When Your Ex Ignores You The Shocking Reasons
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- Опубліковано 18 січ 2021
- Clay Andrews shares "When Your Ex Ignores You - The Shocking Reasons!"
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What do you do when your ex ignores you after a breakup?
All those attempts to message or reach out to your ex after your separation, how do you react when your ex ignores you on social media or when your ex ignores your messages?
In this video, Clay Andrews share the shocking reasons why your ex ignores you - they won't to move on, they don't know how you would fit in each other's lives OR THEY ACTUALLY WANT TO GET BACK TOGETHER WITH YOU!
But hold up! Before you get excited or worried with the possible reasons, we highly recommend that you watch the FULL VIDEO to have a better grasp on the shocking reasons why they are doing so and THE BEST THING THAT YOU CAN DO to when they are ignoring you.
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Im just as sad thinking about falling out of love with my ex by moving forward and forgetting her and how incredible she made me feel as i am to the fact she broke up with me
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It can be rough. My ex made me feel great some of the time. and some of the time she complained ALOT about me , she was insecure and I had myself together so when you loook at things just know that sometimes it ISNT you. IT can be that the other is just not in a good place it is sad but sometimes it is that way. I just let her know I am here for her I know she has issues and maybe one day she will change and see how poorly she treated me at times.
@@exitvapid5681 trust me my ex keeps playing mind games and saying we'll see
When their version of "space" is moving to the one she found on Match and was cheating with......and still somehow has decided the breakup isn't her fault and breaks up by text.
Yup. She tried that with me and I said Im not looking for space but you can take your space and I may not be around when you get back.
I’m just learning so much from all these videos. Love them. Like you just be reading our minds haha
Glad you like them!
Shocking reasons your ex ignores you
She is trying to move on. Walling. Give her some space
Potentially trying to get back to you, to evoke an emotional response. Turn the situation back. Mind game. Misguided
Not sure how you fit into each other's lives. Inaction makes you lose opportunities
Great advice 👍🏻
Glad it was helpful!
What if you have a child together and they ignore you even when they miss designated contact with the child while the child is poorly and doesn't even ask how the child is?
Your ex girlfriend ignores you because she doesn't care. You're not even an afterthought anymore. We delude ourselves that our exes are spending nights alone thinking about their time with us. They're not. They're already with another guy, and probably were even before they left.
Or guy friend is already on a date
@@EdieHawk Possibly, but women have Infinitely more options. They are bombarded with male options
Your awesome!!
Thanks for the positive feedback. :-)
She wanted to stay friends, talk daily, and make plans with me to hangout then stops replying?
My ex ignores me but talks to my family smh
Asking if they want space, should you ask if they keep pulling away,or ask when they reach back out
Please add subtitles!
She knows she has no chance in the universe !!! To ever come back !!!
Hi Clay, take a look at your microphone settings. You're getting some distortion and I think either your record volume is up a little high, or some other setting might be a little off. Thanks again for all your videos.
Thanks for the tip! I checked on the new video it looks like it's better than the one's we posted prior. :-)
Always love your advice Clay! Really enjoying your channel....
I know, he's the best!
I appreciate that! ;-)
Well I guess I hopefully for the Second reason
This video couldn’t have been released at a more pertinent time in my life. My ex has ignored me on and off for months, invited me to his parents’ on Christmas Day and then asked to go mutual no contact until January 31. We had the same team conversation and it went so well!
I was suspicious he resurrected a physical relationship with his ex before me and made the mistake of confronting him about it. I’ve since apologized and sought to make amends for my accusations, but he won’t respond.
I wonder if it’s because we agreed to mutual no contact until January 31 or if he’s passive aggressively trying to tell me he’s indifferent to me.
I also wonder if I deliberately sabotage my chances at love because I am scared of closeness, so I chose someone reticent and ruin things with my verbose messages.
Hi Kristen, I'm sorry to hear that you experienced some challenges along the way. It looks like the confrontation may be a factor but since you have took ownership about the incident, just allow him to settle his emotions. Since there's a mutual decision to do no contact until January 31, it could be a reason as well. What are you doing so far to improve on yourself during the No Contact period?
