Ask These Calibrated Questions to Get a Raise

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 271

  • @_henry_alvarez_
    @_henry_alvarez_ Місяць тому +1400

    I’m a simple man. I see JP in sunglasses. I click the video.

  • @callum7081
    @callum7081 Місяць тому +488

    Peterson about to explain the metaphysics and ethics of drip with that thumbnail 🔥🔥🔥

  • @mikedav178
    @mikedav178 Місяць тому +228

    never i'd expect Mr.Peterson wearing aviator glasses for a thumbnail lol

  • @ejiroigbesoko
    @ejiroigbesoko Місяць тому +15

    "How can I be guaranteed to be involved in projects that are critical to the strategic future of this organisation?" Just brilliant; love it!!!❤

  • @HelloWorld-lv4we
    @HelloWorld-lv4we Місяць тому +85

    Your production team deserves a raise lol

  • @raphaelfeneje486
    @raphaelfeneje486 Місяць тому +232

    Badass thumbnail 😌

  • @missreia
    @missreia Місяць тому +99

    That shot is gold, sir!

  • @balsaaa
    @balsaaa Місяць тому +129

    Editor pushing elite thumbnails

  • @marcosnz19ify
    @marcosnz19ify Місяць тому +40

    I was all that in the conversation, did everything the right way without really knowing but landed in a bad company that drained all my best qualities. Currently trying to work myself back to who I was. Thank you for all this content.

    • @PsychologyDeepDive
      @PsychologyDeepDive Місяць тому

      You’ll get there. Some of these companies are parasites that attract unethical parasites as managers

    • @TheZeroLatitud
      @TheZeroLatitud Місяць тому +6

      Shitty companies tend to burn out their best talent. Hopefully all you need is a place that shows appreciation so your old qualities can make a comeback.

    • @user-pf1lq1rh5n
      @user-pf1lq1rh5n Місяць тому

      So did I

    • @Wodenson5150
      @Wodenson5150 Місяць тому +2

      I may be in that company your looking for. They exist, so keep faith. Be sure to shop your employer for how their values align with yours. Wishing you luck.

  • @agusrusso6087
    @agusrusso6087 Місяць тому +56

    I couldnt resist to JP with glasses I had to click

  • @claytonkramer7234
    @claytonkramer7234 Місяць тому +54

    The thumbnail 👌😂

  • @Philipruss
    @Philipruss Місяць тому +5

    “The fact that you don’t have alternatives doesn’t change your value to the company” - more people need to hear this

  • @JoyAdebambo
    @JoyAdebambo Місяць тому +63

    Lol I know Mikhaila is behind that photo caption

  • @BoBoZoBo
    @BoBoZoBo Місяць тому +2

    I first discovered Jordan over 10 years ago. My wife was in a point of her career of taking the next step it didn't really have the tools to negotiate. One morning I'm listening to npr, when the new station was still worth anything, and there is Jordan Peterson talking to the reporter about his experience with powerful female executives, and the disparity with most negotiation advice which is written by men for men and how women need to recontextualization. It was an aha moment that my wife used to her advantage and has been using ever since in her career.
    Here we are a decade later and the same very news organization is one of the many idiots calling Jordan Peterson a woman hater.
    I'm sorry to see this happen to you Dr Peterson. Just know that your advice continues to help millions.

  • @Razear
    @Razear Місяць тому +46

    "If you don't give me a raise, I'll leave." The irony is that most employees are too timid to ask their boss for a raise precisely because they're afraid of souring the mood at work and risk being let go. In today's job market, people are more concerned about retaining their job than increasing their salary. Very few actually have the optionality to leave for a different employer without having to risk economic precarity.

    • @brando3342
      @brando3342 Місяць тому +8

      @Razear Exactly what I was thinking, and am experiencing. Another point is, employers risk very little by letting you go, even if you are in an "important" position, because there are SO many people who will take over the same position, and do just enough that the employer can consider hiring them. The threat to leave has absolutely no teeth at all. You could be the hardest, most competent worker, and it wouldn't matter. If they don't want to pay you more, you might as well just leave if somewhere else will pay better, or stay and not poke the bear.

