Man, that first one. Everyone treats you like you're mean, insane, etc.. Then bam: _"Why didn't we see that sooner? Because you refused to listen."_ And they don't apologize. Not ever.
To be fair it was be a leap of logic to think someone who is being disrespectful is capable of doing what he did solely from him being disrespectful. Though if he wasn't on a fast track to be a supervisor he likely would never have gotten to a position of authority as it is obvious he didn't like the job and would never have been a worker given that position.
How do re'tards never seem to notice?What is it that the guy did that pushed all the doubt off of him? I can't imagine it'd be that hard to "get a feel of the guy" by looking at them.I remmember the "cinema therapy" on mother Gothel & someone in the comment pointed out the gaslighting tactic,and that somehow others thougght Gothel legitimately loved Rapunzel,which she didn't.
From what I hear child molesters and rapists aren't treated well by there fellow inmates so anyone who goes to jail for it definitely gets what they deserve...
Sadly no they don't. They are often put into a different cell area and different schedules because the prisons already know what would happen if they don't. But sometimes inmates do manage to get ahold of one and teach them a lesson, or the guards might even purposefully expose them to the other inmates.
As a toddler, I ran up to my sister’s bf (first time meeting him) & kicked him. Everyone was just shocked. Later I was proven right to dislike him. Next bf I ran up to hug him, but was stopped bc they thought I was going to kick him. They’re happily married now.
I once watched a person manipulate an entire party into fighting with each other. He was so good at it, that none of the goers knew that it was him turning everybody against each other. Basically just did it for fun and to watch their world burn. I called him out and he just laughed and said people are stupid
@@jackieyoung2395 fr... It got weirder too because he was super funny and charismatic, so people would like vie for his attention, and basically throw each other under the bus to join his "circle". Not a nice dude. I called him out when I finally saw through his bullshit, never spoke to me again.
Sadly she was probably groomed by him and still had that inkling of trust with him since he's her father. Some victims of abuse never free themselves, but it's especially bad when they continue the cycle.. I am glad she told her husband that seems to be a step forward.
Trauma. A favorite tactic of predators is to minimize the victims suffering (ex. "oh come on, it only lasted a few minutes"), shame them into silence (ex. "You wouldn't want mommy to know or we might get divorced"), then normalize the behavior (ex. "this is just how fathers interact with their daughters"). After years of this, a person is basically taught that, no matter how wrong it feels, it is themselves who are incorrect for feeling the way they do, making them incapable of recognizing or reporting abuse. Mix this with dismissal from figures of authority (ex. Pastor: *incredulous* you're father is a good man, lying is a sin you know") which cause learned helplessness, an rather unfortunate quirk of human psychology, and you have situations like that presented. Think of it this way, to us that's very obviously predatory behavior, but to the victim, this might come across as normal just because of how long they've endured it or even if it doesn't, that fear has been so ingrained into them that they're basically put into a state of decision paralysis. It's not because they're stupid or lazy, but rather human psychology failing to adjust to trauma.
She may have blocked it. That happens an the time. To call a survivor incest/pedophilia lazy is just lazy. Do some damn work and learn something. Damn.
Tip: if ur kid r teen isn't comfortable being alone with someone or going to someones house don't force them to there is a reason, my uncle abused me when i was little and i would hate going over there my mom thought i was just being a dramatic kid when i was a teen and got a phone i recorded it and showed it to her shit went down hill for him from there, please lesson to ur children and pay attention to how they act around people
Im so sorry to you and anyone who has gone through this, Im extremely thankful that I have never had to go through this type of situation but I always feel so horrible for those who have, best wishes from me to you
Truly so many problems in life would be solved if parents/adults in general stopped assuming kids are being dramatic or exaggerating when they say things
My instincts are completely useless. I knew five people who murdered other people (four different situations), three of them went to my very small high school. Although one was always a total d*** to me, I never in a million years would have thought any of them would ever do anything like that. When my instincts do send me a warning, I definitely listen to them, because I figure the person must be pretty bad to set them off.
I have been on the other side. I had two girls who thought I was faking being bubbly and happy all the time. (No I had just started dating my best friend and was just insanely happy that even the bad stuff didn’t seem bad) so the went out of there way to spread rumors about me throughout the ER and OR. Quite a bit of people called me fake….so I only smiled and expressed my true happiness to the patients. Turns out the two girls were overheard plotting their plan in the employee break room as well as were recorded for stealing morphine. They got fired and people stopped calling me fake…..asking then why I was always happy. I explained why and was finally congratulated but I just flipped them off cause I was over them. They wanted me to be a depressing stoic ass so I was a depressing stoic ass until I transferred to triage.
the medical field is full of bitchy assholea and drug addicts. my friend is a CNA and almost every hospice and place she worked was filled with a group of "mean girls" and constant drama
@@pinkpugginz hmmmm I just wonder why they even get to the feild?- *remembers that bitch in my middle school who got better opportunities than me because she was pretty and "kind"*
Yup, called out the class incel before he even spoke. No one believed me. He used to bring in Chocolate bars for all the girls in my class, but I refused everytime, and everyone told me I was being a "party pooper" or that I'm "unfairly judging him when he's such a nice guy" Cut to the end of the school year, and one of the girls in my class reveal how she's been harassed by that disgusting incel for the whole year and that led to her eventual mental breakdown.
@@animeuniverse5586 personaly, I think if I hand out candy(which I did to my classmates in the past a lot) then it is A: only to your friendsgroup/people you have something to do or B: everyone gets candy. If a guy only gives out candy to the girls in class, at least one eyebrow should be raised. You just don't do that without a hidden thought...
You seem like one of those woke weirdos, and why go straight calling him incel. Just call him a terrible person who harasses people. I hear nothing in this story that says he’s a incel
I think it's entirely ridiculous to use "incel" as an insult. Literally just as cringe as calling someone "virgin". I get it, it's an alright shorthand and everyone knows what you're talking about, but incels don't act like that for the most part. Idk man, it just seems so 8th grade to use "incel" as an insult.
2:55 I never got why parents never believed their kids with shit like this? Yes, you shouldn't believe every single word your kids say, cause kids are known to lie out their ass, but at the same time, don't dismiss them on the spot. idfk, I hear horror stories where I just sometimes wonder how it takes so long for the parents to believe their children, and usually the parent never even apologizes for not believing them
If I was that girl, I'd return the favor and constantly mock the older bro who clearly amounted to nothing, and is probably responsible for turning the younger bro onto the hard drugs, thus his untimely (yet not sad) death as well.
So good that people believe you. You'd think a mother would know her child well, but everytime I warned my mother about one of her friends, including a proposed husband, she didn't believe me. And every time, she got embroiled in stuff which caused her a lot of drama.
Anytime i see a comment like this, i think bullshit. What probably happened was you met someone and was simply ruse based on some superficial aspect then later justifyed it based on some innocuous action the took. The human brain is goood at post hoc justification
This is a superpower of mine and sometimes I hate it. My gut feelings about people just looking at them have been accurate as hell and to be honest, it sometimes takes the fun out of meeting new people. This is a good story I have of this though. When I was 13, my friends and I met up at a local fair that always appeared on Labor Day weekend and obviously, we had our parents hanging about mainly to be our ride home. Well, a boy in our group brought us near the beer garden (outdoor bar) to grab some extra cash for tickets from his father. As soon as I met the man, there was something screaming at me that he was not at all a good person as he acted around us. We got more money and headed out. End of story, right? Nope, turns out my mom saw us and met us near him and she began talking to him. They got to know each other as we played among the fairground rides. Talk turned to "love" in a month as this jackass sweet talked her into a relationship, both of them single parents. Meanwhile, I'm panicking and I kept warning her not to let him in but she brushed it off as 13-year-old doesn't understand love. Turns out I was very right in the end. For seven years, this jackass was in our lives. He was decent the first year but then his true colors came out and my mom was afraid of being alone so she brushed off the verbal abuse and he tried to make me feel like I was in the wrong. Problem about that was I'm not susceptible to manipulation and emotional play. I'm pretty strong-minded and have very high self-esteem built up by myself. Long story to come to a close, he slipped many times until my mom snapped and kicked him out...seven years too late but it was better than never. He let my dog suffer while he was out fishing and I had to tend to her alone because he refused to pack it up and help me, he belittled my mom and played her insecurities against her to make her loyal to him, and even his own son who came to live with us when he moved in hated his guts knowing he was a terrible person. Seven years of this crap because she wouldn't listen to me, mm mm, nobody believes a 13-year-old who has a history of good judge of character moments. Whenever my mom and I debate over judge of character now, if she tries to win the argument in an absurd manner, I just play the "I was right about Jackass" card and that makes her rethink her stance on a person a lot of times and gives me the overall judgement. As always, I end up being right.
I didn't like a guy in college. My friends kept asking why, most classmates think I'm just jealous cuz he was cool. Or that the girls are fainting or squealing when he pass by, that kind of popular. Nope. It was his smell. On the first day i met him, he smelled like blood and fireworks. Not just any blood, human blood. They roll their eyes when i say that. I'm sensitive to that smell because my mom is a nurse in the he only clinic in our area for miles around. That place was my nursery. Spent so much time there, i knew how to use a microscope, and how to smear blood before i even learned to count to 100. Guy was arrested on the final semester that year. He apparently shot someone dead after a road rage, dragged the body to an agricultural drainage. Dumped it there. It clogged the pumps. And the idiot threw his gun with the body in there. The guj was traced to him, since licensing in our country is really strict. This was the same day i first met him. Unfortunately, then my friends kinda thinks I'm a freak... 😐
This is why I listen to my friend when she says someone gives her bad vibes. Worse case scenario, I lost a potential friend. Best case scenario, I avoided a criminal
My core officer was accused of molestation. Apparently, a kid from his old church had become an officer as well and told one of his fellow officers what he had done to him when he was younger. The church gave my officer an early retirement and he had to do community service. He moved away to idk where. People came in to talk to the young men of my church which included my brothers. One of my older brothers was really close with him but luckily he had never done anything to him. We also found out that the reason that he had come to our church was because of a different accusation from another kid in ohio. It's been years and Im still FUCKING PISSED. Also, he had adopted a boy(he was a teen when he came to my church. He acted out a lot and hated him). I hope that he didn't do anything to him. Now how I knew that he was bad was just a feeling that I had. I just didn't like him. I would try to avoid him if at all possible. Another person was my uncle. He was married to my aunt. He ended up leaving her because he was cheating with his brother's wife. He was always mean to me. One time I was playing with my cousin at her house and it was around lunch time I think. I hadn't eaten anything. I went to the kitchen and got a couple pretzels. He said "don't you think you eat too much. Don't you think you've had enough." I was fucking 5 or 6 years old. Why does my weight concern you sir. We also suspect that the reason that he had started cheating on my aunt was because she had gained some weight. He was always harping on her about it. He was skinny either tho. He had a gut too. I hate that man
My sisters estranged husband. When I first met him my gut said DON’T trust him. He hit her, broke her arm, got her on drugs. There’s more but this would be several hours to type out.
Yes. A former friend’s dad. He appeared to be a great dad on the surface. He was ultra religious but extremely judgmental; seemed like he was over compensating for something. I distanced myself and they moved away. A few years later he was arrested for sexually assaulting a little boy in a public bathroom at a birthday party I had attended.
Isn't it funny how the biggest tut-tutting of "religious" folk tend to be the most screwed up?? It's like my therapist once said, "The prettier it looks, the worse it stinks."
There's some paragraph in my holy book that says "everything that is ev overdo its bad even you do your obligation to god". Im using g translate srry if my grammar suck
@Just a secondary account the translation is kinda rough but if I remember correctly the Bible warns against praying loudly in public to make a show of it. Probably the same deal. People who do that aren’t genuine.
I'm sorry what kind of a monster would willing send their children to their abuser, knowing full well what they are. Your trauma doesn't give you a pass on allowing or helping in abuse.
Its like this one guy I met in middle school, he was loved by just about everyone, even dated the hot girl(may she rest in peace, death involved booze, a car, and prom), in his little friend group. He was liked by everyone except two people, me and my friend, two autistic outcasts who preferred to talk pipedream video game stories we'd never make. We didn't speak to other classmates unless a group assignment was involved. So this guy, calling him nick, had this thing where he'd come up to us and verbally belittle, mock, and bully us. My friend once told me he thought nick wanted to rape him. I thought that was an exaggeration due to how often nick's barrage of insults were like a Kyle vs. Cartman back and forth would be, only more vulgar. I didn't believe my friend, I thought the guy was scum, but what normal teen bully would actually rape their victim. Its a tad extreme for 2006, even in the south. Well my little brother would date nick's little sister years later, and said sister confessed to my brother that Nick had repeatedly molested her while they were growing up. My autistic friend sure had him pegged, after I learned that, I honestly think if he ever saw us off campus, he might actually try to rape us. Anyway, this Nick died after graduation at age 25, I wish he were around so i could tell him "No girl's gonna want to fuck a corpse like you, gnat dick bastard" Give him a taste of his own abuse, too bad there isnt a Hell, because he'd have fit right in down there
A trans guy was *really* trying to be my friend since I was also trans. Every alarm in my system was going off telling me this adorable happy go lucky guy was a very bad idea to befriend. It felt like hed be someone hypocritical in their political views or very judgey even though I had no reason to think that. I ended up avoiding this guy wayyy harder than I ever have, only really speaking to him through a mutual friend. Well this mutual friend started telling me all these things, slowly overtime confirming everything and more. It was crazy af and also very validating. The dude was very judgemental of differing political views, clingy, took advantage of my friends kindness, and eventually end on to plagiarize in one of their college classes and got caught. Fucking glad I listened to those alarm bells.
Back in the '80s, I worked for the State Dept of Disabled Adults/Elder Abuse. I transcribed the abuse reports that came in and assigned workers to the cases. About a year after I was hired, a man transferred to our unit from another dept, he was about 10 years older than me. I don't have any idea why, but being in the same room with that man was like nails on a chalkboard to me. I could not stand to be in his presence more than a few minutes without becoming agitated. My supervisor privately repremanded me verbally for avoiding him and I told her sorry but I just can't help it. Long story short, some months after I left the dept, I got word from a former co-worker that it had been discovered he was using his lunch hour to go home and sexually abuse his (and his wife's) adopted daughter. She was 10 years old. And born blind.
I taught at an inner-city school. One pupil made my hair stand on end, although I didn't know why. Later he stole baby rabbits from a garden and nearly killed them. Five years after he left school he was sent to prison for murder!