Because she's fed up of the drama
I was talking with my ex even meeting up every now and then, I thought this was all positive for getting back together. But over Christmas it went down hill, she kept talking to me about how much she misses her rebound who didn’t want to be with her. I finally had enough and said I don’t want to talk about him, because I’m feeling like shit all day (Christmas day) because I miss her and her family. He left her and probably doesn’t want to meet up with her. She then told me that we didn’t have anything to talk about then blocked me. I’m now unblocked but I haven’t heard anything. Should I reach out or wait till she does?
They moved on with someone else, they are trying the NC method with you, they don’t want your drama/pleading/or genuinely want to move on.
My ex did this, no answer, asked if i should move on, ask if she needs space. Nothing at all.
Try to hang in there. It can be rough. I feel that I hurt her so she wants to hurt me back but is also hiding the truth. Instead of her responding she just changed her profile pic smiling . But its quiet funny to me because ...well I dont know why but I know her well enough to now realize even more that she is petty. You yourself , you gotta think and remember there mught have been red flags or reasons you wouldve broken up with her too.
I got ignored by my ex after he acted like he didn’t want us to break up. At first he just said sorry after a week that he had a lot on his mind and that he still cared. I wanted us to work it out. After that last text never heard him again no matter what I said. It was obvious he didn’t want the relationship anymore at that time but I struggled because he told me how much he cared at first. But he didn’t delete me on any social media at ALL but would completely ignore me. At first I thought to be patient but a whole month went by. It felt like he was just showing me how much I don’t mean anything to him anymore. I even tried to ask him nicely several times to be honest so I could move on. Just complete stone walling. It’s so sad. He’s in a new relationship now apparently, 7 months later which I found out through others but I always kinda get this gut feeling we might get back together one day. I hope you have or make a video about that topic of having that gut feeling.
Damn I am in the same position. She did the exact same thing to me! I think she is involved with her coworker who she lied about. It can be rough at first, it always is and then over time you just don't care. But yes sometimes I feel we will get back together. But I wish her happiness even though she lied and wrecked me. I just keep my head up and I know I got my self together while continuing to work towards my goals. I bet you'll make someone very happy unfortunately we don't get to see that outcome as soon as we wish. I like the idea of the gut feeling.
@@exitvapid5681same
In my case her Green card showed up. That was the end of me and the relationship. Seven years all she really wanted was a green card.
To me mine seems to be ignoring some of my messages if they involve hanging out because he has a rebound relationship
And some of them because he is trying to be careful with boundaries because he says he is happy in his relationship and he said he wanted me to be happy he kept asking me about my dating life over and over even after I ignored it
@@marcelacouture5309 I think u have to take it for what it is it seems that hes asking about your dating life bcuz he wants u to have one with some one else hes moved on and wants u to do the same hes not replying to your text about hanging out bcuz hes not interested and probably doesn't want things to get misconstrued its clear u want something with him but u can't expect him to feel the same I think hes been very clear by his actions its time for u to accept it and move on plz dont reach out any further bcuz I feel if u do its going to end with him telling u those words which will solidify his position plus u dont want to look desperate so plz let it go and pour that same energy and love into yourself and while doing so u just might find a gentleman who will pour into u as well ...remember this saying never let a person tell u twice they dont want u ...sometimes they dont say it their actions speak for themselves
He moved into a rebound over you?! You seem beautiful from wHat I can see. You'll make someone very happy one day. My ex ignores me now after she told me she is here always, after her mentioning that I was hurt that day I left her. The same day a friend passed but I recently told her I have no more hurt or energy to spend on wanting to be with her. That did make things better for myself.
I doubt she even considers getting back together anymore, after my try to make that happen, but I acted needy and pressured her into giving me an answer and even asked if I should give up on her. Dunno if I can recover from that one, especially when she doesn't even want to talk to me...
