Welcome to the Bubble Bath, bestie… minus the bath and the bubbles… but ANYWAYS, it was really on my heart to make this video at the beginning of a new year, a time where we place crazy expectations on ourselves, especially on our physical bodies. For anyone going through something right now, you’re doing great and PROGRESS IS NOT LINEAR, SO BE NICE TO YOURSELF. THAT IS AN ORDER. ❤️
I get such a big sister vibe from you, thanks for being vulnerable and talking about something which is obviously very difficult for you. We really appreciate it
I’ve learned that working on feeling neutral about my appearance and body is actually more helpful than being confident coz that’s easier to achieve 😂 I know the media now is really focusing on how we should love ourselves but what’s not talked a lot about is how acceptance of oneself works well too and even better in the long term
Anyways thanks kaiti for this video!! I agree with how most youtubers only share advice/tips when they have successfully overcome their struggles and I appreciate you for being vulnerable here🥰
Cannot agree more! There were times that I disliked my body, but for the most part I would be neutral towards it. It actually made appreciating my body come easier than trying to be confident about it from the get-go. I acknowledged my ugly days and my pretty days. But most of the time, I’m fairly neutral about it and how I look. I’ve come to see it as a vessel I need to take care of in order to live the life I want in this world. I’m able to concentrate more on my life and what I’m doing rather than constantly think about how I look when I’m in a body-neutral mindset.
kaiti has learned so much about herself, now she's reminding us to never be hard on ourselves. lets work hard to accept ourselves, slowly but surely. thank you for this video.
I've never commented in your channel before, but I felt the need to say this: Thank you so much for being so vulnerable 🙏❤. It's not always easy. And one big takeaway I got from this video is that I don't have to wait till I'm victorious over a certain struggle before I can share it and help someone else out. I always feel the same way you do, thinking about it. I always feel that I'm not qualified to help someone out seeing as I'm still struggling myself. But this video proved me wrong. So, thank you. And I hope this helps so many other people out as well: those going through body dis morphia and other related issues 🤗😚💜💜
This means so much to me, thank you. 100% agreed, I'm trying to internalize more that none of our experiences, trials, or hardships are wasted if we can share our experiences with others!
I personally am always happy when someone talks about any mental health/body image issues as if it wasn’t for people talking about them online, I would of never realised I went through certain things in my younger life Thanks Kaiti, I know some of us watching this will benefit from this
This video came when I needed it the most. Since the start of the new year my feed has been flooded with "that girl" routines and glow up videos and I've been feeling so heavy for the past week because of this invisible pressure and expectation to display, externally, "my best self" to everyone around me, on and off social media. Thank you for sharing your journey and your advice! Sending all my love and light to you and anyone reading this 🤍💫
i think it’s good that you’re making this video while still on your journey to body confidence. progression is not a straight line by any means, so it’s nice to see someone with us rather than talking after the fact.
“Everyone wants to see what’s underneath, so they know they’re not alone.” Kaiti, this is probably one of the best pieces of for anyone to hear. So many people think that vulnerability is a flaw, but it is really one of the greatest traits to build stronger bonds and get a life you desire.
I was listening to a podcast that said, “it’s important to live life by design rather than emotion. Basically, sticking to a routine is what allows us to be the healthiest version of ourselves (especially when you're fighting these demons ex. OCD for me). I’ve had to overhaul how I approach taking care of my brain (exercise, journaling, studying etc) by practising mediocre consistency. Now I try to put in consistent 50-60% effort into my habits - to make sure I do it I began recording it and posting it on YT. After a really bad depression phase I started to believe I couldn’t change and I’d feel that horrible forever. Now Im trying to work on my self from the inside to outside. Historically I have a habit of going too hard, not being able to sustain the Herculean effort, giving up and hating myself. So now I’m trying to give a small, consistent mediocre effort everyday. And its crazy how it adds up. Finally i feel regulated enough to have coherent thoughts and figure out my body image stuff.
thank you for making this video -- as a teen living today's modernized world, with social media & just absurd societal standards for beauty these days, i think in general people my age become wayy more vulnerable to such lack of body confidence issue. such videos really do remind me that i'm not alone! so thank you kaiti :-) so glad i found you through youtube! all the best 💛
2022 is the year I’m trying to lower standards for myself (in terms of how hard I am on myself in certain aspects aHHHH) but raise standards for my ideal type so hopefully this video will help with that first part which will tHEN help w the second part 😋
Looooove her too. Can we be three besties?? You’ll be the gorgeous funny and spontaneous AND sensitive hugging night in friends and I’ll…. Be the one that asks to hang out??
As the eldest daughter of an Asian family with no older role model to turn to when advice is desperately needed, this video helped so much. I'm going through a dark period of my life and though I'm sure I will work my way out of it eventually, I've never had anyone to discuss this issue or talk about with. To me you're like the wiser big sister that I've always needed. Thank you so much!
Sharing ones state of mind in harsh periods of life is very difficult for anyone who really came through it all... I could totally relate with u kaiti!
This is so great. As an ex fitness head who is trying to get back into it after falling off because of low self esteem, I really appreciate your perspective and vulnerability. Thank you for sharing your story
kaiti talks like a professional author holy crap. ik u are “a random person in a bathtub giving advice,” but thanks for this video it was all articulated so well
thank you so much for sharing ! i have a lot of food anxiety and through 2021, the most important things i learned are that 1) recovery is never straightforward, and 2) it's not so much about 'curing' your problems, but learning to minimise and live with them. i think your tips are really useful, so thank you !!
Totally feel you with the food anxiety. I spent my whole life having food anxiety. One of the tools that transformed my life with food was EFT tapping. I share more about it on my channel. Lots of love to you! You got this!
