Alpha Male, Beta Male, Simp, Average, High Value, Low Value, Great Value, DON'T MATTER, anyone & everyone is capable of cheating or get cheated on, PERIOD 💯
HOLY SHIT, such easy logic, doesnt devalue the men either! Holy fuck ABa, downgrading yourself with this one my guys ;) The chicks can cheat but they get kicked to the curb! Benefits revoked! Haha
the point wasn’t that “some people can’t get cheated on.” it was that “rich people cheat and get cheated on the most.” to more or less break down the reality of the super red pill people expecting a one sided open relationship. the delusion to think they can make that happen when in reality they both cheat. not to say anyone else in any other situation don’t cheat, obviously they do, just that in the “high value” life, both partners are more likely to cheat.
Imagine living a shallow, hedonistic, materialistic existence and being surprised when the people you surround yourself with are shallow, hedonistic, and materialistic.
NO surprise, these women go after the bag/ lifestyle… High Value Men/ Very Rich Men get the 9’s-10’s looking women but there’s no emotional connection or wanting genuine commitment it’s business/ transactional THAT’S IT!!!
Not gonna lie, These High Value Man conversations be depressing as shit. People talking about dating as someone that 99% of us are never gonna be or be with. And everything sounds like a Labyrinth of complications, control, and mind games. Just enjoy your lives, be around your love ones, maximize as to what you want your life to be, continue to survive and be appreciative.
Nah you got it wrong. Don’t be depressed. If you get depressed that means you were comparing yourself with these HVM wannabes. Just love your damn life and go do some fun stuff. You only got one life and you think it’s worth being spent on watching what other people have?
Before I got into my first and current relationship I would consume videos like that on the daily. My perspective was wrong on so many things. People honestly need to go out and live life and stop taking all this media shit too seriously. The real world is so different and I and so many of those around me don’t seem as fucked as the people I see online so? 😂
Man this is so true… not only is the most extreme examples blown up on the internet but also I don’t even live in America and most of this type of content is based there. Let’s be real, the most extreme examples from such a huge country is not everyday life. Also, Americans I love you guys but y’all are freaking crazy.
"For some people, respecting themselves and their core values is way more important than being able to get the latest Gucci or Prada bag." After this video, I have some newfound respect for Aba.
I think for most people it’s intrinsically true but we’re constantly bombarded with “alpha male, hot girls, expensive cars” and we start to think that that’s how reality is and we try to make this fake reality work but when it comes to connection and love it can’t be faked or bought no matter your fake status. Some people really made it miserable for themselves out there.
@@nothanks1945facts cause reality tv used to be fake but now it's looking more realistic as the years go by cause the mfs watching it are getting programmed to think this is what you're supposed to do lol
A woman can be super attractive and super loyal, by the way. So this isn’t an issue of a specific appearance but an issue of character, and about how shallow, cheating men attract shallow, cheating women.
Aba's response to this woman is on point! She low key tries to dismiss women who value a lifestyle that is based on emotional investment, loyalty, respect, and peace.
Its on both sides. Female "coaches" try to shame guys into being traditional men cuz their agenda is to make more equally yolked men. And male coaches try to shame men for not wanting that "get money, pump women" lifestyle. Both arent good or bad, its how they go about it.
in my anecdotal life experience is as true as generalizations can be. most of very attractive women i've met do treat men as expendable. they don't pursue men at all, their relationships are all back to back, they are very egocentric and disconnected from everything else.
I grew up poor, spent a decade in the military and wound up moving to the ME for a job opportunity. Fell in love with someone far far wealthier than I and she built me up and supported my dreams. Now we both live a life I couldn't have ever imagined and we build each other up. I consider myself deeply lucky, but money never felt like a significant part of the relationship I enjoy today. Respect, communication, and joy derived from your partners happiness are what I feel make what we have so special. Money is great, but I wouldn't ever trade it for feeling complete. Why play the game if you aren't content if and when you finally win? Won't ever judge someone else's lifestyle, just my $. 02
Makes sense. You never or rarely see the wives and gf's of high value men who this doesn't apply to. And when we do and they don't look like an Instagram model, both men and women will say "Why is he with her??!!" Well now you know why.
I remember my comment being attacked by many, many NAIVE red pilled men when I said women cheat on high value men! All-the-time!!! I’ve worked in the hospitality industry as well, and what Preach said was very accurate. When the high value man think he’s being sneaky or has an arrangement with his wife bc of his status, his wife has options he doesn’t even know about… or he suspects but thinks he’s more important.
People also seem to forget that gold-diggers cheat on their sugar daddies all the time, cause the relationship is a job to them. They cheat with younger men who they find more attractive. It's not a moral thing to do, unfortunately it does happen. Edit: grammar
@Broski Snowski Nah, It's more like about possesion or territorial thing, they don't like their stuff being 'touched' or their territory being tresspased by other men. These kinda men would mocked, bully, and all, any men who choosed to stay with his women even she's cheating on him. Beside, especially if a man is rich and has many option, why would he stays with a women who's cheating or backstabbing on him?
@@neonlighter75 hilarious how all these arguments keep proving incels right looks are the only thing that matter and girls will value that over anything else
Same here sis. I worked at a hotel and I cannot tell you how many times these chicks were cheating out in the open. They think they're the only ones doing it😂😂😂😂😂I got stories stories.
It's not that complicated. If your relationship is based on status and money, there's always someone else with more. And that's really all "high value" means to these people.
@@ImAgentKAnd he sits on podcasts and talks about how lonely he is with tears in his eyes, and how he can't make a relationship work because no woman is prepared to tolerate his lifestyle.
Wealthy men then introduce these women to other wealthy men. A lot of these so called high value men literally pass around the same chick. As a woman I understand the advantage! I think men need to humble themselves because smart women will win every time.
I met a client about 8 years ago and he said something similar to the theme of this. He said: "The goal in life is to make money and not be known". Or at least as little known as possible.
I’ve been saying this. Not all super attractive women are unfaithful but if you’re choosing these hyper desirable women they have a lot of options. No one wants to date an average person anymore and now we’re all alone.
That’s just because the wrong traits are seen as desirable, you think the ratajowski sisters are decent people, I doubt it, “desirable” should include traits like faithful, hard working, compassionate, not big butt, boobs and lips
@@burtreynolds8030 thats what I'm saying but even past 'big boobs and butt' looks are fleeting. popularity and social media clout are illusions and I feel thats what a lot of people look for in partners now days rather than deep, character traits
@@burtreynolds8030 also idk who the ratajowski sisters are but having money/popularity does not inherently mean people are not good people. There is typically a correlation, sure but not inherent.
I don’t think they necessarily glorify sociopathy. I think it is just easier and less painful to be cold and calculating. With as seemingly many sociopaths out there, the average person will find it easier and easier to not want to be hurt/played/ or deal with people’s cold and calculating ways. The truth is they find themselves in those situations because 1) it is part of the learning curve of being a human and 2) they glorify the outcome more than they glorify the process. Those people want the lifestyle, and from monkey see, monkey do concept, they feel it is the only way. There are countless people who are not like that. Sadly access to social media can warp the brain into all lines of things. This is the precursor to Wall-E. We are glued to the screen with what other people supposedly have and that is the escape from what they feel they don;t have. People are easily brainwashed by things constantly plastered in our faces. You become numb to the rest. Doesn;t mean you glorify sociopathy, just the outcome of what it brings them.
That's a bit dramatic. 😂Some people are just masters of sophistry. It's not that deep. Also, it's nothing new. There have always been and always will be people that justify their actions with nonsensical logic to be at peace with themselves.
We are straying away from god and heresy. We believe we are more animal than spirit. These are demons. A demon is just a being with no spirit or the belief that they don’t have one. Money won’t exist forever.
@namaste you have a point. Look at the public figures we have pedestalized in the last decade. They all have have very strong narcassistic- sociopathic traits i.e Andew Tate and Donald Trump.
Just because you're of high status doesn't guarantee that a woman will respect you. If anything, it puts you at more risk of being disrespected and cheated on by women who can easily get another high status guy. Just carry yourself with dignity, integrity, and honor and you'll get women who will respect you off that alone.
@@JeliTP_12 Like the saying goes: more money, more problems. With a higher status and more wealth, there will be more leeches that will suck you dry. Just look at the lives of billionaires and celebrities, many of these people marry and then divorce quite easily. Wealth and status does not guarantee you a type of woman that is marriage material. At the end of the day, it's more of your own character that will determine your ideal spouse just like another saying, "birds of a feather, flock together".
Love how balanced this conversation is. One of the most humbling talks you guys have had, and big credit to the woman for taking on both sides of the argument. What this world really needs right now
I'm a plus size woman, married to an engineer who makes 6 figures. we're 30 and 32. we're together cause we have similar values, find each other attractive, and are faithful to each other. He isn't controlling or manipulative, and we aren't out here spending a ton of money on vacations and material things. We don't fit into any of these stereotypes. Clearly we should all just figure out what it is we want in life individually and be happy when we get it.
This!! I’m curvy, my husband is a metal fabricator skilled machinist who makes good money. We’ve been together since HS. Neither me or him would be considered “high value” to these foolish people saying that term lol but we are high value to each other! That’s all that matters! Blessings to you & your hubs
He's in his early 30s. I am happy for your relationship, but honestly, odds are you'll need to hit the gym to keep it. Being successful in your 30s gets a man a lot of options and opportunities, so unless he's truly into "plus sized" women, your relationship will be in jeopardy. There are always outliers, I'm just talking odds. Good luck to you.
Same. Been with my man since we were 12. We were poor then became “rich” together through everything. All of our hobbies and interest align for the most part and our values are the same. I agree these “high value” people don’t know how to cope with us 😂 they pretend we don’t exist.
About flaunting money: when I was working retail, I had two guys walk past me. One stopped and said " this guys got money, you better treat him like royalty". My first thought was " why is your 'friend' telling me how much money you have, especially without me even looking at him?". When you have money, a LOT of people take notice. A lot of people want to be around you just because you have money. It's disgusting. Friends shouldn't care about what you have- they should be there for you because they care about YOU. That's just friends too; I'm sure it's harder when trying to find a partner.
@@aj3706 Then that's ok, if you don't want friends who will praise you in public thats cool bro. I'd rather have friends who tell the girls that I'm with that they're lucky to have me rather than friends who joke saying "you're a lucky guy getting a girl out of your league" like a beta True brotherhood stands above, most men don't know brotherhood unfortunately
I had a friend that was very successful at a young age. It seemed like a lot of his friends always expected him to pay. One time we went to lunch and he was caught off guard that I always asked for the check to be split. I was thoroughly bothered that he was always expected to pay for everyone.
The meaning of a high value man is subjective. To me, a family man, regardless of income, is a high value man. They are leaders, protectors, providers, and teachers. Shoutout to my husband and Dad ❤ edit: Just to clarify, My father and husband are not the same person 😅😅😅
I tell women, the best way to understand if a man is high value or not is imagine we had to operator as we did 100-150 years ago. All conveniences are gone. Would the man in question be able to lead the family to survive and thrive. If yes, the man is high value because a real man can be the same man when facing all circumstances. Therefore, a high value man can have money, but money is not a determining factor.
It's subjective to a degree. The thing about language is, a word or term means whatever is the currently accepted definition by society. What you stated simply is not the widely accepted definition of what the specific term "high value man" means. Though i think a lot of women that aren't terminally online will agree with you that those qualities are what would make a man highly valuable to them.
No one who cheats is high value. Commitment and honoring your relationship is high value. I’d rather have a broke man who loves me and would never cheat over the wealthiest men out there. I was fortunate enough to have a good, trustworthy man who is also a great provider.
CAP 😂 well, in all honesty its cool you speak for yourself. But many women in this world DO NOT share your sentiment. And since you alone are not enough for the millions of single men in this world (as you're probably a 1 man committed woman, which is great), I go back to my original assessment.... CAP!!!
I mean she’s right, they literally choose these women. Aba was spitting facts too. There is definitely a lot of rich people that we walk past every day and you’d ever know it. I worked in a coffee shop years ago and they are serious about them discounts 😂 be raking up them savings during the holidays. It’s way better to be low key.
There are a lot of these chicks. The chick they call Super Head and others come to mind, that seem to have been with a LOT of celebrities. It's almost like a specialty skills. They bring looks, finesse, bedroom skills and connections these rich men like. But in the end, they are only for rent and for the streets
What they're leaving out is the _time_ . A lot of those high functioning men don't have the _time_ to be thoroughly searching for females who are high attractiveness and loyal (which the percent is already extremely _low_ to begin with) So obviously they seek the low hanging fruit. Nor do they have the time to mate guard their females Those men are doing a lot, which takes time, time away from being able to monitor females bad behavior. It's a time trade-off. 💊
Everyone everywhere in any category one can think of gets cheated on. We need to stop focusing on the negativity and embrace well being and treating people the way you want to be treated.
While I agree with and appreciate your point of view on this, that wasn’t really the point of the video. It talked about the likelihood of being cheated on is higher as a wealthier person in general. Anyone can get done dirty obviously.
