If you're being abused, please, please, please call the crisis line in your area. You need help and resources to leave safely. Remember that these animals don't think like you do and don't have the same boundaries as normal people. Stay safe out there.
You’re not being “abused.” You should stop stirring up trouble and will only escalate the situation by getting authorities involved. Handle your own problems like an adult.
A cover is literally an illustration representing the very book in which it covers. So I agree 100%. The cover is definitely a visual to what's inside the book. There is no way around it.
I like how the narrator pointed out how he only was abusive to women and not men bc he woulda got his butt whipped. If he could abuse his own mum, you know he's a monster. Poor Ashley didn't have a clue what she was walking into. How awful. Rip Ashley
This just kept getting sadder and sadder. Makes my heart really ache. She must have been so scared and isolated and confused. Every little part just kept getting worse. She dismissed a lot of red flags because she didn't know and she was young. Everyone must have been terrified. He actually looks like a fucking demon like he does not look human.
It is so sad... Kind souls are trusting and forgiving, and it is beautiful but unfortunately, horrible people like this man exist... I was thinking the same about his picture, he looks scary... He is no Human anyway, just a Monster..
I think she knew, I just think she thought she could save him. I mean, she knows he shouldn't be hitting her and that it was not acceptable. It just didn't apply to her situation.
Not in today's society. There is so much stuff out there on abuse that there is no way she didn't know. I just wish her parents had gone over there and just showed up at his house. She didn't have to go with him, but at least they could have tired. It is quite possible the moment she saw them she would have wanted to go.
@@Sncedayone so you would have no problem eating a cat or dog? When I was younger my mom raised pigs with my stepdad who btw was an a hole! They made the mistake of naming them bc one day we were eating breakfast & he asked how Norman tasted! Couldn’t eat bacon ham etc for years after.
@@jordan1613 Firstly, rude. Secondly, in the UK, when prisoners get a life sentence, they can get parole after serving the minimum sentence (in this case, 23 years). So, he could well be released. In which case, he will absolutely still be a huge risk to women. It's only people who get a 'whole life sentence' that are never released. And there are only around 70 prisoners in the UK who have received this.
@@jordan1613have you no class? Who calls someone slow? Also, do some research. A life sentence in the UK isn’t for his whole life, that’s a “whole life order”. So he will most likely get out.
Hey, I happen to like Sid, he was nothing like this filth. More like Quasimodo btw. Apart from the hunchback. But same frog face with bulging eyes that don't seem to line up properly.
Such unusual facial features are indicative of foetal alcohol syndrome. His mother probably drank too much while she was pregnant. There are precise features that give it way, eyes too far apart, flat midface, thin upper lip, a smooth Cupid’s bow, a small head which (makes the face look big), and a smooth nose bridge. These features vary from person to person and the entire face may not be fully impacted, but the face looks odd/unusual and you struggle for the right words to describe how a person like that looks because it’s not obvious like say Down’s syndrome, but instinctively still know there’s something odd about it. You just can’t pin point what it is. But after you’ve seen a lot of people with it you can pick it from a mile away.
Ashley was the unfortunate victim of Limerence 😢 as well as falling for a psycho's mirroring of her, which psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists use to get you to fall in love with them, but it's pretty much you falling in love with _yourself._ I went through this with my first husband. It's very strange and twists up your brain...then you spend the rest of the relationship trying to get them back to "the person I met in the beginning." But that person in the beginning was never actually real! They don't exist! It was all a farce in order to trap you within the abuse cycle. RIP sweet Ashley. You didn't deserve this. To her family, I'm so sorry for your loss. 😢
She was a child with an incredibly weak support system. The average 11 year old would have behaved the same way, however they wouldn't typically have their parents send them off to be abused/killed. He groomed her electronically for a decade, and not one adult stepped in. Not a single one.
That happened to me, too. I was in my late thirties, but happy enough single, not desperate, and would never have considered him had he not convinced me of his true love and devotion. Plus, he seemed to share ALL of my interests! He was very intense. I finally decided that this was an opportunity for happiness that I shouldn't ignore. I can't believe how naive I was! That man evaporated after the wedding, and the belittling commenced. It was downhill from there. Never again!
Although possible there is no evidence of either. Limerence would require an intense study of their relationship. There are signs there, but you can't truly know from a video. LImerence is not something someone else causes. FOr example, his behavior would not have caused her Limerence. Also, there is zero information from the video that would indicate mirroring is going on. Your explanation of the effects of mirroring are inaccurate as well. I think you may be projecting your own experiences onto the situation when they really probably don't match up.
@@alabama.worley So it is not the killers fault, it is the family's. They did not send her off to be abused. She wanted to go, she was an adult, they trusted her and most importantly, they could not stopped her if they wanted to. Plus if you have children especially daughters, if they would have stepped in, she still would have contacted him, she just would have been more sneaky about it.
Yes. I don’t understand why you would just sit back and hope for the best. I would have been on the first flight there. Her parents failed to prepare her for the world because they were failed adults themselves. It’s bizarre. It’s as if Ashley were a child and lacked common sense.
The way men treat their mothers is a great indicator of how they would treat their partners. I couldn't ever imagine pitting my hands on my mother, or anyone really.
I literally just made the same comment! If dude has no problem putting hands on his mom, the woman who gave birth to him, what fucking chance does a girlfriend have?!?
Glad to hear police will try to do better. 8 previous instances where he was convicted of domestic violence (including against his OWN mother), yet he was allowed to walk the streets.. the system failed yet another young, beautiful, and intelligent soul.
@@Derek-ve2wbThis story is about domestic violence specifically against women. If you are being abused, get help. If you are just complaining, do it on a story about a male being abused. Don’t expect women not to comment on a criminal justice system that has treated us like property for most of the history of the world. You couldn’t possibly understand that.
Her parents hold responsibility, not as much as this psycho, but still, this is crazy to let your daughter go meet somebody that looks like that! Hope he rots and torment in jail.
@@Da_Love74In some countries you will not get a vack ground check on anyone unless if you are a police offiser. And even then is very strict and they can only do this when is about work not random people. I dont know how it is in the UK though. The parents could not stop her for travling she is an adult.
I moved to England to be with a boyfriend that I had met while he was in holiday in the states. We kept in contact and saw each other a couple more times before I actually moved there. So I felt like I knew him. We were head over heels in love but I didn't know anything about him or his past other than what he told me. It turned into a nightmare. Too much to go into detail but there was abuse and controlling behavior. I finally left after 6 months and ended up staying for a couple years. But it was very scary being in that situation, so far from home knowing no one. I could of disappeared and it would of been weeks or months before it would of been discovered. Very sad what happened this sweet girl. This should be tale to really know who you're dealing with.
In my opinion, the most egregious misconception is a person giving trust and credit to someone as if they've actually known them for the length of their online communications. In reality, they actually meet the real person the very first day they meet in person. Whike doing so dropping their gaurd and ignoring glaring red flags. She didn't know this monster at all. She couldn't be sure he's even the person online.
Well, it's pretty easy to confirm you're talking to the person being depicted online by video chatting regularly. The people who get catfished for 10 years are the ones who believe _"my camera is broken"_ for 10 years. What she should've done was a background check. It would've been pretty difficult for him to talk his way out of that many years of physical abuse towards women. I would hope, anyway.
There’s certainly ways of verifying and experiencing whether it’s by several different angles or meta-analysis of a repeat type of communication. People with any lengthy online communication in the last 15 years had to pass more tests than meeting someone at a bar. Someone’s digital footprint is far more damning than a handful of f2f meetings. A manipulative nutter will be that in person easier than online depending how savvy they are. Plenty of real exposures of folk that aren’t within our physical proximity not to mention the vast majority of online relationships that meet do not end up in anything close to this noise. It doesn’t mean be naive about it but it also doesn’t mean we can narrate the entire concept based upon extremes and apply it to all. Between Jack and the neighbor and whatever Ashley’s overall deal was - a lot of terrible things happened that didn’t have to do with online deception anymore. I can’t understand why the police weren’t involved far sooner and it’s tragic but there were a lot of faults here far beyond online subterfuge.
True but this still happens to people who meet in person. It's easy for someone to hide their true selves, unfortunately it's not always possible to see. The key is that if you're ever with someone who becomes violent towards you, you MUST come up with an escape plan and follow through.
I don't think that's normally the case- you're looking at one very extreme case and acting like it's the general rule- when it's clearly the exception. There are hundreds of thousands if not millions of ppl who have had normal relationships that started online- some lasted, some didn't- but there was no violence or anything. I would bet if you looked at the numbers-you're no more apt to meet a violent freak this way than you are meeting ppl the traditional way- at a bar or something. Besides, yes the internet has made it easier for ppl to meet like this- but it's also made it much easier to check someone out and find out who they are before meeting them.
