I definitely felt ALL these emotions after birth, the first two weeks were the worst!!! We need more ladies like you speaking up on this so thank you for being so open with your experiences.
I hear you on the postpartum emotions, with my first baby I cried over everything too. Same feeling of when I think of him growing up, or getting hurt for whatever reason. It was overwhelming feeling and I think it should be told to first time moms so that they are not blinded by it. So glad you are doing well now and Theo is so cute 🥰
I fell in love with your energy years ago as soon as I saw one of your videos and I feel just the same way nowadays. On this new chapter of your life I continue to see all the light you do have within you and it makes me happy and inspired. Thank you for your sharing and I’m wishing the best for your family, I love you guys, I feel like you are almost my family too! ☺️♥️
I get so excited when I get a notification that you posted! You are glowing and I am so happy for you! It's been so fun watching you grow over the years. I'm usually a silent fan but I've been here since the very beginning! I wish you nothing but love and happiness in this beautiful life!
Thank you for talking about your postpartum experience. I had the most intense paranoia about something happening to my baby when he was born last year. I couldn't relax and kept thinking of worst case scenario of every situation we were in and it was incredibly scary and exhausting. It was not even on my radar prior to giving birth, I was more worried about baby blues and not being able to take of my child because of that. Then this paranoia hit me hard and I had to fight this ocd of wanting to check on him all the time and make sure he was okay. I felt like I was losing my mind. I did some talk therapy to help me work through those feelings and that was helpful and then of course him getting older helped too and just settling into being a new mom calmed my nerves. Sending you so much love 💕 Theo is adorable. You all make the cutest family ♥️
As a two time unexpected c-section mom, you’re still going to want the spray bottle and tucks pads. After a long labor that ended in surgery, my nether regions still experienced trauma and needed extra help. (On top of the trauma from the surgery....fun times.) Also, a belly band is a must! The hospital gave me one both times, but it definitely helped despite have surgery. I preferred the one the hospital gave me bc it was specifically for c-section mamas vs vaginal.
Yessss those first few weeks were on another level for me too. I didn't cry. It was almost the opposite. I had virtually no emotion. I just felt that insane irrational worry and anxiety over everything. What if I drop her? What if someone comes while I'm sleeping and takes her? What if I shake her? For me it did get noticeably better after a few weeks. But I didn't feel like myself for probably 7 months. Looking back I should have looked into getting medication or something. So new mamas reading this, it does get better! That may look like getting some extra help to get your hormones regulated again, but it will get better! And you are a good mom even if your hormones are telling you different. You can do this and you are not alone. 💜
So glad I found this 3 years later! Thank you for all of this advice. I am about to give birth in a week or two and I was so unsure on what to bring to the hospital!
I had the same post partum experience. I definitely had the baby blues and i cried all day and it always got worse at night . It made me feel so much better reading and hearing from other moms going through the same thing . ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your postpartum experience! I’m having my first baby in 3 months and I’m already a very emotional, easily stressed person at times. I’ve also been having a lot of anxiety already thanks to all the hormones. So I’m a little nervous about that, but seeing that other people went through it and made it out the other side gives me a lot of hope!
Omg wow! It’s so reassuring to hear your story. I’m a first time mom also and my baby girl is about to be a month. I had the same experience on the crying! So relatable. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Amen to talking about postpartum and keeping it real 🙏🏻 I loved the video and have been loving your pregnancy journey although I am not pregnant or trying to be in the near future 😊 But gathering all the information way before hand and/or knowing which videos to get back to when the time comes for me leaves me feel so reassured and secure. Majority of the youtubers I follow are pregnant/have babies now and I'm digging it more than ever 😀❤
I love watching these! I'm pregnant with my second baby and you can never watch too many of these! I'm definitely bringing adult diapers along with the Frida mom undies. I didn't tear with my first so I only used the peri bottle but I still have the ice packs!
I definitely overpacked skincare stuff including lip balm and don't regret it. I had lotion, moist facial wipes, rosewater, essential oils, you name it. Having little extras is comforting in the labor and recovery rooms.
