Promise ring given to an adult: "Not ready to make a real investment in you or committment to you, but this says you can't sleep with anyone else k thx".
Amen. In Texas, it isn't about rings. it's common law. This means a guy you slept with 2 years ago who lied about being married can now tell people that you are his wife and keep you from dating. You wouldn't really be his wife if he was married when you stayed with him. or if he did not live with you anymore. Likewise, a woman could do the same and take a man's car or home because he allowed her to sleep over the weekend at his place. Now gender prejudices are awful, so it could be a man taking resources or a woman trying to lock down a man who is tired of her, but people I talked to say the man wants to impair dating nearly 100% of the time even if he doesn't want the woman anymore.
In Kenya , we follow you and your apt analysis religiously. Introduced my neighbour to your UA-cam channel and he is obsessed with it now. Good work Dr G
My ex tried giving me a promise ring and I told him to propose if he wanted to propose but promise rings are for middle school kids. I felt like I was harsh but I was low key offended. He’s extremely manipulative anyway. I could totally see him using that as a way to manipulate me into feeling engaged without the commitment of it. I just don’t trust that shit for a second. Do it or don’t do it but don’t half ass it! Ya know ?!
@@JC-sg5uo It's for high school when you're too young to get engaged...but this guy is a Grown Up Dentist, and then took the other woman on expensive trips. Of course he was never going to marry the promise ring girl. Too bad she didn't just let it drop. She could be a Dentist now too, if it weren't for the whole stalking/murder plotting/murder thing....sigh...anybody who is brave and smart enough to figure out how to get to Mexico on a bus can be a Dentist!!! Girlfriend should have called me first...I would have told her to just let him go, you'll find another dentist or whoever you want!! No Stalking!!
Losing an “ideal” partner to someone who is a better match in not unusual, it happens all the time. However, as you beautifully put, her personality traits made her unable to deal with the defeat. This case exemplifies how flexibility and some humility can help people withstand life’s failures and potentially prevent criminal activity. Excellent review Dr. Grande, thank you.❤️
My first husband made it very clear that he was still in love with his ex-girlfriend . He would often visit her when her husband was at work. Was I upset? Yes. Was I angry? Yes. So, what did I do about it? Wrote my Mom about my situation. Mom called me, said don't worry about it and sent me a one way plane ticket back home. Once back home, I filed for divorce. Problem solved.
People need to understand that no one belongs to anyone, and for your own peace you need to let it go when it comes to a fling/ex/friend if they're no longer interested in pursuing a relationship with you.
I find that people that hurt or kill another for not returning their feelings is a sick sense of entitlement. It hurts when you like someone that doesn't feel the same but I really don't comprehend how they completely overlook that their obsession does not want them. No amount of bad behavior is going to change that. Especially now!
If you truly love someone you want them to be happy; if their choice is someone other than you, you wish them well. It hurts, but you move on. If you can't let go and accept it it's more about obsession than love.
Yeah it's harsh getting rejected but every human being alive has been through it and learns to deal with the emotional backlash. This woman must literally never have heard the word no before that time ! Parents do not do their offspring any favours by giving them every single little thing they want.
@@polarbearsrus6980 exactly if someone doesn't like me I don't like them automatically because I can't respect someone who doesn't see my value .. I'll be like ok, you're not worth my time if you think I'm beneath you later have a good one ..
@@porkch0mp538 His shirts are getting a lot of attention these days. I wonder if this influences his purchases these days. I'm looking forward to the day he wears a Hawaiian shirt and has aPina colada nearby as he breaks down the character of another religious charlatan. The shirt would represent how serious the religious leader was taken.
I don’t think so! It’s called a promise ring but doesn’t necessarily mean marriage!! It can symbolize ur love for that person! Or it could be because like most woman demand rings it’s a okay shit up for a little bit type of thing! Y’all so negative
But, you aren't wrong. That's exactly what the concept of the rings were. Instead of guys losing class rings. Because they wanted to "go steady". That's why they are inexpensive. So high school kids could afford to buy them.
I feel that Kendra could have been saved had somebody gone to the police to report Brenda for what she was doing. Even those that agreed to commit the murder had that thought process and could have recorded Brenda when she was making plans and went straight to authorities. The fact that nobody did is just mind boggling.
This is such a sad tale. If only Brenda had reached out to mental health professional instead of a man who was building his criminal resume. She would have realized that Ricky was not the Ideal man she had built him up to be and could have found someone who was a better match for her to love. Instead an innocent woman died, a man received the death penalty and Brenda gave up the opportunity to have a fulfilling and happy life. So so sad.
Yes, besides the death of an innocent woman, I think of the waste of Brenda's life. She seemed so driven in the beginning, with professional goals and then, she just got fixated on this man instead of moving on and improving her life, cultivating other interests. She had a life that looked promising.
@@Germania72 She always had it in her. It didn't appear after she met Ricky. Something coming from really really far that she concealed àd went unnoticed all this time.
People in full blown Borderline crisis rarely know when to seek help. I'm surprised Grande didn't mention that diagnosis once. This is the classic 'Fatal Attraction' female.
Next time you're feeling down remember life is all about perspective. I have a friend who has sxx 2-3 times a day, exercises twice a day, reads two books a week yet every day he complains about how much he hates prison.
You know, lives could be saved if everyone approached by someone asking if they would kill someone or knew someone who would kill someone just went straight to the police and reported it. What is with these people who hear this stuff and don't tell anyone!?!
They probably thought the woman was just crazy. Being an ass. "Yea b*tch, if you kill someone for me first," he says joking to his friend after she had pulled away in her car. Society is just too much of a mess that people almost can't care about what anyone says or does anymore. Kill for $500 to become an official hood gangster?????!!!!!! Please.
I thought the same thing. But also I don't think the police would do much. But it's worth a try. Often they send an undercover police and prevent the killing. I would tell the police right away 👍
Dr G you are exactly right. Jealous women are willing and able to act out of character especially when they cannot compete. I love your channel and I listen to you during my daily commutes to work.