Facts I agree I don't care how long you've been talking online or FaceTiming the very first time you meet someone in person is the real time your meeting them because everything before that is just like your best self forward and it can be a lot of bullshit probably is
I live 20 minutes away from Vernon, Ashley’s hometown. My heart just tore open when I heard the news. I met my hubby online in 1996, and I got very lucky and have been married 27 years now. I wish Ashley had the chance to achieve every dream she had. Also, am I correct in that she was 19 and had been talking online with an older guy for TEN years? Since she was NINE!?!?
It’s so horrifying what this young woman went through, how dare he write to Ashley’s family, monster ! 😢 My heart goes out to her family, absolutely heartbreaking 💔
I too was in a relationship in which I didn't know my partner had an extensive criminal record. He lied about the charges I did know about. I was around Ashley's age, just a bit older. These monsters are so charismatic and kind to trap you. Always always always run a background check on potential partners. Rest in peace, beautiful girl.
Same happened to me. It wasn't until I was divorcing my ex that I learned about his extensive criminal background, including burglary, embezzlement, domestic violence, and drunk driving. Him and his entire family kept those secrets very well hidden.
Running a background can only do you so good. You can run into two issues. The first issue you can run into is that someone could have already had a charge sealed which won't allow you to see it when you look up their record. The second problem is plenty of people get charged for things and not convicted. If you see a charge that did not lead to a conviction are you going to treat it as a conviction?
I saw this story before and I can't handle seeing it again. The sister saw the abuse while she was there and I just didn't understand how they did not take an emergency flight to go get her. ; /
That or the parents coming immediately when she told the family he hit her. I was also wondering why the friends from church didn’t come immediately when she messaged begging for help. They received another message hours later, and still waited until the afternoon to check.
Do you think she would have gone with them if they showed up? Do you think she thought it probably would make things worse for her. They could fly over, but she made it clear, she was not going anywhere.
When my son was a child, I did many things he protested loudly about: reaching for a hot element on the stove, etc. I would stop him. If my 14-year old daughter was in contact with an older man online, I would have stopped it right away. I would have let her hate me, sulk and act out. She would have got over it. And she would alive today. I dislike blaming people but the young girl’s online activity should have been monitored by her parents. She was young and naive and inexperienced.
Bro no hindsight doesn’t even matter and all of the signs were there. He’s a horrible person and a disgrace to this earth but come on she had a chance to turn around. Im 18 yrs old and Id would never travel thousands of miles for a person i never knew.
@@mrlobsterrsalt5996 Manipulation isn’t just face to face. You can be manipulated in many different ways including in texts, phone calls and face calls. It’s basic knowledge.
Dude she had her idea of love warped by this asshat for 8 years, from the time she was a CHILD. Can you imagine how confusing and scary it must have been for her, in a different country, away from any support she truly had, and with her only concept of a partner now threatening her life? It would be so great if she could have taken the opportunities to leave. But have a little empathy for the poor girl. She wasn't trying to save face, she was literally being abused.
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Exactly right! If that had been my daughter, as soon as I started feeling something isn't right, such as her not contacting me as usual, I would have taken the earliest possible flight to go convince her to come home now. And I would NOT take no for an answer.
As a survivor of DV myself... If you are reading this and are in a DV situation, PLEEEEEASE create a secret plan and get out. I RARELY gets better. DO NOT SAY YOU ARE LEAVING!!! (please) ♥️🙏🏻♥️
Sounds like good advice. Would you say staying in public places and around civilization gets an abused victim to think more clearly? Because it seems to me, the abuser can get into their mind and make them forget that there are many more secure options out there in the world. I also ask because most of them are cowardly abusers and lose a majority of their power out in public, so I think even just being out there, with or without the abuser, involves the victim in the right thoughts about the safety they deserve.
@@bentonrp Honestly, it truly depends on the victim, how long they've been being abused and _how_ they are being abused (mentally, physically, sexually, financially, etc). I was in public a lot and even around friends and family and although there were only 4 times of physical abuse, the mental head-games were crazy. The way a true narcissist or sociopath thinks is scary. I always tell people to educate themselves about the cycle. Once somebody understands that, it can help a victims friend understand what's going on better. I'm sorry if I couldn't fully answer your questions. Every situation is different, and the best thing to do, if somebody you love or care about is "stuck," is to try to talk with them privately (BUT NOT VIA TEXTING- you never know if their abuser is the one with the phone, or has access to the phone with a mirroring app or will look at it later). Conversations really need to be in person, with their cell left some place else so it cannot record anything. I know this sounds insane, but after getting out myself, I've seen/heard some truly scary stories of stalking. I would say now, that it's better to be extra cautious, in order to protect them. Lastly, remember that abuse can be similarly to addiction, where the victim isn't going to leave until they are ready (not that it's like an actual drug). It sucks... I've seen that personally with people, but it's true. If they don't choose to leave yet, let them know you're there for them when they do, try to not give them an ultimatum because they usually hear that often, and tell them you truly just want what they deserve and what's best for them... and for them to be safe. Sorry for such a long post. Take Care!
Even at his best, he looks like a drop-kick. It's so tragic, but how on earth could she be so obsessively determined to ignore red flags? They say she was intelligent but she did not make ONE intelligent choice. Not ONE.
Yeah I love how they always call these victims bright or intelligent but then everything about them suggests otherwise. Oh she's a mormon? And now she's flying half way across the world to live with a guy with face tattoos? She seemed to have plenty of friends over there, and places to go, but kept going back to him anyway. I would have to nominate her for a Darwin Award.
I know hindsight is 20/20. If someone (who is an adult) travels overseas to meet someone for the first time please have your own lodging , at least that way you have a way out. It could have saved her life, especially when she left to the neighbors, not once but twice. I understand she's been there for months at that point but she could've seen early warning signs that this was not what she expected.
Could have seen? She must have felt them as the autopsy identified multiple bruises and injuries that go back weeks. It's like Ashley had a death wish. Her parents and her neighbourly friend were about as much use as a marshmallow hammer.
Love your channel! I consume an embarrassing amount of true-crime, mostly on UA-cam; but I really like how you produce & edit your content. You & EWU crew do a great job!
No victim is ever at fault for their death, but--parents, remember that you NEED to teach your children to recognize red flags. Doesn't matter if it's pleasant to talk about or if the bible doesn't specifically say you can do so, it matters to keep them alive. The submissiveness and indiscriminate forgiveness religious girls are socialized with leaves them so vulnerable to terrible abuse. They MUST feel free to leave abuse and call police for safe assistance out of that situation. They MUST be encouraged to protect themselves. This is the alternative. At best, the victim leaves their abuser in blind emotion under extreme duress, and that is when the victim is most vulnerable to murder by their abusive partner.
This is why I'm glad my mom physically helped me get away when he went too work until he found me n tried too run me over lmfao just got worse from there. Even with bail conditions too stay away he kept stalking and trying. He's literally fucking insane but luckily my mom n I started driving around with a metal bat. Never messed with me again plus he did less then a year for nearly leaving me brain dead by strangulation.
Not all parents know this things. Mine are not even not emotinal developed. They did not learn that as my dads parents was abusive. My mums parents where alcoholics. So I think many parents does nor know the signs. My dad is very naive when it comes to people. My mum is the other way especally after she start to watch true crime😅 But yeah parents should learn the kids to recognise bad behaviour. But I dont think all parents really know what red flags is. But now is more easy to find information about this things as long as they have acces to use internet.
Let me just clear this up. FYI even if you’re under age and it’s a relationship on the computer that still is illegal just because it’s on the computer doesn’t mean it’s not grooming
Let me clear this up for you. No, it is not illegal. Not in the least. You can talk and chat all you want to. It is really odd for you to think differently.
This story is so eerie to me, I’ve lived half of this. I knew my online best friend for 9.5 years before I finally flew across the world to meet him. Thankfully my mother wouldn’t let me go alone😂 but, he ended up being the nicest person ever. He took such good care of me. I wish Ashley could have seen her future and left at the first offense💔 this is so heartbreaking.
It's the violence... he had her so scared to do anything. I'm sure she recognized the trouble she'd gotten into, but when you're terrified of someone, you're afraid to make them mad by leaving the situation...