I chose no luxury, I had a choice between a guy who invited me on his yacht and my current husband. I chose based on values. I knew he would be an amazing father and I was not wrong. We don't live in luxury, but we live comfortably, we have 2 daughters and we are buying a small farm. We can talk for hours, he is my best friend. I think this psychologist is very removed from real world and real relationships.
Woman's definition of high value man is status and money which is just ridiculous. Luxury isn't that important and materials can't buy you love. I'm glad there's women who understand this.
@@Danny328DT "womens definition of high value man"? don't get confused by what red pill men find high value to what women consider high values. The red pill men aim is lust only, so they aim to please "buy" the type of women they desire and complain about. Majority of women have the same value as DohMkay they value someone that is capable of real love is best friend true partner.
@@Danny328DT i wish humans understood this in general. People can be so incredibly intelligent and filled with so much information but yet be naive as hell.
@@Danny328DT Women didn't define 'high value men'. That term is something goofy grifters like F&F came up with to finesse money out of their simps. High value is just a nerdy way of saying rich. Thing is, despite what people act like, not everyone wants to be rich, most people want to be comfortable and that's why most people chase a chill lifestyle. It's the saying, "Do you want to work to live or live to work?" It's very rare to really meet someone in who's compulsively trying to turn thousands into millions into billions. When you reach the point of an upper middle class life, good vacations, owning your home, being able to retire your parents, that's enough. Plus, it's hard enough working to upkeep that, so when you see what you'd have to sacrifice to get rich you hit the wall of, "Do you live to work or work to live?" and most people want to live.
I'm a pretty plain girl and I found a simple guy and we got married last year. We are so happy. Somethings are much more fulfilling than that high value lifestyle.
@@dozosfinest2010 But, even average women im not even sure all of them looking for an average guy either. If a lot of women call themselves 10 and aren't realistic then it becomes harder for the average guy.
@@regularapebut who cares? Do you really think that a luxurious lifestyle without any true love and deep connection is more fulfilling for the soul than having a loving, caring, deep intimate relationship with someone else, where you share your struggled, respect each other and work for the sake of the family? I look at these celebrities and rich people and they seem empty.
A woman who is like a grandmother to me taught economics and told me to read “the millionaire next door”. statisticians interviewed and researched the spending habits of millionaires. They majority self made and what others would call cheap. Don’t wear designer, but cars second hand. They’re always looking for a bargain and believe there’s always a better deal and are will to wait til they get it.
I suggest buying cars second hand all the time but I keep encountering people who want to floss and make their FIRST car a BRAND NEW Benz…and I keep pushing the idea that your first car should be the one to build your driving skills with and should get you from A to B safely but people don’t listen to me because I’m ugly😂
I have money. Enough to sustain me long enough If I'm unemployed. I don't spend much. All excess money other than my emergency funds go into stocks. I'm smiling Ear to ear as NVIDIA just went up 15% after they released their Earnings report. Here's my 2 cents, stop buying shit to impress other people.
I think she's a very intelligent and well spoken person. Her thoughts in the beginning are very agreeable and I would like to see her in a red pill podcast like Fresh and Fit. However, she lost me at the end. I think her Eco chamber if filled with professional gold diggers that she no longer relates to what normal women fundamentally want in a healthy romantic relationship. Not all women are gold diggers. Wanting a partner or a husband that has a stable job and good finances doesn't mean they're a gold digger that wants a luxurious life.
Financially stable isn’t the ability to have a luxuries. It’s the ability to provide needs within reason. Anything that crosses into wants doesn’t count.
Why is Aba so relatable to me. I want the money for comfort I really don’t care about fame or flashiness. I just want to be able to chill and do something Im passionate about.
@@wonderlandian8465 I’m not sure about that there is a lot of corporate bootlicking, money worshipping, celebrity worshipping, billionaire worshipping that goes on. The keeping up with Jones’s and stuntin on the haters attitude is extremely prevalent. But, who’s to say that representation is actually representative of most people.
Women in their late teens to early 30's that got to Dubai are the equivalent of men in their 40's to 60's going to Thailand/Philippines. We know what you're doing. We know what you're up to. Edit: It's getting demoralizing how people like this "coach" just reduce people to "options" and resources like everyone's a Linkedin profile. The humanity of our societies are totally being wrecked by greed, materialism, and just straight up disingenuousness. Edit-EDIT: I fell out of my chair as the coach lady was talking about "emotional vs. financial" investment and how its okay to cheat if you have money was immediately interrupted by a mental health therapy ad.
In this sense, we've gone full circle in history. We have successfully reverted back to our primal nature. Difference being, whereas before we knew and had some level of honesty now we deceive and hide intent on this matter. Emblematic of the times we live in. If history has a beginning and an end, then it is of the highest magnitude of poetry that as we once was in the beginning, now we are in the end, but not. The rapture will come be prepared brothers in Christ.
She had us in the first half but Aba & Preach absolutely schooled her when she was saying women who want emotional investment are that way because of trauma. What an absolutely moronic statement. If anything it’s trauma that makes people prioritize cushy lifestyle rather than a healthy emotional bond.
The more content i see of all sides the more clear it is that life requires balance. Every lifestyle and choice comes with a consequence. If your able to be " high value" and have more access to women and enjoy more experiences kudos to you. But if that comes at the sacrifice of never having genuine connection or not having time to spend with your loved ones that's on you don't complain about it. Same thing with women if you wanna mess around a lot in your 20s don't be surprised if that might mess up your future. Most of us should be seeking things that give us purpose in life and that ultimately make us happy. We all need to find out what that is for us individually rather than just listening to anyone else.
I think another thing to consider is that some women sacrifice sexual attraction/satisfaction for the money that "high value" men can provide, but that lack of attraction/satisfaction reaches a tipping point and eventually they cheat with someone that they are attracted to. Not all but some. I think the more money you make the more likely you are to end up in this situation
This has been happening for as long as women couldn’t make their own money and be fully independent. Why do you think all these “traditional” wives of the past never wanted to sleep with their husband? The only difference is that women had to do it for average men.
@@thezu9250Ovid I think was driven out if town when he dared to write that Roman husbands and wifes should have fun while having sex. That what a scandal, because this was for the brothels only, and the wifes only copulated to get pregnant with kids and begged that they don't catch any STD in that time. People forget that STDs were often deadly in earlier times. Plus all the moral and sin thing from churches. As soon as there were enough kids, sex in marriage mostly stopped immediately. The wifes knew the men cheat, everyone knew. It just became drama when the cheating was in the same circles or the other woman behaved like a wife. Enough literature out there to know this. Dynamic changed when women became more financially independent, the pill was introduced and antibiotics made STDs less violent on the bodies.
Bruh I went to my Ethiopian friends house to help them move and her mom had the whole spread laid out on the table . I left that house 10 pounds heavier.
'High value' is a subjective phrase. Most men considered 'high value' are just men with wealth, but wealth is not the only value. Two, some wealthy men, are perhaps not looking for loyal women, but mere arm candy. Gold diggers will dig their way to men like that.
I agree. Value is assigned by the people who desire it, which is why it is subjective. A "high value man" who is wealthy and likely immoral in character is valuable to a lady who is just interested in luxury. But for a lady looking for a husband with whom to raise children, that man is of little value. I believe that certain communities geared toward men have the flaw of focusing solely on the first aspect.
Good call because to me a high value person is more about character than money. Anyone can attain money, a terrible person can be rich tomorrow but are they suddenly high value? People need to reevaluate a lot of things lol
That girl is extremely smart. I always thought this “high value man” who only look for a brainless chick who looks like a model will get cheated on and that’s why they are so bitter. If you only want a woman for her looks and “obedience” the only thing you are offering is money. Once she had enough money and once she find someone with more money what will keep her around?
It's a pretty fucked up day and age when they try to make wanting loyalty a negative feature in someone. Wanting respect shouldn't be a sign of trauma. Like "I don't want you to cheat on me" "WHO HURT YOU?!" see? Does that sound stupid? That's because it is.
@@reinhartgregory that is exactly what he said. That there is no logic in saying that not agreeing with cheating is a sign of trauma. This whole hippie movement with let's just love each other with no boundaries leads to toxicity.
@@blackharpy7468 Both of you guys missed the psychologist's point, she said that women with trauma expect more emotional needs vs a regular woman who is more stable and ok with physical needs. That is absolutely true. This idiot saying "I don't want you to cheat on me" "WHO HURT YOU?! This is a classic strawman fallacy argument of making crap up since nowhere did the psychologist said that. In short don't date traumatic women long term seriously
@@reinhartgregory you clearly did not understand the comment. He was saying a man will tell a woman “do not cheat on me, respect our relationship,” and 9/10 the woman will say “wow who hurt you?” As if infidelity is normal or okay. Do you not get it or do I need to break it down more?
Having lived in sin city as a single, young girl and being propositioned by these so-called "high value" men I had to decline because: -They are not high value to me -If you lead with your money it might mean that you are insecure, don't think or have anything to offer besides money, you might expect some kind of transactional love/sex which I am not about -What I look for in a partner money can't buy (love, respect, loyalty, care, emotional safety...) At the end of the day it does not only come to options but also values, education, lifestyle choices. Do not buy this "high value" men concept but rather seek the right value(s) partner.
The ones who you tell them that you are in a relationship but still relentlessly pursue you with the line of “so what if you have a boyfriend” are the ones who will cheat on you. Why any girl would want to be with them is beyond me.
There are studies on how breadwinning women are more likely to be cheated on too. Regardless of gender, people get insecure when their partner doing better than them. Reminds me of those parents who are jealous of their kids instead of being proud of them.
A woman of character will be loyal to a broke man or a rich man. It’s not about the man and who HE IS, it’s about the woman herself. When will people get it lol
HAHAHAHAHA. WOMAN OF CHARACTER? WOMAN HAVE ONE JOB AND THEY CAN'T DO THAT CORRECT. Whether you're a man and worth $10, or if you're worth $10 billion dollars, you ain't getting a virgin wife. So what's the point. HAHAHAHAHAHA. ONE JOB.
@@StoneAgeWarfarein my world, the opposite is true. I don’t see nor am I around, women who step out on their partners or women that want to. Maybe it’s the internet that makes it seem that way; like women want to cheat. Idk.
Honestly either you haven’t put yourself out there enough or you’re in the wrong pool. Chances are, you haven’t been with enough people to determine how common loyalty is. Even if you’ve had 200 partners you can’t say there’s not a real one out there
When I was younger, I would try to validate my insecurities by dating the girls who I felt proved my insecurities wrong. And those were almost all superficial relationships driven by superficial values. I am very happy I outgrew that -- I would never have found a fulfilling relationship.
Haha we wrote almost identical stories. It's a humbling experience when you realize your own part in things, at least it was for me. Cheers to that and to continued future growt!
You hit the nail on the head. I’ve got oil all over my area, the lands been passed down in the family for generations. We’ve been a millionaire family since the 1900s. Yet we live in our small country homes, taking care of our cattle. I wouldn’t trade my simple life for anything.
Wonder if you'd feel differently if you weren't blessed to have land on oil and not a millionaire family, would you still love what you do about your life?
live however you want but I could never live with myself if I were rich. riches necessarily comes from exploitation and having extra while others starve is insane.
@@iaindcosta For some women, yes, absolutely. A man can’t be broke AND emotionally distant to keep a woman. You’ve got to bring value to the table in one way or another.
One more thing to add - people have replaced the value of a relationship and love with materialism, hedonism and narcissistic values. It’s sad really! Find someone you can have a deep connection with and who shares the same value as you.
I think everyone wants this deeply but would never admit it because they are afraid of being hurt or have been hurt too many times they give up and turn to this lifestyle as a way of coping.
I always thought high value men cheat and knows their wives cheat. It’s the agreement. The whole pool boy, gardener scenario. People in those lives move with nda’s. High price call girls, top name strippers. Look at Will and Jada. August got permission. Guaranteed Will was doing his thing too.
Nah, I really doubt Jada is kind of person that will accept that and itt not because he really cares about Will but because it would hurt her pride to let someone else encroach on her "territory". She has that kind of vibe.
Btw, I think we have different view about 'high value men' definition. Imho, a good and strong men who fear God, has moral, values, loyalty, and honor is the real 'high value men'.
I'm not a "high value male", but my girl values me highly and I value her highly. I think I prefer it this way, I'm finally in a healthy relationship and I can trust her. So, looking at it like that, I don't want to be a "high value male"
TinA Turner passed away today and I was listening to simply the best. Gotta say I miss love songs and real artists. Real intimacy, real emotion, not just calculated high value BS.
Tina Turner who got away from Ike who beat the shit out of her and when she wanted to leave told her that he wanted to own everything they had done and she said fine as long as she got to keep the name and well...."what's love got to do, got to do with it? Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?"
tina is most likely in hell because she sold her soul to the devil. you dont get to be the best just based on your talent. but this is something most of you dont even know. just search it up: selling your soul for fame money and status. all the information is right here on youtube lol
She was right about the traumatised comment too. My ex went through some shit. Her definition of a relationship was spending all of your time together and purely focusing on her. They often genuinely want you to be an open neverending tap of passion and intimacy. It was exhausting!
yeah and I bet if anything involved you, they would probably gaslight you into thinking you are selfish and you never listen to their needs.. very one sided
I feel the bigger issues is that men and women have weirdly began to flex cheating and there's been a horrible back and forth if who's worse when each side is wrong!
