We found the worst Twitter user of 2021... already. (Bean Dad)
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When you trying to come up with something funny but you don’t know what to say so you just use this emoji:👁👄👁
That’s horrible :/
boomers always be like "kids these days don't know how to do anything!" and then absolutely refuse to teach their children anything
They also say "kids these days are so lazy and don't want to work" then never give young people opportunities to work/never retire.
Gen x too!! 🤗🤗🤗
literally my mom and I were talking about painting the walls in our new, empty house. she started out the convo by basically assuming i wouldn’t be able to paint the wall’s to my grandmas standards. (I’m 20 y/o and have never painted a wall b4.) she was diggin in and saying I never painted my walls as a kid even tho she “let me” and yet...??? I had to explain to her that giving me permission to paint my walls at 9 years old bc they’re unpainted and depressing isn’t “helping me” or “encouraging me” it’s literally just allowing me to do what my parents were too lazy to do. And i really wasn’t able to do it all on my own until like 15??? And by then I was fucking busy trying to get into a good college that I now hate being at 😌😌😌🤡🤡🤡🥳🥳🥳🥳
anyway in conclusion I’m painting the damn walls 💅🏼💅🏼
This person isn't really a boomer, lol. The baby boomers are from 56 at the very youngest to 74 at the oldest. But point well taken, he's close enough.
My parents lmao. They were making fun at how I didn’t know how to open a can, but they never taught me how. I had to learn myself through trial and error.
he literally fed his ego instead of his daughter
underrated comment
rip to your notifications just give it a few days
This ^^^
HELPPP
PLEASEEE THIS IS TOO FUNNY
“Dad, help. I need my inhaler!”
Bean dad: ah, *a lesson*
"yesterday, my daughter was struggling to breathe. i told her to go get her inhaler while she was wheezing really badly instead of getting up from my puzzle. if she faints its not on me tho"
@@awitngibon one time, when I was like 9 or smthng my teacher denied me my inhaler in P.E.st trying to get out of the laps. even though I literally do track and still do to this day and I loved runnng and was like the fastest runner in my class, but I had asthma and they wouldnt give it, anyways they got fired😍
😆
@@nuhaakmel663 Good to know. Scumbags like that deserve to be canned.
This man was so busy with a jigsaw puzzle he thought his kid could eat a 'life lesson'
He can't even be that good if he was at it for for at least 6 hours. Maybe he should take up a new hobby. I personally recommend cooking
@@cursedaudio984 Oh shit
Ikr? He could have taken a minute or two to show her. That puzzle wasn't going anywhere.
Yeah, I had the same sort of, you need to learn to do it for yourself parent, which is good sometimes, but not for everything. All it did was make me afraid to ask for help for anything. I severely injured my wrist as a teenager and was to afraid of being brushed off to ask for help, it got to the point where I was screaming on the floor and I was brought to the E.R. That was the moment I realized how terribly I was raised, I had learned to hide all my emotions at all times, to never ask for help, and to be afraid of my parents.
Ikr I hate people like that.
he writes the story of denying his child food like he's writing some shitty indie YA novel
Omg i thought
Ikr? He seemed really proud of it too. What did he expect would happen? The masses would have a chuckle and applaude his genius?
i legitimately thought it was a troll account for that exact reason 😂
And then everyone clapped
@@krh6239 I think he expected most people to agree with and support what he did.
"She will remember this when choosing a nursing home for dad"😆
She shouldn't even choose one for him, just let him on the street, he deserves to have that teachable moment for himself, as he enjoys those so much 😆😆
D'Angelo's response was hilarious.
I laughed out loud.
"Why did Mary snap, though? She snapped."
Mary honestly said nothing wrong
Bojack Horseman alert
Honestly his pretentious writing pissed me off the most.
Ugh ikr Jesus Christ these randos on Twitter write as if they’re doing us all a favor by sharing their stupid story while acting as egotistical as possible
@@HeyitzRio ouch *deletes twitter*
right, i guarantee he had a thesaurus open next to him whilst writing those tweets 😭
Same
SAMEEEE like the smugness of it all!
The "lesson" he taught his daughter is that if she ever needs help with something, she shouldn't go to him for help because not only will he not actually help, he'll make her feel bad about asking. I still can't believe he tweeted about her not being intuitive or mechanically inclined. She's *nine*. Ugh.
wow, that sounds familiar...;-;
I just realized how my dad is after this video 😶
yeah thats both my parents 😐
That's my mom. That poor kid. She was HUNGRY.
@ everyone saying their parents are like Bean Dad: Hi, I'm your mom now. I love you and I'm proud of you. You're doing your best and that is enough! It's cold out there, so wear a coat. If you're in the southern hemisphere, drink lots of water and wear sunscreen if you spend time outside.
“I realized I’d never taught her to use it, so I continued to not do that.”
Father of the year.
Yup, somehow lots of people/parents really believe “you go figure it out yourself” is “teaching”. He might be a hipster but he’s not actually an intellectual or pedantic if he thinks “teaching” is the same as ignoring his kid while she struggles and hates him (more) specifically because he’d never taught her (or even shown her, it sounds like) that this was her area of weakness. How did he think any part of this made him look good/funny/worth following/etc?? He must have thought somebody would be amused because he posted a ton about it. so embarrassing
Actually teaching while letting the kid be the center of the lesson would be using scaffolding, eg providing hints or demonstrating something similar or even saying “we don’t know what to do, let’s check google/youtube” because that’s what most people do nowadays.
People who think children secretly have malicious intent are weirdos...maybe your kid just needed help dude
For real, like if your nine year old daughter is asking you how to do something, chances are she probably just wants to know how to do the thing!!! I have no idea why he would assume she has some ulterior motive, that's just so weird
Like, some parents just KNOW their kid and won’t be as easy to give them the benefit of the doubt, and I get that, but he really seems the type to know, like, know nothing at all about his kids because he sees them as too ‘unintelligent’ for him, and promises he’ll do it when they’re older. Thing is, even if his daughter did have “malicious intent,” (literally, omg, just wanting her parent to step and make her lunch cuz she shouldn’t have to do it herself), who’s fault would that be, but the one who raised her?
But no doubt, he’d blame it on something like undiagnosed autism or some shit and make himself look even worse.
I mean it's something my brother has done for years... I've always been more independent whereas he tends to lean on our mum out of laziness. He's gotten better now that he's literally 15 but for most of his childhood he would pretend he didn't know how to make a chocolate milk despite being taught several times just so my mum would do it for him. Obviously this situation is very different though. I still struggle with can openers and I'm 17.
@Melody Ackerman My parents thought that of me when I was a baby. Now I scam boomers for bitcoin after dropping out of grad school.
@Melody Ackerman That is still somewhat true though. Using the word "manipulating" though gives it a darker undertone than it has. It's the general growing point where the baby/child recognizes that some of their specific behaviors (like crying or laughing) elicit sometimes specific responses. Like "I cry" and "Mom picks me up." Or "I laugh" and "Dad dotes on me." It is a form of manipulation in that they are purposely doing an action instead of passively doing an action to get a response from someone. It's just not with the same form of mal-intent that we can attribute to an adult. Like, if an adult cries just to get attention, it's sympathy-baiting. If a toddler cries, not because it's hurt or sad, just to get attention, it's manipulative BUT not malicious.