@@lizadoesraywhat wasn't mentioned in this video is that Ashley's family had ONE computer between them to share, and her mother monitored her online chats. Once Ashley got herself a job however, she bought herself a smartphone which as we all know is impossible to monitor ❤
@@lizadoesrayshe wasn’t protected by herself. No one ever deserves anything like what happened or even 1/10th of this. But if you keep making excuses and going back to a rabid dog who keeps biting you. It’s partly your fault
Not this monster, i watched a video on him last night, ive seen one prior to that also. What a EVIL COWARD THIS SO CALLED SAD EXCUSE IF A MAN IS. He looked as if he had black eyes all the time. RIP ASHLEY 🙏🕊️
Once again I cannot understand how a parent willingly knowing that their daughter was being beaten and staying with the same person who hurt her, don’t do ANYTHING to protect or even fly over and get their daughter I don’t care the age she was in Adult or not! I love my children and I would never give another chance to a person who has abused my child a second chance to do so! Parents need to do better! This was preventable! I cannot understand it!
Even if she didnt leave then i would stay over their and visit as much as i can and get any resources i can. I could never hear my baby telling me that hes beating me mom and not go over their once. I mean im sorry but getting them physically away from their abuser for even a couple hours can change a lot. As someone who grew up with my mom being abused and going thru it muself and living with women in domestic violence shelters. Having a support system physically their in your presence helps not be sucked back into their grasps. She had no clue what she was dealing with clearly by telling him she was leaving. Luckily with my mom she never told my father when we escaped shed always wait until he passed out drunk then sneak us out the back of the house. I have 2 daughters and i wouldng care if i was homeless outside i wouldnt leave without either one of them. Im not blaming them but parents we can influence and change things uo even with our kids being adults.
I agree her parents failed her, I wouldn’t let my daughter go to another country for that amount of time at that age to meet a boy she met on the internet… that’s just crazy to me
You don’t understand because it’s not your life! It’s easy to say what you would do when you know how the story ends. You can’t force someone to leave and there was a pandemic. Imagine how the parents feel. Actually don’t imagine that. They don’t need someone so perfect in decision making analyzing them. Smh
@@daviddesantis4040 I agree with you! These people are so freaking dumb thinking they could actually MAKE their ADULT daughter do anything! You cannot, no matter how much you may want to, make an adult board a PLANE when she doesn't want to go! Period, end of! These people are blaming the parents like it's their fault when the blame belongs only on the pos who killed her. All Ashley needed to do was say, "no mom and dad, I'm not going with you." It is easier to blame the parents when you have hindsight, but not everyone is afforded that opportunity.
As an American, and a world traveler, if you ever get in trouble in a foreign country go to the nearest hotel, or a 5 star hotel, they will always speak English, and frequently deal with situations like this. They will also have the capacity to use all kinds of credit cards, and more likely to be able to arrange payment via foreign bank accounts
Excellent advice. You can also go to your country's embassy for safe haven. This was the advice I was given once when in a foreign country. I didn't end up having to go there, but I was assured that any citizen of a foreign country will always be helped at the embassy.
I told this to my older kids. I’m gonna tell it to y’all.. As soon as you feel like mutual feelings are occurring, you background check them. This is extremely important. People LIE. Just a quick search can save you a lot of trouble. Possibly your life. As you get older, it becomes more important to do this. If you have children, do not miss this step. Rest in peace sweetheart I’m so sorry this happened to you 😔 Everyone, be well. Be smart.
He has the coldest eyes, even in photos of them smiling. Poor Ashley, she probably felt embarrassed/ashamed to call the police. Bless her heart. She was such an intelligent and clever young woman and no doubt, would have gone on to do great things with her life. So sad she got involved with a deadbeat like him. Rest in peace Ashley💖
This is brilliant. The empathy you show the victims is unparalleled. Thank you for offering reasons why someone in her situation might keep returning to the flat.
I was married a year and a half to an abusive alcoholic. I’m sure I wouldn’t have survived if I had stayed. Met a wonderful man and was married 37 years until his death.
I find it **extraordinarily** difficult to believe that Ashley’s parents--**even IF they “approved” of their daughter’s flying 4500 miles across the Atlantic Ocean *and* most of Canada to meet an individual about whom they knew ABSOLUTELY NOTHING in the UK--I just *can’t* accept that ADULT, RESPONSIBLE, LOVING, CARING, and *PROTECTIVE* parents would NOT HAVE **SERIOUSLY** WARNED THEIR DAUGHTER ABOUT HOW ***UNADULTERATEDLY STUPID AND FOOLISH*** it was to ARRANGE TO STAY IN A SMALL, ONE BDRM FLAT FAR IN THE OUTSKIRTS OF LONDON **WITH A TOTAL STRANGER WHO WAS MALE AND OLDER THAN SHE**!!!!!!!!! You can try to sugarcoat it all you want: they were guilty of dereliction of their duties as parents. Did they help *pay* for the plane tickets to and from Britain? If so, they could have used that leverage to AT THE VERY LEAST insist Ashley stay in a safe, secure, and modern hotel.
This is 😢. She was a beautiful soul. He chipped away at everything she was, and then he snuffed her out. He is a horrible monster, and he should never ever get out.
I flew to a different country for a person I met online like a decade ago. Thankfully he was a great person - we're not together anymore though - so I thankfully had a good experience. But, looking back at it, I have no idea what I was thinking. I don't regret getting to know him, but doing that... Very risky. I would never do it again.
I met my husband on the internet. I'm from Canada and he's American. I was VERY fortunate because he is a VERY good man from a VERY good family. I talked with him a year before I went to see him. I was 26 years old at the time. My father was a bit scared for me to go alone and I told him that if I don't go ... I will never know him. I assured him that I would called them every day which I did. I stayed there for 2 weeks and everything went very well. We've been together for 23 years and married for 13 years. I feel for Ashley's family. Her parents were worried about her like my parents were with me. This guy PLAYED with her ALL THE WAY ! There was red flags from the beginning but unfortunately she didn't see them. He was a MONSTER ! She told him she was leaving .... what a huge mistake she made. She would still be alive today if she didn't tell him. What a horrible tragedy May God bless Ashley's soul. My thoughts and prayers are with her family 🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤
This case really hit me. I have not been physically hurt by an online relationship, but I ended up discovering that I was the side chick of a man I almost bought a house with. That situation was like a soap opera, but I came out alive. RIP Ashley, the last bit about how they planned the burial broke my heart. It's bittersweet.
I’m from the UK and have lived in Canada for ten years. I now live in Vancouver and know the area of British Columbia where Ashley is from. It was mega news over here and in the UK too. Her grandfather said that he thought England was a safe country and he was OK with her going there. Ashley’s friends didn’t like the look of Jack and apparently tried to tell her not to go to England. It’s very sad that this happened, but it does highlight the dangers of meeting people online.
I truly cannot phantom why she stayed for that long...She didn't come from a physically abusive background so she should have been already out of the door after her first introduction to his fists, she should have known from the stories on the internet about abusive men and they never change and always are sooo sorry. Not victim blaming by God NO...I just wished she would've followed her instincts and awareness of these kind of creeps. Such a tragic story her first and only love she ever had, turned out to be less than a cockroach.
We don't know much detail of her family background. Why would such a young woman leave her family, why would she travel so far? She thought domestic violence was acceptable. We don't know why.
All teenagers need education about abuse from their partners. What to do, how to reach out, and how to get away. Such a sad case. Poor thing was so naive and young.
The crime happened in Europe, England to be precise. So, the sentence would be lenient and light, as it always is in Europe and even Canada. I wish Europe could adopt justice system where criminals could receive a sentence of life in prison without the possibility of parole for the rest of their lives. But from what I've heard, criminals who committed double homicide or even more receive only around 20 years in prison in Europe or even less. In Canada also, I think the maximum prison time is 25 years no matter what crimes you commit. I like the US justice system the most when it comes to sentences because criminals could get life in prison without the possibility of parole meaning they will spend the rest of their lives in prison until they die
Please ALWAYS run background checks on any potential dates or even friends. Whether local or long distance. Also, don’t assume that just because someone doesn’t have previous charges, that it somehow makes them “safe”. Police reports are public record & tell a story as well. My ex just recently went to prison for the first time, even though he’s been terrorizing women for almost 2 decades. Due to ties with police, he had no previous charges. However, he did have over 40+ police reports filed against him that were swept under the rug per usual. Hes now under investigation for 2 m*rders & 6 SA’s. To think how all these women could’ve been saved had the police done their jobs the first time. It makes me sad that nobody looked into this guy more. I’m sure they’re already beating themselves up enough, it’s just harrowing that so many don’t understand how public records can work to your benefit & save a life if utilized properly. RIP sweet girl 🥺
I would NEVER allow my daughter to travel to another country to meet and live with a guy she met on the internet. No one thought of doing a background check on him before she flew to England to meet him? Her parents should be ashamed of themselves for allowing her to go…
I love that for your daughter, she's clearly got a parent who would go way above and beyond to protect her. However, in this case, there's probably a million things the parents wished they'd done but didn't because they trusted their daughter and her boyfriend, and truly believed she'd be safe. I can assure you, her parents will spend the rest of their lives wracked with guilt and shame.
