The repeated accusation that you're popular with black women is such a tell though. Communicating to their audience that if black women like a creator, they aren't worth listening to.
It reminds me of Sebastian G accusing Ethan from H3H3 of his increasingly female audience being an indication that men don't like him and that makes him irrelevant and on the decline. That's just how effective the grift is to dudes who get their education on women from Tate clones who claim they've solved their problems with misogyny and MMA.
As a black woman, that fact that your channel is man-centered is exactly why I watch. You give me perspectives I don’t get in my regular life and talk about topics I care about.
Same! I’m tired of all the negative perspectives and every time I start feeling hopeless about black men, I watch his videos to remind myself that many of them are normal and the assholes could just be outliers.
@@kobby7135 His content is as a man speaking to other men about the male experience. If you DON'T think that's man-centered, I don't know what to tell you... And I'll give you some insider information about what women want to hear: We want to hear anything that isn't mindless toxicity spewed at everyone and everything. We want to hear just regular degular conversations and insightful perspectives. You're the weird one for thinking that's a bad thing. I suggest you take your own advice and get off the internet for a while.
8:20 I'm an Asian woman. Trust me, I've heard of women from every ethnic group that have strong patriarchic/machismo culture say that "white men treat women better" and whatnot. Not all the women say this of course. Usually the women that say this are not well-informed or very experienced in interacting with actual white men. They just put all white men on a pedestal based on what they see in popular culture or surface-level interactions, in the hopes that white men are less patriarchal than the men from their own community that they're familiar with. It's a form of escapism.
“Y’all niggas” = Black men asking for female accountability and real conversation about the their role about the current state of our community. But please, continue on, ‘Brother’. SMH.
I'm a black male therapist who also sees many men in therapy, especially black & brown men. I've sent your clips to many clients, and they are grateful
Young white woman here, i enjoy your content because it allows me to better understand the arguments that go on in academic spaces and gives me perspective that i wouldn't have otherwise. I've recommended your videos on the black manosphere before in class (grad school in women gender and sexuality studies) and others have come back after watching and said it was exactly the voice they needed to hear to understand as well.
From one of the ladies- I come here to learn more about mens issues from one of the few men I trust to cover them in this nuanced, balanced way. You are very fair, FD. You take the heat when you know its coming to you and you just do your thing regardless, and I really appreciate the perspective you provide to this platform.
I'm not black, but as a brown American raised and living in the Middle East, a lot of your talking points (especially in the black conservatives videos) resonate a LOT with me and my people here.
Yessss same is true for South Asian ppl. It's honestly interesting bc I wonder what it is about being non white (like in regards to how whiteness functions against us) that causes these similarities 🤔
@@shameonyou1681 colonialism. it only benefited one demographic and indefinitely set back the rest of us. people can list the multitude of reasons why colonialism completely wrecked us, but the biggest thing for me is the reality we missed out on. makes me wonder how great these societies would’ve been without the curse that is the euro pride.
Black woman here, I don't feel like the target audience but also feel welcome to listen, learn and appreciated. Thanks for your hard work and dedication to growing and critical conversations.
I am an Arab woman who watches your channel. I support your content not because it's catered towards me but because I actually enjoy learning about these things. I also love supporting male voices in this progressive space specifically talking about Feminism for a predominantly male audience. So much to think about on this channel in terms of everything!! I've been in a slump for so long this Winter and your deep thoughts and philosophical questions and schools of thoughts bring me out of that slump and into myself. Thank you
Absolutely agree. This channel does what we as women often can't do: Talk to men in an uplifting and caring way. It's like a warm blanket of supporting friendship that we women often get from our female friends, but many men just don't have.
Honestly, your content is like an oasis for me as a black dude. You’ve introduced me to so many schools of thought that white content creators just don’t touch. Before, i was of the belief that the only black male content creators pushed was toxic hotep bullshit. You introduced me to bell hooks! You’re what black men need honestly.
I'm a white man raised by social liberals in the white white white white suburbs (97%), white white white conservative engineering college, who ended up in a very diverse Army. Thought I wasn't racist as a kid, still thought we didn't need affirmative action in the late 90's....learned a lot about how I got where I was through a whole pile of white privilege... Anyway. Saw the preschool study about little black boys, and even though I FULLY understand how insane an advantage I have from the jump, it brought back a time I saw this in action while in the Army. I was a new platoon leader, I was sitting down with my NCOs AND Company CO, talking about who my soldiers were, getting a brief on who was good, who to keep an eye on, who had prior discipline issues. They pointed me to T, who had been disrespectful and gotten written up. There were a few others, but he stood out. Thought I should get to know the people personally, rather than cast them in stone. Turns out, T was an incredibly talented, driven black man from Cleveland who had the chip on his shoulder because his whole life had been those preschool teachers, and now NCOs, watching his every move just EXPECTING him to be a criminal. I don't remember anything I did specifically, but I did all I could to show all in the unit that they had a fresh start with me, you do well, I do well, work hard for me, and I will fight for you. Ended up helping T with a domestic issue early on, and all of a sudden, just having someone believe in him for real, and T was one of my most reliable, most hard working Soldiers, bar none. Left the platoon, my senior NCO got replaced, and a month later, T was back to getting disciplined constantly as a problem Soldier. And to this day, I feel like it was fully a leadership problem. All this to say...I believe you whole heartedly that black men are deeply, deeply unfairly disadvantaged from the jump, and I absolutely hate it. And I know I'm the one who benefits unfairly from it, and that sucks too. And just...ugh. Why can't we be better to each other?
If we stop fighting each other then we will start to demand better for all and excess power and wealth can not thrive under those conditions, to its current degree. If we all start demanding better for each other, the ultra-wealthy's pockets will be sad. :(
(Necessary background for this anecdote to make sense: I live in section 8 housing and was certified permanently disabled at 25 - conditions are "invisible". I won't disclose my details but I'm a millennial and therefore still young in regards to most in my situation) A few months back the field supervisor for the agency that was helping me get caregiver assistance at the time came by to provide -make excuses- for why they still hadn't replaced my provider. She admitted that it was not due to a lack of staff but that people we're "unwilling to work in my neighborhood due to 'safety concerns.'" I was immediately confused. (I live in the barrio and *she's* very much Hispanic, as are most people who are willing to do this job considering the work v.s income ratio in the position - McDonald's literally pays more.) I'd *never* heard this from anyone or any agency before and told her as much. "You actually feel safe here?!" She was obviously bewildered, because this was at least the sixth time she had come to my home. It's quiet. This is *not* a high crime area. I went on to explain that although the neighborhood was low income, people kept to themselves and were too busy working and trying to get by, attempting to support their families ect that they literally did not have time to 'start trouble' even if had any interest in doing so - which of course they never do. I could tell that she didn't believe me (despite every dwelling in the neighborhood being completely silent and absolutely no vehicles to be seen other than hers since it was the afternoon on a weekday - everyone is out working one of what is usually multiple jobs.) I described what I called the 'rules of the barrio' - as long as you kept to your own and didn't disturb anyone or cause grief then you get the same respect in return, finishing with "you know what I mean?" To which she replied: "No, not really. I live over in..." (proceeded to list one of the most expensive and therefore mostly all white neighborhoods in the entire city. It's also a gated community - I've known places like that and obviously the etiquette is the same, I still don't understand her denial there.) To be honest I had always assumed that the way she had dressed and presented herself when she came over was in the nicest clothing she owned (which was the usual case for most people who worked her position) I now realized that in fact she actually was wearing real designer karat jewelry, perfume, shoes and different handbags each time I'd seen her. It also was evident by her tone that "not being able to get caregivers" was *not* to them being uncomfortable with the actual neighborhood - but her relaying some biased description of what she presumed it must be like. As someone who has been poor my whole life, I can detect classism rather quickly and I've also discovered that unfortunately some of the worst perpetrators of heavy-handed discrimination are those who aren't simply naive of their privilege but rather "one of the good ones". (While sometimes I pity this her disdain was palpable.) So I went on to explain to her how growing up I never lived in white neighborhoods (despite my family being able to "pass" and I'm certain this woman thinks I'm white) not because we couldn't afford it, but that we actually could get more living space for the same amount in non-white low-income areas and they were less dangerous than ones than white ones. When she looked at me incredulously I explained that as a child I had been taught - and personally experienced - when we had to live in low income white neighborhoods that *very frequently* one of the houses on the street would probably *blow up* due to someone cooking in their bathtub - I never had to worry about that in the POC neighborhoods. [The expression on her face...] Although my tone was incredibly casual, I provided enough detail about the various areas in the several different states that I had resided in from my childhood to graduating high school and how I had developed from a very young age a certain level of discernment when it came to making friends if they did not want to associate with me outside of school because I lived in one of "those" neighborhoods, and how whenever that was said I immediately decided I did not want to hang out with "those" people with "those" opinions. --- Although she never mentioned anything about our conversation - other than the shock over illicit substances being a higher concern in low income *white* neighborhoods - I'm positive that what I said sunk in, or at least she realized that I caught on to her passive-aggressive discriminatory acts of prejudice regarding where I lived - "Coincidentally" she called me the next day and had not one but two different providers available with no issues working here. --- TLDR: The assumed "bad behavior" isn't isolated to just the 'B' unfortunately. Although I'd had heard far more subtle division in the past, I never thought that I would have to tell a woman to *give people the opportunity for a job* simply because a few times she stopped by she noticed some of my neighbors we're not as fluently bilingual or using English as their primary language.
@@Creationweek Thanks for reading it through. "Thesis" is an apt encapsulation of my writing style (regardless of how detailed or succinct). I'm frequently amused when someone will retort, thinking they are countering an "ideology/agenda" ect, with "I'm/no one is going to read [all] that." Obviously situations and mentalities like what I described in my earlier comment have been explored more deeply before (many times by F.D, Foreign Man, and countless others whom deserve their laurels but I am ill, already far beyond the length I intended this reply, and certainly less organized than I'd like). I *do* find it tremendously disheartening that we are seeing yet more examples of individuals who are in positions of significant influence, potential for creating socio-political change, and cultural shift moving further toward loathing aspects of themselves and idealizing and striving for stations within the ultimate and inarguable pinnacle of their oppressors (such as the situation with North Carolina - I understand why many people are using levity to recount this story, and there are aspects where the common sense of teenager could have prevented some of this, but I personally can't point and laugh. Because I know that even if it had never happened, or a completely different platform *actually* been the next, new 'improved' MLK 2.0 - the same words would have been whispered by the same people regardless. Now his *incredibly* misguided attempt to get 'above' that has created an equal opportunity target. I'm *not* saying it doesn't deserve reporting, criticism or critique - but there's a door opened by this that I simply can't walk through.)
Hey F.D. I am Black male college student who is majoring in sociology, and your videos always encourage me to continue in my studies and use those studies to help shape me into a more well-rounded human being. Me and a close friend (another Black male) talk about your videos frequently, always causing us to have great conversations that help us learn and grow as men. YOU HAVE AN IMPACT!!! Keep up the good work bro.
I am a sociologist. Don't go into applied sociology unless you're wealth already and no matter what some passionate professor says to you, making your own lane in social science is CRAZY HARD.
I used to be a substitute teacher. Your commentary about the disdain toward black boys was a spot on observation. Having witnessed such actions prompted me to stay away from the teacher's lounge and ignore the negativity directed at any student. In most instances, when an educator sincerely respect their students, they tend have fewer behavior issues from the learners.
That last sentence is so spot on. I don't teach, but I would see this play out with teachers so often. Kids always seem to behave better in respectful settings
Not a teacher but that's an observation I made in my own experience and witnessing others. If your default attitude towards a teenager is "they are inherent liars" than don't be shocked if they start lying constantly. Repesct is a two way street
As one of the maidens here I support this content because it's not really for me and if I can give a little ad revenue to a progressive voice that speaks to the men in a way that can get them to open themselves to more left ideas, I'm here for it without expecting more female oriented content!
@@lucasgrey9794how have you not spontaneously combusted from absolute cringe? Just reading your comment made me blush so hard from second-hand embarrassment that it felt like my cheeks were on fire.
