extremely low stress-threshhold.
im honestly quite disappointed pewdiepie didnt seem to understand this or jump in to correct the commentary since jacksepticeye and markiplier were both diagnosed with adhd, and while pewds doesnt talk too much to mark anymore, he definitely does to sean.
@@nyct0phile yea but they also mask it quite well, and they are successful youtubers, also their adhd can be lesser than it is for others. but yea, its sad to hear pewdiepies take on adhd struggles as "just go do it, lazy" :S
Mentioning if you're ADHD or autistic isn't quite the same as vegan and crossfire. Those are things that they chose to be a part of. Autism and ADHD people tell people that they are because we often have to explain ourselves to other on why we do things the way we do. The reason it's coming up more recently is because people have spread more awareness of them so people who didn't realize they were adhd but constantly struggled with daily tasks finally have their diagnosis they needed. Its sorta the same thing as if someone has a physical disability like cerebral palsy or other similar disabilities, if you asked them to do a task they can't, they may tell you they have the handicap. Same with autism and adhd, we are explaining ourselves
I spent over a decade in severe depression. I think explaining that "before the last year or so, I haven't existed, or been capable of existing in society.." is a pretty important thing to let potential partners know, out the gate. A lot of people aren't as receptive as you might think to mental health struggles. Best weed them out as soon as you can.
Ken telling the sweet story of how Mary won his heart with the simple genius joke is the most adorable and wholesome thing I have heard all year 🥹💖🥰 I love it!!!
I will ALWAYS love CinnamonToastKen and Pewdiepie content, it's been that way since I was watching Pewds years ago. Wait. How did they meet I wonder...
I can't imagine not being self aware enough to know why may not be the best person to date. Like even when you improve, good mental health is knowing your failures.
17:05 I’m glad you say you believe them, because a lot of people are not diagnosed as a child. It is extremely difficult to get a diagnosis as an adult and at a certain point, unless you are looking for services, it may not be necessary. The last 20 years of research has deeply broadened our understanding of the autism spectrum. I say this as a person who has autistic friends, an autistic partner, autistic family, autistic coworkers, and autistic clients. I say this as a person who may have benefited from a diagnosis but as a girl in the early 2000s, doctors didn’t see the symptoms they see in young boys and didn’t get one, despite all I struggled with. I am glad that people feel confident to acknowledge their diagnosis and not mask themselves for neurotypical people
18:06 at this point my thoughts were like "it would be freaking hilarious if she smash the button with her forehead while holding the other person hands..." 🤣
God I was panicking just listening to the convos, wish more people would speak openly without having to worry about what they are saying it’s crazy how careful things become
I won my fiancé over through puns, and I fell in love with his passion for conspiracy theories. (He’s not the tinfoil hat type who uses vpns and refuses to own a cellphone, we think it’s fun to think “what if..” about stuff.) I still remember the first pun I ever told him, it made soda come out of his nose and I thought he was drowning. A magician in Mexico was gonna make himself disappear. He held out his hand and counted down- Uno! Dos! But then he was gone without a Tres
I hardly tell anyone of my disorders because I don't like it when people immediately feel like they need to give me pity. I hate it that's why I keep it to myself. I also don't like taking meds and I face it head on. I'm not disabled!
This is kind of long but it has an important point so if you want to be a better person in life and learn to be more compassionate to others, i suggest you read. tbh sometimes when i meet new people (usually not on our first encounter though) i will tell them about my actual diagnosed autism because sometimes autism can create misunderstandings and in telling someone I'm usually hoping that they will remember and if a misunderstanding happens they'll choose to act more mature and with more compassion and come talk to me about it instead of choosing to internalize anger towards me about whatever happened and either avoid me, treat me badly, make assumptions about me or talk shit about me to other people. Tbh i cant say it's actually worked a ton bc people tend to be avoidant of issues and choose to be poor communicators regardless of a person's disclosed autism. but I still tell people sometimes in the hope that it will make people act more compassionate or understanding because for me and sometimes for other people with actual autism, having it can make just living life and social relationships really hard. I feel the need to tell people because the kind of autism i have (there's a whole crazy spectrum, literally no two autistic people are alike) is the kind where people cannot tell that there's something wrong with me/ that i have autism, i just sometimes can say things in complete innocence that piss people off and they just assume that i say things with spite and am a bitch who doesn't care about other people's feelings (being unaware that my autism makes it so that I'm not always aware of the connotations my words can have), but in all honesty I'm the complete opposite. I get very very upset when i learn i upset someone because it's never intentional and i really care about other people's feelings more so than the average person i think, and if other people just came and told me how they felt about things, then i would sincerely apologize and work to never say anything similar again, but people don't do that. Because people are avoidant of confrontation and not open about their feelings, I'm usually left to try and notice if they are acting strangely around me or if their facial expression changes in a negative way (which can be very difficult for autistic people to do) and confront them myself in an effort to keep a friendship/ new relationship going well, but even when you ask people if they're upset about something, people usually lie about it, stew about it, and then either write you off, gossip about it and make it harder for you to make friends with others, or lash out about it towards you later. I've been severely bullied and mistreated by people many times in my life due to people not coming and openly talking to me about a simple misunderstanding, so that's why someone with autism may tell you about their autism. This is just my experience. People may tell you about their autism for many reasons because all autism is like so unique, but keep in mind that maybe someone is choosing to be vulnerable and tell you in an effort to not get hurt again. I agree that it's a bit odd for people to introduce themselves as "hi I'm so and so and im autistic and also here's all of my other issues" though because that's like trauma dumping and generally having disabilities does not make a person desirable, so if you do something like that it's going to make people think you're weird and not want to be around you. Also i think its weird when people say they have a bunch of disabilities that are self-diagnosed. It's like that person thinks its cool to wear my actual struggles as a badge of honor because they think being "neuro-divergent" sounds cool. Anywhooo, i kinda said a a lot here but my point of saying it was to explain to Ken or Pewds or whomever sees this why someone with something like autism might come out and tell you about it early on in meeting them and that you shouldn't really make fun of that, It's kind of hurtful. Because when i do that, I'm trying to make my relationships go smoother than the ones I've had in my past that have hurt me significantly. Like i said i get why Pewds and Ken were making fun of some of the stuff in this video, i would too, particularly the poser/disability honor badge sort of behavior, but in some parts it seems kind of mean spirited towards people with disabilities. I just would like them to be aware of that. I've been watching both of their channels religiously for about ten years now, Ken is probably my favorite youtuber, so idk i guess it makes their negativity towards people like me/ people with disabilities hurt a bit more. Like would they make fun of me and think I'm a loser because of my autism too? :( thats all.