I feel really bad for Crystal Cortes's son in all of this. Implicating yourself in a murder plot (and for $500 at that) is, on top of everything else, incredibly irresponsible as a parent to a small child. Hopefully he has found a home with the father or other family. But man, he was six years old when this happened, which would make him twelve today. Talk about getting your childhood innocence ripped right out. 😕
Ricky, running into your ex once or “maybe “ twice could be a coincidence in a large city. By the third encounter it’s time to start changing passwords and door locks.
A "promise ring" is for kids. Who are still in school. Not for adults. Who aren't underage. With little to no income. Anyone over 25 giving or accepting a promise ring, is very immature.
He should've cut off all contact from the first moment they broke up. I don't believe in keeping exes as friends when these exes are still pining on you which was her case. I'm troubled by the people who heard her talking about killing Kendra and didn't say anything.
Exactly. No rides, no dances together, no keeping you up on my new girl!!!???? How could this guy even bring up anything about a new girl. Trips we're gonna take???!!!!! My new home we are gonna live in???!!!! This guy was beyond naive.
I went to dental hygiene school with her. She was a total mean girl. I don’t think she had friends in dental hygiene school because of how her manipulative behavior would catch up to her.
@@lauravalenzuela9974 VERY interesting 🤔 If they decide to do a Lifetime Movie on the tragedy of this particular Case; could you PLEASE share your experience to the important parties 🙏🙏 This WILL help others who are working on their Thesis in Graduate school. Thank YOU in Advance 💖
From the beginning, it looked like Brenda was being selective. She was extrenely inexperienced, conservative, and I don't really see what was wrong with her that he didn't marry her, but apparently he DID see it, as she was capable of murder! I was totally shocked by that part!
Kendra was the “ideal.” Brenda saw this, and thought that the way to hurt her ex would be to destroy the very thing he adored. By destroying Kendra, Brenda thought that she could get her ex to hurt like she did. This happens when people focus on the hurt of the breakup rather than what was good while they were together. I also think the abortion had a part in this. If Brenda was coaxed or felt forced to do it in order to keep him, then his leaving her hurt doubly. She probably told herself that had she went ahead and had the baby, she would have at least had a tie to him. She’d have en excuse to be around in his life. Her ex probably saw how this would affect his future plans, and that he’d be tied to her whether he wanted to or not. Hence he had an extreme motive to step Brenda in the direction of an abortion. I think it all plays together. Too bad Kendra had to pay the price. Maybe women out there should ask their potential mates if they have had any “bad romances,” before getting involved with them. Thats my analysis.
Another podcaster talked about how great Ricki's family was, he was very close to them. They all disliked Brenda's lack of character and pushed him to break it off. Brenda & Ricki began fighting about this, it actually led to his breaking it off with her. Agree 100% with you about her regretting the abortion. Not out of any compassion she may have had for the child, she's too narcissistic for that. Rather a regret that she'd been foolish enough to squander a bargaining chip.
Please get well and recover quickly. I hate hospitals, I got MRSA and bacterial pneumonia when I went in to get my foot stitched up.And now I have to have a multi level fusion in my lumbar spine before it distegrates Sorry for the rant. I'll be thinking of and sending you positive vibes.
You always go over cases I'm extremely familiar but always manage to make it fresh and interesting and usually adding more context or info. You are my favorite creator and I LOVE the book! Cant wait for the next one!💚
@Dr. Grande…I told my therapist about your channel. He thinks you’re funnier than he is; he’s right. Now, he’s gonna up his sense of irony and sarcasm during our sessions! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼✊🏼
You sound a bit under the weather. Please don’t push yourself too hard. We would all understand if you weren’t able to keep to your incredible upload schedule, when you are feeling unwell.
Dr. Grande great presentation. I was aware of this terrible crime. What struck me was the fact that the Dentist was thinking with his third leg. He even perpetuates the ruse. He was manipulating Brenda for a long time. In my opinion he was a complete dolt. A lovely lady lost her life.
Great analysis Dr Grande. I'm appalled at the numbers of people, who kill other women due too the amount of jealousy. They need too stop and get on with their own life. Thank you Dr Grande. Great topic.
Situations like this really make me mad. Although Brenda obviously should not have committed murder, she was treated horribly by Ricky. This was a classic case of a man stringing a woman along, telling her he loved her and wanted to be married to her someday all the while knowing he didn’t love her or had any intention of marrying her. He was using her for sex and companionship. His ass should be in prison along side Brenda.
I stopped years ago. A police friend warned me criminals are particularly interested in vacation photos. It's like an invitation, come rob me, I'm out of town:)
Well it used to be unofficial cannon law that your not you online and usually if you wanted to share a pic you blurred out some of your face but that was rare then myspace came......what's the point of a personal life w social media, yes be insecure all the time
Incredible video, Dr Grande! Such a sad and tragic case! Obsessed stalkers are 'one of' the most terrifying things that usually ends so badly for the victim!
Promise rings are red- flags!!! They can either be gifted from someone afraid of a long-term commitment. Or, the possibility someone they love may need committing.
I’ve heard of “Bring your own wine” party, but “Bring your own *pistol* to your murder party” ❗️❣️ What an amazing tale this is, your green shirt, green cacti, and tough analysis. What is reasonable is the beginning of hate can lead to murder, so the beginning of attraction leads to love. We cannot trust our own heart. Thanks Dr. Grande, you are awesome, and do not go to extremes. ❗️❣️❗️
What is with these people? Let's "stay friends" and texting your ex good lucks and shit? Obviously Brenda was insane, but it probably didn't help matters for him to keep stringing along a psychopath.
But I guess it was hard to get rid of her because she was wild in bed. Part of this was his fault, he had to know at the very least that she was unstable.
@@sarahalbers5555 Reminds me of murderer Jodi Arias. [Victim did NOT deserve to be butchered. ]She was nuts and he would try to break it off nice but then they’d have sex so she probably thought they were together again. Then she learned he took another girl on a trip. It was off again/on again
People stay friends with their exes all the time - it's not unheard of. She had the choice to reject friendship and move on - she didn't do that. Instead she chose to commit murder.
