These aren’t techniques anybody would ever use. Unless your are a guy who grew up with immigrant parents. You’re a phantom citizen of American reality. A sissy who is recommending utter nonsense.
Asians are friendly but not social. They don’t play sports but study too much until useless advice like this comes as a result. Their parents originate from oppressed countries.
@@AxiomHandpans I know right, especially when you get called out by another Alpha in the group who's not afraid to speak up and you get put in the spotlight making the situation worse.
I use the "I'm sorry what you said was really interesting" bit at bars to talk to new people. It's hard not to overhear in social environments. So, it's a good ice breaker. and the exit..
This day I was at a Party and got bored for some reason and just poofed... then I kind of became addicted to it. Got bored... poof, disapear. Awesome trick.
@@hittheclub50deep31lol I agree I don’t know if these introverts understand how a normal conversation goes. If someone talked to me like that with that tone and turn around and walk away lmao
Public speaking content is helpful but this is 100x more helpful!! I have less trouble speaking from a podium than making small talk with strangers. It’s so freaking hard!
You might not necessarily be boring though. I tend to take at least a sip of water even when the person/topic is interesting. I just want to do a "side action" while listening. For me it's taking sips 😅
I would rather just say I'm out of water without saying I'll be back if my intention wasn't to come back. I try avoiding giving people false hopes because some people are in such a bad condition that you might be the only hope they have so taking this away from them might hurt them badly. If you know you might not commit to something. It's better to say you're considering it or giving it some thought or maybe instead of lying. Treat people the way you want to be treated. 😊🤗
And in that spirit I just walk away😂 I mean sure sometimes I’ll be holding an empty drink or something so they can see I’ll be back but for me, treating others the way I want to be treated involves not bothering the group with any sort of excuse for leaving and just walking away
Thank you!!! I used to have a friend that would end every phone call with something about calling me back later. But she never would. Mind you, she was the one who called me. Its not like i was just a clingy friend. But i just finally picked up on the fact that she would always say that. “Let me call you back” doesnt always mean that with some people apparently. Literally just say “okay mice talking, gotta go”. Like don’t make it extra complicated and confusing for people who don’t understand these unwritten social codes.
Cheatcode to never getting a girlfriend. You come in super submissive and apologetic for no reason into a conversation. Looking like a fool and zero value rat.
Does this actually work for introverts? It works for this guy because hes oozing charisma. He pretends hes awkward when hes the exact opposite. Truth is any type of entrance would work for this dude. Someone with actual social awkwardness could not pull any of this off.
I do this!!! At work. I HAVE to greet people all day who don’t want to talk to me because I’m the “sales person” I just go heavy on the goofy and humble energy which thankfully I’ve been blessed with a lot of it. However, I’ve also have a lot of knowledge to balance everything. Always learning about everything I can that will possibly benefit myself and the people I meet then I research the conflicting information to know if any of the previous helpful information is flawed.
As an introvert the barrier is to 1. Interrupt people when your voice is quiet 2. Being ignored because of your small presence 2. The thought of people raising eyebrows when you interrupt them
Yess. Sometimes the person or people I’m talking to don’t hear me, and someone else does, and I get embarrassed because I don’t wanna look weird saying hi or bye 3 times lol.
It isn't you who is wrong. The event, the type of people (audience) and the place may be wrong for you. I do not longer try to force barriers. I pick events that interest me and I feel comfortable in being present and enjoying myself. In that way, people "see" me and speak to me easier, "invite" me into conversations (or not). Letting go of the need to pretent someone I am not, is liberating and I save a lot of energy. Being polite is key everywhere. But I don't have to change my personality type for that or to feel less worth. And other people being rude or insensitive does't mean that I'm the one that has to feel bad! If I am not welcome, I just walk away ("Excuse me!" - and don't wait for them to respond, just leave), because that group would not be good or interesting or developing in any way for me anyway. Discover your strenghts as an introvert and let that knowledge build your selfconfidence. And being "not loud", does'nt mean "shy"! It means being "reflecting" or "polite" or "tuning in" or many other good things, that are invisible yet important. Or it just means "I don't care, but I don't have to tell that everybody". 😂
@@alexasophieridderstrom2631 you arent wrong. However, sometimes you need to become a different version of yourself to achieve something that otherwise you will never be able to achieve
What is labelled as being introvert, really is being a shit scared life. I'm a life, you're a life, everybody is a life. The thing is when your mind works against you - trying to predict a future that hasn't even happened, or remembering a past that does not exist anymore - it doesn't allow yourself to live the situations as they are, or how they could potentially be. Instead you make yourself a concrete block, based on whatever your mind is scared of, trying to engage in a constant evolving life process. Trying to be in the moment isn't gonna help you either. Because life is not a successions of one moment then another one where you choose to be in one and forget to be in the next one. Life is an eternal moment. It is just evolving constantly. You being scared is just you not allowing youself to evolve with it. It's like this : You are in a boat that you cannot get out. You encounter a beautiful island and you choose to drop anchor so you can enjoy the view. But the island starts running away. Because actually the anchor is an illusion. You can never settle anywhere, its not that you shouldn't (as some pro mindsetters could present it) it just that it is impossible. The moment you try to drop anchor, tension happens. So don't try to keep it between your arms it's too much effort, you just have to come to the realisation that there is NO anchor. The moment you accept the impermanence of life and try to see it everywhere in every aspect of it, its true beauty will reveal itself to you The mind is like the sky, the thoughts are clouds. They are just passing by. You have to allow them to. If you let them grab you, suffering will happen but if you watch them, and accept them true freedom happens.
