3 Months Post-Op | Stage 3 ( FTM Phallo )
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- Опубліковано 17 жов 2024
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I am 3 months post-op from stage 3 FTM phallo. In this vlog I discuss healing post-op stage 3 as well as answering questions about the function of the phallo inflation device. I also talk about how it feels to have reached the final stage of my FTM phallo journey.
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Hey sorry if this offends you but when you were describing you penis as a bent straw. It reminded me of family guy season16 ep19 when Peter is trying to back a boat into a lake. It'll give you a good laugh. Much love, stay happy.
@vapor man you've been researching it? Well lve been actually living it so l think l know my experience much better, thank you!
@vapor man yes it was originally for that purpose, but then was successfully used for trans men in gender affirmation surgery. The technique has come a very long way since that time and is now highly successful giving many trans people like myself, the ability to feel comfortable in our own skin at last and happy.
@vapor man Of course surgery isnt comfortable. But the end result is worthwhile for the pain and discomfort. I am at the end of my surgical journey and am very happy now. And, I pee fine thank you! I can aim my stream like any man and dont piss on the floor at all! May I suggest that you listen to the actual people who are having this surgery rather than your research!
Mr finn. In a respectful manner i wanted to ask if you like men or women?
"I've never owned a penis until recently" 😂😂 lol I love your humor
Thank you! You have to laugh really! It's the only way forward!!!
True that! I'm glad you are recovering well😊
when you were talking about the pure panic and dysphoria moment you had you were with Chris was heartbreaking to hear, but at the same time, i think you did a good job explaining that internal mindset. even though my dysphoria impacts me differently than your dysphoria impacts you (in part because i am ace), i really resonated with the way you described the panic and ensuing shutdown. glad to hear you’re okay and that Chris was able to be there for you so well. :) happy three months.
Its an awful feeling isnt it, such a shock too! Thanks my friend
I agree. This is the first time I've heard someone describe dysphoria in this way that I really relate to and it makes me feel a lot better. The feeling that you can't talk about your negative thoughts because they'll make the other person think those things too is so relatable and horrible
you've opened my eyes to the joys of phalloplasty, i had a lot of misconceptions about it in the past but you've educated me so much on it. thank you.
you're also a lovely person and i just wanted to hug you when you were telling that story of the recent dysphoric experience. your partner sounds very nice and supportive, you two are lucky to have each other in your lives. 💜
This makes me very happy!
Your arm is healing so well! Thank you for being so open with us 💙
I've been blessed with good healing. And thank you for watching and sharing this journey with me!
I'm thankful that you are allowing me to be on this journey with you!😊💙
Hi Finn, although I'm not trans, I'm a 'one off' with a prosthetic nut following testicular cancer. I'm not sure if it's the same sort of implant, but just to reassure you, mine was incredibly uncomfortable for a good year or so and was riding quite high, and sometimes had to sleep with half a duvet stuffed in between my legs to stop in from feeling crushed. But then it just seemed to soften and I'm nowhere near as conscious of it now, even though it's still fixed high. I'm not sure if I've made friends with my implant but we mutually share the same body. haha!
Just scrolling through the comments and saw yours. I just wanna say that the way you worded it made me smile. I'm glad it's working out for you, man.
They are the same type of implant btw
I think it is actually same or very similar at least
It is the same type of implant, yeah!
Ah this is good to know, thank you!
I really appreciate you sharing your story of extreme dysphoria in bed. I’ve had that experience several times in different degrees and although i was fortunate enough to have an understanding partner at the time, the feelings and stream of thoughts and phrases going through myself scared the absolute shit out of me. i’m so relieved to know i’m not alone and i don’t need to be scared of myself.
Bless you my friend. Its understandable really isnt it? When we are being intimate, we are at our most vulnerable and it will take a number of years to overcome our old image of ourselves. Thank goodness for understanding partners!
I'm so happy you have such a supportive partner. The way your face lights up when you talk about him is just gorgeous ❤️
Thats so sweet! Yes, I have totally fallen for the big ball of fur!
I love your channel ! All the details are actually helpful, to know what to expect and all that, thank you so much ! Sending love !
You are so kind, always love to hear such positive feedback, thank you so much!
Thank you for your honesty you are a tremendously brave and amazing man 😊
Thank you for that incredible kindness!
Omg, I could cry. You're so amazing. You & Chris are wonderful. I adore you two so much. You guys remind me of my wife & myself. Beautiful. 💙❤
You are so incredibly sweet! Thank you!
As ever thanks so much for your honesty, I'm really glad you had someone so supportive there for you in that moment you needed them the most. You'll get there - best of luck for when it happens!
Goodness, so am I! Im lucky to have such a wonderful man! Thanks my friend
i have heard how much problem u gone through for stage 2 so hearing this update just made me so happy! ❤ thanks for the video!
You are an incredible man finn your videos help so much I’m starting T soon as watching you helps alot, all the best finn ❤️
Im so glad to hear that, thank you, here's to your exciting future!
Hello Finn Lots of love and wishing you hours of enjoyment with your dinga ling!!