Having been stalked before, I find this story particularly disturbing because at least I knew that I needed to be extra careful & vigilant.... Kendra was oblivious to the danger she was in, going about her life with no reason to think that she was in someone's crosshairs. The fact that Brenda didn't give herself away to Ricky or her family is particularly chilling, because it probably wouldn't have taken much to prevent her from getting to Kendra if they knew.... the way she was so blatantly searching for someone to do the murder almost feels like a part of her psyche _wanted_ to get caught before she could do it. Why _none_ of the people she approached bothered to report it, even anonymously, I'll never understand. RIP Kendra
It's amazing how many people were aware that she was stalking him, yet didn't do anything. There have been many cases of women who have refused to let go, often ending up with someone dead. Jodi Arias is a prime example of this.
"Love Triangle of DEATH". Perfect title for a Lifetime Channel movie! I always thought it is so funny when girl would say, "I'm pre-engaged." 😆 OK.... so your boyfriend hasn't asked you to marry him. I'm pre-dead, by the way. I don't have a ring to prove it, though.
This is a strange and compelling story, very well told, Doctor Grande !! - I became increasingly alarmed, as the criminal behavior unfolded. This would make a good 'true story' movie 👍
Thank you for finally voicing how ridiculous promise rings are! But I find it curious that it didn’t emphasize the connection between Brenda’s deterioration of her self worth after the abortion which was most likely his idea since a baby would tie her to him for life (a goal of hers)
💥 BOOM! 💯💯💥 Thank YOU for bringing this UP!! You see, this MIGHT be the Crux of the problem! YOU might be on to something!!! That particular question crossed my mind 🤔🤔! You see..I think that we as an " Audience" need to take a. CLOSER look at this. I hope that the Doctor Reads this particular Post!! I would like for him to give his personal Analysis of the Abortion 👍👍 Let us hope that he WILL do a further Analysis 🧠🧠🙏🙏❤️ Carpe Diem, Chandra ❤️
@@ToyotaGuy1971 YES Sir, it IS Sexist to assume that he wanted the Abortion! I definitely will AGREE with you on that 💯. But you see as a WOMAN who only dates High Value Gentlemen who are: Educated, successful in their career, successful in Life; successful in their own Personal Achievements , have assets in regard to Real Estate; whether it is a Collectibles ( cars, art, antiques,) etc. etc . I would NOT Abort a High Value Man's prototype!! I think 🤔🧐🤔🧐 that YOU will be hard pressed to find a Woman 👠 who would! Most of my friends would give the Baby up for Adoption; however, I know that some of the Women who went to Boarding School and, the ones who I attended the University with will Abort. You see in situations when a Woman is " SLUMMING" with a Low Value Man, and she Accidentally gets Pregnant that can be a MAJOR dynamic 🤷🤷🤷!! She does not want his Prototype growing inside her; and, she doesn't want to have to deal with the Low Value Man for the next 18 years!!! In this PARTICULAR video....we see that this particular Gentleman is considered to be a High Value Man; therefore, I can come to the CONCLUSION that she would not Abort his " seed". NOW.....do YOU see Women aborting babies from: NFL, NBA, NHL, and from the Entertainment Industry??????? Did Salma Hayek? Did Steven Tyler girlfriend?? Do a survey for yourself with other Women and you WILL see for yourself 🤷🤷 Carpe Diem 😇 .
@@ToyotaGuy1971 ALSO Sir, remember the controversy surrounding Padma Lakshmi?? If you can remember she was told by her Doctor 🏥 that she could NEVER have 🍼🍼 babies. Well by the Miracle of God 🙏 her Womb healed and she got Pregnant by the Billionaire Adam Dell. The Pregnancy was considered high Risk; however, Padma Lakshmi went ahead with the pregnancy. The comments from the Regular Average Joe was shocking!!!! For some odd reason they could not come to terms that God answered her prayers 🙏💯!! They wanted to be the FATHER of her children. She just happened to get pregnant by someone who is " Top Dog" . 🤷🤷 You see.... She is what a lot of Men would love to have as a Mother of their CHILD. Sadly, only Top Tier Men have Access to Women like herself. Steven Bing and Liz Hurley: another example. The Grandfather wanted Liz Hurley to Abort; she stated " I want my Baby"and I LOVE Steve Bing! Read up on both of the cases. Carpe Diem 😇
A friend just got involved with a man and after a couple weeks, he gave her a promise ring. They're around 60 years old. He told her he wanted to wait a little while before they actually get engaged. No red flags there./s It's the first time I've heard of a promise ring since high school. Then I hear about it here. So funny.
Dr grande: The ring version of playing house. It's good to hear this because it is what it is here and it's nice to hear a man saying it like it is and not always siding with their own gender. I see a lot of that over the years.
I can't verify this, but I've heard that Dr. Ricky went into a sort of isolation after this whole thing. But he emerged pretty well, after inventing the Ring Doorbell. He's been very successful with that.
I've had my share of hurt and rejection in my life, but I always found a good remedy for the woe is me !! ...was a good bottle of wine and a large bar of chocolate, that did the trick for me, I can honestly say I never once thought of investing in a metal baseball bat. :(
Curious why Kendra was the target and not her ex. Killing Kendra doesn't guarantee he'd want her back. He's the one that dragged her on for years and played her, not Kendra.
He should have suffered like she did. His dream had to be crashed like Brenda's did. She wanted revenge. Revenge is about making the person who hurt you feel the same way
That always has me baffled as well. What in their minds choose which one to kill? Some kill the exes and some kill the significant other in the exes life. Who knows???
How did he play her when *she* was the one stalking him and continuously inserting herself into obvious situations in an attempt to get him back? She played herself and she is 100% at fault. She should had accepted the breakup and moved on with her life but she refused. She felt entitled to him to herself and could not accept otherwise. Are you serious?
Moving in with someone after only 3 months is just CRAZY to me. And a dentist giving a promise ring? Are u kidding me??? I dated my husband for 3 years before marrying him & i still found surprises.
Dr. G: If you want to cover an even more tantalizing Dallas area murder case......check out the Tracey Frame/David Nixon case! Psycho for love........you'd have a blast analyzing Tracey plus what it wound up costing her to save a few pennies during a Tom Thumb store purchase!! Jim C.
