"Not feeling a sense of belonging. Not feeling wanted, not feeling part of things is often a central part of that trauma." Waowww, that hit. That makes so much sense why our internal communication has been so shaky recently. I said something in frustration that has probably caused the hiding/pulling back of others. Wow. Thank you!
I'm glad you posted this today. Someone on Quora asked the question: 'Why can't I hear alters after they introduced themselves to me?' I was able to send them a link to this video. There is quite a large community of people with DID/OSDD or who ask questions about these disorders. I always point them towards your channel as a reliable source of information.
@@cadaver4457 Absolutele Abra, just go into Quora dot com and look up DID. You'll get huge amounts of info from real people who experience this condition. Use DID or OSDD in their search bar.
My system loves these videos, too. It's nice to have resources because we've had no access to real help because no one believes us. It's a good thing this disorder made us so tenacious that we survived our trauma and are here trying to reclaim our lives. I'm glad we're not alone. 🙂
I think it's often not about not wanting to communicate but about not being able to communicate. Some alters develop at the time in youth before the child learns to talk because the trauma happens very early in life. So those parts are just floods of emotion or need without words to decribe the experience. The parts that have learned to talk are dissociated from those strong emotions, that's why when they talk it can be quiet emotionless
I believe I am multiple. I am not worried about it - I am able to connect with an angry part of a child-self more often now since I have started making art and thinking visually. She speaks in poetry, offering up brutal and beautiful understandings of the reality she lived. I grieve a lot because the harm came from layers of isolation and systemic social problems that no one person can ever hope to change.
Sometimes parts can be non verbal if they are told they can’t speak, or if they are too young. If you are a RA survivor you might have parts programmed to not speak/believe they can’t without punishment. You might also have parts programmed to silence others inside. A lot of parts might believe they are objects or animals. But when you are in the same headspace you can often find some way of communicating even if it is feelings in the body or other memories and then you can build trust to tell them you are grateful they held those things but they don’t have to do it alone anymore. I had one part that was a guard that was told to stand up tense and straight, just letting them know they could sit down was a great relief! It would be cool if you could add in examples of RA systems in your videos 😊
Yeah, the youngest member of our system seems to a nonverbal wolf/dog, I think in our past they felt so deeply "I don't belong" or "I'm not wanted" that disconnecting from humanity and taking on that form just seemed safer. But now we don't really know how to communicate with them besides just waiting for emotional bleed and trying to guess what's triggering them and how to help.
@@mayanightstar maybe you guys could just hang out? We have a cat part who wanted to be a cat because the cats got fed. I just told her, everyone gets fed around here. The littles pet her, she can come out and be cat like. She likes to rest her head on my husband and he rubs her head like a cat. When she is ready she will talk more. It’s more important for parts to feel safe and accepted than know everything about them 😊 hope that helps a bit.
@@ArtyAntics As a base rule we try to make it super clear to everyone in the system that they're always welcome and wanted, but y'know I haven't really thought much about what could be beneficial for this part in particular, so yeah this gives me something to think about. Thanks!
I'd love to hear your thoughts on "fight" alters (ie trauma holders who did the fighting during abuse) handling and processing the reality that although they fought the body still reacted to the sexual abuse the way human bodies do. Its a new issue for us and our main trauma holder who did the fighting feels utterly betrayed by the body and see's no point in ever respecting or protecting it ever again. I(the host) am at a loss as to how to get through to her that its nobodys fault and not something any of us could control and doesn't = betrayal.
Hey Wibble Wobble we have had similar issues with several Alters who hold sexual abuse trauma, including several Littles. Our focus was to keep reiterating that they did nothing wrong and that the body did nothing wrong, it was the abusers that did the wrong thing and who used the body’s natural responses in a horrible way. We also explained to some of them that had the body not responded in those ways our abusers would have hurt us even worse, so as horrible as it sounds the body responding the way it did also protected us to a degree. Hope this helps.
Actually, for us it really helped to learn about biochemistry. You suddenly really understand why your body reacted that way. Like, everyone kinda knows it, but learning about the hormonal backgrounds and stuff really helps in accepting it - at least for us.
@@luxcaydenco3963 my heart is breaking for them all (those who feel betrayed ) of course i feel/say that for all of you 💥 but can not manage to let it in here. Compassion only goes so far.
It's quite literally not a conscious choice at all. It's just stimulation and nerves The only person who betrayed you was your abuser. You body tried its best too
I haven't named mine yet because I still feel weird about doing it. What freaks me out is that even during my speaking my personality could've switched to another to hide it from myself.
I also found it helpful to, while assuring them and outting out that message that I DO want to talk, I would also address my own misgivings or negative feelings. If I felt frustrated, I would apologize and openly acknowledge the fear and hurt that may cause, and insist that I wanted to work on it. If I felt resentful or fell into wishing this all would go away, I would be candid about why I think I felt that way and what I am struggling with, and ask to hear how they feel so we can discuss it. Even if the reaction is negative, even if we clash or disagree or whatnot, it's better that we are Open, rather than letting it fester.
I am recovered from DID and I can give you my experience. Some alters cannot talk, they were formed before the core self learned to talk. They are too young and are not able to talk. Older alters can talk to them and they can understand them, but they cannot talk back. I have had several alters who could not talk as my trauma started at birth. The other ways you talk about are legitimate as well, but do not forget, babies cannot talk. Recovery is possible, it took me 10 yrs of relentless seeking healing and integration was possible, but the grace of God. My faith was the most important aspect of my healing & recovery & my cores desire to be fully integrated. I thank God for my DID which enabled me to survive daily trauma for years and O thank Jesus for dying for me so I can have eternal life and be whole. Seek Jesus with all your heart, mind, soul and strength and he will be found. I give God all the glory and my trauma and DID made me who I am today, so I’m thankful for it as I can relate to many others in ways many others cannot relate to those who are suffering from DID. It made me better not bitter. God bless you all 🙏🏻😊
Hi Lisa I love your story and I am happy that you could recover and Amen God is good , would you mind sharing the steps that helped you recover, my friend is going through the same thing and I am trying to help! Thank you
I first want to say that I'm so happy for you as a whole, sounds like you're doing alot better & you sure worked hard for it & deserve it.❣💖❣ Don't take this next thing in the wrong way or tone please. I just want to make you & others aware that some people have horrific trauma directly or indirectly involving the use of your God & others. I've no personal issues with Jesus or God/Divine/Energy/Universe whatever one may refer to it as. However it was used on me as a very small child as a tool to control, manipulate and terrorize me. I had recurring nightmares as a kid for well over 10 years where I was flying and I would see this fluffy cloud. I'd go to it each time. "Jesus" would be next to the bed, smiling at me. He'd motion towards the bed, wanting me to lay down. Even though I didn't remember what happens every time I had this nightmare, I still had strong intuition to not get on the bed. It would confuse me bc I saw sweet loving jesus yet I was terrified & something else I can't describe. Anyway I would end up going to lay on the bed every time even though I didn't want to & didn't ever remember actually going to it myself in the dream. As soon as I was on the bed Jesus would turn into the devil and he had a button kinda like a mic stand with a red button at end except it was like. .rigged together by a regular person. The devil would gleefully, maniacally laugh at me as he hit the button. The bed would start falling down a really deep sky shaft like an elevator except aesthetic in the cloud. It would get faster and faster. Sometimes I think I'd catch the numbers on it as it went down & at first that's about the time I'd wake up. I knew it was going to hell & I was so scared but also felt guilty & shame as if I deserved to go there. After some years of it repeating itself I'd remember as soon as I got on the bed. Or then I'd remember before it but it's like I had no choice in it. Anyway it's definitely not the only thing my abusers/tormentors used to keep me quiet & control my mind and body to do what they wanted with. Another thing was "the dr". Idk still exactly what he did to me or for how many years but he'd dress up as a dr & have me come into his little office. I can only remember the desk top kinda, his hand & a tape recorder. He'd let me say stuff into it at "the end" & let me listen to it. Idk why but always loved it like it was an exciting mystery to my little self or something idk. I've had these vivid memories since I can remember & when I started asking my mom about 10 years ago who that dr was bc I was reading about mkultra & there were just too many similarities in it all & with my experiences/memories I had to know. She claims that I only went one time & that's when I was diagnosed with tourette's syndrome. Around age 7. But this sicko was doing shit to me & making me do things from a young age probably starting around 4 & ending around 7. I don't remember him but I remember his kids & wife. Anyway sorry I get to talking alot sometimes, I just have alot of thoughts. Sorry for not being succint I'm not mad or upset or anything like that but I think you should be aware that it could easily affect someone in a potentially triggering way. You're not responsible for that & I don't expect or even personally want a "trigger warning", just bringing it to your attention.
I know this was 3 years ago but this is so meaningful to me as a Christian who may also have DID or OSDD and am struggling insanely with processing that possibility, while also being a Christian and just wanting to please the Lord. So this comment really spoke to me and brought comfort. I’m so scared and angry and depressed all the time. I’m in so much pain and my others (alters) hate me and are just so scared too.
This is helpful- I have so many parts, and many of them are stuck in trauma time; they only come out during EMDR. Highly traumatized, fearful, some can’t talk, etc. Many don’t communicate, but I’ve learned that my parts must feel safe before they present. Also, my gatekeepers seem to regulate who comes out and when. I get a sense that gatekeepers control to prevent flooding.
Thank you for these videos. We've spent 2½ years trying to get help for this, but no one I've seen has any understanding of my experiences. You give me hope.
Thank you for another wonderful video! Communication is a life long effort, both internally and externally. Patience and compassion are certainly important keys. I would love a video delving further into methods of communication but will be happy with absolutely anything. Love this channel!
This has me crying. All of my others are in these states and wanting to stay away and silent now, and I know it’s my fault. No amount of apologizing brings any comfort to them. I don’t know what more to do, I’m really trying.