This doesn’t even get into the tweets where he says that she’s “not mechanically inclined” and continuously undermines her intelligence.
Shes 9, ofc she isnt mechanically inclined, man what an asshole
I literally could not imagine having self esteem that low you have to brag in front of a child
Also sounds like he's complaining this child isn't born with fully installed skills & knowledge, it's almost like parents need to teach their child skills... Who h he clearly failed at.
@@jadeoreo There were also several very pissed off people, that interpreted that phrase as if linked with the fact that the child is a girl, and well...girls have been considered(wrongfully) generally unintelligent on technical and mechanical skills for centuries, so you can imagine the rage. The bloodbath was glorious
what’s your profile picture
Is no one gonna mention how he asked his kid to cook for everyone while hes taking leisure time to do a puzzle while his wife is working? Isnt HE supposed to cook while her daughter enjoys her childhood?
literally. and she's NINE?? i would not trust her to cook by herself.
Yeahhhhhh...poor girl I would feed her
Man I was cooking up stuff since 4. Y’all to sensitive.
@@YoureNotThatGuyPal off to sensitive we go, fellas!
@@leen9609 y’all are tho. So his kid didn’t eat for 9 hours. I haven’t eaten in 2 days. She’s fine
The worst part of his daughter story is he realized he had failed as a parent because he didnt TEACH her how to use a can opener and then he proceeded to not teach her how to use a can opener. Mindblowing.
That's a narcicist for you. They abuse you, then take credit for somehow being your "hero". If you dont agree, they'll try gaslighting you into believing it for the rest of your life. If you're a child, or under the right conditions, eventually you assume your memory must be faulty. Then they really sink their claws in deep. It's a disgusting form of abuse.
are you really a winner if you don't dunk on your 9 year old for being a child instead of actually teaching them things?
I'm not supporting his actions in no way but if anyone wants to reads it it's here
imagine if you were being trained on a job and your boss just said, “figure it out.” and left you with a line of customers while you tried to figure out their cash register system.
Right? I don't get it. Up until that point, it sounded like he was about to demonstrate for her or at least help her work it out. Instead he just... left her to fiddle with it for several hours? TF?
Give a man a fish, he'll eat for a day.
Teach a man to fish, he'll eat for a lifetime.
Give a nine-year-old girl a fishing rod and tell her to figure it out on her own, she'll be left without food and won't have a reason to go to you for help again.
A perfect analogy for what just went down
And she would most likely drown
This is some ELI5 summary. Thank you.
instructions unclear, fishing rod attached to lip.
That saying is so stupid... Like idk about you, but I think that people tend to do better and be more creative WHEN THEY AREN'T STRUGGLING TO FULLFIL THEIR BASIC NEEDS. Like wow, that person must be so lazy since they aren't actively achieving goals and are instead fighting to survive! Stupid millenials... Idk maybe I'm just an optimist but I think that pursuing higher education and creating hobbies is a privilege granted to people who aren't poor. I know this is off topic but damn does this saying piss me off. (I stg if y'all come at me with "calm down" and other capitalist bullshit...)
"Wait, it's all daddy issues?"
"always has bean"
Thank you
i hate beans
@@sano8172 Okay Satan
@@sano8172 same
Ba dum tss
literally why would you do that to a child? she was nine, and this is why kids dont ask adults for help.
So many of the twitter replies were from adults saying things like 'this reminds me of my parent.... we no longer speak'. I can add a +1 to that sentiment.
My grandpa was a huge propent of self sufficiency. Unlike this decompossing banana peel, he would spend as much time as he needed making sure you knew how to do it flawlessly. Why? Because he knew that if you knew how to do the thing, you wouldn't bother him about it again.
like, what if she got hurt? children that age still lack motor skill functions. and making her starve until she finally got it?
hopefully he'll make her create her own tourniquet if she accidentally loses a finger because she was jittery from hunger and still lacking motor skills 😒
@@yourbootyholeisyourbeautyhole Honestly. The fact that this grown ass man really expected a nine year old to be able to handled a sharp object to open a can and then put the beans on the stove to warm up all on her own is really troubling.
hope FR
I almost feel like him forcing his daughter to open the can on her own *was the same way his dad taught him how to do it.*
That would actually be depressing
That’s actually so sad-
Yes, I do have to agree with you
yeah it's likely he went through similar things, but people who have gone through abuse and choose to inflict it on others have already become abusers at that point. they chose not to break the chain of violence and cruelty. they chose not to remember how it felt to them.
He would have said so in his long rambling story. He didn't. I think he thought he was one-upping his dad. He took the concept of "independent learning" and applied it to a 9-year old.
the “fck you, my child is completely fine” sound was made for this dude
I wish I could like this more than once
YES
He could’ve at least been like “ok you try it first and if you can’t do it I’ll show you how” instead he just decided not to feed her since she couldn’t open the can herself
literally though. that would've completely changed the story.
That's what my dad did 😂
Also, she's nine. Like at that age you can bring them in to the kitchen to participate, you can even do it much sooner.
But, expecting them to do everything themselves while you sit on your lazy ass. That's not parenting. That's just lazy.
Or at least explain the individual pieces or show it working once
That totally rubs me the wrong way. The fact that she was forced to stay hungry because she couldn't do it... When her dad was RIGHT THERE, doing fuck all. It grosses me out.
I feel like ppl arent talking enough about the fact that a grown man told his 9 year old daughter to figure out how to make her own lunch because he couldn't be assed to stop working on his jigsaw puzzle
right, like assuming she had to actually put the beans on a stove pot (which is the normal way, atleast for me??) then wtf??? like it’s one thing for your 9 year old to microwave some spaghetti-o’s or something, but i really don’t think letting a child (who, presumably doesn’t know much about cooking considering she can’t use a can opener) control a STOVE on her own is that great of a parenting choice.
@@anna_banana414 I wasn't comfortable turning on the stove till I was around 13. Although I could heat up water to make boiled eggs or instant noodles. I couldn't actually turn on the stove. I used call my parents to turn it on and then do make whatever I wanted to. And I didn't really cook anything till I guess 10-11.
@@anna_banana414 i was thinking about this as well and was a little confused as to why no one brought up THAT fact?! id never leave a 9 year old alone by the stove like thats a fire waiting to happen. just keep some cereal or bread for the kid to eat in between meals its not that hard.
@@pixlfinch1091 same here, like i don’t think i actually started turning on the stove until more like 14-15-ish
He’s gonna be real surprised when she turns 18 and never talks to him again.
Yeah, I wouldn't blame her. I limit contact with my dad. 9/10 he is nice but once in a while just flips out and doesn't take responsibility for his words and behavior. It was enough for me to walk on eggshells and avoid asking for help unless it was unavoidable. Now I barely contact him. Bean Dad should really think about his future relationship with his daughter. Teaching her to avoid asking for help will show that she doesn't need his help, and doesn't need him in her life at all.
I wouldn't be surprised if it happened earlier than that
Or 16 when she gets emancipated 😕
This doesn’t teach a child to be independent it teaches them not to rely on anyone....