    • @susanstewart1402
      @susanstewart1402 Місяць тому +7

      @@brando3342 I agree. You don't have that conversation unless you already have something else lined up and are willing to leave. You can ask nicely as in, I really like working here, the team and the work are great, etc. but I am getting offers and the difference in pay is substantial .. can you consider matching in or coming closer? However, at the end of the day, if they don't value you enough to consider these possibilities ahead of time and pay appropriately, then they are either uninformed, stupid, arrogant, greedy or something else equally unflattering. Such behaviour doesn't bode well for their future success. The only reason to stay would be seniority connected to a pension or other benefits, and that would be compensation that needs to be taken into your calculations.

    • @Monaleenian
      @Monaleenian Місяць тому

      ⁠@@susanstewart1402They might not be uninformed, stupid arrogant or greedy. It might just be the case that your job is only worth a certain amount to them and they’re not willing to pay more than that amount. Just like a very expensive restaurant might produce a fantastic meal but most people would probably not be willing to pay for that meal every day of the week, despite its great quality. They might be happy with a microwave dinner or something equally cheap but sufficient. It’s not because the person is stupid, greedy, arrogant or uninformed that they choose to forgo the meal in the expensive restaurant.

    • @randyscorner9434
      @randyscorner9434 Місяць тому +1

      I disagree. The key is knowing what you can contribute and you don't know that until you look at other job openings. People who are open about wanting higher salary and working toward it are easy to work with. I've often been able to find a next career path for an employee to keep them in the company as good performers. There are always those who will go elsewhere, but the cost to the employer of training and integrating a new employee is very high. Certainly not true for burger flipping, but very true for any skilled position. That's why you always need to be improving skills.

  • @dadadadave9652
    @dadadadave9652 Місяць тому +8

    Sorry, I gotta point it out to those who don't know; that's Chris Voss, ex-FBI #1 hostage negotiator!
    Check out his book, Never Split the Difference!
    2 of my favorite intellectuals having a discussion, it's absolutely magic!

  • @TheXxxeeelll
    @TheXxxeeelll Місяць тому +5

    Love the pen in the hand. If it’s a psychological “trick”, it works 🔥

  • @tomasalexandrugrigore5770
    @tomasalexandrugrigore5770 Місяць тому +52

    Rapper Peterson Thumbnail 😂

  • @GrooveSchoolRecs
    @GrooveSchoolRecs Місяць тому +3

    GOLD. Appreciated, thank you.🙏🏽

  • @randyscorner9434
    @randyscorner9434 Місяць тому +3

    Excellent advice. In particular your boss often does not know what you're really doing. A key milestone in any career is the first change of job after starting your real career. One has to know that their value is what they contribute, not what someone else thinks of them. I love the term "don't take yourself hostage".

  • @6YoungAngel9
    @6YoungAngel9 12 днів тому

    This are the type of conversations that adds meaning and purpose to ones life.
    And im all in. 💯

  • @doasthouwilt543
    @doasthouwilt543 Місяць тому +2

    My favorite thing about Jp is his ability to let people shine, he knows when to interject and when to let who he’s talking with talk.

  • @FedeManBCN
    @FedeManBCN 28 днів тому +2

    Epic. Just epic conversation, material, advice... Call it what you want, for me this response is epic. Thanks for sharing.

  • @Purplethoughts8
    @Purplethoughts8 Місяць тому +5

    That last 2 min such great info 👊🏻

  • @dewdusmaximus7692
    @dewdusmaximus7692 27 днів тому +1

    The timing of this appearing in my feed is impeccable.
    Fantastic content as always, JP!

  • @ericscott5895
    @ericscott5895 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you for another positive and insightful discussion. 🙏

  • @santiagocastillo5697
    @santiagocastillo5697 Місяць тому +5

    ¡Gracias!

  • @g.m.5590
    @g.m.5590 Місяць тому +11

    Great timing, thank you for this 🙏

  • @yacinezahidi7206
    @yacinezahidi7206 Місяць тому +2

    JP, more courses like this one please !

  • @howardmoon1234
    @howardmoon1234 Місяць тому +1

    I followed every step of this (before seeing this video). Started the conversation last summer. Heard a lot of lip service about my contribution, but no firm commitment for anything to change. Crucial part was at the very beginning: be ready to leave if you can’t come to a mutual agreement. I’m starting a new job in the coming months, at over 20% more than I’m currently paid. My bosses said they were gutted I was leaving. Go figure

  • @alexwalpole4202
    @alexwalpole4202 27 днів тому +1

    Jordan Peterson is Mr Rogers for adults. Love him ❤ 😊

  • @MosesMoss-uy8sd
    @MosesMoss-uy8sd Місяць тому +14

    Jordan Peterson in aviator glasses? He’s got suits already, bros aboutta have a monopoly on drip.