Your explanations made me cry, in a lovely way - you helped to understood my [system] perspective inkl. the effects for/to the others and why they don’t show up anymore. - - all of your videos have so much and deep impact for us, thank a lot. Lovely and colorful greetings from Germany 👋 💖
Dr. Mike, thank you so much!. I always look forward to watching your videos. I appreciate the consistent messages of patience and love, instead of "let's rush to get this fixed so we can move on". I won't hesitate to recommend this channel to anyone who is in need of your messages.
I seriously needed this video today. Thank you so much. I know it’s me being phobic and I’m going to bring it up to our therapist. Your videos are invaluable and very needed in the community. -Lita
I really thank you for this. I was concerned that it had negative connotations if some alters refused to chat. Glad to know they just have their own individual circumstances that bar them from opening up
One of my alters is the chief legal officer (CLO) of the company i am involved with in a civil matter. he is teaching me law. The crazy thing is that he is always right! He is my "mentor", lol, helping me sue his own company and there is not a damm thing he can do about it, thanks Jeff, lol the craziest thing is that I wrote a group email to their entire board of directors, i outed him as one of my 'Alters'.
Can't believe I'm only just finding these videos. I saw your video with Multiplicity & Me but never checked out your channel. We have one alter, Benji, who showed up to deal with a toxic friend and then just disappeared. The overwhelming sense we get is that he doesn't want to deal with the drama and chaos that defines our system. And of course, since there's so much drama and chaos, we haven't had much time to pay attention to him and were fine leaving him to his own devices. I feel bad about that now. I'm going to send out a message that his story needs to be heard, too, if that's what he wants and if he's ready.
I am happy you have posted this, how ever what can I do when it comes to said "part" is responsible for absolutely destroying my long term relationship and ofc I having to be the one to take accountability for it. I feel angry and resentful that this happened and is hard as well because I feel that my bf doesn't understand to what degree this is hurting not just me but also my system and well ofc him. Please help I am lost and don't know what to do.
I have 7 alters, one of my alters does not speak, but instead uses sign language to communicate....I also have, an alter that will not communicate at all....I am so glad I saw your video, this "silent" alter seems to just lurk about....My other alters are pretty vocal and active when they front. I wonder, if there are more alters that do not talk, just how many more alters I actually have? I wonder if they feel they will not be accepted like the other 7? Having DID is very hard...
I was diagnosed at 16yo with DID among other things. I'm now23. I had been in therapy since I was 14. ( Moved states at 16 and haven't been back to therapy since but I'm trying to find somewhere close to where I live that doesn't just write off DID as fake or something lol ) and I still don't have much conversation with my alters. They still come out or even co front but I'm unaware of all but a few of their names etc. But we just recently created our inner world. I don't think that we "created" it but I can't think of a better word for it lmao. So hopefully our inner world helps us communicate better. ❤️🌻 Also id love to see you talk about the inner world from a professional stand point
Omg i am SO jealous of your diagnosis so young i know this might not help you.. i only hope that you can look back remember the crazy ole lady who told you to be patient & compassionate & loving.. most things will come in their time.
I have an Alter who refuses to talk. Her name is Ghost and she presents as a ghost and won't acknowledge people at all, including the rest of us in the system. She does "paint" though. We've also had mute alters, but they've fused now.
I also have a mute alter. I don’t know how long she’s been here but I just found out about her. She only nods and shakes her head or shrugs and sometimes just doesn’t acknowledge people at all. I worry about her coming out in public or at work.
All I have is a Gemini moon mother and I have an Aquarius sun im.a Scorpio. I haven't named mine yet. The only thing I notice is when i said that MPD was not in my life. Well that was an altar changing that's the first time that I ever seen it myself. For me to say that the abuse was not as bad. well that was an altar protecting my core personality from becoming aware of it. Probably some alters we're also laughing about it. Because Leo risings . First responses to laugh at everything. Because were just jovial ppl. Like Emma stone is a Leo rising with a Scorpio sun and a libra moon we have the same placements down to the libra moon. and shes always laughing.
I am I hospital but not specialist in did and now I feel they are pushing pushing when I don’t have ability or access to all alters I’m at breaking point
"You as the person" vs. "your alters" is an interesting way of phrasing/seeing it. They way I've often heard it explained by systems suffering from DID is that there is no "original", only an alter who fronts most, i.e. the host. Sometimes, for various reasons, the host can switch places with, or fuse with, another alter, and this personality then becomes the new host. I mean, you're the doctor, so I guess you would know best. It was just something I noticed.
It is variable, no right or wrong about it. I have noticed that people who refer to themselves as "systems" tend to veer more towards your first point, whereas clinically (i.e. those we see in treatment), that doesn't happen much at all.
So, I've been trying really hard not to get angry at my sister's psychologist, because I know she's not trained in this field, but my sister has been trying to get diagnosed with OSDD or DID, and she was told by her "You're too intelligent to have multiple personality disorder." She also brought up Cybil when she was talking to her about it. Then she said she believed if my sister continued the way she was going she was at risk for a personality fracture. ._. (She also said my sister doesn't have BPD, so we're not sure what she means) But, any advice on what my sister should do?
Very well done explanation. I would add that parts may not understand or believe that time has passed, and the dangerous people are either dead, old, or very far away. My therapist created some of the techniques for helping parts learn that "times have changed". One of the reasons I sought her out. We have worked very hard to bring everyone into the present. Makes everyone feel better about sharing.
@@thefineline5830 I recommend Janina Fisher's book "Healing The Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors". Her website has many free papers to read as well, under "resources". They discuss how to bring parts into the present. She is not my therapist. Mine is writing her own book as we speak....
Thanks so much for this video! It's given us some stuff to think about- we have great communication between a lot of us but there are some we have no communication with at all and one in particular is a wolf alter who lives with us in the headspace- but we haven't managed to communicate with them at all cause they don't seem to understand speech, but we're just learning that they do understand stuff like body language and intent and can be taught some meanings of words kinda like in dog training so we're really trying to work on communication with them. - Connor
You need to have your therapist break "wolf" mind control programming, and break the false identities off the parts. They will integrate with you if you strip them back to the humanity
@@clintdobbs2462 I don't think that's really fair. Not everyone with animal identities is a victim of RA. And my animal parts only warmed to me when I accepted them on their own terms. Calling it a "false identity..." I can tell you from their perspective that that will only put them on their guard. I can tell you from my own perspective I was getting sick of getting scratched and bitten in dreams, always being at odds with them. Don't know if you personally experience this, but I'd recommend you scrap that idea. Forcing change on someone only breeds resentment and creates distance. When you meet them where they are, that's where true change occurs, and I've seen it happen time and again. Be patient, Connor. Your wolf alter may learn to speak or not, but any communication is good communication.
@@sad_doggo2504 I respect your plight and your opinions, however it seems your approach to breaking down the DID system must be secular or with very little training. I am DID as well but almost completely whole. And no, i wasn't RA either, and no one has to be RA to be DID. DID today is often a result of compounded multi-generational iniquity such as high levels of Freemasonry (or other groups) in your bloodline. Perhaps your grandfather was a high ranking Mason or even further back. I have been ministering to DID/SRA for over 5 years now and have found Masonic alters that came forward and said they had been in the bloodline for 15 generations. This means they have been passed down through dissociation 15 generations. This is the occult version of eternal life. I agree with what your saying about meeting your alters on their own terms, this is true, one needs to approach "animal" alters with the same love as "occult" loyal alters in treating them with love, because they are part of you. By applying the blood of Jesus to the programming or "false identity" of these alters and presenting them with the truth of who they really are, they will usually integrate with ease (because the programming is broken, they can now choose to accept the truth that they are actually part of you). Not telling them the truth is not loving them. If you don't feel comfortable in doing the work yourself, ask Jesus to come in and minister to these parts. He usually just touches them and all the false identity is gone and they integrate. Jesus can integrate thousands of alters at a time. Breaking down the DID system secularly is not productive and leaves many people struggling to connect with and communicate with these broken parts of our identities. Contrary to what secular psychology may say, DID is a spiritual affliction and transcends any model of modern psychology. I did not mean to offend you, i just wanted to offer a possible suggestion. What caught my ear was the fact that you were dealing with these specific (wolf) alters, when those specific alters were some of the first to present in my system. If you do not believe in Jesus, i respect your beliefs, but can tell you that you will never find true healing outside of him. Please find a skilled DID minister to work with you and not a secular psychologist. Don't get me wrong, i love psychology. I am currently studying psychology and truly believe that psychology has its place, but it has little understanding of the ranking, structure and hierarchy of the DID system. If one tries approaching DID without a deep understanding of deliverance and the structure of the DID system, their work is very unproductive. Normally i would suggest a few books to help you understand how to manage your system better, but in your current condition they would only cause deeper dissociation. Good luck, and again, i never meant to sound unfair or offend. Merely to offer a path to help you find true healing in Christ.
@@dobbscmd that was a lot to read but I will say one thing. You were trying to tell that guy to integrate with his wolf. Not all systems want to integrate. I knew one who did and she hated it it was way too quiet. You dont have to integrate but you certainly can use most of your advice. I hope becoming integrated works out well for you. I know how long and hard many people including yourself, had to work to get you there! NicE1
Thank you for this video. Do you have any advice for alters who are in regular communication, but struggle with words? I have an alter who is often around and is very active when I’m doing something fun, but struggles with word retrieval so prefers not to talk, then gets frustrated that we don’t know what she wants/needs. We can only really tell ‘like’ or ‘don’t like’ most of the time. She can speak when she’s feeling calm/balanced/no strong feelings either way, but pretty quickly loses speech if the exact conditions aren’t right. She *can* type in an emergency but doesn’t like to, and if she doesn’t like something then she doesn’t do it (doesn’t like holding a pen so drawing is out too). She’s done a couple of bits with our therapist moving shells around and squishing playdough, but it was more like a sensory distraction thing rather than ‘proper’ communication. She did eventually build a picture out of natural objects, but none of us could interpret it and she ended up getting angry. She wants to communicate more, but doesn’t have a way to do so!