That is the literal definition of "independent".
I think you worded this wrong
maybe “teaches them to never rely on anyone even when they need help” ? lol
@@pippp.4425 He definitely should have assisted more but the reaction that failure to a challenge like this means whoever gave the challenge just didn't want to help is the real issue imo. Just cause she couldn't get into the beans shouldn't rock her to the core, I'm sure there was other food to eat so that would be like me being traumatized by not being able to beat mortal kombat. Sometimes in life when you want help, you won't get it. You should be prepared to help yourself when that happens.
@@Pause0 okay sir but I’m just here to reword this person’s comment 😭 anyways I also think it seems like a minor issue on the surface level but many people on the internet notice than the Bean Dad share abusive characteristics with their own abusive parents, which might hint that he’s a worse dad than what he shows. The daughter might or might not be traumatized, we simply don’t know. All the internet can do is bully the man into deleting his account :)
Bruh how hard is it to just do this:
Child: “Hey dad can you show me how to use a can opener.”
Dad: “Sure!” (Proceeds to demonstrate how to use can opener)
Dad Again: “Ok now you try and open the rest of it.”
Child: “Thanks Dad! Now I know how to open a can and didn’t waste mine or your time!
Right? That's literally how I was taught lol easy
LITERALLY THATS ALL HE HAD TO DO
I taught my little brother how to do that like a week ago, and that was exactly how I explained it. That's legit all he had to do smh
That's exactly what my dad does to teach me stuff. He'll show me the first time, and then lets me try on my own. If I mess up, he'll talk me through it unless it's a power tool, then he'll just take over lol.
exactly how it should be...like it isn't hard to show someone and then let them try to do it themselves!
I'm still caught up on the phrase "mud people apologists." What the actual f***.
Same
How can that even be justified as sarcasm? That’s straight up pent-up fucked up shit.
Never heard the term but I sure as hell hope it doesn't mean what I think it means...cos that's outrageous even for 2013. I'm actually surprised and appalled he wasn't called out on it back then.
4chan rhetoric. Which is unsurprising considering his extreme antisemitism
@@NoTengoDinero69 Yeah that's the kind of shit you could find on /pol/, /b/ or a /v/ thread who got off-topic.
"my child is completely fine"
Your child still doesn't know how to open a can.
Wiat wait wait, how old is the child again? Isn't she 9? Wh-
Skill issue
@@moosewoof9403 💀
John Roderick: I’m a great parent
*extreme backlash and horrible reasoning*
John Roderick: *im a great parent*
If it weren't for the white supremacist stuff I would have assumed that the story was hyperbole and twitter was being ridiculous as usual but.. yeah. nah.
In terms of self-awareness, we have no self-awareness
@@y0utuberculosis tbh it’s not even the meal thing for me, he just seems like a narcissist. I don’t understand how and why he made a story about opening a can of beans into, ‘haha dumb child, she can’t even use a can opener’ not to mention he caused her to cry and starve. My dad made everything into a life lesson, which caused me to resent him a lot bc it was like he was always looking down on you. But even he would never starve me, for the sake of a ‘teaching’ moment,
@@multijxde1855 there wasn’t even a lesson in it though, that’s what’s so irritating. Showing her how to use the can opener to make her own food is teaching her something. This just taught her that asking for help equals frustration and humiliation.
@@multijxde1855 "cry and starve" she was literally eating with the family all day. they just weren't eating that one can of beans.
What you hear in every apology:
"Reflecting"
"Educate myself"
"I was in a dark place"
"I didnt mean what i said"
"I want to acknowledge....."
"My x's insensitivity"
"Im sorry"
Some great thing they did for damage controll
Easy manipulation tac tics
"The victim( if theres any)and i are fine now"
Apology bingo
I mean tbf what else r they spposed to say tho😭 not defending thm or anything but genuine question other thn clearly stating what they did wrong n saying sorry what else can they say
@@anastasyaelizabeth8339 They can apologise to the victim instead of writing an essay
@@1123-n9f Drinking game!
@@e.e.y.1803 but usually the victims are a large group of ppl tho,, how else can they reach the largest amount of audience possible other than through a video on yt? Plus i mean yea they do make long videos but the apology IS in it.... i feel like the problem lies in when they apologise instead of what they say in their apologies? Like jennamarbles wasnt evn rlly called out but apologised anyway, whereas most others only apologise aftr ppl try to cancel them, so it seems insincere?
Bean dad 100% deleted his Twitter so that people couldn't keep digging...
not surpised, narcissists have extremely fragile egos to the point where looking at them "wrong" for a second will send their minds racing lol
Thank God someone else sees what a narcicist shitbag he is. Im assuming you've dealt with them as well then. Hopefully they weren't your parents.
Or because he was one of the MAGA supporters who stormed the capitol.
@@Jenauxn I genuinely considered this for a brief moment too...
i love the wayback machine :)
i’ve never heard of this “bean dad” character but i can tell he was the type of kid in high school who would spend half of english class using big words he didn’t know the meaning of to rant about economics while the rest of the students waited for him to shut up so they could go back to talking about poetry
so bean dad's apology was basically "if i ever did that yes i did no i didnt. yes i did no i didnt
couldnt have said it better myself
That's literally what I thought he said.
“Bean dad” being the reason why MBMBaM changed their theme after years is so choice, though.
Whaaat? Im 100+ episodes behind, what episode did they change it on?
@@thegummibear9973 the 3 most recent episodes have griffin singing a parodied version of the rugrats theme song. I kinda like it lmao
@@thegummibear9973 Whatever episode came right after Bean Dad. Three eps ago? Griffin made a placeholder that's about what you'd expect from a last-minute Griffin McElroy placeholder.
@@FireRose720 when I heard it I was like "get Mark Mothersbaugh on the phone and get his permission to keep the tune"
I didn’t expect this to be how I found out why they changed their theme but boy howdy was it a wild ride
Next time: dad brags about teaching child about electricity by not stopping 4 year old from sticking a metal utensil in a wall socket.
Dad teaches child not to touch fire by not stopping the kid from touching fire
Ok for real tho that’s how my dad taught us not to touch the stovetop. By actually telling us to touch it and then after we did and we’re crying because my brother and I both burnt our hands he goes “now you know the oven is hot and not to do that next time”
@Wilbur Holton Actually, that happened once in my country, and I don't know if everybody just brushed it off or anything (I wasn't on the internet yet), but I never saw anyone address it again. Sad.
@@Signy8 that's messed up what
he literally put you in danger just to teach you the stove was hot ?????
@@Signy8 wtf "now you know its hot" he could have just told yall it was hot??
I can’t stand when people frame these scenarios as “I’m teaching my child how to learn to be independent and think outside the box by leaving her to figure it out alone.” She’s 9 and it’s a can of beans, you’re just being lazy refusing to get off the couch for five minutes and show her “look, you put it to the can like this, and the sharp part pokes a hole in the can. Then you rotate and the gears turn around the can, and now it’s open! Wow good job! Do you want to learn more about gears, we can look some stuff up while you eat your beans!”
It reminds me of a child I worked with in foster care who ate cold chef Boyardee everyday because his mom was too high to make him meals.
