Grey's Anatomy The Rally and Death Reaction SPOILER ALERT!
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- Опубліковано 5 жов 2024
- Hospice Nurse Julie here with another Death or Drama Reaction video! This week we're taking a look at Grey's Anatomy! How REAL do they make it look? Do they do a good job of showing what death and dying looks like?
Do you think death and dying was accurately portrayed in Grey's Anatomy?
I gave my rating, what's yours! Leave it down in the comments below and let me know what I should watch next.
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I know this is a bit off topic but, watching you and your videos really inspired me and moved me to pursue this type of career. Recently, I've experienced the death of a close loved one and I was there when the last breath was taken and exhaled. And I couldn't describe in the words how it felt, until I heared you explain how it's like witnessing a birth. It feels sacred. And it felt truly sacred. I felt morbid that I wasn't grieving. Of course, I was struck by pain but not suffering. Instead it felt sacred... and that too is a superficial word for how it truly felt, to be honest. I can only imagine what kind of things you witness with such a job. It is not easy I believe that, but I also believe it is glorious to just be a part of beholding someone's transition and be a part of it, if nothing but a silent witness. So thank you, Julie, for actually showing me that I wasn't morbid.
I'm very excited for you! You're gonna do great! 💐🤗 Please keep us updated! 🙏🏼
Wow. What a post!
I bet the writers and directors don't know. I didn't know until my family started dying
My Dad was unconscious for about a week before he passed. I spent all that time with him, then a day or two before he passed, he had a rally. He woke up and saw me and said, clear as day, “It’s about @#$ *&$# time you got here!” Those were the las words he ever said. I’m so proud that he did that. You go Dad!
As an LPN, I work marketing hospice after 40 years of other areas of healthcare. I enjoy your videos, and you give me new ideas on how to talk to families. Thank you!
Julie I thank you so much for your guidance through this sorrowful time in my (and everyone else's that follow you) life. I hit rock bottom 6 weeks ago, thinking I was handling my grief very well. I was lying to myself and everyone in my life. I put myself back into intensive psychiatric care and can truly say that between my psychiatrist and you, I am moving forward with my life and I have goals and ambitions again. We all have worth and are valuable. Life is going to continue whether we like it or not, so we may as well be as happy as possible. Blessings to you! 😊
Hello, I just came across your channel and back in 2015 my wife was put on comfort care. The day before my wife passed she rallied and we had a great light hearted conversation and laughed a lot. After a couple hours she got tired so I let her get some sleep. The next day she passed away but I’m thankful for the little glimpse of the woman I married before that.
I think the best TV episode I’ve ever seen on death and the immediate aftermath and grief was Buffy, (!) when her mother died suddenly. Except for the requisite vampire fight in the morgue, I was struck by the realistic portrayal of the impact of her unexpected death on all the characters. My first impression was that the writer must have had first hand experience to base this on.
Not exactly what you are looking for, I’ll think some more & see if I come up with something more on the dying process. I am a hospice harpist and also educator on after-death care at home, (with or w/o a funeral director) so am very familiar with what people look like after death.
I agree with your remark on Grey’s Anatomy unrealistic portrayal of what actually happens in hospitals where staffing is concerned, but I still watch it. 😊
I so wish I had received this education from hospice before my mother passed away. She was terminally ill for two years before dying (COPD, CHF, end-stage kidney disease). I had only ever seen a guinea pig and a dog die and suddenly (during covid) I was her sole caregiver, until the very end when family came in. When she did die, I came unglued. I didn't understand what I was seeing. Even the hospice people had said it's like watching someone go to sleep so when I saw her mouth and eyes open, a fever, color changes, and so on I lost it. Thank you Julie for helping guide people through death and dying so that it does not have to be a traumatizing experience!