Hi Lucy, I can't really comment on this specifically, but patience is usually needed when communication isn't working as well as hoped. Keep being creative, offering reasssurance that frustration is not happening and noticing the subtle signs are often useful methods.
When a trauma alter does finally talk about the trauma, why don't they go away? Do they have more trauma? Or the aler that talks to the therapist but blocks me. Therapist tells me there are three i haven't met. Its a bit irritating. That zt knows more about the system than i do. Plus T won't tell me what they talk about. T claims confidentiality. T wants to treat/respect each individually and not betray trust. Yet, T keeps saying they're all me. We are all the same. But it doesn't always feel that way. Especially when it comes to amnesic parts. Aarrrgh, its just all too abstract.
i guess whats happening is better than all that trauma smacking you in the face all at once maybe your alters know its too much for you at this given time maybe they dont want you to be hurt by what they know,sometimes what they hold is horrific,your alters are doing their job but also allowing treatment which is awesome hang in there maybe bit by bit they will slowly allow you to know stuff at a safe pace ,trust me you dont want a flooding episode that shits rough and frankly devastating (just my opinion )
My T takes the same position. The only way they will communicate with her is with trust. Until they are sure she won't tell me - yes it is very frustrating - another case of powerlessness. Just what we needed.
Present the information to the alter that he is in a DID system. Explain to him what a DID system is. If they are combative and most of them are, ask him this: Do you remember where you came from? There will usually be a long pause of silence and then they will usually be more agreeable to what you are suggesting. The objective is to convince the alter that he is a broken piece of the Host identity, then convince him to willingly give up his seperate-ness and merge with the host identity. Host identity must be willing as well. Its that simple.
There may be something's you might be right about but the 'elect' mute from different 'sets' of persona's and several of those are aware of several sets, theyre not fighting or warring with each other, good news! We're on the same team...but non-verbal alters, aspects of the us that is me, sorry that was fun!😀 Those parts are not under pressure to communicate directly to me, but you can suggest to someone in their set to be a translator, to fully listen to them and take it in then relaying what was, if anything was divulged in them and they can be the judge of when its best to pass it on, especially if im overwhelmed with some other parts of my recovery and so they can tell me at a better time? My persona's are not here for any circus or freak show, you must not force any terrorised persona's to jump through hoops because integration is the main goal and the only obective! Just to appear normal at any cost, be prepered for possible set backs too, we can and do revert to dissociation, something that kept us alive...
one of my (possible) alters don't really speak they more or less just watches over us and makes sure everything is fine and working like how it should work! now they do have like a presence when they co front it's the type of presence that makes you wanna like behave around them I don't really know how to explain it that well! their presence doesn't feel evil maybe slightly omnious tho but all I know is that I don't wanna dissapoint them when they co front!! ps I am saying possible as I am still questioning! sorry if ther are any spelling mistakes!
I finally working thru terapy was able to get in touch with my little girl. I accept her and gave her space for her to express. Recently I was trigger and realize that she was present so I decide to ask her if she would like to share something to me (she has a memory of trauma that I do not have) and when I made the question she got nervous and did not talk, she went silence. What would be your advise for this situation? Thank you for your videos, it is very helpful
We have a Little/Tween that is a heavy Trauma Holder (and likely an Secondary Alter of one of our Littles/Tweens) that is not even aware of us. We have tried speaking to him, showing imagery, emotions, ect, but he is utterly trauma locked and almost... feral. When he begins to switch in we begin to stutter severely and attempting to form words is virtually impossible. After our last therapy session we (the body) were entirely mute for hours afterwards- which was disconcerting. We're leaving out the accompanying TITH headache, of course. The vascular changes during our switches are usually quite severe.
I recently became aware that I am most likely an alter. My first memory is floating into the body around age 2 and I have no recollection of anything before that. I am a csa survivor and didn’t really notice that the original was still here until I became a mother myself. My daughter is my twin and I think it allowed me to work on healing. The original made herself known to me after I created a safe space. the original is definitely separate from me and I can literally feel the space between us (it’s very hard to explain) but I still dont really meet a lot of the criteria for DID. Can systems really be that small? I don’t see her or an inner world or anything like that, and when she comes out I am still able to observe everything.
Sounds more like OSDD-1 than DID if you lack the amnesia when she comes out. My system also doesn't have any sort of inner world. Systems with only two alters are rare, but not impossible. The theory of structural dissociation also doesn't support the concept of an "original one," just one who may remember the earliest points in life or may identify with the body. So you could look more into the theory of structural dissociation if you wanna know more. Also, it could be possible she's coconscious or cofronting rather than fronting, making you aware of what she's doing. That's how it usually is in my system if anyone else is conscious.
Thank you for this video. It will be very helpful to mention this to my CPN who is trying her absolute best 2 understand, bless her, as she hasn't come across any1 with d.i.d before us. Thanks n take care. Regards, Sam.👍
Fantastic video, really appreciate it. This is something we struggle with majorly as I only have some communication with a few of my alters and it's very frustrating. Thank you for the insight, I wish you were located near me so I could have you as my therapist! Thank you for the awesome and helpful videos!
Similar with our comment earlier on one of your other videos, we're kind of stuck with the fact that every attempt to communicate with our parts "pushes a button" which starts some sort of destructive loop. We find it very difficult to find a way to deal with this. I know that some parts were "formed" by the abusers and that those loops are like automatic responses. Yet, how can you stop something like this when you can't communicate with parts involved? We've been in therapy for many years, while our daughters were growing up a lot was still hidden away and just happening in the background, now the extent of it all becomes more visible. Yet still every attempt to communicate, to learn, to find solutions, backfires with full blast.
I have an alter, Sammy, that only communicates through sign language. She can hear, but she does not speak. I have another that we just found out about who is VERY angry and does not speak also...I believe your explanation above is why she is not communicating with me. I have 8 alters in my system.
There is a system on UA-cam called System K who has a deaf alter who also only communicates in sign language. Perhaps Sammy should contact her for a chat!
More tips on internal communication methods would be great. Creative ideas. Have tried journaling, but never worked. My therapist doesn’t always have good ideas, but I’m trying.
This explains a lot. I have an alter that holds a great deal of grief and shame. She will not talk to me, but sometimes talks to my counselor. I feel like each alter also contains different emotions for me. Does that make sense?
I have woke up in jail wearing paper pajamas from the hospital, and had no idea how I got there. I watched the arrest security video and had zero memory of it. Apparently I have an incredible fighter personality I do not know!?
Is it possible some of them are non-verbal or have limited ability to speak? I think I have a kid who talks sometimes and they don't seem able to say a whole lot. It's that or my communication is so bad I can't catch everything. One time they kept shouting 'Blue! Blue!' and I just couldn't figure out what it meant so was like 'yep, blue, nice colour...' ANd then when I left the house and realised I forgot my phone, I came back and saw it on the blue jumper lol It was a bit of a complex thought it was trying to get across: 'You're going to forget the phone, it's there on the blue jumper'. But instead of saying 'phone' they said 'blue'. It seems like they had limited language skills or something? Is that normal? lol
Hi! I am hoping you could offer me some advice/explanation? Um-recently I’ve had some ppl suggest that I may want to look into seeing a doctor about DID-after I told them about this experience/I guess they have suspected for a while as well…but prior to that I was looking into internal family systems and trying to do a workbook at home by myself. Started out with an expertise where I was supposed to try and speak to a manager and a wounded part and just acknowledge and learn about them. So Idk, it seemed really easy to talk to the “manager” and he did have his own thoughts and personality and stuff-but it also was so easy to talk to him that it makes me feel as if I made that part up? What I really want to know is: I didn’t know what wounded self to talk to-and I have been trying to learn why/how i can allow myself to not detach emotionally all the time but specifically when I’m writing and creating music. And I assumed that due to trauma there was a wounded part of me afraid of that and I could gently try and listen for it?? But almost immediately upon trying, I like, felt like I got frozen sort of and this really stoic and commanding voice/felt a presence in me that just felt so disembodied and it started saying that I wasn’t capable of this and that I wouldn’t come back out if I did this-I cannot remember anymore specific details beyond that-but it got increasingly scarier sounding and like menacing and I couldn’t shut it off or stop listening to it, it just kept stating things that It acted like it knew. It sort of felt like I snapped out of it and I was shooken up and went to write down what had just happened and immediately could not remember a single word spoken/everything felt extremely disorienting and confusing. After a while I ended up remembering enough to write down basically what I wrote here. But then I spent the next week stuck in this in between space like really intense depersonalization-which I started having when I was a child but this time it felt like I had been like pushed back there. Like I wasn’t allowed to come back out?? I have returned to normal mostly now-although now when I try to talk about certain things like this It’s like -again-I get my permission revoked halfway through a memory and I just draw a blank or get dazed for a sec. obviously- the whole thing out scared the hell out of me and I will not be doing anymore at home workbooks. I have CPTSD and during a couple years of my life I would kind of freak out and feel very childish and frightened after certain triggering activities. And I suffered from really bad panic attacks and dp/dr growing until like 5ish years ago-but I recently learned I am emotionally dissociating I think all the time/also cannot feel emotions in the body cause apparently that’s a thing- except anxiety. Sorry I am rambling. I just wanted to know if this experience (the dark hidden feeling disembodied -me??) Is like, exclusive or indicative of DID or if it’s a known thing that can happen with it? I feel better lately and have tried to find out but to no avail. I know this isn’t a doctors office- so thank you for any response you might have.