I work in child welfare and wouldn’t consider him “abusive” off one instance, but it is definitely not a developmentally-appropriate learning activity for a 9 year old and it’s pretty disrespectful to be condescending to your child about how she’s “not mechanically-inclined” when you’ve literally never taught her something before. It’s cool to want to teach your child how to figure out things on their own, but it’s generally not a good idea to 1) do so while they’re hungry and b) prevent them from eating until they figure it out. I can guarantee even the inventor of the can opener didn’t figure it all out in 6 hours, expecting a 9 year old to do so, while HUNGRY? Just stupid. She’s LEARNING from this, sure. She’s learning she can’t trust her parent, she’s learning to feel frustrated at herself for not understanding something her dad clearly expects her to, she’s learning her communicating clearly for help goes unheard. None of those are conducive to a passion for learning. Children learn in a variety of styles and treating her like she’s stupid and disappointing you because she doesn’t learn the way you want her to is just pathetic.
Out of all the languages to speak. You spoke facts.
This guy's parenting is literally identical to how my dad taught us as kids. Just taking every chance to act more intelligent and brag about his intelligence constantly
Who lords their intelligence over a child?! 🤦♀️
@@beepbeep9043 narcissists.
@@beepbeep9043 i was just going to type that lol.. He would brag about how he was more intellectual than a child who hasnt even reached high school.. Uhh.. Weird flex on her dad part but ok
That sounds like my dad
yes holy shit i didnt know this was such a common experience. my dad would go out of his way to brag to me and my siblings but never help or properly talk to us lmao
Usa is white homeland
Europe: ???
Native americans: ???
My canadian cree ass: yo wait hold the f up
Part of me isn't even from here 🤣 half of me is from the Pacific Islands
Me a native South American: Spain took down our temples and built churches on top of that while taking our gold and committed mass genocide and other things
Spain: ✨we peacefully colonized this country✨
@@Frank-cr9tn if spain hadn't stole all of south america gold the whole would have been better
@@Frank-cr9tn Thinking of this makes me so sad 😔
@@GODSLITTLEMEOWMEOW This is so true especially with countries and him been invaded by foreigners. Many natives in other countries are perfectly fine living their own way of life but since foreigners come in and see a different way of life that they don’t understand they think that it’s right to condemn it.
Imagine being cocky for knowing how to use a can opener
He’s a “hipster intellectual” for knowing more than a 9 yo
"we had a bowl of pistachios between us all day" *He literally said in the thread that he told her that until she opened the can none of them were gonna eat for the rest of the day, so what is the truth*
I literally sliced my hand open with a can of beans yesterday, maybe don't give a 9yo a can of beans
lesson of the day never eat beans
Yeah, and even if she managed to get the can open unharmed, she still has to put it in the boiling pot. Why would you let your nine year old go anywhere NEAR the stove unattended? Cuz let’s face it, he was totally on the couch on his phone while she was trying to make herself lunch.
(I also think it’s pretty interesting that he says she had already gotten the can and attempted to make herself lunch before coming through to ask him. Some kids are just naturally more independent, but that’s based on how attentive the parents are. It’s when you consistently leave your baby to cry it out after you put them down at night that makes them do stuff like this later on. But usually, it’s because an adult won’t be home that they learn how to make themselves lunch. What excuse does this guy have? In other words, this clearly isn’t an uncommon occurrence. She went to the kitchen to attempt making herself lunch before even bringing it to her father’s attention that she wanted lunch, because she already knew that he wouldn’t be making it for her. Do with that, what you will).
And when I was walking on the sidewalk the other day, I tripped and skinned my knees really badly. Maybe we shouldn't let 9 year olds walk outside.
Dude, people sometimes just get hurt. That's how life works. The way this dad taught his daughter to open a can was horrific, but that doesn't mean 9 year olds shouldn't be allowed to touch cans at all.
@@thelemurofmadagascar9183 I'm not sure if I understand your argument. Obviously kids tend to get hurt all the time. I fell off my bike when I was like 9 and scraped my elbow really bad but I'm still allowed to ride bikes. However, when I was learning to ride a bike without training wheels for the first time, my parents were right next to me to make sure I didn't hurt myself falling over, because it was my first time. My point is when a kid is learning something new that you know can harm them if they don't do it right, maybe it's a good idea to do it WITH them instead of just leaving them to try to figure it out for themselves, because then they're more likely to injure themselves. Like when a toddler is learning to walk, their parents might hold their hand, or at least stay close so they can catch them if they fall.
@@miako2596 If you reread my previous comment, you'll see that I specifically stated the way that this father taught his daughter was horrible. I don't disagree with you that kids need to be taught how to do things correctly. I was only criticizing the original commentators remark about not letting 9 year olds touch cans, which I think is way too extreme and essentially helicopter parenting.
I think it’s important to mention that this type of “teaching” is used to punish/mock special needs children because they don’t have the same spatial understanding that neurotypical people do. A lot of people said that his daughter shows a lot of the telltale signs of being on the spectrum, which adds a whole extra layer of nasty to this kind of abuse
Exactly
I was diagnosed late in my twenties.
So many adults condescended and shamed me.
And
This
Shit
Causes
Trauma.
yes it's also important to remember that twitter users shouldn't be in the habit of diagnosing people or thinking they know anything about some random person's home life. This can cause more trouble than was there in the first place.
It's possible that one of my sisters could've had a learning disability because she hit her milestones late (e.g. learning to read, toilet training). I guess we'll never know because my mother just assumed she was being too stubborn to learn and took the belt out on her in the first page of "Green Eggs And Ham".
I don't think she was on the spectrum. Maybe she was, but her not knowing how to use a can opener doesn't tell us anything about that. I was older than her when I learned how to use a can opener. I think most kids (and even adults) who haven't been taught how to use a can opener will have a hard time too. And most kids would be mad if her parent refused to help her so she can finally eat.
I agree with everything else you said though.
“Bean Daddy Issues”
C O M E D Y
As a Jew, I TOTALLY LOVE when non-jewish people make "ironic" or "sarcastic" anti-Semitic comments. (now THIS is sarcasm)
Yeah we ain't havin that.
As a non-jewish person I can confidently say that a good 8 out of 10 “jews ironically are bad” madlads check if they’re among non-Jews only and then follow up with “they create a lot of smoke for no fire though.” People who stick up for the ironic antisemites either: have never been in a “confidential” space with them, are a 2/10 true ironic joker, or believe in the non-ironic hatred full stop.
In short: either they’re ignorant and don’t care about what Jewish people’s wishes, or they _really_ don’t care about Jewish people’s wishes. Every single unmasking still manages to shock me because I never expect them to share such vile ideas with complete strangers. Only goes to show how normal they think those ideas are. Very glad to see bean dad trip himself up this bad.
@@cats1970 "schrodinger's douchebag". A person who states "unpopular opinions" and decides if its a joke or not based on the response they get
I don't understand why people like him are surprised when others get mad at him for making such comments. He could've chosen not to post them!
Plot twist: John doesn’t actually know how to use the can opener and his wife isn’t home to do it.