7:15 yes when my father in law died I came in the room and his eyes were closed but his mouth was open and his tongue was out and like purple. It freaked me out but then I remembered it was normal. When my dad died 2 months later suddenly from the same illness (CHF) his eyes and mouth were closed and he literally looked like he was sleeping
When my mother was transitioning at home on hospice care, she had the death rattle and apnea breathing, but her eyes were closed. After she died, her eyes remained closed, and her beautiful honey/caramel skin was radiant. She looked asleep. Twenty-four hours later, I went to the mortuary to style her hair and apply her favorite lipstick mama was even more stunning. In fact, she didn't require any makeup! Because I was coming to apply makeup, the mortician had not codmetized her. We both agreed that Mama didn't need any makeup.
Hi Julie just thought I'd write you to say first off thankyou for what you do, I love our hospice workers. And second could you maybe do a video on what I'm sure you've seen it happen when a loved one gets sick family and friends pulling away. This happened to my mum leaving it to me to attend to everything for her(which I managed and am not bitter about) but the one thing I really wish is that they would have come just to say hello( I think they were scared personally..) and just have an everyday conversation with mum. I think people don't want those heavy conversations with people who are dying but my belief is that they really want the exact opposite something light hearted. She I know felt very isolated in the last months of her life. Anyway I feel these are things that people should know and go and see those ones who are sick. It would mean the world to them.
Edit: if you've already addressed this in a previous video my apologies😅❤❤
The very start of the crown on Netflix, episode 1 shows king George having lung cancer. He goes down hill very quick and then he seems to be amazingly better, saying he feels great. Then he dies within a few days. After seeing your videos it's really good example of the rally on TV ❤
It happened to my grandad many years ago. He was dying of skin cancer and one day my mum visits him in hospital and he was ghastly looking. Next time, he's sat up bright and breezy looking a picture of health, my mum couldn't believe it. Few days later he was dead.
These videos are helpful as my mum is dying with Alzheimer's and therefore I'm prepared for when I see her either die or afterwards if I'm not there at the time. ❤
I don't know Ms Julie,......I think you kinda got something for Mr Sloan! 🤭
Just kidding. This show inspired me to go into healthcare on the "hands on" side.
I used to audit healthcare claim workers. Then I decided to become a CNA, and so on, you know the drill. Recently my father fell & broke his hip, and my mother is just to tiny to be strong at 80 years old, 90 pounds soaking wet. Lols! I was able to retire to take care of them both. So happy to have changed careers. Love what you're doing here! Death Education is important in my opinion. Thanks for what you do! Blessings from WI 💙💙💙
Hi Julie! I understand how you feel when TV or film gets things wrong. I was a dental hygienist for 25 years and it aggravates me to no end. A five minute Google search would tell you that the 3 rooted tooth you just extracted from the lower jaw could never happen!
My grandpa, who passed in 2006(likely from complications of CHF, which he struggled with for many years), apparently exhibited the rally according to my mom, baking a pie one last time before lapsing into the actively dying phase.
Both of my parents passed with their eyes and mouth closed. My mother became very profound in her rally or surge. I enjoy your videos and wanted to add a different prospective
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Be thankful for that! When my mom passed, her eyes were wide open. It was awful 😭
I hope that didn’t come out the wrong way. It probably did and I apologize for that.
My Zoey's eyes stayed mostly closed though her right eye was very slightly open over her last two days with the bottom of her pupil showing, so she was an exception
You are Awesome Julie!! I am a 72 yr old man with a shit load of health issues.. You have given me a new lease on My choice to go on Home, so to speak. I am down to 2 months Battery Life on my Pacer. This has given me 9 years of additional life since my Big One in Aug 2014. My SA Node died in that event and my Pacer installed to keep that Heart Function going. I have decided that No New Pacer will be Installed. You Girl are the Bomb, keep on keeping on. Gotta Love Ya
Fabulous attitude. Peace to you!
God Bless you Mike! May this be so easy for you and when you pass YOU WILL say this was an easy passing! Thank you for being so honest. I’m so happy you too, like me, found sweet, smart dear Nurse Julie. If you will, send a butterfly 🦋 around my face, you are going to a beautiful place!
