we have parasocialed too close to the sun
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The "you owe me attention" toward celebrities mindset gives "but I'm a nice guy" vibes.
Yep. Respect one's privacy as you would want yours respected. Pretty simple concept that ceased as social media became more popular.
100 percent this! It's like people forgot the reason celebrities went into hiding in the first place. 😅
I agree. I'm biased since I like chappel and she's from my state. She's right no one wants a stalker it's creepy and gross. I enjoy reddit too.
Y. E. S.
I think it's worsened by the fact that so many people don't have boundaries for themselves and they almost feel like they HAVE to share things. Like people will get a life-altering diagnosis and get home and go on camera, sobbing telling the world they have a condition. No time to process. No time to cope. They almost feel like they have to. So how dare you, a person with more eyes on you, not be just as exposed or withdraw access. It's kind of demented.
Celebrities in public spaces are OFF THE CLOCK and should be left alone. Meet and Greets are where fans can ask for and expect to take a picture with them.
Edit: the way, people are over-policing Jackie Aina's actions is disgusting and typical. The standards for a Black influencer are so much higher for the standards for a w. one.
That part. I try to think of it like this: if you work for UPS and I happen to see you in public, I'm not going to ask you about my package...because you're NOT AT WORK.
Yup...Jackie gets some really ugly treatment and it's very rarely for a scandal or scam. It's literally just her exisitence.
Audra delivers the come to Jesus moments for internet culture.
I wish more could see and learn.
noooooo...let's keep it a secret so I don't get nervous flop sweat!
“Have a day” iconic and now my new line to people cuz same Audra. Same. 😅
😂 I panic!
I've lived in SoCal (LA and OC) most of my life, and hate approaching celebrities. It makes me feel so awkward and nervous. If it's someone I really like, I'll smile and do a quick heart-hands 🫶, just to show appreciation, then keep it moving. Conventions and other social/interactive settings are more appropriate to take a bit of someone's time.
Thank you for sharing Audra. 🖤🖤🖤
Hate watching has always been a bizarre phenomena to me.
same. like I get it when it's your job in social media, but otherwise, why do it?
Let’s normalize not normalizing being ABNORMAL. I love seeing people, especially younger women entertainers with expansive platforms, SETTING BOUNDARIES. It’s healthy and I’m here for it. Fun fact: I was in a spin class at the Hollywood YMCA and was in between Margaret Cho and Philip Seymour Hoffman. I just about died HOLDING my tongue. And of course, from cardio.
hehehe...the cardio alone would've had me speechless...or, you know, breathing hard like a hyena.
8:52 Im willing to bet that all of those ppl are the type of ppl who get angry when someone in their lives starts setting boundaries 😅 so much entitlement
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Completely agree 1000%! It was so refreshing to see when she went off online telling people how weird they were acting and that she won't tolerate it! Same thing with TV celebrities or social media celebrities. People need to stop! It's no different than working for a company and having your boss tell you that you owe "🥧" to him because without him you wouldn't have a job!
Your blush is soooo good.
But yes you’re right 100% no one wants to be run up on on the street while they are trying to shop… it’s so weird… I saw Nicolas Cage at a restaurant and I refused to get up and go see him because he looked like he was having a great time eating with a friend and I would never want to interrupt someone like that.
THANK YOU!!! I've been having fun with different blush techniques.
That's so nice and normal of you. I've seen him once, I think he was filming...his hair is a LOT thinner in person, but he seems like a really nice guy.
Totally agree. I think if someone is working ie promoting at an event, ok fine BUT if they're out just being a human, eating with family, shopping in their comfy clothes, leave them tf alone.
THAT PART! There are literally so many different events, cons, etc. where you could interact with varying public figures, so it's weird that anyone would expect them to "perform" when they're not on the clock.