@@selecttravelvacations7472- nobody should be listening to anything Ashleys pathetically inadequate family has to say except as a textbook case of how not to deal with a situation of this seriousness.
That very first clip of him yelling and cursing .. that's what my neighbor sounds like almost every day. I hear nothing from anyone else in the house. Just him screaming. It's terrifying. I'm scared for the kids. I've called the cops and CPS
Young people do stupid things. Most of us get out alive. No one jumps out of the nest expecting to die. Let this be a lesson on minding your kids business and stressing the dangers of the world. Chances are, they'll still jump. Abusive relationships are hard to get out of. The mind games really change you. In a perfect world, shed have left. Her parents wouldve came to rescue her. She'd be alive. But thats not how this usually works, not for the 18 year old, not for the 50 year old. Very sad but not uncommon.
Ashley, baby, that man looked scary as hell. He looks EXACTLY like a person that would commit such crimes. She must've just been at a low moment that she picked him, cause baby girl, you were much better than that thing on every level
This guy is just nuts, with no bolts. Ashley is so beautiful, and seemed to just love life. For that sic piece of garbage to end her life is just simply RAGE INDUCING!!! People like him, need no second chances. He will kill again. Heart and prayers to Ashley's family and friends. 🙏🙌
What an incredible loss for her family, I can’t even imagine the pain ..This young lady was beautiful and had her whole life ahead of her. Rest in Peace Ashley🌿
I think the same thing. At the very least, I'd go with her for an extended vacation to meet him and assess the situation. And I'd definitely make sure she left if there were any red flags. I really believe that if she had had ANYONE to turn to, she would have left him. And anyone who knew about the abuse should have told her that you NEVER let an abuser know that you're leaving. That's the most dangerous time of all.
"She was intelligent and nobosy's fool." Ok. And she couldn't go to the cops and let them get her to the airport? Her parents couldn't call the local cops there in London? Oh yeah. that's right. She's intelligent and nobody's fool. She told the dude she was leaving him in two days? Yep. She's intelligent and nobody's fool.
It takes two to tango. A man like this can't brutalise just anyone. It takes a certain type of woman to return to an abuser over and over again, even when he turns his brutality on a defenseless kitten. Sorry, this girl is partly to blame for allowing this man to do this to her. Unpopular opinion probably, but true nevertheless.
Sorry, “we don’t know why she did this, maybe it was xyz” no mention of the crippling reality of abusive relationships, trauma bonding, victims of abuse who frequently don’t see their abusers as abusers. Very bad reporting.
If you're being abused, please, please, please call the crisis line in your area. You need help and resources to leave safely. Remember that these animals don't think like you do and don't have the same boundaries as normal people.
Stay safe out there.
But Ashley was in a different country and being controlled, was probably terrified and didn’t know how to get help. 😢
You’re not being “abused.” You should stop stirring up trouble and will only escalate the situation by getting authorities involved. Handle your own problems like an adult.
im abused by my own thoughts :(
I get it. Different strokes for different folks. But oftentimes you actually CAN judge a book by it’s cover.
A cover is literally an illustration representing the very book in which it covers.
So I agree 100%. The cover is definitely a visual to what's inside the book. There is no way around it.
vile vile vile
al teetch him a lesson or three ❤❤
Right?! He has douche bag written across his face! Sometimes you can just tell...even via photo.
Agreed… this one definitely has Manson Lamps 👀😳🙈
I like how the narrator pointed out how he only was abusive to women and not men bc he woulda got his butt whipped. If he could abuse his own mum, you know he's a monster. Poor Ashley didn't have a clue what she was walking into. How awful. Rip Ashley
Big fat bully and it goes on still 😢
Absolute loser he was..
I believe the correct term is bitchmade
Most abusers are that way in my experience
And her parents are responsible
This just kept getting sadder and sadder. Makes my heart really ache. She must have been so scared and isolated and confused. Every little part just kept getting worse. She dismissed a lot of red flags because she didn't know and she was young. Everyone must have been terrified.
He actually looks like a fucking demon like he does not look human.
It is so sad... Kind souls are trusting and forgiving, and it is beautiful but unfortunately, horrible people like this man exist...
I was thinking the same about his picture, he looks scary... He is no Human anyway, just a Monster..
I think she knew, I just think she thought she could save him. I mean, she knows he shouldn't be hitting her and that it was not acceptable. It just didn't apply to her situation.
Yeah! I said he looks like a monster!
Not in today's society. There is so much stuff out there on abuse that there is no way she didn't know. I just wish her parents had gone over there and just showed up at his house. She didn't have to go with him, but at least they could have tired. It is quite possible the moment she saw them she would have wanted to go.
Never give someone another chance after being abused. Listen to your intuition 😢. Shame 😕
Yes, poor woman, RIP 😢
When they show you who they really are, believe them the first time.
Killed a kitten? I’m out.
SAME HERE my God it’s so frustrating to hear that she didn’t want the police involved!!
I almost couldn’t watch this bc I know she died.
You eat meat? Animals are animals
@@Sncedayone so you would have no problem eating a cat or dog? When I was younger my mom raised pigs with my stepdad who btw was an a hole! They made the mistake of naming them bc one day we were eating breakfast & he asked how Norman tasted!
Couldn’t eat bacon ham etc for years after.
@@SheriParkhurst-wd5cjthat's pretty sadistic. My grandfather did the same with my mom's beloved rabbit
@@Sncedayoneboo hoo
When he gets out, he will still be a huge risk to women.
Are you slow? He got life in prison
@@jordan1613 hahahahahaha, are you mad? A life sentence in the uk starts at 15 years. You numpty.
@@jordan1613 Firstly, rude. Secondly, in the UK, when prisoners get a life sentence, they can get parole after serving the minimum sentence (in this case, 23 years). So, he could well be released. In which case, he will absolutely still be a huge risk to women. It's only people who get a 'whole life sentence' that are never released. And there are only around 70 prisoners in the UK who have received this.
@@jordan1613have you no class? Who calls someone slow? Also, do some research. A life sentence in the UK isn’t for his whole life, that’s a “whole life order”. So he will most likely get out.
@@jordan1613Idk him but you certainly sound like you are.
Dude looks like the sloth from ice age
😂😂😂
Haha because his eyes are a mile apart lol
I think he is related to BEAVO.
Hey, I happen to like Sid, he was nothing like this filth. More like Quasimodo btw. Apart from the hunchback. But same frog face with bulging eyes that don't seem to line up properly.
On point 😂😂😂
Why wasn't I surprised that this guy only had the balls to go after women?
Such a coward
It's always like that too! Smh
It’s a woman’s duty to please her husband
He even LOOKS crazy 😮😮
Such unusual facial features are indicative of foetal alcohol syndrome. His mother probably drank too much while she was pregnant. There are precise features that give it way, eyes too far apart, flat midface, thin upper lip, a smooth Cupid’s bow, a small head which (makes the face look big), and a smooth nose bridge. These features vary from person to person and the entire face may not be fully impacted, but the face looks odd/unusual and you struggle for the right words to describe how a person like that looks because it’s not obvious like say Down’s syndrome, but instinctively still know there’s something odd about it. You just can’t pin point what it is. But after you’ve seen a lot of people with it you can pick it from a mile away.
Ashley was the unfortunate victim of Limerence 😢 as well as falling for a psycho's mirroring of her, which psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists use to get you to fall in love with them, but it's pretty much you falling in love with _yourself._
I went through this with my first husband. It's very strange and twists up your brain...then you spend the rest of the relationship trying to get them back to "the person I met in the beginning." But that person in the beginning was never actually real! They don't exist! It was all a farce in order to trap you within the abuse cycle.
RIP sweet Ashley. You didn't deserve this. To her family, I'm so sorry for your loss. 😢
She was a child with an incredibly weak support system. The average 11 year old would have behaved the same way, however they wouldn't typically have their parents send them off to be abused/killed. He groomed her electronically for a decade, and not one adult stepped in. Not a single one.