@@lucasgrey9794 To approach this with compassion, Start by trying to find a real connection with whatever gender you fancy without having the goal of a relationship or sex. You're a lot more attractive to people that feel like they can be friends with you and who feel like you want to be friends with them. And believe me, most people can't fake being a friend. So, do it genuinely. Your short comment shows you are so deep into the incel content you seem to think the jargon used over there is not a dead give away, please get out that information silo more. That shit has and will give you a negative self-image and however attractive you seem to others will be reduces by a large margin because of that. You won't find love (in a broad sense) until you're ready to both give and receive it.
i’m 25 and a black man, i really appreciate what you do. the male familial figures in my life don’t come close to the having conversations you do, so i seriously value your perspective
@@garywebb2432 well, very generally speaking, most of them are significantly older than i am. I chalk it up to: being stuck in their ways, not knowing enough or having enough interest to have a conversation on this level. This video for example, i’d be genuinely shocked if they knew what the manosphere or what divestors even are. this just isn’t their circle
@@tentyro Hey, 25 yo black man here as well. I relate as well cause of this. I've had conversations with my dad where he's told me he wouldn't look at me crazy for sleeping with another man's girl if she wanted it. I see my older brother with his marital problems, and I wonder, they don't need the manosphere to form their views; those ARE their views, and I notice how it's influenced the way I interact with women. My dad graduated ivy league, so it's not a class issue with how people hold these viewpoints. As some divestors might point out.
"Am I a Simp? Yes!" Whenever you own it, they can NO longer get the pleasure of accusing you of it because it takes you off defense. Whenever you're on defense, you're losing.
@@the-lil-x You're entitled to your opinion. However, simping is a term all the black men who fall short use for men who are so confident that they love and understand women. You don't get further in life speaking abusively of men who don't abuse women.
@@the-lil-x the point isn't really to "flex about being a simp", it's more that the reasons people call him a simp are not bad things.. they're *_good_* things. He's not simping in the sense that he's talking up some woman that he has no chance with, in order to get her to notice him (or date him or whatever); he's simping in the sense that he's not a misogynist. So if that's the way they're going to use the word, then fine, I guess the boot fits. It's a really silly boot though
I’m a black woman who has been loyally watching. It’s been a golden age of finding leftist black voices on UA-cam. I definitely owe my expanded scope of content creators to checking out your channel.
What's your experience of the US and why did you move there? As an African I find the US terrifying and dysfunctional and I'd rather be here in South Africa, unless someone paid me to go there
I’m a Black man. I’m a husband. I’m a father. I’m a combat veteran of the Marine Corps and Army. I’m a veteran police officer. I’m an atheist. I’m a leftist. My point is despite stereotypes, I love your channel.
@@starsiegeRoks can we please not care about what political side someone is on?? does it matter??? theyre all after money, keeping us divided, and being "funny" with kids. and youre over here playing right into it
I'm a white man from that whitest of regions - scandinavia - and I was tipped off about your videos by a slovenian dude who said you were his go-to for YT videos on black american social/political thought. I am *so* not the target audience for much of what you do,but I'll sit quietly here in the back of the classroom and pay attention. It's really educational.
Lolololol. You’re from Scandinavia but judging by your name it sounds Swedish a place which most people would say is not exactly reeeeally white nowadays 😂 nowadays when people talk about Sweden all they constantly talk about is all the immigrants and Muslims and whatnot
I'm an asian woman. I love your content because it exposes me to a side of the conversation that I never encounter in my communities, leftist or not. I think its really easy to forget how narrow your window into the world is sometimes.
Young white enby! It's always really interesting to see this sorta stuff as someone amab, cuz there's like...an alien familiarity? Like, I remember being expected to think in a lotta ways like that described here, but never feeling or acting that way.
You described how i feel about gender conversations between men & women. As a trans person I’m tired of the arbitrary generalizations & villainization of the opposite gender. I love how you break this all down, FD, and focus on cause & effect.
I'm one of the black men who watches to learn the black leftist perspective on things. I was so sick of the black conservatives and redpillers not having any counter that you were a total breath of fresh air. While I don't always agree with your more radical takes I still find this side of UA-cam to be way more rational and comfortable than the right
the thing about radical takes is once you fully hear them out they become common sense takes.. then everyone you know starts thinking you are a radical for having takes that are basic good takes that everyone should give a fair hearing to and get behind.
I'm a black woman. I've been trying to understand men more. I realized that my anger lately has been towards men, especially black men. I don't know when it started, but I started to be annoyed by myself for feeling so angry at men following the manosphere or guys who call black women aggressive, and worse, I started generalizing and projecting. Watching your content has actually helped a lot to get me back to normal. It's helped me empathize a lot more. I realized my uncle and my brothers aren't all black men. The videos my dad watches aren't all black men. I think your channel is proof of that. It's been healing.
I'm sorry you seem so surrounded by that nonsense. Anger seems normal in a context like that, if not particularly healthy or productive. I'm glad you were able to find another voice that helped you feel more than anger.
Great job looking for resources to help yourself think things from different perspectives. We need to make this a ice bucket challenge or something: Find different perspectives challenge fr. (I do it too from time to time, im nonblack white passing woman)
As a black trans caribbean guy, guys like you and Foreign are some of the only channels period that I feel safe engaging with and not expecting to catch strays
i feel infinitely more comfortable watching fd videos because not only does he clear the "not a transphobe" bar, he actually gets trans people involved in the discussion when it's relevant that means a lot, i dunno
Yeah they both have become my favourite political content creators. They both definitely taught me more about black issues as well as a lot of issues other minority groups have to face.
I am a Black enby and I love your channel because the discussions you have on here make me feel like I’m back at my HBCU having the types of conversations I used to have when my friends were all together. Thank you. Also, I had no clue what the divestors were before watching this video.
No cap; I'm a Black woman who followed you initially because I was mortified that a Black man whom I love was watching Kevin Samuels' vids, and exposing his psyche to that toxic-ass misogynoir. I wanted a positive counterbalance that came from a regular brother who isn't making coin off hating Black women. I still share your vids with him; though now I mainly watch for my own edification. Let it be said; I appreciate you.
I’m one of the white guys who watches your channel, and I want to say, thank you for your content. There may be aspects to it that I’ll never fully get as someone who isn’t racialized as black, but its still incredibly valuable. I’m 27 and I’m still struggling with how I want to define my own masculinity after coming to terms with the terrible relationship I had with my father. Your content is an excellent perspective on how to start to do that in a positive way (of course not the only resource though, we stan therapy). I know I may not necessarily be the target audience, but your work is helping other people too.
Same. I try to turn other white men on to this because I really believe his work goes beyond Blackness in relation to masculinity, while at the same time we are learning about the Black experience and perspective. x
Im a latina woman and I love watching your videos, not because they are catered to me, but because Im majoring in anthropology and I love your takes on intersectional matters and anticapitalism. Love learning from smart men and women!
Damn I think u made a good point saying that a big part of ur appeal is that ur just a regular dude who’s chronically online like the rest of us but has achieved a lot of the aspects of aspirational masculinity that men like myself in they 20s wanna live up to
Everyday I wake up I’m grateful that I’m not inflicted with the illness of internalized racism and misogynoir. I don’t have any hate for black women in my heart or for any other groups and im grateful for that. It must be a sad life carrying all that baggage around.
I did not find leftism until after my divorce and that was the key to unlock my understanding of how deeply our society hates women.. watching his family and to a lesser extent my family and friends all have more sympathy for him even knowing that he was a complete prick to me for years really helped me understand the way our society attempts to uphold marriages by shaming any woman who decides to end one. It helped mend my relationship with my mother when I realized that I had done the same shit to her when she left my father even though he had also deserved it and mistreated her for years. Internalized misogyny is so rampant in most women. I can’t even begin to picture what that looks like with racism also. I wish I didn’t need to unlearn that shit and could say I never internalized misogyny or hurt other women in my life because I had learned misogyny as a child.
@@bitchywoman Thank you for being the very rare individual who becomes _less_ misogynistic after a divorce, instead of doubling down and seeing your ex in every woman you meet. When I was in my early twenties I rented an apartment in a house owned by a guy who had just gotten a divorce, and he made my life a living hell. Living there was like living in an active minefield, he’d come up with genuinely delusional reasons to scream at me and threaten me and try to squeeze money for nonexistent “damages” out of me. He outright denied that he had any problems with women, it was just me “being a bad person”. Mfer, I was the cleanest, quietest tenant ever. I literally cleaned up after him and his neglected dog, and then he’d get home and blame me for HIS hungry dog getting into the kitchen trash. Idk how that worked in his mind, but on one occasion he called me a series of misogynistic slurs and then chose to get all his guns out and polish them on the kitchen table while I was eating. I moved out the next day, and he tried to sue me for breaking the lease lol. So again, thank you for NOT being him.
Redpill dudes constantly complain about how men are lonely and society should care about how _lonely_ men are, but also at the same time refuse to treat women with kindness and respect, and mock and harass men who do treat women with dignity. There’s only two dots to connect, fellas.
I love that you always consider the multiple ways that oppression intersect. Not just sexism and racism, but homophobia and ableism as well. It helps paint a more complete picture, and I do believe that all forms of oppression are linked. I'm not black, but I'm not okay with any anti-black racism or misogynoir. I know you were jokingly using the term simp, but I smiled so hard when you said you were a simp for black women. I just love to see them get the love they deserve. And bringing out the numbers and the facts! Love to see it. That study of teachers and black boys...that rang true. I was the weird kid who didn't fit in, and in second grade there was a black boy who was nice to me. My only friend really. And the teacher did give him a hard time. One time she said he had a chip on his shoulder. He then said "a chip on my shoulder! I'd eat it" and then made a chomping motion in the direction of his shoulder. That's not the reaction of a kid with a chip on his shoulder! He was so quick and smart and funny with that response. He deserved better than that. I didn't have the knowledge then to know how racism worked, but I think about that incident a lot, and how it made it showed me how real anti-black racism is. Wherever he is now, I hope he's doing well.
As a black male that watches you're videos. The teacher part really hit me, I've experienced so much trauma and racism growing up from my teachers. I've even had a black woman who was my teacher call me the R word (special ed) in math class back in the 5th grade. All the kids defended me and immediately came to my side when I started crying. She was also suspended for a week, but the impact still hurts today as a adult every time I do a exam, or even just writing down my name I feel incapable of excelling as my peers and sometimes I allow my anxiety to destroy me emotionally. I've had other teachers when I was younger instead of trying to figure a way on how to help me or look deeper into my issue, just send me to another teachers classroom and dismiss me a bad kid. And on top of that I had to go back home to see my dad be abusive to my mom, me and my siblings while also saying he wanted to be a white man and that "we" are the problem as black people which is funny coming from a black male lmao. When I would go onto r/Twoxchromosomes and see mostly white women saying "Men have always seen us women as incapable of excelling in school, but when women go to college now they want to cry why men aren't" I would read that stuff and as a black male I would express that I've felt that same way too, but they'll always deny the oppression or what I've felt and say "I'm just some conspiracy theorist or what are you mumbling about". It's shit like that, that has made me rationalize most white people only act progressive towards POC to solve problems for the white minority, so it's shit like that which has made me enjoy black spaces more like this one you've made FD. Even in Hasanabi's community when content he watches brings up males failing in school and I see his chat laughing or making fun of those boy's, especially since I know the ones failing the most are black and brown ones it just doesn't sit right with me. It makes me hate white people (Majority of his community is white men) and everyone apart of his community even more. Even knowing he's trying to come from a good perspective. Also all of this is coming from a black male who has really only made it to the 7th grade.