what he said about halfway through is 100% true. most of the people you'll see on any given day you probably won't ever interact with again so you can just try something like this and not really have to worry about lasting impact
Having a drink in hand helps a TON. It’s not even because it’s alcohol (although most of the time it is) just having a place for your hands and something to do (taking a sip). Conversation gets quite, take a sip and there’s no expectation for you to be the one talking… because you’re taking a drink
I realized that every social encounter is completely different and having a premeditated conversation ready to go like the gentleman in the video can only get you so far. At parties, I usually tend to vibe by myself if I do not know everyone. I enjoy dancing by myself, but I’m open to people joining me. If people enjoy your vibe and energy, they’ll be attracted to it and will likely join. Social gatherings where no dancing is involved, I usually scope out the conversations. (Intently listening) It’s pretty easy to tell if it’s a conversation that will appease you or it’ll bore you. Choose wisely there because if it’s usually a conversation that appeases you, for the most part, you’re already on the same wavelength. Reading the room and energy is a big one! We live in a time where instant gratification is a big part of our lives, and we’ll completely bale out of conversations that aren’t exciting to us, but I try not to. Try to learn something new from a conversation that is completely alien to you. Be inquisitive and ask questions, Be genuinely curious and interested about learning new things and people for the most part will be open to teach you and explain things that they’re usually passionate about. It’s okay to say “could you explain that in baby terms” I learned a lot about stocks at a party one time 😂 I was genuinely interested. Some other person thought me about vectors since he was a physicist, and I was excited about the upcoming Oppenheimer movie 🍿 If you’re a guy trying to get laid, women pick up on that from a mile away and usually it’s a big turn off energy. I have learned this happens when you both hit lighting in a bottle, and these situations are mutual. My experiences aren’t textbook, but I hope you all found it interested nonetheless.
Here’s a good exit. Walk away. Here’s another on, “bye everybody.” Here’s another one, “thank you.” Here’s another one “I love you.” Here’s another one, when someone else walks away, also walk away.
How ablut just being straight and honest with each other? I have seen people do the "toilet" trick and I have seen others just say "Alright, I'm gonna walk around a bit, see you!" The first ones I despise, the latter ones I respect. You decide, who you want to be.
Well it depends. On some social situations (say: university blokes) will not treat you minimal-requirement-well the next time if you just say sincerely that you leave, Specially in a country like Colombia where manners have to be sweet and like: oblique. You cannot say you don’t care. Bc instead of being seen as some sincere person, and being admired for that, You will be seen as someone who harbors some secret hate or hatred (example: to your studies’ companions: classmates etc.) and thuuus will be super rejected and your action of “leaving sincerely” will be amplified as being unsincere for something else (of being the cover for something bigger.)