I posted on BGC asking why people continue to buy Jaclyn Hill’s products and supporting her and got ripped to shreds, told that I’m beating a “dead horse” and was accused of karma farming when I didn’t even know what that was. It’s disappointing but not surprising that people continue to post about Jackie Aina and the reactions are mostly dogpiling on her and not accusing posters of “karma farming.” I haven’t watched her content in a long time but seeing the hate and not so subtle racism she gets is so uncalled for and upsetting.
the good news is...you see it...that is also the bad news🖤
I def think "heat illness" is linked to AuDHD overstimulation. I grew up wondering wtf was wrong with me because I just wouldn't deal! And now as an adult I'm just like, "oh look. Another tick on my checklist of, [am I ADHD and or ASD]". I think the answer is, yes 😊
yes. it is. I'm not sure when my skin will return to normal, but this week, it's not supposed to be over 90 and I'm so glad!
I had an "eye conversation" with Amy Adams at a random Dim Sum restaurant in NYC. My friend and I were sitting in the front and I was facing the door and made eye contact and she had that "oh no pleeease be normal" look on her face (she was with her husband and baby) so I just smiled and she smiled back and continued walking to the back of the restaurant where there were more tables.
It's not hard to not be obnoxious.
19:52 💯 They will literally just stand there and scowl at you. Clearly, they expect us to JUMP out of their way.
yup...and it's SO hard to get over constantly saying excuse me and moving out of their way because you got used to it.
@@TheAudraReins yes!!!
Haven't seen Jackie's reels as much on IG lately and I miss her content. I admittedly -- and virtually -- live my best bougie life through her. Her aesthetic is just divine to me and that's why I follow her. Had no idea that people hate her.
YES...when I need to live my best life vicariously, that's where I go!
Thank you to the 579!🖤
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😂 please do not misunderstand my passion for anger 😂❤😂❤😂
Watching this conversation unfold on the internet reminds of how when I was a teen in the mid to late 2000s I did not respect the boundaries of celebrities/musicians; especially when it came to online interactions. Looking back now, it was so so cringey and I'm glad I've come to a point where I never want meet any celebrities or musicians I like (outside of going to see them perform); not even at meet and greets.
I will say for these pop artists, especially ones that have the tween - teen girl fanbase, that Labels (not the artists but the corporations) encourage these kinds of behaviour. From the Jonas Brothers to One Direction, the labels push the idea that these girls have a shot at dating/being with these artists when in reality no self-respecting non-predatory artist would date a fan. People fall in love with the idea of the celebrity not the actual human behind the mask.
you're not alone in that. my moment of realization was watching TMZ get in PAris Hilton's face and read mean comments to her as she was walking...one of which told her to KHS. The look on her face, it was something I will never forget, so...I try to be more mindful and rememeber these are people. They might live a vastly differentl life than mine, but they are people
My friend got upset with me when I saw a celebrity in a restaurant and didn't go ask for a photo because I refused to interrupt their meal. I wouldn't want someone to interrupt when I'm just trying to enjoy a meal with someone, why would I do that to someone else? I'm not entitled to their time or attention. Just leave people be. If I ever DID ask for a photo, and they said no, that's completely fine! Again, I'm not entitled to it.
100% this. But also, I eat like there will be no more food, I'd hate for someone to walk up to me mid mouth shove. lol.
@@TheAudraReins I'm with you! 🤣🤣
Hello Audra, I haven’t watched YT much this summer, but I am back and this video was great. Thank you.
Good! I hope you were out having a lovely summer!
especially when the speculating involves peoples sexualities, pisses me off so much.
and while we're at it can we all agree that paparazzi are legal stalkers🤭
Yep. I wish I could tell folks that leaving foul comments on anything Jewish content because of the Gaza situation is antisemitism, but then the pitchforks will come for me.
I dislike the antisemitism on both sides of American political spectrum, but it's American as Apple pie just like racism is.
Maybe I could get weird and this could work: let the kidlets know that what they're doing is very patriotic, very american.
Oh don’t I know it. I’m always worried I’m gonna be metaphorically pitchforked when I say I’m Jewish.
I have never understood antisemitism. Obviously, I'm not Jewish, but I have never been able to understand it.
I really enjoyed this commentary, love you attitude. Thanks for sharing great content as usual. Sending love from BC, Canada
Thank you so much!🖤
Every time you bring up BGC, I get so hyped. Like I love that you just address them. I'm glad they have their own space to let that out, but they are still just so super mean. It can't be a healthy space.