I had the exact same postpartum experience as you! The extreme emotions and crying is so so wild! I truly wish more people would talk about this!! intrusive thoughts PPA is so real! Just had my first son a few weeks after Theo
I love how real you are about pregnancy delivery and postpartum you are I love to hear your real feelings and how you and pat are handling everything I have learned soooo much about your hole process Thank you for this
I cant believe it we’ve come along way i start to watch your videos when you were in college doing morning routine and now ur married and have a baby boy 💕😭😭
So excited to watch this video and and I love your content so much!! I have been loving your content recently! Thank you so much for being such a fun, entertaining, and encouraging soul! You don’t know how much you have made an impact on me. Happy Thursday and I hope that you’re having a great day! Btw Theo is so blessed to have you
@@vekookandjii965 everyone's labor is different. All I know is when you work out in the winter you still sweat regardless of the weather. Some people push a few times and baby comes out , others push for hours so it really just depends.
Hi! Hope you and your family are okay, this is so weird, I've been watching your videos since the beginning and this is so weird to me. I'm so excited for both of you and I hope you'll all be healthy and happy!
Yes! Get something for your belly! I was in so much pain because it felt like my guts/insides were going to come out! Idk if it was the extra weight I had put on, the stretching from pregnancy, or everything in between… but it does feel like jelly and you feel gravity pulling down!! I don’t know if my family believed me but I was like no I need this because if not I’m in pain! Especially while walking or on car rides oh my goodness! Nobody speaks about these things!!
I’m 23 weeks pregnant and having been obsessed with watching all of your videos. 😍 Is that a name necklace you’re wearing?! I’ve been on the hunt for one, and would love to know where yours is from!
aww yes ive heard baby blues is a real thing, and my mom said she also cried the first week a lot when she had me. thanks so much for sharing and it's incredible to see you in this stage of your life. theo is so lucky to have u both!
I love this video! I’m about to give birth in June to my 2nd baby 😊. Postpartum with my 1st baby was so difficult. I kept crying because I was a new mom and I was in so much pain crying wishing I can take care of my baby properly, crying about my milk not coming in until the 5th day and I already felt like a failure as a mom, crying about how grateful I am to be a mom, like I just cry and cry everyday during the first 2-3 weeks. Postpartum depression is sooo real.
This is so helpful! As a first time momma to be, I need all the tips and recommendations. So thank you for this video! Much love to you and your sweet family💕
I would recommend still getting some of the frida mom postpartum care- I had an urgent c section but still had some vaginas trauma from pushing for four hours and needed some healing for that area as well
Planning just packing 1 bag not diapers bag make myself and my husband life easy, 🤷 thank your for your ideas few items. Planning do birth midwife center I hate hospital...
Loved having my pregnancy pillow with my first but it got so gross😂 would have been fine but the doctor Sliced my cord wrong for cord blood donation and he got it all over me, the pillow, and the nurses. Still so worth it to have it. I'm still debating if I want to bring it this time around (different one lol)
Enjoyed this video. I love that you were honest and gave some good insight! ❤️ the fourth trimester is Real and hard. I cried soooo much after both of babies and I didn’t know why or how to control it. My first I had pp anxiety badddd. Second go around much better, hoping it’ll be the same for you ❤️
The one thing I'm bringing the second time around.... DEPENDS. The hospital disposable underwear were AWFUL. I lived in my Always brand ones after - such a great thing for moms!
Love this, great idea doing a what's in my bag post partum as opposed to before giving birth. What you want/actually end up using is very different coming out of it than going into it. Also want to note, because I literally see this with every "what's in my hospital bag video", not all hospitals provide the things you think they will provide. Just a PSA for anyone watching this who is not from the USA. I think generally yes hospitals will provide these things but every hospital and country is different. Example the hospital I gave birth at did not provide baby wipes. They gave facecloths to use instead to be more eco-conscious. Great idea in hindsight but I had twins and it was a real pain as a first time mom to clean those sticky meconium poops with a rough hospital facecloth. And have to keep running back and forth to the bathroom to rinse it and wash it and come back. Had I known they wouldn't provide wipes I would of brought my own. Long story short, do the hospital tour if you can and ask questions. Some hospitals also have list's of what they provide on their websites...
My hospital gave me one bag of pads when I ran out I had to use my own, bringing my own was always crucial! They also don’t provide socks always brought my own of those and slippers
We have a good high quality maternity bag. You don't need much. Mainly organic clothes for baby and a few self-care things for you. x Don't overthink it.
me: single and still living w/ parents
me: take notes about what I need when I give birth
Same here 🤦🏻♀️ already thinking about tummy shrinking
Same
Same!!!
hahahaha same girl
Im in the same boat and thinking the same thing too.
You and Pat are living the life I created for my Sims. Huge compliment. That’s all. Love u ❤️
Definition of Goals
Lol I feel that
Lol ❤️
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I definitely felt ALL these emotions after birth, the first two weeks were the worst!!! We need more ladies like you speaking up on this so thank you for being so open with your experiences.