We really do take things by the wrong end. This guy even has made it his job, it's mindblowing. Why not just accept the situation no matter how it is ? Or just accept the fact that you want to hear a conversation, or leave a conversation ? Don't try to justify everything in your life because anyway you don't really know all the forces engaged when you take a decision. There is always an emotionnal part of life. And emotions don't need to be explained or justified. They need to be lived and feeled, that's how they resolve themselves. Just be entirely yourself, not only the parts you like or you think people will like. Of course it doesn't mean you have a right to make other people accept your emotions. They can accept them or reject them. And they will. Not everybody is presently capable to deal with anything. Just live life people
Nowadays anything can become skill and there is lesson for all kinds of unnecessary things Be yourself and learn yourself, that’s the only advice you need
Wow I never realized that I did this just out of habit. Frankly it’s been nice for avoiding many sensitive topics in case I ran into a conversation of one
I like a lot of your advice but do not agree that lying is ever good. There are good ways to do it while also being honest on my opinion. Nice talking to you, I’ll see you around
You could enter the conversation and become the life of the conversation. You can't leave when the conversation gets boring because you're the pillar of the conversation. Leaving would break the bond immediately Seed dispersal!!
That entering a conversation awkward energy is 100% how the British built an empire. But we did it to entire countries and never left when their faces looked like we weren’t welcome.
The thing is, extroverts or people like this guy who know how to 'engineer' social situations seem to don't know that... introverts know what you're doing. We're good at spotting actually genuine approach or talk. That's why I'm a boring introvert. I just don't get along with fake stuff.
I find these natural enough and do them myself sometimes the only drawback is as others have said, is that in his examples you're lying and you might be taking on a character. If this is your entry way into socializing then great since it gets you going in the right direction. But in my opinion isn't the final level. Even though it's uncomfortable and you'll be scared, like all great new learning experiences tend to feel, practicing being honest without being a dick is preferable. There's no mental gymnastics or wondering why you said what you said. Also there's so many cultures, customs, upbringings, stages of learning/understanding, temporary life situations with elevated emotions/feelings (or complete lack of), that you don't really know what you're going to meet.. sometimes you don't know that you're giving it off. I think it gets unnecessarily convoluted, frustrating, and often times leads to mistranslations(misunderstandings) when people say things just to "be nice" or you have to translate meaning based on your understanding and not the other person's own words. I don't consider myself shy, I do what must be done to achieve what I need to achieve, and when I encounter uncomfortable territory I think "this means I'm in the right place". My mom told me as a child "you are who you want to be", meaning you don't have to believe any intrinsic things about yourself, you don't have to give in or run away from being uncomfortable, you actively make the choices that lead to what you want.
I've always been very fortunate and have never had a problem with conversing... I'm just a people person, I could talk to anyone anywhere about anything. However I can NOT do public speaking 🤷🏻♂️ Pros come with cons I guess
These type of people are so obvious in real life. You can tell they are trying their hardest to be likable. People, don’t fall for this, you’ll come off like you have a lil bit of the ‘tism
Adhd autie here who never learned social interactions as a child because crying in a corner only teaches you kids are cruel. Never learned how to not be awkward but you taught me in this 1 video, why in a whole lifetime of sadness and rejection, no one taught me these things. Because most adults also don't know. Everyone is just bumbling around and the fact that you can make a video about this shows, we all don't know unless we study humans.
Also, a great tip for any one trying to leave a conversation where you have your phone available; have a fake phone call app downloaded and have it “call” you (not instantly of course). Works flawlessly every time.
Meanwhile people like me who don't care what people think, just say what was on their mind without rehearsing it. I've noticed people tend to respect that more.
This guy has some overconfident guru energy. The advice isn't even useful, even harmful. But the confidence someone can get from feeling like they know what they are doing is.
Just be a normal person and walk up to the group, say hi and introduce yourself and ask politely, “mind if I join in your conversation, I overheard you were talking about ‘x’ “ then say a fact about ‘x’ to keep the conversation going. You don’t need to always act like an aloof stumbler or act to get out of things.
My mom always said I was too chatty and expressive. My friend says (as a witch), I am Openness, I am Expression, I have a yellow aura. i am oppenness and warmth to the core. And now, whenever My mom (or the ghost of her words in my mind-core) is criticizing me for wanting to talk to strangers, I will be able to say: I AM NETWORKING
As a manager I’ve come across people who use this method, and let me tell you 9 out of 10 times I find this to be a red flag for someone who is disingenuous. There is nothing more refreshing then someone who is authentic. I’d rather help someone who is awkward but real in their approach than that fake overly energetic stepford wife approach.
"Hi, nice to see you again. Unfortunately, my bladder is about to explode. I'll be back in the room" *true story and an accidental "social skills unlocked"
1. What about people who actually wait for you to come back and hold you to it, then you have to have a whole conversation 2. What about social media conversations and email conversations that are little more casual
... or you just express yourself respectfully. Many people are simply overly sensitive to strangers by default, as an emotional reaction. But there is nothing wrong with wishing to respectfully integrate into any scenario as long as you're socially aware you may be intruding. You don't need a trick, or to seem like you're someone you're not. Just genuinely care about everyone involved and their opinion and you'll probably be okay in most scenarios. Why be fake?