I remember the Jackie audio issue, and I completely agree. I think she left it in to show them. I'd do the same, give em this > 🖕🏽
Didn't BGC get in huge trouble for allowing racism against asian people in their sub not that long ago? Makes sense why they will allow people to be mean to Jackie Aina.
What is BGC?
/gen.
@@moustik31 it stands for beauty guru chatter if I’m not mistaken.
That I do not know.
Beauty Guru Chatter
@@Vintagecor18 Thanks!
I always love how reasonable your stance is. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
People who feel so entitled to every single aspect of a celeb or influencer's life are so creepy and scary. They're always spewing victim blaming rhetoric and it's so triggering. I never want to be physically near anyone who thinks like that.
exactly this.
Just glad Audra posted and as per usual saying what we are all thinking but not saying 🖤
I'm lucky I have the support to have an editor or I suspect I would rarely, if ever get to post!
I think it is so sad that there are people out there who are so absorbed with hating other people. I can’t imagine spending hours a week-or even hours every day-watching content I hate and obsessing over people I hate. As much as I have a problem with the ‘echo chamber’ effect of social media-that could be seen as an advantage. You don’t like it? Don’t watch it! You’re literally letting that person & content live in your head, rent-free. Go back to your echo chamber. (And the even sadder part is that its not like they’re going to become more open-minded or start critical thinking by constantly watching content from creators whose race/ethnicity/religion/worldview/politics/gender identity/etc/etc is different than theirs; they’re just gonna keep spreading their misery and hatred and trying to drag others down with them). Thank you for this video, came to you from JenLuv and I can totally see how you’re such a voice of wisdom in her life.
Hi, Audra!!! Always a voice of common sense 😘😘😘
Before social media, Montana had a very interesting celeb culture. If we treated them like everyone else, everything is cool. I once sat next to Batman Beetlejuice for hours in a bar. We spoke like normal strangers involved in other conversations, “excuse me,” “can you grab me a napkin?” Normal randos who weren’t even rich could find themselves friends with celebs if they acted regular. Altho, I did get into an argument with a coworker in Bozeman, who blamed her incompetence on the fact that she wasn’t used to working hard & bragged to me that she partied with Michael Keaton. I got to say, “oh for heavens sake, everyone in Montana has partied with him! I spent a whole day at the roadkill sitting with Michael getting hammered!” Which was just coincidence & very misleading but omg the look on her face. I was absolutely delighted !
😹😹😹 that's amazing!
If you enjoy someones content, or the music they make, or the film they star in, the transaction ends with the credits, or the goodbye or, the end of the albume. You got your entertament, they got payed, end of. They do a job.
I've never understood why people feel so entitled to celebrities lives. It's weird.
If I'm remembering my reading correctly, feeling connected to celebrity when you meet them in person has to do with evolutionary psychology. As hunter/gatherers we only ever knew around 150 people well (the maximum size of a "band" of hunter/gatherers). Anyone we didn't recognize was a stranger. We're still very much living in those bodies and when we see people we recognize, we automatically think we know them or have some sort of connection with them--because our caveperson brain is telling us that they're one of our band because we know their face. Not sure if that explains the stalking and reading all the gossip about their lives, but I think its a good explanation for parasocial relationships.
I'm glad they mentioned that being a celebrity that type of behavior is expected, but it doesn't make it right. And totally agree, when they're out doing their own thing, it's their private time vs doing publicity or whatever.
I don't get the hate watching - super creepy!
Every time I go on BGC, I am shocked by the level of vitriol I find there. People will say : oh, I stopped following this creator 5 years ago and have not watched anything since then, and then they will go on a rant and explain everything they think the creator did wrong. If you have not watched in 5 years, you do not have enough data to express your opinion. Sometimes people change and you don’t know if they did. People are just nasty on Reddit and I don’t call them out because I don’t want to deal with their reaction (I am lazy…)
exactly this. people will have their feet held to the fire for something they did 5 years ago, but have since grown, learned and changed, yet...
I get it if the creator hasn't changed at all, but if you haven't gone back to check on the creator to see...why you still harping on it?
People are extremely offended because she’s protecting her ☮️😳👀
lol...yup...it's wild.