Kaiti, it was incredible of you to share your story. You've done all if us a huge difference discussing body image. I've mild body image issues. It's not detrimental but I always seek to improve the image I have of health and beauty. Thank you so much. Giving you a virtual hug.
thank you for the insight, kaiti. i actually teared up, which i didn’t think i would. you have this way of making me comfortable with listening to you or that you’re talking to me. that last line of saying “we’re all players in a game we didn’t really sign up for, but in realising that we are in the game we can start to dismantle the rules a little bit”, that changed my perspective. i guess i was thinking too much about myself that i didn’t realise to look at the big picture because really, people don’t look at us 24/7. it’s usually just our thoughts going places because we see ourselves in the mirror every day. i’m very grateful - truly, thank you kaiti.
I love this. I’ve also gone through some things that made me feel like I needed to “perfect” my body in accordance to my personal beauty standards. After recognizing that my mindset was unhealthy, I changed my habits by setting small goals for myself. I also wrote a paper on beauty standards and that helped me to look at where I was though an unbiased lens and change for the better.
Yup. the whole feeling that you need to have a "perfect body" totally ruined most of my life. I spent my whole life having anxiety about my body and never feeling good enough. One of the tools that transformed my life with my body was EFT tapping. I share more about it on my channel. Lots of love to you! You got this!
I think the whole "not allowed to feel shitty because others have it worse"-mentality (like with "pretty privilege" or anything really) can be really detrimental to your well-being and mental health. If I'm feeling happy, I wouldn't NOT be happy just because there are people in the world happier than me. So why should it be that way when I'm having a bad day? Everyone is allowed emotions and to feel shitty and insecure, regardless of whatever "privilege" they have or other people label them to have. Everyone struggles sometimes in life and it shouldn't matter how hard you struggle or how often you struggle for that fight to be validated. Really glad you made this video, Kaiti, it definitely should be addressed more and normalized! Lots of love from Sweden
Loved this video! As a bisexual, it is sooo hard for me to find a healthy middle between looking at a beautiful woman and being attracted by her or wishing I looked more like her
dudee you posted a video in the middle of hell a week, I tried so hard to wait and watch this vid as an award to myself but bro it was so hard to stop myself, KAITI I'M ADDICTED TO YOUR VIDS HUHUHHU
Sis Kaiti makes my day. I have a lot negative thoughts abt myself back then like 2yrs or so, but since I started stopping thinking abt it still happens to show up verbally such as: "Is difficult to accept when people say positive things abt u." I actually try to bit somehow difficult feeling and just makes feel not good about it. BUT yes, mental health is important and we'll always love ourselves how matter what! Take care of yourself and love yourself. You're unique and special individual.
Thank you for making this video! Honesty and vulnerability are so important, especially relating to body dysmorphia and other health-related issues. You are making a difference 💚
i’ve never seen ur channel before but i’m really glad i found this. i’ve hated my body for almost ten years now. i still hate it every day. thank you for the advice and for sharing your own story. it’s appreciated
thank you sm for bringing up that everyone has the right to be insecure. i always feel bad for not liking my body, because a lot of people (my friends included) say that im not allowed complain about being so skinny and bony.
You’re words are so beautiful! Ever since I looked up how to organize a closet and clicked on your video I have loved the way you present subjects and show yourself and, your personal relationships with your family. When I watched what types of clothes look good on me instead of wearing what is in fashion I can accept the way I look and not stress at school. You choose clothes I didn’t think I would personally wouldn’t wear but then I see the outfits you make and I love them! I find that in myself now and I don’t feel as insecure. Even when my mom says”are you sure you want that”, I can reply with yes this will look good on my body and she able to see why I choose it when I get my outfits, whether i layer like how you’ve taught me or use your lessons on silhouettes clothes form on the different types of girls. Thank you Kaiti!!!!!!
This came at a really great time, I was feeling very dysmorphic today after a long streak of feeling good about myself. This really put everything in perspective. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this video.
Your story is so relatable to the T. Thank you so much with every video I feel you show so much growth and wisdom and it is such a blessing that you are the person that you are. So far your account is such a safe place because you value what you do and the people you are 'ministering' to, it takes a lot to share a personal experience while having such little bias with so much insight. Also thank you for the sensitivity you show from your humor to your words I feel you are very mindful of the world around and how certain things can be seen as extreme to other people who are not in the same hemisphere as you are but you still maintain such and impactful delivery. Thank you❤ Excuse my rambling XOXO
i can really relate to kaiti not putting her social media apps on her home screen. i've learnt to not scroll my phone aimlessly and it feels nice :) also, thank you, kaiti, for mustering up the courage to be vulnerable! i've learnt so much on your channel. even though i dont know your past, from hearing your story i think you've developed such a healthy mindset and approach to food and health, in general. ive got a lot to learn from this video and i dont think they are such unachievable goals. good luck to you, and to me and to everyone embarking on the journey of self love and confidence this year
kaiti thank you so much for finding the courage to open up to us and talk about your story. even though we don't share the same experiences and i feel totally different about my body (but still struggle with body confidence and feeling good about myself), i felt so close to you and i felt like you could also understand me and what im going through. it's hard for me to be vulnerable and talk about this stuff, but you're setting an amazing example and im so proud of you for making this video. also, thank you for the tips. this year i promised to myself to be constant with workouts and not to skip them, even if i don't do more than 30 minutes. you telling me that's the right thing to do was really encouraging. so thank you again for the tips and everything, i love you so much
Kaitiiii it always takes bravery to share and be vulnerable like this (to people in your life let alone the internet lol), so thank you so so much for sharing your experience with all of us 💕I've definitely found myself thinking about how this year is gonna be THE year where I finally prioritize my health, and then as soon I look at social media all the doubts come swarming in. It's such a vicious cycle and I'm so tired of it. Thank you for reminding me and all of us that we're not alone.
