Not getting excited about life (though life is such an opportunity simply in itself!)
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- Опубліковано 18 вер 2024
- Hi! I didn’t rewatch this video before I posted it so sorry if I said something weird. This was really rambly and it took me a while to get to the actual point (and some points I forgot to get to/bring up at all), but hopefully some of it made sense.
Here’s the video:
• Optimistic Nihilism
What a dapper little gentlemen
I can't believe how you can talk this openly to camera. Like I can't even say to my therapist that I am trans, it's amazing to hear what you think, because I am little bit in same place. Your channel have helped me trough hell, thanks from that. I love your videos ❤
Aggh. I have the same problem with my therapist. I continuesly keep thinga from mine and I know I shouldn't but I just don't want to tell anyone about my feelings because I dont want them to be worried.
I have the same problem at the moment. This year I have to choose to what I want to study (or take a gap year/travel) but I just have no idea what I want with my life.
Dinne
Take a year off if you have the money. That's what I did, best decision I made! Better to take time to work or travel or do something that doesn't require much thought about your entire life path than choose the wrong path for you. I changed what degree I wanted to do three times by the time I came back from my gap year. Go overseas, meet people, read books!
@@tacosmexicanstyle7846 thank you for taking the time to react! I will think about it :)
Dinne
That's okay! Just don't think too hard and have as much fun as you can before the job market makes life stressful :)
You’re so articulate and comforting to listen to. You’re a credit to others your age. Such a beautiful young man
Kate Humphries thank you so much, that truly means so much to me.
I know what you mean. I don't quite know what my "life goal" is so to speak. But I can definitely tell you that your "If it doesn't fit, then I'm still happy that I learned what I learned." attitude IS a big advantage for sure. It does take off some of the pressure that would otherwise be sure to come from beating yourself up about not having found/studied "the right thing" immediately.
And while it is definitely good that you're looking into your options already and try to figure things out, a general piece of advice I can also give you is: Remember from time to time that you are still fairly young and that it's okay to not have your life entirely figured out yet. And though hardly anyone wants to admit it because society kinda does put some pressure on us to decide early on and to always "have a plan" and that you should "follow your dreams" and become someone amazing ... Lots of people your age actually don't really know what to do with their lives. And lots of people end up doing something completely different from what they imagined they were going to do/be when they were younger. And that is totally okay !
Very well said!
@@niklasmay93 Thank you very much :)
That's why I kinda envy people who are religious because meaning to them is objective
Yes, I have a strong sense of self and know that those who have gone before me are not far away.
Your literally the best you tuber on the planet every time I was sad I used to watch your videos and you make me so inspired and kept me going. You always make me and everyone that’s subscribed smile and be happy.
Your an inspiration
You always make me smile 🙂
I looove your videos (especially this one) because it sums up everything I think about and can't explain. I don't care about materialistic things either and other goals I really don't know because they don't really matter like you say. Saaame ! I try to disctract myself but if I have a really good day, then I will be totally lost in the evening.
Hahahaha I can totally see the contradictions of a weird mind ! :"-)
i love hearing you talk about your problems, it's okay. please dont be pressured to stop dude
Your thoughts are good altogether, and again I see myself in you there. I had the same kind of crisis when I entered into my final year of school, and I think it's part of growing up. My mind spun around every thought it got its wrap around. Over the years however, the existential side of it has weakened significantly as I had thought a lot of it through multiple times and figured - it is what it is, I might just as well do something, see if it works, and move along that way. Life is there to be lived - until it's over. And your own subjective perspectives can create the sense for it. Hope you have good rest of the week!
Niklas May That’s a great way of thinking. And thank you! I hope you do too :D
I relate to this video a lot. To a lot of your sit down and talking videos, actually. Would be really cool to have a friend like you to consult and talk about these kinds of topics with (meaning, purpose, ambition, existentialism, depression...). Hope you figure this out, but regardless, you are not alone in this. Stay strong💪🏽
Mariya Popova thank you so much. It’s nice to hear I’m not alone :) I appreciate that!
I feel you. But I think feeling lost about your "life juorney" is a natural part of being a teenager / young adult. Yes, there are young people who know exactly what they want to do with their lives, but actually, they are not the majority. I also strive to find something to strive for. Let's keep looking. :)
How I decided what to study: I asked myself which lessons in school were interesting every time. They were maths and physics. Communication skills and psychology were also nice but they were not as interesting.