A man I dated in the early 90s gave me a promise ring. I excepted the ring. ( well sometimes I am not the sharpest knife in the draw.) Immediately this man started abusing me. The abuse was sexual, mental and physical. But every time he was abuse he would send roses to me at work. I got trap cycle of abuse , saying he was sorry, and send roses. This went until I went to Maui for a week. My sister and friend spoke me about my boyfriend. I finally decided to break up with him. I called at 6am when I returned my flight to LAX. I told him I never wanted to see him again.
Promise ring given to an adult: "Not ready to make a real investment in you or committment to you, but this says you can't sleep with anyone else k thx".
Amen. In Texas, it isn't about rings. it's common law. This means a guy you slept with 2 years ago who lied about being married can now tell people that you are his wife and keep you from dating. You wouldn't really be his wife if he was married when you stayed with him. or if he did not live with you anymore. Likewise, a woman could do the same and take a man's car or home because he allowed her to sleep over the weekend at his place. Now gender prejudices are awful, so it could be a man taking resources or a woman trying to lock down a man who is tired of her, but people I talked to say the man wants to impair dating nearly 100% of the time even if he doesn't want the woman anymore.
Same as being engaged but far from setting a date. Then, you're not engaged.
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I didn’t know how badly I needed to hear Dr. Grande’s utter contempt for promise rings until this video.
Read Elizabeth Diaz' comment above. Apparently it is cultural (Hispanic) and the equivalent of an engagement ring
Haha! I found his comment hilarious 😅
Same😂
Dr Grande is spot on about the promise rings. Comedy gold at 8:40
Seriously!!! Promise rings shouldn’t exist, stupidest concept ever!
@@CR-ce5lf Well I guess it's just another way for them to make money especially if folks aren't serious about wedding rings hmm
And the criminal "resume "!
In Kenya , we follow you and your apt analysis religiously. Introduced my neighbour to your UA-cam channel and he is obsessed with it now. Good work Dr G
Nakuona baba!
@@archipiratta where are you from?
In Nigeria, we also love the good Dr!
When I can not sleep at night with worries and stress, I listened to Dr.Grande.
My ex tried giving me a promise ring and I told him to propose if he wanted to propose but promise rings are for middle school kids. I felt like I was harsh but I was low key offended. He’s extremely manipulative anyway. I could totally see him using that as a way to manipulate me into feeling engaged without the commitment of it. I just don’t trust that shit for a second. Do it or don’t do it but don’t half ass it! Ya know ?!
you were smart to do that!
Absolutely. I learned this one from experience, I'm sorry to say.
Run girl. You did the right thing and I am proud of you.
What is a promise ring supposed to signify anyway? I promise to commit to you in the future if I'm still around?
@@JC-sg5uo It's for high school when you're too young to get engaged...but this guy is a Grown Up Dentist, and then took the other woman on expensive trips. Of course he was never going to marry the promise ring girl. Too bad she didn't just let it drop. She could be a Dentist now too, if it weren't for the whole stalking/murder plotting/murder thing....sigh...anybody who is brave and smart enough to figure out how to get to Mexico on a bus can be a Dentist!!! Girlfriend should have called me first...I would have told her to just let him go, you'll find another dentist or whoever you want!! No Stalking!!
One of my Cousin's has a charm bracelet with all of her old promise rings from Jr. High & High School on it.
Losing an “ideal” partner to someone who is a better match in not unusual, it happens all the time. However, as you beautifully put, her personality traits made her unable to deal with the defeat.
This case exemplifies how flexibility and some humility can help people withstand life’s failures and potentially prevent criminal activity.
Excellent review Dr. Grande, thank you.❤️
Very well said Rejane.
You did a great job of explaining that. Thank you for your input.
Rejane; that was an excellent comment. Thank you so much for your insightful and informative words.
@@cottontails9003 Thank you Julianne, you are always so kind.😊😘
@@sarahalbers5555 Thanks Sarah!
My first husband made it very clear that he was still in love with his ex-girlfriend . He would often visit her when her husband was at work.
Was I upset? Yes. Was I angry? Yes. So, what did I do about it? Wrote my Mom about my situation. Mom called me, said don't worry about it and sent me a one way plane ticket back home. Once back home, I filed for divorce. Problem solved.
You are a smart woman with a great mom💔❤
As a mum, I would have done same thing 😁
You're a woman of self respect. Good on you.
People need to understand that no one belongs to anyone, and for your own peace you need to let it go when it comes to a fling/ex/friend if they're no longer interested in pursuing a relationship with you.
They understand fine but they don't care. That's the nature of a psychopath.
@@eadweard. yes, but what I understood from your logic is that, anyone who understands but doesn't care is a psychopath, is that how you perceive it?
@@paintthesky3770 I dunno about that all I mean is that everyone already understands.
There are mistakes on both sides... You ou have to cut of all ties with that person he still kept her as a friend on reserve..
"I promise you that I'm not mature." Dr. Grande, with all due respect, if ever you want to change your career, You could succeed in comedy 😅😂😉
@@ToyotaGuy1971 lol welcome to the internet.
I laughed so much at that! Hahha
😂 this comment killed me .
I find that people that hurt or kill another for not returning their feelings is a sick sense of entitlement. It hurts when you like someone that doesn't feel the same but I really don't comprehend how they completely overlook that their obsession does not want them. No amount of bad behavior is going to change that. Especially now!
Absolutely Tracy!
If you truly love someone you want them to be happy; if their choice is someone other than you, you wish them well. It hurts, but you move on. If you can't let go and accept it it's more about obsession than love.
Yeah it's harsh getting rejected but every human being alive has been through it and learns to deal with the emotional backlash. This woman must literally never have heard the word no before that time ! Parents do not do their offspring any favours by giving them every single little thing they want.
@@kayzbluegenes and committing murder, just no.
@@polarbearsrus6980 exactly if someone doesn't like me I don't like them automatically because I can't respect someone who doesn't see my value ..
I'll be like ok, you're not worth my time if you think I'm beneath you
later have a good one ..
Great content, great shirts, great cacti and great humour Dr Grande has all bases covered.....now to watch.
So true!
Lol
We need mer saying "only speculating in a situation like this" etc or dry humor quotes
@@porkch0mp538 His shirts are getting a lot of attention these days. I wonder if this influences his purchases these days. I'm looking forward to the day he wears a Hawaiian shirt and has aPina colada nearby as he breaks down the character of another religious charlatan. The shirt would represent how serious the religious leader was taken.