  • @radomone
    @radomone 26 днів тому +1

    Thank god my coworkers at my new job completely accurately show the work I have been doing and its value.

  • @marioskomnos4661
    @marioskomnos4661 21 день тому +1

    Jordan Peterson discussing with Chris Voss.. man! You have my full attention!

  • @ShaneSchimpf
    @ShaneSchimpf Місяць тому +3

    Great video. Being successful in any negotiation requires first knowing the value you bring to the table. Funny how something so simple doesn't just resonate in you until you realize it. I especially liked the analogy of being held hostage by your wage, skills, etc. I'd call it being hostage to comfort which is something I think everyday people tend to struggle with. Contention isn't something I'm personally happy with, but to each's own.

  • @AaronButler66
    @AaronButler66 Місяць тому +8

    I saw the thumbnail and immediately had to double-take and break out laughing 😂😂😂

  • @Lwrfriday9195
    @Lwrfriday9195 Місяць тому +1

    Great advise

  • @michaeledgell8789
    @michaeledgell8789 Місяць тому +1

    Two of my favorite people.

    • @lovegodfirst654
      @lovegodfirst654 Місяць тому

      What I hate to say is this idea of starting with shit with promise of future incentive is a ploy that everywhere that has nurses does. Nurses almost never get these incentives at a later time. Includes sign on bonuses, promises of yearly raises, all sorts of stuff. The market is saturated with broken promises. I've learned, start me out with what I'm worth or learn to deal with crap I signed on for. Had nurses working for 20 years at places making more than $10 less per hour or worse than brand new grads. Only way you get raise is if at least 3 conditions are met. 1. You let em know you are walking. 2. You are invaluable to them. 3. They can't find a replacement. That's it. To say you lack motivation unless you make more are firing words. That's how cutthroat nursing is and that's why a lot leave.

  • @1FrenchConnection1
    @1FrenchConnection1 16 днів тому +1

    Great to see Chris Voss! Love this negotiation skills!

  • @RawrLadyfingers
    @RawrLadyfingers 23 дні тому +1

    The thing that Ive experienced with negotiating move up opportunities is that recruiters will tell you just about anything you want to hear when it comes to your future in the company.
    And when sitting down for the employment contract theyll tell you that theyre not able to make adjustments to the contract as everyone gets the same. Especially for larger companies.
    You have to take what theyre telling you at face value most of the time.

  • @flashwashington2735
    @flashwashington2735 Місяць тому +1

    Thanks gentlemen.

  • @damianh9747
    @damianh9747 Місяць тому +3

    He’s like Mike from Breaking Bad

  • @user-um9sl1kj6u
    @user-um9sl1kj6u Місяць тому +13

    Beware of cyber criminals that will manipulate online.
    Don’t ever negotiate online or over a phone

    • @Supreme_Lobster
      @Supreme_Lobster Місяць тому +2

      hes talking about negotiating a salary

  • @gmurtaza
    @gmurtaza Місяць тому +1

    Chris Voss ❤ the master negotiator! This guy is amazing.

  • @TiagoRamosVideos
    @TiagoRamosVideos Місяць тому

    👌

  • @parasocialbondsmetaswvoits9078
    @parasocialbondsmetaswvoits9078 Місяць тому +8

    this thumbnail is fire

  • @hartekunst554
    @hartekunst554 28 днів тому +1

    Didn't expect to see Voss!

  • @silvioricob
    @silvioricob Місяць тому +1

    The video discusses strategies for negotiating a raise, emphasizing the importance of being in a position to say no, understanding one’s market value, and presenting a case to the boss.
    1. Negotiating a raise requires being in a position to say no and understanding one’s market value.
    2. It’s important to ensure that the boss knows the value of your work and what you can offer.
    3. Presenting a case for advancement or a raise should also consider the boss’s perspective and what’s in it for them.
    4. Instead of taking oneself hostage by feeling limited to one job option, ask calibrated questions to create thoughts in the employer’s mind.
    5. Prioritize needs and wants, and consider alternative ways to negotiate for better financial returns.

  • @northwestWW
    @northwestWW Місяць тому +3

    If people weren’t in debt, aka hostages, they wouldn’t be so fearful to negotiate for themselves.