Thank you for sharing this. I hate that you had to experience such a negative experience publicly with that teacher. I hope you find courage to return to education. I am black and in my 30s have recently found out I have autism and adhd. For the most part I was able to do well in school, but I struggled with math. Not because I didn't get it, but because I learned I have an auditory comprehension issue, sensory issues and then adhd. It wasn't that I didn't understand the material it was that I could barely make out what was being said in the first place. I'd hear some of it, some of it I didn't. I needed a little minute to process what I heard but then I didn't hear it all lol, then my brain would feel like it was moving really fast once I couldn't keep up. My mind end up going blank like basically automatically giving up (that's when my inattention from adhd would kick in). So, the first half would be struggling with my autism features and then the adhd would take it from there whenever learning a new subject. I finished school, but it could have gone way different had my parents been aware and supportive vs my dad screaming at me for not knowing something he felt I should know causing my brain to shut down receiving any information. I said all of this to say I still struggle learning new subjects and even training at work when it's visual and auditory. But now that I am aware of what my weak points are I know what to focus on in the beginning, stop and ask questions immediately about instead of letting the instructor ramble on. If I can't stop them in the moment, I write keywords and a question mark next to it, so I know what to ask about it later. Then I jot everything else down to the best of my ability and make sure I'm clear with my instructor/trainer before leaving the training environment. Even as a student that was mostly on the honor roll, I used to carry shame around asking questions because I didn't want others to think I was stupid. Didn't want my teacher to feel like wth was I doing the whole time, why was I not listening (because I had issues the whole time that I could not explain and thought it was my fault)? Now I put that shame away. You'd be surprised how many people are just as confused as you and they suffer in silence as well. I learned that when I ask questions there are usually others in the group that also were questioning but embarrassed to speak up. And then there was worst case scenario, what if everyone laughed? I learned to not care. No one laughed btw, but if they did, I felt regardless I still need to know what I don't know and I care more about that than anyone thinking I'm stupid. I will not remain "stupid" just so people don't think I'm stupid and then never learn. I hope this helps even with all of the run on sentences lol. Your story has definitely helped me learn something new. ❤
Most of Hasan's viewers are POC. He makes fun of yt people way more than POC or marginalized groups. That doesn't attract yt people, especially yt men.
I used to be "invested" in the divester message. Not that I cared to be with a white man (just doesn't feel....right to me lol) but I was honestly very afraid of black men. I went through such a horrible childhood, mainly at the hands of my father and other male relatives, along with unpleasant experiences with other black men. I just reached a point of, "black men are bad", which lead me to divestersphere. However, as I continued to listen, it started to get very uncomfortable because they enjoyed calling not only black man but black boys very horrible names :(. I may have been fearful of black men but I certainly couldn't get to the point of being vicious towards black boys (or any children at that). I also didn't want to be vicious towards black men - I was just confused and fearful and trying to find reasons to understand my personal experiences. Luckily, I found content like FD as well as healthy black men in my real life and my views changed sharply. Though I healed a lot, I still have some personal fears I need to work out but it's no longer a black or white thing. Again, I wasn't listening to divesters to be with a white man because I don't believe that just because a man has a different skin tone, he's ultimately better or safer. I listened because of my personal, treacherous experiences and believed that black men were just like that. It was a warped understand that lead me down a dark road but got out eventually :) Both them (the divesters) and the individuals within the manosphere are delivering the same message and most def need to touch some grass or take a walk.
@popdavid-dd4lx your so right man a lot of men, especially black men refuse to acknowledge that they are victims. And normalize that hyper sexualization shit and pass it onto their kids as a positive. Its just a never ending cycle of sexual trauma and hyper sexualization within the black community. And im sorry to hear about what you had to go through I have had similar experiences with my older male cousins no one should have to go through that. I wish you the best man.
@@Kyrolsha I've always thought that a big part of that has gotta be the belief that being a victim somehow means you're weak (even thought it definitely does *_not_* mean that)
Even how you framed your response is part of the problem. Sounds like you are blaming victims for not wanting to be called a victim.....as if anyone wants to be a victim.
As a 35 year old black man, I can honestly say that stumbling upon your two channels have actually been a serious breath of fresh air on this platform. The way you discussed and break down topics have always been my type of content that I didn't realize I always needed in my life. Thank you FD homie 🙏🏿💯
Black lesbian here (despite the name 😅) I love your content, F.D. and I'm happy that you exist and that you are able to provide a different voice that black men can listen to. It's a shame that your perspectives may be on the minority end of what I assume black men consume on the daily. I assume that most guys watch sports clips, Aba and Preach, "women getting owned" and other fuck boy material here on UA-cam. I appreciate you for bringing in some diversity. I'm very sure that you've made a difference out here somewhere. Just keep doing you, Big Dawg. ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
I'm a Latino man, and I've always watched your content cuz I was also a dork growing up, and I think you said it best. I could see an alernate reality where I fell into a lot of shitty schools of thought. Especially since I'm a white passing straight male. Luckily there's creators like you who keep challenging me to be better. You're much appreciated.
As a Russian Asian (a siberian native) who struggles with my own reality here, I have no idea i keep watching your videos, but a lot of things are universal I guess, unless all of us change. Thank you for your hard work and empathy ❤
Thank you for your perspective. As a native person there is a lot of intersectionality and I understand that reality struggle, sometimes it seems nobody else is living in the real
@@mishasa2751 I don't know if you're still replying but how are you treated by the majority of White Russians? (I am sorry if it comes across as sensitive but I don't know how to word it good).
Im a mixed black man that came from the Milwaukee Public Schools system into a white suburban highschool and the brothers I met at that school (3 of them) had deeply rooted internalized racism and now that we are grown I've changed their minds on a lot of things they've thought with videos like yours. Your impact is bigger than what you think
oof sending my love from Chicago... I had my own "interesting" experiences there even though I was just a visitor so living there was probably a whole different level... Wishing you the best!
As a afrolatino male that’s has had issues in the past with my masculinity watching your videos and hearing a different perspective on the “ideal man” has been really helpful for my ongoing healing journey
Nerdy Straight Black man here. Long term viewer. You're one of the channels that speaks my viewpoints on modern topics. I use your videos to educate my brothers and multicultural extended family. This video is another gem
dude you’re so important and there’s a genuine lack of content for black men that isn’t rooted in harmful ideology + your content in most cases can cause damn near anyone to self reflect and take a step back. edit: the black men in the comments make me so happy. i love that y’all found FD
This ^ My great great grandmother was a black american; being raised by the white side of the family, I was pretty much barred from expressing sympathy, let alone empathy, for anything other than white culture. I love this channel because, for one, it helps me understand the parts of my family culture that have been hidden from me. Secondly, because FD doesn't lie to us. News media is all BS, and 100% just holding on to a white supremecist capitalist culture. It's so hard to find honest reflections of american media...
I found FD as a result of black men who critique the content & commentary of FD. After watching this video, many of those critiques are very accurate. From what I see in the social media space, Black women corral around any black man who seemingly 'hold black men accountable'. The trend would suggest black woman want an attack dog, or want a man to challenge other men on a level in which they may not be able as effective. Consider the paternalistic nature of your own comment.. Who are you to say whats needed on behalf of black males?
I'm a black male therapist who see many black and brown children and teens. I explain many of the sentiments you expresses in simplified ways for them.
I am a 20 year old woman from India and I watch your videos. I know i am not the target demographic but it's still entertaining, educational and fun. I have never lived in America before and never get American pop cultural references but I personally love your content haha lol
Hi! Non-black (mixed, arabic, if curious), agender follower (though your algo will list me as a woman). I'm subbed to your main, and not to b sides, because the algo feeds them to me anyways... But i wanna say I rarely ever comment because I watch your videos to listen and learn, and I feel like my opinions are not needed and could amount to tone policing. I sometimes feel like your videos cast light on stuff I have no way to hear about otherwise, and makes sense of opinions or videos I've seen without context. It's super enlightening, and though not every topic grips my interest, I'm always glad to see a new video dropped. Keep up the great work!!
As a young black woman with a black father and brother and also dating a black man, I enjoy watching your content because it helps me engage in more meaningful, empathetic, and loving connections with those in my life effected by the topics you talk about. I feel as though it helps me understand them a little bit more, enough to meet them where they at and build from there.
I’m a mixed woman and… I genuinely didn’t know about divestors until you brought them up in a previous video. I love your videos because you say some very apt and interesting things. Plus, I love the black men in my life and I want to know their experience more
This part (knowing more about our Black boys and men). It's been awhile since I've really watched his stuff but this is exactly why I want to watch more aside from just enjoying the content.
As a French black gay man, you are one of the only cis black man that dont make me cringe when they open their mouth. You speak a lot of facts that people don’t want to hear. Thank you so much for your content Uncle ✨
I get the point you’re making but it’s a weird way to put it. I think plenty of cis black men have their head in straight. Switch up your circle a lil bit or seek out different content. I feel like your implication that most cis black men are cringe is slightly clashing the main point he’s making at the end.
@@eme.261 saying that someone that opposes your world view is due to their own “hang ups” is inherently problematic too. It’s actually okay to accept that there’s middle ground of reality between what you perceive or feel and what others do. No one here is saying cringe black men doesn’t exist. Bc they do. There’s also plenty that aren’t like that. Both are objectively true. If you can’t find any at all then maybe content or lifestyle changes ar in order
I'm not black, but Mexican. I personally sought out black creators in the breadtube sphere years ago which is how I found you, but I have come to relate to so much of your content. Our cultures are very different yet so alike in many ways, and your talks on stuff like politics and masculinity have helped make me a better man. Thank you
Black American woman here, I’ve been following your content for a couple of years now, and I’m extremely happy knowing your content is viewed more by men, and yes hopefully more Black men than other . It gives me hope for our community, and my hope is currently hanging on by a thread .
Im a 25 yr old black man, who was introduced to you by my fiancée and since then I’ve been hooked. I really value your opinions on things and you’ve taught me a lot, i think you do a great job highlighting issues for every demographic you touch on and you never disappoint. Keep being a simp for black women cause i’ll be simping right along with you 🙌🏾🙌🏾.
I think the frustration comes from ppl equating manosphere weirdos and genuine Black men expressing their concerns. The loudest minority are usually the most miserable on the internet and using their strange “blame women” attitude doesn’t address the real feelings some have around not feeling wanted/cared for. Some genuinely just look around at the negative animus on the net about them and experience real life dismissal of existence that exacerbate what was just read online. Just like divestors being insignificant, so are these Black manosphere streams with 100 views you be in. At least to me, they’re 2 sides of the same coin. I think you make great videos, and I hope to see more Black male voices/faces in your work. I hope to hear their perspectives more often
Coming from a black man in the early half of his late twenties, your videos have furthered my understanding of the world around me and have brought some more clarity in the vision of the kind of man I aspire to be. Thank You and continue impacting lives the way you do.
as an arab guy living in france, for everything you say about black people in america, there is almost a 1 to 1 correspondance to our situation here. So you have given me a lot of insight into understanding the racism that we are living through and how to fight it.
@@jamiestaussi7157Most negative stereotypes around black people in America apply to black and Arab people in France. Arabs are arguably stereotyped (in europe) as more violent than black people. Same when people are polled on which ethnic group they would be comfortable living next to or marrying.
@@BigmanDogs i wouldn't say (not saying u said) the Arabs are more hated on a racist ideological level. Because black people are always the most hated overall us being on the bottom of the racial hierarchy. Even the racism for nonblack "nonwhyte" groups is based in antiblackness because there looked at as having to much "black blood". Now in Europe there aren't as many black people like the America's. So them being the darkest people with a significant enough population they become the main target. Not to mention Arabs are often thought to be associated with Islam whether muslim or not. Places like France being largely Christian also have hate for all the history of religious (and other) conflict between them. Crazy also because islamic middle eastern nations would own black slaves and only "made it illegal" relatively recently. Though it is still practiced behind closed doors.
@@BigmanDogsvery true. When you watch 24/7 news channel all you hear is « Arabs, Arabs, Muslims, arabs, Koran, Arabs » I am black but I have to admit that Arabs here are THE number 1 target here
That's true for the most part in the US *however* we don't have the centuries of slavery and its ripples through the system. It's still bad. Ive been called a terrorist anchor baby and far worse. Ive been denied work and struggled to find housing. Ive been beaten at school and the kids got away with it because "your type did 9/11". It sucks. Its just not the same. Full transparency I'm persian on my dad's side, but like let's be real Americans don't know there's a difference. We're all Arab to them haha.
I’m a woman! I’m happy you have a great platform that focuses a lot on content that features men, but doesn’t belittle women. It’s been very helpful watching your videos all around!