Watching divorce court you see couples always do this tit for tat cheating thing, it’s dumb and then both parties have the nerve to be mad at the other 🙄
None of what she is saying is true thou😂. She basically saying if a guy is high value he’s choosing the “hot sexy girl”, but not realizing they kno she’s been passed around, n I wud argue he would date a Starbucks girl cus most importantly she’s not a hoe.
@@marcusgears1991thèse bxtches don’t get the point that high value men are high value because it’s hard to cheat on them. It is what makes them high value because all women want them😂
You guys are spot on! There is a book “The millionaire next door” talks about how most millionaires don’t flaunt their wealth. Highly recommend reading it. On the topic of infidelity, here is some life advice for everyone. Most people end up with a partner with a very similar personality to their own. If you’re the type to think you can get away with infidelity without getting caught, your partner is probably the same. Be who you want to be with.
Because being a millionaire now means being upper middle class. I know several millionaires who are business owners and managers. The high cost of living in CA would guarantee bankruptcy for them if they spent their cash doing stupid shit like a lot of these social media types do. They're also far more concerned with the well being of their families, their kids educations, and their businesses to care about flaunting. However they do have some high value expenses here and there when it comes to hobbies for instance.
These are facts. The richest people I know look like basic people driving basic cars. One would pick up a penny on the ground & wore shoes until they had holes in the soles.
my college roommate started making six figures shortly out of school. He grew up lower middle class, worked hard, and didn't take risks. He says the best part about being a millionaire in his 20s is pretending not to be one. He buys, wears, and does all the same stuff as before, so only the real ones ever find out that he could live lavishly if he wanted to
omg that is so crazy. This was literally my first comment and then I started reading comments and see you talk of this too! You also should read the next one which is "The Millionaire Mind" which delves more into the psychology of what drives people and money. I talked about it my comment.
my ex husband used to cover rent and take me out on fancy dates every weekend and was paying my car insurance, etc. He was not emotionally there though. Him working all the time was fine because I knew he was paying for a lot of things; but it was his constant need to scroll through naked instagram models and flirt with women online, and get pictures from his female friends... that was so disrespectful and humiliating to me, I could not tolerate that no matter how much money you paid me.
It's rare to find people with those values like Aba so cheers to that, I had the chance to live in both conditions (poor and rich) and I've always had a disgust for the "High Value Life". The only value in life is the relationship with yourself and your loved ones, the rest is plastic. I can't wait for the economy to crash and see these mfs realize that the real value in life is as simple as growing your own garden like I do.
I used to Sell fitness equipment in one of the richest neighborhood in the united states. I would google the guys who came in and bought from me after the sale and 90% of the time I couldn't tell that they were multi millionaires or billionaires. They were nice, respectful, and usually really appreciative of all my help and knowledge on what they needed. For reference we were building these people 50-100k gyms for their houses.
bro i.think you're thinking of celebrities when you mention high value. 99 percent of people in power, whichever way you wanna define power, are married. there's a limit to how high you can go in life being a single. we need all have weaknesses and need a partner to balance us out.
>Name me 10 high valued men with stable marriages? 1.Lebron James 2. Tom Hanks 3. Patrick Mahomes 4. Lionel Messi 5. David Beckham 6. Aaron Donald 7. George Clooney 8. Cristiano Ronaldo 9. Steph Curry 10. Shaquille O'Neal
The term "high value" is kinda ridiculous anyway because I feel like people use it wrong, or I guess it depends on how you define it. Because I always thought "high value" means a man who's respectable and a good guy who knows how to treat a woman right and how to be a good partner. Not just some rich dude with an inflated ego. Of course these people are shallow and will attract their opposite sex counterpart.
ive been saying what this lady's been saying for a long time. it doesnt even matter if youre rich or not, your selection process is COMPLETELY separate from your achievements in life and your level of success. you should always know what kind of man or woman would be the most loyal and most trustable and reliable despite your social standing in the world
I’ve been saying that since day one. Women who are okay with cheating cheat too. Women just don’t brag about it. They’ll cheat with the nice average guy that spoils her emotionally and spend their husbands money. That’s extremely common.
@@clarkkent2005 An average man will do almost anything for an attractive woman, including listening to her complain about her cheating spouse. Once a man has money, many of them become jerks. 😂
Hold up son shine. You can have luxury and still not show anybody. 😂😂😂 Warren Buffet is a prime example. He has the same home for nearly 50 years. But his flex is his Jet, or multiple jets. It’s okay to flex but if you flex to get a women then you asking for trouble
@@belisebibi2399 somebody else made a comment, I’m sure I replied to that. As you’re a women I’m pretty sure I would not have called you son shine. But still glad we are on the same page!
@@501Labsmusic not at all, dude is thriving, that's what I meant though, I don't imagine these girls getting tossed around by rich dudes are too unhappy either
I didn’t even think about how it was the other way around. You guys are so right that some of these high value men choose the type of women that is likely to cheat on them. Then, they complain and lump all women together in this category. However, I also think it depends on which type of high value men it is. I think it depends if it is a low key high value man versus a non-low key high value man.
Exactly, lots of multi millionaires and billionaires have high school sweet hearts or average women. And they are not attracted to the pin up women. It’s the flash ones you see who are insecure who end up getting cheated on. Ie Warren Buffet, Charlie Munger etc
What they're leaving out is the _time_ . A lot of those high functioning men don't have the _time_ to be thoroughly searching for females who are high attractiveness and loyal (which the percent is already extremely _low_ to begin with) So obviously they seek the low hanging fruit. Nor do they have the time to mate guard their females Those men are doing a lot, which takes time, time away from being able to monitor females bad behavior. It's a time trade-off. 💊
Many of these dudes have subscribed to the idea that they can sleep with as many women as they want and still retain a loyal girl at home. Cheating on women, regardless of how much money you make, is going to make any woman jealous. Woman can be petty and vindictive when you cheat on them, as they should be. Guys think because they are “high value”, their girl won’t step out, but in reality they’ll probably just hide it better and try to end the relationship by extracting as much money and resources as they can before they leave.
0:00- I'm sorry about the other video that was removed. I really wanted to see what that was about. 2:03- Can we go back to normalizing monogamy again, please? For the record, the people in Bible who did this polyamory bullshit was never meant to be encouraged. It was a warning to stay away from and not participate in. God was trying to save us from such dysfunctional dramas and heartbreaks. Why are people so damn hard-headed?🤦♀️ I wish I had Job's patience. 6:27- Not all of us have lisps, I'm sorry. 12:03- Aba, you not loving money is not bad actually it's a good thing and what God wants us to be. "Whoever loves money never has enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with their income. This too is meaningless." Ecclesiastes 5:10 NIV "People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy," 2 Timothy 3:2 NIV "For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs." 1 Timothy 6:10 NIV "The Pharisees, who loved money, heard all this and were sneering at Jesus." Luke 16:14 NIV "They have left the straight way and wandered off to follow the way of Balaam son of Bezer, who loved the wages of wickedness." 2 Peter 2:15 NIV "Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5 NIV "not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money." 1 Timothy 3:3 NIV 12:09- Aba, you feeling uncomfortable when someone else is vain and obsessed with empty materials means your parents raised you right. It's called integrity, people need to learn how to have that like you. 17:03- Technically I do have an Instagram, but only for one reason. I was curious about you doing Instagram live conversations(I don't know if you guys still do that), I just wanted to listen in if you still had those. Other than that my Instagram is clean, no posts, or pictures. Hell, I use this same profile picture and alias I have here.
Ngl polyamory in the past was just practiced by wealthy people like kings, viscounts and shit to guarantee offspring, or multiple offspring, nowadays it just proves you cannot stay committed to a singular person. Like tell me how many old polyamorous couples you know of? I bet barely anyone knows, or can tell us how many couples there are that started polyamory when they were 20-30, and stayed together untill they're old and wrinkly lol.
@@sirnunyabuiz6529 That was the point I was making about making monogamy normalized. I don't have to know anyone who is in that polyamory crap, but I know that there are prophets in the Bible who had multiple wives and it didn't well. And not all of them were rich.(David and Solomon are two examples in the Bible who indulged in adultery and polyamory.)And I disagree people CAN commit to one person if they actually tried and stop being a weak-willed, lustful whore with no self control and want to fuck anything that walks.
@@summerrose8110 No I know, that's what I said, polyamory is for the weak. Especially nowadays, since we don't live in the 1600s where it may have been required.
THANK YOUUU I was just having a argument about this. Bruh what do you expect, when YOU YOURSELF cheats, leaves her alone at the house, give her all these gifts, and the surround her around equally attractive or even more men who work for you as the pool boy or driver. THEYRE GONNA CHEAT WITH PASSION AND ROMANCE 😂😂😂😭😭😭
Lol yall watch too many movies, in real life the pool boy or the driver is never some tall handsome muscular chad with a 6 pack. The pool boy is usually some fat immigrant an the driver is usually some old dude.
@@bendover3653 for sure but they’re are some places LIKE MYRTLE BEACH, SC specifically where the only pool boys, lawn care, and pretty much any high class house maintenance employee are the college guys or frat guys like myself or sorority girls and they’re specifically hired for that reason. My friend used to get paid to hand out lawn care flyers shirtless and another would hand them out on the beach in bikinis, it attracts customers. Hell I used to turn down all types of couples and middle aged women wanting to cheat on their husbands on vacation when I worked at a luxury hotel. You’ll be surprised how many people AND SOME OF YALL PARENTS are complete freaks when they go on vacation. Like some real sexually deprived shit.
I'm red pilled, but that whole alpha beta shit just rubs me the wrong way. I quit dating, I work hard everyday, go to the gym and don't proclaim myself a "high value man" but knowing myself, I'm definitely a valuable man. I think I got cheated on maybe once but I can't really confirm it. This world is so sick and narcissistic I literally just want to earn my money, get my fitness up and don't bother with anything else.
You're not wrong. It feels like everybody's obsessed with how they LOOK to other people, or if they have worth in the eyes of others. Does it really matter if you're a "high value man/woman" if you're bitter, mean, and miserable on the inside? Or if you only ever look out for yourself without _truly_ caring for your friends/family/community?
You're on the right track bro, just keep leveling up and surround yourself with good people who aren't materialistic but have their shit together and value community like a brotherhood or family, not those who like being the stars of their own movie lol
What they're leaving out is the _time_ . A lot of those high functioning men don't have the _time_ to be thoroughly searching for females who are high attractiveness and loyal (which the percent is already extremely _low_ to begin with) So obviously they seek the low hanging fruit. Nor do they have the time to mate guard their females Those men are doing a lot, which takes time, time away from being able to monitor females bad behavior. It's a time trade-off. 💊
Toxic women force men to cheat by withholding sex for months/years, while expecting him to be loyal. She tortures him by forcing him to be celibate like a monk. That's like a man who stops paying the bills and buying food, but saying she's not allowed to get food anywhere else. Would you blame her for getting food elsewhere because she is starving, or would you call him an abuser?
I stand by my statement that if I come into money, I'm either staying out of dating or keeping it lowkey until I find someone I want to settle down with. Too many cases of girls just wanting a guy with money for financial security for me to do anything else. Looking for someone who got my back not someone trying to use me. Money helps you get laid, not loyalty.
Man, I'm glad that my girl doesnt care about fancy shit. She's very honest. Spoke to my girl about what car she'd like, and she straight up told me that she doesn't care, so long as it gets to where she's going. Taco trucks before fancy dine-ins. Walmart before Botique.
Is true that you better say "never say never" but when it comes to cheating for some many planets must align for that to happen and for others is as "natural" as breathing
yeah that’s true. however you want a genuine relationship and want it to actually last then you ain’t gonna find that in the “high value” world. come down to reality with middle class people. a whole lot happier with there relationships in life
Agreed! When men are obsessed with looks they don’t even look any deeper than looks! Looks don’t suggest they make a good mother, partner or wife. Majority of people grow out of it tho in time. When you get burnt many times - people should become wiser
If i ever make it big with my books and animation I'll be doing the same thing I do today. Reading, writing and talking to the people I care about. The flashy life is unnecessary.
I mean it comes with the territory. When you choose based off of looks alone man or woman you're most likely gambling with that persons character. Women who are very attractive usually have the same attitude as a man with lots of money to them everyone is disposable cause they can "get" whoever they want
Adultery is one of the things most talked about as the highest form of sin in the Bible. Now im not a super religious person but shit like that is where I feel like theres a very clear line and i dont like how the psychologist says theres nothing wrong with “stepping out” once a financial base is covered
I’m a girl and I can’t imagine being with someone solely for money. I’m also not a materialistic person so if I see someone try to impress me with a nice car, sure I’ll think their car is so cool but that’s as far as it gets. It doesn’t suddenly make me attracted to you any more than before. I’m genuinely only capable of dating people I feel a connection with.
So you are claiming with certainty that if a guy has an expensive car and is wealthy overall, does not contribute in any way to what you're describing as 'feeling a connection' with that someone?