@@lauriecook3015 Thanks God Bless you
@@MagsChase1229 Thanks so much for your kind words, this was not a easy decision, but I feel the best. Julie's videos have helped in that. She is an Angel, on Earth
I work as a dementia support worker for elderly people in a care home setting so end of life care comes with the territory, this is so true this episode in the sense of rallying you call it, we call it terminal lucidity. It happens way more often than you think I have even known a dementia patient who was in the later stages, he could fall and any time he had a slight bump to the head he would be lucid for 30 mins after. During this time we would spend as much time as possible with him so that we could really get to know him and ask questions about his likes and dislikes. It was truly phenomenal to experience this
Can you tell me why this would happen to my live and living dementia patient so often I'm very curious
thank you for talking about this. my nan experienced a bit of a surge towards the end too. she never became fully lucid, only able to mouth “i love you” and open her eyes and squeeze our hands, but the few days we were there, even the ICU staff thought she was getting better (many things seemed to indicate she was). sadly, it was briefly-lived and she passed away today. but even everything you said about how they look when dying is spot-on, and it’s jarring. i hope people know/realize how so. they lose most of the colour (they look grey), sometimes they’re bloated/swollen from fluids, their mouths are open, and their eyes are open but empty. it’s an awful thing to witness. i’m glad i got to experience my nan rally as it felt as if she waited for us to “be there” to say goodbye and then she passed away.
I saw your short on this topic the other day and immediately thought of Grey's. That was my first time learning of this phenomenon. He just looks too pretty killed me 🤣
From another hospice nurse ❤… please review the death scene in the “ Downton Abbey A New Era” - of the family matriarch Violet Crawley played by Maggie Smith!! 😮😮😅 You will have a lot to say!!!
Im having my coffee before night shift.
Thanks for always keeping it real, Nurse Julie!
I’m telling you, please see Brian Blessed in I, Claudius playing Augustus’ death scene.
That whole series was brilliant!
I have often wondered if they portrayed death accurately in Virgin River when Lily died. It is another example of the rally before death.
My Mom had the rally the day she came home on hospice from the hospital. It confused me, even though I heard of it, I wasn't aware that was what was happening. She hadn't been eating, was doing nothing but sleeping in the hospital, had given completely up and asked for hospice. They got her comfy in her bed and I walked in the bedroom to find her sitting up saying "I'm gonna beat this!" Followed by requests for soup, and ice cream. Which she said was the BEST ever (nothing special about what I fed her for sure). She talked with me all evening, and we said everything we wanted to say to each other. She asked me if I would be mad if she died (of course not). The next day it was straight down hill again, mostly sleeping, and only able to nod. Only eating a little bit of applesauce (like 2 bites). That day she was able to barely whisper out "I love you too". That was the last words to me. The next day after that no communication and non responsive, and passed away 4 days later. :(
My Aunt rallied (from cancer)like a champ! She just got up from the bed and was sitting at the table demanding cigarettes. She was talking and laughing with with everyone. She had all the energy in the world. You would think she was perfectly fine. Then she went to bed to "sleep" and basically went back downhill from there. Prior to the surge she was in bad shape. She was basically unresponsive for a couple days, and then popped up for the rally. It was so bizarre to watch how that progressed. That was all with mimimal pain meds so it wasn't sedation.
A guy at death's door in a hospital bed with perfectly coifed hair and a pristinely ironed hospital gown, yeah right! Lol
My brother to this day blames my cousin for "killing" our father.
Our father was in the hospital for a couple of days dying from heart failure - got the "surge" - was laughing, joking, eating & even accepted a visit from our estranged cousin, his sibling's child.
My brother was not in the room during my cousin's visit, however, my brother believes my cousin somehow brought up old painful memories - upset our dad, causing his cardiac arrest shortly after the visit, minutes later.
Years later I explained that what had happened was something that some people who are dying will experience. It wasn't our cousins fault.
My dad died end of April but he did look exactly as he would normally. No eyes or mouth open, just looked asleep hooked up in ICU.