It’s actually good to let people know about your behaviors and tendencies beforehand so nothing gets lost, confused, or misinterpreted in the conversation. A lot of times, people with autism can tell they’re “different”. Diagnosis isn’t always easy to obtain as some people might not have health insurance, some people might live in a household that is abusive and/or doesn’t believe in modern medicine, mental health care, etc. And also, in some states in the US, having an official autism diagnosis can restrict certain rights. For example, in my state, it will ban someone from receiving gender affirming care. Although, I do agree in the fact that it’s kinda ehhhh when people without an official diagnosis confidently go around stating they have XYZ mental illness/disorder. There are people out there who say it without understanding and it can diminish public perception of the illness/disorder. I usually just very briefly explain what is normal behavior from myself whenever I catch myself doing something that could seem “off” or someone else does.
Oh Thank Goodness, I'll Stick To That But I've Been Finding Some REAL BAD Ableist People In This Comment Section (And Most of Them Claimed To Be AUTISIC THEMSELVES????) They Said It Was Truma Dumping- I Was Definetely Flabbergasted O.o (But Yayyy Thank You For Your Beautiful Comment, Have A Swag Day!!)
I mentioned to my coworkers n people im sure to continually interact with that I have adhd and suspect on im on the spectrum. I say it so that they understand why I act off sometimes or need to ask a question 500 times, or why I go silent for a long period of time. Ive had people ask me why im so weird or assume that im being rude or purposely not paying attention and its always uncomfortable.
I love when reno wasn't able to answer 'do you find her attractive'. The non binary person wasnt able to answer a binary question. It honestly wrote itself that one.
@beastmode9576 Gender is usually assumed to be binary, men, and women. Non-binary people are those who don't fit neatly into those two categories. They may identify as a mixture of the two, neither, or even their gender changes over time. It's an umbrella term for those whose gender doesn't align with the binary options.
Ahhh yes, the Alt episode on The Button wound up being the wholesome episode. Literally no one was trigger happy with the button. Nice and respectful all around
nothing about this was wholesome are you insane? they went from people "collecting lovers" to people wanting to pee on others. and that doesn't even touch the crazy
As someone who has a diagnosis for autism I don't see any similarly between myself and the people who keep diagnosing themselves I generally keep to myself
@@pokeman747 i also have the special piece of paper and not everyone that has it got it by acting the exact same. i get that people self diagnosing can lead to set backs but also not believing anyone that says they are just bc they don’t act the exact same way you do is also setting back. like if they’re faking, that’s their problem and insecurity to be different so it’s better not to feed into it and give them the attention they hope it gives them.
In my experience, the reason most of us don't pursue an autism diagnosis is bc it takes years to even be considered, it costs a few thousand dollars over the course of those years, and having a diagnosis actually limits a ton of things available to you such as, adoption and in a lot of cases when you have kids, social services will get involved just bc of your diagnosis
I totally understand where ken is coming from with the autistic bit. Im now diagnosed, but i always felt i was different. Not like im something special or great, but like when i was born theres a 2° difference, and now that ive lived 23 years my trajectory is way off. If you have 2 people stand at the same point walk in a straight line, but have 1 of them walk at 0° and 1 of them at 1° after 3 hours there will be about 3km between them. (Might help with my analogy)
Agree. It feels like everyone else is a cat, and you're a dog wearing cat ears and trying to retract your claws. For a long time, you don't realise, but everyone else definitely notices something is off and you're excluded or treated differently as a result. But I think a lot of people mention they're autistic so others can realise WHY their behaviours are different. A lot of autistic behaviours can be seen as deceitful or bizarre by neurotypicals, like avoiding eye contact, monotonous speech, not adhering to small talk rules, so mentioning it can give a better reason to neurotypicals rather than making them guess and assume that you're purposefully being shifty or rude. The cats can then look at you and say, ah, you're a dog, that's why you don't knock things off the table with the rest of us, rather than thinking you're a shit cat.
Alternative title: Pewd and Ken try to make commentary on this video without being canceled.
honestly i was having the same thoughts ken was having when he mentioned the piercing
They ll never get cancelled. They are allowed everything
its sad. pewds has been targeted multiple times by these people but theyve never got him fortunately😂
they are uncancelable
All of them are technically just outcasts of society. To put it lightly. Hard not to talk about it.
i love when ken and felix collab. it's like watching an evil person take an innocent person on a trip to hell evertime.
Dante’s inferno with Virgil 😂😂😂
@@roreo1612a man of culture I see.
This is so accurate 😂
which is which tho
A very relaxing gondola ride to hell
As someone who’s been dealing with depression for 15yrs, and now I’m going to say “epically depressed”. Thank you Ken.
Yeah. Depression is so epic
Please don't be depressed. Depression is one's own concept of your own thoughts.Demand it to just stop! DEMAND and DECLARE. No one should ever suffer depression.
@@MicrowaveCheese33yes and manifest good coming nothing but epic things will happen 😅
@@MicrowaveCheese33Are you being serious? Like, actually? Do you know how dumb you sound? I hope this is sarcasm.
Depression isn’t just feeling sad. It’s a chemical imbalance/deficiency in the brain and body. You can’t just _”command”_ it to stop.
@@MicrowaveCheese33 ah yes.. manifest the literal chemical that my brains doesn’t produce properly, just like I can demand the terminal genetic disorder I have to go away, even tho it’s my literal DNA that is the problem
The moment I've been waiting for, I can finally accept Ken's "happy birthday." Thank you
Happy birthday 🎉🎂
Happy birthday 🌻
Omgg happy birthday!!!! 🎉🎉
Happy borthday I wanted to do this last year but I forgot but ima do it this year
Happy birthday, we love you 🥹
Them: "im autistic and i have an eating disorder and drug problem" Her: "So you dont pee on people, perfect match".
Gotta set the bar somewhere I guess.
what's (them )
@@ARENACRYPTE the person with short hair
@@ARENACRYPTEare we supposed to assume their gender you can get canceled for that nowadays
@@ARENACRYPTEit’s a man
My fav thing about zoomers and dating is that they think trauma dumping is being open and honest. Which is fine if you’ve been dating for a little while. But just meeting someone, my god. You don’t need to vent the deepest and darkest points of you life to someone on a first date 🤭
Yeah, it makes no sense, people out here too careful to say what could be disrespectful or could get them canceled. If you tell me your problems right out of no where, I'm immediately thinking you're 1. insecure, 2. hiding something, 3. socially awkward, and worst of all 4. all you talk about is problems. Mad common these days, silliness
Especially considering the fact that 99% of them are lying about everything for attention. Entire generation of socially programmed sociopaths.
...have you been dating lot of zoomers or something?