Finn is so adorable! So down to earth, unpretentious and so "guy next door"!
What a likable guy!
You are so kind, thank you!
So good to see you. I always look forward to your videos. Is so amazing to watch your lives ups and downs with a sense of humor, but get informative. 💕🐑 PS love your close ups to the camera 😁💕
Thank you, that is such a lovely compliment! I try to keep it light as well as informative, i am glad that comes across!
FinnTheInfinncible I’m a 54 #OAB(old as bitch) 😁 I was so happy for you when you told us about your boyfriend. I been married twice, first one big mistake the second one my soulmate. One thing I have learned COMMUNICATION,RESPECT AND TRUST. Very important in a relationship. I notice that every time you talk about him you lite up. I love that about you. So,trust in you and on him. 💕
Thank you for teaching us. I'm a cis female and whilst I haven't had any of these issues, i have numerous others. I love learning about people in the hope that if any one i ever know is struggling i can be supportive.
People like you are amazing for sharing your stories, i hope as people learn more that they become more accepting xx
I live for these updates. It helps calm my anxiety about going for bottom surgery some time in the future. I'm happy for you!
Im very glad to help, and thank you!
Kinda breaks my heart you had to go through that, but Chris sounds like a WONDERFUL partner :) I just had you in my "suggested" section, and this was the first video I viewed of you, I am happy you make these videos, I am FTM as well, just had top revision surgery, debating anything lower surgery. I like to hear things like this so I can get an idea of what to expect from any of my choices. Take care of your penis! hehe Be gentle with it and give it time to heal! :)
It is so nice to hear how Chris was supportive in that moment. That's how it should be.
Thank you so much my friend, you will indeed have the same experience, its wonderful becoming yourself!
Apart from the wonderful raw serious open digalog enthralling me and you being so lovely i did happen to notice a certain Lamb holding somthing i belive is a Condom ;) made me giggle ! p.s. so happy you are in such a supportive place xx
Well spotted! He's always up to something naughty when lm not looking!!!
Finn I am so happy you have Chris to love you through this life! You are amazing and deserve that love. You are a beautiful human being and a man. 😊♥️♥️♥️
You are one of the bravest people I know and I want you to know you are supported and loved! You’re so honest to talk about your dysphoric moment, and your silly, and your un-dropped ball, and about your supportive boy friend...thank you SO much for your honesty and know that I’m supporting you all the way from San Diego, CA, USA! Mwah!!
I just absolutely adore you Finn!! So glad that it was smoother sailing this time around!! So happy for you!! 💜
Thank you. That means the world!
Thank you for this vid. Ive been wondering about this kind of thing for a while. U have a new subscriber today. 😎 and being a 44 yr old virgin is awesome.
Oh hello hello and welcome to the FinnFam!! So sorry I am only just replying to this! And...I am no longer a virgin 🙃😍😘🙃😍
Practice, practice, practice! It’ll be just fine once you get the hang of it, sweetie. Love you, Finn❣️
Tough video to for you to make, I'm sure. Just want to say you are adorable as always. The way you explain things and talk about these very private bits of your life is always so articulate. I'm so sorry you had that experience but I am very very happy to hear how Chris handled it. He sounds so sweet. You guys are so adorable together.
Oh Christ my headphones fell out and I didn’t realise!!! I’m on the bus 😳😳😳😳
Oh my friend, that is so funny! Im sorry...cant help but laugh!!!!
It was around the ‘baggy urithra’
Oh no!!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you so much for sharing your story Finn! I am so glad Chris is such a sweetie.
Thank you for sharing it with me!
Hi Finn, new subscriber here, loved the video, & thank you for for being so open. Much like you I always think being lighthearted is the way to get through (as I'm sure you will) I had my grs (amab btw) in April this year, & yes, post transition dysphoria can be shocking, & quite blindsiding. Like you I'm very lucky to have a wonderfully understanding partner. You'll get there when it's right I'm sure. Em ☺
Hello hello! Welcome to our lovely FinnFam! If you've not found it already, there is loads more info and stuff over on finlaygames.com :)
Congrats to you on your surgery too. Yes, it was surprisingly shocking and I was not expecting post-transition dysphoria at all! I'm so glad you have a supportive partner too., thank goodness for them right!
Thank You Brother for sharing!!! I am really glad you can talk to Chris about anything & he helps you so much!!! Much Love!!
Amazing video. You're such an open person as it is, and you've come so far even more so with people in your inner circle as far as letting people in and seeing even more of who you are as a person. Even what appears like 'irrational feelings' are extremely valid too, because they're just part of the process of growing in to ourselves. You can really tell that Chris knows this process like the back of his hand, and you can tell that you love yourself enough to have chosen such a loving and supportive person as a partner. He really has a lot of respect for you too, you can tell from his videos with you. One of the unique things about your relationship is that Chris doesn't need to break down necessarily what it means to be transgender in order to be there for you at the core of things, because he loves you, which is what you said, and is so true. I'm sure that same thing can be said of you, when it comes to cis related things and if he is in a tough spot. You just know that you love him and will be there for him. I'm so proud of the strides you've taken. You are inspiring and a genuine Teacher of how it is to live authentically. You're videos give me hope for a better world where there is more understanding between people xxx
Its been really refreshing to meet someone for whom being trans is irrelevant. Its helped my confidence and self-belief to grow hugely. Thank you for being so lovely :)
You take your time with it Finn, in the end it will go right and I'm sure it will feel amazing!