@@ericvalverderosado2046 I didn't teach the student. He was of Asian ethnicity and those youngsters tended to be very stable and hardworking. I think that's how he managed to keep under the radar for so long. I only encountered him in corridors etc when I.was on duty, but I always felt freaked out by him.
@20:29....going out on a limb to say....if Grandma’s first reaction to what, admittedly, was disconcertingly odd behaviour, was to ask if he was going to kill her....I’d guess there had been red flags and warning signs, even if she hadn’t noticed them consciously. Your SO just walking towards you silently, whilst unarmed, wouldn’t normally spark homicidal fears. Especially since this is a guy of presumably quite mature age who could be feeling unwell....maybe having a stroke/feeling faint/having heart attack symptoms. Grandma obviously had good cause to trust her instinct!
While I've got stories, here's a reverse and wholesome one for you. There was a kid in my class, I'll call M, who was always playing this tough guy act. No one really liked him, but I always felt something was off. Turns out his home life sucked and his mother simply didn't care very much about him. I helped turn his life around the best I could after I learned that
This is why it is beneficial to delete complete aspects in order to avoid the bad parts of the aspect removed. I deleted an aspect of my life that was becoming disastrous. Yes, that deleted the beneficial parts of the aspect. But more importantly, it deleted the ever increasing bad parts of that aspect. I do not need that aspect of my life. I am doing very good without it.
@@Merlodica Unfortunately, not all know how to detect, and understand, implied meaning, nonverbal communication, body language, sarcasm, hidden meaning, and true intent. The world is a series of zeros and ones to us. If someone says, they wish to have a friendship with us, we will believe it regardless of the true intent, or regardless if there is body language indicating to others that the person is not looking for a friend. We understand words, not nonverbal cues. We also can not read emotions, nor react to our own emotions because we keep our emotions heavily repressed. There is no, "gut," feeling for us. We barely feel our own heavily repressed emotions. For us, it is simply better to maintain a safe distance from everyone. We do not function in a social manner and should therfore not try to force ourselves to be part of the social collective. For those with this deficit, completely turning off the social aspect of our life is the safest thing we can do. I, successfully, managed to turn off the social aspect of living and have made it impossible for me to ever become emotionally injured again. It is also impossible for me to ever be used, betrayed, and painfully abandoned again. Realising my faults has allowed me to negotiate an alternative manner of living not familiar to most. Now, I am unbreakable!
My dad never really liked my therapist, which I always thought was odd. He basically always felt like she had a stick up her ass and was "too professional" if that makes sense, like someone who can't even take a joke on the job. I took it with a grain of salt, but I thought it odd that he disliked her but like my psychiatrist, so I knew it wasn't just him not wanting me to get help. At some point, she wanted me to admit myself into the hospital (I was unintentionally scratching myself till I bled due to stress. I always stopped when I saw myself doing it) My dad asked me if I wanted to go, and I said I did, but to wait till the weekend because I was already having trouble in school and didn't want to miss more possibly, plus, the weekend just seemed easier for us both. (It was the middle of the week and I was in high school, which is why he gave me more of a say on that matter.) He agreed and even told my therapist, which she replied that if he didn't bring me she would call child services for child neglect. Note; we WERE going to go, and it was *_I_* wgi had made the decision to wait, and didn't think my scratching was a big deal. Since he had no other option, he brought me in - late, since this talk happened while he was at work. After like 3 fucking hours, even the hospital had said she had overreacted and I didn't need to be admitted, just get me a stress ball or something to occupy my hands. He had the paperwork and everything that showed he took me. You know what she did when he told her that? *Call child services.* Since she didn't like the answer, she fucking called child services anyway and we had to deal with that whole mess, both at home and while I was at school. Luckily, the lady who took our case was very nice and quickly realized it was a BS case (especially since it wouldn't be able to go far anyway, since I was close to turning 18), but still. As much as I liked her and appreciated her concern, that was a shitty thing to do, and I didn't trust her much after that. I do miss her, as I haven't been able to really connect with another therapist since I knew her for so long, but at the same time, ever since then, I haven't been able to shake that memory off.
@@johndan1760 really you going to say that? It's not that people don't know that they need to cope it's that people need to learn how to stop worrying, stressing and how to cope. You can't just tell someone to cope because that's the final step. That's like if someone wants to go a far distance and you just say drive. You can't just drive. Need to get a learn to drive, then get a license, then get a car, and then you can drive. Don't make it sound like it's easy.
It was the opposite for me. Everyone hated her or had a bad story about her doing semi minor things to them. Later she ended up calling me a pedophile and tried to accuse me of sexual harassment when we were a thing, and almost got me fired. I got completely blindsided by it.
There was a teacher at my school (ironically, he taught religion) who always seemed really off to me. He had dark eyes and bad posture and would spend a freakish amount of time staring at girls. I told people what I thought, but all the classmates shut me down. He brought in treats whenever the boys had a baseball match. Eventually, I found out from a friend at another school that he used to work at a school for mentally abused kids, and that he had been abusing them even more while he was there. He got fired from his position. He then went to my school, where he was a yard duty, then an extracurricular teacher, then seventh grade teacher, then principal. This seems really sketchy to me. Eventually I left that school, so it was okay, but two of my friends stayed there.
There was a young woman who came to my work. We were coworkers so I was stuck with her since I was training her. She seemed cool to everyone and was extroverted were is I am introverted. She tries to get close to me but I wouldn't budge. Alot of her questions were never about work but me.my alarm bells were ringing. And I tried to avoid her outside of work. I told a few people but people thought I was being paranoid except for another cook and waitress. Fast forward to a staff party and we are all under influence of alcohol she tries grabbing on to me. Because she saw a waitress do that too me but the thing is I knew that waitress for years there's trust. I didn't trust her. A few drinks later she voiced all her thought most of them had me in it. I felt so sick being objectified like that. She eventually was on a watch with everyone until she quit
I generally don’t trust redheads due to deep rooted trauma with my biological dad who has bright red hair. My half brother found out about this and dyed his hair blue so I wouldn’t be afraid of being near him. Because of that I learned to not judge someone so soon because that still warms my heart that my brother did that for me
My late mother had same feelings toward red heads because a family member both children tried to take advantage of her. At time she had illness, he snuck into her room, jumped on her pinning her. Grandmother came in and threw him out of the room.
My dad was a sociopath that had absolutely no impulse control, tried to kill me a couple times but the local athourities in Nub City county swept it under the rug. I would constantly have dreams about him killing me and burning down my house. He lived elsewhere on the property and one of these dreams woke me up to find him standing over me as I slept. I spooked him and he quickly walked off but I could see in his eyes he was going to kill me. After the 4th legitimate attempt cops got involved and while he was away I left. The day he got out of jail he burned my house down. I contacted the authorities after it happened and nothing was done. I hope everyone involved burns in hell.
When I was about 24/25 I lived with my boyfriend in his aunt and uncles basement. They had 3 daughters, the two oldest were 4 and 6 I believe, give or take a year. Their father was an alcoholic, liked to party and was usually jovial but sometimes rude. He made a friend, his name was Barry...right away this man seemed off to me, he was down in his luck and originally was just a drinking buddy with the dad. He creeped me out. The dad decided to let this guy with a drinking problem move in to help him in his time of need. I remember being shocked and surprised that the mother at the very least, allowed this. Right away I told my bf my feelings about him, I ended up moving out....next thing I hear that the two girls had been molested by this goof, and they had to go on trial and thankfully he was charged. At least the parents did the right thing in that regard, but the "I told you so" moment was a bittersweet one. Those girls were put through something awful because their parents were stupid as far as I'm concerned.
My bf at the time met his daughter's in-laws and told me what a wonderful couple they were. When I met them, I had a gut feeling about the husband - that he was an abuser or something. Several years later there was a radio report that an unknown body had been found in a grave just outside the city. I immediately got a dreadful feeling about this and rang my bf and told him. I didn't know why though until a few days later we found out it was the wife's brother and he had been killed by the husband.
This person my then-friends used to really like and hang out with. They were charming, but I always had a weird feeling so I usually just avoided them when I could but never said anything to the rest of the group. A few months later the group had told me they turned out to be a two-faced, ableist 'nice guy'. Bullet dodged lol
My dad told me after I was raped by my teacher(I was 12 I’m 17 now and my dad is 80) that he always had a gut feeling about my teacher but never really investigated into his feeling and it breaks my heart that my dad blames him self for it when the teacher should’ve kept his hands to him self PS: the rape went on for the entire school year And that I no longer go to the school that it happened at and my dad is slowly doing better after many long nights of me telling him that he shouldn’t blame your self
Several. The first i don't actually remember having the gut feeling, but mom told me what I'd said and it matches how my spidey sense works. It was my 3rd grade teacher, a man. He favored the girls, let us get away with stuff. Well, one of my classmates had been molested by somebody in her family, and our teacher's favoring of us girls was freaking her out. Her parents withdrew her, and school admin forbade the teacher from contacting her. He stupidly sent her a letter of apology, so he was fired. Still attended that church for some reason. So he's a pedophile, but I'm pretty sure he never took it to its usual conclusion. The second and third were the respective now-ex husbands of two of my cousins. One ended up being emotionally abusive and also went to prison for CP. The other is in prison for being a hitman (it was a police sting). He claimed he was gonna just take the money and not complete the hit. He had a tendency for using his intelligence for stupid get rich quick schemes. The most recent one is the mom of an ex. She was the first one that I didn't like AT ALL from the get-go, usually I like the person but feel uncomfortable around them. She's a narcissist, and emotionally, mentally, and financially abusive to her son. Also, this ex's previous girlfriend lived with them for some time, and was physically and sexually abusive to him. The mom and dad begged their son to break up with her but didn't kick her out themselves. But when I simply got him to realize that maybe he won't be able to care for his severely disabled brother when his parents die, they go nuclear on me...so she's capable of cutting him off from a girlfriend if she feels the need to. She didn't feel the need to do so when the girl was hitting and raping her son, but she did feel the need when the girl (me) was starting to convince him to think for himself. Therefore, I hold her partially responsible for the trauma my ex went through at the hands of his previous girlfriend. His mom is an evil person.
I once worked as a buyer for a large corporation. A very junior position. A sales rep I took an instant dislike to seemed to charm the socks and possibly more from just about everyone from the receptionist to my bosses. The pressure put on me to deal with this guy was enormous. I fought a lengthy rearguard action against all this and was unimpressed by those around me constantly telling the rep was a “gentleman” and trustworthy and even tall and handsome, etc. You guessed it! The rep was busted for embezzlement, and drink driving, and his wife left him due to adultery. This on top of lousy service and lying to me. My work colleagues were strangely quiet about all this later on after having complained endlessly to the bosses about me. No one ever said they were wrong or apologised, either.
Thanks Kayenne54 for your thoughtful comment. Yes, I did move on emotionally but was never promoted again until made redundant. I worked in a place that would forgive you if you were wrong but never if you were right!! 25 years after leaving my work both the managing director and the Chairman formerly apologised to me for a number of issues connected with my former workplace. No money changed hands ... I’m not driven by greed ... but I accepted their apology gracefully.
There have been moments in which I have thoughts that are hostile to a certain celebrity, and I find myself unable to like them. And then a few months afterwards, they get caught being in a serious scandal like bullying or sexual assault.
I just had a gut feeling against my ex girlfriend’s friends, turns out they paid her a little to ask me out then a week later leave and “destroy” me emotionally, it lasted a week not much attachment happened so I didn’t care Later I found out some of her friends were hyper crazy religious people so whenever I drew some of the creepy stuff I liked to (cause I was into the art style) they would write Bible verses on it in a permanent fucking marker when I wasn’t looking, I threatened to punch one of them in the jaw if they did it again so they took one of my drawings and took it to the principal, lied and said that I said I was gonna “shoot up the school” which got me arrested but not put into jail, forced me to fail that grade, and got me put in a mental place Fucking bullshit I swear, people are allowed to have hobbies
@@greenie15 It’s all good, I look back and laugh at it now….uh well sometimes at least, when I had explained myself and they found nothing was wrong with me at all the charges were dropped off my record and the cops and I had a good laugh about it Still did get the trauma of being hauled off out of my own home and still did have to go to that mental place for around 6 weeks
@@pupperpalace9889 No, like your typical stories where woman try to ruin a mans life for no reason, they all get off Scott free which is fucking stupid I forgot a little detail in my last comments, the only reason I didn’t get prison/juvie time is because when I was speaking with the cop on the way there he realized I’m just like his son, I draw disturbing stuff and listen to dark music and play horror games but have no intent to do disturbing things irl, I’m just into the genres and am not a threat to anyone. Still I had to do the mental place because that was the lightest punishment I could get and that cop made sure I didn’t get too much If that cop didn’t allow me to speak I wouldn’t be here typing right now and that’s a thought that’s been keeping me up at night for 4-5 years now Also they weren’t my friends, they were her friends who hated me for being a straight white man, turns out they were all lesbian feminists
My friend group never liked this one girl at my school. See seemed to perfect. Everyone loved her. So later in the year we learned that she gained so many peoples trust they opened up to her. Our friend group is like therapy for many kids because our school counselor is garbage. So we were talking with one of the people (they were non binary) we usually help with any transphobia. They are not out. So they told us that when they told us that they lied to see what she would do. She tells everyone everything. We never tell anyone jack shit. So we told everyone what happened. She moved 1 week later.
Hard to say. I can tell if someone is being fake. Fake smiles are especially easy to spot. I have a keen sense for drama-starters and avoid them like plague victims. Never got major creeper vibes off anyone yet, but I'm not very social so it could just be lack of exposure.
About 10 years ago, my friend was trying to get with this girl who worked at the local pharmacy. She looked quite pretty and seemed like a good pair, but I had this weird feeling about her so I told my friend my worries. He listened but didn't heed my advice. They got married and had 3 kids together. 4 years ago, she cheated on him with his best friend and they got divorced. She turned out to be a bipolar psycho who assaulted him for trying to save the marriage. She's been popping out babies non stop since with the former best friend, and I think she's at 4 more kids as far as I know.
I met this one dude and they were really really friendly and talkative, asking to hang out a lot and just hang out with my friends. I didn’t like them at ALL, so I warned all of my friends about him and he invited one of his friends to hang out with us. The girl complained of very pervish actions towards her so I told her to just block or ignore him. He then cussed me out and had a giant argument with me and my friends then sent very bad thinks to his friend and me from alt accounts. Bullet avoided with them.