Yes! I learn so much from F.D.'s videos. I rewatch many of them. And he's my go-to channel recommendation for healthy, Black man centered content. Like his recent video on Jada was one of the few nuanced opinions I've seen anywhere. Or when he talked about how Black Women can disparage working class men, it really put a lot into perspective for me.
As a black anime fan in an interracial relationship, I am a fan . Been watching your videos since last year and they have been very insightful. Keep doing you
bruh i’m a 26 year old black dude who got the experience of seeing the hood while also going to school and being raised in the suburbs and i’ve been a fan of your videos for a long time and i appreciate you so much for creating content for young black people that isn’t rooted in harmful ideology and rhetoric while also challenging us to improve the community around us and our mentality. appreciate your content man really do.
I fw your content because you address the shit i been saying and wondering about black men forEVER that a lot of bm ive spoken to irl (outside of my family thankfully) wanna skirt around, excuse, or ignore
As much as I am white, I love watching your stuff just to learn about issues from a perspective I haven't (and otherwise likely wouldn't) hear in my life. It's the sort of stuff I wish schools would actually educate people on if not for conservative parents just calling it "woke" and protesting
Yo, when you said the part about being labelled "good" or "bad" as a kid and it affecting your future, that is definitely something I examined. I too was usually a quiet kid , who had decent grades. I also from time to time would run the hallways, or get into an occasional fight. But because the teachers knew me, and lets be real here, looked kinda soft, I got way more second chances, and opportunities than another kid, who clearly just didn't take in the lessons as easily as I did, or whatever the had going on like ADHD.
Oof, that stings. I also have ADHD, and I was diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (apparently, they're often found together, at least among males) a half dozen times or more before I was ever diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. That meant I was labeled a "troubled student" pretty quickly, despite always having good test grades. And I got into way too many fights at school, because I didn't understand how to shelve or harness that anger until I grew up some more. That kind of label can stick with you as a child. Especially in a small community. I was lucky to have had a better caliber of teacher and friend circle when I started high school, otherwise it might've stuck. I was able to pull myself back a bit and get things mostly under control. But I definitely don't like to label kids like that. There comes an age when they should probably know better if it continues, but I've met too many children that were hit with that label and it stuck to ever play that game.
As a non-black male I don't always understand everything you cover but appreciate how you handle the concepts you cover. All that being said, these trolls are keeping you from making what we've all been waiting for: the Tyler Perry video
I’m a black man from the UK living a true fly in the milk experience. FD is one of the only BM I’ve come across on YT that talks thoroughly and articulately about leftist BM content even if it doesn’t all apply to me. Thanks 🙏🏿
i’m so glad he talked about this, the reason i watched him is i was exposed to a lot of conservative talking points growing up and trying to reconcile those against the logic of my leftist upbringing. love u FD.
Black woman here. I watch your content because it reminds me of conversations I’d have with my older brother but with a more critical analysis of patriarchy.
@@soulcage6228Patriarchy emerged from the creation of the social structure whereby women were deemed weak and unbale to provide for the family as hunters and were relegated to the roles of caretakers and gatherers and value was placed in hunting as that was the major source by which food was acquired. As we progressed, became more technologically sound, more adaptable to nature's tanturms and created stuff that basically mitigated the whole hunter gatherer process yet in our technological advancements we kept the ways where we treated women as weak, and made femininity a synonym of weakness, beauty, care etc. In the modern day with health care so advanced that we are no longer dying because of polio, women are no longer dying in buge numbers during child birth and get adequate medical care hence they are no longer the weak, as per the definition of men who placed value in "outside work" and so women just to prove themselves are now working with us.
@@missgreen101 I have it honest(i love sea lioning people), I'm always interested to engage with women of color specifically about their perspectives on white feminism. You seem interested in speaking for her.
The video clip with all eyes on the little black boy really hit me hard, especially since I have two sons and I would get calls, yet next to none with my daughter. I remember when I was a kid the teachers missed the other kids acting a fool, but were super quick to correct us black kids. Happened while I was in the navy too! A lot of us worked hard as mechanics, but if we took a 15 minute break together, as we're allowed, one one the supervisors would rush us back to work. It's nuts!
Im a white Irish male, and I like your content as it challenges me to proactively find the truth behind things myself as there is always something under the surface that I haven't seen
Maiden here. Apart from loving video essays, media analysis, and your particular take on things, I specifically love this channel because you address a lot of women's concerns ABOUT men, FOR men and AS a man. That is very valuable to those of us that have been screaming ourselves hoarse about this stuff without making much change because 1) these are things we can't fix for men, 2) it takes hearing if from a man to give it legitimacy and 3) it makes me feel less crazy and alone when I know its not "just a female thing", as I'm sure so many of us are told.
Firstly, I am a Cis Black man, and I love your content.Your content has helped me in so many ways, so much so, that you have inspired me to start creating content. Secondly, respectfully I don't think you SIMP for Black woman. I just think you see Black women, as we all should see them, as human beings, deserving of love, and rights as everyone else. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for all you contribute to our culture, and society. Please don't stop doing, what you're doing brother
I love how he owned it though. Like, he's not going to debate the semantics, he thinks women are worthwhile and if that's how those bros want to phrase it, sure.
Older black man here. You are much needed in this space. The left has been scantily represented in our current political state and it shows. Every advance that we have made in this country could be considered a radical movement. Conservatives preserve and defend the status quo’s. Where does that leave a marginalized community? Keep doing your thing brother!
FD, seriously, some black brothers are unable to hear the truth and cannot see the opportunity to educate themselves. I love your content and I am a confident black Woman who has dated both. You are actually one of very few black leftists I listen to consistently. Thanks for your work!
I'm a black man, and I see what you mean. People often over generalize others based on their experiences and are jaded that what they're told growing up is wrong.
My fiancée always knows when I've watched an FD video because I can't shut up about your content sometimes. And we've even discussed how content that usually appeals to black women, from male creators, is a telling sign about what the content speaks to, about, and how it's even structured. I thoroughly enjoy the deep dives into masculinity and toxicity that lives at the surface, and sinks all the way to the bottom of the pillar. TBH I've been considering making my own videos, because I've been so inspired. Like another comment said, I love waking up everyday and knowing that I don't hate black women nor myself. Must be a heavy head wearing that crown of thorns.
I'm a black woman and I've been subscribed to your channel for a few years. I greatly appreciate your content and have shared quite a few of your videos with my 30 something year old nephew who also greatly appreciated them. Keep doing the brilliant work you've been doing.
Black woman here - I appreciate the content and your thoughtful analyses 🤸🏿♀️. I listen to a lot of divergent perspectives on here, and yours remains humble and intelligent- which I’ll ALWAYS get behind 💯 💪🏾
Black dude here. I didnt think black men and women had such big issues with each other until I got on the internet. Never experienced that kind of hatred in real life. I appreciate your content for giving me different perspectives to think about and discuss.
I think the internet just naturally magnifies the loudest, dumbest, and "edgiest" takes the most, especially once that became a viable way to earn money. But the internet doesn't represent real life in the slightest in my experience, and I've lived from one coast of the US to the other. It gives haven for the worst of us, while drowning out most other voices unless you specifically look for them. It's wild. It also means I have to give extra credit for those who never fell down that reactionary rabbit hole, since the internet seems designed to funnel people that way.
Shout out to Black Women first and foremost. I got put on to your channels by Khadija Mbowe and it's one of the best content I've consumed on any platform. It's insightful and authentic in the way it deconstructs the boundaries of black masculinity, allowing to be expandable, if not limitless. I've been watching for I think 2 years now, and it has introduced me to Tee Noir, Andrewism, Foreign Man, Shanspeare, and Waving the Red Flag. All of you are truly amazing creators, man.
The repeated accusation that you're popular with black women is such a tell though. Communicating to their audience that if black women like a creator, they aren't worth listening to.
Imagine thinking that it’s a bad thing for women to like and respect you lol 💀
I would say it’s a problem if you are preaching about black men but your viewers are educated black women. He is shouting into an echo chamber
@@CharlieApples While ALSO being indignant when women *don’t* like them. 😂
It reminds me of Sebastian G accusing Ethan from H3H3 of his increasingly female audience being an indication that men don't like him and that makes him irrelevant and on the decline. That's just how effective the grift is to dudes who get their education on women from Tate clones who claim they've solved their problems with misogyny and MMA.
@@CharlieApplesfacts lol
As a black woman, that fact that your channel is man-centered is exactly why I watch. You give me perspectives I don’t get in my regular life and talk about topics I care about.
Same! I’m tired of all the negative perspectives and every time I start feeling hopeless about black men, I watch his videos to remind myself that many of them are normal and the assholes could just be outliers.
@@kaosisosom 💚💚💚💚
@@kobby7135 His content is as a man speaking to other men about the male experience. If you DON'T think that's man-centered, I don't know what to tell you...
And I'll give you some insider information about what women want to hear: We want to hear anything that isn't mindless toxicity spewed at everyone and everything. We want to hear just regular degular conversations and insightful perspectives. You're the weird one for thinking that's a bad thing. I suggest you take your own advice and get off the internet for a while.
@@kobby7135 If you want to be well-rounded, consider doing both.
Same here! This channel has given me so much perspective on black men and honestly men in general. I’m grateful for this channel!
8:20 I'm an Asian woman. Trust me, I've heard of women from every ethnic group that have strong patriarchic/machismo culture say that "white men treat women better" and whatnot. Not all the women say this of course. Usually the women that say this are not well-informed or very experienced in interacting with actual white men. They just put all white men on a pedestal based on what they see in popular culture or surface-level interactions, in the hopes that white men are less patriarchal than the men from their own community that they're familiar with. It's a form of escapism.
Patriarchy doesn’t exist. You live in a gynocentric world
nailed it , its nature tbh if you look into sociology and history you will see it repeating it self
Yes and I honestly feels this happens on both sides not just with the men
Literally this!
As a black lesbian, insane to read, but I believe it.
"I love black women, I don't like y'all niggas" realest statement ever..
LMAOOOOOO
Damn lmfao
Facts. 😂😂😂
FR FR
“Y’all niggas” = Black men asking for female accountability and real conversation about the their role about the current state of our community. But please, continue on, ‘Brother’. SMH.
I'm a black male therapist who also sees many men in therapy, especially black & brown men. I've sent your clips to many clients, and they are grateful
Omg that is so cool! I hope he sees this!
Thank you for your work 🙏🏾🙏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Massive W
I got into his content thru self help 🙏🏽
That's beautiful. You're doing great work, and thank you for your service 🙏🏿💗
Young white woman here, i enjoy your content because it allows me to better understand the arguments that go on in academic spaces and gives me perspective that i wouldn't have otherwise. I've recommended your videos on the black manosphere before in class (grad school in women gender and sexuality studies) and others have come back after watching and said it was exactly the voice they needed to hear to understand as well.
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From one of the ladies- I come here to learn more about mens issues from one of the few men I trust to cover them in this nuanced, balanced way. You are very fair, FD. You take the heat when you know its coming to you and you just do your thing regardless, and I really appreciate the perspective you provide to this platform.
I'm not black, but as a brown American raised and living in the Middle East, a lot of your talking points (especially in the black conservatives videos) resonate a LOT with me and my people here.
Are these sentiments or situations seen in specific parts of the M.E or is it in the M.E broadly?
Love that!
Yessss same is true for South Asian ppl. It's honestly interesting bc I wonder what it is about being non white (like in regards to how whiteness functions against us) that causes these similarities 🤔
as an arab in france, for everything he says about black people in america, there is almost a 1 to 1 correspondance to our situation here
@@shameonyou1681 colonialism. it only benefited one demographic and indefinitely set back the rest of us. people can list the multitude of reasons why colonialism completely wrecked us, but the biggest thing for me is the reality we missed out on. makes me wonder how great these societies would’ve been without the curse that is the euro pride.
Black woman here, I don't feel like the target audience but also feel welcome to listen, learn and appreciated. Thanks for your hard work and dedication to growing and critical conversations.
I am an Arab woman who watches your channel. I support your content not because it's catered towards me but because I actually enjoy learning about these things. I also love supporting male voices in this progressive space specifically talking about Feminism for a predominantly male audience. So much to think about on this channel in terms of everything!! I've been in a slump for so long this Winter and your deep thoughts and philosophical questions and schools of thoughts bring me out of that slump and into myself. Thank you
Couldn't have said it better as a fellow woman!