To leave a conversation: Just narrate what you will do next. "I'm going to go get some water." "Oh, I need to talk to Jessie over there, excuse me." "I have some schoolwork that needs to be done by midnight so I should get going now."
I'm so bad at this. Inserting, I just stand on the side awkwardly until someone notices and looks at me weird. Exiting.... I just slowly back away and disappear
I would rather say I have to leave than lying and not coming back, I'm kinda surprised by this advice The object in hand when you don't know what to do with your hands is very good though. You immediately feel less insecure (especially if you hold a gun)
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I like a lot of the advice you give but I must disagree with telling white lies to leave a conversation.
These aren’t techniques anybody would ever use. Unless your are a guy who grew up with immigrant parents. You’re a phantom citizen of American reality. A sissy who is recommending utter nonsense.
Asians are friendly but not social. They don’t play sports but study too much until useless advice like this comes as a result. Their parents originate from oppressed countries.
@@AxiomHandpans I know right, especially when you get called out by another Alpha in the group who's not afraid to speak up and you get put in the spotlight making the situation worse.
I use the "I'm sorry what you said was really interesting" bit at bars to talk to new people. It's hard not to overhear in social environments. So, it's a good ice breaker.
and the exit..
I'm an introvert and the drink method works 100% of the time.
Same here man 😅🤣🤣
@@madhavdua1246 we have all the tricks figured out 😂
And you stay hydrated too 😂
@@cla0095 exactly 💯💪😎 😂
it really works. everyone knows youre just giving them the bird but they accept it lol
This man is single-handedly reducing the global awkwardness percentage.
nah now its just awkward people over laughing with objects in their hand
@@saulverastegui9147 Thanks for the laugh, I'm out of water. Brb
Haha. Good one.. He's indeed amazing. 😊
You sure are fun mate.@@saulverastegui9147
hes teaching corporate cringe
Bros done a PhD in ghosting 💀
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@@eleegalz Oh My! Never expected this to blow up... Thankss!! (θ‿θ)
@@not._.unknown #GHOSTIN #DemonsRow
This day I was at a Party and got bored for some reason and just poofed... then I kind of became addicted to it. Got bored... poof, disapear. Awesome trick.
As a dehydrated, socially awkward person: this video is like an angel sent from heaven 😭❤️
This would make you annoying
Fr.
Imma have to start using this technique as well😭😂👍🏾
Me too 😂
@@hittheclub50deep31lol I agree I don’t know if these introverts understand how a normal conversation goes. If someone talked to me like that with that tone and turn around and walk away lmao
@@astloom8903Hey...i took that personally.😂
I'm an extrovert who unfortunately can be quite awkward in certain situations, so this was super helpful
I’m exactly Like Thiiiis!
Public speaking content is helpful but this is 100x more helpful!! I have less trouble speaking from a podium than making small talk with strangers. It’s so freaking hard!
My foolproof exit line is "I just remembered that my dog is on fire and I have to go." You can use it.
You forgot to add "take a dump" to the end as a cherry in top lol
@@DrokkBr000 better, really TMI it: "I have do a POO"
“I need to return some video tapes”
I actually laughed out loud with that one 🤣 Does it work substituting other animals or do you find "dog" to be most effective?
@@KatieM786
I just remembered that my penguin is on fire. And as you probably guessed, they don't do well in the heat.
And you necessarily don't have to come back 😂
Copying what he said in the video and you still got it wrong. Nice job
@@tobymacdonald5893I didn’t think bots could get it wrong, might be a yt first
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Yeah, however most of us made the leap, & understood the subtlety😂
@@tobymacdonald5893What did he even get wrong? He was just laughing as so the audience.
@@racingpenguin1.
Listen to the video again.
Read the comment again.
Notice the difference.
If someone drinks a lot in front of me, I will know I’m boring. 😅
*Takes a sip
You might not necessarily be boring though. I tend to take at least a sip of water even when the person/topic is interesting.
I just want to do a "side action" while listening. For me it's taking sips 😅
Takes a sip*
Takes a sip*
Im out of water (im not coming back)*
I would rather just say I'm out of water without saying I'll be back if my intention wasn't to come back. I try avoiding giving people false hopes because some people are in such a bad condition that you might be the only hope they have so taking this away from them might hurt them badly.