@@nothen3681 Yeah? Do you think zoomers are all minors or something? Lol
@@Logan_93 I'm literally a zoomer, adult one at that
"Don't say it ken lets just move on" pewds having flashbacks 😂
Pewds saw his life flashing in front of his eyes
I caught that too 😂😂
Lmao common W pewds and ken
Esp after Ken just made that video on hit girl 😂😂
I didn't get what Ken was willing to say :')
My favourite part is Ken prepare Pewds to parenthood with those dadjokes 😂
Quite wholesome Ken talking about how Mary won his heart and how he knew she was the one all from her telling him the dad jokes😂❤
My dad's favorite dad joke for a while is when I'd say hair toss and act like my hair flipped (I got a coily clustered afro nothing moves not even in the wind) and my dad would got "check my nails" because of lizzos song good as hell
@@amberg4131 Australians have some damn good dad jokes, ngl. My FIL on SUPER rare occasion will crack one and I bust my sides laughing. Sometimes I can sneak on in here and there and it's a good time. 😂😂😂
you're stranded on a desert island and you only have two choices of food and you can only pick one: a fat weevil or a skinny weevil. which do you choose?
the skinny one, because you always must choose the lesser of two weevils :)
I feel like we need a highlight reel of dad jokes, and the weird tangents/rants from pewds (especially the things he's said about children and dogfood)
"it feels like pronouns are important for this ep" got my dying XD
Ken and Felix's relationship is more solid than any of these people.
Broski that bar is below the ground if that's case 💀
... than any of these people could ever be with anyone
@@jjrays9913he fact that 10 people liked a comment that isn’t real English and makes no sense 😂 MURICA MOMENT
@@dylanmurphy9389 ?
did you have friends ever?... wtf are you even talking about?
Grounds? they are already friends, they will always have more grounds than any 2 people who never met before.
this show honestly hurts to watch, respect for sitting through it
I get them wanting a fun cringe video for content to react to, but it’s pretty crazy to compare trash reality competitions to irl dating lol. Every time I see someone reacting to The Button or anything on similar UA-cam channels, everyone is up in arms like ‘omg kids these days are ruined, they can’t date, in my day blah blah blah’ lol. Like seriously y’all, it’s a fake dating competition. We’ve had those on TV for decades and they’re always trash, and has nothing to do with one generation being so much worse than another.
At first I was think this wasn’t that bad…then it just kept getting worse and worse.
Sometimes they’re just mean or judge people for no reason. Like the show isn’t a real dating show it’s just for fun really
cringefest 2023 - the CRINGEGEDDON
Ken and Felix immediately sensing the red flag tenuousness of "trauma bonding" to build a relationship.
That's not trauma bonding though. The button asked them a question and they just answered honestly. They didn't even really go into detail.
its just honest warnings about issues the relation may hold. much better than hiding it to get the person just to smack them with it later. why put everyone through the hurt?
Not a trauma bond, but a trauma dump
@@mongoose9851They could've easily answered with "I have sone emotional baggage, and though I've been getting better it's still something you should know." Instead they went into huge details about specific trauma.
One trauma dumps, and the other receives it without complaint. That's not healthy in a brand-spanking-new relationship.
@@jonquilgemstone Yes, I'm sure you'd forumulate yourself perfectly in that moment and not be nervous at all.
This woman really went "If I can't pee on you then you don't deserve me."
the way an innocent person doesn't deserve the death sentence.
@@mikeespinoza5733 LMAO
It’s fair lol
This Pfp Made That Sentence All The Better Lol
P e r f e c t i o n
This is burned into my memory because my coach was an AH, but in middle school, our PE coach always tried to make us as quiet as possible at all times. She made us warm up in complete silence. We were doing sit-ups when I accidentally farted. Since it was dead quite in the gym, it was especially loud. You could hear it echo. Everyone laughed for a good minute, and the whole time, our coach was super pissed blowing her whistle and screaming at everyone to shut up. After everyone quieted down she started asking "Who did that?! Did you do that on purpose?!" Blah blah blah I mean absolutely furious. Like, sorry, I accidentally let a tiny fart rip, trust me it was dead quiet and we're on the ground with people a foot away from me on each side, I wasn't trying to fart either, but thanks for turning it into a bigger deal than it needed to be.
You should've ripped a louder one the next day.
Start eating beans every morning. A bit of commitment and persistence, and some slight diet changes and you could Haunt that gym teacher with your flatulence.
Just remind your coach that she didn't finish college. That'll teach her.
All jokes aside, that is abusive and I'm sorry you were subjected to that. Gym teachers need to learn to lighten up.
@@alyssaapoc EVERYBODY farts...
Facts of life. I dare to say it's nature's most divine humor in that it transcends all barriers of lifeforms.
If you breathe, eat and crap, you also fart.
That gym teacher has issues.
People need to realise that getting into relationships isn't a replacement for therapy, like bruh your significant other isn't your personal psychologist, and treating them as such usually leads to worsening emotions and actual toxic behaviour.
Also imagine relying on smoking weed to help with your cognitive dysfunctions, seek actual professional help fam.
I love that Ken has all the dad jokes but is just stealing them from his wife 🤣
How do you think dads are made? Being a father and a Dad Dad is a different thing lol
@@ReeN1995how ?
@@Galvatronover Being a Father is just that. Being a Dad, stereotypically, makes Dad things.
Seems like my joke didn't work well lol
Here is some dad jokes for Ken:
How do trees use the internet?
They log in.
What did the sushi said to the bee?
Wasabi.
As someone who is autistic, and was diagnosed late in life I totally get this…. The reason why we tell everyone is because we are deathly afraid of being creepy/ coming across as awkward. It is a way of trying to not offend others and protecting yourself. I have trouble hugging my mom. I totally get this guy.
We don't all do that. I find it really doesn't matter for 99% of the population. The rest of the pop. is autistic or someone in particularly nice. xD
Absolutely, yes! I always have to let people know that I have Asperger's.
It's weird to bring up if that's just a conversation starter when the person is meeting you for the first time
It's like going to check out and the person of you checking out is asked by the cashier how are you and they're like "it's a beautiful day but my cat ran away while I was out at work yesterday and I haven't been able to find them since and then my daughter called me last because she got into an accident"
i do the opposite, i hide that shit for as long as possible, i generally just don't bother telling people. it's easier to be the quirky guy with chaotic energy than The Autistic Freak lol. in the past when i'd tell people i'm autistic they'd start treating me like some lost puppy or a child
It was so comforting to hear that lol. I feel like I should have a pamphlet (or guide book) and potential partners or friends should have a general understanding of psychology. It's kind of like when I started wearing my thick glasses in public after only wearing contacts for so long. People treat me differently with my glasses because they can SEE that I have a disability.
Bet their first date is gonna be at their therapists office.
YES.
Agreed.
My husband has severe OCD and told me before we even had our first date so that I would know what I'd be getting into and to explain why certain things he did on the date (excessive handwashing) would be weird to me so I get that with Autistic people because it's a more **noticeable** thing and probably want people to know there's a reason they are acting a certain way.