Hope life gives you a little break too friend. ❤
It's so rare to find male creators making serious feminist content. FD is a good one.
Love this ❤
Absolutely agree. This channel does what we as women often can't do: Talk to men in an uplifting and caring way. It's like a warm blanket of supporting friendship that we women often get from our female friends, but many men just don't have.
Totally agree with you
Honestly, your content is like an oasis for me as a black dude. You’ve introduced me to so many schools of thought that white content creators just don’t touch. Before, i was of the belief that the only black male content creators pushed was toxic hotep bullshit. You introduced me to bell hooks! You’re what black men need honestly.
Same
Feel exactly the same!
I concur!
I agree 🤓
Woah woah woah we still like to dabble in a little bit of hotep tomfoolery every now and then.
I'm a white man raised by social liberals in the white white white white suburbs (97%), white white white conservative engineering college, who ended up in a very diverse Army. Thought I wasn't racist as a kid, still thought we didn't need affirmative action in the late 90's....learned a lot about how I got where I was through a whole pile of white privilege...
Anyway. Saw the preschool study about little black boys, and even though I FULLY understand how insane an advantage I have from the jump, it brought back a time I saw this in action while in the Army.
I was a new platoon leader, I was sitting down with my NCOs AND Company CO, talking about who my soldiers were, getting a brief on who was good, who to keep an eye on, who had prior discipline issues. They pointed me to T, who had been disrespectful and gotten written up. There were a few others, but he stood out. Thought I should get to know the people personally, rather than cast them in stone.
Turns out, T was an incredibly talented, driven black man from Cleveland who had the chip on his shoulder because his whole life had been those preschool teachers, and now NCOs, watching his every move just EXPECTING him to be a criminal.
I don't remember anything I did specifically, but I did all I could to show all in the unit that they had a fresh start with me, you do well, I do well, work hard for me, and I will fight for you.
Ended up helping T with a domestic issue early on, and all of a sudden, just having someone believe in him for real, and T was one of my most reliable, most hard working Soldiers, bar none.
Left the platoon, my senior NCO got replaced, and a month later, T was back to getting disciplined constantly as a problem Soldier. And to this day, I feel like it was fully a leadership problem.
All this to say...I believe you whole heartedly that black men are deeply, deeply unfairly disadvantaged from the jump, and I absolutely hate it. And I know I'm the one who benefits unfairly from it, and that sucks too. And just...ugh. Why can't we be better to each other?
If we stop fighting each other then we will start to demand better for all and excess power and wealth can not thrive under those conditions, to its current degree. If we all start demanding better for each other, the ultra-wealthy's pockets will be sad. :(
(Necessary background for this anecdote to make sense: I live in section 8 housing and was certified permanently disabled at 25 - conditions are "invisible". I won't disclose my details but I'm a millennial and therefore still young in regards to most in my situation)
A few months back the field supervisor for the agency that was helping me get caregiver assistance at the time came by to provide -make excuses- for why they still hadn't replaced my provider.
She admitted that it was not due to a lack of staff but that people we're "unwilling to work in my neighborhood due to 'safety concerns.'" I was immediately confused. (I live in the barrio and *she's* very much Hispanic, as are most people who are willing to do this job considering the work v.s income ratio in the position - McDonald's literally pays more.) I'd *never* heard this from anyone or any agency before and told her as much.
"You actually feel safe here?!" She was obviously bewildered, because this was at least the sixth time she had come to my home. It's quiet. This is *not* a high crime area.
I went on to explain that although the neighborhood was low income, people kept to themselves and were too busy working and trying to get by, attempting to support their families ect that they literally did not have time to 'start trouble' even if had any interest in doing so - which of course they never do.
I could tell that she didn't believe me (despite every dwelling in the neighborhood being completely silent and absolutely no vehicles to be seen other than hers since it was the afternoon on a weekday - everyone is out working one of what is usually multiple jobs.)
I described what I called the 'rules of the barrio' - as long as you kept to your own and didn't disturb anyone or cause grief then you get the same respect in return, finishing with "you know what I mean?" To which she replied:
"No, not really. I live over in..." (proceeded to list one of the most expensive and therefore mostly all white neighborhoods in the entire city. It's also a gated community - I've known places like that and obviously the etiquette is the same, I still don't understand her denial there.)
To be honest I had always assumed that the way she had dressed and presented herself when she came over was in the nicest clothing she owned (which was the usual case for most people who worked her position) I now realized that in fact she actually was wearing real designer karat jewelry, perfume, shoes and different handbags each time I'd seen her. It also was evident by her tone that "not being able to get caregivers" was *not* to them being uncomfortable with the actual neighborhood - but her relaying some biased description of what she presumed it must be like.
As someone who has been poor my whole life, I can detect classism rather quickly and I've also discovered that unfortunately some of the worst perpetrators of heavy-handed discrimination are those who aren't simply naive of their privilege but rather "one of the good ones". (While sometimes I pity this her disdain was palpable.)
So I went on to explain to her how growing up I never lived in white neighborhoods (despite my family being able to "pass" and I'm certain this woman thinks I'm white) not because we couldn't afford it, but that we actually could get more living space for the same amount in non-white low-income areas and they were less dangerous than ones than white ones. When she looked at me incredulously I explained that as a child I had been taught - and personally experienced - when we had to live in low income white neighborhoods that *very frequently* one of the houses on the street would probably *blow up* due to someone cooking in their bathtub - I never had to worry about that in the POC neighborhoods. [The expression on her face...]
Although my tone was incredibly casual, I provided enough detail about the various areas in the several different states that I had resided in from my childhood to graduating high school and how I had developed from a very young age a certain level of discernment when it came to making friends if they did not want to associate with me outside of school because I lived in one of "those" neighborhoods, and how whenever that was said I immediately decided I did not want to hang out with "those" people with "those" opinions.
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Although she never mentioned anything about our conversation - other than the shock over illicit substances being a higher concern in low income *white* neighborhoods - I'm positive that what I said sunk in, or at least she realized that I caught on to her passive-aggressive discriminatory acts of prejudice regarding where I lived -
"Coincidentally" she called me the next day and had not one but two different providers available with no issues working here.
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TLDR: The assumed "bad behavior" isn't isolated to just the 'B' unfortunately. Although I'd had heard far more subtle division in the past, I never thought that I would have to tell a woman to *give people the opportunity for a job* simply because a few times she stopped by she noticed some of my neighbors we're not as fluently bilingual or using English as their primary language.
@@searchingfororion some real thesis work here but worth the read.
@@Creationweek Thanks for reading it through. "Thesis" is an apt encapsulation of my writing style (regardless of how detailed or succinct).
I'm frequently amused when someone will retort, thinking they are countering an "ideology/agenda" ect, with "I'm/no one is going to read [all] that."
Obviously situations and mentalities like what I described in my earlier comment have been explored more deeply before (many times by F.D, Foreign Man, and countless others whom deserve their laurels but I am ill, already far beyond the length I intended this reply, and certainly less organized than I'd like).
I *do* find it tremendously disheartening that we are seeing yet more examples of individuals who are in positions of significant influence, potential for creating socio-political change, and cultural shift moving further toward loathing aspects of themselves and idealizing and striving for stations within the ultimate and inarguable pinnacle of their oppressors (such as the situation with North Carolina - I understand why many people are using levity to recount this story, and there are aspects where the common sense of teenager could have prevented some of this, but I personally can't point and laugh. Because I know that even if it had never happened, or a completely different platform *actually* been the next, new 'improved' MLK 2.0 - the same words would have been whispered by the same people regardless. Now his *incredibly* misguided attempt to get 'above' that has created an equal opportunity target. I'm *not* saying it doesn't deserve reporting, criticism or critique - but there's a door opened by this that I simply can't walk through.)
Treating each other better is bad for business.
Finally! I’ve been tryna be a white man for years thank you so much FD 🙏🏻
Welcome brother, would you like to try my grandma's potato salad? It's not seasoned but it's got raisins in it!
i love this comment lmao
Another cookout invite. Welcome homie
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😂 made my day
Hey F.D. I am Black male college student who is majoring in sociology, and your videos always encourage me to continue in my studies and use those studies to help shape me into a more well-rounded human being. Me and a close friend (another Black male) talk about your videos frequently, always causing us to have great conversations that help us learn and grow as men. YOU HAVE AN IMPACT!!! Keep up the good work bro.
I am a sociologist.
Don't go into applied sociology unless you're wealth already and no matter what some passionate professor says to you, making your own lane in social science is CRAZY HARD.
This is such a fantastic comment. Wishing you two the absolute best
@@lucasgrey9794 Aww man... why did you use that word?
@@lucasgrey9794not you spamming this incel rhetoric under every comment
Shout out dude 🙌🏾 Love seeing brothas not being foolish & listening to bs that ain't #productive 🙅🏾♀️
I used to be a substitute teacher. Your commentary about the disdain toward black boys was a spot on observation. Having witnessed such actions prompted me to stay away from the teacher's lounge and ignore the negativity directed at any student. In most instances, when an educator sincerely respect their students, they tend have fewer behavior issues from the learners.
That last sentence is so spot on. I don't teach, but I would see this play out with teachers so often. Kids always seem to behave better in respectful settings
Not a teacher but that's an observation I made in my own experience and witnessing others. If your default attitude towards a teenager is "they are inherent liars" than don't be shocked if they start lying constantly. Repesct is a two way street
As one of the maidens here I support this content because it's not really for me and if I can give a little ad revenue to a progressive voice that speaks to the men in a way that can get them to open themselves to more left ideas, I'm here for it without expecting more female oriented content!
Same, this content isn’t meant for me but I enjoy it so much I am just excited to add my likes and views 😅
As a maiden, I agree 👍🏿
@@lucasgrey9794how have you not spontaneously combusted from absolute cringe? Just reading your comment made me blush so hard from second-hand embarrassment that it felt like my cheeks were on fire.
@@lucasgrey9794 To approach this with compassion,
Start by trying to find a real connection with whatever gender you fancy without having the goal of a relationship or sex. You're a lot more attractive to people that feel like they can be friends with you and who feel like you want to be friends with them. And believe me, most people can't fake being a friend. So, do it genuinely.
Your short comment shows you are so deep into the incel content you seem to think the jargon used over there is not a dead give away, please get out that information silo more. That shit has and will give you a negative self-image and however attractive you seem to others will be reduces by a large margin because of that.
You won't find love (in a broad sense) until you're ready to both give and receive it.
As a white fem I still feel like I can learn a lot personally but at the same time I know it's not for me. I'm just enjoying the B Sides especially
i’m 25 and a black man, i really appreciate what you do. the male familial figures in my life don’t come close to the having conversations you do, so i seriously value your perspective
why don't they? explain
@@garywebb2432 well, very generally speaking, most of them are significantly older than i am. I chalk it up to: being stuck in their ways, not knowing enough or having enough interest to have a conversation on this level. This video for example, i’d be genuinely shocked if they knew what the manosphere or what divestors even are. this just isn’t their circle
@@garywebb2432the black manosphere
Why are we so bad about having these kinds of conversations?
@@tentyro Hey, 25 yo black man here as well. I relate as well cause of this. I've had conversations with my dad where he's told me he wouldn't look at me crazy for sleeping with another man's girl if she wanted it. I see my older brother with his marital problems, and I wonder, they don't need the manosphere to form their views; those ARE their views, and I notice how it's influenced the way I interact with women.
My dad graduated ivy league, so it's not a class issue with how people hold these viewpoints. As some divestors might point out.
"Am I a Simp? Yes!" Whenever you own it, they can NO longer get the pleasure of accusing you of it because it takes you off defense. Whenever you're on defense, you're losing.
😂simping and proud is a weird flex... This also proves simping doesnt work
@@the-lil-x You're entitled to your opinion. However, simping is a term all the black men who fall short use for men who are so confident that they love and understand women. You don't get further in life speaking abusively of men who don't abuse women.
@@the-lil-x the point isn't really to "flex about being a simp", it's more that the reasons people call him a simp are not bad things.. they're *_good_* things.