My mom had a roommate who always wanted to be next to me whenever she could. She gave off really bad pedo vibes. Later on the cops knocked on my parent's door asking about her. Not sure what she did, but it wouldn't surprise me if it had something to do with kids.
Girl from my school, I'll call her Ivy in this bc... She was as annoying as it's itch XD. Anyways, I met her a long while back on the bus and something just didn't rub me right about Ivy. I didn't really have to worry about it too much though since I never had to interact with her much on a daily basis. I had to leave school for a year due to complications (not COVID this was a long while before that) when I came back she had befriended my main friend group. We went on a bike ride once and we passed an old school and she was claiming she could see and speak to spirits, then she started becoming a pathological liar and theif. And me, Ivy and another friend did volunteer to be crossing guards for the middle school. All of our things such as vests and stuff where stored in the school store and she began to steal stuff from there whenever she thought nobody was looking. Small things kept building up and she kept throwing different members of the friend group under the bus and spilling any secrets people would give her such as mental issues, family drama you name it. She kept asking me personal questions to do the same and so I would never give her the light of day. Well the next year comes and I'm totally over Ivy's drama well she trys breaking me and my boyfriend up and fails. After that doesn't work she accuses him and two other boys of sexual assault. It's only then that the rest of the friend group saw how fucked up she was and decided to cut her out. I really simplified it so I wouldn't need to type as much but that's the main stuff
In my experience, the saying: "If it seems too Good to be True, it probably is," also applies to People. Whenever I meet someone who seems too good to be true: someone who seems too Handsome, too Charming, too Sexy, too Suave, too Perfect-- my inner guard automatically goes up. Nobody's that perfect all the time...
For context, I live in a fairly small town, with only two major high schools(along with one smaller high school for ‘delinquents’, aka, you do something bad and they threaten to send you there). Ironically, the middle school I went to was smack dab in the middle, meaning it was a 50/50 split for what school students went to. Two of my friends went to one school, one stayed in our middle school(she was a year below), and us remaining three went to the other. The school we went to was advertised as the ‘better’ school, as it had been around longer then the other school. Had higher grade averages(which isn’t much as my whole state’s grade average is shit). Anyway, I went there, and I’m a social butterfly, so meeting people who don’t look socially threatening and befriending them is a breeze. I meet this guy, who at first was super chill, and as a very affectionate person, was open to receiving my affection early on. One of my friends and I live fairly close together, so sometimes her mom would drop us off at home. During freshmen year I was terrified of taking the school bus, but her school bus and my bus where different. So instead we’d take the city bus together, as there is a bus stop right in-front of the high school. As we wait, this guy followed us to the bus stop asking if he could go home and hang out for a while after school. Which set me unease, something inside me didn’t really want him knowing my address (I wasn’t really worried in terms of him possibly stalking me or shit. As I’m a fairly femme person, and he was gay, not to mention a stick that I could easily snap in two.). Regardless of my unease, we let him tag along, and my friend came to my house with. We hung out, however not long after our hang out began, I noticed my cat was not with us. I frantically searched my house and he just.... sat there. I was visibly upset, and was on the verge of tears as I used treats and food to lure him out of possible hiding places in my house. And my friend attempted to calm me, while this guy just kept talking about himself. Finally he and my friend went home, and a few odd some hours later my cat returned(as it seems my mother accidentally let him out during her lunch break.). After that he left a bad taste in my mouth, and soon his true colors began showing. I was glad when he moved away midway through sophomore year, jokes on him, I stole his best friend.
@@erikhieronymus7015 He’d talk about stuff knowing it made our group of friends anxious and talked about it louder when we politely asked him to stop. He began dating my friends ex(who kept harassing her and he knew this). He stole our groups shit. Kept calling our friend a nickname he gave her after she politely asked him to stop. And in general just accused us of bullshit- he was just, toxic af.
Had a gut feeling about .. someone. Let's call them Z. Maybe 5 years ago. Another, closer friend, let's call them Y, introduced them to me. Hated Z right off the bat, not because of how they acted, I really didn't know why. They were funny, respectful, and intelligent, so why didn't I like them? Fast forward 3-5 years, they'd ruined Y's mental health, telling them they'd die alone or they'd hurt people with how they were carrying on. Nothing was ever Z's fault either, it was just "tough love" when Y was .. having too much of that "tough love." Not only that, but Z was transphobic, homophobic, racist, and pedophilic. Even towards Y. "Y" and I have been free for a few months now. I hope Y doesn't reconnect. We're doing okay now, unfriending and blocking Z was terribly stress relieving.
Honestly, the lifeguard story is kinda common. This is from the view of a water park guest. I,18 at the time, was in the wave pool with a few friends. We were goofing off in the deep end because we could each basically stand up in the water. Anyway, after about 15 minutes I saw some kids (had to be 10-12) who very much could not stand in the pool, and they were on a float. Once the waves were made higher and faster (as usual) the kids’ buoy flipped over and the kid inside had her head stuck underwater. The other one wasn’t helping by grabbing at her and the buoy. I looked over at the lifeguard, who was LESS THAN 2 METERS AWAY and she was staring at her phone while the kid who was above water started screaming for help, that he couldn’t help his friend. In the end, me and a couple friends saved them by flipping the buoy and getting the girl out of it. We went with the kids to their parents and informed them of what happened and the situation with the lifeguard before going back to goofing off. When we got out of the wave pool, I saw the lifeguard being berated and shouted at by both the parents and who I assumed to be the manager.
I wasn't the only one to dislike him, but this guy David had all the management at my college job convinced that he was fantastic. David knew how to schmooze, and he was very entitled. He convinced management to give him my position even though he objectively sucked at it. Several of my coworkers could have taken the position from me, but not him. He no-called, no-showed multiple days in a row, which is a major sin in low level jobs, and management forgave him for it because he was just so "charming." He was given resident assistant position in his dorm, and had several accusations against him brushed off. I worked with him, and was friends with his roommate. We hated this guy. Many of my coworkers hated him. Nothing would stick to him because he was so friendly to faculty and staff. Until security figured out his car wasn't his, and then he went to jail for car theft. Management was horrified, how could someone so nice be a criminal? Because he was a con artist.
I have a story. When I was younger, still living with my mother, she had this boyfriend who had a son(15) and a daughter(5). I always got a bad vibe from the boyfriend, he acted nice around everyone so everyone else loved him. I hated him, but acted nice anyway, since it's hard for me to not be nice to someone. This "man" treated his daughter like she was the world, and blamed me whenever she did something wrong. His daughter was an absolute spoiled brat, and his son was like an angel. His son, sadly, got yelled at multiple times throughout the day. After a while, I started getting yelled at, too. This man treated everybody like shit, then said, "I'm allowed to because I went to war." No matter how nice I was to him, he yelled at me and his son everyday unless we weren't at the house. Both his son and I hated him. I later found out when I moved out that the so-called "man" basically whipped his son, giving him scars on his back. The funny part? My mother knew about all of this going on and didn't do anything.
Had someone I have a bad feeling with since day 1 on my job. Didn't listen to my gut feeling and befriended the person to due to that person's connections (I mean, you don't want to give off some sort of hostility to someone like that). Welp, that friendship ended up costing me my job a few years later. Lesson learned: ALWAYS trust your instincts. The last you'd want is feeling regretful, such a nasty feeling.
What bugs me the most is the fact that NO ONE listened to these people when things could have been prevented and also, they didn't bother to say SORRY after the incident. People... -.-
I was at target with my mom and little sister once. And it was a pretty busy day so ofc there were a lot of ppl. But this one guy walked past us, weirdest little small lense glasses ever and I just got weird vibes from this dude, but I didn’t think anything of it. He passes by us a few times in the store, which I found a little weird since target was pretty huge, but again, I just tried shaking it off as a coincidence. After target, there was a single plush I wanted from a mall which was at least 7 miles away but my mom said we could go since it was Saturday and we didn’t have anything else to do. So we drive all the way there Keep in mind this mall is huge. Four levels, I’ve gone to this mall all my life since we never moved and I still get incredibly lost. We also took some very weird entrance that was in the garage and brought you to the middle of the mall since that’s the path I memorized went I want to the store with my friends But as we were walking through the food court, the exact same dude from target. Walked right tf past us. 7 miles away, huge mall, random entrance, and we came straight there.so ofc I tell me mom and we all get tf out of there. Creepy 😐 be careful guys
Oooh I have a good one. My sister Sally started dating this guy a few yrs after she divorced her husband. Pretty much the first guy she dated after her husband cheated while she was pregnant with their first child. That's a whole other story. My whole family loved the new guy Ken. He made them laugh and was very extroverted. I was sceptical from the moment I met him. He seemed fake. One day at the table, he made a racist joke. My family laughed along, though kind of seemed put off and they tried to quickly move the conversation elsewhere. But it confirmed it for me and my boyfriend. We didn't like him and did our best to avoid talking to him. I told my other sister Jill I thought Ken was weird, but she disagreed. Fast forward only a few weeks, Ken became increasingly obsessed with Sally. They didn't live together but he would call her several times a day asking where she was. He would get jealous if she was with friends. Typical abuser red flags, really. She broke it off with him and he lost his mind. Screamed at her, threw things, stormed off. He showed up at my parents house while she was staying with them because she was afraid to go home. My dad and brothers had to tell him off. About a week after that episode, he messaged my boyfriend to hang out!!! My boyfriend is genuinely lovely and likeable and I think he thought he could get him to "see his side of it". My boyfriend never replied and simply blocked him. She's now engaged to a wonderful man. I'm really glad she left Ken before things got worse.
Yup, had a bad feeling about a guy i did a job for, did the job, he tried to b.s. about payment after agreeing to the price for the work. He paid, we left, next day, boss tells me the guy called threatening to sue claiming we "scammed him" and wants a refund.... despite us already doing the job and no way to undo it. Boss doesn't have much of a spine in these matters and another team essentially did another job for him for free. Only reason I wasn't sent back was the customer specifically mentioned I wasn't allowed on his property... the one guy who called b.s. and that he's up to no good. I really wish he refused to pay so i could dump his shit all over his driveway and write the guy off ass a cunt, instead he got away with scamming us for free labor.
in high school (UK) there was this guy who bulled me in primary school who was trying to be my friend i denied him for obvious reasons and my instincts were telling me not to trust him. he was popular with every one but me and i was left alone after that (am an introvert so i was just fine with that). turns out he was a drug dealer and that's why he was popular he would have a party every week when his parents weren't home and all of them drank and did drugs at the end of high school every last one of them was busted and because they weren't actual friends everyone grassed on each other and all of them now have a criminal records. It is grate to be an unnoticeable introvert.
I always knew something was wrong with my father. I don't remember a time when I didn't know he was a dud. My mother always punished me for it. It wasn't until I was an adult that I found out he was molesting my sister and other children and that he had been bending my mother's fingers back until the back of her hand was bruised. She always insisted she had hit her hand on something. He refused my mother a second round of cancer treatment (free under our universal healthcare) and she died. Edit: I wasn't sorry when he died a slow, painful death. The world's children are better off without him.
Had this teacher in 3rd or second grade who everyone loved because he would give them candy and no homework. I knew there was something off about him though. He used to sing a song with my name in. Whenever I got near him and I think he tried to get me to sit on his lap during art class one time. Used to always spout bob ross quotes to the point bob ross is ruined for me now that I’m older. He left our school a little bit before I left, everyone was so disappointed but I was happy because i didn’t have to avoid him anymore. He’s in prison now. I don’t know exactly what happened but I know parents caught him after school with a little girl sitting on his lap like a creep. I’m just glad he got caught before something more serious happened.
Had a classmate in senior high, that always was striking me as kind-of off. The year later, he got expelled, because he had stolen from the students' savings for school parties, and had bought expensive training clothes, got fashion hair-cuts, etc... He was a true psycopath. Had no remorse.
My father. He’s a clinical narcissist and REALLY good at hiding his issues from people outside of the immediate family. It was always infuriating trying to explain how horrible he was to people outside the family, because to everyone just saw this great, friendly person. Now that I’m older and my folks are divorced a lot has come out and he’s alone and taking care of his (equally horrible) incontinent father. Karma.
I used to be friends with a guy who worked at Burger King with me. He was a skitzo and would talk to himself a lot (he admitted he had it but refused to take his medicine) but we had common interests. One day he goes missing and I dont see him for months until he randomly shows up again. Turns out he became a serial killer and stabbed 3 people in their sleep and was committed to a psych ward but escaped months later. He only came back to get his things from the house and say goodbye. I never saw him again.
Everytime I dislike someone for no reason they fuck up bad with me, with someone I know or with their life in general. I feel blessed for having this weird "danger" detector
There was one guy i absolutely hated. His name was austin. He just seemed off. A lot of people liked him and such. Fast forward 10 years and he ends up in jail for 2nd degree murder and sexual assult. He killed a mother of 2. Oh and to make things worse. The girl was his girlfriend who had broken up with him prior to her murder. Remember the kids? Those were his biological children.
I did when I met an ex girlfriends friend she had recently made. I always give someone the benefit of the doubt the first time I meet them but, my gut feeling is something I always think about while I talk to them. This “friend” ended up having multiple mental issues and ended up stealing $10,000 from her mom and tried to frame my ex girlfriend. She gave her some of the money and I still don’t believe she didn’t spend any of it. I had been telling her every time we hung out with her that she was bad news but, no one ever listens to me.
There was this one boy, older than me two-three years. We knew each other since we were preteens and that's also when I forbade him to enter our house. He kept to it; other kids knew I didn't like him but they didn't care, while our parents never caught on as most of the time socializing and playing took place outside. He's now in prison for the third time. Blackmail, assault, extortion, rape, attempted murder... The works. Overall, reading people well has saved me from a lot of things, including bodily harm, therefore it's a skill I have continued to actively work on.
So weird that my dad had a tenant named "Alex" who also would always make up every detail about his life - he was an attoeney amd a realtor and every other flashy profession and had done everything anyone ever mentioned. Finally, he tried to be a squatter and never pay rent, faked an injury amd started buplying my dad, his landlord till I stepped in and scared the shit out of him if he didn't leave in a month. As he was leaving, jobless, penniless, he got a new girlfriend half his age amd had her whole family convinced he was a wealthy businessman.