Bro. This is me. This is my current situation.
@@MistSGM Ouch.. I feel you bro... and how are you dealing with that?
@@GhostRecon3211 Badly. She actually unfriended me and I don't know the reason. We are a group of friends and we have a group chat that all of us talk. And all she does is ignore me.
@@MistSGM Ouch... it looks like you have it worse than me, I don't know your full story tbh so I'm afraid to give you the wrong advice. In my case we're also a group of friends and we talk sometimes, but when It's messaging she answers but sometimes not she said that she sees me as just a friend now, but not sure what to take out of that because I don't think she'll be just a friend to me so I'm not sure if I should cut her out completely or not... cause we see each other differently
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I went on active no contact with my ex girlfriend after an argument that we had because she completely ignored me. A month passed and I reached out to her and we had a little conversation, and she was replying with short answers then she just stop texting. How can I navigate her test drive stage and help her open up more with me?
When she stops texting me what can I do to grab her attention?
Don’t respond or text Her bk after she text u first…. Oh hey I’m about to hope in the shower right now can u call me in a little bit? That will blow her off track & catch her attention!!!!
The simplest reason though Is...they already have someone else 😂
Agree
Sometimes they protect themselves. N sometimes they don't know how to handle their emotions.
I still have a crush on someone who had a crush on me as well in August. But we had to stop dating as it's forbidden for us.. He is a commander. He was scared but also into me.. N I guess he was Overwhelmed... He was married for more than 20 years, then separated and before our date he met another one. It didn't fit. But with us the chemistry was right right... Overwhelmed... He was married for more than 20 years, then separated and before our date he met another one. It didn't fit. But with us the chemistry was right right... My therapist may have said. He was obviously immediately slammed and you could see him. Which was very dangerous at work. Especially since he is very career oriented.. My therapist Said he might not have known this feeling before, and that's why he goes to the other extreme. He thought I was great until the end and spoke of building feelings. And then came his cold wall and now he avoids seeing me. Very frustrating
I'm sorry to hear about what happened, Calida. This must be tough for you emotionally given that you have also created moments with the person. Yes, it can be true that they would also need the space for them to work on their emotions, feelings and thoughts.
Its what DAs do no matter how small the reason given..
But i didn’t understand what to do about it? Can you please explain it in another video? Or anything..
Hi Hewer, this video might answer your question. :-) >>> ua-cam.com/video/wvKdxh0yxx4/v-deo.html
I'm trying to get back with my ex but how do get to someone who is married and keeps his phone off?? He lives a mile from me and I'm tempted to go there but I don't want to run into the wife.
Hi Mark, if the person is married, that is something that we have to respect as well. I understand that you wanted to get back together with an ex but we also have to be realistic that some situations in life may call for us to heal and move forward. Maybe this is not the time yet to get back together given his current circumstance. All the best,
What should i do if she’s also doing the no contact?
Work on yourself while your ex is not responding. Wait for the time when she's ready to communicate.
I hadnt seen her two years sge invited me to a dierka bently concert we had a great time got intimate she text me for a few days after saying i love you then stopped hearing from her
It sounds like you had a meaningful reconnection with her at the concert, followed by some affectionate communication. It must be confusing and disheartening to experience silence after such a positive interaction. People’s emotions and circumstances can change quickly, and her sudden lack of contact might have many reasons, not all of which are clear right away. Giving her some space might help, and if you feel comfortable, reaching out to express how you feel and asking for clarity could provide some insight. Remember to take care of yourself during this uncertain time.
Hey clay my ex and I broke up about 2 months ago and he is in a relationship now, I guess he had been talking to her for a while even when we were together. And he has broken no contact a few times but I haven’t talked to him since. And it’s been 2 months and I’m still hurting and I feel like he’s things are going good for with this girl to the point where I don’t even cross his mind. I’m at the point where I want to reach out but I don’t want to be rejected again. Can u help me please?
HI Erika, the fact that you are still hurting up until now, speaks that you may need to work on healing. I understand that you wanted to reach out to your ex but will you be in your best emotional self for any outcome of the initial contact?