@@liquidgod5606 I don’t believe what she’s saying but at the same time I do when she says she won’t be with a guy because of his money. Let me explain. She won’t be with a dude who only lead and make experiences with his money because that make her feel easy, and women hates being easy even if the guy is the most attractive man in the world, a guy like that have to jump through hoops to alleviate the stress of feeling she’s too easy to have him.
@@easylife6348or she can't be with people she don't feel attracted to? Being rich doesn't automatically make you attractive...you can ve rich and still ugly, simple minded, boring and awful lol
Honestly, relationships just feel horrible now. I feel like people are getting more and more selfish, unloyal and unlocing. Men AND women. Everyone's on the look out for something a little better. No one commits and actually commits to it. They commit, for now.
@@Braddockggb the same is the case here in India. Which is following in the footsteps of the USA. Women are becoming more and more open in a bad way and narcissistic and men are resentful and misogynistic.
It is tough, but there are plenty of serious people out there. Probably harder in certain parts of the world. The problem is people have become so obsessed with image on social media that they forgot what actually matters in a relationship.. And looks is hardly in the top 3.
Nah, it's just the content you're watching which is based off of what those guys view as a "high value lifestyle," which is often featuring a rich man who marries a woman for superficial reasons and vice versa. The truth is that the further down the line you go in terms of finances and lifestyle until you're in the area of middle class, the more real, loving and loyal relationships become. Cheating on your partner because you have so many options isn't a common occurance for average people. The VAST majority of normal people find a person, date, get married, have kids and live a good life. If this stuff makes you depressed, stop watching it. It's not true anyways, and you can walk outside right now and everyone is having fun, laughing and at peace no matter their race or gender. The redpill conspiracy is a fantasy... don't let it suck you in.
A rich man is like a beautiful woman, you never know who really loves you and isn’t just using u for their own benefits. So rich men don’t typically get loyal women cause most women want they for their resources
For the later section of this video: I barely scraped the six figure ceiling last year and nobody knows it. I'm 5'1" and weigh 100 lbs, wear a sweater with small stains, shoes with holes in them, drive a modest 2016 civic and I'm basically invisible. It was only when I started talking to some older guys about investment strategies, that I realized I was brushing shoulders with millionaires without realizing it. There are MANY people who keep a low profile and you only realize it when you break into that level and start speaking the same language
A big thing this video left out was the high value men and women who got together when they were poor or way less well off. Those are the relationships with money that last. If they’re together when they’re at their lowest, they are more likely to stick together at their best.
Not really, have you never heard about 'middle age crisis' thing? There's a lot of men who leave their wive to a youngest and hotter women when he got money and status simply because he has more option now. In a worst case, a men like Chris Watts do exist. The guy don't even want to filed divorce and paying child support, he simply want to start a new life with his mistress so he get rid his pregnant wife, unborn son, and his two daughters. That's why there's a saying in my country, a men could test a women's character when he has nothing, and women could test a men's character when he has everything.
Again one too many times, she's conflating sexual partners with marriage partners, and it's even more embarrassing for a 'dating coach' to have such a bad take to the point that it makes her no different from being a regular side chick. If a high value man gets cheated on, the loss is on her, not the man, on to the next coz he ain't wifing up that hoe after all. And she fully believes that a promiscuous woman could replace a top 1-10% high value man when there are 9 times more of HER around to run through than there are more of HIM. That female delusion never goes away, PERIOD.
I do agree with the sentiment, money doesn't change people, it just gives them more freedom to be who they already are. That's why I think it's important to really learn about yourself, develop a philosophy for life that works for you, and find good people who you know will stay good to you in a wide range of different scenarios. In context of relationships and marriage, the vows say for rich or for poor, so make sure you're with someone you could be happy with at both points. People can act worse when they're at their lowest, because they can become desperate and stressed and we all know that, but people can also be at their peak and they'll have unresolved issues exacerbated because they're much more free than they've ever been before, so if they've never looked at those darker aspects of themselves, it can control them, and they're less likely to view it as an issue because it seems like small problems when you're sitting on top of the world. Stay grounded, stay honest.
I’ll pick a woman whose presence is more calming then my solitude. I don’t care if she’s works at Starbucks, it’s a job, we have to survive. She a good person, overall, and she wants to enjoy this thing called life together.
Yessir! My parents are Roman Catholic and approaching 30 years. They have a relationship that these red pill types espouse I guess from the outside. However, the secret is the most obvious. There was never any silence and I saw them apologize to each other and fix snippiness and resentments ASAP growing up, neither me nor my brother have seen them even yell at each other. It's not religion or lifestyle that makes the relationship, it's the mutual effort and willingness to build and grow together.
You'll pick? U can't pick Ur speaking in hypotheticals for a reason. U have no options to pick from and u know it. You're gonna settle for whatever u get. Cut it out bruh
@@blanchegreco7201 well it isn't. The average man can't chose from the sheer fact of they don't have the options to. Those men can chose. The regular guy can't. You're supposed push urself to the best version of urself to get those options, but ppl really think if im comfortable being average the right woman will suddenly appear. Its just delusional
@@CEWIII9873 I mean yes I'm a student...but even when I can "afford" a more lavish lifestyle, I will still choose not to lol. Some people just don't like the fancy lifestyle, shocking ik.
People who identify as "High value" tend to be the kind of person to believe they're entitled to others' attraction, commitment etc based on how much money they have, what car they drive, their job, their physique etc. rather than their character - which even then, wouldn't equate to an entitlement. Rather their character tends to involve a hell of a lot of narcissitic traits and tendencies. To anyone who's secure in themselves, it's not attractive, and the relationship is unfulfilling - so no shit, they meet someone who actually meets their relational emotional needs - but also benefit hugely from the "high value" person's status and/or wealth - they're going to cheat. Not saying it's right - it is what it is. A more secure person would end the relationship and move on, but in a socio-economic environment like Dubai? Can't really blame them.
I’m worth 8 figures and I caught my girl cheating 2 times… I sent her back to street now she works Hooters
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Alpha Male, Beta Male, Simp, Average, High Value, Low Value, Great Value, DON'T MATTER, anyone & everyone is capable of cheating or get cheated on, PERIOD 💯
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Seriously. Thank you for saying that. People think, "it won't happen to me." it can happen to anyone.
This.
HOLY SHIT, such easy logic, doesnt devalue the men either! Holy fuck ABa, downgrading yourself with this one my guys ;) The chicks can cheat but they get kicked to the curb! Benefits revoked! Haha
the point wasn’t that “some people can’t get cheated on.” it was that “rich people cheat and get cheated on the most.” to more or less break down the reality of the super red pill people expecting a one sided open relationship. the delusion to think they can make that happen when in reality they both cheat. not to say anyone else in any other situation don’t cheat, obviously they do, just that in the “high value” life, both partners are more likely to cheat.
Imagine living a shallow, hedonistic, materialistic existence and being surprised when the people you surround yourself with are shallow, hedonistic, and materialistic.
@@nolga3569 "They" are in denial!
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NO surprise, these women go after the bag/ lifestyle…
High Value Men/ Very Rich Men get the 9’s-10’s looking women but there’s no emotional connection or wanting genuine commitment it’s business/ transactional
THAT’S IT!!!
Exactly. There are plenty of “high value” folks with ethics and dignity.
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Not gonna lie, These High Value Man conversations be depressing as shit. People talking about dating as someone that 99% of us are never gonna be or be with. And everything sounds like a Labyrinth of complications, control, and mind games. Just enjoy your lives, be around your love ones, maximize as to what you want your life to be, continue to survive and be appreciative.
Nah you got it wrong. Don’t be depressed. If you get depressed that means you were comparing yourself with these HVM wannabes. Just love your damn life and go do some fun stuff. You only got one life and you think it’s worth being spent on watching what other people have?
Before I got into my first and current relationship I would consume videos like that on the daily. My
perspective was wrong on so many things. People honestly need to go out and live life and stop taking all this media shit too seriously. The real world is so different and I and so many of those around me don’t seem as fucked as the people I see online so? 😂
Man this is so true… not only is the most extreme examples blown up on the internet but also I don’t even live in America and most of this type of content is based there. Let’s be real, the most extreme examples from such a huge country is not everyday life. Also, Americans I love you guys but y’all are freaking crazy.
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"For some people, respecting themselves and their core values is way more important than being able to get the latest Gucci or Prada bag." After this video, I have some newfound respect for Aba.
14:52 if anyone needs the timestamp for that 🙂
@@melancholyalexx7790we need more people like you
I think for most people it’s intrinsically true but we’re constantly bombarded with “alpha male, hot girls, expensive cars” and we start to think that that’s how reality is and we try to make this fake reality work but when it comes to connection and love it can’t be faked or bought no matter your fake status. Some people really made it miserable for themselves out there.
@@nothanks1945facts cause reality tv used to be fake but now it's looking more realistic as the years go by cause the mfs watching it are getting programmed to think this is what you're supposed to do lol
You know it’s gone be a good episode when them floor boards get to talking too
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If they get the creak fixed bc lll unsub
Yes, indeed. Thankfully, that is seemingly every episode.
@@jackderaway I'd be sad to see it go if it ever did. It's a true part of the show now.
A woman can be super attractive and super loyal, by the way. So this isn’t an issue of a specific appearance but an issue of character, and about how shallow, cheating men attract shallow, cheating women.
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EXACTLY!!! It’s all based on values. If you are a shallow person you want to be with a fellow shallow person - and guess what? They will cheat.
@@jujutrini8412 yes, exactly!
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Or one can be that naive but I'm not sure how many " incidents" one needs to have in order to wake up and charge the approach.
Aba's response to this woman is on point! She low key tries to dismiss women who value a lifestyle that is based on emotional investment, loyalty, respect, and peace.
Its on both sides. Female "coaches" try to shame guys into being traditional men cuz their agenda is to make more equally yolked men. And male coaches try to shame men for not wanting that "get money, pump women" lifestyle. Both arent good or bad, its how they go about it.
Yup. No amount of money would make me want to live a shallow empty life
Sounds like experience from you🤔
in my anecdotal life experience is as true as generalizations can be. most of very attractive women i've met do treat men as expendable. they don't pursue men at all, their relationships are all back to back, they are very egocentric and disconnected from everything else.
@@georginacook1850 think about the Bugatti!!
I grew up poor, spent a decade in the military and wound up moving to the ME for a job opportunity. Fell in love with someone far far wealthier than I and she built me up and supported my dreams. Now we both live a life I couldn't have ever imagined and we build each other up. I consider myself deeply lucky, but money never felt like a significant part of the relationship I enjoy today. Respect, communication, and joy derived from your partners happiness are what I feel make what we have so special. Money is great, but I wouldn't ever trade it for feeling complete. Why play the game if you aren't content if and when you finally win? Won't ever judge someone else's lifestyle, just my $. 02
Your very blessed bro.
So vain plastic men choose to date vain plastic women, and neither of them are happy so they cheat on each other time and time again? _Mind blown!_
Who would have ever seen that coming!
They truly deserve each other!
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Makes sense. You never or rarely see the wives and gf's of high value men who this doesn't apply to. And when we do and they don't look like an Instagram model, both men and women will say "Why is he with her??!!" Well now you know why.
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I remember my comment being attacked by many, many NAIVE red pilled men when I said women cheat on high value men! All-the-time!!! I’ve worked in the hospitality industry as well, and what Preach said was very accurate. When the high value man think he’s being sneaky or has an arrangement with his wife bc of his status, his wife has options he doesn’t even know about… or he suspects but thinks he’s more important.
Men who only bring money to the table are no different than women who only bring their bodies to the table.
Both will always get used.
People also seem to forget that gold-diggers cheat on their sugar daddies all the time, cause the relationship is a job to them. They cheat with younger men who they find more attractive. It's not a moral thing to do, unfortunately it does happen.
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@Broski Snowski Nah, It's more like about possesion or territorial thing, they don't like their stuff being 'touched' or their territory being tresspased by other men. These kinda men would mocked, bully, and all, any men who choosed to stay with his women even she's cheating on him. Beside, especially if a man is rich and has many option, why would he stays with a women who's cheating or backstabbing on him?
@@neonlighter75 hilarious how all these arguments keep proving incels right looks are the only thing that matter and girls will value that over anything else
Same here sis. I worked at a hotel and I cannot tell you how many times these chicks were cheating out in the open. They think they're the only ones doing it😂😂😂😂😂I got stories stories.
It's not that complicated. If your relationship is based on status and money, there's always someone else with more. And that's really all "high value" means to these people.
Not if you're Elon Musk
@@ImAgentKell 1 out of 8billion people, isn't a high probability,
So for the rest of us it holds true,
@@ImAgentKAnd he sits on podcasts and talks about how lonely he is with tears in his eyes, and how he can't make a relationship work because no woman is prepared to tolerate his lifestyle.
Wealthy men then introduce these women to other wealthy men. A lot of these so called high value men literally pass around the same chick. As a woman I understand the advantage! I think men need to humble themselves because smart women will win every time.
@@myagray4093smart women is the words of the day🤭
I met a client about 8 years ago and he said something similar to the theme of this. He said: "The goal in life is to make money and not be known". Or at least as little known as possible.
I’ve been saying this. Not all super attractive women are unfaithful but if you’re choosing these hyper desirable women they have a lot of options. No one wants to date an average person anymore and now we’re all alone.