I read your comment and thought maybe my experience could help you feel less alone. It took me years to learn all this about my mind and beautiful system, so i hope my explanation is clear without me having to tell my whole story. But basically i learned that its not only about the trauma, and therapy. I know everyones system is different, but at the most basic level; think of it like this. They share your brain so they (like you) are capable of learning and personal growth(if you choose to let them)! So even beyond the trauma and why they exists they are capable of being every bit as human as you. So that dark scary feeling in your body when you initiated contact was not only your bodies response to them, but their mental response to you invading their space (either without their permission, or the guidance of a trusted core member, who can navigate, and gatekeep trauma). You probably woke them up to you and scared them, just as much as they scared you. That will pass after you take time to slowly build up trust. The only way to do that is to stop and listen to tthei needs.. not all at once.. pick the one that seems less aggressive so you get use to the idea of talking and feeling compassion for someone you can't physically ever meet in real life, my system can hold conversations without me, or while i sleep so it was kinda a word to mouth thing (i know it sounds weird, but they trusted me more after the personality they trusted told them they should basically.) To this day a few still don't like me, and some refuse to acknowledge it's DID out of spite, for not being open emotionally the first time they needed me too! That big presence with the deep voice is probably there to keep them safe from you, because if you start poking around asking questions without being ready for their emotions it will cause conflict.. that manager voice trust it.. even if you made him up, who cares..this has been your brains main way to cope so why doubt it now? I hope you get to a good place with your system.i could go on but this is long as it is.. if you have questions tho, ill answer them honestly.
What if I aint ready, and our therapist acts like we are stupid and dont notice that shes abandoned us? Is it wise for a therapist to ignore an alter that wants their support and wants the therapist to see them?
Thank you so much very informative and always did wonder. Can you have a part that is young than 7 who i first notice someone or can there be a younger pre verbal part?x
There may be many reasons for this. Could you try doing the screening questionnaire (dissociative experiences scale), available free online and take the scores to therapy to see if that helps discuss this further?
Soooo very useful, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS. And for all your videos. We have a question though. You acknowledge the individuality of those you call alters, but you never use the word "person" for them, which makes us feel like our personhoods are taken away from us. We suspect that this might be a language thing because we're French native speakers, but I feel like a person when in the language you use I'm an alter. Does this make sense and would you mind explaining?
I have a question about dissociation. Theres times when i receive a text or phone call from someone and when my eyes first lay sight on it (the incoming call or new text) my vision gets blurry and i feel fuzzy for 2 seconds almost so super quick.. But its like i almost dissociate, but dont fully. Does this happen to others for such a short quick moment?
Yes it does ... quick fuzzy-ness or black edges of my sight .. generally when it gets that far I can't stop a switch. BUT Something happened last week ~ i was in a situation that usually makes me anxious .. so getting more anxious as it's closer to my turn. I see the fog/darkness along the edges. . . . I was like 🗨 please let me complete this.. please (i felt panicked)(like I was pleading). And just as fast as it began.. it stopped "I" actually STOPPED a switch!! FIRST TIME EVER!!
I’m having dissociative barriers again. I have been aware of myself & my executive high function waxes & wanes for 20+ years with thisIt’s been since 2002-2004 then, it was 2015 they came around loud but not vocal just there & now their here again. 😩☹️😖 There’s 2 others that are really dominant right not. It’s messy. What the heck is going on. Any suggestions will help. I don’t really have any help or others in my original council of therapy. Timing is just bad $$ Isn’t available. It’s like $145 for 45 minutes for real therapy. I have a victim witness protection program funding but I’m running out of funding and I need resources links please. ANY suggestions are welcomed and appreciated. 🕊✨🙏🏼✨🕊
I have an alter that does not speak. I can basically read the thoughts of the others, but not hers. I’ve been working with her in therapy again lately (& was diagnosed 25 years ago). If anyone has any ideas, I’d welcome them. TIA
Very helpful! A little request: Could you add some generic music to the intro part? Because there is no sound I turned up the volume and then the loud volume caught me off guard :P
Question: My alters right now are not communicating with me verbally, could that come later or is that something that is fixed from the beginning? Thank you
This may be an obvious one, but is it true that people with DID experience it differently than others with the same disorder? I ask because sometimes I wonder if I have bipolar disorder because I experience mania differently; I wonder if it's the same for those with DID. I hear from other UA-camrs that it's a spectrum, and I wonder your view on it. Thank you for spending so much time answering our questions.
@@rachelleo8527 Very rarely on the the outside does it look different. It is suppose to be a hidden Disorder or it wouldn't be doing it's job. When you hear look differently it means how it feels and is processed on the inside. DID is extremely complex and takes years and in some cases a lifetime to work through. If you want to really understand what DID is like, please do not watch UA-cam. They do not give an accurate representation of what real DID looks like. Go to authentic medical resources and research sites please. Thank you.
I was in therapy years ago… the result was that I was hyper suicidal. They stopped counting at 20 attempts. I know that the therapist specialized in ritual abuse. Let’s see if that gets a reaction from the body or some part after soooo many years.
Thanks for the video! I (as host) am trying to work with multiple alters right now on this very issue. ☺ Any suggestion for alters that also don't trust medical or psychological professionals?
The Reign System I guess they can follow your lead, to some degree. Ideally, find ones that you do trust and/or encourage alters to share their concerns with you for reassurance.
Traci Caulfield Therapy that is offered by an experienced and skilled clinician, that follows guidelines and is done with respect, partnership and time.
My demons, as I call them, deregulate me. I see no reason why I need to communicate with them. Having said this, they do mess up my life, every single day. I cannot find a common safe language to communicate during therapy, which makes me go round in circles.
My knowledge is limited… but, I have a part that is a very young infant. The legs are still bent. I want to address it bc she does something that is UNACCEPTABLE. I know that I’m not supposed to think that way.. it’s just…
Can you do a video on polyfragmented systems? We have 3000 people in our system and it can be so hard to keep everything straight. At least one person is having flashbacks most of the time.
Raayna Well, the body ages and the person grows older as always. Some alters grow with the person, some don’t. How it works out depends on the the overall system as to how good they are at figuring things out among all.
yea my mom was a Gem moon and im working on being abused in Cloorado Grouphomes as a child as a male. my mom a Vir. Gem moon. abandon me because of my race then. it was half blk half white. then i was abused through many homes. by kids and sven male staff. I almost ended up. in a psyche ward. I studied it but I never thought it was me. Aq and Scorpio im an. both rule splits aquairius by earthquake, and Scorpio means having a sexualized childhood. Because the moon rules the past. I have no Gemini in my chart. But this is my job and I get along with at Aquarius. If I talk to a job and I and I really don't want to do something that I say my mom is a Gemini. and i have mpd.its on my skin! then they understand.
Would you say its possible for an alter to be mute? For example a child alter who is mute because when the body is abused the alter is formed with the idea of "if I hadn't said anything this wouldn't have happened" kind of like how some people theorize that having alters with the opposite sex or gender could be because the traumatized child subconsciously worked it out that "had i been a girl/boy/neither this wouldn't have happened or I could have protected myself/been protected"?
Artemis Ameretsu Yes, and I have worked with alters who do not speak. Sometimes they are just afraid, or are under threat of harm if they say anything, like from the memory of an abuser who threatened the person not to speak.
I was going to ask about mute alters also. I believe I have one. There are times when simply pushing words out is a major effort, and it's better if I can be quiet. It is almost likexwithdrawing to rest. I hope we will see videos on mute alters, differently gendered alters, hosts, and all the different types that show up.
Good question, was wondering the same. We have a selective mute- she speaks to others in the system but is mainly mute around me. It is getting better with time. As mentioned in this video, it has been a case of patience and trying to work out why we might be nervous around each other.
Would you say alternative forms of communication were helpful in those cases? Such as drawing, writing, or even different forms of direct communication like hand signaling? Or would you say in your experience it was more helpful to give the alter a safe place in therapy where they could feel comfortable enough to speak?
"Not feeling a sense of belonging. Not feeling wanted, not feeling part of things is often a central part of that trauma." Waowww, that hit. That makes so much sense why our internal communication has been so shaky recently. I said something in frustration that has probably caused the hiding/pulling back of others. Wow. Thank you!
I'm glad you posted this today. Someone on Quora asked the question: 'Why can't I hear alters after they introduced themselves to me?' I was able to send them a link to this video. There is quite a large community of people with DID/OSDD or who ask questions about these disorders. I always point them towards your channel as a reliable source of information.
Alma et al thank you, Alma and others, that is very kind of you. Glad this channel is helping!
What is Quora? Are there other people with this that i can talk to?
@@cadaver4457 Absolutele Abra, just go into Quora dot com and look up DID. You'll get huge amounts of info from real people who experience this condition. Use DID or OSDD in their search bar.
My system loves these videos, too. It's nice to have resources because we've had no access to real help because no one believes us. It's a good thing this disorder made us so tenacious that we survived our trauma and are here trying to reclaim our lives. I'm glad we're not alone. 🙂
@@cadaver4457 Ask google
Sorry, a comment got deleted by mistake, if the person who put it on would like to try again, it would be appreciated!
I think it's often not about not wanting to communicate but about not being able to communicate. Some alters develop at the time in youth before the child learns to talk because the trauma happens very early in life. So those parts are just floods of emotion or need without words to decribe the experience. The parts that have learned to talk are dissociated from those strong emotions, that's why when they talk it can be quiet emotionless
I believe I am multiple. I am not worried about it - I am able to connect with an angry part of a child-self more often now since I have started making art and thinking visually. She speaks in poetry, offering up brutal and beautiful understandings of the reality she lived. I grieve a lot because the harm came from layers of isolation and systemic social problems that no one person can ever hope to change.