When my sister met her ex and they were going to get married, I remember looking at a picture and saying that I didn't like him. My sister and my mom were a bit shocked because I usually give people a chance before I dislike them. But it never changed, even when I met him multiple times and he was nice to me..something was just not right. Cut to years later, my sister is divorcing him and he is being charged for touching little girls and being abusive with my sister and his children.
Late to the party, sorry, but here's mine. My dad introduced me to a woman she was dating (parents are divorced if anyone's confused) and the two were madly in love. I had a very bad feeling about her but didn't want to say anything, I had a good relationship with my dad and didn't want to risk ruining it. The two got married and I soon realized my bad feeling was correct. Not only did this woman hide the fact that she was a major alcoholic, but she also accused my dad of assaulting her, which was bullshit because I could see the indent from her wedding ring on her face. Crazy woman. I hope I never see her again.
It's disturbing how many people think someone is a good guy/good gal because he/she is physically attractive. What's really messed up is when there's clear evidence of wrongdoing, but someone says, "No, he/she would never do that!" simply because they're good-looking. News flash- Handsome/beautiful people can be terrible too.
My mom’s ex husband. He always was nice to us but just felt, off. ~8 years later he started spreading rumors about my mom to my stepbrothers and their friends. As well trying and failing to emotionally manipulate both of us (especially me, I wear my heart on my sleeve and am very emotional). He ripped up as many photos of him and mom together, and overall acted like an overgrown toddler.
I've had three. I disliked one of our house helpers whom my elder sister hated too. That house helper stole money from us. Another house helper, my elder sister loved and I hated. Come Christmas Eve, that house helper screamed at my sister. My sister had a friend who I had a gut feeling about. I talked to that friend about my lack of empathy, lying issues and understanding of emotion and she was like "lol same I think I've ADHD" And made the discussion about herself. My elder sister still can't believe that friend is toxic.
I had a bad feeling when I was told about a new hire, and the next day before I came into work she was arrest because of multiple arrest warrants out for her for drug abuse.
Not me, but my mom: Superintendent at our school was super nice and cool. Everyone loved him. Mom works as an aide for the school, and he tells her "You're being wasted as a library aide. I'm going to move you into technology." This is a good thing. He knows she does her work, compliments her, and gives her some accolades. From day 1 she was like, "Something is off about this guy. I don't trust him." Fast forward a few years, he's found guilty for embezzling funds from the school.
I had a terrible feeling about my best friend's boyfriend in high school. I kept trying to tell her to stay away from him but she ended up dating him for 6 1/2 years. I never stopped trying to get her away but with no luck. Well they eventually broke up and everything about their relationship came out. Things like abuse, cheating, and drugs. She's now happy and away from him.
I have two stories 1. When I moved into my house I thought my neighbor was kind of odd I didn’t know why but I tried my best to avoid him even though my whole family thought I was just being paranoid turns out I was right cause he was charged with child r**e, assault and stalking of a minor 2. In the beginning of my freshman year of high school I had a friend group and this guy (let’s call him mat) mat was one of the people in the group. We had mutual friends but I wasn’t really close with him cause he just didn’t have the right vibes and I found out he was sexist racist and homophobic.
There was a guy in a club that my folks were in and we knew him for years, due to me going to the same school as her daughters and being friends with them when I was young. Something about him that I didn't like every time I see him. He was known for marrying and leaving his partners, who happens to have children. He pocketing money from the club that was for charity and my mother called him out on that and had the receipts. His lackey flung my parents out and called them out for the "false" information. Years later, the club disbanded weeks after that situation, his last partner passed due to an illness while leaving him her daughters and heard through the grapevine that was doing... let's say... unsavoury to say the least.
Pay close attention to your men ladies I've heard SO many stories over the years of men getting married and once they have a child they feel like they don't get enough attention. Always ends badly
I met a friend of a friend in hs. Friend 1 is my childhood friend and we go to and from school together. A couple days after the first day of school she introduced me from her friend in her class. Upon seeing friend 1's friend i had this got feeling that she was a very bad personality, but i had to get along with her since she was friend 1's friend. Then the next year our class sections had been shuffled so friend 1's friend became my classmate. This is when my gut feeling was confirmed cause throughout the next 3 yrs of her being my classmate. She will exclude me, shout at me, and call me names. This is why I now trust my gut feelings and avoid people like her. Up till this day I've never been wrong with my gut feelings
A friend of my sister had rubbed me up the wrong way the moment I met her Face-to-Face (thought it was just a upset stomach) but i couldn't sit still around her. Turns out a few months later she bullied my sis and started to hate her too. After that they stopped speaking!
I had a bad feeling about the girl my friend was dating. I did not like her at all because of her "UwU" attitude. But something told me she was cheating on him because she seemed to hang out around a lot of guys and act a little weird when he got there as if she didn't want him around or was doing something she knew she wasn't supposed to be doing. He didn't catch on to it for a while. But I cared about his feelings so I didn't say anything. Found out later she was cheating on him with 2 other guys and started acting like she was the damn victim.
I knew a guy who gave off weird vibes when I first met him but at first I thought I could deal with it. He then started flirting with girls that already had boyfriends and didn't stop when he found this out. This and other things made everyone not like him. The worst thing is that he would call everyone his friends but none of us liked him at all in the end.
I keep my distance from everyone. I learned the hard way. The kindest appearing, most helpful seeming, people are often the cruelest, meanest, most back stabbing, people there are. For this reason, I simply turned off the social aspect of my life completely. I have no friends, no girlfriend, no aquantiences. But more importantly, I have nobody trying to victimise me, trying to make me the butt of their joke, and trying to take something from me. It is worth having nobody in your life if you avoid the hypocrites and backstabbers as well.
No, it's not worth it at all. I'm sorry to hear that you've been hurt by the people around you. You didn't deserve to be treated like that. No one does. I may be a stranger to you, but I want you to know that God loves you (I'm a Christian so pardon my preaching), and that you're not alone in this life. If you need someone to talk to, you can reach out to those who have suffered similar treatment as you. I don't know what you've been through, but all I can give you is a hug and some encouraging words. I hope you're doing okay now wherever you are.
@@kittyrose1245 I have found my safety, unparalleled peace, simplicity of life, and my emotional suppression due to maintaining a very well defined distance from all to be very worth the loneliness. Loneliness is a very mild emotion as compared to the cruelty humans can inflict upon the low ranking members of a social herd. The emotions stimulated, by other members of the herd, upon the low ranking members of a social herd can be crippling. Loneliness is not crippling. Anybody can function within established perimeters of a successful life while experiencing loneliness. With the deletion of the social aspect of my life, life has become so much more predictable. After deletion of the failed social aspect of my life, the misery that accompanied me disappeared. Now I am emotionally unbreakable! This, alone, is well worth maintaining a well defined distance from social humans.
@@indridcold8433 Sounds like you've been through some rough encounters in your life. At least you seem okay from what I read. May I ask what led you down the road of solitude in particular?
@@kittyrose1245 Greatings and felicitations in this year 2023. I would like to answer the question posed to me before I lost my home last year and could not answer back until it was rebuilt. However, I have always been isolated because of medical reasons growing up. I never assimilated the customs and protocols associated with being part of a social herd, nor having friends. After I moved on my own, I attempted interpersonal, social, interaction and attempted to become part of a social herd. Initial attempts proved futile. However, when I stopped trying for a spell, a beautiful lass seemed to take interest in me when I went to my work's cafeteria. She was kind and seemed so interested in me that she said she wanted to help me with my social difficultes. After a few dates, she had me meet her friends and told me I should befriend them as well. She said it would be healthy for me. Initially I believed I was a member wonderful social herd, finally. But it was all a cruel ruse. My, "girlfriend," had me doing lots of work for her friends, which happened to just have become my, "friends," as well. I was constantly busy with them. Then I was asked to make payments of credit cards, vehicle payments, and help with house payments. It became really bad to the point that I could not afford to continue funding her friends, nor her. I finally became brave enough to tell my girlfriend that I had to decline helping all the people financially. She laughed at me and said, "You were so easy!" She walked to an empty lot and called a taxi. When the taxi arrived, she had it slowly drive past me while she mockingly blew me kisses saying, "Thank you!" Then suddenly all of them quit talking to me. This was acceptable for me because I wanted them to never iinteract with me again. However, three months later, some of them started making calls to me telling me how sorry they are were. To avoid all possibility of a repeat of the past events evef happening again. I deleted all traces of all of them from my life. Then I switched to working nights, disconnected my cellular telephone and got a land line with absolutely no options on it. A few months later, I found a different job far away and I moved there to be close to my job, and far from those that hurt me. Now I live in an extremely rural area, work nights completely alone, and I know nobody. I go weeks without seeing humans. This minimizes the possibility of ever being emotionally devasted. It is near a 0% I will ever be victimised by social predators again. If I have such problems detecting fakes females that claim they have interest in me, and false friends, I found I am far better to simply avoid everyone. This method has worked flawlessly for many years. I can not possibly sacrifice such security, independence, self-reliance, resourcefulness, and freedom just, for a tiny chance of making an authentic friend. That tiny possibility is not worth it. If I learn nothing from my mistakes, then they are destined to be repeated
@@indridcold8433 Oh my goodness, i hope you're doing okay after losing your home. Regarding what happened between you and your ex, I am so sorry to hear you were conned basically. What your ex and her friends did to you was unacceptable, no doubt about that. But, on the other hand, it wouldn't hurt to talk to a therapist if you can afford one. You may not want to see another human again out of fear of being hurt like that again, but maybe talking to someone about your situation could help a bit. If I could physically hug you, with permission of course, I would. But, instead, maybe an internet hug will do. 🤗 Glad to hear you're okay and alive all the same.
These videos always make me worry about myself because I'm a sort of pudgy man with a pony tail and am into dolls and romance anime, really passionate about D&D, legos, hotwheels, and stuff like that. But I recently was diagnosed with aspergers and found out that the mood stabilizers I was taking were screwing with my head. I still enjoy everything all the same - just makes me hope nobody has ever been worried or gotten an off feeling about me.. because I really just want to be left alone. I just want to build my legos and watch my vtubers and work at my little hotel, that's all. I've been single my whole life and have been told by many girls that "there is something wrong with you" so I definitely fit the profile, but I think stuff like this is why I just stay in my house most days. I am very worried that the rest of the world may think I'm a creep, or unhinged or something.. but I'm genuinely happy with my life aside from this
As an intuitive person, I can say that these gut feelings come from the recognizing pattern of actions of sketchy people that we know of in the past. They do behave similarly just in slight variations. The only variable is how deep someone's evilness is.
I don't know if it was true or not but this one time I invited this guy over and he had a really weird vibe and I cannot explain why he was just a lowkey creep and also had this weird look in his eye idk dude he freaked me out but after I told him I was gonna call it a night and shit and when he left I ran to the bathroom and just blew chunks like all crazy and shit. And later I found out this other girl he chilled with like was so creeped by him I guess she pretended she was gonna answer a phone call and stepped outside his house and never came back LOL she like got picked up or something and she didn't even tell him. What im trying to figure out is what the fuck is wrong with him.... like he's not bad looking its something with his energy or he did something bad and his eyes can't hide it. Who knows. I've never thrown up because of something like that haha it sounds like those dramatic bitches in the movies but nah it was weird. So ye
Man, that first one. Everyone treats you like you're mean, insane, etc.. Then bam: _"Why didn't we see that sooner? Because you refused to listen."_ And they don't apologize. Not ever.
Literally. Like for once can people put their pride aside and accept they were wrong? It’s not hard.
@@sleepydreamer4175 It's not pride nor intelligence, it's indoctrination.
To be fair it was be a leap of logic to think someone who is being disrespectful is capable of doing what he did solely from him being disrespectful. Though if he wasn't on a fast track to be a supervisor he likely would never have gotten to a position of authority as it is obvious he didn't like the job and would never have been a worker given that position.
How do re'tards never seem to notice?What is it that the guy did that pushed all the doubt off of him? I can't imagine it'd be that hard to "get a feel of the guy" by looking at them.I remmember the "cinema therapy" on mother Gothel & someone in the comment pointed out the gaslighting tactic,and that somehow others thougght Gothel legitimately loved Rapunzel,which she didn't.
@@evo2542 It wasn't just disrespect. The poster described a few red flags in his work ethic as well.
From what I hear child molesters and rapists aren't treated well by there fellow inmates so anyone who goes to jail for it definitely gets what they deserve...
They deserve to be executed
@@theflaminglitten-fo6jd fair point...
Sadly no they don't. They are often put into a different cell area and different schedules because the prisons already know what would happen if they don't. But sometimes inmates do manage to get ahold of one and teach them a lesson, or the guards might even purposefully expose them to the other inmates.
@Princess Lola yea I know, but at least some get what's coming to them
Here in Brazil it's commom to see cases of pedophiles and rapists getting raped in prison.
As a toddler, I ran up to my sister’s bf (first time meeting him) & kicked him. Everyone was just shocked. Later I was proven right to dislike him. Next bf I ran up to hug him, but was stopped bc they thought I was going to kick him. They’re happily married now.
Ah yes, the perfect compatability test: a toddler. Seriously though, great job on seeing who was good and who wasn't as such a young age
@@starsandmoons2938 Thanks
Did someone just say "ITS THAT KICK THAT CHANGED HIM"
What did the first one do?
@@RandomPerson-cm2wg ya wanted to know the same
I once watched a person manipulate an entire party into fighting with each other. He was so good at it, that none of the goers knew that it was him turning everybody against each other. Basically just did it for fun and to watch their world burn. I called him out and he just laughed and said people are stupid
Jesus christ, what a sick, sad waste of oxygen.
@@jackieyoung2395 fr...
It got weirder too because he was super funny and charismatic, so people would like vie for his attention, and basically throw each other under the bus to join his "circle". Not a nice dude. I called him out when I finally saw through his bullshit, never spoke to me again.
As horrible as that is, he was kinda right.
@@shinobiighost6946 yep. Learned alot for sure
damn. but i must say that this is also an excellent supervillain concept. im sorry but i just had to say it, im already imagining the possibilities
Why would a woman who was molested by her father let him babysit her daughter!? Wtf!?!?!?
Sadly she was probably groomed by him and still had that inkling of trust with him since he's her father. Some victims of abuse never free themselves, but it's especially bad when they continue the cycle.. I am glad she told her husband that seems to be a step forward.
Laziness. I've seen it before. Some people see a cheap/free babysitter and they dont care who or what.