I appreciate this video so much because I've been self conscious and extreeemely insecure about my body for as long as i can remember, but I'm trying to be nicer to myself
Kaiti comes in with this vid even when she is still in her own process of healing, of taking care of herself and I appreciate that so much. And I'm wishing her the best of luck in the rest of her journey
Kaiti you are spreading so much love and self confidence. Like I can imagine that it can be scary to be vulnerable and put yourself out but you did it for us. I am so grateful, thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing your story 💜 social media is definitely one of my triggers & sometimes I feel like something is wrong with me because I can’t keep it under control but this video validates my feelings & reassures I need to prioritize my mental health, even when it’s different from what everyone else is doing.
Kaiti thank you so so much for this video - I have been suffering from chronic eczema, diet changes, weight gain/loss since I was 12 and this video felt at points like listening to someone explain my own heart to me. Thank you
my respect for you has deepened even further, kaiti. thank you for putting yourself out there and for speaking so sensitively and frankly on a sensitive topic! James Clear is amazing, and I love that quote from Brene Brown as well (I should read something from Brene too tbh). I could definitely work to be more vulnerable to help normalize /authenticity/ as well as dismantle these double standards that have been placed on ourselves. rather than achieving perfection in 2022, I hope we move towards greater self-understanding, compassion, courage, and acceptance. ❤️
It takes a hell lot of courage to even come up with the idea of making and posting a video like this. Thank you for putting this out for so many people to see. These kind of videos show why people like you are worth following because they show the actual real unapologetic you who is absolutely lovely and amazing. Everyone goes through struggles but not everyone is able to be vulnerable and share their learnings or experiences with others especially online. Keep working, keep shining, and keep sharing your amazingness with the world!
It's very brave of you to share you're experience like that, I wish you the best. Quick little advice, completly blocking out triggers will sometimes make the reaction to the trigger bigger than it used to be. To combat that you need what we call gradual exposition (of course paired with working on feeling better about yourself) so that more and more you feel at ease seing the triggers and it becomes less and less of a trigger. The importance is to take small step based on what you are confortable with. Thank you for taking us to your bath
Thank you for being vulnerable. As someone who’s always struggled with body image, I love what you’ve talked about in this video. Thank you for being amazing Kaiti
thank YOO for sharing your journey! hearing this made me realize i am NOT heading towards a healthy direction but also that it's not too late to turn it around
I think a lot of us needed to hear what you said Kaiti. I've been feeling a little bit insecure the past months. I think I should try to focus on myself more and be more kind with myself ❤
Thanks for getting vulnerable with us Kaiti. 🧡✨ Opening up and having these challenging yet important discussions is how we can call out the bullsh*t & heal. And as you said, it’s great to know that we’re not alone. :)
Thank you so much Kaiti, this really meant a lot to me. Making a video like this must have been so hard, but from the bottom of my heart thank you for being willing to be vulnerable and give a voice to what so many of us think and feel about our bodies. As someone working through these kinds of things like you know I'm praying for you. Thanks again, love you Kaiti!!!
although your fashion videos are amazing and bring me so much inspiration, these videos that tackle topics surrounding mental health/allow vulnerability is what i gain the most from. i admire so much on how you take advantage of the position you are in to help and bring awareness towards these personal topics. thank you for everything you do and can't wait to see what you'll do next
thank you for this video kaiti. for most of my life, i was very committed to dance and was very thin without trying, but this past year, i started dancing less and less and gained weight rapidly because of that (and also stress eating and not sleeping enough). it's been hard coming to terms with both my changing body and also losing a lot of the flexibility and strength i had at the peak of my dance "career," but watching a lot of reassuring and vulnerable videos with has helped me feel better and has given me hope that one day i'll think about my appearance in a more neutral way.
I totally agree with a lot of this and I’m definitely struggling with needing exercise for mental health reasons and not then getting obsessed with ‘looking good’ as a by-product. I did want to make a point though that you mentioned that your brain doesn’t forget the feedback loop of these habits, which I think to a certain extent is true, but you can get CBT therapy which basically targets exactly this - rewiring your brain and thought processes to create healthier associations and interrupting/recognising these negative cycles. Its hard as hell but its doable.
Thanks for posting this! After i made a tentative mental recovery regarding this topic I never thought I would be able to watch a video about it without being overcome by anxiety and fear (I was scared to 'relive' it or whatev) but I am happy to say it was all good and your insight is amazing.
This is perfect timing for the new year. These issues are usually framed by two groups online, the HAES community and the fitness industry and then there is a group in between just trying to make it through. It's so important to share these things online to help break down stigma. It's not a secret most of us struggle...it's about how we overcome. I'm hoping my content will help people around me because I struggled for wayyyy too long. Thank you, Kaiti!
it's really incredible and brave of you to discuss this. body image is such a weirdly complex, simultaneously personal and yet so social thing. i've gone through periods of my life where i restricted my eating/developed bad eating habits because of outside factors that were causing me anxiety and insecurity, and i'm still struggling to fix my disordered relationship with food, so it meant a lot to hear this from someone that i admire :) i'll definitely do my best to implement your tips. here's to healthy and lasting changes!! i'm glad that you're doing a little better and hope that you continue to do well. thank you :D
The timing was perrrrrfect, it's summer where I live and after the holidays and my birthday, I have eaten a LOT, so my body it's not doing so well. I feel full all the time but i feel joy when I eat so I can't stop :c I notice that I gained some weight and I don't like what I see on the mirror and I try to rush into the pool so nobody can see me properly :c Thank you so so much for sharing your story and also for all the advices, I appreciate it so much.
i really respect you for making this video and really thankful too, because even if i didnt know, i did need this type of video where someone talks about stuff no one does. Up till now, i used to think workouts are only for being in shape like how the society tells us to be, i never really thought that its for us to feel good too thats why i really am grateful for this video, thank you kaiti❤
This video actally helped me. Lately i've been feeling insecure about my life,body ECT. my confidence has also been really low because of my insecurities and this has helped me so much. Thank you.