He's not simping in the sense that he's talking up some woman that he has no chance with, in order to get her to notice him (or date him or whatever); he's simping in the sense that he's not a misogynist. So if that's the way they're going to use the word, then fine, I guess the boot fits. It's a really silly boot though
You've never met a misogynist in your life. It's just a word you use online and in echo chambers.
@@888thawk You've never met a simp in your life. It's just a word you use online and in echo chambers.
I’m a black woman who has been loyally watching. It’s been a golden age of finding leftist black voices on UA-cam. I definitely owe my expanded scope of content creators to checking out your channel.
I'm a black African man who moved to the US 8 years ago. I particularly like that you avoid stereotyping and lumping Africa into one homogenous group.
Which par tof Africa r u from?
What's your experience of the US and why did you move there? As an African I find the US terrifying and dysfunctional and I'd rather be here in South Africa, unless someone paid me to go there
I’m a Black man.
I’m a husband.
I’m a father.
I’m a combat veteran of the Marine Corps and Army.
I’m a veteran police officer.
I’m an atheist.
I’m a leftist.
My point is despite stereotypes, I love your channel.
Ofcourse you’re a leftist and love his channel lol
@@Mik3xcellencesounds like a W
Are you an American cop? How do you deal with your leftist ideology while actively policing citizens in a right wing society?
@@Mik3xcellencesounds like a win for me, why arent you a leftist? Is the troll MAGA persona counter-culture enough for you?
@@starsiegeRoks can we please not care about what political side someone is on?? does it matter???
theyre all after money, keeping us divided, and being "funny" with kids. and youre over here playing right into it
I'm a white man from that whitest of regions - scandinavia - and I was tipped off about your videos by a slovenian dude who said you were his go-to for YT videos on black american social/political thought. I am *so* not the target audience for much of what you do,but I'll sit quietly here in the back of the classroom and pay attention. It's really educational.
Wow..Scandinavia. I saw a video of a guy train hooping through there. It's so pretty
🧐🤔
Lolololol. You’re from Scandinavia but judging by your name it sounds Swedish a place which most people would say is not exactly reeeeally white nowadays 😂 nowadays when people talk about Sweden all they constantly talk about is all the immigrants and Muslims and whatnot
@@BladimirButin They’re still white! Just ethic white like Jews & Italians!
from the mountains of Caucasus itself
I'm an asian woman. I love your content because it exposes me to a side of the conversation that I never encounter in my communities, leftist or not. I think its really easy to forget how narrow your window into the world is sometimes.
As a white dude up here in Canada living on a literal rock; same.
I'm an old white woman and I agree 💯
"Me too", says an old white man. 😊
Young white enby! It's always really interesting to see this sorta stuff as someone amab, cuz there's like...an alien familiarity? Like, I remember being expected to think in a lotta ways like that described here, but never feeling or acting that way.
@@darkestlight660The pressure of society is real
You described how i feel about gender conversations between men & women. As a trans person I’m tired of the arbitrary generalizations & villainization of the opposite gender. I love how you break this all down, FD, and focus on cause & effect.
Oh big, big same, it starts to feel like no one can actually get to know anyone because all the preconceptions come spilling in and get in the way.
I'm one of the black men who watches to learn the black leftist perspective on things. I was so sick of the black conservatives and redpillers not having any counter that you were a total breath of fresh air. While I don't always agree with your more radical takes I still find this side of UA-cam to be way more rational and comfortable than the right
That's cool. Welcome
the thing about radical takes is once you fully hear them out they become common sense takes.. then everyone you know starts thinking you are a radical for having takes that are basic good takes that everyone should give a fair hearing to and get behind.
Shout out dude 🙌🏾 Love seeing brothas not being foolish & listening to bs that ain't #productive 🙅🏾♀️
Agreed absolutely
I'm a black woman. I've been trying to understand men more. I realized that my anger lately has been towards men, especially black men. I don't know when it started, but I started to be annoyed by myself for feeling so angry at men following the manosphere or guys who call black women aggressive, and worse, I started generalizing and projecting. Watching your content has actually helped a lot to get me back to normal. It's helped me empathize a lot more. I realized my uncle and my brothers aren't all black men. The videos my dad watches aren't all black men. I think your channel is proof of that. It's been healing.
I'm sorry you seem so surrounded by that nonsense. Anger seems normal in a context like that, if not particularly healthy or productive. I'm glad you were able to find another voice that helped you feel more than anger.
Great job looking for resources to help yourself think things from different perspectives. We need to make this a ice bucket challenge or something: Find different perspectives challenge fr.
(I do it too from time to time, im nonblack white passing woman)
I always appreciate how insightful you are, even on off the cuff videos like this. True king Dingaling.
KENJI WATCHES SIGNIFIER???? 😮
JKENJI SIGNIFIED 😳😻😻THIS is by FAR the most ambitious crossover
As a black man, this is the most offended I’ve ever been by a title. Been a huge fan OG.
As a black trans caribbean guy, guys like you and Foreign are some of the only channels period that I feel safe engaging with and not expecting to catch strays
i feel infinitely more comfortable watching fd videos because not only does he clear the "not a transphobe" bar, he actually gets trans people involved in the discussion when it's relevant
that means a lot, i dunno
Yeah they both have become my favourite political content creators.
They both definitely taught me more about black issues as well as a lot of issues other minority groups have to face.
This is a safe community for sure.
I am a Black enby and I love your channel because the discussions you have on here make me feel like I’m back at my HBCU having the types of conversations I used to have when my friends were all together. Thank you.
Also, I had no clue what the divestors were before watching this video.
As a black man, I watch and support whole-heartedly! We need your voice and diligence. Please keep going 🙏🏾🙌🏾
Black woman here! I watch for the videos on masculinity (incredibly insightful) and pop culture, thanks for your great work :)
No cap;
I'm a Black woman who followed you initially because I was mortified that a Black man whom I love was watching Kevin Samuels' vids, and exposing his psyche to that toxic-ass misogynoir.
I wanted a positive counterbalance that came from a regular brother who isn't making coin off hating Black women.
I still share your vids with him; though now I mainly watch for my own edification.
Let it be said; I appreciate you.
I’m one of the white guys who watches your channel, and I want to say, thank you for your content. There may be aspects to it that I’ll never fully get as someone who isn’t racialized as black, but its still incredibly valuable. I’m 27 and I’m still struggling with how I want to define my own masculinity after coming to terms with the terrible relationship I had with my father. Your content is an excellent perspective on how to start to do that in a positive way (of course not the only resource though, we stan therapy). I know I may not necessarily be the target audience, but your work is helping other people too.
Same. I try to turn other white men on to this because I really believe his work goes beyond Blackness in relation to masculinity, while at the same time we are learning about the Black experience and perspective. x
I'm sorry your relationship with your father was horrible, I really hope you find your own path and definition of masculinity.
I wish you well 🥰
Im a latina woman and I love watching your videos, not because they are catered to me, but because Im majoring in anthropology and I love your takes on intersectional matters and anticapitalism. Love learning from smart men and women!
Damn I think u made a good point saying that a big part of ur appeal is that ur just a regular dude who’s chronically online like the rest of us but has achieved a lot of the aspects of aspirational masculinity that men like myself in they 20s wanna live up to
Everyday I wake up I’m grateful that I’m not inflicted with the illness of internalized racism and misogynoir. I don’t have any hate for black women in my heart or for any other groups and im grateful for that. It must be a sad life carrying all that baggage around.
What a beautiful piece of gratitude 🙏🏾
I did not find leftism until after my divorce and that was the key to unlock my understanding of how deeply our society hates women.. watching his family and to a lesser extent my family and friends all have more sympathy for him even knowing that he was a complete prick to me for years really helped me understand the way our society attempts to uphold marriages by shaming any woman who decides to end one. It helped mend my relationship with my mother when I realized that I had done the same shit to her when she left my father even though he had also deserved it and mistreated her for years. Internalized misogyny is so rampant in most women. I can’t even begin to picture what that looks like with racism also. I wish I didn’t need to unlearn that shit and could say I never internalized misogyny or hurt other women in my life because I had learned misogyny as a child.
@@bitchywoman That's real growth!
@@bitchywoman Thank you for being the very rare individual who becomes _less_ misogynistic after a divorce, instead of doubling down and seeing your ex in every woman you meet. When I was in my early twenties I rented an apartment in a house owned by a guy who had just gotten a divorce, and he made my life a living hell. Living there was like living in an active minefield, he’d come up with genuinely delusional reasons to scream at me and threaten me and try to squeeze money for nonexistent “damages” out of me. He outright denied that he had any problems with women, it was just me “being a bad person”. Mfer, I was the cleanest, quietest tenant ever. I literally cleaned up after him and his neglected dog, and then he’d get home and blame me for HIS hungry dog getting into the kitchen trash. Idk how that worked in his mind, but on one occasion he called me a series of misogynistic slurs and then chose to get all his guns out and polish them on the kitchen table while I was eating. I moved out the next day, and he tried to sue me for breaking the lease lol.
So again, thank you for NOT being him.
Redpill dudes constantly complain about how men are lonely and society should care about how _lonely_ men are, but also at the same time refuse to treat women with kindness and respect, and mock and harass men who do treat women with dignity.
There’s only two dots to connect, fellas.
I love that you always consider the multiple ways that oppression intersect. Not just sexism and racism, but homophobia and ableism as well. It helps paint a more complete picture, and I do believe that all forms of oppression are linked. I'm not black, but I'm not okay with any anti-black racism or misogynoir. I know you were jokingly using the term simp, but I smiled so hard when you said you were a simp for black women. I just love to see them get the love they deserve.
And bringing out the numbers and the facts! Love to see it. That study of teachers and black boys...that rang true. I was the weird kid who didn't fit in, and in second grade there was a black boy who was nice to me. My only friend really. And the teacher did give him a hard time. One time she said he had a chip on his shoulder. He then said "a chip on my shoulder! I'd eat it" and then made a chomping motion in the direction of his shoulder. That's not the reaction of a kid with a chip on his shoulder! He was so quick and smart and funny with that response. He deserved better than that. I didn't have the knowledge then to know how racism worked, but I think about that incident a lot, and how it made it showed me how real anti-black racism is. Wherever he is now, I hope he's doing well.
As a black male that watches you're videos. The teacher part really hit me, I've experienced so much trauma and racism growing up from my teachers. I've even had a black woman who was my teacher call me the R word (special ed) in math class back in the 5th grade. All the kids defended me and immediately came to my side when I started crying. She was also suspended for a week, but the impact still hurts today as a adult every time I do a exam, or even just writing down my name I feel incapable of excelling as my peers and sometimes I allow my anxiety to destroy me emotionally.
I've had other teachers when I was younger instead of trying to figure a way on how to help me or look deeper into my issue, just send me to another teachers classroom and dismiss me a bad kid. And on top of that I had to go back home to see my dad be abusive to my mom, me and my siblings while also saying he wanted to be a white man and that "we" are the problem as black people which is funny coming from a black male lmao.
When I would go onto r/Twoxchromosomes and see mostly white women saying "Men have always seen us women as incapable of excelling in school, but when women go to college now they want to cry why men aren't" I would read that stuff and as a black male I would express that I've felt that same way too, but they'll always deny the oppression or what I've felt and say "I'm just some conspiracy theorist or what are you mumbling about". It's shit like that, that has made me rationalize most white people only act progressive towards POC to solve problems for the white minority, so it's shit like that which has made me enjoy black spaces more like this one you've made FD.
Even in Hasanabi's community when content he watches brings up males failing in school and I see his chat laughing or making fun of those boy's, especially since I know the ones failing the most are black and brown ones it just doesn't sit right with me. It makes me hate white people (Majority of his community is white men) and everyone apart of his community even more. Even knowing he's trying to come from a good perspective.
Also all of this is coming from a black male who has really only made it to the 7th grade.
I hope you know even if we don't know each other, I love you, and I hope you one day see yourself for what you are, brilliant and capable.