I guess the new saying will be "open a can of beans" instead of a can of worms
moral of the story: twitter is and will always be cursed
Always has been and always will be
used to not
edit:i type to to instead of to not lol
@@danang5 lol no it still is cursed
@@green2709 typo lol,i mean its not that bad way back when
and a mess
Dude 'reclaiming slurs' is for the PEOPLE WHO WERE OPRESSED BY THEM, god it's not that hard is it?? I seriously doubt he actually meant them ironically but even if he did that was dumb as hell
Plus not everyone from a minority wants to reclaim it, so maybe don’t reclaim it until the actual minority does
Bean Dad wasn't sorry he made a mistake, Bean Dad was sorry because he got caught.
as is (almost) everyone that this happens to
@Ella Banegura As the the "You look so dumb right now" Part played in my head
Sounds like my narcissistic, abusive dad. The only time he broke down crying and said he was sorry was when I sent the video of what he was saying to me to my sibling, whom took me away from the house afterwards. But, not until after my dad forced himself on me to hug me, oh so tightly, cry on my shoulder and state he was sorry for hurting me and that all he wants from me is to not be depressed and be motivated to do things in life. Funny how calling me pathetic, worthless and useless bunch of times my whole life, also that time I was recording him, but he was saying way worse things to me as well, really helped me mentally. Thanks dad. Any other time he hurts me emotionally or physically, he will never state he is sorry because I don’t end up catching all of it on my phone to send to anyone.
(He is mentally/emotionally and physically abusive). Don’t know why I am stating all that. But fuck, I hate that shit. Only sorry because they got caught. Hence is why I don’t believe any sort of apologies from my father
There's a difference between a teaching moment and just being a horrible parent. Some things are okay for a kid to figure out, but really? A can opener? When she's hungry? That's just ridiculous.
and like, even though it’s not that difficult of a task, she was still struggling. im sure if she had the right amount of time, and wasn’t hungry nor frustrated, she could’ve figured it out, but she was HUNGRY, so you HELP HER. it’s not that difficult to be a good parent.
I'm 24 and I can't open shit with can opener without placing it on the floor and put all my weight on it
Also, you can let them do it themselves, but give lots of hints and tips until they do it themselves. That way you give them support but they still have rewarding moment because they figured it out themselves. Of course when they still don't you should absolutely help them.
I also wonder what kind of can opener it was... there's like, three different kinds.
This reminds me of my work I have to do at home. I stopped using my iPad for answers and tried to work it out on my own and I realised that I didn’t complete most of the work. When someone teaches you something they give examples, tips, and ways to remember things. They don’t hand you work (or in my case send) and say “do it” you’re not gonna work it out.
Also I hate how bean bitch words things. It sounds like he was the nerd in school that had no friends. No one talks like that. It triggered me so much that I could break something. You’re meant to sound smart but when it’s on Twitter and you’re defending something yourself for doing something bad you sound like you’re full of yourself.
Imagine going to school and they just hand you a math worksheet without being taught the material and you ask them how to do it and the teacher just says “how do you think you do it?”.
I mean, thats how some of my math classes were lmao i would try my hardest on my own, work up the courage to ask my one question, and still get shouted down by a grumpy teacher who thought i was too stupid to be in the class anyways. Good times
My 8th grade math teacher be like
And to make it worse she would pick on someone randomly to try and teach the class, LITERALLY MAKING STUDENTS DO HER JOB WHILE EMBARRASSING THEM
This was one of my school's I have been through. Needles to say that shitty school is what ended up making me scared AF about math in general and I have no confidence since
Not him claiming he can reclaim slurs 😩 dude, you’re the oppressor.
he wants to hate crime me so bad
I was just pretending to be an idiot.
he sounds like someone who would say the n word and blame it on his ancestry
Exactly! What an idiot
@@graysonthesnail7742 he makes me want to commit hate crimes
His name is bean dad because he could've bean a better dad
omg
This should be pinned
thank you so much for this comment, it made me snort
Finger guns
A bad dad joke about a bad dad. I admire your dedication
The whole point of the “do it yourself and describe it to me” thing is that you’re supposed to do it AFTER you initially teach them👁👁
It's almost as if he had opened it while she was watching she'd learn how to use it from seeing him...
She needs to figure out all of the parts and history of the can opener by herself while being super hungry in order to become a proper adult! Kids can't expect handouts these days. SHOWING her how to use a can opener?? Preposterous!!
Woof it’s not like anybody else is going to tell her. Gen z is so lazy.
I mean how long does it take to show someone how to work it? It wouldn't even take 10 minutes!
Arielle Lillian At this point I’m thinking he didn’t even know how to use one 😂
Lmao I’m left handed and my dad was right handed everything he taught me he had to learn left handed first for me and he still did unnaturally for him so I wouldn’t spend my life struggling with right handed stuff.
This guy is a lazy parent, if your child asks a question, answer them honestly, and if you don’t know tell you you don’t know and you can learn together.
i was listening to the video while i was cooking and for a sec i kind of thought d'angelo had a daughter
MEODEOS QUE ALEATÓRIO TU POR AQUI AUEHAUE
SAME GIRL, I had to play it back 30secs 😂
bruh imagine if he did tho she’d b so pretty tbh
@@jude4400 depends on the mother
@@waynicliz nah, his genes are elite
god i hate that bean dad is real and not some weird surrealist comedy bit
@Sumeyo Hassan maybe the mom was at work or both parents live separate... this is totally on the dad
She’s 9 year’s old. HE is the one that should be responsible for feeding her. Also, children must learn by first TEACHING how to do it!!
Literally the first word in the phrase "teaching moment". You can't just neglect a child and expect them to learn.
My mom did the same thing to me when I was nine. She even threatened to break my guitar over my head when I asked her to help me tune it.
“A Teaching Moment just dropped into my lap!”
*proceeds to not teach her literally anything and just make her figure it out*
The comments about this behaviour reinforcing trust issues in children hits home. Stop making things 'lessons' or 'lectures', just let the child have what they have asked for. Teach that it is good to ask for things that they have a right to. Teach them that they can trust others.
He could’ve easily showed her quickly how to open a can, and then have her try to do it herself.... why did this entire thing take 6hrs as if it was a school lesson?? 🤡🤡
also it’s about knowing your kid, like bean dad SAYS these types of things “aren’t things she intuits” (already a barfy way to talk about your own fuckin child), so why did he make her struggle with something he KNOWS she’s not good at????? like jesus h christ
@@aurorarose6678 Most things are not intuitive but learned. Sure a lot of people can figure things out, but based on their experiences. He hasn't given her the experience needed to figure anything out. He just thinks she should be able to be completely on her own to learn at 9. Terrible. He's a failure.
This reminds me of when my aunt give me lectures when I show her a meme
Finding “teaching moments” isn’t bad, but you need to be aware of your kid’s needs before you turn something into a teaching moment. I remember sometimes my dad would say “Would you like to help make dinner?” And he’d turn that into a teaching opportunity for something like using the can opener. But that’s different than telling your kid to “figure it out”-you’re presenting the opportunity to learn and letting them decide if they want to take it. And even if I said “No thanks, not today,” my dad would still make dinner.