“Hyper desirable women” man, with dating apps an average goblin gets more options than most of us.
Depressing.
That’s just because the wrong traits are seen as desirable, you think the ratajowski sisters are decent people, I doubt it, “desirable” should include traits like faithful, hard working, compassionate, not big butt, boobs and lips
@@burtreynolds8030 thats what I'm saying but even past 'big boobs and butt' looks are fleeting. popularity and social media clout are illusions and I feel thats what a lot of people look for in partners now days rather than deep, character traits
@@Dee-yj1im Ciara never said anything about social apps. Stop being bitter and go outside.
@@burtreynolds8030 also idk who the ratajowski sisters are but having money/popularity does not inherently mean people are not good people. There is typically a correlation, sure but not inherent.
People that want emotionally investment are traumatized?? My God, we are a society that glorifies sociopathy!
I don’t think they necessarily glorify sociopathy. I think it is just easier and less painful to be cold and calculating. With as seemingly many sociopaths out there, the average person will find it easier and easier to not want to be hurt/played/ or deal with people’s cold and calculating ways. The truth is they find themselves in those situations because 1) it is part of the learning curve of being a human and 2) they glorify the outcome more than they glorify the process. Those people want the lifestyle, and from monkey see, monkey do concept, they feel it is the only way. There are countless people who are not like that.
Sadly access to social media can warp the brain into all lines of things. This is the precursor to Wall-E. We are glued to the screen with what other people supposedly have and that is the escape from what they feel they don;t have. People are easily brainwashed by things constantly plastered in our faces. You become numb to the rest. Doesn;t mean you glorify sociopathy, just the outcome of what it brings them.
I think she got the example turned around on accident
That's a bit dramatic. 😂Some people are just masters of sophistry. It's not that deep. Also, it's nothing new. There have always been and always will be people that justify their actions with nonsensical logic to be at peace with themselves.
We are straying away from god and heresy. We believe we are more animal than spirit. These are demons. A demon is just a being with no spirit or the belief that they don’t have one. Money won’t exist forever.
@namaste you have a point. Look at the public figures we have pedestalized in the last decade. They all have have very strong narcassistic- sociopathic traits i.e Andew Tate and Donald Trump.
Just because you're of high status doesn't guarantee that a woman will respect you. If anything, it puts you at more risk of being disrespected and cheated on by women who can easily get another high status guy. Just carry yourself with dignity, integrity, and honor and you'll get women who will respect you off that alone.
Status doesn't matter you are at risk of being cheated on regardless, it'll all come down to the type of woman you deal with, that's it
And what if that doesn't work?
Men with dignity, integrity and honour are not respected by most people either. Whatever you strive for in life should be for you first.
@@JeliTP_12 Like the saying goes: more money, more problems. With a higher status and more wealth, there will be more leeches that will suck you dry. Just look at the lives of billionaires and celebrities, many of these people marry and then divorce quite easily. Wealth and status does not guarantee you a type of woman that is marriage material. At the end of the day, it's more of your own character that will determine your ideal spouse just like another saying, "birds of a feather, flock together".
Studies find when women cheat it is almost always with a man of higher status
Love how balanced this conversation is. One of the most humbling talks you guys have had, and big credit to the woman for taking on both sides of the argument. What this world really needs right now
I'm a plus size woman, married to an engineer who makes 6 figures. we're 30 and 32. we're together cause we have similar values, find each other attractive, and are faithful to each other. He isn't controlling or manipulative, and we aren't out here spending a ton of money on vacations and material things. We don't fit into any of these stereotypes. Clearly we should all just figure out what it is we want in life individually and be happy when we get it.
I’m glad there are people who are happy.
This!! I’m curvy, my husband is a metal fabricator skilled machinist who makes good money. We’ve been together since HS. Neither me or him would be considered “high value” to these foolish people saying that term lol but we are high value to each other! That’s all that matters! Blessings to you & your hubs
YOU'RE A NORMAL SANE HUMAN BEING. the same cannot be said for everyone.
He's in his early 30s. I am happy for your relationship, but honestly, odds are you'll need to hit the gym to keep it. Being successful in your 30s gets a man a lot of options and opportunities, so unless he's truly into "plus sized" women, your relationship will be in jeopardy. There are always outliers, I'm just talking odds. Good luck to you.
Same. Been with my man since we were 12. We were poor then became “rich” together through everything. All of our hobbies and interest align for the most part and our values are the same. I agree these “high value” people don’t know how to cope with us 😂 they pretend we don’t exist.
About flaunting money: when I was working retail, I had two guys walk past me. One stopped and said " this guys got money, you better treat him like royalty". My first thought was " why is your 'friend' telling me how much money you have, especially without me even looking at him?".
When you have money, a LOT of people take notice. A lot of people want to be around you just because you have money. It's disgusting. Friends shouldn't care about what you have- they should be there for you because they care about YOU. That's just friends too; I'm sure it's harder when trying to find a partner.
Friends have each others backs, your assumption that he was a fake friend for boosting his boy is wild.
@@reinhartgregory if he was joking around I can see that, but if he was being serious 💀
@@aj3706 Then that's ok, if you don't want friends who will praise you in public thats cool bro.
I'd rather have friends who tell the girls that I'm with that they're lucky to have me rather than friends who joke saying "you're a lucky guy getting a girl out of your league" like a beta
True brotherhood stands above, most men don't know brotherhood unfortunately
No one praises their friends randomly like that, you goof. Talking to the reinhartgregory guy and not the OP.
I had a friend that was very successful at a young age. It seemed like a lot of his friends always expected him to pay. One time we went to lunch and he was caught off guard that I always asked for the check to be split. I was thoroughly bothered that he was always expected to pay for everyone.
The meaning of a high value man is subjective. To me, a family man, regardless of income, is a high value man. They are leaders, protectors, providers, and teachers. Shoutout to my husband and Dad ❤
edit: Just to clarify, My father and husband are not the same person 😅😅😅
It’s really not subjective. It’s what the market is willing to pay for u so if you are in high demand in the market you’re high value
I tell women, the best way to understand if a man is high value or not is imagine we had to operator as we did 100-150 years ago. All conveniences are gone. Would the man in question be able to lead the family to survive and thrive. If yes, the man is high value because a real man can be the same man when facing all circumstances.
Therefore, a high value man can have money, but money is not a determining factor.
The manosphere and their allies have decided high value is in the wallet... They don't get it.
An actual high value man would not select such a woman.
It's subjective to a degree. The thing about language is, a word or term means whatever is the currently accepted definition by society. What you stated simply is not the widely accepted definition of what the specific term "high value man" means. Though i think a lot of women that aren't terminally online will agree with you that those qualities are what would make a man highly valuable to them.
As long as he can support a family and isn't lazy and is good with kids and romantic, then that's enough
No one who cheats is high value. Commitment and honoring your relationship is high value. I’d rather have a broke man who loves me and would never cheat over the wealthiest men out there. I was fortunate enough to have a good, trustworthy man who is also a great provider.
A high-value man is defined by other means.
CAP 😂 well, in all honesty its cool you speak for yourself. But many women in this world DO NOT share your sentiment. And since you alone are not enough for the millions of single men in this world (as you're probably a 1 man committed woman, which is great), I go back to my original assessment.... CAP!!!
You’re telling fairytales, you would seriously Date a broke and loyal guy ?
Exactly! Can we actually talk about the word "high-value"? The value is a range of numbers on a screen.
@@G_Singh222 if she does not get aids and other problems that comes with the so-called high-value men.
I mean she’s right, they literally choose these women. Aba was spitting facts too. There is definitely a lot of rich people that we walk past every day and you’d ever know it. I worked in a coffee shop years ago and they are serious about them discounts 😂 be raking up them savings during the holidays. It’s way better to be low key.
There are a lot of these chicks. The chick they call Super Head and others come to mind, that seem to have been with a LOT of celebrities. It's almost like a specialty skills. They bring looks, finesse, bedroom skills and connections these rich men like. But in the end, they are only for rent and for the streets
Humbleness is one of the most endearing and unique quality a person could have.
I agree if I had a whole lot of money, nobody would ever know.
What they're leaving out is the _time_ .
A lot of those high functioning men don't have the _time_ to be thoroughly searching for females who are high attractiveness and loyal (which the percent is already extremely _low_ to begin with)
So obviously they seek the low hanging fruit.
Nor do they have the time to mate guard their females
Those men are doing a lot, which takes time, time away from being able to monitor females bad behavior.
It's a time trade-off. 💊
I used to sell cars and our most expensive car was bought by a dude in pajamas holding a tiny fluffy dog 😂
Everyone everywhere in any category one can think of gets cheated on. We need to stop focusing on the negativity and embrace well being and treating people the way you want to be treated.
Woah that’s way too much common sense
No, these “high value” dumbasses need a reality check. They deserve this
Ikr!! Just be a decent human being damn!
While I agree with and appreciate your point of view on this, that wasn’t really the point of the video. It talked about the likelihood of being cheated on is higher as a wealthier person in general. Anyone can get done dirty obviously.
Amen
If you choose a partner for shallow reasons, you'll get a shallow relationship. And there's nothing "high value" about that.
She chooses you for the money or your looks; she's going to leave you for your money or your looks. This hits deep!
It’s facts though, so even if you’re HVM you should know the chick you want other dudes also want it, until she hits 35.
Well that's about 8/10 women so..... it's not like they have men options 🤣
@@DTreatzrinse and repeat. You learned nothing 😂
there is always someone out there better than you, looks wise, money wise or how you are as a person. lol
People talk about women leaving as if she’s leaving for someone better. Most leavers in relationships downgrade and this applies to both genders
I chose no luxury, I had a choice between a guy who invited me on his yacht and my current husband. I chose based on values. I knew he would be an amazing father and I was not wrong. We don't live in luxury, but we live comfortably, we have 2 daughters and we are buying a small farm. We can talk for hours, he is my best friend. I think this psychologist is very removed from real world and real relationships.
Woman's definition of high value man is status and money which is just ridiculous. Luxury isn't that important and materials can't buy you love. I'm glad there's women who understand this.
@@Danny328DT "womens definition of high value man"? don't get confused by what red pill men find high value to what women consider high values. The red pill men aim is lust only, so they aim to please "buy" the type of women they desire and complain about. Majority of women have the same value as DohMkay they value someone that is capable of real love is best friend true partner.
@@Danny328DT i wish humans understood this in general. People can be so incredibly intelligent and filled with so much information but yet be naive as hell.
@@Danny328DT Women didn't define 'high value men'. That term is something goofy grifters like F&F came up with to finesse money out of their simps. High value is just a nerdy way of saying rich. Thing is, despite what people act like, not everyone wants to be rich, most people want to be comfortable and that's why most people chase a chill lifestyle. It's the saying, "Do you want to work to live or live to work?"
It's very rare to really meet someone in who's compulsively trying to turn thousands into millions into billions.
When you reach the point of an upper middle class life, good vacations, owning your home, being able to retire your parents, that's enough. Plus, it's hard enough working to upkeep that, so when you see what you'd have to sacrifice to get rich you hit the wall of, "Do you live to work or work to live?" and most people want to live.
Good you would’ve just been another item he bought and thinks he owns.
I'm a pretty plain girl and I found a simple guy and we got married last year. We are so happy. Somethings are much more fulfilling than that high value lifestyle.
@@SoulAtParadise They exist but most men don't want them or cheat, (they are considered to be 5 (average)on the looks scale, sometimes 4))
@@dozosfinest2010 But, even average women im not even sure all of them looking for an average guy either. If a lot of women call themselves 10 and aren't realistic then it becomes harder for the average guy.
Have you lived the high value lifestyle? if not you're basically saying that oranges are more fulfilling than apples without having tried apples.
@@dozosfinest2010 so damn true
@@regularapebut who cares? Do you really think that a luxurious lifestyle without any true love and deep connection is more fulfilling for the soul than having a loving, caring, deep intimate relationship with someone else, where you share your struggled, respect each other and work for the sake of the family? I look at these celebrities and rich people and they seem empty.
I’m just here for the pin of shame
great username
Pin of cap today
That's a pin I wouldn't want to show up just for.
Pen of shame, pen of shame, pen of shame!
@@onemorescout it’s getting pretty grifty today in these streets
Keanu Reeves is an excellent example of someone with money but has no desire for luxury.
A woman who is like a grandmother to me taught economics and told me to read “the millionaire next door”. statisticians interviewed and researched the spending habits of millionaires. They majority self made and what others would call cheap. Don’t wear designer, but cars second hand. They’re always looking for a bargain and believe there’s always a better deal and are will to wait til they get it.
I suggest buying cars second hand all the time but I keep encountering people who want to floss and make their FIRST car a BRAND NEW Benz…and I keep pushing the idea that your first car should be the one to build your driving skills with and should get you from A to B safely but people don’t listen to me because I’m ugly😂
@@thechosenone93 damn u ain’t have to do yourself like that with the ugly comment wth 😂😂
@@thechosenone93 Damned halo effect!
I have money. Enough to sustain me long enough If I'm unemployed. I don't spend much. All excess money other than my emergency funds go into stocks. I'm smiling Ear to ear as NVIDIA just went up 15% after they released their Earnings report. Here's my 2 cents, stop buying shit to impress other people.