Yeah I'm with you on that, if it's something very noticeable then a heads up helps both parties. When I know what is baseline, if probably be able to respond better
That said I also don't understand all the self diagnosing going on with some people :p
as someone w ocd its crucial to tell ppl ill be close w abt it because its very extreme. thankfully everyones been understanding but i hope they don't secretly think like those two did in this video
Agreed. I've got a similar story in that my hubby has always been pretty upfront about the fact that he's got an extremely hard time bonding with and feeling for people. When I first expressed interest, he asked me if I'm sure and reiterated his issues and what that means for our relationship. I feel like in those kinds of situations, it is important to be upfront about it and I'm glad that he was (though I already knew and decided that I was okay with that).
Funnily enough, we first started bonding when it came out that we both went through a suicidal patch in the past. We barely knew each other back then, but it was the start of a beautiful, open and honest friendship (which eventually grew into something more).
@@verstein1193 Or you could, you know, work on it or something. But what would life be without the sweet victim points, right? lol
And yes, most people think like that and wouldn't date a mess like you. Why would they, when you clearly count on people accepting something about you that is absolutely curable and you're just too lazy to do it? That's not even suitable for a fling.
And no, I'm not sorry. I got over extreme anxiety and I'm sick of zoomers and their whiny bs.
@@comedicsociopathysociopathy indeed
Ken training Pewds in dad jokes is my favorite.
Did he? It felt like Pewdiepie was already a pro...
@@MisaelMatute76he’s not a pro my guy
The ending "match" felt so forced. No way they seemed like they wanna even try being together.
A good indicator of an actual potential relationship, would be the type of energy Ken and Felix emit during this video.
The two are calm, smiling, joking around, genuinely sharing experiences they both shared, taking interest in what one-another went through, and just vibing together in general.
If that's the current market I'll gladly stay single.
You are not kidding. What exactly happened that people lost the plot.
Ugh, tell me about it
In a year or two, I might have to specifically look for republican gals in order to date someone normal.
It IS in Seattle, after all. .
@@justabunneh6490 well that makes a lot more sense lol
hey don’t let videos like that represent the normal dating scene.
You have to remember that It’s all set-up. Even if it’s not necessarily scripted, they put strangers together in front of a camera, have them reject each other so brutally, and give them terrible questions. It’s just a recipe for disaster.
Every time Felix appears on the internet I breathe a little sigh of relief that he’s still willing to make videos. And when it’s with Ken, it’s just that much more of a bonus!
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Being "too honest" can be a negative thing. It's more about the inability to read a situation / person / context and saying things that may come off harshly or seem judgmental/offensive to others. She's not saying she's a good person. She's not saying she's better than anyone. She's not saying she's always right. If anything, she's admitting that she is still learning how to communicate in healthy ways.
I love both Ken and Pewds. Been watching both for years. In the interest of education though, ADHD, like genuine diagnosed ADHD is far more serious than most people realise. The whole trend of self-diagnosis is making it be downplayed when in reality it seriously affects people's ability to deal with day to day life. That comment of "it's just ADHD" comes from a position of unknowing, I know there's no malice behind the comment I just wanted to highlight it though as many studies are putting ADHD as just as severe or more so than Autism (obviously not in all cases.) For anyone else who maybe didn't understand I hope this made sense and offered some extra insight to what is a very very long rabbit hole to delve into. :) Other than that, loved the video! Ken and Felix chemistry is just perfect as always haha
As someone who was diagnosed ADHD and then a year later with the 'tism. There is a distinction between the two and they both can be debilitating alone or together.
But it is called a spectrum for a reason. Some experience it far greater than others and ones ability to mask or even unmask can make all the difference in how they are perceived compared to how they are.
@@PoPcheesemo Yeah I completely agree! I think the years of people thinking ADHD is just "bouncing off the walls hyper" and the 'tism is just "Socially Awkward" have done a fair bit of damage in people's understanding of both issues.
I have ADHD and honestly believe I have the 'tism too, though haven't been tested yet. You find that when there's one of them, often there is another. That can be Depression, Anxiety, Social Anxiety, Low-Self Esteem, OCD, Perfectionism but commonly as it's now being termed AuDHD which is, like you, have both Autism and ADHD.
I think the point that a lot of people miss is the point you mentioned about the spectrum. Everyone thinks the spectrum of Autism is just "What type are you?" i.e. Asperger's, when in reality that gives only half the story as it doesn't explain the different levels of severity, the relationship between that condition and other conditions that are suffered and in general the person's ability to deal with them which is obviously made up from a plethora of factors.
As I mentioned it's such a deep subject and there's so much to learn, I believe I've only scratched the surface in the few years I've been learning about it all but I've got a far greater understanding of myself and my brother who is AuDHD as well as others who suffer. Though I wouldn't wish it on anyone, it definitely feels far less lonely to realise there's many people that struggle with similar things.
Overall though, I think it's important for people like yourself and I to talk about our experiences to educate those who don't understand if they want to learn. I'm personally always happy to sit and talk with someone about anything that might help them understand themselves or the people around them.
Thanks for sharing :) I hope this continues to help people understand more :)
yeah adhd is pretty severe for me. i am so hyperactive, mindlessly running and stimming, always fixating on things, always losing track of time. i starve myself because eating a meal is hard, every month i have a problem with my kidney because i dont drink water, i cant sleep, grocery shopping is hard, sunlight and car noises and carpet textures are ruining my life. i am disabled, simple as that. and everytime i tell about a good strategy that works for me people will downplay my situation, they'll say it's in my head, just get rid of distractions. they dont know i got rid of my tv and i dont use twitter or instagram. i live a minimalist life to have some control of my life. they're ignorant, and self-righteous too. it's a nightmare really.
Agreed!! I think Ken and Felix are struggling most with the brutal honesty of the new generation. Mental health is now so important in some peer groups that it's a first date convo topic, like your job, your family, where you grew up, what you do in your spare time etc. It can be very confronting for people who grew up in times where these topics were much more suppressed. If the youth are comfortable having these kinds of convos and they believe it gives them a stronger foundation and understanding of a possible partner, then all power to them. There's something to be said for getting it all out there early on!
Yes yes and important to add that self-diagnosis is super important because it most countries the waiting list to get a diagnosis is counted in years so if you want to help yourself that’s the only way you have.
"Don't say it Ken let's just move on"
The Button's casting director has to be going to psychologist's offices for these people.
I will say when I got with my boyfriend I was completely upfront about all my things... that way he could know before we started our relationship. It's the healthiest choice I've ever made and this is by far my healthiest relationship.
Thats how I do it and it works out much better that way
That is how I do it too as I have a number of long-term mental health issues which will make a relationship difficult.
@@zaraandrews600 Me as well, I don't want to stress anybody out with my problems, so I make sure to lay out the prominent problems so they can decide if I'm ok!