I have a feeling you will soon be able to get your “soldier” into the “battlefield” soon....keep trying 😜👊🏽
I am persistent.........😉😉😉
Thank you so much for sharing the experience you had with Chris. I can only imagine how it'd feel in that situation. I've had my sister tell me before I transitioned that I'd "never be a real man" that I "would just be a mutilated woman" and that hurtful sentence has stuck through my entire transition whenever I am dysphoric. I worry I will get flashbacks to that day or all the days where sex went terribly wrong due to dysphoria, if I ever had anything not go quite the way I expected, like similar to what you experienced.
I had similar said to me, that I would never find a partner, would never be accepted, etc. These do stick in our heads and take a while to go. On the whole, I rarely get these thoughts now and this experience with Chris was a shock as it really was a return to some seriously dysphoric days. Still, as uncomfortable as it was, at the same time, I didn't actually believe the thoughts, so yes it was awful but equally, helped me to see that I have come so far. A few years ago that would have sent me running for a bottle of wine or a razor blade.
I think it's important to do things with someone you trust, I trust Chris completely and so I was safe when this happened. In fact it brought us closer.
Great video as always Finn! Loved the puns 🤣❤️
Thank you my friend!
Thanks for sharing so honestly.
Thank you for watching!
10, 20, 30, 40, 50 and more years from now...looking forward to see how all this goes...
Yay! I look forward to sharing how it goes!!
Everything in life takes time 👍
Yes it absolutely does!!
sad u felt like that with him but like everyone else,i'm happy he was there for u and i'm happy u grew stronger from it ?sort of? ❤ at least u know now how your body work a little more. 🌸
Peeny time! Peeny time! Yaaaay! 😂 I'm so glad everything's going well, man. I'm really sorry about the dysphoric episode, but I know you'll get there soon ♥️
I hear wedding bells! Seriously, you are made for each other, hope you achieve success next time 😜
This is why I want my "first time" to be with someone I'm in a loving relationship. I need that trust and support. But getting there feels so impossible.
The good news is you’re not going through anything (well besides the transition and what comes with that, pun not intended;) ) that a new couple or a bunch of virgin kids go through when they have sex for the first time. (I blacked out the first time with my husband because I was so terrified I was not living up to his expectations) Like you said it just takes patience and learning about your body and your partners. You totally got this and you’re so fortunate you are experiencing these things with a loving partner and not as a confused teen with a slew of immature and insecure partners. I don’t think any of us would do that over again! Lol Good luck sweetie, lots of love your way! 🖤
Not to be personal. But I’m considering this surgery and I was wondering if you think that first attempt would have been easier with a woman? My girlfriend is pretty understanding. Also, again not to be too personal but how long (in your opinion) before you can receive oral. And do you think it would be something to look forward to or is it not all too great given the circumstances?
I've already had oral, before the implant was fitted and after and it's amazing! And yes, vaginal sex may well be easier than anal sex as the anus tends to be a tighter entrance! It's all about learning, and having an understanding partner is vital
I really appreciate your openness. Ur a trans hero!;D
How lovely are you!! Thank you so much!
"Phallo-tastic" Iconic!
:) :) :) :)
Hey Finn, where abouts do you live? I’m visiting Europe in 3 weeks and would love to meet you!!
Does it drop size when the pump is fitted as it gets more circumference?
No I didn't find that at all. If anything it felt bigger and fuller even when flaccid as the device filled the cavity whereas there was nothing there before this making it feel and look longer and thicker
@@FinnTheInfinncible thanks finn
Finn you're just adorable. How tall are you for us vertically challenged Chaps? 😆
Aw bless ya! I'm 5 ft 4. Just about!
Damn you have such a nice voice.
Well how kind! Thank you!!
This happens even to cis man I have seen it in AV so, you´re basically just a ordinary man 💞 .
Absolutely!
Did you get this done via the NHS?
Yes l did my friend
@@FinnTheInfinncible That's really nice and reassuring to hear! I'm hoping to get it done myself in the future! :)
We are lucky in the UK that our NHS coverage recognises our need for surgery. The waiting list is long but you will get there!
@@FinnTheInfinncible Yeah definitely! I'm so glad that we have the NHS, it really is a blessing to us. Thanks so much for the replies by the way!
Babe ! Practice makes perfect. It's the same with two virgin people having sex, one doesn't know exactly what to do or how to do it ( I know dysphoria makes it more more difficult). But practice will make it fine :)
you remind me of the adoring fan from oblivion
mohhh the end :(
Never fear! Its only the end of my medical transition. There is still lots of other parts of the journey to share. I am not going anywhere!
Im born in a male body identified as a girl who needs a full transition to be a gay man