I think she's a very intelligent and well spoken person. Her thoughts in the beginning are very agreeable and I would like to see her in a red pill podcast like Fresh and Fit. However, she lost me at the end. I think her Eco chamber if filled with professional gold diggers that she no longer relates to what normal women fundamentally want in a healthy romantic relationship. Not all women are gold diggers. Wanting a partner or a husband that has a stable job and good finances doesn't mean they're a gold digger that wants a luxurious life.
I mean at a certain point it's just logical to want a financially stable husband.
Financially stable isn’t the ability to have a luxuries. It’s the ability to provide needs within reason. Anything that crosses into wants doesn’t count.
All women are gold diggers by proxy of that all women like you said will make a mans income a pritoirty while men dont' that for women.
@@krissysherrell6625boom. Exactly financially stable doesn't mean rich.
I agree, we men are only as good as our financial stability and wealth allows.
Why is Aba so relatable to me. I want the money for comfort I really don’t care about fame or flashiness. I just want to be able to chill and do something Im passionate about.
Well said. I feel the same way
Aba wants money so he can continue paying for pu$$y
I believe this is majority of people
@@wonderlandian8465 I’m not sure about that there is a lot of corporate bootlicking, money worshipping, celebrity worshipping, billionaire worshipping that goes on. The keeping up with Jones’s and stuntin on the haters attitude is extremely prevalent. But, who’s to say that representation is actually representative of most people.
@@codecatx5 True
Aba n Preach are just refreshing to listen to . Sending love from Ghana
If a woman is with you for your money and life style but is not attracted to you physically then she might want someone to fill that need
People cheat on hotties too, it's random...has nothing to do with the Manosphere and Feminism.
@@lucianaromulus1408 not that much random, its freedom of consequences
@@cgigammez5749 it's random. I've seen hotties of both genders get cheated on.
Of course people cheat on hotties too but not being attracted to the person your with is one possible of many causes
@@lucianaromulus1408 you assume everybody is attracted to hotties..
Women in their late teens to early 30's that got to Dubai are the equivalent of men in their 40's to 60's going to Thailand/Philippines. We know what you're doing. We know what you're up to.
Edit: It's getting demoralizing how people like this "coach" just reduce people to "options" and resources like everyone's a Linkedin profile. The humanity of our societies are totally being wrecked by greed, materialism, and just straight up disingenuousness.
Edit-EDIT: I fell out of my chair as the coach lady was talking about "emotional vs. financial" investment and how its okay to cheat if you have money was immediately interrupted by a mental health therapy ad.
It's actually always been there. We've just had thousands of years to turn the animal instincts into various different cultural artifacts and so on.
In this sense, we've gone full circle in history. We have successfully reverted back to our primal nature. Difference being, whereas before we knew and had some level of honesty now we deceive and hide intent on this matter. Emblematic of the times we live in. If history has a beginning and an end, then it is of the highest magnitude of poetry that as we once was in the beginning, now we are in the end, but not. The rapture will come be prepared brothers in Christ.
Nope. Middle aged women go to West African countries to date younger men. That is the equivalent.(
She had us in the first half but Aba & Preach absolutely schooled her when she was saying women who want emotional investment are that way because of trauma. What an absolutely moronic statement. If anything it’s trauma that makes people prioritize cushy lifestyle rather than a healthy emotional bond.
How many females in there 30s are getting anything but pipe in Dubai lmfao 🤣
sounds cope.
“Maybe they should pick better”. -RedPill 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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But that's true. Red pill or not. Lool
@@killaswing1000 It is.
The more content i see of all sides the more clear it is that life requires balance. Every lifestyle and choice comes with a consequence. If your able to be " high value" and have more access to women and enjoy more experiences kudos to you. But if that comes at the sacrifice of never having genuine connection or not having time to spend with your loved ones that's on you don't complain about it. Same thing with women if you wanna mess around a lot in your 20s don't be surprised if that might mess up your future. Most of us should be seeking things that give us purpose in life and that ultimately make us happy. We all need to find out what that is for us individually rather than just listening to anyone else.
I think another thing to consider is that some women sacrifice sexual attraction/satisfaction for the money that "high value" men can provide, but that lack of attraction/satisfaction reaches a tipping point and eventually they cheat with someone that they are attracted to. Not all but some. I think the more money you make the more likely you are to end up in this situation
This has been happening for as long as women couldn’t make their own money and be fully independent. Why do you think all these “traditional” wives of the past never wanted to sleep with their husband? The only difference is that women had to do it for average men.
Lol y'all proving incels right
@@thezu9250Ovid I think was driven out if town when he dared to write that Roman husbands and wifes should have fun while having sex. That what a scandal, because this was for the brothels only, and the wifes only copulated to get pregnant with kids and begged that they don't catch any STD in that time. People forget that STDs were often deadly in earlier times. Plus all the moral and sin thing from churches. As soon as there were enough kids, sex in marriage mostly stopped immediately. The wifes knew the men cheat, everyone knew. It just became drama when the cheating was in the same circles or the other woman behaved like a wife. Enough literature out there to know this.
Dynamic changed when women became more financially independent, the pill was introduced and antibiotics made STDs less violent on the bodies.
thank god for pool boys
you're saying Ivanka didn't choose Donald for his rockin bod and endurance?
I had an Ethiopian friend in elementary school and he brought his food in for the class to experience and that shit was fire!!
That injera and doro wat be on point
Spicy Injera will have you sweating🥵
Bruh I went to my Ethiopian friends house to help them move and her mom had the whole spread laid out on the table . I left that house 10 pounds heavier.
How'd lost this comment 12 days ago ?
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'High value' is a subjective phrase. Most men considered 'high value' are just men with wealth, but wealth is not the only value. Two, some wealthy men, are perhaps not looking for loyal women, but mere arm candy. Gold diggers will dig their way to men like that.
Also, they can be plain dumb or ugly, or have zero character.
Imagine how many people have been saying what you said but get shut down because “provision”.
I agree. Value is assigned by the people who desire it, which is why it is subjective. A "high value man" who is wealthy and likely immoral in character is valuable to a lady who is just interested in luxury. But for a lady looking for a husband with whom to raise children, that man is of little value. I believe that certain communities geared toward men have the flaw of focusing solely on the first aspect.
100%
Good call because to me a high value person is more about character than money. Anyone can attain money, a terrible person can be rich tomorrow but are they suddenly high value? People need to reevaluate a lot of things lol
That girl is extremely smart. I always thought this “high value man” who only look for a brainless chick who looks like a model will get cheated on and that’s why they are so bitter. If you only want a woman for her looks and “obedience” the only thing you are offering is money. Once she had enough money and once she find someone with more money what will keep her around?
Basically renting a girlfriend rather than development an actual relationship.
Well put, exactly
Damn straight!
It's a pretty fucked up day and age when they try to make wanting loyalty a negative feature in someone. Wanting respect shouldn't be a sign of trauma. Like "I don't want you to cheat on me" "WHO HURT YOU?!" see? Does that sound stupid? That's because it is.
Go date traumatic women then its cool, we don't want them. I've dealt with them
@@reinhartgregory that is exactly what he said. That there is no logic in saying that not agreeing with cheating is a sign of trauma. This whole hippie movement with let's just love each other with no boundaries leads to toxicity.
@@blackharpy7468 Both of you guys missed the psychologist's point, she said that women with trauma expect more emotional needs vs a regular woman who is more stable and ok with physical needs.
That is absolutely true. This idiot saying "I don't want you to cheat on me" "WHO HURT YOU?!
This is a classic strawman fallacy argument of making crap up since nowhere did the psychologist said that.
In short don't date traumatic women long term seriously
@@reinhartgregory you clearly did not understand the comment. He was saying a man will tell a woman “do not cheat on me, respect our relationship,” and 9/10 the woman will say “wow who hurt you?” As if infidelity is normal or okay. Do you not get it or do I need to break it down more?
@@Kirill-er9gv he sllooow that’s why he gets cheated on by chicks himself
Having lived in sin city as a single, young girl and being propositioned by these so-called "high value" men I had to decline because:
-They are not high value to me
-If you lead with your money it might mean that you are insecure, don't think or have anything to offer besides money, you might expect some kind of transactional love/sex which I am not about
-What I look for in a partner money can't buy (love, respect, loyalty, care, emotional safety...)
At the end of the day it does not only come to options but also values, education, lifestyle choices.
Do not buy this "high value" men concept but rather seek the right value(s) partner.
The ones who you tell them that you are in a relationship but still relentlessly pursue you with the line of “so what if you have a boyfriend” are the ones who will cheat on you. Why any girl would want to be with them is beyond me.
Sometimes persistence is seen as a quality in men nevertheless you are right regarding that particular situation.
yeah
Sin city wasn't made for youuu, angels like you
100% correct.
I’m enjoying this trend of calm, calculating women tearing apart the “alpha male” mentality with brutally honest and fair logic
It’s not logic… what part is logic?
@@cantbecanceledpodcast there’s no none some people just like this typa content lmaoo
high value man is not about money, you can have money and be a dork just like andrew tate said
"Alpha male" don't go around to tell they're alpha or talk about it
@@cantbecanceledpodcast oh? Logic is thinking that high-value men are the only ones stepping out. LOL. But you know.. enjoy that cap.
There are studies on how breadwinning women are more likely to be cheated on too. Regardless of gender, people get insecure when their partner doing better than them. Reminds me of those parents who are jealous of their kids instead of being proud of them.
A woman of character will be loyal to a broke man or a rich man. It’s not about the man and who HE IS, it’s about the woman herself. When will people get it lol
It's because that person is rare nowadays. I'm not defending anyone, but's hard to believe in something you don't see very often.
HAHAHAHAHA. WOMAN OF CHARACTER? WOMAN HAVE ONE JOB AND THEY CAN'T DO THAT CORRECT. Whether you're a man and worth $10, or if you're worth $10 billion dollars, you ain't getting a virgin wife. So what's the point. HAHAHAHAHAHA. ONE JOB.
If you raised your daughter right, she wouldn’t pick a broke man to begin with lol
@@StoneAgeWarfarein my world, the opposite is true. I don’t see nor am I around, women who step out on their partners or women that want to. Maybe it’s the internet that makes it seem that way; like women want to cheat. Idk.
Honestly either you haven’t put yourself out there enough or you’re in the wrong pool. Chances are, you haven’t been with enough people to determine how common loyalty is. Even if you’ve had 200 partners you can’t say there’s not a real one out there
When I was younger, I would try to validate my insecurities by dating the girls who I felt proved my insecurities wrong. And those were almost all superficial relationships driven by superficial values. I am very happy I outgrew that -- I would never have found a fulfilling relationship.
Could u elaborate?
It's possible at an at fault state, as per custody if the woman doesn't have residency the court could award the husband full custody
Speak English
Haha we wrote almost identical stories. It's a humbling experience when you realize your own part in things, at least it was for me. Cheers to that and to continued future growt!
I need y’all to explain and spread some wisdom my brother
You hit the nail on the head. I’ve got oil all over my area, the lands been passed down in the family for generations. We’ve been a millionaire family since the 1900s. Yet we live in our small country homes, taking care of our cattle. I wouldn’t trade my simple life for anything.
Oil? Would be a shame if BP didn’t make some sweet sweet profits from that. Or the American industrial complex
Would y'all consider adopting me?
Wonder if you'd feel differently if you weren't blessed to have land on oil and not a millionaire family, would you still love what you do about your life?
live however you want but I could never live with myself if I were rich. riches necessarily comes from exploitation and having extra while others starve is insane.
Lemme hold sum Oil
"If you're not covering us financially, you'd better give us all of you emotionally." Truer words have never been spoken.
@@Austenfan177 Oh I’m a HUGE fan! Don’t always agree with their take but they’re honest and hilarious, win/win! 😁
"If you're not covering us financially, you'd better give us all of you emotionally."
..so you can buy emotional distance by providing financially?
@@iaindcosta For some women, yes, absolutely. A man can’t be broke AND emotionally distant to keep a woman. You’ve got to bring value to the table in one way or another.
@@NewYorkNadiaand what do they bring besides pussy, you're weird grow up
@@NewYorkNadia Not even remotely true.
Doesn't explain the disparity of the bottom 10% of men getting women. 🧢
One more thing to add - people have replaced the value of a relationship and love with materialism, hedonism and narcissistic values. It’s sad really!
Find someone you can have a deep connection with and who shares the same value as you.
Exactly and wealthy fruits ain’t worth the squeeze when you find out it roughs faster
Ain't no love , get your money and leave girls .. . Sprinkle Sprinkle 💅
Welcome to capitalism 🤣
I think everyone wants this deeply but would never admit it because they are afraid of being hurt or have been hurt too many times they give up and turn to this lifestyle as a way of coping.
Well said.
I always thought high value men cheat and knows their wives cheat. It’s the agreement. The whole pool boy, gardener scenario. People in those lives move with nda’s. High price call girls, top name strippers. Look at Will and Jada. August got permission. Guaranteed Will was doing his thing too.
Nah, I really doubt Jada is kind of person that will accept that and itt not because he really cares about Will but because it would hurt her pride to let someone else encroach on her "territory". She has that kind of vibe.