My therapist's way to battle comparison is to only follow people that make me feel go about myself. I follow a large number of mental health accounts and a large amount of body positivity accounts. The people I follow either A) Are mental health advocates, B) Are study accounts or C) Are family. So this usually prevents comparison. I also only use social media if I need to message someones or post. This video really did help though. Amazing tips and tricks.
I appreciate the quality you put in your videos. Thank you for taking the time and effort to refilm the beginning portion of the video to convey the most sincere feelings and best atmosphere. Really well spoken Kaiti! There are so many complicated feelings in us humans especially towards ourselves. Adding tips and habits to go forward while you are in your journey is so timely. KEEP GOING AND BE KIND TO YOURSELF.
Thank you so much for making this video on such a public platform nonetheless Kaiti! you really shared vulnerably and i believe we all do appreciate that
Thank you for thisss. I really love your channel bcs you are sooo relatable and feel like bestie. Not like those people who make us feel far away bcs of different standard.. lots of love 💕
Thank you so very much for this video. I've just discovered your channel and I can't tell you how very much I relate to your experiences. So much love to you 💕 One thing that was really hard for me was people saying I looked better when I was losing weight due to illness and ED habits. Even compliments can be damaging.
Hey Kaiti, I'm very thankful for this video. I'm a 14 year old girl from Germany and I'm watching your videos for a half year now i guess.I know I'm very young but this topic is very pesent and has a huge impact on my live. Watching your Videos makes me feel comfortable and gives my something like a break and a save space.
This was wonderful- and I will definitely show this to my sister- and I also have a video suggestion… How to Makeup? Please? I am about the worst at makeup and I don’t even know where to start. Living in Vermont means I have very little exposure to anyone using it- but I’m going to go to college and they will Definitely Know I’m not wearing anything.
❤️ I absolutely loved this! especially the talk on vulnerability. Right what i needed at this time, im a music producer/audio engineer who has had some small successes but never really wanted to expose them because i felt they weren’t big enough to post about. But now I’m slowly learning to retrain my brain, body, and spirit!
This subject is a little iffy for me so I’ll click off in a second and come back when I’m a bit stronger but I’m so happy that you’re making videos like this and sharing empathy and wisdom with us, thank you🌟❤️
I don't necessarily have any body image issue, but the advice about habit related struggles is BOMB 🤩 I don't know where I've been searching this whole time, because I consume a lot of "self-help" content, but the way it was explained here sounds a lot do-able than any other advice I've heard before.
Just found your channel via this video. Thank you for being so vulnerable!!! This is such an important topic that is NOT talked about in healthy ways. You're incredible, and thank you for being so open.
Your journey is so similar to mine… I’m getting war flashbacks *editing bc of what you said about social media … girl I’m the exact same, i attribute my improved mental health for completely deleting my social media. Not allowing myself access to the trigger for such toxic thoughts has done wonders for my body image.
Hey Kaiti, I really appreciate the vulnerability in this video. You're so brave to address this and I admire youre current way of thinking so much! Would love more videos with a similar setting ❤️❤️❤️. Stay strong girl 💗💗
Welcome to the Bubble Bath, bestie… minus the bath and the bubbles… but ANYWAYS, it was really on my heart to make this video at the beginning of a new year, a time where we place crazy expectations on ourselves, especially on our physical bodies. For anyone going through something right now, you’re doing great and PROGRESS IS NOT LINEAR, SO BE NICE TO YOURSELF. THAT IS AN ORDER. ❤️
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Kaiti!!! ❤
Thanks a lot Kaiti ❤️🥰😘
I started following you a few months ago but you helped me so much with my clothes and you are so funny!! keep going❤️
kaiti, why do you always come up with the MOST TIMELY advice ever 😭
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Literally!
I get such a big sister vibe from you, thanks for being vulnerable and talking about something which is obviously very difficult for you. We really appreciate it
Wow you look beautiful sorry that was random but I get Anne Frank vibes from you
I so appreciate you sticking around to listen!
I’ve learned that working on feeling neutral about my appearance and body is actually more helpful than being confident coz that’s easier to achieve 😂 I know the media now is really focusing on how we should love ourselves but what’s not talked a lot about is how acceptance of oneself works well too and even better in the long term
Anyways thanks kaiti for this video!! I agree with how most youtubers only share advice/tips when they have successfully overcome their struggles and I appreciate you for being vulnerable here🥰
Yes!!! Body neutrality is so important!
@@courteneyskye5690 it is a great goal for anyone and is more achievable for someone who is deep in their body negativity
Cannot agree more! There were times that I disliked my body, but for the most part I would be neutral towards it. It actually made appreciating my body come easier than trying to be confident about it from the get-go.
I acknowledged my ugly days and my pretty days. But most of the time, I’m fairly neutral about it and how I look. I’ve come to see it as a vessel I need to take care of in order to live the life I want in this world. I’m able to concentrate more on my life and what I’m doing rather than constantly think about how I look when I’m in a body-neutral mindset.
10000%! love it and couldn't agree more.
We need less "triumph narratives" and more "here's where I am at and here's how I am managing...or not managing." Thank you for sharing your journey!