That happened to me, too. I was in my late thirties, but happy enough single, not desperate, and would never have considered him had he not convinced me of his true love and devotion. Plus, he seemed to share ALL of my interests! He was very intense. I finally decided that this was an opportunity for happiness that I shouldn't ignore.
I can't believe how naive I was!
That man evaporated after the wedding, and the belittling commenced. It was downhill from there.
Never again!
Although possible there is no evidence of either. Limerence would require an intense study of their relationship. There are signs there, but you can't truly know from a video. LImerence is not something someone else causes. FOr example, his behavior would not have caused her Limerence. Also, there is zero information from the video that would indicate mirroring is going on. Your explanation of the effects of mirroring are inaccurate as well. I think you may be projecting your own experiences onto the situation when they really probably don't match up.
@@alabama.worley So it is not the killers fault, it is the family's. They did not send her off to be abused. She wanted to go, she was an adult, they trusted her and most importantly, they could not stopped her if they wanted to. Plus if you have children especially daughters, if they would have stepped in, she still would have contacted him, she just would have been more sneaky about it.
I see you have it all figured out
I would have gotten a plan ticket and picked up my child.
100000000% before the whole sentence came out that he hit her.
Right? If I sense my child's in danger, I would've been knocking at the door the next day.
200%
They did but they weren't legally allowed to board the plane until a COVID test was taken.
*Plane ticket?!?
She told her family he hit her and they didn’t immediately board a plane and go get her? Mind boggling
Exactly
Garbage parents
Yes. I don’t understand why you would just sit back and hope for the best. I would have been on the first flight there. Her parents failed to prepare her for the world because they were failed adults themselves. It’s bizarre. It’s as if Ashley were a child and lacked common sense.
That poor girl falling for a complete animal. I had to turn this off it was so sad😮
Animals are not like him! They are wonderful!
The way men treat their mothers is a great indicator of how they would treat their partners. I couldn't ever imagine pitting my hands on my mother, or anyone really.
I literally just made the same comment! If dude has no problem putting hands on his mom, the woman who gave birth to him, what fucking chance does a girlfriend have?!?
Glad to hear police will try to do better. 8 previous instances where he was convicted of domestic violence (including against his OWN mother), yet he was allowed to walk the streets.. the system failed yet another young, beautiful, and intelligent soul.
The system fails women at every turn
That the British justice system at its finest.
They absolutely suck at investigation,and they always have
Just women the system fails is it? 🤔
@@Derek-ve2wbMostly yes, check the statistics on domestic violence
@@Derek-ve2wbThis story is about domestic violence specifically against women. If you are being abused, get help. If you are just complaining, do it on a story about a male being abused. Don’t expect women not to comment on a criminal justice system that has treated us like property for most of the history of the world. You couldn’t possibly understand that.
No one wanted to do a background check on this freak???
Her parents hold responsibility, not as much as this psycho, but still, this is crazy to let your daughter go meet somebody that looks like that! Hope he rots and torment in jail.
@@WindRipples- completely agree
Right?!? My thoughts exactly. A simple check would have prevented everything.
@@Da_Love74In some countries you will not get a vack ground check on anyone unless if you are a police offiser.
And even then is very strict and they can only do this when is about work not random people.
I dont know how it is in the UK though.
The parents could not stop her for travling she is an adult.
@@WindRipples-She was a grown up,so her parents couldn't force her to stay at home with them.
I watch A LOT of true crime and it barely bothers me anymore BUT this one hit differently. What a sweet innocent life gone way to soon. 😞
I moved to England to be with a boyfriend that I had met while he was in holiday in the states. We kept in contact and saw each other a couple more times before I actually moved there. So I felt like I knew him. We were head over heels in love but I didn't know anything about him or his past other than what he told me. It turned into a nightmare. Too much to go into detail but there was abuse and controlling behavior. I finally left after 6 months and ended up staying for a couple years. But it was very scary being in that situation, so far from home knowing no one. I could of disappeared and it would of been weeks or months before it would of been discovered. Very sad what happened this sweet girl. This should be tale to really know who you're dealing with.
Jack looks insane , those eyes 🤮
Narcissists often have very dead eyes.
💯👍Sociopath
@@F15sniper78maybe both 🤔
@@a.e2385what evidence do you base that on?
heroin
Jack Semple looks like a Tim Burton character.
His eyes does not scream trust.
😂 weird looking
Butthole eyes 😂
Definitely can't sneak up on him. Eyes on side of head😢
@@schism6976... 🤣🤣🤣🤣
😭😭😭@@schism6976
In my opinion, the most egregious misconception is a person giving trust and credit to someone as if they've actually known them for the length of their online communications. In reality, they actually meet the real person the very first day they meet in person. Whike doing so dropping their gaurd and ignoring glaring red flags. She didn't know this monster at all. She couldn't be sure he's even the person online.
Well, it's pretty easy to confirm you're talking to the person being depicted online by video chatting regularly. The people who get catfished for 10 years are the ones who believe _"my camera is broken"_ for 10 years. What she should've done was a background check. It would've been pretty difficult for him to talk his way out of that many years of physical abuse towards women. I would hope, anyway.
There’s certainly ways of verifying and experiencing whether it’s by several different angles or meta-analysis of a repeat type of communication. People with any lengthy online communication in the last 15 years had to pass more tests than meeting someone at a bar. Someone’s digital footprint is far more damning than a handful of f2f meetings. A manipulative nutter will be that in person easier than online depending how savvy they are.
Plenty of real exposures of folk that aren’t within our physical proximity not to mention the vast majority of online relationships that meet do not end up in anything close to this noise.
It doesn’t mean be naive about it but it also doesn’t mean we can narrate the entire concept based upon extremes and apply it to all.
Between Jack and the neighbor and whatever Ashley’s overall deal was - a lot of terrible things happened that didn’t have to do with online deception anymore. I can’t understand why the police weren’t involved far sooner and it’s tragic but there were a lot of faults here far beyond online subterfuge.
True but this still happens to people who meet in person. It's easy for someone to hide their true selves, unfortunately it's not always possible to see. The key is that if you're ever with someone who becomes violent towards you, you MUST come up with an escape plan and follow through.
I don't think that's normally the case- you're looking at one very extreme case and acting like it's the general rule- when it's clearly the exception. There are hundreds of thousands if not millions of ppl who have had normal relationships that started online- some lasted, some didn't- but there was no violence or anything. I would bet if you looked at the numbers-you're no more apt to meet a violent freak this way than you are meeting ppl the traditional way- at a bar or something. Besides, yes the internet has made it easier for ppl to meet like this- but it's also made it much easier to check someone out and find out who they are before meeting them.
Facts
I agree I don't care how long you've been talking online or FaceTiming the very first time you meet someone in person is the real time your meeting them because everything before that is just like your best self forward and it can be a lot of bullshit probably is
He LOOKS CRAZY!!!!
No matter what they say CALL THE COPS
Sadly that’s easier said than done.
But it's better said than to stay silent...
I can’t tell if his face is tattooed or if he just has a perma-black eye.
Omg, same! Red flag 🚩 beware the face tattoo, ppl!
I have a full sleeve and I agree
it took me sooo long to figure that out too!! lmao
@@jrsterdisface tattoos screams look at me
I know it's easy to say after watching this video, but you could tell he was a wrong un just by looking at him.
She couldn't resist the british origin mixed with his looking like a homeless who didn't sleep for a week. 😂
☕️☕️☕️
I live 20 minutes away from Vernon, Ashley’s hometown. My heart just tore open when I heard the news. I met my hubby online in 1996, and I got very lucky and have been married 27 years now. I wish Ashley had the chance to achieve every dream she had.
Also, am I correct in that she was 19 and had been talking online with an older guy for TEN years? Since she was NINE!?!?
According to the video she was 11 or 12 and he was 4 years her senior (15 or 16) 1:09
My parents too met online back in 1998/1999. Have been married for over 20 years now. They really are a match made in heaven
@@chronicmelancholicwhen it’s good, it can be really great, but when it’s bad, yikes.
It definitely requires extra care and reservation.
Lol @ your name
It’s so horrifying what this young woman went through, how dare he write to Ashley’s family, monster ! 😢 My heart goes out to her family, absolutely heartbreaking 💔
I love the narrator articulating how much of a coward he is for having no violent charges against men
I had to go back to make sure i heard him right when he said that she was stabbed at least 90 times. That is a terrifying amount of rage.
Sick minded people can get s*ual gratification when stabbing their victims 🥺 I've heard a convicted murderer talking about this.