If you know you might not commit to something. It's better to say you're considering it or giving it some thought or maybe instead of lying. Treat people the way you want to be treated.
😊🤗
Yeah, I also need a hug from time to time.
Agreed
And in that spirit
I just walk away😂
I mean sure sometimes I’ll be holding an empty drink or something so they can see I’ll be back but for me, treating others the way I want to be treated involves not bothering the group with any sort of excuse for leaving and just walking away
Very true
Thank you!!! I used to have a friend that would end every phone call with something about calling me back later. But she never would. Mind you, she was the one who called me. Its not like i was just a clingy friend. But i just finally picked up on the fact that she would always say that. “Let me call you back” doesnt always mean that with some people apparently. Literally just say “okay mice talking, gotta go”. Like don’t make it extra complicated and confusing for people who don’t understand these unwritten social codes.
The way Vinh says "I'm very good at this" before he begins explaining. So confident and calm in his mastery.
A good friend who eases that transition for you from being on the outside of the conversation to working you into it 😊.
i feel like this is a cheat code
It is lol
Was just about write this
Welcome
Cheatcode to never getting a girlfriend. You come in super submissive and apologetic for no reason into a conversation. Looking like a fool and zero value rat.
Does this actually work for introverts? It works for this guy because hes oozing charisma. He pretends hes awkward when hes the exact opposite. Truth is any type of entrance would work for this dude. Someone with actual social awkwardness could not pull any of this off.
Best channel I've subscribed too. He doesn't even talk down to you or at you when he's explaining stuff. This guy gets it for real.
I do this!!! At work. I HAVE to greet people all day who don’t want to talk to me because I’m the “sales person”
I just go heavy on the goofy and humble energy which thankfully I’ve been blessed with a lot of it. However, I’ve also have a lot of knowledge to balance everything. Always learning about everything I can that will possibly benefit myself and the people I meet then I research the conflicting information to know if any of the previous helpful information is flawed.
As an introvert the barrier is to
1. Interrupt people when your voice is quiet
2. Being ignored because of your small presence
2. The thought of people raising eyebrows when you interrupt them
Yess. Sometimes the person or people I’m talking to don’t hear me, and someone else does, and I get embarrassed because I don’t wanna look weird saying hi or bye 3 times lol.
Wenn du ein Opfer bist, dann bist du ein Opfer! Akzeptiere deine Rolle und hör auf zu Flennen du Mädchen!
It isn't you who is wrong. The event, the type of people (audience) and the place may be wrong for you. I do not longer try to force barriers. I pick events that interest me and I feel comfortable in being present and enjoying myself. In that way, people "see" me and speak to me easier, "invite" me into conversations (or not). Letting go of the need to pretent someone I am not, is liberating and I save a lot of energy. Being polite is key everywhere. But I don't have to change my personality type for that or to feel less worth. And other people being rude or insensitive does't mean that I'm the one that has to feel bad! If I am not welcome, I just walk away ("Excuse me!" - and don't wait for them to respond, just leave), because that group would not be good or interesting or developing in any way for me anyway. Discover your strenghts as an introvert and let that knowledge build your selfconfidence. And being "not loud", does'nt mean "shy"! It means being "reflecting" or "polite" or "tuning in" or many other good things, that are invisible yet important. Or it just means "I don't care, but I don't have to tell that everybody". 😂
@@alexasophieridderstrom2631 you arent wrong. However, sometimes you need to become a different version of yourself to achieve something that otherwise you will never be able to achieve
What is labelled as being introvert, really is being a shit scared life. I'm a life, you're a life, everybody is a life. The thing is when your mind works against you - trying to predict a future that hasn't even happened, or remembering a past that does not exist anymore - it doesn't allow yourself to live the situations as they are, or how they could potentially be. Instead you make yourself a concrete block, based on whatever your mind is scared of, trying to engage in a constant evolving life process.
Trying to be in the moment isn't gonna help you either. Because life is not a successions of one moment then another one where you choose to be in one and forget to be in the next one. Life is an eternal moment. It is just evolving constantly.
You being scared is just you not allowing youself to evolve with it.
It's like this :
You are in a boat that you cannot get out.
You encounter a beautiful island and you choose to drop anchor so you can enjoy the view.
But the island starts running away.
Because actually the anchor is an illusion. You can never settle anywhere, its not that you shouldn't (as some pro mindsetters could present it) it just that it is impossible. The moment you try to drop anchor, tension happens. So don't try to keep it between your arms it's too much effort, you just have to come to the realisation that there is NO anchor.