Trauma. A favorite tactic of predators is to minimize the victims suffering (ex. "oh come on, it only lasted a few minutes"), shame them into silence (ex. "You wouldn't want mommy to know or we might get divorced"), then normalize the behavior (ex. "this is just how fathers interact with their daughters").
After years of this, a person is basically taught that, no matter how wrong it feels, it is themselves who are incorrect for feeling the way they do, making them incapable of recognizing or reporting abuse.
Mix this with dismissal from figures of authority (ex. Pastor: *incredulous* you're father is a good man, lying is a sin you know") which cause learned helplessness, an rather unfortunate quirk of human psychology, and you have situations like that presented.
Think of it this way, to us that's very obviously predatory behavior, but to the victim, this might come across as normal just because of how long they've endured it or even if it doesn't, that fear has been so ingrained into them that they're basically put into a state of decision paralysis. It's not because they're stupid or lazy, but rather human psychology failing to adjust to trauma.
Why would they take my pics down tf
She may have blocked it. That happens an the time. To call a survivor incest/pedophilia lazy is just lazy. Do some damn work and learn something. Damn.
Tip: if ur kid r teen isn't comfortable being alone with someone or going to someones house don't force them to there is a reason, my uncle abused me when i was little and i would hate going over there my mom thought i was just being a dramatic kid when i was a teen and got a phone i recorded it and showed it to her shit went down hill for him from there, please lesson to ur children and pay attention to how they act around people
I am so sorry....I can't understand what you must have gone through
That happened to me unfortunately too, she’s not with anymore thankfully, cause that relationship didn’t last wrong
If had stayed in my mom’s life longer, I definitely think he would’ve tried to do something bad to me.
Im so sorry to you and anyone who has gone through this, Im extremely thankful that I have never had to go through this type of situation but I always feel so horrible for those who have, best wishes from me to you
Truly so many problems in life would be solved if parents/adults in general stopped assuming kids are being dramatic or exaggerating when they say things
Always trust your gut! You don't have to explain to anyone why triggered your gut feeling, just trust it.
My instincts are completely useless. I knew five people who murdered other people (four different situations), three of them went to my very small high school. Although one was always a total d*** to me, I never in a million years would have thought any of them would ever do anything like that.
When my instincts do send me a warning, I definitely listen to them, because I figure the person must be pretty bad to set them off.
I have been on the other side. I had two girls who thought I was faking being bubbly and happy all the time. (No I had just started dating my best friend and was just insanely happy that even the bad stuff didn’t seem bad) so the went out of there way to spread rumors about me throughout the ER and OR. Quite a bit of people called me fake….so I only smiled and expressed my true happiness to the patients. Turns out the two girls were overheard plotting their plan in the employee break room as well as were recorded for stealing morphine. They got fired and people stopped calling me fake…..asking then why I was always happy. I explained why and was finally congratulated but I just flipped them off cause I was over them. They wanted me to be a depressing stoic ass so I was a depressing stoic ass until I transferred to triage.
the medical field is full of bitchy assholea and drug addicts. my friend is a CNA and almost every hospice and place she worked was filled with a group of "mean girls" and constant drama
Good for you for flipping off those coworkers
@@pinkpugginz hmmmm I just wonder why they even get to the feild?- *remembers that bitch in my middle school who got better opportunities than me because she was pretty and "kind"*
bro she always talks shit in front of everyone and what do you know. Her goal is "to be a nurse"
Oh you’re a nurse? Sounds about normal…
Yup, called out the class incel before he even spoke. No one believed me. He used to bring in Chocolate bars for all the girls in my class, but I refused everytime, and everyone told me I was being a "party pooper" or that I'm "unfairly judging him when he's such a nice guy"
Cut to the end of the school year, and one of the girls in my class reveal how she's been harassed by that disgusting incel for the whole year and that led to her eventual mental breakdown.
Yeah, I can see why he did that. It's the good old:"I'm so nice and do things for you and now you owe me" shit. Good for seeing it.
@Zuckerwatt why wont ppl think its weird if a guy is handing out chocolates without a reason.
@@animeuniverse5586 personaly, I think if I hand out candy(which I did to my classmates in the past a lot) then it is A: only to your friendsgroup/people you have something to do or B: everyone gets candy. If a guy only gives out candy to the girls in class, at least one eyebrow should be raised. You just don't do that without a hidden thought...
You seem like one of those woke weirdos, and why go straight calling him incel. Just call him a terrible person who harasses people. I hear nothing in this story that says he’s a incel
I think it's entirely ridiculous to use "incel" as an insult. Literally just as cringe as calling someone "virgin".
I get it, it's an alright shorthand and everyone knows what you're talking about, but incels don't act like that for the most part.
Idk man, it just seems so 8th grade to use "incel" as an insult.
2:55 I never got why parents never believed their kids with shit like this? Yes, you shouldn't believe every single word your kids say, cause kids are known to lie out their ass, but at the same time, don't dismiss them on the spot. idfk, I hear horror stories where I just sometimes wonder how it takes so long for the parents to believe their children, and usually the parent never even apologizes for not believing them
Because it's easier to not believe them.
@@stanleyhape8427 seems like it'd be easier to believe them. Rather my kid safe & happy then hurt or traumatized
"My mom blamed me because I was supposed to keep these two older boys entertained."
Mom doesn't know how hierarchies work.
Im sorry, why is the younger child in chrage?
@@dustyrose192 I think Jacob is referring to the mom
Yeah same
what kind of waste of biomass is that mom?
If I was that girl, I'd return the favor and constantly mock the older bro who clearly amounted to nothing, and is probably responsible for turning the younger bro onto the hard drugs, thus his untimely (yet not sad) death as well.
Yes. Multiple times. And I was right every single time. Now my friends listen to me when I first say it lol
So good that people believe you. You'd think a mother would know her child well, but everytime I warned my mother about one of her friends, including a proposed husband, she didn't believe me. And every time, she got embroiled in stuff which caused her a lot of drama.
@@Kayenne54 relatableeee
As they should
Anytime i see a comment like this, i think bullshit. What probably happened was you met someone and was simply ruse based on some superficial aspect then later justifyed it based on some innocuous action the took. The human brain is goood at post hoc justification
@@acutecloudd7970 Lol think what you want man. I wouldn't say it if it wasn't true. No point in lying
This is a superpower of mine and sometimes I hate it. My gut feelings about people just looking at them have been accurate as hell and to be honest, it sometimes takes the fun out of meeting new people. This is a good story I have of this though.
When I was 13, my friends and I met up at a local fair that always appeared on Labor Day weekend and obviously, we had our parents hanging about mainly to be our ride home. Well, a boy in our group brought us near the beer garden (outdoor bar) to grab some extra cash for tickets from his father. As soon as I met the man, there was something screaming at me that he was not at all a good person as he acted around us. We got more money and headed out. End of story, right?
Nope, turns out my mom saw us and met us near him and she began talking to him. They got to know each other as we played among the fairground rides. Talk turned to "love" in a month as this jackass sweet talked her into a relationship, both of them single parents. Meanwhile, I'm panicking and I kept warning her not to let him in but she brushed it off as 13-year-old doesn't understand love. Turns out I was very right in the end.
For seven years, this jackass was in our lives. He was decent the first year but then his true colors came out and my mom was afraid of being alone so she brushed off the verbal abuse and he tried to make me feel like I was in the wrong. Problem about that was I'm not susceptible to manipulation and emotional play. I'm pretty strong-minded and have very high self-esteem built up by myself.
Long story to come to a close, he slipped many times until my mom snapped and kicked him out...seven years too late but it was better than never. He let my dog suffer while he was out fishing and I had to tend to her alone because he refused to pack it up and help me, he belittled my mom and played her insecurities against her to make her loyal to him, and even his own son who came to live with us when he moved in hated his guts knowing he was a terrible person. Seven years of this crap because she wouldn't listen to me, mm mm, nobody believes a 13-year-old who has a history of good judge of character moments.
Whenever my mom and I debate over judge of character now, if she tries to win the argument in an absurd manner, I just play the "I was right about Jackass" card and that makes her rethink her stance on a person a lot of times and gives me the overall judgement. As always, I end up being right.
Future vision
@@animated_finn lol, yeah. Not a fun ability though
Hopefully you don't let this get to your head, either. Empaths have a burden and blessing all in one, horrible but useful.
What's your mbti? I feel like you have a strong Ni.
@@kerang7185 Either ISTJ or ISTP, both pretty much describe me but I'm most likely the first.
I didn't like a guy in college. My friends kept asking why, most classmates think I'm just jealous cuz he was cool. Or that the girls are fainting or squealing when he pass by, that kind of popular.
Nope. It was his smell. On the first day i met him, he smelled like blood and fireworks. Not just any blood, human blood. They roll their eyes when i say that.
I'm sensitive to that smell because my mom is a nurse in the he only clinic in our area for miles around. That place was my nursery. Spent so much time there, i knew how to use a microscope, and how to smear blood before i even learned to count to 100.
Guy was arrested on the final semester that year. He apparently shot someone dead after a road rage, dragged the body to an agricultural drainage. Dumped it there. It clogged the pumps. And the idiot threw his gun with the body in there. The guj was traced to him, since licensing in our country is really strict. This was the same day i first met him.
Unfortunately, then my friends kinda thinks I'm a freak... 😐
Own that
Tell them You are a good Modern Vampire. You only get blood through hospital blood banks. Don't hunt people.
Bruh you like tanjiro from demon slayer
Is that you Carlisle
How does human blood smell different than any other kind of blood?
This is why I listen to my friend when she says someone gives her bad vibes. Worse case scenario, I lost a potential friend. Best case scenario, I avoided a criminal
Smart view!
Until you find out that friend is the toxic one trying to isolate you from having other friends for unknown reasons..
My core officer was accused of molestation. Apparently, a kid from his old church had become an officer as well and told one of his fellow officers what he had done to him when he was younger. The church gave my officer an early retirement and he had to do community service. He moved away to idk where. People came in to talk to the young men of my church which included my brothers. One of my older brothers was really close with him but luckily he had never done anything to him. We also found out that the reason that he had come to our church was because of a different accusation from another kid in ohio. It's been years and Im still FUCKING PISSED. Also, he had adopted a boy(he was a teen when he came to my church. He acted out a lot and hated him). I hope that he didn't do anything to him.
Now how I knew that he was bad was just a feeling that I had. I just didn't like him. I would try to avoid him if at all possible.
Another person was my uncle. He was married to my aunt. He ended up leaving her because he was cheating with his brother's wife. He was always mean to me. One time I was playing with my cousin at her house and it was around lunch time I think. I hadn't eaten anything. I went to the kitchen and got a couple pretzels. He said "don't you think you eat too much. Don't you think you've had enough." I was fucking 5 or 6 years old. Why does my weight concern you sir. We also suspect that the reason that he had started cheating on my aunt was because she had gained some weight. He was always harping on her about it. He was skinny either tho. He had a gut too. I hate that man
My sisters estranged husband. When I first met him my gut said DON’T trust him. He hit her, broke her arm, got her on drugs. There’s more but this would be several hours to type out.
Yes. A former friend’s dad. He appeared to be a great dad on the surface. He was ultra religious but extremely judgmental; seemed like he was over compensating for something. I distanced myself and they moved away. A few years later he was arrested for sexually assaulting a little boy in a public bathroom at a birthday party I had attended.
Isn't it funny how the biggest tut-tutting of "religious" folk tend to be the most screwed up?? It's like my therapist once said, "The prettier it looks, the worse it stinks."
it always the extremely religious men ESPECIALLY THE PASTORS
That's because those people are not actually religious. Not even the pastors.
There's some paragraph in my holy book that says "everything that is ev overdo its bad even you do your obligation to god".
Im using g translate srry if my grammar suck
@Just a secondary account the translation is kinda rough but if I remember correctly the Bible warns against praying loudly in public to make a show of it. Probably the same deal. People who do that aren’t genuine.
I'm sorry what kind of a monster would willing send their children to their abuser, knowing full well what they are. Your trauma doesn't give you a pass on allowing or helping in abuse.
Fr mom told me since I was little he's fucked up and then she just sends me to him
Its like this one guy I met in middle school, he was loved by just about everyone, even dated the hot girl(may she rest in peace, death involved booze, a car, and prom), in his little friend group. He was liked by everyone except two people, me and my friend, two autistic outcasts who preferred to talk pipedream video game stories we'd never make. We didn't speak to other classmates unless a group assignment was involved. So this guy, calling him nick, had this thing where he'd come up to us and verbally belittle, mock, and bully us. My friend once told me he thought nick wanted to rape him. I thought that was an exaggeration due to how often nick's barrage of insults were like a Kyle vs. Cartman back and forth would be, only more vulgar. I didn't believe my friend, I thought the guy was scum, but what normal teen bully would actually rape their victim. Its a tad extreme for 2006, even in the south.
Well my little brother would date nick's little sister years later, and said sister confessed to my brother that Nick had repeatedly molested her while they were growing up. My autistic friend sure had him pegged, after I learned that, I honestly think if he ever saw us off campus, he might actually try to rape us. Anyway, this Nick died after graduation at age 25, I wish he were around so i could tell him "No girl's gonna want to fuck a corpse like you, gnat dick bastard" Give him a taste of his own abuse, too bad there isnt a Hell, because he'd have fit right in down there
A trans guy was *really* trying to be my friend since I was also trans. Every alarm in my system was going off telling me this adorable happy go lucky guy was a very bad idea to befriend. It felt like hed be someone hypocritical in their political views or very judgey even though I had no reason to think that. I ended up avoiding this guy wayyy harder than I ever have, only really speaking to him through a mutual friend. Well this mutual friend started telling me all these things, slowly overtime confirming everything and more. It was crazy af and also very validating. The dude was very judgemental of differing political views, clingy, took advantage of my friends kindness, and eventually end on to plagiarize in one of their college classes and got caught. Fucking glad I listened to those alarm bells.
Back in the '80s, I worked for the State Dept of Disabled Adults/Elder Abuse. I transcribed the abuse reports that came in and assigned workers to the cases. About a year after I was hired, a man transferred to our unit from another dept, he was about 10 years older than me. I don't have any idea why, but being in the same room with that man was like nails on a chalkboard to me. I could not stand to be in his presence more than a few minutes without becoming agitated. My supervisor privately repremanded me verbally for avoiding him and I told her sorry but I just can't help it. Long story short, some months after I left the dept, I got word from a former co-worker that it had been discovered he was using his lunch hour to go home and sexually abuse his (and his wife's) adopted daughter. She was 10 years old. And born blind.