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kaiti has learned so much about herself, now she's reminding us to never be hard on ourselves. lets work hard to accept ourselves, slowly but surely. thank you for this video.
thank you for listening!
I've never commented in your channel before, but I felt the need to say this: Thank you so much for being so vulnerable 🙏❤. It's not always easy. And one big takeaway I got from this video is that I don't have to wait till I'm victorious over a certain struggle before I can share it and help someone else out. I always feel the same way you do, thinking about it. I always feel that I'm not qualified to help someone out seeing as I'm still struggling myself. But this video proved me wrong. So, thank you. And I hope this helps so many other people out as well: those going through body dis morphia and other related issues
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This means so much to me, thank you. 100% agreed, I'm trying to internalize more that none of our experiences, trials, or hardships are wasted if we can share our experiences with others!
I personally am always happy when someone talks about any mental health/body image issues as if it wasn’t for people talking about them online, I would of never realised I went through certain things in my younger life
Thanks Kaiti, I know some of us watching this will benefit from this
This video came when I needed it the most. Since the start of the new year my feed has been flooded with "that girl" routines and glow up videos and I've been feeling so heavy for the past week because of this invisible pressure and expectation to display, externally, "my best self" to everyone around me, on and off social media. Thank you for sharing your journey and your advice! Sending all my love and light to you and anyone reading this 🤍💫
It takes a lot of self-awareness to even make such a realization. Proud of you and rooting for you!!!
i think it’s good that you’re making this video while still on your journey to body confidence. progression is not a straight line by any means, so it’s nice to see someone with us rather than talking after the fact.
“Everyone wants to see what’s underneath, so they know they’re not alone.”
Kaiti, this is probably one of the best pieces of for anyone to hear. So many people think that vulnerability is a flaw, but it is really one of the greatest traits to build stronger bonds and get a life you desire.
Not her starting my day with self love and amazing content! We love it here 😂❤️
I was listening to a podcast that said, “it’s important to live life by design rather than emotion. Basically, sticking to a routine is what allows us to be the healthiest version of ourselves (especially when you're fighting these demons ex. OCD for me).
I’ve had to overhaul how I approach taking care of my brain (exercise, journaling, studying etc) by practising mediocre consistency. Now I try to put in consistent 50-60% effort into my habits - to make sure I do it I began recording it and posting it on YT. After a really bad depression phase I started to believe I couldn’t change and I’d feel that horrible forever. Now Im trying to work on my self from the inside to outside.
Historically I have a habit of going too hard, not being able to sustain the Herculean effort, giving up and hating myself. So now I’m trying to give a small, consistent mediocre effort everyday. And its crazy how it adds up. Finally i feel regulated enough to have coherent thoughts and figure out my body image stuff.
Exponential growth
I can totally relate to hearing a family member comment on weight gain after looking a certain way for years and how that can just mess with your head
thank you for making this video -- as a teen living today's modernized world, with social media & just absurd societal standards for beauty these days, i think in general people my age become wayy more vulnerable to such lack of body confidence issue. such videos really do remind me that i'm not alone! so thank you kaiti :-) so glad i found you through youtube! all the best 💛
2022 is the year I’m trying to lower standards for myself (in terms of how hard I am on myself in certain aspects aHHHH) but raise standards for my ideal type so hopefully this video will help with that first part which will tHEN help w the second part 😋
I am sure sonali will get nothing but the best for her mind and body❤️
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Also 'Editing Kaiti' needs a different fanbase please.. she randomly popping in is so cute to me Idk why 😭😂
HAHAHAH this comment made my day 🥺 she truly is a different alter-ego, isn’t she?
@@KaitiYoo Awww my God sooo happy to do that.. Yeassss and we Love it 😭💞
Looooove her too. Can we be three besties?? You’ll be the gorgeous funny and spontaneous AND sensitive hugging night in friends and I’ll…. Be the one that asks to hang out??
@@kathleenmcnaughton3392 ohh Yeaaaa I mean why nott that's so sweet btw💘 I'm always ready for hangouts with lovely ppls💃
As the eldest daughter of an Asian family with no older role model to turn to when advice is desperately needed, this video helped so much. I'm going through a dark period of my life and though I'm sure I will work my way out of it eventually, I've never had anyone to discuss this issue or talk about with. To me you're like the wiser big sister that I've always needed. Thank you so much!
Sharing ones state of mind in harsh periods of life is very difficult for anyone who really came through it all... I could totally relate with u kaiti!
This is so great. As an ex fitness head who is trying to get back into it after falling off because of low self esteem, I really appreciate your perspective and vulnerability. Thank you for sharing your story
Omg thank you so so much for this. My body confidence and self love within the past year has been so low, I needed this so much thank you!! 💗
kaiti talks like a professional author holy crap. ik u are “a random person in a bathtub giving advice,” but thanks for this video it was all articulated so well
thank you so much for sharing ! i have a lot of food anxiety and through 2021, the most important things i learned are that 1) recovery is never straightforward, and 2) it's not so much about 'curing' your problems, but learning to minimise and live with them. i think your tips are really useful, so thank you !!
Totally feel you with the food anxiety. I spent my whole life having food anxiety. One of the tools that transformed my life with food was EFT tapping. I share more about it on my channel. Lots of love to you! You got this!
Kaiti, it was incredible of you to share your story. You've done all if us a huge difference discussing body image. I've mild body image issues. It's not detrimental but I always seek to improve the image I have of health and beauty. Thank you so much. Giving you a virtual hug.
thank you for the insight, kaiti. i actually teared up, which i didn’t think i would. you have this way of making me comfortable with listening to you or that you’re talking to me. that last line of saying “we’re all players in a game we didn’t really sign up for, but in realising that we are in the game we can start to dismantle the rules a little bit”, that changed my perspective. i guess i was thinking too much about myself that i didn’t realise to look at the big picture because really, people don’t look at us 24/7. it’s usually just our thoughts going places because we see ourselves in the mirror every day. i’m very grateful - truly, thank you kaiti.
