I have disorganised attachment issues so i tend to be avoidant and super chill then once they pull up i get anxious, resentful and clingy 💔😢 i try to balance this shit out.. it’s hard when all men love to trigger you!
I beg to differ!! If a woman comes along and your Emotional Unavailable...we walk the other way if you can't be vulnerable with us!!! My opinion as a High valued, principaled, moral woman who values her SELF WORTH!!! ... Understand our Human Nature...and Psychology ...We are tired of MENs bullshit!... And if you can't be Truthful with us...we are good on our own. Much Love and Light Peace and Unity Brothers and Sisters of the World
I’m emotionally available, but I require a lot of space and alone time so I come off like I’m not. Last year when I tried dating again I had so many guys get obsessed with me until they got upset when they realized it wasn’t a game and I genuinely just flow through life like that. The amount of partners that got insecure and assumed I was seeing someone else was insane. Meanwhile I’m spending my nights at home bed rotting or having a meltdown I’m trying to hide from everyone. Honestly I’m just convinced I’m just not meant to be in a relationship until I find someone who is secure or doesn’t need constant attention and validation.
Yes yes yes! I think pretty much the same and I can’t stand guys who get insecure just bc you are not texting back in 2 minutes or wants to see you every day. That’s a no for me and it tells me that this person is insecure and wants to fill a void with other people.
@@softlife45 I’m literally built emotionally unavaliable. There are times I do not like it. But I don’t pretend. Others have to pretend to be nonchalant. But whatever makes you feel better.
How to low key deliberately abuse people.. some of these are so crappy. Healthy regulation and pacing yes, learning to love yourself and be internally confident? Cool. Deliberately employing remoteness and intermittent reinforcement just to garner power? - good luck with your karma ! I’d rather just attract people who call value me on an equal basis, which is very different to being purposefully manipulative.
I would like to ask a question OK I am a 49 year-old woman I’ve been dating on and off you know but and I’ve been listening to your videos for older woman how do you go about?
What if we are both emotionally unavailable, because every example that you gave we have both done to each other... we've been stuck to each other for 2 years.... is this an addiction? Because it cant be love, can it?
Ok, aloofness is something i dont have to learn😂 i was surprised many times when a man helped me with different stuff that in reality this was their way to Show me that they want me. I didnt get it.
Idk who Melissa is but it cracks me up everytime he yells at her 😂😂😂.. And im emotionally unavailable but im at peace. I've been thru too much ti be emotional. If someone comes along that i can trust with my emotions then maybe I'll express it to that one person but otherwise 🙄😒😑
He said emotionally unavailable in the beginning of the relationship. After awhile it would become a problem so let your guard down eventually, after he's hooked. ❤
@@DontDooTooMuch You don't let yourself like someone and you don't truly get to know them or make a real effort if you are emotionally unavailable.. emotionally unavailable people also make excuses to end things with a new potential partner.
I beg to differ!! If a woman comes along and your Emotional Unavailable...we walk the other way if you can't be vulnerable with us!!! My opinion as a High valued, principaled, moral woman who values her SELF WORTH!!! ... Understand our Human Nature...and Psychology ...We are tired of MENs bullshit!... And if you can't be Truthful with us...we are good on our own. Much Love and Light Peace and Unity Brothers and Sisters of the World
@constantchange yup! Thank s why I walk away! Either be A Man or stay BEing a BOY who refys s to Grow up and Be ACCOUTABLE for his/ her CHOICEs...they come with CONSEQUENCES!!! Read it from the beginning again! Get REAL and be Authentic...women are tired if Being left for DEAD with Children and MEN laugh??... Thank God there is a GOD that will hold People to Account for what they do and how they live!... And then...don't forget...What goes AROUND, comes around! Call it Karma...Call it Universal and Cosmic Law's...either way... If you can't be Truthful...you aunt gonna survive this Lifetime!... It has been WRITTEN about for MILLIONS of YEARS... Liars go to Hell! Plain and Simple!
Dating is so complicated now. I’m just glad I’m married because this is too much
Honestly
It leaves no room for destiny, or what is meant to be. It has a lot to do with control...