I hear you on the postpartum emotions, with my first baby I cried over everything too. Same feeling of when I think of him growing up, or getting hurt for whatever reason. It was overwhelming feeling and I think it should be told to first time moms so that they are not blinded by it. So glad you are doing well now and Theo is so cute 🥰
I remember watching your vlogs when you were visiting Patrick in college dorms, I get chills when I see where you are right now🙈♥️♥️
I fell in love with your energy years ago as soon as I saw one of your videos and I feel just the same way nowadays. On this new chapter of your life I continue to see all the light you do have within you and it makes me happy and inspired. Thank you for your sharing and I’m wishing the best for your family, I love you guys, I feel like you are almost my family too! ☺️♥️
I get so excited when I get a notification that you posted! You are glowing and I am so happy for you! It's been so fun watching you grow over the years. I'm usually a silent fan but I've been here since the very beginning! I wish you nothing but love and happiness in this beautiful life!
Same 💕
Thank you for talking about your postpartum experience. I had the most intense paranoia about something happening to my baby when he was born last year. I couldn't relax and kept thinking of worst case scenario of every situation we were in and it was incredibly scary and exhausting. It was not even on my radar prior to giving birth, I was more worried about baby blues and not being able to take of my child because of that. Then this paranoia hit me hard and I had to fight this ocd of wanting to check on him all the time and make sure he was okay. I felt like I was losing my mind. I did some talk therapy to help me work through those feelings and that was helpful and then of course him getting older helped too and just settling into being a new mom calmed my nerves. Sending you so much love 💕 Theo is adorable. You all make the cutest family ♥️
As a two time unexpected c-section mom, you’re still going to want the spray bottle and tucks pads. After a long labor that ended in surgery, my nether regions still experienced trauma and needed extra help. (On top of the trauma from the surgery....fun times.) Also, a belly band is a must! The hospital gave me one both times, but it definitely helped despite have surgery. I preferred the one the hospital gave me bc it was specifically for c-section mamas vs vaginal.
Yessss those first few weeks were on another level for me too. I didn't cry. It was almost the opposite. I had virtually no emotion. I just felt that insane irrational worry and anxiety over everything. What if I drop her? What if someone comes while I'm sleeping and takes her? What if I shake her? For me it did get noticeably better after a few weeks. But I didn't feel like myself for probably 7 months. Looking back I should have looked into getting medication or something. So new mamas reading this, it does get better! That may look like getting some extra help to get your hormones regulated again, but it will get better! And you are a good mom even if your hormones are telling you different. You can do this and you are not alone. 💜
So glad I found this 3 years later! Thank you for all of this advice. I am about to give birth in a week or two and I was so unsure on what to bring to the hospital!
I had the same post partum experience. I definitely had the baby blues and i cried all day and it always got worse at night . It made me feel so much better reading and hearing from other moms going through the same thing . ❤️
Your postpartum experience sounds like me just living my life 😂
😂😂 story of my life!!!
I was about to comment that 😂
right lol when she said, "like i would just cry." i said lol same, girl
I’m 20 weeks pregnant and will definitely rewatch this video when I’m prepping my hospital bag! Love your videos!
Thank you so much for sharing your postpartum experience! I’m having my first baby in 3 months and I’m already a very emotional, easily stressed person at times. I’ve also been having a lot of anxiety already thanks to all the hormones.
So I’m a little nervous about that, but seeing that other people went through it and made it out the other side gives me a lot of hope!
Omg wow! It’s so reassuring to hear your story. I’m a first time mom also and my baby girl is about to be a month. I had the same experience on the crying! So relatable. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I second the belly band. I had a c section and I can attest that it was was one of the top things that made me feel more comfortable!
Amen to talking about postpartum and keeping it real 🙏🏻 I loved the video and have been loving your pregnancy journey although I am not pregnant or trying to be in the near future 😊 But gathering all the information way before hand and/or knowing which videos to get back to when the time comes for me leaves me feel so reassured and secure. Majority of the youtubers I follow are pregnant/have babies now and I'm digging it more than ever 😀❤
I love watching these! I'm pregnant with my second baby and you can never watch too many of these! I'm definitely bringing adult diapers along with the Frida mom undies. I didn't tear with my first so I only used the peri bottle but I still have the ice packs!
I definitely overpacked skincare stuff including lip balm and don't regret it. I had lotion, moist facial wipes, rosewater, essential oils, you name it. Having little extras is comforting in the labor and recovery rooms.