Kip off
It’s been almost a week and I given her the option to tell me what she wants to do but no reply how long should I wait to contact her again?
It sounds like your ex may not be emotionally ready to make that decision yet. It is important that we hear and understand where they are coming from emotionally. How long will you wait to contact her, it will depend on your level acceptance on the outcome and how strong you have worked on your Advanced Relational Skills.
My ex was being confusing after a month and a half of no contact then she started talking to me 2 times saying she wish we worked out then she told me she was horny but that all ment nothing then she kissed me and said it ment nothing then when I said it was confusing she got mad and said how are you confused if it ment nothing I will admit I did come off a little strong about it but Then she said she didn’t want to talk the next Time I saw her I tried to have a normal conversation with her just about life not about us she said why would I open up to you in the long run it’s never been good for us and then she told me I was a mistake I wish I didn’t want this because that hurt she will say or do hurtful things then want to do or say nice things at random points on her mood schedule and that’s not fair I want to move on it’s getting easier but it still hurts I’m moving back into no contact I doubt that will work she’s said we’re never getting back together at different points we dated other people but we always got back together so I want to believe at one point when we’re both past our anger and resentment it’ll work out but I hope I’ll find someone else because it would be nice to know that it’s over on my terms because every time now I feel like I’m done and she will come back and stir the pot and I hate that
Hello Mr ( Gabriel ) he is the best when it comes to recovery relationship. He was the one that helped me
What do you do when they ignore all your texts and phone calls know better what you text them or anything whether you say they still have clothes at your house you have their mail he ignores every text and phone call but he does keep pictures of me on social media and looks at my stories
Hi Gina, it could be that your ex may not be emotionally ready to open himself up. Regarding the clothes and mail, you may have the option to send it via the courier or ask a close common friend to give it to him if you feel necessary.
Thank you clay the only thing that's keeping me holding on is him having pictures of me on social media and reading my stories I pray to God everyday that he just comes back home we basically got in the argument months ago and he never came back I only asked him to leave for the night I hope he comes back wish me luck please I listen to all your videos and put likes on all of them been doing everything I possibly can its been a couple months I screwed up in the beginning first couple of months I did beg and plead and apologize for the argument I have been in no contact now for almost 2 months so hopefully that will make him come back soon keep up your great work thank you again clay for a response
What does it mean if he watches my story?
It means they're keeping tabs on you and what you're doing, or they're just skipping it everytime
@@yolandakerr7368 Who dumped who?
@@yolandakerr7368 What kind of snaps were you posting After he dumped you?
What happened to the sound of your videos... it is weird
His mic levels are red-lining when he records because of his strong voice. If he has a mixer his input vol needs to be lowered a touch.
All of his settings probably got changed in the move.
it looks like the new video sounds better than the previous days. :-)
@@ClayAndrews i dont think so, buy new mic or set it differently
My ex got married, 😆 less than a year
I smell a R E B O U N D ... Good luck to them...
I'm sorry to hear about that. I hope you are holding on well and taking the time to heal.
In this case dont worry..she was not commited into u...so she gave u a great reason to see she is not what u needed
Mine was married within less then 6 months after being broken up 🤣
I block and ghost my infidel ex girlfriend. I don't have feedback on her anymore. Maybe she's married now ☺️. I dodge a bullet
I'm sorry to hear about what happened, Tommy. How are you doing and feeling nowadays?
@@ClayAndrews
I'm feeling fine Coach Clay, thank you, maybe she's not the woman for me, we're not meant to be, that's it. 😊
WHY 👏🏽 DO 👏🏽 YOU 👏🏽 CARE?! 👏🏽 ...stop. become high value. start now.
omg!👏loving it! you brought a smile I needed that today!
You're here though... everyone has different situations
Because they moved on and do not care anymore about their ex
It could be another factor to be considered as well.
@@ClayAndrews the most likely by far. Reality is that most of ex never come back and if they do it fails again.