Thanks for stating the truth. Grey’s is the epitome of all that is wrong with Hollywood. Bs, Bs, Bs.
Sloan was teaching during his rally because he knew deep down what was happening
Wish I had known what to expect when my step dad was dying it was awful and took 4 long days and that death rattle was awful I still can not get the sound and his mouth wide open put of my head
O or Q 😢... the only thing right is the advice that you should tell people that you love that you love them! Friends, family everyone
Hello, Julie. I want to mention a book that some of your viewers might be interested in. It’s “What Dreams May Come” by Richard Matheson. It’s author’s idea of the what the afterlife might be like. It is the only fiction book I can recall that has such an extensive list, at the end, of nonfiction references you can read about that subject. I’m sure Mr. Masterson believed that there is indeed an afterlife for us. It was also made into a movie of the same name. Thank you.
The movie stars none.other than Robin Williams. Maybe it's just because I saw the movie a month after my dad's death (my first major loss), but even now, after losing everyone close to me, it still remains a special and loved movie for me.
@@christinebutler7630 I'm glad.
background on Dr. Sloan
Mark Everett Sloan, M.D., F.A.C.S he and Derek grew up together and that he, having lost his mother as a child and his father emotionally neglecting him, considered Derek's mother as his maternal figure. As he was an only child and Derek was the only son, they became close friends and he was Derek's best man at the latter's wedding to Addison. He was introduced in season two as Derek Shepherd's best friend. Mark caused the end of Derek’s marriage by sleeping with Derek's then-wife, Addison Montgomery. Mark moves to Seattle in season three to make amends with Derek and becomes Seattle Grace Hospital's new plastic surgery attending, after which he is dubbed "McSteamy" by the female interns for his good looks. Mark's focal storyline in the series involved his romantic relationship with Lexie Grey one of the interns who was on his service when they started dating.[ Both he and Lexie sustained fatal injuries during an aviation accident in the eighth-season finale, and Seattle Grace Mercy West is later renamed Grey Sloan Memorial Hospital after their passing.
I love the hell out of you Julie!
That's why I'm begging you to start watching GREYS ANATOMY. Season1 episode 1 and let the drama unfold!
It's a fabulous show and I could see you were interested ❤
When my mom died she was afraid she’d lose control of her bowels but she didn’t. She had a little saliva on her face that I gently wiped off. Her Parkinson’s mask had gone away and she looked pretty good. She looked like she was resting--nothing like she was afraid of.
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I was with my Dad when he died. His breathing got erratic and he was gasping. Then he sort of would stop and start breathing finally stopping and then just looked like he was sleeping. I think he passed easier than most.
Yeah. What was really sweet about my dad’s death was that he *was* himself-a kind, gentle, erudite man.
If you wanna be “wise” and “profound” at your rally, you’re gonna have to be like that normally-which means an aggravating know-it-all.
Just be kind, folks. As much as you are able.
The client I had told a very animated story of when he met his wife. I wish I had recorded him.
If You want drama, the Verdi: "La Traviata" is for You.
Here with Diana Damrau and Juan Diego Flóres - two of the loveliest voices on stage. Damrau slightly beyond her prime.
I heard Damrau as Queen of the Night in The Magic Flute- I don't know what's more incredible, that Mozart could write such music, or that Diana Damrau could sing it flawlessly and make it sound easy.
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She is showing her teeth. It is not seering, but when she started out she had blisters on her vocal cords due to the extreeme violence and volume. So it is a learned placing of the tone.
My husband and I watch a lot of BBC shows. I told him the British have a better understanding of how dead people look as far as the coloring and features looking different.
5:40 - my wife loves this show, but this is exactly the thing that makes me want to puke. If you've spent any time at all in a hospital as a patient, you know seeing two doctors hanging out together or with a patient at the same time is as likely as seeing a unicorn buying a slim Jim at a convenience store.