I taught at an inner-city school. One pupil made my hair stand on end, although I didn't know why. Later he stole baby rabbits from a garden and nearly killed them. Five years after he left school he was sent to prison for murder!
Sociopath.
@@Kayenne54 Oh yes!!
A history of animal abuse is something the police look for, among other things, when looking into suspects for murder.
Wish you made something about it…when they do that as a child there’s still time to fix them up
@@ericvalverderosado2046 I didn't teach the student. He was of Asian ethnicity and those youngsters tended to be very stable and hardworking. I think that's how he managed to keep under the radar for so long. I only encountered him in corridors etc when I.was on duty, but I always felt freaked out by him.
@20:29....going out on a limb to say....if Grandma’s first reaction to what, admittedly, was disconcertingly odd behaviour, was to ask if he was going to kill her....I’d guess there had been red flags and warning signs, even if she hadn’t noticed them consciously.
Your SO just walking towards you silently, whilst unarmed, wouldn’t normally spark homicidal fears. Especially since this is a guy of presumably quite mature age who could be feeling unwell....maybe having a stroke/feeling faint/having heart attack symptoms.
Grandma obviously had good cause to trust her instinct!
While I've got stories, here's a reverse and wholesome one for you. There was a kid in my class, I'll call M, who was always playing this tough guy act. No one really liked him, but I always felt something was off. Turns out his home life sucked and his mother simply didn't care very much about him. I helped turn his life around the best I could after I learned that
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Aaawwwwwww
{{{HUG}}} This one's for you.
{{{HUG}}} This one's for M.
Knew something bad was going to happen with that Brad guy. His name is Brad, so you know it cant be good
Pretty much any kind of "jock" called Brad. Or maybe any "jock" really. Sadly.
And my mom wants me to bring home a guy with that name. Pluulease
A in-law of mine is named that and is an addict plus insane. Can confirm it's not inaccurate.
One guy from my high school was named Brad. Very attractive guy. Hot & sexy. Model,Hollywood material. He was verbally abusive. In sexual way.
I work with a guy named Brad.. uh oh…
The human species has many facets. We won't always be able to separate the dangerous ones from the beneficial.
This is why it is beneficial to delete complete aspects in order to avoid the bad parts of the aspect removed. I deleted an aspect of my life that was becoming disastrous. Yes, that deleted the beneficial parts of the aspect. But more importantly, it deleted the ever increasing bad parts of that aspect. I do not need that aspect of my life. I am doing very good without it.
@@indridcold8433 Excellent. Taking control of our own well being is something that some people never learn to do.
That’s why you should always listen to your gut, what your rational brain might miss, your soul will not.
@@Merlodica Unfortunately, not all know how to detect, and understand, implied meaning, nonverbal communication, body language, sarcasm, hidden meaning, and true intent. The world is a series of zeros and ones to us. If someone says, they wish to have a friendship with us, we will believe it regardless of the true intent, or regardless if there is body language indicating to others that the person is not looking for a friend. We understand words, not nonverbal cues. We also can not read emotions, nor react to our own emotions because we keep our emotions heavily repressed. There is no, "gut," feeling for us. We barely feel our own heavily repressed emotions. For us, it is simply better to maintain a safe distance from everyone. We do not function in a social manner and should therfore not try to force ourselves to be part of the social collective. For those with this deficit, completely turning off the social aspect of our life is the safest thing we can do. I, successfully, managed to turn off the social aspect of living and have made it impossible for me to ever become emotionally injured again. It is also impossible for me to ever be used, betrayed, and painfully abandoned again. Realising my faults has allowed me to negotiate an alternative manner of living not familiar to most. Now, I am unbreakable!
My dad never really liked my therapist, which I always thought was odd. He basically always felt like she had a stick up her ass and was "too professional" if that makes sense, like someone who can't even take a joke on the job. I took it with a grain of salt, but I thought it odd that he disliked her but like my psychiatrist, so I knew it wasn't just him not wanting me to get help.
At some point, she wanted me to admit myself into the hospital (I was unintentionally scratching myself till I bled due to stress. I always stopped when I saw myself doing it) My dad asked me if I wanted to go, and I said I did, but to wait till the weekend because I was already having trouble in school and didn't want to miss more possibly, plus, the weekend just seemed easier for us both. (It was the middle of the week and I was in high school, which is why he gave me more of a say on that matter.)
He agreed and even told my therapist, which she replied that if he didn't bring me she would call child services for child neglect. Note; we WERE going to go, and it was *_I_* wgi had made the decision to wait, and didn't think my scratching was a big deal. Since he had no other option, he brought me in - late, since this talk happened while he was at work. After like 3 fucking hours, even the hospital had said she had overreacted and I didn't need to be admitted, just get me a stress ball or something to occupy my hands. He had the paperwork and everything that showed he took me. You know what she did when he told her that?
*Call child services.*
Since she didn't like the answer, she fucking called child services anyway and we had to deal with that whole mess, both at home and while I was at school. Luckily, the lady who took our case was very nice and quickly realized it was a BS case (especially since it wouldn't be able to go far anyway, since I was close to turning 18), but still. As much as I liked her and appreciated her concern, that was a shitty thing to do, and I didn't trust her much after that. I do miss her, as I haven't been able to really connect with another therapist since I knew her for so long, but at the same time, ever since then, I haven't been able to shake that memory off.
Cope
@@johndan1760 really you going to say that? It's not that people don't know that they need to cope it's that people need to learn how to stop worrying, stressing and how to cope. You can't just tell someone to cope because that's the final step. That's like if someone wants to go a far distance and you just say drive. You can't just drive. Need to get a learn to drive, then get a license, then get a car, and then you can drive. Don't make it sound like it's easy.
@@johndan1760 rude
It was the opposite for me. Everyone hated her or had a bad story about her doing semi minor things to them. Later she ended up calling me a pedophile and tried to accuse me of sexual harassment when we were a thing, and almost got me fired. I got completely blindsided by it.
There was a teacher at my school (ironically, he taught religion) who always seemed really off to me. He had dark eyes and bad posture and would spend a freakish amount of time staring at girls. I told people what I thought, but all the classmates shut me down. He brought in treats whenever the boys had a baseball match. Eventually, I found out from a friend at another school that he used to work at a school for mentally abused kids, and that he had been abusing them even more while he was there. He got fired from his position. He then went to my school, where he was a yard duty, then an extracurricular teacher, then seventh grade teacher, then principal. This seems really sketchy to me. Eventually I left that school, so it was okay, but two of my friends stayed there.
There was a young woman who came to my work. We were coworkers so I was stuck with her since I was training her. She seemed cool to everyone and was extroverted were is I am introverted. She tries to get close to me but I wouldn't budge. Alot of her questions were never about work but me.my alarm bells were ringing. And I tried to avoid her outside of work. I told a few people but people thought I was being paranoid except for another cook and waitress. Fast forward to a staff party and we are all under influence of alcohol she tries grabbing on to me. Because she saw a waitress do that too me but the thing is I knew that waitress for years there's trust.
I didn't trust her. A few drinks later she voiced all her thought most of them had me in it. I felt so sick being objectified like that. She eventually was on a watch with everyone until she quit
Sexual harassment.
Did she tried to do anything while being on watch?
@@romerogamezjorgeluis4218 yeah a few times and no one did anything
I generally don’t trust redheads due to deep rooted trauma with my biological dad who has bright red hair. My half brother found out about this and dyed his hair blue so I wouldn’t be afraid of being near him. Because of that I learned to not judge someone so soon because that still warms my heart that my brother did that for me
🥺🖤
That was sooo sweet of your brother.
My late mother had same feelings toward red heads because a family member both children tried to take advantage of her. At time she had illness, he snuck into her room, jumped on her pinning her. Grandmother came in and threw him out of the room.
My dad was a sociopath that had absolutely no impulse control, tried to kill me a couple times but the local athourities in Nub City county swept it under the rug. I would constantly have dreams about him killing me and burning down my house. He lived elsewhere on the property and one of these dreams woke me up to find him standing over me as I slept. I spooked him and he quickly walked off but I could see in his eyes he was going to kill me. After the 4th legitimate attempt cops got involved and while he was away I left. The day he got out of jail he burned my house down. I contacted the authorities after it happened and nothing was done. I hope everyone involved burns in hell.
Edited to fix the grammar: but that mans is straight up a danger to society.
When I was about 24/25 I lived with my boyfriend in his aunt and uncles basement. They had 3 daughters, the two oldest were 4 and 6 I believe, give or take a year. Their father was an alcoholic, liked to party and was usually jovial but sometimes rude. He made a friend, his name was Barry...right away this man seemed off to me, he was down in his luck and originally was just a drinking buddy with the dad. He creeped me out. The dad decided to let this guy with a drinking problem move in to help him in his time of need. I remember being shocked and surprised that the mother at the very least, allowed this. Right away I told my bf my feelings about him, I ended up moving out....next thing I hear that the two girls had been molested by this goof, and they had to go on trial and thankfully he was charged. At least the parents did the right thing in that regard, but the "I told you so" moment was a bittersweet one. Those girls were put through something awful because their parents were stupid as far as I'm concerned.
My bf at the time met his daughter's in-laws and told me what a wonderful couple they were. When I met them, I had a gut feeling about the husband - that he was an abuser or something. Several years later there was a radio report that an unknown body had been found in a grave just outside the city. I immediately got a dreadful feeling about this and rang my bf and told him. I didn't know why though until a few days later we found out it was the wife's brother and he had been killed by the husband.
This person my then-friends used to really like and hang out with. They were charming, but I always had a weird feeling so I usually just avoided them when I could but never said anything to the rest of the group. A few months later the group had told me they turned out to be a two-faced, ableist 'nice guy'. Bullet dodged lol
My dad told me after I was raped by my teacher(I was 12 I’m 17 now and my dad is 80) that he always had a gut feeling about my teacher but never really investigated into his feeling and it breaks my heart that my dad blames him self for it when the teacher should’ve kept his hands to him self
PS: the rape went on for the entire school year
And that I no longer go to the school that it happened at and my dad is slowly doing better after many long nights of me telling him that he shouldn’t blame your self
Your dad is 80?
I hope you're getting all the support and love you need and deserve.
Several. The first i don't actually remember having the gut feeling, but mom told me what I'd said and it matches how my spidey sense works. It was my 3rd grade teacher, a man. He favored the girls, let us get away with stuff. Well, one of my classmates had been molested by somebody in her family, and our teacher's favoring of us girls was freaking her out. Her parents withdrew her, and school admin forbade the teacher from contacting her. He stupidly sent her a letter of apology, so he was fired. Still attended that church for some reason. So he's a pedophile, but I'm pretty sure he never took it to its usual conclusion.
The second and third were the respective now-ex husbands of two of my cousins. One ended up being emotionally abusive and also went to prison for CP. The other is in prison for being a hitman (it was a police sting). He claimed he was gonna just take the money and not complete the hit. He had a tendency for using his intelligence for stupid get rich quick schemes.
The most recent one is the mom of an ex. She was the first one that I didn't like AT ALL from the get-go, usually I like the person but feel uncomfortable around them. She's a narcissist, and emotionally, mentally, and financially abusive to her son. Also, this ex's previous girlfriend lived with them for some time, and was physically and sexually abusive to him. The mom and dad begged their son to break up with her but didn't kick her out themselves. But when I simply got him to realize that maybe he won't be able to care for his severely disabled brother when his parents die, they go nuclear on me...so she's capable of cutting him off from a girlfriend if she feels the need to. She didn't feel the need to do so when the girl was hitting and raping her son, but she did feel the need when the girl (me) was starting to convince him to think for himself. Therefore, I hold her partially responsible for the trauma my ex went through at the hands of his previous girlfriend. His mom is an evil person.
I once worked as a buyer for a large corporation. A very junior position. A sales rep I took an instant dislike to seemed to charm the socks and possibly more from just about everyone from the receptionist to my bosses. The pressure put on me to deal with this guy was enormous. I fought a lengthy rearguard action against all this and was unimpressed by those around me constantly telling the rep was a “gentleman” and trustworthy and even tall and handsome, etc. You guessed it! The rep was busted for embezzlement, and drink driving, and his wife left him due to adultery. This on top of lousy service and lying to me.
My work colleagues were strangely quiet about all this later on after having complained endlessly to the bosses about me. No one ever said they were wrong or apologised, either.
Hopefully you've moved on, in many ways, from that injustice. It totally sucked.
Thanks Kayenne54 for your thoughtful comment. Yes, I did move on emotionally but was never promoted again until made redundant. I worked in a place that would forgive you if you were wrong but never if you were right!! 25 years after leaving my work both the managing director and the Chairman formerly apologised to me for a number of issues connected with my former workplace. No money changed hands ... I’m not driven by greed ... but I accepted their apology gracefully.
There have been moments in which I have thoughts that are hostile to a certain celebrity, and I find myself unable to like them. And then a few months afterwards, they get caught being in a serious scandal like bullying or sexual assault.
I just had a gut feeling against my ex girlfriend’s friends, turns out they paid her a little to ask me out then a week later leave and “destroy” me emotionally, it lasted a week not much attachment happened so I didn’t care
Later I found out some of her friends were hyper crazy religious people so whenever I drew some of the creepy stuff I liked to (cause I was into the art style) they would write Bible verses on it in a permanent fucking marker when I wasn’t looking, I threatened to punch one of them in the jaw if they did it again so they took one of my drawings and took it to the principal, lied and said that I said I was gonna “shoot up the school” which got me arrested but not put into jail, forced me to fail that grade, and got me put in a mental place
Fucking bullshit I swear, people are allowed to have hobbies
Thats actually insane
I'm so sorry you had to deal with that
@@greenie15
It’s all good, I look back and laugh at it now….uh well sometimes at least, when I had explained myself and they found nothing was wrong with me at all the charges were dropped off my record and the cops and I had a good laugh about it
Still did get the trauma of being hauled off out of my own home and still did have to go to that mental place for around 6 weeks
@@helpkirbyhasagun_2047
Did those "friends" ever get in trouble for the accusations and all that?