Watching you and Alex’s new videos one after another feels like old times 🥰♥️
Postpartum nurse here! You’re doing great momma!!
You're videos are part of what made me fall in love with new york and I'm so glad I found your channel years ago
I had the exact same postpartum experience as you! The extreme emotions and crying is so so wild! I truly wish more people would talk about this!! intrusive thoughts PPA is so real! Just had my first son a few weeks after Theo
I love how real you are about pregnancy delivery and postpartum you are I love to hear your real feelings and how you and pat are handling everything I have learned soooo much about your hole process
Thank you for this
Hi Tess can you do a newborn essentials video. Things that you feel you can live without, and things you bought but didn’t love as much
Thank you for the postpartum talk at the end. More people need to hear that
I just bought some pieces from the new Backyard Roses collection and now you post a new video! My day just got so much better! 💜
Frida mom makes a c-section kit that's a great alternative to the frida mom kit you mentioned
I cant believe it we’ve come along way i start to watch your videos when you were in college doing morning routine and now ur married and have a baby boy 💕😭😭
I needed this! I’m 23 weeks pregnant with my first baby and this is so helpful, thank you 😊
So excited to watch this video and and I love your content so much!! I have been loving your content recently! Thank you so much for being such a fun, entertaining, and encouraging soul! You don’t know how much you have made an impact on me. Happy Thursday and I hope that you’re having a great day! Btw Theo is so blessed to have you
I did not have a fan during my first labor and I already knew I needed one for my second!!!!
Am due in a few weeks, do I really need a fan cos it’s winter time
@@vekookandjii965 everyone's labor is different. All I know is when you work out in the winter you still sweat regardless of the weather.
Some people push a few times and baby comes out , others push for hours so it really just depends.
Always love hearing your authenticity ❤️ So thrilled for you and your family!
Hi Tess I appreciate this video!!! Now let me go unpack and REPACK my bag! Lol I'm getting ready to have my little one so this was awesome!
this was the most helpful video about what to bring and what to expect post partum. really appreciate this!
Hi! Hope you and your family are okay, this is so weird, I've been watching your videos since the beginning and this is so weird to me. I'm so excited for both of you and I hope you'll all be healthy and happy!
thank you for being so real, through pregnancy and now through post partum and motherhood 💛 it really calms me as a excpecting mom
Yes! Get something for your belly! I was in so much pain because it felt like my guts/insides were going to come out! Idk if it was the extra weight I had put on, the stretching from pregnancy, or everything in between… but it does feel like jelly and you feel gravity pulling down!! I don’t know if my family believed me but I was like no I need this because if not I’m in pain! Especially while walking or on car rides oh my goodness! Nobody speaks about these things!!
Keep opening up about your feelings! It's a huge gift
I’m 23 weeks pregnant and having been obsessed with watching all of your videos. 😍 Is that a name necklace you’re wearing?! I’ve been on the hunt for one, and would love to know where yours is from!
aww yes ive heard baby blues is a real thing, and my mom said she also cried the first week a lot when she had me. thanks so much for sharing and it's incredible to see you in this stage of your life. theo is so lucky to have u both!
Oh my gosh I haven’t watched one of your videos in years! Super late congrats on your baby 😅❤️
I love this video! I’m about to give birth in June to my 2nd baby 😊. Postpartum with my 1st baby was so difficult. I kept crying because I was a new mom and I was in so much pain crying wishing I can take care of my baby properly, crying about my milk not coming in until the 5th day and I already felt like a failure as a mom, crying about how grateful I am to be a mom, like I just cry and cry everyday during the first 2-3 weeks. Postpartum depression is sooo real.
Thanks for sharing your experience with postpartum Tess! So crazy to see how these hormone changes effect you!
This was SO helpful for me as an expecting mama!!!
Me watching this 27 weeks pregnant crying when you talked about crying 🥲
You're doing great Tess! Theo is beautiful.
Send you a big big hug😍🥺💙💙
Thank you so much for sharing your experience and being honest about your struggles ❤️ you and Patrick are so strong :)
This is so helpful! As a first time momma to be, I need all the tips and recommendations. So thank you for this video! Much love to you and your sweet family💕
I would recommend still getting some of the frida mom postpartum care- I had an urgent c section but still had some vaginas trauma from pushing for four hours and needed some healing for that area as well
Thank you so much for sharing your tips and your honesty experience ❤️❤️❤️
i would love to watch your “get healthy with me” video! love you❤️
I ❤️ how you’re already “when I have my second child” 🥺🥺
Thank you for being so open and sharing your experiences with us ❤
Love you and love the uploads you and pat are the cutest parents ever 💗
Where are your necklaces from? Such a helpful video!