  • @hendy24
    @hendy24 Місяць тому +1

    I love how the thumbnail is JBPs Shadow coming put

  • @Batmancontingencyplans
    @Batmancontingencyplans Місяць тому +1

    That Professional shoot was lit Mr.J

  • @munyumbamutwale2985
    @munyumbamutwale2985 21 день тому +1

    1. Tell Your Boss What Value You Currently Bring
    2. Tell Your Boss What the Organization Stands to gain from your raise

  • @alexeidragunov4534
    @alexeidragunov4534 Місяць тому +2

    Couldn’t resist the sunglasses😂

  • @jamshedfbc
    @jamshedfbc Місяць тому +1

    Reminds me of Derryl asking for raise from Michael in THE OFFICE 😂

  • @MicMan123456789
    @MicMan123456789 Місяць тому +2

    All this sounds great until you actually get an offer from a company and it’s just a letter from some corporate HR person, and all communication is though email. They have no power and can just answer questions and maybe forward requests to someone you’ll never see.
    This whole thing ignores that this process has purposefully become less personal.

  • @bigwex1805
    @bigwex1805 Місяць тому +8

    Thumbnail drip 💀

  • @KaiGuyGD
    @KaiGuyGD Місяць тому

    YOOOO THAT THUMBNAIL FIRE AS FUCK 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @RubberTag
    @RubberTag Місяць тому +1

    Yo, that thumbnail though.
    Fire mr J! 😤🔥🔥💯

  • @turbanheadless
    @turbanheadless Місяць тому +4

    Did he just get off his motorcycle? 😂

  • @RadiantLight
    @RadiantLight Місяць тому

    Nice save on the “or her” Jordan! You’ve learned that one the hard way 😅 Great Advice 😇

  • @AbelAk-yn7zr
    @AbelAk-yn7zr Місяць тому +3

    The glass were interesting, I didn't even see the video title 😂

  • @paradiseisland786
    @paradiseisland786 Місяць тому +2

    No matter what you, or one must make some significant meeting with you're supervisor, or CEO, and then go beyond the 100% level, unfortunately far too many super's, of bosses will take advantage of your state of mind. Far too many corporation's people think everyone in replaceable, that's utterly insane, no one is replaceable.

  • @yakalb93
    @yakalb93 Місяць тому +1

    Thumbnail 10/10 💯🔥🔥

  • @ikinubrian
    @ikinubrian Місяць тому +1

    Love the thumbnail 🔥🔥🔥😂❤️❤️

  • @KrioMsc
    @KrioMsc Місяць тому

    Thumbnail goes hard 🔥

  • @aidenmarshall6478
    @aidenmarshall6478 Місяць тому +3

    I’ve never been more influenced by a thumbnail in my life

  • @Wodenson5150
    @Wodenson5150 Місяць тому

    "Go into the negotiation with the 'i'll quit if you don't etc' card in your back pocket for the confidence of it" only works if you've proven your asset value to your employer either directly or indirectly(i.e. through supervisors, coworkers, clients, etc.). You need to prove that you've affected the bottom line in a positive way somehow.

  • @cpt.tryhard6554
    @cpt.tryhard6554 Місяць тому

    Oh it's Chris Voss! TBSG are absolute legends!

  • @jamesbrodie2307
    @jamesbrodie2307 Місяць тому

    2d course or more kinda like my side gigs 😅enough idea inception. Maybe a certain math 🧮 oversight.

  • @Christ_on_the_River
    @Christ_on_the_River Місяць тому

    How similar are calibrated questions in negotiation with interpretive questions in conversation-based learning?

  • @ravedave3633
    @ravedave3633 Місяць тому

    9:37

  • @dmitriypushkin8895
    @dmitriypushkin8895 Місяць тому +2

    In my view if you are truly professional the salary is the least aspect of the negotiation as you would know what you worth by that time. I would try to learn if 1. core business model is viable 2. the team is professional and motivated 3. internal processes are organized effeciently. These factors will have most impact on whether work experience will be rewarding. I guess if you are professional you already know that. Peace and prosperity to everyone ✌

  • @aimhigh3701
    @aimhigh3701 Місяць тому +2

    JBP bout to drop a new meaning vinyl with that thumbnail.