I think that youtube is giving you a very false picture. There will be some like that. Most will be quite normal people.
No way! Strong independent women like Jada don't need permission from any men.
Btw, I think we have different view about 'high value men' definition. Imho, a good and strong men who fear God, has moral, values, loyalty, and honor is the real 'high value men'.
@@aubreysong That’s a High Values man. And amen to that
I feel bad for every human that gets cheated on rich or poor ugly or great looking
It´s just a tragedy for everyone
"Money makes you more of you really are"-Agreed
Money revealed who you really are.
I'm not a "high value male", but my girl values me highly and I value her highly. I think I prefer it this way, I'm finally in a healthy relationship and I can trust her. So, looking at it like that, I don't want to be a "high value male"
sounds like a simp..yikes.
That’s literally all you need to be honest. Follow your own doctrine and you will win
She's cheating on you right now
Sounds like you won in life Dennis.
A lot of women like the sound of a "high value man", but in reality that's not what most women want.
That’s what happens when you base your relationships solely on transaction - you end up purchasing a product.
Bars.
Every relationship is transactional. Literally.
What ur just gonna talk and talk? Is that how u think it goes😅
@@Eking-su3tr there’s a difference between reciprocity and transaction.
TinA Turner passed away today and I was listening to simply the best. Gotta say I miss love songs and real artists. Real intimacy, real emotion, not just calculated high value BS.
Tina Turner who got away from Ike who beat the shit out of her and when she wanted to leave told her that he wanted to own everything they had done and she said fine as long as she got to keep the name and well...."what's love got to do, got to do with it? Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?"
tina is most likely in hell because she sold her soul to the devil. you dont get to be the best just based on your talent. but this is something most of you dont even know. just search it up: selling your soul for fame money and status. all the information is right here on youtube lol
She was right about the traumatised comment too. My ex went through some shit.
Her definition of a relationship was spending all of your time together and purely focusing on her.
They often genuinely want you to be an open neverending tap of passion and intimacy.
It was exhausting!
females are looking for entertainment, because they're children, and you must play the clown
yeah and I bet if anything involved you, they would probably gaslight you into thinking you are selfish and you never listen to their needs.. very one sided
You just describe my relationship with ex-boyfriend.
I feel the bigger issues is that men and women have weirdly began to flex cheating and there's been a horrible back and forth if who's worse when each side is wrong!
I think men cheat at 24% and women at 21% but the study says men’s number largely is the same since the 50s and women’s has grown significantly.
True, it's a cheating Olympics with both sides making excuses as to why it's okay for them to cheat but bad for others
Facts 💯
Watching divorce court you see couples always do this tit for tat cheating thing, it’s dumb and then both parties have the nerve to be mad at the other 🙄
"Youre just offended because you cant handle the truth" really came full circle
None of what she is saying is true thou😂. She basically saying if a guy is high value he’s choosing the “hot sexy girl”, but not realizing they kno she’s been passed around, n I wud argue he would date a Starbucks girl cus most importantly she’s not a hoe.
@@marcusgears1991 Do u think that those rich men actually know that they're woman is a hoe?
@@marcusgears1991 he would but he isn't, lmao. You're really in denial.
@@bambina5604 Exactly. They can but they don't go for the humble girls. Why would they?
These dudes are capping hard as hell
@@marcusgears1991thèse bxtches don’t get the point that high value men are high value because it’s hard to cheat on them. It is what makes them high value because all women want them😂
You guys are spot on! There is a book “The millionaire next door” talks about how most millionaires don’t flaunt their wealth. Highly recommend reading it.
On the topic of infidelity, here is some life advice for everyone. Most people end up with a partner with a very similar personality to their own.
If you’re the type to think you can get away with infidelity without getting caught, your partner is probably the same.
Be who you want to be with.
Because being a millionaire now means being upper middle class. I know several millionaires who are business owners and managers. The high cost of living in CA would guarantee bankruptcy for them if they spent their cash doing stupid shit like a lot of these social media types do. They're also far more concerned with the well being of their families, their kids educations, and their businesses to care about flaunting. However they do have some high value expenses here and there when it comes to hobbies for instance.
These are facts. The richest people I know look like basic people driving basic cars. One would pick up a penny on the ground & wore shoes until they had holes in the soles.
my college roommate started making six figures shortly out of school. He grew up lower middle class, worked hard, and didn't take risks. He says the best part about being a millionaire in his 20s is pretending not to be one. He buys, wears, and does all the same stuff as before, so only the real ones ever find out that he could live lavishly if he wanted to
In France is like this and this is why they didn't love Sarkozy very much.
omg that is so crazy. This was literally my first comment and then I started reading comments and see you talk of this too! You also should read the next one which is "The Millionaire Mind" which delves more into the psychology of what drives people and money. I talked about it my comment.
my ex husband used to cover rent and take me out on fancy dates every weekend and was paying my car insurance, etc. He was not emotionally there though. Him working all the time was fine because I knew he was paying for a lot of things; but it was his constant need to scroll through naked instagram models and flirt with women online, and get pictures from his female friends... that was so disrespectful and humiliating to me, I could not tolerate that no matter how much money you paid me.
Definitely he messed up
It's rare to find people with those values like Aba so cheers to that, I had the chance to live in both conditions (poor and rich) and I've always had a disgust for the "High Value Life". The only value in life is the relationship with yourself and your loved ones, the rest is plastic. I can't wait for the economy to crash and see these mfs realize that the real value in life is as simple as growing your own garden like I do.
Amen!
Dont worry, you dont have to wait long for the crash
I used to Sell fitness equipment in one of the richest neighborhood in the united states. I would google the guys who came in and bought from me after the sale and 90% of the time I couldn't tell that they were multi millionaires or billionaires. They were nice, respectful, and usually really appreciative of all my help and knowledge on what they needed. For reference we were building these people 50-100k gyms for their houses.
Name me 10 high valued men with stable marriages? Exactly! I hope people open their eyes about the things they see or listen to through these podcasts
Does rich always mean high value?
bro i.think you're thinking of celebrities when you mention high value. 99 percent of people in power, whichever way you wanna define power, are married. there's a limit to how high you can go in life being a single. we need all have weaknesses and need a partner to balance us out.
>Name me 10 high valued men with stable marriages?
1.Lebron James
2. Tom Hanks
3. Patrick Mahomes
4. Lionel Messi
5. David Beckham
6. Aaron Donald
7. George Clooney
8. Cristiano Ronaldo
9. Steph Curry
10. Shaquille O'Neal
Its mostly just used to describe men who make 100k a year. Are you saying you can't make 100k a year and have a nice marriage?
The term "high value" is kinda ridiculous anyway because I feel like people use it wrong, or I guess it depends on how you define it. Because I always thought "high value" means a man who's respectable and a good guy who knows how to treat a woman right and how to be a good partner. Not just some rich dude with an inflated ego. Of course these people are shallow and will attract their opposite sex counterpart.
“Every other city we go… every other video… no matter where I go, I see the same …” IYKYK 👌🏾
ive been saying what this lady's been saying for a long time. it doesnt even matter if youre rich or not, your selection process is COMPLETELY separate from your achievements in life and your level of success. you should always know what kind of man or woman would be the most loyal and most trustable and reliable despite your social standing in the world
I’ve been saying that since day one. Women who are okay with cheating cheat too. Women just don’t brag about it. They’ll cheat with the nice average guy that spoils her emotionally and spend their husbands money. That’s extremely common.
I agree but women definitely brag about cheating in this day and age
Why with an average guy?
@@clarkkent2005 An average man will do almost anything for an attractive woman, including listening to her complain about her cheating spouse. Once a man has money, many of them become jerks. 😂
Thank you Aba!! Some people just don’t care! Luxury is not everything! Having financial freedom with out flexing to everyone is the real flex!!
Hold up son shine. You can have luxury and still not show anybody. 😂😂😂 Warren Buffet is a prime example. He has the same home for nearly 50 years. But his flex is his Jet, or multiple jets. It’s okay to flex but if you flex to get a women then you asking for trouble
@@leonhenry4861 more or less of what I meant but okay 👍
@@belisebibi2399 somebody else made a comment, I’m sure I replied to that. As you’re a women I’m pretty sure I would not have called you son shine. But still glad we are on the same page!
When you choose people of not so strong character and morals and give them an excuse to behave poorly, guess what's gonna happen....
Man it makes it all the more wild seeing Pete Davidson being that gender flipped version of the chick that gets tossed around by rich dudes
It’s hilarious
Do you really think Pete is suffering dating desirable women?
Bruh Pete's having the time of his life
@@501Labsmusic not at all, dude is thriving, that's what I meant though, I don't imagine these girls getting tossed around by rich dudes are too unhappy either
@Ian Orchard I don't think they're unhappy right now .... but that realistically wont last forever ... there's a new 21 year old everyday.
I didn’t even think about how it was the other way around. You guys are so right that some of these high value men choose the type of women that is likely to cheat on them. Then, they complain and lump all women together in this category. However, I also think it depends on which type of high value men it is. I think it depends if it is a low key high value man versus a non-low key high value man.
Ding ding ding!!!!
Exactly, lots of multi millionaires and billionaires have high school sweet hearts or average women. And they are not attracted to the pin up women. It’s the flash ones you see who are insecure who end up getting cheated on. Ie Warren Buffet, Charlie Munger etc
What they're leaving out is the _time_ .
A lot of those high functioning men don't have the _time_ to be thoroughly searching for females who are high attractiveness and loyal (which the percent is already extremely _low_ to begin with)
So obviously they seek the low hanging fruit.
Nor do they have the time to mate guard their females
Those men are doing a lot, which takes time, time away from being able to monitor females bad behavior.
It's a time trade-off. 💊
They're not high value because thaty have no respect for themselves
Many of these dudes have subscribed to the idea that they can sleep with as many women as they want and still retain a loyal girl at home. Cheating on women, regardless of how much money you make, is going to make any woman jealous. Woman can be petty and vindictive when you cheat on them, as they should be. Guys think because they are “high value”, their girl won’t step out, but in reality they’ll probably just hide it better and try to end the relationship by extracting as much money and resources as they can before they leave.
Who actually believe that besides pick up artist
That's why as muslims we can marry upto 4 wives (if only we can provide them their rights equally)
So the dudes want what some women did or doing
Yeah you risk her going crazy and cutting your Pee pee off. 😂
That's what a lot of these high value men don't realize
Abba is a great example of being higher valor than high value
0:00- I'm sorry about the other video that was removed. I really wanted to see what that was about.
2:03- Can we go back to normalizing monogamy again, please? For the record, the people in Bible who did this polyamory bullshit was never meant to be encouraged. It was a warning to stay away from and not participate in. God was trying to save us from such dysfunctional dramas and heartbreaks. Why are people so damn hard-headed?🤦♀️ I wish I had Job's patience.
6:27- Not all of us have lisps, I'm sorry.
12:03- Aba, you not loving money is not bad actually it's a good thing and what God wants us to be.
"Whoever loves money never has enough; whoever loves wealth is never satisfied with their income. This too is meaningless."
Ecclesiastes 5:10 NIV
"People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy,"
2 Timothy 3:2 NIV
"For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs."
1 Timothy 6:10 NIV
"The Pharisees, who loved money, heard all this and were sneering at Jesus."
Luke 16:14 NIV
"They have left the straight way and wandered off to follow the way of Balaam son of Bezer, who loved the wages of wickedness."
2 Peter 2:15 NIV
"Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”
Hebrews 13:5 NIV
"not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money."
1 Timothy 3:3 NIV
12:09- Aba, you feeling uncomfortable when someone else is vain and obsessed with empty materials means your parents raised you right. It's called integrity, people need to learn how to have that like you.
17:03- Technically I do have an Instagram, but only for one reason. I was curious about you doing Instagram live conversations(I don't know if you guys still do that), I just wanted to listen in if you still had those. Other than that my Instagram is clean, no posts, or pictures. Hell, I use this same profile picture and alias I have here.
Ngl polyamory in the past was just practiced by wealthy people like kings, viscounts and shit to guarantee offspring, or multiple offspring, nowadays it just proves you cannot stay committed to a singular person.
Like tell me how many old polyamorous couples you know of? I bet barely anyone knows, or can tell us how many couples there are that started polyamory when they were 20-30, and stayed together untill they're old and wrinkly lol.
@@sirnunyabuiz6529 That was the point I was making about making monogamy normalized. I don't have to know anyone who is in that polyamory crap, but I know that there are prophets in the Bible who had multiple wives and it didn't well. And not all of them were rich.(David and Solomon are two examples in the Bible who indulged in adultery and polyamory.)And I disagree people CAN commit to one person if they actually tried and stop being a weak-willed, lustful whore with no self control and want to fuck anything that walks.
@@summerrose8110 No I know, that's what I said, polyamory is for the weak. Especially nowadays, since we don't live in the 1600s where it may have been required.
THANK YOUUU I was just having a argument about this. Bruh what do you expect, when YOU YOURSELF cheats, leaves her alone at the house, give her all these gifts, and the surround her around equally attractive or even more men who work for you as the pool boy or driver. THEYRE GONNA CHEAT WITH PASSION AND ROMANCE 😂😂😂😭😭😭
😂😂😂
exactly
Lol yall watch too many movies, in real life the pool boy or the driver is never some tall handsome muscular chad with a 6 pack. The pool boy is usually some fat immigrant an the driver is usually some old dude.