I too was in a relationship in which I didn't know my partner had an extensive criminal record. He lied about the charges I did know about. I was around Ashley's age, just a bit older. These monsters are so charismatic and kind to trap you. Always always always run a background check on potential partners. Rest in peace, beautiful girl.
Yes and why women are comfortable meeting up with someone from on line, where these psychopaths lurk, is astonishing to me.
Same happened to me. It wasn't until I was divorcing my ex that I learned about his extensive criminal background, including burglary, embezzlement, domestic violence, and drunk driving. Him and his entire family kept those secrets very well hidden.
Running a background can only do you so good. You can run into two issues. The first issue you can run into is that someone could have already had a charge sealed which won't allow you to see it when you look up their record. The second problem is plenty of people get charged for things and not convicted. If you see a charge that did not lead to a conviction are you going to treat it as a conviction?
I saw this story before and I can't handle seeing it again. The sister saw the abuse while she was there and I just didn't understand how they did not take an emergency flight to go get her. ; /
Yes like an intervention.
That or the parents coming immediately when she told the family he hit her. I was also wondering why the friends from church didn’t come immediately when she messaged begging for help. They received another message hours later, and still waited until the afternoon to check.
Do you think she would have gone with them if they showed up? Do you think she thought it probably would make things worse for her. They could fly over, but she made it clear, she was not going anywhere.
*COVID
*There were no "emergency" flights due to covid, they would've had to get tested first
When my son was a child, I did many things he protested loudly about: reaching for a hot element on the stove, etc. I would stop him. If my 14-year old daughter was in contact with an older man online, I would have stopped it right away. I would have let her hate me, sulk and act out. She would have got over it. And she would alive today. I dislike blaming people but the young girl’s online activity should have been monitored by her parents. She was young and naive and inexperienced.
Bro no hindsight doesn’t even matter and all of the signs were there. He’s a horrible person and a disgrace to this earth but come on she had a chance to turn around. Im 18 yrs old and Id would never travel thousands of miles for a person i never knew.
@@mrlobsterrsalt5996But then again you weren’t manipulated for years and years by Jack were you?
@@chloesmith7504 how? She never met him in person again didn’t deserve it but she built feelings for someone that she never met face to face
@@mrlobsterrsalt5996 Manipulation isn’t just face to face. You can be manipulated in many different ways including in texts, phone calls and face calls. It’s basic knowledge.
@@chloesmith7504 she got manipulated by a guy she never met that lives an ocean away. Shes an idiot.
That poor Mother and Father, they look so broken! I wish i could give them a huge hug! So very sad.
What a great parents they were huh...
She didn't want to admit she had been wrong about him all along
Exactly. That's also why, aside from staying and accepting the abuse, she even sent an s.o.s. to Mormon friends in the area instead of her parents.
Dude she had her idea of love warped by this asshat for 8 years, from the time she was a CHILD. Can you imagine how confusing and scary it must have been for her, in a different country, away from any support she truly had, and with her only concept of a partner now threatening her life? It would be so great if she could have taken the opportunities to leave. But have a little empathy for the poor girl. She wasn't trying to save face, she was literally being abused.
Sometimes we just don’t believe it
@@bentonrp accepting the abuse? That sounds like something an abuser would tell themselves. Wtf even is that?
@@bentonrp she was groomed
He looks very off!!! I swear i can tell by looking at him, hes a bad person.
Literally just commented this!
@@jxn1056 It's the huge eye balls and they're a mile apart! He creeps me out! Those puffy eye lids on the top and Bottom! Lol.
It's his dead eyes. They look so empty.
@@daviddaddy😂😂
@@Faizasmith-pj4dz what? you know it's true lol
If she's getting physically abused over and over and refuses to leave, go get her.
her love over him overshadow everything
She kept going back and back and staying. Not making excuses if you are being abused leave. Jesus Christ
It's not that easy.
Her white privilege kept her ignorant to struggle. I learnt this in 8th grade art that white america was built from the ground up to only help white folk and us people ofncolor were meant to slave away and do all they work.
My teacher proved to us that white privilege will always be the down fall to white folk. They born racist and lazy and only will educating them on they wicked racist ways will help better them as a person.
I'm 17 and bc my black skin I have dealt with horrors that average whire folk will never dream of. We are lynched and enslaved daily
Please donate to Black Lives Matter by phone or online. Be better. Do better
#BLM
Exactly right! If that had been my daughter, as soon as I started feeling something isn't right, such as her not contacting me as usual, I would have taken the earliest possible flight to go convince her to come home now. And I would NOT take no for an answer.
As a survivor of DV myself...
If you are reading this and are in a DV situation, PLEEEEEASE create a secret plan and get out. I RARELY gets better. DO NOT SAY YOU ARE LEAVING!!!
(please)
♥️🙏🏻♥️
Sounds like good advice. Would you say staying in public places and around civilization gets an abused victim to think more clearly?
Because it seems to me, the abuser can get into their mind and make them forget that there are many more secure options out there in the world.
I also ask because most of them are cowardly abusers and lose a majority of their power out in public, so I think even just being out there, with or without the abuser, involves the victim in the right thoughts about the safety they deserve.
@@bentonrp
Honestly, it truly depends on the victim, how long they've been being abused and _how_ they are being abused (mentally, physically, sexually, financially, etc).
I was in public a lot and even around friends and family and although there were only 4 times of physical abuse, the mental head-games were crazy. The way a true narcissist or sociopath thinks is scary. I always tell people to educate themselves about the cycle. Once somebody understands that, it can help a victims friend understand what's going on better.
I'm sorry if I couldn't fully answer your questions. Every situation is different, and the best thing to do, if somebody you love or care about is "stuck," is to try to talk with them privately (BUT NOT VIA TEXTING- you never know if their abuser is the one with the phone, or has access to the phone with a mirroring app or will look at it later). Conversations really need to be in person, with their cell left some place else so it cannot record anything. I know this sounds insane, but after getting out myself, I've seen/heard some truly scary stories of stalking. I would say now, that it's better to be extra cautious, in order to protect them.
Lastly, remember that abuse can be similarly to addiction, where the victim isn't going to leave until they are ready (not that it's like an actual drug).
It sucks... I've seen that personally with people, but it's true. If they don't choose to leave yet, let them know you're there for them when they do, try to not give them an ultimatum because they usually hear that often, and tell them you truly just want what they deserve and what's best for them... and for them to be safe.
Sorry for such a long post.
Take Care!
I couldn’t even finish the video. This is depressing. So many red flags.
Even at his best, he looks like a drop-kick. It's so tragic, but how on earth could she be so obsessively determined to ignore red flags? They say she was intelligent but she did not make ONE intelligent choice. Not ONE.
she love him soo much...her love over him overshadow everything
@@KotobKotob yeah. It's a shame that she didn't live long enough to learn that what she was feeling wasn't real love, but limerance
Yeah I love how they always call these victims bright or intelligent but then everything about them suggests otherwise. Oh she's a mormon? And now she's flying half way across the world to live with a guy with face tattoos? She seemed to have plenty of friends over there, and places to go, but kept going back to him anyway. I would have to nominate her for a Darwin Award.
I love you guys always bring awareness to DV and speak on the story in such a kind way. 💜💜💜💜
The naivety of this woman is unbelievable. She didn’t even bring enough money so she didn’t have to rely on him.
I know hindsight is 20/20. If someone (who is an adult) travels overseas to meet someone for the first time please have your own lodging , at least that way you have a way out. It could have saved her life, especially when she left to the neighbors, not once but twice. I understand she's been there for months at that point but she could've seen early warning signs that this was not what she expected.
Could have seen? She must have felt them as the autopsy identified multiple bruises and injuries that go back weeks.
It's like Ashley had a death wish. Her parents and her neighbourly friend were about as much use as a marshmallow hammer.
The bags under his eyes, though. This man doesn't sleep. EVER.
I remember this case big time. Grew up in Kelowna. Like 30/45 mins outside of Vernon
4500 miles to meet a lunatic. Staying single sounds better then ever.
Yeah I’m sure your single by choice 😂
@@Nuttypro-fweird response...
he had been grooming her for years she never had a chance
@@Nuttypro-f atleast he has a profile picture.
@@Nuttypro-f what’s wrong with being single?
Love your channel! I consume an embarrassing amount of true-crime, mostly on UA-cam; but I really like how you produce & edit your content. You & EWU crew do a great job!