I know I’m all for the 🌵
_"I promise you that I am not mature."_
*-Everyone*
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This channel is like “Dateline on Steroids”. Love the breakdown of the psychopathology here. Very educational analysis.
Dr. Grande, you are SO right about the vague and immature nature of a "promise ring." Thank you for your insight.
A lot of guys who gave "promise rings" are getting really nervous right about now.
They should be. Giving such a ring to someone is gaslighting at best.
My brother did a promise first with his wife She loved it 🤷♀️ now they are married with a cute little girl.
@@sarahbishop3416 A highly unusual result of a promise ring........
I don’t think so! It’s called a promise ring but doesn’t necessarily mean marriage!! It can symbolize ur love for that person! Or it could be because like most woman demand rings it’s a okay shit up for a little bit type of thing! Y’all so negative
@@plamenapetrova9672 .... Huh?? So promising things in the relationship is gaslighting?
Promise rings just seem very high school to me, but some people get very up in arms when you say that.
But, you aren't wrong. That's exactly what the concept of the rings were. Instead of guys losing class rings. Because they wanted to "go steady". That's why they are inexpensive. So high school kids could afford to buy them.
Yeah, I didn’t know it actually had any meaning in adulthood 😂
@@angeleyes3386 It Does Not. If you're out of high school, you should not be giving or receiving a promise ring.
@@gigi9301 It was said as a joke! 🤦♀️
I feel that Kendra could have been saved had somebody gone to the police to report Brenda for what she was doing. Even those that agreed to commit the murder had that thought process and could have recorded Brenda when she was making plans and went straight to authorities. The fact that nobody did is just mind boggling.
Goes to show how tribal people can be. They see out-group people as non-entities.
“I hope you find my analysis of this topic more cherished than a promise ring” Dr G slaying it!
It seems incredibly unfair that Christopher was sentenced to death when Brenda wasn’t
I agree. As the master mind she should have gotten the same sentence.
Mexico wouldn’t have extradited her if DA sought death.
U can thank Mexico for that
He pulled the trigger.
I agree.
This is such a sad tale. If only Brenda had reached out to mental health professional instead of a man who was building his criminal resume. She would have realized that Ricky was not the Ideal man she had built him up to be and could have found someone who was a better match for her to love. Instead an innocent woman died, a man received the death penalty and Brenda gave up the opportunity to have a fulfilling and happy life. So so sad.
Yes, besides the death of an innocent woman, I think of the waste of Brenda's life. She seemed so driven in the beginning, with professional goals and then, she just got fixated on this man instead of moving on and improving her life, cultivating other interests. She had a life that looked promising.
@@Germania72 She always had it in her. It didn't appear after she met Ricky. Something coming from really really far that she concealed àd went unnoticed all this time.
People in full blown Borderline crisis rarely know when to seek help. I'm surprised Grande didn't mention that diagnosis once. This is the classic 'Fatal Attraction' female.
I’m sorry, but people who stalk and then conspire to have someone killed do not have an “ideal“ partner.
Why would she find a better match?
I need an emoji of Dr. Grande's flat smirk featured in every thumbnail to use in response to people
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Next time you're feeling down remember life is all about perspective. I have a friend who has sxx 2-3 times a day, exercises twice a day, reads two books a week yet every day he complains about how much he hates prison.
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Lolol 😂‼️
Nice lol
Most likely the prison food. ;)
Fuuuuuck😂😂😂
You know, lives could be saved if everyone approached by someone asking if they would kill someone or knew someone who would kill someone just went straight to the police and reported it. What is with these people who hear this stuff and don't tell anyone!?!
They probably thought the woman was just crazy. Being an ass. "Yea b*tch, if you kill someone for me first," he says joking to his friend after she had pulled away in her car. Society is just too much of a mess that people almost can't care about what anyone says or does anymore. Kill for $500 to become an official hood gangster?????!!!!!! Please.
I thought the same thing. But also I don't think the police would do much. But it's worth a try. Often they send an undercover police and prevent the killing. I would tell the police right away 👍
Dr G you are exactly right. Jealous women are willing and able to act out of character especially when they cannot compete. I love your channel and I listen to you during my daily commutes to work.
I feel really bad for Crystal Cortes's son in all of this. Implicating yourself in a murder plot (and for $500 at that) is, on top of everything else, incredibly irresponsible as a parent to a small child. Hopefully he has found a home with the father or other family. But man, he was six years old when this happened, which would make him twelve today. Talk about getting your childhood innocence ripped right out. 😕
Listen Up, People! Quality Matters!! Never bargain-shop for a hit-man.
She couldn't have been a good mom to begin with. He's far better off without her.
For 500 bucks , and, life is so cheap
Yeah, what was up with that woman??
@@alisonmercer5946 Geesh...$500 isn't even enough to pay for one crown.
Ricky, running into your ex once or “maybe “ twice could be a coincidence in a large city. By the third encounter it’s time to start changing passwords and door locks.
It would encourage me to be armed at all times and well trained
@Eudaimonia This must have been sent by a female.
It amazes me how she was able to find people to assist her and to carry out the murder.
She knew when she met someone called Chrystal she'd found someone who'd do it.
A "promise ring" is for kids. Who are still in school. Not for adults. Who aren't underage. With little to no income. Anyone over 25 giving or accepting a promise ring, is very immature.
Agree fully.
An engagement ring is what adults do.. adults who want to overtly show their semi-commitment.. it is the grown up promise ring
It's a placeholder for when the man cannot currently afford an engagement ring
Probably gave her a promise ring to keep her happy. He probably already knew she wasn’t marriage material
@@eadweard. dude is a dermatologist living in an upscale neighbourhood... I don't think he is going to be able to sell the "I can't afford it" card
@@drebk I didn't say anything about this guy cos nor did the OP.
He should've cut off all contact from the first moment they broke up. I don't believe in keeping exes as friends when these exes are still pining on you which was her case. I'm troubled by the people who heard her talking about killing Kendra and didn't say anything.
Exactly. No rides, no dances together, no keeping you up on my new girl!!!???? How could this guy even bring up anything about a new girl. Trips we're gonna take???!!!!! My new home we are gonna live in???!!!! This guy was beyond naive.