Thank you for sharing this. I hate that you had to experience such a negative experience publicly with that teacher. I hope you find courage to return to education. I am black and in my 30s have recently found out I have autism and adhd. For the most part I was able to do well in school, but I struggled with math. Not because I didn't get it, but because I learned I have an auditory comprehension issue, sensory issues and then adhd. It wasn't that I didn't understand the material it was that I could barely make out what was being said in the first place. I'd hear some of it, some of it I didn't. I needed a little minute to process what I heard but then I didn't hear it all lol, then my brain would feel like it was moving really fast once I couldn't keep up. My mind end up going blank like basically automatically giving up (that's when my inattention from adhd would kick in). So, the first half would be struggling with my autism features and then the adhd would take it from there whenever learning a new subject. I finished school, but it could have gone way different had my parents been aware and supportive vs my dad screaming at me for not knowing something he felt I should know causing my brain to shut down receiving any information. I said all of this to say I still struggle learning new subjects and even training at work when it's visual and auditory. But now that I am aware of what my weak points are I know what to focus on in the beginning, stop and ask questions immediately about instead of letting the instructor ramble on. If I can't stop them in the moment, I write keywords and a question mark next to it, so I know what to ask about it later. Then I jot everything else down to the best of my ability and make sure I'm clear with my instructor/trainer before leaving the training environment.
Even as a student that was mostly on the honor roll, I used to carry shame around asking questions because I didn't want others to think I was stupid. Didn't want my teacher to feel like wth was I doing the whole time, why was I not listening (because I had issues the whole time that I could not explain and thought it was my fault)? Now I put that shame away. You'd be surprised how many people are just as confused as you and they suffer in silence as well. I learned that when I ask questions there are usually others in the group that also were questioning but embarrassed to speak up. And then there was worst case scenario, what if everyone laughed? I learned to not care. No one laughed btw, but if they did, I felt regardless I still need to know what I don't know and I care more about that than anyone thinking I'm stupid. I will not remain "stupid" just so people don't think I'm stupid and then never learn. I hope this helps even with all of the run on sentences lol. Your story has definitely helped me learn something new. ❤
Realest comment I've read in a while. Thanks for teaching me something.
Most of Hasan's viewers are POC. He makes fun of yt people way more than POC or marginalized groups. That doesn't attract yt people, especially yt men.
I used to be "invested" in the divester message. Not that I cared to be with a white man (just doesn't feel....right to me lol) but I was honestly very afraid of black men. I went through such a horrible childhood, mainly at the hands of my father and other male relatives, along with unpleasant experiences with other black men. I just reached a point of, "black men are bad", which lead me to divestersphere.
However, as I continued to listen, it started to get very uncomfortable because they enjoyed calling not only black man but black boys very horrible names :(. I may have been fearful of black men but I certainly couldn't get to the point of being vicious towards black boys (or any children at that). I also didn't want to be vicious towards black men - I was just confused and fearful and trying to find reasons to understand my personal experiences.
Luckily, I found content like FD as well as healthy black men in my real life and my views changed sharply. Though I healed a lot, I still have some personal fears I need to work out but it's no longer a black or white thing.
Again, I wasn't listening to divesters to be with a white man because I don't believe that just because a man has a different skin tone, he's ultimately better or safer. I listened because of my personal, treacherous experiences and believed that black men were just like that. It was a warped understand that lead me down a dark road but got out eventually :)
Both them (the divesters) and the individuals within the manosphere are delivering the same message and most def need to touch some grass or take a walk.
Wow. I'm sorry that happened to you. I wish you much healing and good things
@popdavid-dd4lx
your so right man a lot of men, especially black men refuse to acknowledge that they are victims. And normalize that hyper sexualization shit and pass it onto their kids as a positive. Its just a never ending cycle of sexual trauma and hyper sexualization within the black community.
And im sorry to hear about what you had to go through I have had similar experiences with my older male cousins no one should have to go through that. I wish you the best man.
@@Kyrolsha I've always thought that a big part of that has gotta be the belief that being a victim somehow means you're weak (even thought it definitely does *_not_* mean that)
Thanks for this transparency and I'm glad the cult never pulled you in.
Even how you framed your response is part of the problem. Sounds like you are blaming victims for not wanting to be called a victim.....as if anyone wants to be a victim.
As a 35 year old black man, I can honestly say that stumbling upon your two channels have actually been a serious breath of fresh air on this platform. The way you discussed and break down topics have always been my type of content that I didn't realize I always needed in my life. Thank you FD homie 🙏🏿💯
SAME! 35 in a few months
Same, but 40.
I’m feel the same way bruh and I’m 40
because FD Signifier cares more about females than men and then he acts like men hating is bad, people hate people who talk shit
Same, I'm 30
Black lesbian here (despite the name 😅)
I love your content, F.D. and I'm happy that you exist and that you are able to provide a different voice that black men can listen to. It's a shame that your perspectives may be on the minority end of what I assume black men consume on the daily. I assume that most guys watch sports clips, Aba and Preach, "women getting owned" and other fuck boy material here on UA-cam. I appreciate you for bringing in some diversity. I'm very sure that you've made a difference out here somewhere. Just keep doing you, Big Dawg. ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
I'm a Latino man, and I've always watched your content cuz I was also a dork growing up, and I think you said it best. I could see an alernate reality where I fell into a lot of shitty schools of thought. Especially since I'm a white passing straight male. Luckily there's creators like you who keep challenging me to be better. You're much appreciated.
same here!!
Latino/Latina F.D. Signifier fans unite ✊🏻✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿
@@amaravazquez8591 ✊🏼✊🏼✊🏼✊🏼
I'm here cause we don't have any latino essayists let alone any as good as FD 😭
@@Breakhammer82 factsssss
As a Russian Asian (a siberian native) who struggles with my own reality here, I have no idea i keep watching your videos, but a lot of things are universal I guess, unless all of us change. Thank you for your hard work and empathy ❤
I'd really appreciate hearing from your experiences as a Siberian
@@standowner6979 anything specific you'd like to know?
@@mishasa2751i don't know about them but id love to hear anything about your reality as ive no reference for it.
Thank you for your perspective. As a native person there is a lot of intersectionality and I understand that reality struggle, sometimes it seems nobody else is living in the real
@@mishasa2751 I don't know if you're still replying but how are you treated by the majority of White Russians? (I am sorry if it comes across as sensitive but I don't know how to word it good).
Black biracial woman! I appreciate your clarity of thought and empathy
Im a mixed black man that came from the Milwaukee Public Schools system into a white suburban highschool and the brothers I met at that school (3 of them) had deeply rooted internalized racism and now that we are grown I've changed their minds on a lot of things they've thought with videos like yours. Your impact is bigger than what you think
oof sending my love from Chicago... I had my own "interesting" experiences there even though I was just a visitor so living there was probably a whole different level... Wishing you the best!
As a young black guy, your content has really helped me in bettering me. Keep doing what you're doing FD 🙏🏿💯
As a afrolatino male that’s has had issues in the past with my masculinity watching your videos and hearing a different perspective on the “ideal man” has been really helpful for my ongoing healing journey
Nerdy Straight Black man here. Long term viewer. You're one of the channels that speaks my viewpoints on modern topics. I use your videos to educate my brothers and multicultural extended family.
This video is another gem
dude you’re so important and there’s a genuine lack of content for black men that isn’t rooted in harmful ideology + your content in most cases can cause damn near anyone to self reflect and take a step back. edit: the black men in the comments make me so happy. i love that y’all found FD
This ^
My great great grandmother was a black american; being raised by the white side of the family, I was pretty much barred from expressing sympathy, let alone empathy, for anything other than white culture.
I love this channel because, for one, it helps me understand the parts of my family culture that have been hidden from me. Secondly, because FD doesn't lie to us. News media is all BS, and 100% just holding on to a white supremecist capitalist culture. It's so hard to find honest reflections of american media...
I found FD as a result of black men who critique the content & commentary of FD. After watching this video, many of those critiques are very accurate.
From what I see in the social media space, Black women corral around any black man who seemingly 'hold black men accountable'. The trend would suggest black woman want an attack dog, or want a man to challenge other men on a level in which they may not be able as effective. Consider the paternalistic nature of your own comment.. Who are you to say whats needed on behalf of black males?
@@krumbleme2 Attack dog indeed
I support everything you do. You've actually helped to change my perspective as a black woman and I appreciate.
I appreciate you Fig as a black man!! You don’t pander and I think that’s why they mad!! People don’t like to be held accountable.. their problem!
Shout out dude 🙌🏾 Love seeing brothas not being foolish & listening to bs that ain't #productive 🙅🏾♀️
It's always refreshing to see and hear what he has to say.
I'm a black male therapist who see many black and brown children and teens. I explain many of the sentiments you expresses in simplified ways for them.
I am a 20 year old woman from India and I watch your videos. I know i am not the target demographic but it's still entertaining, educational and fun. I have never lived in America before and never get American pop cultural references but I personally love your content haha lol
My question is why the blame "BW" when there is overwhelming evidence that "WM" are the largest cause of "BM's" woes?
As a black man definitely enjoy your content. Keep doing your thing MAB 🤘🏾
me too!!
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As a black woman I also enjoy your content.
@@iMeta4Blue Phi
Shouts out to frat. Happy MAB Monday fellas 🤘🏽 from the Mu Beta Sigma Chapter Little Rock, AR
Hi! Non-black (mixed, arabic, if curious), agender follower (though your algo will list me as a woman). I'm subbed to your main, and not to b sides, because the algo feeds them to me anyways... But i wanna say I rarely ever comment because I watch your videos to listen and learn, and I feel like my opinions are not needed and could amount to tone policing.
I sometimes feel like your videos cast light on stuff I have no way to hear about otherwise, and makes sense of opinions or videos I've seen without context. It's super enlightening, and though not every topic grips my interest, I'm always glad to see a new video dropped. Keep up the great work!!
As a young black woman with a black father and brother and also dating a black man, I enjoy watching your content because it helps me engage in more meaningful, empathetic, and loving connections with those in my life effected by the topics you talk about. I feel as though it helps me understand them a little bit more, enough to meet them where they at and build from there.
Black female subscriber here....I like the way you articulate yourself and stimulate my curiosity. You have a beautiful family btw!
I’m a mixed woman and… I genuinely didn’t know about divestors until you brought them up in a previous video. I love your videos because you say some very apt and interesting things. Plus, I love the black men in my life and I want to know their experience more
This part (knowing more about our Black boys and men). It's been awhile since I've really watched his stuff but this is exactly why I want to watch more aside from just enjoying the content.
As a French black gay man, you are one of the only cis black man that dont make me cringe when they open their mouth. You speak a lot of facts that people don’t want to hear. Thank you so much for your content Uncle ✨
You mean online or in general if its an general you are too isolated.
Thats like a straight guy expecting every gay black dude to be saucy santana 😂😂
I get the point you’re making but it’s a weird way to put it. I think plenty of cis black men have their head in straight. Switch up your circle a lil bit or seek out different content. I feel like your implication that most cis black men are cringe is slightly clashing the main point he’s making at the end.
Sayin it this way is cringe tho
Saying what you've said isn't cringe-- that the prior individuals claimed this is indicative of their own hang ups.
@@eme.261 saying that someone that opposes your world view is due to their own “hang ups” is inherently problematic too. It’s actually okay to accept that there’s middle ground of reality between what you perceive or feel and what others do. No one here is saying cringe black men doesn’t exist. Bc they do. There’s also plenty that aren’t like that. Both are objectively true. If you can’t find any at all then maybe content or lifestyle changes ar in order
I had to rush here to deny once i saw the title in my notifications. Black man here loving your content!
As a black woman, I love your content. I love it. I share it with my brothers all the time. 😍
I'm not black, but Mexican. I personally sought out black creators in the breadtube sphere years ago which is how I found you, but I have come to relate to so much of your content. Our cultures are very different yet so alike in many ways, and your talks on stuff like politics and masculinity have helped make me a better man. Thank you
For real, we’re all dealing with our own versions of machismo and other parallel bs
Black American woman here, I’ve been following your content for a couple of years now, and I’m extremely happy knowing your content is viewed more by men, and yes hopefully more Black men than other . It gives me hope for our community, and my hope is currently hanging on by a thread .
This video helped me to realize its not crazy to think that there are good men still out here. The internet trolls us all!