@@shelleysquires7225 Right it sounds so sorry out there 😂
If u married why u here?😂
@@softlife45 This guy pops up on my timeline a lot. I watch sometimes if I’m curious
it's basically just being in control of yourself
I’m an avoidant and men are drawn me to me. It’s so weird that men would think to chase
I don’t think I’m emotionally unavailable but more like I have trouble showing emotions on my face if that makes sense.
I'm here for the chancla 🤣
🫶🏻
Why are you holding a slipper though ..
Because he's Latino lol we love the "chancla"
To spank you 😂
I was wondering about the chancla😭😂
😂😂😂
He’s ready to beat u if u don’t listen lol
that background reminds me of a confession box!!
Hahha yeah where we go to to confess our sins to Father Alex 😂
Father Alex told no lies. Human nature is quite interesting 😅
I have disorganised attachment issues so i tend to be avoidant and super chill then once they pull up i get anxious, resentful and clingy 💔😢 i try to balance this shit out.. it’s hard when all men love to trigger you!
I love the slipper😂❤
I beg to differ!! If a woman comes along and your Emotional Unavailable...we walk the other way if you can't be vulnerable with us!!! My opinion as a High valued, principaled, moral woman who values her SELF WORTH!!! ... Understand our Human Nature...and Psychology ...We are tired of MENs bullshit!... And if you can't be Truthful with us...we are good on our own. Much Love and Light Peace and Unity Brothers and Sisters of the World
It's "bet to differ"
@@_Diaryofwealth lol...meh! Whatever!...
@@_Diaryofwealth it's beg to differ sad your parents didn't get you a quality education
I’m emotionally available, but I require a lot of space and alone time so I come off like I’m not. Last year when I tried dating again I had so many guys get obsessed with me until they got upset when they realized it wasn’t a game and I genuinely just flow through life like that. The amount of partners that got insecure and assumed I was seeing someone else was insane. Meanwhile I’m spending my nights at home bed rotting or having a meltdown I’m trying to hide from everyone. Honestly I’m just convinced I’m just not meant to be in a relationship until I find someone who is secure or doesn’t need constant attention and validation.
I relate so much to this!!!
Same
Omg yes. Some of us are like that, but they think we pretend. And it’s not like we do not like the other person, we are just chill.
Same!!
Yes yes yes! I think pretty much the same and I can’t stand guys who get insecure just bc you are not texting back in 2 minutes or wants to see you every day. That’s a no for me and it tells me that this person is insecure and wants to fill a void with other people.
Some people fake it. I can’t help it. Im actually built like that. Sounds like either fearful avoidant or avoidant attachment symptom.
If u were truly built like this u wouldn't have to say it lol nice try
@@softlife45😂
@@softlife45 I’m literally built emotionally unavaliable. There are times I do not like it. But I don’t pretend. Others have to pretend to be nonchalant. But whatever makes you feel better.
I just love the vibe. The hair, the clothes, the spiritual zen-nes. And what’s up with the mi Nono loco flip flop 😂 chefs kiss.
What if both people are emotionally unavailable? I thought I was available but I’m seeing now that I’m not.
Then you're not compatible
😂the flip flop 🩴
This just changed my life Alex
You are breaking down Stockholm syndrome with the parent analogy
Alex ur the best. U are very informative. This is dalexis university
I like the wooden partition
I guess I’m broken bc when I like someone and approach if they don’t jump all over me right away I start hating them real quick😂
How to low key deliberately abuse people..
some of these are so crappy.
Healthy regulation and pacing yes, learning to love yourself and be internally confident? Cool. Deliberately employing remoteness and intermittent reinforcement just to garner power? - good luck with your karma !
I’d rather just attract people who call value me on an equal basis,
which is very different to being purposefully manipulative.
The pink shoe? He's high....
I agree dating is like a game
your comments are amazing, i can't stop laughing, i forget to listen 🤣😅😆👍🤘🇦🇺🇳🇱
Cool topic💫
Thanks for your study & research
not the chancleta 😭🤣🙌🏼
I AM stoic. Sometimes this is problematic. But i cant change it. Because of an abusive mother the first thirty yrs of my life, i disassociate.
A slipper? Asian tiger Mom and son role play? If so, must be fusion as it is a soft flip flop
Dated a white guy for a while and the way he dressed sometimes was embarrassing. Had to shut that down quick.