I don't know how you have the ability in THIS VIDEO to address exactly what i've been going through but wow. i am emotional :')
I love this. I’ve also gone through some things that made me feel like I needed to “perfect” my body in accordance to my personal beauty standards. After recognizing that my mindset was unhealthy, I changed my habits by setting small goals for myself. I also wrote a paper on beauty standards and that helped me to look at where I was though an unbiased lens and change for the better.
Yup. the whole feeling that you need to have a "perfect body" totally ruined most of my life. I spent my whole life having anxiety about my body and never feeling good enough. One of the tools that transformed my life with my body was EFT tapping. I share more about it on my channel. Lots of love to you! You got this!
I think the whole "not allowed to feel shitty because others have it worse"-mentality (like with "pretty privilege" or anything really) can be really detrimental to your well-being and mental health. If I'm feeling happy, I wouldn't NOT be happy just because there are people in the world happier than me. So why should it be that way when I'm having a bad day? Everyone is allowed emotions and to feel shitty and insecure, regardless of whatever "privilege" they have or other people label them to have. Everyone struggles sometimes in life and it shouldn't matter how hard you struggle or how often you struggle for that fight to be validated.
Really glad you made this video, Kaiti, it definitely should be addressed more and normalized! Lots of love from Sweden
Loved this video! As a bisexual, it is sooo hard for me to find a healthy middle between looking at a beautiful woman and being attracted by her or wishing I looked more like her
dudee you posted a video in the middle of hell a week, I tried so hard to wait and watch this vid as an award to myself but bro it was so hard to stop myself, KAITI I'M ADDICTED TO YOUR VIDS HUHUHHU
Sis Kaiti makes my day. I have a lot negative thoughts abt myself back then like 2yrs or so, but since I started stopping thinking abt it still happens to show up verbally such as: "Is difficult to accept when people say positive things abt u." I actually try to bit somehow difficult feeling and just makes feel not good about it.
BUT yes, mental health is important and we'll always love ourselves how matter what! Take care of yourself and love yourself. You're unique and special individual.
Thank you for making this video! Honesty and vulnerability are so important, especially relating to body dysmorphia and other health-related issues. You are making a difference 💚
i’ve never seen ur channel before but i’m really glad i found this. i’ve hated my body for almost ten years now. i still hate it every day. thank you for the advice and for sharing your own story. it’s appreciated
thank you sm for bringing up that everyone has the right to be insecure. i always feel bad for not liking my body, because a lot of people (my friends included) say that im not allowed complain about being so skinny and bony.
You’re words are so beautiful! Ever since I looked up how to organize a closet and clicked on your video I have loved the way you present subjects and show yourself and, your personal relationships with your family. When I watched what types of clothes look good on me instead of wearing what is in fashion I can accept the way I look and not stress at school. You choose clothes I didn’t think I would personally wouldn’t wear but then I see the outfits you make and I love them! I find that in myself now and I don’t feel as insecure. Even when my mom says”are you sure you want that”, I can reply with yes this will look good on my body and she able to see why I choose it when I get my outfits, whether i layer like how you’ve taught me or use your lessons on silhouettes clothes form on the different types of girls. Thank you Kaiti!!!!!!
This came at a really great time, I was feeling very dysmorphic today after a long streak of feeling good about myself. This really put everything in perspective. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this video.
literally needed this so bad, thank you, kaiti
Your story is so relatable to the T. Thank you so much with every video I feel you show so much growth and wisdom and it is such a blessing that you are the person that you are. So far your account is such a safe place because you value what you do and the people you are 'ministering' to, it takes a lot to share a personal experience while having such little bias with so much insight. Also thank you for the sensitivity you show from your humor to your words I feel you are very mindful of the world around and how certain things can be seen as extreme to other people who are not in the same hemisphere as you are but you still maintain such and impactful delivery. Thank you❤
Excuse my rambling
XOXO
The idea of “body positivity” always fell flat on me, because it’s very clearly for a small subset of people
literally just found your channel with a different video and now i see that YOU JUST POSTED? this is, in fact, fate and just what i need. thank you!
Kaiti confirming once again why she’s one of my favorite UA-camrs 🤩 thank you for your vulnerability queen 💜💜
I’ve truly been BINGING and LOVING all of your videos 😌 thank YOO for being so open and vulnerable with us. we stan a realistic queen 👑
i can really relate to kaiti not putting her social media apps on her home screen. i've learnt to not scroll my phone aimlessly and it feels nice :) also, thank you, kaiti, for mustering up the courage to be vulnerable! i've learnt so much on your channel. even though i dont know your past, from hearing your story i think you've developed such a healthy mindset and approach to food and health, in general. ive got a lot to learn from this video and i dont think they are such unachievable goals. good luck to you, and to me and to everyone embarking on the journey of self love and confidence this year
kaiti thank you so much for finding the courage to open up to us and talk about your story. even though we don't share the same experiences and i feel totally different about my body (but still struggle with body confidence and feeling good about myself), i felt so close to you and i felt like you could also understand me and what im going through. it's hard for me to be vulnerable and talk about this stuff, but you're setting an amazing example and im so proud of you for making this video. also, thank you for the tips.
this year i promised to myself to be constant with workouts and not to skip them, even if i don't do more than 30 minutes. you telling me that's the right thing to do was really encouraging. so thank you again for the tips and everything, i love you so much
Kaitiiii it always takes bravery to share and be vulnerable like this (to people in your life let alone the internet lol), so thank you so so much for sharing your experience with all of us 💕I've definitely found myself thinking about how this year is gonna be THE year where I finally prioritize my health, and then as soon I look at social media all the doubts come swarming in. It's such a vicious cycle and I'm so tired of it. Thank you for reminding me and all of us that we're not alone.