Thanks for give me a great laugh
I love your channel. This is a topic I’ve always been interested in, some might think it odd. Our end is important
First off I love your videos. I wanted to find out why when my dad passed in the hospital he did not open his mouth or eyes. He actually looked the same, coloring did not change. They did put him into a medically induced coma. Would that somehow make a difference?
Thank you for your educational videos. Could you please do a video on Advanced Parkinson Disease in a palliative care patient.
Before my mom passed, she went through the “surge”, or rally…. There were no epiphanies. But she was HER. She laughed and made jokes. She wanted her hair done and her makeup done. She trusted me to this but she couldn’t handle it 😂 SHE had to do it, and so she did. She wanted a cheeseburger and some peach cobbler. We both worked at this hospital and she knew what she wanted. Funny thing is, she had been diagnosed with type 2 diabetes while she was in the hospital so the cheeseburger and cobbler were forbidden. But I didn’t care. I got it for her. I vaguely remember chewing a nurse’s ass for scolding me for that. But she barely ate 1/4 of the cheeseburger and it made her sick. The respiratory therapist came in to give her a breathing treatment and she joked about it being a peace pipe. Literally a few minutes later she was coding and my Dad panicked and made the decision to put her on a vent. Death sucks. I know that she was at peace, but watching the body go through that process is excruciating. It’s so hard.
Thank you for taking the time to make these videos and helping people deal with this. Also, I’m a HUGE Grey’s Anatomy fan and although I know it’s not always accurate, I’m still a fan 😂😂
I love your fuscia lipstick. What is it?
I was going to ask too! I'm looking for this shade. What are you wearing???
neither my mother's or my fil's eyes were open, but the other things yes
Ta find your videos very educational
Thanks
I experienced this rally moment I think with my father last yr2023 . He had aortic stenosis and pneumonia and was 93 he was released from the hospital and sent to a rehab center . I believe because there was nothing they where doing for him as they said he would not survive a surgery any way . The night he was released he had extreme swelling in his ankles all the way up to his knee . Now he was a diabetic . When I questioned the swelling the house doctor did not care and released him anyway . Looking back at this could this have been the start of modeling ? He was released and sent to rehab . That was on a Wednesday I saw him the next 2 days and he seemed fine that Friday I saw him at 10 am spoke to him he actually said he was feeling pretty good . I spoke to him by phone at noon to let him know I had laundered his clothing and he was in good spirits . At 3:30 pm that day they found him on the floor of his room dead . I still don’t understand how or why this happened . And I re live now this day ever since . Is this what you mean by rallying I would appreciate your response . The doctor was at the University of Cincinnati hospital . A teaching hospital .
My stepdad passed this year, his mouth wasn't hanging open fully, and his eyes most definitely were not open either
Does the person experiencing the "rally" know they're in the rally phase?
I found it a little hard to follow but, I do appreciate your honesty . . . I`m a gonna go soon enough, so I do love your videos. thank you. I`ll keep watchin.
I cried so freaking much during this scene
I once turned in to Greys Anatomy briefly but I had to turn it off but because it seemed to soap opera.
As a retired nurse it's very difficult for me to watch almost all medical shows, especially if I'm watching it with friends or family who aren't in the medical community. I probably ruined their shows for them on more than one occasion. It's better for me to just not watch them. Give me a good old fashioned western and I'm happy.
Dear Julie I just I love you I just think what you do is such a service. and I hate to say this but my late husband I lost him to pancreatic cancer approximately 7 years ago, and he had that type of death. the hospice nurse that came and got me told me he took one breath in and that was it he just stopped breathing. When I went out to see him in the living room he looked beautiful. I had seen him two hours before that and he did not look good at all. Is color did change and he was in so much pain. I am not a big fan of Grey's either, but Ricky did die a quiet beautiful death. But they do say even a blind chicken gets a piece of corn every now and then. So somewhere out there I'm sure there are others who had this little beautiful death, but I know that's not normal. Just FYI. 😉CL
I haven’t watched Grey’s since probably 2007. I was hooked in the beginning and looked forward to Sunday evenings so much. But then it eventually just became too much of a soap opera and they killed off my favorite people.