The moment you accept the impermanence of life and try to see it everywhere in every aspect of it, its true beauty will reveal itself to you
The mind is like the sky, the thoughts are clouds. They are just passing by. You have to allow them to. If you let them grab you, suffering will happen but if you watch them, and accept them true freedom happens.
I'm an introvert, where have you been all my life? I needed this. I'm using this now. And also subscribed for life.
what he said about halfway through is 100% true. most of the people you'll see on any given day you probably won't ever interact with again so you can just try something like this and not really have to worry about lasting impact
I used to think this guy was bs. But having done d2d sales all of his tips are extremely effective
Having a drink in hand helps a TON. It’s not even because it’s alcohol (although most of the time it is) just having a place for your hands and something to do (taking a sip). Conversation gets quite, take a sip and there’s no expectation for you to be the one talking… because you’re taking a drink
I realized that every social encounter is completely different and having a premeditated conversation ready to go like the gentleman in the video can only get you so far.
At parties, I usually tend to vibe by myself if I do not know everyone. I enjoy dancing by myself, but I’m open to people joining me. If people enjoy your vibe and energy, they’ll be attracted to it and will likely join.
Social gatherings where no dancing is involved, I usually scope out the conversations. (Intently listening) It’s pretty easy to tell if it’s a conversation that will appease you or it’ll bore you. Choose wisely there because if it’s usually a conversation that appeases you, for the most part, you’re already on the same wavelength.
Reading the room and energy is a big one! We live in a time where instant gratification is a big part of our lives, and we’ll completely bale out of conversations that aren’t exciting to us, but I try not to. Try to learn something new from a conversation that is completely alien to you. Be inquisitive and ask questions, Be genuinely curious and interested about learning new things and people for the most part will be open to teach you and explain things that they’re usually passionate about. It’s okay to say “could you explain that in baby terms”
I learned a lot about stocks at a party one time 😂 I was genuinely interested.
Some other person thought me about vectors since he was a physicist, and I was excited about the upcoming Oppenheimer movie 🍿
If you’re a guy trying to get laid, women pick up on that from a mile away and usually it’s a big turn off energy. I have learned this happens when you both hit lighting in a bottle, and these situations are mutual.
My experiences aren’t textbook, but I hope you all found it interested nonetheless.
"I've got a weak bladder" no, I think you just chug your water bottles too often
im pretty sure the ''ive got a weak bladder'' was just another example of the types of excuses you could use lol.
All those people that enjoyed the random conversations they had with you and disappointed they never saw you again, are now devastated.
Here’s a good exit. Walk away. Here’s another on, “bye everybody.” Here’s another one, “thank you.” Here’s another one “I love you.” Here’s another one, when someone else walks away, also walk away.
How ablut just being straight and honest with each other? I have seen people do the "toilet" trick and I have seen others just say "Alright, I'm gonna walk around a bit, see you!"
The first ones I despise, the latter ones I respect. You decide, who you want to be.
exactly
Well it depends. On some social situations (say: university blokes) will not treat you minimal-requirement-well the next time if you just say sincerely that you leave,
Specially in a country like Colombia where manners have to be sweet and like: oblique. You cannot say you don’t care. Bc instead of being seen as some sincere person, and being admired for that,
You will be seen as someone who harbors some secret hate or hatred (example: to your studies’ companions: classmates etc.) and thuuus will be super rejected and your action of “leaving sincerely” will be amplified as being unsincere for something else (of being the cover for something bigger.)
Like this bloke won’t be awkward 😂
I took 1 semester of psychology and this is all i pearned. Social cues and how to speak to people. Pretty much the only thing i learned in there
Man i love watching this guy, always can learn something, and its always presented in very interesting way !
Be right back .....my go to phrase ......always works and people arent angry or pissed at you
Changing one's personality is not as easy as it looks. But it is useful to have these tricks up your sleeve.
If this guy is teaching social dynamics and have a following, anything is possible
What do you mean?
@@neelanshukumar4308he got massive beta energy . Also , his example of “ humorous “ energy showed how insecure he actually is , not confident .
We really do take things by the wrong end. This guy even has made it his job, it's mindblowing.
Why not just accept the situation no matter how it is ? Or just accept the fact that you want to hear a conversation, or leave a conversation ? Don't try to justify everything in your life because anyway you don't really know all the forces engaged when you take a decision. There is always an emotionnal part of life. And emotions don't need to be explained or justified. They need to be lived and feeled, that's how they resolve themselves.