I feel this really hard. I also suffer from similar issues and yeah, it sucks
Sometimes parts can be non verbal if they are told they can’t speak, or if they are too young. If you are a RA survivor you might have parts programmed to not speak/believe they can’t without punishment. You might also have parts programmed to silence others inside. A lot of parts might believe they are objects or animals. But when you are in the same headspace you can often find some way of communicating even if it is feelings in the body or other memories and then you can build trust to tell them you are grateful they held those things but they don’t have to do it alone anymore. I had one part that was a guard that was told to stand up tense and straight, just letting them know they could sit down was a great relief! It would be cool if you could add in examples of RA systems in your videos 😊
Yeah, the youngest member of our system seems to a nonverbal wolf/dog, I think in our past they felt so deeply "I don't belong" or "I'm not wanted" that disconnecting from humanity and taking on that form just seemed safer. But now we don't really know how to communicate with them besides just waiting for emotional bleed and trying to guess what's triggering them and how to help.
@@mayanightstar maybe you guys could just hang out? We have a cat part who wanted to be a cat because the cats got fed. I just told her, everyone gets fed around here. The littles pet her, she can come out and be cat like. She likes to rest her head on my husband and he rubs her head like a cat. When she is ready she will talk more. It’s more important for parts to feel safe and accepted than know everything about them 😊 hope that helps a bit.
@@ArtyAntics As a base rule we try to make it super clear to everyone in the system that they're always welcome and wanted, but y'know I haven't really thought much about what could be beneficial for this part in particular, so yeah this gives me something to think about. Thanks!
it is not a disorder. it is a brilliant coping strategy that helps you have a respite from distress !
Been saying this for years!
then why am i distressed
I'd love to hear your thoughts on "fight" alters (ie trauma holders who did the fighting during abuse) handling and processing the reality that although they fought the body still reacted to the sexual abuse the way human bodies do. Its a new issue for us and our main trauma holder who did the fighting feels utterly betrayed by the body and see's no point in ever respecting or protecting it ever again. I(the host) am at a loss as to how to get through to her that its nobodys fault and not something any of us could control and doesn't = betrayal.
Hey Wibble Wobble we have had similar issues with several Alters who hold sexual abuse trauma, including several Littles. Our focus was to keep reiterating that they did nothing wrong and that the body did nothing wrong, it was the abusers that did the wrong thing and who used the body’s natural responses in a horrible way. We also explained to some of them that had the body not responded in those ways our abusers would have hurt us even worse, so as horrible as it sounds the body responding the way it did also protected us to a degree. Hope this helps.
Actually, for us it really helped to learn about biochemistry. You suddenly really understand why your body reacted that way. Like, everyone kinda knows it, but learning about the hormonal backgrounds and stuff really helps in accepting it - at least for us.
@@luxcaydenco3963 my heart is breaking for them all (those who feel betrayed ) of course i feel/say that for all of you 💥 but can not manage to let it in here. Compassion only goes so far.
It's quite literally not a conscious choice at all. It's just stimulation and nerves
The only person who betrayed you was your abuser. You body tried its best too
I haven't named mine yet because I still feel weird about doing it. What freaks me out is that even during my speaking my personality could've switched to another to hide it from myself.
I also found it helpful to, while assuring them and outting out that message that I DO want to talk, I would also address my own misgivings or negative feelings.
If I felt frustrated, I would apologize and openly acknowledge the fear and hurt that may cause, and insist that I wanted to work on it. If I felt resentful or fell into wishing this all would go away, I would be candid about why I think I felt that way and what I am struggling with, and ask to hear how they feel so we can discuss it.
Even if the reaction is negative, even if we clash or disagree or whatnot, it's better that we are Open, rather than letting it fester.
I am recovered from DID and I can give you my experience. Some alters cannot talk, they were formed before the core self learned to talk. They are too young and are not able to talk. Older alters can talk to them and they can understand them, but they cannot talk back. I have had several alters who could not talk as my trauma started at birth. The other ways you talk about are legitimate as well, but do not forget, babies cannot talk. Recovery is possible, it took me 10 yrs of relentless seeking healing and integration was possible, but the grace of God. My faith was the most important aspect of my healing & recovery & my cores desire to be fully integrated. I thank God for my DID which enabled me to survive daily trauma for years and O thank Jesus for dying for me so I can have eternal life and be whole. Seek Jesus with all your heart, mind, soul and strength and he will be found. I give God all the glory and my trauma and DID made me who I am today, so I’m thankful for it as I can relate to many others in ways many others cannot relate to those who are suffering from DID. It made me better not bitter. God bless you all 🙏🏻😊
Hi Lisa I love your story and I am happy that you could recover and Amen God is good , would you mind sharing the steps that helped you recover, my friend is going through the same thing and I am trying to help!
Thank you
I first want to say that I'm so happy for you as a whole, sounds like you're doing alot better & you sure worked hard for it & deserve it.❣💖❣
Don't take this next thing in the wrong way or tone please. I just want to make you & others aware that some people have horrific trauma directly or indirectly involving the use of your God & others. I've no personal issues with Jesus or God/Divine/Energy/Universe whatever one may refer to it as. However it was used on me as a very small child as a tool to control, manipulate and terrorize me. I had recurring nightmares as a kid for well over 10 years where I was flying and I would see this fluffy cloud. I'd go to it each time. "Jesus" would be next to the bed, smiling at me. He'd motion towards the bed, wanting me to lay down. Even though I didn't remember what happens every time I had this nightmare, I still had strong intuition to not get on the bed. It would confuse me bc I saw sweet loving jesus yet I was terrified & something else I can't describe. Anyway I would end up going to lay on the bed every time even though I didn't want to & didn't ever remember actually going to it myself in the dream. As soon as I was on the bed Jesus would turn into the devil and he had a button kinda like a mic stand with a red button at end except it was like. .rigged together by a regular person. The devil would gleefully, maniacally laugh at me as he hit the button. The bed would start falling down a really deep sky shaft like an elevator except aesthetic in the cloud. It would get faster and faster. Sometimes I think I'd catch the numbers on it as it went down & at first that's about the time I'd wake up. I knew it was going to hell & I was so scared but also felt guilty & shame as if I deserved to go there. After some years of it repeating itself I'd remember as soon as I got on the bed. Or then I'd remember before it but it's like I had no choice in it.
Anyway it's definitely not the only thing my abusers/tormentors used to keep me quiet & control my mind and body to do what they wanted with. Another thing was "the dr". Idk still exactly what he did to me or for how many years but he'd dress up as a dr & have me come into his little office. I can only remember the desk top kinda, his hand & a tape recorder. He'd let me say stuff into it at "the end" & let me listen to it. Idk why but always loved it like it was an exciting mystery to my little self or something idk. I've had these vivid memories since I can remember & when I started asking my mom about 10 years ago who that dr was bc I was reading about mkultra & there were just too many similarities in it all & with my experiences/memories I had to know. She claims that I only went one time & that's when I was diagnosed with tourette's syndrome. Around age 7. But this sicko was doing shit to me & making me do things from a young age probably starting around 4 & ending around 7. I don't remember him but I remember his kids & wife. Anyway sorry I get to talking alot sometimes, I just have alot of thoughts. Sorry for not being succint
I'm not mad or upset or anything like that but I think you should be aware that it could easily affect someone in a potentially triggering way. You're not responsible for that & I don't expect or even personally want a "trigger warning", just bringing it to your attention.
I know this was 3 years ago but this is so meaningful to me as a Christian who may also have DID or OSDD and am struggling insanely with processing that possibility, while also being a Christian and just wanting to please the Lord. So this comment really spoke to me and brought comfort. I’m so scared and angry and depressed all the time. I’m in so much pain and my others (alters) hate me and are just so scared too.
This is helpful- I have so many parts, and many of them are stuck in trauma time; they only come out during EMDR. Highly traumatized, fearful, some can’t talk, etc.
Many don’t communicate, but I’ve learned that my parts must feel safe before they present. Also, my gatekeepers seem to regulate who comes out and when. I get a sense that gatekeepers control to prevent flooding.
Thank you for these videos. We've spent 2½ years trying to get help for this, but no one I've seen has any understanding of my experiences. You give me hope.
Thank you for another wonderful video! Communication is a life long effort, both internally and externally. Patience and compassion are certainly important keys. I would love a video delving further into methods of communication but will be happy with absolutely anything. Love this channel!
This has me crying. All of my others are in these states and wanting to stay away and silent now, and I know it’s my fault. No amount of apologizing brings any comfort to them. I don’t know what more to do, I’m really trying.
Your explanations made me cry, in a lovely way - you helped to understood my [system] perspective inkl. the effects for/to the others and why they don’t show up anymore. - - all of your videos have so much and deep impact for us, thank a lot. Lovely and colorful greetings from Germany 👋 💖
leben.lernen thank you, and hello from the UK!
Dr. Mike, thank you so much!. I always look forward to watching your videos. I appreciate the consistent messages of patience and love, instead of "let's rush to get this fixed so we can move on". I won't hesitate to recommend this channel to anyone who is in need of your messages.
Good ideas to keep in mind for working with our abuser introject in therapy. Thank you Dr. Mike!
I cant believe it exist such thing, for a person to talk to another alter, mind blowing.
I seriously needed this video today. Thank you so much. I know it’s me being phobic and I’m going to bring it up to our therapist. Your videos are invaluable and very needed in the community. -Lita
Anomaly Collective Thank you, Lita!
I really thank you for this. I was concerned that it had negative connotations if some alters refused to chat. Glad to know they just have their own individual circumstances that bar them from opening up
One of my alters is the chief legal officer (CLO) of the company i am involved with in a civil matter. he is teaching me law.
The crazy thing is that he is always right!
He is my "mentor", lol, helping me sue his own company and there is not a damm thing he can do about it, thanks Jeff, lol
the craziest thing is that I wrote a group email to their entire board of directors, i outed him as one of my 'Alters'.
Can't believe I'm only just finding these videos. I saw your video with Multiplicity & Me but never checked out your channel. We have one alter, Benji, who showed up to deal with a toxic friend and then just disappeared. The overwhelming sense we get is that he doesn't want to deal with the drama and chaos that defines our system. And of course, since there's so much drama and chaos, we haven't had much time to pay attention to him and were fine leaving him to his own devices. I feel bad about that now. I'm going to send out a message that his story needs to be heard, too, if that's what he wants and if he's ready.