I’m excited for pewdiepie becoming a dad 🥺 it’s so sweet that they’ll both be dads, I know they’ll be great fathers
I'm scared for the child.
Felix has said a lot of scary things about kids in the past.
Giving them dogfood and wanting to hurt them.
I'm scared for the kid.
@@blackdynamite_5470 bro ☠️
@@blackdynamite_5470 Did you know wet dog food is basically the same as processed human food? The sauce on their beef stuff is the same sauce as in salisbury steak. (I got experimental once as a kid because the sauce smelled TOO similar and I had to test it, LOL). People can have dark humour and still not abuse children. They're called JOKES for a reason--the funny part about it is that it's not something you're supposed to do, lol.
@@blackdynamite_5470 dog food is good enough for dogs why not kids lmao kidding but I’m sure he was joking about all that, hopefully anyways lol but I’m not gonna make assumptions on his parenting ability based on some jokes he made.
@@blackdynamite_5470 What is this, slam poetry night? You just gonna open and close with "I'm ~*-=scared=-*~ for the /||child||\" like u writing a dark Dr. Seuss AU 💀
Frankly I'm not gonna side with the mf who has a "Pubic Face" playlist on their channel
"love don't judge, but we do!" My husband and I constantly say that dating seems terrible. No wonder so many people are still single, dating sucks
I hope nobody thinks these speed-dating shows are accurate to the overall dating scene, though 😅
Don't people go on those shows precisely because they feel shut out of the dating pool?
As someone trying to date now, it really does.
I’m a firm believer that if you are going through a lot of personal problems/hate you should focus on healing and loving yourself before entering a relationship with anyone because then you focus on pleasing them/showing them affection rather than showing acceptance and affection towards yourself.
Some people need others to find themselves and their self worth though, it really depends. But yeah I agree for the most part.
@@kawaii_nyan what If relationship ends and the only source of self-worth was found through it? As a result you’d feel even worse than before the relationship
@@pb542 🤷🏽♀️
@@pb542in that case, you're just f-ed either way.
Counterpoint: it is impossible to accept or show affection towards oneself.
Ken teaching Felix dad jokes is so wholesome 🩷
Ironically one of the most toxic button episode I've seen so far lmfao. Absolutely unloading tons of heavy personal shit on someone you just met is actually super fucked, and is super manipulative even if you dont intend it to be
Yes! He could've just said he has emotional baggage. A simple answer to a simple question, and the heavy stuff might have come out gradually if they got to know each other.
Makes me glad I'm currently in a happy relationship, going back to dating seems like one of the 12 labours of Hercules at this point lol.
There was originally 13 labors of Hercules. He failed to understand women. :-)
I know, right? I got so lucky with how romance kinda dropped into my lap with sudden attraction to a long-time friend that happened to be mutual. We got to skip the awkward dates and tentative getting-to-know each other questions ahahaha
You didn't skip it though
It's nice of Ken to shine a light on smaller channels.
This episode of the button is a lot more...personal....than previous ones. Loved the dad jokes from Ken and Felix.
I'm always the happiest when Ken and Pewds make videos together!
What, you don't like Buffpro? You fatphobic or something? Y'know, fat people can be as funny or even funnier than skinny people...go to therapy. For shame.
Thank you Ken for mentioning self diagnosing and how repeated it is. I was diagnosed at age 5 and the last 3 years due to tiktok has been extremely negative and impactful in receiving any understanding from friends or the general public/medical staff when I mention I am autistic and I need some extra support/patience and time to process and comprehend certain topics. You usually get the eyeroll, like "you don't seem like you have autism" which in itself is an incredibly awful insult. Autism is not a common thing and it is not something you can self diagnose. 1% of the world's population is diagnosed. That is not a lot at all. Symptoms of various mental health conditions do cross over quite a lot. What one symptom for a certain condition is, can be the exact same as another condition. It's so deflating.
I agree. This is often why I'm frightened to even tell anyone I'm autistic even though it would be so much more kinder for them to know I'm just socially braindead and it's not actually because I don't like them. But I'm too scared they'll think I'm just a self-diagnosing poser even though I have the shitty papers and the shitty clusters of symptoms to prove it. I was only diagnosed at 19 due to being female and in the UK and I could actually get help. I think self-diagnosers feel like it's great because they get to say they have this illness and get all the excuses and attention from it, but they never actually have to deal with any of the negative symptoms because they don't even have it. I'm okay with my life but I'd trade the negative symptoms of autism to a poser anyday
I get that the numbers of self diagnoses have spiked but that doesn't mean no one should self diagnose. Doctors widely accept self diagnosis, and if someone has truly looked into and researched it and feels like they are autistic, and see a doctor about it, there's a good chance they ARE autistic. There are also instances where they might have ADHD or something else, but if they talk to a doctor it would get straightened out. I'm self diagnosed because I have tons of aligning behaviors and social struggles, the same ones that got my brother diagnosed. One more thing, an official diagnosis could hinder some people. It could close previously open doors or limit some things for them. It is over self diagnosed but that doesn't mean no one should do it.
I’ve been told by three separate psychologists that they suspect I’m on the spectrum, but my regular therapist said at my age it’s not even worth it to get a diagnosis because there are so few supports for adults. I don’t go around telling anyone I have autism for that matter, but that doesn’t stop me from using the same coping skills recommended to diagnosed people, and the idea that it’s my brain wired differently is a comfort over feeling like I’m behind or like there’s something wrong with me. but I know how frustrating it is how a lot of people seem to wear it like a badge of honour when that diagnosis has been a source of pain for so many people.
Part of the reason why so few are diagnosed "officially" with autism is also because 1. it is a spectrum, so it is very individual how it shows, and diagnosing it takes a lot of time and effort and sometimes resources that arent there. 2. the first official autism diagnosis didnt happen until 1943. It is a very new diagnosis, and it is only starting to come to light how many people (especially women) have been misdiagnosed with various mental illnesses, when they were in fact autistic. 3. waiting lists for getting a diagnosis can be excruciatingly long, and sometimes the consultations are extremely expensive. Self diagnosing is of course not something to be taken lightly, but it can also be a helpful tool for actually autistic people to find a community and resources.
Tf what's autism?is like saying some people are a little special?
6:21 I love how both Ken & Felix share the same braincell 😂
Was it that it kinda looks like a Hitler mustash? Lol
@@Crouton- i didnt even think about that, but its a pretty good guess
@@Crouton- lmao I can’t unsee it now 😂😂
@@Crouton- she looks like that tiktok kid that thinks they're hitler
They have a covalent bond
As someone who has both adhd and autism, we have to throw it out there because we are judged so fast and it’s so hard to make friends. It’s mentally exhausting to never fit in
I understand this so so much. ❤ wish we could pull together real life community.