@@pupperpalace9889
No, like your typical stories where woman try to ruin a mans life for no reason, they all get off Scott free which is fucking stupid
I forgot a little detail in my last comments, the only reason I didn’t get prison/juvie time is because when I was speaking with the cop on the way there he realized I’m just like his son, I draw disturbing stuff and listen to dark music and play horror games but have no intent to do disturbing things irl, I’m just into the genres and am not a threat to anyone. Still I had to do the mental place because that was the lightest punishment I could get and that cop made sure I didn’t get too much
If that cop didn’t allow me to speak I wouldn’t be here typing right now and that’s a thought that’s been keeping me up at night for 4-5 years now
Also they weren’t my friends, they were her friends who hated me for being a straight white man, turns out they were all lesbian feminists
My friend group never liked this one girl at my school. See seemed to perfect. Everyone loved her. So later in the year we learned that she gained so many peoples trust they opened up to her. Our friend group is like therapy for many kids because our school counselor is garbage. So we were talking with one of the people (they were non binary) we usually help with any transphobia. They are not out. So they told us that when they told us that they lied to see what she would do. She tells everyone everything. We never tell anyone jack shit. So we told everyone what happened. She moved 1 week later.
I like your friend group
And to be fair, I don't really like people who seem too perfect.
Hard to say. I can tell if someone is being fake. Fake smiles are especially easy to spot. I have a keen sense for drama-starters and avoid them like plague victims. Never got major creeper vibes off anyone yet, but I'm not very social so it could just be lack of exposure.
About 10 years ago, my friend was trying to get with this girl who worked at the local pharmacy. She looked quite pretty and seemed like a good pair, but I had this weird feeling about her so I told my friend my worries. He listened but didn't heed my advice. They got married and had 3 kids together. 4 years ago, she cheated on him with his best friend and they got divorced. She turned out to be a bipolar psycho who assaulted him for trying to save the marriage. She's been popping out babies non stop since with the former best friend, and I think she's at 4 more kids as far as I know.
I met this one dude and they were really really friendly and talkative, asking to hang out a lot and just hang out with my friends.
I didn’t like them at ALL, so I warned all of my friends about him and he invited one of his friends to hang out with us. The girl complained of very pervish actions towards her so I told her to just block or ignore him. He then cussed me out and had a giant argument with me and my friends then sent very bad thinks to his friend and me from alt accounts. Bullet avoided with them.
My mom had a roommate who always wanted to be next to me whenever she could.
She gave off really bad pedo vibes.
Later on the cops knocked on my parent's door asking about her. Not sure what she did, but it wouldn't surprise me if it had something to do with kids.
Girl from my school, I'll call her Ivy in this bc... She was as annoying as it's itch XD. Anyways, I met her a long while back on the bus and something just didn't rub me right about Ivy. I didn't really have to worry about it too much though since I never had to interact with her much on a daily basis. I had to leave school for a year due to complications (not COVID this was a long while before that) when I came back she had befriended my main friend group. We went on a bike ride once and we passed an old school and she was claiming she could see and speak to spirits, then she started becoming a pathological liar and theif. And me, Ivy and another friend did volunteer to be crossing guards for the middle school. All of our things such as vests and stuff where stored in the school store and she began to steal stuff from there whenever she thought nobody was looking. Small things kept building up and she kept throwing different members of the friend group under the bus and spilling any secrets people would give her such as mental issues, family drama you name it. She kept asking me personal questions to do the same and so I would never give her the light of day. Well the next year comes and I'm totally over Ivy's drama well she trys breaking me and my boyfriend up and fails. After that doesn't work she accuses him and two other boys of sexual assault. It's only then that the rest of the friend group saw how fucked up she was and decided to cut her out. I really simplified it so I wouldn't need to type as much but that's the main stuff
In my experience, the saying: "If it seems too Good to be True, it probably is," also applies to People.
Whenever I meet someone who seems too good to be true: someone who seems too Handsome, too Charming, too Sexy, too Suave, too Perfect-- my inner guard automatically goes up. Nobody's that perfect all the time...
For context, I live in a fairly small town, with only two major high schools(along with one smaller high school for ‘delinquents’, aka, you do something bad and they threaten to send you there). Ironically, the middle school I went to was smack dab in the middle, meaning it was a 50/50 split for what school students went to. Two of my friends went to one school, one stayed in our middle school(she was a year below), and us remaining three went to the other.
The school we went to was advertised as the ‘better’ school, as it had been around longer then the other school. Had higher grade averages(which isn’t much as my whole state’s grade average is shit). Anyway, I went there, and I’m a social butterfly, so meeting people who don’t look socially threatening and befriending them is a breeze. I meet this guy, who at first was super chill, and as a very affectionate person, was open to receiving my affection early on.
One of my friends and I live fairly close together, so sometimes her mom would drop us off at home. During freshmen year I was terrified of taking the school bus, but her school bus and my bus where different. So instead we’d take the city bus together, as there is a bus stop right in-front of the high school. As we wait, this guy followed us to the bus stop asking if he could go home and hang out for a while after school. Which set me unease, something inside me didn’t really want him knowing my address (I wasn’t really worried in terms of him possibly stalking me or shit. As I’m a fairly femme person, and he was gay, not to mention a stick that I could easily snap in two.). Regardless of my unease, we let him tag along, and my friend came to my house with.
We hung out, however not long after our hang out began, I noticed my cat was not with us. I frantically searched my house and he just.... sat there. I was visibly upset, and was on the verge of tears as I used treats and food to lure him out of possible hiding places in my house. And my friend attempted to calm me, while this guy just kept talking about himself. Finally he and my friend went home, and a few odd some hours later my cat returned(as it seems my mother accidentally let him out during her lunch break.). After that he left a bad taste in my mouth, and soon his true colors began showing.
I was glad when he moved away midway through sophomore year, jokes on him, I stole his best friend.
What did He do?
@@erikhieronymus7015 He’d talk about stuff knowing it made our group of friends anxious and talked about it louder when we politely asked him to stop. He began dating my friends ex(who kept harassing her and he knew this). He stole our groups shit. Kept calling our friend a nickname he gave her after she politely asked him to stop. And in general just accused us of bullshit- he was just, toxic af.
Had a gut feeling about .. someone. Let's call them Z. Maybe 5 years ago.
Another, closer friend, let's call them Y, introduced them to me.
Hated Z right off the bat, not because of how they acted, I really didn't know why. They were funny, respectful, and intelligent, so why didn't I like them?
Fast forward 3-5 years, they'd ruined Y's mental health, telling them they'd die alone or they'd hurt people with how they were carrying on. Nothing was ever Z's fault either, it was just "tough love" when Y was .. having too much of that "tough love."
Not only that, but Z was transphobic, homophobic, racist, and pedophilic. Even towards Y.
"Y" and I have been free for a few months now. I hope Y doesn't reconnect. We're doing okay now, unfriending and blocking Z was terribly stress relieving.
Yes. My friends friend, who pretended to be a paramedic and vet technician. I could tell this particular person was a fraud.
Honestly, the lifeguard story is kinda common. This is from the view of a water park guest. I,18 at the time, was in the wave pool with a few friends. We were goofing off in the deep end because we could each basically stand up in the water. Anyway, after about 15 minutes I saw some kids (had to be 10-12) who very much could not stand in the pool, and they were on a float. Once the waves were made higher and faster (as usual) the kids’ buoy flipped over and the kid inside had her head stuck underwater. The other one wasn’t helping by grabbing at her and the buoy. I looked over at the lifeguard, who was LESS THAN 2 METERS AWAY and she was staring at her phone while the kid who was above water started screaming for help, that he couldn’t help his friend. In the end, me and a couple friends saved them by flipping the buoy and getting the girl out of it. We went with the kids to their parents and informed them of what happened and the situation with the lifeguard before going back to goofing off. When we got out of the wave pool, I saw the lifeguard being berated and shouted at by both the parents and who I assumed to be the manager.
I wasn't the only one to dislike him, but this guy David had all the management at my college job convinced that he was fantastic. David knew how to schmooze, and he was very entitled. He convinced management to give him my position even though he objectively sucked at it. Several of my coworkers could have taken the position from me, but not him. He no-called, no-showed multiple days in a row, which is a major sin in low level jobs, and management forgave him for it because he was just so "charming." He was given resident assistant position in his dorm, and had several accusations against him brushed off. I worked with him, and was friends with his roommate. We hated this guy. Many of my coworkers hated him. Nothing would stick to him because he was so friendly to faculty and staff. Until security figured out his car wasn't his, and then he went to jail for car theft. Management was horrified, how could someone so nice be a criminal? Because he was a con artist.
"His name was Kevin and--"
*Yup, he's a wrongun.*
I have a story.
When I was younger, still living with my mother, she had this boyfriend who had a son(15) and a daughter(5). I always got a bad vibe from the boyfriend, he acted nice around everyone so everyone else loved him. I hated him, but acted nice anyway, since it's hard for me to not be nice to someone. This "man" treated his daughter like she was the world, and blamed me whenever she did something wrong. His daughter was an absolute spoiled brat, and his son was like an angel. His son, sadly, got yelled at multiple times throughout the day. After a while, I started getting yelled at, too. This man treated everybody like shit, then said, "I'm allowed to because I went to war." No matter how nice I was to him, he yelled at me and his son everyday unless we weren't at the house. Both his son and I hated him. I later found out when I moved out that the so-called "man" basically whipped his son, giving him scars on his back. The funny part? My mother knew about all of this going on and didn't do anything.
Alt title: sometimes it really sucks to be right
People get mad at me for insisting that anyone can throw their life away and end up in jail.
"Oh, no, not me! I would never!"
It always irritates me whenever the kid tells the adults something that happened but they don’t believe them or just straight up ignore them
Had someone I have a bad feeling with since day 1 on my job. Didn't listen to my gut feeling and befriended the person to due to that person's connections (I mean, you don't want to give off some sort of hostility to someone like that). Welp, that friendship ended up costing me my job a few years later.
Lesson learned: ALWAYS trust your instincts. The last you'd want is feeling regretful, such a nasty feeling.
What bugs me the most is the fact that NO ONE listened to these people when things could have been prevented and also, they didn't bother to say SORRY after the incident.
People... -.-
Most of these can be described as “haha and that’s when you told them I told you so righ- oh crap that got dark.”
Many times. I've always had an incredible ability to understand somebody's intentions within moments of meeting them.
I was at target with my mom and little sister once. And it was a pretty busy day so ofc there were a lot of ppl. But this one guy walked past us, weirdest little small lense glasses ever and I just got weird vibes from this dude, but I didn’t think anything of it.
He passes by us a few times in the store, which I found a little weird since target was pretty huge, but again, I just tried shaking it off as a coincidence.
After target, there was a single plush I wanted from a mall which was at least 7 miles away but my mom said we could go since it was Saturday and we didn’t have anything else to do. So we drive all the way there
Keep in mind this mall is huge. Four levels, I’ve gone to this mall all my life since we never moved and I still get incredibly lost.
We also took some very weird entrance that was in the garage and brought you to the middle of the mall since that’s the path I memorized went I want to the store with my friends
But as we were walking through the food court, the exact same dude from target. Walked right tf past us. 7 miles away, huge mall, random entrance, and we came straight there.so ofc I tell me mom and we all get tf out of there. Creepy 😐 be careful guys
"i thought well that's rape, so i called him out on it"
*everybody liked that*
Oooh I have a good one. My sister Sally started dating this guy a few yrs after she divorced her husband. Pretty much the first guy she dated after her husband cheated while she was pregnant with their first child. That's a whole other story.
My whole family loved the new guy Ken. He made them laugh and was very extroverted. I was sceptical from the moment I met him. He seemed fake.
One day at the table, he made a racist joke. My family laughed along, though kind of seemed put off and they tried to quickly move the conversation elsewhere. But it confirmed it for me and my boyfriend. We didn't like him and did our best to avoid talking to him. I told my other sister Jill I thought Ken was weird, but she disagreed.
Fast forward only a few weeks, Ken became increasingly obsessed with Sally. They didn't live together but he would call her several times a day asking where she was. He would get jealous if she was with friends. Typical abuser red flags, really.
She broke it off with him and he lost his mind. Screamed at her, threw things, stormed off.
He showed up at my parents house while she was staying with them because she was afraid to go home. My dad and brothers had to tell him off.
About a week after that episode, he messaged my boyfriend to hang out!!! My boyfriend is genuinely lovely and likeable and I think he thought he could get him to "see his side of it". My boyfriend never replied and simply blocked him.
She's now engaged to a wonderful man. I'm really glad she left Ken before things got worse.
Yup, had a bad feeling about a guy i did a job for, did the job, he tried to b.s. about payment after agreeing to the price for the work. He paid, we left, next day, boss tells me the guy called threatening to sue claiming we "scammed him" and wants a refund.... despite us already doing the job and no way to undo it. Boss doesn't have much of a spine in these matters and another team essentially did another job for him for free. Only reason I wasn't sent back was the customer specifically mentioned I wasn't allowed on his property... the one guy who called b.s. and that he's up to no good.
I really wish he refused to pay so i could dump his shit all over his driveway and write the guy off ass a cunt, instead he got away with scamming us for free labor.
in high school (UK) there was this guy who bulled me in primary school who was trying to be my friend i denied him for obvious reasons and my instincts were telling me not to trust him. he was popular with every one but me and i was left alone after that (am an introvert so i was just fine with that). turns out he was a drug dealer and that's why he was popular he would have a party every week when his parents weren't home and all of them drank and did drugs at the end of high school every last one of them was busted and because they weren't actual friends everyone grassed on each other and all of them now have a criminal records. It is grate to be an unnoticeable introvert.
I always knew something was wrong with my father. I don't remember a time when I didn't know he was a dud. My mother always punished me for it. It wasn't until I was an adult that I found out he was molesting my sister and other children and that he had been bending my mother's fingers back until the back of her hand was bruised. She always insisted she had hit her hand on something. He refused my mother a second round of cancer treatment (free under our universal healthcare) and she died.
Edit: I wasn't sorry when he died a slow, painful death. The world's children are better off without him.
Um...thats murder..
@@Jen-xm9bp Yes. But, due to his concealment of hard evidence, it wouldn't fly in court :_(
Had this teacher in 3rd or second grade who everyone loved because he would give them candy and no homework. I knew there was something off about him though. He used to sing a song with my name in. Whenever I got near him and I think he tried to get me to sit on his lap during art class one time. Used to always spout bob ross quotes to the point bob ross is ruined for me now that I’m older. He left our school a little bit before I left, everyone was so disappointed but I was happy because i didn’t have to avoid him anymore. He’s in prison now. I don’t know exactly what happened but I know parents caught him after school with a little girl sitting on his lap like a creep. I’m just glad he got caught before something more serious happened.
Had a classmate in senior high, that always was striking me as kind-of off.