And I didn't know what else to do with my life so I started studying physics. And I'm still doing it so yeah
If you after a while find out that what you are currently doing isn't THE thing then it's no big deal at all. You can change your mind at any time and how often you want
Furthermore, not to be forgotten is also important to me
Don’t worry kovu everything will work out and we will always be here to listen to you. I understand how you feel because I feel the same x ❤️
It's very cool and inspirational how open you are about your feelings, that you can talk about pretty deep stuff on the internet like this. Also, if you would want some help with the violin, I know quite a lot, I have played for 8 years. All the love to you 💛
Oof having struggles finding what you want to do in life... I'm a few months past 20 and I still don't know. Uni is fun though, I'm doing a degree I somewhat enjoy, but if I don't get a job in that field then I can transfer the skills to some other path. People of our generation will change careers on average seven times, so you could pick anything general to study at uni and end up somewhere else. Few people end their careers doing what they studied or were trained to do; you learn on the job and each position you hold will send you on a different path. Uni just gets you to your first job, after that your degree and specialisation should not have to limit you to a career path. Pick something you might enjoy studying, it could be psychology (you'd be really impactful as a psych for trans people!) -- if you don't want a career in that at the end of a degree, you could transfer it to Human Resources Management or something and work in a big corporation. So many uni classes are transferable between jobs :)
tacos mexicanstyle ah that’s so cool! Thank you for telling me that, that made me a bit more calm ahah
Kovu is a mythical one-horned creature
We're too young to worry about life, my friend!
Hi sweetie! This is all said with love:
1. Save these videos and write down a list of the salient points for you theraoist.
2/ Can you get in to see a psychiatrist soober? You have all of the symptoms of depression, some anxiety, and OCD.
3. Please find a place to do some volunteer work. I know I said that last week. Sometimes ppl end up working at places where they have volunteered. You will find that you make a difference.
4. I don't understand atheism, but I have heard that it is common in the Horse countries. True? Not horse! Norse! Sheesh
You have only just decided to turn 17,so give yourself a break.
Is there an animal shelter near you? Trust me, cleaning kennels will give you a sense of reality.
Love you bunches!!!
Shala Carter Hia! :) Writing things down is a great idea. I don’t think I’ll be able to see a therapist any sooner, unfortunately. But it should be fine, most days I’m okay. I could look into voluntary work, yes! Especially now that the holidays are getting closer (I worked at this “soup kitchen” thing during the holidays when I was 14, which was nice.)
And yes, atheism is very common up here in the north. A lot of people are still part of the church (they’re baptised and get married there), but that’s mostly due to tradition, and not actual religious beliefs. (Same with why we celebrate Christmas and stuff, it’s just a nice tradition). I sometimes wish I were religious because it seems to give people a sense of purpose/direction, but it’s very difficult for me to believe in a god. I suppose that has to do with what you’ve been taught since you were young. So I understand religion as much as you understand atheism😅
Thank you for the tips!
I wish I had some good advice, but for now, good luck! I hope you feel better :)
Also, I think in a sort of similar way. So a few days ago, I was doing a lot of thinking about life and how and why we even exist. I came to the sort of conclusion that yes, we are really small individuals on a really small planet that is so tiny in comparison to the solar system, which is even tinier in comparison to the rest of the universe, which we don’t even know the full magnitude of, -but- smallness is all relative to where/what we are. We are humans, so the rest of the planet and everything else around it is so unimaginably huge, making us feel small, while at the same time, there are so, so many cells, atoms, and even smaller things inside us that are so small we can’t even see them most of the time. And there are probably even smaller things within them that we don’t even know about. So we are sort of like our own galaxies, in a way. So yes, we are really small and seemingly insignificant, but we are homes to so many other things at the same time. And I find that really cool. So anyways, I know this comment is really long, but I like to think that our insignificance on a larger scale balances out with our importance on a much smaller scale, so we are just sort of neutral and floating and free to find our own meaning in our lives or whatever we do. I hope this helped a little! Thanks for all you do!
Kayla B. Thank you so much for sharing that! I really like that way of thinking :)
Kovu your speech you give on your videos makes a difference in life because you are real from the heart and soul and you make us believe in you and than are self's to afterwards because we understand you I do and someone so good like you tells there are good people still around and it makes my heart feels happy now and you do put a smile on face to and Kovu you are the real deal if the world lost you it would be like king or a president died that's how much your followers feel From you and don't leave us if I was rich I would give you enough money to live on if could and you would never owe me any money back to me ok just be you always my Friend and we all love you take care till your next video
Robert Rist thank you as always for your kind words, my friend!
@@kovuisamythicalone-hornedc2051 I would do anything for you my Friend just ask me
Theres one thing that I can say I do want in the future: my one goal is to move to Cambridge or Cambridgeshire (UK), it's been a dream of mine since I was very little, although I also have little hope in that coming true. Its a longshot. I definitely can follow with the fear of being forgotten. Not necessarily after I die, but moreso in the closer future. It's a terrifying thing to me and some nights it's all I can think of. I'm seeking help from people close to me for some...personal issues...but am terrified of seeking professional help. I don't know. Anyways, I can definitely relate to the lot of what you've mentioned.