It was a joke bro
@@Geoffdejefe joke or not, good to educate for those that don't know
trying to fit in by telling people about your medical diagnosis is not trying to fit in, it's the exact opposite of trying to fit in though. Like, people can tell you are autistic most of the time, just like how a disabled person in a wheelchair also is obvious. They don't make it a topic when ever they meet new people though.
@@InvadersDie literally, like even just throwing it out there is fine but making it an entire conversation and a big deal is what makes it weird. Like pretty much everybody knows and understands what autism is these days. There’s really no need to educate people that didn’t ask for it or even say anything wrong.
16:50 as an autisitc that got her diagnosis at 23... I say "I am autistic that why this ist hard for me/ I feel this way... etc" whenever I really want a person to understand me. If that person understands me, really ME, then I do not have to mask -> making my life easier.
Autism ain't real stfu
I can’t wait for the day that ken, pewds and buff pro all make a video together !
There must be a reason they haven't
I think it's just the timezone thing
They are in 3 different timezones so yeah I would go with that too.
Why? Buff pro usually has nothing to add. He just makes simple remarks according to whatever Ken initiates. No offense to him, still better than no one being there.
"What are you looking for?"
"The $50 I get for being here."
@1:48 - When I am super nervous, like anxiety is getting up, my stomach tends to twist, it's one of those feelings, and usually it's not farts that end up coming out, I tend to have to calm down or get to the toilet.
"I knew Mary was the one when she hit me with this: 'What's brown and sticky?' 'A stick.'"
Goals. I remember when she made content too, I miss her and hope she and the kiddos are doing well. It feels like it was just yesterday that Raph and Layla were running around in her vlogs, they're such happy little ones and you guys are such loving parents🖤
Been watching about 10 years lmao
I don't need a Ken video title to tell me I'm going to be single forever lmao
You won't be single forever
Someone someday will love you
@@blackdynamite_5470 It's difficult to believe that when nobody so far has even tried. The world is filled with selfish and degenerate people. It's like looking for diamonds in the mud. If there is even one, who deserves it? I've personally stopped wasting time searching. I just don't even think about it anymore. I've got plenty to keep me busy and satisfied with being single.
@@Lord_Shadowfang literally same
Preach. 😅😅
Idk if it's just for UA-cam or what but the way y'all bounce off each other is so entertaining
I feel like stuff like this is really hard to navigate for the "older generations" or people who don't like being forthcoming with personal information. Growing up, we never spoke about mental illnesses, sexual preferences, or even job titles. Now if feels like everyone is a "as a *enter whatever here* person/job title I *enter whatever else here*" person. I can see how it's uncomfortable or invasive for some folks.
Yes, I'm 39 and it's fuckin WEIRD to me. It's probably why I only hang out with old people lol. They can have a good time.
@@RobertMorgan haha! I'm 30 and even I find it to be weird as hell. I really enjoy older people. They're so funny!
i think some younger folks can relate too, cuz we grew up around parents and grandparents whose lifestyles haven’t been affected by modern society. like im gen z but im ashamed to be one because im lumped in with all these weirdos.
I totally get that. I'm 22 and kind of like the generation we got going on tbh. I find others interesting and like to hear about people's personal stuff. The more personal, the better. I don't promise to open up about anything tho, lol.
Oh believe me it's a super red flag. It's emotional manipulation, that last person manipulated their way into a date.
But many people don't realize because of their social programming or they're too afraid to call it out.
Everyone is so desperate for friends and community apparently they just tell strangers all their deepest problems.
If misery loves company, in these days how are so many people lonely, lol?
As miserable as people seem, every should have company.
Turning your problems into your identity seems to an easy (even encouraged) trap these days
It's almost as if being upfront and honest helps the other person make a more informed decision about if you'd be a good match or not 😱🤯
@@mongoose9851there’s a difference between being upfront and trauma dumping. This generation clearly doesn’t know the difference.
@@mere7583 an even more widespread trap that have gotten way more is the idea of thinking you should judge or have opinions on anything. Even things you have no idea of how works or things you haven't even studied right. On both sides. It's almost as if people just don't want their safe little snowflake fairytale world to crumble to reveal the truth.. There are others who aren't like you out there.
This is the most video of all time.
Edit: also Pewds trying his best to stop Ken from saying anything remotely cancellable 😂
I love just watching how the boys watch the videos. Ken pinches his lips while Felix pushes his mouth and nose with his finger, and also their occasional smirks and expressions of disgust...
I’ve started noticing too 😂
I hope you two make a podcast together one day...y'all never fail to make me laugh
YES i miss the BroKen podcast lol
They totally should
Dadcast soon, I believe
Dad podcast
@@RealisticFiction2 Yeah I thought they used to have one but wasn't sure, wasn't that like almost ten years ago?
6:20 were they thinking about the Austrian painter 💀💀💀
“Don’t say it Ken, let’s just move on.”
😂😂😂
Just as Ken was saying "you partner's like, I wanna take a dump on you", my kitten shit itself in the background.. S tier comedic timing.. 10/10
I like how Ken just went "Okay alright, the peeing on people is not for me" and Pewds is just screaming on the other side, trying to comprehend reality.😂😂😂
Please keep reacting with each other more! Best of both worlds right here
if something is a huge part of your life & effects the way you socialize, it makes sense to let the person know i guess. 🤷🏼♀
but sometimes people will just announce things, out of context can be frustratingly annoying.
Ironically autistic ppl are more likely to do that as they struggle with social cues and “reading the room.”
Exactly! The cognitive disabilities and diagnoses can be mentioned after the stranger is already comfortable vibing with you. Announcing it right away just throws them off and makes them feel like they have to walk on eggshells to avoid being insensitive.
the amount of times ive replayed pewds saying don't say it ken lets just move on, because I keep breaking out into laughter, I'm in tears
"Don't say it Ken, let's just move on" I THOUGHT OF IT TOO 💀
I just wanted to say (as a person who was diagnosed with adhd) I will always tell someone new that I’m meeting for the first time. It’s more of a comfort thing since kids with adhd usually get told they are annoying or too much. So I’ll always tell someone this is my situation, if I get too much or talk too fast please let me know as I’m not aware. So a lot of the time (for someone who is diagnosed) it’s a way of feeling was anxiety about coming across as too much.
When I get my ‘official’ diagnosis for seasonal depression, I’m also going to call myself epically depressed. Thanks, Ken!
PewDiePie and CinnamontoastKen is the best combo on all of the internet.
Trueee 💯
Nothing tops buffpro and Ken in my opinion 😂
Yay just came here to say this too!!
Just a couple of dads hangin out
Yeah ken and buff pro is the best combo
Pews is ass lmfao
16:25 "just adhd" it affects people differently, and there are different stages to it..........