"What kind of apocalypse father doesn't teach his kid how to use a manual can opener?!?" You, apparently
"I haven't taught her yet, and I sure as fuck ain't teaching her now!" is what I got out of that.
POV: You're a medical student and the doctor teaches you heart surgery by actually not teaching you and you just have to wing it. That patient dies because you couldn't intuit the process.
I actually spit out my cereal when I heard the words “mud-people”
Ugh 😩
Its like "jesus christ all mighty, you pulled an old one out."
same- I was in the toilet and gasped so hard it fixed my constipation.
Ik wtf
At that point id literally rather just be called a slur, mud peoples something else 😩
"she's fine"
sir, can we hear a statement from the child in question??? maybe even a sign of life?
Child is on the side, watching her dad try to shut a can of worms
The “apology” frustrated me for a lot of reasons, but one that isn’t talked about a lot is that you can be abusive to a child and they can be happy. They don’t necessarily know that it’s wrong and not normal. (I’m not saying that bean dad is definitely abusive bc I don’t know him. But the point still stands.)
And these actions might not directly harm her now, but might have a negative influence on her later on. Right now, shes learning that she cant count on other people for help and that it's shameful to not know things right away. Sometimes what you think is good parenting ends up messing up the child for life.
This is absolutely true. My parents were nice most of the time, but then they would say or do something very hurtful. As an adult I ask myself if it is even worth keeping in contact, as I would never allow someone else in my life to treat me that way. 9/10 if I asked my dad a question he would just answer or help. But that other 1/10 he would flip out, I would cry and then he would get mad at me for crying. I stopped asking for math homework help in middle school for the same reason, because he never thought that maybe he should just say no if he didn't have the emotional control. The last time he got angry was when I asked if he could drive me to a certain airport. I asked in a polite and nonconfrontational way, even saying it was no big deal if he couldn't and I really didn't expect him to say yes. There was no reason for him to react badly. Afterwards he thought he didn't do anything wrong although he had gotten angry and insulted me when I tried to walk away, which understandably upset me. Instead of taking responsibility for his reactions he puts the burden on me, which I am not willing to carry. I have to wonder what Bean Dad thinks will happen when his daughter grows up. I live on the other side of the world and limit contact so I can be happy because I'm tired of being gaslighted when I stand up for myself. I'm sure she will have similar ideas. He is ruining his future relationship with his daughter.
yeah it's pretty common for a kid to not know/understand that what your parents are doing is not "normal" until you get to, for example, sleep over at friend's house and see how their parents act to each other/to their kids.
@@jessn.3851 oh my god i relate to this so hard. now i really struggle with asking people things because I feel irrationally guilty and afraid every time. Even now my mom thinks screaming at me when I fail or need help is an appropriate teaching moment and then gets confused when I don't
Fun fact: teaching your kid to learn things on their own is a good idea, but only when you have already taught them the basics. Ex:
Open half the can, then let the 9 yo do the rest. If they get frustrated, do the full thing and practice with them the next time
It’s like teaching 101 so like ???
Imagine how annoyed he'd be if his daughter's teacher just gave her a ruler and a protractor and told her to work out how to do trigonometry. What does he actually think teachers do, and therefore teaching moments are for?
@@surpriseitscaz Exactly
It's honestly kind of hilarious how SIMPLE that would've been to do. _That_ would've been an actual teaching moment.
Bean dad on Twitter: yeah lmao my daughter was crying and saying she hated me because I wouldn’t give her food lol
Bean dad in his apology: Guyyyyyyys 😩 it was a jokeeeeee 😭 we were laughinggggg 😢 we ate pistachioooos 🤧
A few hours ago
we ate pistachios 😭😭😭😭
LMAOOO BYE 😭😭😭
bean dad in his apology: i was being sarcastic 😣
bean dad in his head: ...about the apology too 😈
Your pfp needs to be arrested. 🤣
his "apology" is literally just " I was only spouting neo Nazi talking points ironically "
Even his "apology" is bad. It's like me trying to hand over a 10.000-word essay by typing absolute nonsense.
the worst people ever always be like "cancel culture can't keep getting away with this 😔" and then go ahead and share their weekly story of how they've hurt a literal child
Yeah the people ranting about “cancel culture” the most are the ones who refuse to be held accountable for their own stupid actions.
Plus he’s not even getting canceled. Cancel culture is alleged but this guy LITERALLY ADMITTED and gave an example of his child abuse and was upset when he got backlash for it
@@kolchian5139 Plus, y'know, then people found all of the contemporary racism.
the worst part of this is him describing himself as a “hipster intellectual” i gagged
“Bean dad is an “””””ironic””””” anti semite” is NOT what I was expecting to get today but lord it is what I got.
@Domi B what was the mud analogy about??
@@void-xt8pw Anybody with brown skin, it's as gross as it sounds. Ever notice how these people always backpedal on their "jokes" when it nets them callouts?
@@void-xt8pw I'm curious too. I've never heard of it.
@@ezraf.7759 they should think of it okay to say or not before they say it
@@void-xt8pw I also researched this term came from the teachings of a super racist church that believed anyone who isn't a white anglo Saxon protestant was born without a soul and was made from mud. (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ White supremacists think of some of the worst sh*t I have seen. I can't imagine being like that.
Yess cat boy is back. If he was a real person he would be 'late'
D’Angelo is the best catboy
King cat boy
∩^ω^∩
Wow this made me immediately think of a story with the same energy. The assistant manager where I work, with whom I work most of my shifts has a nine year old daughter. While working one night, he proudly told me a story about his “successful parenting.” His daughter was upset, crying over something, and he ordered her to do 25 burpees. In the middle of her meltdown. So she sobs that she can’t do it. He then forced her to do it, she did, and then proceeded to tell her never to say she couldn’t do something. He was so delighted to tell me that he “taught his daughter she could do anything.” Meanwhile I’m thinking: 1. Now exercise, something good for you, will be seen as a punishment, 2. He never talked through the issue with his kid so he never really dealt with why she was upset, 3. He forced her to do something she didn’t want to do, 4. I would never want to come to him with any problems in the future if that’s how he approaches it, we’ll see how she feels, 5. A child doesn’t think about it like that!! I would not be shocked to find out she doesn’t speak to him in the future or has struggles in her future relationships with trust
I was like “oh ok this isn’t that’s bad” then I was like “oh, uh, six hours? Yeah he should probably apologize but why did he leave Twitter?” And then he was offensive in every other way possible
This is EXACTLY how my Algebra I teacher “teaches” her class. Half of her class is failing and she gives us riddles to “solve by ourselves” when we ask for help instead of telling us HOW TO FUCKING DO IT. WHAT IS THE FUCKING FORMULA AND WHY?!?! I have never been so thankful for discord friends and classmates. The students and photomath are literally teaching each other on Instagram. The way all of us work together to figure out how to solve algebra is kind of wholesome though.
Moral of this story:some teachers are massive jerks
@SAHRA OSMAN you know my comment is a joke right I know there's good teachers like my science teacher but I'll admit I should focus on good teachers
Oh my gosh my gr8 math teacher was like this. If we had questions she would just say "look in the textbook" even when it wasnt even in there. We really just googled everything and lots of ppl cheated
lmao this is my freshman year basically, the teacher was a substitute for like 1 semester after that im pretty much flunk my own grades in math on the next semester bcs she failed to teaches us the basic.