I appreciate very much these videos. It is the type of information I have been seeking for several years, even while in regular therapy.
I am happy you have posted this, how ever what can I do when it comes to said "part" is responsible for absolutely destroying my long term relationship and ofc I having to be the one to take accountability for it. I feel angry and resentful that this happened and is hard as well because I feel that my bf doesn't understand to what degree this is hurting not just me but also my system and well ofc him. Please help I am lost and don't know what to do.
Thank you Dr Mark. I have alters who s a voiding me and I really feel the validation.
I Just started crying midway in the vídeo. Thank you, for the kind and precise words
You are welcome, Matheus, I am very pleased these videos are helping.
I’m so grateful that I found your page ♥️♥️
I have 7 alters, one of my alters does not speak, but instead uses sign language to communicate....I also have, an alter that will not communicate at all....I am so glad I saw your video, this "silent" alter seems to just lurk about....My other alters are pretty vocal and active when they front. I wonder, if there are more alters that do not talk, just how many more alters I actually have? I wonder if they feel they will not be accepted like the other 7? Having DID is very hard...
I was diagnosed at 16yo with DID among other things. I'm now23. I had been in therapy since I was 14. ( Moved states at 16 and haven't been back to therapy since but I'm trying to find somewhere close to where I live that doesn't just write off DID as fake or something lol ) and I still don't have much conversation with my alters. They still come out or even co front but I'm unaware of all but a few of their names etc. But we just recently created our inner world. I don't think that we "created" it but I can't think of a better word for it lmao. So hopefully our inner world helps us communicate better. ❤️🌻 Also id love to see you talk about the inner world from a professional stand point
Omg i am SO jealous of your diagnosis so young i know this might not help you.. i only hope that you can look back remember the crazy ole lady who told you to be patient & compassionate & loving.. most things will come in their time.
I have an Alter who refuses to talk. Her name is Ghost and she presents as a ghost and won't acknowledge people at all, including the rest of us in the system. She does "paint" though. We've also had mute alters, but they've fused now.
I also have a mute alter. I don’t know how long she’s been here but I just found out about her. She only nods and shakes her head or shrugs and sometimes just doesn’t acknowledge people at all. I worry about her coming out in public or at work.
All I have is a Gemini moon mother and I have an Aquarius sun im.a Scorpio. I haven't named mine yet. The only thing I notice is when i
said that MPD was not in my life. Well that was an altar changing that's the first time that I ever seen it myself. For me to say that the abuse was not as bad. well that was an altar protecting my core personality from becoming aware of it. Probably some alters we're also laughing about it. Because Leo risings . First responses to laugh at everything. Because were just jovial ppl. Like Emma stone is a Leo rising with a Scorpio sun and a libra moon we have the same placements down to the libra moon. and shes always laughing.
So very helpful, thank you.
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I am I hospital but not specialist in did and now I feel they are pushing pushing when I don’t have ability or access to all alters I’m at breaking point
"You as the person" vs. "your alters" is an interesting way of phrasing/seeing it. They way I've often heard it explained by systems suffering from DID is that there is no "original", only an alter who fronts most, i.e. the host. Sometimes, for various reasons, the host can switch places with, or fuse with, another alter, and this personality then becomes the new host. I mean, you're the doctor, so I guess you would know best. It was just something I noticed.
It is variable, no right or wrong about it. I have noticed that people who refer to themselves as "systems" tend to veer more towards your first point, whereas clinically (i.e. those we see in treatment), that doesn't happen much at all.
@@thectadclinic Interesting, thank you!
So, I've been trying really hard not to get angry at my sister's psychologist, because I know she's not trained in this field, but my sister has been trying to get diagnosed with OSDD or DID, and she was told by her "You're too intelligent to have multiple personality disorder."
She also brought up Cybil when she was talking to her about it.
Then she said she believed if my sister continued the way she was going she was at risk for a personality fracture. ._.
(She also said my sister doesn't have BPD, so we're not sure what she means)
But, any advice on what my sister should do?
change psychologist?
Very well done explanation. I would add that parts may not understand or believe that time has passed, and the dangerous people are either dead, old, or very far away. My therapist created some of the techniques for helping parts learn that "times have changed". One of the reasons I sought her out. We have worked very hard to bring everyone into the present. Makes everyone feel better about sharing.
Cathy Hi Cathy & Co, This sounds interesting, can you explain more, it’s something that we are struggling with at the moment . Many Thanks x
@@thefineline5830 I recommend Janina Fisher's book "Healing The Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors". Her website has many free papers to read as well, under "resources". They discuss how to bring parts into the present. She is not my therapist. Mine is writing her own book as we speak....
@@Cathy-xi8cb Thanks for the recommendation - I have become a research assistant on this disorder for my internal family ♡
Thanks so much for this video!
It's given us some stuff to think about- we have great communication between a lot of us but there are some we have no communication with at all and one in particular is a wolf alter who lives with us in the headspace- but we haven't managed to communicate with them at all cause they don't seem to understand speech, but we're just learning that they do understand stuff like body language and intent and can be taught some meanings of words kinda like in dog training so we're really trying to work on communication with them. - Connor
I forgot this was my own account and I didn't need to sign my name haha
You need to have your therapist break "wolf" mind control programming, and break the false identities off the parts. They will integrate with you if you strip them back to the humanity
@@clintdobbs2462 I don't think that's really fair. Not everyone with animal identities is a victim of RA. And my animal parts only warmed to me when I accepted them on their own terms. Calling it a "false identity..." I can tell you from their perspective that that will only put them on their guard. I can tell you from my own perspective I was getting sick of getting scratched and bitten in dreams, always being at odds with them. Don't know if you personally experience this, but I'd recommend you scrap that idea. Forcing change on someone only breeds resentment and creates distance. When you meet them where they are, that's where true change occurs, and I've seen it happen time and again. Be patient, Connor. Your wolf alter may learn to speak or not, but any communication is good communication.
@@sad_doggo2504 I respect your plight and your opinions, however it seems your approach to breaking down the DID system must be secular or with very little training. I am DID as well but almost completely whole. And no, i wasn't RA either, and no one has to be RA to be DID. DID today is often a result of compounded multi-generational iniquity such as high levels of Freemasonry (or other groups) in your bloodline. Perhaps your grandfather was a high ranking Mason or even further back. I have been ministering to DID/SRA for over 5 years now and have found Masonic alters that came forward and said they had been in the bloodline for 15 generations. This means they have been passed down through dissociation 15 generations. This is the occult version of eternal life. I agree with what your saying about meeting your alters on their own terms, this is true, one needs to approach "animal" alters with the same love as "occult" loyal alters in treating them with love, because they are part of you. By applying the blood of Jesus to the programming or "false identity" of these alters and presenting them with the truth of who they really are, they will usually integrate with ease (because the programming is broken, they can now choose to accept the truth that they are actually part of you). Not telling them the truth is not loving them. If you don't feel comfortable in doing the work yourself, ask Jesus to come in and minister to these parts. He usually just touches them and all the false identity is gone and they integrate. Jesus can integrate thousands of alters at a time. Breaking down the DID system secularly is not productive and leaves many people struggling to connect with and communicate with these broken parts of our identities. Contrary to what secular psychology may say, DID is a spiritual affliction and transcends any model of modern psychology. I did not mean to offend you, i just wanted to offer a possible suggestion. What caught my ear was the fact that you were dealing with these specific (wolf) alters, when those specific alters were some of the first to present in my system.
If you do not believe in Jesus, i respect your beliefs, but can tell you that you will never find true healing outside of him. Please find a skilled DID minister to work with you and not a secular psychologist. Don't get me wrong, i love psychology. I am currently studying psychology and truly believe that psychology has its place, but it has little understanding of the ranking, structure and hierarchy of the DID system. If one tries approaching DID without a deep understanding of deliverance and the structure of the DID system, their work is very unproductive. Normally i would suggest a few books to help you understand how to manage your system better, but in your current condition they would only cause deeper dissociation. Good luck, and again, i never meant to sound unfair or offend. Merely to offer a path to help you find true healing in Christ.
@@dobbscmd that was a lot to read but I will say one thing. You were trying to tell that guy to integrate with his wolf. Not all systems want to integrate. I knew one who did and she hated it it was way too quiet. You dont have to integrate but you certainly can use most of your advice. I hope becoming integrated works out well for you. I know how long and hard many people including yourself, had to work to get you there! NicE1
Thank you for this video. Do you have any advice for alters who are in regular communication, but struggle with words? I have an alter who is often around and is very active when I’m doing something fun, but struggles with word retrieval so prefers not to talk, then gets frustrated that we don’t know what she wants/needs. We can only really tell ‘like’ or ‘don’t like’ most of the time. She can speak when she’s feeling calm/balanced/no strong feelings either way, but pretty quickly loses speech if the exact conditions aren’t right.
She *can* type in an emergency but doesn’t like to, and if she doesn’t like something then she doesn’t do it (doesn’t like holding a pen so drawing is out too). She’s done a couple of bits with our therapist moving shells around and squishing playdough, but it was more like a sensory distraction thing rather than ‘proper’ communication. She did eventually build a picture out of natural objects, but none of us could interpret it and she ended up getting angry. She wants to communicate more, but doesn’t have a way to do so!
Hi Lucy, I can't really comment on this specifically, but patience is usually needed when communication isn't working as well as hoped. Keep being creative, offering reasssurance that frustration is not happening and noticing the subtle signs are often useful methods.
When a trauma alter does finally talk about the trauma, why don't they go away? Do they have more trauma?
Or the aler that talks to the therapist but blocks me. Therapist tells me there are three i haven't met. Its a bit irritating. That zt knows more about the system than i do. Plus T won't tell me what they talk about. T claims confidentiality. T wants to treat/respect each individually and not betray trust. Yet, T keeps saying they're all me. We are all the same. But it doesn't always feel that way. Especially when it comes to amnesic parts.