I was diagnosed by medical professionals here in Sweden, was diagnosed with ADHD + on the "tism" spectrum, and untreated adhd almost ruined my life, it's horrible.... it has made me develop severe depression, anxiety and extremely low stress-threshhold.
im honestly quite disappointed pewdiepie didnt seem to understand this or jump in to correct the commentary since jacksepticeye and markiplier were both diagnosed with adhd, and while pewds doesnt talk too much to mark anymore, he definitely does to sean.
@@nyct0phile yea but they also mask it quite well, and they are successful youtubers, also their adhd can be lesser than it is for others. but yea, its sad to hear pewdiepies take on adhd struggles as "just go do it, lazy" :S
Ken ," Do you how I knew Mary was the one. She asked What is brown and sticky? then took a dump on me"
Mentioning if you're ADHD or autistic isn't quite the same as vegan and crossfire. Those are things that they chose to be a part of. Autism and ADHD people tell people that they are because we often have to explain ourselves to other on why we do things the way we do. The reason it's coming up more recently is because people have spread more awareness of them so people who didn't realize they were adhd but constantly struggled with daily tasks finally have their diagnosis they needed. Its sorta the same thing as if someone has a physical disability like cerebral palsy or other similar disabilities, if you asked them to do a task they can't, they may tell you they have the handicap. Same with autism and adhd, we are explaining ourselves
I spent over a decade in severe depression.
I think explaining that "before the last year or so, I haven't existed, or been capable of existing in society.." is a pretty important thing to let potential partners know, out the gate.
A lot of people aren't as receptive as you might think to mental health struggles. Best weed them out as soon as you can.
Ken telling the sweet story of how Mary won his heart with the simple genius joke is the most adorable and wholesome thing I have heard all year 🥹💖🥰 I love it!!!
I will ALWAYS love CinnamonToastKen and Pewdiepie content, it's been that way since I was watching Pewds years ago. Wait. How did they meet I wonder...
Probably from their gaming channels.
They met at an Eyes Wide Shut party on the Epstein Island
Way way back in the day they used to play games together
Pewds hosted a shout out competition on his channel in 2011 and Ken was one of the winners. That's how their friendship began.
I can't imagine not being self aware enough to know why may not be the best person to date. Like even when you improve, good mental health is knowing your failures.
That's just it, they think they are best around. Nothings ever gonna keep them down.
Meanwhile normal people are like can I fix this, can I fix that? How can I improve to Improve my own odds?
17:05 I’m glad you say you believe them, because a lot of people are not diagnosed as a child. It is extremely difficult to get a diagnosis as an adult and at a certain point, unless you are looking for services, it may not be necessary. The last 20 years of research has deeply broadened our understanding of the autism spectrum. I say this as a person who has autistic friends, an autistic partner, autistic family, autistic coworkers, and autistic clients. I say this as a person who may have benefited from a diagnosis but as a girl in the early 2000s, doctors didn’t see the symptoms they see in young boys and didn’t get one, despite all I struggled with. I am glad that people feel confident to acknowledge their diagnosis and not mask themselves for neurotypical people
6:35 I was expecting her to repeatedly push the button while yelling NEIN NEIN NEIN NEIN not gonna lie.
18:06 at this point my thoughts were like "it would be freaking hilarious if she smash the button with her forehead while holding the other person hands..." 🤣
God I was panicking just listening to the convos, wish more people would speak openly without having to worry about what they are saying it’s crazy how careful things become
The dad jokes were the best part of this video and I really needed them so thank you Ken, Felix and of course the Queen of the channel Mary ❤
as pewds said "don't do it Ken, let's just move on" i clapped my hands in a motion of "come one, let's go" like i was thinking the exact same thing.
A slight resemblance to a failed austrian painter
I won my fiancé over through puns, and I fell in love with his passion for conspiracy theories. (He’s not the tinfoil hat type who uses vpns and refuses to own a cellphone, we think it’s fun to think “what if..” about stuff.) I still remember the first pun I ever told him, it made soda come out of his nose and I thought he was drowning. A magician in Mexico was gonna make himself disappear. He held out his hand and counted down- Uno! Dos! But then he was gone without a Tres
using a vpn makes you too crazy lmaooo
Pee girl is really picky without having any grounds to be lol
The pierced girl looks and sounds like this girl I used to know. Since I haven't heard from her in years, this is canonically her from now on.
15:40 the anger lmao I was cackling when Felix called his bluff
Ken and Pewds have great chemistry, I love their collabs
I hardly tell anyone of my disorders because I don't like it when people immediately feel like they need to give me pity. I hate it that's why I keep it to myself. I also don't like taking meds and I face it head on. I'm not disabled!
This is kind of long but it has an important point so if you want to be a better person in life and learn to be more compassionate to others, i suggest you read.
tbh sometimes when i meet new people (usually not on our first encounter though) i will tell them about my actual diagnosed autism because sometimes autism can create misunderstandings and in telling someone I'm usually hoping that they will remember and if a misunderstanding happens they'll choose to act more mature and with more compassion and come talk to me about it instead of choosing to internalize anger towards me about whatever happened and either avoid me, treat me badly, make assumptions about me or talk shit about me to other people. Tbh i cant say it's actually worked a ton bc people tend to be avoidant of issues and choose to be poor communicators regardless of a person's disclosed autism. but I still tell people sometimes in the hope that it will make people act more compassionate or understanding because for me and sometimes for other people with actual autism, having it can make just living life and social relationships really hard. I feel the need to tell people because the kind of autism i have (there's a whole crazy spectrum, literally no two autistic people are alike) is the kind where people cannot tell that there's something wrong with me/ that i have autism, i just sometimes can say things in complete innocence that piss people off and they just assume that i say things with spite and am a bitch who doesn't care about other people's feelings (being unaware that my autism makes it so that I'm not always aware of the connotations my words can have), but in all honesty I'm the complete opposite. I get very very upset when i learn i upset someone because it's never intentional and i really care about other people's feelings more so than the average person i think, and if other people just came and told me how they felt about things, then i would sincerely apologize and work to never say anything similar again, but people don't do that. Because people are avoidant of confrontation and not open about their feelings, I'm usually left to try and notice if they are acting strangely around me or if their facial expression changes in a negative way (which can be very difficult for autistic people to do) and confront them myself in an effort to keep a friendship/ new relationship going well, but even when you ask people if they're upset about something, people usually lie about it, stew about it, and then either write you off, gossip about it and make it harder for you to make friends with others, or lash out about it towards you later. I've been severely bullied and mistreated by people many times in my life due to people not coming and openly talking to me about a simple misunderstanding, so that's why someone with autism may tell you about their autism. This is just my experience. People may tell you about their autism for many reasons because all autism is like so unique, but keep in mind that maybe someone is choosing to be vulnerable and tell you in an effort to not get hurt again.