Agree 100%! Many people would still be alive had they done this.
@@kaihunlu2345 👍 👍!
Victim blaming
EXACTLY
Brenda was the real life version of the female villian from just about any telenovela.
I went to dental hygiene school with her. She was a total mean girl. I don’t think she had friends in dental hygiene school because of how her manipulative behavior would catch up to her.
@@lauravalenzuela9974 VERY interesting 🤔
If they decide to do a Lifetime Movie on the tragedy of this particular Case; could you PLEASE share your experience to the important parties 🙏🙏
This WILL help others who are working on their Thesis in Graduate school.
Thank YOU in Advance 💖
What a loss of human life, if only Brenda would have looked for someone such as yourself to help her with her emotions.
Indeed :(
From the beginning, it looked like Brenda was being selective. She was extrenely inexperienced, conservative, and I don't really see what was wrong with her that he didn't marry her, but apparently he DID see it, as she was capable of murder! I was totally shocked by that part!
Apparently, she should have kept her fucking hands to herself, above all!
Yeah, but Dr Grande...Please Do Not Promise Her Anything!!...
All the ladies here giving Dr Grande a "promise" ring 😂😂
Kendra was the “ideal.” Brenda saw this, and thought that the way to hurt her ex would be to destroy the very thing he adored. By destroying Kendra, Brenda thought that she could get her ex to hurt like she did. This happens when people focus on the hurt of the breakup rather than what was good while they were together. I also think the abortion had a part in this. If Brenda was coaxed or felt forced to do it in order to keep him, then his leaving her hurt doubly. She probably told herself that had she went ahead and had the baby, she would have at least had a tie to him. She’d have en excuse to be around in his life. Her ex probably saw how this would affect his future plans, and that he’d be tied to her whether he wanted to or not. Hence he had an extreme motive to step Brenda in the direction of an abortion. I think it all plays together. Too bad Kendra had to pay the price. Maybe women out there should ask their potential mates if they have had any “bad romances,” before getting involved with them. Thats my analysis.
Brenda was a sick monster, but this dude seems like a pretty scummy character.
Agreed 100%
@@stopthephilosophicalzombie9017 lol what did he do that was so bad.
This girl was busted and bugged out lol she went and built a murder team to help her. She could of got another man instantly.
Another podcaster talked about how great Ricki's family was, he was very close to them. They all disliked Brenda's lack of character and pushed him to break it off. Brenda & Ricki began fighting about this, it actually led to his breaking it off with her. Agree 100% with you about her regretting the abortion. Not out of any compassion she may have had for the child, she's too narcissistic for that. Rather a regret that she'd been foolish enough to squander a bargaining chip.
Thank you for keeping us sane with your daily uploads, Dr. Grande. We appreciate it!
Great phrase Dr G. "he was building his criminal resume" - must remember that one!
the best part of being in the ER with post surgery complications is finally being early for a dr grande video!
Hope your ok and it's not too serious Lily. xx
Feel better💙
Please get well and recover quickly. I hate hospitals, I got MRSA and bacterial pneumonia when I went in to get my foot stitched up.And now I have to have a multi level fusion in my lumbar spine before it distegrates Sorry for the rant. I'll be thinking of and sending you positive vibes.
I love all of your content, you are a treasure
Please do an analysis of Dr. Grande
I'm happy for people like Jose. Not letting people get away with BS. Too bad someone didn't say anything sooner. RIP Kendra
Me too! Brenda even threatened him she'd report him & have him deported. He didn't cave, what a good man❣
$500 to assist with a murder? That's some Walmart pricing right there.
You always go over cases I'm extremely familiar but always manage to make it fresh and interesting and usually adding more context or info. You are my favorite creator and I LOVE the book! Cant wait for the next one!💚
Ricky was like:
Hmph, what a coincidence! Nothing suspicious here, Good night!
For a doctor, he is stupid and gullible
Morning, Dr. G!😊 Looking sharp in your sage colored shirt!👍
@Dr. Grande…I told my therapist about your channel. He thinks you’re funnier than he is; he’s right. Now, he’s gonna up his sense of irony and sarcasm during our sessions! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼✊🏼
"look im almost engaged" "heres a promise ring im not mature" Dr Grande a savage and i love it
You sound a bit under the weather. Please don’t push yourself too hard. We would all understand if you weren’t able to keep to your incredible upload schedule, when you are feeling unwell.
Dr. Grande great presentation. I was aware of this terrible crime. What struck me was the fact that the Dentist was thinking with his third leg. He even perpetuates the ruse. He was manipulating Brenda for a long time. In my opinion he was a complete dolt. A lovely lady lost her life.
Yes I agree with this. Ricky has also his part of responsability in this.
Great analysis Dr Grande. I'm appalled at the numbers of people, who kill other women due too the amount of jealousy. They need too stop and get on with their own life. Thank you Dr Grande. Great topic.
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The beautiful heartbreaker Dr Riky Narcisus.The worst kind of man a woman can find on her way
Yes he was the problem here.
@@rl4195 She murdered an innocent women in cold blood.
Situations like this really make me mad. Although Brenda obviously should not have committed murder, she was treated horribly by Ricky. This was a classic case of a man stringing a woman along, telling her he loved her and wanted to be married to her someday all the while knowing he didn’t love her or had any intention of marrying her. He was using her for sex and companionship. His ass should be in prison along side Brenda.
Finally I found a sane comment. He drove her crazy by mentally abusing her, she was acting accordingly which doesn’t justify her.
Here's an idea: don't advertise your personal life on Facebook or other (anti)social media.
Well said
I stopped years ago. A police friend warned me criminals are particularly interested in vacation photos. It's like an invitation, come rob me, I'm out of town:)
@@flomccanuck8095 Amen!
Well it used to be unofficial cannon law that your not you online and usually if you wanted to share a pic you blurred out some of your face but that was rare then myspace came......what's the point of a personal life w social media, yes be insecure all the time
The " I promise you I'm not mature" was a Classic ❤️ Dr. G ♦️♦️♦️ Diamond Status!!!!! Love it
Incredible video, Dr Grande! Such a sad and tragic case!
Obsessed stalkers are 'one of' the most terrifying things that usually ends so badly for the victim!