Thank you for this video Tess!
you mentioned ubering to the hospital - did you uber home too?
I had PPA bad and it didnt go away for like 6 years. I never took meds for it. It was bad but here I am on my 3rd hopefully I dont have it again.
Planning just packing 1 bag not diapers bag make myself and my husband life easy, 🤷 thank your for your ideas few items. Planning do birth midwife center I hate hospital...
Loved having my pregnancy pillow with my first but it got so gross😂 would have been fine but the doctor Sliced my cord wrong for cord blood donation and he got it all over me, the pillow, and the nurses. Still so worth it to have it. I'm still debating if I want to bring it this time around (different one lol)
Enjoyed this video. I love that you were honest and gave some good insight! ❤️ the fourth trimester is Real and hard. I cried soooo much after both of babies and I didn’t know why or how to control it. My first I had pp anxiety badddd. Second go around much better, hoping it’ll be the same for you ❤️
Im only 19 and I’m busy taking notes
Can you tell us what size bellyband you used? Or would recommend? Similarly sized and didnt realize they would have size options, thanks!
The first 1-2 weeks of crying is so full on! I was so embarrassed at the time, if anyone was nice and comforting then I'd cry even more 😅
I am far from being pregnant but I literally took all your advice 🙌
The one thing I'm bringing the second time around.... DEPENDS. The hospital disposable underwear were AWFUL. I lived in my Always brand ones after - such a great thing for moms!
You posted this on my birthday and you are my favourite! Day made 💞
Happy Birthday!!
Love ritual! Best customer service! Prenatal and soon postnatal.👍
i returned frida kit - socks are small, gown huge and very heavy, cooling pads huge. Bought foam, bottle, and thin pads separately.
Do you recommend taking your own pillow/blanket?
I am due in 6 weeks, this is super helpful! Thank you! X
I have an unhealthy obsession with Chapsticks and lip balm, so that make me happy to see lol and the dry shampoo is such a good idea!
Thank you for sharing. I felt the exact same way post pardum.
Beautiful video, thanks for sharing Tess!💜💜
Love this, great idea doing a what's in my bag post partum as opposed to before giving birth. What you want/actually end up using is very different coming out of it than going into it. Also want to note, because I literally see this with every "what's in my hospital bag video", not all hospitals provide the things you think they will provide. Just a PSA for anyone watching this who is not from the USA. I think generally yes hospitals will provide these things but every hospital and country is different. Example the hospital I gave birth at did not provide baby wipes. They gave facecloths to use instead to be more eco-conscious. Great idea in hindsight but I had twins and it was a real pain as a first time mom to clean those sticky meconium poops with a rough hospital facecloth. And have to keep running back and forth to the bathroom to rinse it and wash it and come back. Had I known they wouldn't provide wipes I would of brought my own. Long story short, do the hospital tour if you can and ask questions. Some hospitals also have list's of what they provide on their websites...
This is so helpful! Thanks! Subscribed!
My hospital gave me one bag of pads when I ran out I had to use my own, bringing my own was always crucial! They also don’t provide socks always brought my own of those and slippers
Best hospital bag video ever!!! Everything you suggested I see myself packing and using. Simple and everything you need.
My baby’s due in November this was helpful thank you ❤️
My first baby is due November 9th Wishing you a happy and safe labor😊
Very helpful. Due in December so ty for this
I wish the Frida Mom kit is easily available in the Philippines. 😓
Pregnant with baby #2 and I have been loving all your videos!! Random question..where did you get your entertainment stand?😂♥️
advice video on marriage and moving in with your partner . closet tour and makeup collection
Your babe is the cutest
Your postpartum experience was the exact same as mine and i was not prepared
Wow! They do not even let you drink water?? In Germany you can even order food to the hospital. :D
11:20 what are these for? 😊
You could request a bigger or smaller size socks at the hospital
Does anyone know where the marble coffee table is behind her it’s so beautiful
where’s your hospital gown from?
What color did you get your bag in, on the website? Thanks xx
Love this!! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you for sharing! 🥰
what size belly binder did you buy?
Where is you tv stand from?!☺️
❤️sending cheer your way!
the what’s in my bag tutorial 😭 i cry wow sweet times
We have a good high quality maternity bag. You don't need much. Mainly organic clothes for baby and a few self-care things for you. x Don't overthink it.