The year later, he got expelled, because he had stolen from the students' savings for school parties, and had bought expensive training clothes, got fashion hair-cuts, etc... He was a true psycopath. Had no remorse.
Seems there's always one person in the family who can somewhat tell if someone's a future sex offender
Those who’ve been abused can recognise both others who’ve been abused and abusers
My father. He’s a clinical narcissist and REALLY good at hiding his issues from people outside of the immediate family. It was always infuriating trying to explain how horrible he was to people outside the family, because to everyone just saw this great, friendly person.
Now that I’m older and my folks are divorced a lot has come out and he’s alone and taking care of his (equally horrible) incontinent father. Karma.
I used to be friends with a guy who worked at Burger King with me. He was a skitzo and would talk to himself a lot (he admitted he had it but refused to take his medicine) but we had common interests. One day he goes missing and I dont see him for months until he randomly shows up again. Turns out he became a serial killer and stabbed 3 people in their sleep and was committed to a psych ward but escaped months later. He only came back to get his things from the house and say goodbye. I never saw him again.
Everytime I dislike someone for no reason they fuck up bad with me, with someone I know or with their life in general. I feel blessed for having this weird "danger" detector
There was one guy i absolutely hated. His name was austin. He just seemed off. A lot of people liked him and such. Fast forward 10 years and he ends up in jail for 2nd degree murder and sexual assult. He killed a mother of 2. Oh and to make things worse. The girl was his girlfriend who had broken up with him prior to her murder. Remember the kids? Those were his biological children.
I did when I met an ex girlfriends friend she had recently made. I always give someone the benefit of the doubt the first time I meet them but, my gut feeling is something I always think about while I talk to them. This “friend” ended up having multiple mental issues and ended up stealing $10,000 from her mom and tried to frame my ex girlfriend. She gave her some of the money and I still don’t believe she didn’t spend any of it. I had been telling her every time we hung out with her that she was bad news but, no one ever listens to me.
There was this one boy, older than me two-three years. We knew each other since we were preteens and that's also when I forbade him to enter our house.
He kept to it; other kids knew I didn't like him but they didn't care, while our parents never caught on as most of the time socializing and playing took place outside.
He's now in prison for the third time. Blackmail, assault, extortion, rape, attempted murder... The works.
Overall, reading people well has saved me from a lot of things, including bodily harm, therefore it's a skill I have continued to actively work on.
So weird that my dad had a tenant named "Alex" who also would always make up every detail about his life - he was an attoeney amd a realtor and every other flashy profession and had done everything anyone ever mentioned. Finally, he tried to be a squatter and never pay rent, faked an injury amd started buplying my dad, his landlord till I stepped in and scared the shit out of him if he didn't leave in a month. As he was leaving, jobless, penniless, he got a new girlfriend half his age amd had her whole family convinced he was a wealthy businessman.
When my sister met her ex and they were going to get married, I remember looking at a picture and saying that I didn't like him. My sister and my mom were a bit shocked because I usually give people a chance before I dislike them. But it never changed, even when I met him multiple times and he was nice to me..something was just not right. Cut to years later, my sister is divorcing him and he is being charged for touching little girls and being abusive with my sister and his children.
Late to the party, sorry, but here's mine.
My dad introduced me to a woman she was dating (parents are divorced if anyone's confused) and the two were madly in love. I had a very bad feeling about her but didn't want to say anything, I had a good relationship with my dad and didn't want to risk ruining it.
The two got married and I soon realized my bad feeling was correct. Not only did this woman hide the fact that she was a major alcoholic, but she also accused my dad of assaulting her, which was bullshit because I could see the indent from her wedding ring on her face. Crazy woman. I hope I never see her again.
It's disturbing how many people think someone is a good guy/good gal because he/she is physically attractive. What's really messed up is when there's clear evidence of wrongdoing, but someone says, "No, he/she would never do that!" simply because they're good-looking. News flash- Handsome/beautiful people can be terrible too.
Yes, there's even a name for it - the Halo Effect. "Since they're that handsome/beautiful, surely they're also smart, honest, and kind to animals..."
My mom’s ex husband. He always was nice to us but just felt, off. ~8 years later he started spreading rumors about my mom to my stepbrothers and their friends. As well trying and failing to emotionally manipulate both of us (especially me, I wear my heart on my sleeve and am very emotional). He ripped up as many photos of him and mom together, and overall acted like an overgrown toddler.
I've had three.
I disliked one of our house helpers whom my elder sister hated too.
That house helper stole money from us.
Another house helper, my elder sister loved and I hated.
Come Christmas Eve, that house helper screamed at my sister.
My sister had a friend who I had a gut feeling about.
I talked to that friend about my lack of empathy, lying issues and understanding of emotion and she was like "lol same I think I've ADHD"
And made the discussion about herself.
My elder sister still can't believe that friend is toxic.
Optimism bias is a powerful thing.
That one about Alex, I hope the guy telling the story gave his friend the biggest "I told you so!" ever!
I had a bad feeling when I was told about a new hire, and the next day before I came into work she was arrest because of multiple arrest warrants out for her for drug abuse.
Not me, but my mom:
Superintendent at our school was super nice and cool. Everyone loved him. Mom works as an aide for the school, and he tells her "You're being wasted as a library aide. I'm going to move you into technology." This is a good thing. He knows she does her work, compliments her, and gives her some accolades. From day 1 she was like, "Something is off about this guy. I don't trust him."
Fast forward a few years, he's found guilty for embezzling funds from the school.
I had a terrible feeling about my best friend's boyfriend in high school. I kept trying to tell her to stay away from him but she ended up dating him for 6 1/2 years. I never stopped trying to get her away but with no luck. Well they eventually broke up and everything about their relationship came out. Things like abuse, cheating, and drugs. She's now happy and away from him.
I have two stories
1. When I moved into my house I thought my neighbor was kind of odd I didn’t know why but I tried my best to avoid him even though my whole family thought I was just being paranoid turns out I was right cause he was charged with child r**e, assault and stalking of a minor
2. In the beginning of my freshman year of high school I had a friend group and this guy (let’s call him mat) mat was one of the people in the group. We had mutual friends but I wasn’t really close with him cause he just didn’t have the right vibes and I found out he was sexist racist and homophobic.
There was a guy in a club that my folks were in and we knew him for years, due to me going to the same school as her daughters and being friends with them when I was young. Something about him that I didn't like every time I see him. He was known for marrying and leaving his partners, who happens to have children. He pocketing money from the club that was for charity and my mother called him out on that and had the receipts. His lackey flung my parents out and called them out for the "false" information. Years later, the club disbanded weeks after that situation, his last partner passed due to an illness while leaving him her daughters and heard through the grapevine that was doing... let's say... unsavoury to say the least.
Pay close attention to your men ladies I've heard SO many stories over the years of men getting married and once they have a child they feel like they don't get enough attention. Always ends badly
Same to men for different reasons
People can delude themselves about the true nature of others because they like them. This is especially bad in the work place.
I met a friend of a friend in hs. Friend 1 is my childhood friend and we go to and from school together. A couple days after the first day of school she introduced me from her friend in her class. Upon seeing friend 1's friend i had this got feeling that she was a very bad personality, but i had to get along with her since she was friend 1's friend. Then the next year our class sections had been shuffled so friend 1's friend became my classmate. This is when my gut feeling was confirmed cause throughout the next 3 yrs of her being my classmate. She will exclude me, shout at me, and call me names. This is why I now trust my gut feelings and avoid people like her. Up till this day I've never been wrong with my gut feelings
A friend of my sister had rubbed me up the wrong way the moment I met her Face-to-Face (thought it was just a upset stomach) but i couldn't sit still around her. Turns out a few months later she bullied my sis and started to hate her too. After that they stopped speaking!
I had a bad feeling about the girl my friend was dating. I did not like her at all because of her "UwU" attitude. But something told me she was cheating on him because she seemed to hang out around a lot of guys and act a little weird when he got there as if she didn't want him around or was doing something she knew she wasn't supposed to be doing. He didn't catch on to it for a while. But I cared about his feelings so I didn't say anything. Found out later she was cheating on him with 2 other guys and started acting like she was the damn victim.
I knew a guy who gave off weird vibes when I first met him but at first I thought I could deal with it. He then started flirting with girls that already had boyfriends and didn't stop when he found this out. This and other things made everyone not like him. The worst thing is that he would call everyone his friends but none of us liked him at all in the end.
I keep my distance from everyone. I learned the hard way. The kindest appearing, most helpful seeming, people are often the cruelest, meanest, most back stabbing, people there are. For this reason, I simply turned off the social aspect of my life completely. I have no friends, no girlfriend, no aquantiences. But more importantly, I have nobody trying to victimise me, trying to make me the butt of their joke, and trying to take something from me. It is worth having nobody in your life if you avoid the hypocrites and backstabbers as well.
No, it's not worth it at all. I'm sorry to hear that you've been hurt by the people around you. You didn't deserve to be treated like that. No one does. I may be a stranger to you, but I want you to know that God loves you (I'm a Christian so pardon my preaching), and that you're not alone in this life. If you need someone to talk to, you can reach out to those who have suffered similar treatment as you. I don't know what you've been through, but all I can give you is a hug and some encouraging words. I hope you're doing okay now wherever you are.
@@kittyrose1245 I have found my safety, unparalleled peace, simplicity of life, and my emotional suppression due to maintaining a very well defined distance from all to be very worth the loneliness. Loneliness is a very mild emotion as compared to the cruelty humans can inflict upon the low ranking members of a social herd. The emotions stimulated, by other members of the herd, upon the low ranking members of a social herd can be crippling. Loneliness is not crippling. Anybody can function within established perimeters of a successful life while experiencing loneliness. With the deletion of the social aspect of my life, life has become so much more predictable. After deletion of the failed social aspect of my life, the misery that accompanied me disappeared. Now I am emotionally unbreakable! This, alone, is well worth maintaining a well defined distance from social humans.
@@indridcold8433 Sounds like you've been through some rough encounters in your life. At least you seem okay from what I read. May I ask what led you down the road of solitude in particular?
@@kittyrose1245 Greatings and felicitations in this year 2023. I would like to answer the question posed to me before I lost my home last year and could not answer back until it was rebuilt. However, I have always been isolated because of medical reasons growing up. I never assimilated the customs and protocols associated with being part of a social herd, nor having friends. After I moved on my own, I attempted interpersonal, social, interaction and attempted to become part of a social herd. Initial attempts proved futile. However, when I stopped trying for a spell, a beautiful lass seemed to take interest in me when I went to my work's cafeteria. She was kind and seemed so interested in me that she said she wanted to help me with my social difficultes. After a few dates, she had me meet her friends and told me I should befriend them as well. She said it would be healthy for me. Initially I believed I was a member wonderful social herd, finally. But it was all a cruel ruse. My, "girlfriend," had me doing lots of work for her friends, which happened to just have become my, "friends," as well. I was constantly busy with them. Then I was asked to make payments of credit cards, vehicle payments, and help with house payments. It became really bad to the point that I could not afford to continue funding her friends, nor her. I finally became brave enough to tell my girlfriend that I had to decline helping all the people financially. She laughed at me and said, "You were so easy!" She walked to an empty lot and called a taxi. When the taxi arrived, she had it slowly drive past me while she mockingly blew me kisses saying, "Thank you!" Then suddenly all of them quit talking to me. This was acceptable for me because I wanted them to never iinteract with me again.
However, three months later, some of them started making calls to me telling me how sorry they are were. To avoid all possibility of a repeat of the past events evef happening again. I deleted all traces of all of them from my life. Then I switched to working nights, disconnected my cellular telephone and got a land line with absolutely no options on it. A few months later, I found a different job far away and I moved there to be close to my job, and far from those that hurt me. Now I live in an extremely rural area, work nights completely alone, and I know nobody. I go weeks without seeing humans. This minimizes the possibility of ever being emotionally devasted. It is near a 0% I will ever be victimised by social predators again. If I have such problems detecting fakes females that claim they have interest in me, and false friends, I found I am far better to simply avoid everyone. This method has worked flawlessly for many years. I can not possibly sacrifice such security, independence, self-reliance, resourcefulness, and freedom just, for a tiny chance of making an authentic friend. That tiny possibility is not worth it. If I learn nothing from my mistakes, then they are destined to be repeated
@@indridcold8433 Oh my goodness, i hope you're doing okay after losing your home. Regarding what happened between you and your ex, I am so sorry to hear you were conned basically. What your ex and her friends did to you was unacceptable, no doubt about that. But, on the other hand, it wouldn't hurt to talk to a therapist if you can afford one. You may not want to see another human again out of fear of being hurt like that again, but maybe talking to someone about your situation could help a bit. If I could physically hug you, with permission of course, I would. But, instead, maybe an internet hug will do. 🤗 Glad to hear you're okay and alive all the same.
These videos always make me worry about myself because I'm a sort of pudgy man with a pony tail and am into dolls and romance anime, really passionate about D&D, legos, hotwheels, and stuff like that.
But I recently was diagnosed with aspergers and found out that the mood stabilizers I was taking were screwing with my head. I still enjoy everything all the same - just makes me hope nobody has ever been worried or gotten an off feeling about me.. because I really just want to be left alone. I just want to build my legos and watch my vtubers and work at my little hotel, that's all. I've been single my whole life and have been told by many girls that "there is something wrong with you" so I definitely fit the profile, but I think stuff like this is why I just stay in my house most days. I am very worried that the rest of the world may think I'm a creep, or unhinged or something.. but I'm genuinely happy with my life aside from this
As an intuitive person, I can say that these gut feelings come from the recognizing pattern of actions of sketchy people that we know of in the past. They do behave similarly just in slight variations. The only variable is how deep someone's evilness is.
Humans, we follow a pattern.
I don't know if it was true or not but this one time I invited this guy over and he had a really weird vibe and I cannot explain why he was just a lowkey creep and also had this weird look in his eye idk dude he freaked me out but after I told him I was gonna call it a night and shit and when he left I ran to the bathroom and just blew chunks like all crazy and shit. And later I found out this other girl he chilled with like was so creeped by him I guess she pretended she was gonna answer a phone call and stepped outside his house and never came back LOL she like got picked up or something and she didn't even tell him. What im trying to figure out is what the fuck is wrong with him.... like he's not bad looking its something with his energy or he did something bad and his eyes can't hide it. Who knows. I've never thrown up because of something like that haha it sounds like those dramatic bitches in the movies but nah it was weird. So ye