We really surprised that a grown man who willingly goes by "Ricky" is immature?
Promise rings are red- flags!!! They can either be gifted from someone afraid of a long-term commitment. Or, the possibility someone they love may need committing.
For Kendra Hatcher to innocently lose her life was so tragic about this case. She was a very beautiful woman too.
Good morning To the Doc that Rocks!!! Have a beautiful day!!! ❤️
THAT DESCRIPTION OF BRENDA WAS EVERYTHING!!!❤❤❤❤❤TRAGIC!!!
Ricky wasn’t a dentist: Kendra Hatcher was. Ricky was a dermatologist. Just thought I’d clear that up!
I thought I heard that as well. 👍
Your user name is lols hahaha
good catch.
Oh, I hadn't heard that before. Hmmm, maybe he never got over Dr. Pimple Popper marrying someone else.
@@Nan-Elle Huh? How does Pimple Popper fit in here?
Dude my ex tried to do the promise ring bs!!! You hit that nail straight up on the head!!
I’ve heard of “Bring your own wine” party, but “Bring your own *pistol* to your murder party” ❗️❣️
What an amazing tale this is, your green shirt, green cacti, and tough analysis. What is reasonable is the beginning of hate can lead to murder, so the beginning of attraction leads to love. We cannot trust our own heart.
Thanks Dr. Grande, you are awesome, and do not go to extremes. ❗️❣️❗️
Perfectly thorough Dr Todd. Grateful to you
No man is worth going to prison for, period. He either wants you or he doesn't. Grow up.
Definitely more cherished than a promise ring Dr Grande!😆Your speculations are always spot on! Thank you for your analysis doc!💖💖
Its quite evident that this woman was quite disturbed. She had high expectations thru this Dentist guy.
She was obsessed and could not let go. So sad.
"Building one's criminal resume'
Is that like diversifying your portfolio to include homicide, etc.? Wow! Dr. Grande, you slay me!
What is with these people? Let's "stay friends" and texting your ex good lucks and shit? Obviously Brenda was insane, but it probably didn't help matters for him to keep stringing along a psychopath.
Guy like those crazy wild women. Just like women that like the bad boy types.
@@lisaowen6103 Well, you know what they say about stupid games.
But I guess it was hard to get rid of her because she was wild in bed. Part of this was his fault, he had to know at the very least that she was unstable.
@@sarahalbers5555 Reminds me of murderer Jodi Arias. [Victim did NOT deserve to be butchered. ]She was nuts and he would try to break it off nice but then they’d have sex so she probably thought they were together again. Then she learned he took another girl on a trip. It was off again/on again
People stay friends with their exes all the time - it's not unheard of. She had the choice to reject friendship and move on - she didn't do that. Instead she chose to commit murder.
Good way to start the day!!! Thanks for the video Dr. Grande! Wow this is a wild case! ❤️
what kind of grown ass man gives someone a promise ring? I'd be out of there
Having been stalked before, I find this story particularly disturbing because at least I knew that I needed to be extra careful & vigilant.... Kendra was oblivious to the danger she was in, going about her life with no reason to think that she was in someone's crosshairs. The fact that Brenda didn't give herself away to Ricky or her family is particularly chilling, because it probably wouldn't have taken much to prevent her from getting to Kendra if they knew.... the way she was so blatantly searching for someone to do the murder almost feels like a part of her psyche _wanted_ to get caught before she could do it. Why _none_ of the people she approached bothered to report it, even anonymously, I'll never understand. RIP Kendra
It's amazing how many people were aware that she was stalking him, yet didn't do anything. There have been many cases of women who have refused to let go, often ending up with someone dead. Jodi Arias is a prime example of this.
Many MORE cases of males stalking, son.
@@cacu3989 While that may be true, what does that have to do with this case?
I think you got it absolutely spot-on, Dr Grande.
Never heard the detailed car explanation other than borrowed from a friend. Fantastic research. Great job.
"Love Triangle of DEATH". Perfect title for a Lifetime Channel movie!
I always thought it is so funny when girl would say, "I'm pre-engaged." 😆 OK.... so your boyfriend hasn't asked you to marry him.
I'm pre-dead, by the way. I don't have a ring to prove it, though.
Yes a lifetime movie staring ... Tori Spelling. " Mother may I sleep with Dentist?" Based on a true story.
LOL Nick Z!!
@@steph7738 😃
@@lisaowen6103 Excuse me Lisa...but I think she said "Mother may I sleep with a plastic surgeon?"
@@Nan-Elle Ha ha perhaps that would work out better with Tori 😜
OOOF grande laying down truths about promise rings most highschool girls wouldnt dare believe.
I'm glad Brenda was cautious and selective about who she dated. I mean, there are a lot of unstable, dangerous sickos out there.
This is a strange and compelling story, very well told, Doctor Grande !! - I became increasingly alarmed, as the criminal behavior unfolded. This would make a good 'true story' movie 👍
Thank you for finally voicing how ridiculous promise rings are! But I find it curious that it didn’t emphasize the connection between Brenda’s deterioration of her self worth after the abortion which was most likely his idea since a baby would tie her to him for life (a goal of hers)
💥 BOOM! 💯💯💥
Thank YOU for bringing this UP!! You see, this MIGHT be the Crux of the problem!
YOU might be on to something!!! That particular question crossed my mind 🤔🤔!
You see..I think that we as an " Audience" need to take a. CLOSER look at this.
I hope that the Doctor Reads this particular Post!! I would like for him to give his personal Analysis of the Abortion 👍👍
Let us hope that he WILL do a further Analysis 🧠🧠🙏🙏❤️
Carpe Diem,
Chandra ❤️
@@ToyotaGuy1971 YES Sir, it IS Sexist to assume that he wanted the Abortion!
I definitely will AGREE with you on that 💯.
But you see as a WOMAN who only dates High Value Gentlemen who are: Educated, successful in their career, successful in Life; successful in their own Personal Achievements , have assets in regard to Real Estate; whether it is a Collectibles ( cars, art, antiques,) etc. etc .
I would NOT Abort a High Value Man's prototype!!
I think 🤔🧐🤔🧐 that YOU will be hard pressed to find a Woman 👠 who would!