💀😭😆
Alex what's with the chancla lol
Im emotionally unavailable, and it sucks in the long term, omg consistent inconsistency 😱
I would like to ask a question OK I am a 49 year-old woman I’ve been dating on and off you know but and I’ve been listening to your videos for older woman how do you go about?
Aquarius women stand up!
i have the same exact slippers lol
What if we are both emotionally unavailable, because every example that you gave we have both done to each other... we've been stuck to each other for 2 years.... is this an addiction? Because it cant be love, can it?
Codependent on each other.Its something that you both are providing each other which makes you guys stay together.
It’s acceptable to want constant attention and validation if you’re a child 🤗
Papa Alex 🔥🔥🔥
Ok, aloofness is something i dont have to learn😂 i was surprised many times when a man helped me with different stuff that in reality this was their way to Show me that they want me. I didnt get it.
Father Alex, is that for me?
Idk who Melissa is but it cracks me up everytime he yells at her 😂😂😂..
And im emotionally unavailable but im at peace. I've been thru too much ti be emotional. If someone comes along that i can trust with my emotions then maybe I'll express it to that one person but otherwise 🙄😒😑
Why does he have a pink flip flop in his hand? 😂 I stopped asking these kinds of questions since I became yoir fan. ❤
Get them crumbs off your desk
They're part of the decoration, it's a look
@@MindfulAttraction2.0lol Okayy
I get the feeling my bf is watching your videos 😂😂😂. Never mind
I need some coaching lessons how can I contact you Alex? Thank you
La chancla 😂
Somebody in the comment section called them "slippers" smh
@@MindfulAttraction2.0I'm dead 😭
What’s up with the pink chancla? Lol
That flip flops distracting me 😂😂😂
I hope it's not yours.
This is unhealthy 😂, you should do secure attachment videos 😂.
What’s up with the chankla?
Please don’t get inoculated for anything please God I pray.
Al is Gorithming a li too hard
I remember when this channel was called "toxic ___" can't remember the full name though 😂.
Toxic coach
@@user-nd3db4vk6x you one of the Ogs too haha
❤️
Is that your chancla?
Father Alex is it EVER okay to let your guard down and let them in?
Honestly need an answer to this
He said emotionally unavailable in the beginning of the relationship. After awhile it would become a problem so let your guard down eventually, after he's hooked. ❤
Make sure you keep it to a limit. 😂.
@@Tealaful how do I act emotionally unavailable
@@DontDooTooMuch You don't let yourself like someone and you don't truly get to know them or make a real effort if you are emotionally unavailable.. emotionally unavailable people also make excuses to end things with a new potential partner.
This flip flop 😅
Because he misses her lol😂
❤👍
ok , but why holding flip flop , clappin flip flops with yo hands , when giving advice daddy ? U remind me my mongolian(asian) parents
I beg to differ!! If a woman comes along and your Emotional Unavailable...we walk the other way if you can't be vulnerable with us!!! My opinion as a High valued, principaled, moral woman who values her SELF WORTH!!! ... Understand our Human Nature...and Psychology ...We are tired of MENs bullshit!... And if you can't be Truthful with us...we are good on our own. Much Love and Light Peace and Unity Brothers and Sisters of the World
Facts
@constantchange it's about low self esteem people that no one wants unless they want to use and abuse them
❤❤
@constantchange yup! Thank s why I walk away! Either be A Man or stay BEing a BOY who refys s to Grow up and Be ACCOUTABLE for his/ her CHOICEs...they come with CONSEQUENCES!!! Read it from the beginning again! Get REAL and be Authentic...women are tired if Being left for DEAD with Children and MEN laugh??... Thank God there is a GOD that will hold People to Account for what they do and how they live!... And then...don't forget...What goes AROUND, comes around! Call it Karma...Call it Universal and Cosmic Law's...either way...
If you can't be Truthful...you aunt gonna survive this Lifetime!... It has been WRITTEN about for MILLIONS of YEARS... Liars go to Hell! Plain and Simple!
Secure attachment is this way but 80% of people I've come across are anxious attachment and anxious attachment runs towards this type of attitude.