Same! Stopped watching IRL about 2007. Just recently binged seasons 1 to 4. So much drama and inaccurate portrayals lol. As a health care professional I did not see it first time through. More life experience now!😊
Go ahead Julie and bash Greys. My wife and I have watched it for years. I became an RN a few years after the show actually started, and I'm constantly explaining to her just how completely unrealistic the show is.
ER was so much better!
To be fair Mark was being profound because the plane crash he was in caused the love of his life to die and they wasted a lot of time not being together in the show so he was just giving Avery advice.
Please speak about death signs elderly patients with tracheostomy after brain stem stroke and bleed
It's so sweet and heart wrenching. Even if it's not real.
Greys is very Dr focused, nurses in reality do all that stuff...
Another great vid!!
I was with my mother when she passed away. Her eyes closed and mouth closed.
Watching from Philippines 🇵🇭😊
Id like to see you review thelast scene from into the wild. I think that would be a good one to review
I tried watching that show a couple of times, just could not get into it.
What are people's vitals like during the rally
Well Julie ,, I do like your videos, but if Hollywood showed everything like it is in real life, no one would watch
My mom rallied a bit before she died.
I like GA. I know it’s fiction, entertainment, so at least for me I don’t take it all literally.
Such a great tv series your such a wonderful person julie❤❤❤
ha ha .. you do realize that it was just another scripted faux tv show ???
What about the other guy, the one that left the blonde doc all that money? She shows up in her hot pink ball gown for their “prom” only to find him dead rafter he’d rallied.
😳 but but.. I LOVE Gray’s 😂
Review the death of Jimmy Smits on NYPD Blue.
next time .. review one of the "Living Dead" episodes .. they seem to "die" with their eyes open
How about an old episode of House?
If i recall, he knew he was dying.
People watch these doctor shows and then got to the doctor or some serious illness or dying process and expect it all to be like the TV shows and it's NOT really how things go and they get mad and confused. Sad.
Profundity.
Nate Fisher Six Feet Under !
The resident.
ER was so much better.....
McSteamy 😋
I’m a neuro RN
I hate Grey’s Anatomy.
Like really hate, loathes, detest, abhor, etc, Grey’s Anatomy.
The show, not the book.
The book as so necessary, and I do not appreciate how the name of the book was stolen for something so pathetic and stupid.
Just my opinion.
I just HATE that show.
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ive seen the rally and imo they over reacted on it. part of it is NOT what happens. im sorry julie about the dying i disagree with you my daddy looked no different he just looked asleep. no different colour only thing i do agree his mouth was open and his breathing did change. but not his eyes they were closed.. but again we need to remember if we see death alot or not everyone is different. just cos we might see things alot still doesnt mean we know everything. again cos everyone is different even when they are dying
You're great but you like that guy did you😂
American television and movies are aimed at a population who on average have a 15 old’s mentality and education😂
When people are dying and they've been sick, not talking, not eating or drinking anything and literally been in a coma and just about die...like sleeping for months and then out of nowhere they get up hyper, like they do when they were alive, and they are agile and normal, they ask for food and for something to drink, and they eat there favorite foods and laugh and talk and they literally are up and happy and jubilant, some family members my think they are actually okay and have beaten the disease and they look like they can come home and be okay...but they are experiencing there last hoorah and goodbyes...everyone goes through this before death.
They have that one day of excitement and they look like they are okay and not sick anymore and they eat like crazy and drink and talk to family then they go back to sleep and pass away.
To me, that's there last goodbye to there family and friends...it's the spirit & energetic world preparing the loved one to cross over and letting them have that last goodbye well they wait to greet them in the afterlife.
I love you
I dont believe a word
You do know that it’s just a show . It’s not real 😮
well ... don't worry ... he will magically come back to life and show up on another fake tv show
First time commenting.... i find your videos extremely co.forting... from an ill single mum of three. More people shpuld see your videos
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