Just be entirely yourself, not only the parts you like or you think people will like. Of course it doesn't mean you have a right to make other people accept your emotions. They can accept them or reject them. And they will. Not everybody is presently capable to deal with anything.
Just live life people
The multi person convo where ur standing there and just watching two people talk kills me - this is great lol
I HATE networking (social anxiety yaaaaaay) but I'm an actor, so unfortunately it's a big part of it. THANK YOU FOR THIS.
In Germany, we say "So!" and without finishing the sentence, slap our laps, get up and awkwardly just go away 😂
I like what you say til I heard you say sorry. I know it’s just a thing people say for no reason.
It sometimes helps another person that's already in the conversation that wants to pivot
Nowadays anything can become skill and there is lesson for all kinds of unnecessary things
Be yourself and learn yourself, that’s the only advice you need
Imagine seeing some random strangers sitting 15 ft far from you, and you suddenly barge into them and start talking what they were talking
I suspect I'm ASD or something, and I love these videos. Interaction with people is awful and awkward for me. Vinh is a genius
My dad: "I'm all out of milk, be right back!"
but he didn't necessarily come back.
Wow I never realized that I did this just out of habit. Frankly it’s been nice for avoiding many sensitive topics in case I ran into a conversation of one
I like a lot of your advice but do not agree that lying is ever good. There are good ways to do it while also being honest on my opinion. Nice talking to you, I’ll see you around
You could enter the conversation and become the life of the conversation.
You can't leave when the conversation gets boring because you're the pillar of the conversation.
Leaving would break the bond immediately
Seed dispersal!!
“Oh I ran out of milk let me go buy some”
-Never comes back-
That entering a conversation awkward energy is 100% how the British built an empire. But we did it to entire countries and never left when their faces looked like we weren’t welcome.
The thing is, extroverts or people like this guy who know how to 'engineer' social situations seem to don't know that... introverts know what you're doing. We're good at spotting actually genuine approach or talk. That's why I'm a boring introvert. I just don't get along with fake stuff.
Phonies are conspicuous, memorable and an object of great scorn.
I find these natural enough and do them myself sometimes the only drawback is as others have said, is that in his examples you're lying and you might be taking on a character. If this is your entry way into socializing then great since it gets you going in the right direction. But in my opinion isn't the final level. Even though it's uncomfortable and you'll be scared, like all great new learning experiences tend to feel, practicing being honest without being a dick is preferable. There's no mental gymnastics or wondering why you said what you said. Also there's so many cultures, customs, upbringings, stages of learning/understanding, temporary life situations with elevated emotions/feelings (or complete lack of), that you don't really know what you're going to meet.. sometimes you don't know that you're giving it off. I think it gets unnecessarily convoluted, frustrating, and often times leads to mistranslations(misunderstandings) when people say things just to "be nice" or you have to translate meaning based on your understanding and not the other person's own words.
I don't consider myself shy, I do what must be done to achieve what I need to achieve, and when I encounter uncomfortable territory I think "this means I'm in the right place". My mom told me as a child "you are who you want to be", meaning you don't have to believe any intrinsic things about yourself, you don't have to give in or run away from being uncomfortable, you actively make the choices that lead to what you want.
I've always been very fortunate and have never had a problem with conversing... I'm just a people person, I could talk to anyone anywhere about anything. However I can NOT do public speaking 🤷🏻♂️ Pros come with cons I guess
I absolutely do this! Both things. But the toilet thing is just so legit! VERY natural.
Every clip of yours is a hidden gem.Iam in love with your channel ❤
These type of people are so obvious in real life. You can tell they are trying their hardest to be likable. People, don’t fall for this, you’ll come off like you have a lil bit of the ‘tism
That and haircuts like that 😂 what in the anime
Adhd autie here who never learned social interactions as a child because crying in a corner only teaches you kids are cruel. Never learned how to not be awkward but you taught me in this 1 video, why in a whole lifetime of sadness and rejection, no one taught me these things. Because most adults also don't know. Everyone is just bumbling around and the fact that you can make a video about this shows, we all don't know unless we study humans.
very helpful tactic. I look forward to trying this. I never know how to join a conversation, and gettinging out of f the conversation is equally hard.