You are my new favorite channel! Thank you for being so vulnerable, knowledgeable, fun, and an overall baddie!
I appreciate this video so much because I've been self conscious and extreeemely insecure about my body for as long as i can remember, but I'm trying to be nicer to myself
Hey. I’m proud of you ❤️
Kaiti comes in with this vid even when she is still in her own process of healing, of taking care of herself and I appreciate that so much. And I'm wishing her the best of luck in the rest of her journey
thank you so much for being vulnerable with us Kaiti
Kaiti you are spreading so much love and self confidence. Like I can imagine that it can be scary to be vulnerable and put yourself out but you did it for us. I am so grateful, thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing your story 💜 social media is definitely one of my triggers & sometimes I feel like something is wrong with me because I can’t keep it under control but this video validates my feelings & reassures I need to prioritize my mental health, even when it’s different from what everyone else is doing.
Kaiti thank you so so much for this video - I have been suffering from chronic eczema, diet changes, weight gain/loss since I was 12 and this video felt at points like listening to someone explain my own heart to me. Thank you
Video idea: Kaiti helps pick subscribers outfits ideas or helps them with outfit combos with what they have
So young and so brilliant. This video was RIGHT on time
me satisfied knowing that kaiti would me sitting on 1m subs by the end of the year❤️
my respect for you has deepened even further, kaiti. thank you for putting yourself out there and for speaking so sensitively and frankly on a sensitive topic! James Clear is amazing, and I love that quote from Brene Brown as well (I should read something from Brene too tbh). I could definitely work to be more vulnerable to help normalize /authenticity/ as well as dismantle these double standards that have been placed on ourselves. rather than achieving perfection in 2022, I hope we move towards greater self-understanding, compassion, courage, and acceptance. ❤️
It takes a hell lot of courage to even come up with the idea of making and posting a video like this. Thank you for putting this out for so many people to see. These kind of videos show why people like you are worth following because they show the actual real unapologetic you who is absolutely lovely and amazing. Everyone goes through struggles but not everyone is able to be vulnerable and share their learnings or experiences with others especially online. Keep working, keep shining, and keep sharing your amazingness with the world!
It's very brave of you to share you're experience like that, I wish you the best. Quick little advice, completly blocking out triggers will sometimes make the reaction to the trigger bigger than it used to be. To combat that you need what we call gradual exposition (of course paired with working on feeling better about yourself) so that more and more you feel at ease seing the triggers and it becomes less and less of a trigger. The importance is to take small step based on what you are confortable with. Thank you for taking us to your bath
you are so beautiful, it's so often that people you'd never think struggle with body image have it the worst. ❤️ thank you for sharing
talent- fashion, funny, dancer, youtuber, AND such a inspiring and helpful and motivational person :)
genuinly, thank u for all u do psalm 9:1
Thank you for being vulnerable. As someone who’s always struggled with body image, I love what you’ve talked about in this video. Thank you for being amazing Kaiti
thank YOO for sharing your journey! hearing this made me realize i am NOT heading towards a healthy direction but also that it's not too late to turn it around
I think a lot of us needed to hear what you said Kaiti. I've been feeling a little bit insecure the past months. I think I should try to focus on myself more and be more kind with myself ❤
Thanks for getting vulnerable with us Kaiti. 🧡✨ Opening up and having these challenging yet important discussions is how we can call out the bullsh*t & heal. And as you said, it’s great to know that we’re not alone. :)
Thank you so much Kaiti, this really meant a lot to me. Making a video like this must have been so hard, but from the bottom of my heart thank you for being willing to be vulnerable and give a voice to what so many of us think and feel about our bodies. As someone working through these kinds of things like you know I'm praying for you. Thanks again, love you Kaiti!!!
this video had such a nice balanced tone to it, without making it too serious. thanks for sharing this version of u kaiti! ❤️
although your fashion videos are amazing and bring me so much inspiration, these videos that tackle topics surrounding mental health/allow vulnerability is what i gain the most from. i admire so much on how you take advantage of the position you are in to help and bring awareness towards these personal topics. thank you for everything you do and can't wait to see what you'll do next
the consistency > intensity is so true. i just realized that this summer and my body and mind changed so much in a better way
Super well said Kaiti 😊 Proud of you!!
thank you for this video kaiti. for most of my life, i was very committed to dance and was very thin without trying, but this past year, i started dancing less and less and gained weight rapidly because of that (and also stress eating and not sleeping enough). it's been hard coming to terms with both my changing body and also losing a lot of the flexibility and strength i had at the peak of my dance "career," but watching a lot of reassuring and vulnerable videos with has helped me feel better and has given me hope that one day i'll think about my appearance in a more neutral way.
I totally agree with a lot of this and I’m definitely struggling with needing exercise for mental health reasons and not then getting obsessed with ‘looking good’ as a by-product. I did want to make a point though that you mentioned that your brain doesn’t forget the feedback loop of these habits, which I think to a certain extent is true, but you can get CBT therapy which basically targets exactly this - rewiring your brain and thought processes to create healthier associations and interrupting/recognising these negative cycles. Its hard as hell but its doable.
Thanks for posting this! After i made a tentative mental recovery regarding this topic I never thought I would be able to watch a video about it without being overcome by anxiety and fear (I was scared to 'relive' it or whatev) but I am happy to say it was all good and your insight is amazing.