No victim is ever at fault for their death, but--parents, remember that you NEED to teach your children to recognize red flags. Doesn't matter if it's pleasant to talk about or if the bible doesn't specifically say you can do so, it matters to keep them alive. The submissiveness and indiscriminate forgiveness religious girls are socialized with leaves them so vulnerable to terrible abuse. They MUST feel free to leave abuse and call police for safe assistance out of that situation. They MUST be encouraged to protect themselves. This is the alternative. At best, the victim leaves their abuser in blind emotion under extreme duress, and that is when the victim is most vulnerable to murder by their abusive partner.
Some of those parents can teach their children… yet adults make these same mistakes…
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This is why I'm glad my mom physically helped me get away when he went too work until he found me n tried too run me over lmfao just got worse from there. Even with bail conditions too stay away he kept stalking and trying. He's literally fucking insane but luckily my mom n I started driving around with a metal bat. Never messed with me again plus he did less then a year for nearly leaving me brain dead by strangulation.
yea its the victims fault here. I mean you went to meet some cornball twig with necktats you met online? You are the only one to blame
Not all parents know this things.
Mine are not even not emotinal developed.
They did not learn that as my dads parents was abusive.
My mums parents where alcoholics.
So I think many parents does nor know the signs.
My dad is very naive when it comes to people.
My mum is the other way especally after she start to watch true crime😅
But yeah parents should learn the kids to recognise bad behaviour.
But I dont think all parents really know what red flags is.
But now is more easy to find information about this things as long as they have acces to use internet.
Let me just clear this up. FYI even if you’re under age and it’s a relationship on the computer that still is illegal just because it’s on the computer doesn’t mean it’s not grooming
Let me clear this up for you. No, it is not illegal. Not in the least. You can talk and chat all you want to. It is really odd for you to think differently.
@@haji818721sexual relationships with minors even online is illegal.
You sound like a creep lets clear that up @@haji818721
This story is so eerie to me, I’ve lived half of this. I knew my online best friend for 9.5 years before I finally flew across the world to meet him. Thankfully my mother wouldn’t let me go alone😂 but, he ended up being the nicest person ever. He took such good care of me. I wish Ashley could have seen her future and left at the first offense💔 this is so heartbreaking.
Its strange how someone could be so intelligent and yet completely devoid of any common sense.
It's the violence... he had her so scared to do anything. I'm sure she recognized the trouble she'd gotten into, but when you're terrified of someone, you're afraid to make them mad by leaving the situation...
@@BeRightBack131there’s always an option to leave. She chose not to involve the police several times
@@dansei3355the most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive relationship is when she attempts to leave. that’s not my opinion, it’s a fact.
Not to be rude but why not just go to the airport and go home
@@BeRightBack131immediately? The FIRST altercation should’ve been enough for any intelligent person
Such a sad sad story .My heart broke for her and her family. Please please if any one watching this is suffering GET OUT!!!
I agree, please 🙏 get out
Been there, I was lucky to have survived it. I am so very sorry for the loss of Ashley
This happened just up the road from me he lived on the same street as my children's primary school.
Shocking indeed. Shocking stupidity of all involved. Parents first.
This was so so avoidable. That poor, naive girl. ☹️
She was not protected by her parents
@@lizadoesraywhat wasn't mentioned in this video is that Ashley's family had ONE computer between them to share, and her mother monitored her online chats.
Once Ashley got herself a job however, she bought herself a smartphone which as we all know is impossible to monitor ❤
Agreed, she wasnt protected at all, but she was also eighteen years old. @@lizadoesray
Way to victim blame
@@lizadoesrayshe wasn’t protected by herself. No one ever deserves anything like what happened or even 1/10th of this. But if you keep making excuses and going back to a rabid dog who keeps biting you. It’s partly your fault
Not this monster, i watched a video on him last night, ive seen one prior to that also.
What a EVIL COWARD THIS SO CALLED SAD EXCUSE IF A MAN IS.
He looked as if he had black eyes all the time.
RIP ASHLEY 🙏🕊️
Once again I cannot understand how a parent willingly knowing that their daughter was being beaten and staying with the same person who hurt her, don’t do ANYTHING to protect or even fly over and get their daughter I don’t care the age she was in Adult or not! I love my children and I would never give another chance to a person who has abused my child a second chance to do so! Parents need to do better! This was preventable! I cannot understand it!
even if they come, she will never leave the guy...
Even if she didnt leave then i would stay over their and visit as much as i can and get any resources i can. I could never hear my baby telling me that hes beating me mom and not go over their once. I mean im sorry but getting them physically away from their abuser for even a couple hours can change a lot. As someone who grew up with my mom being abused and going thru it muself and living with women in domestic violence shelters. Having a support system physically their in your presence helps not be sucked back into their grasps. She had no clue what she was dealing with clearly by telling him she was leaving. Luckily with my mom she never told my father when we escaped shed always wait until he passed out drunk then sneak us out the back of the house. I have 2 daughters and i wouldng care if i was homeless outside i wouldnt leave without either one of them. Im not blaming them but parents we can influence and change things uo even with our kids being adults.
I agree her parents failed her, I wouldn’t let my daughter go to another country for that amount of time at that age to meet a boy she met on the internet… that’s just crazy to me
You don’t understand because it’s not your life! It’s easy to say what you would do when you know how the story ends. You can’t force someone to leave and there was a pandemic. Imagine how the parents feel. Actually don’t imagine that. They don’t need someone so perfect in decision making analyzing them. Smh
@@daviddesantis4040 I agree with you! These people are so freaking dumb thinking they could actually MAKE their ADULT daughter do anything! You cannot, no matter how much you may want to, make an adult board a PLANE when she doesn't want to go! Period, end of! These people are blaming the parents like it's their fault when the blame belongs only on the pos who killed her. All Ashley needed to do was say, "no mom and dad, I'm not going with you." It is easier to blame the parents when you have hindsight, but not everyone is afforded that opportunity.
As an American, and a world traveler, if you ever get in trouble in a foreign country go to the nearest hotel, or a 5 star hotel, they will always speak English, and frequently deal with situations like this. They will also have the capacity to use all kinds of credit cards, and more likely to be able to arrange payment via foreign bank accounts
Excellent tip. 👍🏻
I doubt it
Excellent advice. You can also go to your country's embassy for safe haven. This was the advice I was given once when in a foreign country. I didn't end up having to go there, but I was assured that any citizen of a foreign country will always be helped at the embassy.
@@BeRightBack131 lol
@@Ann-sj4ptby all means explain your doubt.
I told this to my older kids.
I’m gonna tell it to y’all..
As soon as you feel like mutual feelings are occurring, you background check them.
This is extremely important. People LIE. Just a quick search can save you a lot of trouble. Possibly your life.
As you get older, it becomes more important to do this. If you have children, do not miss this step.
Rest in peace sweetheart I’m so sorry this happened to you 😔
Everyone, be well. Be smart.
He has the coldest eyes, even in photos of them smiling.
Poor Ashley, she probably felt embarrassed/ashamed to call the police. Bless her heart. She was such an intelligent and clever young woman and no doubt, would have gone on to do great things with her life. So sad she got involved with a deadbeat like him. Rest in peace Ashley💖
She sure doesn't exhibit much signs of being "intelligent and clever" - neither does her neighbour "friend" or family.
This is brilliant. The empathy you show the victims is unparalleled. Thank you for offering reasons why someone in her situation might keep returning to the flat.
I was married a year and a half to an abusive alcoholic. I’m sure I wouldn’t have survived if I had stayed. Met a wonderful man and was married 37 years until his death.
I find it **extraordinarily** difficult to believe that Ashley’s parents--**even IF they “approved” of their daughter’s flying 4500 miles across the Atlantic Ocean *and* most of Canada to meet an individual about whom they knew ABSOLUTELY NOTHING in the UK--I just *can’t* accept that ADULT, RESPONSIBLE, LOVING, CARING, and *PROTECTIVE* parents would NOT HAVE **SERIOUSLY** WARNED THEIR DAUGHTER ABOUT HOW ***UNADULTERATEDLY STUPID AND FOOLISH*** it was to ARRANGE TO STAY IN A SMALL, ONE BDRM FLAT FAR IN THE OUTSKIRTS OF LONDON **WITH A TOTAL STRANGER WHO WAS MALE AND OLDER THAN SHE**!!!!!!!!!
You can try to sugarcoat it all you want: they were guilty of dereliction of their duties as parents. Did they help *pay* for the plane tickets to and from Britain? If so, they could have used that leverage to AT THE VERY LEAST insist Ashley stay in a safe, secure, and modern hotel.
he is jobless, living free with the mercy of his country yet the only thing he knew is to hurt women.....
A total failure. Well said. What a totally worthless creep.
And she fell for him anyway, which is confusing because in the video they described her as intelligent.