I. Don't. Get. It. These people are being so weird and unhinged. If a celeb/creator has 10 fans, or 10 million fans, each fan has their own vision and expectation of how the celeb is supposed to act/react to every single interaction in their day. No matter what, they're disappointing someone, and that's so weird to me. You please some, you piss of more, and there's no way to win. So maybe, just maybe, these people need to figure out a way to realize the celeb they supposedly adore is a human being, not a SIMS character? It's so weird to be like oh, you wanna be famous? Ok, well, then society gets to stalk and doxx your family and harass you constantly because WE deserve it. GTFO with that nonsense.
I've watched Jackie from time to time. I've always loved her editing. Always entertaining. She is one that I've noticed gets tremendous hate. I never understood why. I watched Paige's video on RBK. It's really good. I recommend it. Love the vid. 💜🖤🕸
I LOVED her editing style and I learned a lot from it. Paige's video was SO good!
Don't jive with all of Jackie's content, but I do find an occasional reel interesting, so out of spite to her haters I stay subscribed.
lol...same.
All uh dis 💯
I felt the young girl's pain in that last clip 💔
She's an actual gem! She also has fun and funny content.
It’s odd because I subbed to this channel a month ago and just recently it said I wasn’t … just wanted to share this 😅.
About BGC they been vile for a while. I subbed when I decided to be off IG to see the latest makeup releases or news . But you’re right every time they post about Jackie it’s vile and the comments are not taken off . If you say something defending her you get downvoted badly 😒 .
youtube purges subscribers...it's a way they think it keeps things honest. It's not your fault I don't post enough.🖤 but, yes, it's not worth it to try to defend her and lose all your karma and access to reddit. it sucks
This reminds me of a phenomenon I started noticing on IMDB. The platform allows white people to dunk on black actors/films/etc. People who keep coming back to EVERY episode of, say, Star Trek Discovery, and talk about Ms. Green "whispering" and be a horrible actress. If you hated it sooo much, why are you making sure to post 1 or 2 star reviews on every single episode over many years? It's ridiculous. I am pretty sure that they are sent there by some secret racist social media platform and told to be sure to leave reviews.
YES! it's so weird, like just don't watch it???
Jackie Aina has had viewers and followers be excess and rude to her multiple times in the fast. She mentioned she regrets being rude to a young follower not minding their business. It doesn't matter the age,it's not on excuse for reckless behavior
Great video and i agree with you. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yay! Thank you!
I do not understand people who hate watch other people/channels and leave a bunch of hate comments. Like, go find a hobby irl. Lol
Exactly! I can't bring myself to constantly watch someone I dislike so much just so I can make myself angry/irritated. granted, there are times I do it specifically for youtube to create a vidoe, but otherwise, 99% of the time, I'm watching creators I enjoy.
The people who spending all their time hate watching, analyzing every little thing a person posts as if they're trying to solve a crime, stalking, harassing... y'all really need to find a new hobby. Take up knitting, and leave Chappell alone. Go hiking, throw a pot, read a book, and leave Jackie alone.
frfr...I play video games and watch police procedurals.
You said BGC and I thought bad girls club 🤣
Commenting for the algorithm. Not a single lie was told. I was deep in Jackie's content back in the makeup days and will always respect the work she did. She's my exact shade so I was finally able to get into makeup because of her. While there are a couple things she's done I don't approve of, I can't imagine flocking to these awful social media sites to complain about them. I just quietly adjusted my consumption of her content and moved on. Lol
Totes, if someone isn't your cup of tea anymore, you have the ability to move on! Just as creators don't owe you anything, you also owe them nothing in return.
YES! In general, I try really hard not to tear down another black woman...and she has done some things I don't agree with, but it doesn't warrant all this. She's one of the reasons I thought I could put content up on youtube.
❤ hi Audra 😊 subscribed
Thank you!🖤
Parasocially commenting for the algorithm.
appreciate it! Hope you had a lovely day🖤
0:23 I’m in the process of getting a tattoo that includes a confluence, & that’s what we call the area I’m from, “the confluence.” I’m starting to feel all witchy woo woo about it, even tho it’s a super normal word lol
I love this!
I’m off to unfollow a content creator person instead
of annoy watching (I don’t hate them!) and commenting.
I clean up my sub list at least every 6 months. The only time I'm watching peopole I don't lke is to make a video. lol.