This is perfect timing for the new year. These issues are usually framed by two groups online, the HAES community and the fitness industry and then there is a group in between just trying to make it through. It's so important to share these things online to help break down stigma. It's not a secret most of us struggle...it's about how we overcome. I'm hoping my content will help people around me because I struggled for wayyyy too long. Thank you, Kaiti!
That was so REAL and COURAGEOUS...... thankyou so much for this kaiti😢💓💓💓
it's really incredible and brave of you to discuss this. body image is such a weirdly complex, simultaneously personal and yet so social thing. i've gone through periods of my life where i restricted my eating/developed bad eating habits because of outside factors that were causing me anxiety and insecurity, and i'm still struggling to fix my disordered relationship with food, so it meant a lot to hear this from someone that i admire :) i'll definitely do my best to implement your tips. here's to healthy and lasting changes!! i'm glad that you're doing a little better and hope that you continue to do well. thank you :D
The timing was perrrrrfect, it's summer where I live and after the holidays and my birthday, I have eaten a LOT, so my body it's not doing so well. I feel full all the time but i feel joy when I eat so I can't stop :c I notice that I gained some weight and I don't like what I see on the mirror and I try to rush into the pool so nobody can see me properly :c Thank you so so much for sharing your story and also for all the advices, I appreciate it so much.
this is the first time ever that I'm this early for anyone's video, i feel so blessed🥺❤️❤️
YOU are the first reason I started journelling and I still do it🥰Thanks Kaiti
Queen Kaiti back to give us all the advice we need✨
I am so proud of you Kaiti!! Even though you go through so much, you still manage to make soooo many people happy!!! You're so strong, keep growing♡
i really respect you for making this video and really thankful too, because even if i didnt know, i did need this type of video where someone talks about stuff no one does. Up till now, i used to think workouts are only for being in shape like how the society tells us to be, i never really thought that its for us to feel good too thats why i really am grateful for this video, thank you kaiti❤
This video actally helped me. Lately i've been feeling insecure about my life,body ECT. my confidence has also been really low because of my insecurities and this has helped me so much. Thank you.
My therapist's way to battle comparison is to only follow people that make me feel go about myself. I follow a large number of mental health accounts and a large amount of body positivity accounts. The people I follow either A) Are mental health advocates, B) Are study accounts or C) Are family. So this usually prevents comparison. I also only use social media if I need to message someones or post.
This video really did help though. Amazing tips and tricks.
I appreciate the quality you put in your videos. Thank you for taking the time and effort to refilm the beginning portion of the video to convey the most sincere feelings and best atmosphere. Really well spoken Kaiti! There are so many complicated feelings in us humans especially towards ourselves. Adding tips and habits to go forward while you are in your journey is so timely. KEEP GOING AND BE KIND TO YOURSELF.
Literally one of the great things that happened to me so far is I found ur channel. Thank you!!
Kaiti I don´t know if anything has told you this, but.... You seem so wise. Love you. Also, a very cool kind of person ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡
Thank you so much for making this video on such a public platform nonetheless Kaiti! you really shared vulnerably and i believe we all do appreciate that
i've also taken a long needed break from instagram and it truly lessens the comparison mindset i find myself trapped in many a times :,)
thank you for being vulnerable kaiti and sharing something that isn't normally addressed but should be!!
Thank you for thisss. I really love your channel bcs you are sooo relatable and feel like bestie. Not like those people who make us feel far away bcs of different standard.. lots of love 💕
Thank you so very much for this video. I've just discovered your channel and I can't tell you how very much I relate to your experiences. So much love to you 💕 One thing that was really hard for me was people saying I looked better when I was losing weight due to illness and ED habits. Even compliments can be damaging.
Hey Kaiti, I'm very thankful for this video. I'm a 14 year old girl from Germany and I'm watching your videos for a half year now i guess.I know I'm very young but this topic is very pesent and has a huge impact on my live. Watching your Videos makes me feel comfortable and gives my something like a break and a save space.
This was wonderful- and I will definitely show this to my sister- and I also have a video suggestion… How to Makeup? Please? I am about the worst at makeup and I don’t even know where to start. Living in Vermont means I have very little exposure to anyone using it- but I’m going to go to college and they will Definitely Know I’m not wearing anything.
Kaiti being the big sis I never knew I needed 🥺
❤️ I absolutely loved this! especially the talk on vulnerability. Right what i needed at this time, im a music producer/audio engineer who has had some small successes but never really wanted to expose them because i felt they weren’t big enough to post about. But now I’m slowly learning to retrain my brain, body, and spirit!
This subject is a little iffy for me so I’ll click off in a second and come back when I’m a bit stronger but I’m so happy that you’re making videos like this and sharing empathy and wisdom with us, thank you🌟❤️
I don't necessarily have any body image issue, but the advice about habit related struggles is BOMB 🤩 I don't know where I've been searching this whole time, because I consume a lot of "self-help" content, but the way it was explained here sounds a lot do-able than any other advice I've heard before.
Just found your channel via this video. Thank you for being so vulnerable!!! This is such an important topic that is NOT talked about in healthy ways. You're incredible, and thank you for being so open.
Dude I relate so much to the cataracts thing. I was diagnosed at 14. It feels kinda crazy to see someone with a similar story 😂
Your journey is so similar to mine… I’m getting war flashbacks
*editing bc of what you said about social media … girl I’m the exact same, i attribute my improved mental health for completely deleting my social media. Not allowing myself access to the trigger for such toxic thoughts has done wonders for my body image.
Hey Kaiti, I really appreciate the vulnerability in this video. You're so brave to address this and I admire youre current way of thinking so much! Would love more videos with a similar setting ❤️❤️❤️. Stay strong girl 💗💗