Sounds like my Algebra II teacher.
the fact that his friend said he only knew him as a loving father like..? He isn't your father so how could you really know that?
Situations like this, while they may not be actual child abuse, really effect you growing up. My dad was like this too and I eventually stopped asking him for anything and cut him off completely a few years ago so...
I'm 25 and my dad did sh*t like that. He is out of my life now.
its emotional and physical neglect, which are lesser recognised forms of child abuse
Bean Dad: Describes the clear abuse and neglect of his child, sends out homophobic, racist, and anti-Semitic messages, responds to accusations by acting the victim
The Internet: Hey, that’s blatant racism, homophobia, abuse, etc! Please stop your deplorable behavior!
Bean Dad: *surprised Pikachu face*
and then he *gaslights* everybody by saying “it’s a joke, i was sarcastic, etc.”
😐
@@peachypanda57 yeah his “apology” was basically
*”well I’m sorry you feel that way”*
@@outathisworld2130 he could be a youtuber 😌
@@peachypanda57 a succesful one but wildly hated.
Hahaha seriously.
Bean dad : *didn't feed is daughter for hours*
Also Bean dad : "time to brag on twitter"
Imagine getting kicked off MBMBaM after so many years because a bean story caused everyone to suddenly notice what you’re like
Parents who are so insistent on making something a "teaching moment" when their child is clearly in some kind of distress or in need of something, are so fucking weird.
Like not to get all personal in the comments section, but Bean Dad's actions sound a lot like my parents when I was a little kid, when I refused to eat my food. So they made me sit at the table in silence for hours until I either ate it (almost never) or broke down crying. Fast forward a few years later and we found out that my "food pickiness" was due to an actual disorder, and that these "teaching moments" actually just gave me trauma.
Sometimes as a parent you don't have to like, assert your authority or whatever in these situations. Sometimes you should just fucking give your child some food and communicate with them properly
Edit: seeing everyone's replies to this makes me feel better that I wasn't alone but obviously very sad that so many people relate to this kind of experience.... anyone who's still dealing with effects from childhood food trauma, my heart goes out to all of you. I think the issue of parents mistreating their kids unintentionally with their messed up food methods is really big but not talked about enough
Dang, I'm sorry you had to go through that. I just hate when parents always go through the assertive route and not actually HELP their children, I feel you.
I also grew up with ARFID before that was a widespread (or even medically-acknowledged) concept. We only had one or two "sitting at the dinner table for hours waiting for me to eat something I refused to eat" evenings, but everything about having it was incredibly hard on me and hard on my parents, too. So much parenting advice then (and still now) surrounding pickiness in children relies on concepts like "exposure", "stubbornness", and even "spoiling children" that me having ARFID made my parents feel like failures and me feel like a bad child. I'm glad there's a term for it now and that doctors are starting to talk about and acknowledge the phenomenon, but man was it hard growing up.
I’m sorry ☹️. My parents rule was either eat what they made, don’t eat, or make something for yourself. My parents weren’t about to make three different dishes to oblige everyone but at least they didn’t force us to eat.
@@katiestott1449 yeah, ARFID is what I have! I agree with everything you said... kids having ARFID or any other disorders relating to sensory issues, like ADHD or autism, are so often brushed aside and are considered as bad behavior and it's really harmful. kids don't need their parents to "show them who's boss" or whatever, they just need their parents to listen to them and actually find the root of the problem
@@kaissoupstore7647 I agree. I also have ADHD (ADHD, ASD and GAD often accompany ARFID) so it was a lot. I'm lucky that I think most of the time my parents did at least try to understand what was going on with me, even if they couldn't do so all the time.
ARFID is such a weird thing. I grew out of it when most people who have the pediatric form of it do (around 15-16 years old) but it made so many parts of my childhood and young adolescence really difficult. My mom figured out pretty quickly that it was "normal pickiness" but it also wasn't in the DSM or well-understood so there wasn't a good recourse for her, and it also didn't stop others in her life from trying to push parenting tips on her and blaming her if they didn't work on me.
I love how hes like "it was a persona. My fans get that its a bit, and i didnt think about other people not getting it." Meanwhile, half the backlash WAS his fans calling him the fuck out.
Bean dad : leaves child to starve then jokes about it and is racist
Also bean dad : heeeeeeeey, don't be mad. Its just dark humour
Anybody who has they like dark humour I am really suspicious of those people. I had a abusive bf who used to make rape jokes and say it's dark humour.
@@pixlfinch1091 dark humour done right can be funny, though nowadays there isn't many instances because people just say cruel things and pass it off as humour, so I almost don't want to like dark humour because of it
@@miridium9835 dark humour is supposed to punch up not down. It’s supposed to lighten up a dark situation not darken it.
@@Imxel21 exactly that's the beauty of true dark humour
The best tweet I saw showed the little girl grown up and in college, reaching under her bed for the old, rusty bean can with the last piece of the jigsaw puzzle in, having never given him the satisfaction
When he tweeted: “‘With a can opener!’ I said, incredulous. She brought me the can opener and we both stared at it. I realized I’d never taught her to use it.” I really thought that he realized he messed up and would show her how to use the damn thing. The fact that he forced her to skip lunch is ridiculous and wrong! I really hope his daughter is okay.. if he does this to her, I don’t want know what else he does..
tfw your 9 year old daughter can't open beans so you *starve her for six hours*
I was already cooking for myself at nine years old, you don't need to know how to use a can opener to get food. If you screw up in the kitchen, the annoying parent trying to teach you a lesson gets to clean up afterward.
*plus a few more hours
It’s just six hours and he was teaching her with pistachios between them it’s really not that bad and everyone is taught something that way, so we know how to teach ourselves something and use critical thinking skills to get thru life
@@arsonisalwaystheanswer7103 She was already hungry before the six hours. It takes, at most, two minutes to teach someone how to use a can opener. Waiting that long is unnecessary and neglectful.
@@DoktorBeta I mean I get it’s annoying but it’s definitely not abuse. They were sharing pistachios as well lol. This is just an annoying teaching moment that could’ve definitely been a lot shorter and less annoying but people are going too far by calling it abuse ngl
It makes me so mad when people are being bigoted ""sarcastically"" even if you genuinely are being ironic/sarcastic (best case scenario), all you're doing is normalizing that behavior
gotta say i love being sarcastically bigoted about my own groups
Yeah plus it's not even a joke, it's just a statement. Even if you're just "pretending" to be a bigot, it's not really a joke. It's just you lying about yourself then, which isn't really what a "joke". You can't be like, "I hate (blank)." with no punchline, absurdity, or anything, then be like, "That's a joke, because it's not true." I know that humor is subjective, but even without the offensive aspect, they don't seem like jokes to me.
Imagine this father trying to “help” with math homework.
My dad tried to help me with my algebra homework in 7th grade by telling me to use calculus because it would be faster and then got frustrated when I couldn't understand calculus. And also that's not how doing your homework works lmao
@@cryptoplayboy21 my own dad was pretty insufferable when trying to help me with math homework, which is probably one big determinator in why I aspired to be a novelist lol. He would just give up due to frustration over how his explanation wasn’t helping me “get it”.