  • @justincintron5903
    @justincintron5903 Місяць тому

    🎯🎯🎯🎯💯

  • @DarrenAllatt
    @DarrenAllatt Місяць тому +1

    If you published via video all of the business stuff that you did that would elevate you to the next level
    That would get you doing “Coaching, mentoring, consulting” with some of the biggest corporations
    You should also put all of this stuff into Online video courses with written components they would fly off the shelves

  • @spitalhelles3380
    @spitalhelles3380 Місяць тому +1

    You'll either get a raise out of them or you'll get a raise out of them.

  • @Mike__G
    @Mike__G Місяць тому +1

    We assume that we’re negotiating with reasonable people and good will. I discovered early that good employers care about you but only to a point. If you “screw up in reverse” by getting into something highly useful to the employer that they will not promote you beyond, often the only way up is out.

  • @williamkroll7928
    @williamkroll7928 Місяць тому +2

    The best peterson thumbnail of all time 😆

  • @elizabethdelatorre9019
    @elizabethdelatorre9019 Місяць тому +1

    The picture would make a fabulous phone case.

    • @PsychologyDeepDive
      @PsychologyDeepDive Місяць тому

      There are many potential products to make with it 😂

  • @weLiveInSociety
    @weLiveInSociety Місяць тому +1

    *Damn, that thumbnail goes hard. Didn't expect it.*

  • @PsychologyDeepDive
    @PsychologyDeepDive Місяць тому +1

    New Jordan Peterson album dropping: Aviators and Metaphysics (the psychology of cool)

  • @owena3896
    @owena3896 Місяць тому +4

    "Suck up to the right people". That is the only lesson you are qualified to teach

  • @christopher2206
    @christopher2206 Місяць тому

    Great advice if you are interviewing with a leader and not a gatekeeper. Most companies are a wreck these days.

  • @sandoncrowder7839
    @sandoncrowder7839 Місяць тому

    I was not prepared for the Willy Wonka sunglasses JP 😂😂

  • @Tom111Tom
    @Tom111Tom Місяць тому

    Based Shades ! Based Suit !
    😎

  • @Wadmd
    @Wadmd Місяць тому

    I'm seeking a demotion. There was a handshake for two expectations. I've satisfied the first expectation, and the second has been hindered due to those above me. I negotiated, and the deal is not complete, yet the expectations exist. So I defer to half of the expectation as I have received half of of the expectation with the responsibility. Travel on light feet with documentation my friends.

  • @xzjulius
    @xzjulius Місяць тому

    That thumbnail was fire lmao

  • @genecatan3565
    @genecatan3565 Місяць тому

    😀

  • @WilliamZey
    @WilliamZey Місяць тому

    Sublime thumbnail 💪

  • @dangerousmenedits
    @dangerousmenedits Місяць тому +2

    Dr Peterson can you make a video on how to keep society progressive

  • @anytayatyta
    @anytayatyta Місяць тому

    Couldn't resist the shades...

  • @50_Pence
    @50_Pence Місяць тому

    I going for a job putting a plastic toy in a cereal box tomorrow. Will use this info.

  • @CarsAndBasss
    @CarsAndBasss Місяць тому

    That fuckin thumb nail 😂😂😎😎🙌

  • @DTheHAge
    @DTheHAge Місяць тому +1

    I watched his program on Masterclass and was really disappointed, because it was teaching very basic stuff. And some of his techniques, like repeating the last few words of your partner, will even backfire if your partner has advanced social skills.
    Jordan already said what he explained in the first few minutes in minimum another video and this advice got me way further than the multiple hour course on Mastermind.
    Don't get me wrong, the course is not bad. It's just not for the upper percentage, because he forgets that a hostage situation is very emotional and there simple techniques of listening are needed, while a discussion about your raise is usually more about arguments for your worth and demonstrating that you understand complex problems.

  • @jorjicostava3018
    @jorjicostava3018 Місяць тому +1

    😎

  • @ichbingenug3565
    @ichbingenug3565 Місяць тому +1

    I’m a simple woman. I see JP in sunglasses. I think: Oh man, is he vain! I click the video.

  • @jeffw5733
    @jeffw5733 Місяць тому +2

    I need the thumbnail on a poster

  • @ahwass4989
    @ahwass4989 Місяць тому +1

    the thumbnail is a great callback to the old JP Fan Channel days

  • @TruthSubjective
    @TruthSubjective Місяць тому

    Professor cool 😎 🔥

  • @ty63t0
    @ty63t0 Місяць тому

    Maybe these tips work in the US, but here in Europe, the only way I've ever gotten a raise is to find a better workplace first, then tell my current employer. They then instantly promote me to whatever position the competition offers