Aarrrgh, its just all too abstract.
i guess whats happening is better than all that trauma smacking you in the face all at once maybe your alters know its too much for you at this given time maybe they dont want you to be hurt by what they know,sometimes what they hold is horrific,your alters are doing their job but also allowing treatment which is awesome hang in there maybe bit by bit they will slowly allow you to know stuff at a safe pace ,trust me you dont want a flooding episode that shits rough and frankly devastating (just my opinion )
My T takes the same position. The only way they will communicate with her is with trust. Until they are sure she won't tell me - yes it is very frustrating - another case of powerlessness. Just what we needed.
Present the information to the alter that he is in a DID system. Explain to him what a DID system is. If they are combative and most of them are, ask him this: Do you remember where you came from? There will usually be a long pause of silence and then they will usually be more agreeable to what you are suggesting. The objective is to convince the alter that he is a broken piece of the Host identity, then convince him to willingly give up his seperate-ness and merge with the host identity. Host identity must be willing as well. Its that simple.
There may be something's you might be right about but the 'elect' mute from different 'sets' of persona's and several of those are aware of several sets, theyre not fighting or warring with each other, good news! We're on the same team...but non-verbal alters, aspects of the us that is me, sorry that was fun!😀 Those parts are not under pressure to communicate directly to me, but you can suggest to someone in their set to be a translator, to fully listen to them and take it in then relaying what was, if anything was divulged in them and they can be the judge of when its best to pass it on, especially if im overwhelmed with some other parts of my recovery and so they can tell me at a better time? My persona's are not here for any circus or freak show, you must not force any terrorised persona's to jump through hoops because integration is the main goal and the only obective! Just to appear normal at any cost, be prepered for possible set backs too, we can and do revert to dissociation, something that kept us alive...
I been waiting for this video! Thank you! 🙌🏻
one of my (possible) alters don't really speak they more or less just watches over us and makes sure everything is fine and working like how it should work! now they do have like a presence when they co front it's the type of presence that makes you wanna like behave around them I don't really know how to explain it that well! their presence doesn't feel evil maybe slightly omnious tho but all I know is that I don't wanna dissapoint them when they co front!!
ps I am saying possible as I am still questioning! sorry if ther are any spelling mistakes!
I finally working thru terapy was able to get in touch with my little girl. I accept her and gave her space for her to express. Recently I was trigger and realize that she was present so I decide to ask her if she would like to share something to me (she has a memory of trauma that I do not have) and when I made the question she got nervous and did not talk, she went silence. What would be your advise for this situation? Thank you for your videos, it is very helpful
Thank you so much. This all made so much sense and felt it resonate with my system.
We have a Little/Tween that is a heavy Trauma Holder (and likely an Secondary Alter of one of our Littles/Tweens) that is not even aware of us. We have tried speaking to him, showing imagery, emotions, ect, but he is utterly trauma locked and almost... feral. When he begins to switch in we begin to stutter severely and attempting to form words is virtually impossible. After our last therapy session we (the body) were entirely mute for hours afterwards- which was disconcerting. We're leaving out the accompanying TITH headache, of course. The vascular changes during our switches are usually quite severe.
I recently became aware that I am most likely an alter. My first memory is floating into the body around age 2 and I have no recollection of anything before that. I am a csa survivor and didn’t really notice that the original was still here until I became a mother myself. My daughter is my twin and I think it allowed me to work on healing. The original made herself known to me after I created a safe space. the original is definitely separate from me and I can literally feel the space between us (it’s very hard to explain) but I still dont really meet a lot of the criteria for DID. Can systems really be that small? I don’t see her or an inner world or anything like that, and when she comes out I am still able to observe everything.
Sounds more like OSDD-1 than DID if you lack the amnesia when she comes out. My system also doesn't have any sort of inner world. Systems with only two alters are rare, but not impossible.
The theory of structural dissociation also doesn't support the concept of an "original one," just one who may remember the earliest points in life or may identify with the body. So you could look more into the theory of structural dissociation if you wanna know more.
Also, it could be possible she's coconscious or cofronting rather than fronting, making you aware of what she's doing. That's how it usually is in my system if anyone else is conscious.
How would you go about communicating with a non-verbal/mute child part? For both the system and the therapist?
Thank you for this video. It will be very helpful to mention this to my CPN who is trying her absolute best 2 understand, bless her, as she hasn't come across any1 with d.i.d before us. Thanks n take care. Regards, Sam.👍
Thank you for what you do!
Fantastic video, really appreciate it. This is something we struggle with majorly as I only have some communication with a few of my alters and it's very frustrating. Thank you for the insight, I wish you were located near me so I could have you as my therapist! Thank you for the awesome and helpful videos!
DarkenCoul Such a lovely compliment, thank you!
you will get there. Hopefully you have a therapist
? Where abouts do you live ? I know a good one in Northern Indiana
Similar with our comment earlier on one of your other videos, we're kind of stuck with the fact that every attempt to communicate with our parts "pushes a button" which starts some sort of destructive loop. We find it very difficult to find a way to deal with this. I know that some parts were "formed" by the abusers and that those loops are like automatic responses. Yet, how can you stop something like this when you can't communicate with parts involved? We've been in therapy for many years, while our daughters were growing up a lot was still hidden away and just happening in the background, now the extent of it all becomes more visible. Yet still every attempt to communicate, to learn, to find solutions, backfires with full blast.
I have an alter, Sammy, that only communicates through sign language. She can hear, but she does not speak. I have another that we just found out about who is VERY angry and does not speak also...I believe your explanation above is why she is not communicating with me. I have 8 alters in my system.
There is a system on UA-cam called System K who has a deaf alter who also only communicates in sign language. Perhaps Sammy should contact her for a chat!
More tips on internal communication methods would be great. Creative ideas. Have tried journaling, but never worked. My therapist doesn’t always have good ideas, but I’m trying.
have you come up with anything yet? I also like to know
This explains a lot. I have an alter that holds a great deal of grief and shame. She will not talk to me, but sometimes talks to my counselor. I feel like each alter also contains different emotions for me. Does that make sense?
Yes - that does make sense. I’m glad you found the video helpful. Thank you for your kind words.
I have woke up in jail wearing paper pajamas from the hospital, and had no idea how I got there. I watched the arrest security video and had zero memory of it. Apparently I have an incredible fighter personality I do not know!?
Is it possible some of them are non-verbal or have limited ability to speak? I think I have a kid who talks sometimes and they don't seem able to say a whole lot. It's that or my communication is so bad I can't catch everything.
One time they kept shouting 'Blue! Blue!' and I just couldn't figure out what it meant so was like 'yep, blue, nice colour...' ANd then when I left the house and realised I forgot my phone, I came back and saw it on the blue jumper lol
It was a bit of a complex thought it was trying to get across: 'You're going to forget the phone, it's there on the blue jumper'. But instead of saying 'phone' they said 'blue'. It seems like they had limited language skills or something?
Is that normal? lol
Hi! I am hoping you could offer me some advice/explanation? Um-recently I’ve had some ppl suggest that I may want to look into seeing a doctor about DID-after I told them about this experience/I guess they have suspected for a while as well…but prior to that I was looking into internal family systems and trying to do a workbook at home by myself. Started out with an expertise where I was supposed to try and speak to a manager and a wounded part and just acknowledge and learn about them. So Idk, it seemed really easy to talk to the “manager” and he did have his own thoughts and personality and stuff-but it also was so easy to talk to him that it makes me feel as if I made that part up? What I really want to know is: I didn’t know what wounded self to talk to-and I have been trying to learn why/how i can allow myself to not detach emotionally all the time but specifically when I’m writing and creating music. And I assumed that due to trauma there was a wounded part of me afraid of that and I could gently try and listen for it?? But almost immediately upon trying, I like, felt like I got frozen sort of and this really stoic and commanding voice/felt a presence in me that just felt so disembodied and it started saying that I wasn’t capable of this and that I wouldn’t come back out if I did this-I cannot remember anymore specific details beyond that-but it got increasingly scarier sounding and like menacing and I couldn’t shut it off or stop listening to it, it just kept stating things that It acted like it knew. It sort of felt like I snapped out of it and I was shooken up and went to write down what had just happened and immediately could not remember a single word spoken/everything felt extremely disorienting and confusing. After a while I ended up remembering enough to write down basically what I wrote here. But then I spent the next week stuck in this in between space like really intense depersonalization-which I started having when I was a child but this time it felt like I had been like pushed back there. Like I wasn’t allowed to come back out?? I have returned to normal mostly now-although now when I try to talk about certain things like this It’s like -again-I get my permission revoked halfway through a memory and I just draw a blank or get dazed for a sec. obviously- the whole thing out scared the hell out of me and I will not be doing anymore at home workbooks. I have CPTSD and during a couple years of my life I would kind of freak out and feel very childish and frightened after certain triggering activities. And I suffered from really bad panic attacks and dp/dr growing until like 5ish years ago-but I recently learned I am emotionally dissociating I think all the time/also cannot feel emotions in the body cause apparently that’s a thing- except anxiety.
Sorry I am rambling. I just wanted to know if this experience (the dark hidden feeling disembodied -me??) Is like, exclusive or indicative of DID or if it’s a known thing that can happen with it? I feel better lately and have tried to find out but to no avail. I know this isn’t a doctors office- so thank you for any response you might have.