Drinking water is such a cool trick. I love it. ❤
Also if u ever are at a gathering and don’t know about giving hugs or handshakes etc… hold a cup in each hand and the issue disappears😃
Has anyone ever told you how much of a genius you are 😂😂😂😂😂
Also, a great tip for any one trying to leave a conversation where you have your phone available; have a fake phone call app downloaded and have it “call” you (not instantly of course). Works flawlessly every time.
Maybe my favorite technique I've seen on here.
The water thing, pure gold.
You don't have to came back 💀... Me waiting for that one friend for 1 hour just because he said he's coming back and I didn't want to let him hanging
That water one is good. Will definitely use.
Meanwhile people like me who don't care what people think, just say what was on their mind without rehearsing it. I've noticed people tend to respect that more.
He's teaching the ditching techniques that us introverts have been doing for years
I’m going to start holding a water bottle everywhere I go.
😂😂😂
stay hydrated, friend
This guy has some overconfident guru energy. The advice isn't even useful, even harmful. But the confidence someone can get from feeling like they know what they are doing is.
😂😂😂😂 I've done the water one, not knowing this was a tactic....😅😅 like the other tips as well!! 🎉🎉
I naturally came across this exiting technique
This seems very effective, good example.
“And u don’t necessarily have to come back” 😂😂
Thanks for the tip , i am going to a family gathering tomorrow and i might need the exit part .
The entrance so was smooth love it
As an introvert person, i do this all the time whenever i felt awkward 😂
Just be a normal person and walk up to the group, say hi and introduce yourself and ask politely, “mind if I join in your conversation, I overheard you were talking about ‘x’ “ then say a fact about ‘x’ to keep the conversation going. You don’t need to always act like an aloof stumbler or act to get out of things.
My mom always said I was too chatty and expressive.
My friend says (as a witch), I am Openness, I am Expression, I have a yellow aura. i am oppenness and warmth to the core.
And now, whenever My mom (or the ghost of her words in my mind-core) is criticizing me for wanting to talk to strangers,
I will be able to say:
I AM NETWORKING
I've never had an original thought - I literally do the drink trick for when there is an awkward silence in any conversation.
*downs a full pint* "aw damn I'm out... Better.. get another"👀🏃♂️ 😂😂
This guy is an expert
Not everyone is a silly nerd where that energy works, though
man, I realized i was subconsciously doing well for entry like that... Always awkward with exit :( Gonna use this method from now on...
As a manager I’ve come across people who use this method, and let me tell you 9 out of 10 times I find this to be a red flag for someone who is disingenuous. There is nothing more refreshing then someone who is authentic. I’d rather help someone who is awkward but real in their approach than that fake overly energetic stepford wife approach.
"I have to return some videotapes" works everytime
"Hi, nice to see you again. Unfortunately, my bladder is about to explode. I'll be back in the room"
*true story and an accidental "social skills unlocked"
Interesting Thank you.
this guy loves himself so much
1. What about people who actually wait for you to come back and hold you to it, then you have to have a whole conversation
2. What about social media conversations and email conversations that are little more casual
... or you just express yourself respectfully. Many people are simply overly sensitive to strangers by default, as an emotional reaction. But there is nothing wrong with wishing to respectfully integrate into any scenario as long as you're socially aware you may be intruding. You don't need a trick, or to seem like you're someone you're not. Just genuinely care about everyone involved and their opinion and you'll probably be okay in most scenarios. Why be fake?
In some countries when the convo is dull, they just walk away without saying a word and I love it
My social anxiety Would NEVER 💀
"How to make that imaginary social spotlight real: An insiders guide to telegraphing how socially awkward you are"
As someone who was born and raised in Asia with zero events like this, just seeing this already makes me so anxious and stressed 😂
You are very animated. Love it!!!
To leave a conversation: Just narrate what you will do next. "I'm going to go get some water." "Oh, I need to talk to Jessie over there, excuse me." "I have some schoolwork that needs to be done by midnight so I should get going now."
I like these suggestions!
I'm so bad at this. Inserting, I just stand on the side awkwardly until someone notices and looks at me weird. Exiting.... I just slowly back away and disappear
Yup 😂
Doing things without saying anything only makes you look weirder. I know how it feels. We have to speak even if we make mistakes.
Such confidence ❤
I feel like the toilet thing is quite overused 😂
I would rather say I have to leave than lying and not coming back, I'm kinda surprised by this advice
The object in hand when you don't know what to do with your hands is very good though. You immediately feel less insecure (especially if you hold a gun)
lol i like this advice. I actually do myself but never notice it.