Aye Yo Lee Here I’m sure you can and will achieve that goal. Just don’t give up on it :)
I can be your therapist, I'm okay with that. it's "funny" because I have huge ambitions that seem very distant to me and it causes me anxiety. But yeah, It seems distant, foggy to me, I don't know how to explain it.I feel like the future is not me ? Okay I didn't mean to talk about that. I'm sorry, I am the therapist.
And I feel like you, overall, about being forgotten. In a few words : we're all going to die, we're all going to be forgotten and the universe will die. Why can't humans conceive a world without them ?
I think you are a "happy and positive person". That's great. I am not and I know it. It's not good, it's not the best, it's just the case. But we need people like you, I'm a "happy and positive person" for others because I want people to be happy too.
It’s all good Kovu, let it all out. :)
No violin *gasp* WHAT AN OUTRAGE
kovu good luck coming over here for uni after/during brexit that’ll make it 10x harder for you (also uni and housing and stuff is super expensive) i really wanted to travel for uni maybe go to holland or something but i’m in year 11 now and there’s no way i’ll make it out of here before brexit
I’ve been wanting to get education in England for about 4 years now but when it comes to the prices of the universities ( as an international student ) it seems surreal to me.
Heyyy
Go to uni in Scotland!
Kovu, have you ever thought of doing creative writing? You seem like the sort of person who would be good at it. Maybe you could be an author or something! Personally, I love writing poetry and short stories. I hope all goes well!
Kayla B. I used to write a lot, I absolutely loved it growing up. Sadly though in recent years I’ve stopped because I feel like my stories aren’t “good enough”😅
I never would say that you’re using us as a therapist. Sometimes it’s good to talk to people who really care for you.
I dont mind being your therapist, feel free to talk about whatever you want:)
Elliot Z. Thank you! :)
I don’t think that you are using your fan base as therapy. It is awesome that you can share with us. Plus you a public face for so much of what people feel but don’t share. I don’t know if where you are you can shadow people but if you can I would recommend that. You make a difference in so many peoples lives. I get what you are saying about not being able to enjoy the little things. The only advise I can give is try a bunch of things and find out what makes you happy. My mom once said try to live not just survive.
I'm in England and plan on going to uni in 2020 which I think is the same as you. Hope to see yoi
It's great to get these things in the open, but you don't seem to want the answers. Are you afraid that knowing will require some action on your part? You're right !! When you know anything, it's no good unless you use it; ignoring it and expecting some change-- I believe that is complacency. Answer my twitter DM, please. Mark.
I don’t know why i’m alive either. life’s pointless.
Baylee Hearn I wouldn’t say life is pointless. It’s just about finding what the point is to you
What did your grandfather do during his years? Not that you have to copy him, but it seems like you look up to him in a way sort of like following his good example so you could let yourself be inspired by him. Also, I think you need to adjust your existential zoom. You know that those little things matter, you just feel like their importance is extremely small, but you're looking at it wrong. If you've set your zoom in an attempt to find a universal existential foundation then of course you won't see those 'little things' or they will appear little, but that's not the case. It is what you're looking for that is ridiculously and unrealistically large, and these "little" things are what makes up the lives of the milliards of people on Earth! They mean something, not because they will be remembered, but because they have been lived. Nostalgia, or saudade for that matter, isn't an end of its own, but a pleasant side effect of a life well lived. It is the experiences, for that brief, infinitesimal moment they are lived, that are worth the trouble... Or so I've come to see it, I mean, I'm 16, I dunno what the hell I'm talking about
Ideal Maia Rocha holy smokes, you’re only 16? What an incredible and mature mindset you have. What you wrote just there was beautiful. Thank you!
hey kovu. i have a couple ideas that could suit you career wise, if you'd like to read them. number 1 i'd say is a career called a wolf biologist. i know that over the years you've said your love of wolves and animals in general keeps expanding and makes you happy. here's a link for it: www.environmentalscience.org/career/wolf-biologist . number 2 would be a space producer?? i'm not sure if you'd like to make videos for almost the rest of your life or if that would make you happy, but you're excellent at communicating to others behind/beyond the screen and/or camera. you also seem to love space a bunch. here is an excerpt i found regarding this profession: "Producers are in charge of the budget, the production schedule, and hiring crew members to create educational videos. They may work with directors, who are responsible for creative decisions, and a crew, which may include film and video editors. Videos are helpful for teaching concepts or illustrating processes, such as the steps for assembling a telescope." besides career work, i think you honestly have a ridiculously meaningful life right now. sure, not most of us are gonna matter in 300 years from now, but you're here right now and you should def make the best of it. you never know when life is gonna end so do what makes you YOU and what makes you happy. best wishes kovu. everything is gonna be okay and work out in the long run. :)
Happy Halloween if your country does it your Friend From Nashville Tennessee
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youtuber recommendation that you might like: exurb1a he’s hilariously depressing and feels you with existential dread and a weird sense of hope at the same time
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