This is 😢. She was a beautiful soul. He chipped away at everything she was, and then he snuffed her out. He is a horrible monster, and he should never ever get out.
R.i.p Ashley... Prayers for her family and friends
What a beautiful person trying to fix someone broken unfortunately this happens very often always the innocent.
I flew to a different country for a person I met online like a decade ago. Thankfully he was a great person - we're not together anymore though - so I thankfully had a good experience. But, looking back at it, I have no idea what I was thinking. I don't regret getting to know him, but doing that... Very risky. I would never do it again.
I met my husband on the internet. I'm from Canada and he's American. I was VERY fortunate because he is a VERY good man from a VERY good family. I talked with him a year before I went to see him. I was 26 years old at the time. My father was a bit scared for me to go alone and I told him that if I don't go ... I will never know him. I assured him that I would called them every day which I did. I stayed there for 2 weeks and everything went very well. We've been together for 23 years and married for 13 years.
I feel for Ashley's family. Her parents were worried about her like my parents were with me. This guy PLAYED with her ALL THE WAY ! There was red flags from the beginning but unfortunately she didn't see them. He was a MONSTER ! She told him she was leaving .... what a huge mistake she made. She would still be alive today if she didn't tell him. What a horrible tragedy
May God bless Ashley's soul. My thoughts and prayers are with her family 🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤
This case really hit me. I have not been physically hurt by an online relationship, but I ended up discovering that I was the side chick of a man I almost bought a house with. That situation was like a soap opera, but I came out alive. RIP Ashley, the last bit about how they planned the burial broke my heart. It's bittersweet.
I’m from the UK and have lived in Canada for ten years. I now live in Vancouver and know the area of British Columbia where Ashley is from. It was mega news over here and in the UK too. Her grandfather said that he thought England was a safe country and he was OK with her going there. Ashley’s friends didn’t like the look of Jack and apparently tried to tell her not to go to England. It’s very sad that this happened, but it does highlight the dangers of meeting people online.
I truly cannot phantom why she stayed for that long...She didn't come from a physically abusive background so she should have been already out of the door after her first introduction to his fists, she should have known from the stories on the internet about abusive men and they never change and always are sooo sorry. Not victim blaming by God NO...I just wished she would've followed her instincts and awareness of these kind of creeps. Such a tragic story her first and only love she ever had, turned out to be less than a cockroach.
Fathom not phantom :)
she love him very much...her love over him overshadow everything
We don't know much detail of her family background. Why would such a young woman leave her family, why would she travel so far?
She thought domestic violence was acceptable. We don't know why.
It’s easy not to FATHOM when it’s not your story dummy
All teenagers need education about abuse from their partners. What to do, how to reach out, and how to get away. Such a sad case. Poor thing was so naive and young.
The crime happened in Europe, England to be precise. So, the sentence would be lenient and light, as it always is in Europe and even Canada. I wish Europe could adopt justice system where criminals could receive a sentence of life in prison without the possibility of parole for the rest of their lives. But from what I've heard, criminals who committed double homicide or even more receive only around 20 years in prison in Europe or even less. In Canada also, I think the maximum prison time is 25 years no matter what crimes you commit. I like the US justice system the most when it comes to sentences because criminals could get life in prison without the possibility of parole meaning they will spend the rest of their lives in prison until they die
All I can take away is that Ashlee is the most beautiful and genuine person. It’s just so sad that he was not.
RIP Angel Ashlee 💜💜💜💜
Genuinely stupid. It's like she had a death wish.
Please ALWAYS run background checks on any potential dates or even friends. Whether local or long distance. Also, don’t assume that just because someone doesn’t have previous charges, that it somehow makes them “safe”. Police reports are public record & tell a story as well. My ex just recently went to prison for the first time, even though he’s been terrorizing women for almost 2 decades. Due to ties with police, he had no previous charges. However, he did have over 40+ police reports filed against him that were swept under the rug per usual. Hes now under investigation for 2 m*rders & 6 SA’s. To think how all these women could’ve been saved had the police done their jobs the first time. It makes me sad that nobody looked into this guy more. I’m sure they’re already beating themselves up enough, it’s just harrowing that so many don’t understand how public records can work to your benefit & save a life if utilized properly. RIP sweet girl 🥺
I would NEVER allow my daughter to travel to another country to meet and live with a guy she met on the internet. No one thought of doing a background check on him before she flew to England to meet him? Her parents should be ashamed of themselves for allowing her to go…
I love that for your daughter, she's clearly got a parent who would go way above and beyond to protect her. However, in this case, there's probably a million things the parents wished they'd done but didn't because they trusted their daughter and her boyfriend, and truly believed she'd be safe. I can assure you, her parents will spend the rest of their lives wracked with guilt and shame.
4,500 miles apart not 45,000 miles apart 😅
England! 🏴 About one-quarter of the way to the moon! ☄️🌙
Yeah no 2 people can be further apart than 12,500 miles on earth xD.
Soooo what happened to the poor kitten? Hope someone helped him and he found a loving forever home. Poor baby! 😢
Ashley's mom should be talking about the dangers of people on the Internet along with domestic violence.
Nobody should be telling Ashley’s mom what to do.
@@selecttravelvacations7472- nobody should be listening to anything Ashleys pathetically inadequate family has to say except as a textbook case of how not to deal with a situation of this seriousness.
That very first clip of him yelling and cursing .. that's what my neighbor sounds like almost every day. I hear nothing from anyone else in the house. Just him screaming. It's terrifying. I'm scared for the kids. I've called the cops and CPS
Young people do stupid things. Most of us get out alive. No one jumps out of the nest expecting to die.
Let this be a lesson on minding your kids business and stressing the dangers of the world. Chances are, they'll still jump.
Abusive relationships are hard to get out of. The mind games really change you. In a perfect world, shed have left. Her parents wouldve came to rescue her. She'd be alive. But thats not how this usually works, not for the 18 year old, not for the 50 year old.
Very sad but not uncommon.
Perfect comment ❤
Ashley, baby, that man looked scary as hell. He looks EXACTLY like a person that would commit such crimes. She must've just been at a low moment that she picked him, cause baby girl, you were much better than that thing on every level
Cant judge a book by its cover does not apply here!! He can be judged! His appearance and personality match!
This "rule" is stupid and isn't in any logical sense a rule at all. Just a pretentious assumption.
What a piece of work...
Ladies remember its either life or death. Choose 1!
Looks like he hasn’t had a full nights sleep since he was 5
I sincerely don't understand. If pictures of abuse came into my possession there is very little that could stop me from being at location asap.
This guy is just nuts, with no bolts. Ashley is so beautiful, and seemed to just love life. For that sic piece of garbage to end her life is just simply RAGE INDUCING!!! People like him, need no second chances. He will kill again. Heart and prayers to Ashley's family and friends.
🙏🙌
Oh yea Ashley, after he beat you up you still think everything was fine? Ok buddy. Book smart ain’t street smart, that’s for certain smh
His face looks like the bottom of my shoe. I wonder what Ashley saw in him, she deserved better.. WAY better
What an incredible loss for her family, I can’t even imagine the pain ..This young lady was beautiful and had her whole life ahead of her.
Rest in Peace Ashley🌿
They gave a body that was in rigor mortis CPR? I seriously doubt that.
Ashley did not speak 3 languages. Let's come back to reality. Ashley was not the sharpest tool in the shed.
As a father I would never let my daughter travel to a new country alone. She'd need at least a friend to keep an eye on her in case of trouble.
I think the same thing. At the very least, I'd go with her for an extended vacation to meet him and assess the situation. And I'd definitely make sure she left if there were any red flags. I really believe that if she had had ANYONE to turn to, she would have left him. And anyone who knew about the abuse should have told her that you NEVER let an abuser know that you're leaving. That's the most dangerous time of all.
"She was intelligent and nobosy's fool."
Ok.
And she couldn't go to the cops and let them get her to the airport? Her parents couldn't call the local cops there in London?
Oh yeah. that's right. She's intelligent and nobody's fool.
She told the dude she was leaving him in two days?
Yep. She's intelligent and nobody's fool.
It takes two to tango. A man like this can't brutalise just anyone. It takes a certain type of woman to return to an abuser over and over again, even when he turns his brutality on a defenseless kitten. Sorry, this girl is partly to blame for allowing this man to do this to her. Unpopular opinion probably, but true nevertheless.
Sorry, “we don’t know why she did this, maybe it was xyz” no mention of the crippling reality of abusive relationships, trauma bonding, victims of abuse who frequently don’t see their abusers as abusers. Very bad reporting.