Most of my friends would give the Baby up for Adoption; however, I know that some of the Women who went to Boarding School and, the ones who I attended the University with will Abort.
You see in situations when a Woman is " SLUMMING" with a Low Value Man, and she Accidentally gets Pregnant that can be a MAJOR dynamic 🤷🤷🤷!!
She does not want his Prototype growing inside her; and, she doesn't want to have to deal with the Low Value Man for the next 18 years!!!
In this PARTICULAR video....we see that this particular Gentleman is considered to be a High Value Man; therefore, I can come to the CONCLUSION that she would not Abort his " seed".
NOW.....do YOU see Women aborting babies from: NFL, NBA, NHL, and from the Entertainment Industry???????
Did Salma Hayek? Did Steven Tyler girlfriend??
Do a survey for yourself with other Women and you WILL see for yourself 🤷🤷
Carpe Diem 😇
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@@ToyotaGuy1971 ALSO Sir, remember the controversy surrounding Padma Lakshmi??
If you can remember she was told by her Doctor 🏥 that she could NEVER have 🍼🍼 babies. Well by the Miracle of God 🙏 her Womb healed and she got Pregnant by the Billionaire Adam Dell.
The Pregnancy was considered high Risk; however, Padma Lakshmi went ahead with the pregnancy.
The comments from the Regular Average Joe was shocking!!!! For some odd reason they could not come to terms that God answered her prayers 🙏💯!! They wanted to be the FATHER of her children. She just happened to get pregnant by someone who is " Top Dog" . 🤷🤷
You see.... She is what a lot of Men would love to have as a Mother of their CHILD. Sadly, only Top Tier Men have Access to Women like herself.
Steven Bing and Liz Hurley: another example. The Grandfather wanted Liz Hurley to Abort; she stated " I want my Baby"and I LOVE Steve Bing!
Read up on both of the cases.
Carpe Diem 😇
Listening to Dr. Grande is very soothing.
A friend just got involved with a man and after a couple weeks, he gave her a promise ring. They're around 60 years old. He told her he wanted to wait a little while before they actually get engaged. No red flags there./s It's the first time I've heard of a promise ring since high school. Then I hear about it here. So funny.
Sempre Grande Dottor Grande!.following from Italy.
"I promise you I'm not mature "
I love the Grande burns.
So deadpan
Dr.Grande have a happy Monday.
Thank you for the upload.
I dated a guy who gave me a promise ring. He cheated on me, S.A me then we broke up and he stalked me. Yeah, he wasn't very mature 😅
Wow, I guess the ring was just the cherry on top. I hope you were able to recover from all this.
Dr grande:
The ring version of playing house. It's good to hear this because it is what it is here and it's nice to hear a man saying it like it is and not always siding with their own gender. I see a lot of that over the years.
I can't verify this, but I've heard that Dr. Ricky went into a sort of isolation after this whole thing. But he emerged pretty well, after inventing the Ring Doorbell. He's been very successful with that.
I've had my share of hurt and rejection in my life, but I always found a good remedy for the woe is me !! ...was a good bottle of wine and a large bar of chocolate, that did the trick for me, I can honestly say I never once thought of investing in a metal baseball bat. :(
I’ve had my share of heartbreak too. Would never murder someone tho! Wine and chocolate combo with some chips is good. Lol
I hope that bar of chocolate is Lindt and not Nestle 😜
You sound well-adjusted. This girl seems to be a borderline case. I'm surprised Grande didn't mention it.
Dr Grande going OFF about promise ring you burned those rings to crisps my man and I agree with all my heart lmao
Curious why Kendra was the target and not her ex. Killing Kendra doesn't guarantee he'd want her back. He's the one that dragged her on for years and played her, not Kendra.
Women compete with women. She was the rival not him
She was her replacement. In her mind Kendra represented everything she was not. Rich, successful and a physician.
He should have suffered like she did. His dream had to be crashed like Brenda's did. She wanted revenge. Revenge is about making the person who hurt you feel the same way
That always has me baffled as well. What in their minds choose which one to kill? Some kill the exes and some kill the significant other in the exes life. Who knows???
How did he play her when *she* was the one stalking him and continuously inserting herself into obvious situations in an attempt to get him back?
She played herself and she is 100% at fault. She should had accepted the breakup and moved on with her life but she refused. She felt entitled to him to herself and could not accept otherwise.
Are you serious?
Moving in with someone after only 3 months is just CRAZY to me. And a dentist giving a promise ring? Are u kidding me??? I dated my husband for 3 years before marrying him & i still found surprises.
Another gem from Dr Grande! I just love your content and your voice is so soothing and relaxing to me 😂🤩 always so cool and calm 😎
Dr. G: If you want to cover an even more tantalizing Dallas area murder case......check out the Tracey Frame/David Nixon case! Psycho for love........you'd have a blast analyzing Tracey plus what it wound up costing her to save a few pennies during a Tom Thumb store purchase!! Jim C.
I giggled at all the promise ring jokes
Your analysis Dr. Grande is brilliant as always!Thank you for covering this case. ♥
I'm not even joking...oral surgery recovery is 💣! I'm getting ALL my favorites as soon as they upload!! 👏🏻👏🏻🤗😘
En there t Easteryet yum
@@danielleh8128 I'm not on narcotics lol! 🤣🤣🤣
A man I dated in the early 90s gave me a promise ring. I excepted the ring. ( well sometimes I am not the sharpest knife in the draw.) Immediately this man started abusing me. The abuse was sexual, mental and physical. But every time he was abuse he would send roses to me at work. I got trap cycle of abuse , saying he was sorry, and send roses. This went until I went to Maui for a week. My sister and friend spoke me about my boyfriend. I finally decided to break up with him. I called at 6am when I returned my flight to LAX. I told him I never wanted to see him again.
Dr Grande shitting on promise rings is the funniest thing I've heard in like 5 months. Thanks Doc! 😂
I watch all your videos and felt this one was particularly exceptional. Great job! Really enjoy your content! :)
Astonishing that reasonably intelligent adults can believe any couple has "the perfect love." This is always delusional.
Again....awesome food for thought to start the day. Thank you,
Brenda had high expectations thru Ricky and they did not pan out