I agree that it's a bit odd for people to introduce themselves as "hi I'm so and so and im autistic and also here's all of my other issues" though because that's like trauma dumping and generally having disabilities does not make a person desirable, so if you do something like that it's going to make people think you're weird and not want to be around you. Also i think its weird when people say they have a bunch of disabilities that are self-diagnosed. It's like that person thinks its cool to wear my actual struggles as a badge of honor because they think being "neuro-divergent" sounds cool. Anywhooo, i kinda said a a lot here but my point of saying it was to explain to Ken or Pewds or whomever sees this why someone with something like autism might come out and tell you about it early on in meeting them and that you shouldn't really make fun of that, It's kind of hurtful. Because when i do that, I'm trying to make my relationships go smoother than the ones I've had in my past that have hurt me significantly.
Like i said i get why Pewds and Ken were making fun of some of the stuff in this video, i would too, particularly the poser/disability honor badge sort of behavior, but in some parts it seems kind of mean spirited towards people with disabilities. I just would like them to be aware of that. I've been watching both of their channels religiously for about ten years now, Ken is probably my favorite youtuber, so idk i guess it makes their negativity towards people like me/ people with disabilities hurt a bit more. Like would they make fun of me and think I'm a loser because of my autism too? :( thats all.
Dating isn't dead, only a part of your soul is when meeting someone for the first time and deciding if you'd wanna be part of that person's life.
Okay you just met chill tf out 😂
Seriously chill 😂😂
Ken is the only youtuber I get excited for when I see a 20min video
10:39 the dress that girl with glasses wear looks something so similar to table cloths my grandmother use to have in her house😂😂😂
It’s actually good to let people know about your behaviors and tendencies beforehand so nothing gets lost, confused, or misinterpreted in the conversation. A lot of times, people with autism can tell they’re “different”. Diagnosis isn’t always easy to obtain as some people might not have health insurance, some people might live in a household that is abusive and/or doesn’t believe in modern medicine, mental health care, etc. And also, in some states in the US, having an official autism diagnosis can restrict certain rights. For example, in my state, it will ban someone from receiving gender affirming care. Although, I do agree in the fact that it’s kinda ehhhh when people without an official diagnosis confidently go around stating they have XYZ mental illness/disorder. There are people out there who say it without understanding and it can diminish public perception of the illness/disorder. I usually just very briefly explain what is normal behavior from myself whenever I catch myself doing something that could seem “off” or someone else does.
Oh Thank Goodness, I'll Stick To That But I've Been Finding Some REAL BAD Ableist People In This Comment Section (And Most of Them Claimed To Be AUTISIC THEMSELVES????) They Said It Was Truma Dumping-
I Was Definetely Flabbergasted O.o (But Yayyy Thank You For Your Beautiful Comment, Have A Swag Day!!)
I mentioned to my coworkers n people im sure to continually interact with that I have adhd and suspect on im on the spectrum. I say it so that they understand why I act off sometimes or need to ask a question 500 times, or why I go silent for a long period of time. Ive had people ask me why im so weird or assume that im being rude or purposely not paying attention and its always uncomfortable.
R u retarded?
So I'm 27 and have a 1 and a half year old daughter. My go to dad joke has to be, "what's blue but smells like red paint? Blue paint" 😂
I love when reno wasn't able to answer 'do you find her attractive'. The non binary person wasnt able to answer a binary question. It honestly wrote itself that one.
Fr 😂
More like one was a biological female and the other was a transgender male
@Beast Mode binary= 0,1 non-binary= not 0,1 (....maybe)
@Beast Mode i never understand why people ask a question to strangers like "what is x?" when GOOGLE IS RIGHT THEREEEE smh
@beastmode9576 Gender is usually assumed to be binary, men, and women.
Non-binary people are those who don't fit neatly into those two categories. They may identify as a mixture of the two, neither, or even their gender changes over time.
It's an umbrella term for those whose gender doesn't align with the binary options.
Girl surprised me, she can actually sing Jazz.
Ahhh yes, the Alt episode on The Button wound up being the wholesome episode. Literally no one was trigger happy with the button. Nice and respectful all around
nothing about this was wholesome are you insane? they went from people "collecting lovers" to people wanting to pee on others. and that doesn't even touch the crazy
I'll admit, the word 'wholesome' did not come to mind while watching this video...
As someone who has a diagnosis for autism I don't see any similarly between myself and the people who keep diagnosing themselves I generally keep to myself
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Good man~
Well I mean do you because you’re joining the “as an autistic person…” bandwagon and this is exactly what they were talking about…
@@alimckinney7407 well no I actually have a special piece of paper and went to special needs school.
@@pokeman747 i also have the special piece of paper and not everyone that has it got it by acting the exact same. i get that people self diagnosing can lead to set backs but also not believing anyone that says they are just bc they don’t act the exact same way you do is also setting back. like if they’re faking, that’s their problem and insecurity to be different so it’s better not to feed into it and give them the attention they hope it gives them.
22:36
When he moved, she was jumping at the button, then realised he didn't go for it.
The dad jokes were the best part of this for me. I'd love to seeba dad joke off between these two.
By stumbling around so much with an answer, Ken is clearly curious about having someone pee on him
Don't knock it til you've tried it, Ken! ;)
@@alyssaapocHe should definitely try it and do a follow up video. We deserve it. C'mon Ken!
In my experience, the reason most of us don't pursue an autism diagnosis is bc it takes years to even be considered, it costs a few thousand dollars over the course of those years, and having a diagnosis actually limits a ton of things available to you such as, adoption and in a lot of cases when you have kids, social services will get involved just bc of your diagnosis
Ken is definitely a ✨certified dad✨
These shows make me so thankful I'm married 😩
For now.
I totally understand where ken is coming from with the autistic bit. Im now diagnosed, but i always felt i was different. Not like im something special or great, but like when i was born theres a 2° difference, and now that ive lived 23 years my trajectory is way off.
If you have 2 people stand at the same point walk in a straight line, but have 1 of them walk at 0° and 1 of them at 1° after 3 hours there will be about 3km between them. (Might help with my analogy)
Agree. It feels like everyone else is a cat, and you're a dog wearing cat ears and trying to retract your claws. For a long time, you don't realise, but everyone else definitely notices something is off and you're excluded or treated differently as a result. But I think a lot of people mention they're autistic so others can realise WHY their behaviours are different. A lot of autistic behaviours can be seen as deceitful or bizarre by neurotypicals, like avoiding eye contact, monotonous speech, not adhering to small talk rules, so mentioning it can give a better reason to neurotypicals rather than making them guess and assume that you're purposefully being shifty or rude. The cats can then look at you and say, ah, you're a dog, that's why you don't knock things off the table with the rest of us, rather than thinking you're a shit cat.
@emstink there's rules for small talk?
@@emstink o.o
@@emstink Best Anlagoy EVER
At 1°, they would diverge by 1 km every 57 km they walked. Even at 20 km per hour, it would take nine hours for them to diverge by 3 km.