I read your comment and thought maybe my experience could help you feel less alone. It took me years to learn all this about my mind and beautiful system, so i hope my explanation is clear without me having to tell my whole story. But basically i learned that its not only about the trauma, and therapy. I know everyones system is different, but at the most basic level; think of it like this. They share your brain so they (like you) are capable of learning and personal growth(if you choose to let them)! So even beyond the trauma and why they exists they are capable of being every bit as human as you. So that dark scary feeling in your body when you initiated contact was not only your bodies response to them, but their mental response to you invading their space (either without their permission, or the guidance of a trusted core member, who can navigate, and gatekeep trauma). You probably woke them up to you and scared them, just as much as they scared you. That will pass after you take time to slowly build up trust. The only way to do that is to stop and listen to tthei needs.. not all at once.. pick the one that seems less aggressive so you get use to the idea of talking and feeling compassion for someone you can't physically ever meet in real life, my system can hold conversations without me, or while i sleep so it was kinda a word to mouth thing (i know it sounds weird, but they trusted me more after the personality they trusted told them they should basically.) To this day a few still don't like me, and some refuse to acknowledge it's DID out of spite, for not being open emotionally the first time they needed me too! That big presence with the deep voice is probably there to keep them safe from you, because if you start poking around asking questions without being ready for their emotions it will cause conflict.. that manager voice trust it.. even if you made him up, who cares..this has been your brains main way to cope so why doubt it now? I hope you get to a good place with your system.i could go on but this is long as it is.. if you have questions tho, ill answer them honestly.
I've mentioned not hidden from them my fears at this time. Asking them for patiences also they feel free to be themselves and promise my patience.
Where does one begin? There are not enough specialized therapist in the Netherlands
As a system it took us time to communicate with the host and now we live talking to anyone
What if I aint ready, and our therapist acts like we are stupid and dont notice that shes abandoned us? Is it wise for a therapist to ignore an alter that wants their support and wants the therapist to see them?
Thank you so much very informative and always did wonder. Can you have a part that is young than 7 who i first notice someone or can there be a younger pre verbal part?x
I have one who is a Baby she can stand but doesn't speak. I also have others who are Younger than 7. So, yes...the answers is Yes.
I expressed concerns to my therapist about DID, she shut it down. I believe she is afraid to explore this condition with me.
There may be many reasons for this. Could you try doing the screening questionnaire (dissociative experiences scale), available free online and take the scores to therapy to see if that helps discuss this further?
Soooo very useful, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS. And for all your videos.
We have a question though. You acknowledge the individuality of those you call alters, but you never use the word "person" for them, which makes us feel like our personhoods are taken away from us. We suspect that this might be a language thing because we're French native speakers, but I feel like a person when in the language you use I'm an alter. Does this make sense and would you mind explaining?
I have a question about dissociation. Theres times when i receive a text or phone call from someone and when my eyes first lay sight on it (the incoming call or new text) my vision gets blurry and i feel fuzzy for 2 seconds almost so super quick.. But its like i almost dissociate, but dont fully. Does this happen to others for such a short quick moment?
Yes it does ... quick fuzzy-ness or black edges of my sight .. generally when it gets that far I can't stop a switch.
BUT
Something happened last week ~ i was in a situation that usually makes me anxious .. so getting more anxious as it's closer to my turn. I see the fog/darkness along the edges. . . . I was like 🗨 please let me complete this.. please (i felt panicked)(like I was pleading).
And just as fast as it began.. it stopped "I" actually STOPPED a switch!! FIRST TIME EVER!!
I’m having dissociative barriers again. I have been aware of myself & my executive high function waxes & wanes for 20+ years with thisIt’s been since 2002-2004 then, it was 2015 they came around loud but not vocal just there & now their here again. 😩☹️😖 There’s 2 others that are really dominant right not. It’s messy. What the heck is going on. Any suggestions will help. I don’t really have any help or others in my original council of therapy. Timing is just bad $$ Isn’t available. It’s like $145 for 45 minutes for real therapy. I have a victim witness protection program funding but I’m running out of funding and I need resources links please. ANY suggestions are welcomed and appreciated. 🕊✨🙏🏼✨🕊
I have an alter that does not speak. I can basically read the thoughts of the others, but not hers. I’ve been working with her in therapy again lately (& was diagnosed 25 years ago). If anyone has any ideas, I’d welcome them. TIA
Very helpful! A little request: Could you add some generic music to the intro part? Because there is no sound I turned up the volume and then the loud volume caught me off guard :P
TheCheesyCats Not at this stage, but something to consider, thank you! It would have to be music I like...
I think I might have DID, but I’m afraid the mental health professionals I’m in contact with won’t listen/will think I’m faking. What should I do?
Try going the screening questionnaires and then taking results along to your next appointment?
Question: My alters right now are not communicating with me verbally, could that come later or is that something that is fixed from the beginning? Thank you
there could be so many reasons why this is happening!!
This is very helpful- thank you!
Thank you ❤
Great video, thank you 👌❣️
This may be an obvious one, but is it true that people with DID experience it differently than others with the same disorder? I ask because sometimes I wonder if I have bipolar disorder because I experience mania differently; I wonder if it's the same for those with DID. I hear from other UA-camrs that it's a spectrum, and I wonder your view on it. Thank you for spending so much time answering our questions.
Rachelle O Hi Rachelle, sorry, I don’t really understand the question, could you rephrase?
I'm sorry, I can be confusing sometimes! Does DID look differently in different people? And if so, how?
@@rachelleo8527 Very rarely on the the outside does it look different. It is suppose to be a hidden Disorder or it wouldn't be doing it's job. When you hear look differently it means how it feels and is processed on the inside. DID is extremely complex and takes years and in some cases a lifetime to work through. If you want to really understand what DID is like, please do not watch UA-cam. They do not give an accurate representation of what real DID looks like. Go to authentic medical resources and research sites please. Thank you.
I was diagnosed with Bi pola before DID.... One alter has the manics and another has the lows . And PTSD..
How do you know if you have an alter if it does not talk to you?
I was in therapy years ago… the result was that I was hyper suicidal. They stopped counting at 20 attempts. I know that the therapist specialized in ritual abuse. Let’s see if that gets a reaction from the body or some part after soooo many years.
Thanks!
Good upload
Thanks for the video! I (as host) am trying to work with multiple alters right now on this very issue. ☺
Any suggestion for alters that also don't trust medical or psychological professionals?
The Reign System I guess they can follow your lead, to some degree. Ideally, find ones that you do trust and/or encourage alters to share their concerns with you for reassurance.
@@thectadclinic Okay. Thank you!
Can I ask.a question for you Mike and others whom are in therapy. What type of therapy is the best for DID work.? Thank you.x
Traci Caulfield Therapy that is offered by an experienced and skilled clinician, that follows guidelines and is done with respect, partnership and time.
@@thectadclinic have you heard of IFS ( internal family systems.) THE Polyvagal theory and all about the nervous system? X
Traci Caulfield I certainly have!
I wondered whether you could answer some questions for via email?
Thank you
Thanks
My demons, as I call them, deregulate me. I see no reason why I need to communicate with them. Having said this, they do mess up my life, every single day. I cannot find a common safe language to communicate during therapy, which makes me go round in circles.
Lodewijck I really hope you can find a positive way to engage with all parts, sounds like things are quite negative and stuck!
This makes me sad for all of you.
My parts have kept me alive. The Demons in my Life were the Adults who tortured me.
they aren't your demons their you, the damaged.
Is DID in the actual DSM?
Yes.
My knowledge is limited… but, I have a part that is a very young infant. The legs are still bent. I want to address it bc she does something that is UNACCEPTABLE. I know that I’m not supposed to think that way.. it’s just…
Can you do a video on polyfragmented systems? We have 3000 people in our system and it can be so hard to keep everything straight. At least one person is having flashbacks most of the time.
Not polyfragmented by any means but I'd also like to know because I can't even imagine having 100 parts, much less 1000+.
There aren't therapists near me that know it exists
Ty
Very good
Gatekeepers protect the system from stuff cores and alts can’t handle yet.
Where r u located
We are in the UK, North West.
How do people pay for therapy?
It depends what country they are in, some can access for free.
What going to happen as the body ages but the alters don't?
Raayna Well, the body ages and the person grows older as always. Some alters grow with the person, some don’t. How it works out depends on the the overall system as to how good they are at figuring things out among all.
@@thectadclinic Thank you for replying Dr. Mike!! Someday, I'll hear grandma is on the floor playing with her dollies, again! lol
yea my mom was a Gem moon and im working on being abused in Cloorado Grouphomes as a child as a
male. my mom a Vir. Gem moon. abandon me because of my race then. it was half blk half white. then i was abused through many homes. by kids and sven male staff. I almost ended up. in a psyche ward. I studied it but I never thought it was me. Aq and Scorpio im an. both rule splits aquairius by earthquake, and Scorpio means having a sexualized
childhood. Because the moon rules the past. I have no Gemini in my chart. But this is my job and I get along with at Aquarius. If I talk to a job and I and I really don't want to do something that I say my mom is a Gemini. and i have mpd.its on my skin! then they understand.
Would you say its possible for an alter to be mute? For example a child alter who is mute because when the body is abused the alter is formed with the idea of "if I hadn't said anything this wouldn't have happened" kind of like how some people theorize that having alters with the opposite sex or gender could be because the traumatized child subconsciously worked it out that "had i been a girl/boy/neither this wouldn't have happened or I could have protected myself/been protected"?
Artemis Ameretsu Yes, and I have worked with alters who do not speak. Sometimes they are just afraid, or are under threat of harm if they say anything, like from the memory of an abuser who threatened the person not to speak.
I was going to ask about mute alters also. I believe I have one. There are times when simply pushing words out is a major effort, and it's better if I can be quiet. It is almost likexwithdrawing to rest. I hope we will see videos on mute alters, differently gendered alters, hosts, and all the different types that show up.
Good question, was wondering the same. We have a selective mute- she speaks to others in the system but is mainly mute around me. It is getting better with time. As mentioned in this video, it has been a case of patience and trying to work out why we might be nervous around each other.
Would you say alternative forms of communication were helpful in those cases? Such as drawing, writing, or even different forms of direct communication like hand signaling?
Or would you say in your experience it was more helpful to give the alter a safe place in therapy where they could feel comfortable enough to speak?