As a brotha I appreciate your work. It educates, and challenges some of my beliefs. Much love from London, UK
Im a 25 yr old black man, who was introduced to you by my fiancée and since then I’ve been hooked. I really value your opinions on things and you’ve taught me a lot, i think you do a great job highlighting issues for every demographic you touch on and you never disappoint. Keep being a simp for black women cause i’ll be simping right along with you 🙌🏾🙌🏾.
I think the frustration comes from ppl equating manosphere weirdos and genuine Black men expressing their concerns. The loudest minority are usually the most miserable on the internet and using their strange “blame women” attitude doesn’t address the real feelings some have around not feeling wanted/cared for. Some genuinely just look around at the negative animus on the net about them and experience real life dismissal of existence that exacerbate what was just read online. Just like divestors being insignificant, so are these Black manosphere streams with 100 views you be in. At least to me, they’re 2 sides of the same coin. I think you make great videos, and I hope to see more Black male voices/faces in your work. I hope to hear their perspectives more often
Who would you consider to be a “ manosphere weirdo” content creator?
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Coming from a black man in the early half of his late twenties, your videos have furthered my understanding of the world around me and have brought some more clarity in the vision of the kind of man I aspire to be.
Thank You and continue impacting lives the way you do.
as an arab guy living in france, for everything you say about black people in america, there is almost a 1 to 1 correspondance to our situation here. So you have given me a lot of insight into understanding the racism that we are living through and how to fight it.
How so?
As someone who once wanted to move and live in France (I'm East African born and raised), I'm curious to hear about this.
@@jamiestaussi7157Most negative stereotypes around black people in America apply to black and Arab people in France. Arabs are arguably stereotyped (in europe) as more violent than black people. Same when people are polled on which ethnic group they would be comfortable living next to or marrying.
@@BigmanDogs i wouldn't say (not saying u said) the Arabs are more hated on a racist ideological level. Because black people are always the most hated overall us being on the bottom of the racial hierarchy. Even the racism for nonblack "nonwhyte" groups is based in antiblackness because there looked at as having to much "black blood". Now in Europe there aren't as many black people like the America's. So them being the darkest people with a significant enough population they become the main target. Not to mention Arabs are often thought to be associated with Islam whether muslim or not. Places like France being largely Christian also have hate for all the history of religious (and other) conflict between them. Crazy also because islamic middle eastern nations would own black slaves and only "made it illegal" relatively recently. Though it is still practiced behind closed doors.
@@BigmanDogsvery true. When you watch 24/7 news channel all you hear is « Arabs, Arabs, Muslims, arabs, Koran, Arabs »
I am black but I have to admit that Arabs here are THE number 1 target here
That's true for the most part in the US *however* we don't have the centuries of slavery and its ripples through the system. It's still bad. Ive been called a terrorist anchor baby and far worse. Ive been denied work and struggled to find housing. Ive been beaten at school and the kids got away with it because "your type did 9/11". It sucks. Its just not the same. Full transparency I'm persian on my dad's side, but like let's be real Americans don't know there's a difference. We're all Arab to them haha.
As a 22 year old Black man, your videos are what I send to my squad group chat to explain things and I appreciate you for that.
As usual, thank you for sharing your faith and your family with us. You bring so much peace to me every time i watch you.
I’m a woman! I’m happy you have a great platform that focuses a lot on content that features men, but doesn’t belittle women. It’s been very helpful watching your videos all around!
Yes! I learn so much from F.D.'s videos. I rewatch many of them. And he's my go-to channel recommendation for healthy, Black man centered content.
Like his recent video on Jada was one of the few nuanced opinions I've seen anywhere. Or when he talked about how Black Women can disparage working class men, it really put a lot into perspective for me.
As a black anime fan in an interracial relationship, I am a fan . Been watching your videos since last year and they have been very insightful. Keep doing you
Black man here🙋🏿♂️ big fan, keep the vids coming!
bruh i’m a 26 year old black dude who got the experience of seeing the hood while also going to school and being raised in the suburbs and i’ve been a fan of your videos for a long time and i appreciate you so much for creating content for young black people that isn’t rooted in harmful ideology and rhetoric while also challenging us to improve the community around us and our mentality. appreciate your content man really do.
As a black trans man, I love your video and I recommended your content to my (cis) black friends and we love what you bring !
you are awesome!
Your not a man kuh
@@Ky2-420 iont really care about that
@@Ky2-420who tf are you
@@Ky2-420no one asked for your input buddy
I fw your content because you address the shit i been saying and wondering about black men forEVER that a lot of bm ive spoken to irl (outside of my family thankfully) wanna skirt around, excuse, or ignore
As much as I am white, I love watching your stuff just to learn about issues from a perspective I haven't (and otherwise likely wouldn't) hear in my life. It's the sort of stuff I wish schools would actually educate people on if not for conservative parents just calling it "woke" and protesting
Yo, when you said the part about being labelled "good" or "bad" as a kid and it affecting your future, that is definitely something I examined. I too was usually a quiet kid , who had decent grades. I also from time to time would run the hallways, or get into an occasional fight. But because the teachers knew me, and lets be real here, looked kinda soft, I got way more second chances, and opportunities than another kid, who clearly just didn't take in the lessons as easily as I did, or whatever the had going on like ADHD.
Oof, that stings. I also have ADHD, and I was diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (apparently, they're often found together, at least among males) a half dozen times or more before I was ever diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. That meant I was labeled a "troubled student" pretty quickly, despite always having good test grades. And I got into way too many fights at school, because I didn't understand how to shelve or harness that anger until I grew up some more.
That kind of label can stick with you as a child. Especially in a small community. I was lucky to have had a better caliber of teacher and friend circle when I started high school, otherwise it might've stuck. I was able to pull myself back a bit and get things mostly under control. But I definitely don't like to label kids like that. There comes an age when they should probably know better if it continues, but I've met too many children that were hit with that label and it stuck to ever play that game.
It’s so real. I’ve seen it as a teacher. It’s heartbreaking.
Black guy here, pushing 40. Didn't realize we had to roll call. Damn.
As a non-black male I don't always understand everything you cover but appreciate how you handle the concepts you cover. All that being said, these trolls are keeping you from making what we've all been waiting for: the Tyler Perry video
I would love to see this too, if FD has interest in delving into it
I’m a black man from the UK living a true fly in the milk experience. FD is one of the only BM I’ve come across on YT that talks thoroughly and articulately about leftist BM content even if it doesn’t all apply to me. Thanks 🙏🏿
Black Woman from London 🇬🇧. I love his content as well
i’m so glad he talked about this, the reason i watched him is i was exposed to a lot of conservative talking points growing up and trying to reconcile those against the logic of my leftist upbringing. love u FD.
Black woman here. I watch your content because it reminds me of conversations I’d have with my older brother but with a more critical analysis of patriarchy.
Question about patriarchy; how do you define it and is it something that you think is objectively bad or toxic?
would/have you recommend this channel to your brother, in hopes of sharing this perspective ?
@@soulcage6228Patriarchy emerged from the creation of the social structure whereby women were deemed weak and unbale to provide for the family as hunters and were relegated to the roles of caretakers and gatherers and value was placed in hunting as that was the major source by which food was acquired.
As we progressed, became more technologically sound, more adaptable to nature's tanturms and created stuff that basically mitigated the whole hunter gatherer process yet in our technological advancements we kept the ways where we treated women as weak, and made femininity a synonym of weakness, beauty, care etc.
In the modern day with health care so advanced that we are no longer dying because of polio, women are no longer dying in buge numbers during child birth and get adequate medical care hence they are no longer the weak, as per the definition of men who placed value in "outside work" and so women just to prove themselves are now working with us.
@@soulcage6228"sea lion honks"
@@missgreen101 I have it honest(i love sea lioning people), I'm always interested to engage with women of color specifically about their perspectives on white feminism. You seem interested in speaking for her.
The video clip with all eyes on the little black boy really hit me hard, especially since I have two sons and I would get calls, yet next to none with my daughter. I remember when I was a kid the teachers missed the other kids acting a fool, but were super quick to correct us black kids. Happened while I was in the navy too! A lot of us worked hard as mechanics, but if we took a 15 minute break together, as we're allowed, one one the supervisors would rush us back to work. It's nuts!
Im a white Irish male, and I like your content as it challenges me to proactively find the truth behind things myself as there is always something under the surface that I haven't seen
Maiden here. Apart from loving video essays, media analysis, and your particular take on things, I specifically love this channel because you address a lot of women's concerns ABOUT men, FOR men and AS a man. That is very valuable to those of us that have been screaming ourselves hoarse about this stuff without making much change because 1) these are things we can't fix for men, 2) it takes hearing if from a man to give it legitimacy and 3) it makes me feel less crazy and alone when I know its not "just a female thing", as I'm sure so many of us are told.
Firstly, I am a Cis Black man, and I love your content.Your content has helped me in so many ways, so much so, that you have inspired me to start creating content. Secondly, respectfully I don't think you SIMP for Black woman. I just think you see Black women, as we all should see them, as human beings, deserving of love, and rights as everyone else. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for all you contribute to our culture, and society. Please don't stop doing, what you're doing brother
I love how he owned it though. Like, he's not going to debate the semantics, he thinks women are worthwhile and if that's how those bros want to phrase it, sure.
Older black man here. You are much needed in this space. The left has been scantily represented in our current political state and it shows. Every advance that we have made in this country could be considered a radical movement. Conservatives preserve and defend the status quo’s. Where does that leave a marginalized community? Keep doing your thing brother!
FD, seriously, some black brothers are unable to hear the truth and cannot see the opportunity to educate themselves. I love your content and I am a confident black Woman who has dated both. You are actually one of very few black leftists I listen to consistently. Thanks for your work!
I'm a black man, and I see what you mean. People often over generalize others based on their experiences and are jaded that what they're told growing up is wrong.
Proud of you. Don't stop being who you are. Believe me I know how frustrating it can be dealing with ignorance 24/7.
My fiancée always knows when I've watched an FD video because I can't shut up about your content sometimes. And we've even discussed how content that usually appeals to black women, from male creators, is a telling sign about what the content speaks to, about, and how it's even structured. I thoroughly enjoy the deep dives into masculinity and toxicity that lives at the surface, and sinks all the way to the bottom of the pillar. TBH I've been considering making my own videos, because I've been so inspired. Like another comment said, I love waking up everyday and knowing that I don't hate black women nor myself. Must be a heavy head wearing that crown of thorns.
You should do it man, get your ideas out there!
I'm a black woman and I've been subscribed to your channel for a few years. I greatly appreciate your content and have shared quite a few of your videos with my 30 something year old nephew who also greatly appreciated them. Keep doing the brilliant work you've been doing.
Black woman here - I appreciate the content and your thoughtful analyses 🤸🏿♀️. I listen to a lot of divergent perspectives on here, and yours remains humble and intelligent- which I’ll ALWAYS get behind 💯 💪🏾
Black dude here. I didnt think black men and women had such big issues with each other until I got on the internet. Never experienced that kind of hatred in real life.
I appreciate your content for giving me different perspectives to think about and discuss.
I think the internet just naturally magnifies the loudest, dumbest, and "edgiest" takes the most, especially once that became a viable way to earn money. But the internet doesn't represent real life in the slightest in my experience, and I've lived from one coast of the US to the other. It gives haven for the worst of us, while drowning out most other voices unless you specifically look for them.
It's wild. It also means I have to give extra credit for those who never fell down that reactionary rabbit hole, since the internet seems designed to funnel people that way.
Cause we don’t really have issues like that, of course we have some issues but we are nowhere near as bad as the internet would portray.
Shout out to Black Women first and foremost.
I got put on to your channels by Khadija Mbowe and it's one of the best content I've consumed on any platform. It's insightful and authentic in the way it deconstructs the boundaries of black masculinity, allowing to be expandable, if not limitless.
I've been watching for I think 2 years now, and it has introduced me to Tee Noir, Andrewism, Foreign Man, Shanspeare, and Waving the Red Flag. All of you are truly amazing creators, man.
Nah man I love this channel. Watching from London UK. Love new drops.
YESSS NEW SIGNIFIED B SIDE TO START THE WEEK!