PS- He is a Navy vet and currently works at a power plant. Very intelligent man. But had no clue how to be a mentor lol
Whenever I asked my parents for help with math homework, their response was "I was never good at this either", so I was on my own. At least they got me a tutor once.
@@Em_Elizabeth at least they let you have a tutor. Mine didn’t. My parents were total narcissists and just expected me to figure things out for myself. That included learning how to drive and I eventually hired a private instructor at 23. And I still suck at driving 😂
Sounds like my dad. I would ask him for help when already frustrated, and I was good at math! But for some reason the problems in the book would not be similar to what we did in class so sometimes I would struggle. My dad would try to help me but would get frustrated because he wasn't sure either, even though he had an engineering degree and was also good at math. He would get angry at me for crying so eventually I just stopped asking. He had no patience so I didn't learn much from him even though he knows a lot. I never asked to learn from him because I knew it would be an unpleasant experience and he probably wouldn't have agreed to it anyway. Learning to drive was not fun.
next story: if you're older than 10 and aren't already fighting with the army, you're useless
Yes, 10 years olds are absolutely capable of fighting for BTS
“Frick you my child is completely fine”
You starved your already hungry child for 6 hours + some before and because of behavior like that they might grow up with trust issues and never ask for help again. Grow up.
when people say "my kid is fine" like its a legitimate defense against accusations of poor parenting, my brain falls out of my ass. i cant.
Holy heck this is all of the adults (stepmother, adoptive dad, and uncles and grandparent) who raised me. I almost wish they all used twitter extensively so they could get ratio'd this hard. This was both cathartic and enraging to watch, lol
Bean Dad meets Vegan Teacher equals the future generation will not be able to eat anything ever again.
OOP
Hey Draco
Lmao
the legume coalition the horror
At first I was l was like "Oh, okay this guys is trying to get his daughter to engage with a problem and solve it herself. She's only 9 so that's a bit weird but okay..." And then I figured out she wasn't allowed the food for 6 HOURS and I was like "okay, that's awful and a 'teaching moment's should never come at the cost of your child's health. But maybe she was able to have a snack?" and then I figured out that it was possibly more than 6 hours without food and the only thing she had eaten were some pistachios and I got pissed. And THEN the bigotry and non-apology rubbed salt in the wound.
2 and a half minutes in and I can already say this guy has major narcissist vibes. Even thinking he can come out of that can opener story as “the cool and clever dad teaching his lazy daughter a lesson” (because that’s what he’s doing, actually trying to portray this 9year old girl as lazy) is mind blowing
This whole thing reminded me of my parents tbh. They didn't teach me things then got upset i didn't know it and then judgementally stared at me when i was trying to figure it out. Then told everyone how stupid i was and bragged about the "Teaching Moment". Smdh. Let the kid take a crack at showing you how they think it works then take it and show them how to do it. It's not that hard to teach your kids man
I love how when someone is called out, they IMMEDIATELY say that everyone is a troll and a bully even though the people calling them out have legitimate concerns and criticism.
Being a bully on Twitter and then being pointed out for that bullying is so just mean!
Everyone is a troll and a bully, can't you see I was just trolling the real bad people the whole time 🤡🤡
*when a Narcissist is called out
@@TimeConvolution troll-ception
I love the irony of everyone giving him a "teaching moment" where he could learn and grow as a father - yet incapable of learning anything. Even when everyone is giving him clear instructions/feedback, something he is completely unable to do when (not) "teaching" his daughter how to use a can opener.
This is "people are angry, so obviously I'm just kidding."
That's just a bunch of bullshit to throw around so you don't have to consider changing your horribleness.
Yuppp u tell emm
Schrodinger's Jokester
maybe let the kid try it out for a few minutes and then explain it to them, don't let them starve for 6 hours-
I know right? That would've completely charged the story.
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"my kid is fine!"
"Sir your child starved to death because she was too scared to ask for food"
The fact that he sets up a timeline which actually manages to make the situation worse is just-
Sir, a couple of hours to me is probably 2-3 hours, so all you’ve told me is that your daughter has now not eaten anything for 8-9 hours except for some nuts, all the while she was telling you that she’s hungry and you were watching her struggle to feed herself. You’ve made me even more concerned, not less. Next time, maybe just actually TEACH HER how to do it rather than expecting the answer to suddenly appear in her 9 year old brain.
Do better.
If for any reason I got to that point with my child, I’d be having a proper breakdown of how much of a failure I was as a parent. So much that I couldn’t teach her how to use a simple tool for 6 entire hours. I’d probably call my mom and cry about it at that point, if I tweeted anything it’d be about parenting advice. I can’t imagine the mindset of thinking something was wrong with my daughter in this situation.
@@cats1970 Ikr
I really don’t understand how he allowed it to get to this point tbh. I’m even more surprised that he felt no shame?!? At allowing his nine year old to not eat for 8 or 9 hours, he doesn’t feel bad that he watched her struggle for 6 hours trying to feed herself, I would be mortified.
I would seriously be questioning my parenting skills
@@ladylemon202 (very long comment incoming I feel a lot of things about bean dad) He kind of reminds me of my sister’s husband. He has trouble with empathy- it’s not that he doesn’t _care,_ he just doesn’t _understand._ Wouldn’t be surprised if he was well autistic (my sister and I are and autistic people often attract autistic partners). My nephew is 4 and he just completely doesn’t understand what’s safe for a child at which age. When he was barely 3 and had a fever from the flu, his dad brought him down to the garage area (around 50 degrees wearing summer clothes) and let him saw a plank WITH A REGULAR SHARP ADULT SAW.
When my sister went to check on them, he was sitting there, bare legs, dragging the saw back and forth between those legs. With a fever. A 3 year old. She carefully took the saw off him from behind so he wouldn’t get distracted by her and aim wrong. After that she tried to explain to her husband why that’s so incredibly dangerous, but all he saw was that nobody got hurt so far. In the end she just had parent veto that shit and say “I don’t care if you don’t see a problem, it’s extremely unsafe and will not happen again until he’s 8 AT LEAST. He can sit with you and use his toy saw or help by attaching dead wires or something.”
Bean dad could have thought it was perfectly fine for his daughter because he mistook her crying or shaking as frustration (not hunger pains) and because he himself could easily not eat for that long. He just couldn’t remember what his metabolism was like as a kid. Same as adults who won’t stop for more pee breaks on a road trip and then scream at the kid for wetting themselves. Or his own childhood didn’t have enough food around- my grandma survived the war famine and my mom grew up with “be glad there’s food in the house you have to wait longer for we were hungry and didn’t have any.” Which would mean he needs therapy. Then again he seems like someone who’d benefit greatly from seeing a child therapist and learning what kids can and need at which age.
It saddens me that he claimed he and his wife were laughing while reading the replies of concern (seems plausible because who would marry someone like him). Hopefully the kids can find support and family in each other. My sister and I have a very strong bond because our parents (esp our dad) just weren’t equipped to parent us well. My dad’s dad was a violent alcoholic and he tries his best but it’s not easy without reference.