@@bendover3653 for sure but they’re are some places LIKE MYRTLE BEACH, SC specifically where the only pool boys, lawn care, and pretty much any high class house maintenance employee are the college guys or frat guys like myself or sorority girls and they’re specifically hired for that reason. My friend used to get paid to hand out lawn care flyers shirtless and another would hand them out on the beach in bikinis, it attracts customers. Hell I used to turn down all types of couples and middle aged women wanting to cheat on their husbands on vacation when I worked at a luxury hotel. You’ll be surprised how many people AND SOME OF YALL PARENTS are complete freaks when they go on vacation. Like some real sexually deprived shit.
@@bendover3653 social media exists, they’ll talk to some other man
As a man with a lisp, if i ever met a librarian with a lisp, the thex we would have would be legendary
😂😂
This is honestly something I wish I learned years ago. 🤦♂️
Thank you for sharing this with the community guys!👏👏👏
I'm red pilled, but that whole alpha beta shit just rubs me the wrong way. I quit dating, I work hard everyday, go to the gym and don't proclaim myself a "high value man" but knowing myself, I'm definitely a valuable man. I think I got cheated on maybe once but I can't really confirm it. This world is so sick and narcissistic I literally just want to earn my money, get my fitness up and don't bother with anything else.
You're not wrong. It feels like everybody's obsessed with how they LOOK to other people, or if they have worth in the eyes of others. Does it really matter if you're a "high value man/woman" if you're bitter, mean, and miserable on the inside? Or if you only ever look out for yourself without _truly_ caring for your friends/family/community?
You're on the right track bro, just keep leveling up and surround yourself with good people who aren't materialistic but have their shit together and value community like a brotherhood or family, not those who like being the stars of their own movie lol
What they're leaving out is the _time_ .
A lot of those high functioning men don't have the _time_ to be thoroughly searching for females who are high attractiveness and loyal (which the percent is already extremely _low_ to begin with)
So obviously they seek the low hanging fruit.
Nor do they have the time to mate guard their females
Those men are doing a lot, which takes time, time away from being able to monitor females bad behavior.
It's a time trade-off. 💊
“He steps out”
It’s called ‘cheats’, ‘adultery’. If you can’t even name it for what it is that says a lot.
It's an entanglement
Toxic women force men to cheat by withholding sex for months/years, while expecting him to be loyal. She tortures him by forcing him to be celibate like a monk. That's like a man who stops paying the bills and buying food, but saying she's not allowed to get food anywhere else. Would you blame her for getting food elsewhere because she is starving, or would you call him an abuser?
I stand by my statement that if I come into money, I'm either staying out of dating or keeping it lowkey until I find someone I want to settle down with. Too many cases of girls just wanting a guy with money for financial security for me to do anything else. Looking for someone who got my back not someone trying to use me. Money helps you get laid, not loyalty.
Man, I'm glad that my girl doesnt care about fancy shit. She's very honest. Spoke to my girl about what car she'd like, and she straight up told me that she doesn't care, so long as it gets to where she's going. Taco trucks before fancy dine-ins. Walmart before Botique.
Got a keeper😊
Doesn't matter who you are, anyone can get cheated on and everyone is cable of cheating.
Is true that you better say "never say never" but when it comes to cheating for some many planets must align for that to happen and for others is as "natural" as breathing
If you're in a tractional one and not a genuine relationship, the chances are obviously much higher for a woman willing to cheat
yeah that’s true. however you want a genuine relationship and want it to actually last then you ain’t gonna find that in the “high value” world. come down to reality with middle class people. a whole lot happier with there relationships in life
@@michaelangst6078Most relationships are purely transactional
"I got hoes in different area codes"
Nah bro, *YOU* the hoes 😂
😂😂😂
Lol, this is the best comment
as man I wouldn't mind being a Hoe that's a badge of honor my dear sir.
Aba sounded more like a psychologist than the actual psychologist. Men of pure wisdom!
No he doesn’t he contradicts himself too much
It's common sense
@@Karina_Borz how?? What did he say that was contradictory
@matthew7369 same.
@Matthew They actually quite do, they were wrong with Fresh n Fit twice and never admitted to it? Comedians are not experts people
Agreed! When men are obsessed with looks they don’t even look any deeper than looks! Looks don’t suggest they make a good mother, partner or wife. Majority of people grow out of it tho in time. When you get burnt many times - people should become wiser
Str8 up!
great comment, ma'am.
it took me getting my heartbroken to finally realize all of this.
If i ever make it big with my books and animation I'll be doing the same thing I do today. Reading, writing and talking to the people I care about. The flashy life is unnecessary.
Books and animation? I do the same thing as well! Good luck to you!
Same! I probably won't, but if I ever do get published and my stories become decently known, I'll keep living my life as I am now 🙏🏿
I mean it comes with the territory. When you choose based off of looks alone man or woman you're most likely gambling with that persons character. Women who are very attractive usually have the same attitude as a man with lots of money to them everyone is disposable cause they can "get" whoever they want
Adultery is one of the things most talked about as the highest form of sin in the Bible. Now im not a super religious person but shit like that is where I feel like theres a very clear line and i dont like how the psychologist says theres nothing wrong with “stepping out” once a financial base is covered
HAIL SATAN!
@@CEWIII9873 Hope you find the peace that your soul is crying out for
@@TT-ee1vv I did find the "peace" my "soul" was "crying out for..."
Through Satan.
HAIL SATAN!
You say your not religious, but do you even know what you’re saying? Where in the Bible is religion not works?
@@PrayingMoth the only testament which matters:
The new one
I’m a girl and I can’t imagine being with someone solely for money. I’m also not a materialistic person so if I see someone try to impress me with a nice car, sure I’ll think their car is so cool but that’s as far as it gets. It doesn’t suddenly make me attracted to you any more than before. I’m genuinely only capable of dating people I feel a connection with.
So you are claiming with certainty that if a guy has an expensive car and is wealthy overall, does not contribute in any way to what you're describing as 'feeling a connection' with that someone?
@@liquidgod5606 I don’t believe what she’s saying but at the same time I do when she says she won’t be with a guy because of his money. Let me explain.
She won’t be with a dude who only lead and make experiences with his money because that make her feel easy, and women hates being easy even if the guy is the most attractive man in the world, a guy like that have to jump through hoops to alleviate the stress of feeling she’s too easy to have him.
@@easylife6348or she can't be with people she don't feel attracted to? Being rich doesn't automatically make you attractive...you can ve rich and still ugly, simple minded, boring and awful lol
Honestly, relationships just feel horrible now.
I feel like people are getting more and more selfish, unloyal and unlocing. Men AND women.
Everyone's on the look out for something a little better. No one commits and actually commits to it. They commit, for now.
Just in america
@Fettiger Edgar I'm in the UK. It feels pretty similar here, too. It did in Sweden as well.
@@Braddockggb the same is the case here in India. Which is following in the footsteps of the USA. Women are becoming more and more open in a bad way and narcissistic and men are resentful and misogynistic.
It is tough, but there are plenty of serious people out there. Probably harder in certain parts of the world. The problem is people have become so obsessed with image on social media that they forgot what actually matters in a relationship.. And looks is hardly in the top 3.
Nah, it's just the content you're watching which is based off of what those guys view as a "high value lifestyle," which is often featuring a rich man who marries a woman for superficial reasons and vice versa. The truth is that the further down the line you go in terms of finances and lifestyle until you're in the area of middle class, the more real, loving and loyal relationships become. Cheating on your partner because you have so many options isn't a common occurance for average people. The VAST majority of normal people find a person, date, get married, have kids and live a good life. If this stuff makes you depressed, stop watching it. It's not true anyways, and you can walk outside right now and everyone is having fun, laughing and at peace no matter their race or gender. The redpill conspiracy is a fantasy... don't let it suck you in.
A rich man is like a beautiful woman, you never know who really loves you and isn’t just using u for their own benefits. So rich men don’t typically get loyal women cause most women want they for their resources
Agreed . Whenever a woman feels she isn’t getting enough attention, she will seek it elsewhere.
Whenever a woman isn't getting enough of *whatever she wants*, she'll seek it elsewhere. 😂
@@djangomarine6658 yep, that's right, is there a problem with that?
@@davidsolimene5367 no ,it means that you either give her what she wants, or else someone else wiill 🙃
@@davidsolimene5367 because that's his job
And if he wants to keep her and doesn't want to find out that his kid was the gardeners all along he better come correct 🙃
For the later section of this video:
I barely scraped the six figure ceiling last year and nobody knows it. I'm 5'1" and weigh 100 lbs, wear a sweater with small stains, shoes with holes in them, drive a modest 2016 civic and I'm basically invisible. It was only when I started talking to some older guys about investment strategies, that I realized I was brushing shoulders with millionaires without realizing it. There are MANY people who keep a low profile and you only realize it when you break into that level and start speaking the same language
A big thing this video left out was the high value men and women who got together when they were poor or way less well off. Those are the relationships with money that last. If they’re together when they’re at their lowest, they are more likely to stick together at their best.
Sounds like my husband and me. We just...no, he just started making 6 figures. 14 years of being super broke. LoL. I hope we last. I love him a lot.
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I 100% agree
Not really, have you never heard about 'middle age crisis' thing? There's a lot of men who leave their wive to a youngest and hotter women when he got money and status simply because he has more option now.
In a worst case, a men like Chris Watts do exist. The guy don't even want to filed divorce and paying child support, he simply want to start a new life with his mistress so he get rid his pregnant wife, unborn son, and his two daughters.
That's why there's a saying in my country, a men could test a women's character when he has nothing, and women could test a men's character when he has everything.
Again one too many times, she's conflating sexual partners with marriage partners, and it's even more embarrassing for a 'dating coach' to have such a bad take to the point that it makes her no different from being a regular side chick.
If a high value man gets cheated on, the loss is on her, not the man, on to the next coz he ain't wifing up that hoe after all. And she fully believes that a promiscuous woman could replace a top 1-10% high value man when there are 9 times more of HER around to run through than there are more of HIM. That female delusion never goes away, PERIOD.
I do agree with the sentiment, money doesn't change people, it just gives them more freedom to be who they already are.
That's why I think it's important to really learn about yourself, develop a philosophy for life that works for you, and find good people who you know will stay good to you in a wide range of different scenarios.
In context of relationships and marriage, the vows say for rich or for poor, so make sure you're with someone you could be happy with at both points.
People can act worse when they're at their lowest, because they can become desperate and stressed and we all know that, but people can also be at their peak and they'll have unresolved issues exacerbated because they're much more free than they've ever been before, so if they've never looked at those darker aspects of themselves, it can control them, and they're less likely to view it as an issue because it seems like small problems when you're sitting on top of the world.
Stay grounded, stay honest.
I’ll pick a woman whose presence is more calming then my solitude.
I don’t care if she’s works at Starbucks, it’s a job, we have to survive. She a good person, overall, and she wants to enjoy this thing called life together.
Yessir! My parents are Roman Catholic and approaching 30 years. They have a relationship that these red pill types espouse I guess from the outside. However, the secret is the most obvious. There was never any silence and I saw them apologize to each other and fix snippiness and resentments ASAP growing up, neither me nor my brother have seen them even yell at each other. It's not religion or lifestyle that makes the relationship, it's the mutual effort and willingness to build and grow together.
It’s that simple and people try to make it complicated
a constant person to enjoy and build a life with, such blessing in this life 🙂❤
You'll pick? U can't pick
Ur speaking in hypotheticals for a reason. U have no options to pick from and u know it. You're gonna settle for whatever u get. Cut it out bruh
@@blanchegreco7201 well it isn't. The average man can't chose from the sheer fact of they don't have the options to. Those men can chose. The regular guy can't.
You're supposed push urself to the best version of urself to get those options, but ppl really think if im comfortable being average the right woman will suddenly appear. Its just delusional
I despise comfort and luxury, not because I can't access it, but because I understand how weak comfort makes you.
Ive always said this...while the man is cheating with the mistress..the wife has the young pool boy and the handy man at home.
Being simple and having a simple lifestyle is so nice and peaceful, I wouldn’t want it any other way. ☺️
@@CEWIII9873 I mean yes I'm a student...but even when I can "afford" a more lavish lifestyle, I will still choose not to lol. Some people just don't like the fancy lifestyle, shocking ik.
People who identify as "High value" tend to be the kind of person to believe they're entitled to others' attraction, commitment etc based on how much money they have, what car they drive, their job, their physique etc. rather than their character - which even then, wouldn't equate to an entitlement. Rather their character tends to involve a hell of a lot of narcissitic traits and tendencies. To anyone who's secure in themselves, it's not attractive, and the relationship is unfulfilling - so no shit, they meet someone who actually meets their relational emotional needs - but also benefit hugely from the "high value" person's status and/or wealth - they're going to cheat. Not saying it's right - it is what it is. A more secure person would end the relationship and move on, but in a socio-economic environment like Dubai? Can't really blame them.
I might be an idiot but I lowkey had a stroke reading your last 3-4 sentences😂